Texoma Bride Guide | Issue 001 | Fall 2017

ISSUE 001 FALL 2017

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IN THIS ISSUE Plan Your Day Budget The Dress Groom’s Attire Venues Event Rentals Catering Wedding Insurance Invitations Cakes & Sweets Floral Design Photography Music Entertainment Registry Planning Check List Changing Your Name Vendor Directory

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LETTER FROM THE EDITOR

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LETTER FROM THE EDITOR

Congratulations on your engagement!

You may be overwhelmed with all the choices you have to make and the long list of things to do in the upcoming months. We created the Texoma Bride Guide to try to help ease your way. For most brides, their wedding is the first large scale event they have planned. Our mission is to educate brides on all aspects of wedding planning and to connect them with the best wedding and event vendors in the Texoma area.

This wedding planning magazine is full of planning tips and tricks, questions to ask your vendors, a full vendor directory sorted by category, and a planning checklist. Our website features additional information about our vendors, more in depth planning guides, and a digital copy of this magazine.

We would like to thank our launch vendors for their support as we continued to develop the idea for the Texoma Bride Guide. Our launch would not have been successful without you, and we are grateful for your enthusiasm and assistance.

We would also like to thank our family and friends for their help. Countless hours were spent writing, reading, and editing this magazine. The process would not have gone as smoothly without your dedication to helping us see our dream to fruition.

From concept to execution, we have had a great time putting the Texoma Bride Guide together, and look forward to its success in the years to come.

Starting in 2018, this magazine will be published twice a year, in January and August, coinciding with the two most popular engagement seasons. Be sure to visit our website often. We add new vendors every day!

Happy Planning!

Kate Winsor, Editor

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PLAN YOUR DAY

DO I NEED A WEDDING PLANNER? No matter the size or budget, planning a wedding is a lot of work. Think of it as a part-time job on top of your regular job with much of the planning being tedious work, like reviewing contracts and making sure payments are made. Those are the types of things a wedding planner will help you with.

Hiring a wedding planner doesn’t mean outsourcing your entire wedding. A wedding planner only handles what you want them to, so you can focus on the fun parts -- picking out your cake, working with the florist to design your bouquet -- and leave the boring stuff to someone else.

Wedding planners have access to, and experience with, the vendors you need. While you can, and should, get recommendations from friends, and do your own research, wedding planners have networks of vendors with whom they have worked before. The planners will be able to match your vision with vendors who can make it happen, and steer you away from those who can’t.

The staff provided by your venue to help your day go smoothly are invaluable, and they will have a network of preferred vendors that they can recommend, just don’t expect them to follow up with your florist to ensure they can get the flowers you want, or go with you to your dress alterations appointment. These are things that an independent wedding planner does.

Your friends and family are not a substitute for a wedding planner, or even a “day of” coordinator. Their role is to be present to witness the marriage and part of celebrating your new life together, not to be burdened with the responsibilities of managing your wedding.

Most importantly, YOU should be relaxed and enjoying your wedding, not trying to make sure everything is in place and nothing is overlooked. This is your special day and it will happen only once. Investing in a planner will ensure you enjoy your wedding completely.

Another benefit of hiring a planner is their ability to help you get centered and stay focused on what is important to you and your fiancé. Your planner will love to talk about your wedding. If your bestie is tired of hearing you talk about your big day, turn to your wedding planner who will be more than happy to listen and share advice based on years of experience.

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BUDGET

WHO PAYS FOR WHAT The days of the bride’s family completely paying for the wedding are behind us, and the line of who pays for what is becoming less defined. More and more we are seeing the couple pay for their own wedding, particularly if they have lived on their own for some time.

Here are some general guidelines. Feel free to follow them or stray from them based on what’s best for your financial circumstances. (the bride and her family)

(the groom and his family)

Bridal attire and undergarments

Bride’s engagement and wedding rings

Church and reception site rental

Marriage license

Invitations, announcements and stationary

Rehearsal dinner

Cake, catering and reception beverages

Officiant’s fees and expenses

Photography

Bride’s bouquet and going-away corsage

Flowers for the church, reception and bridal party

Corsages for the mothers and grandmothers

Corsages for special helpers

Boutonnieres for the men of the wedding party

Music

Transportation expense for leaving the reception

Groom’s wedding ring

Wedding night accommodations and honeymoon

BUDGET BREAKDOWN

Once you have an idea of how much you can spend on your wedding, these percentages give you an idea of how most couples distribute those funds among the different aspects of their wedding:

Invitations

Flowers

Photography

Dress & Tux

Rings

10%

3%

Ceremony

Entertainment

Transportation

Reception

2%

10%

8%

2%

12%

3%

50%

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AVERAGE SPENDING IN TEXOMA Once you have an idea of how much you would like to spend, you should consider which aspects of the wedding are most important to you. That will allow you to allocate more money to those while saving on other areas.

In 2016, Texoma weddings cost an average of $22,700. Below is a list of how much Texoma-area brides paid for different types of vendors and services. Keep in mind that not all couples include each of these in their wedding and these are averages.

Reception Venue

Invitations

Catering

Photographer

Transportation

Dress

Hair

Wedding Planner

Groom’s Attire

Favors

Make-Up

Live Band

Cake

Rehearsal Dinner

Reception DJ

His/Her Rings

Floral Design

Officiant

$3,332

$1,565

$65

$213 $388 $434/$748

$231

$4,330

$447

$2,707

$200

$1,613

$52

$530

$1,858

$1,174

$699

$198

Data from The Wedding report, www.theweddingreport.com

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PLAN YOUR DAY

MARRIAGE LICENSE Marriage licenses must be obtained from the county clerk’s office and presented to your officiant prior to the beginning of your wedding ceremony. Following the ceremony, the officiant fills out the license, and asks the witnesses, usually the maid of honor and best man, to sign it. Some officiants will file the license for you at the courthouse, or you will have to do it yourself. Once the license is filed and processed, you will receive your marriage certificate.

The cost, requirements, and validity varies between Oklahoma and Texas, but you don’t have to be a resident of either state to get married there. Be sure to research the state’s marriage license requirements where you will be getting married so that you understand the timelines and associated costs.

GRAYSON COUNTY, TEXAS 100 W Houston, Suite 17 | Sherman | (903) 813-4283

BRYAN COUNTY, OKLAHOMA 402 W Evergreen St #C1 | Durant | (580) 924-1446

COOKE COUNTY, TEXAS 216 West Pecan Street | Gainesville | (940) 668-5420

CARTER COUNTY, OKLAHOMA 20 B St SW #203 | Ardmore | (580) 223-5253

FANNIN COUNTY, TEXAS 800 E. 2nd Street | Bonham | (903) 583-7486

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MARRIAGE MEANS SHARING THE REST OF YOUR LIFE WITH YOUR BEST FRIEND, KNOWING THAT THERE IS ALWAYS SOMEONE BY YOUR SIDE, THROUGH ALL THE UPS AND DOWNS, AND THAT YOU WILL ALWAYS HAVE SOMEONE WHO HAS TO LAUGH AT YOUR BAD JOKES.

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THE DRESS

THE DRESS Your wedding dress will set the tone for your entire wedding. Our best advice: say yes to your dress as early in your wedding planning process as possible. Not only will this relieve bridal stress, it also ensures that the dress will arrive on time. Wedding dresses take time to produce, and most are manufactured overseas which can mean long shipping times and a possible delay as they go through customs.

Be sure to make appointments at any bridal shop you wish to visit. Plan to visit several since they carry different designers and styles. If you’re considering using shapewear under your dress, bring that with you to your dress consultations. Not all dress fabrics work well with shapeware, it’s best to learn what works and what doesn’t before you make your decision. Bring a strapless bra if you’re interested in necklines that show off your shoulders, and bring your wedding shoes or a similar pair of shoes to try on with the dresses. Above all, don’t forget to bring along your mom, your fiancé’s mom and your best gal pals!

COLORS Don’t feel as if you have to wear a true white dress. Ivory, champagne and blush-colored dresses are just as popular. When making the decision about dress color, consider your skin tone because an ivory dress may look better against your skin than a true white dress. Some brides add a splash of color to their dress with colored sashes or embroidery, while other brides choose not to wear white, ivory, champagne, or blush at all, opting for a completely different color instead.

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THE BEST SILHOUETTE FOR YOUR BODY TYPE Your wedding day is about celebrating the beginning of your new life with the one you love, so be sure to wear the dress of your dreams. No matter which dress you select, if you are happy and confident in the dress, you will feel gorgeous on your wedding day. Brides come in all shapes and sizes, and understanding your specific body type will guide you in showing off your best assets, and maybe hiding some of your least favorite.

HOURGLASS You have a full bust and hips with a smaller waistline.

A-line/Princess Mermaid/Trumpet Sheath

TALL AND THIN

PETITE

You are proportional through the bust and hips with an undefined waistline.

You are shorter height is proportional to your smaller bust, hips, and waistline.

Ball Gown A-line/Princess Mermaid/Trumpet Empire Waist

Column/Sheath A-line/Princess Empire Waist

APPLE

PEAR

FULL FIGURE

You have a full bust in relation to your small hips.

You have a small bust in relation to full hips.

You have a fuller bust, hips, and waist.

Ball Gown Mermaid A-line/Princess Empire Waist

Ball Gown A-line/Princess Empire Waist

Ball Gown A-line/Princess Empire Waist

FABRICS Fabric density and the material’s quality are part of what determines the price of the gown. High quality fabrics such as silk are going to be the most expensive while lesser quality fabrics like polyesters will lower the price of the dress. The more intricate and heavy the lace is on a dress, the higher the price will be.

Satin is the most popular fabric among brides. While this fabric has a lot of body and shine, it wrinkles quite easily.

Taffeta is a high-sheen fabric similar to satin but with more structure, and it rustles when you move.

Chiffon is a lightweight, soft-textured fabric typically used in layered dresses.

Organza is similar to chiffon but stiffer, and is usually used for overlays and embellishments, or veils.

Charmeuse is a lightweight fabric with a brilliant shine and a touch of satin.

Tulle is a fine silk fabric used mostly in veils and crinolines.

ALTERATIONS Most brides believe that once they purchase the dress, they can cross that item off their list. That is only mostly true. Most likely, your dress will require some sort of alterations. Don’t forget to account for alterations in your timeline and keep in mind that dresses with beading and lace take more time and money to alter.

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THE DRESS

THE TRAIN

WHAT IS A BUSTLE?

The train is one of our favorite parts of the wedding dress. It adds a certain amount of drama to the dress, and it is not something we see in the clothes we wear every day.

Bustle is a fancy term for pinning the train of a wedding gown off the floor with buttons, snaps or ties. Once the ceremony is over, you’re going to want your train out of the way so you can dance and mingle without it being stepped on!

Trains come in different lengths: • • • • •

Brush or sweep, barely brushes the floor Court, 1 foot in length Chapel, 3 feet in length Cathedral, 6 feet in length Royal, 10 feet in length

The cost of adding bustle clips to your dress may be included in the original price or could be an vadditional alteration fee. Be sure to ask the consultant at the salon when trying on dresses.

QUESTIONS TO ASK THE BRIDAL SALON •

What brands and designers do you carry?

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Are any alterations included in the cost of the gown?

Once my gown is ordered, how long will it take for it to arrive?

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Can I get a price list, or estimate for possible alterations?

Will you store my gown until my wedding day if necessary?

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What are your deposit and payment policies?

Will the gown be steamed/pressed when I pick it up?

THE VEIL You don’t want the veil you choose to overpower your gown, so select a style that compliments it and you. For example, you don’t want a veil that is longer than your train. Wearing a simpler gown provides more freedom to choose an ornate veil with embroidery, pearls, or crystals. Keep in mind that you most likely will only wear the veil for the ceremony.

Before you decide on the length of your veil, consider how you want to wear your hair on your wedding day. This will help you determine the best placement for the veil, and the best way to attach it to your hair. If you want to wear your hair down in big romantic curls, the best place to pin the veil is the top of your head. An up-do hairstyle works well with a tiara or rhinestone flower comb attached to the veil.

Veils come in many different lengths, the names of which are mostly self-explanatory. For example, the shoulder length veil usually falls at a bride’s shoulders. There are also shorter length veils like birdcage veils and fascinators that are perfect for outdoor weddings. No long veil to tame if the wind picks up!

Always remember to bring your veil or hair accessories to your hair trial so that your stylist will know exactly what to expect for your wedding day.

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GROOM’S ATTIRE

GROOM’S ATTIRE TUXEDO OR SUIT? Today’s less formal weddings often seem suited (see what we did there?) to a more casual approach to men’s wear.

A black tuxedo with a starched white shirt and cufflinks is always a classic and perfect for a formal event, but don’t forget how good your man looks in a suit. If you know where to look, you can get a nice suit on sale for about the same cost as renting a tuxedo.

Tuxedo rental businesses have caught onto this less formal trend and are now offering more casual options for rent. This rental option may be less stressful than coordinating six men to go shopping together to ensure they get the same slacks.

RENT OR BUY? This question comes up repeatedly. Sure, it’s more expensive to purchase a tuxedo, but you do end up with a custom fit that may pay for itself over time. To help you decide, think about how often you will have the opportunity to wear a tuxedo.

If you’re coordinating with the rest of the wedding party, rent. Don’t be worried about the tuxedos looking cheap or worn out. Reputable locations rent high quality, well-constructed garments made specifically to withstand a lot of use and dry-cleaning without wearing out.

Don’t forget to rent shoes!

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GROOM’S ATTIRE

RENTING A TUXEDO You may want to consider if the company has locations in cities where your bridal party lives when selecting where to rent. But regardless of where you rent, the process is straightforward and painless. Typically, the process goes like this:

1 2 3 4 5

No later than three months before your wedding, you and your fiancé visit the tuxedo rental store to view their styles and make selections. When it comes to style, take into consideration the colors and theme of the wedding, and the body types of the men who will be standing up with you. Work with your rental consultant to determine the best look and fit. Usually, there are several pre-configured options that you can personalize with ties, vests, and other accessories. Once you have everything selected, tell the rental company who will be ordering the tuxedos.

Contact your wedding party with the name of the rental company, and an idea of the timeline for measurements. Don’t forget to follow up a few weeks later, since there’s always that one person that procrastinates.

The men in your wedding party who are renting tuxedos will need to get measured. Luckily, they no longer must visit the store in-person to get measured and order their tuxedo. While it is preferred that they visit a local bridal shop or tailor to get their measurements taken by a professional, it can also be done at home. Find out from the consultant which measurements they need to gather. Once they have their measurements, they provide them to the rental store. If they do not live near a rental location, make sure they have their tux sent to a store where someone in the bridal party can pick it up for them.

Some companies will mail the tuxedo to you, and others require you or someone from your party to pick up the tuxedos a few days before the event. Once the tuxedos are picked up, don’t forget to try them on to ensure everything fits and looks nice. If something doesn’t fit or it looks worn, the shop will be more than happy to help make it right.

Following the wedding, it’s best to appoint someone other than the groom to be responsible for returning the groom’s tuxedo. This is definitely something that could fall under Best Man duties.

GROOMING THE GROOM Hair: Right before your wedding is not the time to experiment with a new haircut. Get your hair cut two weeks before your wedding day and then plan for a trim the day before - nobody likes excessive neck hair.

the right amount of stubble. Several months before your wedding day, shave a few times and take note of how long, on average, it takes for you to get the look you want. Or the look that your bride wants.

Nails: Consider a manicure…. just this once! On your wedding day, people will focus on your hands more than they will during any other moment of your life.

Yes, we realize this is weird and rather uncomfortable, but who knows? You may like it.

We love a beardy groom just as much as the next person, but if your facial hair is unruly or dirty looking, no one is going to want to lean in for a smooch.

Facial Hair: If you’re going for a more rugged look, trial and error is really the only way to assess beard growth and

Trim your beard weekly in the lead up to your wedding to get it into great shape. Invest in products available for facial hair like a beard oil or conditioner to help keep your facial hair groomed and glossy.

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VENUES

VENUES Picking your wedding venue is important and should be one of the first items on your to-do list. The venue sets the tone for the entire day, and most importantly secures the date for your wedding. For example, let’s pretend you had your heart set on a September wedding, but you love a venue that is not available until June of the following year. You either compromise on your date or find a different venue. Remember that your wedding date isn’t officially reserved until you sign the venue contract, and in most cases, not until you pay the deposit.

As you tour venues, create a system to keep track of your notes and the different options available at each site. We recommend developing a spreadsheet that allows you to organize your notes and review them without going crazy.

Make note of the capacity, venue type, layout, rates, restrictions, parking, facility extras and catering options.

Keep in mind that the time of year and day of the week play a role in the overall cost of renting the venue. High demand seasons and weekends are more expensive than an off-season or mid-week weddings. If you’re looking for a way to save money on your venue, but still want a day near the weekend, consider getting married on a Friday or Sunday instead of on Saturday.

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VENUES

TWO DIFFERENT VENUES, OR ONE VENUE If you want to have a religious ceremony in the church where you grew up, but the church doesn’t have the facilities to support the type of reception you want, you will want to find a separate reception venue. If getting married in a church isn’t a priority, there are plenty of options in Texoma with beautiful ceremony sites and plenty of space for you and your guests to party the night away.

If you do choose two venues, map out the logistics of how you and your guests will travel from the ceremony to the reception, and plan to provide transportation for the bridal party. Parking is also something to consider as many cars shift from one location to another.

INDOOR OR OUTDOOR Rustic, outdoor weddings have become a popular trend in the last few years. If you have your heart set on an outdoor wedding, please keep two things in mind: the weather and a backup plan. We know it is obvious, but planning an outdoor wedding in Texoma in the heat of the summer is not something we would recommend.

In case of bad weather, make sure your venue has a building or other covered space that could be used or plan to rent a tent. Keep in mind that rented tents do not look like camping tents or the awnings you see over cookouts at the park. They are large structures that can be accessorized with lights, fabric, and floor coverings, and truly rival any indoor space.

Other things to keep in mind when planning an outdoor wedding include bugs, a power source, restroom facilities, accessibility. The more rural the location, the more amenities you will have to provide.

THE CEREMONY VENUE

THE RECEPTION VENUE

The ceremony venue is arguably one of the most important aspects of your wedding, as this is the place where you and your fiancé will be married in front of your friends and family. While you want it to be special and reflective of your love for each other, there are some logistical things to consider before booking the ceremony venue.

You’ll want to ensure that your reception venue has enough room to accommodate all your guests comfortably as well as the activities you’ve planned for your wedding reception. As you look around, try to envision the way the space would be used. In addition to places for guests to eat and mingle, consider the space and layout needed for the cake, gifts, dance floor, photo booth, etc.

Think about how you want your ceremony to flow.

Is having a center aisle for you to walk down to your fiancé at the beginning of the ceremony important?

Where will your attendants stand? Will you be kneeling at any time in your ceremony? Is there space for musical accompaniment? Make sure the ceremony space can accommodate your vision for your ceremony.

A popular trend is circular seating around the bride and groom while they say their vows. This setup creates an intimate atmosphere for guests and allows you to get married literally surrounded by the people you love.

Learn about the restrictions and rules associated with the venue. If you absolutely love the venue, knowing these restrictions will help you incorporate them into your vision for your day. For example, if the reception must end at 9 p.m. sharp because of noise restrictions but you want to dance the night away, consider having an after-party elsewhere to keep the festivities going.

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QUESTIONS TO ASK •

Is our date available?

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Is there, or can you set-up, a coat room?

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Are there others looking to rent your venue on our date?

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Are candles or open flames allowed?

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What is the facility rental fee, and what is included in that fee?

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Does the site have any noise or music restrictions?

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What is the length of the facility rental? Are there overtime fees if the wedding reception lasts longer?

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Are there any decorating restrictions?

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For outdoor weddings, what is the alternative plan if it rains?

Will there be another event on the site during, before or after ours? If so, how will this impact our event?

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When can we get into the facility to begin decorating for the wedding?

What on-site staff do you provide for the day of the wedding?

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What type of clean-up is required?

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What is the required deposit and when is it due?

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Is there a fee for security personnel?

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When is the balance on the facility fee due?

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Will there be enough parking for my guests?

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What is the cancellation policy?

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Do you offer valet services?

CEREMONY VENUE

RECEPTION VENUE

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Are there changing rooms for the bridal party?

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Are there picturesque locations for photos, both inside and out?

Is there an in-house caterer or a list of preferred caterers? If so, are they exclusive caterers, or can we bring in our own?

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Do you have an in-house pianist or organist that we could use?

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Are there on-site kitchen facilities? What do they include?

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Is there a podium and/or a microphone? Is there a sound system?

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Do you allow alcohol to be served? If so, what are your policies?

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Will you allow photographs and videos during the ceremony?

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VENUES

Green Gables House 202 South Pearl Trenton, Texas 75490 greengablestrenton.com 214-499-5290

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weddings receptions

There are so many wonderful reasons to book your wedding at Rockin' R Ranch!

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events party barn

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parties/pool cottage rental

6196 N3860 Road Bokchito, Oklahoma 74726

(580) 295-3154

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LOCATED IN HISTORIC DOWNTOWN WHITESBORO, TEXAS 204 E MAIN ST. WHITESBORO, TEXAS 76273

OLDCHURCHRESTORED.ORG (214) 403-0909 (469) 628-2815

3803 Ward Neal Road Bells, Texas 75414

www.willowoodranch.com (903) 891-0070

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VENUES

Katy Depot 101 E Main St Denison, Texas 75021 (903) 463-7729 www.katydepot.info

Intimate Rustic Barn Wedding & Event Venue 810 Frisco Rd. Sherman, Texas 75090 knottybarn.com (903) 868-1938

Learn more about our vendors and detailed planning guides on our website: www.TexomaBrideGuide.com

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EVENT RENTALS

FORKS, SPOONS, AND KNIVES, OH MY!

Don’t make any assumptions that your venue comes with anything. If you’ve booked a raw space, get ready to rent everything down to the bathrooms. Please don’t forget those or you’ll have some unhappy guests.

If you’re lucky, your venue comes with chairs and tables, maybe even cloths for those tables. Those chairs are probably standard folding chairs, and the tablecloths are probably white. Your caterer may provide standard white plates and unremarkable flatware. All of that is fine, but why not glam it up a bit?

Remember all of those amazing photos you have seen of your venue? The space did not start out the day looking like that. Most likely, the majority of those items were rented. It takes a keen eye for colors, textures, and lighting to create the look and feel you see in those photos.

RENT OR BUY? Ah, this question again. You did read the section on Groom’s Attire, didn’t you? The idea is the same, but on a much larger scale. One of the main benefits of renting: storage. Sure, you can buy 15 teal tablecloths, but what are you going to do with them after the wedding? You can take the time to sell them online, but at the end of the day, it may end up being cheaper (and less hassle) to rent them.

Rental companies have an amazing collection of goods they’re more than happy to let you use for your event.

Companies that specialize in event rentals have high quality items that are in great shape. These items get cleaned after every event, and are replaced once they start looking less than their best.

BE SURE TO HAVE THE FOLLOWING Reception tables

Flatware

Cake table

Glassware and stemware

Bar(s)

Centerpiece holders

Chairs

Candle holders

China and chargers

Dance floor

Tablecloths and napkins

Band risers or DJ table

Remember to order 3 or 4 more than you think you will need. It is always better to have extra chairs than to make a guest stand because you don’t have enough.

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EXPERT TIP Delivery and set-up before the event, and pick-up after the event, are just as important as the rental items themselves. When selecting your venue, think about the items you’ll want to rent and where they will go.

This will help you determine how difficult it will be to get the items delivered and set up at the venue. It is also important to have an idea of how long set-up and tear-down will take. This may impact your venue rental time.

Be sure to find out when rental items need to be removed from the venue after the reception and who is responsible for getting them back to the rental company. Assign someone in the bridal party to oversee this task on your wedding day, even if the rental company is responsible for picking up the items.

Follow up with your rental company to finalize your rentals two to three months before your wedding.

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EVENT RENTALS

CONSIDER RENTING

When it comes to rentals, the sky really is the limit. You just have to find someone who has what you want, and is willing to rent it at a price within your budget.

Arches AV Equipment Candelabras Cotton Candy machine Centerpieces

LIGHTING If you’re using a DJ, they may bring their own lights for the dance floor, but there are other ways to use lights to add color and ambiance to your wedding.

String lights and bistro lights add a bit of romance to any space, and “up” lights can be used to add a spalsh of color along walls and architectural elements. You might even consider putting a spotlight on your cake!

Popcorn machines

GOBO

Furniture

A gobo is a custom-designed template that is placed in front of a light source to control the shape of the emitted light. You can project shapes on walls to reinforce your theme, or even shine your new monogram on the dance floor!

Dance floor Fans Generator Draping Table Numbers Inflatables and games Tents Chair covers

Gobo images provided by DB Music

Tables

Party Rentals

Chairs

Tuxedo Rental

Linens

Catering

Tents

Tableware

Decor

Cake Stands

Lighting

Bounce Houses

Flowers

Dance Floor

Bathrooms

Invitations

Draping

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CATERING

I’M HERE FOR THE FOOD From plated dinners to food trucks set up outside the reception venue, the options for feeding your wedding guests are growing every day.

Interactive food stations set up around the reception room are a trend with weddings right now. These stations are usually hosted by a chef or member of the catering staff to help your guests customize their selections. Having these stations spread out keeps down the line of guests waiting for food.

If your venue comes with a caterer or if you’re using an outside caterer, meet with the person who will be providing food for your wedding. Talk with them about your wedding plans, sample some of the dishes they recommend, and get comfortable that this caterer will truly treat your guests well.

Be sure that you and your new spouse take the time to eat during the reception! You’ve got a night full of dancing and merriment ahead of you so you’re going to need the food!

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QUESTIONS TO ASK •

Can you provide examples of suggested menus and prices?

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Considering our needs and budget, what suggestions do you have?

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When is the deadline for making menu selections?

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Are you familiar with our wedding site?

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Do you have any kitchen requirements?

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Do you have a minimum? If so, how much?

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Are tax and gratuities extra?

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Does the cost cover set-up before the reception and clean-up following?

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How long will the food be available to guests?

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What happens to any leftover food?

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What are your deposit and cancellation policies?

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Do you provide staff to serve, refresh the buffet, tidy up used dishes, etc.?

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Do you supply and serve beverages? What type, and is there an extra fee for this service? Are you licensed to serve alcohol?

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What is the deadline for the final guest count?

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Do you provide linens, dishes, cutlery, service items? Are there different options for me to select?

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Are you able to handle special requests such as food allergies, special diets, kids menu, etc.?

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Will you cut the cake and supply plates and forks?

Is there an extra fee for this?

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WEDDING INSURANCE The day has finally arrived. It’s your wedding day! You’ve been planning this event down to the very last detail for over a year and nothing could go wrong. Except when it does. Best case scenario, it rains on your big day and you must rent an expensive tent for your outdoor ceremony and reception at the last minute. Worst case scenario, someone drinks too much at your reception, drives under the influence, gets in a crash, and ends up suing you.

Wedding insurance exists to protect the investment in your big day from circumstances beyond your control. We also recommend that you check with each of your vendors to see if they have their own insurance so you don’t pay for overlapping coverage.

There are two different types of wedding insurance available, which provide different types of protection for you, your venue, and your wedding. Be sure you understand the differences: Wedding Liability Insurance: Some venues require couples to purchase this for protection in the event of injuries, property damage or alcohol-related accidents.

Cancellation/Postponement Insurance: In case of unpredictable illness, inclement weather, no show vendors, damage to gifts or to the bride’s dress, etc.

Please note that the above statement is for informational purposes only. All statements are subject to the provisions, exclusions, and conditions of the applicable policy. For an actual description of all coverages, terms, and conditions, please speak with an insurance agent.

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DON’T BE AFRAID TO GO AGAINST TRADITION AND DO SOMETHING A LITTLE DIFFERENT. THIS IS YOUR DAY, IT SHOULD REFELCT YOU AND YOUR PARTNER. MAKE THE DAY AS UNIQUE AS YOU ARE AND YOU WILL LOVE EVERY MOMENT.

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INVITATIONS THE ANATOMY OF A WEDDING INVITATION Most brides and grooms opt for formal wording on their wedding invitations, but if your wedding is more casual, feel free to loosen up the wording. The structure of your invitation will change depending on who is hosting the wedding, but there are a few things that should not be compromised: Include both your and your fiancÊ’s full names in the invitation.

With a more formal invitation, also include the full names of the hosts.

Make sure to include the year, month, day, and time of your wedding!

The invitation should have the name of the location as well as a specific address.

Now that your guests have the essential information, there are a few additional details they might need: Most will appreciate direction on attire, and it is important to include if you want a specific style for your wedding.

Directions to the venue, details about accommodations, and the types of activities at your wedding reception are also recommended. Your invitation ensemble can include any extra information, such as a directions card, along with the RSVP card and the invitation itself.

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WORDING The wording on your wedding invitation should reflect the formality, location, and hosts of your wedding.

“The honor of your presence” is only used if the ceremony is taking place in a house of worship. “The pleasure of your company” is used in all other venues.

It gets even more tricky if either the bride or the groom have parents who are divorced and have remarried.

There are many online resources, including our detailed invitations guide at TexomaBrideGuide.com that will help you navigate these tricky waters.

CAN’T I JUST SEND OUT AN EVITE OR CREATE A FACEBOOK EVENT?

We know putting on a wedding is expensive, and sending invitations via email or another internet platform is basically free.

Most etiquette gurus still recommend paper wedding invitations. They tend to set the tone, establish expectations and specifically state who is invited to the wedding. This can be hard to do with electronic invitations.

ETIQUETTE TIP Although there are many ways to create invitations, some things never change. For example, you should not include your gift registry information on your save the dates or invitations. Your family and wedding party can fill in any inquisitive guests, and you can also put in on your personal wedding website if you have one.

Speaking of wedding websites, it is perfectly acceptable to put the link on your save the dates, just not your invitations.

There are also a large number of places you can purchase pre-designed invitations and print them at home to help stretch your budget.

Always include a postage stamp on the reply card of your wedding invitations. Do not expect guests to supply their own stamp.

TIMING Ideally, you should send your wedding invitations eight weeks before your wedding. This gives your guests plenty of time to clear their schedules and make travel arrangements. Request that RSVP’s be returned by two to three weeks before the wedding. This allows you to know how many guests to expect before crunch time!

If you’re having a destination wedding, give your guests more time to make arrangements by mailing invitations three months before the wedding.

If you’re sending out save the dates, mail them six to eight months before the wedding so that calendars can be marked and there will be no surprises when the actual invitations arrive. Just make sure that everyone who receives a save the date also receives an invitation.

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ENVELOPES It may seem strange, but you’ll need two envelopes for your invitations. The outer envelope is for mailing purposes, and the inner envelope holds your invitation ensemble. The outer envelope is formally addressed only to those who are invited to attend the wedding, but the inner envelope is a bit less formal and includes just the first names of invited guests.

Just like for every other part of your wedding, there are some recommendations when dealing with the outer envelope: •

Address each envelope by hand, and pay special attention to spelling, addresses and handwriting

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Your guests’ names should be written out in full, using their titles such as “Mr.” and “Ms.”

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Spell out all the words in the address

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Spell out all house numbers that are less than 20

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The return address should go on the back flap of the envelope, and can be handwritten, embossed or stamped

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RSVPs and gifts will be sent to the return address on the invitation envelope, so if you’d rather use different address, write it below the RSVP line on the invitation

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Self-address the return envelope for the RSPV, don’t rely on your guests to do this for you

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THE IMPORTANCE OF THE RSVP As the RSVP’s start pouring in, you’ll want to have a system developed to keep track of them! Make sure to note how many guests confirm their attendance because your vendors will want an accurate headcount a few days before the wedding. If serving a plated meal, include food options on your RSVP cards so that guests can make their selection. Tracking the number of guests is especially important if you’re paying for cake or food per person.

Before you mail your invitations, count and number your guest list and assign each RSVP card a number accordingly. If a guest forgets to fill out the line for their name before returning it to you, the number on the card will help you know who has RSVP’d and who hasn’t! Be careful not to make the numbering too obvious.

If you want to make things easier for your guests, consider pre-addressing and stamping your RSVP cards!

If you’re still missing a few response cards at the deadline, go ahead and place some calls! It’s easy to get annoyed and frustrated at the lack of response, but don’t let that show. Politely ask if they’ll be attending, reminding them that the vendors need to know the number of guests by a certain date. Remember that it never fails that you will end up with an unexpected guest or two, so we recommend adding a few additional people to your head count if you can’t get in touch with everyone.

PAPER GOODS At a minimum, the only paper goods you need for your wedding are the invitations to let people know the specifics. There are, however, many other options that can continue the design of your invitation throughout your wedding experience, from personalized napkins to ceremony programs.

Save the Dates Invitations Wedding Announcements Ceremony Programs Response Cards Place Cards Escort Cards Table Cards

Menu Cards Guest Book Rehearsal Dinner Invitations Thank You Cards Specialty Cards Napkins FavorTags & Stickers Signage

As with your invitations, be sure to order extras and place the order for everything at one time.

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CAKES & SWEETS

CAKES & SWEETS As you browse Pinterest and wedding sites looking at cake designs, start to gather inspiration. Take a close look at the cake designs that resonate the most with you. Are you in love with the idea of a rustic buttercream cake decorated with fresh flowers, or does an ornate cake covered in fondant make you sigh?

To help you decide which bakeries to visit, look at their websites and social media to see what aligns the most with what you’re looking for. When you go visit the bakeries, bring along pictures of the designs you like, and even pictures of those you don’t.

Designers aren’t mind readers and this will help them get a clear understanding of the look you’re going for.

Don’t expect them to copy the design outright. Allow them artistic license to incorporate your personalities and their creativity into the final product.

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HOW MUCH CAKE DO I NEED? Wedding cake serving sizes are typically 1” x 2” in size.

Work with your baker to determine what you’ll need, but these numbers will give you an idea of what to expect based on the number of people on your guest list.

SQUARE CAKES

ROUND CAKES

6”: 18 servings 8”: 32 servings 10”: 40 servings 12”: 72 servings

6”: 10 servings 8”: 28 servings 10”: 42 servings 12”: 56 servings

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WHAT TO SERVE

GROOMS CAKE

Not really a cake person? Serve pie. Love ice cream?

Set up a make-your-own sundae bar.

Did you know that the groom’s cake is mostly a Southern tradition? That’s right…go to a wedding up north and you may not see a groom’s cake. That can be a bummer, because often the groom’s cake is chocolate!

Cake is the traditional wedding dessert, with everyone waiting with baited breath to see if the groom is going to smash the cake all over his new wife’s face, but there is no rule anywhere that says you must serve cake.

Many couples who want to serve a wedding cake alternative, yet still want the traditional cake cutting, so will also have a small cutting cake.

Remember, this is your special day, everything about it should reflect you and your fiancé.

Here’s a fun bit of useless trivia: In the mid-1800’s, cake was sent home with guests as their wedding favor.

Female guests would put their piece of cake under their pillow and dream of their future hubby. That’s the reason this is called a groom’s cake.

In our modern times, the groom’s cake is usually a gift from the bride to the groom and designed to represent the groom’s personality and interests.

QUESTIONS TO ASK •

How much experience do you have making wedding cakes, and will you be the one creating our cake?

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Can we schedule a tasting?

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Do you lend, rent, or sell cake knives, cake plates, flatware, etc.?

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What is your policy on returning any rentals or extras? What if something gets damaged?

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Are we required to provide the cake stand/pillars?

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Will you deliver and set-up? Is there an extra charge for this?

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What is the cost per serving?

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How far ahead do we need to order my cake?

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What is your deposit policy?

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When is the balance due?

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Can you make a groom's cake?

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Will you provide a written contract for me to sign outlining the costs and details of the cake?

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CAKES & SWEETS When it comes to the flavor and filling of your cake, be true to you and your fiancé. Don’t try to please everyone.

It’s impossible, and you’ll just stress yourself out. Besides, you’ve probably got other things to worry about.

Are you more of a fruit person or a nut person? Or are you a chocolate person? Everyone usually falls into one of those categories, but don’t worry if you don’t. Once you establish the types of flavors you prefer, you and your baker can begin to build the flavor profiles that will best suit your tastes.

POPULAR CAKE FLAVORS TRADITIONAL Lemon Vanilla Chocolate Spice Carrot Red Velvet

POPULAR FILLINGS

MODERN

White Chocolate Fresh Strawberries Chocolate Mousse Lemon Curd

Coffee Pink Champagne Grand Marnier Hazelnut Almond Bananas Foster

German Chocolate Pastry Cream Raspberry Mousse Chocolate Ganache

FROSTING

Bakers can do amazing things when it comes to decorating cakes. From a simple and elegant white frosted cake with white details to an elaborately carved cake covered in fondant with jewel embellishments made from sugar and gumpaste flowers that look real. As you browse the cakes online, take note of some of the different styles that you like. Simple cake designs are the least expensive. The more time and complicated the cake design, the more you should be prepared to pay the decorator. Here are some of the more popular types of frostings and how they can be used:

BUTTERCREAM

FONDANT

Buttercream frosting can be made in a variety of flavors and is usually piped onto cakes using different sized and shaped tips. A layer of buttercream is applied as the base, and then decorations are added on top. It does not do well in the heat, and works best on cakes that are a simple shape.

ROYAL ICING Typically used on elaborately decorated cookies, royal icing can be used to create accent decorations on a cake. Royal icing dries to a hard finish.

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Fondant is a very smooth, matte icing that gives cakes a flawless, porcelain finish. It is also used for ribbons and swags, and can be cut into different shapes to be used as appliques or textured using a variety of different tools. It is usually more expensive than buttercream and not as tasty.

GANACHE

GUMPASTE

Remember that chocolate cake you saw at the bakery that had that shiny chocolate icing on it? That was most likely ganache. Made from heavy whipping cream and chocolate, it is used as a filling or a frosting.

Similar to fondant, gum paste is an edible sugar dough that is typically used to create flowers and figurines. Similar to royal icing, gum paste dries brittle and hard, which makes it ideal for delicate decorations.

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FLORAL DESIGN

FLORAL DESIGN There are many people in the wedding party who need flowers - more than you might expect! Obviously, the bride will carry a bouquet, as will her bridesmaids. The groom and groomsmen usually have boutonnieres. The flower girl carries a basket of flower petals and can wear a corsage, and the ring bearer has a boutonniere as well.

These are all fairly obvious, but what about the parents of the bride and groom? Grandparents? People who are participating in the ceremony? Most couples want to honor parents, grandparents, close family members that are not in the wedding party, ushers, and any readers that participate in the ceremony. Don’t worry, there aren’t really any traditions or rules that are set in stone.

Ask your honored guests what their preference is regarding flowers. Some people dislike wearing boutonnieres or corsages and would prefer something different.

You don’t have to have everyone match either; if your mother prefers a wrist corsage and your future mother-in-law prefers a feminine boutonniere, let them have different styles! Whatever you do, just make sure that flowers are equally distributed. Giving flowers to your aunt and not to your fiancé’s aunt is just asking for drama!

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TYPES OF BOUQUETS Despite similar appearances, there are actually lots of different types of bouquet arrangements. Depending on the style and location of your wedding, different bouquets may appeal to you more than others. Choose a bouquet based on your gown, the feel of your wedding, and of course your personal taste! Here are three of the most popular styles of arrangements for brides: NOSEGAY A nosegay is a compact arrangement typically made up of a central flower or flowers, such as two or three roses, then several “filler flowers” and greenery. The stems are then trimmed to be the same length and wrapped in ribbon. Their compact size makes them perfect for casual garden weddings or as bridesmaid bouquets!

CASCADE

PAGEANT

This bouquet is typically dramatic and features a “waterfall”, or cascade, of flowers. Long, flowing types of flowers and greenery are typically used to create this kind of bouquet. They make a great statement and certainly add quite a bit of dramatic flair, so cascade bouquets pair best with simple, understated dresses.

This bouquet uses long stem flowers and greenery arranged in an oblong or non-symmetrical shape that the bride cradles. It is not the traditional shape of a bouquet, making it the perfect shape for modern weddings. Depending on the structure and type of flowers in the bouquet, it can be a glamorous look.

THE LANGUAGE OF FLOWERS

For centuries, people have used flowers to communicate their feelings. Different colors and flowers have a specific meaning. Customize your day to show your guests how much you really care!

WHITE The symbol of purity, simplicity, and innocence, white is a classic wedding color that pairs well with everything.

Peonies Ranunculus Hydrangea Calla lilies White Roses Queen Anne’s Lace

RED Of all the colors of the rainbow, red is the most passionate. It is used to represent deep love.

Cosmo Peonies Dahlias Red Roses Tulips Mums

PINK Pink evokes feelings of new love and true affection for your partner.

PURPLE Purple is often associated with royalty and nobility, while being feminine, and sweet.

Gladiolas Peonies Pink Roses Gerbera Daisies Dahlias Carnation

Verbena Irises Wisteria Hellebore Asters

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OTHER ARRANGEMENTS

Beyond bouquets, boutonnieres and corsages, there are many options for floral decorations, so find the combination that suits you!

Ceremony Entrance Aisle Decor Ceremony Arch or Altar Memorial Flowers Reception Entrance Guest Book Table Place Card Table Cocktail Tables Table Centerpieces

Buffet Line Sweets Table Reception Ceiling Around Dance Floor Toss Bouquet Bar Bathroom Signage

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QUESTIONS FOR YOUR FLORAL DESIGNER •

How long have you been in business?

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Do you use other elements such as feathers, candles, gems, etc. in your designs?

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How many weddings have you done?

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How would you describe your floral design style?

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Will you have other weddings or events on the weekend of our wedding?

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Can we see a portfolio of your work?

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Is there a delivery or set-up fee?

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What recommendations can you give us to maximize my budget?

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What time will you be at our ceremony and reception sites to set-up?

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Are you familiar with our ceremony and reception location?

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Do you return after the wedding to collect any flowers or rental items?

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What flowers do you recommend, given our color scheme, vision, and budget?

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What rental items do you have? How are they priced?

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What flowers will be in season for our wedding?

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When do rented items have to be returned?

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PHOTOGRAPHY Think about it this way: as time passes and your memories fade, the value of the photos taken on your wedding day increases. Your wedding photos are one of the few tangible items you will have from your wedding day. Many brides don’t bat an eye at spending thousands of dollars on a dress that they will wear once for a few hours, but have a hard time with the idea of spending that same amount on capturing these memories for a lifetime.

When a photographer quotes $2,000 for an 8-hour wedding shoot, the immediate assumption is that they are earning $250 per hour. Take a closer look and you will realize that wedding photographers make nowhere near that amount.

Professional wedding photographers are running a business. As with any type of business, there are many costs involved beyond the time they spend at your wedding taking pictures. At a minimum, there is the cost of their photography equipment, and if you want your photos processed, that takes time and software on a computer.

There is also the cost of insuring that equipment, paying taxes, business licenses, etc.

We understand that you have a limited amount of money to spend on your wedding, yet know the long-term value of your wedding photos. Don’t regret not spending the money to hire an amazing photographer. If you really love the style of the photographer who quoted you $2,000 but that is outside your photography budget, your options could include cutting out a few things to bring down the price, cutting costs elsewhere in your budget, or finding a different photographer with a similar style, but lower price point.

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ENGAGEMENT SHOOT An engagement photo shoot is an opportunity for you to get to know your wedding photographer before your big day. Some photographers include an engagement shoot as part of their wedding packages. If your photographer doesn’t, ask about adding one.

The engagement session is a time for you to build your relationship with the photographer. The photographer gets to learn more about you -- how you and your fiancé met, your proposal story, more about you as individuals. You get to learn about your photographer’s style, poses you’ll be doing on your wedding day, and most importantly, how to be comfortable in front of the camera. Plus, you’ll get some amazing photos of you and your fiancé!

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Is our wedding date available?

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Have you ever photographed a wedding at our venue?

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How many weddings have you photographed?

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What styles are your specialty?

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What is a typical wedding day for you?

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How long is your turnaround time?

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Will we have rights to the digital files?

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Do you edit the photographs, or will we receive the raw files?

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Do you have errors and omissions insurance, as well as comprehensive liability insurance?

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What happens if you cannot make it the day of the wedding? Has this ever happened before?

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WHAT TO EXPECT ON YOUR WEDDING DAY

Your photographer will show up a few hours before your ceremony to capture the shots of you and your bridesmaids getting ready, and to get detail shots of all the elements that go into your day. It is worth making time for the photographer and these pictures because these detail shots are an important part of your story.

After the detail shots, it’s time for the bride to get dressed. Everyone assisting will want to be fully dressed at this point so the bride can be the center of attention.

Once the dress is zipped, buttoned, or laced, the rest of the details, such as jewelry, veil, and shoes, will be photographed as you put them on. If time allows, you can squeeze in a few bridal portraits.

Most couples are doing first look shoots these days, and we love them. It is such a lovely, private moment when the couple get to see each other before the ceremony, and we love seeing the reaction shots of the grooms when they first see their brides! If you can afford it, this is a great opportunity for two photographers - one trained on each of you. The first look also provides the opportunity for romantic and less formal portraits of the bride and groom.

Thirty minutes before the ceremony begins, the bridal party disappears so guests don’t sneak a peek and the ushers can begin escorting guests to their seats. If the reception is at the same location as the ceremony, this is a great opportunity for the photographer to get detail shots of the reception space. If the reception is at a different venue, most photographers recommend having a cocktail hour outside of the reception area so the photographer can take photos of the untouched reception space before guests start arriving.

When it’s time for the ceremony to start, your photographer will be there to capture all the details, with the most important being the first kiss as a married couple! Following the ceremony is a great chance to take family portraits. It is best to save the majority of these until after the ceremony because all family members will be present at that time.

Based on the wedding package selected, the photographer will offer you a set number of hours. When planning your reception’s timeline, consider how much of the photographer’s time will be left to capture the highlights of the reception.

In addition to the cake-cutting and first dance, some couples plan a faux exit with just the bridal party and a few select guests to capture that moment before the photographer’s time is up.

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MUSIC THE OPTIONS There are quite a few options when it comes to the music you’ll be playing at your wedding. Choose one or more based on what will fit your budget, wedding style, and desired wedding vibe.

Strings: This is a popular option for ceremonies, and can also be used for music at the cocktail hour or dinner.

Soloists: A soloist at your wedding ceremony will make it feel intimate and memorable. Hire a singer, or ask a talented friend or family member to sing a song that’s special to you.

DJ: If your reception venue has limited space, you should use a DJ. They don’t use up as much space as a band and usually cost less, making them a good way to save money while still providing a great wedding experience.

Band: Bands provide a unique experience, and the energy of a live performance is hard to beat. If you’re willing to spend a little more money and have the extra space, a band is the way to go.

Playlist: If a band or DJ is outside of your budget, and you want to truly personalize your wedding, make your own playlist. You can rent a sound system and ask a friend to supervise. Just make sure the music appeals to everyone!

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CEREMONY MUSIC Ceremony music has a reputation for being boring and slow, but that doesn’t have to be true for your wedding!

Choose musicians that will express the feeling of your wedding through their sound and music selections.

Most wedding musicians are strings and soloists, typically performing traditional music. If you and your fiancé want something unique and that will show your personality as a couple, consider asking your ceremony performers to do an acoustic cover of a song you like.

Keep in mind that some churches have restrictions on secular music, so if your ceremony is being held in a church, ask your officiant about the types of songs that can be acceptable.

There are several parts of the ceremony that traditionally have their own music: •

The prelude is the music played while people are gathering a half hour or so before the ceremony.

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The ceremony begins with the seating of special guests and grandparents, followed by the seating of the mothers.

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The processional starts when the pastor and the groom and groomsmen proceed to the front and the bridesmaids make their way down the aisle.

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Then it is the bride’s turn to make a grand entrance.

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There may be special moments during your ceremony such as the lighting of the unity candle or a solo after a prayer.

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It’s time for the recessional and your grand exit!

RECEPTION MUSIC The reception is usually two parts: eating and dancing. Background music is typically played during dinner so your guests can visit and enjoy their meal.

The background music will continue during the toasts and cake cutting, if these are part of your timeline. You may also have special songs played during the traditional dances you have planned.

As the evening progresses, the music will transition from background to main event. Your DJ or band will play popular songs, both fast and slow, to encourage your guests to get up and dance.

If you are working with a DJ, you will be able to wait until about a month before your wedding day to make your music selections. This will ensure that the DJ has enough time to make sure the songs are downloaded. However, working with a live band will require a bit more planning. If the songs you’re wanting played at your wedding aren’t already part of their regular rotation, the band will have to learn and rehearse them so they will be perfect for your big day.

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MUSIC

THE TRADITIONAL DANCES provided by DB Music

Most couples seem to have a special song, one that has significance in their lives. That song is what should be played for your first dance as husband and wife. That or another song that is special and unique to you as a couple, not just a random song from a list you found on the internet.

If you don’t want to dance by yourselves for the entire length of the song, work out a cue with your DJ so they know when to invite other guests to join you on the dance floor, or to move on to the next activity of the evening.

Remember that the parent dances are the one part of the reception that is not about the bride and groom.

While some couples might not want to include parent dances in their big day, we encourage you to let your parents decide as it is their moment.

FATHER/DAUGHTER DANCE SONGS “I Loved Her First” - Heartland “My Girl” - Temptations “My Little Girl” - Tim McGraw “Cinderella” - Steven Curtis Chapman

FIRST DANCE SONGS

MOTHER/SON DANCE SONGS

“Thinking Out Loud” - Ed Sheeran “I Can’t Wait (Be My Wife)” - Runner Runner “You Are The Best Thing” - Ray LaMontagne “A Thousand Years” - Christina Perry

“A Mother’s Song” - T Carter Music “What A Wonderful World” - Louis Armstrong “I Hope You Dance” - Lee Ann Womack “Simple Man” - Lynrd Skynyrd or Shinedown

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ENTERTAINMENT

WAYS TO WOW YOUR GUESTS PHOTO BOOTH

FIREWORKS

Photo booths are becoming popular at weddings because of their simplicity and appeal to all age groups.

They’re also a great alternative to a traditional guest book. You can rent a photo booth or make it yourself, but just make sure that it reflects your style!

One way to wow your guests is with fireworks -- and it doesn’t have to be at the end of the reception.

Fireworks choreographed with your first kiss as a married couple, or with your pronouncement as husband and wife, are a great way to celebrate your marriage.

Most photobooth rentals come with props, custom designed photo strips, and an attendant. If you’re doing it yourself, incorporate your wedding colors and themes into the booth to bring it all together! Use a chalkboard to write out the instructions in different fonts for a fun carnival wedding, or set up a wall and decorate it with delicate flowers and chairs for a garden wedding.

In order to ensure that people take advantage of the photo booth, lead by example. Hop in there with your new spouse and take some pictures! Your guests will love interacting with you and will make some memories of their own.

FOR THE KIDS

A simple sparkler send-off, or a full show at the end of the evening, will be something that your guests will always remember, and it’s a great finale to your wedding.

Be sure to check with your venue and local bylaws to make sure fireworks are something you can do! Hiring a professional can make it easier to obtain the proper permits and insurance that are required.

Calebrate Love

Many couples can’t imagine planning a wedding without all the little ones in their lives there. Here are a few ways to make sure the little kids at your wedding have just as much fun as the big kids: • • • • • • •

Ask the DJ to add in kid friendly songs that everyone can enjoy Provide kid friendly snacks Kid’s table with crayons and wedding themed activity booklet Create a kid friendly centerpiece using things that can be played with such as blocks Kid’s only tent with books and games Consider hiring someone to help watch the kids so their parents can enjoy the festivities Kid friendly wedding favors such as bubbles, glow sticks, or chalk

From indoor pyrotechnics to aerial displays and sparkle fountain departures, Pyrotex designs the perfect way to celerate your love. www.PYROTEX.com

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REGISTRY

REGISTRY Registry shopping must be one of the most fun parts of wedding planning. Who doesn’t love new towels and sheets? However, if you were looking forward to going up and down the aisles with one of those scanner guns, you might be disappointed. Most retailers have moved away from this process, and most wedding registries are created online.

The days of the traditional registry with its formal dinnerware, crystal stemware, and silver that requires polishing, are behind us. Today’s bride and groom are registering for items that fit their lifestyle. That’s not to say you shouldn’t register for porcelain and crystal if that’s your entertaining style, but don’t feel like it’s a requirement.

Before you and your fiancé rush into creating your registries, either online or in person, take inventory of the pieces you have, and what you wish you had. Be sure to note down anything that is starting to look worn, or maybe doesn’t work anymore. Those are great items to add to your registry. Don’t hesitate to do a bit of research on some of the larger ticket items, either.

Guests appreciate plenty of options, so be sure to register for a wide range of items across many different price points. To the right is a list of traditional and modern items often found on registries.

WHERE TO REGISTER Where you register can be just as important as what you register for. Keep in mind that some of your guests prefer to go to a physical store and browse your registry items in person, while other guests will want the ease of ordering online. With that said, almost anything can be added to a registry these days. Retailers like Best Buy and Domino’s Pizza have even jumped on the wedding registry bandwagon. Yes, you can create a pizza wedding registry.

Stores like Target, Bed Bath & Beyond, and Kohl’s are popular locations for registries, and are easily accessible within the Texoma area. For those wanting to create an online registry, Amazon, Zola, and Blueprint Registry are popular.

Some retailers offer a completion discount which allows you to purchase unfulfilled items on your registry at a discounted rate for a short period of time after your wedding.

Keep in mind that you don’t have to pick just one place to register; two or three gift registries are completely acceptable and even expected. Remember that your guests like to have options on where to shop and what to get you.

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REGISTRY FORMAL DINNERWARE Dinner, salad and dessert plates Pasta and soup bowls Bread and butter plates Teacups and saucers Fruit bowls Teapot, creamer and sugar bowl Gravy boat Serving bowls Covered casserole dish Platters CASUAL DINNERWARE Dinner plates Soup and cereal bowls Bread and butter plates Salt and pepper set Covered butter dish Mugs Canister set FINE CRYSTAL Water goblets Wine glasses (red/white) Champagne flutes Iced beverage glasses Martini glasses Brandy snifters Decanters and pitchers Candlesticks BAR-WARE Tumblers Highballs/Pilsners/Beer glasses Ice bucket and tongs Wine cooler or wine rack Cocktail shaker and pitcher Bar utensils KITCHENWARE Cutlery and stake knives Cutting boards Timer Mixing bowls and spoons Dish towels and hot pads Paring, chef and bread knife Carving knife Colander Spatulas and whisks Pizza cutter Spoon rest Baster Rolling pin Cheese grater

FLATWARE Knives, forks and salad forms Soup spoons and teaspoons Serving spoons and forks Butter serving knife Cake and pie server Gravy ladle Serving set COOKWARE Sauce pans, sautĂŠ and frying pans Stock pot/Dutch oven Steamer/Double boiler Wok/Stir Fry pan Roaster Grill/griddle BAKE-WARE Cookie sheets Muffin pans Cake and pie pans Baking pans Bread pans ELECTRIC APPLIANCES Hand mixer Waffle iron Bread maker Rice cooker/vegetable steamer Toaster/Toaster Oven Food Processor Blender Electric indoor grill Coffee and tea makers Can opener Slow cooker KITCHEN LINENS Dish towels Cloths Kitchen mats and rugs

TABLE LINENS Table cloth/table runner Place mats Napkins and rings HOME ELECTRONICS Television Bluetooth Speaker Radio/Clock radio Camera and digital camcorder Home stereo components DVD/Blu-Ray player DECORATIVE ACCESSORIES Picture frames Lamps Vases BEDROOM LINENS Flat and fitted sheets Pillow cases and shams Comforters and bed skirts Blankets Mattress pads BATH LINENS Bath sheets and towels Hand towels and wash cloths Bath mat and rug Shower curtain and rings Bath accessories Hamper HOME CARE/PERSONAL Vacuum (upright and hand-held) Rug cleaner Iron and ironing board Portable steamer Broom, dust pan and mop LUGGAGE Upright suitcases Garment bags Duffel bags/Tote bags Accessory bag

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PLANNING CHECKLIST

PLANNING CHECKLIST Use this wedding planning checklist to help you keep track of the many tasks and details needed to plan your perfect day!

(IMMEDIATELY FOLLOWING YOUR ENGAGEMENT) Discuss budget, size and style of the wedding; decide who pays for what

Tour and reserve ceremony and reception sites; make initial catering contacts

Create a system to organize your thoughts photos, worksheets, etc. (e.g., binder, web folder, Pinterest account)

Meet with officiant; schedule premarital counseling

Decide on your ideal wedding date and time - vendor availability will ultimately determine the date Start your guest list - this will help with cost estimates when working with vendors Enlist the services of a wedding planner if using one Submit engagement announcement and engagement photo to local papers Contact a travel agent if planning a destination wedding Make initial contact with vendors and obtain references

Interview and select all your major vendors: caterer, baker, photographer, florist, musicians, dj, band, videographer Start shopping for wedding dress and bridesmaid dresses Select your wedding party and ask them Book engagement photo session well enough in advance to use photo in save the dates Select and order wedding dress Research wedding insurance options and ask vendors about their coverage

( 9 MONTHS BEFORE) Reserve rental items that are larger in size (e.g., tents) or high in demand (e.g., chairs) Contact a travel agent to plan your honeymoon; put down a deposit Begin passport acquisition process Compile the guest list and begin to collect guests' addresses

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Register your wedding with a formal wear retailer Mail save the dates Book your hair and make-up professionals to ensure the preferred date and time Select and order undergarments, and accessories

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( 6 MONTHS BEFORE) Look for alteration specialist (if someone other than bridal shop)

Get measurements from men in wedding party

Choose and order bridesmaids dresses

Make all transportation arrangements to and from the wedding and the reception

Have a design consultation with your baker and order your wedding cake

Finalize order for any rental items including serviceware, linens, dĂŠcor, etc.

Create gift registries and continue to update them every couple of weeks

Design and order invitations, and other paper goods

Reserve your rehearsal dinner facility and choose menu

Implement diet and exercise program

Have florist consultation and choose flowers

Sign up for dance lessons

( 4 MONTHS BEFORE) Finalize guest list

Select and order mothers dresses

Reserve bridal suite and block of rooms at hotel for out of town guests

Discuss ceremony plans with officiant Choose ceremony readings and reach out to readers

( 3 MONTHS BEFORE) Begin dress alteration process for bride and bridesmaids Contact photographer to go over timeline; verify date, time, and location particulars Give videographer wedding day timeline and any other pertinent information

Research marriage license requirements Give gentle reminder to any groomsmen that have not yet been measured for formalwear Verify event cost with caterer once they determine availability and seasonal fluctuations Address wedding invitations

( 2 MONTHS BEFORE) Mail invitations Purchase all accessories, shoes, and lingerie for bridal gown First dress fitting; Schedule second dress fitting for a couple weeks later

Schedule a follow up meeting with florist to tie up loose ends before flowers are ordered Shop for wedding rings Meet with ceremony and reception musicians/DJs to choose music

Buy a wedding gift for future spouse and gifts for attendants and helpers

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( 1 MONTH BEFORE) Final appointment with ceremony and reception site coordinators to solidify plans

Make final tweaks to rental items list, if necessary Plan seating arrangements for the reception

Confirm formalwear choices; check that all men have been measured

Review this checklist to make sure nothing has been missed

Do a trial run for hair and makeup

Make final payment to travel agent

Check with the newspapers on wedding announcement requirements

Finalize orders for programs and ceremony accessories

Finalize plans for rehearsal dinner; mail invitations

Work with DJ or band on reception music

( 2 WEEKS BEFORE) Final dress fitting

Break in wedding shoes

Follow up with any guests who have not sent their RSVP

Write wedding vows

Give the final guest count to your baker and caterer, verify all details Finalize programs and signage Finalize list of names for place cards and escort cards Apply for marriage license - be sure to bring all needed documents

Review all details. Walk through the entire event considering things like parking, access for handicapped guests, etc.

Appoint someone to act as “organizer� to troubleshoot any problems that might arise and make sure everyone is where they need to be the week of the wedding Pick up wedding rings

( 1 WEEK BEFORE) Make sure your groom gets a final haircut and grooming

Do a final check in with all vendors to finalize and verify details

Review final details for those in the wedding party

Confirm arrival times with vendors and wedding party

Enjoy a day with family and friends. Visit a day spa, have a massage, a facial, and relax!

( 3 DAYS BEFORE) Pick up wedding gown, un-bag gown at home

Drop off guest welcome bags for hotel to distribute

Pack for the honeymoon

Pack up everything you need for the ceremony (marriage license, guestbook and pens, lighter for the unity candle, decorations ,etc.)

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( 1 DAY BEFORE) Get a manicure and pedicure Visit formalwear retailer for final fitting and pick up Groom gets a hair trim (facial hair included)

Attend the rehearsal and rehearsal dinner and give gifts to attendants Give the rings and clergy’s fee to the best man Organize gown, accessories, etc. to go to ceremony

(WEDDING DAY) Hair, makeup, etc.

Relax and enjoy your special day!

( 1 TO 2 DAYS AFTER) Return rented formalwear

Mail wedding announcements

Return other rental items

Return completed marriage license to the county clerk’s office

CHANGING YOUR NAME Following the wedding, you will need to take your signed marriage license to the county clerk’s office to obtain your marriage certificate. The marriage certificate is a piece of paper that proves that you are legally married. It does not mean your last name has legally changed. When you are getting your license before the wedding, be sure to find out the timeline for filing it after the wedding.

You will be required to present a copy of your marriage certificate to complete the process of changing your name at government agencies as well as non-government institutions. We recommend ordering three certified copies of your marriage certificate because you may have to surrender a copy as you go about changing your name at different places.

The first place to change your name is at the Social Security Office. Then you may begin to use your new name.

We recommend going to the Department of Motor Vehicles next. Don’t forget to change your name at these places as well: Banks Medical Care Provider(s) Insurance Mortgage Lender or Landlord Professional License County Tax Assessor Credit Card Companies

State Tax Commission Employer (fill out new W-2) Dept. of Revenue Retirement Documents U.S. Passport Postal Service Investment Companies

Utility Company Voter Registration Legal Documents Wills

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THE DRESS

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VENDOR DIRECTORY

APPAREL A-1 Wedding & Party Rentals (pg. 29) 3031 S. Woodlawn Blvd.

Denison, Texas 75020 (903) 463-7709 www.a1wedding.com

CAKES & SWEETS

Caked Up! (pg. 39) 201 W. Main St. Durant, Oklahoma 74701 (580) 380-7777 www.cakedupdurant.com

CATERING Lucky 2 BBQ (pg. 30) (903) 203-9337 www.lucky2bbq.com

Ellie and Ace Calligraphy (pg.36) (903) 815-6247 www.ellieandace.com

JEWELRY Ray-Ward Fine Jewelers 104 West Main Ardmore, Oklahoma 73401 (580) 223-0533 www.ray-ward.com

MUSICIANS & DJS Four Strings (903) 364-5185 www.fourstrings.com DB Music (pg. 52) (903) 891-4104 www.dbsoundandmusic.com

ENTERTAINMENT Pyrotex (pg. 53) (903) 587-8000 www.pyrotex.com

PHOTO BOOTHS DB Music (pg. 52) (903) 891-4104 www.dbsoundandmusic.com

FLORAL DESIGN

A-1 Wedding & Party Rentals (pg. 29) (903) 463-7709 www.a1wedding.com Something Bloomed (pg. 43) (903) 814-2822 www.somethingbloomedtx.com

INVITATIONS & CALLIGRAPHY

PHOTOGRAPHY Christy Hamilton Photography (pg.49) (580) 916-2465 christyhamiltonphotography.com David Tarvin Photography (pg. 48) (903) 814-0609 davidtarvinphotography.com

A-1 Wedding & Party Rentals (pg. 29) (903) 463-7709 www.a1wedding.com

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Gingersnap Studios (pg.49) (903) 271-4936 (903) 815-5558 www.gsnapstudios.com Hix Images (pg.46) (580) 380-3403 www.hiximages.com Lauren Hummert Photography (pg.48) (682) 558-1503 laurenhummertphotography.com

RENTALS A-1 Wedding & Party Rentals (pg.29) 3031 S. Woodlawn Blvd.

Denison, Texas 75020 (903) 463-7709 www.a1wedding.com

VENUES Green Gables House (pg.25) 202 South Pearl Trenton, Texas 75490 214-499-5290 www.greengablestrenton.com Hilton Garden Inn (pg.2-3) Sherman/Denison Texoma Event Center 5015 South US 75 Denison, Texas 75020 (903) 463-3331 www.hilton.com

Katy Depot (pg.27) 101 E Main Street Denison, Texas 75021 (903) 463-7729 www.katydepot.info

VENDOR DIRECTORY Knotty Barn (pg.27) 810 Frisco Road Sherman, TX 75090 www.knottybarn.com (903) 868-1938 Old Church Restored - The Pearl (pg.26) 204 E. Main Street Whitesboro, Texas 76273 (214) 403-0909 www.oldchurchrestored.org Rockin’ R Ranch (pg.25) 6196 N3860 Road Bokchito, Oklahoma 74726 (580) 295-3154 www.rockinrranchok.com

Willowood Ranch (pg.26) 3803 Ward Neal Road Bells, Texas 75414 (903) 891-0070 www.willowoodranch.com

VIDEOGRAPHY Christy Hamilton Photography (pg.49) (580) 916-2465 christyhamiltonphotography.com David Tarvin Photography (pg.48) (903) 814-0609 davidtarvinphotography.com

ACCOMMODATIONS Hilton Garden Inn (pg.2-3) Sherman/Denison Texoma Event Center 5015 South US 75 Denison, Texas 75020 (903) 463-3331 www.hilton.com

PREFERRED PARTNERS

Diamond Insurance Group (pg.31) (903) 891-4646 www.diamondinsgroup.com Mary Kay Rennie Brigman (903) 368-2688 marykay.com/Renniebrigman Minted Designs Co. (pg.7) (469) 585-2024 facebook.com/minteddesignsco The Moose and Owl (pg.7) (972) 900-9509 themooseandowl.etsy.com

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