Bend Nest November 2015 by The Source Weekly

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Publisher Aaron Switzer Editor Angela Switzer Associate Editor Amanda Klingman Contributing Writers Corinne Boyer Paul Bacon Annette Benedetti Kirsteen Wolf Jared Rasic Jonathan Weston Phil Busse Calendar Editor Hayley Jo Murphy Layout & Design Jennifer Hornstein Cover and Gift Guide Design Esther Kang Photography Jewel Images Jonathan Weston Advertising Executives Amanda Klingman Ban Tat Chris Larro Kimberly Morse

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CONTENTS

14 Feature

By Jewel Images

UPFRONT

SECTIONS

7 Expert Q&A 9 Ages & Stages 10 Trending 24 Calendar

12 EDUCATION

COLUMNS 35 Adult Time 42 Outdoors 45 Leaving the Nest 46 Things I’ve Learned

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Join Sanford Shapiro and Linda Balsiger for some valuable insight into the world of dyslexia. Students discover new methods of coping with this learning difference.

30 CULTURE

News Flash! An all new children’s museum is in the works. Kayla Wopschall’s brainchild is coming to fruition in Bend.

39 HEALTH

Feeling down, despite the joyful feeling in the air? You could be experiencing Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD). Annette Benedetti takes a look at symptoms, as well as ways to get happy.

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Editor’s Note

It’s Our One-Year

Anniversary

It’s hard to believe a full year has gone by and Bend Nest is celebrating its one-year anniversary! We have heard from so many of you who are, not only enjoying the publication, but are actively joining in. Thank you, readers, for your support and contributions. As we head straight into the holidays, take time to include your kids in the family vacation planning. Whether it’s a trip to Grandma’s or a weeklong stay in Mexico, why not include everyone in the excitement? More importantly, though, schedule time away from work or the routine just to spend some quality time together during the holidays. When planning ahead to holiday shopping, check out our unique approach to the gift guide. Instead of the usual battery-powered, made-in-China stuff, we head in a new direction toward local experiential gifts. The idea is to bring families together for a more meaningful holiday experience, reduce the waste of useless items, and support local business. Focusing on some educational heroes this issue, we are impressed by those working in our community to provide unique learning opportunities for our kids. Particularly of note, are: Sanford Shapiro of the Bend Learning Center and Linda Balsiger at Bend Language and Learning who address dyslexia and help kids overcome obstacles in school (see page 12), Audra Bohn, director of the Sylan Learning Center who is bringing an all girls STEM program to Bend(see page 10) and Kayla Wopschall who is brainstorming ideas for a children’s museum opening in the foreseeable future. (see her interview by Jared Rasic, page 30). Feeling torn this winter about taking time away from family to get some exercise? Annette Benedetti has some tips for this balancing act (see page 35) and shares with us her knowledge of Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD) in her Health piece (see page 39). In Leaving the Nest, this time, I address the compounding stresses our teens face as they navigate their last educational foray before college. Some very worthwhile reading awaits you. Happy Holidays from our nest to yours!

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Kate L. Broadman, MD BMC Pediatrician

: My kindergartner is a worrier and has a hard time falling asleep. On average, he sleeps about nine hours per night and does not nap during the day. I worry that he is not getting enough rest but don’t know how I can help him to relax and get more sleep. Any suggestions?

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associated with HPV and that can occur in boys and men; the vaccine also protects against many types of genital warts. Because of this, it is now part of the standard recommendation for boys as well as girls. Many parents are apprehensive about immunizing their adolescents against a sexually transmitted virus, but the whole point is to immunize all kids before they become sexually active, rather than waiting until adulthood when many people will already have been exposed to the virus. It was tested down to age 9 and shown to be safe and effective in this age group. It is recommended for boys up through age 21 (26 in some cases) if they were not previously immunized, so I would definitely schedule an appointment for your sons.

: Bedtime struggles are one of the most common, and frustrating, parenting challenges. The first question is whether your child is getting enough sleep. Most kids this age need 10-11 hours of sleep per night to be well-rested but like adults, there is a range. If your son wakes up on his own in the morning and seems rested, nine hours may be enough for him. Even so, the difficulty he’s having falling asleep can be stressful, and it’s a good idea to focus on sleep hygiene to help tackle this. Just like when you are trying to teach a baby to sleep through the night, it’s important to develop a calming bedtime routine that he does the same way, in the same order, every night. Also, avoid electronics for 1-2 hours prior to bedtime. During the daytime, practice ways for him to relax his breathing, and brainstorm some happy or calming things he can think of while trying to fall asleep. If he is still having a hard time after you have done all of this, it’s probably a good idea to talk to his regular doctor about what’s going on.

: My one-year-old is well into eating solids and seems to have an unending appetite. He still drinks three bottles per day and eats three to four mini meals, as well. The problem is, whenever we eat anything around him, he gets upset and wants to eat too. Typically, we give in because we feel badly, but I worry that we are overfeeding him and am concerned about the consequences. He is in the 85th percentile for height and weight. Do we need to change our habits?

: I was at my book club meeting one evening, and one of my friends was talking about the HPV vaccine for her 12-year old daughter. I don’t remember my two teenage sons receiving this one. Is it only for girls, and if not, is it too late or should I try to schedule them an appointment? Any other information about this vaccine would be helpful.

: The HPV vaccine is an amazing breakthrough for this generation of kids, protecting them from a very common virus that can ultimately result in cancer. When the vaccine was originally released, it was only recommended for girls, since HPV is most commonly associated with cervical cancer. However, over the past several years, researchers have found other types of anogenital and oral cancers that are also

: As babies make the transition away from an infant eating schedule toward toddlerhood, it’s a great time to pay attention to developing healthy eating habits. At this age, most toddlers have three meals per day as well as 1-2 small snacks. This allows them to have a few hours between feeding times rather than just grazing all day long, so that they can learn to recognize signals of hunger and satiety. At age 1, milk should start to be seen as a nutritious drink rather than a meal itself, so offer milk or water in a sippy cup at mealtime, rather than using the bottle; other than 12-18 oz of milk, he should drink water the rest of the time. Toddlers are naturally social and want to eat when the rest of the family is eating, so as much as possible, try to have these be times when you can eat together; that way when he wants to eat what you are eating, you can go ahead and let him try some. n

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There are

25-30 million real Christmas trees sold in the U.S. every year. (Source: realchristmastrees.org)

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Online retail sales are expected to increase

6 and 8 percent this year with an between

expected total of

$105 billion. (Source: National Retail Federation)

It takes about

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wasn’t declared an official holiday in the U.S. until June 26, 1870. Christmas

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Numbers

4 in 10 consumers do the majority of their holiday shopping in December. (Source: dupress.com)

$806 is the estimated per person winter holidays shopping

spending in 2015. Source: fundivo.com

62% of shoppers Tweet about holiday purchases.

Traditionally, gift-giving isn’t part of the holiday, Hanukkah. The only gift of Hanukkah is “gelt”, small amounts of money. Source: farmersalmanac.com

In the 1920’s, Loft’s produced the first chocolate gelt, money wrapped in gold foil and given to children for Hanukkah. Source: Wikipedia.org

Source: mediabistro.com

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Trending

Crunching the Numbers

Sylvan Learning makes a pitch for parity with girls-only STEM classes By Paul Bacon

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Science

Technology Engineering

hen women make up nearly half the American workforce, why are they still underrepresented in the fields of science, technology, engineering and mathematics (STEM)? According to the U.S. Department of Commerce, women hold less than 25 percent of STEM jobs. Audra Bohn, director of education for Sylvan Learning Center of Bend, says more women might work in these jobs now if they hadn’t felt like outsiders in STEM classes when they were in school. That’s why Sylvan is trying out a new STEM program just for girls this winter. Earlier this year, Sylvan Learning Center, Inc., a tutoring company with franchises across the U.S., created a program it calls Sylvan Edge. Bohn says Edge, which is open to girls and boys, was designed to meet an increasing demand for STEM-related tutoring services. She explains, “There’s a huge push in our country and around the world for STEMfocused jobs. To get one of those jobs, even at the entry level, you have to have a very broad and deep skill set. Most schools don’t teach those skills.” Bohn, who holds degrees in education and psychology, says mainstream educational facilities don’t have time to focus on STEM essentials. “Schools are strapped as it is just getting across the basics. They have to cover math, reading, writing, science, foreign languages, and physical education. Adding even one more thing would water down their curriculum,” says Bohn. Edge was created to pick up where schools leave off, providing subjects like robotics, computer coding and study skills. In the robotics course, which helps kids think critically and solve complex problems, students use computers to animate robots in a friendly competition with other students. Coding courses teach kids how to program and build their computational thinking skills. Bohn says when Edge launched nationally in Spring 2015, it marketed the program to students of both sexes, but only 15 percent of the kids who enrolled were female. Bohn says,

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“The imbalance at the student level said a lot about why women hold so few STEM jobs. It couldn’t have been clearer that something needed to change.” So Edge was modified to include a new program just for girls. Bohn says, “Studies show girls lack confidence in STEM subjects, so Sylvan is putting confidence into the equation.” What, other than sexual segregation, is different about Edge for girls? “Absolutely nothing,” says Bohn. And why, if women seek intellectual parity with men, should girls be separated from boys in a class that doesn’t involve physical contact or contests of strength between participants? Bohn explains, “What we’re trying to do is provide an inviting opportunity for the group that is currently outnumbered in STEM courses. If there was a subject in which boys were outnumbered, and it seemed like it might help, we might open a boys-only group in that subject to see if there was interest.” Boys crowd the STEM field, but Bohn says girls may naturally outperform boys in general study skills. “We have a lot more boys than girls enrolled in our study skills program. We find boys need more help getting their work completed and turned in on time,” she says. “Girls seem to have a natural ability to manage their school work.” Other than signing up for its girls-only Edge program, Bohn says her advice to girls who want to pursue a STEM career is, “Don’t let anything stop you. Don’t worry about being outnumbered now. That may change. You could be part of that change.” Bohn adds, “Girls have a lot to offer. They’re intelligent, creative, focused and hardworking. They’re thoughtful people.” Bohn says enrollment in most of Sylvan’s programs is split roughly equally between the sexes. Edge for Girls rolls out in December. Sylvan Learning has two offices in Bend: 2150 NE Studio Road (main office), and 2863 Northwest Crossing Drive. n

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Education Empowerment By Kirsteen Wolf

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times tables. Kids come in to take advantage of one-on-one instruction from Linda Balsiger, someone who knows how to help children develop their own learning styles. Ninety percent of her practice involves treating dyslexic students. Balsiger says, “No two children have the same constellations of symptoms. But most of the kids I see are two years behind grade average and they start to lose their confidence . . . It is so important to turn that around.” No one is born knowing how to read. Researchers have determined the human brain doesn’t have a centralized reading center but rather a collection of cognitive processes. The brain’s circuits change as we age and are shown to be different in those with dyslexia, according to the International Dyslexia Association. Sally Shaywitz, author of “Overcoming Dyslexia,” sees connections between dyslexia and creative strength. She says children with dyslexia often find “alternative ways of gathering knowledge” and develop their own learning strategies. “Overcoming Dyslexia” has long lists of strengths that may come with a dyslexic-wired brain. These strengths include an exceptional ability to conceptualize and reason, above average abstraction and imagination skills, d resiliency, a high learning capabilor nf a ity, and excellence in professions like S of sy medicine, law, architecture and science. e t r Cou Dr. Carol Greider is one of the many successful dyslexics highlighted by the Yale Center for Dyslexia and Creativity. She’s also a Nobel Prize-winning scientist. She says, “Some of the ways I overcame my struggles in school helped me later to be able to focus. Perhaps my ability to pull more information out of context and to put together different ideas may have been affected by what I learned to do from dyslexia.” Both Shapiro and Balsiger worry about children who fall through the cracks. Reaching these kids before they become disillusioned about school is the goal of these professionals’ careers. They describe the students they see as people who are bright and full of creative ideas but happen to process speech sound and language less efficiently than others. Without dyslexia instruction, says Shapiro, “We lose some of ap

his year, the Oregon legislature passed two new laws addressing dyslexia. The laws ensure that every elementary school has a teacher trained to instruct dyslexic students and that all children are screened for dyslexia risk factors by the first grade. This is a big step considering that not long ago some school districts were reluctant to even use the word “dyslexia.” Sanford Shapiro of Bend Learning Center specializes in dyslexia and autistic spectrum disorders. He says determining whether children have reading deficits can help avoid a mismatch between how they are taught and their own natural learning styles. “Dyslexia,” Shapiro says, “is about more than reading trouble. It can present challenges to children in the areas of spelling, writing, pronunciation, sequences, word retrieval, processing and even time management. It is so important that schools get it right,” he says. Shapiro sees Oregon’s new laws as an opportunity to introduce more researchbased reading instruction. “Heavy doses of phonics are needed in the early grades,” he says, “which, along with other methods, can help more than just those children who may show dyslexic symptoms.” He says the laws have “tremendous implications for bringing the science behind reading instruction to benefit all kids in our schools.” Intelligence and dyslexia are not connected, and with corrected teaching methods, those who have problems learning to read can learn to pick up skills based on how their brains process language. The way they process symbols and decode sounds can be seen as a difference in learning style, instead of a marker for future low academic achievement. This vision is at the heart of the new Oregon laws. At the Bend Language and Learning office on Wilson Avenue, one can find many fun ways to reach a child who is dyslexic. There are iPad lessons with sparkling script, tools for counting phenomes, and creative workbooks to help with remembering

Education

Dyslexia decoded at local centers

Jonathan Weston our best and brightest, the beautiful potential of our ‘out-of-the-box thinkers.’” Children with dyslexia often go untreated because families cannot afford private assessment and instruction. Some do not qualify for individualized attention because they are not performing poorly enough at school. Lack of treatment can have emotional and social consequences. Kids can become aggressive, withdraw, become depressed and anxious, and suffer from low self-esteem. Helping these children helps ensure our nation benefits from their innovative ideas and entrepreneurial spirit. Senate Bill 612 and House Bill 2412 will take years to implement, coming too late for many children who were never identified as dyslexic. Raising awareness of dyslexia helps students, families, and educators realize that neurodiversity demands a response from our education system. “There are so many gifts that come with dyslexia,” says Balsinger. “These are our ‘ideas’ people.” n

EARLY SIGNS OF DYSLEXIA •Trouble learning common nursery rhymes, such as “Jack and Jill” •Difficulty learning (and remembering) the names of letters in the alphabet •Trouble recognizing letters in his/her own name Bend Language and Learning 233 SW Wilson Ave. #2 Bend, OR 97702 (541) 385-6002

•Mispronouncing familiar words; persistent “baby talk” •Trouble recognizing rhyming patterns like cat, bat, rat •A family history of reading and/or spelling difficulties dyslexia.yale.edu/EDU_signs.html

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s l ea d I d n a es u l a V y l Fami

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Micah and Esme LaVoy Bend Nest: How would you say you’ve changed as an individual since you’ve had children? Micah LaVoy: I met Esme about five years ago and she already had three children (we later added one of our own to the bunch). So I had to adapt quickly to three kids that were going through a lot of transition. I think one of the biggest individual changes was I had to pick a different profession that worked with having

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Stillwater 3, Lavender 6, Etienne 7, Eliot 9 a family of six. I was a baker before and the hours were insane, so we decided to try opening a little movie theater instead. So far it has worked out great. I definitely miss the zen of baking, but maybe that will be for my later years. BN: Have your values changed since starting a family?

ife changes when we start a family. Values evolve, priorities get reordered. We asked three local families some questions about their views on what is truly important when it comes to parenting, as well as how being a parent changes us as an individual. Coming from diverse backgrounds, each family shares a common goal: prioritizing family over individual needs.

ML: I don’t think my values have really changed but have become more solid. Kids always have questions when it comes to right and wrong, death, faith, etc., so when you get caught off guard with a zinger, it makes you want think about other questions they might have. So your values are always coming up. BN: If you could choose a theme for your family, what would it be?

ML: Openness. We strive constantly to show our children how to be open to other people’s way of thinking, beliefs, lifestyle, clothing, music, and art. BN: What have your children taught you? ML: Patience, and how to recover from NOT having it. And what it truly means to be an honest human being. n

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Kathy and Scott Morgan Abe 21, Allie 19, Libby 16, Elliana 9 Bend Nest: Have you made any significant decisions as a parent that you might not have made before becoming a mother? Kathy Morgan: I decided to stay at home with my kids. When I had Abe, I had a career. Scott and I were both working and had careers. I was planning on going back to work. I thought I would get a nanny and do that, but I chose to stay at home and I’ve been home since, well my oldest is 21, so... [laughs]. It’s been awhile since I’ve been a member of the workforce. BN: Was it the rewarding aspect that made you want to stay at home with the children? KM: Yeah. I just felt that I wanted to be the one to raise him. I just knew that it might be less hectic as a family to always have one of us around. I think it did help because

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Scott travelled a ton, and it would have been more difficult if I had a career as well. BN: Has there been a shift in the people you spend time with socially? KM: I would say we spend time with more families. Our social life kind of revolves around our kids. [laughs] BN: What do you think are the most important values to instill in your kids? KM: Being honest and respectful of others. Teaching them to serve others is also important. We live a good life here and not everybody in the world has that. I want them to see there is a need out there. When you have things, there comes a responsibility to give back and share, to give back to the world. n

Stewart and PJ Fritchman Nick 15, Aidan 13, Liam 11 Bend Nest: How have you changed as an individual since you had children? Stewart Fritchman: I’m a fairly Type A person and I’ve learned a lot about patience, tolerance and not forcing things. Just the idea that the kids are going to grow at their own pace to become the humans that they are and it’s my job to allow them to unfold instead of trying to pry them open. PJ Fritchman: I’m a step-mom. Officially married a year, I’ve been in the kids’ lives since they were 3, 5 and 7 and they are now 11, 13 and 15. So, I went from zero kids to three kids overnight, no ramping up, I just jumped in! It’s been an awesome experience, a growing experience: merging multiple families together with different philosophies towards parenting. I’m also learning to let things go. BN: How has your relationship with extended family changed since having children? SF: I have a lot more understanding for extended family and what they

experienced as parents. Aunts, uncles, my parents and what they experienced with their kids... there’s now understanding. Where before... you don’t know what you don’t know until you know it. You say “When I’m a parent I’m going to do A, B and C and never do X, Y and Z, but there’s a whole alphabet in-between and you’re just making it up on the fly. PJF: Stewart’s parents are still together. I’m a product of divorce and I couldn’t have kids. I wanted to be a mom, so to be a step-mom to three kids was a choice I made when we started dating. We dated for a year before I really started spending a lot of time with the kids. We wanted to make sure our relationship was solid. We were friends for five years before we started dating, and we had a really good foundation for our partnership. Once we started integrating with the kids and once we started integrating with the children’s Mom, I felt like Third Parent on the totem pole, but we all equally share now and communicate. Over the eight years that we’ve been together, we as the three parents, have learned to communicate more and better than in the beginning. n

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Photography by Jewel Images Content & Art Direction by Amanda Klingman This season, think outside the box with local gifts that will teach, entertain and create lasting family memories reaching far beyond Christmas morning. Giving the gift of a hands-on experience is sure to nurture your kidâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s talents and provide cherished time with family and friends. The Bend Nest Outside the Box Gift Guide features gifts for kids of all ages and even pairs some with products that can be purchased locally. No boxes, no cheap plastic toys, no batteries required.

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SUNRIVER NATURE CENTER AND OBSERVATORY Family Pass to Nature Center $60 Play and learn with your future rocket scientist. Get started with your own rocket starter kit, $22 and up. Discover the heavens above with binoculars starting at $28 and telescopes starting at $250.

HIGH DESERT MUSEUM Backpack Explorers 4-Pack Engage their senses with an adventure created just for kids and their favorite grown up. Go on a backpack journey throughout the Museum, observe nature, animals, science, and create art. Take home activities based on discoveries. $35 January through May. Ages 3-5 highdesertmuseum.org Adopt-An-Animal Program Connect kids to wildlife and teach them to give back at an early age. There are various levels of giving and adoption packages with some including museum passes and plush toy. $27-$155 All ages highdesertmuseum.org/adopt-animal

BEND SCIENCE STATION Sweet Science Class Students learn how to identify and separate solids, liquids, and gases using chemical properties, chroma tography and distillation. They also release the energy stored in sweets and tour Goodyâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s candy factory. Winter session starts January 27. Grades 3-5 $180 Register at: bendsciencestation.org Optics and Lasers Class Students use lasers to learn how images are created by bouncing and bending light with lenses, mirrors and fiber optic cables. They also dissect cow eyes and use pin-hole cameras to take and develop photographs. $180 Winter session starts January 27. Grades 6 and up $180 Register at: bendsciencestation.org

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Batteries Not Required Give the gift of adopting an animal that WE take care of! A great way to connect kids to wildlife and teach them the invaluable lesson of giving back.

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CASCADE SCHOOL OF MUSIC Musicianâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s Path Guitar, Drums, Piano or Violin Lessons Beginning group instruction and small class sizes. Recitals and musical field trips round out the program to help inspire your little rock star! $295 for the 15-week semester. Winter semester begins February 9 Grades 2-5 ccschoolofmusic.org

MUSIC MAKERS MUSIC STORE

Ukuleles with bag from $98. 3/4 size guitars from $199. musicmakersofbend.com

ARTS CENTRAL

TOWER THEATER

Draw Monsters & Dragons Class Learn to draw monsters, dragons and other fantasy/characters. Contour lines and simple shapes create bold characters. Given this technique, kids can continue drawing favorite characters at home! Jan 18th Ages 9-12 artscentraloregon.org

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Fimo Jewelry Boys and girls can create one-of-a-kind wearable art, design fun patterns and learn how to assemble jewelry. $35 Jan 18th Ages 6-12 artscentraloregon.org

Shrek the Musical Sing along, dance and laugh with your little one during this family favorite! $31 - $35 Jan. 21-30 Tickets and info: (541) 317-0700 or online at towertheatre.org

The Music Man Inspire your future thespian with a play that will entertain and excite theater-goers of all ages! $10-$15 February 12 - 21 Tickets and info: 541-419-5558 or online at beatonline.org

Kidsâ&#x20AC;&#x2122; musical instruments available at Music Makers

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Call the Family Resource Center of Central Oregon 541-389-5468 or visit www.frconline.org

GIRO Grade Goggles $35 GORDINI Mittens with Hot Pockets $17.95

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Mighty Mites Program 9 full days of great coaching and fun on the slopes from early Jan to mid March! $479 with lift ticket or season pass Ages 4-5 Sign up at: mtbachelor.com/site/winter/lessons/kids

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Ski or Snowboard Season Lease Why buy the boots and board when you can rent? Season Lease for kids $149

SNOW DRAGONS Nova Jacket (Turquoise) $89.95 Bailey Bib (Rainbow Print) $69.95 SNOW DRAGONS Eclipse Jacket (Lime) $89.95 Bailey Bib (Flower Power) $69.96

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Tubing Hill No snow, no problem! Hit the "hill" for a day of family fun anytime of year. $10 for all day riding pass or a 5-run transferable punch pass good all year. Ages 4 and up www.sunriversharc.com/tubing-hill

SEVENTH MOUNTAIN RESORT

Ice Skating Twirl and spin your way through a winter afternoon with the fam at this exceptional Oregon ice skating rink! $12 with rentals Kids 5 under free seventhmountianresort.com

HIGH DESERT MARTIAL ARTS

New Student Special Package Includes one month of unlimited Taekwondo, uniform, membership fees, and student handbook. $49 highdesertmartialartsbend.com

Snow Bunny Accessories BULA Monster Hats $32 GIRO Youth Launch Adjustable Helmet $60

Snow gear and apparel available at Powder House

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Oregon youth to have a live stage experience in a friendly environment. Come meet other students who love to perform. All instructors are encouraged to bring their students down for lunch and an engaging experience. Full professional sound system that will bring ‘em back for more. Kelly D’s Banquet Room. Free. Contact Tom Hudson thudson@bendbroadband.com

East Bend Public Library. Free. deschuteslibrary.org

November 18 (Wednesdays)

November 17

SUPPORT—Weekly two-hour parentchild playgroup, parent education, and support group for families who have children under 4 years. Groups also open in Redmond on Tuesday mornings and Sisters on Thursday mornings. Group occurs each week on Wednesday. Summit High School. $120 term, $15 session. together-for-children.org

Sisters Pajama Party PLAY—Ages 0-5. Evening storytime with songs, rhymes, and crafts. Wear your PJs! Sisters Public Library. Free. deschuteslibrary.org

November 18 November 13-22 James and the Giant Peach THEATER—All ages welcome! A magical peach! An imprisoned boy! Insect friends! An incredible journey! This amazing adventure of James Henry Trotter will fulfill the fantasy of anyone who has ever dreamed of escape. Roald Dahl’s story comes hilariously to life in this delightful dramatization put on by local actors at BEAT. 2nd Street Theater | $10-$15 beatonline.org

November 14

OBOB Book Club

LEGO Block Party

READ—Discuss titles from the Oregon Battle of the Books list for grades 6-8. Downtown Bend Public Library. Free. deschuteslibrary.org

PLAY—All ages. Read! Build! Play! Join other builders and a gazillion LEGO pieces. Redmond Public Library. Free. deschuteslibrary.org

November 14 Voices of Hope

November 13

MUSIC—Sing along to classic songs from favorite musicals performed by top local talent. Benefits CASA of Central Oregon, providing a voice for Central Oregon children in foster care. Tower Theatre. $20. towertheatre.org

Redmond STEM Movie Night

November 14 & 15

FILM—Ages 9+. Big Dream. Featuring seven young women in technology fields around the world. Redmond Public Library. Free. deschuteslibrary.org

November 14 East Bend STEM Team FILM—Ages 9+. Explore techniques of stop-motion animation. East Bend Public Library. Free. deschuteslibrary.org

November 14 Fire Ecology WORKSHOP—Join John Bailey, associate professor of silviculture and wildland fire at Oregon State University, for an interactive walk throughout the museum grounds. With hands-on activities, learn about the history and future of fire management and their effects on climate change. Explore a controlled burn site. Recommended for ages 8+. High Desert Museum. $10 members, $15 non-members. highdesertmuseum.org

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Old Fashion Christmas HOLIDAY—A nostalgic celebration of the holidays with a variety of arts, crafts, antiques, food, entertainment, and a candyland maze to Santa! Deschutes County Fairgrounds. $4 and a canned good, children 6 and under free. centraloregonshows.com

November 16 (Mondays)

Capoeira Kids ACTIVE—Ages 5 and up. Capoeira is for all! Beginners can experience this exciting artform of Brazilian culture which incorporates martial arts, movement, music, acrobatics and fun for all ages. An adult capoeira class is available at the same time. Class is every Monday. Get a Move On Studio. $25 for three weeks. | ucabend.com

November 17 Animal Adventures ANIMALS—Ages 3+. Live animals, stories, and crafts with High Desert Museum.

November 18 (Wednesdays) Tween Yoga YOGA—This class for 10-12 year olds, will introduce the basics of yoga to help build strength and flexibility. Postures can help increase self-confidence, balance, and compassion. Breathing exercises can increase mental awareness and focus which can help with school work and challenging everyday situations. Class is every Wednesday. Namaspa Yoga Studio. $5-$6. namaspa.com

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November 18 & 19 Backpack Explorers— Sage Grouse EXPLORE—Preschoolers ages 3-5 engage their senses on an adventure created just for them and an adult chaperone. Go on a backpack journey throughout the museum, observe nature, animals, science, and create art. Take home activities based on your discoveries. New themes each week. High Desert Museum. $10 members, $15 non-members, plus adult admission. | highdesertmuseum.org

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MUSIC—Ages 3-5. Movement and stories to develop skills and fun with music. Downtown Bend Public Library. Free. deschuteslibrary.org

HISTORY—Join a Bend expert from Visit Bend for a free one-hour guided tour of the historic downtown core. Learn a bit of the past as well as the ins-and-outs and hotspots of present-day Bend and Central Oregon. Advanced reservations required. All ages welcome. Bend Visitor Center | visitbend.com

November 19 Parent Toddler Classes LEARN—This seven-week program offers a nurturing environment for children 12-36 months and their caregivers to come and explore play in a beautiful Waldorf setting. Waldorf School of Bend. $180 for 7-week session. | bendwaldorf.org

November 20 Teen Writing Group WRITE—Ages 12-17. Plan a year-long writing project that ends with a selfpublished anthology. Downtown Bend Public Library. Free. deschuteslibrary.org

November 20 Redmond Fizz! Boom! Read! EXPLORE—Ages 3-5. Stories and science with hands-on experiments. Redmond Public Library. Free. deschuteslibrary.org

November 20-December 19 (Thursdays, Fridays, and Saturdays)

You’re a Good Man Charlie Brown THEATER—Charles Schultz and Clark Gesner bring the iconic comic strip to life in musical form. Join in as Charlie Brown, Lucy and Linus teach us the great lessons of life with a laugh and a sardonic smile. Cascades Theatrical Company $16-$23 | cascadestheatrical.org

November 21 Sensory Storytime LEARN—Ages 0-7. Activities designed for children with sensory integration challenges. East Bend Public Library. Free. deschuteslibrary.org

November 21 High Desert Mining Day

and have your earnings authenticated in our indoor placer mine and boomtown. High Desert Museum. Museum admission plus $2 per miner. highdesertmuseum.org

November 21 (Third Saturday of each month)

Family Night PLAY—Elevate your family get-together to a whole new level of fun! Join in to combine fitness and fun as a family. Juniper Swim & Fitness Center. $5 or current pass. | bendparksandrec.org

November 23-25 No School Fun Hang Out Day PLAY—A safe and fun place to drop off your kids during no-school days for activities while you work, do errands, or have a fun day of your own. Planned activities and free play times, while utilizing teachable moments to reinforce academic skills, success attributes (proactivity, self-awareness, perseverance, etc.), and exploration of students’ interests. 4-13 years. Discounts for early enrollment. Samara Learning Center. $70. samaralearningcenter.org

November 23-25 School’s Out Kids Camp PLAY—For elementary students on no school days this fall. Camps for K-2nd grade and 3rd through 5th grade. One-day and three-day camps. Before and aftercare available, see website for pricing High Desert Museum. One-day camp: $40 members, $45 non-members; 3-day camp $120 members, $135 nonmembers. | highdesertmuseum.org

November 24 Sisters Pajama Party PLAY—Ages 0-5. Evening storytime with songs, rhymes, and crafts. Wear your PJs! Sisters Public Library. Free. deschuteslibrary.org

November 25 Teen Night SOCIAL---Open to ages 12-18, this teens-only evening includes a root beer float social followed by water basketball/ volleyball games, contest, use of the hot tub and other indoor aquatic-themed activities. SHARC | 8:00pm-9:00pm $7 members/$10 non-members

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Santaland, Nov 27-Dec 13 November 26 I Like Pie Run/Walk ACTIVE—Thanksgiving is here. Let us gather, run, eat pie and rally some money and food for Neighbor Impact. I Like Pie is an untimed fun run/walk to get you outdoors for some exercise before you strap on the feedbag and revel in the holiday! Riverfront Plaza in front of Crows Feet Commons. $5 and 5 lbs. of food. footzonebend.com

November 26 Bend Thanksgiving Classic ACTIVE—It’s November, and you know what that means: It’s time to lace up your boots, and running shoes Thanksgiving morning for a run or walk before you tackle that big feast! Chase the turkey through the course while you hunt for items redeemable for fun prizes from local businesses! Old Mill District. $25-$45. bendthanksgivingclassic.com

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November 27-December 13 (Friday-Sunday)

SantaLand HOLIDAY—Take a photo with the holiday’s biggest celebrity...Santa! Parents join in the fun by guessing the Celebrity Santa of the day. Local, County and State officials, as well as local personalities, participate in this year’s fun event located in SantaLand. Old Mill District. $10-$15. theoldmill.com

November 27 Sunriver Resort Turkey Trot ACTIVE—Turkey Trot is an untimed Fun Run/Walk to get you outdoors for some exercise and family fun! Pre-registration is required. $25-$35 sunriver-resort.com

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HOLIDAY–The North Pole tent with holiday fun for the entire family. Children’s craft projects, entertainment from Mr. Magic, face painting, work from selected local artisans and huggable characters. Enjoy pony rides, a petting zoo, local vendors, grand illumination parade, and

November 28 Downtown Bend Christmas Tree Lighting HOLIDAY—A great tradition in Central Oregon! Spend the evening singing carols and listening to local choirs. Drake Park. Free. | downtownbend.org

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Kids’ Night Out PLAY—Ages 3-11 get JSFC to themselves as they play in the pool, watch movies, and have fun with their friends under the supervision of our staff. Pizza, drinks, and snacks included. Note: Ages 3-5 will enjoy crafts, games and movies. They must be potty-trained and swimming is not included for this group. Juniper Swim & Fitness Center. $10-$16. | bendparksandrec.org

PLAY—Ages 6-9. Drop the kids off at JSFC and head to First Friday in downtown Bend! In the care of trained, fun-loving staff, children can participate in a variety of exciting activities such as science experiments, learning hip-hop, playing a game of tag, performing in an impromptu talent show, and of course, swimming! Snacks and drinks provided. Juniper Swim & Fitness Center. $10 adv., $13 door. | bendparksandrec.org

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Elf FILM—A Christmas classic about innocence, cheer, candy canes and syrup. Wear your elf costume! Tower Theatre. $8. | towertheatre.org

December 1 (First Tuesday of every month)

Redmond MOPS (Mothers of Preschoolers) SUPPORT—A group of supportive mamas with free and very loving childcare

Gingerbread Junction HOLIDAY—The 19th annual holiday celebration! Gingerbread houses will be on display in the Abbot Room of the Sunriver Resort Lodge. Gingerbread Junction benefits the Newberry Habitat for Humanity. Sunriver Resort. Free. sunriver-resort.com

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December 4 Family Experimental Painting ART—Kick off First Friday with a family-friendly activity at the Art Station. Kids and adults can get creative with a self-guided art activity with one of our instructors. $5 artscentraloregon.org/artstation

December 5-6 Holiday Magic at the Tower

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December 5 (First Saturday of every month)

Middle School Night PLAY—Grades 6-8 take over JSFC with special themed nights, fun activities in the entire facility, dance, fitness, and an

awesome place to hang out with friends. Juniper Swim & Fitness Center. $5. bendparksandrec.org

December 5 Breakfast with Santa FOOD—Why stand in a long line at the mall or department store waiting to talk to Santa when you can relax at a table with your family, enjoying a hot buffet breakfast, houseroasted coffee and more? The menu is for kids and adults alike. McMenamins Old St. Francis School. $18 adults, $13 kids, 6 months and under free. mcmenamins.com

December 12 The Clarion Call, Open Mic SING—A great opportunity for Central Oregon youth to have a live stage experience in a friendly environment. Come meet other students who love to perform. All instructors are encouraged to bring their students down for lunch and an engaging experience. Full professional sound system that will bring ‘em back for more. Kelly D’s Banquet Room. Free. Contact Tom Hudson thudson@bendbroadband.com

December 21-23 & 28-30 No School Fun Hang Out Day PLAY—A safe and fun place to drop off your kids during no-school days for activities while you work, do errands, or have a fun day of your own. We have planned activities and free play times, while still utilizing teachable moments to reinforce academic skills, success attributes (proactivity, self-awareness, perseverance, etc.), and exploration of students’ interests. 4-13 years. Discounts for early enrollment. Samara Learning Center. $70. samaralearningcenter.org

January 1 & 2 Freeze Your Fanny Family Fun Run/Biathlon ACTIVE—Family fun run benefiting MountainStar Family Relief Nursery of Madras. 3-mile run/walk, kids and dogs welcome. Saturday at the Madras Aquatic Center, join in for a post-race chili feed and family swim. Madras. $20. | mtstar.org

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Oregon WinterFest February 12-14 January 22-30 Shrek! The Musical THEATER—Thoroughly Modern Productions with most actors’ ages 8-18 years old. Youth actors join the adult cast of seasoned and professional perfomers for six shows on the big stage. Tower Theatre. Price $31-$35 thoroughlymodernprod.com

February 2 Groundhog Day FILM—What if every day was exactly the same, and nothing you did mattered? Find out during our nonstop screening! Tower Theatre. $5. | towertheatre.org

February 12-14

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February 12-21 The Music Man THEATER—Professor Hill and his “Seventy-Six Trombones” head to River City Iowa in hopes of conning the townspeople and then skipping town. Summit High $10-$15 beatonline.org

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ayla Wopschall has a vision for Bend, and it’s a beautiful one. Having frequented children’s museums across the country with her family, she’s excited to bring a place of exploration and art to Bend for the little ones. Since the closing of Working Wonders, the original children’s museum in the Old Mill District, a couple years ago, no one has filled this niche. Wopschall would like to change that and has a very specific idea what a modern children’s museum would look like in Central Oregon. The Children’s Museum of Central Oregon has popped up at Fall Fest and a few other spots, but it would like to have a more permanent home in Bend. Bend Nest: What was the initial spark for the children’s museum? Kayla Wopschall: I moved from Seattle a little over two years ago. I have two small children, and we travel quite frequently going to children’s museums all over. So, in Bend, something like this is definitely lacking in the community. The community is so kid-oriented and such a super great place for families that it felt like something this was missing. BN: When did you decide to start working on the idea of opening a museum? KW: I started thinking that it would be a great fit for the community about a year ago. My background is in science education. I have my doctorate in archeology and I’m a big proponent, especially once I had small children, of taking my kids out of the classroom and letting them explore and experiment with the world around them. So that got me really interested in this age group. There was a children’s museum several years ago (Working Wonders) and we researched that extensively. I’m actually close friends with the owners, but our vision is quite a bit different from the way they approached it. BN: Where is the museum located? KW: We don’t have a physical space yet. We made it public that we’re going forward with the idea and started fundraising about 30 | WINTER 2015 | BENDNEST.COM

two and a half months ago. We really haven’t asked very many people for money yet. We’re putting all the other ducks in a row and founding the non-profit. We’ve been setting up at festivals and working with the Environmental Center, going into classrooms, doing science experiments related to energy, plus doing some art programming. BN: How will you get the word out? KW: Right now we’re getting some examples of our programming out there, and we’re probably going to do an open house pop-up museum before the holidays. That way people get an idea of us and then we’re going to start pushing for a physical location. We’re looking for a very large space that is close to downtown. We have some options. We might open up smaller in the beginning with just the science and technology component, so we can bring classes in. BN: Aside from the science and technology components, what else are you including in the museum? KW: The science aspect has been what we’ve showcased the most at the festivals so far. But that’s just one aspect. We hope to have a big space for kids to do imaginative and creative play, as well. We plan to have three different sections. One will be the Mess Hall, which will be math, engineering and science stuff. This will be the most continually changing with hands-on activities and experiments. Then there will be the studio arts/fine arts area. We hope to have a clay room, so during the day the room would be open with a staff member to help kids learn how to use the tools. Also, a painting room where kids could paint on literally anything in the room: the walls, the furniture, etc. We’ll also be building cardboard forts that they can paint on and create with. Then I’ll have a performing arts area where kids can dress up, change the back-drop and perform for their parents. They can build their confidence and express themselves in front of groups of people. Families will be able to use our resources, and kids can have

a safe space. By “safe space” I mean a space where they can push the boundaries of exploring the world, where they can paint a wall and not get in trouble for it. Where they can express themselves and gain their confidence and learn who they are as a person at a pretty young age. BN: When will you start to fundraise in earnest? KW: We will be hosting a larger fundraiser, probably in conjunction with that pop-up museum space, most likely in early December. We would love to be able to have a space open next summer, but that’s a really aggressive time-line. BN: Any final thoughts? KW: Just that the Children’s Museum doesn’t only benefit small children. Even though we’re focusing our efforts there to begin with, it really benefits all age groups and the community as a whole. We’re not interested in pricing people out of admission. We will make it as accessible to the Bend community as we possibly can. That’s a very big priority for us. We want to give back to our community and be a resource for all the people.

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everal Central Oregon agencies, including the Family Resource Center, The Early Learning Hub of Central Oregon, and the United Way of Deschutes County have recently come together to bring you an app, called Vroom. The app was developed to help promote child brain development in the early years of life. New science tells us that our children’s first years are when they develop the foundation for all future learning. The brain is very impressionable between the ages of zero to three. Every time we connect with our child, it’s not just their eyes that light up, it’s their brains too. In these moments, half a million neurons ﬁre at once, processing all the things we say and do. We can’t see it happening, but these connections shape our child’s ability to learn in the future. Vroom turns shared one-on-one moments into brain building moments. Whether it’s mealtime, bath time, or anytime in between, you play a crucial role in the early brain development and enrichment that occurs on a daily basis. The app, Vroom, makes it easy for parents to access fun activities any time to make the most of these precious years. Daily Vroom enhances the things you already do and helps spark new ideas. The app offers daily tips that are centered around five key features to brain development in young children: Look, Chat, Follow, Stretch, and Take Turns. n

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hether we’re stay-at-home parents or working moms and dads, much of our time is spent improving our children’s lives. It’s easy to feel we’re helping our kids while we’re working, cooking, cleaning, and shopping, but what about when we exercise? According to a report published in Pediatrics, researchers from the University of Minnesota found that parenthood in general negatively affects parents’ nutrition and their exercise routines. It also revealed that moms specifically tend to have a higher body mass index than women without children, which can have a negative impact of their health. As people become moms and dads, their need for exercise becomes even more critical. But is it selfish for parents to set aside time to work out if it means less time with their kids? This internal conflict plaguing parents is seen in incendiary viral articles and heated online discussions. One example is the infamous image of fitness trainer, Maria Kang, flexing her toned body next to her three small sons under a caption that reads, “What’s your excuse?” Responses to the Kang image included articles with titles such as,“Why I Don’t Want to Be a ‘Fit-Mom’ Anymore.” Yet a large body of research shows that regular physical activity improves parents’ mental, physical, and emotional health. It also increases the chances their children will be physically active throughout their lives. So how do parents reconcile their seemingly contradictory desires to be a great parent and stay fit? Three Central Oregon moms shared how they fit fitness into their families’ routines. Continues on the next page

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Lisa Riley, mother of one Lisa says she enjoyed an active lifestyle before having her son at age 34. While pregnant, she started an exercise routine she has struggled to maintain for the last six years. She explains, “I’ve tried to establish a regular exercise routine, [but] something always comes up . . . Sometimes it’s because of difficulties working around my son’s schedule, or obligations to his school. Other times it’s work or simple laziness.” Though Lisa struggles to find time to exercise, she says she doesn’t feel guilty when she does. “When I force myself to work out, I not only feel better about myself, but I feel like I have more energy to share with my son,” she says. “I also feel like I am a better role model for him.” Lisa credits her lack of guilt with having a great parenting partner. “I am lucky,” she says. “I have a husband who is a good father, and my son likes it when they get to be at home alone together to do ‘man stuff.’”

Stephanie Krause, mother of two Stephanie, owner of Bloom Preschool makes time for exercise as often as she can. She admits that sometimes staying fit feels like a choice between taking care of her kids and herself. But she explains, “The reality is that when I choose to stay fit, I’m a better parent. I’m more physically fit and more prepared for whatever busy, active stuff my kids’ lives throw my way.” She says she doesn’t feel guilty about workouts because in addition to giving her physical, mental and emotional readiness for her children, her workouts set an example for them. “By working out, I’m showing them that workouts are important for quality of life. Getting my own workout in is modeling of selfdiscipline at its best,” she says. If making time for a workout makes you feel guilty about neglecting your kids, give yourself credit: At least you care about them. n

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It’s the Most Wonderful Time of the Year So why are you so SAD? By Annette Benedetti A change in appetite that includes craving carbohydrates Weight gain A heavy feeling in your arms and legs Oversleeping

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he air has turned crisp, the first flakes of winter have fallen, and the excitement in the air is almost palpable. Central Oregon’s late fall and winter months are arguably the most magical of the year. Your children squeal with excitement as they watch lights go up around the neighborhood and talk about visits from family members and the sleigh rides in Sunriver that lay ahead. While you smile on the outside and show delight at every holiday-themed art project that is brought home, what you are feeling on the inside is very different. It’s not that you don’t look forward to visits from family members, skiing and snowboarding, or all of the tasty food that comes along with the season; but every year at this time, when the faces of young and old alike begin to glow with excitement and joy, your feelings don’t just fall flat—they are downright low. If you find yourself feeling down around this time of year every year, you may be experiencing Seasonal affective disorder (appropriately referred to as SAD). While SAD can also occur during the summer months, the “winter version” of this disorder is quite common and can make enjoying a season that is typically filled with festivities and fun particularly difficult to endure.

What is Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD)? Seasonal affective disorder is a type of depression that correlates with seasonal changes. SAD begins and ends at the same time every year—most often beginning in fall, continuing into winter, and ending in spring. Sufferers may experience a wide variety of symptoms that make participating in daily activities difficult at best and nearly impossible at worst. SAD can affect everyone, however those most likely to experience SAD include women between the ages of 15 and 55 and individuals with close relatives that have struggled with this condition. SAD can be particularly challenging for mothers who are already struggling with postpartum depression or anxiety.

The symptoms of SAD include: Feeling sad, irritable, or anxious Loss of interest in activities you typically enjoy Difficulty connecting with others Low energy

If you have been experiencing any of the symptoms above consistently over the course of several weeks, you should see your family doctor or consult a mental health counselor. Because SAD is a type of depression, your health professional will conduct an evaluation that will most likely include: A physical exam. This exam will include questions about your physical, mental, and emotional health history. A mental health assessment. This assessment may include a questionnaire that will help your doctor identify behaviors, thoughts, and feelings that indicate you are suffering from depression. Blood tests. Issues with your thyroid may result in symptoms that are similar to those of SAD. A simple blood test can determine the status of your thyroid’s health.

Getting Happy The good news is that being diagnosed with Seasonal Affective Disorder doesn’t mean you are doomed to a lifetime of holiday blues. There are effective treatments as well as lifestyle adjustments that will allow you to enjoy Central Oregon’s winter wonderland right alongside your children. While the specific cause of SAD remains somewhat of a mystery, what researchers and professionals do know is that there are specific factors that play a big role in its presence. They include:

Serotonin: A reduction in sunlight can cause a drop in serotonin, a chemical in the brain that affects mood, which is believed to trigger depression.

Melatonin: Seasonal changes may affect melatonin levels in your body. Melatonin affects your quality of sleep, as well as your sleep patterns. While having a second home in a location that is warm and sunny throughout the fall and winter months, seems like a simple enough solution to your SAD conundrum, it’s simply not a realistic one for everyone. Some less-drastic lifestyle adjustments you can start making immediately that can help alleviate your SAD symptoms include: getting outside into natural daylight as early and as much as possible, exercising regularly, and making sure your home environment gets as much natural light as possible. Continues on the next page BENDNEST.COM | WINTER 2015 | 39

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If these adjustments don’t quite cut it and you find yourself continuing to battle the seasonal blues, there are highly affective treatments available that you should ask your healthcare provider about:

Light therapy: Also referred to as phototherapy, light therapy involves sitting within a few feet of a special light therapy box. These boxes expose you to bright light that causes a change in brain chemicals that are linked to mood. Most people experience positive affects within a few days to two weeks. This is the most common therapy used for SAD. Should you decide to move forward with this form of therapy, your doctor will advise you on which light box to purchase and how to proceed with your therapy. Medications: When absolutely necessary, antidepressants may be used to treat SAD. The most common medications prescribed are: Paxil, Zoloft, Wellbutrin, and Effexor. Regardless of which treatment approach you and your healthcare professional decide is best for you, consider seeking out a counselor who specializes in SAD. Having extra support throughout the holiday months will help ensure that you don’t miss sharing the joy and wonder of the season with your loved ones ever again. n

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ownhill skiing and snowboarding are some of the most popular sports in Bend. On a good day, however, the slopes can be packed with more than just the cold white stuff. If you want to take your kids somewhere away from the crowds, try some of the other winter sports our area has to offer.

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According to J.D. Downing, Coach/ Director of the XC Oregon Club for the past 18 years, the absolute best place to get started with crosscountry skiing is the Mt Bachelor Nordic Center. Even though he does not work for Mt. Bachelor, w Downing endorses Do D the Nordic Center, as it J of y s “offers the beginners plenty of te Cour daily groomed trails, professional instruction geared to beginners, and on-site rental equipment perfectly matched to the conditions you’ll see out the door.” You’ll also learn which equipment is best suited for the specific type of cross-country skiing you want to do, whether it is skate or classic. Then you can head to in-town shops for rental gear or purchases with all the knowledge you need. Depending on the skier, as few as one to three lessons followed by a few hours practicing at the Nordic Center can be

enough to equip you with the basic skills needed to later head out on your own to other locations, like the popular Virginia Meissner Sno Park, which is close to town and just off Century Drive. Your family will surely enjoy the warming huts there that the bt the Central Oregon Nordic Club. “The downsides of just grabbing any cross-country gear and heading off into the woods from any sno-park are many,” says Downing. “Unfortunately as a sport, we lose a lot of potential skiers because the first few experiences were so bad in this way.” Investing in a few lessons can make all the difference, especially for kids who may be easily frustrated, if they don’t get the hang of it right away. Luckily, there are many fantastic ski shops in Bend that support cross-country skiing for kids and offer rentals for a reasonable cost, making it easy for families to get outfitted quickly and get outside to have some fun. If you’re looking for something a little more competitive for the kids over the course of the winter, two programs, MBSEF and Bend Endurance Academy, offer teams and training programs for children.

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The simplicity that has drawn many people away from high adrenaline summer sports to activities like paddle boarding, is analogous to attracting families to snowshoeing. All that is required is the ability to walk. Think open trails, snowmen, and snowball battles! Snowshoeing caters to everyone, young and old alike.

Now for the real family fun, sure to invoke lots of giggles as Dad whirls out of control on skinny blades while mom gracefully twirls on the ice. What kid doesn’t love to put on the skates and feel the cold wind rush through their hair? New this year to the ice skating scene is The Pavilion, located in the heart of Bend at Colorado and Simpson Aves. Run by Bend Parks & Rec, the Pavilion has numerous programs in which your kids can participate. They’ll be doing triple spins in no time, or at least enjoying the kiddie social scene. Ice season begins Nov. 30 and runs through March 27. Another great option for ice skating is at the Sunriver Village Ice Skating Rink. Take the kids to Sunriver and enjoy some good laughs while enjoying this outdoor rink. Centrally located, you can pop in to any number of restaurants to take a

Elk Lake For a winter family adventure, head to the Elk Lake Resort. The good folks who own the resort will give you a snowcat ride for only 50 dollars per person round trip into Elk Lake in the dead of winter. Spend the day, a night or quite a few in one of their awesome cabins while dining at their gourmet restaurant. They offer great snowshoeing and cross-country skiing, but you will need to rent the skis in town and bring them along. Snowshoes can be rented there, however. This truly is something to be experienced and makes a very memorable family winter weekend or vacation. F ne o Bo of y s te Cour il y

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break and get warm. Also, don’t forget the Seventh Mountain Resort ice rink. The perfect outdoor setting, the resort offers skate rentals for all ages. Watch the kids outside while you enjoy a hot toddy inside at the restaurant rinkside. They even offer lessons here.

Throw on your winter boots and ski pants to keep your feet and legs dry while kicking up some powder. Invest in a pair of snowshoes for your whole family or first try out the sport by renting some at one of the many local ski shops. Most have very reasonable daily rates. Not sure where to go for snowshoeing? Similar to hiking, the possibilities are endless. Enjoy the extensive Forest Service trail systems adjacent to Century Drive for venturing out on your own. Maps are available at most trailheads or ask the locals at any of the ski shops while renting your equipment. If you’re interested in a tour, there are a couple of options. The Forest Service offers free tours at the base of Mt. Bachelor throughout the winter and even have snowshoes for loan. For something special, try one of Wanderlust Tours’ outings with a professional naturalist. Their snowshoe guides bring the Mt. Bachelor area alive with interesting natural interpretation and snow play for all ages.

Sledding

It may sound simple, but don’t forget the option of buying or even renting a couple sleds or toboggans and heading up toward Mt. Bachelor for some family sledding. A wonderful place to start is the Wanoga Sno Park on Century Drive. There’s a very fast, but kid-friendly hill just adjacent to the parking area that you can’t miss. Kids will love building jumps with Dad, not to mention the thrill of flying down after an epic trek to the top. As an added bonus, there’s a heated hut and someone always selling hot chocolate for warming those chilled little bodies. Fun for everyone! n

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Life in the Fast Lane Give kids a break on academic expectations By Angela Switzer

STRESS BUSTERS FOR TEENS:

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Make sure your teen is getting enough sleep. Nine hours on average is recommended. Encourage study breaks to rejuvenate the mind. Institute regular family dinner times. Encourage free time on the weekends for hanging out with friends. Don’t interrogate your teen about homework or tests. Help your overscheduled teen pare down and prioritize. Offer support and understanding.

he bell rings and your child quickly makes her way to the door and heads to an office located a couple blocks away from her high school. Here she will meet one-on-one with her math tutor for forty minutes before quickly changing and joining her teammates for Cross Country practice. At 5:00pm, she heads home, takes a shower, eats a quick dinner and then heads upstairs to start studying. With four AP classes, she has hours of homework ahead of her before she even starts to study for her two tests. Yawning and trying not to panic, she opens the textbook. This scene is not uncommon for many of our young adults today. With teenagers in the U.S. generally overscheduled and overworked, it might be worth considering for a moment how your teen is faring. The extremely competitive nature of college admissions these days dictates to students early on that they must work hard if they wish to gain entrance to a good school. We all want our children to succeed in life and have a rewarding career. But the cost of this pursuit has its price. These days, grade point averages are paramount, SAT prep classes and private tutors are the norm. There is the added pressure for kids to take part in extra-curricular activities, regardless of interest (looks good on the resume) and to join community service organizations (also looks good on the resume). Our teens may even mold their everyday lives around their college applications. Overachievers in this environment are able to work hard, stay up all night studying and learn how to jump through the necessary hoops. However, their test scores may not be an accurate reflection of their intellect. On the other hand, students with less organizational skills, but deeper insight may be out of luck when it comes to good grades. In their 2009 documentary, Race to Nowhere, parents Jessica Congdon and Vicki Ables, expose the weight of expectations and stress placed on our young people today in high school and argue that our chil-

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dren are stressed out with little time to be a kid. Some teens even suffer physical ailments brought on by this stress. Increasingly, mental health professionals are seeing teens that are burnt out, stressed out and have trouble finding joy in their world. As a result of these higher academic expectations, cheating in secondary schools across the nation is on the rise. Here in Oregon, Mollie Galloway, an assistant professor of education and counseling at Lewis and Clark College, conducted research finding that 93 percent of students at a group of Oregon high schools had cheated in one way or another. Many of those students when asked, said cheating is the only way they can keep up with their work. Galloway says, “it’s cheat or be cheated.” How do you distinguish between a high achieving child and an overachiever, you may wonder? High achieving is certainly an admirable trait, while overachieving can be detrimental to one’s character. The problem lies in the obsession with attaining perfect scores at all cost. Few overachievers accept failure as part of the learning process. High achievers, on the other hand, see failure as just another opportunity for growing and learning. Many overachievers feel good about themselves only when they get a perfect score. Generally, high achievers’ self-worth is not attached to their accomplishments; they don’t need outside validation to feel good. It’s important for our children to know that they are valued for their unique qualities and not for their GPA’s. We as parents can emphasize that value by encouraging their strengths and not putting pressure on them to perform. What’s right for one kid may be totally wrong for another. Remember, the world needs young people with varying interests and vocations. Make sure that the pressure you place on your child is more about building good character and developing values, rather than scholastic achievement. n

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I can say that sharing our beer with people in our Tasting Room facilitates a community vibe that feels very much like family. One of the aspects of Crux that I find most gratifying is that people of all ages, genders and backgrounds gather there with an openness to engage with others. It’s like the great family meals we experienced as kids on Sunday evenings— but at Crux it’s every day of the week. We can enjoy our kids, their friends, and others while thoughts and conversations brew.

What lessons from marketing and advertising have you brought into parenting?

The biggest nut to crack in creating brands for clients is discovering what their primary purpose is– their “why” or reason for being. If you can identify that, you have a really powerful platform to build a brand on. The same principle holds true for us as human beings. If we can discover our “why”, we’ll have a platform to build a powerful life upon. I have to admit it’s been a lot easier for me to be successful at this with clients than with myself, or with helping my kids.

seems like an important 3 Family part of your life and business. What advice do you have about life and work separation? Or integration? tbd’s roots began in our home. It grew from me working by myself into a team of five plus people in the back of our house. I knew I had a boundary challenge when one morning I awoke at 4AM with an idea, got up and went to my desk to work. A short while later I looked down at my watch and realized that my co-workers were about to walk in the door. My hair looked like Albert Einstein’s, I had no shirt on, no slippers, just a loose fitting bathrobe. Within a couple months we relocated to a little office downtown. My wife and each of my three kids have worked with me at tbd. We made a commitment to avoid having work topics dominate dinner conversations. My son, Bobby, has been working with me at tbd as an Art Director for a few years now. I guess the ultimate integration example was when we dressed up as each other on Halloween a couple years back during the work day— we looked and acted convincingly enough as each other to trigger quite a few double-takes.

you consider your mom and dad 4 Do as role models? (How so?) I’d like to think I’m a blend of the best of both my mom and dad. My mom was the most loving and trusting person I’ve known— she passed away when I was 20 but taught me enough to last more than my lifetime. My dad is the most adventurous and silliest person I know— as well as the most relentless.

parenting lessons from your 5 What parents, do you use with your parenting? Choose to love your family and friends no matter what, regardless of their mistakes. You’re not smart enough to judge. Have fun with your kids, be sure to laugh deep in your belly and carry an extra pair of underwear just in case.

is the best advice your mom 6 What or dad ever gave you? “Um, son, maybe they’re right— maybe you shouldn’t strip down to your undies on national TV.” (My dad and I were on Solid Gold Hits and Puttin’ on the Hits lip sync shows in the early 80s.)

advice from your mom or dad 7 What do you wish you hadn’t ignored? (no response)

do you think your children will 8 What say about you in therapy? ...but, I’m pretty sure my dad was joking when he said that.

hobbies of yours do you share 9 What with your children?

One of my favorite hobbies happens also to be a family legacy– the art of extemporaneous corny joke telling. I’ve been working with my kids since infancy hoping that my offspring wouldn’t be the ones to break the generational chain. I think, finally, at least one of them, is starting to pick up on the craft.

What superhero power would most help you as a parent?

I like The Mask. It turned Jim Carrey into quite the comical (and death-defying) cartoon character. As parents, we tend to take ourselves too seriously.

Do you have a fictional character (TV, book, movie, etc.) who is your a role model? What has he or she taught you? Mrs. Doubtfire. Have a sense of humor and do whatever it takes to hang out with your kids. No matter how ridiculous. And, as with me, the biggest lesson comes from your kids— ultimately, they love you just as you are. n

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