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THE SCIENCE of SIBLINGS

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Love ’em or hate ’em, it turns out your sisters and brothers have a profound influence on the person you become

How might Maggie, Bart, and Lisa Simpson get along as adults?

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By FRANCINE RUSSO

SIBLINGS How your brothers and sisters shape your life— long after you’ve

stopped sharing a room

GROWING UP IN NORTH MIAMI BEACH, Tobi Cohen Kosanke, now 48, adored her brother Keith. Seven years older, he was a “laid-back surfer dude,” while she was a “chubby, nerdy” little girl. Tobi knew she could never live up to Keith’s cool persona, so while he was quitting school, experimenting with drugs, and focusing on riding the next wave, Tobi threw herself into school, with her brother’s encouragement. The hard work paid off: She went on to earn her Ph.D. and become a geologist. “I hung out with the geeky kids, the good kids, the smart kids, because of my brother,” she says. “I loved Keith, and I know he was proud of me, but I owe my success to taking the road that he didn’t take.”

Tobi’s story is not unusual. Of all the factors that shape your personality—your genes, your parents, your peers—siblings are at the top, according to one major theory of human development. If you think about it, the relationships with your sisters and brothers will likely last longer than any others in your lifetime. Research shows that even in adolescence, JUNE 23, 2013 | 9

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you spend 10 to 17 hours a week with them—and experts are finding that their impact continues long after you’ve left the nest.

Study after study has shown that the ways you interact with each other growing up can affect your relationships, your happiness, even the way you see yourself throughout the rest of your life.

“I’M FIRST!” “I’M THE BABY!” Some of the earliest studies of siblings focused on how birth order influences personality and fate.

You’re familiar with the basic types: Firstborns are said to be responsible and high-achieving, youngest siblings charmers and free spirits, and middle children lost in the mix.

It’s easy to dismiss these as mere stereotypes, and indeed there are researchers who do, but others have found statistical evidence that bears them out. A Norwegian study found that firstborns had slightly higher IQs than their sibs. Other research has shown they’re also more successful: According to Sandra Black, Ph.D., professor of economics at the University of

Texas at Austin, “Firstborns earn more than secondborns, who earn more than thirdborns.”

On the other hand, research has found that youngest siblings really do tend to be risk-takers. Frank Sulloway, Ph.D., of the Institute of Personality and Social Research at UC Berkeley, studied baseballplaying brothers—like Joe, Dom, and Vince DiMaggio—and found that the younger ones tried to steal base more often than their older brothers. Meanwhile, middle children grow up to be more peer-oriented, says Sulloway. First- and last-borns turn to parents in an emotional crisis; middle kids, to their friends.

Still, birth order is hardly destiny, says Sulloway. What’s more important, researchers say, is the quality and dynamics of your relationships with your siblings.

“I’M NOTHING LIKE HIM!” Within a family, children devise all sorts of strategies to increase their status and feeling of belonging, and one of the most important is what experts call “sibling

ONLY the LONELY?

PITY THE POOR ONLY CHILD—no one to play with. (Or maybe you envied onlies, with no bratty little brother trashing their stuff.)

Regardless, “there’s a big misconception in American popular culture that singletons are selfish, lonely, or maladjusted,” says Toni Falbo, Ph.D., a professor of educational psychology at the University of Texas at Austin and an only child herself. But in fact, only children have one major advantage, says Falbo: They don’t have siblings competing for their parents’ resources, including college funds. As a result, onlies tend to achieve high levels of education and occupational prestige.

As little kids, Falbo acknowledges, single children may be more comfortable with adults. “But peer sociability grows with experience,” she says, and by high school, onlies are on par with kids who have sisters and brothers. “Every day, my mother shoved me out the door and insisted I play with other children, which forced me to develop social skills,” says Falbo. “And it also helped me learn to appreciate my family, which was just the right size for me.” —F. R.

de-identification.” To reduce competition with brothers and sisters who may be cuter or smarter (not to mention bigger and stronger), we each carve out our own niche.

You can be the smartest kid in your class, but if you have a brother who’s smarter, it doesn’t matter.

Much like Tobi Kosanke, younger siblings typically start out adoring their older brothers or sisters, says Laurie Kramer, Ph.D., professor of applied family studies at the University of Illinois at Urbana. “They want to mimic their strengths and talents, but over time, they realize they can’t succeed at the same level. That leads them to develop their own attributes.”

“You can be the smartest kid in your class or the fastest on the track team,” says Susan McHale, Ph.D., professor of human development at Penn State University. “But if you have a brother or sister who’s smarter or more athletic, it doesn’t matter.” In other words, your selfimage is shaped at least in part by how you compare to your siblings.

And it’s not just that younger kids de-identify from more capable older siblings, says McHale. In early adolescence, when we’re trying to figure out who we are, it’s often older siblings who emphasize their differences. For example, a boy with a feminist younger sister

might adopt a more macho stance.

Even among tight-knit sibs, “you want to be close but also to be your own person,” says Victoria Hilkevitch Bedford, Ph.D., professor emerita of psychology at the University of Indianapolis.

And experts speculate that our tendency to compare ourselves to our siblings continues well into adulthood. For example, the sibling dynamic could affect what we try to achieve, says Kramer.

“Asked to give a speech or do a challenging job, a less accomplished younger sibling might decline, thinking, ‘If they knew my older brother, they wouldn’t think I was so great.’ ” “OH, HER? SHE’S JUST ONE OF THE GUYS.” When it comes to learning about the opposite sex, researchers say, there’s nothing better than having an older member at home. “If you are a girl with an older brother or a boy with an older sister, you should thank them for whatever romantic success you’ve had,” jokes William Ickes, Ph.D., professor of psychology at the University of Texas at Arlington.

In Ickes’s now classic 1983 study, he instructed unacquainted malefemale pairs to talk to each other.

Girls with older brothers and boys with older sisters broke the ice more easily and were more likely to rate each other favorably.

Because the genders don’t mix much in middle childhood, “kids who see opposite-sex siblings and their friends in everyday settings may come to know more about how the other sex behaves and connects,” says McHale.

Melissa Payne, a 29-year-old medical industry account manager in Orlando, says her relationship

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A few years ago, when both siblings were seeing people who did not treat them well, each reminded the other that not all women—or men—were such shabby partners. Within a year, they had broken off the relationships. “When you’re dating someone, you can make excuses, but it was different hearing a guy’s perspective from my brother,” says Melissa.

“HEY, THAT’S MINE!” Young siblings fight up to eight times an hour, research shows.

While all that squabbling may drive parents crazy, it’s also how some kids learn to negotiate conflict—training ground for dealing with neighbors, bosses, and spouses down the line.

When it comes to arguing and expressing our opinions, we can take risks with our siblings because they’re stuck with us, says Corinna Jenkins Tucker, Ph.D., associate professor of family studies at the University of New Hampshire. “Children can test which conflict resolution strategies work and which don’t,” she says. (Refuse to share? Just watch your brother’s reaction.) And what we learn during childhood can have farreaching effects.

Kids who learn coercive or hostile approaches to handling conflict are more likely in adolescence to join risky peer groups and engage in negative social behaviors (like smoking, drinking, or skipping school),

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Theory of Relativity I have my own thoughts about the tyranny of birth order. And as the oldest child, I’m sure I’m right.

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he photo above was taken in 1964 in our family’s living room in Ashtabula, Ohio.

It’s your basic birth-order drama, played out against a backdrop of fiberglass curtains designed to outlive the human race. There I am, in my plaid skirt and Friar Tuck bangs, already working full-time to keep safe and upright my parents’ most prized possession: their only son.

I once wrote that on the day of Chuckie’s arrival, my parents hired a marching band to stand on our front porch and play Aaron Copland’s “Fanfare for the Common Man” as Dad solemnly carried his newborn male into the house. My mother was furious.

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“LOOK MA, TWO HANDS!”

Toni, Leslie, me, and baby Chuckie.

thing?” she said. “We would never have spent that kind of money.”

You see my burden.

My brother’s arrival skewed the whole birth-order thing. In our family, there was Chuckie and three practice rounds named Connie, Leslie, and Toni.

This is not to say my parents didn’t love their girls. Each of us was raised to take her rightful turn as Homecoming Queen, just like Mom. Only two of us succeeded, but that’s a story I’m saving for my bitter memoir. Mom used to love to point out that with her daughters, she had one of each: a brunette, a dishwater blonde,

and a strawberry redhead. Please note that I’m the only one with no adjective. (That memoir will write itself, I swear.)

Being the oldest kid, I had a childhood full of maternal directives that began with the phrase “Yes, but.”

“Yes, but Leslie’s very sensitive [hellooo, middle child!], and you have to include her. Now go wipe her nose.”

“Yes, but [youngest-gets-awaywith-everything] Toni was only trying to help when she wrote her name all over your go-go boots.

Nancy Sinatra will be so jealous.”

“Yes, but you had the first 18 months of life all to yourself.

Now take your sisters to the store … to the beach … somewhere far away from Mommy.

Call if someone’s bleeding.”

But there are also many perks to being the oldest. For one thing, I grew up wearing fewer hand-medowns. I also got to stay up late to watch the Beatles on Ed Sullivan.

(I may be dating myself here.) Best of all, I’ve got the most memories, chronologically speaking. My siblings will never be rid of me, because I remember them when.

When 3-year-old Toni stood at the door as I walked away to school every morning, screaming, “Connie! Connie! Connie!”

When 12-year-old Chuckie sent a note to me at college offering to beat up a boy, any boy, who dared to annoy me.

When 7-year-old Leslie sneaked out of bed to kiss my feverish forehead and whisper, “Please don’t die.”

Shivering with the flu, I whispered back, “Okay.” Pause. “Don’t touch my Barbies.”

PHOTO: COURTESY OF CONNIE SCHULTZ

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As grown-up sibs see their time with Mom or Dad running out, it stirs up deep childhood desires for love and approval.

Research shows that in 90 percent of families, one person does most of the caregiving, and Bedford notes that if siblings grew up with a sense of unfairness, those feelings can reignite over how sisters and brothers perceive elder care. On the other hand, this passage also brings enormous opportunities to strengthen and renew sibling relationships. Putting your heads together during stressful times can help you and your siblings get to know each other as adults. Hey, my brother’s not that incompetent little kid!

Where did my sister acquire so much patience?

And even if things are tense (or worse), it’s not impossible to repair the relationship. As young adults, Wendy Beckman and her older sister, Bonnie Nielson, were little more than cordial.

Wendy, now 55 and a writer in Cincinnati, still thought of her older sister as annoyingly overprotective. But in her 30s, she made efforts to connect with Bonnie, whose marriage was unraveling.

“Bit by bit,” Wendy recalls, “we started talking honestly about things in our adult lives, not just ‘You took my socks when I was 12.’ She actually started asking me for advice!”

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