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Q: How does Julianne Moore see the mom in Carrie?—Bob V., Miami A: “She’s mentally ill,” says Moore, 52, “but she believes she’s doing the best thing for her daughter.” The actress felt protective of costar Chloë Grace Moretz, just 15 at the time (Sissy Spacek, star of the original, was 25). “It was important that Chloë felt comfortable with me,” Moore says.

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The actor, 82, has a prog-rock album, Ponder the Mystery, for which he penned poetic lyrics.

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A new album at 82? As Spock says, “Live long and prosper”! I find age such a foreign concept. I have to be reminded. I still have the extraordinary feeling of adventure, striking out into unknown fields.

You’ve got great musical collaborators here. Tops in the field. Billy Sherwood and Rick Wakeman [from Yes] and Al Di Meola, maybe the greatest living jazz guitarist, on my record? That put me away.

Was your style of speak-singing influenced by Rex Harrison? I saw My Fair Lady onstage with Rex Harrison, and you’re right, he did what I’m doing exactly. I hadn’t thought of that until this moment.

You’re an experienced horseman. Any tips? The art is getting into the horse’s head. Vibrating at the same frequency. It’s like a loved one. You’re breathing their breath, feeling their body. That’s what you do in horsemanship, as with any skill.

Is it true you fear space travel? My fear is dying badly, through illness or injury. But what a glorious demise it would be to burn up in space.

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But it’s not the same thing. This is ballroom and Latin and more. I didn’t do anything on Glee that was remotely close to what I’m doing now. It hasn’t given me a leg up at all.” So was that week-two cartwheel an impromptu move? ”No. I could never ‘impromptu’ a cartwheel!” Read Riley’s blog about the show exclusively at parade.com/dwts.

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Duke Terry Teachout, author of an acclaimed Louis Armstrong bio, explores the life of Duke Ellington, the visionary artist, charismatic ladies’ man, and African-American trailblazer who became the 20th century’s most influential jazz composer.

The Maid’s Version A 1929 dance-hall explosion kills 42 people and reverberates through West Table, Mo., for generations. Daniel Woodrell’s spare, powerful novel builds with increasing urgency to a haunting conclusion.

We Are Water The latest from Wally Lamb (She’s Come Undone) is a contemporary family saga, vividly told from multiple points of view, that traces the impact of secrets and tragedy, the pain of prejudice and abuse, and the healing powers of hope and love.

TOMBSTONE TOURISM What’s spookier than a graveyard around Halloween?

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12 Years a Slave This stupendous drama, both wrenching and moving, is based on the true story of Solomon Northup, a free black man from New York State who was kidnapped in 1841 and sold into slavery in New Orleans.

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From knitted scarves to ceramic birdhouses to felted baby booties, Americans are getting more and more hands on. Here’s what’s behind the rise in crafting—plus some inspiration to get your own creative wheels spinning.

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bout six years ago, after Mike Haeg contracted Lyme disease, his therapist suggested meditation to help his memory problems. But Haeg, 44, found it hard to sit still and clear his mind. Fine, said his therapist—take up a meditative hobby instead. So he learned to knit. First scarves, then hats, and more recently, socks, from an updated 1890s pattern he found for “shooting socks” of the type gentlemen once wore with knickerbockers. They are textured wool, rise to mid-calf, and are so handsome they won Haeg, from Mount Holly, Minn., a ribbon at the Minnesota State Fair this summer. His hats are eye-catching, too. “People will say, ‘Dude, where’d you get that hat?’ And I answer, ‘I made it,’ ” says Haeg, an interactive creative director at a design and advertising agency in Minneapolis. “Knitting changed my life.”

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“I work a demanding job with a management company, so making jewelry became a way for me to relieve stress. I started doing it on Sunday afternoons to have a creative outlet. It gives me balance.”

—Vanessa Dreyer, 39, who created the bead necklace (#1) on page 6

“I got the idea for my lamp from a kitchen vegetable steamer.

Inventing new designs is magical for me—there’s something meditative in making things by hand.”

—Avner Ben-Natan, 39, who created the lamp (#7) on page 7

pie” culture embraced crafts like macramé, pottery making, and weaving. Interest waned with the rise of big-box stores, but it has surged again in recent years as people have sought to slow down the pace of modern life.

“Craft making is on a pendulum,” says Garth Johnson, associate professor of art at California’s College of the Redwoods. “Recently there’s been an impulse to push back against everything being slick and computer-designed, to connect with other people, and to learn skills passed down from other generations.”

Case in point: At a skills fair in Seattle this year, participants learned to make soap, nut milks, and solar cookers. “People are recognizing the joy, satisfaction, and security of being able to provide for our own needs,” proclaimed a flyer for the event. “Let’s relearn the skills our grandparents knew!”

It’s unlikely anyone’s grandparents fiddled with homemade nut milks or solar cookers, but that’s hardly the point. Decades after most public schools phased out home ec and shop classes, a younger generation is discovering

the pleasure of creating stuff.

Take this writer’s daughter, whose eclectic outfit choices elicited comments (admiring ones!) as far back as preschool. Now 8, Shira apprentices weekly with a master seamstress, who also teaches 13-year-old twins who started out in her doll clothes class six years ago, as well as adults, many of them beginners. Shira has made stuffed animals, totes, dresses, and skirts— including one for me and another she proudly presented in June as a birthday present to her little sister.

What’s more, I’m learning the basics with her. “Sewing isn’t being taught in many schools anymore,” says Gloria Young, Shira’s teacher.

“People are interested in learning how to sew again. It gives them a sense of accomplishment.”

That’s particularly important because so much of what we do in our daily lives doesn’t result in a concrete, finished product. “We spend so much time today typing on a keyboard, manipulating a mouse, and living virtually that we long to use our hands to create something tangible,” says Monica Moses, editor in chief of American Craft magazine. For many, anything less doesn’t really feel productive.

David Taylor, 49, a Nashville restaurant owner who bought his own kiln two years ago, was inspired to take up ceramics as a hobby after inheriting a piece of pottery that had belonged to his great-grandfather. Taylor’s ruggedlooking pots “connect me to my past and to the earth,” he says.

“Ceramics is like playing in the mud. I can completely forget the rest of the world.”

And crafting isn’t just good for the soul; it’s also good for the body and mind, according to researchers at the University of Florida’s Cen-

ter for Arts in Medicine. Through nurse observations, they found that patients who participated in hospital arts and crafts programs— drawing, painting, woodworking—required significantly less pain medication, were visibly more relaxed, and reported less discomfort. “When you’re vulnerable and dealing with mortality, anxiety is high,” says Jill Sonke, the center’s director. “Anything that distracts you is balancing.”

Crafting itself is an act of affirmation in a post-9/11 world, says Nicholas Bell, curator of American craft and decorative art at the Smithsonian American Art Museum’s Renwick Gallery. “In tough times,” says Bell, “crafts are a way to get away from the modern world and feel part of a better era.”

S ome craf ters, like Amy Michalek of Rockford, Ill., find they have such a knack for making things that they’re turning their pastime into a living. The burgeoning popularity of Etsy, the online craft marketplace, tells the tale of the trend toward smallbatch artisan goods: When the Brooklyn-based site launched in

“I designed and made a lion coat for my son when he was a baby, to encourage him to keep his hood up in the cold. People commented on it, and a friend suggested I start selling them on Etsy. I listed it and sold a coat the next day.”

—Molly Goodall, 39, who sewed the lion coat (#4) on page 6

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more than half of U.S. households take part in at least one crafting activity, whether it’s canning, sewing baby booties from scraps of felt, hewing cutting boards from slabs of maple, or fashioning coffee mugs from clay. Americans spend more than $29 billion a year on craf ting—a figure that has remained pretty stable in spite of the wobbly economy.

“People are creating personalized things rather than going out and spending money on the same items,” says Keri Cunningham, the association’s director of marketing.

“When life is crazy, it’s good to take time to do something that relaxes them.”

Crafts became a pastime rather than a necessity in the U.S. after the industrial revolution, when most people no longer needed to make everything they used in their daily lives. The movement, called studio craft, crystallized after the manufacturing boom that powered World War II. GIs returning from the front lines began tinkering in their free time, and colleges started offering courses in ceramics, glass, and metal art. Then, in the 1960s, “hip-

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2005, it attracted 23,000 sellers; this year, it hit 1 million, and Etsy’s sellers will rake in more than $1 billion.

Mic halek, 29, star ted Seams2u, an Etsy shop that sells accessories for baby boys, after her sister asked her to make neckties for her twin 6-month-olds. Michalek, who had been job hunting, became so successful that she abandoned her search for a teaching position to run the business full time. Eventually she taught her husband, Tim, how to sew, and he left his job to join her.

“A lot of people are looking to do work that is more meaningful,” says Matt Stinchcomb, Etsy’s vice president for values and impact. “If your job is sitting at a computer all day, you want to produce something. We have people longing to produce things that are more an expression of their humanity.”

That’s precisely the attraction for Mike Haeg, the knitter of old-timey socks. “At work, our phones are ringing, we are thinking about Facebook, our brains are running,” says Haeg, who knits every evening before he goes to bed. He likes seeing his progress every night—not to mention his state-fair ribbon.

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They’re two out of five. Why would that change later, after another marble falls out of the bag, and it’s black? —John Augustine, Laureldale, Pa.

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American Stories

Armed with patience (and a lot of beef jerky), a hopeless romantic wins his girlfriend by winning over her dog By Jon Katz

Family Portrait The author with Maria (now his wife) and the intensely loyal Frieda on their 17-acre farm last June.

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o there I was, just past 60, alone on a remote farm in upstate New York, looking for a second chance at happiness. All that stood in my way was a dog: a rottweilershepherd mix who was fiercely protective of the woman I loved.

A few years earlier, I had offered the use of one of my barns to a quiet, sensitive artist named Maria. She had left her art behind some years before and wanted to start creating it again.

I let her use the barn as her stu-

dio in exchange for helping with my animals (a herd of sheep, four donkeys, four chickens, three dogs, and two cats). At the time, we were both married, and neither of us ever imagined getting divorced. But then suddenly both of our marriages ended, and we began to develop a friendship.

Seeing more of Maria meant seeing more of her dog, Frieda.

But whenever I approached the barn, Frieda would fling herself against the door in a frenzy, barking ferociously.

Frieda had quite a back story.

She’d been dumped, pregnant, on the side of the New York State Thruway in the lower Adirondacks by a man who had been using her as a guard dog. Frieda spent several years living in the wild before making her way to a college campus, where she was captured and brought to a shelter. She languished there for many months until Maria walked through the door and took her home.

They were the perfect pair, the human-canine version of Thelma and Louise, united in their devotion to each other and in their great distrust of men.

After her divorce, Maria came to life making art in her barn studio, and more and more she came over to the farmhouse to visit with me.

As our relationship evolved that fall, she started spending nights there, too. But Frieda was so threatening to me and my own dogs that we had to leave her in the barn—in a big crate lined with blankets, bones, and toys, and warmed by a wood stove. I was falling in love with Maria, and I hoped she would agree to marry me one day, but I knew I had to work things out with Frieda first.

Without any better ideas, I launched my Beef Jerky Campaign. I bought $500 worth of the stuff, and every morning I’d open the barn door, toss a piece of jerky in, and run. Gradually, I moved things along, entering the barn while Frieda growled.

After many months of steady work, Frieda got to the point where she would let me put a leash on her and walk her several times a day. I plied her with beef jerky and did obedience training every chance I got. My goal was to get her into the house by Christmas, as a surprise for Maria, evidence of my commitment and good faith.

The odds, though, were not good. We had made great progress, but I still couldn’t imagine how I could get her into the house without risking the lives of my Lab and border collies.

One night, I had a dream.

Frieda and I were walking in the Adirondacks, and she ran ahead.

When I got to the end of the trail, Frieda was waiting for me.

“What do I have to do to get through to you?” I pleaded. And a voice said, “Trust me.” This was the one thing I had not done.

On Christmas Eve, I decided it was time: I walked Frieda across the road from her barn to the farmhouse. I opened the door and held my breath. My dogs all stared as Frieda walked over to the wood stove and lay down beside it.

When Maria came home, she burst into tears. A year later, Maria and I were married. That was three years ago. Frieda is now in charge of guarding my office while I write.

As you can imagine, nobody bothers me.

Jon Katz is the author of The Second-Chance Dog: A Love Story, to be published this November. You can visit him, Maria, and Frieda at bedlamfarm.com.

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The Zapruder Legacy The granddaughter of the man who caught Kennedy’s assassination on film grapples with how he must have felt, irrevocably bound to a moment fraught with horror and loss

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EYEWITNESS Zapruder (right) during

a televised interview about the assassination that appeared on ABC.

queline and the President were waving, and as [the car] came in line with my camera, I heard a shot. I saw the President lean over to Jacqueline—I didn’t realize what had happened, actually—then the second shot came. I saw his head open up, and I started yelling, ‘They killed him, they killed him!’ and I continued shooting until they went under the underpass.”

Amid the chaos that followed, my grandfather remained on the plaza, in a daze. There, Harry McCormick of The Dallas Morning News noticed him holding the camera and approached him with questions. When my grandfather said he would not talk to anyone but the federal authorities, McCormick promised to find the Dallas chief of the Secret Service and bring him to Jennifer Juniors.

The rest of the day must have been a blur of police, Secret Service, reporters, and efforts to get the film developed. By day’s end, he had given a copy to the Secret

Service and another was bound for the FBI in Washington, D.C. He returned home with the original and one copy.

Without a word, he got his projector, set it up in the den, and showed the film to his shocked wife and son-in-law. His daughter, Myrna, was too distraught to watch.

Before my grandfather could fall into bed that night, he answered a call from Richard Stolley of Life magazine. The next morning, they would negotiate the sale of the film’s print rights to Life and, within a week, images from the film would be in the magazine’s pages in living rooms around the country. But that night, it was still my grandfather’s home movie. Perhaps sharing it with his family was the only way to convey the awful reality of what he had witnessed.

Through the weekend, reporters hounded him to sell the film’s motion picture rights. He was deeply ambivalent about the decision, his fears taking the shape of a nightmare in which he was walking in Times Square and saw a man hawking tickets to see the president’s murder on the big screen.

Trusting that Life would treat the film with restraint, he agreed to sell the magazine the motion picture rights as well. “Abe was concerned that the Kennedy family might be harmed or offended, or

PHOTOS, FROM TOP: ZAPRUDER FILM © 1967 (RENEWED 1995) THE SIXTH FLOOR MUSEUM AT DEALEY PLAZA; WFAA-TV COLLECTION/THE SIXTH FLOOR MUSEUM AT DEALEY PLAZA.

never knew my grandfather Abraham Zapruder. He died when I was 10 months old, and throughout my childhood, I felt his absence keenly.

My sense of him was almost mythical, formed by funny stories, his catchphrases, a few photos, and my father’s sadness when his name came up. I was dimly aware that he was important outside our family, too. I knew he had done something big, but in our family it was rarely discussed.

Now, as an adult, I have found myself drawn to his story and how he so violently intersected with one of the most important events of the 20th century.

On Nov. 22, 1963, he went to work as he always did at Jennifer Juniors, his dress manufacturing company in downtown Dallas, which was adjacent to the route that President Kennedy’s motorcade would take through the city later that day. He was excited at the prospect of seeing the president. My grandfather had emigrated from Russia at age 15, and like most immigrant Jews who had narrowly escaped poverty and repression, he embraced socially progressive ideas and liberal values.

He had been for Kennedy from the beginning.

When it was time, nearly everyone in his office went to watch the motorcade. An avid home-movie maker, my grandfather brought along his camera. Positioning himself on a small wall to get a good view, he set the camera to zoom.

In a 1966 interview, my grandfather recalled, “I was shooting as they were coming along, and Jac-

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that certain portions of the pictures would be terribly distasteful,” his attorney Sam Passman said. “He was really crazy about the Kennedys.”

In an effort to protect them, he included a clause in the contract stipulating that the film be treated in a manner “consonant with good taste and dignity.”

My grandfather lived only seven years after the assassination. In many ways, his life returned to normal. But he would never fully escape the consequences of having been behind the camera that day. My aunt says that for many months, he talked obsessively about the film. Others say he was imprinted with a kind of sadness.

He wept openly when he testified for the Warren Commission and in the trial of Clay Shaw (who was accused of conspiracy in the assassination). He certainly continued to have nightmares. “The thing comes back every night,” he once said.

The most lasting consequence for my grandfather was one he never lived to see. Fifty years later, his home movie is still known to the world as the Zapruder film, forever linking him and our family name with the collective memory of one of America’s darkest days.

Alexandra Zapruder is writing a history of the film to be published by Twelve Books.

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