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Vol. 14 No. 9 | September 2013 | Complimentary

The Disease that Whispers A Sister’s Legacy

Shape Up! Stay in shape without a gym

Are you Sandwiched?

Taking Care of Mom and Dad with Kids

plus Fall Fashion & Organizational Tips

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Sue Ann Says…

Don’t Take Your Oral Health For Granted! forget to eat nutritious foods while pregnant such as cheese, yogurt and milk. This will help your baby have strong teeth and bones.

Menopause and Your Oral Health

Many women believe that their smile is their best asset. I love to laugh and smile with my family and friends, but I realize that having a white smile is not enough! Our ability to eat nutritious foods and obtain vital nutrients depends upon having healthy teeth. Without intervention, dental disease can have unexpected and expensive consequences for women.

I want you to be conscientious about your oral health. Let’s take a look at some of these issues that can occur at various stages of your life.

Oral Health and Pregnancy

Due to changes in your body during pregnancy, the amount of estrogen and progesterone increases in your body. These levels of hormones affect your oral tissues, especially if you have plaque. Excessive plaque causes “pregnancy gingivitis” which needs to be treated by a dentist. Gingivitis symptoms typically include swollen, tender and bleeding gums. If you leave gingivitis untreated your chances of getting periodontal disease escalates.

While you are pregnant, commit to taking special care of your teeth.

Clean along your gum line with toothpaste after each meal, and floss! Your dentist can help control the plaque.

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We need to be even more dedicated to maintaining our oral health as we age. Menopause can be the source of several unfavorable dental problems.

With our estrogen levels on the decline, our jaw bone density can decrease. Once we have problems with the jaw bone density, tooth loss is common. Tooth loss leads to complications with chewing and nutritional deficiencies, therefore our health is compromised.

Another menopausal condition we can suffer from is dry mouth. Without saliva to neutralize acids and help fight plaque, gum infections may be common. Dry mouth can also be due to medications that you are prescribed for other health conditions.

Diseases Linked to Poor Oral Hygiene

Ignoring your dental health does not just cause a yellow smile. Researchers are completing studies to determine if there is a correlation between oral bacteria and heart disease.

If you have infected pockets in your gums, the pockets allow bacteria to reach your blood stream. Bacteria release toxins and these toxins could damage your blood vessels. Your body’s response to toxins is for your immune system to kick into attack mode which causes inflammation. It may be possible for this inflammation to cause a heart attack or stroke.

Bleeding gums and tooth loss have been linked to other diseases such as high cholesterol, diabetes and high blood pressure.

Nora Miller provided the following information from the American Dental Hygienists’ Association. Research studies have found a link between periodontal (gum) disease and diabetes. Symptoms of the disease often appear in the mouth, while almost one-third of people with diabetes have

severe periodontal disease. This is believed to be a result of the diabetic patient’s greater susceptibility to developing infections. Conversely, severe periodontal disease may increase the risk of developing diabetes, and may make it more difficult to manage blood sugar levels.

Oral Health Issues Due to Smoking and Alcohol

The numerous chemicals in cigarettes affect your mouth tissue. Problems linked to smoking include tooth discoloration, oral cancer, bad breath, and the possibility of implants failing.

If you smoke and ignore your dental hygiene, plaque builds up on your teeth. This is a perfect place for tar to attach to your teeth and gums. The cancer causing agents adhere themselves to these areas leaving your tongue, mouth, gums, pharynx and esophagus possible targets of oral cancer.

Drinking alcohol has a direct impact on your gums and increases periodontal disease. Drinking alcoholic beverages frequently increases the chances of oral cancer, especially on the gums, roof of the mouth or on the tongue. If you do smoke or drink alcohol, you should schedule dental checkups every six months so that your dentist can identify changes in your mouth or jaw.

Take Time For Your Teeth!

My advice to you is to brush your teeth twice a day, floss and schedule your dental appointments. This small fraction of time out of your day is essential to your physical wellness.

Because it all begins with a healthy woman…

Sue Ann Thompson is founder and president of the Wisconsin Women’s Health Foundation (WWHF), a statewide non-profit organization whose mission is to help Wisconsin women and their families reach their healthiest potential. WWHF provides programs and conducts forums that focus on education, prevention, and early detection; connects individuals to health resources; produces and distributes the most up-todate health education and resource materials; and, awards grants and scholarships to women health researchers and related community non-profits. To learn more,

career story

finding

Balance strong Women Building By susan marshall

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We hear the complaint all the time; maybe it’s one you recite: I need more work/life balance! This is a perennial topic of concern for women and a growing number of men as well.

This got me thinking seriously about what work/life balance actually is. My guess is that if you asked ten people you would get ten different answers.

The notion of balance also made me think of the times we get thrown off balance by an unexpected event, a random remark or even a happy surprise. What does balance mean?

Balance, as defined by Webster’s Dictionary (still a faithful source, despite the popularity of Wikipedia), is a state of equilibrium or equipoise. This, by the way, is the fourth of thirteen definitions for the same word. Other definitions refer to weights, a system for measuring, bodily stability and harmony of elements in a work of art.

What does work/life balance mean? It means what you need it to mean. It is subjective, changeable and personal. Generally speaking, work/life balance refers to the amount of time required to fulfill job duties and the amount of time necessary to enjoy life.

Is doing laundry work or life? How about dishes? Yard work? Changing diapers? Cooking? Working out? You can quickly see the challenge in trying to define work/life balance! According to whose definition and schedule?

Finding balance is all about learning your personal rhythms. At what time of day are you physically strongest? When are you sharpest, mentally? Are there certain times during the day when you feel more serene than others? At what times do you need to take a break?

Finding balance is also about determining your personal preferences. What makes you happy? Do you appreciate a variable schedule of activity, or are you someone who likes a consistent schedule and predictable activity?

Does going with the flow at work and at home give you a sense of being fully present, or does it make you crazy? Do you like to interact with lots of people, or are you happiest when left alone?

The mistake many of us make in trying to find balance is looking to others to define it for us. We torture ourselves watching other women move through their days with incredible energy, joy and poise while we stum-

ble and fumble our way through ours. We see other women leaving work early and want the same flexibility. When others have the option of working at home, we want the same option.

Here’s a news flash: Those incredibly poised women who leave work early and sometimes work at home may feel like they’re floundering, too! It’s all relative, and personal.

Stop comparing yourself to someone else. Take some quiet time to decide how you want your life to be, and then have the courage to structure it that way. You know what you need to accomplish on the job, so organize yourself to work effectively according to your most productive times.

(If you don’t know what is expected of you at work, schedule a frank conversation with your boss.)

As for the notion of being thrown off balance by unexpected events or remarks, this goes to the heart of your personal equilibrium. We live in a time of heightened emotion, unexpected events and full-throated opinion. Have you noticed there’s a whole lot of screaming going on? This is not helpful when a person is seeking balance. What throws you off balance and what can you do about it?

Again, the solution is knowing yourself. What are your everyday expectations about life? What is important to you? What do you want and what are you willing to do to get it?

Balance is equilibrium or equipoise. I love that word, equipoise. It conjures up a picture of grace, flexibility, humor and quiet strength. It conjures up a picture of the best you.

Give some thought to your best you. Forget about what other women want or what the experts say you should have. Figure out and honor your strengths and vulnerabilities. Find your balance and protect it. You’ll love your life and who knows? Maybe you’ll inspire someone else to love hers. u

•••• Susan Marshall is an author and speaker whose book, “How to Grow a Backbone: 10 Strategies for Gaining Power and Influence at Work,” has been translated into multiple languages and is especially popular in Asia. Her work is dedicated to building strong leaders who create successful organizations, transform school systems, and develop leaders at all levels.

You can reach her at (262) 567-5983 or execadvise@mac.com.

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finance

Debt Pay Down or Save for Retirement? :

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By Rusty Coyle

There are a variety of approaches to paying off your debt, many of which help to save money and shorten the length of debt payments in the long run. Paying off your debt early can also set you up for a more secure future.

By that same token, so can saving for retirement. It’s a conundrum many people face, especially later in life, as they tally amounts owed on houses, cars and other larger purchases. While there is no one way that works for everyone, taking the following into consideration may help lead you to the most financially wise decision.

Take a step back. Evaluate your cash flow situation before deciding if you’re going to pay, save or allocate how much money where. Itemize how much you spend on average to find out what you have coming in versus what you have going out. Develop and rework your budget based on your current expenditures. The truth is you may need to change your spending habits. Create a polished spending plan that will help you pay more than minimum payments on debt.

Evaluate your interest rates. Take a look at the interest rates on your debts to see what you could be saving by paying it all off. For example, a 15 percent interest

rate on your $10,000 credit card adds up fast. By eliminating those interest payments, you’re essentially getting a 15 percent return on your money. To make investing a smarter choice than paying off that debt means your after-tax return would need to be greater than 15 percent. In this case, paying it off is often the smarter approach.

Take employer matching into account. Say your employer matches 100 percent of your contribution up to four percent of your salary. This means you’re earning a 100 percent return on that portion of your retirement account contributions. Saving at least enough to get an employer match for your contributions may make more sense than focusing on debt. And by contributing pretax dollars to your plan account, you’re deferring anywhere from 10 to 39.6 percent in taxes depending on your federal tax rate.

Consider a two-pronged approach. It doesn’t have to be all or nothing when it comes to deciding whether to pay off debt or save for retirement. You may be able to direct some of your available resources to paying off some debt while putting the rest in your retirement account. Look into cutting your interest payments by refinancing that debt. For example, you may be able to consolidate multiple credit card payments by rolling them over to a new credit card or debt consolidation loan that has a lower interest rate.

You have a lot of options and strategies that can help eliminate your current debt and bolster your future security. It’s vital you understand where you are now in your retirement savings goals and just how much you owe. And whether you decide to save or pay off your debt or both, the most important thing is to take action now. The more quickly you identify a plan, the sooner you’ll make progress towards financial stability. u •••• This article is meant to be general in nature and should not be construed as investment or financial advice related to your personal situation.

Please consult your financial advisor prior to making financial decisions. Rusty Coyle is a Financial Advisor with Waddell & Reed and can be reached at (262) 544-1446 or www.rustycoyle. wrfa.com. Waddell & Reed, Inc. Member SIPC

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Take Charge of

your

career Whether you want to advance your career or make the change to a new career, it’s up to you to make it happen.

Determine Your Career Goals Think about what you really want to do with your career - and be specific. Ask yourself some questions: u What are the things that interest you most? u What motivates you? u In what kind of work environment do you thrive? u What kinds of jobs fit these criteria?

according to the Bureau of Labor Statistics, yet many companies are finding it difficult to fill those positions. A common reason given for this is that employers can’t find qualified people with the appropriate skills.

"Take a self assessment u Start by writing down the skills, knowledge and qualifications you currently have.

If you're not sure, it can be helpful to take a personal assessment.

Doing so can help you uncover your passions and preferences. It can help you identify strengths and can help you make an informed decision about your career.

u Next, research the types of jobs you want, and write down the qualifications needed.

Identify Skills Gaps

If you have a skills gap in one area, such as knowledge of current computer software, you can take a single course or seminar to catch up.

There are more than three million job openings in this country,

u Compare the two lists, and take notes on the skills you're currently missing.

Bridge the Gaps

But for many, getting or finishing a college degree is the key to making a positive career change.

Online coursework is one way that many adults are achieving their goals while holding down a job and/or raising a family. When investigating educational opportunities, look into your online options to help

you maximize your time and pursue the degree plan that best fits your needs.

With a good plan and clear goals in place, you can make yourself more marketable and put yourself on the path to a more fulfilling and rewarding career.

Photo courtesy of Getty Images u

Top Skills YOU Need According to research by Apollo Group, successful workers in the 21st century need certain skills. Here is what employers are looking for- and how you can get them through education: u Leadership- Being a great employee is different than being a great leader. Look for coursework that emphasizes leadership skills and enables you to lead teams. u Critical thinking- Take coursework that offers an opportunity to engage in self-directed, project-based and applied learning. u communication- Learn in an environment that requires participation in many modes of communication.. u collaboration- Choose courses that are collaborative and also measure success by team results.

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Ovarian Cancer Month

cover story

legacy

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Sister’s

moves the silent killer

disease to one that whispers

By Judith Berger

The McManaman sisters: Sandi, Kelli and Joan grew up in Milwaukee, married, had children and careers. They were as close as sisters could be, but sometimes family dynamics don’t change. No matter how old the girls were, ‘Joanie,’ as Sandi calls her, was the baby. In October 1999, Sandi and Kelli’s baby sister was diagnosed with Stage 3 ovarian cancer. Joan was 48 years old. “I had never heard of ovarian cancer before Joanie was diagnosed,” Sandi said.

On May 1, 2000, the three sisters -- Sandi Wagner, Kelli Zembruski and Joan Sagan sat at a kitchen table and decided they would do something to build awareness about a cancer that grows so quickly, with so little warning, that it is been called the “silent killer.” They started the Wisconsin Ovarian Cancer Alliance.

The first thing the women learned was there were no organizations in the state that solely focused on ovarian cancer. “There is a small group in Green Bay, but other than that, we pretty much cover the state,” Wagner said. Since its inception, Wagner, WOCA executive director, and Zembruski, WOCA president, have traveled Wisconsin raising awareness of the disease their baby sister was trying gallantly to fight. “She participated in a lot of trials in the hopes that something could be learned to help others in the future,” Wagner said.

There is a reason ovarian cancer is called the ‘silent killer.’ The symptoms are subtle, and they mirror the symptoms of other diseases. There is no

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test for it, causing it to often be misdiagnosed.

There are 21,000 women diagnosed every year.

The cancer is fast growing and the survival rate is low. “If diagnosed early, patients have a 95 percent survival rate,” Zembruski said. The problem is catching it early. Every year, 15,000 women die from ovarian cancer.

In the scope of women dying of heart disease every year, 15,000 is a small number. But how many have to die before a movement rises to ebb the tide?

Wagner and Zembruski are now retired – so to speak. Wagner worked for Ameritech for 32 years.

Zembruski spent 17 years at Quad Graphics. Sagan was an oncology nurse at Sinai Hospital, but having a medical background didn’t help her catch the disease early. “She wasn’t symptomatic,” Wagner said.

“Joanie was experiencing pain in her leg and the doctor thought it was a ligament problem and put her in a boot,” Wagner said. The two sisters

Ovarian Cancer Month

Teal blue is the dedicated color for the fight against ovarian cancer.

September is Ovarian Cancer Awareness Month.

The symptoms of ovarian cancer are subtle, so listen to your body and advocate for yourself.

were at a sign-up event for the Susan G. Komen Race for the Cure when both legs started to give Sagan pain. “Later at home, she felt a mass in her pelvic area. Joan had been misdiagnosed.”

The mother of the McManaman girls may have been misdiagnosed as well. “Our mother died of ovari-

See a doctor if you experience any of these symptoms: + Persistent bloating

+ Pelvic or abdominal pain + Difficulty eating or feeling full quickly upon eating + Urinary irregularities, such as an urge to eliminate

an cancer,” Wagner said. “But at the time, they told us that her cause of death was peritonitis.”

As one sister focused her efforts on treatment and trials, the other two began to raise money and awareness. “Initially, we

worked out of our home and had a P.O. Box.” Wagner said. “But having an office gave us legitimacy.” Three years ago, the Wisconsin Ovarian Cancer Alliance moved to its current location at 138th and National Avenue in New Berlin.

The Wisconsin Ovarian Cancer Alliance Team is made up of Jamie Schmidt, Jan McNally, Sandi Wagner, Kelli Zembruski and Ashley Wagner.

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Ovarian Cancer Month

101 Survivors: These women are survivors who attended the ovarian cancer brunch hosted by the Wisconsin Ovarian Cancer Alliance.

The Wisconsin Ovarian Cancer Alliance has grown The organization has been raising funds through various events, such as the annual run at Cool Waters in from a kitchen table resolve to a $150,000 organization Greenfield Park. This year’s run is Saturday, September with a board of directors consisting of 11 women – some 21. “We have another run in Fitchburg on September who are survivors. The founding sisters started drawing 22,” Wagner said. The organization also holds a ‘Comedy a minimal hourly salary about 18 months ago. “This for a Cause.’ “This was Joan’s idea,” Zembruski said. takes a lot of our private and personal time,” Zembruski “Joan loved to laugh and loved to make us laugh – it was said. The lion’s share of money raised goes to awareness and funding research, a natural fit.” The as the research event has been held “People think of ovarian cancer as an such being done by Dr. at Comedy Sportz every year. “It was our older women’s disease,” Wagner said. “We Manish Patankar at the University of first fundraiser. Dick Wisconsin. “One of Chudow has been see women of all ages with this cancer. the things he is workwith us since the beWe know a 16-year-old girl who was ing on is developing a ginning,” she said of test for early detecthe club owner. diagnosed when she was 13. There were tion,” Wagner said.

The Wisconsin survivors at the brunch who have The Wisconsin OvarOvarian Cancer Alliian Cancer Alliance ance has an annual survived one month to 18 years.” also works with ‘survivors’ brunch in Froedtert and Sinai April. “People think of ovarian cancer as an older women’s disease,” Wagner hospitals to build awareness.

Ovarian cancer has taken Wagner and Zembruski’s said. “We see women of all ages with this cancer. We know a 16-year-old girl who was diagnosed when she mother and sister. Their baby sister died at the age of 53 was 13. There were survivors at the brunch who have on May 1, 2004 – four years to the day they started the Wisconsin Ovarian Cancer Alliance. Zembruski has survived one month to 18 years.” been tested for the BRACA gene 1 and 2, which has been found to be connected to ovarian cancer. She tested negative. Wagner continues to be vigilant through annual checkups.

Zembruski, 65, and Wagner, 67, worry about themselves, but more, about their daughters and granddaughters and other generations of women yet to come. “Our main worry is who will carry on when we are gone,” Zembruski said.

Ovarian cancer is no longer referred to as the ‘silent killer.’ “It’s now called the ‘disease that whispers,’” Wagner said. And someday, generations of women will sit in the shade of the tree Zembruski and Wagner have planted from the seedling left by their baby sister, Joan.

For more information visit Wisconsinovariancancer. com. u

The original board members for the Wisconsin Ovarian Cancer Alliance are pictured here.

They were Sandi Wagner, Joan Herro, Cindy Yomantes, Kelli Zembruski and Joan Sagan.

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Stay in Shape without a Gym

Membership

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Most of us know that the key to always looking our best is to stay in shape. But how can you do that if you don’t have the time or the money for a gym membership?

Many lifestyle experts say you have more than enough space for a makeshift gym inside your home or apartment, no matter how small it is. And when the weather is nice enough, you can also make great use of your home’s outdoor spaces

Whether you live in a mansion or efficiency, you can stay fit with these great moves: • Get zen with yoga: All you need is a yoga mat

and a little floor space to practice yoga; a quiet and relaxing way to wind down, stay flexible and gain strength. Try the poses on your back deck, balcony porch or even your living room. Likewise, Pilates moves can be done on a yoga mat as well.

• Easy Equipment: Get toned with free weights, exercise bands, ankle weights and stability balls. You can do your reps right in front of the television. And the beauty of this inexpensive equipment is that it doesn’t take up much space inside your home or apartment when you aren’t using it.

• Flat Abs: For minimal movement with maximum impact, try bicycle crunches. You’ll target your core -- specifically your obliques -- without disturbing the neighbors.

• Push it with a plank: Simply push off your mat as though you’re doing a push up and rest on your elbows and toes. Keep your back flat and maintain the pose for two sets of two minutes. It’s a challenging but rewarding fitness move that provides a full body workout and especially targets your core.

• Pull ups: A pull-up bar is simple to install in any

doorway, so even those in temporary home rentals can target their biceps and back muscles with a few sets each day.

• Every day activity:

Make simple lifestyle changes to burn extra calories throughout the day. If you live in a multi-story building, become a more active apartment dweller and take the stairs. Did you know that you could burn about 300 calories per hour doing housework?

Get a great workout while vigorously cleaning your apartment once a week.

Drop the excuses! No matter your budget or space limitations, you can look great by designing a workout routine for your home. u

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Volunteer of the month A Moment with Someone You Should Know:

meetAmber

Amber spent the whole day with this baby boy and his mother, a volunteer tour guide who didn’t speak English. She and her group got lost that day on the mountain trying to find a waterfall.

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Smid

Volunteering takes up time, energy and, sometimes, money. Volunteers are often forced far out their comfort zones and pushed into brand new environments and experiences. So why do people do it?

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People volunteer for many different reasons, ranging from a desire to learn new skills, have fun, give back or make a difference in the world. Some people devote most of their lives to various causes, while others simply wish to do their part where they can.

While there is no one reason why people decide to volunteer, the vast majority of volunteers describe the experiences as mutually beneficial. Amber Smid, 21 our volunteer of the month, agrees with that statement.

Amber is from Oconomowoc and is currently a senior nursing student at Edgewood College in Madison. Besides going to school, Amber has made it her mission to help others.

According to Amber’s mom, Kelly Smid, “Amber has always had a heart for mission.” In fact, her goal is to some day do missionary work in Africa.

“I wasn’t much into sports in school,” says Amber, “so I started by joining various school clubs and doing volunteer work through those clubs. I feel like I have always had the calling to help others.” She says she has been influenced by other inspir-

Amber gave a pair of shoes to this young boy she met in the night market.

ing family members who make giving seem so easy. “You never know who needs that smile or hello that will make their day.”

Her first trip at age 17, was to Guatemala. “Coming back from a third-world experience and exposure to poverty, my life did a complete 180 on so many levels,” says Amber. “I came back feeling more aware of what really is happening in our world. You can see it on TV, read about it in magazines and feel sorry for people, but it is hard to comprehend that those children are there living in that garbage, starving right now, while you sit on your nice couch or drive your car. That is just mind-blowing to me. We take so much for granted without even knowing it. It is something that I think everyone should experience at least once in his or her life. It is a truly humbling experience.”

Her most recent trip was a Pediatric Nursing Mission Trip to Cambodia where she and others spent 17 days visiting orphanages and small villages, providing health care and teaching people about certain health care issues.

While there, they did head-to-toe health assessments, seeing 60 to

above:

This young boy who has down syndrome was standing in line at the island village clinic, but wasn’t supposed to be seen because he didn’t go to school. When Amber saw he had open wounds on his legs, she brought him in and treated him.

He ended up being her favorite person on the entire trip.

100 children each day. Many of the children were treated for head lice, and many of them had rotten teeth, infected wounds and very dirty ears. Some of the more severe cases were children with Dengay Fever, Malaria, severe malnutrition, parasites, worms, bloody urine and unknown tumors.

“It would be impossible for me to put into words all the emotions and full experience that I had in Cambodia,” says Amber. “The love and great appreciation

each one of those children had as I cleaned their wounds, or handed over a hygiene pack, made me realize that it is not the materialistic things that matter, but the acts of kindness in every interaction. What really matters is looking the people in the eyes and seeing who they truly are. It’s taking the time to be patient and listen to their life stories, and showing true compassion and care, even if it is as simple as a smile. I know that I have been forever inspired to serve others who are in need because of what I have experienced. This is my passion and my calling that I am going to follow for the rest of my life.”

Amber’s next trip will be to Nongkhai, Thailand, beginning on January 1, 2014. Only this time she is not going alone; she will be traveling with her mom and grandmother to the Sarnelli House, which is an orphanage. They will also be traveling with a family friend, Fr. Chuck Beierwaltes, who is a full-time missionary for the Sarnelli House. He lives at the Redemptorist Retreat Center in Oconomowoc when he is home.

The Catholic Order called Redemptorists started the Sarnelli House years ago. It was set up to provide medical care and a new home for children affected or infected by HIV and AIDS as well as many others that are orphans. While they are at the orphanage, they will be helping the staff and housemothers provide for the children’s needs.

“I am so excited to share this experience with them. When I got home from Guatemala, I told my mom and grandma that they wouldn’t be able to fully understand my experience until they experienced themselves. So that is what we are doing.” u

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The Benefits of

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Yoga is an ancient Indian philosophy dating back thousands of years. It was designed as a path to spiritual enlightenment, but in modern times, the physical aspects of Hatha yoga have found huge popularity as a gentle form of exercise and stress management. There are many different varieties of yoga, but each one essentially relies on structured poses practiced with breath awareness.

Researchers have discovered that the regular practice of yoga may produce many health benefits, including increased fitness and normalization of blood pressure. Yoga is a renowned antidote to stress. Over time, yoga practitioners report lower levels of stress, and increased feelings of happiness and well-being. This is because concentrating on the postures and the breath acts as a powerful form of meditation.

The classical techniques of yoga date back more than 5,000 years. The word yoga means ‘to join or yoke together.’ It brings your body and mind together and is built on three main elements – exercise, breathing and meditation.

The exercises of yoga are designed to put pressure on the glandular systems of your body, increasing your body’s efficiency and total health. Breathing techniques increase breath control to improve the health and function of body and mind. The two systems of exercise and breathing prepare the body and mind for meditation, with an approach to a quiet mind that allows silence and healing from everyday stress. When practiced regularly, yoga can become a powerful and sophisticated discipline for achieving physical, mental and emotional well-being.

The practice of yoga develops strength and flexibility, while soothing your nerves and calming your mind.

The yoga poses are designed to affect the muscles, joints and skin, and the whole body – glands, nerves, internal organs, bones, respiration and the brain. The physical building blocks of yoga are the posture and the breath.

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Health benefits of yoga include: Cardiovascular system (heart

and arteries) – yoga poses are isometric, which means they rely on holding muscle tension for a short period of time. This improves cardiovascular fitness and circulation. Studies show that regular yoga practice may help normalize blood pressure.

Digestive system – improved blood circulation and the massaging effect of surrounding muscles speeds up a sluggish digestion.

Musculoskeletal – joints are moved

through their full range of motion, which encourages mobility and eases pressure. The gentle stretching releases muscle and joint tension, and stiffness, and also increases flexibility. Maintaining many of the poses encourages strength and endurance. Longterm benefits include reduced back pain and improved posture.

Nervous system – improved blood circulation, easing of muscle tension and the act of focusing the mind on the breath all combine to soothe the nervous system.

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If you are caring for children and aging loved ones, then you are officially a member of the sandwich generation. In fact, one out of eight people aged 40-60 is both raising a young child and caring for a parent; that’s seven to ten million people caring for their aging loved ones. And if you are in your 30s and 40s with young children, aging parents and grandchildren or if you are in your 50s and 60s and are sandwiched between aging parents, adult children and grandchildren, you are can consider being known as sandwiched.

The truth is that families in the U.S. provide 80-90 percent of care for the elderly. And those people in the sandwich generation, often women, find themselves dealing with adolescents, teenagers and maybe even younger children as well as their parents who are living longer. This leaves many women feeling that all their energy is spent on others, and that there is no time left for personal goals.

The Juggling Act

And sometimes, caregivers feel guilty. They are concerned that one generation resents the time they spend with the other. For example, grandpa and grandma don’t want to give up their weekly visit to the senior center just because your son has a soccer tournament out of town. On the other hand, the kid’s eyes glaze over when caregivers insist that they spend time with their grandparents.

How do you assure every-

body that they personally are the apple of your eye, while still holding onto your own sanity?

Well, the first thing you need to do is give yourself a break. If you cannot be objective and add a little humor to the situation, you are certainly not going to satisfy anybody, least of all yourself. Let everybody know how you see the situation, and that you are doing the best you can. Also, try to combine activities whenever you can. For example, if

your daughter has a band concert invite the grandparent to come along. He or she may really enjoy it.

Old Issues May Resurface

Besides juggling the needs of children and older adults who have different needs, one of the most difficult challenges faced by the sandwich generation is when old family issues resurface, such as unresolved emotional issues between

caregiver and parent. These conflicts are best resolved when approached as adultto-adult.

It is also important to recognize the older person’s right to take risks and be independent. If the one you care for is not using his or her energy to fight you for the ability to take risks, usually he or she will recognize limits. Let your older loved ones think about their situation instead of feeling as if they have to defend themselves.

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Don’t get so involved with taking care of others that you forget about yourself and your own needs. When you are feeling overwhelmed: Remember, you are not alone. Share the responsibilities with others or hire someone to help. Sometimes, noor low-cost services are available (contact your state or county Department of Aging or senior center for more information). If you are feeling alone, join a support group.

Recruit family members.

They can help to support you in caring for your parents, and they may be willing to share the responsibilities.

Take a break. Call a respite care center. Adults often see the need for help as a shortcoming, something to hide. For caregivers, needing a break does not mean failure.

After taking a break, the quality of care you can provide is often improved.

Don’t be afraid to ask for help. Sometimes, added responsibilities quickly turn into stress, burnout and fatigue. This means you’re less able to handle any of your responsibilities, let alone your new ones. If you find it difficult to adjust to this new lifestyle, talk things over with a friend, relative or clergy. Or talk to a counselor, whose objective viewpoint can help you sort things out.

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BY Sharon Naylor

Seniors need to be safe in their homes, to prevent costly, life-impairing injuries and even death. If you’re a senior living alone, or with your senior spouse or partner, or if you have elderly parents living in their own home, it’s time to assess for serious safety risks that could be eliminated easily and inexpensively.

The Home Safety Council offers a new interactive tool on its website that you can use to take a virtual tour of each room in a home. The tour points out the leading causes of accidents in the home and provides smart tips for fixing these risky conditions.

*To Prevent Falls

According to the State of Home Safety in America 2004 survey conducted by the HSC, falls are by far the leading cause of unintentional home injury and death.

Falls account for an average of 5.1 million injuries and nearly 6,000 deaths each year, says the HSC. Accord-

ing to Marian Anne Eure, former About.com guide to senior health, “Experts estimate that over 300,000 people in the United States over the age of 65 will fracture a hip this year. Of that total number, up to 33 percent of those will die within one year of the fracture. Many of those who survive will have some form of reduced mobility and will have problems functioning independently.”

Here are some fixes to help reduce the risk of falls:

• Make sure stairs in the home have handrails on both sides, and give them a firm shake to be sure the handrails are securely fastened to the wall. A senior who pulls himself up by the handrail could fall if that handrail were to separate from the wall. Use a screwdriver to tighten fastening screws, or call in a banister repair company to install new banisters. fix it continued on page 22

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• Be sure handrails extend from the top to the bottom of the stairway.

• Install or brighten lighting at the top and bottom of the stairs. Light-emitting diodes, or LEDs, found at the home supply store may be affixed to the bottom steps if needed.

• ”Paint the bottom basement step white to make it more visible. Mistaking the lowest step for floor level can cause you to lose your balance and fall,” says the HSC’s safety site.

• Remove any clutter or plant containers from interior and exterior stairs to eliminate tripping hazards.

• Install bright nightlights in the bedroom, bathroom, hallways and kitchen.

• If bathtub mats are old, they may have lost some of their suction grip beneath. Replace them with new, secure ones for less than $20 apiece.

• Replace fabric bathroom floor mats with those featuring nonskid, rubberized surfaces underneath.

It’s unsafe to set out a towel or step onto a tile floor with wet feet.

• Install or secure sets of grab bars in the shower and bathtub.

• Eure suggests installing an adjustable transfer bench on the side of a tub/ shower combination to help seniors get in and out of the shower safely.

• Add or replace a shower seat or stool. Choose one for the senior’s current weight and mobility.

• On outside porch steps, have any cracked steps repaired by a mason.

• Level outside walkway stones to prevent trips and falls.

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• Improve the ability to tell one medicine bottle from another by asking for larger print labels at the pharmacy.

• Store cleaning solutions and other toxic chemicals in a completely separate location from food and drinks. Install an organizer bin under the sink or in a different cabinet so that there’s no confusion between a yellow cleaner and apple juice.

• Have carbon monoxide detectors installed, fix it continued on page 25

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checked and tested.

• Have a service person check heaters, stoves and fireplaces every year for carbon monoxide risks.

*To Prevent Fires and Burns

According to the State of Home Safety in America report, fires and burns are the third leading cause of unintentional home injury

and related deaths.

• Remove paper towel dispensers and other flammables from the stove area, and install a new dispenser elsewhere.

• Move space heaters at least three feet away from walls, curtains, magazine racks and other flammables.

• Have the fireplace and chimney inspected and repaired each year. fix it continued on page 29

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The best time to make decisions regarding longterm care for your parents is well before itâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s needed.

An unexpected illness or injury may force you or a loved one into making hasty decisions.

Long-term care is a set of services and supports for people who are unable to perform Activities of Daily Living (ADLs). ADLs are self-care activities, such as getting in and out of bed, walking, bathing, dressing, eating, and bowel and bladder management. About 70 percent of people turning 65 can expect to need some kind of long-term care services as they age. Experts encourage everyone over age 50 to take the time, while they have it, to research options and make important choices. Long-term care planning means developing a personal strategy now for how things should be handled later when you or a loved one is in need of care. Important considerations include the following:

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An important part of long-term care planning is outlining how your parents and you would like things to be handled. Expressing preferences clearly about how any declines in ADLs should be handled, what financial resources are available, and who should provide needed care is a good way to retain control. All adults over age 18 should execute legal documents that appoint one or more individuals to make health care and finan­ cial decisions for them in the event they become unable to make decisions for themselves. Adults who lose the ability to make decisions before executing these documents must have the court system appoint someone to make decisions for them. An attorney can also prepare an advance care directive, which is a set of written instruc­ tions detailing what medical care you want or do not want.

Housing

Those who would prefer to stay at home for as long as possible should make a plan to do so, and consider making modifications as needed. Home modifications are often intended to allow maximum self-care, and to help avoid a fall. Avoiding a fall can help delay or avoid the need for long-term care.

Typical modifications include widening door­ ways, adding wheelchair ramps, improving lighting, mounting stairway chair lifts, installing medical alert systems and adding hand­ rails or safety grips. An important consideration for any­ one planning to stay home is to ensure the bath­ room can be used safely. Ideally, your residence should maximize your ability to continue perform­ing ADLs, and help you avoid a fall.

Primary Care

Maintaining a good relationship with a primary care physician is key. Regular check-ups can lead to early diagnosis of any physical, mental or emotional decline. Be honest and open about symp­toms, daily habits or changes in appetite.

Be sure to have the primary care physician review all medications. Ongoing medication management is an important part of staying healthy and avoiding a fall.

Family Care

Unpaid family members are the most common source of long-term care help. But, they may not be able to provide all the care you need, or be there every hour of the day. If you intend to rely on family members for long-term care services be sure to involve them in your long-term care plan­ ning. Make sure they are willing and able to be caregivers for you.

Paid Care

As part of a long-term care plan, look into caregiving services in your area, including in-home care providers and elder daycare centers. Find out about elder shuttles, meals on wheels and other low-cost services offered in your community. Several types of housing come with support services for people who cannot fully take care of themselves due to aging and/or disability.

Public housing is available for low-to-moderate income elderly and persons with disabilities.

• Assisted living homes are group living set­ tings that offer housing in addition to assis­ tance with ADLs and other services, such as meals. Generally, they do not provide medical care.

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Elder Abuse Is An Increasing Problem Most occurs when family members are caretakers Elder abuse is becoming ever more common.

Numerous reports have documented this rising problem. As a result, in this legislative season, lawmakers in several states are proposing new laws to require reporting and harsher penalties. Although exact numbers are unknown, the American Psychological Association estimates that every year, more than 4 million older people are victims of physical, psychological or other forms of abuse and neglect.

Because of increased awareness and training, crimes against residents in nursing homes are less frequent. In most cases, a family member or hired caregiver is the abuser.

But abuse occurs in every setting and is just as common in affluent as in poor families, in those with high levels of education, by spouses, children and friends, irrespective of age, sex or ethnicity.

Physical violence, while horrifying, reflects only a small fraction of the problem. The patient may be slapped, dragged, pulled and scratched if he fails to follow instructions, such as bathing, dressing or using the toilet.

Most abuse is emotional or psychological. A caregiver may yell, humiliate, insult or threaten. Neglect is a form of abuse. Failure to feed, groom or assist with toileting; allowing the patient to live in an unsanitary environment, or failing to follow treatment plans are all forms

of neglect. On occasion, a caregiver may abandon the patient at a hospital, park or even railway station.

Caregivers may take advantage of patients financially by writing checks, stealing Social Security checks, cash or belongings or forging a signature.

Patients with Alzheimer’s disease are particularly prone to abuse. In 2009, the journal BMJ published a study that examined the prevalence and forms of abuse among caregivers of patients with Alzheimer’s. A total of 52 percent of caregivers admitted to some form abuse, the most common being screaming or yelling (26 percent), using a harsh tone or swearing (18 percent) or threatening to send the patient to a nursing home (4 percent). Only 1 percent reported physical abuse.

Most caregivers who admitted to emotional abuse indicated that it occurred rarely. Caregivers who did abuse their loved ones were remorseful and guilty but felt provoked.

What causes abuse? Although stress from being a caregiver is a major risk factor for abuse, it is not the most common. Stressed individuals are more likely to abuse if they are depressed, receive no support from family or who feel that being a caregiver is overwhelming and burdensome.

Abuse is more common in spouses who have significant conflicts during their marriage. Men are more likeelder abuse continued on page 29

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ly to abuse than women, as are those with low self-esteem, alcohol and drug dependency or those who have been abused themselves.

Abuse is more common if relatives are financially dependent on the person they are caring for.

As it can occur in every setting, it is important that close friends, family and physicians be on the lookout for elder abuse. A problem should be suspected if bruises, scratches or fractures occur, if the patient complains that the caregiver has been emotionally abusive or if there are signs of neglect, such as weight loss, poor grooming and failure to take medications.

Because of the breadth of the problem, every caregiver must be aware that they are at risk of being abucare plans continued from page 27

options, including independent living units, assisted living and nursing homes, all on the same campus.

• Nursing facilities, or nursing homes, are the most service-intensive housing option, provid­ ing skilled nursing services and therapies as needed.

Take the time to familfix it continued from page 25

• Fix and oil fireplace glass doors so that seniors can easily close them while fires are lit.

• Dispose of any blankets, throws or robes that have “flammable” tags on them.

• ”Install smoke alarms on every level of your home.

There are two kinds of smoke alarms -- photoelectric and ionization. If possible, get some of each kind or buy ‘combination’ smoke alarms that have both types

sive.

The more that elder abuse is understood, the greater the public awareness and the more education, the better. Learn as much as possible about elder abuse and caregiving. If possible, caregivers should not “go it alone.” Insist that children, other siblings, grandchildren or friends help.

Every caregiver should make sure that his own needs are met and always consider respite care if possible. Look into adult day health care that provides the caregiver time alone and an opportunity to get things done.

Ask a relative to take over care for a weekend or consider admission to a nursing home or residential facility for respite care. In many circumstances, this may be a benefit covered by Medicare or insurance. iarize yourself and your parents with the different types of facilities available in your area. Ask family and friends for any recommen­ dations they may have and take advantage of information available on the Internet. Having your long-term care plan squared away and clear, so there are no misunderstandings or second-guessing, can be the greatest gift you can give to your loved ones. of sensors,” says the HSC. • Test and change the batteries on smoke detectors each year.

• Set the water heater to no higher than 120 F to prevent scalding.

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• Install a lock on the mailbox to prevent identity theft.

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FALL 2013 –

Don’t be afraid of color!

Red, cobalt blue and purple are favored accent colors.

Black and red are a preferred combination. And especially popular are colored and iridescent metallics.

Even in jewelry, colored metals are favored. Rose gold wins out over silver or yellow gold.

While on the subject of jewels, jackets are being shown with modern embellishments: flecked with tiny jewels or covered in bold, blingy stones.

Trends!

By Faye Wetzel

It happens every year in early July. Fall merchandise starts to arrive in my stores: cashmeres, wools, leather, oh my! And, every year I’m just the least little bit HORRIFIED. I say to myself, “What were our buyers thinking? It’s close to 100 degrees outside, and I’m supposed to sell coats?” And then, I turn around, and the merchandise starts to march out the door.

Almost universally, we prefer fall and winter clothes to spring and summer. After all, unlike a swimsuit, a cashmere sweater flatters - whether you’re 19 or 69!

Early selling is an indication of this season’s fashion winners. Here’s a 2013 Fall Fashion preview:

Sexy Beast:

Fur, fur and more fur: real or faux. Look for shaggy interpretations, and patchwork is all the rage. Colored fur? Even better!

Animal prints are always in vogue this season, cheetah and leopard rule.

Leather, leather and more leather. All over leather or mixed media (a sweater with leather sleeves, for instance).

Shades of Grey

For the most popular base color, start with grey and accent with color.

Also summer’s black and white graphic carries over into fall. But, the key word is “graphic’ - the ensemble needs to POP! Winter white made a huge splash on the runways, and I’m predicting it will make the transition to real life.

His is Hers:

Oversized topcoats and anything in a menswear fabric: herringbone, hound’s-tooth, pinstripe, etc.

Anarchist: The NEW, NEW Look:

Nipped waist dresses, skirt suits, anything worthy of a Hitchcock blonde.

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Chains, spikes and studs. Oh, and, of course, still plenty of skulls.

Yes, REALLY! There is a lot to digest and love about fall fashion.

•••• Happy Shopping!

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Fall aerial of the Osthoff Resort

Elkhart Lake, a quaint, almost sleepy little town of less than 1,000 residents, is a short, onehour drive from most of southeastern Wisconsin.

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However, in the summer the town is wide awake, and could be called somewhat hyper-active during Road America race weekends. Visitors flock from all over the country and, often, even the world to watch local and world class racers.

As a matter of fact, Dr. McDreamy, a.k.a., actor Patrick Dempsey raced just last month at the Elkhart Lake track.

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Besides a chance to rub elbows with the famous, the community boasts of many attractions - from historical sites to parks, charming stores and restaurants including the Paddock Club, Lola’s at the Osthoff Resort and the Lake Street Café – Elkhart Lake has much to offer.

What is rather unusual about the small town is the fact that there are so many outstanding lodging choices.

The Osthoff Resort, originally constructed in 1885, was completely renovated in 1995. Today, guests enjoy the spirit of days gone by with the modern convenience of a AAA Four Diamond luxury all-suite hotel. The one bedroom unit - complete with full kitchen, wet bar, fireplace and separate bedroom - was so nice I thought I died, went to heaven and ended up at a Ritz Carlton.

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The resort is also home to Aspira Spa. The Spa, considered one of the finest in the Midwest, takes a holistic and organic approach to treatments. I was treated to the Sacred Water’s Massage; one of their signature treatments using purified stones and water from the lake behind the resort.

Truly, I am a spa snob. I have had massages, facials and every spa treatment you could imagine all over the world at fine resorts and hotels. I am not bragging but just telling you the facts. The Aspira Spa ranks in my top five for spa experiences.

Also at the Osthoff is L’ecole de la Maison cooking school. We made an entire French meal complete with wine, French baguettes, tenderloin steak and crepes Suzettes for dessert. As Rachel Ray would say, YUM - O!!!!

Right next door to the Osthoff Resort is the turn of the century Siebkens Resort.

This fourth generation resort was renovated in 2008, adding rental condominiums.

But the original lodge reminds me of the old railroad lodges in some of the national parks. The real claim to fame for Seibkens is their internationally renowned Stop in Tavern, where anybody who is anybody on the racing circuit has stopped for a beer and sandwich.

Victorian Village Resort is just up the hill from Seibkens and the Osthoff. The Victorian Village Resort, originally built in 1872, has also undergone a million dollar renovation and restoration offering quaint rooms and luxury condominiums.

A must when visiting Elkhart Lake is a cocktail at their Barefoot Bay Tiki bar.

You will think you are in the Caribbean while looking out at beautiful Elkhart Lake.

So whether you are looking for a romantic weekend, girlfriends’ trip or family getaway, Elkhart Lake will serve you well.

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Fun Fall Activities for All

Go apple picking

Go for a hayride

Nieman Orchards 9932 Pioneer Rd. Cedarburg 262.377.4284

Collect and / or view the colorful fall leaves

Get lost in a corn maze Go to a football game Lambeau Field,Green Bay Sept. 15th Packers vs. Washington

Run a race for charity Al Run, Sept. 14th

Take a drive in the country Try one through Door County

Go for a hike in the woods Lapham Peak, Delafield

FREE shuttlebus service from & to parking • Refreshments • Door Prizes • FREE Parking 10 am - 5 pm

on Sat., September 21st, 2013 230+ Artists/Craftsmen

will exhibit in the shadow of the beautiful Basilica of Mary at Holy Hill

Located on Hwy 167, 8 mi. west of Hwy 41 or 2 mi. east of Hwy. 83. Don’t miss this spectacular event!

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Kettle Moraine Scenic Drive-115Miles

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Bake an apple or pumpkin pie Go to a farmers’ market Tour a winery

Visit Cedar Creek Winery Call for more information at 262-377-8020

Bike your favorite trail

Explore the Glacier Drumlin State Trail Find out more online at glacialdrumlin.com

Go fly a kite at the Kite Festival on the Lakefront Make your way out on Sept. 7th & 8th

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Glazed Cinnamon Apples

3 apple recipes to ring in the fall Grilled Pork Tenderloin with Apple Butter Glaze Servings: 4 Cooking Time: 25 – 40 minutes

1 cup Musselman’s Apple Butter 2 tablespoons Vidalia onion, finely chopped 1/4 cup Dijon mustard 1/4 cup dry white wine or white cooking wine Salt and pepper to taste Vegetable oil 2 boneless pork tenderloins, trimmed (1 – 1.5 pounds each)

In medium bowl, whisk together apple butter, onion, mustard and wine.

Season with salt and pepper to taste.

In small sauce pan, bring apple butter mixture to a boil, stirring constantly. Set aside a few tablespoons of the glaze to drizzle on the cooked meat before serving.

Preheat grill to medium high. Brush pork with oil and season with salt and pepper.

Over direct heat, brown tenderloin on all sides, about five minutes total.

Brush meat with glaze and, if grill allows, move to indirect heat. Turn every five to six minutes to prevent glaze from scorching, brushing occasionally with additional glaze. Cook meat to an internal temperature of 160 F (cooking time will vary from 25 to 40 minutes, based on thickness of tenderloins and type of grill).

Remove from grill, brush again with glaze and let rest for 10 minutes.

Slice into 1/2-inch thick slices, drizzle with reserved glaze, and serve immediately.

Servings: 7 Cooking Time: 3 hours

6 large tart apples 2 Tbsp. lemon juice 1/2 cup packed brown sugar 1/2 cup sugar 2 Tbsp. all-purpose flour 1 tsp. ground cinnamon 1/4 tsp. ground nutmeg 6 Tbsp. butter, melted Vanilla ice cream Peel, core and cut each apple into eight wedges; transfer to a 3-qt. slow cooker. Drizzle with lemon juice. Combine the sugars, flour, cinnamon and nutmeg; sprinkle over apples. Drizzle with butter.

Cover and cook on low for three to four hours or until apples are tender.

Serve in dessert dishes with ice cream.

Honey Apple Butter Baked Beans Servings: 8 Cooking Time: 50 – 60 minutes

1 cup Musselman’s Apple Butter 1/3 cup honey 1/2 cup ketchup 1/2 cup water 2 tablespoons minced dried onion 1 teaspoon ground cumin 1 teaspoon salt 1/4 - 1/2 teaspoon cayenne pepper 1 can (15.5 ounces) great northern beans, drained 1 can (15.5 ounces) black beans, drained, rinsed 1 can (15 ounces) red or pinto beans, drained Heat oven to 375°F. Mix all ingredients except beans in large bowl. Stir in beans. Pour into 2-quart baking dish or casserole. Bake 50 to 60 minutes or until hot and bubbly.

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Start a smart routine for the school year Here are some tips: kler provided by diane hen

Eliminate clutter:

Designate a specific location to store school papers and materials. This will keep homework and projects from getting lost or in the way. Label individual baskets for each child.

Create a family calendar: A family

calendar displayed in a central location will keep everyone organized and in the know. Include important project reminders, after school activities and test dates. Get the kids involved by having them write in their own activities.

Review the calendar together to keep everyone on track.

Make lunch a breeze: Pre-pack food

for the week and store it in easy-to-see containers, so little helpers can lend a hand. Hang an over-thedoor shoe organizer in the pantry and fill it with lunch supplies like sandwich bags, napkins and snacks that children can access when packing their lunches.

Create perfect study spaces:

Creating a dedicated study space is an ideal way to

help a student focus and stay on top of their schoolwork. And several studies show that by learning children’s study habits and tailoring spaces to reflect how each child best learns, you can help kids achieve their maximum potential.

For example, some students need to work in a central location so they can get quick help, while others might need a more private, quiet space.

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Need a little inspiration...

Check out our organized board.

Eye-catching inspiration: Hanging a

bulletin board in the study area creates a place for important reminders at eye level. Cover bulletin boards in bright fabric to bring color to the space and spark brilliance and imagination.

Or paint an area above the desk with chalkboard paint so children can write with chalk on the wall to stay on top of projects or work through math problems.

For more organization tips, study space inspiration and DIY ideas visit the Idea Gallery at www.Homes. com. After all, a little prep can go a long way in ensuring your family’s transition back to school is well organized and stress-free.

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Seven Small Changes With Big Impact

Ever envy those beautiful homes that seem to get redecorated with every new season? The latest and greatest looks are easy to incorporate if you keep your furnishings neutral and the décor uncluttered.

From there, it’s just a matter of bringing in a few simple touches that create a big impact. Start with one or two easy projects and you will quickly transform your house into a place you’re proud to call home.

Transform With Paint – Every interior

designer will tell you the quickest way to transform a home is with a fresh coat of paint. Greet guests with a beautiful new door color. It will give your entire home a facelift with very little time and effort.

Warm Things Up

– The look of hardwood brings warmth to every room in the house. Even kitchen and bathroom spaces can benefit from the addition of wood-look tiles.

Look for tiles that are easy to clean, water resistant and durable, but with the beauty and ambiance of traditional hardwood.

Throw rugs are a great way to accent a wood-look floor

and are easy to swap out with the change of season or style.

Keep it Clean

– Kitchens are prime gathering places and just keeping them clean and uncluttered will transform the look and feel of an entire house. Leave just one or two appliances on the countertops, add fresh flowers and hang a pair of colorful kitchen towels to brighten the space.

Make a Space Pop – Add a pop of color

and texture with new tile.

Today, tiles come in various shapes, sizes, colors and patterns, so you can easily show off your own creative style anywhere.

Throw on Some Pillows – Filling a

Let There Be Light – Instantly change

room with furnishings in neutral shades is actually the simplest way to embrace new decorating trends. Give a monochromatic room an instant makeover with pillows, artwork and tchotchkes. It’s an inexpensive way to change things up whenever the mood strikes.

Be Neighborly

– Even if you only have room for a small pot of flowers, make your front porch welcoming. If possible, set out some chairs for neighborly chats, place a small table between for refreshments and add plenty of cushions for comfort.

the look and feel of a room just by changing the lighting. Simply change your bulbs to one offering more natural light or swap out the entire light fixture for instant beauty.

Whether you update one room or transform your entire house, these simple changes will turn your home into a sanctuary that truly reflects your own personal style. u

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