Sexual health 101

I think this is a message that I didn’t hear a lot but if you want to wait to have sex, then wait. There are tons of people on campus that are waiting, be it for marriage, someone special, a good situation, whatever — you just generally hear about them less. Don’t feel pressured. If you are in a good relationship and want to wait, your partner should respect that. If you don’t want to wait, that’s cool too. Do what you will be happiest with in the end.

— EMILY GUBSKI

No matter your gender or sexuality, whether this is your first or hundredth time, your sexual health should always be a priority. You’re probably sick of hearing about how you should always use condoms (which you should), but there is so much more to your sexual health than just having protected sex. Here is a quick breakdown of a few things to consider in your journey to figuring out what you like.

YES, WEAR CONDOMS. BUT WHAT TYPE? Although mainstream media might only focus on the ‘classic’ external condom with little lubrication, there is an entire world of physical barriers out there. For starters, the material: latex or non-latex? Then, the shape: ribbed or smooth? No need to stop at external condoms; you can also consider internal condoms. They are not as popular as external condoms, but they are just as effective and some people prefer them. Internal condoms (also known as vaginal condoms) can be inserted long before a sexual encounter. One of their major benefits is providing extra coverage in the surrounding area of the vulva or anus which offers greater protection against sexually transmitted infections (STIs). Yet, not all sex is penetrative. Dental dams (a rectangular sheet of latex that can be made

from a regular external condom) reduce the risk of STIs while still allowing for oral stimulation.

LUBE Proper lubrication is incredibly important for a healthy and enjoyable sex life as it prevents pain and potential tearing. As with condoms, there are different types of lubes that serve different purposes. The most common lubricants are oil-based, water-based or silicone-based. Oil-based lubricants are not compatible with latex condoms and silicone-based lubricants are not compatible with any silicone sex toy. Water-based lubricants are a safe option all around, however they usually require reapplication as our bodies absorb it much more quickly than with other types of lubes. Different situations might require different lubricants, so just keep in mind your options and their limitations when choosing what works best for you.

TOYS Sex toys are not just a way to ‘spice up’ your sex life. They can be useful tools to feel comfortable with your own body, explore different experiences and move away from penetrative sex. Remember to always know what material your toy is made from (as not all toys are made equally safe) and wash them regularly. Keep an open mind and always be properly informed of the products you’re buying and their intended uses. There is really never any harm in Googling even if it’s just to confirm something you already feel you know.

STIs Thankfully, STIs are not the seven-headed monsters they once were. Although there is stigma surrounding STIs, there are many treatments available and half of them are curable. It’s important to get tested regularly even if you have a monogamous sexual partner. The best part is that getting tested is free, fast and can save you from further health complications.

And remember, you do not have to do anything you do not feel comfortable doing. It is always okay to stop. U