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www.ThyKingdomCarriers.com Vol 2016 Issue II
Process: The Road We Must All Take
Shamron L. Munroe
Bahamas
Frustration or Kingdom Innovation
Dr. Rick Kendall
Port St. Lucie, Florida
››Understanding Kingdom Currency and Commerce
Dr. Anderick Biddle
ISSN 2164-148X (Print) ISSN 2164-1501 (Online)
Summer/Fall 2016
Texas
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Table of Contents Publisher’s Letter..................................3 Message.................................................4 The Kingship of the Believer.................5 Understanding Kingdom Currency and Commerce.................................7 Kingdom Messengers Italy..................................................8 Bahamas...........................................6 Germany..........................................7 Nigeria..........................................8-9 Kingdom In Motion........................10-11
Connecting and Uniting His Children Worldwide “Neither shall they say, Lo here! or, lo there! for, behold, the kingdom of God is within you.” Luke 17:21 (KJV)
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Editor and Executive Editor Nancy B. Bocalan (Florida/Philippines)
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Contributing Writers Nancy B. Bocalan (Florida/Philippines) Maurizio Tiezzi (Italy) Dr. Kevin Storr (Texas) Israel Ikpeka (Nigeria) Eric Supen (Germany) Dr. Rod Howell (Alabama) G. Alfred Palmer (Washington DC) Shamron Munroe (Bahamas) Anderick Biddle (Texas) Darren Wilson (Netherlands Antiles)
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Publisher’s Letter Let us taste and see that the Lord is indeed good as He Greetings! has brought us almost midway through 2016. He has carried us
this far and will carry us through to victory as we continue to show that we are more than conquerors and overcomers through Christ who is in us. We will press firmly towards the mark that has been set in each one of us as sons of God. We will continue to proclaim His name and glory while displaying perseverance and patience in pursuing the vision and purpose that He has given us. We are valuable to the King, and He will see us through to our completed assignment and demonstrate His power because of the Crown He has already given to us. Go and push until the breakthrough; push until your life causes you to shine as kings, rulers and sons of The Father for all to see that His Kingdom is present! So lay out your vision and run until its manifestation so that this world may know our God.You are blessed and are already given the power for your breakthrough and divine purpose. Love and peace,
Dr. Nancy Bocalan Founder of CKC and IIKMA Publisher of TKC
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Celebrating Four Years. Glory be to God!! View the digital magazine online by visiting www.thykingdomcarriers.com and you can download the file so you can print it for your copy.
The Message
Frustration or Kingdom Innovation Isaiah 43:19
“AND: BEHOLD, I WILL DO A NEW THING; NOW IT SHALL SPRING FORTH; SHALL YOU NOT KNOW IT? I WILL EVEN MAKE A WAY IN THE WILDERNESS, AND RIVERS IN THE DESERT. THERE ARE THREE MAIN ASPECTS OF THIS POWERFUL SCRIPTURE: 1. GOD IS DOING (PROCESSING) A NEW THING IN THE MIDST OF IMPOSSIBLE ODDS. 2. IT SHALL SPRING FORTH (SUDDENLY) 3. MAKING (OR DEVELOPING) AN INNOVATIVE WAY.
We are in a time where a problematic wilderness surrounds us and world systems are spinning wildly out of control causing many to feel as though their backs are up against the wall. The truth is, however, that crisis times are really opportunity for greater INNOVATION. The reason world conflicts are heating up higher is because corrupted systems, false gods, and religious strongholds are reacting to the IMPACT of God’s INNOVATIVE Kingdom manifesting to greater dimensions than ever before. This manifestation is coming through the sons (and daughters) of God. The whole population of this planet appeared to be destined for eternal destruction with no way out until Jesus Christ IMPACTED the world as the innovative WAY to open access to God redeeming us back to our ordained purpose. As ambassadors and citizens of God’s Kingdom, we now are the agents of CHANGE, or literally, A NEW and LIVING WAY (Kingdom INNOVATORS).
no WAY so we could cultivate our LIVES into becoming that WAY manifested wherever we go so that ALL MAY SEE GOD in us. We are in the world but not “of” the world’s systems. Our yoke is NOT with the dictates of a carnal mindset, but we are YOKED to a HIGHER WAY, and an INNOVATIVE Kingdom that governs our LIFE and OPENS DOORS that IMPACTS the world. REMEMBER: Innovation comes through Revelation (God given VISION) bringing Renovations (fiery change) and as we cultivate God’s greater dominion back to earth we bring the fire that results as we cut through corrupted principalities much like how a rocket makes a sonic boom when impacting the physical atmosphere. While God transforms by transition, there’s going to be resistance, retaliation, and resentment from world systems. Isaiah 60:2 makes it clear gross darkness will seek to accelerate its’ intent, but God has a citizenship of INNOVATIVE people who He empowers to (v.1) ARISE and SHINE, in His LIGHT (revelation) that COMES, because His GLORY is RISEN UPON US! Let’s not put God in a box of worn out sub-cultural clichés, or conventional traditions, but lets’ ARISE to new levels of IMPACTING this planet with CHANGE that captures the attention of Nations with influence as those who are SOUGHT OUT because we possess the ANSWER. Sure this INNOVATIVE RENOVATION will bring some persecution, and most of that will come from religious strongholds and false gods that know their time is short, but God will increase strength and anointing to His people with greater favor and influence than ever before as His KINGDOM is being restored and His presence is HERE! Is your back up against a wall in what seems to be a frustrating crisis? The TRUTH is it’s your DAY of breakthrough to a NEW level of innovative ideas and progressive change that will deliver you out of the situations and launch you into God’s HIGHWAY of prophetic destiny and purpose. In that tight place look for the DOOR, because He’s there with a new season where the BEST is yet to COME! ✽
The definition of a “way” is an ”opening”, but it is much more than just a “loophole”; to get out of a tight spot. A “way”; is further defined as a process, a course, a cultivation, and a pattern for progress. Jesus said of Himself; I Am the WAY, (that processes) the TRUTH, and (governs to progress) OUR LIFE. God MADE a WAY where there seemed to be Dr. Rick Kendall Global Embassy Network Florida www.rickkendall.org www.globalembassynetwork.com
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Kingship The
Kingship of the Believer Revelation 5:10 (KJV)
“AND HAST MADE US UNTO OUR GOD KINGS AND PRIESTS: AND WE SHALL REIGN ON THE EARTH. ” When we read the Bible, it is imperative that we do not superimpose our beliefs onto the Bible to make it say something that it doesn’t. The Bible is about a King, His Kingdom, and His Kingdom expansion program. As such, kingship is a very important concept in the Bible because that is who we, the assembly of ones called, are called to be: a global community of kings and priests who reign in this life on the earth because only kings can have a reign. This then naturally begs the question: where did we get our kingship from?
Genesis 1:26(KJV) And God said, Let us make man in our image, after our likeness: and let them have dominion over the fish of the sea, and over the fowl of the air, and over the cattle, and over all the earth, and over every creeping thing that creepeth upon the earth. Our kingship came from God, who is the King of kings, because we are made in His image and likeness. A detailed study of the words “image” and “likeness” in this passage reveals who we are and what we were created to be. That means that we were designed to be like, act like, and function like God, the Ruler of the invisible Kingdom. We were created to be a reflection of God Himself! God made you to act like Him and rule on His behalf on earth just like He acts and rules in heaven! That is who you are! You are of a God-nature and Kingly dynasty; but we have been conditioned and taught through false teachings of religion to apologize for being who we were created to be. That is called false humility. We must come to the place as believers where we are unapologetic for being what we are; we are kings in the earth! Whenever the phrase “you are a king” is mentioned, many people reject it because the first thing that comes to mind is usually images of medieval monarchs who lived in castles with servants and riches galore. It is important to realize here that being a king is not so much a position
as it is a disposition. This is critical to understanding our kingship because many of us misunderstand our divine identity and therefore misrepresent our royalty. We have no clue about who we really are and therefore act sub-standard to how we are supposed to act. Kings don’t have an identity crisis. They know who they are and act like they know who they are. The following list is a small summary of the disposition of kings:
KINGS ARE DOMINANT – they take control of situations. They don’t wait for someone to lead them, they lead themselves and eventually others follow them.
KINGS ARE DECISIVE – they make decisions before decisions make them.
KINGS ARE DRIVEN – they don't need anyone or anything to motivate them, they motivate others.
KINGS ARE DECENT – kings always dress and look the part. King’s are never dressed inappropriately or look untidy at anytime.
KINGS ARE DELIBERATE – Everything they do, everywhere
they go, and everyone they associate with is done strategically and on purpose with a specific outcome in mind. Kings don’t operate haphazardly. We have been made kings for a purpose, not for prestige. We are not kings because there was a lack of kings and were just needed to fill a space. It is not enough to just say: “I am a king,” you got to put in the work as well and do what kings do! Doesn’t matter how old you are, we are all called to be kings of our respective kingdoms at this particular time in our generation. The time has come for the kings of the earth to take their stand! Will you step to the challenge of being a king or will you run from it and miss your chance to leave a kingly legacy for your family, friends, and followers to emulate? Will you step into and fulfill your role as a king in the earth for such a time as this or will you remain completely silent and die unnoticed? Will you leave a mark in the world that cannot be erased or will the only way people know you existed is when they see your name in the obituary section of the newspaper? The choice is yours. ✽
Darren Wilson Saint Martin
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Kingdom Treasure Understanding Kingdom Currency and Commerce Like most other nations on Earth, the Kingdom of God has its
own system of business and commerce and therefore its own currency. Currency is defined as a medium of exchange (or money) which is used during business transactions. It is currency which exchanges hands between individuals when goods or services are purchased or acquired. When a person goes into a grocery store and fills their cart with various goods, they are required to hand the cashier an amount of currency which is equivalent in value to the goods in their grocery cart. Of course it is also important to make sure that one has the necessary amount of currency in their account to complete the purchase. If your account has insufficient funds, your transaction will be declined and you will be without the goods or services you desire. The same holds true of the Kingdom of God. Often times in prayer people make requests for heavenly goods and services for which they do not have adequate funds to acquire. Often they don’t understand the commerce of the Kingdom and become upset with God, because He didn’t answer their prayer. This is almost the same as being upset with a store manager because you lacked the funds to complete a transaction. It is not the store manager’s fault and neither is God to blame, when our prayers our declined. Regarding prayer, which is a way of engaging in business and commerce with Heaven, there are some who teach that when a prayer is unanswered, to just pray more. Now just think for a minute… How would that approach work at Walmart? If your funds were not adequate enough to make a purchase, would swiping your card one hundred times more all of a sudden make it work? The answer is not to pray more, the answer is to increase the amount of currency you have in your account. In the United States the currency used in business and commerce is the dollar and in Russia the currency of choice is the Ruble. So what is the currency of the Kingdom of God and how does one acquire the legal tender of Heaven? Thankfully, the answer is found in the following Scripture:
“…THE EFFECTIVE, FERVENT PRAYER OF A RIGHTEOUS MAN AVAILS MUCH. ” James 5:16
The message being conveyed in this Scripture is that the earnest prayer of a righteous man is both effective and productive. It is the one with righteousness which allows interactions in Kingdom commerce to be fruitful. Here is another Scripture which indicates a direct correlation between righteousness and answered prayer.
“THE LORD IS FAR FROM THE WICKED, BUT HE HEARS THE PRAYERS OF THE RIGHTEOUS. ” Proverbs 15:29 From these Scriptures and others we can conclude that it is righteousness, which is the legal tender of the Kingdom and must be used when engaging in all Kingdom business and commerce. So the next question is what is righteousness and how does one add this currency to their Kingdom account? The Hebrew word translated as righteousness is the word tzedakah and it refers to one’s generosity or charitable deeds. In New Testament this word is often translated as almsgiving. With that in mind take a look at the following Scriptures to see the direct connection between righteousness (or charitable deeds) and gaining the currency of the Kingdom. “Take heed that you do not do your charitable deeds before men, to be seen by them, otherwise Interestingly, in the Hebrew/Aramaic translation of the New Testament, the word translated here as reward is “sakar” and it means wages. This implies that it is our acts of righteousness or charitable deeds towards others, which God measures to determine His response to our prayers. So when you ask God to forgive you, He first looks to see if you have forgiven. When you ask for mercy, He looks to see if you have shown mercy. When you ask for a healing, He looks to see if you have visited the sick. And when you ask Him to bless the work of your hands, He looks to see who you have aided in their work. So I challenge you to seek opportunities to do more righteousness (charitable deeds) and watch your interactions in Kingdom commerce improve. ✽
Anderick Biddle is Author and Teacher Texas
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Kingdom Impact We are indeed living in a very difficult hour
and more than ever we need God to impact our daily life. I believe that God is calling us to go back to His presence and His anointing to let His power destroy the works of the devil. Through us. Very often, we know what is afflicting us or the others, and we know the way out. Yet, it seems that we lack the power. Thank God, we are able to talk and explain, to love and care, even to lead a life according to a superior culture. Yet, sometimes we do not see coming from us the power that makes things happen. In thinking about these things, I decided to read over again the life of Jesus to see what He was doing. I wanted to see what were the problems of people that met Him, what He did to solve them and what people knew Him for. I realized that from morning to evening, Jesus was preaching the kingdom of God, expelling demons out of individuals and healing sicknesses and diseases, which afflicted so many. At night, He would often pray. He acted out of love, fully aware of what He was doing. He trusted completely in the Holy Spirit, His power and gifts needed to make things happen. And they happened. The prophet Isaiah wrote that the Spirit of God would have rested upon the Messiah, anointed and sent Him to announce Good News to the needy, to bind up the brokenhearted, to proclaim freedom for the captives and release from darkness for the prisoners, to proclaim the year of God’s favor. Moreover, he also wrote that the Messiah would open the eyes of the blind and the ears of the deaf. The lame would walk, the lepers be cleansed, the dead risen. In Jesus, the prophecies of Isaiah were fulfilled. His distinctive sign was His supernatural power that cast out evil spirits and restored shalom to people. The crowds were coming to Him to hear Him, to be healed of their diseases and delivered from evil spirits. He was the answer of God to any person’s need. Jesus’ power was so real that when people would touch Him, as by an osmotic process, the very same power of God would impact them. As in the case of a sick woman who, filled with trust, touched him in the midst of a large crowd and was instantly healed, Jesus himself said, “SOMEONE TOUCHED ME; I KNOW THAT POWER HAS GONE OUT OF ME!”.
Jesus is reported to have driven out demons intentionally and knowing to have the power to do so. Jesus himself revealed what was going on when He said, “If it is by the Spirit of God that I drive out If it is by the Spirit of God demons, then the kingdom that I drive out demons, then of God has come upon you”. He has brought us back the kingdom of God has the kingdom enabling us to come upon you receive the Holy Spirit and His power over the enemy and his works.
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This power is available to all who faithfully trust Him. We can do the same things that He did, even greater. I strongly feel that especially in this difficult times, one of the greatest dangers for the ones who fear God, faithfully trust Jesus, and are filled with the Holy Spirit is to bury His power and ignore His gifts. In the past years, I have heard many things being preached about the kingdom of God, often presented as a set of principles to succeed in our personal life. I have done that myself too. This message undoubtedly conveys important cultural and philosophical guiding lines, which can help us to change our mind and behavior. However, it somehow may also have the side effect of freezing the power of God in us, and even making us focus mainly on our personal environment and achievements. Yet, this is not what Jesus did nor lived for. The kingdom of God is not a matter of talk. It is a matter of power. Guided by the Holy Spirit, we can now live a holy life, and while bringing the message of God’s kingdom, in the name of Jesus we can drive out demons, heal the sick and restore the broken hearted. He is alive! Let us go back to the reality of the kingdom of God and impact this planet, just as Jesus did in His time. He wants to continue His mission on earth through us as we are now His body and His Spirit dwells in us! ✽
Author Maurizio Tiezzie of Siena, Italy has released his first book in his country and language. Stay tuned for the English Version that is coming to the United States soon!
The power that Jesus had was never seen before. The Bible speaks about healings and all sorts of other miraculous signs. However, nobody before Maurizio Tiezzi Italy maurizio@cantonuovo.org
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Kingdom Messengers Bahamas
The road we MUST all travel It is always a challenge to be enroute to a desired destination only to encounter
numerous obstacles along the way. You may begin to wonder, “What did I do to deserve this and where is this all coming from?” Rest assured by knowing that everyone travelling on the road called life, will experience obstacles. However, don’t be discouraged because what you are going through is your Process to Improvement. I was brought up in a sinlge mother home and my childhood was filled with poverty, low selfesteem and thoughts of suicide. I was never given the necessary tools to make life easier, and was constantly told that I would never amount to anything. Furthermore, to add to the obstactles I faced as a child, I was never knew the identity of my biological father. Despite going through numerous obstacles as a child, I realized that what I was going through was my Process to Improvement. Every day we all go through a form of process. For instance, at the workplace while processing documents, or in our thoughts (ideas), all of it is a process, even getting up is a process!
Every process has with it a level of improvement and this is the focal point - Improvement. Improvement is the result we are looking for. We are all looking to be improved; however, if we are going to be improved, we have to go through a process. Know that you are a pro at your journey to being successful.
PRO PRINCIPLES
Know that you were born a pro. It’s who you are! You’re genetic code was derived from a PRO-line.
Know that you are a pro and this will improve your thought life which will then in turn improve your overall life.
Know that every time you set out to achieve a goal you must upgrade yourself because pros serve the best of themselves. Every successful person improves themself on the basis of knowing they are a pro; however, simply being born a pro does not guarantee your success. Pros must go through the process and during the process pros undergo the necessary training, development and even encounter obstacles that allow them to be improved (a level of success). Obstacles do not take pros by surprise because, pros know that obstacles are expected in life’s journey to success. However, with due dilligence and by consistenly improving themselves pros know they will achieve inevitable success. After all pros are apart of a PRO-line! When speaking to audiences across The Bahama Islands or within the United States, I am often asked how I was able to overcome the many obstacles I faced as a child. I would respond by saying that when I changed how I viewed my situation my change began. If I always saw my temporary state of poverty and pain as my permanent state of being I would have never been able to overcome and push through the struggle. If my mind was always focused on having to batheoutside, having to use an outdoor toilet or even having to use what we commonly call in The Bahamas “the bush” I would have never been able to overcome. Yes, having to face those situations as a child caused countless tears and sleepless nights; especially, when I saw my friends live their lives happy and
Shamron L. Munroe www.facebook.com/shamronmusgrove shamrockmusgrove@hotmail.com
care free. However, my temporary circumstances did not rob me of my ability to dream and that’s what I did - I dreamt! On the beautiful island of Exuma, Bahamas I began to dream of what it would be like to have my life totally transformed. As I started to dream I began to believe that my dreams would become a reality one day. I was priviliged to meet a family with an eagle’s mindset who gave me the opportunity to visit them in South Carolina, USA. By spending quality time with that family I also developed an eagles mindset. It was at the age of sixteen (16) when I began to see things differently; this in my opinion was the Purpose of My Process. Every possible being with the power to do possible things was created with a purpose. It is possible not to know the purpose of something, but once you have discovered the purpose, which is the “why”, in time you will discover “the how, the where, the when, and the thereafter”. The purpose of the process is intended to reveal the PRO in you and the pro in you needs an engenius plan to follow. Many are the plans in a mans heart but it is the purpose of The One who created the man that takes precedence. This biblical statement clearly states that it is The Creator’s pupose and plan for your life that comes first. Once we walk in congruence with the Creator’s purpose, things will work in our favor and we will reflect PRO image.
The Purpose of The Creator is for us to reflect PRO image Process needs purpose to explain why we go through. By facing and then later overcoming numerous obstacles as a child, I can now say with confidence that I did not make me the pro I am today. I chose to align my entire life with the plans of The One who created me. My desire was as follows: What do You want me to do? Where do You want me to go? Who do you want me to be? When do you need me? The Creator’s response was as follows: I want you to inspire people. I want you to go to the un-inspired. I want you to be an inspiration. I need you NOW. His plan is now my journey! ✽
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The Focused-Driven Life
Jesus-the anointed Messiah, will always be the true example, of what a KINGDOM-driven, a PURPOSE-driven and a FOCUSEDdriven life really looks like. He did not only run His race, but FOCUSED on finishing well; and He did finish well. His mission included reintroducing us to the Kingdom of God, shaping our mentality to realign to kingdom mentality and empowering us to live a lifestyle that is kingdom oriented. Some declarations Jesus made about how a FOCUSED-DRIVEN LIFE could look like included: “My food is to do the will of my Father and to finish well. (John 4:24) For the Son of Man came to seek and to save the lost.” (Luke 19:10) In his letter to Timothy, Paul writes,“have fought the good fight, I have finished the race, I have kept the faith. (see 2 Tim. 4:7) Mastering the art of FOCUS, is an important skill we are to acquire, to FINISH our race as winners, to DEFEAT our enemy/enemies, to live an UNCOMPROMISING and AUTHENTIC lifestyle as citizens of God’s kingdom, and to become SUCCESSFUL in finishing every task or kingdom assignment with EXCELLENCE.
DO YOU SEE WHAT THIS MEANS—ALL THESE PIONEERS WHO BLAZED THE WAY, ALL THESE VETERANS CHEERING US ON? IT MEANS WE’D BETTER GET ON WITH IT. STRIP DOWN, START RUNNING—AND NEVER QUIT! NO EXTRA SPIRITUAL FAT, NO PARASITIC SINS. KEEP YOUR EYES ON JESUS, WHO BOTH BEGAN AND FINISHED THIS RACE WE’RE IN. STUDY HOW HE DID IT. BECAUSE HE NEVER LOST SIGHT OF WHERE HE WAS HEADED—THAT EXHILARATING FINISH IN AND WITH GOD—HE COULD PUT UP WITH ANYTHING ALONG THE WAY: CROSS, SHAME, WHATEVER. AND NOW HE’S THERE, IN THE PLACE OF HONOR, RIGHT ALONGSIDE GOD. WHEN YOU FIND YOURSELVES FLAGGING IN YOUR FAITH, GO OVER THAT STORY AGAIN, ITEM BY ITEM, THAT LONG LITANY OF HOSTILITY HE PLOWED THROUGH. THAT WILL SHOOT ADRENALINE INTO YOUR SOULS! (EMPHASIS MINE, THE MESSAGE)
Hebrews 12:1-3 encourages us, and recommends strategies that will empower us to live a FOCUSED-DRIVEN LIFE:
The TESTIMONY of the heroes of faith, spurs us on to finish our race well.
We are to STRIP OFF every unnecessary weight and the sin that HINDERS us from running our race effectively.
We are to run with ENDURANCE and ACTIVE PERSISTENCE the race set before us.
We are to LOOK AWAY from all that will DISTRACT us, and FOCUS our eyes on JESUS, who both BEGAN and FINISHED this race we’re in. As a leader; a pastor, a political leader, a CEO of a company etc., you will lead well; FOCUS. As parents; a husband and a wife, or a single dad or mum, you will parent well: FOCUS. As a business man or an entrepreneur, you will succeed: FOCUS. As an engineer, or a doctor, or an architect or a scientist, you will bless the world with innovative solutions: FOCUS. As an educator, you will empower people with the right knowledge: FOCUS. Run your personal or corporate race focusing on Jesus the author and finisher of your faith; He is interceding for you, He is with you all the way and He is the most ardent supporter you have. ✽
Hebrews 12:1-3 Eric N. Supen Author and speaker, Nigeria and Germany esupen@googlemail.com http://esupen.wix.com/kingdom-lifestlye
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Communication in Marriage BUT SPEAKING THE TRUTH IN LOVE, MAY GROW UP INTO HIM IN ALL THINGS Eph 4:15
Communication in Marriage It is important for you to know that “Communication is Two Way Traffic” the teacher teaches and the students hear what the teacher says. The husband talks to his wife and the wife hears her husband. The wife talks to her husband and the man hears what his wife is saying to him. The point is not whether you heard what the other person is saying to you but, did you understand what he/she said? That is the point that I want to address in this book, to help you to understand what your spouse is saying and to help your spouse and you to say what you mean and mean what you say. In one of my projects in the bible college was; “Communication Breakdown” and communication breakdown can be very disastrous in any marriage relationship. Communication breakdown, or bad communication between couples, is capable of tearing apart wonderful marriages. Nobody is born a natural communicator. Like riding a bike or hitting a baseball, communication in marriage is a skill you can learn, and good communication is the key to improving your relationship. Communication
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in relationships is like a river. When thoughts and feelings flow smoothly between marriage partners it is fun, feels good, and helps support everyone around. However, when communication flow is turbulent, it’s
potentially dangerous and destructive, or when communication gets blocked, pressure builds up. Consequently, when words begin flowing again, they tend to come out suddenly like a damaging raging flood.
We were blissfully in love and thrilled to be on our honeymoon, then came day five - we had our first argument. That put us on a slippery slope moving swiftly toward desperation. Within the first nine months of our marriage, Gina and I were both convinced that we not only married Gloria’s parents fought every night until they the wrong person, but also were condemned to got divorced; this occurred when she was in a loveless marriage. secondary school; prior to this it seemed like they hardly talked at all. In communication One very tangible side effect of our difficulties breakdown experience, you may be “Saying was poor communication. I would ask, “What’s What You Do Not Mean” or “You May Be Meaning What You Did Not Say” those can be for dinner?” She would hear, “I can’t believe you very disastrous in any given marriage situation haven’t prepared dinner again tonight!” and as usual, the devil will want to take advantage of the breakdown to steal, kill and to She would ask, “What time are you coming destroy your great and blissful marriage. home?” I would hear, “You better get here and help me because you’re never here.” As I began to write this book, I found a good example of Communication Breakdown that We could not express anything we wanted, so we almost destroyed the wonderful marriage of resorted to hurting each other with our words. Rob and Gina Flood and I had to include it We did not build each other we tore each other here for your benefit. Great communication in down and caused deep, emotional pain. Quite marriage is a skill that you can learn so let us honestly, we had endured so much hurt that we learn from Rob and Gina Flood. could not see any hope for ever communicating well. Our despair was overwhelming. If you are experiencing communication breakdown in your marriage, I hope that the In counseling we began learning about story of Rob and Gina Flood will help to heal intentional communication. I remember your situation. Remember this one truth, “You thinking, “That is the stupidest thing I’ve ever are not alone” but there is hope, okay? heard. This stuff is so simple I can’t believe I’m paying this guy for this.” But, once I got off of my high horse, I realized something very simple Now read the story of yet profound: If communication was really that Rob and Gina; simple, everyone would be doing it and all of our communication would glorify God and Early in our marriage, these simple principles reflect His image (1 Peter 4:11; Ephesians changed our hearts and transformed our 4:29). Glorifying God did not describe my relationship. By Rob Flood communication, and it may not describe yours July - September ✻ 2016 -THY KINGDOM CARRIERS
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Kingdom Messengers either. In fact, many of us struggle to communicate well, even with those we love the most: our siblings, our parents, our children, our spouse. The road I took to learn about communication was a tough one. Here are some of the tools that helped transform my marriage and change my heart.
1. The Principle of First Response The course of a conflict is not determined by the person who initiates, but by the person who responds.
2. The Principle of Physical Touch It is difficult to sin against someone while you are tenderly touching him or her.
3. The Principle of Proper Timing The success of a conversation can be maximized if the timing of the conversation is carefully chosen.
4. The Principle of Mirroring: Understanding can be enhanced if we measure it often throughout a conversation.
5. The Principle of Prayer: Success in communication is more likely when we invite God to be an active participant and guide. Your relationship with your spouse may differ from ours, but this much is true: Your spouse should be the single most important person you have in your life. Like it or not, communication is the tool that God has given us to knit our hearts and our minds together. Success is possible if we’re willing to apply some intentional principles. We’ve all been called to Godhonoring communication. Step forward in humility and faith and watch Him transform you. In a great relationship couples talk freely, openly, and feel safe sharing their most private thoughts. They comfortably and considerately verbalize their concerns and feelings when difficulties arise and voice their positive thoughts when things are good. Both partners talk tactfully, staying far from attacking, hurtful or controlling comments. They listen attentively, trying to understand what their partner says with sympathy rather than looking for what’s wrong in what their partner has to say or dismissing what they hear, even if they have a different perspective. And after talking, both people in the marriage feel good about the conversation, and feel like their concerns have been considered and addressed. ✽
Bishop Dr. Israel Ikpeka
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Marriage Seminar in Nigeria Lead by Dr. Israel Ikpeka February 2016
Kingdom in Motion CKC event was a success at Kingdom Embassy of Boiling Springs hosted by Pastor Tim and Talisa Copeland
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CKC (Carolina Kingdom Coalition) CONTINUES TO INFLUENCE THE WORLD THROUGH DEMONSTRATION OF UNITY IN ONE ACCORD OF LOVE, JOY, PEACE AND RIGHTEOUSNESS BY GOING GLOBAL SOON! We are here to help your ministry to advance the kingdom in the community as a resource group in whatever your vision needs to come to pass because we are One in the Body of Christ! How may we help you? Contact: Ikma16@yahoo.com
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