Exploring your sexuality

You’re out of high school, transitioning from being a senior to a freshman all over again. Now is your chance to branch out (only if you want to) — especially when it comes to your sexuality and gender. It is important to understand that your sexuality and gender expression is your business. So no matter your gender, you should be comfortable with who you are. Though some won’t understand or accept you, make sure you have enough loved ones around you who do. Know that you are loved.

STICKY LABELS You shouldn’t ever feel pressure to put labels on anything or put yourself in a box. It could range from a sexual relationship with someone, your gender or your sexuality. It’s common for people to discover they’re Queer later in life, even while at university. You don’t need to push yourself and you don’t owe anyone a coming out story. But if you’re certain, start small by coming out to loved ones first. And know your pronouns to firmly inform them about it. You may prefer to be called ‘she’ or ‘he’ if you don’t mind binaries. Or ‘they’ if you’re non-binary. KNOW YOUR STUFF Utilize Google and groups for any awkward questions. It’s beneficial to do research on the 2SLGBTQIA+ community to find out more about yourself and possibly make new supportive friends who understand you. For instance, you could join The Pride Collective here at UBC. The collective is an AMS resource group that offers educational and social services dealing with sexual and gender diversity to the UBC community.

COMMUNICATION AND RESPECT When going into your first relationship as a Queer person, always communicate your boundaries with your partner(s). Listen to your body when something isn’t working. Also, respect when your partner does the same. Having a consensual and comfortable relationship is key.

Life as an undergrad grants you a lot of freedom. While exploring your sexuality and gender, remember the golden rules: always be comfortable in your skin and be safe. If you ever feel alone or confused, you can seek guidance from a UBC counsellor. U