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Vol. 14 No. 5 | May 2013 | Complimentary

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Sarah Bartosz on Family, Jack & His Legacy

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nce again we are greeted by the lovely month of May. The birds are singing, the flowers are blooming and everyone is outside enjoying the long awaited warmer weather.

May is the month to celebrate mothers, who are definitely the heart of the family.

I know that was the case in my family. It was my mom who brought peace and love to the household. She was the one we turned to when we had a problem and she was the first one we turned to when we had good news to share.

Our cover story this month is about a mother who has had to navigate her way through a mother’s worst nightmare…the illness and later death of a child. Sarah Bartosz has an emotional story to share about her son, Jack, her amazing family, especially Annie, who is Jack’s twin, and the I Back Jack Foundation that continues Jack’s legacy. Sarah and her family’s fight to find a cure for childhood cancer continues as they raise money and awareness. The story also addresses the problem between drug companies and finding a cure for rare cancers. I, personally, am angered by the fact that everything has to be about profit instead of people, especially children.

In this issue, we also have a couple of stories from readers who wanted to honor their mothers this Mother’s Day. Both of these stories, although very different, show the strength and courage of mothers, and of women.

May is also a time to honor and celebrate the nursing profession. National Nurses Week is in May 6-12 every year. This date is chosen to coincide with Florence Nightengale’s birthday. In this issue, we highlight some of the values of nurses in our society. We also take a look at the challenges facing nurses, nursing students and nursing education as our population ages, not to mention the changes in technology, the health care system and more. Nurses are the largest group in the health care profession, and, because of this, nurses will have a great deal of input into the future of health care as they lead the way to better patient care.

Also in this issue, we take a look at the growing sandwich generation. As people continue to start families later in life and the population ages, more families will be raising their children while also taking care of their aging parents. With this new caregiving role there is increased stress. We hope to offer a few solutions that may help.

Whether you are a mother, a nurse or some other type of successful woman (and we are all successful at whatever we do), take a moment to realize just how special you are. Celebrate what makes you unique. I recently saw Carol Burnett on a TV show and she was talking about her daughter, Carrie, who died of lung cancer. She said that while her daughter was fighting cancer, she would wake up each day and say, “Today I am going to enjoy my life.”

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COVER STORY

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By Judith Berger

arah Bartosz described grief as having her back to the ocean. Not knowing if the feelings of sadness and loss will swirl and ripple around her feet or if it will come like a tsunami. Bartosz has spent nearly a decade roiling in stages of grief punctuated by moments of tender mercies -- her back always toward the ocean.

Bartosz has been described as a good mom -- kind, inspiring and dedicated. Although being a mother is the most rewarding title she bears, she is proud to be the torchbearer for her son’s legacy. It’s a fight that cuts close to the bone.

As the executive director of the I Back Jack Foundation, Bartosz and her husband, John, started it in 2006 to raise funds for pediatric oncology research. It was named for their son, Jack Thomas Bartosz, who fought cancer and lived beyond its limits.

Bartosz gave birth to healthy fraternal twins, Jack and Annie, in October 2001. Happy and hopeful, John and Sarah began their family. Life was good. John, a tax attorney, and Sarah, a fundraiser for the American Cancer Society, were busy with their son and daughter.

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In 2005, just shy of Annie and Jack’s fourth birthdays, Jack presented with flu-like symptoms, Bartosz recalled. “His tummy hurt and he had a low-grade fever, but it was clear there was something wrong.” Ironically, the day John and Sarah received Jack’s diagnosis, Sarah was on her way to a work function -- a fundraiser for childhood cancer. “You never think it will happen to your child.”

A tumor was found on Jack’s adrenal gland. He was diagnosed with neuroblastoma, an aggressive childhood cancer. Thus began a heroic odyssey of surgeries, rounds of chemotherapy, radiation, treatments and clinical trials. “We spent the kids’ fourth birthdays in the hospital as Jack was receiving chemotherapy,” Bartosz said.

Sarah and John referred to Jack’s cancer as ‘the ickies.’ “When Jack was going through treatment, we would tell Jack and Annie that Jack needed medicine to get rid of the ickies.” She recalled when Jack was in kindergarten; he had to take pills on an empty stomach. So she or John would go to his kindergarten class to give him his meds.

After Jack’s diagnosis and initial treatments, he went into remission. “You can survive neuroblastoma if you don’t relapse,” Bartosz said. “If you relapse, there is no cure.” Jack went 15 months before he relapsed in 2007. After every relapse, Sarah and John searched for new treatments, each time Jack relapsed. “We would have gone to the ends of the earth for a treatment. Every time he went into remission, we were hopeful he’d win the fight, but always braced ourselves for the worst.”

The couple took Jack to Memorial Sloan-Kettering Cancer Center for treatment. “They see more cases of neuroblastoma than any other hospital in the country,” Bartosz said. It was there that John and Sarah met other parents looking for viable treatments for their children with cancer.

Every year, approximately 650 children are diagnosed with neuroblastoma. For the drug companies, the number is small. In cancer care, cost matters. The more rare the cancer the higher the chances drug companies will not invest in research and development because there is no profit in it. Federal funding is decreasing, so it is up to private foundations to fund research and trials, Bartosz said.

“Incidences of childhood cancer as a whole are up 21 percent since 1975,” Bartosz said. The 80 percent survival rate for childhood cancers has been roundly celebrated. This salient point angered Bartosz. “That’s based on surviving five years. When your child is five years old, surviving another five years is nothing.” By that yardstick, Jack was in that 80 percent, living nearly seven years after diagnosis. For Sarah and John, that was little comfort.

In 2006, the I Back Jack Foundation was formed as a way for family and friends to help. “We took no money from the foundation, but we knew it could be a way to make an impact,” Bartosz said. In 2009, the foundation had its first fundraiser to actively raise money as a part of a consortium with other parents who had children with neuroblastoma being treated at Sloan-Kettering.

Ultimately, the group raised $1million to fund a project that de-

veloped the HU3F8 antibody. “We wanted a treatment that wasn’t years down the road. We wanted something that was funded and available now.”

Trying to keep his childhood as normal as possible, Jack attended Swallow School in Hartland when his white blood-cell count was high enough. Trying to maintain a sense of normalcy for both children in a very abnormal circumstance took time and effort. “During the good times, we would live life to the fullest. We took vacations, not around school breaks, but when Jack was healthy enough,” Bartosz said. “We set out to have a positive attitude, but really Jack was our role model and for everyone who had been touched by his life.” a journey cont. on page 6

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Jack planted himself in the lives of all who knew him and loved him and, though he is no longer here physically, the roots of his happiness and hope will continue to bear fruit and blossom. As Jack’s mom, I intend to nurture this tree and his spirit for the rest of my life.

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would get done,” Annie told her mother. “If October can be all a journey cont. from page 6 pink, September can be gold.” Gold in September to raise awareIn all other respects, Jack was a normal kid. He was a Cub ness for childhood cancer is one of Annie’s goals. “We’ve got Scout and received the highest honor of The Order of The Swamp work to do,” she told her mom. So I Back Jack will continue to Fox for his persistence, congeniality and positive attitude. Jack raise funds, raise awareness and, hopefully, someday find a cure. loved to play golf and tennis, and to fish and swim. He was a masCurrently, I Back Jack has raised more than $500,000 and is ter of Legos. Jack was known for his fondness for cheese earning involved in funding three trials at Sloan-Kettering as part of a him the nickname Cheddar Jack. He was a Packer fan and, consortium and three trials locally. “I Back Jack funds go for through the MACC Fund, had the opportunity to meet and betreatments within a 24-month diagnosis,” Bartosz said. “We are friend Green Bay Packer quarterback Aaron Rodgers. “Jack was looking for results now. So much of research hopes for results 10 authentic with every fiber of his being,” Bartosz said. “He was joyyears down the road.

For too many kids, that’s just too late.” ful and enthusiastic, even when he was in getting a treatment; he On September 9, 2013, the 5th annual I Back Jack Golf Outwas making a difference for the other kids in the hospital.” ing to raise money for regional and national clinical trials for There was Annie to think about, too. “I did exhaustive rechildhood cancer will take place at Chenequa Country Club. search to make sure she was in no danger. Jack and Annie were New to this year’s event are games of tennis. Dinner and silent fraternal twins and this cancer is rare,” Bartosz said. “But yes, I’m and live auctions will round out the day. For more informahyper-vigilant when she doesn’t feel well or something tion, visit Ibackjack.org. hurts.”

November 14, 2012, Sarah gave birth to a litBy 2011, the HU3F8 antibody was ready tle boy -- Thomas Porter Bartosz. Losing a for its first trial. “The first child received it,” child and giving birth to a child in such a Bartosz said. “The first trial is to detershort time is a traumatic and emotional exmine dosing and toxicity levels.” By Janperience, Bartosz said. Tommy, as he is uary 2012, Jack was part of the trial. called, will have a strong connection to “We were hopeful and it gave John and Jack.

He will grow up knowing his big me courage to move forward.” The brother through the loving memories of couple decided to have another baby. family and friends.

“We were sure it would be a girl, but Jack’s class gave Bartosz a piece of Jack was sure it would be a boy and artwork that had been created by Jack wanted the baby to be named Thomas and his classmates.

In the landscape of – Jack’s middle name,” she said. imagination, Jack painted himself as a tree.

By March 2012, Jack’s disease was “It took my breath away when I first saw it,” progressing, and although Sarah and John she said.

“Jack planted himself in the lives of tried to find other therapies and treatall who knew him and loved him and, though ments, they realized he was on a spiral they he is no longer here physically, the roots of couldn’t stop. Telling Annie that Jack was his happiness and hope will continue to bear dying was the hardest thing Bartosz has “During the good fruit and blossom. As Jack’s mom, I intend to ever done. It was met by Annie’s determinurture this tree and his spirit for the rest of nation. “Annie has quiet grief and a strong times, we would live life my life.” resolve,” she said. “She wanted us to move to the fullest.

We took The Milwaukee Business Journal named to another country to try something more.”

Bartosz as part of the ‘Forty under 40’ Class For the last time, Sarah and John vacations, not around of 2012 as recognition for her tireless, volunbrought Jack to Children’s Hospital of Wisschool breaks, but teer efforts to the I Back Jack Foundation and consin. “I just wanted to be his mom, hold its contribution to fighting childhood cancer. his hand and be by his side. I didn’t want to when Jack was “I’m particularly proud to be able to combine be his nurse.” For Bartosz, no more worrymy professional experience and talents with healthy enough,” ing about IVs, timing medications or something that means so much to me perhooking up pain pumps. She wanted to be Bartosz said.

“We set sonally.

It’s an honor, privilege and obligation loving comfort in the sweet remains of her I take very seriously. ” young son’s life. Jack lost his battle with out to have a positive Bartosz grieves the loss of Jack’s health, neuroblastoma on August 27, 2012. Jack attitude, but really his childhood, his future, but never his spirit. was 10-years-old.

Nothing short of a miracle takes away the In October, Annie celebrated her 11th Jack was the role pain of losing a child.

But there is Annie, and birthday, her first without her brother. It’s model for us and now, Tommy and countless lives touched by Bartosz’s job to help Annie work through the little boy with a light so bright death canher loss, too. It is understandable to give up everyone who was not make it dim. once you have lost everything you cherish Sarah Bartosz is a mother guarding her and to forget about the raging battle bebeen touched by child’s legacy determined not to let the unyond. Annie is determined Jack will live on his life. ” bearable loss go quietly as she stands vigil in big and small ways. “If you stop doing always with her back toward the ocean. l things when things don’t work out, nothing 6 | WISCONSIN WOMAN May 2013

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By Cyndi Strayer

n May 6, health care organizations across the United States will kick-off National Nurses Week (May 6-12) by joining the American Nurses Association in celebrating the nursing profession. This year’s theme is Delivering Quality and Innovation in Patient Care. The purpose of this week long celebration is to raise awareness of the value of nursing and to help educate the public about the role nurses have in meeting the health care needs of the American people.

If you think about it, nurses are a big part in our lives. They are there when we are born; they are there when we bring our own children into the world; they are there when we age and for every medical challenge we may have along the way. In fact, every family in America will need the care of a nurse at some point in their lives.

Nurses are in our schools, community agencies, churches, hospitals, clinics, emergency rooms, assisted living and nursing homes, insurance companies, technological and scientific industries and even in our media.

The truth is, the United States has 3.1 million licensed RNs, of whom 2.6 million are actively employed in nursing. It is one of those professions that encompass a diverse group of dedicated people with varied interests, strengths and passions because of the numerous opportunities this profession has to offer. And, nurses have many roles—from staff nurse to nurse practitioner and researcher—and they serve all of them with a passion for the profession, as well as compassion for their patients and their commitment to patient safety.

Every day, nurses around the world do their best to assess the physical conditions of their patients, populations and health systems, as they are the basic foundation of development of many health care organizations. These men and women are the link between you and the doctor as well as everything in the facility that you may be in. For example, when you are in the hospital, you may see your doctor a few minutes of the day, but the nurses are there all day planning your care and providing the support you and your family need. In many ways, they are the main providers of our care. salute to nurses cont. on page 8

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salute to nurses cont. from page 7 Today, with nurses being the largest health care occupation and with our aging population, nurses are positioned to assume leadership roles in health care, provide primary care service to meet the increased demand, implement strategies to improve quality of care and play a key role in innovative, patient-centered care delivery models. The nursing profession plays an essential role in improving patient outcomes, increasing access, coordinating care and reducing health care costs. That is why both the Affordable Care Act and the Institute of Medicine’s (IOM) Future of Nursing report place nurses at the center of the health care transformation in the United States.

I think one doctor said it best when he said, “Nurses are basically the backbone of hospital treatment, they give the medications, clean the patient, take vital signs and are responsible for making the doctor aware of any change in the patient’s status that may require attention. The quality of nursing care has a huge impact on a patient’s experience, probably more so than the doctor (the nurse generally covers far fewer patients than a doctor and so can spend more time with each one). In fact, in many cases, the quality of nursing care can make the difference between life and death. While it is important to have good doctors, good medications, good surgeons, etc., without somebody to do the day-to-day work none of what my colleagues and I do would matter much.�

This further proves that professional nursing care is indispensable when it comes to providing quality care to patients. Nurses are also consistently ranked as the most trusted profession in America for their honesty and ethical standards. And it is because of nurses and their priceless contributions to our health care, we honor and salute all nurses. l

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ou have probably heard others discuss the future of nursing, particularly the growing need for nurses to meet the needs of an aging population. But what are some of the challenges facing nurses, nursing students and education as we move forward to meet these changing societal needs in health care?

Brianna Neuser, Director of BSN Completion Program at Silver Lake College of the Holy Family in Manitowoc, says, “Addressing the numerous challenges facing the nursing profession of the 21st Century is a daunting task. Rising costs of health care, access to health care, the aging population and nursing shortages are examples of the problems facing nursing today. In addition, technological advances and the needs of our baby boomers as they age will demand nursing professional excellence. These issues cannot be avoided and nurses must be educated and prepared to face them head on.”

“Broadly, the challenges nurses face today are constant and rapid change in the health care delivery system,” says Jo Ann Nursing education cont. on page 12

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Nursing education cont. from page 10 Appleyard, Ph.D., RN and Director of the Undergraduate Program at the University of Wisconsin—Milwaukee’s College of Nursing, “including how it is financed and the advancing role of technology, as well as the constant and rapid advancement of nursing and medical science regarding how to manage disease and help people remain healthy. Adaptation to rapid change and new information in our practice is now an essential skill of all health professionals, and since nurses are at the heart of a great deal of health care delivery in this country, we all must somehow learn to thrive in uncertain and often chaotic environments.”

More specifically, Dr. Elizabeth Markham, Associate Vice President of Academics for Nursing at Herzing University, said that the challenges facing nursing today include: • Preparation at the right level to provide care to clients. For example, an IOM study identifys a workforce of 80 percent baccalaureate and higher degree nurses to 20 percent Associate degree nurses by 2020.

• Need to prepare Advance Practice Nurses to provide primary care to our citizens due to the Affordable Health Care Act. targeted increase to meet 2014 requirements.

• A projected shortage of 90,000 physicians who are providers of primary and specialty care by the year 2020 will place a strain on the health care system and increase demands for RNs and other health care providers. Advanced practice nurses will be needed to fill these needs.

• An aging workforce: the average age of nurses today is over 46 years of age with the largest cohort of nurses over the age of 50.

Many are beginning to plan retirement soon.

• Sequestration issues most likely will affect the needed continued support of $251 million for nursing workforce development programs, support of $150 million for National Institutes of Nursing Research and $20 million for HRSA’s Nurse-Managed Clinics.

• Shortage of qualified faculty to prepare the next generation of nurses resulting in approximately 80,000 qualified applicants being rejected for enrollment over the last year • Increased competition for decreasing spaces for clinical instruction of students.

• Continued lack of diversity in nursing to serve the diverse populations.

It is because of these challenges that Dr. Markham believes that it is still a great time to become a nurse. “Nursing continues to be a ‘lifetime’ career choice with many options for professional and career growth.”

Renee Herzing, President at Herzing University, agreed. “The demographics of our aging population as well as of current nurses indicates that there will continue to be demand in the field. Nursing is a very well respected profession due to its service nature. It affords personal satisfaction and a sense of helping others as well as a tangible, portable skill that is universally needed.”

“According to the U.S. Bureau of Labor Statistics, employment of registered nurses is expected to grow 26 percent from 2010 to 2020, faster than the average for all occupations,” says Neuser. You will have options and flexibility. Registered nurses work in a variety of settings including, acute care and long-term care facilities, home health services, public health departments and outpatient clinics.”

Nursing education cont. on page 13

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“The demographics of our aging population as well as of current nurses indicates that there will continue to be demand in the field.

Nursing is a very well respected profession due to its service nature. It affords personal satisfaction and a sense of helping others as well as a tangible, portable skill that is universally needed.”

– Renee Herzing- President at herzing university Nursing education cont. from page 12 Appleyard added, “Nurses definitely fulfill multiple roles in our health care system, including, but not limited to direct care deliverers, managers and executives within health care systems and insurance companies, education and researchers and health policy leaders. Our career opportunities are limitless.”

And with all of the changes in our population, our societal needs, our technology and more, nursing will also change and will continue to change. In other words, what worked in the past, may not work as well today.

“Nursing has always provided an option for meeting the health care needs of society,” says Dr. Markham. “Today, the need for nurses as extenders of health care is paramount and is being recognized and supported, such as serving at hospitals in small towns and rural areas without adequate physician coverage through the use of telehealth and other cutting edge technologies. These increased educational requirements are being seen in the growth of graduate education offerings at the masters and doctoral levels. It is being suggested and being discussed that in the near future, the minimal requirement for entry into full practice in nursing may well be the doctorate.”

President Herzing sees the trend for health care services to be more, “proactive, comprehensive, patient-focused and efficient. To do this, key health care positions need to become more and more adept at working in teams, leveraging all the skills of various health care professionals to the ‘top of their license’ and with a focus on positive patient outcomes. This is going to require more skills in the areas of communication, management and critical thinking in addition to a sound nursing background.”

Compared to the past, Appleyard said that today’s nurses must function as knowledgeable decision-makers rather than simple skilled task performers. They are educated to more fully understand human health and disease, as well as to make complex decisions about patient needs and how to manage the care of patients and populations that are both sick and well. And they are more focused on problem identification and problem solving in complex health care environments. For example, nurses today are educated about health care finance, systems theory and how systems impact safety and quality in health care delivery and to be able to participate in the essential efforts to minimize waste and maximize value in their delivery of nursing services. “Nurses have to also understand how the application of new technologies can enhance their practice, or in some cases, provide a challenge to their practice,” says Appleyard.

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Nursing education cont. from page 13 “New and changing technologies are fundamental in health care delivery today and nurses must participate in the decision making about what technologies to adopt and how they should be applied in various settings.”

Neuser said there’s no better time than today to embrace the recommendation in the Institute of Medicines 2010 Landmark Report, The Future of Nursing, which includes: • Nurses should practice to the full extent of their education and training.

• Remove education barriers. The goal is to increase the percentage of Bachelor of Science in Nursing (BSN) degree nurses to 80 percent or higher and double the number of doctorates by 2020.

• Nurses need to practice collaboratively in the health care system. Teamwork and collaboration among health care providers will benefit the patient.

• Collect and analyze nursing workforce data. The development of new roles for nursing such as patient navigator, health care coach and clinical coordinator will expand delivery of care to improve population health. There is compelling support for nurses to receive extensive training and education.

In order to help nursing students reach and develop these new roles and obtain their career goals, many nursing education facilities are following the initiative of Quality and Safety Education for Nurses, which is funded by the Robert Wood Johnson Foundation in an effort to integrate the fundamentals of safety and quality improvement in the nursing profession. Neuser says the six competencies that were developed for nursing schools to focus on are: patient-centered care, teamwork and collaboration, evidence-based practice, quality improvement, safety and informatics.

Dr. Markham said some other changes in nursing education have included: • Refinements and increased use of high-fidelity simulations to allow the students to experience situation, response and critically think through situations that they would not likely be able to participate in as students with real patients as well as to allow schools to use the valuable clinical spaces for students later in the nursing program (this option may be limited by State Board of Nursing regulations related to required clinical experiences).

• Increasing requirements for level of preparation based on continued explosion of knowledge, health care needs of society and documented research showing that patients experience better outcomes when cared for by better prepared nurses.

Nursing education cont. on page 15

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By Sue Ann Thompson

Leanne’s Story

In January of 2011, Leanne McNeil woke up one morning with a gray field of vision in her left eye. After a visit to the emergency room, she was swiftly admitted to the hospital and put on a steroid drip for three days. At that time, multiple sclerosis (MS) was ruled out. Leanne was left to follow up and find out what was wrong with her eye on her own. She waited for months for appointments with a retina specialist, a neuro-ophthalmologist and a neurologist.

She had further MRIs and a spinal tap that finally led to a MS diagnosis. Leanne wanted to share her story to help raise awareness about multiple sclerosis in women.

Multiple Sclerosis attacks young, vibrant individuals in the prime of their lives, usually between the ages of 20-50. It seems that just when a woman may be thinking of starting a family or seeking a career she is passionate about, multiple sclerosis strikes.

Leanne was 43 when diagnosed. Multiple Sclerosis affects more than 2.1 million people worldwide with an estimated 400,000 people diagnosed in the United States. MS is diagnosed in women two-to-three times more than men.

What is Multiple Sclerosis?

Multiple Sclerosis is a progressive autoimmune disease. The nerves in our central nervous system are surrounded by a special covering called myelin, which protects the nerve signals that flow from the brain to the rest of our body. Multiple Sclerosis occurs when a person’s own immune system attacks this protective covering leaving scar tissue. Once the myelin is damaged, the nerve signals slow down or misfire, causing loss of movement and bodily functions.

What Causes Multiple Sclerosis?

The causes of MS are not yet known.

However, there have been several theories that all have been disproven (allergies, aspartame and physical trauma). Genetic re16 | WISCONSIN WOMAN May 2013

Let’s Try to Understand Multiple Sclerosis searchers continue to scan hundreds of genes to discover a possible link to multiple sclerosis. Some studies are pointing to exposure to environmental toxins as the cause.

Other scientists are focusing research on viral infections that could lead to MS. The answers that these studies yield will be important steps in improving treatment and diagnosis of MS.

What are the Symptoms of Multiple Sclerosis?

With MS being prevalent in women, it is important to know the signs and symptoms that could lead to diagnosis. You should also know your own body, have regular physicals and contact your health care provider if you have any questions or concerns.

A woman with MS might have one or more of the following symptoms: • Fatigue • Numbness • Poor balance and coordination • Weakness in muscles • Vision changes • Mood change • Slurred speech

What Tests Can Help Diagnose MS?

Common tests used to diagnose MS include tests for balance, muscle strength and coordination. A thorough review of your health history will be conducted as well as an eye exam. An MRI may also be ordered to test for lesions of the brain or spinal cord.

Leanne advises, “Do not give up – ever! Proper treatment and diagnosis are paramount.”

After the Diagnosis, Find Yourself a Team of Experts

If you are diagnosed with MS, form a team among yourself, health care experts and family. Your team should include your family doctor, your neurologist, a physical therapist and an occupational therapist.

Molly Whipple Harris, an occupational therapist (OT), says, “Occupational Therapists are well versed in assessing adaptive equipment and, down the road, assessing increased mobility needs. Adaptive equipment is available for a variety of needs. OTs can assess and provide strategies for increased independence, safety and prevention for home care tasks like laundry, meal preparation and cooking.”

A Pittsburgh physical therapist, Alice Beckett-Rumberger, explained how a woman with MS can lead a balanced life, “Over the years, I feel the best approach to dealing with MS is to treat the symptoms you have, have a regard for the symptoms you may or may not have and remember to keep on living! Living a healthy lifestyle with moderate exercise with balance activities and stretching - yoga and water therapy are great, as well as maintaining a healthy weight so your mobility is not compromised and dealing with stress which tends to aggravate MS symptoms.”

Find Yourself a Support Group

Because a woman with MS can encounter anxiety and depression, many experts advise joining a support group in order to connect with other women with MS. The National MS Society offers support groups through message boards at their website (www.nationalmssociety.org) or the Wisconsin MS Chapter (www.nationalmssociety. org/wig/home). l

Because it all begins with a healthy woman…

SUE ANN

says...

Sue Ann Thompson is founder and president of the Wisconsin Women’s Health Foundation (WWHF), a statewide non-profit organization whose mission is to help Wisconsin women and their families reach their healthiest potential. WWHF provides programs and conducts forums that focus on education, prevention, and early detection; connects individuals to health resources; produces and distributes the most up-to-date health education and resource mateand, awards grants and scholarships to women health researchers and related commuby:rials; Sue Ann Thompson nity non-profits. To learn more, visit wwhf.org or call 1-800-448-5148

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By Cyndi Strayer

here is a growing population of SANDWICH people who are caring for both generation their elderly parents and their own children. They are the “sandwich generation.”

The majority of those in this generation are in their mid-forties, married, employed and caring for both their own family and at least one elderly parent. Many are caring for parent, kids under 18, kids over 18 who have returned home, grandchildren and, in some cases, even great-grandchildren. This type of workload as a caregiver can really take a toll on a person’s physical, financial and emotional health in the long run.

Some of the factors contributing to this “perfect storm” of stress for caregivers are: parents and older relatives are living longer due to improvements in medical science; women are also postponing motherhood to pursue their careers; and it has become normal for everyone to hold a job outside of the home. The pressures of full-time work and full-time caregiving are enough to break even the most capable people.

We should also mention the growing number of sandwich generation caregivers who live in rural communities. Unlike caregivers who live in urban areas, these caregivers find themselves isolated from other caregivers, family members or other support as well as facing such challenges as geographic barriers to resources.

But whether you live in the city or in a rural community, sandwich generation caregivers share the following common stressors:

4 How to split time between children/family and her elderly loved one 4 How much time to give to each caregiving role 4 How to find time for their marriage 4 How to find time for themselves 4 How to find resources for themselves and their loved ones 4 How to combat feelings of isolation 4 How to deal with the feelings of guilt when they don’t have enough time to accomplish it all

Kelly Scopoline Denlinger, 48, of Greenfield, knows these stressors first hand. She is mother of two adult children who have moved out on their own and she has two at home, Korey, 19, and Brianna, 14. She has recently remarried and has her 78-year-old mother living with her as well.

“Mom moved in with me over a year ago,” Kelly says. “About three years ago, I started noticing changes. She wasn’t the same.

There were signs of her mind starting to change and not throwing away bad food from her refrigerator. Then my aunt called one day after my mom and her had gotten together to play cards she told me that my mom didn’t remember the game. But the big one was when a stranger called and said she had my mom with her and she was lost. She could not remember where she was in an area she was very familiar with.”

Kelly said at first she was driving three times a week to her mother’s house to buy groceries, make meals and help with whatever she could; however, when her mom started calling her at 2:00 sandwich generation cont. on page 20 May 2013 WISCONSIN WOMAN | 19

sandwich generation cont. from page 19 a.m. and did not know what time it was or generation what day of the week it was, she knew it was time to do more. So her mom came to live with her and her family.

“I try to keep everything as normal and familiar as possible for everyone,” Kelly explained. For her mom, she has a large room that she set up to be as close to her condo as possible, with the same television, kitchen table, pictures and knickknacks. “I put everything in the same position as she had them in her home.”

Kelly feels good about her decision because she promised her mom she would not put her in a nursing home and she

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kind of help that you, your family and your aging parent can live with.

hasn’t. It isn’t always easy though, as Kelly explained, “I take my mom to visit family and sometimes to the grocery store or Walgreens. I love taking mom to go see different things, but after about 20 minutes she wants to go back home.” This can be frustrating. For example, Kelly thought it might be fun to take her mom to her daughter’s volleyball tournament, but after a short while her mom wanted to go home, so Kelly had to drive her home and come back to the tournament.

For some, having a full house is a welcome environment, and there will be moments of great joy. But it can also be challenging when one is facing mom’s dementia and your daughter’s soccer schedule, like Kelly. It is trying to find balance when you are being pulled in many different directions at the same time, such as attending your child’s parent/teacher conference the same day as sandwich generation cont. on page 21

sandwich generation cont. from page 20 your dad’s doctor appointment, which are in two different ends of town. The truth is, caring for a lot of people with diverse needs is hard work.

When most magazine articles, talk shows, etc. address the issues of the sandwich generation, they usually discuss caregiver stress, the guilt caregivers feel about taking care of themselves, the importance of exercise and eating right as well as finding time for themselves. And while these things are important, I would like everyone to know that if you are a member of the sandwich generation, you are not alone and assistance is only a telephone call or internet site away. For example, the Wisconsin Aging Network offers local caregiver support programs and resources. For more information, go to http://www.wisconsincaregiver.org/about-us or call 1-866-843-9810. You can also contact Interfaith Older Adult Programs, Inc. for Interfaith’s Family Caregiver Support Network at (414) 220-8600 or 1-800-449-4481.

Other places to call for assistance would be your local Area Agency on Aging, a hospital social worker, a physician or church.

The key is to not be afraid of asking for assistance. You just may be surprised at who is available to help you.

In order to give more time to your own family, you may want to consider other eldercare solutions for your elderly loved one, such as:

Non-medical in-home care: In-home care providers can assist with bathing, dressing, light housekeeping and companionship.

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Family and Friends: Ask family and friends to fill in

from time-to-time so you can slip away for dinner, your child’s school activity. Ask a church youth group if they’d be willing to trim the bushes or rake the lawn.

In Kelly’s case, she is lucky to have a wonderful husband, helpful and understanding children and a great best friend that have all stepped up to help her. With their help, she is able to attend school functions, such as volleyball games, and go on vacations. She and her husband even took her mom to Las Vegas on what would have been her mom and dad’s anniversary. They wanted to do something special for Kelly’s mom so they took her to all of the places she and her late husband had gone to together.

Kelly’s mom also goes to Clement Manor’s Adult Day Care from time to time. This is especially helpful at this time as Kelly has also recently been taking care of her dad’s brother, her uncle, who had no family of his own.

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n the United States, 42 million women are sandwiched by the needs of their own children and their aging relatives, at a time when women are having children later and their parents are living longer. The squeeze is expected to intensify, as one in five Americans will be 65 or older within the next two decades.

As our society’s demographics shift, older women will increasingly find themselves shouldering heavier caregiving burdens, but they don’t have to do it alone,” said Pat Volland, director of Social Work Leadership Institute. “Unfortunately, there are barriers to seeking help because women think they should be self-reliant and able to handle it all. And they often don’t know that health professionals like social workers can help with daily stresses.”

As part of a survey of social workers, 41 sandwich generation women were asked to keep a journal for two weeks about their experiences to provide anecdotal support to the social work survey. They wrote about the kinds of tasks they would like help with and they explained why they didn’t seek more support.

“What this research reveals is that many of the things social workers can help with – managing and relieving day-to-day stress and helping to navigate the maze of health and social services that their older relatives need – are precisely the things that women say would most relieve their anxiety and unhappiness,” said Dr. Elizabeth Clark, an executive director.

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As our society’s demographics shift, older women will increasingly find themselves shouldering heavier caregiving burdens, but they don’t have to do it alone,” -Pat Volland

Navigating cont. from page 22 Some key findings from the 1,400 social workers surveyed: • The majority report that sandwich generation women (SWG) are not prepared for many aspects of their aging relatives’ care. Nearly 75 percent say they are least prepared to deal with the cost of their aging relatives’ care.

• Two-thirds say a majority of SWG underestimate the financial, emotional and physical toll of providing care for aging relatives.

• Almost half say they hear from SWG that they delay getting help because they feel they should be able to shoulder care-giving responsibilities on their own.

• Nearly half say they ease caregivers’ burdens by providing care management or care coordination for aging relatives. This includes making referrals to health and social services, arranging transportation and food delivery, advising on financial management and benefits and even acting as a liaison for long-distance care. l

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By Tom Bruckbauer

have become part of the sandwich generation, that is, parenting your own adult children and your aging parents at the same time. It is not something one would necessarily choose, but like so many things it becomes part of your journey in

My wife and I have five adult children of our own ranging in age 32 down to 19, a full house, boys over girls. The oldest two (girl and boy) are married, both living out of state, Minnesota and California, one grandson in MN, a middle son in Chicago and the last two (girl and a boy) in Madison at UW, one graduating next month and the other finishing his first year. Six weeks after graduating, our daughter is getting married and her new husband will be starting med school in August. To say that our life is full, I think is an understatement. All five have attended college with three graduating and plans for the youngest to follow in those footsteps.

Now, add to all this one big mostly happy family, aging parents that we moved most reluctantly from their condo in Mequon to a full service retirement facility in Greenfield six years ago. I had just lost my job in a career of 30 years at age 50, just like you hear in the news. Coming from a large family myself, we have worked together to make this transition for our parents. Just going through all of mom and dad’s stuff was not easy. Who wanted what, what should be thrown out and what would be kept and moved. Mom has Alzheimer’s disease and we need a facility that can provide for her care as it progressed. Dad was already having difficulty with her care, so after evaluation, it was decided to put them in the assisted living area of the facility. I took care of the cleaning and fixing of their condo to be sold and my older sister worked with all the paperwork and medical benefits.

The first two years dad lamented they should have been in the independent living area, but as Mom got worse he was glad the services were available. The facility is very close to my younger

brother who is able to visit more often and help dad with errands.

I try to make most of dad’s doctor appointments as it is difficult for him to understand all the goings-on of his test results, medications and care. Until mom got much worse almost two years ago and had to be moved into the Alzheimer’s unit of the nursing home, someone in the family also tried to go with her to her doctor appointments.

Mom and dad live apart now in the same facility and dad makes the walk from one end of the buildings to the other for his daily visit and dinner. We take mom out for holidays to visit with family and after lots of ups and downs, she is very stable now and very pleasant and happy to be with us even though she has no short term memory. She has a hard time identifying her children by name and the grandchildren are all grown up so she doesn’t know who they are by name because her memories of them are of them as kids. Dad is 89 and doesn’t like living alone; Mom will be 89 later this year. Many of the residents are five-10 years older and in much worse physical shape, so mom and dad may be with us more years than they think.

As many of us know and would agree, it is more difficult to have adult children with adult issues than to have small kids. I tell many young couples with young children that as crazy as it is, the growing-up years are the easier years. You actually have most of the control of your children, and then they become teenagers.

Now add parents who need help and care -- not so much different than those young children -- and so you have “parenting on steroids.”

My only advice is to expect this to be added to your journey in life. Granted it may not happen, but if it does remember it is a family issue and that the responsibilities can be divided up among all siblings. This can make it all the better. Let’s face it, folks are living longer and the care is geared to keep them going. If you have adult children and your parents are aging, you might have to add two more in your life to be parented and they are just as stubborn as you, since that is where you got it from. Do your best each day as you did with your own growing children and use all the patience you have. Try to enjoy the journey. l

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In order to manage your risk of cardiovascular disease, stroke and other illness, it is important to know your numbers for the following:

Total Cholesterol...............................................under 200 LDL Bad Cholesterol.........................................under 100 HDL Good Cholesterol...........................................over 50 Triglycerides......................................................under 100 Blood Pressure............................................under 120/80 Blood Sugar........................................................under 100 Waist Circumference..............................under 35 inches

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The Basics of Becoming Self-Sufficient in Personal Financial Investing

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By Rusty Coyle

n increasing number of women are taking money management responsibilities into their own hands. The ability to manage your funds and plan for your future is a great opportunity to increase your self-sufficiency. If assuming this responsibility seems overwhelming at first, know that you’re in good company; many people find managing their funds while planning for the future can be a complicated undertaking. It doesn’t have to be.

Strengthen your knowledge base

If you haven’t worked with asset allocation or investment planning much in the past, now is the perfect time to build up your understanding of basic financial strategies and practices. There are a lot of low-cost and free resources available to you which can help prepare for these financial responsibilities: l Speak with your retirement resources at work. Ask your human resources department to get you in touch with the company’s financial planners. They will be able to help point you in the right direction and answer any specific questions you have. l Many investment books do a great job in walking you through investment planning practices. Some great ones to check out include The Bogleheads’ Guide to Investing, Personal Finance & Investing for Dummies and The Intelligent Investor. Head to your local library and ask the information desk for other recommendations.

have until retirement and what it is you’d like to do after you retire.

Keep in mind not everything will go according to plan and the market is by no means predictable. But having an understanding of what your goals are will simplify your decision-making process.

Your “smart investment” checklist:

Here are some key considerations to keep in mind for smart financial investing: 4 The roles of income, growth and safety in a portfolio and which investments focus on each one 4 The process of deciding how much to devote to each asset class 4 Benefits of diversification 4 Risk tolerance and how your projected timeline affects it 4 Differences between mutual funds and individual securities 4 How much you’ll need to save for retirement 4 What returns you will need to reach your goals 4 How much income you want your assets to generate in retirement l This article is meant to be general in nature and should not be construed as investment or financial advice related to your personal situation. Please consult your financial advisor prior to making financial decisions. Rusty Coyle is a Financial Advisor with Waddell & Reed and can be reached at (262) 544-1446 or rustycoyle@wradvisors.com or visit his website at www.rustycoyle.wrfa.com.

Understanding asset classes and risk tolerance

There are three main asset classes you should be aware of when considering asset allocation and your personal risk tolerance: l Equities (stocks) – Stocks that are traded on the stock exchange or stock mutual funds where money from a large number of investors is pooled and spread over a number of different stocks. l Fixed-income (bonds) – Includes vehicles like corporate or government bonds or bond mutual funds. Bank certificates of deposit (CDs) and savings accounts that feature a fixed interest rate are also considered fixed-income investments. l Cash equivalents (money market instruments) – Short-term, high-credit quality that are highly liquid. These can include U.S. government Treasury bills, CDs and bankers’ acceptances.

These three primary asset classes offer very different investment opportunities. For example, while equity investing offers the potential for a larger return on your money than fixed-income investing, it is a more risky investing opportunity. And, while investing in fixed-income instruments provides a high level of security, you will most often have a lower return. Cash equivalents have a low-risk but also have a low-return profile. It is important to understand the levels of risk associated with each option and understand your own risk tolerance. Always remember that an investment’s past performance is no guarantee of its future results.

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fashion The White Fashion Flag

By Faye Wetzel

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n my business, I see a whole lot of women who at some point start to wave the “White Fashion Flag!” When are elastic waistbands and sensible shoes okay? In my book, NEVER! One of the quickest ways to age is to stop paying attention. We don’t stop paying attention to the news or what’s happening in politics or culture. So why would we turn a blind eye to fashion, makeup and hair updates?

There are seasonal updates that will work for each and every one of us. And I’m not talking about a closet overhaul. It’s not about transforming—it’s about evolving.

The toughest part of this process is keeping an open mind (just like in other areas of our lives, huh?). We need time for our eyes to adjust to the new things we’re seeing.

At the beginning of a season, my internal dialogue might go something like this:

“Oh, that’s a pretty dress . . . not something I would wear, but it’s pretty.

“Hmmm. one thing I really like about it is it’s not so darn short.

“I’ve got that cocktail party coming up and something like this dress would be perfect.

“I wonder how that dress would look on me? No, no, too much print.

“Oh, what the heck. I’m in the store; I might as well try it on.

“WOW! Total thumbs up. I like this dress. It’s pretty and it looks great on. Who knew?”

My point is your eye doesn’t evolve in an instant. But, it can evolve and your style along with it. Something that can speed up the process is a store and sales associate you trust. It also helps to read one fashion magazine a month. In Style is an excellent educator, as its editorial uses real clothes for examples, not things that are too fresh off the runway.

Spring

Always notice! Notice what other women are wearing. Do you like it? If so, WHY do you like it? If not, WHY don’t you like it? Train yourself to deconstruct the look.

Designer Miuccia Prada said it best, “Being elegant isn’t easy. You have to study it like cuisine and art.” l

Yours in Fashion, Faye Faye Wetzel is the founder and owner of Faye’s clothing stores in Brookfield and Mequon. For more information visit her website or for more in-depth trend reporting and other fashion related articles, visit www.FAYES123. com.

Top 10 Fashion Essentials

It always helps to have a plan. Even if you’re not a diehard follower of fashion trends, it helps to occasionally refresh your wardrobe of basics with a few new pieces. Buying at least one new stylish “must-have” each season can stretch your choices and give you new options. Here is a quick shopping checklist of the top essentials to consider adding to your closet this year: --A Menswear Jacket: This one piece can transform both your casual clothes as well as your professional wardrobe.

The best menswear-inspired jackets and blazers this spring take their cues from the tuxedo look. Wear these updated classics over striped jeans or shorts for casual occasions: over skirts or dresses for work or more dressed up events.

--A Floral Dress: The flowers are blooming in profusion this spring and summer and popping up on dresses everywhere.

The sheath dress is still a big favorite, but strapless sundresses are another way to get this warm-weather look.

--A Pencil Skirt: Think Betty Draper of TV’s “Mad Men” and wiggle into one of these hip-huggers that have been a fashion basic for a long time. This season, try a graphic color-blocked print to give your jackets and blouses a mod ‘60s flair.

--A Pair of Printed Pants: From pastel watercolors to sophisticated animal prints to digitalized graphics, it will only take one pair of these to instantly project your solid basics into the future.

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--A Ruffle Blouse: It’s all about combining the feminine with the masculine this year and adding a frilly blouse to your wardrobe will give those menswear-inspired separates a romantic twist. Designers provide a variety of versions of this blouse -from ruffed collars to poet cuffs. Worn under suit jackets or on their own, these are great for updating a new look for the office.

--A Slouchy Suit: The skinny pants may still be a fashion favorite, but this spring and summer, it’s time to loosen up. Jackets and trousers are making their way back into the style spotlight. Boxier blazers paired with roomy pants give us all an alternative to the slim side of the fashion equation.

--A Leather Piece: The perfect transition piece from winter to spring is leather -- whether it’s a fun motorcycle jacket or a flared skirt or pair of lace-look pants. You will even find leather dresses available this spring. In lightweight leathers -- the more colorful the better -- you can layer these pieces with novelty sweaters and denim for weekend getaways or team with more structured jackets for the office.

--A Colorful Handbag: If there is only one thing you buy this spring, this is it -- even if you are a fan of a simple black and white wardrobe, this bold accessory will give you an instant hit of “with-it-ness.” And you can pick your favorite hue and style -- from emerald green totes to pastel floral clutches.

Sharon Mosley is a former fashion editor of the Arkansas Gazette in Little Rock and executive director of the Fashion Editors and Reporters Association.

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By Mary Bub

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or the past few months, I have been meeting you here in the pages of Wisconsin Woman Magazine. I thought perhaps it might be timely for me to share the story of the tag line for this column.

Several years ago, I met a remarkable woman. She was a teacher at the school my daughters attended. You know how it happens. A simple hello while passing in the hall, or thanks much when she is the one who will deliver the lunch that was forgotten.

It doesn’t take very long before a few more words are shared and finally an invitation for coffee. We became fast friends, sharing laughter and tears, stories, hopes and dreams. She never had any children but soon became “another” mother to my kids.

It was a sad day when she told me that she and her husband were going to move to Kansas. “Kansas!” I said, not withholding the surprise and dismay I was feeling. Her husband had been offered a job there, and, well, you know the rest of that story. We vowed to stay in touch and to see one another whenever we could.

We took turns calling. And it was after all only a one-hour flight from Milwaukee to Kansas City. These visits, though not nearly often enough, were some of the most nurturing, engaging, comfortable and fun times of my life. She, of course, returned for all of the special events in my kids’ lives, her mothering skills are still stellar.

It was this friend, her name is Dre, short for Andrea, who saw me off at the airport with the words, “Take good care of you.” Each time after that, whether we were saying good-bye on the phone or after one of our lost-in-time visits, I heard those words. Now, they are the words that I choose to say when I say goodbye as well.

What is it about this turn of phrase that is so striking? It is not unlike “Take care of yourself ” is it? It is for me. Of course, I do have rich history and emotional connection to the former. Somehow I started to notice the casual good-byes I encountered such as, “Bye now,” “See ya,” “Take care” or when it comes to correspondence, no closing at all. I do not mean to be critical here, just noticing the difference in meaning and feeling. For me, Take care of yourself shows concern and infers that one should take care of himself or herself as opposed to taking care of the others that they care for, and I agree. But, take good care is a stronger admonishment. Take good care of you, just seems to me to be more direct.

There are no others implied. Don’t just take care, but rather take good care of you. All of you, you in all of your parts, the loving caring you, the tired or burned-out you, the health needs of you, the intelligent you, the spirit in you and especially the nurturing you.

Well, taking good care takes time. Taking good time to take good care. It is the learning to make and take the time for good self-care; not the have to kind or the I really should kind, but the

really authentic loving and caring for myself kind. How often I hear the phrase, “women don’t take the time to care for themselves.” I hear women tell me with great excitement how happy they are to have been told that, not only should they take good care, but also in order to care for others they must.

Did you know that along with Mother’s Day, May is also Better Sleep Month, Revise Your Work Schedule Month, National Women’s Health Month and National High Blood Pressure Awareness Month? All of these seem to fit the request to take good care. Whatever hats we may wear, mothers nurturing children, caregivers meeting the needs of another, friends being supportive, sisters, partners or professional women, taking good care is not an option.

To care is to be concerned and interested; it is to feel affection and concern and to tend for somebody. That somebody is you. To say, “Take good care of you,” to another person is saying, “Watch out for yourself, because I care about what happens to you. Should we not be as careful about ourselves? Here are some simple ways to begin: put yourself first sometimes, keep healthy boundaries for yourself, take time to nourish your soul, be creative and do what you love, nourish your body, be sure to allow for some relaxation, speak up when you need to, but be silent when you want to and finally, be loving and kind to you. l Mary is a grass roots activist and social innovator. She is the founder and president of Wisconsin Rural Women’s Initiative, a non-profit organization that provides on-site grass roots programs to individual women and organizations through a Gathering Circle process promoting personal development, transformation and systemic change. She is the winner of the Social Innovation Prize in Wisconsin for 2008, A Purpose Prize Fellow with Civic Ventures, recipient of the Feminarian Award and winner of Wisconsin’s Top Rural Development Initiatives.

Mary Bub can be reached at wisconsinruralwomen@gmail. com.

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rowing up we heard these familiar words out of our mother’s mouth, “Don’t make me come in there;” “Don’t roll your eyes at me;” “If your friends jumped off a bridge, would you?” and the curse many mothers uttered, “I hope when you have kids, they treat you like you treat me.”

The words after fights were always, “I’m sorry mom; I’ll never do that again.” But we all knew that the very moment we were out of earshot we were going to do the EXACT same thing that moments ago had gotten us in trouble in the first place.

I am the second of four kids, and believe me, I did my fair share of tormenting my siblings, name calling, fighting and bruising body parts. You name it and I did it, with dramatic fashion no less.

In the summer of 1980, our mom and dad called us in for a family meeting. I thought it was to bring up another of my clever stunts that I managed to blame on my brothers, but instead, the words that came out are ones that no one should ever have to hear, “mom has cancer.”

Things in our family changed almost overnight. Gone were the blame games, temper tantrums and all around chaos you would expect. In its place were four children and a father who stood united with mom, each of us hell bent on making sure that this fight would be won!

When she went into the hospital in September for the first round of chemo and radiation, her doctors asked her what she wanted to do (what were her goals after treatment). Without missing a beat, my mom simply said three things. She wanted to dance at her cousin’s wedding in February in Wisconsin, to be with her Girl Scout troop at the Museum of Science & Industry for Scout Night and, the most important to her, to sip champagne with my dad at midnight on New Year’s Eve at the church party they were planning. The doctors assured her that she would do all of those things.

On my dad’s way into her room, her doctors took him aside and told him that in their “medical opinions” my mom had a snowball’s chance in Hell to make it to Christmas that year. He looked at them, chuckled and told them flat out, “You don’t know Anne.”

Mom won that fight, and for 10 Christmases, she toasted every single one of them, reminding me of the true strength of a mother.

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In January of 1993, we were told her cancer had returned. Only this time it was worse. Mom would endure more chemo, more surgeries, and more trips to the hospital.

This time I decided I wanted to do something special for her. You Gift Guide see, I was the rebel, the troublemaker, the one who screamed the loudest that mom was always wrong and never got me. Little did I know just how wrong I was. So while mom was busy planning a family cruise to be taken in time for her birthday in September, I was planning something special for her. One I hoped would take away some of the pain I caused over the years.

Now I will admit that I lied to my mom about “winning” tickets to the Oprah Winfrey Show, but I wanted her to go with me, just the two of us and she agreed. You see the show I took my mom to was about “good news,” the kind you want to share with 30 million of the “closest” friends around the world!

There was a couple announcing their engagement, a daughter telling her family that she was expecting and there was me.

I will never forget the look on mom’s face when Oprah called out my name and I stood up. I walked over to Oprah and watched as my mom started to cry as I told her the REAL reason we were there. “Mom, I love you! We may not have seen eye to eye growing up, but you were right! The “good news” for you, I am here. Whatever you need, I will make it happen. All you have to do is say the words and I am there.”

Then, I hugged her as everyone, including Oprah cried.

Labor Day weekend of 1993, Mom lost her battle. I was there at the hospital every day for the last week of her life, and I was one of the last faces she saw before passing away.

Two weeks later, on her birthday, we celebrated on the cruise she worked so hard for us to have. The last gift from the strongest woman I will ever know.

And though I never had kids of my own, when the fights break out at my siblings’ houses, I swear I hear mom’s laugh, reminding us that she is still there watching us. l

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Mothers are incredible people. This year, make sure you properly thank her for all she has done for you by celebrat­ing her with a day she’ll cherish forever.

Here are a few ideas to make this Mother’s Day her most memorable yet: ] Plant a Garden Together Before you shell out big bucks on chocolates and jewelry, consider a greener gift that mom can treasure from her window. Visit your local garden center or nursery and pick some vibrant beauties you know she’ll swoon over. Supply the gloves, mom’s favorite cocktails and snacks and make an event out of gardening with your favorite lady. ] Create Your Own Card No matter how old you are, nothing says it better than construction paper, glitter and a little creativ­ity. If she’s a grand­mother, involve the kids and make it a family craft project. Take a trip to your local hobby store to make sure you have all the goods for this tried-and-true ticket to mom’s heart.

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] Plan a Beautiful Brunch Create a colorful, bountiful brunch for mom. Make a checklist of all the necessary ingredients, ensuring you serve all of her favorites! For a fresh twist on brunch, incorporate the sweet summer­time goodness of watermelon and other fresh fruit. Impress her with Breakfast Six Layer Trifle, or make her smile with Watermelon Pancake Sandwiches. Design a homemade menu card, and throw in an arrange­ment of her favorite blooms for a finishing touch.

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2 cups chopped seedless watermelon flesh In half-gallon pitcher with lid, mix 1 cup of water with sugar until completely dissolved. Stir in rest of water, watermelon puree, sliced lemon, lemon juice and vanilla extract. Stir to mix well and chill thoroughly. Stir in 2 cups of chopped watermelon before serving.

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2 tablespoons maple syrup 8 silver dollar size (3 to 4-inch) natural blueberry pancakes homemade or prepared, warm 4 slices seedless watermelon, same size as pancakes

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Mother’s Day is the perfect occasion to remind your mom just how much you love her. Traditionally, in the United States, Mother’s Day is a day where children give their mothers flowers and gifts. As part of the Mother’s Day custom, children also give mothers a break from household chores and take them out for a nice dinner or brunch.

Here are some ways you might remind a mom in your life just how special she is: Give the Gift of Memories: You can do this by putting together a scrapbook of your mom’s favorite photos or memorabilia she has collected over the years.

Or you may want to create a new memory by spending the day together either doing something you both love to do or by trying something new together, such as taking a riverboat tour or rock climbing.

Go on an Adventure: Maybe your mom likes to be outside or do more active activities? If so, go for a bike ride, take a hike at one of the many county or state parks in the area or go golfing.

Indulge Her Sweet Tooth: Take mom out for her favorite treat. Whether you go out for a hot fudge sundae, cupcake, chocolate or cheesecake, you can enjoy both the treat and the company.

Give Her the Royal Treatment: Most moms crave to be pampered. So, why not send her to a full-service day spa for a complete massage, mani and pedi package? Of course, having breakfast delivered to her in bed and having someone else do the dishes is also a well-appreciated treat.

Take in a Show: Buy her tickets to one of the many musicals, plays, performances or movies she has wanted to see.

Give Her the Day Off: Instead of mom taking care of you today, take care of her by sitting her on the sofa with her favorite book, beverage and soft music playing in the background.

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To My Mom

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By Duana Glosson

With Gratitude

am writing to simply show gratitude to my mother, Beverly L. Williams. God has brought her from such a long way. My mother used to be a drug addict, and because of her addiction, my younger siblings and I were split up. Our older brother was in prison. During this time, I spoke to my mom often and stayed in touch as much as her lifestyle permitted. Through it all, she never gave up on uniting all of her children and united we are.

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In May 2011, my mother graduated with an Associate Degree in Business. And in January 2013, she celebrated 10 years of being clean (no drugs and no alcohol). She has also recently enrolled back in school to continue her education.

My mother is a supportive life coach for young women in the Milwaukee area. She provides support, assistance and guidance to these women with children. My mom helps them be better women for themselves, so they can have better lives and be better mothers for their children. All the women she works with love her and are very grateful for her continuous helping hand.

Although I’m my mother’s only daughter, I don’t mind that these women call her mom. It’s okay with me and I don’t mind sharing her. A mother this awesome should be shared. How else could they experience all of the joy I have?

My mom is full of grace, elegance and style. She is also loving, caring, smart, supportive and so much more.

Mommy, I just want to say thank you for hanging in there, for not giving up, for being strong and straight forward. I thank you for trying and then succeeding when others expected you to fail.

Thank you for never sugarcoating anything and keeping us loaded with your sweet kisses and hugs. From all of us to you—our fabulous, fine and unforgettable mother, Ms. Beverly L. Williams, you go, girl! l

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ver the past month, I have had the privilege of workHaving someone help you manage this emotional reaction to ing with an amazing array of leaders and aspiring the current state is the first act of encouragement. You have an leaders representing four generations and a multitude expectation that is not understood by your co-worker and you of cultures from North America to Latin America, must figure out how to deal with it. With your emotions in check Asia, Europe and the Middle East. My personal learning journey you can consider your options. Perhaps you can ask for help from has been remarkable, as well as humbling and invigorating. a colleague or your boss. You might go back to ask your co-workAs Mother’s Day approaches, I am reminded of the most im- er what questions she has about your request. Perhaps you could portant work of my life so far: raising two daughters. The similar- find someone else in the department to do the work, all without ity between my work then and drama or unnecessary emotional energy. now is the recognition that people The second phase of encouragement is of all ages are hungry for encouran expression of support and aspiration— agement. showing what the desired state looks like Truth is, whether we are and how the person receiving encouragemindful of it or not, we are all ment might get there. In our example, you learning. We encounter things evmight learn to explain the project in smaller ery day that we have not yet expesteps. You may decide to present it differby: Susan Marshall rienced, heard about or learned to ently with a better understanding of how deal with. Whether it is a detour someone in the other department will facon the way to work, an unexpecttor your deadline into their existing work. ed response from a colleague or an odd-looking wrinkle next to You may ultimately figure out how to streamline the project in our eyelid that we swear wasn’t there yesterday morning, every order to involve fewer people and thus speed time to completion. day brings new learning.

This type of encouragement is different from simple feedI think it’s fair to say that a lot of us avoid this day-to-day back. Most feedback, as we experience it, tends to focus on the learning. We think we don’t have the capacity to deal with it, so we current state and points to what we did that made it less than idecarve out safe or at least predictable routes to work, we gravitate al. In our example, you might receive feedback to practice greater toward reliable co-workers and we ignore the new wrinkle, gray patience followed by, “I know you can do better.” hair, extra pound or whatever. We need life to progress along an Part two of encouragement, the support and aspiration part, orderly and predictable trajectory. has to be anchored in something concrete. If you can look at And then it doesn’t. And we freak. Sometimes we do so pri- where you are today (stymied) and aspire to be someplace differvately; sometimes in an embarrassingly public way. At these times ent and better in time (moving forward), you have something on we need encouragement that goes beyond a feeble reassurance, which to focus your attention and energy. Encouragement helps such as: “You’ll be fine,” or “Tomorrow will be a better day.” define next steps.

Effective encouragement is comprised of two distinct phases.

You may be thinking that encouragement takes a lot of time The first is an assessment and acceptance of reality—the current and energy. You’re right. It does. That is why it tends to be so rare state. Let’s say you are explaining a project deadline to a co-work- and why people of all ages are hungry for it. When someone pays er from another department who does not understand your sense attention to you with the intention of truly helping you grow, it is of urgency. No matter how clearly or energetically you speak, she a deeply satisfying experience. l does not respond in a way you feel is appropriate. Before long, you are frustrated, angry and at a loss for what to do next.

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Cancer Schmancer

By Diana Price

thing more to inform and empower women. She knew that, as her own case had illustrated, early detection of cancer was the key; she also knew that lack of information and misdiagnosis often prevented women from being diagnosed at an early stage. Fueled by her experience, Drescher committed to using her celebrity status to help get the word out.

In 2007, Drescher founded Cancer Schmancer, a nonprofit organization dedicated to prevention, early detection and advocacy. Susan Holland, vice president of Cancer Schmancer, says, “Cancer Schmancer seeks to transform patients into medical consumers and to shift the nation’s priority from exclusively searching for a cure toward prevention and early detection.”

To that end, the organization has developed an early-detection program based around Fran Vans—mobile breast cancer detection units that serve uninsured as well as underinsured areas—and, more recently, a Trash Cancer initiative aimed at educating consumers about possible carcinogens and toxins in personal care products,

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ctor, producer and advocate Fran Drescher’s diagnosis with stage I uterine cancer in 2000 came at the end of a long road of misdiagnoses. After two years of symptoms that included cramping and bleeding between menstrual cycles and frustrating visits with eight different doctors, the diagnosis finally delivered Fran an answer. And yet, though her search for a diagnosis was at an end, it was the beginning of an entirely new journey.

In 2002, Drescher, an Emmy and Golden Globe nominee who starred in the long-running CBS sitcom “The Nanny” (which she also created and executive produced) as well as in feature films, published a memoir, Cancer Schmancer, which described her journey to diagnosis. Compelled to tell her story in the hope that she could help other women get the answers they needed, she also felt called to do some-

cleaning products and food. Holland says that more than 1,000 Trash Cancer parties have been hosted around the country, involving more than 10,000 people. “Trash Cancer teaches consumers how to detox their homes and become aware of what we are putting in our mouths, on our skin and using around us when we clean and garden,” she says.

In addition, Cancer Schmancer shares information about prevention, inspiring survivor stories and opportunities for advocacy on its website, cancerschmancer. org, in an effort to educate women about critical preventive health issues and to motivate and empower patients to seek the best possible care. Drescher has also been actively advocating on behalf of cancer patients in Washington, D.C., where, Holland says, the organization is currently working to get a bipartisan carcinogen-free label bill through Congress that would further promote consumer education.

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“I bought my mom a Yorkie for her birthday.”

“Yorkie, huh? Cute breed. How old is your mom?”

“She’s 92.”

And so began the story that, all told, included four trips to the hospital in five months for Mom, as she repeatedly tripped over, tangled with and stepped on her rambunctious gift. Happy birthday!

The potential benefits of pairing the elderly with pets are immeasurable, but clearly there are risks to consider.

Large dogs can knock a frail person to the ground. Hyperactive or herding breeds require a lot of exercise and attention. Longhaired dogs tend to shed more, creating extra housework and requiring frequent grooming. Many purebreds and older dogs have health problems of their own, meaning frequent trips to the vet, medication and special care.

Basically, any dog can be a handful in the wrong hands -- or under the wrong feet.

Small dogs tend to get underfoot. Remember Paula Abdul? Made famous by her talent as a dancer, Abdul lost her balance and fell on her face trying to avoid stepping on her Chihuahua.

Toy dogs send their senior owners to the emergency room with broken hips, broken arms, broken legs... And a broken bone can lead to major complications for an elderly person -- physical, psychological and financial complications that can take a lasting toll on the individual’s quality of life.

This is why training and foresight are essential.

Foresight means you’ve considered the risks outlined above and determined that you are able to successfully navigate them. In giving the gift of a dog to an elderly person, foresight means asking hard questions: l Will the dog outlive the person?

Most dogs live about 15 years. If the recipient is 92, who will take care of the dog once that person is gone? A shelter should not be the answer.

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l Can the recipient take care of the dog? Walk the dog? Remember to feed and water the dog? If not, who will? l Can the person drive the dog to the vet and take charge of any medical needs that arise? If not, who will? l Does the person want the responsibility of a dog? After all, the point of a gift is to bring joy, not stress, to the life of another.

After foresight comes training. Training prevents accidents -- for the person and the pooch. No dog enjoys being run over by a wheelchair. And a dog properly trained to sit and stay will not only be out of harm’s way, but also will be the kind of calm, reassuring presence that would benefit an elderly owner.

The potential benefits are many and not to be overlooked: companionship, protection, the establishment of a daily routine, the great feeling of having a purpose and being needed, not to mention the good health rewards of exercise, playfulness, the smile a dog brings to the face and the relaxation induced by stroking his fur.

But before you give the gift of canine companionship, make sure the hard questions are asked and answered. And don’t underestimate the need for and the value of professional training.

After suggesting to her well-meaning son that it makes no sense to give a 92-year-old woman an untrained puppy, he indignantly replied, “Who has the money for professional dog training?”

Answer me this: Who has the money for four hospital stays in almost as many months?

Woof!

Dog trainer Matthew “Uncle Matty” Margolis is co-author of 18 books about dogs, a behaviorist, a popular radio and television guest, and host of the PBS series “WOOF! It’s a Dog’s Life!”

T Adopt a Pet Meet Stevie WONDERFUL!

This sweet, little six-year-old brown tabby came from a home where there were too many cats. Stevie Wonderful, like his namesake, is blind but that hasn’t stopped him yet! He gets around just fine using his other senses, like hearing and smell...and he lets his whiskers tell him when he is nearing something. He is affectionate and cuddly, and he is a staff and volunteer favorite at HAWS! Because of his special needs, Stevie will do best in a quiet home where he can get one-on-one tender, loving care. He is so brave and deserving of that just-right human to be his best friend. Call us at (262) 5428851 to find out all about Stevie and all of HAWS’ adoptable friends! Better yet, stop by in person - HAWS is located at 701 Northview Road in Waukesha and is open for viewing and adopting seven days a week: Monday through Friday, 1:00-6:00 p.m.; Saturday, 11:00 a.m. -4:00 p.m. and Sunday, noon-4:00 p.m. You can also visit our website at www.hawspets.org.

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Tickets $45 • Groups of 10+ Save! Call 414.273.7121 Ext.210 CONTAINS ADULT INNUENDOS. MAY NOT BE SUITABLE FOR CHILDREN UNDER 16.

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Waukesha State Bank announces that Vickie L. Volpano has joined its Board of Directors. Vol-

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pano is Senior Vice President and Chief Operating Officer of Goodwill Industries of Southeastern Wisconsin, Inc., which is the largest of 165 independent Goodwill affiliates in North America and Canada. Volpano is a member of Tempo – Milwaukee and Professional Dimensions, is a Mayoral appointee to the City of Milwaukee Business Improvement District Board #25 and is a member of American Society for Quality (ASQ) and the City of Waukesha Chamber of Commerce.

Susan Rabe was recently promoted from Executive Director to President and CEO of the St. Josaphat Basilica Foundation. Rabe leads the foundation’s mission of raising funds to renovate and restore the basilica to its original glory. Under her watch, the foundation has grown 63 percent over the last three years and numerous restoration projects have been completed. There are, however, many more that need to be tackled.

Tejaswini Deshmukh, M.D., has been appointed assistant professor of radiology (pediatric radiology) at the Medical College of Wisconsin (MCW). Board certified in diagnostic radiology, Dr. Deshmukh specializes in pediatric radiography, fluoroscopy, ultrasonography and advanced neuroimaging.

She sees patients at Children’s Hospital of Wisconsin in Milwaukee, Greenfield and New Berlin.

Biking: A Great Way to Stay Fit

By Cyndi Strayer

Did you know that May is bicycling month? Well, it is.

Bicycling is also a popular mode of transportation around the world. But besides being a great way to travel, it is easy to do, it requires nothing more than balance and a bicycle and it is a great form of exercise.

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Bicycling is a great workout for the entire body, especially the lower body. If you’re interested in developing good muscle tone on your legs, back end and hips while trimming your waistline and increasing your cardiovascular health, then you should try biking. It is especially great for shaping, toning and firming the thighs and calves.

Best of all, bicycling is a low-impact activity that doesn’t cause a lot of stress on your joints. Because of this, bicycling can be a good exercise for people with limited range of motion or may not be able to handle a high-impact activity, like running, which can put a lot of stress on your joints.

And like most exercise, bicycling has many health and fitness benefits, such as improving the health of your heart, reducing cholesterol and lowering blood pressure. It even reduces stress.

This is extremely important especially since several studies have proven that managing your stress is a key component in staying healthy overall.

Another great advantage of bicycling is that it can be done just about anywhere. And if you happen to live in an area where you do not have bike-friendly streets or the weather is predominantly bad, you can bike indoors on a stationary or exercise bike.

Many gyms and workout facilities have these to use.

Although riding along various terrains might be more fun than cycling indoors, it still serves the same function as road bicycles when it comes to exercise and its benefits. An indoor bicycle still allows a person to strengthen his or her legs and glutes, as well as improve his or her heart health and lower cholesterol, blood pressure and stress.

Whether bicycling indoor or outdoor, anyone can lose weight, become stronger and keep fit with a proper cycling program. You just need a bicycle and to begin riding.

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Mayevents

May 1

Sparta Bike Path Opening for the Season Join the community for a ride from Norwalk to the Sparta Depot. A shuttle service picks up riders at the Depot. For more information call (608) 269-4123.

May 3 – 19

Sing Me a Story Studio Theatre 158 N. Broadway, Milwaukee Once upon a time, many years ago...well, twenty-five years ago, a girl and a boy met and fell in love with singing...with each other.

Kay and Jack, along with the help of Broadway greats such as Lerner & Lowe, Rodgers & Hart and Kander & Ebb, will entertain you with an evening of musical adventures, allegories, anecdotes and more than a few “happily ever-afters!” Tickets can be purchased at the Broadway Theatre Center Box Office or by calling (414) 291-7800. Visit www.skylightmusictheatre.

May 4

HAWS 30th Annual Pet Walkathon South of Main St. on Weaver Dr. Sussex Day long festival of pets and their people where you can meet adoptable pets, shop pet product vendors, win prizes, enjoy great food all while raising money to care for the many pets at HAWS! Free to attend from 9 a.m. – 3 p.m. Collect pledges or raise money with a personal online fundraising webpage!

Visit www.hawspets.org.

May 9

‘Colors of Couture’ Style Show Golden Mast Restaurant The Oconomowoc Memorial Auxiliary is hosting their annual 34th Spring Style show, luncheon and

raffle beginning at 11 a.m. Reservations can be made at the OMH Gift Box Boutique or by calling (262) 3702903 or (262) 560-0673. Proceeds go to the Oconomowoc Regional Cancer Center.

May 11 -

Retzer Nature Center Learn everything about native plants, rain gardens, composting and much more. www.waukeshacountyparks.com

May 12

Have a wonderful Mother’s Day! Be sure to treat mom special by taking her out! The Cork ‘n Cleaver’s Mother’s Day Brunch is a great place to go. Brunch is from 10 a.m. until 3 p.m. Call to make reservations at (414) 481-6663.

May 14 – 26

Dixie’s Tupperware Party Vogel Hall, Marcus Center for the Performing Arts Join Dixie as she makes a stop in Milwaukee at the Marcus Center’s Vogel Hall, throwing a good ol’ fashioned Tupperware Party filled with outrageously funny tales, heartfelt accounts, FREE giveaways, audience participation and the most fabulous assortment of Tupperware ever sold on a theater stage. Call for tickets, (414) 273-7206.

May 18

Arthritis Walk University Lake School 4024 Nagawicka Rd., Hartland This annual nationwide event raises awareness of arthritis, the nation’s most common cause of disability. For details, contact (414) 3213933, ext. 214.

May 22

Free Pajama Jamborees Vogel Hall, 123 E. State St. Entrance Marcus Center for the Performing Arts Classical “pops” concert, 7 – 8 p.m., geared to children (K4 through fifth grade) and their families. Each concert has narration and music selections that are lively, tell a story and/or demonstrate the colors of the orchestra. Dress is casual. Pajamas, teddy bears and blankets are welcome for the youngest audience members, especially for a spot on the floor directly in front of the orchestra. Conventional seating is also available.

May 27

Remember to thank the Veterans on Memorial Day!

June 12 – July 7

Wicked Marcus Center for the Performing Arts Back by “popular” demand, winner of 35 major awards. Be sure to see it this season. Call for tickets at (414) 273-7206 or 1-888-612-3500.

Ongoing events

Color Rush: 75 Years of Color Photography in America through

Future Events June 1

May 19

June 8

The SC Johnson Gallery - At Home with Frank Lloyd Wright SC Johnson Campus in Racine Tours are available for both individuals and groups free-of-charge at The SC Johnson Gallery: At Home with Frank Lloyd Wright, which showcases a rotating selection of Frank Lloyd Wright’s designs and artifacts, and explores the legendary architect’s influence on families and the American home. To schedule tours for large groups (20 or more people), please call us at (262) 2602154.

Waukesha County Beaches Open for the season Fox Brook Park, Menomonee Park, Minooka Park, Mukwonago Park, Muskego Park and Naga-Waukee Park. Visit the website for more information: www.waukeshacountyparks.com.

Walk to End Lupus Now Mount Mary College, 2900 N. Menomonee River Parkway, Milwaukee Check in at 8:30 a.m., walk begins at 10 a.m. Family fun event! For information or to register visit www. lupuswi.org or call (414) 443-6400.

Milwaukee Art Museum 700 N. Art Museum Drive.

Color Rush presents approximately 140 color photographs made between 1907, when the Lumière Brothers began marketing the autochrome, and 1981, when the use of color photography in art was no longer as contentious as it once had been. www.mam.org.

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