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With a new book offering baby boomers great advice for aging healthfully and gracefully, Martha Stewart proves that living well is the best revenge

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artha Stewart takes off her ﬂats and points to her left foot. “It’s killing me,” she says. “Someone stepped right on top of it last week. This part here.” She rubs the affected area and smiles ruefully. It is an oddly charming, vulnerable moment for a woman generally known for being strong and in control—qualities that have served her well in building her extraordinarily successful career. The basics of her story are the stuff of entrepreneurial legend: Raised in a lowermiddle-class Polish-American family in New Jersey, Stewart has been a model, a stockbroker, a caterer, an author, a publisher, a TV personality, and a lifestyle expert during her 71 years. When her company, Martha Stewart Living Omnimedia, went public in 1999, she became one of the very few self-made female American billionaires. Even her ﬁve-month imprisonment on convictions stemming from a stock sale did little to tarnish her brand; after her release in 2005, new product partnerships were signed, and Stewart devoted herself to rebuilding both her company and her reputation rather than walking away. As she writes in her new book, Living the Good Long Life: A Practical Guide to Caring for Yourself and Others: “When

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Stewart, photographed in March in the kitchen at her company headquarters.

It’s all about surviving in this extraordinary world—physically, mentally, emotionally. I wrote it because nobody is paying attention to the silver tsunami of baby boomers who are now turning 65. My book focuses on what you can do for others and what you can do for yourself in terms of aging gracefully. MARTHA STEWART:

What I like about it is that, like you, it’s detailoriented and full of common sense.

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How did you meet your husband?

His sister was in one of my college classes. She came to school every day in a Rolls-Royce with a chauffeur. [laughs] I’m not kidding. She came up to me and said, “Oh, hello, my brother is at Yale Law School and you are very pretty. Would you like to meet him?” I said, “Sure.” We fell in love on the ﬁrst date. Was he the ﬁrst man you loved?

Above, modeling in her early 20s. Right, ringing the opening bell at the New York Stock Exchange on the day her company went public, in 1999.

Thank you. I attended an early session of the Clinton Global Initiative. President Clinton asked everybody to make a pledge to help humanity. So I pledged a book about caregiving, and I did it. I’m very proud of that. He wrote a blurb for the back cover. You’re obviously aging gracefully, because you look amazing. You were a model as early as 13, weren’t you?

Monday Declutter kitchen shelves

Tuesday Maximize your medicine cabinet

Why did you quit your successful Wall Street career?

Commuting was just too much. I chose to come home and start a catering business. I was a very good cook, and I knew I could build a business. You’ve said that people don’t know how poor you were as a child. How poor were you?

I was the second of six kids. I wouldn’t say we were poor; we had no money. That’s different.

Just for money. But it was fun.

How is that different?

You must’ve known you were beautiful.

My parents were able to pay our expenses, but not for education. We were encouraged to work hard in school and get scholarships.

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What did your parents expect you to become?

As Stewart describes in her new book, Living the Good Long Life, once children are grown, it’s easy to ﬁnd yourself in a house ﬁlled with relics and memories. But the good news, she says, is that the older we become, the better we are at living a well-edited life. Go to parade.com/martha each day this week for exclusive tips from Stewart’s book on creating a home that works for you today—and for the years to come. Sunday Create a welcoming entryway

Yeah, he’s the ﬁrst man I slept with. [laughs] I ﬁnished my sophomore year, got married, and commuted from New Haven to Barnard College until I graduated. I had Alexis when I was 24. After she was born, I went to work on Wall Street.

Wednesday Keep the laundry room neat

Thursday Organize your ofﬁce desk

Friday Increase closet space

Saturday Make a small room seem bigger

My father was the smartest guy; he said, “You can do anything you set your mind to.” Your ﬁrst book, 1982’s Entertaining, was a best seller, and after that your career took off. How did that affect your life?

I kept saying, “I’m still going to clean out the chicken coops.” I could have had more help, but it was important to me to continue to do a lot. I have a pretty interesting personal life. Now it’s even more interesting because I ﬁnally have grandchildren, whom I adore.

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PARADE: Your new book, Living the Good Long Life, covers topics ranging from diet and ﬁtness to creating a safe, healthy home and caring for elders. How would you describe it?

No, I actually didn’t. I knew I was good enough to get $60 an hour, which was the going rate at the time. I wasn’t the cover girl. I wasn’t Suzy Parker. But I should’ve been. Maybe if I had had somebody encouraging me ... But then I got married when I was 19.

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you’re through changing, you’re through.” We meet at Stewart’s company headquarters in Manhattan, a vast industrial space where her magazines, Martha Stewart Living, Martha Stewart Weddings, and Everyday Food, are produced; there are also TV facilities and a kitchen similar to the one in her home in Bedford, N.Y., outﬁtted with items from her Home Depot line. Although at press time she was embroiled in a dispute between Macy’s and J.C. Penney over the rights to sell her wares (“We try something new,” she says, exasperated, “and we get slapped with a lawsuit”), she talks with surprising candor on a variety of subjects. As she settles in at her conference table, Stewart, who is single (her 26-year marriage to publishing executive Andrew Stewart ended in 1987), shares photos of her only child, Alexis, and grandchildren Jude, 2, and Truman, 1. “Last week I gave them a party,” she says. “Look how cute!”

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I don’t have that kind of fame. I am not a rock star or a movie star; I’m a businessperson. I deﬁnitely know who my friends are. I’m much more open and trusting than, say, my daughter is. I mean, people who didn’t visit me when I was in West Virginia [in federal prison] Alexis checked off the list. I didn’t. Why not?

Because there are reasons some people don’t feel comfortable doing stuff. In your book, you talk about dealing with loneliness.

Get a dog! [laughs] Plant a garden. Do you have a man in your life?

statements, and obstruction of justice.]

I don’t consider that a mistake. It was a normal thing that people do every day. They sell stock. What was a mistake was the way it was handled. I’m not supposed to say it, but I was not guilty of any crime. I became a target because I was a strong and a rich woman who had been very successful. That’s in the past. It would be very unfair to be deﬁned by that moment. In the past, you’ve compared your personal difﬁculties with those of Hillary Clinton: You went through trial and imprisonment; she endured the Monica Lewinsky scandal.

I admire Hillary greatly, her inner strength. She did a phenomenal job as secretary of state. The best thing of all was the way she treated her husband.

Well, I did, and now I don’t. [Stewart was linked Most wives would have with ex-Microsoft billeft him. lionaire Charles Simonyi Well, I wouldn’t have. until 2008.] Charles lived “I finally have grandchildren, whom I adore,” says Stewart Hillary was married to the on the West Coast, and I (with Jude and Truman). president. Walking out lived on the East Coast; it on him when he’s stupid would’ve shown was a perfect relationship. The only things weakness and self-centeredness. She saved I miss about Charles are his boat and his him, her self-respect, and her daughter. plane. I’ve been very busy. Where do you meet men? Do you use She didn’t cut the family asunder. As a Internet dating services? result, she gained his respect forever. Guess who wrote the book Love in the Your company has suffered some finanTime of Algorithms: What Technology Does cial distress lately. Do you have a plan to reverse things? to Meeting and Mating? Dan Slater, who just married my niece Sophie. So I know We’re about 50-50 [products and publishing]. Our [profit] margins are much all about online dating. I told Dan I’d pay higher in merchandising. We like designhim if he found me my next boyfriend. Have you ever met a man online? ing and making products. We’re good I have not. I sat down once with the at it. We want to have our own stores. application for Match.com and started That’s how the J.C. Penney thing came to laugh. I couldn’t even get past the first around; it was an opportunity to have 700 page. And that’s a very good site! stores within J.C. Penney. What I want What do you think when you look back at to do now is build freestanding stores. some of your mistakes?

Will you write your autobiography?

Mistakes?

Of course. I have my title and everything. I’ve led such an interesting and complicated life that it’s getting to be time to record it.

Like the stock sale that resulted in your imprisonment. [Stewart was convicted on four counts of conspiracy, making false

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You and your husband split in 1987; why did you never remarry? Does fame get in the way of ﬁnding a love you can trust?

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Nati and Grace, shortly after Nati joined the Knoblers, in Santa Monica, Calif.

Sibling Resemblance By Grace Knobler, 13 years old

When Nati ﬁrst arrived from Ethiopia, families would give us strange looks. It took me a while to ﬁgure out why they were looking at us. I would forget that our family was different from other families. I would forget sometimes that Nati’s skin was a different color, that his eyes were brown and not blue, and that his hair was black and not blond. One day, one of my friend’s parents came up to me and said, “Wow, Grace, you look so much like your brother!”

I replied, “Which one?” Nati ﬁt into our family perfectly.

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My daughter had been left in a playpen in an empty room at the orphanage so I could meet her in private, and she was crying. Seeing her for the ﬁrst time was all kinds of overwhelming, but I was fortiﬁed by the trust she showed when I picked her up and she put her head on my

shoulder. She stopped crying, and I saw the beginnings of this bright little girl who now ropes in almost everyone she meets. The next day, when a nurse came to take my daughter, she latched on to me. The caregiver gave a little gasp, and then called another nanny over to watch as she reenacted trying to take Ash. Ash would have none of it. The nannies laughed and chattered to each other. I asked an English-speaking nurse what they were saying. “They are happy for her,” she said. “They are saying, ‘Look, she knows already that’s her mother.’ ” She was sure Ash knew that I was her mom and my son was her brother. Ash and my son looked at each other with nothing less than agreement when he told her that before we were the “two family,” and now we were the “three family.” “You’re my sister, I’m your brother. We’re gonna take a big plane and it bumps when it goes down, but don’t worry. The plane will be safe and we’ll go home. It’s gonna be great.” They knew everything before I truly processed it; they knew who they were to each other, and nothing, nothing on earth, makes me happier than when they walk down the street holding hands, or defend each other, or unite against someone. Even when that someone is me, I’m still silently cheering.

Dylan, age 1, and his new sisters

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He is mine and not mine. That’s the most we can say of any of our children if we are honest with ourselves. Before Dylan came home with us, he belonged to his birth mother and father, a nurse, two foster mothers. He belongs to them still and, though he doesn’t know it now, he always will. And yet they’ve lost him, for now, at least. I saw it happen with the last foster mother. I watched her watch him become someone else’s son. I carry her loss with me as a reminder of the enormity of my gain. I carry Dylan’s losses most of all: the man he might have been but will not be; his birth mother, who had to say that ﬁrst goodbye. And I carry her losses: the son she does not know, the smile, always open-mouthed, close-eyed, that she does not see, and the deep-breathing sleep she cannot watch with awe. From Carried in Our Hearts: The Gift of Adoption; Inspiring Stories of Families Created Across Continents by Dr. Jane Aronson with the permission of Tarcher, an imprint of Penguin Group. Copyright Jane Aronson 2013.

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