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Unleash the fire,
and take your place among powerful women. The burning flames of fire bring with them a tremendous sense of strength and power. In ancient Greece and Rome, the gods Hephaestus and Vulcan captured the essence of the flame. But in Egypt, no man could truly wield the power of fire; that right was reserved for a woman.
Embodying the image of a mighty lioness, one of the land’s fiercest hunters and majestic creatures, Sehkmet encapsulated the es-sence of the flame. Born to Ra, god of the sun, her breath was said to have created the vast desert, the land she protected along with its pharaoh. Her name itself carries authority. Derived from the ancient Egyptian word “sekhem,” meaning “power,” the goddess’ name suits her role, as it translates to “the one who is powerful.” Her people bestowed on her several titles, among them “the One Before Whom Evil Trembles.” Alongside the other women of Egypt’s sacred sorority, including the powerful ruler Isis, Sekhmet brought a sense of fire and authority to the land. Today’s modern woman has a lot to learn from these ancient women, who stood atop their societies and ruled over the people. There’s a goddess in you; are you ready to unleash the fire?
Why egypt at all? One reason we chose the name ISIS is because of the Southern Illinois connection to all things Egyptian. Hundreds of years ago, when northern Illinois suffered poor grain harvests, they traveled here to buy what they needed, just like the ancients traveled to Egypt for sustenance.
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ISISTABLEOFCONTENTS THIS EDITION:
Letter To The Reader Behind The Scenes
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FASHION
Rock The Trend: High-Waists Pile It On: Bangles Street Style Putting Out Fashion Fires
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WELLNESS
Not Your Momma’s Hula Hoop Work Your Abs – At Work Wanna Be Rich? Ignite Your Mind, And Your Body Will Follow Light His Fire And Light The Grill!
LIVING
Be a Craftinista Going To Great Lengths Change On The Cheap Cannas In Season: Peaches Quench Your Thirst
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CAREER
Feelin’ The Heat
RELATIONSHIPS
Old Flames Don’t Mess With Exes
BEAUTY
Keeping It On Clean Sweep Put Your Best Brow Forward Sexy or Scorched? Hot Lips Eat Your Way To A Beautiful Smile
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Julie and Lauren doll up Jillian before the photoshoot.
Who: What: When: Where:
Our versatile cover model, Jillian, in three different looks.
We sent out a call for gorgeous redheads, and we found plenty of them in Southern Illinois. But there was something about Jillian Fulbright of Harrisburg. She’s a natural redhead with eyes that change from blue to green. We applaud her for her confidence and courage. She was cheerful and calm in the midst of creative chaos, all the while finding some of her own inner fire and making Isis proud.
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Lacey and Leah discussing accessories for the next look.
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Jillian Fulbright Isis summer 2013 cover shoot June 10, 2013 Leigh Bedokis Photography, Carterville
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Doing this cover shoot provided one of those work moments we long for: creative, collaborative and so much fun. Lacey Thompson was the shoot stylist, providing apparel and accessories from Eccentrics in Carterville; she even brought some of her own fabulous jewelry, just in case. Helping Lacey out in a big way was Leah Weil, Isis graphic designer. Cara Recine put her theater background to work and directed the shoot. Julie Rushing — stylist, makeup artist and owner of Clique Hair Design in Marion — and Lauren Bumann, a Clique stylist, transformed Jillian for three very different looks (see left). We were depending on photographer Leigh Bedokis to deliver so many possible cover shots that our jobs would be made more difficult, and she did, in the best way. Her assistant, Jamie Schonaman, was the picture of efficiency, always in the right place at the right time, doing the right thing. Isis would be proud of how these creative women worked together.
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Rock the Trend
High-Waists You’ve seen them on Mad Men, American Apparel ads and celebs like Beyoncé, but you might be wondering if the high-waist trend is a “do” for you. Trust us, it totally can be! What makes this look so classic is that it flatters all shapes and sizes. It just takes a couple of easy steps to get into a pair of high-waisted shorts. They’re so easy to coordinate, you might never want to get out of them!
Rule #1
test the waters
Eccentrics in Carterville, $48
No matter what you are wearing, you have to own it if you want to make a statement. That doesn’t mean spending $100 or more on a pair of shorts, unless you love this trend that much! But, it does mean trying a pair on. Remember, every brand is different, so if the first pair doesn’t look so great, try at least one more. Take a friend along to give you an honest opinion and help find the right pair. You are ready to make the purchase when you absolutely love how they look on you.
La Ropas (also available in black), Perfectly Posh in Marion, $24
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Kirra at PacSun, $24.50
Rule #2
crop/tuck High-waists were not meant to be worn with your everyday t-shirt. To make the shorts work for you, don them with a crop top if you are proud of your abs. Even if your midriff needs some work, the high-waist will cover most of it. Or, tuck in a breezy shirt. For beach days, high-waisted shorts make a super cute cover-up over bikinis and bathing suits. Above: Lujah (also available in white) at Perfectly Posh, $25 Below: Special A at Perfectly Posh, $25
Vintage inspiration The ultimate hourglass:
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Rule #3 BALANCE
Top: Xhiliration Target, $20 Shorts: Rock and Republic, Kohl’s, $40
High-waisted shorts look best when your legs are exposed. The skin you bare will balance out the hourglass proportions on top. To keep your outfit from looking clunky, wear a minimal amount of jewelry and accessories. Shoes: Maurice’s, $39
However you decide to show off your gams, make sure it’s all
you.
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Pile it on
Bangles A
lmost every culture has worn multiple bracelets. In India, the amount or kind of bracelet you wear denotes your status; in Africa and Egypt, bracelets are worn as a protective measure, something Isis herself would know a little about. But there’s still a trick to taking the look to a higher fashion level. “Get rid of friendship bracelets altogether,” says Lucky magazine accessories director Julia Kalachnikoff. “No strings, no rubber. It ends up looking junky.”
Brighton Imperial Hinged Bangle, Tickled Pink $92
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Meredith Ashe, owner of M boutique in Marion, stocks one-of-a-kind bangles and bracelets that are perfect for executing this trend. “All my purses, jewelry, scarves and hats, I sell one once,” Meredith said. “This guarantees people originality without looking like everyone else.” Her products change weekly because of purchasing small amounts. “So, there is always something new to see.” Kelly Thornburg said the buzz around her shop, Tickled Pink in Murdale Shopping Center in Carbondale, is turning to hinged bracelets rather than those just slipped onto your arm. “They aren’t technically bangles,” Kelly said, “but they’re a convenient alternative and usually pass for traditional bangles.” Top to bottom: M Boutique, $14; Eccentrics, $15
Want to sizzle? No matter which kind you choose, here are some tips for keeping the look sizzling. They come from fashion blog, TayBer’s Tales of the Misguided Shopper: When you wear too many bracelets, it can result in the “I’m kind of high maintenance” look. Limit it to five on a wrist and absolutely no more than two bangles at a time. Wear them in odd numbers. (And, yes, watches and wrap bracelets count as one.)
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Your total bracelet count on both hands should add up to an odd number. It just looks better. If you’re stacking bracelets make sure they’re all a little different, but that they’re coordinated. Rose gold is not gold, and purple and green will still make you look like Barney. If you’re going to any place of mild importance, make sure you’re bracelets aren’t clinking, because it’s distracting and annoying to others.
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Street Style Isis put out the call for local fashionistas. Here are a few we spotted and snagged their style files.
got style? email us a photo of you or your friends to lacey.thompson@thesouthern.com to be considered and be pinned, posted and you could be published in Isis!
Kayla Johnson Carbondale Hat: Forever 21 Shirt: H&M Pants: Rue 21 Shoes: Guess (from Macy’s) Necklace: Forever 21 Bracelet: Handmade Gift Watch: Kohl’s
Lissa Lim Makanda Shirt: H&M Necklace: Charlotte Russe Pencil skirt: Charlotte Russe Watch: Target Bag: Target Shoes: Jessica Simpson for Kohl’s
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Necklace: Thrifted Purse: Delancy Street, NYC Shirt: & Earrings: Forever 21 Scarf: H&M Ring: Love Culture Shoes: Nordstrom
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Putting Out
Fashion Fires Every fashionista’s address book should contain the name of a great tailor and a reliable cobbler. After all, some alterations and repairs are best left to the pros. But there are loads of inexpensive, easy-to-use and invaluable tools that can be kept on hand for minor wardrobe emergencies, touch-ups and maintenance.
AT-HOME HELPERS Sweater shavers Even high-quality sweaters will start to pill eventually. A $10 sweater shaver is faster, more effective and less likely
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to cause snags. The best versions of these little devices look like men’s electric shavers, with a perforated metal head that guards fibers from the whirring internal blades.
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Leather sponges For scuffed or faded shoes, these sponges are injected with mild protective oils that restore suppleness and shine to most porous
patch first to make sure the oils won’t drastically alter your shoe’s color, then gently rub the sponge across any worn areas. Shoes that have been thoroughly damaged by water, salt or dryness won’t be saved, but those with minor scuffs and fading will be restored instantly. Handheld clothes steamer Nothing makes a buttonfront shirt look crisp and new like a thorough pressing, but ironing takes time and a certain amount of skill. If you’re short on either, consider a handheld steamer instead. For $30 or less, you’ll get a portable device that works wonders on wrinkled garments. Stubborn wrinkles in wovens and
twill may require an iron, but knits, jersey, wool and cashmere will respond beautifully. BOOT SOLUTION Boot shapers Tall boots are a fall and winter staple, but keeping them in shape can be challenging. Instead of purchasing expensive boot shapers, try rolling up old magazines and sliding them into boot shafts. This will keep all but the most slouchy of boots upright and crease-free. Wine bottles work equally well, but can prove hazardous if boots are stored on high shelves. ON THE GO Most wardrobe malfunctions happen while you’re on the go, and they are guaranteed
to leave your day in ashes. Asemble an emergency kit to keep in your purse. Fill a small zippered bag with blister block, doublesided fashion tape, safety pins, a stain removal stick, a mini bottle of clear nail polish, bobby pins and nail clippers. If you can squeeze them in, add ponytail holders, blotting papers and tweezers, but remember that the ideal emergency kit can be tucked into a handbag. Don’t let it get too bulky.
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Not your mama’ s Hula Hoop! Yoga. Pilates. Kickboxing. You’ve tried them all. Hooping? There, did we catch your attention?
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ooping is back, and we’re not talking about a casual little game with a toy. It’s real fitness, a combination of freestyle or choreographed dancing with practiced hoop balancing moves. The idea isn’t new. We can thank the early Greek civilization for inventing the hula hoop for use in their fitness regimen. And, who knows, maybe Isis herself rocked a hoop, back when they were made of willow, grapevines or stiff grasses. Today’s hoops are plastic; “weighted” hoops are heavier. Molly Gable of Carbondale began hooping about three years ago. Her love of dance and performance art led her to hoop dancing, where, she says, “I could release my emotions more freely through my body.” So, not only will you reap physical benefits, it seems to be good for the soul, too. “Hooping is so much fun and is great exercise,” Molly said. “But, mostly, I hoop to express myself through flowing movement.”
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Why it’s good for you: According to The Mayo Clinic, hooping isn’t a trendy gimmick. Adding only ten minutes of hooping exercise to your workout plan will improve muscle tone and coordination, as well as burn calories. The more you hoop ,the more benefits you’ll see. And don’t forget to talk to a doctor, if you have any medical problems at all, especially back problems.
Hoop it up No matter how long it’s been since you’ve stepped into that circle, hooping is as easy as 1,2,3.
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The only thing you need: A hoop Fitness hoops are weighted and larger than toy hula hoops. To get the right size for beginners, measure the length from the floor to
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advanced-level hoop. “It will be a lot easier to learn moves with a bigger and heavier hoop,” says Molly Gable, a Carbondale hoop dancer.
your belly button. This measurement should match as closely as possible to the width of your hoop. Don’t be tempted to buy an
Look it up A simple Google search will turn up lots of video tutorials and how-to blogs. Hooping.org is a great place to start. Amazon.com has lots of hooping DVDs, as well as a few books on the subject. Don’t forget the library; you might be able to borrow these for free!
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A hooper at one of last year’s Sunset Concerts.
Groove Once you get your hoop, get outside (or to a particularly spacious room indoors) and have some fun! Start with the basics by trying to keep the hoop
The beauty of the hoop: You can take it anywhere!
going around your waist as you gently rock your hips side to side. You don’t have to move your body very much to keep a heavy hoop turning on its own. When
you can do it easily and feel like boredom is coming ‘round with the next hoop loop, move on to more complex moves.
Fitness Gear Weighted Cardio Hoop, Dick’s Sporting Goods, $39.99
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Work your abs – at work No time for the gym? Try this while checking your email.
Every time you check email or go on Facebook, do this: Sitting straight with shoulders down, put your hands on your desk. Push down on the surface, raising your knees up and down, your abs tight. Don’t touch the floor. Repeat 10 to 15 times.
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WANNA BE RICH? Put away a small amount now to reap huge benefits later; here’s how to do it. If you want plenty of money when you finally are able to say, “I’m outta here, I don’t need to work anymore,” listen up. Some awfully smart people are showing you how to do it — and the sooner you get started, the more money you’ll have. Take genius and physicist Albert Einstein, for instance. When asked to name the greatest invention in human history, he replied, “Compound interest.” Keep in mind: This is the guy who changed the way the whole world thinks, and he pointed out something you don’t have to be a genius to understand. Just what is compound interest? Essentially, the gains (or interest) you make from an initial investment can generate their own gains year after year. In other words, the interest you earn earns you more interest. “Perhaps, most importantly, is to start saving early,” said Joel Sambursky, president and founder of Liberty Wealth Management in Carbondale. “That way, you really gain the benefit of
compounding interest. Plus, compound interest is most effective over long periods of time, which young people have.” Now, that’s a goal, and Sambursky knows something about achieving goals. The financial adviser and executive was the starting quarterback for the SIU Salukis from 2002 to 2005; he graduated with a bachelor’s in finance, then went on to earn his MBA. He founded his company last year.
From $3,000 to $472,000 – and it won’t hurt much If you can’t afford the example amount, don’t let that stop you. Put aside as much as you can; it will still add up more quickly than you can imagine. This shows us why it’s always better to start early and make compound interest work for you:
At age 25
“If you want to achieve a certain financial goal, it does take some sacrifice,” Sambursky said. “Most people have the ability to tighten their belts. It’s not always easy, but it’s worth it down the road.”
Start saving $3,000 a year in a tax-deferred retirement account Do this for only 10 years
Just think about it. Maybe a few less cocktails a month, maybe choosing the great dress on the bargain rack, or making those great boots last a few more seasons would be worth it in the long run. “Save early and often,” Sambursky urges. “Allow compound interest to do the heavy lifting for you.”
At age 35
At age 65
You’ll have $472,000 (with an 8 percent annual return)
Start saving $3,000 a year. Do this for 30 years
At age 65
You’ll have $367,000 (with an 8 percent annual return)
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Be a Craftinista Pallets provide inexpensive ways to deck out your digs.
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aking something out of nothing might be considered only magic to some, but dedicated do-it-yourselfers know that everyone is capable of a creativity rescue mission. All you have to do is think about what you want to achieve, find a way to do it and get to work.
because it is there. If it appears to be or have been wet, forget it! Water-damaged wood is unsuitable for use as a shelf. Trouble spots are OK only if they are in a part of the pallet that can be removed. And, if they smell “funny,” take a pass. They might have been exposed to unhealthy chemicals.
Supplies
If décor is your thing, Isis can show you how
to make a completely unique, one-of-a-kind shelf out of something that gets thrown away every single day. The shipping pallet that you choose for this project should be properly inspected before you take it all the way home. First, keep in mind that these things are not particularly hard to come by. Don’t nab the first pallet you see just
Minwax Polycrylic Protective Finish, $12.99; Famowood Professional wood filler, $4.79; Minwax stainable wood filler, $5.99; Zinsser Bullseye 123 Primer, $5.79; All these products available at Murdale True Value in Carbondale.
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Additional Supplies and Tools • Hanging kit or individual hardware • Crowbar • Hammer • Sandpaper and/or sand grinder • Spray primer • Face mask and gloves (always use these when dealing with chemicals such as primer and paint; gloves keep splinters at bay) • Wood filler (optional) • Indoor/outdoor spray paint (optional) • Eyehooks (size and weight depending on what you’ll be hanging on the shelf)
BEFORE YOU START CONSIDER THE FUNCTION, look and feel of your pallet project. Is it going to be indoors or outside? Do you want to paint it, or not? Are you going for shabby chic, rustic or something more contemporary? Make these decisions before you gather materials.
DO A QUICK RUN-THROUGH of the additional supplies and tools list included here. Don’t start working until you have everything you need ready to go. DECIDE IF YOU NEED TO REMOVE ANY WOOD or if it will all remain as is. If you want to remove one of the pieces, use a crowbar to pull up the nails that hold it down.
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ISISLIVING EXAMINE YOUR PALLET and hammer in any nails that are sticking out. USE SANDPAPER over the entire pallet. This will remove excess dirt and grime, and it will also smooth away any roughness. IF YOU ARE PAINTING OR STAINING THE PALLET, use wood filler to fill any holes, cracks or unsightly spots. (If you are staining, there are stainable wood fillers. You don’t have to prime before staining unless the directions of your stain say otherwise.) Wearing your mask, cover every square inch with a heavy coat of primer. It will take a while to dry, but wood soaks up liquids, so you will want to prime thickly in order to get the best possible finished product. Make sure the primer is 100 percent dry before
moving on to paint. It might be hard to be patient, but a few days in dry weather is best. As for the paint, we recommend convenient spray paint for indoor and outdoor projects. Be sure to choose paint that’s right for your project. Don’t use outdoorsonly spray paint on an indoor shelf or vice versa! Read labels carefully and follow all safety instructions. You won’t be saving money if your entire project gets ruined (or makes you sick) because of a silly mistake! IF YOU AREN’T PAINTING THE PALLET: Clear coating your pallet is recommended but not required. This will extend the life of your shelf, and nowadays you can find clear coating in a variety of glosses and mattes.
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MAKING IT WORK: After your final coat is totally dry (try to wait at least 24 hours), it is time to apply the hardware and hang your shelf. For hanging, you can use the hook-and-wire method. We recommend using bailing wire and not normal picture hanging wire; it’s much too thin and fragile for this project! You can get bailing wire (or farmer’s wire some people call it) at hardware stores. Make absolutely sure it’s strong enough to keep that pallet on the wall after you fill the shelves with your possessions. Eyehooks can be used, if you’re using the shelf for storing dishes; a cool look would be to screw the eyehooks into the underside of a shelf and hang cups from them!
Going to Great Lengths! Dressy or casual, curtain lengths add to the mood of any room. But how long should curtains or draperies be? Generally, the longer the curtain or drapery, the more dignified, dressy and formal the look. Shorter lengths always imply a casual, relaxed, and informal mood. The decision is up to you. Take a look at these guidelines from dummies.com to find the style that’s right for you. •
In formal or dressy rooms, curtains should just touch the floor.
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A romantic room deserves elegant, extra-long curtains that pool or puddle on the floor.
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Curtains to the sill, or to the bottom of the window trim (called the apron) look great and are practical in a kitchen.
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Never hang curtains of any length near a stove!
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Dens or family rooms gain dignity from draw draperies or curtains that reach to the floor.
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Curtains that stop short of the floor, ending at the top of floor moldings, look awkward.
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If curtains are hung too high, simply lower them (if possible) to solve the problem.
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Change Cheap on the
CHANGE KNOBS OR SMALL ACCENTS Switch out cabinet knobs for something updated and modern. Take inventory of wall outlets and light switches and think about selecting new ones that coordinate with your home decor. HANG NEW WALL ART Finding new prints to hang could instantly change a room’s ambience. And you needn’t spend a lot of money on professional photography. Grab your camera and take a few close-up shots of flowers or landscape scenery. Many of today’s home printers can produce professionalquality prints in minutes. And, especially in Southern Illinois, many local artists offer their pieces at very reasonable prices.
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TRY A NEW COAT OF PAINT It’s one of the least expensive yet most dramatic methods of changing a home’s interior. With dozens of hues to choose from, and new apps that enable you to take snapshots of things in nature or in your life and match them up to a paint color, you will have scores of opportunities to explore fresh new colors for your home. ADD NEW PILLOWS OR DRAPES If you want to add a splash of color but don’t know what to do, incorporate a few inexpensive throw pillows or change the curtains. An accessory here and there in a bright color also can incorporate a new hue without it being overwhelming.
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When you get inspired to make improvements to the home but fear how much it may take out of your wallet, consider inexpensive tricks that can induce a big “wow” factor.
Move FURNITURE AROUND Find a focal point in the room and angle the furniture toward it. Don’t make the focal point the television, however. Try changing the placement of chairs and sofas. Simply moving a curio cabinet or bookshelf from one corner to another may also make a difference. ADD LIGHTING Placing lighting at different levels creates a vibrant impact. You’ve got to do more than place a couple of table lamps and think that will be adequate. Use different kinds of lighting to create different moods at different times. USE PLANTS Plants are inexpensive ways to add instant color and visual appeal to a room. Plus, having live plants can help improve indoor air by filtering out contaminants.
Add some blazing beauty to your backyard or deck with easy-to-grow
Cannas
ne of the most basic, diverse and dramatic garden plants is the canna. Cannas are easy to grow, offer a vast array of foliage and flower colors. They range in height from 18 inches to over six feet. They’re easy to overwinter and can be used just about anywhere a tropical accent might be needed. They prefer full sun for best performance and can tolerate moist to wet areas, such as around water features. These fiery tropical plant are pretty tender. They can’t survive our colder Southern Illinois winters, so it’s best to plant in a large container. That way, you can bring it inside
until spring rolls around again. Place containers by entrances, patios or decks. The flowers of the plant, which is in the hosta family, can be red, pink, orange, yellow or white; and boast immense, oftenveined, paddle-shaped leaves and sheathing leafstalks in shades of green or bronze.they bloom through summer and early fall. But don’t despair if yours doesn’t bloom; with their great reedy canes and palmy foliage, cannas would be magnificent even if they never showed flower one. Most likely, though, they will show their flowers from early summer to first frost.
Caring for your canna • Cannas do best with a good supply of water, so water the plants during the summer if the rainfall is less than 1 inch per week. Water freely in a dry spell. • Keep a thin layer of mulch around cannas to help retain moisture, as well. • Stake tall varieties if needed. • As flowers fade, deadhead to promote continued flowering. • Bring your canna in before the region’s first frost. • Store cannas over the winter in a dry place at 45 to 50 degrees Fahrenheit. Don't let them dry out; sprinkle the sand or soil around them, if necessary.
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Feelin’ the heat How to deal with reply-all mishaps and other online disasters
he symptoms are universal: There’s a sudden gasp for air and an involuntary utterance of “uh oh,” followed by an instant surge of heat rushing over the body, increased heart rate, dizziness, nausea and an overwhelming desire to dig a hole, crawl in that hole, put a large rock over the top, maybe decorate with some wallpaper and nice drapes and send out for sushi because you’ll
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want to stay in that hole a very, very long time. Such are the measurable physiological and psychological responses that occur upon accidentally sending a steamy text meant for your hot boyfriend to your church minister instead. Or Google chatting more than one person at a time — perhaps your mom plus an important
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client — and mistakenly sending the client your sassy critique of the latest “Real Housewives” episode. Or, possibly worst of all, tapping the dreaded “reply all” button and propelling a snarky reference about your supervisor’s body odor — meant only as an inside joke between a couple of pals — companywide, including your boss’s inbox. Quick, someone get the shovel.
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Honesty is always the best policy. Most people will give you another chance to redeem yourself. You’re much better off taking responsibility for your blunder than blaming it on someone or something else. Respond with a written apology. Do not make a lot of excuses. Make it short and sweet and end the conversation online.
Online mishaps can certainly be funny — an embarrassment of glitches, fodder for jokes at the company picnic or the college reunion. But serious consequences can happen, too. Jobs have been lost, relationships altered. Mistakes still happen to the most careful among us. And once you have made a big one, then what? How do you recover?
— Rana, freelance writer
I like to search categories for all kinds of ideas. I have too many favorites to list! DIY & Crafts is by far my favorite thing to look up. The ideas are phenomenal and typically fairly easy. I’ve done cork crafts, wall hangings and paintings, scarves, hair serums and have started on some larger pallet pieces. I love Luigi Murenu, hairstylist and global creative director for John Frieda. His looks are so bold, unique and the colors are vibrant, and he goes from vintage to modern and edgy cut and color. I change my hair often, and his creativity gives me amazing ideas!
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“You should face the music,” says Sue Fox, Pleasanton, Californiabased etiquette expert and author of “Business Etiquette for Dummies.” “Take a deep breath, stay put and face the consequences honestly and apologetically. Possibly, you can use a little humor, but be careful you don’t make the offense worse.
“If you’ve made an online faux pas,” she added, “the worst thing you can do is disappear, change your email address, close your Twitter and Facebook accounts, vow to move out of town, assume an alias and never communicate with that person or group of people again as long as you live.” In other words, digging a hole just gets you in deeper.
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Old Flames
Tread carefully when bringing up the topic of past romances BY ANNETTE VAILLANCOURT When you meet someone new and there’s a spark or a sizzle, there’s no quicker way to extinguish it than to over share about your ex. Of course, it’s natural to be curious and want to exchange personal relationship history at some point in getting acquainted, but to give too much information or too many sordid details too soon — before rapport, interest and trust is established — is social suicide.
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If you think you are being “honest” by sharing like this, think again. Over sharing is off-putting. It can be a sign of poor boundaries, lack of social skills or worse — continued attachment to your ex. The last thing you want to create in your date’s mind is a sense of competition, jealousy or worry about what you might tell the next person about them if you break up. If you want your new flame to be comfortable and secure in your interest, extinguish the old flame completely. You are there to get to know that new person, not rehash old wounds. That way, when it comes time
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to get a history for the purpose of determining sexual health and availability, you will be able to answer with only the pertinent facts. Your answers will be matter of fact, not choked with tears of pain or regret. On the flip side, if your date digs for details about your ex, it might be a sign of insecurity or latent jealousy. By the way, early jealousy is not a sign of love and caring for you. It is a red flag that you have a man who will need constant reassurance or who will attempt to control your behavior so as to quell his insecurities. Don’t be flattered. Be forewarned and be cautious.
A “Little Black Book” is not an ideal item to curate. Remember why they are an ex in the first place.
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Early jealousy is not a sign of love and caring for you. It is a red flag that you have a man who will need constant reassurance or who will attempt to control your behavior so as to quell his insecurities. Don’t be flattered. Be forewarned and be cautious.
When you share about exes, it’s best to frame it in a positive light. Talk about what you appreciated about that experience. Talk about what you learned about yourself. Talk about how it made you a better, more mature, more desirable and fun date. If you focus on the negative stuff, the only people who will find that attractive are those who will do the same thing to you. Basically, what you are telling them is that you are a walking target, and that you will accept bad behavior from them, too. If you or your new love has children with an ex, then continued contact with them is expected for the welfare of the children. When you are dating or in a new relationship, make clear to your partner the extent and intention of that involvement. If you are developing a significant new relationship, introduce them to your ex right about the same time you introduce them to your children. This signals to everybody that this is an important relationship and you are invested in moving forward. This also allows everyone
a chance to adjust at the same time. There are no secrets. Everybody knows about everybody. The important thing to remember is that you are building a new life with someone else. That means the role of your ex will likely change to focus mainly on the welfare of shared children. They are not the person you call to come hang pictures in your home. They would not be the person you hang out with when your new love is out of town on business — that is, if having the trust of that person is important to you. There are many dating men and women who remain “close friends” with some or all of their exes. As a psychologist, I question this. Why create or perpetuate a triangle? It limits intimacy with both your new and old loves. It’s just too tempting in times of distress to complain to your ex about your new partner. That is simply a slippery slope to trouble. If your new love or you wish to remain friends with exes, the safest guideline is to
share what will make each of you comfortable and able to be supportive of that relationship. The goal is to protect the primary relationship and support the secondary ones. It might help to share with each other the role you see that person playing in your life. Perhaps, they share an interest that you aren’t in the least bit interested in exploring. Maybe, they go to the same church and have led Bible study together for years. Clarity is calming. Remember, you can’t be everything for another person and no one person will satisfy all your friendship needs. Don’t demand that of each other. Other friends are needed to support and augment your primary relationship. If one of those friends is an ex, set guidelines, get to know them, include your partner on some visits, and keep communication honest, open and above board. It might also help to remember that everyone, including you, has history. Think about how you would like to have your new love treat your old friends and exes. Behave in that manner toward theirs. Having a double standard is a no-win situation –– a set up for a fight. Avoid them. Annette Vaillancourt, Ph.D., is a psychotherapist, couples counselor and SoulMate Coach in Carbondale and St. Louis. Check her out at www.TheLoveDoctorIsIn.com.
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Don’t mess with exes
OK. You’re lonely. You still feel the sizzle when you think of your ex, despite finally getting past the emotional pain of the breakup. You begin to wonder: Is it a good idea to get together for a casual hookup? It is familiar, right? At least, it would feel good to be desired again, to be with someone who already knows your body. Or would it? A hook-up with an ex is a bad without creating any bad idea, and here’s why. feelings. Let’s pretend we aren’t really broken up. • It creates false hope, Let’s pretend we’re back especially if they are together. In short, not over you. it’s not dealing with reality. • It’s all the pleasure of your company without • Sex floods your brain with the responsibility oxytocin, the bonding of a relationship. hormone. Oxytocin makes you feel warm and • It keeps you attached fuzzy for that person all and unavailable to move over again. When that on to someone hormonal bond is formed more suitable for you. again, don’t be surprised if you feel upset when he • It’s a grown up version doesn’t call you the next of “let’s pretend.” Let’s day. When you re-bond, pretend there wasn’t how will you feel when he a good reason we are does not stay the night to no longer together. Let’s cuddle? Do not mess pretend we can do this with powerful hormones.
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They set you up for unexpected emotional pain and upheaval. Then you have to go through withdrawal all over again. It may seem like fun, even a distraction from your loneliness, or a solution to your passing, though insistent, appetite, but beware. An evening hook up might be more trouble than it is worth. My best advice? If you are lonely or have an itch that needs to be scratched, try a romance novel and some private time, if you know what I mean. — Annette Vaillancourt
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Keeping it on Sun. Heat. Water. It’s all good, but not when it comes to makeup. Isis asked local experts at Merle Norman and Dermacare Body Boutique for tips to looking good all day long. 32
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Our swampy climate encourages sweating, something you don’t want happening underneath powders and heavy creams. Here’s why: when your body is warm, your pores open up wider. This makes your skin more susceptible to breakouts. Rather than spending the entire summer indoors,
get a little dirty. Let your skin be free of products as much as possible. But, when you want to look your best, there are ways to beautify without piling on too much. Just like your clothing, your makeup should be lightened up, too. Cheryl Lambert at Merle Norman Cosmetics
left to right: Merle Norman Foundation Primer Plus SPF 15, $30; Merle Norman Sheer Defense Tinted Moisturizer, $34; Merle Norman Expert Touch Finishing Spray, $16.50; Bare Minerals Mineral Veil, Dermacare, $20
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ISISBEAUTY Studio of Herrin believes that just like your clothing, your makeup should be lightened up, too. Lighten up. Amy Scutt and Carrie Intravaia at DermaCare in Herrin and other beauty experts suggest swapping foundation for tinted moisturizer. These sheer formulas look and feel airier on skin and are less likely to turn cakey on steamy days. If you feel a little too exposed and need a little extra coverage, brush powder foundation over the tinted moisturizer in those spots. Make time for primer. You won't regret the few seconds it will take to smooth on a primer, which goes on after moisturizer but before face makeup. Like house-paint primer, it provides a smooth base for whatever goes on next. In a Good Housekeeping
Research Institute test, primer helped volunteers' makeup look better and hold up throughout the day — even after a sweltering stint in our 80-degree, highhumidity chamber. Bronze believably. Bronzer can make your eyes look brighter and your teeth whiter. To keep results looking fresh and natural, apply bronzer just to the high points of your face, where the sun naturally hits you: forehead, cheekbones, chin, and nose. (Covering every nook and cranny is what gives you that fake, baked look.) Powder bronzers are the easiest to apply; look for one with varying shades — they'll swirl together for the most authentic-looking results. Sweep a little bronzer onto your neck and earlobes, especially if you have
left to right: Sheer Defence Tinted Moisturizer, Merle Norman, $34; Jane Iredale Smooth Affair Facial Primer & Brightener, DermaCare, $48; Philosophy Total Matteness, DermaCare, $40; Jane Iredale Balance Hydration Spray, DermaCare, $18?
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short hair or are wearing a ponytail. A tan face that's framed by pale ears will out you fast.
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SPF, baby! Fight sunburn, wrinkles and dullness by applying sunscreen regularly. You probably can’t overdo it, and more is definitely better. A new study out of Australia (Queensland Institute of Medical Research) shows that using sunscreen daily slows the signs of aging skin, even into middle age. Sun is the major cause of skin deterioration. And they proved it, too: Out of 903 Australians 55 and younger, those who used sunscreen daily were 24 percent less likely to show signs of increased aging.
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Clean Sweep
Let’s face it, we all want beautiful skin. So, Isis gets the DL on the pros and cons of popular beauty creams.
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t started with two letters: BB. Beauty Balm, or Blemish Balm to some, has been increasing in popularity. CC Cream (Color Correction) is also familiar to most of us, and now there is DD (Dynamic Do-All). Is it only a matter of time before EE arrives?
Maybellene Dream Fresh BB Cream, Target, $6.44
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The truth is, there isn’t much difference between BB, CC and DD creams. They are all generally lighter than foundation, they’re tinted and include sun protection. CC Creams all claim to solve complexion problems — particularly redness — better than BB Creams. The amount of tint in each product, however, depends more on
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the brand and not its assigned letter. Your best bet is to try samples of different products that sound appealing, then make a decision based on the one that suits your skin needs best. Here are three we checked out: Maybelline New York BB Dream Fresh BB Sunscreen looks and feels similar to foundation but comes with SPF 30. It also comes in five shades, so it is easier to find one that matches your shade. If you are makeup savvy, you can blend two different shades in your palm before applying. This is particularly beneficial during summer months if you like to tan. A 1-ounce bottle is $6-$10 anywhere Maybelline is sold.
Olay Total Effects 7-inOne CC Tone Correcting Moisturizer with Sunscreen is an affordable product — around $22 a bottle — and claims to permanently reduce skin discoloration in as few as six weeks. If dark spots haunt you, this kind of product should be used regularly for several weeks to give your body time to show results. Healing can be a slow process, so you have to stick with it before tossing it aside and spending money on something new.
Olay Total Effects 7-In-One CC, Walgreens, $23.99
DD Creams are still a rarity in the US, but you can buy them online from retailers like Julep.com for around
Julep DD Crème, julep.com, $36
$40. Like CC, Julep’s DD Crème claims to improve complexion over time. It, however, includes anti-aging ingredients that target pores and fine lines.
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Put Your Best Brow Forward Have you been underestimating the power of your eyebrows? They are front and center on that face of yours, whether you tweeze them precisely or let them grow naturally. Changing up the way you shape them and, yes, color them can have dramatic effects on your entire look. If you want to experiment with eyebrow makeup, you definitely have a variety of options. Browse any drugstore, department store beauty counter or online makeup retailer and you will find products for your eyebrows. We’ve chosen to feature three items you can find in stores right now, and here is what we’ve found.
FLOWER BY DREW BARRYMORE
DIOR
Pros: Variety of colors,
Pros: Eyebrow brush included Cons: No color options Conclusion: The proclaimed
Raise Some Brows Defining Eyebrow Pencils Wal-Mart, $8 affordable
Cons: No true blonde pencil conclusion: Intended to fill-in brows that are already full but need a hint of darkening. Anyone who wants to construct full eyebrows may want to use this alongside other eyebrow products but not on its own. If you are seeking minor color for your brows, this is for you. For those of us with light hair, the “blonde” shade of this pencil is quite red; brunette and black shades are more predictable. One perk: It comes with an attached sharpener. And, for eco-minded consumers, the entire line of Flower products are guaranteed never tested on animals.
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Diorshow Brow Styler Ultra-Fine Precision Brow Pencil sephora.com, $29
“universal shade” attracted us to this product, and, as we had hoped, Dior delivered. Whether you are blonde, redhead or are the darkest brunette, this easy-to-use brow pencil works. Blondes can expect a darker hue than hair color, but this works if you are going for the dark eyebrows/light hair look, which is very popular right now. Simply comb your eyebrows into place using the brush, then switch to the other end and apply small strokes of color in the direction of hair growth. What makes this pencil great can also be problematic if you have highlighted hair or if you dye your hair often. Someone who wants to experiment with her eyebrow makeup should choose a different product.
Enviable Eyebrows: Camilla Belle and Charlize Thereon
HOW TO GET STARTED
MILANI
Brow Fix Kit Walgreens, $6.79
Pros: Three powder shades per kit,
mini tools included Cons: Non-Waterproof Conclusion: The fact that the powder in this kit washes off in water (or, if it’s really bad, sweat) is the worst thing we could come up with for this great little kit. The variation in colors allows for a completely unique eyebrow shade for everyone. The blondest blondes and the darkest brunettes will all find a match in one of the three varieties. You can use the lightest powder for highlighting your arches or use it all over for blonde brows. Choose between the other shades or blend them together until your eyebrows match (or contrast with) your hair color
Seek help Professional grooming is a good way to start. But if your pro has really thin eyebrows, access their advice accordingly. Tell her that you want a full brow and start working on it. Once you define your arch, you’re golden. But if you need to let them grow out, patience sometimes needs encouragement. Fake it until you make it The eyebrow pencils and powders provide an astonishing illusion of fullness. For pencils, use quick, short strokes to sketch; don’t draw obvious lines. When in doubt, smudge and blur a bit. Tread lightly Pluck hairs individually, not in clumps. And don’t get overzealous. If a hair is stubborn or
elusive, take a breath and let it go. You’ll get it tomorrow; you don’t want to risk a red mark or a scar. Besides, a little dab of concealer or a slightly lighter powder brushed under your arch will camouflage a few stubborn strays. Practice your follow-through The most troublesome spot for brows is the tail as it drops toward the outer corner. The tail should taper slightly from the center; it shouldn’t become an indiscernible wisp. Before and after Practice before you convert. Take a beforeand-after selfie one day, though it might be better to get a perspective from a distance, and see if you’re ready for the power brow.
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“A woman's hair is her crown.” – Shon Stoker, American beauty expert and author
Sexy or Scorched? What you do (or don’t do) to your hair makes all the difference. Women and their hair. We crimp it, flat-iron it, cut it, grow it, twist it, color it. One thing we have to do a little more of in the summer is protect it. It makes sense. It’s hot, it’s humid, and some days it feels like the wind has blown across the Sahara Desert just to lay claim to your locks. And, if you’re a water baby, pool chemicals aren’t doing you any good. But don’t despair. A few simple things can help preserve your crowning glory. “The most important thing you can do is to moisturize your hair,”
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said Sarah Clover, a stylist at Lush Aveda Salon and Spa in Carbondale. “Pool chemicals dry it out, and high humidity is going to suck out every bit of moisture.” Extra moisturizing is also the biggest piece of advice from Sabrina Ryals Hintz, a stylist at Studio Day Spa in Carbondale. “Apply a good quality conditioner in the shower, at least once or twice a week,” Sabrina said. Sarah and Sabrina suggest looking into products that protect your hair from almost anything that comes along and restore natural
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moisture after. “We carry a line of hair care products that are specifically created for use in summer; they really help,” Sarah said. The same is true for Studio Day Spa. “We also have a treatment that many salons have: a salon-only ‘Malibu’ treatment, which strips chlorine and mineral buildup and doesn’t damage the hair,” she said. Here are some things to avoid and the solutions from our local experts and from dummies.com: Jumping in too soon Pool chemicals aren’t your friends. Chlorine literally
strips hair of moisture and can burn your hair. Both make it dry and brittle. The solution: Condition hair before getting in the water. Don’t rinse it out entirely; leave a little on the hair. “This keeps pool chemicals from penetrating as much,” Sarah said. “Blonde hair, especially, is susceptible to damage, including turning hair green,” Sabrina advised. “Often blonde hair is finer, so you have to be very careful.” If you don’t have access to conditioner before swimming, just wet your hair before getting in the water,” Sabrina said. The water will dilute the chemicals a little before they reach your hair. Both ladies had one last piece of advice: Immediately after swimming, wash and condition the hair. If it’s going to be a bit before you can get to a shower, at the very least, rinse hair really well. Frolicking under UV rays If you’re outside, no matter what you’re doing, UV rays fade color and cause damage. The solution: All sun goddesses should wear a hat — find a sexy one! — and use hair products containing antioxidant or sunscreen ingredients. Again, use deep conditioners. Sabrina recommends you look for protective products containing an SPF. “I’ve even put regular sunblock on my hair when I couldn’t
Being a chemical junkie Hair color, bleach, relaxers and permanent wave solutions are extremely detrimental to the hair. Chemical junkies literally burn — sometimes even melt — their hair.
Isis Wisdom Beware of those pretty little sun streaks in your hair: They are a sure sign of sun damage.
do anything else,” she says. “It doesn’t look so great, but it works and your hair is protected.” And, if you’re using a tanning bed, wrapping a towel around your head will offer extra protection. Taking too many shortcuts Busy girls do what they have to do, but often it’s our hair that pays the price. Blasting hair with the hottest air to dry quickly, roughly combing through the hair while it’s tangled and not conditioning to save a little time isn’t worth it. The solution: Let your hair dry naturally. But sometimes a girl’s gotta run. Speed up the process by wrapping your head in a towel while applying makeup, shaving, brushing teeth. It can remove 50 percent of water before going near a blow-dryer. “If you are going to dry your hair from completely wet, dry it only about 70 percent, then let it air dry before styling,” Sarah said. “The more you can go without drying or using heated instruments, the better.”
The solution: Refrain from dramatically changing hair colors every month; going from red to blonde, for instance, requires extra stripping of the hair. Never overlap hair chemicals when doing touch-ups (treating the new growth at the roots). Letting the hair grow out at least half an inch before retouching the hair color makes it easier to avoid overlapping applications. This same advice applies to chemical relaxers. Lush Aveda and a few other local salons offer hair color options that are plant derived with little chemical. Ask your stylist about those. You’re all tied up Wearing hair ties or clips with metal can actually break the hair. And, if you wear them all the time, even more hair will be damaged or broken. The solution: “If you’re going to wear your hair in a tie or clip, make sure there’s not metal in them,” Sarah said. “Keep them much looser, too.” We’ve all felt that tenderness when our hair has been up too long and tied too tight. “You can actually bend the hair too much away from its natural way, and it will start to fall out.”
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HOT LIPS Lipstick might enhance your beauty, but it could be a threat to your health nvironmental health advocates have long pushed manufacturers to eliminate lead in lipstick. And, now, a study done by researchers at the University of California’s Berkeley School of Public Health has identified even more metals than we already knew about in lipsticks commonly found in drugstores and department stores. In addition to lead and chromium, they detected cadmium, aluminum and five other metals. “We definitely need more research to see
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If things like this concern you, you consider buying chemical-free and/or organic cosmetics.
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what’s in these lipsticks and at what levels,” said Sharima Rasanayagam, director of science for the Breast Cancer Fund and a member of the Campaign for Safe Cosmetics. An industry representative said lipsticks are safe and noted that the detected metals occur naturally in air, soil and water. “These are very low levels,” said Linda Loretz, chief toxicologist for the Personal Care Products Council. The researchers concluded that people who use an average amount of lipstick, perhaps applying it twice a day and ingesting up to 24 milligrams, could be exposed to hexavalent
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chromium at levels that exceed safety guidelines. It is a carcinogen linked to stomach tumors, but researchers said their tests could not distinguish between it and the metal’s less toxic forms. Those who use large amounts of lipstick maybe reapplying 14 times a day and ingesting 87 milligrams of the cosmetic could have excessive exposure to aluminum, cadmium and manganese, the study found. Exposure to high concentrations of manganese over time has been linked to toxicity in the nervous system, the researchers noted. The study detected lead in 24 lip products, but concluded those levels were within safety guidelines.
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Eat your way to a beautiful smile! Most of us know by now that regular visits to the dentist for cleanings and checkups keep your teeth and mouth healthy. But did you know what you eat has just as big an impact? Here are some ideas to maintaining a beautiful smile:
An apple a day keeps the dentist away.
Chewing raw, crunchy fruits and vegetables like apples and radishes naturally remove food from teeth. Celery and carrots are good good sources of beta carotene, a nutrient essential for building strong teeth.
It’s OK to be cheesy.
Again, with the carbs.
All dried up.
Starches like potato chips and bread can become lodged in teeth and in crevices. These carbohydrates then convert into sugar and can cause cavities if not removed shortly after eating.
Eating a small piece of cheese after every meal combats acid erosion in your teeth. Cheddar is best, because it contains the highest levels of alkali; soft cheese like brie or feta won’t do much for you. Dried fruits, which many of us think are good for us are actually not good for your teeth.
Haven’t you ever noticed how sticky dried fruits are?
They’re packed with noncellulose fiber, which traps sugar on and around teeth.
Saucy, in the right way. Many salad dressings and condiments should be avoided when adding flavor to your food. Soy sauce and balsamic vinegar are very acidic and destroy tooth enamel.
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Ignite your mind and your body will follow
We all know what we have to do to lose weight: Eat less and exercise. But a local clinical psychologist says exploring the reasons we eat and focusing on changing our negative habits may make it easier to shed those unwanted pounds We’ve all tried diets, many of them a little wack. Has your grandma told you about the cabbage diet? Here’s a tip: They don’t work, at least, for long. But have you ever thought about what thinking has to do with your unsuccessful attempts at shedding a few pounds and keeping them off? A new program at Herrin Behavioral Health gets you doing just that. To help people get their thoughts in order, Clinical Psychologist Jacki Muniz offers group and individual sessions in a program called Thinking Thin.
“Clients learn about themselves and their habits,” Muniz said. “We focus on thinking about and changing negative habits that sabotage weight loss efforts.” Topics include emotional eating and being aware of why we eat. “It is common that people may not be fully aware of their poor eating habits,” Muniz said. “People often fall in the trap of using food to solve problems. It’s often the first thing they think of when they have a problem.” That stress or emotional eating can be a problem.
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“Food doesn’t make your boss less demanding or your child behave better,” Muniz said. “We need to take concrete steps and make a list of other things you can do when you are feeling stressed and want to over-eat.” Muniz suggests instead taking up a hobby, taking a walk, calling a friend or playing with your pet. The key is to understand what you are feeling and to have a concrete plan. These small changes in behavior can make a big difference. “Research has shown that making a couple of small changes can lead to results,” she said. “Eating more mindfully, drinking more water and just making eating a singular event, by not eating in the car or in front
GOYA of the TV can make a big difference.”
80 percent of the time, they can still lose weight.
Clients aren’t asked to follow a specific diet but are guided to find a plan that they can follow the rest of their life.
“It’s been a very exciting project to help people live a healthy lifestyle,” Muniz said. “Unfortunately, obesity has become an epidemic in our society.”
“We develop an individual plan,” Muniz said. “It varies for different people. Some have a detailed plan, and others decide not to eat at night or after a certain time.” Muniz helps her clients look at and adopt habits of people who lose weight successfully, but she realizes people will slip up. She estimates if most people can stick to their plan
A new program at Herrin Behavioral Health hopes to help us get on the right track. GOYA – Greatness Only You (Can) Achieve – focuses on “assisting individuals in identifying barriers to positive change” (helping you be all you want to be.) Programs include yoga therapy, Reiki therapy, Thinking Thin and Expressions group therapy, where you learn how to use artistic expression to banish anxiety, depression, stress and other emotional issues.
Muniz has expanded her practice to include children (8 and older) and families in the Thinking Thin program. “Clients realize they can accept the fact that they are being deprived of a thin, healthy version of their self or be overweight and all the benefits that come with that,” Muniz said.
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Advice for new mommies:
You Will Want To Have Sex Again! BY LANA FRITSCH Here’s something no mother ever likes to admit: There will times when you hate being a mom. There will be moments when you are covered in baby poop, sticky breast milk has leaked down the front of your favorite shirt, pureed peaches are crusted into your hair and you haven’t slept or showered in days. There are going to be times when you hate your partner. Everything he does is going to drive you insane, right down the
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noises he makes while he chews his food. When it comes to helping, he’s either not doing enough, or he’s helping you but doing everything wrong. You’ll realize that in the time it took him to change a single diaper, you could have done 15 things plus a load of laundry. You’ll look back and laugh about how big a deal it was when your doctor said you would have to wait four weeks after your baby’s birth to have sex with your hubby again. Four weeks? Please. Who even cares about sex anymore? You’ll look over at your partner, as he snorts
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his way through his dinner, and you’ll wonder why on earth you ever had sex with him in the first place. Despite everyone’s best efforts to help you, you are going to feel all alone. People are constantly going to dole out advice, but none of it will feel particularly helpful. You’ll call your parents with a list of questions, but feel shocked and let down when you realize that they actually don’t know all of the answers. You’ll lash out at them. You’ll cry and tell them that it is not okay to rub whiskey on your teething baby’s swollen,
Tame Summer – For Baby’s Sake At last, summer is here; boy, oh, boy is it here. And, speaking of boys, don’t forget to protect your little ones from the dangers of the season. BabyGanics offers a full line of products, all available locally at Target in Marion. We tried two of them, both of which received positive ratings from goodguide.com:
Cover-Up Baby, $10.99 Shoo Fly Bye, $11.99
painful gums. They’ll hang up the phone, look at each other from across the table, and wonder why on earth they ever had sex in the first place. Then, one blessed, long-overdue morning, you will wake up and things will just seem OK. Motherhood will feel right.
Cover Up Baby Pure Mineral Moisturizing Sunscreen Lotion 30 SPF Deets: Pure mineral and non-chemical; 4-ounce tubes retail for $10.99 What we loved: It’s unscented, quickly absorbs into the skin, leaving it feeling silky smooth and not greasy. And best
You’ll realize that you have been doing a great job. Your child will be smiling, you’ll be clean, your partner won’t repulse you, and your parents will seem sort of normal again. Hell, you might even feel like having sex. Of course, that means you might have to shave your legs.
of all, it contains no chemical suncreen, PABA, parabens, sulfates, phthalates or nono-particles.
Shoo Fly Bye Natural Insect Repellent Deets: All-natural, DEET-free bug spray; What we loved: It worked! And, it smells great. The combination of natural repellents – peppermint, geranium, lemongrass and citronella – left a light, very tolerable scent on the skin. Directions say to re-apply it every couple of hours. We were outside for two hours and not one single bug was interested in finding its next meal.
Feel like this sometimes? Yeah, me too.
LANA FRITSCH is a writer and a
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Light His Fire & Light the Grill!
An entire dinner for two, made in less than 30 minutes for less than $20 with items from our local farmer’s market.
Everyone’s heard that a way to a man’s heart is through his stomach, so let’s put that information to use! Seduce your man by firing up the grill and feeding him a meal with local, fresh ingredients from the farmer’s market. What man wouldn’t love a woman that grills? Throw on a pair of sexy, high-waist shorts (see pages 6-8 for inspiration) and be ready to see the fire in his eyes.
Strip Steak
1 pound Lick Creek Beef Sirloin Strip Steak ($12) 1 teaspoons salt 2 teaspoons fresh ground pepper 2 tablespoons olive oil In a baking dish, combine the oil, salt and pepper. Add steaks and turn to coat both sides. Cover and refrigerate for at least two hours. Pre-heat grill to medium-high heat. Cook steak to desired degree of doneness, about 5 minutes on each side. Let them rest for 10 minutes.
Sliced Tomatoes
1 large beef steak tomato, cut into 1-inch slices (1 pound for $2.25) 1 tablespoon olive oil ½ tablespoon fresh ground pepper 1 teaspoon salt Sprinkle sliced tomato with olive oil and top with salt and pepper.
Grilled New Potatoes Packet ½ pound red new potatoes (2 pounds for $3) 2 tablespoons water 2 teaspoon oil 2 teaspoon fresh ground pepper 1 teaspoon salt 1 sprig fresh rosemary (1 plant $2)
Pre-heat grill to medium heat. Place potatoes in center of 18” long piece of heavy-duty foil. Sprinkle oil and water on potatoes and top with rosemary twig, salt and pepper. Bring up foil sides and seal the edges; leave a little room for the heat to circulate inside the foil. Grill for 20 minutes or until potatoes are tender. Use caution when opening the foil.
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In Season PEACHES
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othing cools you off like a juicy, fuzzy peach. These sweet treats are abundant in Southern Illinois orchards throughout the hottest months of the year. You might need a whole bushel after reading our why’s and how’s of fresh, local peaches. And, don’t forget to visit local growers, who sell their produce fresh from the orchard, and they’re always the best you can get. Do a quick online search for “Southern Illinois Orchards” for the one closest to you. 52
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Pick a winner 1. White-fleshed peaches are sweeter than yellow-fleshed peaches, which tend to be sour and more acidic. Most grocery stores carry only Freestone varieties, whose fruits easily detach from their pits. Although “Clingstone” varieties require more effort, (some of the flesh “clings” to the pit), they are considered by some to be all-around better tasting. 2. A ripe fruit will be evenly soft to the touch, not rock-hard and certainly not mushy.
Why you should eat more peaches A large peach has only 70 calories, making them a sweet, guilt-free snack or dessert for conscious eaters. Keeping the skins on will retain more fiber and nutrition, including a whopping 10 percent of your daily required Vitamin A, which is something your skin needs more of in the summertime to heal from all that extra sunshine. Peaches are also good sources of the antioxidant Vitamin C and blood pressure regulating Potassium.
EASY RECIPES Peache Flambé Cut peaches in half, then then slice in 4 or 5 slices. Melt butter over medium heat. Add brown sugar; stir. Add peaches. Cook until fairly warm and starting to soften, about 1 minute. Flip and cook 30 seconds more. Add rum to taste and swirl in pan a bit. Light a very long match and pass over pan. Allow flame to die down and sauce to thicken slightly, remove from heat and serve over ice cream.
3. Avoid any fruit with green near the stem (picked too early) or with any shriveling on the skin (too old). 4. Store peaches that need to ripen at room temperature. Once they are ready to eat, place peaches in your refrigerator’s crisper for no longer than four or five days. 5. If your peaches are ripe but you need more time before you use them, slice clean, whole peaches into sixths and lay them on a baking sheet lined with parchment paper. Once the individual slices are frozen, store them in a freezer bag. Don’t forget to label your frozen produce! Frozen peaches shouldn’t be stored longer than six months.
Peachy Pita
Grill ’em
Vertically — and as thinly as possible — slice one fresh peach and a quarter of a fresh tomato.
To grill peaches, rinse fresh pitted fruits and cut them into 8 medium-thick slices. Rather than wedges, try to cut them the way you cut bread. These flat slices will grill much more evenly. Place the slices on a well-oiled grill and allow only a few minutes on each side. Throw these on top of burgers, salad, or anything else that needs a smoky sweet addition.
Spread 1 tablespoon of peanut butter or cream cheese into two pita halves and fill each with peach and tomato slices. Pack these up for a quick lunch or make a dozen for your next picnic.
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Quench your thirst F
resh and fruity cocktails are a great way to beat the heat of summer days and nights. Ask just about any bartender, and they’ll tell you it’s so.
“People do tend to order fruity drinks in the summer,” said Jessie Tanner, bartender at Boondocks Seafood Co. in Carbondale. “They are usually lighter and more refreshing.” Citrus drinks are especially “cool,” and, if you’re watching, can be fewer calories and carbs. Two of the bar and grill’s most popular drinks start with flavored vodkas, which are quickly rising to the top of summer’s hot list of mixers and are a lower-calorie choice. Two Jessie uses at Boondocks are pomegranate and acai berry flavored vodka from Pomacai and UV Citrus vodka. We’ve included two recipes from Boondocks, plus a third from UV Vodka’s website. They’re all easy to mix, and, because they don’t contain sugary fruit juices, they’re refreshing, and, well, if not good for you, then, better for your figure. The Pomacai and Lemonade cocktail as well as the Summer Escape are from Jessie at Boondocks; the Citrus Spritzer is from UV Citrus vodka company. So, raise your glass to hot days and (hopefully) cooler nights with one of these suggested cocktails.
SUMMER ESCAPE 2 parts UV Citrus vodka 2 parts sour mix 1 splash raspberry liqueur Mix in large glass; add ice.
POMACAI AND LEMONADE 2 ounces pomegranate and acai berry flavored Pomacai Vodka Lemonade In a large glass with ice, mix vodka and lemonade, to your taste.
CITRUS SPRITZER 1 part UV Citrus 3 parts lemon-lime soda Serve over ice in a highball glass. If you’re watching calories and carbs, substitute a diet lemon-lime soda.
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Free or Cheap! local events coming up
Indie rock and reggae upcoming at the Sunset Concert series
If you haven’t done it yet, check out the free concerts in Carbondale. You don’t have to worry if they are right for you; singles, couples, families and a wild child or two attend these very popular outdoor concerts. They’ve got some rules, though: No glass bottles, kegs or pets, and don’t even think about drinking there if you’re underage; alcohol use is allowed in designated areas, but only from 6 p.m. until the end of each show. We’re publishing just in time to catch the last two concerts of the season. Each begins at 7 p.m. and lasts about two hours. July 18: The Kopecky Family Band, Turley Park on Carbondale’s west side, Indie rock, www. kopeckyfamilyband.com. July 25: The Ark Band, Shryock lawn at SIU, reggae, www.thearkband.com
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There’s more to the library than you think
Marion Carnegie Library offers more than books, although we think that’s reason enough to pay them a visit at 206 S. Market St. in Marion. If you’re looking for something to occupy yourself and the kiddos, here’s something fun: On Friday, July 19, from 1 to 3 p.m., check out Family Film Friday, where they’ll be showing “Cirque Du Soleil’s Worlds Away.” It’s free. While you’re there, take a few minutes to discover everything the library offers you and the kids. None of the events cost anything. Regular weekly offerings include Tween Crafts, Lego Club, Teen Crafts and Animé Night, just to name a few. Seriously, the kids will love it, and you will, too, ’cause you just might be able to carve out a little “me time” while the kids are safe, occupied and happy. More at www. marioncarnegielibrary.org/ calendar
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Kick up your heels at Von Jakob’s Countryfest
Get your boots on and head toward Alto Pass to jumpstart your Labor Day weekend. On Aug. 31, Von Jakob Winery & Brewery is planning a day of wine, beer, food and live country music. They’re still booking bands, so a definite price hasn’t been set, but we’re told it will definitely be under $10 for admission to a great day of country music. The winery/ brewery opens at 10 a.m., and music will start in the early afternoon and run until 8 p.m. While you’re there, you can sample the myriad of wines and beers they produce, and food will be available for purchase. If you want to splurge, we think the Seafood Boils they’ve been hosting are well worth the price of $40. Make it a special occasion and chow down on a fourcourse meal that includes lobster tail, shrimp, bay scallops, mussels, fish filets, potatoes and sweet corn. A soup, salad and dessert are also included. The winery, which has been hosting these boils for a few months, says they’ve been really popular, so be sure to get your reservation early. The next event is Aug. 9 and 10; the price could vary slightly, depending on the fresh seafood market. Find them here: 230 Illinois Highway 127, Alto Pass; 618-893-4600 or vonjakobvineyard.com
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