THE SYNAGOGUE | CONGREGATION B’NAI EMUNAH | PUBLISHED MONTHLY | SEPTEMBER 2024
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Though the custom of sending Rosh Ha-Shanah cards dates to the Middle Ages, deltiologists refer to the years 1898 to 1918 as “The Postal Card Craze” as almost a billion cards were sent in America alone during that 20-year time. This period also propelled the Jewish New Year’s card boom with many of the Rosh Ha-Shanah cards, called shone-toyves in Yiddish, being produced in Germany, where Jews were leaders in the printing industry. The mass immigration in the first decades of the 20th century of Jews from Eastern Europe to the United States generated more demand to produce these cards and sheds some light into the female experience of Judaism and immigration at the time, with women being the main buyers and senders of shone-toyves. The card pictured here, titled, Le-shone-toyve shifskarte (A Good Year Ship Ticket), resembles a ticket for passage on a steamship bound for American shores. Pictured on the postcard are Jewish and Zionist iconography of the time including the Golden Book, the Magen David, and the shofar in addition to life preservers, anchors, and Lady Liberty. The banner in the center of the card, where the name of the ship would normally appear, reads “Le-shone-toyve shifskarte,” drawing upon the well-known Jewish blessing “may you live until 120.” Under the banner in smaller print are the Yiddish words: “Valid for 120 roundtrips in the waves of life.”
Daniel S. Kaiman ............................... Principal Rabbi
Marc Boone Fitzerman ................. Rabbi (of Counsel)
Mark Goldman ........................................... President
Aaron Miller ......................... Executive Vice President
Ross Heyman ...................................... Vice President
Brae Riley ............................................ Vice President
Noah Bleicher ............................................ Treasurer
Jennifer Airey ............................................Secretary
Sara Levitt .............. Director of Jewish Life and Learning
Cassidy Petrazzi ........................Director of Operations
Richie Bolusky ...................... Director of Programming
Shelli Wright ................................. Preschool Director
Genevieve Jaber........ Director of Refugee Resettlement
Shawna Fain ................................. Executive Assistant
Cheryl Myers ............................ Operations Associate
Kate Basch ............................ Sisterhood Co-President
Rebecca Fine Stallings ......... Sisterhood Co-President
Nancy Cohen ...................... Sisterhood Gift Shop Chair
September Program Highlights
AFTERNOON/EVENING SERVICES
Join us on Wednesdays and Fridays at 5:30 p.m. in the Davis-Goodall Chapel for traditional prayer and community Mourner’s Kaddish. Both in-person and Zoom participation are available. Please register for in-person attendance on our website.
SHABBAT MORNING SERVICES
Every Saturday at 9:30 a.m., we celebrate Shabbat through song, Torah study, and fellowship. These services, available both in-person and via Zoom, offer a chance to mark anniversaries, celebrate milestones, and engage in our congregation’s ritual life.
9 BAD FAITH: CHRISTIAN NATIONALISM’S UNHOLY WAR ON DEMOCRACY
6:30 p.m.
In partnership with Americans United for Separation of Church and State (AU), the Synagogue is proud to host a free screening and conversation of the documentary Bad Faith, a searing new film that highlights the history behind the rise of Christian Nationalism in the U.S. and the threat it poses to our democracy. Anne Nelson, author of the book the documentary is based on, Rev. Shannon Fleck of the Oklahoma Faith Network, and Rabbi Kaiman will take part in a public conversation about the film and an opportunity to learn about the work of Americans United in Oklahoma. Register in advance on the Synagogue website.
SEPTEMBER 2024, PUBLISHED MONTHLY
CONGREGATION
B’NAI EMUNAH
1719 South Owasso Tulsa, Oklahoma 74120
Office: (918) 583-7121
School: (918) 585-KIDS
Fax: (918) 747-9696
Web: tulsagogue.com
How beautiful on the mountains are the feet of the messenger who brings good news. (Isaiah 52:7)
6 BIBI DIBI
5:30 p.m.
Join us for a Shabbat gathering crafted for babies and their families. Revel in the joy of singing songs, playing games, and savoring a delightful Shabbat dinner. It’s an excellent opportunity to establish and embrace your own family traditions. While no reservation is required for the celebration, we ask you to secure your spot for the meal by calling or visiting www.tulsagogue.com/events.
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ENTERING THE HIGH HOLIDAYS: SELICHOT SERVICE & DINNER
6:00 p.m. dinner | 7:00 p.m. service
A traditional prelude to the Jewish New Year, we gather this night to sing a service that highlights the themes and ideas of the holiday season. Following the Sephardic calendaring tradition, we inaugurate this service at the beginning of the month of Elul. The evening begins with a dinner where we’ll introduce and honor new members of the B’nai Emunah family. Dinner begins at 6:00 p.m., prior to a musical Selichot service starting at 7:00 p.m. The evening culminates with blasts from the shofar as we begin our preparations for Rosh Ha-Shanah and Yom Kippur.
8 INTRO TO JUDAISM BEGINS
10:00 a.m.
Looking into Judaism? Born Jewish and want to know more? Sharing your life with a Jew and want to crack the code? INTRO explores Jewish culture, history, and wisdom in a setting where questions are more important than answers. Classes are joined with beautiful Shabbat celebrations, supportive discussion groups, and many opportunities for interactive, experiential learning. This is an 18-session Introduction to Judaism Course, which is affiliated with the Miller Intro Program at American Jewish University and taught by Rabbi Kaiman. Sessions this year will meet in-person on Sunday mornings. Visit tulsagogue. com/intro for a complete schedule and to register.
15 FAMILY JEWISH COOKING CLUB
Noon
Join the club and embark on a flavorful, family adventure in our four-part cooking series, the Family Jewish Cooking Club. Participants will meet after ShulSchool for lunch, schmoozing, and a hands-on kitchen session. Throughout the experience, we’ll learn about the history and meaning of a dish and get to work making it ourselves. Each family will leave with their dish in hand, along with a recipe and instructions to recreate the experience at home.
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BLATT + BLUE
7:00 p.m.
Join us on Thursday, September 12 at 7:00 p.m. for a discussion of the gripping historical drama Farewell Mr. Haffmann. The film, starring Daniel Auteuil, is available to stream on Amazon Prime. Our Blatt + Blue series, now in its fifth year, begins with a summary of the film, followed by audience questions and comments via Zoom (Meeting ID: 918 583 7121).
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EVENING AT THE SYNAGOGUE 5:30 p.m.
Experience a musical Shabbat evening with songs and stories, starting at 5:30 p.m. This event is an ideal introduction to Shabbat traditions, welcoming participants of all ages and backgrounds.
21 SHEMA
10:30 a.m.
Music Class for Babies – Our next Jewish music class for babies and their caregivers focuses on the sounds and themes of Rosh Ha-Shanah. Suitable for children 2 and under, this interactive session will be held during Shabbat morning services.
24 HOLIDAY MAKERS WORKSHOP
7:00 p.m.
Join us for this quarterly workshop to create your own ritual object related to the High Holidays. Secure your spot today by registering at www.tulsagogue.com/events and let the magic of our holiday traditions come to life in your own hands!
Milestones
Memoriam
Robert Golden Gottlieb, son of the late Harry Golden and Florence Moskowitz Gottlieb.
Births
Jack Stanley Cooper, born to Rachel and Jonathan Cooper. Grandson of Harris and Mindy Prescott. Great-grandson of Isrella Taxon.
Ari Mikael Radke, born to Annabel and Heath Radke. Grandson of Eric Torianyk, Alin Avitan, and Ron and Judy Radke.
Weddings
Mazal tov to Hal and Shelly Narotzky on the recent marriage of their son Max Narotzky to Alexa O’Neil in a ceremony in Brooklyn. Max is the nephew of Steve Aberson and Brent Ortolani.
Mazal tov to Jim Jakubovitz and Mimi Tarrasch on their recent marriage celebrated amongst family and friends in Tulsa.
Mazal tov
To Joe Roberts, incoming Executive Director of the Jewish Federation of Tulsa. Joe arrives in Tulsa with significant experience in Federation leadership, politics, and non-profit management. We’re glad to welcome Joe, along with his wife Marielle and kids Michael and Reuben to the Tulsa Jewish community. Welcome, Joe!
Unveilings
On Friday, September 6, the family of Ruth Lebow will gather at Rose Hill Cemetery for an unveiling in her memory. This gathering will take place the morning after the Sherwin Miller Museum of Jewish Art opens a new exhibition, Shrine to the Feminine, featuring the art of Ruth Lebow alongside works by her son, Dave Lebow. The family extends an invitation to the unveiling to the entire community.
From Sara Levitt
CRAFTING RITUALS: SAVORING THE SENSORY EXPERIENCE OF THE HIGH HOLIDAYS
With the start of ShulSchool in the rearview mirror, we’re heading straight towards the High Holiday season. Each year around this time, our Synagogue comes alive with annual reminders that this season is approaching. The waxed floors, the scent of honey cake in the halls, the cartons of apples stacked in the kitchen, and the magnificent floral arrangements sprinkled throughout the building signal that something extraordinary is about to happen.
I’m struck each year by the intensely sensory experience of the High Holidays. I feel deep joy when I smell my grandmother’s apple cake baking in my oven and feel a familiar and powerful chill when I hear the Shofar for the first time. The smells, sounds, textures, and visual cues evoke powerful memories and feelings that take me by surprise each year. Our approach to these memory-making moments, of course, is by design. As an educator, I’m inspired by our traditions and ideas about how one can experience this time of year. In our school programs, we think about this a lot, imagining
Shabbat Evening at the Synagogue
September 20
5:30 p.m. Shabbat Shalom Musical Circle
how kids with different interests, strengths, and needs can find meaning in our tradition. Each year, crafting moments that become rituals deepen our children’s love of Judaism and the Jewish community. We dream about them continuing to recall these rituals each year and see them as a source of joy and connection.
This High Holiday season, I challenge all of us to craft our ritual moments that we can thread from one year to the next. Perhaps it’s a go-to dish for Sukkot or a table decoration that comes out every Rosh Ha-Shanah. I look forward to those familiar smells, sounds, feels, and visuals this year and to sharing them with each of you. A happy, healthy, and meaningful new year to us all.
From Rabbi Kaiman
KNISHES & CONNECTIONS: WELCOMING THE UNSEEN
A few years ago, I got a phone call about the Seventeenth Street Deli on our deli phone number. The accent was identifiably New Jersey. (And no, not that hyperbolic nasal tone people imagine is New Jersey.) I felt the familiarity ringing through the receiver. “Do you have any knishes?” the voice asked, and I was proud to be able to answer that we certainly did. “Some of the very best knishes,” I replied.
The man continued, “I’m Jewish and from New Jersey, but now I live in Sand Springs with my son and grandkids. I just want some good Jewish food.” I invited him to come by, and a few weeks later, he had his first meal at the deli.
He loved it. While he ate his pickles, he shared more of his story with me. He had grown up with a solid Jewish identity. It was something he felt “everywhere” in his life back East. As life unfolded, he married someone who happened not to have been Jewish. He didn’t push the religion question with his own kids, and by circumstance and context, they never knew the inside of Jewish life. Unintentionally, his own kids grew up outside of Jewish life. Eventually, one of his children fell in love with someone from Oklahoma in college, they married and began to build a life in Sand Springs.
Our new deli customer shared that he was no longer partnered and that his career had hit some turbulence. He relocated to Oklahoma to be closer to family, and his outreach to the deli came after a Google search six months into his new life.
“Rabbi,” he said, “at best, I’ll only be a High Holiday Jew. I just want you to know.” I replied that he was welcome to engage however he pleased and that I was grateful knishes had brought him into closer contact with the Tulsa Jewish community.
That conversation took place nearly six years ago. And he was right, he never even became an official member of the congregation. But he read our emails and occasionally showed up for a knish. I’m pretty sure he came to at least one High Holiday service. Other than that, our contact was incidental. He once even delivered groceries to the Synagogue during what must have been a turn at working inside the gig economy. Every time we saw each other, a warm and easy conversation flowed. It wasn’t Talmud or theology but the linguistic rhythms of familiar conversation. He’d forward me (and others) emails on issues important to his life, and while I disagreed with almost every political point, I appreciated that he took the time to send them along. In the essential ways, he felt “inside” the Jewish community, even though I’m sure none of you knew him.
I share all of this for two reasons. First, I recently learned the individual I am writing about passed away about six weeks ago. The news came to me in a reply to one of his last forwarded emails. A chorus of tangential relationships echoed sentiments of sympathy and loss. I never knew the names of any of his
family members, and it all unfolded outside the habits and rituals of our community. But his passing was a loss for us all, even those who never knew him.
Second, I share this story in anticipation of the busiest time of year in Synagogue life. In small-population Jewish communities like our own, it can be easy to get a sense that we have somehow mastered the contours of our community. You might think to yourself, “I already know every Jewish person in my workplace.” Or “I’ve already met every Jewish Tulsan in my neighborhood.”
While that may be true for some, my experience tells me that there are plenty of people who have yet to connect with organized Jewish life in Tulsa. Sometimes, they’re transplants who have yet to reach out. Sometimes, they are people just discovering their connection to Judaism. Whatever door a newcomer walks through, the job of us inside a Synagogue is to offer warmth and welcome.
I am certain that the weeks ahead will bring people who have never yet connected with the things we do into our building. They may come for knishes or music or even a High Holiday service. Our communal task is to offer a welcome and extend ourselves to each other. That’s the way we’ll build an even stronger community.
Bad Faith Film Screening & Americans
United for the Separation of Church & State
The recently released documentary Bad Faith is set to screen in a special event at the Synagogue on Monday, September 9 at 6:30 p.m. Hosted in partnership with Americans United for the Separation of Church and State, this thought-provoking film delves into the complex and often controversial intersection of religion and politics in America. By exploring real-life cases and expert analyses, Bad Faith shines a light on the profound implications of blurring the lines between church and state. Attendees will gain a deeper understanding of the importance of maintaining this foundational principle to protect both religious freedom and democratic governance.
Bad Faith provides a compelling narrative that underscores the significance of Americans United for the Separation of Church and State’s mission. Founded in 1947, Americans United has been at the forefront of advocating for the separation of church and state, ensuring that government actions remain neutral toward religion and that individuals retain the right to practice their faith freely. The documentary aligns with these values, offering a critical examination of instances where these boundaries have been tested and the subsequent impact on communities and individual rights. The screening event promises to be more than just a viewing experience. It will serve as a platform for dialogue and engagement, featuring a discussion with legal experts and representatives from Americans United. This interactive session will allow attendees to ask questions, share their perspectives, and explore actionable steps to support the cause of church-state separation. For more information, visit tulsagogue.com or www.au.org.
Blatt + Blue: Farewell Mr. Haffmann
THURSDAY, SEPTEMBER 19
The legendary Daniel Auteuil gives one of his most superlative screen performances in the gripping new historical drama from writer/director Fred Cavayé. Occupied Paris, 1941: all members of the Jewish community are instructed to come forward and identify themselves to authorities. Dedicated jeweler Joseph Haffmann (Auteuil), fearing the worst, arranges for his family to flee the city and offers his employee François Mercier (Gilles Lellouche) the chance to take over his store until the conflict subsides.
But his own attempts to escape are thwarted, and Haffmann is forced to seek his assistant’s protection. It’s a risky proposition for both men. As the Merciers move into the Haffmann home, the agreement turns into a bargain that will forever change the fate of all.
Our conversation about Farewell Mr. Haffmann will take place on Thursday, September 19 at 7:00 p.m. The film can be seen on Amazon Prime for a modest fee on your home screen. Please let us know if you have any difficulty locating the program.
Blatt + Blue is the longest-running project at the Synagogue dating from the height of the pandemic. Now in its fifth year, the series expresses the Synagogue’s commitments to an inclusive and pluralistic vision. Difficult films deserve thoughtful conversation. Film and television enthusiasts David Blatt and Alice Blue begin each session with a summary of the featured material, which means that you’ll be able to follow the conversation even if you have to delay your viewing of the material itself. After that, it’s questions and comments from the Zoom Room audience. Join the moderated discussion in the Synagogue Zoom Room. The Zoom meeting ID is 918 583 7121, and the session will conclude at 8:00 p.m. If there is a film or broadcast you would like to screen, please call Richie Bolusky, Synagogue Program Director, at (918) 583-7121 with your suggestions.
Contributions to The Synagogue
Altamont Bakery
Dennis and Terri Johnson
Bikur Cholim
Racham McNeir
Brouse Family Shabbat and Holiday Fund
Barry Debbie Lederman
Dennis and Terri Johnson
Camp Ramah Scholarship Fund
Paul and Randi Brodsky
Chevra Kadisha
Janet Dundee and Jeff Darby
Racham McNeir
Sheryl and Harold Springer
Eva Unterman Environmental Education Fund
Stephen and Ellen Adelson
Janis Bolusky Memorial Outreach Fund
Racham McNeir
Joe and Dorothy Katz Senior Adult Fund
Barry and Debbie Lederman
Joe Kantor Hebrew School Fund
Pat Henderson
Lenny Seigel Playground Fund
Julie Frank
Rabbi Daniel S. Kaiman Discretionary Fund
Dennis and Terri Johnson
Sherwin and Marsha Marks
Racham McNeir
Phyllis Raskin
Rebeca Shalom and Rabbi David Kaiman
Mark Wolf
Rabbi Marc Fitzerman Discretionary Fund
Vellie Bloch
Dennis and Terri Johnson
Jill and Howard Mizel
Cheryl Wallace
Refugee Resettlement Fund
Barry and Barbara Eisen
Racham McNeir
Bethanie and Bhadri Verduzco
Religious School
Matt and Janelle Katz
Security Fund
Sheryl and Harold Springer
Synagogue General Fund
Brian Burnett
Dennis and Terri Johnson
Rita Levit
Gail and Kip Richards
Darryl Sartwell
In Memory of
Louis Adelson
Kenneth Axelrod
George Bloch
Arnold A Brodsky
Eugene Cohen
Basja Dundee
Gertrude Hart
Sarah Kanfous Tyburczy
Yetta Kassel
Manfred Katz
Max Klein
Sydney Lazarus
Steven Lederman
Betty Mizel
Sam Mizel
Howard Raskin
Michael Schumann
Andy Seigel
Bertha Serlin
Dora Shalom
Ezzie Springer
Lee Tolchin
Walter Joseph Tyburczy
In Honor of
Steve Aberson, on the occasion of his birthday
High Holiday Roadmap
LANGUAGE
Many people struggle with the symbolic language of Jewish prayer on the High Holidays, particularly the motifs of reward and punishment and a God who treasures human praise. It may help to see the first as a metaphor urging self-knowledge, self-evaluation, and consciousness of our thoughts and deeds. The second is part of Judaism’s aversion to seeing ourselves and our fellow human beings as the center and crown of creation. Humility is a moral bridge to the gentle, respectful treatment of other human beings who have the same claims on God’s love that we do.
ACCESS
Services at the Synagogue are open to everyone, including our neighbors in the general community who may wish to sample Jewish traditions in a setting of warmth and authenticity. Our members reach out to newcomers with great affection and sincerity, and it is our hope that no one will arrive or depart without a sense of having been greeted as a friend. Unlike most congregations in the country, there are no admission tickets to services or charges of any kind. Visitors should be aware that we are mindful of security in order to keep every participant safe. Simple precautions are always in effect to protect us all. Please introduce yourself to our front desk staff if you are visiting the Synagogue for the very first time. Nearly every service and program at the Synagogue is now a hybrid experience making it possible for even more people than ever before to participate. Visit tulsagogue.com/watch for information on how to connect to Zoom and our online programming.
DRESS
We always say that people should come as they are, but most members of the congregation dress up for the High Holidays. It’s much like the clothing people wear to the symphony or a play. Some wear a shirt and tie, along with a jacket or (less often) a sweater or vest. Others wear dresses, skirts and tops, or pants with a jacket. No one dresses to impress, and the prevailing style is quiet modesty. Regardless of what you wear, do not hesitate to come because you fear that you may not have the right clothing. There is plenty of room at the Synagogue for non-conformists.
SEATING
Seating in our Sanctuary is open, with no reserved seats for members or guests. People occasionally save seats for others, so please be alert to normal social cues. There are always available seats at the front of the Sanctuary, where people rarely sit for the reasons that people always avoid the front rows of auditoriums. This is the bane of Rabbis and clergypeople of every community, but what can you do?
ROSH HA-SHANAH MUSICAL CIRCLE
In the spirit of our monthly “Shabbat Shalom” gatherings, the opening service of our Rosh Ha-Shanah observance follows a familiar model. Musical worship and reflection frame out the experience which begins at 5:30 p.m. at the close of the school and work day. Stories, reflection and the sound of the shofar comprise this short, family friendly experience which is an excellent first taste of the holidays. For families and individuals eager to dine together, we offer an optional holiday brisket meal which follows at 6:30 p.m. With familiar smells and tastes, we hope to make it easy for families and individuals to plug into an authentic holiday experience. This year, Rosh Ha-Shanah Musical Circle will take place on Wednesday, October 2.
ROSH HA-SHANAH DAY I
It’s the Jewish New Year! A formal worship experience serves as the backbone to this day. Beginning at 9:30 a.m., we work our way through a special Holiday prayerbook called the Mahzor. The core text of our service is based on the material we have developed over the past two years of digital services. Those slides are available in many formats. In addition to projected images, we will call pages from our traditional prayerbook and have printed copies available for a self-guided experience. We hope all this material helps make sure we’re all “on the same page.” The morning starts with a series of sung prayers with the chanting of the service being led by our cantor, Rafi Dworsky, who will be assisted by Rabbi Kaiman and Sara Levitt. A musical ensemble supports the experience, adding depth, flourish and meaning to the various parts of the prayerful morning. By 10:00 a.m., we begin the formal chanting of the Torah service. This participatory event involves a public reading of a section of the Torah. The Torah is read aloud in Hebrew, with translations available in your prayer books. Congregation members are called up throughout this part of the service with honors and blessings. A special honor is that of the person who chants the selections of the Prophets. During this part of the service, the rabbi will offer an opportunity for prayers of healing. Should you or someone you love be in need of prayers for healing, please come forward as instructed and share either the English or Hebrew name of the person that you would like to include. Alternatively, if you would like to submit a name before the Holiday, please email info@bnaiemunah.com to be included at each of these opportunities throughout the Holiday season.
After the Torah returns to the ark, the morning drama continues. The shofar is sounded for the first time. The cantor offers a public prayer of supplication, and then the congregation is given space for silent reflection. Traditionally, the sacred words of the Mahzor are recited at this time, but this is also a space for private prayer and personal introspection. At the close of this silent portion of the service, Rabbi Kaiman will offer a sermon. Following this moment of teaching and
learning, our musical ensemble and cantor resume leadership of the service and we sing a public version of the prayers found in the Mahzor. This final part of the service generally concludes by 12:30 p.m. and culminates with blasts of the shofar.
After the first day morning service, the entire community is invited to partake in a sweet and savory Kiddush lunch. Later in the afternoon, at 5:30 p.m., a short afternoon and evening service will take place as we round out the day of prayer and reflection.
ROSH HA-SHANAH DAY II
It’s so nice we do it twice. The second day of Rosh HaShanah follows roughly the same format as Day 1. The public readings are different, and different individuals are honored with participation throughout the service. The morning begins at 9:30 a.m. and by 10:00 a.m. we are chanting Torah. Again, a sermon is delivered at 10:45 a.m., and we’ve nearly completed our service by noon. On this second day, our congregation follows a special custom where we offer Baby Blessings to each new child who has joined our community in the past year. Grandparents, parents, siblings, and relatives receive these blessings on behalf of the new arrivals, who bring so much joy to our lives. If you are the parent or grandparent of a newborn and would like to partake, please email info@bnaiemunah. com so that we can prepare to include you. Again, this service concludes by 12:15 p.m. and is followed by a cookie Kiddush sponsored by the Kaiman-Gold family. Noting that the holiday experience is not complete without a meandering afternoon meal, Emily and Richie Bolusky generously extend hospitality in their home, hosting a holiday meal open to all. We ask those wishing to participate to make reservations by visiting tulsagogue.com so we can plan for and accommodate everyone. A special invitation for this meal is extended to newcomers to Tulsa and those without family or friend networks with whom to celebrate the holiday.
THE DAYS IN BETWEEN
The period that lasts from Rosh Ha-Shanah through Yom Kippur is called the Ten Days of Repentance. Yom Kippur, the Day of Atonement, stands in contrast and complement to the days that mark the Jewish New Year. Lasting 25 hours, Yom Kippur is a time to ask for forgiveness and spend time in intensive prayer and reflection. From sundown on Friday, October 11, to sundown on Saturday, October 12, adults refrain from eating and drinking, bathing, wearing leather, anointing oneself with perfume or lotion and marital relations. These activities are all very human and corporeal, but by setting these limits we focus inward on the spiritual tasks of the day.
KOL NIDRAY
Yom Kippur is inaugurated at 6:30 p.m. with the Kol Nidray prayer. As on Rosh Ha-Shanah, during this service we use a Mahzor, a special prayer book, which outlines the liturgical frame for the day. With our digital materials serving as the backbone of our service, you can follow along through screen, printout, or traditional text. This evening service, led again
by our cantor, rabbi, and musical ensemble, moves through the prescribed structure of the service with familiar musical highlights and points of emphasis. Around 7:15 p.m., a sermon is delivered, and services conclude around 8:15 p.m.
YOM KIPPUR DAY
At 9:30 a.m. the next morning, we begin chanting Yom Kippur service. As on Rosh Ha-Shanah, around 10:10 a.m., we participate in a public reading of a section of the Torah followed by a chanting of the Haftorah (a selection from the Prophets). During this part of the service, the rabbi will offer an opportunity for prayers of healing. Should you or someone you love be in need of prayers for healing, please come forward as instructed and share either the English or Hebrew name of the person that you would like to include. Alternatively, if you would like to submit a name before the Holiday, please email info@bnaiemunah.com to be included at each of these opportunities throughout the Holiday season. After the Torah is returned to the ark, the drama of the morning continues. The cantor offers a public prayer of supplication, and then the congregation is given space for silent reflection. Traditionally, the sacred words of the Mahzor are recited at this time, but this is also a space for private prayer and personal introspection. At the close of this silent portion of the service, Rabbi Kaiman will offer a sermon. Following the sermon, the congregation will hold a Yizkor (Memorial) service for loved ones who are no longer with us. Names added to the Book of Remembrance are read aloud, and individuals are given time to offer silent supplication. If you have lost a loved one in the past year, please email info@bnaiemunah. com with the name and date of death so that we can be sure to include your loved one in our act of remembrance. Following this moment of reflection, our musical ensemble and cantor resume leadership of the service, and we sing a public version of the prayers found in the Mahzor. This is the final part of the service and generally concludes by 1:30 p.m.
PRIVATE PRAYERS BEFORE THE ARK
Following the close of service, many choose to go home or leave the Synagogue for a period. However, those who wish to remain are welcome to remain in our building throughout the day. Beginning at 1:30 p.m. the ark will be opened, and individuals are welcome to take a moment to offer private prayers before its open doors. Should you wish to participate in this manner, we simply ask that you wait until those before you have completed their time and then silently approach one at a time.
THE AFTERNOON OF YOM KIPPUR DAY
At 4:00 p.m., the formal afternoon service begins. A short public Torah reading is followed by the ritual chanting of the entire book of Jonah. We then chant the liturgical hallmarks of the afternoon service before taking another break.
OPEN FORUM WITH THE RABBI
At 5:00 p.m. in the Chapel, Rabbi Kaiman will hold an open forum for reflection and discussion. You bring the
questions; they bring their thoughts and perspectives. This is a meaningful way to engage in learning and explore new ideas as a community. All are welcome.
NE’ILAH: THE LOCKING OF THE GATES
A liturgical highlight of the year, the Ne’ilah (Concluding) Service offers a thrilling end to a day of solemnity and introspection. Beginning at 6:25 p.m., the service is chanted by our cantor, rabbi and musical ensemble. Weather-permitting, we set up for this service on the steps of our building and close out the holiday as the sun hangs low in the sky. The ark doors remain open throughout the main section of this service. Thus, many people stand throughout this liminal period. The doors of the ark serve as an important symbol in the themes of the day, as we imagine the locking of the gates and make our best efforts to seek repentance and forgiveness in these waning hours. As the sun sets, we mark the conclusion of the holiday with a Havdallah (Separation) Service. Finally, the day culminates with blasts from the shofar.
BREAK-THE-FAST
Immediately following the conclusion of our ritual services for Yom Kippur, the entire community is invited to participate in a Break-the-Fast meal. Generously sponsored by The Sharna and Irvin Frank Family Foundation, this is a celebratory communal moment of achievement, relief, opportunity, and possibility. While there will always be enough food for everyone, we do ask that those who are planning to be with us call or visit our website so we can plan for your participation. Sisterhood provides initial juice and snacks immediately following the conclusion of the holiday.
High Holiday Calendar
At-A-Glance
Erev (Eve of) Rosh Ha-Shanah
Wednesday Evening, October 2 (29 Elul)
Rosh Ha-Shanah: Day One
Thursday, October 3 (1 Tishri)
Rosh Ha-Shanah: Day Two
Friday, October 4 (2 Tishri)
Kol Nidray/Erev Yom Kippur
Friday Evening, October 11 (9-10 Tishri)
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From Rabbi Fitzerman CLICK BAIT
On a Sunday in August, I happened on a broadcast that kept me in the driveway long after my arrival. It was probably a segment on NPR, but when I looked for details, nothing came up on the website.
The broadcast was about mah jongg, a subject that has always held my interest. I’ve never played the game in my life, but the click of the tiles reminds me of a typewriter and the satisfying tap of the keys against the platen. The broadcast focused on Crazy Rich Asians, and that scene where the patrician mother is bested by Constance Wu, the professor girlfriend. Understanding that contest requires near-Talmudic intelligence. It is widely considered a mah jongg master class.
But it was the Jewish segment that really caught my ear. The interviewee was an enthusiastic New Yorker who had adoring things to say about the game, and especially the generation of players who preceded her. She was enchanted by the scenes she remembered from her childhood, the ladies at the table in her mother’s kitchen, running the traps on their friends and relations. Nothing escaped their scrutiny or comment. She was, perhaps, a little too enthusiastic, painting a picture of mah jongg as a central sacrament. It was, for her, a definitional endeavor, a key to the history of Jewish People in America. Without mah jongg, her Jewish life would have been flavorless. You could be forgiven for ranking mah jongg differently. It’s a complicated game which makes real intellectual demands, but I’m not sure it rates as a sacred ritual.
Then again, that judgement now strikes me as condescending. In case it needs to be mentioned at this late date, Judaism is many things, including what is “merely” delightful. As Mordechai Kaplan, the philosopher once argued, Judaism includes all the components that make up a civilization: its literature, its history, its cuisine, its pastimes. He actually called Judaism a religious “civilization,” but I think that we should make room for a stretchier definition. If the Jews adopt a diversion with the zeal of new believers, then it qualifies as part of our self-definition. It gives us many of the benefits of more “important” components, binding us together, and sharpening our definition of self. At the end of the day, mah jongg is a little bit like dreidel: one of the things we do as the accompaniment our sociability.
All of this implies a different set of questions. Why did a game associated with the Chinese come to be a beloved pastime of the Jews? And given the continuing resurgence of mah jongg, what need does it fulfill, what itch does it scratch? Why does it continue to enchant? For those of you who hear that tell-tale clicking in your ears, I’d be very interested in knowing what you think.
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