Sex
WHAT MY TIME AT TRINITY HAS TAUGHT ME ABOUT
LOVE
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ales of tribulation and triumph and words of wisdom straight from the mouth of a fourth year.
College is many things. It’s a wonderful place full of new and exciting experiences with so many opportunities to learn things about yourself that you may never previously have known. It gives so much and takes so much away that by the end of the years, I have now found myself asking; ‘What did I learn?’ - aside from the content of my degree, of course.
1st year First year was a rollercoaster. From the start until the finish it was full of new faces, names and places that easily becomes a blur where you can’t remember anything. What I learned about love and relationships from this year was simple: do not expect what you see in films and television. There were no meet-cutes and no spontaneous meeting of the love of my life. In reality, many of the people I dated in first year taught me that dating can really be a tribulation. The first tinder date I went on whilst at Trinity resulted in me waiting outside a pub for an hour to meet someone who was clearly not interested once they eventually showed up. Worse still, I did not seem to grasp this disinterest until quite soon after the date had ended when I asked to meet up again and was subsequently told that the person was busy for the whole next month. I’m not blaming them for being uninterested of course - it just would have served me to be a little more perceptive. My love life fared no better for the rest of the year, with many unrequited crushes occupying my mind from January through to May. It was this year that I learnt that liking people was not like it was in secondary school, where you can get thrown into situations set up by friends. See I had never put in the actual work before - I had ended up in relationships through the expertise of my friends and many relationships that I had at this time were a result of other people’s toil.and meeting and getting to know new people in college was actually pretty difficult.
WORDS BY CHLOÉ MANT
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