ADVICE GODDESS
LEGAL
by amy alkon Lien Sales CALIFORNIA AUCTION AD
The Camera Sutra
I really like the girl I’m dating, except for one thing. On every date, she asks me to take photos of her for Instagram. Afterward, she consults me repeatedly on which will “get the most likes.” I’m starting to get really annoyed, and I find it cuts into my enjoyment of our time together. She even did this on my birthday! — Irritated Psychologist Erich Fromm wrote, “Mature love says: ‘I need you because I love you.’” He died in 1980, 30-some years before Instagram-infused love: “I need you, love, because my telescoping selfie stick won’t fit in my cute purse.” This girl’s far from alone in turning every occasion short of stints on the toilet into a photo op. Social media (and Instagram especially) transformed fishing for compliments into a business model. #admirationvampires Some young women — especially 20-somethings with a still-murky sense of identity — might feel they don’t exist in any meaningful way if they don’t post pix and videos of themselves to score likes and gain followers. #KeepingUpWithTheInstadashians There’s also the lure of easy money for those who can rack up an audience: potentially making big “influencer” bucks just by showing up to events in some pop-up shop’s dress and striking a bunch of poses they copied off Beyonce. Chances are you went on Tinder or Hinge or whatever in hopes of landing a girlfriend, not unpaid work as a photographer. Saying yes to taking this girl’s pic the first time — before you realized it would be an every-date thing — probably seemed like a one-off request and thus not a big deal. But now you’re annoyed that you’re constantly being pressed into photo slavehood. Even your birthday got co-opted into a #MeMeMeMe #takemypicture celebration of her personal “brand.” The problem is not that she’s asking but that you keep going along with photographing her. There’s a way out of this — and a way to get women to respect you instead of seeing you as a chump they can use and eventually lose — and it’s assertiveness. Social psychologist Daniel Ames and
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his colleagues define assertiveness as “the degree to which someone stands up” for their own needs and interests “when they are faced with someone else who does not want the same outcomes.” Assertiveness allows you to be in charge of your life instead of becoming the tool of anyone who wants to use you: basically living like an insect that gets batted around by a cat. People who default to a passive approach — just doing whatever’s asked of them, no matter how they dread it — often have a deep fear of rejection. They act on the mistaken belief that “the way to be accepted and appreciated by others is to give and give,” explains clinical psychologist Randy Paterson. This isn’t to say you should live like an accountant, calculating to the penny or the calorie whether the give and take between you and another person is exactly 50/50 at all times. What matters is your motivation: giving to a woman because it feels good to make her happy or, say, safer (like if you install burglar-frustrating thingies on her windows). That’s healthy giving — in contrast with emotionally indentured Boy Scout-hood: fulfilling the terms of a contract that exists only in your head, in which you re-sod a woman’s lawn, rotate her tires, and/or become her pro bono “palace photographer” so she won’t kick you to the curb. This “chore-bribe your way to love ’n’ sex” model tends to work about as well as my attempt, as a lonely, picked-on little kid, to geek my way into having friends. In second grade, two girls approached me, worksheets in hand, and said they’d be my friend if I did their math homework during recess. I got to work with my thick No. 2 pencil. Maybe 10 minutes later, I finished — and they immediately succumbed to childhood amnesia. Neither girl even spoke to me again — all the way through the end of 12th grade. The willingness to assert yourself is a reflection of self-respect: the belief that you have value and have a right to be treated as if you and your needs matter. But say your current level of self-respect is on the low side. You can still act like a person with strong self-respect: Explain what you want — in this case, to retire from fashion photography and post-date photo selection. Be prepared. It’s possible she’ll ditch you for expressing the inconvenient need to quit as her Instagram documentarian. But if your needs and feelings are of little interest to her, maybe you can view getting yourself dumped by her not as a tragedy but as a point of pride: the first day of the rest of your living with self-respect. Carpe diem! (By way of carpe scrotum!) (c)2021, Amy Alkon, all rights reserved. Got a problem? Write Amy Alkon, 171 Pier Ave, #280, Santa Monica, CA 90405, or e-mail AdviceAmy@ aol.com. @amyalkon on Twitter. Weekly podcast: blogtalkradio.com/amyalkon Order Amy Alkon’s new book, “Unf*ckology: A Field Guide to Living with Guts and Confidence,” (St. Martin’s Griffin, 2018).
NOTICE OF PUBLIC SALE To satisfy the owner's storage lien, PS Orange Co. Inc. will sell at public lien sale on September 17, 2021, the personal property in the belowlisted units, which may include but are not limited to: household and personal items, office and other equipment. The public sale of these items will begin at 10:00 AM and continue until all units are sold. The lien sale is to be held at the online auction website, www.storagetreasures.com, where indicated. For online lien sales, bids will be accepted until 2 hours after the time of the sale specified. PUBLIC STORAGE # 20627, 4568 E Los Angeles Ave, Simi Valley, CA 93063, (805) 285-7018 Sale to be held at www.storagetreasures.com. B001 - Pringle, Nicholas; C189 - Thrailkill, Jennifer; D059 - Hope, Lynn; D159 Newborn, Terrence PUBLIC STORAGE # 24322, 2167 First Street, Simi Valley, CA 93065, (805) 2857073 Sale to be held at www.storagetreasures.com. C039 - Rodrigues, Dory; E036 - Scutti, Cary; F031 Obcamp, James PUBLIC STORAGE # 26607, 120 West Easy Street, Simi Valley, CA 93065, (805) 2857067 Sale to be held at www.storagetreasures.com. 157 - Haynes, Chris; 201 Schimmel, Michelle; 213 Gale, Victoria; 269 - Constante, Beverly PUBLIC STORAGE # 25753, 875 W Los Angeles Ave, Moorpark, CA 93021, (805) 298-1384 Sale to be held at www.storagetreasures.com. 015 - Virgen, Brenda; 1027 Villa, Tanika; 127 - Chatterton, Steve Public sale terms, rules, and regulations will be made available prior to the sale. All sales are subject to cancellation. We reserve the right to refuse any bid. Payment must be in cash or credit card-no checks. Buyers must secure the units with their own personal locks. To claim tax-exempt status, original RESALE certificates for each space purchased is required. By PS Orangeco, Inc., 701 Western Avenue, Glendale, CA 91201. (818) 244-8080. Bond No. 9/2, 9/9/21 CNS-3505462#
Notice is Hereby Given that the contents of the following storage units and/or vehicle(s)/vessel(s) will be offered for sale by public auction to the highest bidder for enforcement of storage lien. AIRPORT SELF STORAGE 3551 W. 5TH ST. OXNARD, CA 93030 (805) 985-3315 Auction will be held online on storagetreasures.com September 10th, 2021 at 9AM. B039 Dominic A. Gonzales Tool Box, Totes, Boxes H156 Robert Carrier Tools, Recreational Equipment L300 David Terry Musical Instruments, Boxes L493 Rick Cohen Spa Tub, Surfboard L517 Marco Maldonado Car Parts L520 Juan Anaya Mattress, Boxes, Clothes M712 David Stuart Fans M838 Cassandra Willis Fan, Selfie Lamp Airport Self Storage reserves the right to refuse any bid. All sales are subject to prior cancellation. Terms, rules and regulations are available at sale. PUBLISHED: Ventura County Reporter 09/2/21, 09/09/21 ONE FACILITY – MULTIPLE UNITS Extra Space Storage will hold a public auction to sell personal property described below belonging to those individuals listed below at the location indicated: 375 S. Laurel St. Ventura, CA 93001 September 21st 2021 at 10:30 AM Crystal D' Angelo-unit appears to contain boxes,totes,furniture,bags, etc. Dustin Allen-unit appears to have boxes,personal items,art decor,bags,totes, clothing, etc. Frances Lopez-unit appears to contain clothing,suit cases,totes , box es , etc . Sherrie Urner-Unit appears to contain boxes,crates,furniture,home decor,etc. Norma Angulo-Unit appears to contain boxes,totes,china cabinet,home decor, etc. Gianna Cagliano-unit appears to contain boxes old electronics, home decore, etc. The auction will be listed and advertised on www.storagetreasures.com. Purchases must be made with cash only and paid at the above referenced facility in order to complete the transaction. Extra Space Storage may refuse any bid and may rescind any purchase up until the winning bidder takes possession of the personal property. PUBLISHED: Ventura County Reporter 09/02/21, 09/09/21 NOTICE OF PUBLIC SALE To satisfy the owner's storage lien, PS Orange Co. Inc. will sell at public lien sale on September 17, 2021, the personal property in the belowlisted units, which may include but are not limited to: household and personal items, office and other equipment. The public sale of these items will begin at 10:00 AM and continue until all units are sold. The lien sale is to be held at the online auction website, www.storagetreasures.com,
NOTICE OF PUBLIC AUCTION Extra Space Storage will hold a public auction to sell personal property described below belonging to those individuals listed below at the location indicated: 161 Duesenberg Dr, Thousand Oaks, CA 91362 September 21st, 2021 at 3:30 PM Luann Shudo-Household Items The auction will be listed and advertised on www.storagetreasures.com. Purchases must be made with cash only and paid at the above referenced facility in order to complete the transaction. Extra Space Storage may refuse any bid and may rescind any purchase up until the winning bidder takes possession of the personal property.
NOTICE OF PUBLIC AUCTION Notice is hereby given that Golden State Storage intends to sell the personal property described below to enforce a lien imposed on said property pursuant to Lien Sale per California Self Storage Facility Act (B&P Code Section 21700, et seq.). Golden State Storage will sell items at www.Storagetreasures.com sale by competitive bidding ending on September 21, 2021 at 11:00 AM. The said property has been stored and is located at Golden State Storage, 2100 Auto Center Dr., Oxnard, CA 93036. County of Ventura, State of California: Rosita Villalobos- fridge,dollies, furniture, mattress set Robert Brant- 4Ladders, DeWalt saw, tools, coffee table, sports equip. Mario Marale Magallanes- table, mattress, fishing gear, toys Michael Haws(1)- snow skis and poles, luggage, 20+ boxes conts unkn, 4+ pool cue’s, step ladder, faux plants, radio, coolers, tackle box, entertainment unit, tool box Michael Haws(2)- gas BBQ, Sony TV, leather office chair, 2 upholstered chairs, file cabinet, snow skis, various furniture, exercise equip, 15+ boxes conts unk Purchases must be paid at the time of sale with Cash only. All sales are subject to cancellation up to the time of sale. Sale rules and regulations are available at the time of sale. Company reserves the right to refuse any online bids. Dated 9/9/2021 and 9/16/2021 Auction by www.storagetreasures.com Phone: 480-397-6503 PUBLISHED: Ventura County Reporter 9/9/2021 and 9/16/2021 NOTICE OF PUBLIC SALE OF LIENED PROPERTY Notice is hereby given that a closed bid public auction will be held at MARINA SELF STORAGE 2600 W. WOOLEY ROAD OXNARD, CALIFORNIA 93035 on 09/17/21 at 9:45 AM to satisfy the lien on the property stored at the address above in the units listed. Tenants notated the inventories listed at the time of rental. Landlord makes no representation or warranty that the units contain said inventories. B224 Ivan G. Velazquez B242 Sandra I. Borja All units must be paid for at the time of sale. No checks accepted. No one under the age of 18 is allowed to attend the sale. Each person attending must sign in and agree to follow all Rules and Regulations of the sale. The landlord reserves the right to bid at the sale. All purchased goods are sold "as is" and must be removed by 5:00 PM on the day following the sale. Shelving is property of landlord; do not remove unless authorized. Buyers must provide a current, original or a photocopy of their original resale permit at time of sale in lieu of sales tax. This sale is subject to cancellation in the event of settlement between landlord and obligated party. PUBLISHED: Ventura County Reporter 09/02/21, 09/09/21
NOTICE OF LIEN SALE Notice is HEREBY given that the undersigned intends to sell the personal property described below to enforce a lien imposed on said property pursuant to sections 2170021716 of the Business & Professions Code of the CaliforPUBLISHED: Ventura nia Self-Service Storage FaCounty Reporter 09/02/21, cilities Act, Section 2328 of 09/09/21 the UCC, Section 535 of the Penal Code and provisions of September 2021 — The under— 23 the 9, Civil Code. signed will sell at public sale by competitive bidding on the 17th day of September 2021, at 9:00 A.M, on the premises where said property has been stored and which are located at A Vineyard Self Storage at 3500 E. Vineyard Ave. in Oxnard, CA in 9/7/21 the 9/7/21 1:12 3:35 PM PM County of Ventura:
