Bridal Planner 2016

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Bridal Planner

2016

Dress success

FINDING THE PERFECT GARMENT FOR YOUR MOST SPECIAL DAY

Plan ahead

CHECKLIST FOR KEEPING YOUR ARRANGEMENTS ON TRACK

Money talk

BREAKDOWN OF TYPICAL WEDDING EXPENSES TO HELP YOU ALLOCATE

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A Letter from The Southern Illinoisan Dearest Southern Illinois Brides-to-Be, Congratulations on your engagement! Please accept our best wishes.

And now it’s time to plan the wedding, an event that will create memories to last a lifetime. So, it’s important to enjoy every minute, every choice, every detail. And there are lots of details to consider. You’ll need to come up with a budget, find and hire just the right vendors, choose a florist, find the perfect dress and tuxedo, sift through hundreds of décor possibilities and get the guest list just right. That’s in addition to performing at work and spending time with friends, family and your spouse-to-be. It can be overwhelming, but it doesn’t have to be — if you have help.

The Southern Illinoisan Bridal Guide is just what you need to get you to the big day with no surprises or meltdowns. It’s a matter of knowing what to do, how to do it and when to get it done. You’ll find that inside the guide. Use our convenient timeline checklist to keep you moving toward your walk down the aisle and everything that comes after. Our budget worksheet can lessen the stress of handling money and help you decide where you want to spend more or less. A list of questions will ensure you’ve thought of everything. You can depend on the Bridal Guide to help you manage details that ensure the special day will be one of the best days you’ll every experience. Let us help you make it happen just the way you’ve always dreamed it would be. This is it! You’re getting married!

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Timeline Checklist SKIP THE FRENZY AND FOLLOW AN ORDERLY PATH TO THE DAY YOU ARE SHAPING INTO THE OCCASION-OF-YOUR-LIFETIME. You’ve found the love of your life and the two of you are getting married! Now what?

Your wedding is one of the most complex events that you, your spouse-to-be and your families ever will orchestrate. A solid plan helps make the process do-able, even pleasant.

This Timeline Checklist helps organize details from what seems at first to be chaos into a celebration of the happiest day of your lives. Make your own lists with immediate actions to remember.

9 - 12 MONTHS BEFORE  Select a date and time for your wedding  Arrange for parents to get together, possibly at an engagement party or informally over dinner  Announce engagement in The Southern Illinoisan and on thesouthern.com  Interview wedding planners  Discuss budget for everything, including honeymoon expenses, with everyone, establishing priorities and noting who will contribute financially

 Make arrangements for transporting gifts from reception  Order programs for ceremony  Bride has last pre-wedding haircut and color  Make sure the name on your photo ID and/or passport matches your honeymoon plane tickets/reservations  Start packing for honeymoon, listing suitcase contents as you go  Gather items for day-of emergency kit ONE WEEK BEFORE

 Select your officiant and visit with him or her to discuss wedding preparation and procedures

 Send out all final payments possible

 Narrow down ceremony and reception sites and book them

 Finalize rehearsal and rehearsal dinner; confirm attendance numbers

 Select a catering service, if not provided by the reception site  Choose members of the wedding party  Begin to compile guest list  Research legal requirements for marriage license in location where you will wed and add this to your personal calendars  Provide wedding party with rehearsal/ wedding-day schedule

 Delegate wedding-day responsibilities to reliable individuals

 Confirm honeymoon details and finish packing  Double-check details with all wedding vendors  Groom: Have hair trimmed  Everyone: Break in shoes  Attend bachelor/bachelorette parties (held as early as possible)

6 - 9 MONTHS BEFORE

1 - 2 DAYS BEFORE

 Book photographer and videographer

G et massage, manicure and pedicure; purchase nail polish in shade to be worn for possible touch-up

 Book ceremony musicians and reception band or DJ  Select florist  Reserve party rental equipment (tables, chairs, tents, lighting)

A ttend rehearsal and review all details with participants

 Consider items for registry

E njoy rehearsal dinner with family and friends; present thank-you gifts to wedding party and parents

 Shop for and order bridal gown and accessories

P lace fees due on wedding day in envelopes

 Select bridesmaids’ dresses

G et a good night’s sleep

 Arrange wedding cake tastings, then order  Research honeymoon spots and select travel agent

THE BIG DAY

 Close in on finalizing guest list

E at a healthy breakfast; drink extra water to avoid dehydration

 Mail save-the-date cards, especially for destination or holiday wedding

 Try to take at least a little walk, play music or meditate to reduce stress

 Make master to-do list, keeping copies only with those who need to know

D ouble-check that you have all items needed; add backups, just in case

 Choose ceremony musicians and music

G ive groom’s wedding band to maid of honor and bride’s ring to best man

 Finalize seating arrangements and finish place cards for reception

ONE WEEK BEFORE  Send out all final payments possible  Delegate wedding-day responsibilities to reliable individuals  Finalize rehearsal and rehearsal dinner; confirm attendance numbers  Groom: Have hair trimmed

 Write down any last-minute contingency plans that occur to you H ave a written schedule to share, allowing extra time for the unexpected H ave hair and makeup done according to earlier plan  Allow extra time to get dressed M ake certain best man and maid of honor sign the marriage license

 Everyone: Break in shoes

A llow 50 percent more time than needed to travel between destinations

 Confirm honeymoon details and finish packing

P rovide dry snacks and bottled water in dressing area

 Double-check details with all wedding vendors

G reet guests by name, be gracious and grateful

 Attend bachelor/bachelorette parties (plan earlier, if possible)

 S mile, remain calm and do not allow anything that may go differently than planned ruin your joy C herish each moment of this special day with your new life partner  S ay goodbye to parents and grandparents, if you leave early

Money Matters FUNDS MANAGEMENT SETS EYE ON TARGET First comes the budget. All wedding plans hinge on what you plan to spend. Whatever the total, you must resolve together what you want and can afford in order to create the wedding you want. This exercise, in effect, lays a base for future collaboration.

Working toward mutual goals lays the groundwork for future collaboration. The average amount spent on a wedding in 2014 in the Carbondale, IL, area was about $19,890 according to theweddingreport.com with an average of 104-114 guests, while other sources indicate it to be even higher. No matter who provides statistics, brides and grooms want to celebrate this occasion with family and friends. Honeymoon costs are additional.

These ranges provide a starting point to help figure what you might or might not include in your wedding. Other details must accommodate expenses that range toward the high end of the percentage so all categories together add up to 100 percent.

CEREMONY 2 - 3 % Marriage license/name change fees, site/ officiant fees, aisle runner, canopy, candelabras, unity candle

REHEARSAL DINNER 4 - 5 % Site rental, food, beverages, tips

STATIONERY 2 - 3 % Announcements/save-the-date cards, invitations with envelopes and enclosures, postage, programs, reception place cards, thank-you notes

PHOTOGRAPHY 11 - 15 % Engagement, videography, wedding packages

RECEPTION 50 % Site fee, catering costs, bar expenses (bartender & beverages), wedding cake, valet parking, groom’s cake, favors, napkins, cake cutter, cake topper, etc.

GIFTS 2 - 3 % Bride and groom, attendants, parents

4 - 6 % MUSIC Ceremony and reception

7 - 10 % WEDDING ATTIRE Wedding gown/headpiece/veil/lingerie, hair and makeup, tuxedo, jewelry, shoes, accessories

6 - 8 % FLOWERS Ceremony, bride’s and attendants’ bouquets, boutonnieres, corsages for mothers, grandmothers, readers and special guests, bouquet to toss, reception centerpieces

4 - 6 % WEDDING RINGS 2 - 3 % TRANSPORTATION To ceremony, from ceremony to photo site, to reception, from reception to wedding night venue

1 - 2 % EXTRAS Lodging, welcome bags for out-of-town guests, wedding night accommodations

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Announce your engagement – or share your wedding photo – by putting your story in The Southern Illinoisan.

We make it easy with a form that you can customize. Fill it out online, request one over the phone, or stop by our office. Your story and photo are published in The Southern Illinoisan and also posted online.

Traditional Breakdown of Expenses A SENSE OF WHO OFTEN PAYS FOR WHAT STARTS A DISCUSSION THAT MAKES GOOD SENSE WHEN SETTING BUDGET PLANS. THE BRIDE’S FAMILY

THE BRIDE

• Wedding gown, headpiece and accessories • Invitations/announcements • Bridesmaids’ bouquets • Grandmothers’ corsages • Ceremony/reception flowers • Altar baskets/arches • Canopy/carpet • Kneeling bench/candelabras • Rented items for ceremony • Wedding programs • Napkins/printed items • Church fee, musician/soloist • Wedding breakfast • Reception site fee • Catered reception/ professional services • Photography/videography • Orchestra/band/DJ • Rented items for reception • Wedding cake • Wedding favors • Bridal brunch • Parents-of-bride attire • Accommodation suggestions for out-of-town guests

• Wedding ring for the groom • Wedding gift for the groom • Bridesmaids’ gifts, luncheon

THE GROOM’S FAMILY

OUT-OF-TOWN FAMILY AND/OR ATTENDANTS

• Groom’s cake • Rehearsal dinner • Parents-of-groom attire

THE GROOM • His formal wear • Wedding ring for the bride • Gifts for the bride • Groomsmen’s/usher’s gifts • Bride’s bouquet • Mothers’ corsages •B outonnieres for groom, groomsmen, ushers • Marriage license • Clergyman/officiant fee • Transportation services

MAID/MATRON OF HONOR AND BRIDESMAIDS • Their gowns • Shower, bachelorette party

BEST MAN, GROOMSMEN AND USHERS • Their formal wear • Bachelor party

• Travel expenses

Sign on the Dotted Line LEGAL REQUIREMENTS TOP ‘TO-DO’ LIST Before you run off into matrimonial bliss with your soon-to-be spouse, remember you must apply for a marriage license before your ceremony. Rules for being wed vary state to state. If the ceremony will not occur in Illinois, the website usmarriagelaws.com directs you to any state that will be your destination.

NUPTIALS IN THE LAND OF LINCOLN Getting married in Illinois is a bit different.

The couple still needs to be single, not related and at least 18 years old. 16- and 17-year-olds must have parental consent. No one under the age of 16 can be married.

A valid form of identification is required and both parties need to be present at the time of application in the county where they will be married.

A one-day waiting period is required after the date of application. The license, however, is valid for 60 days. A certified decree or certificate of divorce may be required by the clerk issuing the license.

The cost of applying for a marriage license varies by county. In Williamson County, for example, the fee is $25. This non-refundable, cash-only fee is due at the time of application.

OFFICIALLY MARRIED In order for the marriage to be legal, each state allows certain officiants to perform the ceremony.

In Illinois, the exchanging of vows must be presided over by one of the following: • A judge of a court of record or a retired judge of a court of record.

• The county clerk in a county with 2 million or more inhabitants.

• A public official whose powers include solemnizing marriages.

• A n officiant performing the marriage in accordance with the prescriptions of any religious denomination.

• An Indian nation, tribe or native group.

The officiant completes the marriage certificate form and forwards it to the appropriate county clerk within 10 days after the ceremony.

BRIDE’S NEW NAME There are obvious places where a bride should register her new name: • Social Security card • Driver’s license • Passport • Bank accounts and checks • Credit cards • Insurance policies • Post office address

The Ceremony Location CHURCH IS A CLASSIC VENUE, WHILE A WINERY, COUNTRY CLUB, PARK, MUSEUM OFFERS ONE-STOP HOSPITALITY AND A MEMORABLE BACKDROP. You know the “who,” “what,” “why” and probably the “when.” But in regard to your wedding, there is no more important “where” than the site of your ceremony.

This facility is the place where you will make those lifelong promises to love and to cherish. In your pictures you will forever be standing in that spot, wearing the most beautiful dress, with your husband lovingly gazing at you, and your friends and family fondly observing.

Here are some ideas to guide you toward picking the perfect site for your ceremony:

IN A PLACE OF WORSHIP • If you want to get married in a place of worship, you should pick one to which you feel connected. That could be where you currently attend services or the place you went during childhood. It could be somewhere you’ve never been but have admired from afar.

OUTDOOR • An outdoor wedding can be beautiful.

Whether under a gazebo, at a park, or in a field, an outdoor wedding seems to come with Mother Nature’s seal of approval.

Be careful to consider seasonal weather factors. Certain times of year are more prone to inclement weather than others.

MUSEUM OR GALLERY • I n a museum or gallery, your wedding will be surrounded by beautiful objects.

You can choose sites that display works that match your personal preferences, whether you enjoy the modern, classical, naturalistic or abstract.

HOME •A wedding at home gives you the opportunity to recite your vows in a place that is near and dear to your heart.

Though it will require that you have enough room to accommodate your guest list, a home wedding will definitely have a personal touch that no other location offers.

Your officiant can help you determine your options regarding ceremony sites.

There are some site restrictions if you are having a religious ceremony.

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The Wedding Party CHOOSE THOSE WHO STAND UP FOR YOU WITH LOVE AND CARE. IT IS AN HONOR OF PERSONAL FAVOR. On your wedding day, possibly the happiest and most hectic in your life, it is important to surround yourself with people you care about and trust. Bridal attendants and groomsmen serve this purpose, so those invited to join you and your future spouse in celebrating your new married life should be your closest friends and confidants.

BEST MAN The best man should be someone whom the groom trusts – not only to help him with wedding details, but also to offer moral support during this wonderful, yet stressful, time in his life. Often the groom asks a brother, close relative or best friend to stand beside him.

Conventional wisdom says that one to three attendants fit a small, more intimate wedding.

A large and lavish affair may have as many as 12 – if they fit the site, camera lens and your budget. Most weddings include somewhere between four and seven attendants.

BRIDESMAIDS Bridesmaids are usually sisters, other family members or close friends of either the bride or groom. They help with wedding errands, throw a bridal shower and are key guests at pre-wedding parties.

One groomsman per bridesmaid keeps symmetry at the altar and in photographs.

However, there is no rule. Ushers may be groomsmen or other men who assist in seating family and friends, with special ones chosen to seat mothers of the bride and groom. A young family member may be flower girl, ring bearer or train bearer.

GROOMSMEN/USHERS Groomsmen and ushers are usually brothers, relatives or close friends of the bride and groom.

In memories and photographs, these individuals always will be your wedding attendants. Be sure to ask people with whom you want to spend time, not only on your wedding day, but also in your future.

MAID OR MATRON OF HONOR Whether she’s been down the aisle herself (matron) or not (maid), the honor attendant should be someone dear to the bride’s heart.

She should be someone on whom she can personally depend – perhaps a sister or best friend – while planning the event and, just as important, on the wedding day.

FLOWER GIRLS One or two flower girls, age 4 to 8, walk down the aisle alone or with the ring bearer.

A shy flower girl can be paired with an older child. Flower girls usually carry a pomander ball of flowers, held by a ribbon, or a basket of rose petals to scatter or baby roses to pass out as they walk down the aisle.

RING BEARER The ring bearer – a young boy of age 4 or 5 – walks down the aisle alone or with the flower girl(s), carrying a decorative pillow or box to which real or artificial rings are attached with ribbon. To avoid misplacement, the best man may hold the real ones.

TRAIN BEARER A young child, about 4 or 5 years old, also may follow the bride down the aisle, carrying her train.

Your Officiant THIS PERSON HELPS BRING YOUR CEREMONY DREAMS AND IDEAS TO LIFE WHEN YOU SAY ‘I DO’ — THE MOST IMPORTANT WORDS OF THE DAY. ON THE PHONE Whether you are working with someone you do or do not know well, be sure to ask detailed questions to determine if you and your potential officiant are a match made in heaven.

FACE TO FACE If you feel comfortable with the officiant on the phone and can accommodate his or her requirements and qualifications, you should schedule a meeting.

Before you meet in person, ask:

Before sealing the deal, go over details of the site and the ceremony by:

• I f the officiant is available on the date and time already chosen? If the two sides match in philosophy or one of them is flexible enough to avoid the need for another choice?

• Touring the site, envisioning capacity, general layout and accessibility. Note convenient access, if necessary, for people in wheelchairs and using walkers.

• W hat, if any, documentation is required for a first meeting? Religions often require certificates of baptism or other printed documents, particularly if there was a previous marriage.

• Listing what the site provides versus what you must arrange, such as runner, flowers (seasonal decorations may be in place), candles, etc.

• I f he or she is open to personalizing vows, readings or music? Some settings restrict types of music or readings and require traditional vows. Music providers may be set.

• If pre-wedding counseling sessions or classes are required? Some religions require couples to attend retreats or “marriage classes” before they can tie the knot. This may affect the wedding timeline.

• W hat are the fees? An officiant’s fee often ranges between $150 and $450, or a specified donation may be expected.

In other cases, a facility fee may include the officiant and an on-site planner.

Some locations require you to provide an officiant. Musicians and other services have separate fees.

• Suggesting music, readings and vows, so the officiant can explain any restrictions, particularly if your choice is non-traditional.

•D iscussing the sermon an officiant may deliver. Will it perhaps be available to hear in advance or at pre-nuptial counseling?

•U nderstanding any dress code for the site.

A religious location may require heads or shoulders be covered or other wardrobe essentials.

•A sking about documentation, including the marriage certificate and marriage license.

•N oting times and spaces allowed or available for photographer and videographer to preserve your event as memories.

Finding the Dress CHOOSE A GOWN THAT’S A REFLECTION OF YOUR PERSONALITY. Picture yourself making a grand entrance down the center aisle. At that unique moment, the ensemble you wear – the gown, the veil, the shoes and accessories – will tell your guests who you are and how you feel on this very special day.

Your bridal gown may be the biggest clothing purchase you will ever make. As you begin the process, take a moment to analyze your everyday attitude and appearance. Your personal style and taste will drive your choice in a wedding gown.

The look and feel of the gown you select should reflect your personality. If you are laid-back and casual, your wedding dress will reflect those attitudes. If you dress conservatively at most times, then a formal gown may be your choice.

Whether casual or formal, romantic or modern, the gown you select should reflect your personality and flatter your best attributes. A trained wedding consultant at your bridal shop can help you choose the dress that’s right for you.

KEEP LOOKING, THE PERFECT DRESS IS OUT THERE. There are many styles of gowns to choose from that will flatter your physical attributes, including A-line gowns, mermaid gowns, ball gowns and sheaths. Whatever your shape, there’s something out there for you.

Bridal shops vary with the services and products they offer, and there are many choices. Not only will you need standard bridal accessories like veils and jewelry, but also undergarments, shoes and bridesmaids and flower girl dresses. Your trained bridal consultant will know just what you need for the look that you desire.

Another important benefit to using a fullservice bridal shop is an alteration department.

Every soon-to-be bride should receive individual attention from an in-house seamstress to ensure a flawless look on her big day.

DON’T FORGET THE DETAILS. Now that you’ve chosen your bridal gown, it’s time to put the icing on the cake! Any good bridal shop can make shopping for a headpiece, veil and other accessories a breeze.

Keep in mind that your personality can shine through with accessories that complement your gown.

Here’s a very important tip. Although you may want to invite your family and friends along to your wedding gown appointments, try to limit your shopping mates to just your mother. She knows what you like and what fits you best. And your mother has your best interests in mind.

Bridal Emergency Kit Checklist GIVE THIS LIST IN A KIT TO THE MOST RESPONSIBLE BRIDESMAID TO SAVE YOU FROM ANY MISHAP THROUGHOUT THE BIG DAY AND INTO THE NIGHT.

 small sewing kit, scissors

of wedding-day vendors

 safety pins

 band aids™

 tissue

 deodorant

 lipstick (in your

 barrettes and/or bobby

wedding day shade)  compact powder case

pins, comb and/or hairbrush

and mirror

 perfume

 breath mints

 hair spray

 pantyhose, if wearing,

 eyedrops

and clear nail polish

 moist wipes  thin washcloth  prescription medication, such as for allergy  chalk (to blend out any flaw on your gown)  straws for drinks during photography

 aspirin

 nail file

 snack food

 pen and small notepad

 bottled water

 contacts, phone numbers

 dental floss

 Q-tips  fashion tape  extra set of keys

How to Select a Tuxedo THE GROOM’S CHOICE OF FORMAL WEAR IS AS MUCH A ONCE-IN-A-LIFETIME EXPERIENCE AS THE BRIDE’S SEARCH FOR THE PERFECT WEDDING GOWN. AFTER ALL, A TUXEDO IS NOT YOUR BASIC EVERYDAY OUTFIT.

GROOMING THE GROOM When it’s time to “dress up” for the wedding, most grooms are at a loss. The process, however, does not have to be a difficult one. Grooms have a wider selection than ever and include a more relaxed cut that is more forgiving and complements almost everyone’s shape. Many tuxedo shops offer a free groom’s try-on, which allows you to see what looks good on the groom before you place your order.

SHOP LOCAL, AVOID PROBLEMS When selecting your formal wear specialist, it’s important that you choose one that stocks the tuxedos locally. With a local inventory, the specialist can quickly fix any problems without having to ship something in from out of town.

It’s common for the men in a wedding party to delay trying on their tuxedo until the very last minute. If a replacement coat or a pair of pants is needed and the replacement must be shipped in from out of town, it’s too late. By using a formalwear specialist with a locallystocked inventory, the specialist can provide a replacement garment within hours rather than days. Encourage all of the men in your wedding party to try on their tuxedo early and make sure everything fits great – that way you can relax and enjoy the festivities!

TAKE YOUR FASHION CUES FROM THE BRIDE The level of formality, color and styling of the men’s tuxedos should follow the stylistic lead set by the bridal gown. For ultra-formal evening weddings (after 6 p.m.), the classic choice is a white tie tuxedo, also known as a formal full-dress ensemble. The ensemble consists of a black tail coat and pants, also known as full-dress, a white pique wing collar shirt and white pique vest and tie. For ultraformal daytime weddings (before 6 p.m.), the groom should wear a cutaway morning coat.

Accessories include a wing collar shirt with an ascot and coordinating vest.

For formal weddings, a single-breasted tuxedo with matching formal trousers is appropriate.

These tuxedos are available in a variety of fabrics and colors. Accessories may include a formal pleated shirt with cuff links and studs, a bow tie or four-in-the-hand tie, and a vest or cummerbund. The traditional formal shirt is usually pleated and there are three basic shirt collar styles: band, laydown, or wing. A band collar is the most contemporary styling, while the wing collar is the most formal style of all.

DON’T SKIMP ON THE SHOES. Many wedding photos are marred by one of the men in the wedding party wearing old beat-up shoes. Formal shoes are a must. Black patent leather looks best. You can rent a pair with your tuxedo and ensure that the entire wedding party matches.

How to Hire a Florist THE FLORIST CREATIVELY ARRANGES YOUR BIG DAY TO BURST INTO BLOOM. .

CHECK SOURCES

ASK QUESTIONS

If you have been to a wedding with flowers you adore, ask the couple about their florist. They will be flattered. Get referrals from people whose wedding flowers have pleased them.

You should feel comfortable asking anything.

After all, you will rely on the florist’s competence for a major part of your look or theme. If the florist has been to your ceremony and reception sites, ask to see samples of what was done and how it worked in those spaces. Photos of real brides with their flowers let you see the florist’s “eye.”

Perhaps you can drop by or see a cooler with examples ready for a wedding to give a realistic view. Aisle runners, trellises, centerpieces and potted plants may be additional expenses, so be certain which extras might be provided by the florist without rentals from another source. If the wedding date is near a holiday, single out what decorations you may use.

DO A LITTLE RESEARCH You don’t need to know flower names by genus, but bridal and gardening magazines help you get a feel or create a look. Cut out images of arrangements you like. It helps you and your florist detect patterns.

BRING LISTS AND PHOTOS Come prepared to meet a florist. List all wedding participants who need flowers.

Photograph the ceremony and reception locations from different angles. Photos or color swatches of gowns and dresses give a sense of what colors and details will complement your wedding.

KNOW YOUR FLORAL BUDGET BEFORE MEETING A florist can make suggestions in your price range and brainstorm ideas. That florist who realistically helps get the most for your money wants your business. If there is a flower you love, share the information, but be open to suggestions of seasonal blooms that can provide a similar look for less money, if that is important. Hands-on care on any level costs more.

COMPARE PRICES AND IDEAS Reserve a florist three to six months before the ceremony, allowing longer time for a popular florist or an in-season wedding of June through September.

GET EVERYTHING IN WRITING The contract should include standard items with date, time and location of both the ceremony and reception; an itemized list of what the florist will supply, including color, type and cost; alternate blooms, if first choices are not available; arrival times for setup at both the ceremony and reception; total cost and payment terms, plus tax, delivery and other fees; cancellation and refund policy.

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Selecting the Right Caterer WHEN DECIDING THE TASTE OF YOUR WEDDING, THINK IT THROUGH. ONE OF THE LASTING IMPRESSIONS FOR GUESTS IS THE FOOD. DON’T LEAVE GUESTS WITH A BAD TASTE IN THEIR MOUTHS. THE BASICS As you begin to plan your wedding, it is critical that you find the very best caterer available in your area so that you are sure to host a memorable wedding that is successful and enjoyed by each and every one of your guests.

It is not enough for a caterer to simply create impressive, tasty dishes. He or she also needs to exhibit a sense of professionalism and commitment when it comes to their work.

LOOK EARLY An initial guideline is to avoid trying to hire a caterer at the 11th hour. It is recommended that you speak with multiple catering companies prior to making a selection so that you find the one best suited to your needs.

The interview process is critical if you are to succeed in choosing the right catering company for your wedding.

TEST DRIVE Certainly, a catering firm should never be engaged unless you have sampled their food.

It is common for caterers to bring selections from their menu to an initial interview.

Once you have selected a caterer you believe is a good fit, it is important to communicate about scheduling. It can be risky to hire caterers who have packed schedules.

If it seems that the caterer may have difficulty dedicating enough time to your wedding, you should probably hire someone else.

FROM START TO FINISH Finding a caterer that is willing to help you with the entire planning process of your meal from hors d’ouevres to dessert is something you will likely find extremely worthwhile.

DO YOUR RESEARCH Finally, it is always a wise to check into a company’s reputation before making any substantial financial commitments to them.

Ask the caterer’s representatives for client references that you can call in order to discuss the company’s work. In addition, online resources exist through which you can often find valuable caterer reviews from previous customers.

You should also be ready with information such as the number of visitors that you are expecting and the general type of fare that you wish to provide prior to formally hiring any company.

Once they have been hired, the caterer will expertly guide you through the wedding-planning process.

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Confection Connection WANT A TRADITIONAL SWEET OR A CUSTOM FIT TO SERVE AT THE PARTY? THIS HANDY GLOSSARY COVERS A SLICE OF BAKER’S LANGUAGE CAKES BY SPECIALTY Tiered Cake Layers of a single shape, now often square as well as the traditional round, in various sizes. Simple or elaborate.

Groom’s Cake This lighthearted confection, smaller in size, reflects the groom’s interests.

Often chosen by the bride, it may be themed with sports or his alma mater or be in a favorite, often decadent, flavor.

Cupcakes Individual cake portions, usually displayed like a tiered wedding cake on decorated trays, come ready to eat or wrap as favors. The top “layer” may be big enough to hold a topper and saved, often like a cake’s top tier, to celebrate the couple’s first anniversary.

ICINGS/FILLINGS Buttercream Popular off-white or ivory colored icing made from butter, confectioner’s sugar and milk. It is inexpensive and easy to cut, but may melt in warm temperature. Some bakers offer a signature variety.

Fondant Icing made of sugar, corn syrup and gelatin. Rolled to uniform thickness with a rolling pin and draped over the cake. Not as tasty as other icings, but forms an ideal base for decorations, designs and beading.

Ganache Made of chocolate and heavy cream, this concoction can be used as icing or filling.

Royal Icing Sugar and egg white mixture piped through a bag to create decoration. Once dry, it becomes hard and brittle.

Whipped Cream Freshly whipped cream is delicious, but it must be refrigerated. The bakery also should tell if a fruit, cream or flavored filling requires the cake be kept cool and how it accommodates safe delivery.

DECORATIONS Flowers May be real or artificial or formed with gum paste, marzipan or spun sugar.

Gum Paste A mixture of sugar, cornstarch and gelatin paste forms flowers, fruits and edible decorations. Like modeling clay, it lasts a long time for showy mementos.

Marzipan Almonds, sugar and egg white paste are mixed and rolled onto the cake as icing (like fondant) or used for sculpting edible decorations.

Piping Decoration created with a pastry bag and assorted metal tips. Techniques include basket weave (interwoven vertical and horizontal lines), cornelli (lace-like), dotted swiss(tiny dots in a random pattern), latticework(crisscross) and shells.

Questions to Ask Your Photographer CONFIDENCE BEFORE THE WEDDING LEADS TO A SMOOTH WORKING RELATIONSHIP ON THE DAY ITSELF.

Will you personally photograph our wedding? Will more than one photographer come? __________________________________________________________________________ Can we see works of the actual person who will photograph our wedding? __________________________________________________________________________ How long has the company you represent and have you personally photographed weddings?

How many have you photographed? Do you have references? __________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________ How many pictures will be included in our package? How many will you take?

How and when will they be delivered to us? __________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________ Do you have a list of certain poses that you take? Can we make up our own list?

Do you have preferred locations and, if necessary, contingency plans? __________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________ How much is the deposit? When is it due? When is final payment due? __________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________ What do all the costs include? How long will you stay? Do you charge for overtime or certain destinations? __________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________ When will the photographer arrive to set up? How many hours are included?

Will there be backup equipment available or at the site? __________________________________________________________________________

Choosing a Jeweler CHOOSING THE RIGHT JEWELER IS AN IMPORTANT DECISION WHEN IT’S TIME TO PURCHASE AN ENGAGEMENT RING, A WEDDING RING OR ANY KIND OF MEMENTO MARKING A SPECIAL OCCASION.

To get the best deal, you have to weigh several options that best meet your needs and fit your budget. Knowing a bit about how the jewelry business works is an invaluable tool.

The best jewelry professionals are skilled artisans who create beautiful and imaginative pieces with their own hands.

They can also repair, clean and adjust customers’ items with ease.

The jeweler with the best skills should be at the top of your list. Look for one who offers attentive customer service and reasonable pricing, too. Many people make the mistake of basing their purchasing decision based on price alone. It is an important consideration unless you’re independently wealthy. Most of us aren’t, so other factors will guide our decision.

Jewelers who provide guarantees should also rank near the top of your list. A good guarantee is one of the fundamentals of establishing a long-term relationship with customers.

The top professionals offer free repairs and unlimited service for the life of the jewelry.

When a valuable bracelet loses a link or a diamond needs resetting, being able to take

it to your jeweler for repair at no additional cost becomes very attractive.

Many jewelry purchases represent considerable financial and sentimental investments for spouses, parents, children and others. A good jeweler recognizes the emotional bonds symbolized by a special piece of jewelry and treats his customer accordingly. Long-term relationships are built from the ground up, starting with the first purchase and continuing through the following years.

If you have been doing business with the same shop for years, you can expect a high level of service and know the item is covered by a guarantee.

While price is important when making a jewelry purchase, you’ll get better value for your money if you find a jeweler you can trust tomorrow and 20 years in the future.

High-quality workmanship starts with the jewelry and ends with your satisfaction as a customer.

Dealing with a jeweler you know and trust can make a big difference when it is time to make a significant investment in a special ring, bracelet, necklace or watch.

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Questions to Ask Entertainment for Reception THE SOUND OF MUSIC DELIGHTS AND EXCITES. EARLY SCOUTING PRODUCES RELIABLE STAGING. HOW MUCH EXPERIENCE DO YOU HAVE? Look for entertainment experienced in both coordinating and performing at wedding receptions. Tune in to whether the company provides more or less than what you seek.

WHAT IS INCLUDED IN THE PACKAGE PRICE? Things to check: professional sound equipment, wireless microphone, early equipment setup, a reception-planning meeting and any extras that may be important to you, such as a light show or MC.

DO I GET TO CHOOSE THE DJ STYLE I WANT? Be certain that you are guaranteed to receive the DJ personality you want – quiet, outgoing or in-between. A quality entertainer steers the event, adhering to a schedule, without becoming the person in the spotlight.

CAN I SEE YOU PLAY LIVE OR GET A DEMO? Knowing what to expect, including what will be worn, eases fears and avoids disaster.

WILL YOU DO MORE THAN PLAY MUSIC? Many entertainers do much more than play dance music, from keeping children busy to helping coordinate a smoothly run reception with other vendors. Check coordination with the photographer for special moments, like cutting the cake or tossing the bouquet.

WHO SELECTS THE MUSIC? Some couples don’t mind the DJ or band selecting specific songs by category. Others want their favorites played in an order they desire. Make three lists: must-plays, hope-toplay songs and not-at-my-wedding tunes.

WHEN WILL YOU SET UP, TEST EQUIPMENT? Find out when entertainment arrives and be certain times and electrical issues are coordinated with the reception site.

WILL THE ENTERTAINMENT TAKE A BREAK? Find out when and how long entertainment is off-duty. Agree on a schedule for timing.

WHAT IF THERE IS AN EMERGENCY? Many carry extra equipment to every event.

Should the entertainer have an emergency, what is the backup? Is a manager is on duty during your wedding for assistance?

DOUBLE-CHECK THE WRITTEN CONTRACT! Make sure hours, overtime fees and cancellation fees are discussed ahead of time. Write every detail into the contract.

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