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negatively they behaved with each other. The more intense the stress, the worse their interactions. It was much more predictive than having had a miserable childhood or divorced parents, or even how happy they were together generally. But couples can learn to deal better with external pressures. One way is by consciously aligning together as a team, says Thomas Bradbury, Ph.D., a clinical psychology professor at UCLA. “Remember that you’re in this together,” he advises couples. “It’s not you against each other. It’s both of you against the world.”

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Frank and Megan are doing many things right. In the early days of marriage research, scientists were most interested in which behaviors would break up unions—but the latest studies focus on the positive habits of happily married couples. Here are five keys to avoiding the potholes on the road to marital bliss.

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Before Andrew Goodman became one of the heroes of the civil rights movement, he was a kindhearted teenager who just wanted to help others

Appalachia. At 19, he worked at a camp for underprivileged children. Then, in the spring of 1964, at age 20, he stood in the doorway of my bedroom with an earnest look in his eyes and said, “Mom I’d like to go to Mississippi.” The Mississippi Summer Project was an effort by the Council of Federated Organizations to flood the state with hundreds of northern college students. The volunteers would form “freedom schools” to teach African-Americans about their constitutional rights and engage in a massive voter registration drive. The New York Times called it “one of the most ambitious civil rights projects yet,” but many people involved with the project, we later learned, secretly believed that the violence these so-called Yankee do-gooders

would incite would direct the nation’s attention to the intolerable conditions in the state. It was a recipe for martyrdom. In the previous seven decades, nearly 600 known lynchings had taken place in the state. The violence against blacks had been staggering in the 10 years since the U.S. Supreme Court’s Brown v. Board of Education decision. But the reasons why part of me wanted A ndy to stay were the same reasons he w anted to go. Only 5 percent of Mississippi’s half-million African-Americans were registered to vote in 1960. He wanted to be a beacon of light in the heart of darkness. How could I deny him?

My life flashed before my eyes, too—growing up during the women’s suffrage movement, organizing on behalf of dairy farmers, protecting friends from the McCarthy witch hunt. I had fought for what I believed in. I found a husband who had done the same. But Bobby wasn’t home that spring morning in 1964 when Andy said, “Mom, I’d like to go to Mississippi.” As thoughts raced through my mind, I could only stammer, “Let’s wait for your dad to come home.” Here was my son, whom I wanted to protect, yet it wouldn’t have felt right to say, “Let the other guys go, but don’t you go.” Bobby later gave Andy the a nswer I knew he would. As Andy was preparing to leave, I threw some bandages, gauze, and iodine into his d uffel. I thought he might get pushed around. Never in my wildest dreams did I think I’d never see him again. There are 40 names inscribed on the Civil Rights Memorial in Montgomery, Ala. Of the 40 victims, 19 were killed in Mississippi. One of them is my son. I allowed him to go there, and I was both guilt-ridden and proud. I permitted him to go to Mississippi because that is who he was. And it is who I was, too.

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On my mantelpiece sits a photograph of a young man with thick, wavy black hair and eyes dark with the depth of understanding. It is Andy, my middle son. His face had a soft quality to it, but there was an intensity of purpose behind it. Like his father, Andy was the kind of person who didn’t harbor malice. If he was angry, you knew it. If he was sad, he showed it. However, being the middle son, Andy always seemed to play the role of the mediator. There was something soothing about his demeanor, something mature about his judgment. He was an activist all of his life. At age 15, he traveled to Washington, D.C., for a Youth March for Integrated Schools. At 17, he journeyed to West Virginia by bus to examine the poverty of

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ifty years ago, college student Andrew Goodman traveled from New York City to Mississippi to join the Freedom Summer campaign to register African-Americans to vote. On June 21, 1964, he and fellow activists Mickey Schwerner and James Chaney were murdered by the Ku Klux Klan. In an excerpt from her new posthumously published memoir, his mother, Carolyn Goodman, who died in 2007, recalls the days leading up to his fateful trip.

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