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Lyricist Krueger writes of Life, Love and Faith

October 2017

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oy to the listener! Happiness to the lyricist who has found the right way in “Life, Love and Faith.”

This opening paragraph may leave you wondering if this writer has fallen off the wall or if he really is attempting to make you better friends with H. John Krueger and his very creative work as a songwriter. The quotation marks enclose the titles of each of his CD’s of 41 songs. Yes, I said one of his many CDs. If John was singing in the church choir, he may have trouble belting out a tune in sync with the other members, but the middle-aged man is known to wear bright eyes and a dazzling smile for all whom he meets when he ventures out of his home office in Town of Merton, that surrounds his postal address of North Lake.

This man is always eager to give anyone he meets - even the occasional stranger in a restaurant he frequents in nearby Hartland - kind words.

Realizing that H. John Krueger was raised on a Town of Merton farm, he never considered himself as a hayseed

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State Budget Includes Programs For Older Adults With all the craziness going on at the federal level with the serious threats to Medicare, Medicaid, and

AGING ISSUES

By Tom Frazier

health care in general, it has moved the state budget to the back burner, especially as it relates to programs for older people. This and the craziness at the state level over transportation, education, and, more recently, Foxconn.

But, with one or two exceptions, programs for the elderly faired pretty well in the 2017-2019 state budget. Below is a summary of those programs that have been approved by both the Assembly and Senate to date: •Medicaid - the budget in-

cludes a 2% increase in each year of the budget for nursing home rates, and a 2% increase each year for the Medicaid Personal Care program.

Both of these increases seem woefully inadequate, especially for Personal Care where advocates requested a 15% increase.

•Medically Needy Program - the budget increases the el-

igibility level for the Medically Needy program for the elderly, blind, and disabled individuals to 100% of the Fed-

eral Poverty Level (FPL). This practically doubles the eligibility level and is something that has been advocated for many years; a major breakthrough.

•Medical Assistance Purchase Plan (MAPP) - this

change requires that people eligible for this Medicaid program pay a $25 per month premium that increases as income goes up. Previously, the majority of participants paid no premium, but the premiums went up exponentially FRAZIER continued on page 3

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Who needs to step up?

Our nation is in a dark period.

Can we pull ourselves out? Keep this in mind: our institutions are far more durable than any single president or any single historical period.

An interesting thing keeps happening to me. Every few days, someone — an acquaintance, a colleague, even a stranger on the street — approaches me. They ask some version of the same question: What can we do to pull ourselves out of this dark period?

For the many Americans who respect representative democracy, the Constitution, and the rule of law, there’s reason to be concerned.

The President is off to a rocky start: he’s unproductive and undignified at home and derided on the world stage.

Congress struggles to get its bearings.

In the country at large, forces of intolerance and division are at loose on the streets and on the nightly news.

So are we in a downward spiral as a nation? Not by a long shot. Because here’s the thing to keep in mind: our institutions are far more durable than any single president or any single historical period.

History is certainly on our side.

We’ve survived a civil war, two world wars, Watergate, four presidential assassinations, the packing of the Supreme Court by Franklin Roosevelt, economic depressions and recessions, more nasty power struggles than you FRAZIER continued from page 1

once a premium was required (e.g. from $0 to $800). This should make the program more affordable for many low income people. This improvement is offset by more strenuous work requirements for MAPP but the impact on eligibility for seniors is unclear at this time.

•Transportation - the budget provides a 2% increase each year for the Seniors and Individuals with Disabilities specialized transportation (85.21) program. This is a very modest increase ($278,300 the first year and $562,200 the second year) given the size of the overall transportation budget. In addition, tribal transportation aids increased by $297,000 over the two year period, a 60% increase over the current funding level for the 11 Wisconsin Tribes.

ON

CONGRESS

By Lee Hamilton can count... and still the country has moved forward. You can look back and gain confidence from our history.

Or you can look around you.

Congress as an institution is being tested as it rarely has in its modern history, and it’s shown a few hopeful glimmers. It did so when it passed by a huge margin its sanctions bill against Russia, rebuking President Trump for his mysterious fascination with Vladimir Putin and his unwillingness to single out Russia for criticism.

It did so even more forcefully when Republican leaders in the Senate took the extraordinary step of holding pro forma sessions during recesses so that a Republican president could not make recess appointments and circumvent the normal Senate confirmation process — or, to be more precise, so that he could not fire the attorney general and then appoint someone who would fire Special Counsel Robert Mueller.

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The federal bureaucracy has drawn lines in the sand, too. When the President suggested that law enforcement officers should, in essence, rough up suspects, the acting chief of the Drug Enforcement Administration sent an email to his employees rebuking the idea. When the President announced plans to discriminate against transgender troops, the Pentagon declined to begin the process.

When two billionaire friends of the President tried to force federal regulators to bend rules in their favor, they were rebuffed by the agencies in question. There’s been real pushback

by Foreign Service officers against a move to hollow out the State Department. And, the courts have blocked various Trump immigration policies.

At the state and local level, there’s been similar resistance. Though some states appear ready to go along with the Presidential Advisory Commission on Voter Integrity’s maneuvering to shrink the vote, many are not.

California Gov. Jerry Brown and other governors and mayors took a major step when they indicated that they will still be working to address climate change even after President Trump declared the U.S. would withdraw from the Paris climate accord.

And it’s not just pushback: The failure by Congress and the President to make progress on funding the rebuilding or expansion of basic in-

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frastructure has alarmed governors, mayors, and policy makers throughout state and local government, who are demanding action on infrastructure problems.

Then, of course, there are the business and other leaders who resigned from various presidential advisory boards in the wake of the President’s response to the Charlottesville clashes in early August. And the scientists, including some within the government, who are trying to draw attention to administration efforts to weaken the role of scientists in environmental regulation and climate policy.

And an aroused, watchful national media that has worked hard to shine a light on the administration’s actions and the President’s activity. And the many Americans who besieged Congress as the Senate considered repealing the Affordable Care Act. In other words, our institutions — Congress, the executive branch, the courts, civil society — are being put to the test. And they’re beginning to step up. So must we all.

Lee Hamilton is a Senior Advisor for the Indiana University Center on Representative Government; a Distinguished Scholar, IU School of Global and International Studies; and a Professor of Practice, IU School of Public and Environmental Affairs. He was a member of the U.S. House of Representatives for 34 years.

• Homestead Tax Cred- on those 62 and over, it will result these funds permanent and increase

it - the Governor proposed modifi- in thousands of other lower income the annual level to $600,000. When

cations to this program limiting the eligibility for the program beginning with the 2018 tax year only to those age 62 and older, or those with spouses 62 and older, those with disabilities and those with earned income. All others would be ineligible after tax year 2017, estimated to be more than 11,000 people. Also, the credit formula would be changed to lower the amount of the credit for those under age 62 and not disabled, who have earned incomes below $7,300. The credit formula will not change for those 62 and over or disabled. Unfortunately, the Governor would have indexed the formula for inflation for this latter group but the Joint Finance Committee voted to remove the indexing provision. While these changes will have little impact

homeowners and renters becoming ineligible after 2017.

• Board on Aging and Long-Term Care - the budget

adds two new Ombudsman positions to provide advocacy services to those people age 60 and over in the IRIS program (I Respect, I Self-Direct).

Four positions proposed by the Governor were reduced to two positions by the Committee.

this was unsuccessful, an effort was made to at least restore the $200,000 level, but this too appears to have failed.

• Alzheimer’s Research - the budget includes $50,000 each

year for the U.W. Alzheimer’s Disease Research Center.

• Dementia Care Specialists - in an almost unbelievable advocacy and lobbying effort, not only

•Healthy Aging Grants was funding for 19 existing positions

- Barring a last minute miracle, it appears that this program will receive no funding in the next budget. Last year there was $200,000 in one-time funding that the Governor did not include in his budget proposal. Advocates for the program initially requested the Joint Finance Committee to make

maintained for 2017, but the program was expanded statewide (24 positions) in the second year of the budget. The Governor had not included any funding for these positions in his budget.

As stated earlier, the budget has passed both houses and now goes to the Governor. What might he do?

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EDITORIALS

What’s ahead for Milwaukee?

A new arena is being built, thousands of apartments are either underway or planned, efforts to make safe the inner city areas, new economic developments and a seemingly new pride of being a Milwaukee resident what lies ahead for our major city in Wisconsin? The one great thing lacking perhaps will be a shortage of police and fire numbers since the city can’t afford them, according to its budget restraints. But with better education and available jobs, perhaps they’ll not be needed.

We give Mayor Barrett, County Executive Abele and all those persons involved at city hall, in charitable organizations and even the helpful missions for working to make Milwaukee a better place to live and to work - Actually, to call home.

There certainly are disparate neighborhoods. Regretfully, Milwaukee has been targeted nationally as one of the toughest (We won’t say worst) cities for Black people in the United States. But we do see things in general as looking upward.

Today’s challenges have been growing since the 60’s. Too often, the wealthy and the poor never meet.

Perhaps not even at a church service. While there has been a resurgence of business and new life pumped economically into what a few years back might have been thought of as almost hopeless neighborhoods, the work in Milwaukee is far from done.

We believe it has to be started with education. Not every high school

Daylight time

Daylight Saving Time ends Sunday, Nov. 5 for this year. You will have an extra hour that day so why not surprise an old friend or relative with a phone call?

With the end of what is referred to as Daylight Time, we gain an extra hour. Most of us will waste it. Only a few will put the extra 60 minutes to good use. Why not be one of these few?

Many among us would rather have

graduate can expect to go on to a fouryear college and come out with a degree that will provide the basis for a white-collar position. Our thinking is that Milwaukee must push even harder for its schools and upgrading of the standards education. But it cannot stop at the high school level. We recognize- as most of you also do - that not everyone should even go to fouryear college or expect or wish for a desk job after such graduation.

Our belief is that great numbers of high school graduates can and should make their ways in life not shouldering picks and shovels, but actually working for a living wage at jobs where skilled participation pays for a comfortable way of life. We look to the two-year colleges and to the technical schools to bring to those who will be the mainstays of Milwaukee industry.

Can this be done in such a manner that the community and its residents can afford? Possibly, the Milwaukee community cannot afford free technical education beyond high school, but ultimately bringing good jobs to previously downtrodden neighborhoods will be a key to a better Milwaukee future.

At present, Milwaukee’s shining star seems to be rising. Do your best to help it. Thanks to those who have already placed their feet forward in such an effort. We honestly do believe that Milwaukee is at a crossroads. Let us hope that when the lights change, they’ll indicate full speed ahead.

the extra time on the clock.

Do be good, be honorable, and be nice to everyone. Assist those persons who need it.

Get your next vehicle with a sunroof. Take advantage of daylight as you can.

Do set you clocks backward an hour before you start the day.

The importance of water We’ve heard the phrase, water, water everywhere, but not a drop to drink. Well, we have discovered that water is the main ingredient in our blood and actually makes up about 60 percent of our bodies. It keeps our organs functioning. To do this, we’re told over and over again, that each man should drink at least 16 glasses of water and for women, 11 daily Proper hydration boosts your moods, curbs your appetite, fights fevers, can prevent headaches and help

to keep your bowels doing what they are supposed to.

Another great thing about drinking water as you should, it will help keep your sugar intake down. In fact, a recent Consumer’s Report article showed substituting water for sugared beverages on a regular basis is a great way to lose weight. One estimate put it at 14 pounds a year. One 20-ounce soda daily could amount to 119 cups of sugar and 87,600 calories per year.

It seems that successful people are those who reject rejection. If there is a path to success, the ambitious person will find it. l l l l l We, recently had lunch at Spring City restaurant in Waukesha. While there we noticed on Mondays a 48 oz. pitcher of Miller Lite goes for $5.

That’s a bit over 10 cents an ounce and the equivalent of four 12 oz. bottles less the foam at the top of the pitcher. l l l l l When you do all the first things first, you have to decide which are the first things. l l l l l Lake Country Reporter, the community newspaper that birthed the use of the Lake County title for this, that and the next thing, was buried by the now owning Milwaukee mega news media about a month ago. This writer, as the twice-weekly originator of the title in 1960, was not even invited to the funeral. l l l l l How often we suspect people who talk a lot don’t always give necessary thought to their words. l l l l l Regardless of our age, we have the opportunity to never stop learning. We do this almost constantly when awake. But when we really wish to learn all about different things, there’s Learning in Retirement through WCTC via its numbers of talented teachers. l l l l l

We’ve been told that each day is a slice of life. Just don’t trim that slice too thin. l l l l l Having recently checked on the interest rates at various financial institutions, perhaps my grandmother was right as she kept a few bucks squirreled away in the sugar bowl on a pantry shelf.

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There is never a right time…

When I look back at my over 35 year career in real estate sales here is what comes to mind. When discussing a move with mom and dad, there is never a right time or a wrong time… it is just time!

It is the elephant in the room.

Think about it. Your parent(s) have been in their home for 30-40-50 years or more. They know the streets, the neighbors, stores and, of course, the home they love.

For most of us, the number one fear we have is fear of change. Going from a known to an unknown. Moving from one’s long-time home to a senior apartment or community is a daunting process. Everyone involved wants to do the right thing. The problem is that both parties, parent and child, want something different!

You, the child, want the best for your parents. You want them safe, happy and cared for. However, your parents want autonomy, independence and control of their lives. Your involvement may feel like an intrusion. It may feel like a role reversal where you begin to feel like the parent and mom and

MOVING IN THE RIGHT DIRECTION

By Bruce Nemovitz dad the child, thus anger and frustration may be the outcome. It is understandable and any guilt you feel as a child must be put aside. Remember, your parents have lost much over their lifetimes. They may have lost a spouse, friends and some family members.

They may be experiencing diminishing health. Moving from the home they love may feel like one more loss.

It is best to start with an honoring and honest conversation. You must truly listen to what your parents are saying. I mean listen without thinking as they are talking. Truly absorb their emotions, facial expressions, and of course their feelings about moving. Try to stay away from judging their statements about moving. Remember, you

have never experienced what they are going through. You cannot know exactly how they are feeling.

A common mistake is for you to use the personal pronoun, “I”. Example; “Mom, I think it may be time to start looking for a home that meets your current physical and psychological needs. I am worried. I am afraid you may fall or have a health incident.

I am worried about you not socializing”…on and on. Your mother listens to the “I” in your sentences and feels that it really is about you, the child, wanting to move mom to make your life easier. Of course, that is the furthest thing from the truth, but that is how it is perceived.

The best way to begin a conversation is to ask questions and listen!

Open ended questions are best. “Mom, if you fell in your home who would be there to help?” “Dad, you haven’t gotten out of your chair and are watching tv non-stop. How would it feel to enjoy the company of others?” You get the idea.

I just went through a move with my mother who is 91. She was not open

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to the idea of moving. After my father passed away, mom became more and more isolated. She was becoming depressed and her health was beginning to change for the negative. I discussed the subject with her often. The conversation that seemed to break the ice was when I painted a picture of crisis management. In other words I asked mom, “what would happen if you had a sudden health change? If that caused a need to move, would you want all decisions as to where you would move to be made from a rehab facility or by your children?” That seemed to resonate.

In tandem with my conversation with mom, I decided to arrange for a dinner at a senior community in the area that I believed she would like. She had some friends there so I just went ahead and made a reservation for dinner. She agreed to go with me. When we arrived many of her friends said hello. Some she did not know stopped by our table saying they would love to meet her. It was a wonderful experience and I could sense mom’s wheels were NEMOVITZ continued on page 41

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Answers for women about Social Security

BY TOM MARGENAU

I wouldn’t know how to go about getting accurate information about this issue, but based on the emails I receive, I’d guess that 75 percent of my readers are women. Here are some example emails. : I am 75 years old and getting widow’s benefits from my first husband, who died many years ago. I was married a second time for 20 years to another man. He was a doctor and made millions. I divorced him because of physical abuse I suffered. He is living in a mansion in California.

What I can’t figure out is why I am not getting any of his Social Security? : You’re not getting any of his Social Security because he’s not dead -- yet. (I’m not trying to give you any ideas.)

A widow’s rate pays up to twice as much as the rate paid to a wife (or divorced wife) of a guy who is still alive.

So, if you are due two benefits, you only get the one that pays the higher rate.

You might be getting up to 100 percent of your deceased first husband’s Social Security. But you are only due one-half of your second husband’s benefit. And I’m sure 100 percent from husband No. 1 pays more than 50 percent from husband No. 2 -- no matter how rich he is. All I can suggest you do is order a subscription to the newspaper in the town where your ex lives and start reading the obituaries!

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: I am 73 years old. I get $1,560 per month in my own retirement benefits. My ex-husband, who always made a six-figure income, must be getting way more than me. So I figure I am due something extra from his Social Security. I talked to someone at my Social Security office about this, and she said I’m not eligible for anything on his record because no one is getting $3,120 per month. What did she mean by that? : What she was trying to explain to you is that you are either due your own Social Security benefit, or half of your ex-husband’s basic full retirement age benefit, whichever pays the higher rate. Currently, the maximum full retirement benefit is about $2,700. Half of that is $1,350. Your own Social Security retirement exceeds that, so that is why you aren’t due anything from your ex-husband’s Social Security account.

Or to clarify the Social Security rep’s remarks a little more, she was trying to tell you that you could only get benefits on your ex’s account if one half of his Social Security rate exceeds what you are getting. You’re getting $1,560, so your ex would have to be getting $3,120 or more before you could get anything extra from him. And since no retiree can be getting that much in just a basic Social Security check, you’re not eligible for divorced wife’s benefits.

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Dear Annie: My father-in-

law and mother-in-law died a couple of years ago, months apart from each other. When it came to settling the estate, the will stated in clear and precise terms that everything was to be divided 50-50 between my sister-in-law, “Jackie,” and my wife. We did as they requested.

A few months later, Jackie contacted my wife saying she had discovered $110,000 in cash stashed away in their parents’ house. (My father-in-law had a distrust of banks, given that he grew up during the Depression, and he told me that he always kept a large amount of money handy for “financial emergencies.”) My wife was given her share of the cash, $55,000. The found money was timely because my daughter was getting married, and we had some bills of our own that needed paying.

A year later, Jackie contacted my wife to say that we need to return the $55,000 because that money was “promised” to her by my in-laws for building them a house.

My wife refused to return the money, not only because we don’t believe Jackie but because we can’t afford to withdraw this from our savings account. As a result, Jackie has written letters and sent text messages that are very nasty and hurtful.

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I thought about reaching out to her husband, “Leon,” but he’s very unstable, too. Their son, who is in college but can’t drive because of previous accidents, called us crying the other day because his father is threatening suicide because he is tired of driving his son everywhere. You can’t make this stuff up.

We are very concerned about Jackie’s mental health. My wife, daughter and I believe that Jackie needs counseling to get a better grip on reality. I am also concerned about my wife, who is taking all of this very hard. What should we do? -- Family Feuding Dear Feuding: I’ll start with the two people you and your wife can control: you and your wife. This familial stress is negatively impacting her health, and it sounds as if it’s doing a number on yours, too. Make your own mental health a priority and consider attending some counseling.

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Now, I also believe that Jackie would benefit from therapy. But until she believes that herself, there’s little you can do. You might be able to get help for her husband, whether he wants it or not, however. Laws vary by state. Call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline (800-273-8255) for more information about the steps you can take. When a person threatens to kill himself, it’s always best to take him seriously.

Try to be there as much as you can for your nephew. Maybe you could give him a ride once or twice a week.

This would alleviate some of the pres-

sure his father is evidently feeling, but more importantly, it would show your nephew that he’s not alone. It sounds as if he is bearing the brunt of his parents’ issues and could use some help.

Send your questions for Annie Lane to dearannie@creators.com. To find out more about Annie Lane and read features by other Creators Syndicate columnists and cartoonists, visit the Creators Syndicate website at www.creators.com.

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Add aging next to death and taxes as a guarantee of life

BY CHUCK NORRIS

During the current century, worldwide number of older adults will surpass the number of children. There are now more Americans age 65 and older today than at any other time in U.S. history. This number will swell to more than 98 million by 2060. And it is not as if we didn’t know this “boom” was coming. Yet responsive aging policies to ensure that longer life spans are valued remain in short supply.

If we are going to address our needs as a nation today and into the future, then we need to start with a big attitude adjustment.

This point is well stated in a current editorial in the New York Times

by Louise Aronson, a professor of geriatrics at the University of California, San Francisco. As professor Aronson points out, the medical community tends to divide life span into just two main categories -- childhood and adulthood. She believes it is time we add another category to the list -“oldhood.” Life is a three-act play, she reminds us, and it is time our medical system reflected that truth.

The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention’s vaccine guidelines are but one example of such short sightedness. “Americans 65 and older -- including the two fastest-growing segments of our population, the 80-to90-year-olds and those over 100 -- are lumped in a single group, as if bodies and behaviors don’t change over the last half-century of life,” she writes.

The vaccine guidelines list 17 sub groupings for children from birth through age 18 and it makes perfect sense. We would never confuse toddlers with teenagers, or young adults.

Each group is not only different socially, but biologically. The same can be said of the difference between 70-yearolds from the nonagenarians a generation ahead of them. As a result, Aronson believes it is very likely that we are incorrectly vaccinating a significant number of the 47 million Americans over 65.

Treatment plans in general are not at all as nuanced for people over 65 as they are for those below senior status.

For a number of reasons, older Americans tend to be excluded from clinical studies. Though it is a fact that the speed and extent of aging varies widely, rarely do treatment plans target older adults’ specific physiology. There are different risk-benefit ratios for older adults than other groups. These differences matter, both for immunizations and in health care in general, says Aronson. The sad fact is that care providers frequently do not know how to best care for the old.

“Insurance companies continue to pay top dollar for questionable, useless and even harmful care for older people,” she concludes. “Money that could be spent on more effective care.”

At least a decade before a person enters official senior citizenry, their balance will begin to decline.

It is yet another area where an attitude adjustment is needed. A decline in balance can lead to a fall and falls are the No. 1 cause of accidental deaths among older adults. According to the National Institutes of Health, more than a third of people 65 and over suffer a fall each year. Medication side effects are considered a leading cause of falls. Although falls increase with age, they are not an inevitable part of aging.

One organization, Healthy Aging Partnerships, a coalition of more than 30 nonprofit, government and community organizations has implemented a program to address this health hazard. Called “Standing Strong,” it teaches balance training, incorporating the use of elastic resistance bands to improve strength in the lower extremities and foam pads that provide an unsteady surface that challenges the body to maintain balance. Participants who completed the program improved balance by 82 percent and decreased their fall rate from 58 percent to 16 percent, according to the center’s research.

June Simmons, voted as one of 2016 Influencers in Aging by Next Avenue magazine, recently noted that nearly 91 percent of older adults today have at least one chronic condition. As many as 73 percent have at least two.

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five-year initiative expects to generate more than $7 million in savings each year from avoided re-hospitalizations.

What the above program clearly demonstrates is that we have unprecedented opportunities to redefine the aging experience and the way we deal with it; to make the commitment to afford older adults the opportunity to age well, increasing their independence and dignity.

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We all know being overweight or obese isn’t healthy. In fact, most of us have tried - at some point in our lives -- to shed a few extra pounds. A recent look at weight and its effect on cancer should encourage all of us to keep trying.

Many people think that whether or not you get cancer is just luck of the draw. Or, that your chances are determined by genes you inherit from your parents. Being overweight or obese increases the risk for several types of cancer, including cancers of the colon, rectum, endometrium, liver, kidney, breast (in postmenopausal women), gallbladder, pancreas, and some parts of the stomach, ovary and esophagus.

Obesity also raises the risk for developing advanced prostate cancer, according to Dr. Anne McTiernan with the Fred Hutchinson Cancer Research Center, Seattle, Wash.

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Tiermann and colleagues conducted a series of clinical studies, assigning people by chance to weight loss diets, exercise programs, or control groups. They found that reducing weight through either diet or exercise significantly lowers the following cancer risk factors: • Estrogens and testosterone, which are risk factors for breast and endometrial cancers.

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According to AARP, storm chasers typically approach someone whose home is damaged during a recent storm. With the promise of a quick repair, they’ll ask for money up front – but may disappear soon after, taking the money. While some storm chasers do make repairs, the repairs are often discreditable, potentially leaving the home owner financially responsible to do it correctly.

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She may simply need more time to decide what she wants from your relationship. Be patient, and don’t expect a commitment upfront. If you truly want to marry her, you will need to be able to communicate about your relationship. You’ll need both self-awareness and the ability to be honest with each other.

If it doesn’t work out, know that she wasn’t right for you. Don’t hesitate to explore new possibilities! -- Doug

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has a 12 handicap at this time. In his younger days, it was as low as 3.6.

John has played (Yes, it is true, but how did he ever have the time?) each of the nine and 18 hole public and private golf courses in Wisconsin, except for the par-threes.

Of course, wife Ann became a golfer after their marriage 30 years ago. How else could she see her husband on weekends? We’re not sure about the golfing participation for children John C. of Hartland and Tiffany Guskey of New Berlin.

We will close this story on the life and mostly musical times of H. John Krueger by telling you he also found

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time to play sports as he’s in the Arrowhead High School Hall of Fame plus being a member of both the halls of fame of the Land O’ Lakes and Rock River baseball leagues. He hung up his cleats, gave his glove away and probably enshrined his favorite bat in that corner behind the furnace.

You may contact the H. John Krueger web page in regard to his lyrics and such at hjohnkrueger.com We are certain that there will be readers who will wish to have one of his CDs. His email is mgmgolf@sbcglobal.net.

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300 Krueger created song lyrics, you KRUEGER continued from page 1 and was anxious to shake the barn could listen to any particular one or dust and the other stuff from his shoes to hundreds of these titles that range as soon as he could. For many years, from Christian to Country to everyhe operated a successful golf reserva- day life styles on such as Amazon, tions business, which he now has sold Spotify and iTunes among other venas he wishes to devote more time to ues. John appreciates the song exposure, but admitted while he’s happy to making a career as a songwriter.

Having been given a CD with 41 have people hear his verbal renditions, different lyrics set to music (John has he’ll never become rich via these lismany, many more), was certainly suf- tening methods. He earns from three ficient for this listener to realize this cents to possibly as much 80 to 90 writer has talent, but can he ever be cents per listener. He has somewhere about 70 lyrics set to background discovered?

We will go through a few of the music and to vocalizing songsters, he titles that sort of also tell John’s sto- perhaps has between 70 and 90 such ry. We will begin with his “Living lyrics set to music for potentially wide Faith” and tell you that “All I want is audiences via these methods. But as to be good” before we go to “Bad news Krueger laments, “Paying a band to travels fast” and then to “Blurred by back up the lyrics and a talented singthe tears in your eyes” and from there er to make the lyrics appealing is not to “Change your point of view” before cheap.” Would you believe that the ferecognizing “ God’s plan for me” and male signers generally cost more for that “Dreams do come true” because their music studio service? To date, “I was the one.” “Just look beside you.” John’s music studio costs run about While John has CDs on the mar- $17,000. “Each studio booking goes ket, he admits to being a bit slow at re- from $180 to $400.”

The dairy farmer’s son turned leasing additional songs as the studio golfing entrepreneur after a Whitewacosts of having musicians do the background music is greater than he ever ter University education and 23 years expected when he was writing lyrics as with Roller Blade and/or Scott’s Lawn a side job and successfully operating Products as an executive. The golfing the golf business. But despite the fol- discount promotional business proslowing title, he’s not “Rolling in debt.” pered with John’s imaginative talents.

Being a writer, who admittedly He started it in 1998 and sold it in can’t carry a tune in a suitcase, listen- 2014, having taken it from 14 original ing to some of John’s works gives any courses using his service to 240 with listener a feel for the man whose life is over 6,500 customers.

Getting back to John, he appears filled with emotions and who is quick more as a professional business execto say that love is the true meaning of utive than a musical lyrics writer. He life. He goes on to say that faith is what brings life and love together as a sort enthusiastically says that he developed of glue when it seems all else is falling his love for words and rhyming them as an elementary student at the then, apart.

Krueger is quick to comment that and since closed, tiny rural Tamarack he writes lyrics with life, love, and School just up the road a bit from Krueger’s farm. The once-a-week faith in mind.

John’s lyrics all have meaning be- music instructor instilled putting the yond just being words. This story came words into effective song patterns.

In college in the 1960’s, John adabout as Krueger was asked what he was doing these days. Obviously, he mits that he really liked the music of informed me and I know now that “As Bob Dylan. His friends often found God so loved the world,” it was not just his taste in music difficult to digest.

“Lady Luck” that brought us in con- But John prevailed and his early tact that day at the Hartbrook Café. It rhyming more than apparently has turned out to be “So beautiful, but so taken hold. Now, it just has to pay off.

Before we leave H. John Krueger unplanned.” He just could be “Sitting on the ridge” right now with his quick and his 300 plus musical recordings, mind preparing the lyrics that will we must take a paragraph or two to inform you of his athletic prowess. John bring “Lady Luck” to his door.

While we already have taken you has three holes-in-one in golf, has a past fewer than 40 of the more than pair of 68’s for his 18-hole low scores,

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A few Paisans, a Golf Tourney, and their laudable charitable efforts

BY JACK PEARSON

Since its inception in Milwaukee in 1959, the National Italian Invitational Golf Tournament for Charities has become the largest ethnic oriented golf event in Wisconsin and quite possibly the entire country. And, along the way, has raised hundreds of thousands of dollars to aid people, especially children, in need.

“The key words in the title are ‘for charities,’” explained Milwaukee restaurateur Joe Armeli, who served as the event’s president for a number of years until his successor, attorney Joe Alioto, took over the position recently. “It has been the prime purpose of the tournament for nearly six decades, Armeli said.

This year’s tournament was held in early August at the Grand Geneva Resort, where it has been conducted for many years. The event was held originally at Tuckaway Country Club in Milwaukee, then later at North Shore Country Club in Mequon and at the Olympia Resort in Oconomowoc.

Aside from those charitable contributions, the Italian Golf Invitation-

al has always also honored a special guest, a person of Italian descent from fields of sports and entertainment who is world famed. That most impressive list has included such names as Frank Sinatra, Joe DiMaggio, Rocky Marciano, Gene Sarazan, Eddie Arcaro, Alan Ameche, Phil Rizzuto, Vic Damone, Carmine Basilio, Perry Como, Ken Venturi and Jim Valvano, to name just a few.

“The tournament was started by a group of us who were all members of Tuckaway in the late ‘50s,” recalled Tony Machi, who was also the first president of the Italian Community Center and one of the founders of Festa Italiana. “It just so happened we were all of Italian descent, Peter Balistrieri, William Calvano, Tony Dentice, Sam Lampone, Angelo Alioto, Nick Tamaro, Jack DeSalvo, Joe Olla and myself, of course, and a few others whose names escape me. You have to realize I am 96 now and the memory cells kind of wear out over time. Anyhow, we were all sitting around the clubhouse one afternoon, discussing golf and the upcoming Miller Open. Once of the

About 40 years ago, Frank Sinatra, the fellow at left with a white hat, was an honored guest of the Italian Open when the tournament was held at Tuckaway CC. The other fellow with a white hat on is a young Tony Machi, one of the founders of the tournament. guys suggested we start our own tour- all paisans, we’d make the tournament nament. Everybody laughed, but after Italian. Tomaro was then the president a while it sounded like a good idea. So of Tuckaway, so we had no problem.” we said ‘let’s do it.’ Also, since we were That’s how it started, and their event

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Former Major League baseball stars, when their playing days are over, love to play golf. Here’s one of them, the great Joe DiMaggio, another honored guest of the Italian Open, being scooted around by Rocco Bonino of the ICC. attracted a field of more than 200, and The tournament has also grown with corresponding financial success, over the years to meet the demands of they decided to continue the tourna- changing times. The National Italian ment. Machi, who became the tourna- Charitable Trust, a 501 (c) organizament’s president, is the only member tion, was created and a scholarship of the group still alive. program begun. In that program two Later that winter another member $7,500 scholarships a year are proof the group, William Calvano, was vided for needy students to continue in Italy on vacation. During his stay their education. there he met Monsignor John Abbey, “We’re fortunate in that we have the founder of Boys Town of Italy. The always had a plentiful amount of golfpriest told Calvano about the terrible ers, most of whom have come back destruction and poverty that horrible year after year,” Armeli said. “They war had caused in Italy and all over have provided the majority of our Europe, and of his decision to start a income. We’ve also been fortunate in home for all the orphaned children having a good number of very generbecause of that war, Machi recalled. ous donors and sponsors. And to top “So when Calvano came back home,” it all off, all of our officers and comMachi said, “he told all of us of Father mittee members have always volunAbbey’s work and his need for help, teered their time and expertise at no and we soon all agreed that we had charge. Everything we make in the discovered a true cause for our golf tournament goes to charity.” tournament.”

Eventually the tournament The Italian Invitational, Alioto evolved into its current format, threesaid, has continued without interrup- somes make up of one “A,” one “B” and tion every year since ’59 and has pro- one “C” category golfer. In the beginvided significant financial assistance ning tournaments, the field was made to not only the Boys and Girls Clubs up of only men of Italian descent, he of Italy, but also to St. Jude’s Research noted. “But for the past several years Hospital, the American Cancer Soci- any and all nationalities have been inety, the American Brain Tumor As- cluded, as well as women. The overall sociation, the Jim Valvano Cancer field is usually 90 to 120 in size, ArmeFund, UNICO National and the Ital- li said. “But one year, 1973 at Tuckaian Community Center of Milwaukee way, because we had Frank Sinatra as among others. our featured attraction, we had a field of 288,” Machi recalled. “That was the largest we ever had.”

I met recently with Machi at the ICC restaurant, where a special table is always reserved for his use. That everyone treats him with great reverence there may be an understatement.

I asked him who, of all the honored guests the golf tournament has had, did he enjoy meeting the most. I had expected he’d say Sinatra or DiMaggio. Not so. “The two I really liked were Gene Sarazan and Perry Como,” Machi said. “No one remembers him today, but at one time he was about the best golfer in the world. He told me that when he was young and had won his first major tournament, he was so poor that he had to sleep in his car at night. Couldn’t afford a hotel room. Can you imagine that? And Como was absolutely the nicest human being I think I’ve ever met. When I mentioned to him that my mother liked him so much, he made a special effort to meet her and talk to her. He touched her cheek and kissed the top of her head and told her she was so beautiful. She cried in happiness and never forgot that moment until she died.”

I also asked Machi if there was anything he’d change. He thought for a moment and then replied. “Nothing.

It has all been so wonderful. You’re old enough to remember that old Jimmy Stewart movie, “It’s a Wonderful Life.”

Well, when I finally kick the bucket, I hope they put those words on my tombstone. When I see our marvelous Italian Community Center, and the huge crowds at Festa Italiana, and then think of all the thousands of children and others who have benefitted by the Italian Invitational Golf Tournament, and realize that I’ve been involved in the creation of all three, I think, how could it all have been any better?”

An so, to Tony Machi, and all of his departed buddies who organized this exceptional sport-charity event; to Joe Armeli and Joe Alioto and all of the other officers, committee members and volunteers who have perpetuated it now for nearly six decades, particularly the wives, who rarely get the credit they deserve; to everyone connected to the Italian Invitational Golf Tournament for Charities, congratulations. You have come up with a program in which you can enjoy yourselves while helping others - a marvelous formula. Salute!

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The late Jim Valvano of college basketball coaching fame had pretty good golfing form, wouldn’t you say? The Valvano Cancer Fund, started after his death, was also one of the many recipients of the Italian Open’s contributions.

Tony Machi at his favorite table at the Italian Community Center. As the saying goes, Tony is a legend in his own time.

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October 4, 7 pm Vagabond Ski & Social Club Knights of Columbus Hall, 1800 S. 92nd Street, West Allis This is an active social club for both singles and married couples.

There will be a meeting and dance with great music by Andrea & The Mods. The meeting begins at 7:00 pm with dancing to follow at 8:00 pm. There is a $5 admission fee. For additional information about Vagabond Ski & Social Club go to www.vagabondskiclub.com.

October 5, 1 – 4 pm Fourth Annual Oak Creek Health Fair Oak Creek Community Center, 8580 S. Howell Avenue, Oak Creek This health fair is open to all and will feature over 30 vendors, free health screenings, prizes and giveaways, flu shots are available (fee may apply). Make sure you don’t miss this opportunity to get informed on various health issues!

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October 6, 10 am – noon Computer Class: Email Basics East Library – Ellipse Community Room, 2320 N. Cramer St., Milwaukee Feel like the last person in the world without an e-mail address? Learn how to sign up for a free e-mail account, and how to compose, send, reply to and forward messages. For more information or to register, call 414-286-3000.

performances, face painting. Actress and singer Jane Lynch is the Honorary Chair for the event. The walk is free, and there is a $30 registration fee for the 5K run. Registrants who raise pledges will win exciting prizes. Those who wish to participate can register online at aidswalkwis.org or over the phone at 800-348-9255.

October 11, 11 am Embracing Autumn Luncheon & Fashion Show Golden Mast, W349 N5293 Lacy’s Lane, Okauchee This Oconomowoc Woman’s Club fundraiser will feature a boutique, bakery, raffle and fashion show with fashions by Betrothed Boutique, Lieblang Leather, Kalon, Mainstream Boutique, My Element Style, Trendz and the Gift Box. Call 262-560-0464 for ticket information.

October 12, 6 pm Poland: A Journey Home St. Francis Public Library, 4230 S. Nicholson Ave., St. Francis Learn about the history and culture of this beautiful country as Librarian Kathy Stilin takes you on a photo journey of her recent trip to Poland. Kathy will also talk about her genealogy research in the towns and churches of her ancestors. For ages 15 and older. Please register in advance by calling 414-481-7323 for this free program.

October 13, 11:30 am – 1:30 pm Waukesha Service Club, Inc. October 7, 9:30 am presents “In our own style” AIDS Walk Wisconsin luncheon and fundraiser & 5k Run Country Springs Hotel, Henry Maier Festival Park 2810 Golf Rd, Pewaukee Summerfest Grounds, 639 E. In addition to lunch, there will be a Summerfest Place, Milwaukee The route takes walkers along fashion show highlighting some of Milwaukee’s scenic lakefront and the wardrobe items and accessories features restroom facilities, re- available at our Waukesha Service freshments, many activities, live Club Thrift Shop and the Gift Shop

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Raffle tickets will be available for sale to provide an opportunity to take home one of the 13 fabulous raffle baskets. Tickets for the luncheon are $50 per person and can be obtained by calling Karen Patrick at (262) 227-9072.

October 16, 6 pm Desserts: Warm Spices and Winter Squash St. Francis Public Library, 4230 S. Nicholson Ave., St. Francis Anne Lefort, from “The Mindful Palate,” will demonstrate how to use a variety of winter squash paired with warm spices to create a delicious, healthy, unique desserts for all your fall feasts. Please register by Thurs. Oct. 12, by calling 414-481-7323 for this free event.

multi-year discount on your car insurance. Please contact your insurance provider to see if they provide the discount. Pre-registration is requested by calling 414-768-8045.

The cost is $15 AARP members $20 non-members.

October 17, 6 – 7 pm Spice Rack Medicine Hartland Public Library, 110 E Park Ave, Hartland Did you know that spices can help control blood sugar and protect against inflammation that can conOctober 14, 10 am – 2 pm tribute to chronic disease and type 4th Annual Pet Walk – 2 diabetes? Spices may even play a Puppy Prance at Prairie Home role in weight management. A diPrairie Home Cemetery, etitian from ProHealth Care will be 605 S. Prairie Ave., Waukesha here to teach us how to add spice New tour stops, take your K-9 October 17, noon – 4 pm to your life and diet. Please call the Friend on the tour, collect all the AARP Smart Driving Course library at 262-367-3350 or email tokens from the tour stops. Visit Grobschmidt Senior Center, Sara at swanson@hartland.lib. the Pet Remembrance Garden. Si- 2424 15th Ave., South Milwaukee lent auction, food and fun for all. Learn defensive driving techniques, wi.us to register.

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October 18, 6:30 – 8:00 pm Purchasing a Home or Condo in the Near Future?

New Berlin Community Center, 14750 W. Cleveland Ave., New Berlin This class is a must! Learn the difference between a “traditional real estate agent” and a “Buyer’s Agent” who will represent only you in the home buying process. Become informed regarding mortgage pre-approval, the home inspection, negotiating defects discovered at the home inspection, gap insurance, escalator clause, and how the offer can be written in your best interest. The instructors will guide you through the entire process of buying a home/condo plus the loan process.

The cost is $15 for New Berlin residents, $23 non-resident, call 262797-2443 to register.

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October 18, 6:30 – 9:00 pm Pumpkin Fun Nicolet High School, room 8133, 6701 N. Jean Nicolet Rd., Glendale Pumpkin bread, pumpkin ravioli, pumpkin pie, pumpkin risotto, pumpkin beer—the options are endless, and endlessly mouthwatering. It’s finally pumpkin season, and the reasons to celebrate are many! Not only is fall’s signature squash versatile enough to fit into all the above and more, it also packs some powerful healthy perks—like keeping you heart healthy, vision and waistlines in check, as long as you take it easy on the pie, that is. Staci Joers will prepare some tasty pumpkin dishes that are sure to please. Attendees will sample curried cream of pumpkin soup, pumpkin ravioli with walnut cream sauce, roasted garlic & pumpkin with crispy sage and brown butter and cinnamon baked pumpkin crisp. To register for this class call Nicolet Recreation department at 414-351-7566.

October 19, 6:30 – 7:30 pm Artist Talk: A Craving for Clay Museum of Wisconsin Art, 205 Veterans Ave., West Bend Master ceramist Gerit Grimm tells of her lifelong obsession with clay and how it’s shaped her life from Germany to Wisconsin. A guided exhibition tour of ‘Gerit Grimm’s Fairytales: In a Time Neither Now nor Then’ will follow. The exhibit will be featured from October 7 thru January 14, 2018. For hours and admission information call 262-334-9638.

October 21, 10 – 11 am Digital Downloads Brookfield Public Library, 1900 N. Calhoun Rd., Brookfield Learn how to use digital books, audiobooks, and magazines available for FREE with your library card and accessible on your computer, laptop, phone, tablet, or other portable electronic device. Each ses-

sion will include a demonstration of Overdrive and, as time permits, the other online products available and an open question and answer period. No registration required.

October 23 – December 4, Mondays, 10 am – noon Stepping On ProHealth Waukesha Memorial Hospital, 725 American Ave., Waukesha Stepping On is a workshop for older adults interested in learning how to prevent falls. Topics covered include simple and fun strength and balance exercises, the role vision plays in keeping your balance, how medications can contribute to falls, ways to stay safe when out and about in your community, what to look for in safe footwear, and how to check your home for safety hazards.

October 25, 8:15 am – 5:15 pm Fireside: Elvis Lives Sussex Civic Center, N64W23760 Main Street, Sussex Our coach bus is headed to the Fireside where we will enjoy a delicious dinner and a production of Elvis Lives! The King of Rock ‘n’ Roll lives on in an unforgettable live musical journey across Elvis’ life. His iconic style, embraced by many of today’s artists, continues to intrigue audiences of all generations. Featuring champions and finalists from Elvis Presley Enterprises’ worldwide Ultimate Elvis Tribute Artist Contest, a live band, and exciting and talented singers and dancers, audiences “Can’t Help Falling in Love” with this phenomenal theatrical concert experience.

On the way to the Fireside the bus will stop at the Jones Dairy Farm Outlet. The cost is $94 for Sussex residents and $99 for non-residents. Call 262-246-5200 to register.

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guide Caregiver’s TABLE OF CONTENTS Adult Day Services..................................................................................22 Alcohol and Substance Abuse.........................................................22 Alzheimer’s and Memory Loss.........................................................22 Animals/Pet Care.....................................................................................22 Assisted Living...........................................................................................22 Caregiver Education.............................................................................22 Consumer Protection.............................................................................22 Dental...............................................................................................................23 Driving..............................................................................................................23 Employment Services............................................................................23 Elder Abuse................................................................................................23 Faith/Spirituality.........................................................................................24 Financial Issues.......................................................................................24 Funeral and Burial....................................................................................24 Geriatric Assessment............................................................................24 Geriatric Care Management and Support................................24 Grandparents and other Relatives Raising Minors.......................................................................................24 Grief Resources......................................................................................24 Health Care Clinics.................................................................................24 Hearing Resources..................................................................................25 Home Maintenance / Chores............................................................25 Home Safety................................................................................................25 Homemaking and Healthcare...........................................................25 Hoarding.......................................................................................................25 Hospice...........................................................................................................25

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The “I” In Caregiver

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member of the Family Caregiver Support Network Advisory Committee once said that as a caregiver people always ask how your mother or father, husband or wife is, but rarely ask how you are doing, so, how are you doing? You are the I in caregiver and only you can answer that question.

Caregiving, even for the most independent individual, can be and most often is lonely. It is lonely at times even when we have help because it is such an individual thing.

Let’s take the two sisters both willing to assist mom with her groceries. One believes in getting her out and into the store as an outing while the other cannot handle the amount of time it takes to read the new product labels so she prefers to shop for her mother. Sound familiar? Lonely is not a bad thing as long as the feeling of being alone does not create the stress associated with feeling isolated.

Caregiving brings change into our lives. Change brings on stress and impacts our lives in ways we may not even realize. The type of stress we live with depends on whether we have selected a role as victim, survivor or navigator.

Which role do you think you are?

Navigator is where you need to strive to be.

A critical thing to understand about “caregiver stress” is that it is not for sissies. (Wow? A double whammy of i’s.) Stress cannot be taken lightly if we want to remain both healthy and our body actually respond in predictable ways:

z All of our senses are heightened. z Our hearing can be more acute and our eyes can dart from side to side. z Our blood pressure and pulse increase and our heart can race. z We breathe more quickly but with more shallow breaths. z Constant stress lowers our immune system. z Our thyroid speeds up and we can feel jittery. z Because we are jittery we can lose weight or because we do not take time to prepare meals, we gain weight from eating out more and/ or not exercising. z We do not produce as many sex hormones so our sex drive decreases. z W e put out more insulin and no longer metabolize sugar well so we have an increased tendency towards diabetes. z Our cholesterol increases which can lead to an increased chance of stroke and heart disease.

We need to listen to what our bodies are saying to us. The following five suggestions will go a long way to help maintain physical, emotional and spiritual well-being: Exercise is the easiest and most beneficial thing we can do to help our bodies. A regular exercise routine of even 20 minutes a day helps us feel better physically and mentally. It allows us to be alone with our thoughts and we can concentrate on our bodies so we stay well.

We get busy as caregivers and we may not take the time to think about our nutrition, what we are putting into our own bodies, even though we watch what our loved

ones eat very carefully. We may eat out more, eat more fast food or snack more. We may be upset, lose our appetite and eat less. We feel tired and need energy so we eat more sugar and caffeine. We often forget that it is as easy to cut up an apple as it is to dig into the ice cream, and that a glass of water will go a long way toward keeping us hydrated. In addition, it is important to consume enough vitamins, especially from fruits and vegetables.

Taking care of our mental health lets us blow off steam. There is no road map to caregiving; at times it is constant change. Most caregivers say that only other caregivers get it. So how do we hold our emotions in check? How and to whom do we express our anxieties and still feel safe? Who will listen?

For some caregivers, the answer is to join a caregiver support group.

For others, it is seeing a therapist.

(Our office has lists of both.) We once asked a large group of caregivers at a conference what helps them through their days? 85 percent said their “faith.” Most believe they do not walk their journey alone and without spirituality, they would not make it through most days.

Prayer can be a form of meditation.

It causes mental relaxation. People also find their strength through worship, prayer, song and fellowship. Prayer and meditation help to counteract many of the negative symptoms of stress.

Lastly, reclaim you life to include caregiver but not to be only a caregiver. You are the daughter or son, wife or husband, who is now also a caregiver. Write down all the

roles that you now have and remember you should have no more than seven, including that of caregiver. Once you have done that, can you …Take a class? Plant a garden?

Walk your dog? Go fishing? Get a job? …and somehow remember there is no i in stress….only in caregiver.

Interfaith Older Adult Program’s Family Caregiver Support - 414.220.8600 – www.interfaithmilw.org www.living-options.org www. caregiversupportnetwork.org

Caregiver’s Code I need to…

Take care of myself physically, emotionally, spiritually; Accept my limitations and be satisfied with doing my best; Recognize and get help, no matter how difficult that may be; Enjoy time away without guilt; Maintain relationships with friends, family, co-workers; Set goals, pursue dreams and remember to live life.

A prepared, informed and supported family caregiver provides better self and older adult care.

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ADULT DAY SERVICES

tional deficiencies or medication www.hawspets.org Adult Day Centers are designed side effects. If you or your loved Washington...............262-677-4388 www.wchspets.org to service adults who are experi- one is experiencing trouble with encing a decrease in physical, men- memory, discuss the problem with Ozaukee.....................262-377-7580 www.wihumane.org tal and social functioning and who your physician.

Refer to your yellow pages for may need the protective environment when their caregivers are at For 24/7 information and refer- pet related services such as in home work or in need of respite. Full and ral helpline (English and Spanish), veterinary care, pet sitting, groomhalf day services are usually avail- contact Alzheimer’s Association ing and yard clean up. These serable. Range of services may include Southeastern Wisconsin chapter at. vices have often been the answer to recreational therapy, meals, social ................................ 1-800-272-3900 a number of older adult pet owners’ www.alz.org/sewi needs. services, transportation, personal Wisconsin Alzheimer’s Institute care, including bathing, hair and nail care, nursing services, reha- – Milwaukee Project: Education, ASSISTED LIVING Assisted living facilities are for bilitation therapy and medical ser- services, research opportunities, vices. Fees for Adult Day Services and resources for Milwaukee’s Afri- people who need assistance with Activities of Daily Living (ADLs), vary based on what services are in- can American Community cluded in the fee. Some centers may ...................................414- 219-5083 but wishing to live as independently as possible. Assisted living exists www.wai.wisc.edu be able to offer low income persons to bridge the gap between inde(WAI Milwaukee tab) a reduced fee based on ability to pendent living and nursing homes. pay. Most centers offering the wide Dementia Care Specialist The services provided may include Milwaukee County Department range of services are licensed by the but are not limited to meals, assisState. Those that are more informal on Aging with more of a recreational model ....................................414-289-5792 tance with bathing, dressing, launiShould you need community services dry, housekeeping and assistance are not licensed. and or respite, contact your local coun- with medications or medication iContact your local county resources. ty resource. monitoring.

Memory Cafe ALCOHOL AND Share your stories and socialAssisted Living options include: SUBSTANCE ABUSE ize with others who have worries Residential Care Apartment Alcohol and Substance Abuse with memory. There are a number Complex (RCAC) independent is at epidemic proportions among of Memory Cafes in Southeast Wisapartment units that can provide the elderly. It remains for the most consin. up to four hours of skilled and/or part, unreported, undiagnosed, or Alzheimer Association of SE supportive care per day. ignored. Most drinkers who start- Wisconsin..................414-479-8800 Community Based Resed late are affected by social isolawww.alz.org/sewi/ (click on idential Facility (CBRF) state lition and physical health problems Memory Cafe) censed supportive living facilities which may include grief or loss, Partnership Memory Cafes............. where five or more adults reside. housing, marital or mental health ....................................414-289-5792 They are staffed 24 hours per day problems. and can provide three hours of For a facility locater in Wiscon- ANIMALS/PET CARE skilled nursing care per week. sin go to: www.theagapecenter.

Whether you are looking for Adult Family Homes (AFH) a com/treatment-centers/wisconsin listings of animal friendly landplace where three or four adults reor refer to your local yellow pag- lords, information on the imporside and receive care, treatment or es under Alcoholism information tance of spaying and neutering, services that may include up to sevand treatment centers. You may available options when you are no en hours per week of nursing care. also choose to talk to local county longer able to care for your pet and resources.i nutrition programs to provide food iCall Family Caregiver Support for pets of individuals with low in- Network – Living Options service for ALZHEIMER’S AND come, contact your local Humane more information, call 414-220-8600 or 800-449-4481 or visit MEMORY LOSS Society. www.living-options.org or call your Problems with memory can Milwaukee.................414-264-6257 local County resource. have many causes that may range www.wihumane.org from normal age related memory Elmbrook...................262-782-9261 declines to a diversity of past or www.ebhs.org present medical conditions, nutri- Waukesha..................262-542-8851

iLOCAL RESOURCE FOR FAMILY CAREGIVERS

Milwaukee County...................................414-220-8600 Ozaukee County......................................262-238-8120 ...........................................................................262-284-8120 Walworth County......................................262-741-3400 Washington County.................................877-306-3030 Waukesha County...................................262-548-7848 Waukesha County Toll Free..............866-677-2372 State Wide Toll Free..............................866-843-9810

To file a complaint or ask about State regulations contact the Office of Quality Assurance ....................................800-642-6552

CAREGIVER EDUCATION

Caring for an older adult can be highly demanding work. Throughout your caregiving journey, you will have questions related to the many aspects of caring for your loved one. The following websites and phone numbers will provide you with the education, information and support you need. www.caregiversupportnetwork. org www.strengthforcaring.com www.caregiver.com www.caregiving.org www.caregiver.org www.CAREgivinghelp.org i Contact your local county resource for caregiver education that may be available in your community.

CONSUMER PROTECTION Consumer Protection works to eliminate unfair or deceptive marketplace practices.

To file a complaint against a business contact the Better Business Bureau at................ 1-800-273-1002 ....................................414-847-6000 or www.bbb.org To file a complaint against a nursing home or assisted living facility contact the Office of Quality Assurance at ....................................414-227-5000 Concerns with inappropriate marketing and sales practices of Medicare Advantage plan agents contact:

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The Medigap helpline at ................................ 1-800-242-1060 Wisconsin No Call List prevents telemarketers from calling for two years...................... 1-866-966-2255

DENTAL

As we age, our dental care becomes critical to our over all health and well being. Cost is one of the main reasons older adults do not seek dental care. Below is a list of dental clinics that offer services based on income or at discounted rates.

DRIVING

Driving is affected by a variety of health issues. If you have concerns about your loved one’s driving abilities contact: Driver Services Medical Division at.............1-608-266-2327 For Driver Safety contact www.AARP.org

For a Comprehensive Driver’s Readiness Evaluation, contactAurora Rehabilitation Centers: West Allis Memorial Hospital Milwaukee: ....................................414-328-6633 AIDS Resource Center of WI/ Sinai Medical Center Dental Clinic ............414-233-6800 ....................................414-219-5241 www.arcw.org/dental-clinic/ Guadalupe Dental Clinic, Inc The Alzheimer’s Association ....................................414-643-8787 has a variety of information and materials.

Independent Care Health Plan For 24/7 information and referral (ICare)........................414-223-4847 helpline- contact Alzheimer’s AssoToll Free.....................800-947-3329 ciation at ............... 1-800-272-3900 Marquette University Dental EMPLOYMENT SERVICES Clinic..........................414-288-6790 Significant numbers of workSpanish.......................414-288-1520 ing caregivers often need to make www.mu.edu/dentistry adjustments to their work life, from reporting late to work, reducing MATC Dental Hygiene Clinic hours or giving up work entirely. ....................................414-297-6573 For information on all State of Wisconsin Job Centers St. Elizabeth Ann Seton Dental www.wisconsinjobcenter.org/ Clinic..........................414-383-3220 directory/ www.columbia-stmarys.org/ Milwaukee Ann_Seton_Denta Milwaukee County Residents/ caregivers of any age can get job iContact your local County resource for search assistance at the following another clinic in your community. locations: Northeast Comprehensive For a list of Title 19 dentists in your Job Center area, contact the Greater Milwau1915 N. Martin Luther King Dr kee Dental Association at Milwaukee, WI 53212 ....................................414-276-9911 ..............................414-267-3291 Outside the Milwaukee area contact ................... 1-800-362-3002 Job Center Central Mobile Dental Care 4030 N. 29th Street ...........................262-786-4819 x222 Milwaukee, WI 53216 ..............................888-258-9966 Job Center Northwest ..............................414-760-6060 ..............................414-385-6920

Hire Center www.milwaukeewib.org/ job-seekers/the/hire-center Job Center Southeast 2701 S. Chase Avenue Milwaukee, WI 53207 ..............................414-389-6600 Job Seekers age 55 and over can get assistance at the following locations: Mature Worker Resource Center Washington Park Senior Center 4420 W Vliet Street Milwaukee, WI ..............................414-931-0253 Interfaith Older Adult Programs 600 W. Virginia, Suite 300 Milwaukee, WI 53204 ..............................414-291-7500

Ozaukee

Workforce Development CenterOzaukee County 5555 West Highland Road (P.O. Box 547) Mequon, WI 53092 Phone..................262-238-2880 FAX......................262-238-2890

Walworth

Walworth Job Center 10 E. Centralia Street Elkhorn, WI 53121 Phone..................262-741-5180 FAX......................262-741-5275

Washington

Workforce Development Center Washington County 2200 Green Tree Road West Bend, WI 53095 Phone..................262-335-5300 FAX......................262-335-5321

Waukesha

Workforce Development Center Waukesha County 892 Main Street Pewaukee, WI 53072 Phone..................262-695-7800 FAX......................262-695-7890

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iLOCAL RESOURCE FOR FAMILY CAREGIVERS

Milwaukee County...................................414-220-8600 Ozaukee County......................................262-238-8120 ...........................................................................262-284-8120 Walworth County......................................262-741-3400 Washington County.................................877-306-3030 Waukesha County...................................262-548-7848 Waukesha County Toll Free..............866-677-2372 State Wide Toll Free..............................866-843-9810

For individuals 55 years of age and older call: Southeastern Area Agency on Aging, Inc. Attn: Older Worker Coordinator 125 N. Executive Drive, Suite 102 Brookfield, WI 53005 Phone:................ 262-821-4444 Southeastern Area Agency on Aging serves all four counties.

They also have a caregiver support program that can supply additional information. iContact your local county resource for Family Caregivers for employment or caregiver reimbursement options.

ELDER ABUSE

Wisconsin Statute 46.90 states that “Elder adult at risk” means any person age 60 or older who has experienced, is currently experiencing, or is at risk of experiencing abuse: Physical Abuse Emotional Abuse Sexual Abuse Treatment without Consent Unreasonable Confinement or Restraint Financial Exploitation Neglect Self-Neglect For Definitions of each of the above: www.dhs.wisconsin.gov/aps/ public/definitions.htm#adultatrisk To report a suspected case of elder abuse or neglect, call your county resource center.i For Milwaukee County call the Aging Resource Center at ....................................414-289-6874 www.dhs.wisconsin.gov/aps/index.htm

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FAITH/SPIRITUALITY

iFor information on how to talk with your loved one about funeral arrangements, contact your local county resource for Family Caregivers.

As a caregiver you may draw your strength each day from your church, synagogue, mosque or other faith based groups to help you Talk with your funeral home of manage your daily caregiving chal- choice about the burial assistance lenges. program offered through your county. iContact your local county resource iFor more information, contact your for Family Caregivers for Caregiver Retreat Information or to find out about respite options that would allow the caregiver to attend church.

FINANCIAL ISSUES

As seniors age, many struggle to keep up with their finances. Some pay their bills late or forget entirely.

It is uncomfortable for children— no matter if they are 30, 40 or 50— to ask if their parents are struggling to pay their bills. Below is a list of tools and resources available that will assist the caregiver with financial issues.

iContact your local county

resource for a list of Care Managers in your area.

Consumers may locate geriatric care managers throughout the Untied States by visiting www.aginglifecare.org

GRANDPARENTS AND local county resources.

OTHER RELATIVES In Milwaukee contact the Benefit RAISING MINORS

Researchers tell us that grandSpecialists of Legal Action for burial parents and other relatives raising trust information......414-278-7722 children 18 and under are one of GERIATRIC ASSESSMENT the fastest growing types of families Progressive memory loss, a in America. This is due to a number decline in eating or isolation from of reasons - death, divorce, mental family or friends is not a normal health, crime/jail, drugs and alpart of the aging process, and of- cohol. The courts would prefer to ten family members are the first remove a child from their biologto notice that something is wrong. ical parent(s) and place them with Early detection and intervention is a family member if at all possible. crucial as many symptoms are re- This situation knows no racial or versible. A Geriatric Assessment economic boundaries. It is estioffers a comprehensive approach to mated that 1 in 12 children are bedealing with the problems, which ing raised by a ‘grandparent’. The include a multidisciplinary team National Family Caregiver Proto diagnose and treat all types of gram has been asked to work with memory and health issues. Below Grandparents 55+.

For information on services that may be available through Medicare and Medicaid and information on all benefit programs in Milwaukee County, contact Senior Law Benefit is a list of geriatric clinics or talk Specialist of Legal Action at ....................................414-278-1222 with your family physician about options available in your area. iContact your local county resource for Family Caregivers or for Froedtert Memory Disorders Benefit Specialists in other counties.

Program ....................414-805-3666

Money management services are Aurora Center for Senior Health available through Aurora Center ....................................414-219-7300 for Financial Wellness at ....................................414-482-8801 GERIATRIC CARE MANAGEMENT AND SUPPORT FUNERAL AND BURIAL Geriatric Care managers Preplanning a funeral allows can provide coordinated care an individual to express their views management for caregivers who in the selection of services that live near or far. They have extenbest fit their beliefs and desires. sive knowledge about quality, costs, Preplanning can save a family 50% and availability of services in your or more on funeral and burial ar- community and can connect you rangements. with the services that will be right for you or a loved one. Professional Geriatric Care Managers generally charge a fee and can be found throughout the country.

iContact your County Aging / Family Caregiver Program for possible respite options, support groups, workshops and other local resources.

iLOCAL RESOURCE FOR FAMILY CAREGIVERS

Milwaukee County...................................414-220-8600 Ozaukee County......................................262-238-8120 ...........................................................................262-284-8120 Walworth County......................................262-741-3400 Washington County.................................877-306-3030 Waukesha County...................................262-548-7848 Waukesha County Toll Free..............866-677-2372 State Wide Toll Free..............................866-843-9810

GRIEF RESOURCES

It is natural to grieve the death of a loved one before, during and after the actual time of their passing. The process of accepting the unacceptable is what grieving is all about. For support groups and to learn about resources for anticipatory grief, ambiguous loss, grief at death, chronic illness and loss, symptoms and stages of grief and helping those who are grieving, visit: www.cargiver.org

Caregiver Education Fact Sheets; caregiving issues and strategies; grief and loss.

If you have been involved with a hospice program, take advantage of their grief education and support. Or contact Horizon Home Care and Hospice Grief Resource Center ....................................414-586-8383

HEALTH CARE CLINICS

Many times individuals earn just enough income to be ineligible Grandparents Support Group ....................................414-220-8600 for Medicaid coverage, yet do not receive health insurance through Kids Matter ....................................414-344-1220 their employers and cannot afford to pay for “out of pocket” health www.kidsmatterinc.org Legal and social service information insurance. Often, these individuals are forced to seek treatment at local AARP w w w. a a r p . o r g / f a m i l i e s / emergency rooms and become saddled with medical bills that they are grandparents not able to afford. Free or reduced Parenting Network Helpline fee medical clinics fill the gap in ....................................414-671-0566 healthcare access for the uninsured. www.theparentingnetwork.org iFor a list of free or reduced fee The Women’s Center - Waukesha clinics in your area contact your county ....................................262-547-4600 aging services or 211.

For a list of free medical clinics in your area contact www.freemedicalcamps.com

Also in Milwaukee, contact:

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HEARING RESOURCES

HOMEMAKING AND At least 25% of individuals over HEALTHCARE

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social workers, home health aides, iLOCAL RESOURCE clergy, therapists and trained vol- FOR FAMILY CAREGIVERS Milwaukee County...................................414-220-8600 the age of 65 report problems with Today’s older adult wants to unteers care for you.

Ozaukee County......................................262-238-8120 hearing. Persistent failure to un- grow old at home, the place he/she iSee your local yellow pages under ...........................................................................262-284-8120 “Hospice” or talk with your County Walworth County......................................262-741-3400 derstand what is being said can lead feels most comfortable. Assistance resource.

Washington County.................................877-306-3030 Waukesha County...................................262-548-7848 to frustration, discouragement and with homemaking, personal needs Waukesha County Toll Free..............866-677-2372 embarrassment. Two of the most and transportation can help an older HOUSING State Wide Toll Free..............................866-843-9810 common consequences of hearing adult maintain independence.

Southeastern Wisconsin has 700 West Michigan Street, impairment in the elderly are dea wide variety of housing options. Suite 350, 53233 pression and withdrawal. iContact your county resource to Contact your county resource to ....................................414-291-5360 discuss options or for resources for discuss the options available to you. homemaking and healthcare providers.

Contact the Center for CommuniContact the County Resource Information on car, home (non cation, Hearing and Deafness for – Living Options Services for infor- Medicare) health and renters’ HOARDING information on the wide variety of Hoarding is generally charac- mation on all types of living options insurance. Hours are Mon. 1:00 services offered................................... terized as obtaining and refusing for older adults p.m-4:00 p.m. Tues.- Thurs.8:00 414-604-2200 to throw out a large number of ....................................414-220-8600 a.m.-4:00 p.m. items that would normally appear ................................ 1-800-449-4481 HOME MAINTENANCE / www.living-options.org to be worthless, hazardous, or unRailroad Retirement Board CHORES sanitary. Living spaces become 310 West Wisconsin Avenue Although the average elderly significantly cluttered and prevent Contact United States Suite 1300 individual would prefer to remain activities for which those spaces Department of Housing and Urban 53203 in their own home; frailty, chronic were designed. Hoarding can be Development (HUD) for area ....................................877-772-5772 illness, and disability often prevent a contentious issue among family information on low income housing.

Retirement unemployment and this dream from materializing. Be- members adding stress and frus- ....................................414-297-3214 sickness program low is a list of programs available tration to an already sensitive issue. to help the elderly remain in their While the exact underlying causes For information on housing Senior Care............ 1-800-657-2038 homes. available for individuals with Prescription drug assistance proof hoarding are unknown, there are Volunteer chore services and some underlying factors including: disabilities contact Independence gram for Wisconsin residents 65+ resource information: OCD, ADHD, Psychosis, and De- First at .......................414-291-7520 who meet eligibility criteria.

Independence First (main office) i mentia. ....................................414-291-7520 Catholic Charities in Home iSee your local yellow pages under Veterans’ Insurance Information .......

For volunteering see older adult Support Program......414-771-2881 “Hospice” or talk with your county ................................ 1-800-669-8477 resource. services on page 15B. Covers Milwaukee and WaukeVeterans’ Affairs Regional sha Counties.

INSURANCE - MEDICARE Office iA resource serving people with disabilities in Milwaukee, Ozaukee, For information on different 5000 W. National, iContact your local county Washington, Waukesha Counties: resouce for assistance. types of insurance options, see the Milwaukee, WI 53295 Your county resource may have other .............................. 1-800-827-1000 For information, resources and list: options available to you. professional tools visit www.milwaukeehoarding.wee- Medicare information, ordering Wisconsin Medicaid HOME SAFETY bly.com Medicare booklets, and information For assistance with Title 19 and Each year older adults are inSSI-E applications and financial about health plans, contact jured in and around their homes. ................................ 1-800-633-4223 assistance for individuals 60 and Many of these injuries result from HOSPICE older, contact the Benefit Specialist The hospice philosophy 24 hours a day, 7 days a week hazards that are easy to overlook through your County resource. recognizes death as the final stage but easy to fix. of life and seeks to enable patients Medigap / HMO Hotline / Spousal to continue an alert, pain-free Impoverishment................................. LEGAL MATTERS iContact your county resource for a There are a variety of personal list of agencies that will do home safe- life and to manage other symp- ................................ 1-800-242-1060 ty assessments and offer home safety toms so that their last days may Provides Information on Medi- legal matters regarding health and check lists. be spent with dignity and quality, care Insurance, Long Term Care finances which need to be taken surrounded by their loved ones. Insurance Home Health Care Insur- care of. This can best be done by Contact the family caregiver Hospice care can be given in the ance and other health insurance that an Elder Law Attorney. Elder Law support network website at www. patient’s home, a hospital, nursing might be available prior to Medicare. Attorneys specialize in age related caregiversupportnetwork.org for home, or private hospice facility. Community Insurance legal matters and problems includa home safety check list. ing qualifying for public benefit Typically, an interdisciplinary Information Center programs, long term care, estate health care team of doctors, nurses,

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planning, advance directives and guardianship issues. Your local county resource may have a list or call: Milwaukee Bar Association’s Referral Service....... 414-274-6768

agency for listing of other monitoring services offered as well. iContact your county resource for more options.

LONG-DISTANCE May discuss legal matters and CAREGIVING www.findmilwaukeelawyers.org

If you are providing care or or seek a referral to an attorney assistance to a person who lives in Milwaukee and surrounding an hour or more away, you are counties. “long-distance caregiving”. You National Academy of Elder Law may be paying bills on line, arrangAttorneys...................703-942-5711 ing for services and appointments over the phone, communicating www.naela.com with service providers; a care center, the bank, a pharmacy, neighLGBT CAREGIVING As American’s live longer, bors, friends, relatives or even greater attention is being paid to driving or flying in when there the concerns facing aging adults are appointments or “emergenand caregivers. Some unique con- cies”. Please know that you are not siderations arise for Lesbian, Gay, alone in your efforts. There may be Bisexual and Transgender (LGBT) as many as 7 million people carepeople dealing with aging. For in- giving at a distance in the US. Proformation on topics such as finding grams and services are growing in supportive health service provid- the understanding of your efforts ers, dealing with your employer, and dilemmas. Don’t be afraid to and caring for an LGBT spouse, seek out the National Family Caredomestic partner or friend, the fol- giver Support Program (NFCSP) in your community or the community lowing resources may be helpful: of your care receiver for informaThe Milwaukee LGBT Community tion, assistance to access services, Center........................414-271-2656 education, support, respite and ...................................292-3070(SAGE) supplemental services. www.mkelgbt.org/programs/ Wisconsin Caregiving adults ................................ 1-866-843-9810 www.caregiver.com www.wisconsincaregiver.org Under caregiver education fact sheets, “Special Concerns of LGBT Eldercare Locater ................................ 1-800-677-1116 Caregivers” www.eldercare.gov Publication: So Far Away LIFELINES National Institute on Aging # 10MEDICAL ALARMS Telephone monitoring systems 5496............................800-222-2225 www.nia.nih.gov (search for assist seniors in their home in case of a medical emergency. When a So Far Away) subscriber activates a monitoring Geriatric Care Managers www.caremanager.org pendant, the monitoring agency immediately contacts the subscriber as to inquire the type of assistance needed. Emergency Medical Technicians and personal emergency contacts are notified if the subscriber is unable to respond.

Contact telephone monitoring

iContact your local county

resource for NFCSP services, additional suggestions and assistance in seeking help to move someone closer to you.

MEDICAID/ T-19

ments, advocacy, information and For assistance with Title referral, and equipment trials are 19 and SSI-E applications and services available through this profinancial assistance for individuals gram.

60 and older, contact the Benefit Specialist through your county iContact your county resource for more options.

Aging and Disability Resource Centers (ADRCs).

For those 18-59 contact your ADRC. See MENTAL HEALTH AND “Older Adult Services ” ADRC COUNSELING For both the caregiver and or section in this directory. the care receiver.

You may apply for Medicaid by Nearly 20% of those who are 55 mail, telephone or in person. To years and older experience mental obtain an application or apply in disorders that are not part of norperson, contact your county aging mal aging. Most common disorservice number.

For information on the Medic- ders are anxiety, severe cognitive aid program contact their website impairment and mood disorders.

The rate of suicide is highest among at http://dhfs.wisconsin.gov/med- older adults compared to any other icaid/index.htm age group.

Nearly one out of every four If you are unsure of where or how U.S. households provides care to a to obtain an application or need relative or friend aged 50 or older. help in completing an application, Studies show that caregivers expecall Recipient Services at................. . rience a sense of burden and esti................................ 1-800-362-3002 mated 46% are clinically depressed.

MEDICAL EQUIPMENT

The Independence First Mobility Store, formerly Wheelchair Recycling Program (WRP), is a non-profit program that offers low cost, refurbished and sanitized mobility and medical equipment to those who lack the resources to acquire new equipment. It also offers a selection of low-cost new equipment.

Center for Psychological Services ....................................414-288-3487 at Marquette University Mental Health Association in Milwaukee County.........414-276-3122 Resources for prevention in mental health.

NAMI Wisconsin, Inc. Greater Milwaukee Office ....................................414-344-0447 Greater Milwaukee Area, State Office............ 1-800-236-2988 3720 N. 124th Street, Unit F Waukesha Office.......262-524-8886 Wauwatosa www.NAMIwisconsin.org ..............................414-988-5333 NAMI is an advocacy, refergma@ifmobility.org ral and support group, founded Independence First Assistive for people with mental Illness and their families. NAMI also has edTechnology ....................................414-291-7520 ucational programs. Everything is free of charge. www.independencefirst.org Experienced staff has informa- iContact your local county resource Family Caregivers for other countion on assistive technology and for seling services within your community. adaptive equipment. The Try-AGadget Center offers 700+ items to try. Formal and informal assess-

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NURSING HOMES

Nursing Homes and Health Care Centers are skilled nursing facilities designed to meet the needs of persons convalescing from illness or surgery or to provide longterm care which is not appropriate for a hospital or available through other alternatives. All persons entering a nursing home do so under physicians’ orders. Their care is supervised by nurses and other professionals under the direction of a physician. Facilities may offer special programs in rehabilitation, mental health, developmental disabilities, Alzheimer’s, hospice and subacute care. Along with meeting long term care needs they may offer outpatient services for rehabilitation, respite care (1-28 days) and short term or recuperative care (190 days).

Family Caregiver Support Network: Living Options services ....................................414-220-8600 ................................ 1-800-449-4481 Assists when exploring options or needing to select a facility by providing Federal and State inspection report information, touring check lists and more information on facilities (size, rates, smoking, a religious affiliation) in southeastern Wisconsin.

Ombudsman Program – State of Wisconsin.............. 1-800-815-0015 “Ombudsman” means ‘advocate’. Ombudsman acts as advocate in licensed facilities such as nursing homes on behalf of residents and/or their families. Leave a message including the facility name so that your call can be routed to an Ombudsman assigned to the facility you are referring to.

State of Wisconsin Office of Quality Assurance................. 414-227-5000 Call to ask questions about nursing home regulations or to file a formal complaint about a facility in southeastern Wisconsin.

Medigap Hotline

................................ 1-800-242-1060 Information on spousal impoverishment, nursing home insurance and other ways nursing home care may be paid for.

people understand the various long term care options available to them, helps people apply for programs and benefits, and serves as the access point for publicly-funded long term care. These services Nursing home inspection reports/ can be provided at the ADRC, via provider search website telephone, or through a home viswww.dhs.wisconsin.gov/bqa- it, whichever is more convenient to consumer/search.htm the individual seeking help. www.dhs.wisconsin.gov/adrc/ NUTRITION-DIETICIANS, MEALS ON WHEELS/ Milwaukee County HOME DELIVERED MEALS DRC............................414-289-6660 A significant number of elder(age 18-59) ly fail to get the amounts and types ARC............................414-289-6874 of food necessary to meet essential (age 60+) energy and nutrient needs. There is Ozaukee County.......262-284-8120 evidence that good nutrition pro- Walworth County.....262-741-3400 motes vitality and independence Washington County whereas poor nutrition can prolong ....................................262-335-4497 recovery from illness and lead to a Waukesha County....262-548-7848 lesser quality of life.

For aging and caregiver resources anywhere in the country iContact your county resource 211 contact or Milwaukee County 414-289-6874 the Eldercare Locater for a list of meal sites and providers of ................................ 1-800-677-1116 home delivered meals. www.eldercare.gov Outside Milwaukee

For aging and caregiver resources anywhere in the country contact the Eldercare Locater number at ............. 1-800-677-1116 www.eldercare.gov www.wisconsincaregiver.org ....................................866-843-9810 OLDER ADULT SERVICES ADRC AND VOLUNTEER Aging and Disability Resource Centers (ADRCs) provide accurate, unbiased information on all aspects of life related to aging or living with a disability. ADRCs are friendly, welcoming places where anyone - individuals, concerned families or friends, or professionals working with issues related to aging or disabilities - can go for information tailored to their situation.

The ADRC provides information on a broad range of programs and services (home care/chores, home delivered meals, transportation, housing, financial assistance, elder abuse and much more), helps

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PODIATRY

Foot care is of utmost importance in older adults because of the need for ambulation and mobility.

Circulation to the lower portions of the body tends to decrease with age. Decreased circulation, coupled with diminished sensation, can lead to skin breakdown and infections. Older adults are less agile and may experience difficulty in maintaining good hygiene of the feet. Many times podiatry services are covered by insurance, depending upon your medical condition.

At home services are also available. iContact your county resource for more information or talk with your primary care physician.

PUBLICATIONS

AARP - American Association of Retired Persons Yearly membership & receive the monthly newsletter “Bulletin” and OLDER ADULT SERVICES the “Modern Maturity” magazine,

BY VOLUNTEERS There has been a long stand- free brochures & discounts.

Membership Processing Center ing tradition of “neighbor helping P. O. Box 199 neighbor” in Wisconsin. Because Long Beach, CA 90801 of active lifestyles, it is often volunteers who assist with friendly visits, 50 Plus News Magazine phone calls, transportation, shopP. O. Box 230 ping, chores and other “neighborHartland WI 53029 ly” activities. Organized through ..............................262-367-5303 churches and other community groups, older adults are assisted Today’s Caregiver to remain independent in their ..............................800-829-2734 homes.

A bi-monthly publication prowww.dhs.wisconsin.gov/adrc/ Milwaukee - Interfaith Older viding information, support and guidance for family and professional Adults Program ....................................414-291-7500 caregivers.

Ozaukee - Interfaith Caregivers of iContact your local county resource Ozaukee County for Family Caregivers to subscribe to ....................................262-376-5362 a free caregiver newsletter within your Waukesha - Interfaith Senior community.

Programs ....................................262-549-3348 Washington County - Interfaith Caregivers of Washington County ....................................262-365-0902

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RELOCATION/MOVING

needs. Care is provided 24 hours a TRANSPORTATION Without effective transportaMaking the decision to relocate day, seven days a week for up tion, many individuals cannot ac(move) can be a welcome decision to 20 days. Reservations accepted. cess medical appointments, shop or a traumatic one. Many procrasfor necessities and may be isolated tinate because the thought of all the SILVER ALERT PROGRAM Wisconsin’s Silver Alert law in their home. This presents health work to move, even where to move, (Act 264) took affect August 2015. and safety risks for some and may is overwhelming. There is a complete series of resources available to Similar to an Amber Alert, Silver result in the elderly being forced provide assistance all along the way. Alerts will go out by e-mail, cell from their homes before they need County social workers and other phone, text, or fax through the to be, solely because of the lack of professionals can help determine Wisconsin Crime Alert Network to transportation. the best level of care. Placement notify the public that an adult with services, most of which do not Alzheimer’s, dementia, or other iContact your county resource for charge a fee, can assist in finding a permanent cognitive impairment transportation options in your area. new ‘home’. A number of realtors is missing. Anyone may subscribe have chosen to be certified as a Se- on-line to receive Silver Alerts and VETERANS’ BENEFITS Eligibility for most VA benefits nior Real Estate Specialist (SRES) Crime Alerts for free by e-mail, cell, is based upon discharge from active and other companies are available text or fax. Visit military service under other than www.wisconsincrimealert.gov to assist with packing, and all the dishonorable conditions. Active details of moving.

SOCIALIZATION service means full-time service as Exposure to social and phys- a member of the Army, Navy, Air iContact your county resource. ical activity improves cognitive Force, Marine Corps, and Coast Family Caregiver Support Network performance and sleep quality in Guard. Generally, men and women the elderly. Maintenance of social veterans with similar service may – Living Options Service ....................................414-220-8600 engagement and avoidance of so- be entitled to the same VA benefits. ................................ 1-800-449-4481 cial isolation are important factors Benefits will also be based on conin maintaining cognitive vitality in flict, time served and if a sustained old age. There are many opportu- injury had occurred.

RESPITE CARE Respite service allows caregiv- nities for social interaction which ers to have free time for themselves include adult day programs, senior Kenosha County Veteran’s while their loved ones receive assis- centers, friendly visitors, and tele- Service Office tance when needed. Respite ser- phone reassurance, to name a few. 8600 Sheridan Rd., Suite 700 vices are available in a variety of op- iContact your county resource to Kenosha, WI 53143-6516 appropriate options or for a list tions, ranging from a few hours to discuss ....................................262-605-6690 of programs in your area. several weeks. They can be offered Milwaukee County Veteran’s within the home, group home or Service Office SUPPORT GROUPS nursing home, depending upon the For both the caregiver and the VA Hospital Grounds, Bldg. 6 level of care needed. Each service care receiver, support groups can 6419 W. Greenfield Ave. has a different rate of cost; some help with the well being of one’s West Allis, WI 53214 services offer a sliding scale fee. physical and mental health. A sup- ....................................414-266-1234 port group is one way to share your Ozaukee County Veteran’s iContact your county resource for retroubles, exchange ideas and gain Service Office spite services and or a list of facilities new information. It can offer an 121 W. Main St., Rm 237 that offer respite.

Facilities that offer respite, you atmosphere of understanding and PO Box 994 Port Washington, WI do not need to live in Milwaukee support.

53074-0994 County. ....................................262-238-8326 iContact your local county resource Racine County Veteran’s for information on the many support St. Ann Center for Intergenerationgroups in your area.

Service Office al Care 1717 Taylor Ave. ....................................414-977-5000 Alzheimer’s Support Groups Racine, WI 53403 Based on assessment, provides ....................................800-272-3900 ....................................262-638-6702 both adult day and overnight serwww.alz.org/sewi Walworth County Veteran’s vices to people 18 years and older Service Office who have disabilities and special PO Box 1001, 100 W. Walworth

Elkhorn, WI 53121 ....................................262-741-4222 Washington County Veteran’s Service Office 432 E. Washington St. Rm 2006 West Bend, WI 53095 ....................................262-335-4457 ....................................800-616-0446 Waukesha County Veteran’s Service Office 500 Riverview Ave., Rm. G138 Waukesha, WI 53188-3680 ....................................262-548-7732

VISION RESOURCES

As we age, the quality of our vision diminishes naturally. Most changes typically are not severe, and a new prescription for glasses or a few adaptations, such as improved lighting, may be all that is needed. Eye care is important. Only a doctor can detect certain vision changes when you cannot—before symptoms become noticeable.

Wisconsin Regional Library for the Blind and Physically Handicapped ....................................414-286-3045 ................................ 1-800-242-8822 Sends books postage free, loans cassette players and much more at no charge.

Vision Forward ....................................414-615-0100 Local outlet for equipment, offers advocacy and organizations for the blind. iContact your County resource for services in your area.

WEBSITES

Interfaith www.interfaithmilw.org (support for family caregivers tab) Family Caregiver Support Network www.caregiversupportnetwork. org County Aging Services:

Milwaukee

www.county.milwaukee.gov/Aging

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Staying at Home Responsibly Cost Sheet/Expenses Family Caregiver Support Network For Family Members and Friends Who Help or Care For Older Adults Compare the costs of bringing private pay services into the Home vs. Assisted Living at $2,200-$5,000 a month and Nursing Home care at $5,000+ per month.

Service Provided* Home Delivered Meals (1-2x/day, 7 days a week)

Cost Per Day/Hour/Service

$6.00/Meal

Cost Per Week

Total $57.00-$99.00 $57.00-$78.00

$168.00-$336.00 +$60.00 Shipping (If shipped weekly) Total $228.00-$396.00 $228.00-$312.00

$18.00-$34.00

$72.00-$136.00

Transportation Using $7.00 Round Trip (Taxi Rides Milwaukee County’s Transit May Exceed This Amount) Plus (2x/week) (414) 343-1700

$14.00

$56.00

Adult Day Service (2x/week)

$50.00-$70.00/Day

$100.00-$150.00

$400.00-$600.00

Life Line Alert Service

1x Installation Fee of $50.00-$99.00 (Sometimes Waived) $10.00-$25.00

$7.00-$9.00

$35.00-$45.00

$10.00-$25.00

$40.00-$100.00

1x Installation Fee of $99.00

$12.50

$50.00

$275.50-$421.50

$1,109.00-$1,695.00

Homemaking and/or Personal $19.00-$26.00 Care (1x/week) (Usually 3 hr. Minimum) Bathing Service (1x/week)

Chore Service for Snow, Leaves etc. (1x/week) Medication Monitoring Systemthrough Life Line

$18.00-$34.00/Bath

Grand Totals

$42.00-$84.00 + $15.00 shipping/week

Cost Per Month

Don’t forget to add up the other costs of living at home such as utilities, taxes, home maintenance etc. in addition to these supportive services. Then compare the total to a facility that offers it all under one roof. The Family Caregiver Support Network’s Living at Home Expense Sheet (Next Page) can be helpful in adding up the costs you already incur living at home.

Remember that with supportive in-home services you can adjust the type and amount of care to your needs. Your monthly totals may be different than the example above based on which services, how many and how much you choose or can afford to use. *There may be government assisted or volunteer services available to help offset the costs of some of these services.

Contact the Family Caregiver Support Network (414) 220-8600, or the local Aging Resource Center of Milwaukee County (414) 289-6874 for more information on what may be available. **As supportive care needs increase to skilled care needs or if 24-hour care becomes necessary, a higher skilled assisted living or nursing facility may be a viable alternative to meet the senior’s needs safely.

Ozaukee

www.co.ozaukee.wi.us/Aging/

Walworth

www.co.walworth.wi.us

Washington

www.co.washington.wi.us/adrc

Waukesha

www.waukeshacounty.gov/adrc Living Options

www.living-options.org Elder Locator www.eldercare.gov/Eldercare/ Public/Home.asp Social Security www.ssa.gov Medicare www.medicare.gov/caregivers AARP

www.aarp.org/families/caregiving National Alliance for Caregiving www.caregiving.org National Caregiver Alliance www.caregiver.org Wisconsin Caregiver www.wisconsincaregiver.org

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Questions to Ask When Considering In-Home Care

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here are several options when trying to find inhome help to care for your older adult. The key is to find reliable help that you and your older adult feel comfortable with and meets the specific care needs.

• Is the agency certified for participation in Medicare and Medicaid programs or private insurance?

• Does the agency accept payment from Long-term Care policies, Family Care or Community Care?

• How long has the agency been serving the community?

• Is the agency accredited by the Joint Commission on Accreditation of Healthcare Organizations (JCAHO), the Community Health Accreditation Program (CHAP), the Better Business Bureau (BBB), or other recognized accrediting body?

• Does it state this in its agency literature and contracts?

• Does the agency provide an initial assessment to determine if the patient would be appropriate for home care and what those services might be?

• Is there a fee for an initial assessment?

• Does the agency provide all services needed?

• Can it provide flexibility to meet the patient’s changing health care needs?

• How does the agency choose and train its employees?

• Are criminal background checks made?

• Are employees given drug screens?

• Does it protect its employees with written personnel policies, benefits packages and malpractice insurance?

“Home care” is defined by the type of care needed – homemaking, hands-on personal care (i.e. bathing, toileting), and supportive medical care. If basic visiting or homemaking for a couple hours is needed, there may be free faith-based or community resources where care is provided by

a volunteer who have undergone background and criminal history checks.

Or, you may hire a care worker independently or through a home care agency. If you are hiring someone who is not part of a home care agency, contact the Family Caregiver Support Network for resourc-

Caregiver’s g • Are the employees bonded and insured?

• Does the agency provide literature explaining its services, eligibility requirements, fees and funding?

• Does the agency have arrangements in place for emergencies?

• Are the agency’s caregivers available 24 hours per day, seven days per week or on what limited time basis?

• How quickly can they start?

• Are references from former clients available?

• What types of programs does the company have in place to ensure quality care is provided?

• Will the agency advocate for you if your insurance company, Medicare or Medicaid fails to cover a claim you and the agency thought should be covered?

For more information about personal care or home health agencies that serve older adults in Milwaukee County, contact the Family Caregiver Support Network at (414) 220-8600.

For information about agency certification for Medicare and/or Medicaid, results of state inspections of agencies, complaints filed against agencies within the last two years, or to make a complaint against an agency, call the Wisconsin Home Health Hotline at 1-800-642-6552

es and tips on how to hire a worker.

When considering a home care or home health agency, there are some questions to ask in advance that can assist you in getting help that is best suited for your older adult. Before hiring an agency, ask:

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ComForCare can help in the following communities; Waukesha county and Southwestern Milwaukee county.

We are here for you. Whether it is a medication reminder or help preparing a meal, safety supervision, personal care or companionship. ComForCare allows clients to stay in their home and continue to do all the things they love. With ComForCare at your side, you and your loved one can live life on your own terms. ComForCare and its owners, administrative staff and caregivers are committed to providing outstanding customer service. Our thorough in-home nurse assessment, customized care plan development and ongoing oversight give you peace of mind. Our superior process includes supervisory visits and constant communication to ensure your satisfaction. We want to help you or your loved one stay at home and live your best life possible.

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Home Care Services is beneficial because they help the patient in his/her own environment, make their own schedule, and provide one-on-one care with immediate undivided attention.

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Home Helpers serves Kenosha and Racine counties offering housekeeping, respite care, cooking/feeding, telephone reassurance, personal care – bathing etc. and medication reminders.

Benefits of health care from Home Helpers: The reality is that most people want to age in place in their home where they are comfortable. They benefit thru the assistance they receive from their caregivers. As we age some things just get harder to do such as; Bathing, changing linens, remembering to take medications, dressing, housework, grocery shopping – That’s where Home Helpers comes in, we can do those things which allows our clients to remain at home where they want to be.

With 10,000 people a day turning 65, home care is going to continue to grow.

Telehealth is now starting to emerge in home care. Telehealth offers clients the ability to send their blood pressure, blood oxygen level, and their weight directly to their doctor’s office. This is especially important for those suffering from Congestive Heart Failure (CHF). Home Helpers does offer this service now.

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We have registered nurses on staff.

We offer housekeeping, respite care, cooking/feeding, telephone reassurance, overnight care, personal care, baths, administer medication, check medication compliance, companion/daily check, 24/7 care, live-in care, transportation and errands, 24/7 staff on-call. We are owner owned and operated.

We see the benefit of individual’s ability to stay living independent, but safe, within their own home. As much (24/7), or as little (2 hours) can be used. “We don’t want to change your life…rather enhance your life!”

We believe more individuals want to stay living in their own homes, and families are being stretched to find care support. ComForCare can help individuals and families meet these demands, while keeping individuals safe!!

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ST. ANN CENTER FOR INTERGENERATIONAL CARE – BUCYRUS CAMPUS 2450 W. North Ave. • Milwaukee 414-210-2450 www.stanncenter.org

St. Ann’s Bucyrus Campus is Medicare approved and offers respite care, cooking/feeding, personal care – baths etc., medication administration as well as medication compliance check, art, music and social engagements.

We are not a home health agency. The day services and overnight respite offered provide another alternative to residential care/nursing home. We give caregivers peace of mind knowing their loved one isn’t isolated, but actively engaged in a joyful, beautiful center with interesting activities and friendly faces.

The adults interact regularly with the childcare children.

We believe intergenerational centers are the best way to keep adults active & engaged while supporting their families and caregivers.

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We service Waukesha County and its surrounding areas. We can file paperwork on insurance claims. We have retired nurses on staff. We offer companionship, personal care, respite care, overnight and 24/7, meal preparation and much more. We offer a free online resource-learning center available to you or your family. We also host Senior-Talk, a biweekly radio program on iHeart Radio 1130 WISN Talk Radio. It airs the first and third Saturdays of each month from 4:00-5:00 pm. The greatest benefit of home health care is allowing seniors to age in place in their own home.

ST. ANN CENTER FOR INTERGENERATIONAL CARE – STEIN CAMPUS 2801 E. Morgan Ave. • Milwaukee 414-977-5000 www.stanncenter.org

St. Ann’s Stein Campus is Medicare approved and offers respite care, cooking/feeding, personal care – baths etc., medication administration as well as medication compliance check, physical/occupational therapy, hair/nail care, art therapy, music therapy and social engagements.

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As we move forward into October, it still costs nothing to wear a smile.

For one of your smiles, anxious people would walk at least a mile.

With October, there’s always the possibility of an early frost.

As crops are mostly mature, such would bring little cost.

Leaves are falling, flowers are dying, potatoes are being dug.

People are busy. There’s no time to even think of cutting a rug.

Avid fans watching football for touchdowns do shout for joy.

We recall those games way back when I was a little boy, Isn’t it wonderful that we can truly enjoy this fall season?

To not like autumn would be an act of unreasonable treason.

Lawn mowing soon will be in 2017 only a thing of the past.

Time will come soon for a boat ride, the season’s last.

Why not take time now to count your numerous blessings?

If necessary, you might even do a bit of confessing.

We are moving forward to a time of possible snow and cold.

Could we ask the weather guy to please put such on hold?

Halloween Oct. 31 will be again a celebration for spooks.

Along with the kiddies, there may be whooping-it-up kooks.

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Columbus Day

Christopher Columbus sailed the ocean blue in the year 1492. Finding a new path to the Orient passage was to his crew the message. But instead he sailed to a new world where his banner was unfurled.

There is a holiday named in honor of Christopher Columbus, observed each year on Oct. 12 and first proclaimed by President Franklin D. Roosevelt in the turbulent times in the United States in the 1930s. This Oct. 12, take a moment to honor this person, who was the first sailor to cross the Atlantic Ocean. Recently, in a late 2016 poll, 62 percent of Americans admire Columbus for his undertaking financed by the queen of Spain even though he was an Italian. Fewer than three of every 10 persons look on Co-

lumbus unfavorably while fewer than 40 percent of all people surveyed were in opposition to the holiday named for him.

Columbus certainly sailed against the advice of many noted people of his time. Was the world flat? Would he sail off the globe and never be heard from again as he explored a new way to Asia? He never found the route to Asia, but did believe the native Americans (Indians) were located on the edge of Asia.

As the colonists multiplied in numbers, they originally took the name “Columbia” for what would ultimately be the United States of America. It was President Benjamin Harrison, who proclaims the first Columbus holiday. Colorado, in 1907, was the

first state to proclaim a Columbus holiday.

In 1915, the Ku Klux Klan targeted Catholics, as Columbus was, along with Jews and certain minorities as threats to the White Protestant majority of people in the United States.

There existed then a certain ethnic and religious resentment.

There have been abuses of the Indians as having happened at the hands of the early settlers. While this regrettably mostly occurred while Columbus was out of the country ((between his oceanic voyages), Columbus was quoted as saying that he, personally, found the natives intelligent, helpful and benign.

Columbus Day, Oct 12, will be in honor of Christopher Columbus.

The annual Americanism Awards Breakfast at the War Memorial Center, Milwaukee, will be held Sunday, Oct. 29, beginning at 9:15 a.m. Ron Laux, the longtime chairman, said this event honors persons who have given time and talents to civic, patriotic and vol-

unteering efforts in the overall community.

Open to the public, tickets are $13 and will be $15 if still available as of Oct. 20. This event is by reservations only.

Checks should be sent to the War Memorial Center, 750 N. Lincoln Memorial Drive, Milwaukee.

Laux said this event is to honor the dead by service to the living. He urges potential attendees to get their reservations in early.

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Two amazing gentlemen and the mystic workings of fate

This narrative has a pair of interwoven themes. The first concerns two men who, with the exception of different middle initials, had the same surnames and given names. This is understandable in that the older of the two was the other’s grandfather. The second theme has to do with fate, and how it’s incomprehensible workings can change our lives and, in fact, even alter the entire course of history. To try to explain that, we’ll switch into the subjects of geography and man-made wonders of the world in a perhaps convoluted analogy.

Do you think it would be possible to see, at the same time, both the Great Wall of China and the Taj Mahal of India? Of course not, would be the reply, they’re thousands of miles apart. How about the Eiffel Tower and the Pyramids? Same answer, you say, they’re in different countries. Then how about this: Do you believe you can see, simultaneously, two separate man-made wonders of the world right here in Milwaukee?

My answer is yes, you can. Drive or just walk along the Wisconsin Avenue viaduct about 40th street west. You’ll see the beautiful Miller Park Stadium off to the southwest; then northeast the towering structures of the Miller Brewery I can imagine a reply to that: “Nonsense, what are you talking about? One is a ballpark, the other is a local brewery. You’re nuts.”

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By Jack Pearson Baseball in the whole U.S. • More than three million people every year watch and enjoy games there no matter how cold or hot or wet it is outside.

• Its existence assures that Major League Baseball remains in Milwaukee.

• It brings millions of dollars into the local economy.

• And important, too, it is the definite envy of all those visiting Cubs and Cardinals fans.

Do you recall how empty and listless the city seemed in those first four years after the Braves departed?

Two early figures in Wisconsin history, Frederick J. Miller (left photo) founder of the Miller Brewing company, and his grandson, Frederick C. Miller. drive or walk over the Viaduct and He went to work as an apprentice in look at both of those entities is not re- small breweries in the area as well as ally necessary. You’ve obviously done in France. He got his first big break in it hundreds of times. But we often see 1849 when he was only 25 years old. In things and their significance escapes those days Germany was still a kingAs to the Miller Brewery: dom. One of the Royal Family memIt is one of the largest breweries in us.

So now we return our story to the bers, a Prince Karl Anton, owned and the world.

The business and its structures are two identically named gentlemen, and ran some family breweries. He decided to lease one of them out and chose an integral part of the history of Mil- the aspect of fate.

The name of the first man was young Frederick to take it over. waukee and all of Wisconsin.

Frederick J. Miller.

He was born in the Four years later, Fred married a • Its products are consumed and enjoyed by millions all over the world. city of Riedlingen, in the state of Wurt- pretty young lady named Josephine • Since the demise of the Schlitz, temburg, Germany, on November 24, Miller, no relation, of course, but it was Pabst and Blatz breweries here, it is the 1824. His father and his grandfather sort of nice in that she didn’t have to only one of the Big Four still around had both been active in government change her name. A couple more years work for decades and expected young went by and then for some reason the that “Made Milwaukee Famous.”

Which is possible, but • It was and still is the primary Frederick to follow in their footsteps. couple decided to pull up stakes and consider this: Milwaukee brewery to support local He had other ideas, however, and was immigrate to the United States. They • Miller Park is one of the only sports, both amateur and professional. intrigued by the beer making business. sold all their furnishings and brewsix domed stadiums in Major League In reality, the suggestion that you Fate had begun to weave its wily ways. ery equipment for the equivalent of $9,000. With that they set off to conquer the New World. After spending a year in New York, they moved west to a place where many German immigrants had settled, Milwaukee, Wisconsin. More of Fate’s fingers were in the pie. Germans had settled in many other cities in the U.S. Had the couple chosen anyplace else the upcoming Miller Brewing Company, which at one point was the second largest brewery in the entire world, would never have been part of the Milwaukee scene.

In any case, Frederick purchased a small facility way out in the countryside on the Menomonee River called the Plank Road Brewery. He bought it Here’s Fred C. Miller again, with two icons from the world of sport, football legend and Notre Dame coach Knute Rockne, taken from two brothers, Charles and Lorenz when Fred C. was an All-American there; and with Lou Perini, owner of the Milwaukee Braves baseball franchise.

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Best. Those two brothers, by the way, started another brewery which became known as the Pabst Brewery.

At that time and for many years, Fred J. did very well in the business world, but he also had his share of grief. His wife Josephine died of unknown causes, leaving him to care for two-year old daughter Louisa. The couple had four children, three of whom died in infancy. Even Louisa died of tuberculosis at age 17. Fred J. married again in 1860 to Lisette Gross, who was also from Germany. Again, Fred J. suffered personal tragedy when four of their children died soon after birth. Five others, however, did survive and would later help Fred J. run the company; Ernst, another Fred (A), Clara, Emil and Elise.

Fred J. was very resourceful and brought about many innovations to the business including a lovely beer garden for parties and civic functions.

When he died in 1889. the company’s operations were taken over by his oldest son, Ernst, and later by Fred A. In 1903, Miller High Life, one of the oldest beer brands in the U.S., was introduced. During the years of Prohibition from 1919 to 1933, the brewery existed by producing soft drinks, non-alcoholic beer and malt syrup. After the conclusion of World War II, the company embarked on a major program of expansion. This program was led by another Frederick Miller, this one with the middle initial “C” who was that previously mentioned grandson of the founder, Frederick J. To write that this Fred Miller was a highly successful businessman, a good athlete, and an active promoter of sports would hardly do justice to the man. As a youth, Fred C. was outstanding in sports, starring in football, basketball, and track at the old Country Day college prep school in Whitefish Bay. As an All-State fullback on the football team, he attracted offers from several major universities, including the University of Wisconsin.

But Miller, a devout Catholic, had eyes for only one school: Notre Dame.

His career there, under the legendary Knute Rockne, was truly spectacular. Playing in the line instead of as a running back, he was twice named an All-American. He was equally outstanding in the classroom. His scholastic average after his four years there was the highest ever attained by a Notre

Dame athlete. Because he was the son of a multi-millionaire, the media often attempted to take pot shots at him. At a press conference once, Rockne was asked by a reporter, “Coach, just what kind of a guy is this rich boy Miller?”

Rockne, bridling with anger, answered calmly; “Well, in all my years here at Notre Dame, Fred Miller is the only player I’ve ever had who was unanimously elected as the team’s captain by his teammates. Does that answer your question?”

To his credit, Miller never flouted or even mentioned his wealth to his friends or to anyone, always insisting he was no different than anyone.

During his college years he never used that wealth to attain anything. This quality carried over after he graduated and had returned home and to the family business. He could have immediately become a top executive, but chose instead to take on a series of line jobs in order to learn every facet of the company. He did this for more than ten years until 1947, when he became its president. One of his first major undertakings was to embark on that enlargement of the company. He was quite successful in this regard, moving the brewery from the 20th in size in the country to as high as 5th place (later it grew to as high as 2nd).

Frederick C. Miller was arguably the greatest benefactor for sports in the state of Wisconsin and is to date.

He brought in the first pro golf tournament here, the Miller Open, the predecessor to the GMO; he brought in the city’s first professional basketball team, the Milwaukee Hawks; he also brought in a professional tennis tournament.

He offered significant financial help to the then struggling Green Bay Packers, buying blocks of tickets and urging his employees to also purchase them. He was deeply involved in the creation of the Milwaukee Arena and old County Stadium, and was also instrumental in convincing Lou Perini, the owner of the Boston Braves, to move his franchise to Milwaukee (he and Perini were good friends). Outside of sports, he was also active in many projects; for example, starting the Fred Miller Theater.

Frederick C. had the world by the tail, in so many ways. He was a superb athlete, an All-American football star from Notre Dame; he was an exceptional scholar; an accomplished busi-

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If you’re walking or driving on the Wisconsin Avenue Viaduct, look off to the north and you’ll see the main plant of the Miller Brewing Co., then off to the south you’ll see the Miller Park Stadium. nessman; he was from an acclaimed thrive. The baseball team, the Milfamily and heir to millions of dollars; waukee Braves, was eventually sold. he had a beautiful and loving wife and But the sale wasn’t between Lou Perini eight beautiful and loving children; and and Fred C. Miller, as had originally to top it all off, he had the dark good been planned. It was to another group looks of a Hollywood motion picture whom we’ll call simply The Carpetstar. He was looking forward to quite baggers. They had a long-term lease possibly taking over the most famous with the city of Milwaukee to stay on athletic team of the day, the Milwaukee here for many more years and made Braves. He and his good pal Lou Per- repeated promises that they would. All ini had a gentleman’s agreement that nonsense. They got themselves some when Perini decided to retire and sell hotshot lawyers and broke all the leases and left for more lucrative fields in the team, that it would be to Miller.

Why does the candle burn at its Georgia. An apathetic sort of purgatobrightest just before it goes out? Mul- ry existed here for four years after that titudes in Wisconsin and even more all until another exceptional gentleman, a over the world were shocked and sad- car salesman by the name of Bud Sedened on December 17, 1954, when lig, brought in a new team and called Frederick C., his son Fred Jr. and two it the Milwaukee Brewers. You know pilots were killed in a private plane the rest.

For his achievements as an athlete, crash after its takeoff at General Mitchfor example, those All-American honell Field in Milwaukee.

Well, of course, the world goes ors, as well as his many years as a maSPORTS PLUS continued on page 41 on. The Miller Brewery continued to

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jor benefactor to sports in Wisconsin, Fred C. Miller is in both the National Football Hall of Fame and the Wisconsin Athletic Hall of Fame.

We referred earlier to fate, and what would have happened a century and a half ago back in Germany had old Fred J. gone into politics instead of the beer making business. Or later, if he had not opted to immigrate to the United States. And then if he had not chosen Milwaukee as his future home, but instead Cincinnati or Indianapolis or someplace else. It was all a long time ago, and the answers are blowing in the wind. Switch forward to a more recent time when Fred J.’s grandson Fred C. was heading the Miller Brewery. What would have happened to the city’s beloved Braves had not Fred C. been killed in that tragic plane crash?

Noted Milwaukee writer and historian Bob Buege said, “If Fred Miller had not died in that plane crash he would have put together an ownership group in Milwaukee to buy the club from Perini. Fred Miller was Milwaukee’s last true civic hero.” If anyone should have an accurate opinion on the subject it

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finally turning towards a move. A few days later she called to ask if I would take her there again to talk about the cost and amenities. She even wanted to tour the community and look at some apartments.

The rest is history. She lives in this wonderful community at Laurel Oaks in Glendale. She plays Rummy Cube and meets a few ladies for lunch and dinner. We still pick her up as before and take her with us to events and shopping. Her attitude is great and she feels much better. We are relieved that mom is in a safe and nurturing environment. I asked her if she could move back to her condo would she want to?

Her answer was…NO WAY! In summary, it is best to approach a conversation with you parents when you sense the time to talk has come.

You’ll know the signs. Maybe the home has been neglected. Several rooms have not seen the light of day. Personal property, the treasures that have been saved over the years are preventing mom or dad from truly enjoying the entire home. There are many danger areas such as stairs, carpeting, and bathtub. Remember, all parties are

would be Buege, who interviewed dozens of city officials, Major League representatives, players and others for his fine book on the subject, “The Milwaukee Braves: a Baseball Eulogy”.

If you’d like to read more about the Millers, the Braves and those tumultuous times, I can recommend Buege’s book as well as the recently published “Remembering Fred Miller,” by Phil Eck, who was Fred C.’s grandson.

Yes, without those workings of fate, the Miller Brewery would be in some far off place; the Milwaukee Brewers would never have come into existence; and so many things today would not be the same.

It is strange and sad that one of the major role players in that long epic, Frederick C. Miller, is all but forgotten today. Even by members of the media, who should know better. I asked a local sports writer recently if he remembered Fred Miller. “Oh sure,” he said after a moment of thought. “Wasn’t he some kind of rich playboy who got killed in a plane crash?” There you are.

And Abe Lincoln was the guy who liked to chop wood, and Thomas Edison was the fellow who flew kites. wanting to avoid the topic of a move, but in the end the sooner you have this discussion the better. Don’t wait for a crisis…that is the worst kind of move one can experience.

Bruce Nemovitz is a Senior Real Estate Specialist, as well as Certified Senior Advisor. Bruce has sold residential homes in the four county Milwaukee-Metro areas for 35 years. He has published a book called “Moving in the Right Direction”, A Senior’s Guide to Moving and Downsizing. Bruce has just written his second book for the children of seniors, “Guiding Our Parents in the Right Direction”, Practical Advice about Seniors Moving from the Home They Love. This book is now available at www.GuidingOurParents.com. Past articles about moving and downsizing and other important information can be found at www.BrucesTeam.com. Bruce received the 2010 “Realtor of the Year” from the 3,800 membership of the GMAR (Greater Milwaukee Association of Realtors). Bruce is a featured speaker at several senior communities in the Milwaukee-Metro area. His discussions center on the challenge of moving from a long time home into a senior apartment or community. He has been listed in Milwaukee Magazine’s 5-Star Agents list for the last three years in a row. As such, he’s one of only a handful of Realtors who are continually included in the top 7% in client satisfaction in the Milwaukee Metro area. He’s rated A+ by the Better Business Bureau, and was a finalist for Concordia College’s Ethical Business Leadership Award. He works with his wife Jeanne at Realty Executives Integrity.

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Emma: Moonshine even in sunshine Dear Folks:

We have been told that we should be forward looking at all times. Well, I am not going to go along with this thinking today as I wish to spin a story on to you that originated with hubby Henry’s uncle Donald, the eldest at his time of death of all Henry’s aunts and uncles, and was known to be able to spin a tale or two whenever the family got together. Uncle Donald now has been in eternity for about a decade, but his son, Perry, recently visited us from up in the Minocqua region and told us the story that we will relate herewith.

But before we go further today, I must tell you that Henry was born to good German parents, who had been farmers as long as they could remember. Henry’s dad was second from the youngest of 11 children in his dad and mom’s family. You might ask, ‘Why so many kids?’ Henry has an answer to this. He says that the Germans were good farmers, growing crops successfully and also always having a pig or two to be butchered as needed for meat as well as 10 or more milking cows and egg laying hens plus that one quite necessary rooster.

Getting to Henry’s answer about the number of children, Henry claims his dad and before him, his grandfather, knew that having large numbers of children always meant that there were sufficient numbers of people to do the farming chores without hiring people from off the farm. So, now we will go into the story I told you about.

Uncle Donald was 12 years older than Henry so what he says could be true and Henry could not really question it. He passed this story on to his family. It concerns an uncle of Donald’s who left the farm, went to town and operated a pool hall after he got let go from a job as a railroad brakeman at the time of the Great Depression in the early 1930’s. This guy would have been a great uncle to Henry. Perry told me that if I ever wrote about this series of events that I had better not use Bruce’s right name so even though I just gave it away, I am going to call this man great uncle Eddie.

As the story goes, Eddie never was much for doing his share of the farm

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By Aunt Emma chores. He always had a reason to be somewhere else when there was work to be done. Well, the railroad back in those days was mighty important to the people who lived along the tracks.

It took produce and animals to market and brought home goods, clothing, fuels and you-name-it to the people.

I guess a brakeman was a railroader who helped move the rail cars into the right places and then stop them before they banged into each other.

Perry said that his uncle Eddie (You do know that is just a name I made up after seeing it on several gravestones in the cemetery adjacent to our former family farm) was one of the last men hired before the Great Depression struck the economy like a herd of dirty turtles, shut down too many companies and put many working men on the streets with nothing to do. Well, Eddie’s dad was kind of peeved that he left the farm, said he’d give him enough to eat if he could not find other gainful employment, but his brothers and sisters, who stayed on the farm, would continue to have all the jobs.

Eddie had a few bucks in his pocket, was known around town as a person to hoist a few now and then - a lot more now than then - I am told. Anyhow, he bought two used pool tables from the guy who had the pool parlor and who was going out of business as Prohibition had shut down his liquor sales and he couldn’t make money enough off the pool players without selling them a few drinks while they were trying to put the eight ball in the corner pocket, or so I am told by Perry. But Eddie had other ideas than just selling time slots on the pool tables.

I mentioned Prohibition. Carrie Nation and those anti-drinking women’s groups really did a number on the then legal liquor trade. They got the government to shut down all liquor and even beer sales, except for what-

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ever it is, 3.2 beer, which I guess has very little alcohol. Eddie had a license to sell this.

But Eddie had other ideas. He knew that he had learned ways while working on the railroad and visiting larger communities along the railroad lines where what was then called “moonshine” (actually illegal liquor) was sold quite openly, but wrongly. It seemed that the police, etc. often just looked the other way.

Eddie’s pool parlor had a back door. It would be perfect for selling moonshine to customers who would come up the alley undetected.

It was time to enlist some buddies in the business. As Perry says, Eddie first of all had to get a source of moonshine, which he did and which was in Canada and which he got via a clever advertisement he placed in a Canadian newspaper. Yes, the moonshiner said he’d be glad to sell to Eddie, but at no less than 20 two-gallon tins at a time. He would meet and make the sale in St Cloud, MN as he did with the other moonshine sellers he provided booze for at that time.

Eddie knew the local embalmer, managed to interest him in a cut of the profit, got his hearse for use rent-free

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She worked at a food brokerage and could easily buy the juice - grapefruit juice - and Eddie, as she was smitten with him - even got her employee discount.

Now, I almost forgot to tell you about moonshine storage. A buddy and pool shooter was a great friend and wanted in on the deal in any way he could. It turns out that this fellow was a lawman, but he didn’t care one bit if Eddie stored all those tins in his barn at the edge of town.

Eddie surely was busy washing bottles, filling them with a mixture of moonshine and grapefruit juice and selling them out of the back door of his pool parlor. Word spread fast that Easy Eddie’s Pool Parlor was more than it was supposed to be.

According to Perry, by the time Prohibition was over in the middle 1930’s, Eddie had bought a legitimate liquor tavern with his illegal profits.

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But before Eddie went legal, so to speak, he made a lot of new friends at the back door and even learned how to make a decent and almost lethal, according to some drinkers, mixture that went into those milk bottles. Of course, there never was a name associated with the Eddie’s best moonshine as he was not looking for publicity among the members of the general public, just to boozers.

One thing interesting that Perry also told us was about the moonshine tins. Eddie got $2 credit for each tin he returned to the distributor so the hearse’s casket had cargo going and coming from the meeting point.

Eddie just referred to the mixture as “Backroom Booze.”

This guy who didn’t like farming and never had much of an education other than up through eighth grade

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not only dared to dream, as young Perry says while recounting Uncle Donald’s story. But he did more than dream. He gambled on the people’s moods and their thirst for what then was illegal. The liquid combination wasn’t considered good and it wasn’t bad. It often provided comfort, sometimes was the life of the party. Yes, I do guess that not easily, but surely, Eddie’s dream of success via illegal liquor came true.

As for ancient Uncle Donald….he claimed to Perry that he rarely tasted it. He said that he personally didn’t even like wine ever since he was an altar boy.

Now, quitting for this month, let me personally say that some moonshine might have been rightly good even in the sunshine.

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of worthwhile causes. Love, loyalty, dedication, and friendship are very important and should be cultivated.

In the end, we will come to realize what we did and did not do along the way of life. Thank God that the end is not in sight.

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Some other players with gigantic and, in a few instances, of questionable value, dollar amounts they are taking to the bank include Cam Newton at $23,666,666, Joe Flacco, $21,000,000, Sam Bradford at $18,000,000, Derek Carr at $25,175,000, plus DeAndre Hopkins and Josh Norman each at $24,000,000. All totaled, there are many leading Rodgers in the money parade. In fact, of the top 30 paid pro footballers, the lowest of this number is Trumaine Johnson at $16,772,400.

Whoever said that they love the game so much that they’d work for peanuts?

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What would you guess the cost to be on an annual basis for a Wisconsin person in an assisted living facility? How about $47,205. There are over 30 states with lower costs. The highest cost is in District of Columbia at $80,400. Alaska is second at $69,000.

The northeastern seaboard states all range in the $50,000 to $59,000 categories, except for New York at $49,635. Lowest in the nation is Missouri at $32,438 followed by Georgia at $34,200 and Florida at $36,540. The national medium is $43,539.

If you or a person in your care now heads for an assisted living room be certain that you know what is covered, what is not covered, if the costs are set in concrete and do retain signed copies of every type of legal paper.

High-quality assisted living facilities abound in Southeastern Wisconsin. Making the right choice for you or your loved one is important. Don’t hurry the decision.

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l l l l l There was a big legal shoot-off of resident geese early in September. But the generally successful results don’t seem to deter their relatives from returning to the same ponds and lakes the next year. l l l l l A man recently said that he and his wife have different ideas (So why is that so new?) After marriage, she was certain she could change his sometimes-wayward ways. He hoped that she would never change. l l l l l Where there is a will, there’s often a sizable estate and relatives. l l l l l When we begin to think, we wonder who is the most important person working in local government? Which person is it, the one in charge of sewage disposal or the person who keeps our drinking water pure? l l l l l I sometimes think that some people today are so concerned about their rights that they forget those of others.

Courtesy is a word too many people don’t remember. l l l l l Dumb faith is doing whatever the fortune cookie said. l l l l l We’re told that we should take a drink now and then from the Fountain of Wisdom. For too many of us, it doesn’t exist. l l l l l We do a lot of television watching.

Flipping the channel changing button or pushing the volume up or down really can’t qualify as exercise.

l l l l l We can count on the weather news to be at least 75 percent right.

The other 25 percent proves the forecaster is human. l l l l l Don’t work for a person who you suspect to be of questionable values. That being the case, we’re in big trouble as a country.

l l l l l I believe this will be all for this month. Had better quit before I bite off more than I can chew. Or more than my publisher-daughter will allow me space for.

l l l l l Fortune cookies are the after the entree treat with Chinese takeout orders. One the other day forecast a large fortune. But then the Publishers Clearing House winners were announced and I knew why multi-millionaire Warren Buffet probably never believed in them. l l l l l I am certain it has happened to you. You can’t remember something in conversation, but several hours later in the middle of the night, you awaken with the word, the name, the phrase, whatever. l l l l l There are exceptions to almost every rule. The rule with no exceptions is that babies do need their diapers changed frequently. A granddaughter with a recently born baby would vouch for this fact. So would my wife, the wonderful mother of eight. l l l l l With the city of Los Angeles no longer honoring Columbus, the discoverer of the New World, on Oct. 12, they may have decided it was Shirley Temple. l l l l l I recently read that comedian Bob Newhart started out his business life as an accountant. That’s rather hard to figure.

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