Conflict resolution rick 2016 rypen

Page 1

CONFLICT AND CONFLICT RESOLUTION Rick Henke Manager Twelve25 Youth Enterprise Centre City of Salisbury

Rotarian, Past President and Assistant Governor GP4 Rotary Club of Salisbury Push learning End link to presentation


Have you thought about conflict today? 

Conflict occurs everywhere 

in our homes,

in our communities,

between neighbors

on the sports field

on Facebook

between friends

between states,

between countries, and

in the workplace

Name some


So what is conflict? There are many definitions but the one I like is

Conflict is any situation in which your concerns or desires differ from those of the other person


Team exercise 

In your teams brainstorm answers to the following two big questions (10 minutes of music)

Why does conflict stop? Where and when do we learn (and from whom) about conflict resolution?


Quote

Forgiveness is not an occasional act, it is a constant attitude Martin Luther-King


Healthy vs Damaging HEALTHY CONFLICT

DAMAGING CONFLICT

Disagreements that are communicated in a positive way that lead to new ideas or ways to problem solve. Tension that increases awareness or sheds light on a growing problem.

Name Calling. Personal Attacks. Silent and Withdrawn, afraid to speak up Cliques, gossip and rumors. Lack of Mutual Respect Physical violence War.


Quote “Whenever you are in conflict with someone, there is one factor that can make the difference between damaging your relationship and deepening it. That factor is attitude� - William James


So lets take our knowledge forward Sometimes our ego or perception of self worth cause conflict 

Play video VLC

Conflict resolution style 

Play video VLC

Play video MP4


Whats your normal style? (B&S test)


Methods of resolving Compete / fight – unilateral decision making (ie military command) Collaborate – team input (ie work team) Compromise – looking for that win : win midpoint Denial / Avoiding – making a decision to take no action Smooth over / Accommodating – allowing the other side to take a win. (ie Mum)


Where do we learn (and from whom) about conflict resolution? 

Conflict resolution is a learned skill 

Family

Schools

Community


Your family example?


Personal reflection 10mins Think of a recent conflict you have been involved in.

(Family, Facebook, Work, etc) What was the conflict? What was the underlying cause of the conflict? Was this a new conflict or something ongoing? Which style did you use to respond? How did others respond? Write your answers down


Role play Scenario :

David is 45 and is Sam’s dad. (Father and Son) Sam has just turned 16. He wants to get his learners permit.

David has said that Sam is irresponsible, is not listening and too immature. It is too dangerous. Sam knows that David got his learners permit when he was 16 and learnt to drive on a farm when he was 15. Sam’s older brother was 17 when he got his L’s and had a bit of an accident earlier this year.


Active Listening – High EQ skill Keys to active listening:-

• Listen politely • Ask questions for clarification

• Repeat what was said in your own words • Summarise • Acknowledge speakers point of view and feelings • Positive Non-verbals Provide Example : Tell me about your last holiday : Practice


IQ vs EQ Intelligent Quotient vs Emotional Quotient IQ is an individuals score in a standardised test to measure an individuals intelligence as a indicator of academic ability EQ is an individuals measure of their ability to identify, evaluate, control and express their emotions. (People with high EQ usually make great team leaders and team players due to the ability to connect to the people around them)


Working through conflict - strategies • Role of the third person • Speakers stick • Seating - circle.


6 Steps to conflict resolution 1. Clarify what the disagreement is about 2. Establish a common goal 3. Discuss ways that could be used to meet the common goal 4. Determine barriers 5. Agree on best way to resolve conflict 6. Acknowledge and record the agreed solution and determine responsibilities


What does Rotary do around preventing conflict and creating peace?

Thank you Presentation is available at


Turn static files into dynamic content formats.

Create a flipbook
Issuu converts static files into: digital portfolios, online yearbooks, online catalogs, digital photo albums and more. Sign up and create your flipbook.