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What It once was

As we gaze outward to the future, we see an endless panorama of change. New technologies. New ideas. New gadgets and gizmos and funky new entertainment options. New methods and modes for getting places physically and mentally, and for getting things done. The crazy thing about all this is that the future is what it used to be. Now that may be unsettling for some. Paradoxical. After all, we invest great sums of time keeping pace with change, learning how to use new tools, think in new paradigms, and perfect our means of being both more mobile and more accessible. There was a time, a while back, that when you were out of the office, home or car, you were unavailable. Unreachable. And blissfully out of touch. Not so anymore. Today you can take a call on a surfboard if you’re so inclined. That’s because there’s been a confluence of science, technology, personal ambition, and business opportunity. The future is not all that different from the past. While we have a mind-boggling assortment of technologies to select from, our fundamental need to communicate remains intact. Our desire to create opportunity and wealth lives on. Our urge to find exciting new ways to explore, chart, and reshape our world courses just as strongly through our psyches as it ever did.

So as we think about how frenetic our pace is and how we spend our days and nights, are we to conclude that it’s a waste of time? If the future is what it once was, what’s the furor about? The furor over the future is about uncertainty. That’s not new, either. We worry: What will happen as computers play an ever-increasing role in our lives? What about artificial intelligence and the sweeping changes hinted at with the cracking of the DNA code? Are we soon to be at the mercy of mad scientists? No. What we may soon be at the mercy of is our own mounting trepidation about all the things that are out of our control. And there are a growing number of those, that’s for sure. But the beauty of this particular danger is that it is completely within our control. Another paradox. We can learn to adopt an attitude of curiosity and learning in exchange for our anxious need to manipulate information, events, or even people to make the future look like something we have in mind. We don’t have to bring everything new into our personal lives. We can still carve out time and space that is uniquely and personally ours, and make it look and feel any way we want it to. Just because all our friends are planning on having a stove that talks to the refrigerator that consults the local deli about what they’re going to have for dinner, doesn’t mean you have to. If that sounds like something you’d enjoy, go for it. If not, forget about it. One of the skills you’ll want to carry into the future is choosing well for yourself. This means you’ll have to get better at ignoring those always-climbing Joneses and suit yourself. You’ll have to learn to resist the rush of the crowd toward hot new thrills and beat your own path to contentment. If we’re all going to get along, curiosity and courtesy are going to be pretty important, too. Sometimes you’ll want to smile and show interest in those new TV shows that your friends are raving about even when you don’t have one clue what they’re talking about. Those good old-fashioned abilities will roll a long way into the future; you wait and see. To those who can get along with all sorts of folks and all sorts of lifestyles, despite their own personal tastes, the future will open wide with unimaginable gifts and surprises. To those who hold fast to what they’ve always known and insist on closing ranks to everyone but those who agree with them, the future is probably going to look pretty scary. Even weird. But isn’t that the way the future has always been? . u

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When Sarah Furnner of Cedarburg was looking to complete her Bachelor of Science in Nursing degree, she wanted a program that would allow her to maintain balance between school, work and family life. In 2011, she enrolled in the University of Wisconsin-Milwaukee’s BSN Home online degree program. “It’s a great option for anyone, traditional or nontraditional, who needs flexibility,” she says.

Maggie Layden of Madison agrees about the flexibility of online programs. “Going to school online allowed me to do 100 percent of the work on my own time schedule so that I could work full-time and complete the degree,” she says. Layden graduated in 2012 from the University of Wisconsin-Extension’s sustainable management online bachelor’s degree program. Furnner and Layden are just two of millions of students nationwide who take online courses, and they are part of a growing trend of students completing degrees online. In the last decade, the number of schools offering fully online degree programs has doubled, according to a 2013 Babson Survey Research Group report. Online degree programs are becoming so prevalent, that US News &

World Report released its first rankings of regionally accredited, 100 percent online degree programs in 2012.

Types of Online Programs

Several options exist for taking courses or pursuing a degree online. Massive Open Online Courses (MOOCs) are free online courses open to the public. Usually no college credit is offered for these courses. Taking a MOOC might be a good option if you’re exploring a possible college major or if you’re considering returning to school but aren’t ready to foot the tuition bill just yet. Plus, if you’ve ever dreamed of taking a class at Princeton or other elite schools, you can. The University of Wisconsin-Madison is

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+ offering its first four MOOCs this fall via www.coursera.org. Online degree programs are basically traditional programs offered entirely online. Many Wisconsin nonprofit colleges and universities—including Cardinal Stritch University, Lakeland College, Viterbo University and 10 of the University of Wisconsin (UW) system’s schools—offer online bachelor’s and/or master’s degree programs. In fact, the UW-Platteville and UW-Milwauke bachelor’s degree programs made US News & World Report’s 2013 list of best online

Why did you choose Globe University’s online degree program? “I chose the online Health Fitness Specialist degree program because the required classes encompassed much of what I’m interested in learning to start my career as a Personal Trainer/Health Specialist. There aren’t many classes that seem superfluous to my field of study. In addition, I like the fact that many classes are practically year-round, allowing me to finish my degree more quickly.

bachelor’s degree programs. For-profit institutions such as Herzing University also offer online degree programs. At UW system schools, online courses utilize video lectures, use animations to explain complex issues and connect students with online resources, says David Schejbal, dean of the UW-Extension’s continuing education division. Herzing University’s online courses are offered in a similar format, including video lectures, assigned readings and supplemental web resources. Additionally, Schejbal says

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he’s recently seen a rise in online certificate programs. Many universities that offer online degree programs also offer online certificate programs. Certificate programs typically involve taking a few courses in a focused area of study to develop specialized skills, but don’t constitute a full degree program. The UW system’s new competency-based online degree program—the UW Flexible Option—is one of only a few programs of its kind in the country. The UW Flexible Option is designed for adults who have some work or previous

college experience. It allows students to take assessments to demonstrate mastery of a subject. Schejbal says after you’re accepted into the program, you immediately can take assessments for areas in which you have an expertise. For other areas, the program will provide content such as readings, online resources and exercises so you can gain the knowledge needed to complete the program. Students can apply for the new program beginning November 18.

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With all the online education options available, you don’t have to limit yourself to schools that are geographically close to you. But before you sign up for any online degree program, make sure it’s a reputable program and the right fit for you. “It’s not an easy way to get a degree, as it takes a good amount of discipline, and some classes are challenging and involve regular logging into the online environment,” Furnner says. Herzing University’s Jody Lindquist, executive director for enrollment management, says potential students need to have good time management

skills and a reliable computer with internet access. Both the UW’s Schejbal and Herzing’s Lindquist recommend verifying a university’s accreditation through a regional accrediting body before enrolling. If an academic program requires licensure to work in the field after graduation, confirm that the specific program is accredited, too. Schejbal also advises checking with the institution to ensure you’ll have access to academic support services. Ask about the kind of academic support you’ll receive and availability of technical assistance if you have trouble accessing a course. In addition, check if all general education courses you’ll need—not just the academic ar-

UW-Platteville and UW-Milwauke bachelor’s degree programs made US News & World Report’s 2013 list of best online bachelor’s degree programs. ea’s major courses—are available in an online format as well. Lindquist recommends asking how long the degree program will take to complete and how much it will cost. “Institutions should be upfront about

that information and if they are not, that should be a red flag,” she says. Asking about how an online program assists students with career placement is important, too. u

College Scholarships for Women Whether you’re pursuing an online or traditional degree program, check with the institution prior to enrolling to find out about the availability of financial aid and scholarships. Also consider applying for these local and national scholarships for women: ASIST Scholarships (www.ewiconnect.com): The Executive Women International’s annual nationwide scholarship competition awards 13 scholarships from $2,000 to $10,000 to adult students. You must apply through the local Milwaukee chapter first. Her Scholarship (www.womensfundmke.org): The Women’s Fund of Greater Milwaukee sponsors this scholarship for women age 35 and up who are pursuing a degree at a participating local university. Jane M. Klausman Women in Business Scholarship (www.zontamilwaukee.org): The Zonta Club of Milwaukee offers a $1,000 scholarship to women pursuing an undergraduate business degree in a traditional or online program. Jeanette Rankin Women’s Scholarship Fund (www.rankinfoundation.org): This organization awards scholarships to women age 35 and up who are enrolled or accepted to a regionally accredited institution and who meet low-income requirements. October 2013 WISCONSIN WOMAN | 9

THE 5 FASTEST-GROWING CAREERS Jobs that will grow the fastest until 2018 By Sharon Naylor

If you’re looking to switch careers, or if you’re just starting out in the job market, you likely want to know where the jobs will be plentiful to boost your odds of landing a position. The U.S. Bureau of Labor Statistics recently released their projections of the 30 fastest-growing careers, and among the top five listed here might just be the career for you. These fastest-growing careers can give you more opportunities, since the U.S. Bureau of Labor Statistics says that by 2018, the total number of people employed in the United States will have increased 10.1 percent -by 15.3 million. That’s a lot of fellow careerists, many of whom are looking for a job with impressive growth on the horizon. Here are the top 5 careers listed in this projection, with additional statistics from the U.S. Bureau of Labor Statistics:

1) Financial analyst Projected increase in 2018: 41.2 percent Number employed in 2008: 27,000 Median pay in 2008: $73,150

Education/training: Financial analysts are required to have a bachelor’s or master’s degree, so advanced education will be a must. Job outlook: The financial industry handles the complexities of the stock market, investments and other money-centric issues, and financial analysts will be in-demand to decipher the new trends and outlooks in investments, especially in mutual funds. The stock market will likely take many people on a wild ride, and financial experts will be there to clarify important issues.

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Education/training: Different states have different requirements to land this job. Some states only require on-the-job training, while other states may require formal training via vocational schools, home health care agencies, community colleges and elder care programs. Job outlook: With the population aging as baby boomers enter their twilight years, home health care aides will be in demand to meet their needs. Adult children of the elderly may agree with their parents that home is the place to be but not without a trained home health care aide taking care of their parents’ needs, such as housekeeping and errands, meal preparation and the demands of everyday life moreso than health issue help.

Projected increase in 2018: 50 percent Number employed in 2008: 922,000 Median pay in 2008: $21,440 Education/training:

In some states, home health aides don’t need a high school or college diploma. Rather, they get training on the job, in addition to classroom training, workshops and lectures, depending on the employer.

Job outlook: Home health aides provide healthcare-oriented services to elderly and disabled people who need help with their mobility, oxygen machines, medications and other health-centric needs. Again, since more elderly people wish to live in their homes for as long as possible, rather than move into nursing homes or assisted living facilities, and since hospitals often release patients who still need great health assistance, home health aides will be there to handle the care tasks. This job is often mostly on-call work, and many companies don’t provide benefits, so that’s something to consider, even if you feel you’d be the perfect home health aide candidate.

4) Network systems

and data communications analyst Projected increase in 2018: 53.4 percent Number employed in 2008: 292,000 Median pay in 2008: $66,310 Education/training: Most network and data communications analyst jobs require a bachelor’s degree, although some only require a two-year degree. career continued on page 12

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5) Biomedical engineers Projected increase in 2018: 72 percent Number employed in 2008: 16,000 Median pay in 2008: $77,400

Education/training: A bachelor’s degree in engineering is required for almost all entry-level engineering jobs in this sector. Job outlook: As the population ages, and as health issues affect all demographics from children to the elderly, there will be a strong demand for improved medical devices and equipment to create better quality of life for anyone with a physical injury, surgery recovery or systemic illness. Biomedical engineers are the ones who create that miracle device that saves a life or restores self-sufficiency. Check the U.S. Bureau of Labor Statistics website (http://www.bls.gov) to see which other jobs made the list for fastest-growing and most potential in the near future, and which have the salary you desire, as well. u

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Crystal Schroeder faced her breast cancer diagnosis with a cocktail of determination and hope. Throughout it all, she marveled at how lucky she was. Two small tumors were found her breast. She never felt them. “I have a mammogram every year,” Schroeder said. “That’s how they found them.” Early in 2011, she had a lumpectomy followed by chemotherapy and radiation. She feels healthy now. It’s difficult to manage a disease, particularly cancer that involves many rounds and courses as treatments spread out over months. When you are sin-

gle with no children or parents, your support system is thin. Managing the logistics of getting to and from doctors and hospitals adds stress that weakens the wellness process. Schroeder, 65, was in the camp of ‘no immediate support system at home.’ She would drive herself to and from radiation and chemotherapy treatments. “I’m a tough old broad,” she chuckled. “But I was really lucky. When I needed a ride, someone was there to help me.” She admitted that one day after a treatment when she was given medication that made her drowsy, a nurse drove her home. “Hospitals won’t let you take a

cab home.” Two sisters and a brother who live in Illinois were there when Schroeder needed someone to talk to. “I knew they were only a phone call away; and one of my sisters could be here pretty quickly if I needed one of them,” she said of Cyndy Luckey and Bobbi Balek. Soon after treatments ended, Schroeder lost her job due to a merger. “It was a blessing in disguise, but I thought, ‘now what?’” She had remembered a volunteer program years ago, Road to Recovery, through the American Cancer Society that provided rides to those in need. And there is a need.

“The American Cancer Society estimates that approximately 4,490 Wisconsin women will be diagnosed with breast cancer this year alone,” said David Benson, American Cancer Society, Midwest Division executive vice president. ACS and Kohl’s have partnered to provide education, wellness programs and services, such as Road to Recovery. More than 1,500 Road to Recovery rides have been provided to breast cancer patients in the last three years. Kohl’s Breast Health for Women program, in partnership with American Cancer Society, focuses on keeping women healthy, reducing their

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4,490 Wisconsin women will be diagnosed with breast cancer this year alone,” Cyndy Luckey and Crystal Schroeder (standing), and Bobbi Balek (with the dog) - September 2011 - my sisters and me with my hair starting to grow back

risk of getting breast cancer, providing access to breast cancer screenings, and supporting women diagnosed with breast cancer to make informed decisions about their care and address barriers to treatment. “Our partnership with Kohl’s Cares continues to meet a critical need in our community,” Benson said. “By working together, we’re able to help local women and their families learn ways to prevent and detect breast cancer early and find supporting services as they undergo treatment.” Schroeder wanted to pay it forward and signed up as a driver for the Road to Recovery program in November 2012. There is a database offering names of those needing rides to treatment or medical appointments. She calls the person needing a ride and confirms the time and place. She uses her own car and gas. “I usually stay and wait for them, unless it’s an all-day treatment,” Schroeder said. “Then I’ll check when the person should be ready to go

said David Benson, American Cancer Society, Midwest Division executive vice president.

home and come back.” The American Cancer Society’s Road to Recovery program connects volunteer drivers to provide transportation for cancer patients. The generosity of the drivers helps ensure that cancer patients get the lifesaving treatment they need. When cancer patients don’t have transportation, it can leave them with few options for completing their treatment schedules. Although family and friends may be able to help, there may be many times when they’re not available. Road to Recovery provides transportation options for patients facing this situation. Schroeder offers her services a couple of times a week or as much as twice a day. “I drive some people repeatedly. When you are having radiation treatment you need to go every day for 30 to 35 treatments.” Yes, she gets to know her charges and a bond will develop. “I’m there to drive and listen to them if they care to talk. But some don’t,” she said of the riders who are a bit

too weary after treatment and just want a quiet ride home. The American Cancer Society recruits volunteer drivers. A simple screening process helps ensure quality. The Society maintains specific standards for driver responsibility. Understanding these standards helps provide comfort with the program, for patient and driver alike. Cancer patients reach out to the ACS to schedule a ride to treatment, and the Society schedules transportation pickups. Schroeder said a strong support system is the secret to wellness. When she lost her hair, her niece, Jenny Murphy, shaved her head as a show of solidarity. “Her little boy, Gavin, who was about 6 years old at the time, became very upset at the thought of his mother being bald.” Through his tears, he suggested to his mother, ‘Can’t we just draw Auntie Crys a picture.’” “It’s true what they say about volunteering: you get so much more out of it than you put in to it,”

Schroeder said. “It makes me feel grounded to see people who are battling cancer. I can’t feel sorry for myself for what happened to me. I feel fortunate that I’m well enough to help others.” Schroeder is reminded of her time with cancer. She had 20 limp nodes removed and has lymphedema. “The chemo took my hair, but I never had a bad hair day and now I have beautiful scarves. The radiation left a burn scar – but those are all just irritants. Attitude is everything.” Road to Recovery is a free service. Patients in need of a ride do not need a physician’s referral, but advance notice is required. For more information about Road to Recovery or any American Cancer Society program, or to find out how you can volunteer to be a Road to Recovery driver, contact your local American Cancer Society office, call 1-800227-2345, or visit cancer. org. u

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breast Cancer awareness Month

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ABCD:

After Breast Cancer Diagnosis No one should experience breast cancer alone. ABCD: After Breast Cancer Diagnosis was founded by a group of women led by the late Melodie Wilson, who realized that having breast cancer is about much more than biopsies, surgery and chemotherapy. Most of ABCD’s founders are breast cancer survivors who discovered that the most valuable information and support came from others in similar life circumstances with similar experiences with the disease. Not everyone diagnosed with breast cancer knows where to find that kind of help. That’s where ABCD comes in. Based in Milwaukee, their services are available for free, anywhere, as long as you have a telephone or now cellphone with new app*.

Our Mission

ABCD provides free, personalized information and one-to-one support to people affected by breast cancer patients, families and friends. ABCD provides breast cancer support through its signature One-to-One mentoring breast cancer support service, a Breast Cancer Helpline and Resource List, and MORE: Mentor Outreach and Education program.

ABCD trains volunteers who have already experienced breast cancer to provide personalized information and emotional support to people now on a breast cancer journey. These volunteers are called “mentors” and the people they serve “participants.” Most participants are breast cancer patients, but mentor services are available also for family and friends, an increasingly popular support service. Mentoring is not a support group, nor does it replace one if you would like that support also. Instead, it is one-to-one support provided directly to participants by volunteers who have “been there.” The support is personalized to participants’ experiences and concerns, whether they involve diagnosis, treatment, family issues, professional concerns, general anxiety or all of these challenges.

* New ABCD app. ABCD has integrated its breast cancer support services into an app, iCanFind Everything Breast Cancer. Through this app, breast cancer patients and survivors have the ability to maintain all of their medical information in one place while also having direct access to someone who has been in their shoes and can offer emotional support. u

Sue Ann Says…

Straight Talk about HPV

HPV, otherwise known as the human papillomavirus, is a leading cause of cervical cancer in women. Clearly, this is an important issue, but to be honest it’s not my area of expertise. Therefore, I asked my good friend Gale Johnson, Coordinator of the Wisconsin Well Woman Program, to provide the Straight Talk. The Center for Disease Control reports that there are approximately 12,000 new cervical cancer cases each year in the United States. Cervical cancer causes around 4,000 deaths in women each year in the United States. What many people may not understand is that this virus can also cause cancer in the vulvar area, vagina, penis, tongue, tonsils and throat. Furthermore, genital warts in men and women are caused by HPV. Women need to understand the HPV virus and take a proactive approach in helping to prevent these cancers.

How Is HPV Transmitted?

Skin-to-skin contact during sexual activity (vaginal, anal or oral) spreads HPV. One of the main problems with this virus is that a person may not have symptoms and unintentionally spreads it to his or her sexual partners. The United States Office of Women’s Health (OWH) reported that “About 20 million Americans ages 15 to 49 currently have HPV. And at least half of all sexually active men and women get genital HPV at some time in their lives.” Doctors do not have a specific treatment for HPV, unless the patient has genital warts. Fortunately, both females and males now have a vaccine that can help inhibit the spread of HPV.

Vaccinations Can Help Inhibit the Transmission of HPV

Two vaccines have been approved by the FDA for use in the prevention of HPV. There are over 40 different types of HPV. The Cervarix and Gardasil vaccines are both effective in preventing diseases caused by HPV 16 and HPV 18. HPV 16 and 18 are the two types of the virus that cause the most cer-

vical cancers. Gardasil has been used to prevent HPV 6 and HPV 11 which cause genital warts. The Gardasil vaccine is now available for males. Gardasil has demonstrated protection against pre-cancers of the vulva, vagina, and anus. The vaccines are given to the patient in a 3 dose series. One vaccine is given, the second dose is two months later and the third dose is given six months after the first dose. The vaccines work by causing the body’s immune system to fire up its antibody production process. These antibodies will help defeat the virus if the body is exposed to the virus later in life. Receiving the vaccine before a teenager begins to have sexual relations is stressed. Take note that the vaccines help prevent the disease, consequently, the vaccine will not treat an existing HPV infection.

What Can You Do To Help Prevent HPV?

In order to lower the risk of contracting HPV, females and males should use protection (condoms) with sexual partners. Limiting sexual partners is encouraged.

Vaccines to prevent HPV can be given to females, usually between the ages of 11 and 12. But if a female did not receive the vaccine when she was young, a doctor may give the vaccine up to age 26. Males should receive their vaccine between the ages of 11 and 12 and may be given the vaccine up to age 26 at the doctor’s request. Females should have a regular Pap test to screen for cervical cancer.

Screening for Cervical Cancer

Cervical cancer occurs if cells begin to grow uncontrolled on the cervix. The American Cancer Society has endorsed these guidelines for cervical cancer screenings: u Women should begin cervical cancer screenings at age 21. u Women between the ages 21 and 29 should have a Pap test every 3 years. u Women between the ages of 30 and 65 should have a Pap test and an HPV test every 5 years.

u Women who have been vaccinated against HPV should still have the Pap screenings recommended for their age group.

Take The Necessary Steps to be Healthy!

I encourage you to have a regular check-up that includes a pelvic exam and a Pap test to screen for cervical cancer. u •••• Because it all begins with a healthy woman… Sue Ann Thompson is founder and president of the Wisconsin Women’s Health Foundation (WWHF), a statewide non-profit organization whose mission is to help Wisconsin women and their families reach their healthiest potential. WWHF provides programs and conducts forums that focus on education, prevention, and early detection; connects individuals to health resources; produces and distributes the most up-to-date health education and resource materials; and, awards grants and scholarships to women health researchers and related community non-profits. To learn more, visit wwhf.org or call 1-800-448-5148.

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living well

volunteer

Volunteer of the month meet

Kathy Pobloskie

Our Wisconsin Woman Making a Difference Volunteer for October is

Kathy Pobloskie, 52, CoFounder of Lost Dogs of Wisconsin and Wisconsin Voters for Companion Animals. She also writes the blog “Wisconsin Watchdog.” Kathy resides with her husband Daniel in North Prairie. They have two small energetic dogs and three horses. She is an American citizen since 1994, having been born and raised in Alberta, Canada. Kathy is also a retired riding instructor, horse trainer and still rides almost every day for enjoyment. She enjoys hiking, gardening and playing with her dogs. Her Goal and Mission: “A time when there will be “No More Homeless Pets” in America.” “Kathy deserves recognition for her volunteer efforts in Wisconsin to help advocate for the state’s domestic animals and their “people” on both a

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Wisconsin’s #1 Animal Advocate

programmatic and legislative level,” explains Susan Taney, Co-Founder of Lost Dogs of Wisconsin and Director of Lost Dogs of Illinois. Whether through LDOW (Lost Dogs of Wisconsin) helping to reunite over 3,000 lost dogs with their families since 2010, WVCA (Wisconsin Voters for Companion Animals) advocating at the state level in support of humane legislation for companion animals or her blog educating the people of Wisconsin regarding animal welfare, Kathy is always tirelessly working towards a better Wisconsin, for both people and animals. Additionally, Kathy has mentored many woman in the field by sharing her knowledge, expertise and support to enable them the strength and “know how” to stand up for what they believe in to help the people and animals of Wisconsin. In her own words, “After relocating to Wisconsin from Texas, I decided to slow down the pace and concentrate my efforts on being an animal welfare advocate and volunteer something I had wanted to do for many years but hadn’t had the time. I started by volunteer-

ing for a local shelter, as well as becoming an outreach volunteer for Best Friends Animal Society, a large national organization based in Kanab, Utah. The plight of Wisconsin’s puppy mill dogs soon drew my attention and I started to focus on that. I remember that cold, snowy day well; I was sitting at our home office desk in January, disgusted with Wisconsin’s puppy mills and thinking about those poor dogs in their tiny cages in the frigid temperatures. I hadn’t quite figured out what I was going to do — but I had to try something. I was venting to my husband, who said, “Good for you, but I’m not sure that little ol’ Kathy Pobloskie in North Prairie is going to be able to make a difference.” “So, a new chapter of my life began; brought on by that challenging statement that I’m sure my husband doesn’t even remember.” We think Kathy has certainly made a difference for the over 3,000 animals and owners who have reunited since 2010. Additionally, we applaud her role in companion animal advocacy. She said, “I feel that the killing of four million compan-

ion animals a year in America is wrong. The best chance for change is to educate the public about effective policies and programs that can stop the killing.” u

Do you know someone who is dedicated to helping others? Who loves to volunteer and does so often? If so, we would like to hear from you. Send us the name and age of the person you would like to have recognized (all ages welcome), as well as a brief paragraph about this person to: Wisconsin Woman Magazine, P.O. Box 230, Hartland, WI 53029 or email the information to us by placing “Volunteer Nomination” in the subject box and sending to us at editorial@twwmag.com.

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in fashion

Dressing for

Success

By Faye Wetzel

Hmmmmmm…these days, what does that mean? Pretty much in every industry, things have gotten more casual. But, I’m a firm believer in “dress for the job you want, not the job you have.”

Fashion the last few years has been very “separates-driven.” In the Day Of The Suit, things were simpler. fortunately, a good black suit can still be the core for a working wardrobe.

1) Have a new business presentation? Wear the suit, but spice it up with a colorful, pretty underpinning.

A leather jacket is this season’s Must Have! If you’re in a creative industry, a biker-inspired jacket is perfect. If your environment is more conservative, a leather blazer fits the bill. Our clothes say a great deal about who we are-they are an outward manifestation of our personality. Creativity in dressing gets noticed. And, if we “play” with our clothes, experimenting with different ways to wear them, I guarantee you will be more creative in other areas of your life. u •••• Wishing you success, personally and professionally. Yours in fashion, Faye Wetzel Owner, FAYE’S in Brookfield and Mequon www.fayes123.com P.S. BE LOYAL. SHOP LOCAL.

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2) The day’s agenda doesn’t include clients, but you have a brainstorming session with the boss? How about a dark wash pair of jeans, white shirt, and the suit jacket. A pair of colored pumps adds to the contemporary feel. 3) Casual Friday? Suit pants, tissue weight cashmere t-shirt and a jean jacket (the new blazer!). A sweater set is a good alternative to the jean jacket. The other secret ingredient to all of the above ensembles is accessorizing! You could virtually repeat the above ensembles in the same week and totally change the look with scarves and jewelry.

1) A statement collar necklace worn with a colorful underpinning adds personality. 2) A colored scarf tucked into the neckline of the white shirt transforms the look. 3) Ditch your big ol’ tote bag for a lady-like clutch on Casual Friday. You’re ready for that cocktail and Fish Fry after work! If being “on trend” is important to you, a fur (or faux) vest is a great wardrobe addition. A fur vest is the new cardigan! Consider wearing it over your suit jacket!

BE LOYAL. SHOP LOCAL. Galleria West in Brookfield East Towne Square in Mequon www.fayes123.com

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at home recipes

Halloween!

Every year the kid in me eagerly anticipates celebrating this festive autumn holiday. I enjoy conjuring up a ghostly good time for family and friends.

Spooky Smoothie Yield: 4 servings

3 cups Limited Edition TruMoo Lowfat Vanilla Milk, orange color 1 1/2 cups lowfat vanilla Greek yogurt 5 cups ice cubes 1/4 cup fat free whipped cream Candy corn for garnish, optional In blender, combine vanilla milk, yogurt and ice cubes. Blend on high speed until smooth and creamy. To serve, pour into serving glasses. Top with whipped cream and candy corn.

Monster Mash Mudslide Yield: 4 servings

4 cups TruMoo Lowfat Chocolate Milk 10 chocolate wafer cookies, coarsely broken 1/2 cup frozen non-dairy whipped topping, thawed 8 mini chocolate chips or mini chocolate candies (orange/brown color recommended) In blender, blend chocolate milk and chocolate wafer cookies until smooth. Heat mixture in saucepan or microwave until just heated through. To serve, pour chocolate milk mixture into 4 glasses. For each serving, spoon a large, upright dollop of whipped topping to resemble a ghost. Insert chocolate chips or chocolate candies into dollop for eyes. Note: To enjoy a cold mudslide, do not heat in saucepan or microwave.

Spiderweb Munch Makes 12 servings

2 cups (12-ounce package) Nestlé Toll House Semi-Sweet Chocolate Morsels 1 cup creamy peanut butter, divided 1/3 cup powdered sugar 3 cups toasted rice cereal HEAT morsels and 3/4 cup peanut butter in small, heavy-duty saucepan over low heat, stirring constantly until smooth; remove from heat. Add sugar; stir vigorously until smooth. PLACE cereal in large bowl. Add 1 cup melted chocolate mixture; stir until evenly coated. Place on ungreased baking sheet. Using small metal spatula, shape into 10-inch circle with slightly raised one-inch-wide border. Pour remaining chocolate mixture in center of circle; spread to border. FOR SPIDERWEB: PLACE remaining peanut butter in small, heavy-duty plastic bag. Cut tiny corner from bag; squeeze to pipe concentric circles on top of chocolate. Using wooden pick or tip of sharp knife, pull tip through peanut butter from center to border. Refrigerate for 30 minutes or until firm. Cut into wedges.

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at home crafts

5. Paint your design exactly as you would on any other surface; the only difference is the surface has texture. If you’re not confident, start by outlining the design before you start painting or using a stencil or template. Keep a damp cloth to hand wipe off any mistakes. Remember to paint “around the corners” not just on the bit of the pumpkin closest to you. Step away from it to get a distant view, and walk around to see what it looks like from the sides and back. Use painter's tape to paint straight lines, and give dimension. Allow paint to dry before removing the tape. 6.

When you’ve finished, consider adding another layer of sealer or varnish to protect your painted pumpkin. A spray-on varnish makes this final stage easy, Do it outside if possible.

After everything is dry, make a bow out of wired ribbon or other adornments and adhere to top of pumpkin. Attach a hook on the back of your pumpkin and hang it up for all to see. u

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your front door

Pin of the Month

Painted Pumpkins Supplies * Artificial foam or plastic pumpkins * Acrylic paints, multiple colors * Painter’s Tape * Foam brush * Spray-on sealer or varnish * Wired ribbon

1. Wash the pumpkins to remove any dirt or dust. Wipe with a dry cloth or paper towel, or leave to air dry. 2.

Painting on a layer of sealer or varnish is optional, though it will help the paint to stick. Any type of general purpose sealer or acrylic medium ought to be okay, but if in doubt do a small test on the bottom of your pumpkin first.

3. Using an electric knife or serrated knife , cut pumpkins in half from top to bottom. 4. Decide whether you want to use the natural color of your

pumpkin or whether you want to paint it all over with a color. Select a color that suits what you’re going to paint. Acrylic paints (whether craft or artist’s acrylics) work best. You could use permanent felt-tip marker instead of paint.

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Plan a Fall Day Trip or Extended Day Vacation to the

Spring Green

Area

Only a half hour drive west of Madison, the Spring Green area boasts attractions that measure up in beauty and originality to the countryside that surrounds it. Anchored by the original and inspirational Frank Lloyd Wright’s Taliesin and the fun and funky House on the Rock, the Spring Green area holds the prospect of experiences like none you’ve ever had before. Here are some of the must-see places and things to do (besides a little shopping) when visiting the Spring Green area.

Cave of the Mounds

National Natural Landmark: Discover Buried Treasure – Discover Fun. Guided tours daily. Open Year-Round. 608-437-3038

Cedar Grove Cheese, Inc.

Personalized tours enable visitors to learn the art and science of cheese making at this 100+ years old plant. Sample their “best of the show” Pleasant Ridge Reserve, as well as organic and specialty cheeses and fresh curds. 1-800-2006020, 608-546-5284 or mail@ cedargrovecheese.com

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Frank Lloyd Wright’s Taliesin

The 600-acre Taliesin Estate is home to five Frank Lloyd Wright-designed structures which offer an unparalleled opportunity to appreciate the breadth of the 70-year career of the father of modern architecture and his standing as one of the greatest architects of the 20th century. Tour the National Historic Landmark and Wright’s personal residence from 1911-1959. Visitors can also tour Wright’s fascinating Hillside Home School built for his aunts in 1902. It was at Hillside that Wright first “broke open the box” of conventional architectural design. Beginning in the

1930s, he revised and expanded the structure to accommodate his new school and community of architects and designers called the Taliesin Fellowship. Today the Fellowship operates the architectural firm and school in spaces Wright created for himself to enjoy, including three of his most magnificent rooms, the Hillside living room, the jewel-like theater and the dramatic 5,000 square-foot drafting studio. www.taliesinpreservation. org

The House on the Rock

It is a place of mystery and intrigue - a place where one person’s imagination and dreams have become reality.

608-935-3639 or information@thehouseontherock.com

Upcoming Events in Spring Green area

Fall Art Tour October 18 - 20

The Fall Art Tour combines spectacular fall color with visits to artists’ studios tucked away along the scenic byways of Southwestern Wisconsin. Dozens of the area’s best-known artists will open their doors and demonstrate their techniques. www.fallartour.com u

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at home decor

Storage Solutions for All Size Kitchens

How can all the cookware, tableware, food, and other kitchen accessories be stored, yet also organized and accessible? “‘Invisible’ is a word that comes to mind,” said Designer Jill Ross, AKBD, CKBR, of AB&K Bath and Kitchen in Greenfield. “A critical goal in remodeling is to make the space do double duty.” To make that happen, Milwaukee/NARI members offered ideas for maximizing space and accessibility in nine areas of the kitchen.

Base Cabinets.

Ross knows many ways to maximize not only the space, but also the convenience of base cabinets in kitchens. “Full extension, soft close large drawers are my favorite base storage,” she said. Tiered storage is available, as well as dividers for effectively storing pots and pans. She

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also recommends dish storage with adjustable pegs to hold dishes in place, utensil dividers, bread box drawers, spice and bottle pullouts, and base pullouts with baskets.

Wall Cabinets.

Many traditional kitchens feature dead space by the ceiling, often used for

knick-knacks and faux plants. “Maximize space by installing cabinets to the ceiling,” said Kim Temkin-Taylor of Mequon’s Temkin-Taylor Design.

Corners.

According to Temkin-Taylor, swivel shelf pullouts will maximize corner space. Ross said,

“No more bending low or crawling on your hands and knees to find items in corner base cabinets. Corner drawer units, rotating trays fixed on shelves without a center pole, and wire shelves that pull out of the corner with ease are all good options.”

2012 Wisconsin Remodeler of the Year Gold Award from AB&K Bath & Kitchen in the $80,000 - $120,000 category.

Appliances. Tem-

kin-Taylor recommends using under counter space for some appliances. “A microwave drawer, second oven, or refrigerator unit can be installed under cabinets or in kitchen islands.” Ross added that beverage refrigerators, freezer drawers, and dishwasher drawers are becoming more popular under the counter. “Appliances are more convenient to use if they are close to countertop height. If space is available, it’s good to hide appliances and provide appliance centers.”

Under the Sink.

Racks or shelves mounted on the doors will hold bottles and cleaning supplies in sink base cabinets. A rollout tray

mounted on the floor also allows for easy access to the items in the back, according to Ross. “Shelving around plumbing pipes, tilt-down bins, and pullout towel racks are popular,” she said. A good place for a tilt-down bin holding sponges and scrub brushes is the often “fake” top drawer by the sink.

said, “Use open shelving, a floating shelf, or a recessed niche around the cooktop area to keep cooking oils and spices.” She added that bars can be installed in the backsplash area to hang utensils and magnetic strips can be installed to hang knives.

Food Storage. Ross

Seating. Instead of

Backsplash Wall Space. Temkin-Taylor

Message Center.

6. 8.

said it’s ideal to have a tall pantry or large drawers with divided storage for food items. “Spices need to be organized and easy to find and reach,” she said. “Tiered dividers in drawers, shelves on doors, or adjustable pullout wall cabinets are most popular for spice storage.”

the traditional dining room table and chairs set, homeowners can choose a seating option that creates more storage. Ross said, “Bench style seating with a lift-hinged seat or large pullout drawer below the seat can create some great storage.”

Both Temkin-Taylor and Ross have seen “message centers” rising in popularity as a way to keep kitchen areas neat and organized. “Message centers provide drop space for paperwork and outlets for charging stations for electronics,” Ross explained. Temkin-Taylor suggested, “Create a cabinet that serves as a family communication or message center. This can include a calendar, cork or chalk board, space for mail for each family member, and a charging area.” u

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his perspective

It’s a Dad, Dad, Dad, Dad World! By Grant A. Johnson

As the father of four kids, three girls and one boy, I have seen a lot of, how should I say, interesting things. Let’s take a look at “dating,” for instance. I vividly recall my son coming home from a 6th grade dance and he was much more animated than usual. He burst in the door, and almost screaming, he bemoaned “Mom, Dad, you won’t believe it? I have a girlfriend now.” “Who is it?” we inquired. “It’s Janey (name changed), he shouted. “That’s great,” we replied. “No. It’s not. I don’t even like her and now I’m going out with her.” Huh? “Well how did that happen,” we asked? “She asked me to dance with her, and I said yes. Then as we were dancing she asked if we could go out with each other. I didn’t want to hurt her feelings, so I said yes. Now I am in a bind and don’t know what to do.”

On another occasion, I was lying in bed and just before midnight our home phone rang (yes, we still do have a land line). It was one of my daughter’s “boyfriends” calling her to talk. After hearing who it was, I hung up. And you thought only girls were dramatic, didn’t you? The worst part was how he broke up with her a month or so later. He had one of his friends yell across the playground that he no longer wanted to “go out with her.” On another occasion, I was lying in bed and just before midnight our home phone rang (yes, we still do have a land line). It was one of my daughter’s “boyfriends” calling her to talk. After hearing who it was, I hung up. The next day I told my daughter that calling that late was not part of the dating equation and she should tell her boyfriend such. She was insulted and refused to bring it up. 26 | WISCONSIN WOMAN October 2013

However, here’s the odd thing about kids and dating – especially with the younger ages – it does not really seem to mean anything, and it certainly does not mean dating like when I was young. Like a good dad, I took matters into my own hands. A few days later, I saw the lad and pulled him aside. “Johnny (name changed) I really like you and am glad you call my daughter, but please DO NOT EVER call my house after 10:00 PM unless it’s an emergency, is that understood?” The kid looked horrified and I think he ran into the bathroom to clean himself up. Of course, my daughter did not talk to me for over a week. My kids still remind me of those two traumatic events from their younger years and now mostly laugh at my actions. That’s okay, as it makes for fun fodder when we all get together. However, here’s the odd thing about kids and dating – especially with the younger ages – it does not really seem to mean anything, and it certainly does not mean dating like when I was young. When “dating,” they rarely visit each other. They do not go to movies or out to eat or on “dates,” yet they say they are going out with each other. Am I the only one who finds this weird and strange? I really do look forward to the day when all my kids are really dating someone. Until then, I guess I’ll have to continue to play along. u •••• Grant A. Johnson is the founder and CEO of Brookfield-based Johnson Direct, a full service, measurable marketing firm. He has four children from 14 to 21 and has been married to his wife, Maria, for over 23 years.

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Independence is very important to mom. Knowing there’s support for her if she needs it is important to me. Laureate Group offers exactly what we both want… • All Private Apartments - Choose from studio, one and two bedroom apartments • Different meal plans available featuring home-style meals, cooked on site • A full calendar of life enrichment and social activities every month • Scheduled transportation for shopping and other outings • Many on-site amenities If mom’s health changes, her address doesn’t. Laureate Group Communities offer… • A full-time RN on staff, and nurses on call 24/7 • An individualized service plan to assist with personal care and medication management • Access to our Medical Director who provides primary care services on-site • 24 hour awake staff for emergency response Whether you are seeking Independent or Assisted Living, Laureate Group is an excellent value. There are NO ENDOWMENT FEES to deplete life-long savings. Laureate Group, is a local and family owned provider serving older adults for over 40 years. There is a Laureate Group Senior Community in your area.

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DON’T BE A TARGET

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Protect yourself and your loved ones from scam artists

By Eric Christensen

Scam artists are smart, capable criminals. They target the elderly because that age group possesses a combination of characteristics that make them ideal victims. The best way to avoid scams is to be on the lookout for them. A little education can go a long way toward keeping yourself and your loved ones safe. According to the FBI, today’s seniors were “generally raised to be polite and trusting.” According to Sharane Gott, president and CEO of the Better Business

Bureau of Acadiana in Lafayette, La., the elderly “have more time. They are lonely, and they just want someone to talk to.” Accordingly, the elderly are more willing to talk to telemarketers or to respond to fraudulent emails. Both Gott and the FBI agree that the pride of the elderly and their desire not to be seen as incompetent by family members often prevent them from reporting fraud. And even if they do report the crime, the elderly are not always precise and accurate witnesses. Scam artists rely on this combination of traits to get away with fraud -- and their money. “Traditionally,” Gott says, “people target the el-

derly because that’s where the money is.” According to the FBI, the elderly make attractive targets because they are the “most likely to have a ‘nest egg,’ to own their own home, and/or to have excellent credit.” Typically, these scams seek access to seniors’ bank accounts or credit cards. Common scams include telemarketers calling with a rushed “limited-time” offer of vacations, vitamins or prizes. Scam artists will stress the free nature of the product while also asking seniors to pay only small fees. Gott has seen reports of a new scam in which a target is told, “Someone in their family has provided a free Medic Alert bracelet. They just have to pay a

small monthly service fee by credit card.” Both Gott and the FBI note that a common aspect of scams is that payment will be required before a target ever receives a good or service -- the reverse of legitimate transactions. “But now,” Gott says, “the scam artists -- I like to call them crooks -- are asking for personal information in order to commit identity theft.” These new scams seek out a target’s insurance or Medicare information in order to make fraudulent claims. “Someone will call,” Gott says, “and claim to be from a government agency. They will offer a medical device to the victim for free, so long as they protargeted continued on page 30

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vide their Medicare number, some personal information and pay a small fee. Number one, that’s not really free, and number two, a government agency would already have that information.” The FBI reports that scam artists will often offer fake tests at nursing or retirement homes to collect Medicare information. And as baby boomers enter retirement, scam artists are adjusting their targets accordingly. Although many might think the boomers’ increased familiarity with the Internet would protect them from scams, the FBI reports that increased use of the Internet tends to correlate with increased risk. With the recent economic downturn, scam artists have targeted the crucial pieces of boomers’ retirement plans: investments and their homes. Investment schemes include paying fees for investment advice, pyramid schemes and other financial fraud. Perhaps the most common scheme targeting homes is a reverse mortgage scam, also known as home-equity conversion mortgages. Other scams include “mortgage audits,” in which a scam artist will claim they will save you thousands by finding a cheaper mortgage, but only after you pay a fee, of course. Education is the best way to avoid becoming a victim of scam artists. Scam artists operate in the shadows. A little knowledge shines light on their crimes. Reading articles like this can cause alarm bells to ring the next time a telemarketer calls. But what about your elderly loved ones? How can you protect them? Gott cites advice she once read in an Ann Landers column: “Tell them about the story you read, or cut out the story and share it with them. Say that you share it with all your friends, not just them. You want to protect their pride and let them save face.” u

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Betty Arndt to be honored at TEMPO luncheon

TEMPO Waukesha, a nonprofit organization for executive and professional women who live or work in Waukesha County, will honor Betty Arndt, Town of Ottawa resident, at their October 25 luncheon. Betty Arndt is the retired Vice President of Global Communications for Johnson Controls. Betty was co-founder of the Women’s Resource Network while at Johnson Controls and was the recipient of the company’s “Chairman’s Award,” as well as the company’s “Leadership Award of Distinction.” A longtime community volunteer in both Milwaukee and Waukesha counties, Betty resides in the Town of Ottawa with her husband, Thomas. While Betty is pleased with her many professional accomplishments, she is most proud of mentoring numerous women and men throughout their careers and her community service. Celebrating Women Leaders has become Tempo Waukesha’s premier event, drawing approximately 300 professional women and men in the Greater Waukesha community. The luncheon will also feature a dynamic keynote address featuring Jean Jonas, Senior Vice President of Sales of The Pampered Chef. The event will be held Friday, October 25, 2013, 11:30 a.m. 1:30 p.m. at the Milwaukee Marriott West , W231N1600 Corporate Court, Pewaukee. For more information and for tickets visit www.tempowaukesha.com or Peggy Stoop at 262-792-7123.

Women & Aging: The Impact of Dementia

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Helicopter Parenting: How to Stop Hovering, So Your Child Soars

By Kim Seidel

No doubt, it’s scary being a parent in today’s high-tech, competitive and often violent world. “We hear stories of abductions and kids getting harmed physically and sexually,” says psychotherapist Mari Jo Rapini. “We feel a need to protect our children.” Long gone are the carefree days like when Rapini grew up in a small town in Wisconsin, prior to cell phones, the Internet and the idea that something catastrophic could happen to her if she was off her parents’ radar screen. There was no feeling that if she wasn’t constantly busy with piano or soccer, she would fall behind. “My parents saw their role as providing a secure home life, plenty of sleep, good food and help with

homework,” Rapini says. Although times have changed, many parents go too far to protect their children, and in the end, unintentionally harm their kids. Called “helicopter parents,” or “overprotective parents,” they are always there hovering around their kids. According to research, parents most likely to hover are moms and dads of “millennials,” children of baby boomers, born between the early 1980s and 2000. “Par-

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ents talk to their children every day via texts, emails, Facebook and websites,” Rapini says. “Even when the child goes to college, mom and dad are still instrumental in guiding their courses, career and social life. The kids cannot escape and what’s more many of them don’t want to.” On the upside, studies show that when parents are involved in a child’s activities, they do better. However, there’s a fine line be-

tween involvement and over-involvement. “Being there as a guide to support your child may be helpful, but if your guidance becomes you telling your child what to do and how to think and respond, your child begins feeling incompetent to handle the situations they are involved with,” Rapini says. “Soon, your child can’t make a decision without asking mom or dad.”

“Being there as a guide to support your child may be helpful, but if your guidance becomes you telling your child what to do and how to think and respond, your child begins feeling incompetent to handle the situations they are involved with,” Rapini says.

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- Rather than solve a problem for your child, guide him to think through their problem to find their own solution. Ask your child questions such as, “What do you think would improve this situation?” Help your child learn to problem solve, and to consider what he or she may be doing to contribute to a problem, Steinorth says. This teaches insight, accountability and responsibility.

ter parents believe they’re helping their children, but The No. 1 clue that you they’re actually hurting are a helicopter parent is them in many ways. For starters, children of that you help your child bethese moms and dads aren’t fore he or she actually needs able to develop a valuable it, says psychotherapist life skill – resilience – which Christina Steinorth. “It enables them to learn to starts with good intenbounce back after life’s distions,” she says. “Of course, appointments. With helino parent wants to see his or copter parents to protect her child suffer an emotionthem, these children aren’t al hurt or fail at something. given the opportunity to Yet as time goes on, these make mistakes and learn parents jump in before their from them. “The truth is child needs the help.” A second clue that you that you won’t be able to are a helicopter parent is protect your children from that your children are the everything for the rest of entire focus of your life. their lives,” Steinorth says. “They dominate every conversation and thought you By hanging on too have. When they’re not with you, you are wondering if tightly, Rapini they’re okay and if there’s says, your child something more you can do may begin to deto help them,” says Steinorth, author of “Cue velop these negaCards for Life: Thoughtful tive behaviors: Tips for Better Relationships” (2013, Hunter House -Less confidence in Inc. Publishers). their own ability to take If you go to great lengths care of themselves in situto ensure your children are ations at school or play; “perfect,” you may be a helicopter parent. “You make -More fearful and withsure they have perfect drawn from novel activigrades, perfect friends, perties; fect social interactions and perfect hobbies,” Steinorth - More anxieties and says. school phobias; Still another sign is that you discourage your child’s - Less interested in independence. If he or she things, unless their partells you about a hobby they ents take an interest. would like to try, for example, you say something to the effect, “I know what’s Solutions to stop best for you.” hovering “In my experience, parIf you’re a helicopter ents tend to helicopter in all parent, don’t despair. There places of a child’s life – are ways to stop hovering school, sports, other activi- and to replace over-protecties, friends and in later life, tive behaviors with healthijobs and romantic relation- er ways to help your child ships,” Steinorth says. now and in their future. “There really seems to be no end.” Helicopter parents hurt not help. It’s ironic that helicop-

Are You a Helicopter Parent?

- Enjoy your life and other relationships. “It’s good for your child to see that you have your own life,” Steinorth says. “You’re modeling independent living skills.”

- Make mistakes a good thing for your child to experience. “Kids who grow up anticipating mistakes take more risks, are less fearful and feel more confident about themselves,” Rapini says.

4 - When your child is small, allow her freedom to explore, climb and be independent in a safe environment. Find parks and others places that provide security from traffic and other dangers, while still offering a fun atmosphere. “When a child tries something new, it is clear that they look at the new adventure and look back at you,” Rapini says. “If they see a loving parent who embraces the new, while having confidence in them to master it, they will be empowered to soar.” u •••• Kim Seidel is a writer and mother of two daughters in Wisconsin. For more relationship tips, visit www.maryjorapini.com.

The No. 1 clue that you are a helicopter parent is that you help your child before he or she actually needs it, says psychotherapist Christina Steinorth. “It starts with good intentions,” she says. “Of course, no parent wants to see his or her child suffer an emotional hurt or fail at something. Yet as time goes on, these parents jump in before their child needs the help.” October 2013 WISCONSIN WOMAN | 33

Fences &

Leashes

Save Lives

For many of the same reasons you wouldn’t let your 3-year-old toddle off to daycare alone, it’s also not a good idea to let your pooch roam the streets off-leash. Cars, dognappers, Animal Control... Unless you live on a large plat in Montana, your pup will undoubtedly benefit from a leash or a fence when cavorting in the great outdoors. “Off-leash” has become a common and questionable addition to the dog-owner’s vernacular. Off-leash parks, off-leash trails, off-leash beaches, off-leash walks... Why do I find “off-leash” so off-putting?

In short, it’s dangerous.

I once had a client express concern about a woman who frequently walked her dog in his neighborhood. This woman would drape the leash around her neck, and her dog would walk -- off-leash -- beside her. The dog was a large mixed breed, and my client had a dachshund with a bad habit of barking at the big guys. The problem was that my client wasn’t convinced this woman had any control over her very powerful dog. According to him, she would frantically try to hook the leash to its collar when she saw other dogs or people approaching. Even after she got her dog “on-leash,” the big guy would pull and lurch, all but dragging her along in his dust -- a canine disaster waiting to happen.

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Question: Where do these potential disasters play out most often?

Answer:

Wherever dogs gather ... off-leash.

The best thing you can do for your pooch is be in control of his immediate environment. This means a leash or a fence when he isn’t inside. Again, those fences. A fenced backyard is a great place for an off-leash romp. An unfenced or improperly fenced backyard, though?

Here’s a story that’ll break your heart.

“Our dog was hit by a car on Saturday, and I am overwhelmed with grief from the loss of her. I loved that dog so much. “We recently bought a home and moved into it in early June. There is a hill in our backyard, and we were concerned that Lucy could jump the fence. We planned to have a new fence built, but after “testing” Lucy, we didn’t think she would jump it. “On the 4th of July, we left the house, not even thinking about the

fireworks. On the way home, we saw the fireworks and I panicked, wondering whether Lucy was scared. She was gone when we got home, but thank God someone had found her and picked her up and called us. She said she almost hit her. “My husband stayed home from work the next day to be with her, and he boarded up the part of the fence that was the lowest. We went to the movies that night, and she was still there when we got home. We went to the beach during the day on Saturday, and she was still there when we got home. So we left again Saturday to go out. “All night I had my cellphone out, waiting for a call that someone had picked her up. I made note of when it got dark at 8 p.m. and everything seemed fine. Then, I got a call at 10:30. Our beloved little Lucy had been hit by a car. “Now, all I can do is cry all day and all night. It should be a joyous time because we bought our new house, but I hate that house now. All I can see is Lucy. When I look in the backyard, I bawl. She really loved her new backyard. I am so overwhelmed with guilt. I keep saying, why did we leave? Why didn’t we leave her in the house or even in her crate? I am so miserable. I feel so lost, so empty and so guilty. She was just the best dog.” Such a sad story. Such an unnecessary loss. I wish there was something I could say to make this woman feel better. Please take it to heart. Build the new fence or fix the old one. And keep your dog on-leash when out and about. u

Woof! Dog trainer Matthew “Uncle Matty” Margolis is co-author of 18 books about dogs, a behaviorist, a popular radio and television guest, and host of the PBS series “WOOF! It’s a Dog’s Life!”

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Where is a farmers market?

Downtown Waukesha near the Riverwalk, Saturday, 8 a.m. – 12 p.m.

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Where to go that’s not too scary for Halloween? Little Monster Bash

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Vol. 14 No. 8 | August 2013 | Complimentary

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A Sister’s Legacy

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Jerry and Marie Arenas work toward a cure

August 2013 Vol 26 No. 8

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The Disease that Whispers

the WRIGHT SIDE of By Enis Wright

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Dickens’ classic masterpiece celebrates its 38th year at Milwaukee Rep! Creators: Charles Dickens, Joseph Hanreddy, and director Edward Morgan.

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Groucho: A Life in Revue Next Act Theatre November 14 – December 8

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A Christmas Carol November 27 – December 24 Pabst Theater Nineteenth century London comes to life when you and your family join Tiny Tim, Bob

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