Step-By-Step Guide to Attracting Your Dream Girl… If You’re Underachieving with Women, This Is All YOU’LL Need… Or If You Are Experienced, You Can Use This To Attract An Abundance Of Beautiful Women, GUARANTEED! So, I posted an article about picking up women to a forum the other day and it blew up and I got a ton of feedback. There was a lot of questions, but most of the questions were about how to attract the girl of your dreams. All those questions led me to the decision that I should put together a detailed step-by-step guide on how to attract your dream girl. If you read this post carefully and apply it, you will literally have a fool-proof action plan that can lead you straight to your dream girl, or if you want to use the info to attract an abundance of beautiful women in your life you can do that too. To be honest with you, I should probably put this in an ebook or video format, and sell it, but I strongly believe that the more you give the more you will get, so I’m just
going to put this out there and save you the headache of trying to figure this out on your own. Another reason I decided to give this away for free is because I used to be terrible with women, and I know if I would have stumbled across a step-by-step guide to attracting beautiful women for free, I would have been so grateful for it because it would’ve saved me years of emotional and mental pain. So, what I’m about to share with you has helped me overcome my days of underachieving with women and allowed me to develop the confidence and “game” to attract beautiful women in my life at will. I’ve pretty much experimented with almost every technique you can think of. I’ve tried being the tough guy, I tried being the funny guy, I tried being the cool guy, and the list goes on and on. However, I’ve come up with a step-by-step system that anyone can use to go from zero to hero when it comes to attracting women.
Now, I’m not going to take all the credit for what I’ve learned. I’ve studied a lot of pickup “gurus” and I’ve learned a lot from the people in my life including my family and friends. Some of the people I learned from are extremely successful with women, but I also learned “what not to do” from those around me who suck with women. It’s possible to attract beautiful women in your life no matter who you are. I’ve seen some shit that I never thought was possible. I’ve seen guys break the rules of what you would think would matter when attracting women, but I learned why they are able to break those rules and most guys can’t. Attracting the woman of your dreams is certainly possible if you stick to the plan I’m going to give you, and don’t try to change it up. Once you start to get results and develop the confidence from knowing that you can attract women at will, then you can make changes and create your own unique system. Here are the 5 super important things I’m going to cover in this post:
1. What you need to do before you approach any woman 2. The roles and traits you will need to attract women 3. The step-by-step process for approaching a woman and closing her 4. How to keep a woman in your life 5. How to create a Rockstar lifestyle with an abundance of women ========================================= I. What you need to do before you approach any woman ========================================= This is an interesting topic because some people say you just need to get out there and do a ton of cold approaches, while others say you should create a social circle where you will be able to meet women who know who you are and will be more comfortable with your advances. My advice is to combine the two. Build a social circle by pouring yourself into your hobbies and the things you love. Then combine that with doing cold approach in the day and at night. You can approach women at malls, grocery stores, clubs, and bars. When it comes to building your social circle, you can do this by finding meetups and events relevant to your hobbies and passions. When you go to these meetups make it a priority to be engaging and friendly. Pour
yourself into your hobbies and passions and you will attract people who have the same hobbies and passions. By living life passionately and doing the things you love, you will be much more effective when you cold approach women. Your interactions with women will go a lot better because you will have a “life� to talk about. You will have stories and jokes to tell. You will be able to connect with women based on your own experiences instead of just trying to agree with everything a woman says and fake common interests. So, before you start approaching women, decide to live life passionately. Do what you love to do, and be proactive in any activities you partake in. If you actively pursue your passions and get around like-minded people consistently, you will start to build your own social circle which will make your ========================================= II. The roles and traits you will need to attract women ========================================= When it comes to attracting women, you must be able to tap into different roles at different times within an interaction.
You can’t just be the friendly guy, or just the cool guy, or the seductive guy. You need to be able to play all 3 roles. You must be able to be friendly and animated to get a woman’s attention in the beginning, then once she starts to engage in the conversation you can focus more on creating a connection with her by letting her talk and really listening to what she has to say. Lastly, you need to be able to tap into the seductive role where you will start to reveal your sexual intentions. When you’re in the seductive role, you need to speak slower, hold solid eye contact, and use touch to let the woman know that you’re into her sexually. In addition to taking on multiple roles, you need to have the right mindset and display the right traits if you want to attract women. You need to believe that you’re a strong confident man that deserves attractive women. If you have no references to back this up then it will be tough to tap into this mentality, but you can watch people who embody this trait and act as if you were that person.
Another trait you will need to tap into is leadership, and decisiveness. You must be willing to lead a woman through an interaction and you must be able to make decisions without doubting yourself. When you’re talking to a woman, you must decide when to change subjects, when to linger on a subject, and when to bring out the roles necessary to have a powerful interaction with a woman. If you’re always second-guessing yourself and afraid to make a mistake, women will sense this and will lose attraction for you rapidly. I used to watch movies and watch infields of people who I felt were strong confident men, who believed that they deserved women. I would copy their mannerisms and vocal tone, and eventually I was able to take what I learned add my own style to it. This is exactly what you need to do. Social intelligence is the 3rd trait you will need to attract the woman of your dreams. You need to understand social dynamics, and you need to be able to calibrate your behavior to each social situation. There is a time for everything, and this certainly true when it comes to socializing. There is a time when you need to be expressive and engaging, and then there is a time when you need to be cool and laid back.
Women are attracted to men who have social intelligence because they know that they can bring a man like that anywhere and he will be able to adapt to the environment and she won’t be embarrassed by his behavior. Coolness under pressure happens to be another trait women find sexy. Think James Bond or Frank Lucas in American Gangster. Those characters are as cold as ice in situations where most people would be peeing their pants. In the night-life scene, you will see that the bouncers and bartenders are cool under pressure as well. The reason why bouncers and bartenders are cool under pressure is because they’re comfortable in their environment. So, essentially you need to be comfortable in both low and high pressure social situations and the only way you can develop that comfort is through exposure. You need expose yourself to a variety of social situations all the time, so you can get used to it. If you put yourself in social situations consistently, it will soon become normal and you will be able to navigate social situations with ease.
By taking the advice I gave about building your social circle and combining this with cold approaching women, you will become comfortable in many social situations, which will increase your overall attractiveness to women. ========================================= III. The step-by-step process for approaching a woman and closing her ========================================= So, now you know what do before you start approaching women and you know different roles and traits you will need to attract women. The next step is to know the actual step-by-step process for approaching a woman and then closing her. This is the exact process that I follow, and I teach this process to my clients in my coaching programs, but I’m going to break it down for you below so you can start attracting more women now. This is a very basic ‘call flow’ that I follow... I spend a day going over this in my workshops, but this short guide below should do the trick, and help you close more clients now.
***STEP 1: Open – So, when you see a woman you find attractive, you will need to open her and start a conversation. However, before you even open your mouth you need to set the frame. The frame is that you’re a cool and valuable guy and you’re approaching her to see if she is a cool girl who could possibly be a part of your life. You are the prize and you’re basically screening her to see if she will be a good fit for your life. You can communicate that you’re a prize through your body language and the way you approach her. In order to communicate that you’re a prize and valuable man you need to approach her within 3 seconds of seeing her. If you wait a long time and think about the best way to approach her you will start to doubt yourself and if you end up approaching her you will subconsciously put off signals that you’re “low-value” and you’re not confident. So, approach the woman within 3 seconds of seeing her and then you will have to deliver your “opener”. An opener is basically the first thing you say to a woman to get her attention. I usually say “Hey” or “Excuse me”, and then I follow it up with “I think you’re attractive and I wanted to say Hi”. That is a direct opener that lets the
woman know that I’m talking to her primarily because I find her physically attractive and I want to get to know her. In some cases I will go indirect and ask for directions to a nearby store, and then if she has a positive vibe I will switch the topic and talk about what she is wearing or her accent. So, if I go indirect, I don’t stay indirect. I slowly get more direct as the conversation goes on. ***STEP 2: Rapport & Connection – Once you’ve opened your next step is to create comfort, rapport, and build a connection with the woman. In other words, you need to get to know the woman while letting her get to know you. Most women are tired of boring conversations with boring men, so don’t make the mistakes most guys make. Don’t go into interview mode where you start asking her a series of questions. When you ask a question, make an effort to connect on her response.
So for example, if you ask her what she does and she says she is a college student at a university, you could then make a comment about college. You could say that you attended college for a few years and what your experience was like. Or you could say you never attended college, and you’re curious what it’s like. The mistake most men make is they will ask a question like, “what do you do?” and instead of connecting on the answer the woman gives, they move right on to a completely different question like “where are you from?” Another thing you can do instead of asking a series of questions, is make assumptions about her. You could say, “You look like you’re from Brazil?” or “You look like a spicy food kind of girl?”. Sometimes I will make a silly assumption and then when she asks me how I came up with the assumption I will give her a ridiculous reason, and women will typically laugh because she will see that you’re just a care-free guy who doesn’t take himself or the conversation too seriously. ***STEP 3: Instant Date + Deeper Connection – Get to know the woman on a deeper level by inviting her to an instant date where you can talk more.
In the middle of the conversation you can say, hey I’m heading to starbucks let’s grab some coffee and put your hand out as if you’re signaling for her to hold it and then start walking in that direction. Assume that she is going to say yes and just lead. If she says no, you can respond by saying, “don’t worry it’s only going to be a quick 10 minutes and then I have to go to a (insert place you need to go here)”. If she still doesn’t want to go then go for the number close. If she says “yes”, take her to the insta-date location and ask her about her passions, and goals in life and connect on those points. Find out about her childhood and dig deep. Share stories about yourself and be vulnerable. Reveal some of your struggles and challenges that you overcame in life and ask her about her challenges and obstacles she had to overcome. When she asks you questions, make sure to answer with passion and enthusiasm. For example, if she asks you “what do you do?”, describe what you do with the emotions you feel from doing it. If you have a job that you’re doing temporarily but you have bigger plans then let her know and speak about it with enthusiasm. Or if
you’re working at your dream job then express how amazing it is and why you love it. The primary goal is to build a strong connection with her so once you end the instadate the chances of her wanting to see you again will be high. *** STEP 4: The Seduction - The purpose of this step is to create sexual tension to solidify the close. If you followed the previous steps then the woman you’re interacting will feel comfortable with you and even feel like she knows, likes, and trusts you. However, this does not mean that she is sold on the idea of you being a sexual interest. So, if you want to create sexual tension, you will need to kino-escalate or in other words introduce touch to the interaction. When a woman likes the person she is talking to, she won’t mind being touched. To take it a step further, if you want a woman to know that you’re interested in her sexually, kino-escalation is the most powerful way to let her know. She will either accept your kino or she won’t. A woman’s response to your kino is a great way to gauge
where you are in the interaction. If she won’t let you touch her then you haven’t built enough comfort, but if she does let you touch her then you can continue to kino escalate. Some excuses to touch her include, shaking her hand and holding it a few seconds longer, giving her high fives when she says something that you approve of, checking out her tattoos or jewelry, feeling her muscles, or playful nudging/poking. Those are the most common ways to touch a woman without being weird. Kino is great for creating sexual tension, but you can also create sexual tension by increasing the intensity of your eye contact, and also start looking at her lips when you talk to her. There are also comments you can make that will increase sexual tension. You can take something she says and make it sexual. For example, if she says that, “she hates her job because the hours are so slow”, you could say, “I don’t know about you but some women like it slow…if you know what I mean”, and then give her a little smirk. Or while you’re gazing in her eyes you can say something like, “I bet you’re thinking about what it would be like to kiss me right now”, and if she says yes then go for the
kiss. If she says no, but she looks at your lips, then you can say, “you are now”. You can also make sexual remarks about her body, but whatever you do make sure you do it unapologetically. If you make a sexual remark or do something sexual but you do it in a timid way, she will pickup on this and it will turn her off. And as a result, she is probably going to have some negative response to it whether it be a long ass lecture on how you should respect women, or she might just get up and leave. Keep in mind that being rejected is part of life and it can happen at any moment, but as a man you must be okay with the possibility of losing the woman because there is always another woman out there who will appreciate you. You will also find that the more you’re willing to takes risks and potentially lose a woman, the more attractive you will be be to women in general. If you ramp up the sexual tension enough at some point you will probably have a moment with the girl where you will need to go for the kiss. It’s hard to describe but
typically it’s a moment where you both lock eyes, and your heart starts beating faster, and you just get a sudden urge to kiss her. In that moment you must go for the kiss, because if you’re feeling it then chances are she is feeling it. If you go for the kiss and she reject it, don’t make a big deal out of it. Just smile and continue the conversation as if nothing happened. You can always try again later. *** STEP 5: Close - The goal of this step is to close the woman you’ve been interacting with. If you’ve reached this point then you’ve approached the woman, you’ve built comfort and a strong connection with her, and you’ve even built up sexual tension. Now, you can speak about meeting up again. In other words you need to setup the date. You can suggest a meetup in the future based on one of the points you connected with her in your interaction. For example, if you both connected on a love for itallian food, then you could invite her out to have Italian food in the future. Or if you found out she likes the nightlife you could invite her to a bar for some drinks.
If you followed all the steps and really had a great interaction with the woman, it’s very likely that she will be interested in meeting up in the future. Simply set a time, day, and place for the date and get her contact info (phone number) so you will be able to contact her and confirm the day before and the day of the date. ========================================= IV. How to keep a woman in your life ========================================= If you want to keep a woman in your life, you must practice strong communication within the relationship. You need to really listen to what your woman has to say, and don’t agree to anything or disagree with anything until you understand what she meant clearly. Also, more than what she says, pay attention to her actions and how she reacts to different situations. You need to know what turns her on and what turns her off, so you can manage the relationship effectively. Also, try to put yourself in her shoes and understand her daily problems and challenges. You don’t have to solve
her problems for her, but you will need to be there to support has she deals with life’s challenges. Establish and maintain a strong frame in the relationship. You must be the leader in the relationship, and you must display and continue to grow your value so that she won’t try to take control of the frame. Remember that a woman feels attraction for you based on your value and traits, and if the things she loves about you fade, then she will start to lose attraction for you. ========================================= V. How to attract an abundance of women ========================================= The steps you’ve read throughout this guide will help you attract an abundance of women in your life, but the key is you need to interact with women consistently. I recommend you approach a minimum of 1 woman (that you find attractive) a day or 10 women a week. This is not a lot if you just make it a habit to get it done. Don’t think about it, or pray about it, or hope about it, just do it.
Every time you see a woman who you find attractive, approach her within 3 seconds. Make it a habit to approach at least 1 woman a day. By making it a habit to approach women daily, you will become more comfortable with approaching women, and you will become more skilled at attracting women. Once you start attracting women in your life you can choose to have a rotation of women, or you can have 1 woman who you are committed to. The choice is yours! So, now you know how to attract the woman of your dreams into your life. Or you can use this info to create a Rockstar lifestyle where you’re attracting beautiful women into your life all the time. I hope you found value in this ebook.
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