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As Yogi Berra Once Exclaimed, “It’s Déjà vu All Over Again” BY JACK PEARSON

Artwork by Gene Haas

Phase Two of Your Life

Have you ever met someone, supposedly for the first time, and had the feeling that you’d met before? It’s a strange sensation, elusive and fleeting, somewhat like recalling incidents of a dream. I was involved in such a happening just the other day; even stranger in that the reaction went both ways. It was on a sunny summer day this past August. I’d driven over to Westmoor Country Club in Brookfield at the invitation of one of its members, Gene Haas. Besides his longtime membership there, Haas is also the retired executive director of the Wisconsin State Golf Association. He had asked me to come to the club to meet an old friend of his, John Manning. John also had been a member of Westmoor, had been its president and, in fact, had also served a term as president of the WSGA. He had retired and moved to the Sun Belt many decades ago and was now residing in Arizona with his wife, Carole. The two were back here for a short visit. Gene and I had arrived a little early, and were waiting for John in the clubhouse dining room. That clubhouse, by the way, has to be one of the, if not the most beautiful country club facility in the state. The panoramic view of the course outside, through the huge ceiling to floor windows, is magnificent. As John walked in and came over to join us, he and Gene exchanged bearhugs and laughs before turning my way. After Gene’s introduction, John looked at me, smiled and shook his head. “It seems to me we’ve met before, Jack. I’m almost sure of it, but I can’t put my finger on it.” I agreed. “It’s remarkable,” I said, “I have the same impression. And I’m stumped, too.” We went through a multitude of possibilities; the businesses he founded and ran while he was here; the organizations he and I have been members of; prominent individuals he and I have known; PEARSON continued on page 15

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Eye MDs cite top reasons to take care of your eyes by Cheryl L. Dejewski

Often, people are hesitant to make an appointment to have their eyes checked—even when they know they have a problem. That’s when friends and relatives can play a vital role. You may recognize that someone’s failing vision is preventing them from enjoying hobbies or doing daily tasks. By arming that person with information and support, you can help them to avoid isolation, injuries, depression and even blindness. To help you help others (or yourself) to see life to the fullest, our doctors provide the following overview of some of the top reasons not to delay taking care of your eyes. You may find the following points motivating. 1. “Improving vision can have a substantial impact on task performance and quality of life. Researchers in one study found that even with just modest visual improvement (as achieved with new eyeglass prescriptions), patients could read, write, use the telephone, watch TV, and play cards better. They also reported decreased psychological distress (worry and frustration) and increased social interaction (visiting friends, participating in group activities, etc.),” notes Mark Freedman, MD, senior partner at Eye Care Specialists, one of Wisconsin’s leading ophthalmology practices. 2. Just about everyone can benefit from improved vision. “Within our practice, we have long believed in the importance of providing the best possible vision to all patients—even those mislabeled too old, depressed, confused or cognitively impaired to benefit. Family members, caregivers, and patients themselves often report positive changes in demeanor and ability to communicate following cataract removal,” says Brett Rhode, MD, Head of Ophthalmology at a major local hospital and a partner at Eye Care Specialists. “In fact, a study presented at an Alzheimer’s Association International Conference reported that both dementia patients and their caregivers benefit when the patient can see better. Most notably, patients who needed and underwent cataract surgery were more mobile, functioned

better, and demonstrated slower memory decline than those who needed surgery but didn’t have it.” 3. Taking care of your eyes may brighten your outlook on life. “One study found that removing a cloudy cataract and improving vision also increases the amount of light and color which enters the eye, thus positively impacting cortisol, melatonin and mood levels,” says David Scheidt, OD, past president of the Milwaukee Optometric Society. 4. You may lengthen your life. “Research from the Blue Mountains Eye Study in Australia found that people who had surgery to remove a cataract live longer than people who don’t have their cloudy vision improved. Possible reasons for the increased life span include improved physical and emotional well-being after surgery, increased optimism, greater success living independently, fewer hip fractures and serious injuries from falls, and better ability to comply with taking prescription medications,” notes Michael Raciti, MD, an ophthalmologist who conducts continuing education for local optometrists.

5. “Undiagnosed and untreated eye diseases increase your risk of having a car accident. For example, glaucoma can reduce peripheral vision (causing a “tunneling” effect) without damaging central vision. This means that many people with glaucoma are able to pass the current driver’s license vision test, which only checks straight-ahead distance vision. But, crisp vision isn’t enough to be safe behind the wheel. Drivers also need good peripheral vision in order to assess and keep up with traffic flow, stay in the proper lane, and detect stop lights, pedestrians, vehicles and other obstacles. Fortunately, prompt detection and treatment of eye problems can help keep drivers, their passengers, and other people on the road safe. Another study showed that people who have their cataracts removed and replaced with implants have half the car accident risk of those who don’t have surgery,” notes Daniel Ferguson, MD, an eye care specialist with thousands of cases under his surgical cap, including cataract removal and laser treatment for glaucoma.

6. Many conditions do not have early warning signs or are masked by the healthy eye’s ability to compensate. “The only way to definitely know if you have an eye disease is to have a comprehensive dilated eye exam every other year, especially after age 40. Otherwise, undiagnosed and untreated conditions (like cataracts, diabetes and macular degeneration) may be stealing your vision without you realizing it,” explains Daniel Paskowitz, MD, PhD, an eye care specialist with credentials from Harvard and Johns Hopkins.

Keep the above information in mind the next time you wonder if you should schedule an eye exam or follow your doctor’s recommendations for undergoing a procedure or using a medication. For free booklets on any of the eye concerns mentioned in this article, call 414-3217035. For an appointment or second opinion, call the offices below.

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At Home and Happy At all points of our lives, we want to be as comfortable and happy as possible. There is one spot where everyone feels great about themselves, and that is the home they live in. Looking to the future, homeowners around the nation are taking the smart step to make their home safe and comfortable so they can enjoy their home for years to come. Paul Lukowski, General Manager of Tundraland Home Improvements, revealed to us new home design trends that make this possible, affordable and stress-free.

Amazing Possibilities It is in the home that we feel a sense of belonging —where happiness lives as friends and family crowd around our tables. Home gives us security and comfort, independence and control. We feel at home sitting in the living room where our grandchildren play and sitting on the same front porch each morning. This is where our contentment and joyful memories are held. This is

where we want to stay forever. Interestingly, more than 90 percent of seniors openly admit that their first choice would be to stay in their home forever. New design trends and technologies are opening incredible possibilities for lifelong independence, beauty, and safety in your own home.

“Safety options are expanding because people have a lot of pride in their home and want to stay for years to come.” -Paul Lukowski General Manager

It’s All About the Bathroom Studies are showing that the bathroom is the most dangerous area in the home. Slippery surfaces make simple movements like stepping in and out of tubs hazardous. Falling can easily occur, and without proper technologies, people can easily grab onto the wrong things like a towel or handle instead of a grab bar. Fortunately, there are great options to make your bathroom beautiful, and most importantly, safe. For those who enjoy taking a bath, the walk-in tub

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presents an innovative and stunning option. With the ability to open and close the door, the walk-in bath provides safety in luxury. Sleek designs, wide seats, and sturdy grab bars prove that security, functionality, and beauty can live in harmony in one design. Kohler walk in bath systems have a heated backrest so you stay warm while the tub is filling. For those who enjoy a shower, new technologies in shower systems have also improved. Shower steps are able to be lower than ever to cater to your desires, while sturdy grab bars and anti-slip technology can ensure that every step is safe. Both walk-in tubs and shower systems are designed to fit an existing tub space, making safety and elegance in your bathroom affordable and easy. These new home trends are an option for nearly everyone. As people make the decision to improve their home’s safety and comfort, great contractors who are making this movement their

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mission exist now more than ever so you can enjoy independence and happiness for years to come. Tundraland Home Improvements is a proud partner with Kohler, the world leader in bath and shower systems. Kohler walk-in tubs and shower systems are designed with your experience and home in mind, rooted in over 140 years of engineering expertise. Designed to be beautiful and functional, Kohler bath and shower systems provide luxury that will last a lifetime. Tundraland offers free bath inspections by a certified designer to give you affordable and stress-free options to make your decisions. You and your loved ones can truly rest assured as you spend your many years to come in the warmth and security of your own home. Call 1-800-886-3725 or visit www.tundraland.com today to make your first step towards a happy life and see if a walk in bath or safety shower is right for you.

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EDITORIALS

Before criticizing others, take a serious look at your own imperfections.

A bit about John McCain There probably never will be another person like John McCain serving the people of this country as a U.S. Senator. There was reverence for McCain at his death for his service to our country that began as a Navy pilot, shot down in a vicious attack with over five years spent in a Vietnam prisoner of war camp. Recognized as a prize prisoner, the Vietnamese then tried to free him in exchange for various favors. Courageously, McCain refused all favors in his behalf unless all other prisoners received the same. His release was negative for many years. After the war in Vietnam, McCain returned home and as soon as he

was able to place his feet on Arizona ground, he was running for office, although rather slowly due his emaciated condition due to being a prisoner of war for so long. His political thinking did not endear him to everyone, except those in Arizona. His campaign for President of the United States was not exactly helped by his selected running mate, Sarah Palin. There were many who did not agree with his political thinking and actions, but the principles by which he lived and worked were unquestionable.

Carters help others Former President Jimmy Carter and his wife, Rosalyn, may be in their 80’s, but they have no death sentence as they are very active in their advancing ages. The Carters are active in Habitat for Humanity by not just talking up a good job, but actually wielding hammers, saws, screwdrivers, etc. in helping to build housing for the less fortunate. President Carter has to have 20-20 vision as he sees life as it should be for all and not just for the wealthy. While others may play golf or sail in their retirement years, the Carters use their talents to advance the ways of life for the less fortunate. They work on assigned projects, no objections, and eat at the same roughly styled tables with all of the workers. They seek not any special atSENIOR ANSWER MAN DEAR SAM: As I am somewhat of a worrywart, I am looking ahead to tax time and wondering what I can expect that will be different from last year. I am looking forward to your assistance. VERY APPRECIATIVELY, FRANCIS WOEBESEN

tention. While former President Carter doesn’t seek to solve the world problems of the day, he and Mrs. Carter do much more than just shake their heads in sorrow. They are incredibly good people with talents you might never expect. They perhaps never will learn the causes that force many persons to suffer. They are beyond that. They’re in Habitat to help others. Do you believe they would differentiate between Democrat and Republican? Their motives are pure and simple. We’re sure they are there to be helpful. Aren’t the Carters great examples for each of us? Might we work to merit a few peanuts from the Carter planted and harvested fields. DEAR FRANCIS: Here we go. I happen to have this information at my fingertips for my own use. You, as an individual, will have standardized deductions of $24,000 for a couple, $12,000 if you file alone and/ or $18,000 for the head of a household. If you are age 65 you will get another $1,300 in deductions and even more, $1,600 if unmarried. This change makes filing your taxes much easier. HAVE FUN! SENIOR ANSWER MAN

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It is about time that the federal tax people quit coddling the rich. I get crabby every time I thought about a friend of mine getting a nice writeoff for his swanky country club dues and fully writing off meals there with

CRABBY guests. I guess the tax will allow a 50 percent write-off for a few more years. I even question the logic of that when my accountant and I go to George Webb’s.

Killing TIMEWITH JIM McLOONE Just think about the lowly potato that can be tastily served so many different ways: boiled, baked, French fries, hash browns, fried, curly cued, chips, scalloped, in hash, mashed and as our grandson says, smashed. l l l l l Are you certain that when you look in the mirror, you see the potentially best version of yourself? l l l l l If you were in a boat and not really rowing with both oars in the water, you’d be going in circles. Does that describe you today? l l l l l What can you hold without using your hands? A frail 90-years-something woman knew the answer immediately: your breath. l l l l l The man who rode into town on Friday, stayed three days and left on Friday, was there for less than a week. How can this be? Shucks! You already figured out the horse’s name was Friday. l l l l l Why do so many waitresses tell you as you just tell them your order, “You got it”? You really don’t, but you are ordering to get it. l l l l l We’re told that being too comfortable too often can make a person weak in mind, body, and spirit. P.S. It also makes some of us sleepy. l l l l l A friend likes to take long walks alone. He certainly must have a lot to think about. l l l l l You meet them every day. Please tell us how there can be so many more horses’ asses than horses?

l l l l l If a person says he knows someone who talks like an owl. Please don’t ask “Who?” l l l l l We have heard more than once in pastors’ sermons that we should be more accepting, more childlike. I’m sure they aren’t referring to dementia. l l l l l The 2018 United Way kickoff to the fall campaign got underway August 30. It was a nice celebration with those attending helping to fill Mary KILLING TIME continued on page 45

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Patterns can guide us and bind us together…Even in real estate! I often see patterns and commonalities among my clients and the public. Buying and selling timing, moods of the times, and procrastination in decision making are bound together by a common thread that has taught me a lesson over time…we are all connected to one another! The climate today is filled with controversy, disconnectedness, and isolation. It is also permeated with hope and optimism. This article offers no political agenda, no intention of persuading any of you to change your views you currently hold. My only desire is for you to understand how truly connected we all are to one another. In my real estate practice spanning over 40 years, I have noted some undeniable patterns, which never cease to amaze me. Anyone who has been in sales understands the moments of connectedness amongst the public we serve. It is no surprise that our economy ebbs and flows in a dance that seems choreographed. One day for no reason you come to work finding that your phone has suddenly stopped ringing. You call

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By Bruce Nemovitz your phone server to see if there is some mechanical issue that has caused the silence you so dread as a salesman. The answer is one you expect; that all is well, and your system is working properly. The following days exhibit that same pattern of silence you and wonder how it is possible that the entire public has decided to put off their purchase for another day. How could so many thousands of homeowners decide it is not the right time to sell? How could so many would-be purchasers decide this is not the right time to buy? When is the best time to sell? When is the best time to buy? We all want to time our purchases and sales so that we as a buyer or seller derive the best possible outcome. A home-

owner wishes to get as much as possible in a relatively short period of time. A would-be homeowner has the same goal of maximizing their purchasing dollars for the best outcome. Timing is relative to the patterns of the economy and time of year. Since we can’t control the economy’s ups and downs, we can control time of year based on previous patterns of real estate sales. For a homeowner, typically it is best to sell in spring (mid-February through June) and for buyers it is best to buy in the slower time of the year, when numbers of purchasers are holding off. That would be November-February. Following these patterns has always been reliable so it would be wise to pay attention to these tendencies of the real estate market. I see patterns in behavior of sellers and buyers. We are all in this together. We are all here for a purpose. When we purchase or sell a home it can be with the understanding that there is a story that each and everyone authors. A buyer can thank the homeowner for allowing them to carry on the care and love that seller enjoyed over the

time they owned that home. A homeowner can try to put themselves in the position of young excited first-time buyers who are experiencing the same fears and anxieties they did years before. The most rewarding sales I have experienced over the years involved a long-time homeowner and a first-time buyer. Going to a closing and watching them exchange memories and hopes for the future made me understand that we are all connected in so many ways. That first-time buyer one day will also be relinquishing their home to a new understudy of their home. That is that continuum of life we all live through and hopefully find peace. This pattern of attitude and gratitude has always filled my cup as a Realtor! Patterns are prevalent in every walk of life. When buying or selling a home, it is important to understand that we are all driven by our wants needs and yes, fears. Embracing those moments of clarity is critical to success in real estate and life. I am so privileged to be part of such an incredible life as a Realtor. I have met amazing people NEMOVITZ continued on page 9

IS THE OVERHEATED REAL ESTATE MARKET COOLING DOWN? This past season we’ve seen an overheated real estate market. Next spring might be the next best time to sell before the market cools down. If you’ve been putting off a sale, now is the smartest time to have your home evaluated and prepared for the spring market. If you’d like to learn the value of your home, contact us to have Bruce provide a free evaluation.

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Don’t listen to your friends about Social Security BY TOM MARGENAU

I get dozens of emails each week from people who are getting advice from friends and neighbors about Social Security. And so often, what they hear from these probably well-intentioned folks is wrong. I’ve saved up some examples and will share them with you today.

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: I took my Social Security at 62 and so did my husband. We are now in our early 70s. I have so many friends who tell me that they plan to take spousal benefits at 62 and then at 66, switch to full benefits on their own record. And they wonder why I never did this. Did I do something wrong?

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: The only thing you did wrong is listen to your friends. I’m sure they are nice people, but they know absolutely nothing about Social Security. With one exception, no one can do what they claim they plan to do. You can’t take spousal benefits at 62 and then later switch to full benefits on your own Social Security account. What’s the exception? If any of your friends is a widow, she would have the option of taking reduced widow’s benefits as early as age 60. Then at 66, she can switch to 100 percent of her own retirement benefit. Or she can wait until 70 and switch to 132 percent of her own benefit. A widow’s other option would be to turn that around. Depending on the benefit amounts involved, it might be to her advantage to take reduced retirement benefits at

62 and then switch to 100 percent widow’s benefits at 66.

: I have a friend who says that she is getting her own full benefit and she also is getting full spousal benefits on her husband’s Social Security record. But in some of your past columns, you said that a woman either gets her own benefit or her husband’s benefit, but not both. So who is right? By the way, I am not planning to sign up for Social Security until I come of age in 2020, but I am just making some plans now.

: Your friend is NOT right. No one can get full benefits on two different Social Security records at the same time. But you are not quite understanding what I was explaining in those prior columns. If a woman is due her own benefit, she always will be paid that benefit first. Then if she is due any extra benefits on her husband’s record, she will get the difference. Let’s look at an example. Say that when you turn 66, you will be due $1,000 from your own account. And then let’s further say that your husband is getting $2,600 on his record. You would be due $1,300 in spousal benefits from his account. You do not get $1,300 from him in addition to $1,000 from your own Social Security. You essentially get the benefit that pays the higher rate. In this case, $1,300. But again, the law says you must be paid your own $1,000 first. Then you’d get an extra $300 per month from your husband’s account to take your total payments up to $1,300.

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New sales tax Wisconsin will begin collecting online sales taxes as of Oct. 1. This action will affect retail establishments

that do 200 or more transactions in the state yearly sales via online amount to $100,000 or more. This ac-

tion is expected to increase sales tax collection by $90 million in this first year. Park and stadium taxes also are

expected to increase by at least $7 million.

Twittering here, twittering there, how do you really describe what it is? Is it a slippery slope some people slide into? Often, are there social con-

sequences? How about an unwanted or at least unintended incredible impact. To write that twittering in the social sphere can be a distraction could

mean that you consider it about like you might gossip. If you are prone to twitter, avoid untruths, intemperance and the un-

charitable. At its best, twittering is a distraction. Try to avoid it.

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ly latent gears and get hiking. Warm autumn days spur us to adventure as we know all too well that there will be many days ahead when we will be mostly housebound. Take advantage of your opportunities as they present themselves. Can you picture yourself on an outdoor adventure - hike through the Kettle Moraine woods, a visit to Old World Wisconsin, one last of season visit to the Horicon Marsh or some other scenic area? Possibly, you could visit Holy Hill, near Hartford,

and climb to the tower’s top for a magnificent view of the area. We’re told that on a really clear day the climbers can see all the way into Milwaukee. Bikers will find much seasonal fun as they pedal through scenic areas or even think about a seasonal fun run or a hot dog and beans feast in one of the state or federal parks. It is not too late for family fun and to time to enjoy the miraculous colorful foliage. Be certain that you don’t forget the camera!

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The economic performance in the United States over the past decade does indicate some help from the federal government. Policies and programs have been great. The question now is what and how such will continue or if it will. Yes, we believe that even greater prosperity is possible judging from what we see locally and read about nationally. We see and appreciate the work of huge companies in the area of Southeastern Wisconsin. This tells us that we should see a continued and possibly even greater boom in hiring practices and higher laborers’ wages.

If there is one major factor in the wage situation, we can see it as the costs of healthcare. We wish we had the answers to how we can lower the costs of healthcare. Certainly, the ever-expanding costs of medical attention and developing plans for it are not going away. But are not the price tags on a myriad of procedures seemingly too expensive when compared with the same procedures by perhaps as qualified physicians elsewhere? Are health-savings accounts on the horizon or will those who promote socialized medicine for all be saviors of the common folks?

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The Medical College of Wisconsin marks its 125th anniversary this year, dating to its work in health care since 1893. It was in 1913 that Marquette University acquired the early colleges of

medicine and merged them into the Marquette University School of Medicine. This partnership and stewardship continued for 64 years as the institution became a freestanding school in 1967 and renamed as the Medical Col-

lege of Wisconsin in 1970. The Medical School as an independent regional medical center moved to its Wauwatosa location in 1968, and has been bolstered by the opening of the Froedtert Hospital in 1980. The center brings

together scientists, clinicians and students. A Kurtis Froedtert bequest led to the creation of the Froedtert Lutheran Hospital in 1952.

We have had news published previously about the World War II Museum at 945 Magazine St. in New Orleans, LA. Designated by Congress as America’s National World War II Museum in 2004, the campaign to quadruple the

overall space of the museum, its buildings and grounds continues. The museum’s honor roll of those who served will be added - it will also name those who have via donations generously helped build the museum

financially. The multi-million dollar campaign is seeking your aid in terms of contributions beginning at $25, or if you wish, a larger amount. Any

contributions can be sent to Museum President Stephen Watson at the above address.

Many banks and credit unions have specially designed plans for senior citizens. Check out your bank for free checking, free other normal fees, free and/or discounted checking

and savings accounts and for safety deposit lock boxes. How about their CD rates and out-of-network ATM fees? Traditional banking may not be smart banking.

Phil Mickelson and Tiger Woods will treat golf fans at Thanksgiving time to a golf match that might even excite the trotting turkeys. The 18-hole match, in Las Vegas, will be televised with a monetary prize of $9 million. If

you are into golf, watch your TV section for further details as to day and time. Both men, we’re sure, would like to reclaim their roles as among the top players in the professional golf world.

The Milwaukee lakefront War Memorial Center recently gained a USS Milwaukee memorial project via an Eagle Boy Scout, Zach Pape, of Muskego. The USS Milwaukee was the name of five different ships. This is a wall display near the boardroom on the fourth floor. Vice Admiral Dirk

Debbink, a member of the MSI family of Oconomowoc, helped with the project. Also assisting with the project were Dave and Debbie Drent. The public is reminded that the Center is open to public visitors each first Friday of the month at 11 a.m.

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the Right Direction”, Practical Advice about Seniors Moving from the Home They Love. This book is now available at www.GuidingOurParents.com. Past articles about moving and downsizing and other important information can be found at www.BrucesTeam.com. Bruce received the 2010 “Realtor of the Year” from the 3,800 membership of the GMAR (Greater Milwaukee Association of Realtors). Bruce is a featured speaker at several senior communities in the Milwaukee-Metro area. His discussions center on the challenge of moving from a long time home into a senior apartment or community. He has been listed in Milwaukee Magazine’s 5-Star Agents list for the last three years in a row. As such, he’s one of only a handful of Realtors who are continually included in the top 7% in client satisfaction in the Milwaukee Metro area. He’s rated A+ by the Better Business Bureau, and was a finalist for Concordia College’s Ethical Business Leadership Award. He works with his wife Jeanne at Realty Executives Integrity.

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who have shown be how to be a better person. I have laughed and cried with so many of my clients. I have watched the sadness of a loss of one’s home especially through the last recession. But throughout all my travels, I have noticed that patterns exist, patterns that hold all of us together, patterns that bind us to our core. Those patterns are goodness, care for our fellow citizen, and hopes for a better future.

Bruce Nemovitz is a Senior Real Estate Specialist, as well as Certified Senior Advisor. Bruce has sold residential homes in the four county Milwaukee-Metro areas for 35 years. He has published a book called “Moving in the Right Direction”, A Senior’s Guide to Moving and Downsizing. Bruce has just written his second book for the children of seniors, “Guiding Our Parents in

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A guide for how to be a gracious houseguest BY MARY HUNT

It was shocking, if not surreal. The email was from a woman I’d never met and whose name I recognized only because a few months earlier, she’d mailed me a book she’d written. The message announced that she and her family were planning a cross-country road trip to Disneyland and would just love to stay with us since (at the time) we lived nearby and oh, wouldn’t that be so much fun. She gave a tentative date they would be arriving. Everything I know about what not to do as a houseguest I learned from that experience, from the moment they drove up till the time they finally departed -- far too many days hence. In the interest of full disclosure, because I have friends and relatives who read this column, be it known that all other houseguests we have ever hosted have been wonderful --

exemplary. Do not worry. This is not about you. INVITATION. It need not be engraved on parchment, but you do need some kind of indication that you are invited to be a guest in another’s home. Do not send a cryptic message (“Looks like we will be in your area in a couple of weeks!”) hoping that will wrangle an invitation. And for goodness’ sake, don’t just show up. That would forever designate you as either an interloper or a freeloader. SPECIFIC DATES. Nail down the dates of your visit, and then stick to them. Listen for subtle clues (“We’ll be super busy toward the end of October.”) that you may need to find other accommodations for half of your trip.

RESPECT THEIR SPACE.

Arriving with 16 suitcases and enough toys, devices and equipment to keep the children entertained for weeks on

end tends to appear like you’ll be taking over the entire house. You’re not staying in a hotel, so don’t treat your hosts’ home like one. A good rule of thumb: When you’re not in your room, it should look like it did when you arrived.

MIND THE CHILDREN.

Talk to your kids -- before you travel -- about manners, respect and being neat. Let them know you expect them to pick up their clothing and offer to help carry groceries or set the table.

T R A N S P O R TAT I O N .

Make sure you have worked this out before your arrival. Do not expect that your hosts’ vehicles are part of the deal. Rent a car, or figure out public transportation. Should your hosts offer use of a vehicle, return it clean, washed and with a full gas tank, regardless of how many miles you put on it or time you spent in it. TOUR GUIDES. You can graciously invite your hosts to join you at Sea World, but don’t expect that to happen. And don’t assume they will have discount tickets for you. Or that they will watch the children while you go out for a few hours. Remember they are neither your babysitters nor your tour guides.

LEAVE A FRAGRANCE.

Upon your departure, you and all who arrived with you want to make sure you leave behind a fragrance -- not

an odor. And I mean that literally and figuratively. Clean up after yourselves without being obnoxious. Don’t assume you need to do all the laundry and clean the house before you leave. Just use your common sense. Leave a lovely parting gesture like a handwritten thank-you note and an appropriate gift (flowers are nice) to let your hosts know how much you enjoyed your stay. I have a book in my library -- one I cherish and read often, mostly because it is so entertaining, well-written and educational! Years ago, its author, Darlene Dennis, sent it to me. Honestly, if you have ever had houseguests or you assume you may in the future, you need to read “Host or Hostage? A Guide for Surviving House Guests.” You’ll laugh; you’ll learn; and in the process, you’ll become a gracious host. Mary invites questions, comments and tips at mary@everydaycheapskate. com, or c/o Everyday Cheapskate, 12340 Seal Beach Blvd., Suite B-416, Seal Beach, CA 90740. This column will answer questions of general interest, but letters cannot be answered individually. Mary Hunt is the founder of www.DebtProofLiving.com, a personal finance member website and the author of “Debt-Proof Living,” released in 2014.

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getting at the causes. The use of ordinary medicines to reduce the systolic blood pressure to below 120 reduced in these tests the risks of mild cognitive impairment. A decline in this blood pressure did bring in these tests a decline in memory and other thinking skills, which are felt to be precursors of dementia such as Alzheimer’s disease, which now affects over five million Americans. Risks of heart attacks and strokes also are lowered as the blood pressure is lowered below a reading of 120. Systolic pressure is the top number with diastolic the bottom number, which is desirable at 80. Drugs utilized in the studies were diuretics and beta-blockers.

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More on new therapies fighting chronic disorders BY CHUCK NORRIS

Last month, I raised a concern that new emerging approaches to the social and psychological aspects of medical care and treatment do not receive the funding or attention they deserve. I discussed how areas of alternative medicine seem to be ignored among the billions that the drug companies invest in the world’s quest for cures. Many believe it is because pharmaceutical companies cannot commodify such treatments. One promising new study I mentioned explored how music therapy has shown positive results in improving depression and anxiety in dementia patients. Such studies point to a vital area of research. Alzheimer’s disease and other dementias are the nation’s top cause of disabilities in later life. According to the website Disabled World, in 2017, Alzheimer’s alone cost the United States $259 billion. It is the most common and wellknown form of dementia. More than 5 million Americans are living with Alzheimer’s. Without a major medical breakthrough in the fight against dementia, as many as 84 million Americans could have age-related memory loss by 2040. As uncomfortable as it is to talk about this subject, it is important we look at these emerging areas of care and treatment. We need to know about this work and get behind it and support it. One such program of note was recently begun in a care facility in Switzerland. It started with a patient in the later stages of dementia who was shown a series of carefully selected photographs curated over the span of three years. After viewing them, the patient was asked to comment on them. As noted in a CNN report, for 10 minutes the patient sat there hardly saying a word, though one picture in particular seemed to have stirred a reaction. Then something miraculous happened. “He was able to speak for five minutes in a row,” Laurence Aegerter, a French visual artist based in Amsterdam, told CNN. “That image triggered something very deep in him, a very

deep memory that made him feel so strong. In those minutes, it was like he had no disease at all.” This patient, as well as others at this facility, is part of the early stages of what Aegerter calls “Photographic Treatment.” The intention is to see whether the quality of life of elderly people with dementia can be improved by staging “photo interventions.” Researchers believe that this experiment prompts a reminiscence bump, connecting an individual with a memory from his or her childhood or early adolescence. According to Ruth Drew, director of information and support services at the Alzheimer’s Association, when trying to engage and connect with those who have dementia, asking questions based on recollection often sets them up for failure because of their loss of short-term memory. Such failure has been shown to increase stress levels and decrease the overall well-being of those with dementia. According to the Alzheimer’s Association, in addition to the disease they struggle with, as many as 40 percent of patients also struggle with significant depression. “Using these photographs may also help the person who wants to connect with a family member with Alzheimer’s to have a jumping-off point that can help engage that person,” Drew told CNN. The result of such connections helps the person feel much happier and healthier. In an unrelated program in the Netherlands, another unorthodox approach to dementia is being pioneered. Rather than rely on the old prescription of bed rest, medication and, in some cases, physical restraints, doctors are attempting to harness the power of relaxation, childhood memories, sensory aids, soothing music, family structure and other tools to heal, calm and nurture residents, many in advanced stages of the disease. Rather than treat them like patients in a hospital, the facility offers what are called snoezelen rooms. These rooms, now found in many care facilities in the Netherlands, feature light, aroma, massage and sound.

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: Our grandson is 36 years old and has been divorced for a little under five years. He has full custody of his two young children. After dealing with the divorce, he recently got back into the dating scene and found a woman about eight months ago. Now he’s thinking about proposing and wants to know his family’s opinion. But we’ve only met her twice and we barely know her. How should we answer? : Before he rushes to the altar, encourage him to take his time. He is doubtlessly lonely and stressed, as raising children as a single parent is difficult. However, making a hasty decision could be disastrous if he doesn’t think it through. It’s good that he is being thoughtful about the idea, especially since he has already divorced. To that end, remind him of several questions he should discuss and think through beforehand: Do they have similar goals and values? Has she been married and had children already? How do his children feel about their relationship? On a logistical level, there are some other decisions he will need to think about: Do they feel prepared to live together? Where would they live? Would she plan to work or stay at home with the children? Does he have assets that he would want to manage under a prenuptial agreement? Do either of them have outstanding debt or liabilities? These are the types of questions they need to discuss and agree on before thinking about committing to marriage. And even if they are on the same page, he will need to prioritize his children and ensure that they feel happy and secure. In reality, most marriages are a crapshoot in many ways. We all seek the joys of love, intimacy, happiness and familial harmony. The choice to bond himself to a new partner is one that only he can make. But you can help him realize what he wants and needs with your advice. The keys to a successful longterm relationship are communication, honesty and compromise. -- Doug

MEMORY BOXES

: Over the years, I have been lucky to experience many adventures all over the world. I’ve kept a chronicle of holidays, travels and family events. Looking at my stuffed boxes of photos, my children are telling me I should get rid of some of them. I think that this would be a huge mistake. Future generations will be able to look at my collection and feel connected to the past. Do you think I’m right? : Especially for seniors, photographs have huge importance and represent a sort of security of being able to remember. These tangible referents to our memories make it easier to hold on to our experiences. Even when we don’t remember events, these mementos help us remind ourselves of the past. Ask yourself how often you want to look at these photos. If you’re willing to go through all of your memories and then reminisce, it might make sense to keep all of them. But most of us don’t really want to go to the effort. Looking through our photos, only a few of them provoke strong, sentimental feelings. You don’t need to get rid of all your photos, but it might be time to sort through them. You don’t need quite so many. It’s well worth it to keep pictures that you want to frame or pictures involving dear memories. Have a family member help you digitize the rest -- you will have a record while saving the space and preserving the image. When shoved in a box, photographs can be damaged by spiders, humidity and other factors. It’s also hard to find the ones you want when you want. Additionally, you should consider who will inherit your collection. When you pare down the number, it will be easier to care for them. Go through your photos with a family member and decide what is truly worth keeping. By doing this together, you can share the experiences behind your pictures. -- Emma, Doug’s granddaughter

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stories I’ve written over the years; on and on. We simply could not find a connection and yet there it was, we both felt we had known each other, or at least had bumped into one another. Then Gene offered a solution. “Didn’t both of you go to the University of Wisconsin in Madison?” he asked. We each nodded then looked at each other and laughed. “Too long ago to want to admit,” John said. “I was there from the fall of ’51 through the spring of ’55, when I graduated,” he said. “What about you Jack?” I shook my head in disbelief. “Same exact years. How about that?” Then I asked a question. “John, where did you live then? On campus I’d imagine.” He replied, “As close to the campus as you could get; on Lake Mendota, just off of Langdon Street. I was a Sigma Chi and lived in the house. You know where that is?” I stared at him in wonder. “Of course I do. The Sigma Chi house was where you described it, and just across from Mendota Court. I was a member of Beta Theta Pi, at the other end of the court, only a few hundred feet away from where you were. How can we not have met?” I asked. “We

John Manning and one of his sidelines, the creation of wooden crossword puzzles, each piece of which he cut out personally. must have at some point, and a tiny little piece of that long ago time has somehow stuck in both of our memories, and popped out now. What has it been, 65 or so years? That has to be the answer. Leave it to Gene to come up with the answer.” John smiled and replied, “We both joined fraternities,

both lived in the same area, I’ll bet we had a lot of the same interests, too,” he said. “Such as where we hung out when we weren’t in class or studying. I’ll write down three of my favorite campus watering holes, and you do the same, and they’ll probably jibe.” We did, and he was right, we both wrote down the Pub, the Manor and the Varsity. Almost unbelievable. All of that explained how we should have met and probably did, and that we both completely forgot about it. If that wasn’t enough we discovered another oddball coincidence. Later on, at our recent meeting at Westmoor, I asked John where he lived now in Arizona. “A little community about 20 miles west of downtown Phoenix called Goodyear,” he said. “It’s not a well-known place like Scottsdale or Tempe or Paradise Valley, where most Wisconsin retirees end up.” Now I was really astounded, and replied, “I know exactly where it is. It’s adjacent to Avondale, and about four miles south of Litchfield Park. It was created during World War II when the Goodyear Tire Company of Akron, Ohio, was commissioned by the government to build a huge factory there and build fighter planes and bomber for the Air Force. Scores of homes and condos were built around the plant to house the employees.” John looked at me. “How did you know all that? Don’t tell me you lived there too?” I shook my head. “This is getting crazier by the minute. Yes, I did. My parents moved to the Phoenix area in early 1942 and my dad took a job at the Goodyear plant. We lived there until the war ended in ’46 and then moved up to Litchfield Park.” Gene slapped his hand on the table and said, “This whole thing has to be one for Ripley’s Believe It Or Not.” “One more thought about that old Goodyear aircraft plant,” I said. “At the end of the war, there were still many hundreds of those planes that had been built and were all lined up in the fields next to the plant. We found out that since they were no longer needed, that they were going to be demolished and melted down for scrap metal. Those gorgeous P-38s, P-51s and B-17s. You could have bought one for a few dollars, yet no one did. Today, if you had one of those planes it would be worth millions. Go up to the

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John Manning and his wife, Carole, with a portion of the Westmoor Country Club course behind them. annual EAA Fly In in Oshkosh every When he and Carole moved away summer and you’ll see what I mean.” two decades ago, they didn’t move diBefore his retirement and when rectly to Arizona. They embarked on John still lived in the Milwaukee area, a most circuitous route. Their first he was a highly successful business- move was to South Carolina, where man, having started and operated they remained for several years. Then two companies. One of them, Floor- to Florida, and in both areas, John becare Inc., specialized in refurbishing came a member of golf clubs and was and cleaning high school and college active in both states. Then they decidbasketball courts. But his real passion ed to try the other side of the counwas always the game of golf; playing try, picked up stakes and moved to it and being part of its administration. California. The variety of his interests In the former, he was a 5 handicapper, and pastimes defied any form of logwhich put him in the top one percent ic. In addition to continuing his golf, of all golfers in this country. In the he became involved with two different latter, he was a member of Westmoor aquatic centers, volunteering his serCountry Club for several decades and, vices in a multitude of ways. At their as noted, became its president. He was church he also serves as a volunteer, also a member of the Wisconsin State especially in grief management. He Golf Association’s board of directors, invented his own jigsaw puzzle, with served as its treasurer and in 1994-95 all the pieces made out of solid wood, was elected to a term as its president. all of which he cut out himself. He was also a director of the WestHe is 85, but most assuredly looks ern Golf Association and of the Golf and acts as if those two numbers are Foundation of Wisconsin. reversed. Another coincidence?

Subjects of this article: center, the interlocutor, Gene Hass; left, the writer, Jack Pearson; the right, John Manning, the subject.

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DEAR ANNIE: Antagonizing sister; who’s the villain? BY ANNIE LANE

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meet someone who plays the victim and always needs a villain in her life? We have a sister (baby of the family) who grew up in the South and then married a nice guy from New England, and they moved there over 20 years ago. At first, she complained about the weather, the lack of sunshine and how the people were different -- which was to be expected after such an abrupt change in her life. However, she’s grown increasingly angry and hostile over the years. Her first villains were her two sisters-inlaw who lived nearby. Those relationships were destroyed, and our brother-in-law now has zero contact with his two brothers. And of course, it was “their fault.” Her next villain was our mother back in Florida, with our dad or sister serving as referee. Anytime she visited Florida, things blew up. Our mom and dad are now gone, and now I, her elder brother, have become the villain. Our family is in Florida, so I’m a “long-distance” villain. Her complaint is that “our families are not close,” and she says it’s my fault. “You make no attempt to see us,” she says. (We’ve visited her homes six times in 20 years. She’s been to our home once, during our daughter’s wedding weekend.) “I feel disrespected” is another one I hear a lot. We do not know whether she is miserable because of her family life, her inability to fit in or her lack of close girlfriends. It also could be something deeper. Chemical imbalance? Meds or lack thereof? Substance abuse? Lack of sunshine? Is there anything we can

her. She obviously needs some professional help. -- No Interest in Being the Villain

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the lack of sunshine. Your sister needs much more than a UV lamp. It sounds as though you’ve been able to avoid taking her attacks too personally, as you have enough distance, mentally and physically, to see this pattern of behavior for what it is. That’s good. Defense mechanisms are at once debilitating and protective. What this victim complex is protecting your sister from, I can’t say for sure. That’s a topic best explored in therapy, and you might encourage her to give therapy a try. But do so with love. Purge every trace of condescension from your tone before picking up the phone. I know the victim routine is extremely frustrating, but antagonizing her would only cast you both deeper into your roles. Dear Annie: Why do authors have to use the F-word in their books? It turns me off! Do they think they are cute? They are cheap! My family never used bad words, and when I am reading, I want to read a good story, not something that makes me sick. Thank you. -- Love to Read, Canfield, Ohio Dear Love to Read: I don’t know, but I’ve also noticed a proliferation of F-bombs in literature and other media in recent years. I’m with you. Usually, anything said with the F-word could be better said without it. More than anything, it’s lazy.

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Crazy rich patterns: The A to Z list BY SHARON MOSLEY

From argyles to zebras, a crazy rich alphabet soup of prints and patterns all stir together this fall season in a mix of fanciful clothes that clash with originality. Fashion designers are breaking the rules and coming up with innovative creations that make getting dressed more fun than ever. From A to Z, here’s the list of crazy rich patterns for fall 2018. --Argyle beguiled. This diamond-shaped design set on the diagonal was named after the tartan of Clan Campbell of Argyll in Scotland. The pattern has been popular with golfers since the 1930s and saw resurgence in the ‘60s when it became a hit with the preppy crowd. This fall, the argyle-patterned sweater is once again a fashion favorite. Bold, neon colors give argyle an updated twist. --Brocade brigade. One of the most decorative fabrics, brocade is a fabric featuring a jacquard or raised relief pattern, often woven with metallic thread. Brocade has long been associated with luxurious eveningwear, but it is also used in draperies and

upholstery. Remember Scarlet O’Hara and the curtain dress? For fall and the holidays expect to see more brocade worn in the daytime. --Check, please. Two of the most popular patterns of all time, check and plaid abound in an array of designs. From large blanket squares (popular on capes this year) to houndstooth (looks like a dog’s pointed tooth) to gingham (also known as apron checks) to tattersall (think horse blankets made famous by London racehorse auctioneer Richard Tattersall), these designs vary in size and color. And then there are tartan plaids, long known for identifying Scottish clans. But the newest way to wear these classic patterns is to combine mismatched checks and plaids in the same outfit ... Yes, head to toe. --Flower power. Florals have traditionally been reserved for warm-weather wardrobes, when pastels bloomed for spring flings. But this fall, the fauna has taken a moodier turn in dark hues that will never be considered shrinking violets. These standout floral patterns are meant

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OUR MISSION UNISON serves over 15,000 people annually in Milwaukee County from 40 community locations, over 50 public schools and thousands of homes. Younger families serve older adults, while older adults serve children, families and other older adults.

OUR METHOD UNISON breaks negative cycles by building social bridges, cultivating relationships, establishing hope and trust and creating healthier more stable neighborhoods. UNISON is the solution. We’re stitching back together the fabric of our neighborhoods with people-to-people connections.

OUR NEW NAME With over 80 years in the community, Milwaukee’s Interfaith and SET have merged to form an even stronger partnership as UNISON. Together, we support neighbors and neighborhoods through outreach programs. We help to create wellbeing by connecting people who help each other live healthier lives.

THE METHODOLOGY POSITIVELY AFFECTS: • Mental wellness • Nutrition • Physical well-being • Substance use • Academic achievement

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The “I” In Caregiver

member of the Family Caregiver Support Network Advisory Committee once said that as a caregiver people always ask how your mother or father, husband or wife is, but rarely ask how you are doing, so, how are you doing? You are the I in caregiver and only you can answer that question. Caregiving, even for the most independent individual, can be and most often is lonely. It is lonely at times even when we have help because it is such an individual thing. Let’s take the two sisters both willing to assist mom with her groceries. One believes in getting her out and into the store as an outing while the other cannot handle the amount of time it takes to read the new product labels so she prefers to shop for her mother. Sound familiar? Lonely is not a bad thing as long as the feeling of being alone does not create the stress associated with feeling isolated. Caregiving brings change into our lives. Change brings on stress and impacts our lives in ways we may not even realize. The type of stress we live with depends on whether we have selected a role as victim, survivor or navigator. Which role do you think you are? Navigator is where you need to strive to be. A critical thing to understand

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about “caregiver stress” is that it is not for sissies. (Wow? A double whammy of i’s.) Stress cannot be taken lightly if we want to remain both healthy and our body actually respond in predictable ways: z All of our senses are heightened. z Our hearing can be more acute and our eyes can dart from side to side. z Our blood pressure and pulse increase and our heart can race. z We breathe more quickly but with more shallow breaths. z Constant stress lowers our immune system. z Our thyroid speeds up and we can feel jittery. z Because we are jittery we can lose weight or because we do not take time to prepare meals, we gain weight from eating out more and/ or not exercising. z We do not produce as many sex hormones so our sex drive decreases. z W e put out more insulin and no longer metabolize sugar well so we have an increased tendency towards diabetes. z Our cholesterol increases which can lead to an increased chance of stroke and heart disease. We need to listen to what our bodies are saying to us. The fol-

lowing five suggestions will go a long way to help maintain physical, emotional and spiritual well-being: Exercise is the easiest and most beneficial thing we can do to help our bodies. A regular exercise routine of even 20 minutes a day helps us feel better physically and mentally. It allows us to be alone with our thoughts and we can concentrate on our bodies so we stay well. We get busy as caregivers and we may not take the time to think about our nutrition, what we are putting into our own bodies, even though we watch what our loved ones eat very carefully. We may eat out more, eat more fast food or snack more. We may be upset, lose our appetite and eat less. We feel tired and need energy so we eat more sugar and caffeine. We often forget that it is as easy to cut up an apple as it is to dig into the ice cream, and that a glass of water will go a long way toward keeping us hydrated. In addition, it is important to consume enough vitamins, especially from fruits and vegetables. Taking care of our mental health lets us blow off steam. There is no road map to caregiving; at times it is constant change. Most caregivers say that only other caregivers get it. So how do we hold our emotions in check? How and to whom do we express our anxieties

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and still feel safe? Who will listen? For some caregivers, the answer is to join a caregiver support group. For others, it is seeing a therapist. (Our office has lists of both.) We once asked a large group of caregivers at a conference what helps them through their days? 85 percent said their “faith.” Most believe they do not walk their journey alone and without spirituality, they would not make it through most days. Prayer can be a form of meditation. It causes mental relaxation. People also find their strength through worship, prayer, song and fellowship. Prayer and meditation help to counteract many of the negative symptoms of stress. Lastly, reclaim you life to include caregiver but not to be only a caregiver. You are the daughter or son, wife or husband, who is now also a caregiver. Write down all the roles that you now have and remember you should have no more than seven, including that of caregiver. Once you have done that, can you …Take a class? Plant a garden? Walk your dog? Go fishing? Get a job? …and somehow remember there is no i in stress….only in caregiver. UNISON Family Caregiver Support (414) 220-8600 www.unisonmke.org

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ADULT DAY SERVICES

tional deficiencies or medication Milwaukee.................414-264-6257 www.wihumane.org Adult Day Centers are designed side effects. If you or your loved to service adults who are experi- one is experiencing trouble with Elmbrook...................262-782-9261 www.ebhs.org encing a decrease in physical, men- memory, discuss the problem with Waukesha..................262-542-8851 tal and social functioning and who your physician. www.hawspets.org may need the protective environFor 24/7 information and referWashington...............262-677-4388 ment when their caregivers are at www.wchspets.org work or in need of respite. Full and ral helpline (English and Spanish), contact Alzheimer’s Association Ozaukee.....................262-377-7580 half day services are usually availwww.wihumane.org able. Range of services may include Southeastern Wisconsin chapter at. Refer to your yellow pages for recreational therapy, meals, social ................................ 1-800-272-3900 www.alz.org/sewi pet related services such as in home services, transportation, personal care, including bathing, hair and Wisconsin Alzheimer’s Institute veterinary care, pet sitting, groomnail care, nursing services, reha- – Milwaukee Project: Education, ing and yard clean up. These serbilitation therapy and medical ser- services, research opportunities, vices have often been the answer to vices. Fees for Adult Day Services and resources for Milwaukee’s Afri- a number of older adult pet owners’ needs. vary based on what services are in- can American Community cluded in the fee. Some centers may ...................................414- 219-5083 ASSISTED LIVING www.wai.wisc.edu be able to offer low income persons Assisted living facilities are for (WAI Milwaukee tab) a reduced fee based on ability to people who need assistance with pay. Most centers offering the wide Dementia Care Specialist Activities of Daily Living (ADLs), Milwaukee County Department range of services are licensed by the but wishing to live as independentState. Those that are more informal on Aging ly as possible. Assisted living exists ....................................414-289-5792 with more of a recreational model iShould you need community services to bridge the gap between indeare not licensed. and or respite, contact your local coun- pendent living and nursing homes. iContact your local county resources. ty resource. The services provided may include Memory Cafe but are not limited to meals, assisALCOHOL AND Share your stories and social- tance with bathing, dressing, launSUBSTANCE ABUSE ize with others who have worries Alcohol and Substance Abuse with memory. There are a number dry, housekeeping and assistance is at epidemic proportions among of Memory Cafes in Southeast Wis- with medications or medication monitoring. the elderly. It remains for the most consin. part, unreported, undiagnosed, or Alzheimer Association of SE Assisted Living options include: ignored. Most drinkers who start- Wisconsin..................414-479-8800 Residential Care Apartment ed late are affected by social isolawww.alz.org/sewi/ (click on Complex (RCAC) independent tion and physical health problems Memory Cafe) apartment units that can provide which may include grief or loss, Alzheimer’s Family Caregiver Supup to four hours of skilled and/or housing, marital or mental health port Program supportive care per day. problems. Family Caregiver Support Network Community Based ResFor a facility locater in Wiscon- ....................................414-220-8600 idential Facility (CBRF) state lisin go to: www.theagapecenter. ....................................800-449-4481 censed supportive living facilities com/treatment-centers/wisconsin Partnership Memory Cafes............. where five or more adults reside. or refer to your local yellow pag- ....................................414-289-5792 They are staffed 24 hours per day es under Alcoholism information and can provide three hours of and treatment centers. You may ANIMALS/PET CARE skilled nursing care per week. also choose to talk to local county Whether you are looking for Adult Family Homes (AFH) a resources.i listings of animal friendly land- place where three or four adults relords, information on the impor- side and receive care, treatment or ALZHEIMER’S AND tance of spaying and neutering, services that may include up to sevMEMORY LOSS available options when you are no en hours per week of nursing care. Problems with memory can longer able to care for your pet and iCall Family Caregiver Support have many causes that may range nutrition programs to provide food Network – Living Options service for from normal age related memory for pets of individuals with low in- more information, call 414-220-8600 declines to a diversity of past or come, contact your local Humane or 800-449-4481 or visit www.living-options.org or call your present medical conditions, nutri- Society. local County resource.

iLOCAL RESOURCE FOR FAMILY CAREGIVERS

Milwaukee County...................................414-220-8600 Ozaukee County......................................262-238-8120 ...........................................................................262-284-8120 Walworth County......................................262-741-3400 Washington County.................................877-306-3030 Waukesha County...................................262-548-7848 Waukesha County Toll Free..............866-677-2372 State Wide Toll Free..............................866-843-9810

To file a complaint or ask about State regulations contact the Office of Quality Assurance ....................................800-642-6552

CAREGIVER EDUCATION

Caring for an older adult can be highly demanding work. Throughout your caregiving journey, you will have questions related to the many aspects of caring for your loved one. The following websites and phone numbers will provide you with the education, information and support you need. www.caregiversupportnetwork. org www.strengthforcaring.com www.caregiver.com www.caregiving.org www.caregiver.org www.CAREgivinghelp.org i Contact your local county resource for caregiver education that may be available in your community. CONSUMER PROTECTION Consumer Protection works to eliminate unfair or deceptive marketplace practices. To file a complaint against a business contact the Better Business Bureau at................ 1-800-273-1002 ....................................414-847-6000 or www.bbb.org To file a complaint against a nursing home or assisted living facility contact the Office of Quality Assurance at ....................................414-227-5000 Concerns with inappropriate marketing and sales practices of Medicare Advantage plan agents contact:

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The Medigap helpline at ................................ 1-800-242-1060 Wisconsin No Call List prevents telemarketers from calling for two years...................... 1-866-966-2255

DENTAL

As we age, our dental care becomes critical to our over all health and well being. Cost is one of the main reasons older adults do not seek dental care. Below is a list of dental clinics that offer services based on income or at discounted rates.

DRIVING

Driving is affected by a variety of health issues. If you have concerns about your loved one’s driving abilities contact: Driver Services Medical Division at.............1-608-266-2327 For Driver Safety contact www.AARP.org

For a Comprehensive Driver’s Readiness Evaluation, contactAurora Rehabilitation Centers: West Allis Memorial Hospital Milwaukee: ....................................414-328-6633 AIDS Resource Center of WI/ Sinai Medical Center Dental Clinic ............414-233-6800 ....................................414-219-5241 www.arcw.org/dental-clinic/ Guadalupe Dental Clinic, Inc The Alzheimer’s Association ....................................414-643-8787 has a variety of information and Independent Care Health Plan materials. (ICare)........................414-223-4847 For 24/7 information and referral Toll Free.....................800-947-3329 helpline- contact Alzheimer’s AssoTTY............................800-947-3529 ciation at ............... 1-800-272-3900 ....................................800-241-9659 Marquette University Dental EMPLOYMENT SERVICES Clinic..........................414-288-6790 Significant numbers of workSpanish.......................414-288-1520 ing caregivers often need to make w w w . m u . e d u / d e n t i s t r y adjustments to their work life, from MATC Dental Hygiene Clinic reporting late to work, reducing ....................................414-297-6573 hours or giving up work entirely. www.matc.edu/communityreFor information on all State of sources/dental Wisconsin Job Centers St. Elizabeth Ann Seton Dental www.wisconsinjobcenter.org/ Clinic..........................414-383-3220 directory/ www.columbia-stmarys.org/ Milwaukee Ann_Seton_Denta Milwaukee County Residents/ caregivers of any age can get job iContact your local County resource for search assistance at the following another clinic in your community. locations: Northeast Comprehensive For a list of Title 19 dentists in your Job Center area, contact the Greater Milwau1915 N. Martin Luther King kee Dental Association at Dr., Ste. 149 ....................................414-276-9911 Milwaukee, WI 53212 Outside the Milwaukee area ..............................414-267-3291 contact ................... 1-800-362-3002 Mobile Dental Care Job Center Central ...........................262-786-4819 x222 4201 N. 27th Street Milwaukee, WI 53216 ..............................888-258-9966 Job Center Northwest ..............................414-760-6060 ..............................414-385-6920

Hire Center www.milwaukeewib.org/ job-seekers/the/hire-center

Milwaukee

Job Center Southeast 2701 S. Chase Avenue Milwaukee, WI 53207 ..............................414-389-6607 Job Seekers age 55 and over can get assistance at the following locations: Mature Worker Resource Center Washington Park Senior Center 4420 W Vliet Street Milwaukee, WI ..............................414-931-0253 Interfaith Older Adult Programs 600 W. Virginia, Suite 300 Milwaukee, WI 53204 ..............................414-291-7500

Ozaukee

Workforce Development CenterOzaukee County 5555 West Highland Road (P.O. Box 547) Mequon, WI 53092 Phone..................262-238-2880 FAX......................262-238-2890

Walworth

Walworth Job Center 10 E. Centralia Street Elkhorn, WI 53121 Phone..................262-741-5180 FAX......................262-741-5275

Washington

Workforce Development Center Washington County 2200 Green Tree Road West Bend, WI 53095 Phone..................262-335-5300 FAX......................262-335-5321

Waukesha

Workforce Development Center Waukesha County 892 Main Street Pewaukee, WI 53072 Phone..................262-695-7800 FAX......................262-695-7890

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iLOCAL RESOURCE FOR FAMILY CAREGIVERS

For individuals 55 years of age and older call: Southeastern Area Agency on Aging, Inc. Attn: Older Worker Coordinator 125 N. Executive Drive, Suite 102 Brookfield, WI 53005 Phone:................ 262-821-4444 Southeastern Area Agency on Aging serves all four counties. They also have a caregiver support program that can supply additional information. iContact your local county resource for Family Caregivers for employment or caregiver reimbursement options.

ELDER ABUSE

Wisconsin Statute 46.90 states that “Elder adult at risk” means any person age 60 or older who has experienced, is currently experiencing, or is at risk of experiencing abuse: Physical Abuse Emotional Abuse Sexual Abuse Treatment without Consent Unreasonable Confinement or Restraint Financial Exploitation Neglect Self-Neglect For Definitions of each of the above: www.dhs.wisconsin.gov/aps/ public/definitions.htm#adultatrisk To report a suspected case of elder abuse or neglect, call your county resource center.i For Milwaukee County call the Aging Resource Center at ....................................414-289-6874 www.dhs.wisconsin.gov/aps/index.htm

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FAITH/SPIRITUALITY

iFor information on how to talk with your loved one about funeral arrangements, contact your local county resource for Family Caregivers.

As a caregiver you may draw your strength each day from your church, synagogue, mosque or other faith based groups to help you Talk with your funeral home of manage your daily caregiving chal- choice about the burial assistance lenges. program offered through your county. iContact your local county resource iFor more information, contact your for Family Caregivers for Caregiver Retreat Information or to find out about respite options that would allow the caregiver to attend church.

FINANCIAL ISSUES

As seniors age, many struggle to keep up with their finances. Some pay their bills late or forget entirely. It is uncomfortable for children— no matter if they are 30, 40 or 50— to ask if their parents are struggling to pay their bills. Below is a list of tools and resources available that will assist the caregiver with financial issues.

iContact your local county

resource for a list of Care Managers in your area.

Consumers may locate geriatric care managers throughout the Untied States by visiting www.aginglifecare.org

GRANDPARENTS AND local county resources. OTHER RELATIVES In Milwaukee contact the Benefit RAISING MINORS

Researchers tell us that grandSpecialists of Legal Action for burial parents and other relatives raising trust information......414-278-7722 children 18 and under are one of GERIATRIC ASSESSMENT the fastest growing types of families Progressive memory loss, a in America. This is due to a number decline in eating or isolation from of reasons - death, divorce, mental family or friends is not a normal health, crime/jail, drugs and alpart of the aging process, and of- cohol. The courts would prefer to ten family members are the first remove a child from their biologto notice that something is wrong. ical parent(s) and place them with Early detection and intervention is a family member if at all possible. crucial as many symptoms are re- This situation knows no racial or versible. A Geriatric Assessment economic boundaries. It is estioffers a comprehensive approach to mated that 1 in 12 children are bedealing with the problems, which ing raised by a ‘grandparent’. The include a multidisciplinary team National Family Caregiver Proto diagnose and treat all types of gram has been asked to work with memory and health issues. Below Grandparents 55+.

For information on services that may be available through Medicare and Medicaid and information on all benefit programs in Milwaukee County, contact Senior Law Benefit is a list of geriatric clinics or talk Specialist of Legal Action at ....................................414-278-1222 with your family physician about options available in your area. iContact your local county resource for Family Caregivers or for Froedtert Memory Disorders Benefit Specialists in other counties. Program ....................414-805-3666

Money management services are Aurora Center for Senior Health available through Aurora Center ....................................414-219-7300 for Financial Wellness at ....................................414-482-8801 GERIATRIC CARE MANAGEMENT AND SUPPORT FUNERAL AND BURIAL Geriatric Care managers Preplanning a funeral allows can provide coordinated care an individual to express their views management for caregivers who in the selection of services that live near or far. They have extenbest fit their beliefs and desires. sive knowledge about quality, costs, Preplanning can save a family 50% and availability of services in your or more on funeral and burial ar- community and can connect you rangements. with the services that will be right for you or a loved one. Professional Geriatric Care Managers generally charge a fee and can be found throughout the country.

iContact your County Aging / Family Caregiver Program for possible respite options, support groups, workshops and other local resources.

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GRIEF RESOURCES

It is natural to grieve the death of a loved one before, during and after the actual time of their passing. The process of accepting the unacceptable is what grieving is all about. For support groups and to learn about resources for anticipatory grief, ambiguous loss, grief at death, chronic illness and loss, symptoms and stages of grief and helping those who are grieving, visit: www.cargiver.org

Caregiver Education Fact Sheets; caregiving issues and strategies; grief and loss. If you have been involved with a hospice program, take advantage of their grief education and support. Or contact Horizon Home Care and Hospice Grief Resource Center ....................................414-586-8383

HEALTH CARE CLINICS

Many times individuals earn just enough income to be ineligible Grandparents Support Group ....................................414-220-8600 for Medicaid coverage, yet do not receive health insurance through Kids Matter ....................................414-344-1220 their employers and cannot afford to pay for “out of pocket” health www.kidsmatterinc.org Legal and social service information insurance. Often, these individuals are forced to seek treatment at local AARP w w w. a a r p . o r g / f a m i l i e s / emergency rooms and become saddled with medical bills that they are grandparents not able to afford. Free or reduced Parenting Network Helpline fee medical clinics fill the gap in ....................................414-671-0566 healthcare access for the uninsured. www.theparentingnetwork.org iFor a list of free or reduced fee The Women’s Center - Waukesha clinics in your area contact your county ....................................262-547-4600 aging services or 211. For a list of free medical clinics in your area contact www.freemedicalcamps.com

Also in Milwaukee, contact:

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HEARING RESOURCES

a home safety check list.

Contact the Center for Communication, Hearing and Deafness for information on the wide variety of services offered................................... 414-604-2200

iContact your county resource to

At least 25% of individuals over the age of 65 report problems with hearing. Persistent failure to understand what is being said can lead to frustration, discouragement and embarrassment. Two of the most common consequences of hearing impairment in the elderly are depression and withdrawal.

HOME MAINTENANCE / CHORES

Although the average elderly individual would prefer to remain in their own home; frailty, chronic illness, and disability often prevent this dream from materializing. Below is a list of programs available to help the elderly remain in their homes.

Volunteer chore services and resource information:

Independence First (main office) i ....................................414-291-7520 For volunteering see older adult services on page 15B. iA resource serving people with

disabilities in Milwaukee, Ozaukee, Washington, Waukesha Counties: Your county resource may have other options available to you.

Revitalize Milwaukee ....................................414-312-7531

HOME SAFETY

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Typically, an interdisciplinary iLOCAL RESOURCE health care team of doctors, nurses, FOR FAMILY CAREGIVERS social workers, home health aides, Milwaukee County...................................414-220-8600 HOMEMAKING AND County......................................262-238-8120 clergy, therapists and trained vol- Ozaukee HEALTHCARE ...........................................................................262-284-8120 Walworth County......................................262-741-3400 Today’s older adult wants to unteers care for you. Washington County.................................877-306-3030 Waukesha County...................................262-548-7848 grow old at home, the place he/she iSee your local yellow pages under Waukesha County Toll Free..............866-677-2372 “Hospice” or talk with your County feels most comfortable. Assistance resource. State Wide Toll Free..............................866-843-9810 with homemaking, personal needs Community Insurance and transportation can help an older HOUSING Information Center adult maintain independence. Southeastern Wisconsin has discuss options or for resources for homemaking and healthcare providers.

HOARDING

Hoarding is generally characterized as obtaining and refusing to throw out a large number of items that would normally appear to be worthless, hazardous, or unsanitary. Living spaces become significantly cluttered and prevent activities for which those spaces were designed. Hoarding can be a contentious issue among family members adding stress and frustration to an already sensitive issue. While the exact underlying causes of hoarding are unknown, there are some underlying factors including: OCD, ADHD, Psychosis, and Dementia. Catholic Charities in Home Support Program......414-771-2881 Covers Milwaukee and Waukesha Counties.

a wide variety of housing options. Contact your county resource to discuss the options available to you. Contact the County Resource – Living Options Services for information on all types of living options for older adults ....................................414-220-8600 ................................ 1-800-449-4481 Family Caregiver Support Network ....................................414-220-8600 ....................................800-449-4481 Contact United States Department of Housing and Urban Development (HUD) for area information on low income housing. ....................................414-297-3214

700 West Michigan Street, Suite 350, 53233 ....................................414-291-5360

For information on housing available for individuals with disabilities contact Independence First at .......................414-291-7520

Senior Care............ 1-800-657-2038 Prescription drug assistance program for Wisconsin residents 65+ who meet eligibility criteria.

iSee your local yellow pages under “Hospice” or talk with your county resource.

Veterans’ Insurance Information .......

Information on car, home (non Medicare) health and renters’ insurance. Hours are Mon. 1:00 p.m-4:00 p.m. Tues.- Thurs.8:00 a.m.-4:00 p.m. Railroad Retirement Board 310 West Wisconsin Avenue Suite 1300 53203 ....................................877-772-5772 Retirement unemployment and sickness program

................................ 1-800-669-8477 Veterans’ Affairs Regional INSURANCE - MEDICARE Office iContact your local county resouce for assistance. For information on different 5000 W. National, For information, resources and types of insurance options, see the Milwaukee, WI 53295 .............................. 1-800-827-1000 professional tools visit list: www.milwaukeehoarding.weebly.com

Each year older adults are injured in and around their homes. Many of these injuries result from HOSPICE The hospice philosophy hazards that are easy to overlook recognizes death as the final stage but easy to fix. of life and seeks to enable patients to continue an alert, pain-free iContact your county resource for a list of agencies that will do home safe- life and to manage other sympty assessments and offer home safety toms so that their last days may check lists. be spent with dignity and quality, surrounded by their loved ones. Contact the family caregiver Hospice care can be given in the support network website at www. patient’s home, a hospital, nursing caregiversupportnetwork.org for home, or private hospice facility.

Medicare information, ordering Medicare booklets, and information about health plans, contact ................................ 1-800-633-4223 24 hours a day, 7 days a week Medigap / HMO Hotline / Spousal Impoverishment................................. ................................ 1-800-242-1060 Provides Information on Medicare Insurance, Long Term Care Insurance Home Health Care Insurance and other health insurance that might be available prior to Medicare.

Wisconsin Medicaid

For assistance with Title 19 and SSI-E applications and financial assistance for individuals 60 and older, contact the Benefit Specialist through your County resource.

LEGAL MATTERS

There are a variety of personal legal matters regarding health and finances which need to be taken care of. This can best be done by an Elder Law Attorney. Elder Law Attorneys specialize in age related

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legal matters and problems including qualifying for public benefit programs, long term care, estate planning, advance directives and guardianship issues. Your local county resource may have a list or call: Milwaukee Bar Association’s Referral Service....... 414-274-6768

gency contacts are notified if the subscriber is unable to respond. Contact telephone monitoring agency for listing of other monitoring services offered as well. iContact your county resource for

more options.

LONG-DISTANCE May discuss legal matters and CAREGIVING www.findmilwaukeelawyers.org

If you are providing care or or seek a referral to an attorney in Milwaukee and surrounding assistance to a person who lives an hour or more away, you are counties. “long-distance caregiving”. You National Academy of Elder Law may be paying bills on line, arrangAttorneys...................703-942-5711 ing for services and appointments over the phone, communicating www.naela.com with service providers; a care center, the bank, a pharmacy, neighLGBT CAREGIVING As American’s live longer, bors, friends, relatives or even greater attention is being paid to driving or flying in when there the concerns facing aging adults are appointments or “emergenand caregivers. Some unique con- cies”. Please know that you are not siderations arise for Lesbian, Gay, alone in your efforts. There may be Bisexual and Transgender (LGBT) as many as 7 million people carepeople dealing with aging. For in- giving at a distance in the US. Proformation on topics such as finding grams and services are growing in supportive health service provid- the understanding of your efforts ers, dealing with your employer, and dilemmas. Don’t be afraid to and caring for an LGBT spouse, seek out the National Family Caredomestic partner or friend, the fol- giver Support Program (NFCSP) in your community or the community lowing resources may be helpful: of your care receiver for informaThe Milwaukee LGBT Community tion, assistance to access services, Center........................414-271-2656 education, support, respite and ...................................292-3070(SAGE) supplemental services. www.mkelgbt.org/programs/ Wisconsin Caregiving adults ................................ 1-866-843-9810 www.caregiver.com www.wisconsincaregiver.org Under caregiver education fact Eldercare Locater sheets, “Special Concerns of LGBT ................................ 1-800-677-1116 Caregivers” www.eldercare.gov Publication: So Far Away LIFELINES National Institute on Aging # 10MEDICAL ALARMS Telephone monitoring systems 5496............................800-222-2225 www.nia.nih.gov (search for assist seniors in their home in case of a medical emergency. When a So Far Away) subscriber activates a monitoring Geriatric Care Managers www.caremanager.org pendant, the monitoring agency Family Caregiver Support Network immediately contacts the subscriber as to inquire the type of assis- ....................................414-220-8600 tance needed. Emergency Medical ....................................800-449-4481 Technicians and personal emer-

iContact your local county

resource for NFCSP services, additional suggestions and assistance in seeking help to move someone closer to you.

MEDICAID/ T-19

For assistance with Title 19 and SSI-E applications and financial assistance for individuals 60 and older, contact the Benefit Specialist through your county Aging and Disability Resource Centers (ADRCs). For those 18-59 contact your ADRC. See “Older Adult Services ” ADRC section in this directory. You may apply for Medicaid by mail, telephone or in person. To obtain an application or apply in person, contact your county aging

Technology ....................................414-291-7520 www.independencefirst.org Experienced staff has information on assistive technology and adaptive equipment. The Try-AGadget Center offers 700+ items to try. Formal and informal assessments, advocacy, information and referral, and equipment trials are services available through this program. iContact your county resource for more options.

MENTAL HEALTH AND COUNSELING

For both the caregiver and or the care receiver. service number. Nearly 20% of those who are 55 For information on the Medicaid program contact their website years and older experience mental disorders that are not part of norat http://dhfs.wisconsin.gov/med- mal aging. Most common disorders are anxiety, severe cognitive icaid/index.htm impairment and mood disorders. If you are unsure of where or how The rate of suicide is highest among to obtain an application or need older adults compared to any other help in completing an application, age group. Nearly one out of every four call Recipient Services at................. . U.S. households provides care to a ................................ 1-800-362-3002 relative or friend aged 50 or older. Milwaukee County Studies show that caregivers expeSenior Law Benefit Specialist ....................................414-278-1222 rience a sense of burden and estimated 46% are clinically depressed.

MEDICAL EQUIPMENT

The Independence First Mobility Store, formerly Wheelchair Recycling Program (WRP), is a non-profit program that offers low cost, refurbished and sanitized mobility and medical equipment to those who lack the resources to acquire new equipment. It also offers a selection of low-cost new equipment.

Center for Psychological Services ....................................414-288-3487 at Marquette University Mental Health Association in Milwaukee County.........414-276-3122 Resources for prevention in mental health.

NAMI Wisconsin, Inc. Greater Milwaukee Office Greater Milwaukee Area, ....................................414-344-0447 3720 N. 124th Street, Unit F State Office............ 1-800-236-2988 Wauwatosa ..............................414-988-5333 Waukesha Office.......262-524-8886 www.NAMIwisconsin.org gma@ifmobility.org NAMI is an advocacy, referral and support group, founded Independence First Assistive for people with mental Illness and

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their families. NAMI also has educational programs. Everything is free of charge.

State of Wisconsin Office of Quality Assurance................. 414-227-5000 Call to ask questions about nursing home regulations or to file a foriContact your local county resource mal complaint about a facility in for Family Caregivers for other counsoutheastern Wisconsin. seling services within your community. Medigap Hotline ................................ 1-800-242-1060 NURSING HOMES Information on spousal impovNursing Homes and Health erishment, nursing home insurance Care Centers are skilled nursing faand other ways nursing home care cilities designed to meet the needs may be paid for. of persons convalescing from illness or surgery or to provide longNursing home inspection reports/ term care which is not appropriate provider search website for a hospital or available through www.dhs.wisconsin.gov/bqaother alternatives. All persons enconsumer/search.htm tering a nursing home do so under physicians’ orders. Their care NUTRITION-DIETICIANS, is supervised by nurses and other MEALS ON WHEELS/ professionals under the direction HOME DELIVERED MEALS of a physician. Facilities may offer A significant number of elderspecial programs in rehabilitation, ly fail to get the amounts and types mental health, developmental disof food necessary to meet essential abilities, Alzheimer’s, hospice and energy and nutrient needs. There is subacute care. Along with meeting evidence that good nutrition prolong term care needs they may ofmotes vitality and independence fer outpatient services for rehabiliwhereas poor nutrition can prolong tation, respite care (1-28 days) and recovery from illness and lead to a short term or recuperative care (1lesser quality of life. 90 days). Family Caregiver Support Network: Living Options services ....................................414-220-8600 ................................ 1-800-449-4481 Assists when exploring options or needing to select a facility by providing Federal and State inspection report information, touring check lists and more information on facilities (size, rates, smoking, a religious affiliation) in southeastern Wisconsin. Ombudsman Program – State of Wisconsin.............. 1-800-815-0015 “Ombudsman” means ‘advocate’. Ombudsman acts as advocate in licensed facilities such as nursing homes on behalf of residents and/or their families. Leave a message including the facility name so that your call can be routed to an Ombudsman assigned to the facility you are referring to.

mation tailored to their situation. The ADRC provides information on a broad range of programs and services (home care/chores, home delivered meals, transportation, housing, financial assistance, elder abuse and much more), helps people understand the various long term care options available to them, helps people apply for programs and benefits, and serves as the access point for publicly-funded long term care. These services can be provided at the ADRC, via telephone, or through a home visit, whichever is more convenient to the individual seeking help. www.dhs.wisconsin.gov/adrc/ Family Caregiver Support Network ....................................414-220-8600 ....................................800-449-4481 Milwaukee County DRC............................414-289-6660 (age 18-59) ARC............................414-289-6874 (age 60+) Ozaukee County.......262-284-8120 Walworth County.....262-741-3400 Washington County ....................................262-335-4497 Waukesha County....262-548-7848 iContact your county resource 211 For aging and caregiver reor Milwaukee County 414-289-6874 sources anywhere in the country for a list of meal sites and providers of contact home delivered meals. the Eldercare Locater Outside Milwaukee For aging and caregiver re- ................................ 1-800-677-1116 www.eldercare.gov sources anywhere in the country contact the Eldercare Locater number at ............. 1-800-677-1116 OLDER ADULT SERVICES BY VOLUNTEERS www.eldercare.gov There has been a long standwww.wisconsincaregiver.org ....................................866-843-9810 ing tradition of “neighbor helping neighbor” in Wisconsin. Because of active lifestyles, it is often volunOLDER ADULT SERVICES teers who assist with friendly visits, ADRC AND VOLUNTEER Aging and Disability Resource phone calls, transportation, shopCenters (ADRCs) provide accu- ping, chores and other “neighborrate, unbiased information on all ly” activities. Organized through aspects of life related to aging or churches and other community living with a disability. ADRCs are groups, older adults are assisted friendly, welcoming places where to remain independent in their anyone - individuals, concerned homes. www.dhs.wisconsin.gov/adrc/ families or friends, or professionals working with issues related to ag- Milwaukee - Unison ing or disabilities - can go for infor- ....................................414-291-7500

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Ozaukee - Interfaith Caregivers of Ozaukee County ....................................262-376-5362 Waukesha - Eras Senior Network ....................................262-549-3348 Washington County - Interfaith Caregivers of Washington County ....................................262-365-0902 Wisconsin InterFaith In Action Network www.wifian.org

PODIATRY

Foot care is of utmost importance in older adults because of the need for ambulation and mobility. Circulation to the lower portions of the body tends to decrease with age. Decreased circulation, coupled with diminished sensation, can lead to skin breakdown and infections. Older adults are less agile and may experience difficulty in maintaining good hygiene of the feet. Many times podiatry services are covered by insurance, depending upon your medical condition. At home services are also available. iContact your county resource for more information or talk with your primary care physician.

PUBLICATIONS

AARP - American Association of Retired Persons Yearly membership & receive the monthly newsletter “Bulletin” and the “Modern Maturity” magazine, free brochures & discounts. Membership Processing Center P. O. Box 199 Long Beach, CA 90801 50 Plus News Magazine 128 Cottonwood Ave. Hartland WI 53029 ..............................262-367-5303 Today’s Caregiver ..............................800-829-2734 A bi-monthly publication providing information, support and guidance for family and professional caregivers.

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Based on assessment, provides both adult day and overnight services to people 18 years and older who have disabilities and special needs. Care is provided 24 hours a RELOCATION/MOVING day, seven days a week for up Making the decision to relocate to 20 days. Reservations accepted. (move) can be a welcome decision or a traumatic one. Many procras- SILVER ALERT PROGRAM tinate because the thought of all the Wisconsin’s Silver Alert law work to move, even where to move, (Act 264) took affect August 2015. is overwhelming. There is a com- Similar to an Amber Alert, Silver plete series of resources available to Alerts will go out by e-mail, cell provide assistance all along the way. phone, text, or fax through the County social workers and other Wisconsin Crime Alert Network to professionals can help determine notify the public that an adult with the best level of care. Placement Alzheimer’s, dementia, or other services, most of which do not permanent cognitive impairment charge a fee, can assist in finding a is missing. Anyone may subscribe new ‘home’. A number of realtors on-line to receive Silver Alerts and have chosen to be certified as a Se- Crime Alerts for free by e-mail, cell, nior Real Estate Specialist (SRES) text or fax. Visit and other companies are available www.wisconsincrimealert.gov to assist with packing, and all the details of moving. SOCIALIZATION Exposure to social and physiContact your county resource. ical activity improves cognitive performance and sleep quality in Family Caregiver Support Network the elderly. Maintenance of social – Living Options Service engagement and avoidance of so....................................414-220-8600 cial isolation are important factors ................................ 1-800-449-4481 in maintaining cognitive vitality in old age. There are many opportuRESPITE CARE nities for social interaction which Respite service allows caregivinclude adult day programs, senior ers to have free time for themselves centers, friendly visitors, and telewhile their loved ones receive assisphone reassurance, to name a few. tance when needed. Respite seriContact your county resource to vices are available in a variety of op- discuss appropriate options or for a list tions, ranging from a few hours to of programs in your area. several weeks. They can be offered within the home, group home or SUPPORT GROUPS nursing home, depending upon the For both the caregiver and the level of care needed. Each service care receiver, support groups can has a different rate of cost; some help with the well being of one’s services offer a sliding scale fee. physical and mental health. A support group is one way to share your iContact your county resource for re- troubles, exchange ideas and gain spite services and or a list of facilities new information. It can offer an that offer respite. atmosphere of understanding and Facilities that offer respite, you support. do not need to live in Milwaukee County.

iContact your local county resource for Family Caregivers to subscribe to a free caregiver newsletter within your community.

St. Ann Center for Intergenerational Care ....................................414-977-5000

Family Caregiver Support Network ....................................414-220-8600 ....................................800-449-4481

iContact your local county resource for information on the many support groups in your area. Alzheimer’s Support Groups ....................................800-272-3900 www.alz.org/sewi

TRANSPORTATION

Without effective transportation, many individuals cannot access medical appointments, shop for necessities and may be isolated in their home. This presents health and safety risks for some and may result in the elderly being forced from their homes before they need to be, solely because of the lack of transportation. iContact your county resource for transportation options in your area.

VETERANS’ BENEFITS

Eligibility for most VA benefits is based upon discharge from active military service under other than dishonorable conditions. Active service means full-time service as a member of the Army, Navy, Air Force, Marine Corps, and Coast Guard. Generally, men and women veterans with similar service may be entitled to the same VA benefits. Benefits will also be based on conflict, time served and if a sustained injury had occurred. Kenosha County Veteran’s Service Office 8600 Sheridan Rd., Suite 700 Kenosha, WI 53143-6516 ....................................262-605-6690 Milwaukee County Veteran’s Service Office VA Hospital Grounds, Bldg. 6 6419 W. Greenfield Ave. West Allis, WI 53214 ....................................414-266-1234 Ozaukee County Veteran’s Service Office 121 W. Main St., Rm 327 PO Box 994 Port Washington, WI 53074-0994 ....................................262-284-8326

....................................262-238-8326 Racine County Veteran’s Service Office 1717 Taylor Ave. Racine, WI 53403 ....................................262-638-6702 Walworth County Veteran’s Service Office PO Box 1001, 100 W. Walworth Elkhorn, WI 53121 ....................................262-741-4222 Washington County Veteran’s Service Office 432 E. Washington St. Rm 2006 West Bend, WI 53095 ....................................262-335-4457 ....................................800-616-0446 Waukesha County Veteran’s Service Office 500 Riverview Ave., Rm. G138 Waukesha, WI 53188-3680 ....................................262-548-7732

VISION RESOURCES

As we age, the quality of our vision diminishes naturally. Most changes typically are not severe, and a new prescription for glasses or a few adaptations, such as improved lighting, may be all that is needed. Eye care is important. Only a doctor can detect certain vision changes when you cannot—before symptoms become noticeable. Wisconsin Regional Library for the Blind and Physically Handicapped ....................................414-286-3045 ................................ 1-800-242-8822 Sends books postage free, loans cassette players and much more at no charge. Vision Forward ....................................414-615-0100 Local outlet for equipment, offers advocacy and organizations for the blind. iContact your County resource for services in your area.

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Staying at Home Responsibly Cost Sheet/Expenses Family Caregiver Support Network For Family Members and Friends Who Help or Care For Older Adults Compare the costs of bringing private pay services into the Home vs. Assisted Living at $2,200-$5,000 a month and Nursing Home care at $5,000+ per month.

Service Provided* Home Delivered Meals (1-2x/day, 7 days a week)

Cost Per Day/Hour/Service

$6.00/Meal

Cost Per Week

Total $57.00-$99.00 $57.00-$78.00

$168.00-$336.00 +$60.00 Shipping (If shipped weekly) Total $228.00-$396.00 $228.00-$312.00

$18.00-$34.00

$72.00-$136.00

Transportation Using $7.00 Round Trip (Taxi Rides Milwaukee County’s Transit May Exceed This Amount) Plus (2x/week) (414) 343-1700

$14.00

$56.00

Adult Day Service (2x/week)

$50.00-$70.00/Day

$100.00-$150.00

$400.00-$600.00

Life Line Alert Service

1x Installation Fee of $50.00-$99.00 (Sometimes Waived) $10.00-$25.00

$7.00-$9.00

$35.00-$45.00

$10.00-$25.00

$40.00-$100.00

1x Installation Fee of $99.00

$12.50

$50.00

$275.50-$421.50

$1,109.00-$1,695.00

Homemaking and/or Personal $19.00-$26.00 Care (1x/week) (Usually 3 hr. Minimum) Bathing Service (1x/week)

Chore Service for Snow, Leaves etc. (1x/week) Medication Monitoring Systemthrough Life Line

$18.00-$34.00/Bath

Grand Totals

$42.00-$84.00 + $15.00 shipping/week

Cost Per Month

Don’t forget to add up the other costs of living at home such as utilities, taxes, home maintenance etc. in addition to these supportive services. Then compare the total to a facility that offers it all under one roof. The Family Caregiver Support Network’s Living at Home Expense Sheet (Next Page) can be helpful in adding up the costs you already incur living at home.

Remember that with supportive in-home services you can adjust the type and amount of care to your needs. Your monthly totals may be different than the example above based on which services, how many and how much you choose or can afford to use. *There may be government assisted or volunteer services available to help offset the costs of some of these services. Contact the Family Caregiver Support Network (414) 220-8600, or the local Aging Resource Center of Milwaukee County (414) 289-6874 for more information on what may be available. **As supportive care needs increase to skilled care needs or if 24-hour care becomes necessary, a higher skilled assisted living or nursing facility may be a viable alternative to meet the senior’s needs safely.

WEBSITES

Unison www.unisonmke.org (support for family caregivers tab) Family Caregiver Support Network www.caregiversupportnetwork. org

County Aging Services:

Milwaukee

www.county.milwaukee.gov/Aging

Ozaukee

www.co.ozaukee.wi.us/Aging/

Walworth

www.co.walworth.wi.us

Washington

www.co.washington.wi.us/adrc

Waukesha

www.waukeshacounty.gov/adrc Living Options www.living-options.org Elder Locator www.eldercare.gov/Eldercare/ Public/Home.asp Social Security www.ssa.gov Medicare

www.medicare.gov/caregivers AARP www.aarp.org/families/caregiving National Alliance for Caregiving www.caregiving.org National Caregiver Alliance www.caregiver.org Wisconsin Caregiver www.wisconsincaregiver.org

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UNISON offers FREE HELP and Support for family members and friends who help older adults. Contact a Family Caregiver Support Network Resource Specialist today and learn how UNISON can CARE FOR YOU!

(414) 220-8600 UNISONMKE.ORG

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Caregiving & Home Healthcare Directory

Questions to Ask When Considering In-Home Care

here are several options when trying to find inhome help to care for your older adult. The key is to find reliable help that you and your older adult feel comfortable with and meets the specific care needs.

• Is the agency certified for participation in Medicare and Medicaid programs or private insurance? • Does the agency accept payment from Long-term Care policies, Family Care or Community Care? • How long has the agency been serving the community? • Is the agency accredited by the Joint Commission on Accreditation of Healthcare Organizations (JCAHO), the Community Health Accreditation Program (CHAP), the Better Business Bureau (BBB), or other recognized accrediting body? • Does it state this in its agency literature and contracts? • Does the agency provide an initial assessment to determine if the patient would be appropriate for home care and what those services might be? • Is there a fee for an initial assessment? • Does the agency provide all services needed? • Can it provide flexibility to meet the patient’s changing health care needs? • How does the agency choose and train its employees? • Are criminal background checks made? • Are employees given drug screens? • Does it protect its employees with written personnel policies, benefits packages and malpractice insurance?

“Home care” is defined by the type of care needed – homemaking, hands-on personal care (i.e. bathing, toileting), and supportive medical care. If basic visiting or homemaking for a couple hours is needed, there may be free faith-based or community resources where care is provided by

a volunteer who have undergone background and criminal history checks. Or, you may hire a care worker independently or through a home care agency. If you are hiring someone who is not part of a home care agency, contact the Family Caregiver Support Network for resourc-

• Are the employees bonded and insured? • Does the agency provide literature explaining its services, eligibility requirements, fees and funding? • Does the agency have arrangements in place for emergencies? • Are the agency’s caregivers available 24 hours per day, seven days per week or on what limited time basis? • How quickly can they start? • Are references from former clients available? • What types of programs does the company have in place to ensure quality care is provided? • Will the agency advocate for you if your insurance company, Medicare or Medicaid fails to cover a claim you and the agency thought should be covered? For more information about personal care or home health agencies that serve older adults in Milwaukee County, contact the Family Caregiver Support Network at (414) 220-8600. For information about agency certification for Medicare and/or Medicaid, results of state inspections of agencies, complaints filed against agencies within the last two years, or to make a complaint against an agency, call the Wisconsin Home Health Hotline at 1-800-642-6552

UNISON Family Caregiver Support 414.220.8600 www.unisonmke.org www.living-options.org www.caregiversupportnetwork.org

es and tips on how to hire a worker. When considering a home care or home health agency, there are some questions to ask in advance that can assist you in getting help that is best suited for your older adult. Before hiring an agency, ask:

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Home Care by Seniors for Seniors

There’s a huge difference in the kind of home care you can receive from someone who really understands what your life is like as a senior. The concerns you have. The need for independence. Someone who like you, has a little living under his or her belt. Our loving, caring compassionate seniors are there to help. We offer all the services you need to stay in your own home, living independently. • Companion Care • Housekeeping Services • Meal preparation/cooking • Personal Care

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888 Thackeray Trail, Ste. 209 • Oconomowoc 262-354-3700 weare-atyourservice.com We service Waukesha County and the surrounding communities. We do paperwork on insurance claims. We have registered nurses on staff. We offer…dependable, flexible and affordable…conversation/companionship, medication reminders, Alzheimer’s/dementia care, household organization, light housekeeping, meal preparation, laundry/linens, grocery shopping/ errands, incidental transportation, bath/hygiene/continence care, transfers/ lifts, therapy exercise reminders, hospice assistance, respite care/family relief. “At Your Service” provides an affordable alternative for those individuals who wish to remain in their homes and live a fulfilling, healthier and happier life. We help all of our clients to experience quality of life, maintain independence and most importantly, peace of mind. We are a locally owned company, not a franchise or a large corporate entity. We deliver extraordinary client service at an affordable price. Our highly personalized approach is designed to maximize peace of mind and we place high value on integrity, honesty and trust. Our caregivers are knowledgeable, friendly and personable, creating lasting relationships with our clients. “At Your Service” was built on three guiding principles; quality care, consistent caregiving and the ultimate client experience. We strive to develop longterm relationships with our clients to enrich their lives. We bring them a sense of the outside world, give them a consistent visit to anticipate and we listen and engage in what their clients have to say. Whether you are caring for a loved one or just want to stay in your own home maintaining peace of mind, independence and quality of life, “At Your Service” can help.

COMFORCARE HOME CARE

1020 James Drive, Ste. F • Hartland 262-446-2000 www.comforcare.com/wisconsin/waukesha ComForCare can help in the following communities; Waukesha county and Southwestern Milwaukee county. We are here for you. Whether it is a medication reminder or help preparing a meal, safety supervision, personal care or companionship. ComForCare allows clients to stay in their home and continue to do all the things they love. With ComForCare at your side, you and your loved one can live life on your own terms. ComForCare and its owners, administrative staff and caregivers are committed to providing outstanding customer service. Our thorough in-home nurse assessment, customized care plan development and ongoing oversight give you peace of mind. Our superior process includes supervisory visits and constant communication to ensure your satisfaction. We want to help you or your loved one stay at home and live your best life possible.

COMFORCARE HOME CARE

W218N17485 Delaney Court • Jackson 262-674-1515 www.WestBend.ComForCare.com We service Washington and Ozaukee Counties We are Medicaid approved #100027491 We file paperwork on insurance claims. We have registered nurses on staff. We offer housekeeping, respite care, cooking/feeding, telephone reassurance, overnight care, personal care, baths. We administer medication, check

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Caregiving & Home Healthcare Directory medication compliance, companion/daily check, 24/7 care, live-in care, transportation and errands, 24/7 staff on-call. We are owner owned and operated. We see the benefit of individual’s ability to stay living independent, but safe, within their own home. As much (24/7), or as little (2 hours) can be used. “We don’t want to change your life…rather enhance your life!” We believe more individuals want to stay living in their own homes, and families are being stretched to find care support. ComForCare can help individuals and families meet these demands, while keeping individuals safe!! "Come see our new building which houses our ComForCare Home Care offices and our NEW Just Like Home Adult Day Center"!

HOME CARE SERVICE

9429 72nd Street • Kenosha 262-657-8467 www.homecarewisconsin.com Home Care Service offers housekeeping, cooking/feeding & meal preparation, overnight care, and personal care including baths. We administer medication, companion/daily checks, and errands and medical appointments for clients in southeast Wisconsin. The primary benefit of Home Care Service is comfort and familiarity of clients to live in their own home and the constant availability of one-to-one aide.

HOME HELPERS OF LAKE COUNTRY

105 E. Wisconsin Ave., Ste. 201B • Oconomowoc 262-354-3330 www.homecarelakecountry.com Serving clients in western Waukesha County, Lake Country area, Dodge, and Jefferson counties. Home Helpers of Lake Country offers: housekeeping, respite care, cooking/feeding, overnight care, personal care - bathing etc., check medication compliance, companion/daily check, errands, doctor appointments and hospice coordination. Home Helpers of Lake Country believes allowing clients to remain independent in their own home; one on one care; usually much less expensive cost of home care versus going into a facility are the benefits their team offers. Home Helpers of Lake Country thinks more and more people are making the choice to age in place as long as possible, many to the end of life, and they are prepared to help.

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SENIORS HELPING SENIORS

P.O. Box 208 • Sussex 262-225-7978 www.seniorcarewaukesha.com We service Waukesha County and its surrounding areas. We can file paperwork on insurance claims. We have retired nurses on staff. We offer companionship, personal care, respite care, overnight and 24/7, meal preparation and much more. We offer a free on-line resource-learning center available to seniors and their families. We also host Senior-Talk, a biweekly radio program on iHeart Radio 1130 WISN Talk Radio that airs on Saturdays at 4:00 pm. The greatest benefit of home health care is allowing seniors to age in place in their own home. We also started Senior Home Consultants. A free service for the Senior Community to assist seniors in finding the best community for their needs when they are no longer able to stay in their own home.

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Caregiving & Home Healthcare Directory ST. ANN CENTER FOR INTERGENERATIONAL CARE – BUCYRUS CAMPUS

2450 W. North Ave. • Milwaukee 414-210-2450 www.stanncenter.org St. Ann’s Bucyrus Campus is Medicare approved and offers respite care, cooking/feeding, personal care – baths etc., medication administration as well as medication compliance check, art, music and social engagements. We are not a home health agency. The day services and overnight respite offered provide another alternative to residential care/nursing home. We give caregivers peace of mind knowing their loved one isn’t isolated, but actively engaged in a joyful, beautiful center with interesting activities and friendly faces. The adults interact regularly with the childcare children. We believe intergenerational centers are the best way to keep adults active & engaged while supporting their families and caregivers.

ST. ANN CENTER FOR INTERGENERATIONAL CARE – STEIN CAMPUS

2801 E. Morgan Ave. • Milwaukee 414-977-5000 www.stanncenter.org St. Ann’s Stein Campus is Medicare approved and offers respite care, cooking/feeding, personal care – baths etc., medication administration as well as medication compliance check, physical/occupational therapy, hair/nail care, art therapy, music therapy and social engagements. We are not a home health agency. The day services and overnight respite offered provide another alternative to residential care/nursing home. We give caregivers peace of mind knowing their loved one isn’t isolated, but actively engaged in a joyful, beautiful center with interesting activities and friendly faces. The adults interact regularly with the childcare children. We believe intergenerational centers are the best way to keep adults active & engaged while supporting their families and caregivers.

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Apparently, I’m a slow learner. I can’t think of another reason why it took me years to associate my sons’ and husband’s itchy skin problems with the dryer sheets I used. While we didn’t experience respiratory problems often associated with fabric softeners, according to the WebMD medical website, many reports show that the perfumes and additives in laundry products may cause skin and respiratory problems. One would expect that such a life-impacting revelation (even without fragrance, dryer sheets pose a problem for my family, and all the skin problems disappeared once I stopped using any fabric softeners or dryer sheets) would have banned those pesky sheets from our home. But that’s not true. Dryer sheets have so many other uses around that home -- indoors, outdoors and in the garage, too -- that I keep a box of fragrance-free dryer sheets on hand. SCREEN CLEANERS. Dryer sheets make great dusting and cleaning cloths for television and computer screens. Not only will they clean the screens but the antistatic properties will also treat the screens to repel, rather than attract, dust. Dryer sheets are designed to reduce static cling, so they remove the dust and help keep it from resettling on the screens. DRY-ERASE. To add luster and restore the surface of a dry-erase memo board, polish it with a dryer sheet. FAN BLADES. There’s nothing like static electricity to turn a fan blade into a dust magnet. But that’s no match for a dryer sheet. Just take one of those gems and wipe down the blades to release dust, pet hair and cobwebs.

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To clean your oven racks or grill grates, rinse them off and then soak them overnight in a tub of warm water with a little dishwashing liquid and a handful of dryer sheets (four or five should do it). Hint: For really messy grill grates, use a large black plastic bag to mimic a tub. Lay it out flat where it will be in the sun for a few

hours, and then tie the bag shut and walk away. STATIC CLING. Swipe a dryer sheet under a skirt that won’t hang freely or a clinging sweater to counteract the effects of static cling. STICKING SCISSORS. To fix dull, sticking scissor blades and prevent them from dulling over time, wipe them periodically with a new or used dryer sheet. REPEL BUGS. Anytime you’re outdoors -- whether playing, gardening, hiking or just picnicking in the park -- consider slipping a dryer sheet in your back pocket. Research has shown that a couple of chemical compounds commonly found in the sheets (linalool and beta-citronellol) will deter the gnats and mosquitoes from hanging around, making this a reasonable and easier-to-use alternative them spray-on bug repellent. REPEL MORE BUGS. Place dryer sheets in the rafters, basement corners or other places where spiders and bugs are prone to nest.

CLEAN PAINT BRUSHES.

Love to paint a room or do another project but hate the cleanup, especially the brushes? Then you’re going to love this: Fill a sink, basin or bucket with warm water; place the gunked-up brushes in the water; and add a dryer sheet. Soak for a few hours while you take a nap. The remaining paint should come off almost like magic, making it easy to just rinse and let the brushes dry so they’re ready for the next job. CLEAN CAR. Dip a dryer sheet into water so it becomes saturated, and then use it to remove bugs from your car windshield and front grille. The fabric is abrasive enough to scrub away the insects but not harsh enough to damage the finish. SOAP SCUM. Dryer sheets can help to get rid of soap scum in the bathroom -- from the walls of the shower, the shower door and the faucet handles. All it takes is just a few drops of water on a used dryer sheet and soap scum buildup nearly slides off.

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Helping opportunities How about becoming a volunteer at the Industries for the Blind and Visually Impaired? There are opportunities now to learn about such opportunities and they include lunch at Vision Forward with learning therewith. This event is Thursday, Oct. 25, 12:30-1:30 p.m. Advanced registration is necessary. Call 414-615-0100. Vision Forward is located at 912 N. Hawley Rd. Michele Repischak will speak about the organization’s history, their products and business lines, their people

and the opportunities to be of service. There also will be a book discussion led by James Golata on “When Breath Becomes Air” by Paul Kalanirhi on Thursday, Oct. 18, 11 a.m. to 12:30 p.m. The book is available through the Talking Book and Braille Library, no. DB83643. The author wrote about his own experiences with approaching death to help others face their mortality. Both of the above events are free.

Motion sensors in action A western study of the use of sensors, for instance, in a home monitors daily activity of the people as they do things like computer use, walking speed, type of gait and other daily functions. This particular study was over four years and was funded by the National Institutes of Health and Department of Veterans Affairs. While this study is for Caucasians, a similar study is underway in Chicago for African Americans and still another in

Miami, Florida for Spanish speaking people. These studies look at behavioral changes. The study claims that not leaving a house very often could be a sign of depression. The study, according to a person who was the target in at least one such instance, says he hardly knew it. It was anonymous to him and very non-invasive. It follows a person in his or her normal activities.

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Bullfighting in Milwaukee and crowd thrilling pedestrianism If the words in the headline above seem a bit odd, hold on. The following story should clear things up. The tale involves three entities, all-different but all of which are part of the explanation. The first of these entities is the Osher Lifelong Learning Institute at the University of Wisconsin-Milwaukee. The facility exists for the continuing education and other benefits of its members, all who are 50 years of age and older. Thus, the Institute and its programs are of specific interest to readers of 50 Plus. The second entity is an individual, Bob Buege, who prior to his retirement was an English instructor in the Milwaukee Public Schools. He’s written a number of books including two on a pair of departed friends, the old Milwaukee Braves and the even older Borchert Field. He is also a member of organizations such as the Milwaukee Braves Historical Association, in which he is its president, the Wisconsin Old-time Ballplayers Association and SABR (the Society for American Baseball Research). In recent years, he has served as a guest speaker at Osher seminars for its members. His previous talks were about both the Braves and Borchert Field, as well as when the American League was formed here in Milwaukee in 1900. And finally, the third aspect of this story concerns the most recent of Bob’s talks at Osher Milwaukee in the year 1922. You might ask, as I did, why that particular year? What was so special

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By Jack Pearson about it? There was no Major League Baseball here then; pro basketball hadn’t been created, college football and basketball were humdrum, and it wasn’t an Olympic year. The war was forgotten; there was no TV, talking movies or shopping centers. It had to be nothing out of the ordinary. So why did he choose it? What he replied was such that I realized it had to be put in print. And here it is. Would you ever believe there once was bullfighting here? It’s true. I won’t call it a sport, but it’s wildly popular in Spanish speaking countries. But this is Milwaukee, not Madrid or Barcelona or Mexico City. It is actually outlawed in the U.S. Nevertheless, back in ’22, some enterprising promoter had announced that he was presenting a series of bullfights, with all the hoopla of matadors and picadors and, of course, the poor bulls, right here in downtown Milwaukee. It was reported in all the papers. However, just before the series, the promoter received a formal letter from the powers that be informing him that although the fights would be permitted (all states had slightly different rules in the mat-

Would you think a bullfighting scene such as this ever occurred in downtown Milwaukee? The bull, however, was not killed or even hurt.

Bob Buege, the gentleman who gave the talk at the Osher institute on bullfighting and pedestrianism in Milwaukee in the year 1922. ter), that the bulls could not be killed sang. It’s hard to think of him not tossor even injured in any way. Reported- ing out those outrageous one-liners: ly, the event went on, the pomp and “One morning I shot an elephant in pageantry and music were all fine, but my pajamas. How he got into my pajathe animals were spared. Ole! mas I’ll never know.” When they were Most seniors recall who the Marx here they performed in the old MajesBrothers were; Groucho and Chico tic Theater on Wisconsin Avenue that and Harpo, in all those wonderful- no longer exists. ly insane comedies in the ‘30s: Duck Another historical aspect of 1922 Soup, Horse Feathers, A Night at the included in Bob’s talk, that was probaOpera and many more. They were bly of most interest to Wisconsin ressome of the funniest movies ever idents today, was about professional made. But, as Bob revealed in his talk football. The American Professional at Osher, when they came to Milwau- Football League, which came into kee in 1922, there were actually four being in ’21, was renamed in ’22 as brothers. Zeppo later left the group. the National Football League. It had (Initially there were five Marx broth- 18 teams. Few know this but three of ers; another called Gummo who didn’t them were in the state of Wisconsin. like show biz.) But getting back to They were the Green Bay Packers, the their 1922 visit to Milwaukee, at that Racine Legion and the Milwaukee time, astonishingly, they were not into Badgers (Ohio had five, but Michigan comedy at all, but were strictly musi- had none). The Packers, who finished cal performers. Chico was a fine pia- with a 4-3-3 mark that year, played nist, and Harpo, of course, played the Racine three times - one win, one harp. Groucho played the guitar and tie, one loss - and played Milwaukee

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twice, winning at home and losing on the road. Racine beat Milwaukee 20-0 in Racine, but lost 0-3 to them in Milwaukee. All of which indicated that the three teams were fairly equal in strength. Since Milwaukee and Racine were both larger than Green Bay, which had only a population of only about 31,000, you should have guessed that either would have had a better chance at survival than little Green Bay. One other note about the Packers, in 1922, everyone knew they were from Green Bay, but they were better known as the “Acme Packers,” the name of the packing company that sponsored them. In one of the 1922 NFL games, the tussle between Milwaukee and Racine, three of the players from those teams went on to fame in other areas afterwards. The first, Paul Robeson, became a famous singer and motion picture star (Show Boat, Song of Freedom); Bo McMillin became a highly successful college football coach at Indiana University; and Fritz Pollard went on to become the first black athlete from the United States to star as a runner in the Olympics. One of the most eagerly awaited visits to Milwaukee in 1922 was by the Olympic superstar Johnny Weissmuller. At the time Weissmuller was the greatest swimmer in the world and had set an amazing 67 world records. It was arranged for him to try to set even another, for the 150 yard backstroke, here in Milwaukee. He and his opponents were to race on the Milwaukee River, and thousands of fans lined the shores to watch the epic event. The swimmers were led along their route by a guide boat, but the driver of the boat fouled up. He wandered off course and as a result Weissmuller and the others had to swim many yards further to get to the finish line. So no record was set, even though he won the race. Ten years later Hollywood grabbed him to star in Tarzan the Ape Man. That and subsequent Tarzan movies made Weissmuller one of the most famous motion picture stars in the world. Even though the lines he was given were a bit moronic: “Me Tarzan; you Jane.” Al Simmons, often known as “Bucketfoot,” was one of only four players born and raised in Wisconsin who are in the Major League Baseball Hall of Fame. In 1922, he was a

19-year-old budding star with the old Milwaukee Brewers of the American Association. He moved up to the Majors a couple of years later and became one of the greatest hitting outfielders in the game. He won two batting championships, hitting .390 and .381, and finished with a lifetime mark of .334. It wasn’t his real name. He was born Aloys Szymanski on Milwaukee’s south side, and was only 51 when he died of a heart attack. Those other three Wisconsin-born Hall of Famers were Kid Nichols, Addie Joss and Burleigh Grimes. Simmons was also one of the founders of the Wisconsin Old-time Ballplayers Association; an organization now presided over by Rick Schabowski with Bob Buege second in command. Equally as strange a tale as was the bullfighting in downtown Milwaukee was the appearance here in Milwaukee of a tall, thin Irishman named Daniel O’Leary. And not just his appearance here, but the huge throngs of people who welcomed him here in 1922, as large or larger than if the president of the country had stopped in. When O’Leary came here in 1922 he was 76 years old. His fame had originated decades before, in the 1865 to 1890 era. But he was still one of the best-known athletes in the world. I never heard of the guy, I told Bob, and asked him to explain. He did so, by first asking a trivia question. “What was the most popular spectator sport in America in the 1865 to 1890 period?” he inquired. It was too early for football and basketball, golf and baseball were just getting started, so my guess is boxing or horse racing, I said. “Good guess,” he noted. “It was about what I would have surmised, too, until I got involved in researching the subject. The answer is ‘Pedestrianism.’” I gave him a look. “Are you pulling my leg?” I asked. “That sounds like some kind of an unlawful jaywalker.” Bob said that back in those years in the late 1800s, that long distance walking competition was a major sport. He also noted that there were many who were very good at it, but O’Leary was right on top. Sort of the Babe Ruth of the activity. What he accomplished is almost unbelievable. He took on every long distance walker in the world, and beat him or her. During his lifetime, he was said to have walked well over 300,000 miles, almost half of those in

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Johnny Weissmuller, the original Tarzan in the movies, was a good-looking fellow when he visited here in 1922. And even better looking was his movie wife, Maureen O’Sullivan. competition. Now keep in mind that through, happy crowds awaited him, speed was not particularly a factor in plying him with sustenance and finanthose long-distance races of long ago. cial gifts and cheering him on. The races were not for just a mile or When he came to Milwaukee even five or ten miles, but for vast dis- in 1922, it was not for a competitive tances of hundreds of miles and more. event. He was walking to every one of An opponent could walk faster than the then 48 states to obtain an autoO’Leary for a few miles, but after 50 graph from the governor of each state. or so would conk out. O’Leary never He got his autograph here, and my seemed to tire, never seemed to age. guess is that some of the liquid given He continued taking on all comers to him by his fans was a few quaffs of well into his 40s and 50s. What was Milwaukee’s finest: beer. recognized as his greatest feat took The above represented just a few place in Cincinnati in 1907 when he of the many happenings here in Milwas 61 years old. He walked a mile at waukee in year 1922, almost a century the beginning of each hour for 1,000 ago. There were many more; the visit consecutive hours. That totals out to by world famed Helen Keller, deaf and 42 straight days. He’d take ten minutes blind since birth yet an incredible edor so to walk the mile, then lie down ucator; by Harry Houdini, the famous and take a quick catnap for a half hour magician only a few short years before or so, and start walking again. For that his tragic death; by other world notaand for all the other incredible things bles such as Pablo Casals, Jascha Heifhe did, they called him the “Plucky Pe- etz, baseball immortal Babe Ruth, Jim destrian.” And the name for the sport, Thorpe and more. The research and “Pedestrianism,” soon followed. work to come up with all that great O’Leary never had a sponsor or history and put a presentation togethany kind of a contract with any firm to er was truly exceptional. provide an income for him. When he’d So now, if nothing else, you can be in one of his long walks, crowds agree with Bob Buege that 1922 was along the route would not only give one hell of a year here in Milwaukee. him something to drink and eat, And if anyone asks you “What is Pebut, would also hand him money as destrianism?” you’ll know that anhe walked. In every city he rambled swer, too.

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October 10, 6:30 – 7:30 pm Opioid Overdose Prevention Education & Naloxone (Narcan) Training Program Pewaukee Public Library, food, and gemutlichkeit (German 210 Main Street, Pewaukee October 5, 10:30 am – noon for friendliness and good cheer). If Learn risk factors leading to opioid Memory Café you are a first-time attendee, please misuse, the signs of opioid overHartland Public Library, register by calling the Alzheimer’s dose and how Naloxone can pre110 E. Park Ave., Hartland A Memory Café is an informal, Association at 1-800-272-3900. vent an accidental death caused friendly morning of socializing for by an opioid overdose. Those who those with early stage dementia or October 10, 11 am attend the training will have the Oconomowoc Women’s Club mild cognitive impairment, and option to receive a Naloxone (Nartheir care partners. This month Fall Style Show can) kit to take with them, free of Golden Mast Inn, W349-M5293 we’ll be creating our own Oktobercharge (while supplies last). Led by fest with music, German-inspired Lacy’s Lane, Okauchee Lee Clay, RN, BSN, Health EducaHosted by the OWC, the show feation Specialist- Community Opiate tures fashions from the Gift Box, Educator- Waukesha County HHS Lieblang Leather, Kalon Boutique, PDO Project (contracted), PrevenMain Street, Next Door and Christive Health Strategies. Reservations topher Banks. All of the proceeds are appreciated at www.pewaufrom the event benefit local charkeelibrary.org or call 262-691-5670 ities. Call 262-560-0464 for ticket Ext 925. For more information call information. Lee 262-896-8234.

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October 16 & 23, 6 pm Taking Care of You Workshop Germantown Community Library, N112W16957 Mequon Rd, Germantown This research-based program offers practical strategies and experiences to help parents, caregivers, and community members deal with stress in their daily lives. Join UW Extension Washington County in learning how to better manage life’s challenges in healthy ways to allow you to take better care of yourself, October 10, 7 pm WOW Widows and your overall health, and others in Widowers Meeting your care. Call the library at 2625476 S. 13th Street, Milwaukee 253-7760 or stop by the Adult RefPlease join us for friendship after erence Desk to register for this free losing a spouse. Monthly business workshop. Participants can attend meeting followed by entertain- either or both days. ment provided by Jessica Michna “The Salem Witch Trials”. Club ac- October 17, 6 – 7 pm tivities include bowling, golf, mini Germinating Roses from Seed golf, card parties, pizza parties, fish Hartland Public Library, 110 E. Park Ave., Hartland fries and walking. $10 guest fee. Join us as we learn how roses develop. Zach Steeno of Rose InnovaOctober 12, 7 am – 3:30 pm Holiday Bazaar tions in Greenfield will be sharing Luther Manor’s Faith & Education his knowledge about planting rose Center, 4545 N. 92nd Street, seed for successful germination. Wauwatosa He will also explain crossbreedShop handcrafted items created by ing and hybridizing roses. Zach is the residents and volunteers, in- a professional rose hybridizer; you cluding scarves, jewelry, quilts, and will definitely learn a lot about this ornaments as well as the ever-pop- interesting subject! ular bean soup mix and bakery items. Some furniture and floral October 16th arrangements will also be available. Mature Singles Club Proceeds from the sale benefit Lu- Sip & Snack ther Manor programs and services. La Fuente, 9155 Take the North Drive into Luther W. Bluemound Rd., Wauwatosa Manor and follow it to the Faith Meet new single friends 55+. Join & Education Center Building En- other singles for happy hour and to find out more activities that trance. the club has to offer! The club is a CMYK / .eps

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October 18, 6:30 “Lives Well Lived “ Special Showing Luther Manor’s Faith & Education Center, 4545 N. 92nd Street, Wauwatosa The acclaimed feature film “Lives Well Lived” by award-winning photographer, Sky Bergman, celebrates the incredible wit, wisdom and life experiences of seniors who are living life to the fullest. Encompassing over 3,000 years of experience, forty people share their secrets and insights to living a meaningful life. Their intimate memories and inspiring personal histories will make you laugh, perhaps cry, but mostly inspire you. Special showing presented by Direct Supply. This event is free and space is limited so RSVP to LutherManor.org/rsvp or 414-434-1768. October 19, 11:30 am – 1:30 pm Inspired to Serve Luncheon, Fundraiser & Fashion Show The Ingleside Hotel (formerly Country Springs Hotel), 2810 Golf Rd, Pewaukee The Waukesha Service Club’s annual luncheon fundraiser benefits their Family Assistance Program and grants opportunities within Waukesha County. Contact Jonna Withey for ticket information at jonnawithey@gmail.com. October 20 “The World’s Many Musical Sounds” Hamilton Fine Arts Center, W220 N6151 Town Line Road, Sussex Hear and learn about how varied cultures of our world share their unique cultural voices through the musical sounds of the orchestra. We will share several national

anthems and we will feature a rendition of “The World Anthem” – comprised of all national anthems. An added special feature of this concert includes on-stage seating behind and within the orchestra – an audience favorite. General seating: adult $15, senior citizen $12, student $6. Visit www.MFSO.net for additional information. October 21, noon – 5 pm Holiday Card Party Brewery Workers Local 9, 9618 West Greenfield Ave., West Allis The Community Services Committee of Brewery Workers Local 9 UAW will be holding a “holiday Card Party” fundraiser. The purpose of this event is to raise funds for various charitable organizations in Milwaukee and the surrounding area. 100% of all monies earned go to charity. It’s a wonderful get-together with raffles, gift baskets, silent auctions and card games. The entry fee is $5 at the door and includes lunch, a beverage, and popcorn. Join in and help raise money for local charities. October 27, 10:30 – 12:30 Genealogy Workshop South Milwaukee Public Library, 1907 10th Ave, South Milwaukee Do you have a Revolutionary Patriot in your family tree? The public is invited to attend this free workshop, hosted by the Jacques Vieau Chapter of the Daughters of the American Revolution. Attendees will learn how to get started in genealogy and what is required to become a member of DAR. For more information, email: jacquesvieau@ gmail.com.

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a clean house, good food and lots of it and, of course, a cheerful personality. Pleasing Henry is what I intended to do for him from the time I said “I do.” Every so often, we disagree on some minor point. He tells me then to sharpen my wits, not those pencils in the kitchen cabinet drawer. Henry says when we disagree that we have to both get down to the root of the problem. Gosh, is he smart. He says, and I know it now, that there is an answer to every question and a solution for every problem. We have to look deeply into each situation. We can’t be moved by expediency or convenience. If a problem takes some deep thought and dexterous action to solve, so be it. So where do we go from here today? I want to write to you about a fellow Henry knows from the club. He’s kind of a simple soul due to shell shock as a veteran of army duty in Vietnam. This fellow has an old mongrel dog that he takes with him as he regularly visits the men in the Veterans’ Hospital. This dog seems to know who is dying of cancer and

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who is not near death. For the well men the dog goes over and lets them pet him. If a patient seems to be near death, the dog jumps up on the bed and snuggles next to the man until its owner orders him down. It then goes on, visiting others. What a wonderful activity this is. The friend of Henry’s does this once a month. Mostly, the people in the beds are different as the month-before-men already are in the cemetery. Of course, the dog gets a few treats along the way. But isn’t

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that a nice story? I guess I will close on this one this month. May each of us be filled with the happiness that dog is providing. I hope to be with you again in November. This October is kind of a transitional month, warm days, cooler nights, leaves falling, crops being harvested and many thoughts about what is ahead. I hope there won’t be a lot of winter just ahead so we will have ample reasons to celebrate Thanksgiving. Your friend, Emma

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War Memorial Center

The eternal flame at the War Memorial Center on the lakefront in downtown Milwaukee represents “Honoring of the Dead by Serving the Living.” This was especially evident as the annual POWMIA Day was held Sept. 21.” As the

late General Douglas MacArthur said at Milwaukee ceremonies some years ago, “We do tribute to those who did their duty as God gave them light to see that duty.” Gold Star Family Day was held Sept. 23.

With Honor Fund is a year-plus old Super PAC that backs veterans who are running for House office in both major political parties. Since its launch a year ago in October, the PAC

has raised $7 million. The idea of doing something not disruptive or strictly partisan is appealing to numerous people. The focus is on a person’s values and his integrity - not his party.

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Soup for your soul It is never too early to begin thinking about the less fortunate Milwaukee residents, where they will reside and if they have enough food to sustain themselves. After all, we’re informed that approximately 11 percent of our state’s residents live below the poverty line. There are several organizations working to provide help as needed to the poor and the hungry. These peo-

ple are filled with love, their minds on charity and their hands almost working miracles. While those in need are hungry every day, we focus here on Thanksgiving and the $2.04 it will require to feed one person a warm and nutritious meal at, for instance, the Cross Trainers Academy in Milwaukee for older kids or the Child Enrichment Center where 70 early childhood children are cared for.

The eternal flame at the War Memorial Center illuminates a black granite engraved honor roll of names of those who have given their lives in wars beginning with World War II. That number totals 3,487. An i-beam artifact is impressive at the center as it

weighs in at 1,566 lbs. and is in place as a memorial of the 2,996 persons killed in New York in the Sept. 11th tragedy. The War Memorial Center has been on the lakefront since 1954.

With Honor Fund is backing 33 House candidates, 19 Democrats and 14 Republicans, The main theme is a common bond of service and commitment to country. The candidates

must agree to a three-point pledge: integrity, civility, and courage.

The Milwaukee Rescue Mission people know that hope and change can begin with a good meal. This is a basic reason why the mission serves more than 23,250 free meals each month to hungry men, women, and children. What about the people sleeping with cardboard coverings on the streets, in the parks and under bridges? There would possibly be over 400

more nightly if the Milwaukee Rescue Mission did not provide beds for these homeless people. If you need some soup for your soul, get it by helping those now working to help others. The Milwaukee Rescue Mission is at 830 N.19th. Street, Milwaukee, WI 53233. The phone number is 414-344-2211.

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Harvard, Yale, and Columbia Universities along with the Massachusetts Institute of Technology rank at the top in the nation in education. But a small Kentucky school, Berea College, leads the entire list of examined 500 colleges and universities in value as its students work on campus, pay no tuition due to hefty endowments and have average per-year all-inclusive costs of under $1,000 per student. Now, getting to the schools that seem to produce students with the greatest potential for students upon graduation, the Wall Street Journal’s list places Duke as number one along

with Harvard and Yale. No, there is not a midwestern school in the listing. The top group extends to number 10 University of Pennsylvania. The Higher Education Ranking of U.S. Schools finds Marquette University at 148th, Lawrence University at 186, Beloit College at 231, Milwaukee School of Engineering at 365, Edgewood College at 475 and Alverno College 484. That’s it, no UW or UWM in the top 500 at least per the Wall Street Journal’s tabulations. How about the University of Hard Knocks? Sorry, that one was not listed.

What about the Peace Corps? Many retired Americans are tired of just sitting around. They have talents that no longer are being used. Some of these people are finding ways to be helpful to others while there are a few willing to go back to work in less stressful and/or lower paid positions. Have you ever considered the Peace Corps? The Peace Corps pro-

vides volunteers with housing and a living stipend plus medical and dental care. Use your life skills to help others, to make an impact on people and communities around the world. But getting into the Peace Corps is not simple. To get the application started, go to peacecorps.gov. You could change your life.

OCTOBER 2018

About the court and justice While we feel Congress often abdicates its responsibilities, the Supreme Court does as it should and as it was formed to do, to apply the written laws to the facts of the situations. We should not consider whether a judge is Republican or Democrat. It should make no difference. Justice is justified as it is meted out fairly. The people who sit on the U.S. Supreme Court are insulated and politics should have no

bearing on what they do. The judiciary members have lifetime tenure. They are named tor responsible positions as part of our balance of powers. These judges are not above all other types of legislators. We should keep this in mind. Justices are not blind, but they do only zero in on the hard and true facts of each case. This is how it should be.

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were okay. I wonder how they feel about the increases in prices and in our opinion, the ridiculously high players salaries? l l l l l We try hard not to think that politicians care about the poor people in their district mostly at election time. What ever happened to our being the melting pot of the merging of nationalities? Why are we no longer welcoming the poor, unskilled immigrants to our shores, our schools, and our factories? l l l l l While the Milwaukee Brewers perhaps could have accomplished more this past season, just be happy that you are not a Los Angeles Dodgers fan. The Dodgers, with a payroll of $185 million should have ruled their division in the National Baseball League, but they struggled in clutch situations. Despite the successes over the years of the New York Yankees, I guess money does not always turn into success. l l l l l Keep in mind that the second Monday of October is Columbus Day. What’s called Navy Day will be Oct. 27. l l l l l The waitress was pleased to hear an old gent call his wife “darling” as they were about to order. He didn’t admit that he used “Darling” when he couldn’t recall her first name. l l l l l So when was the book, “Husband, Man of the House” not in the library’s fiction department.

Lou’s Closet with donations for the underprivileged youth. Check the United Way at UnitedWayGMWC. org/WishList if you’d like to help. l l l l l Duck hunting season in Wisconsin opened last week (Sept. 29). There we long gone days when you might even shoot a pheasant at roadside while heading to the lake or river. Today, kids might ask, “What is a pheasant?” l l l l l Did you notice the news about how much our governor travels in the state paid for airplane? Why not? Who would wish to travel these rough Wisconsin roads if they didn’t have to? l l l l l With Supreme Court nominee Kavanaugh still awaiting confirmation (at our printing date), we recall the man said to be imminently well-qualified in the mid-80’s, who was a premier constitutional authority, but could not get Senate confirmation. His defeat was the first we can remember to demonize a Supreme Court candidate. The same demonizing was tried on Clarence Thomas four years later, but he was approved. What happened to Bork was shameful to say the least. But we have endured a lot of shameful stuff in Washington, D.C. lately. l l l l l Is there a drop in interest in the National Football League? We recently read of a survey that shows fans are divided along the lines of the National Anthem disrespect. But the same survey shows that men ages 50 and above are the biggest fans. It then indicates that only 38 percent of white people asked, felt the flag demonstrations

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We saw you at.... The Senior Celebration at the Zoo BY MARGARET PEARSON

This happy annual event at the Milwaukee County Zoo featured

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go and dancing. Plus admission from 9 am to 1 pm was free for seniors. A few of the smiling faces are

pictured here.

Don and Beverly Springer of New Berlin, with Larry Springer of Florida.

Craig Fairchild and Michelle Jones of Milwaukee.

Pat and Gailen Sterffel of New Berlin, Barb Winski of Franklin, and Kathy McDonald of Milwaukee.

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