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STUART HAROLD BUXBAUM
VIRGINIA BEACH—Stuart Harold Buxbaum, age 87, died peacefully at his home on January 12, 2023.
On March 26, 1935, Stuart was born in Jamaica, N.Y., to the late Julius and Margie Buxbaum. He is predeceased by his sister, Carol Waranch.
In the 1940s, Julius moved his family to Tidewater, settling in Norfolk to pursue an opportunity in the home-building business. During this time, Julius and Margie became founding members of Temple Israel. Stuart attended Granby High School and graduated in 1953. While he was never large enough to play football, Coach Johnny Brown appreciated his organizing skills and made him Team Manager. Stuart remained close with many of his high school friends for more than 60 years. He joined the Army Reserve, receiving an honorable discharge in 1963. He attended Virginia Tech and returned home to work in his family’s business, Buxbaum & Waranch, a land development and home building company. In the late 1980s, Stuart started another business with his eldest son, Ed. Together, S&E Builders continued to build custom homes for another 30 years throughout Hampton Roads.
In 1963, Stuart and his former wife, Alice Epstein Buxbaum, moved their young family to Carolanne Farms in Kempsville. Stuart didn’t take long to discover his passion and need to serve his community. He joined the Kempsville Volunteer Fire and Rescue Squad that same year. During his 21-year commitment, Stuart rose to the rank of Volunteer Fire Chief. In 1968, he was involved in the purchase of state-of-the-art fire and rescue equipment. As a building boom began in Virginia Beach, so was the need for a new fire station. Stuart was able to procure land and oversaw the development of Station 10 Woodstock. In 1975, the building was completed and opened with nine firefighters. Stuart served as a role model and had the honor of becoming a surrogate Dad to many of the young volunteers at the station. He always believed that what happened at the station stayed at the station, even when the principal at Kempsville High School would call looking for some of his students. Stuart always welcomed new members and passionately shared his love for serving others in need.
In 1984, the Kempsville Ruritans recognized Stuart’s dedication to the community and named him “Citizen of the Year.” Stuart always had a passion for water. If he wasn’t fighting fires, and building homes, he would be racing his mini hydroplane boat, “Little Bux,” along the mid-Atlantic.
In 1986, Stuart began another chapter of his life with his wife, Marilyn Dozoretz Buxbaum. They have been happily married for more than 36 beautiful years. Together they shared their love of the Washington Redskins, Old Dominion football, Doumar’s vanilla ice cream, parades, many Virginia Arts Festivals, and Military Tattoo performances. While Stuart never had much of an ear for rhythm and music, he began playing the tambourine in Marilyn’s Klezmer band. He proudly dressed in European attire, sharing Marilyn’s love of music with her and the band.
Stuart and Marilyn loved to spend their winter months in Naples, Fla. Naturally, they made friends wherever they traveled. It was a visit to the Conservancy of Southwest Florida when Stuart found a renewed way to serve. He began training as a Dock Master, which became his latest love. Stuart always made sure the scheduler had his availability, often stepping up and filling vacant spots. There was always something to learn; in turn, he loved sharing his stories.
Stuart will be missed by the many lives he touched and the lifelong friendships he made along the way.
He is survived by his loving and devoted wife, Marilyn Buxbaum. His children Ed (Jackie) of Virginia Beach, Susan (Jorge) of Tucson, Ariz., Margie of Virginia Beach, and Jon (Mara) of Raleigh, N.C. Papa to Brian, Kevin, Emma, Jacob, Ben, Drew, and Nate. He is also survived by Marilyn’s daughters, Shari (Andrew) and Renee (John) of Virginia Beach and grandchildren Erica (Andrew), Craig (Sophia), Jason, Julia (Matt), Jacqueline, and Joseph.
The family would like to thank the compassionate caregivers provided by Seniorcorps/The Key, Jewish Family Service of Tidewater, and Westminster Canterbury Hospice.
Funeral services were graveside at Forest Lawn Cemetery, officiated by Rabbi Rosalin Mandelberg. Please consider a donation to Kempsville Volunteer Rescue Squad, Ohef Sholom Temple, Alzheimer’s Association, or a charity of your choice. Online condolences may be offered to the family at hdoliver.com.
ABRAHAM ELLIOT FRANK
AUBURN, WASH.—Abraham Elliot Frank passed away on December 19, 2022, in a hospital in Auburn, Washington of heart failure. His wife, Anita, and his mother, Rita, were with him at the time of his death.
Abe was born on May 2, 1968, in Philadelphia, Pa. Most of his childhood was spent in Olney, Maryland where he was surrounded by a large and loving extended family. After graduating from Barrie Day School in 1986, he attended Montgomery College, graduating with a degree in Criminal Justice in 1988. He completed his undergraduate work at the University of Maryland Baltimore County, graduating with a degree in history in 1993.
Before moving to the Pacific Northwest, Abe lived in Virginia Beach, Va. Earning certificates in computer technology and in legal studies from Tidewater Community College, he worked for both Gateway Computers and the local legal aid society. In the early 2000s, he decided to venture West. In Seattle, he found a forever home and his best life. He began working for the Internal Revenue Service of the Federal Government soon after arriving in Seattle. Most recently, he became a teacher of new hires at the IRS, a challenge that he enjoyed immensely. In
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2015, he married his beloved wife, Anita, and they had a good and happy life together in Auburn, Washington, sharing their love of animals and of role-playing adventures.
Abe is survived by his wife, Anita; his mother, Rita Frank of Virginia Beach; his sister, Ilene Topper, her husband, Larry and her son, LT of Crozet, Va; and his many cousins and their families. He was predeceased by his father, Daniel E. Frank, of blessed memory.
A funeral service and burial were held at Evergreen Washelli Cemetery, Seattle, Wash., with Rabbi Bob Maslan officiating.
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SONIA GOLDSTEIN LAND
VIRGINIA BEACH—Sonia Goldstein Land, 97, passed away on January 14, 2023.
She was born in Portsmouth, Va. on July 27, 1925 to Clara and Jack Goldstein. She was predeceased by Edward R. Land, her husband of 50 years. She leaves behind cousins William, Harry, Linda and Leigh, Romney, Rosanne, and Jennie.
She graduated from Maury High School, and attended Beaver College/ Arcadia University and ODU. She was an insurance agent with Aflac for 40 years and a longtime member of Congregation Beth El.
Sonia enjoyed being at Beth Sholom Village where the staff took such good care of her.
Memorial donations may be made to Beth Sholom Village or Congregation Beth El.
A graveside funeral service was held at Forest Lawn Cemetery.
JOAN H. GOODSTEIN
RICHMOND, VA.—It is with deep sorrow that we announce the death of Joan H. Goodstein (Richmond, Virginia), born in Baltimore, Maryland, who passed away on December 22, 2022, at the age of 88, leaving to mourn family and friends.
A funeral service was held at the Bliley’s Funeral Home in Richmond, followed by the burial at Forest Lawn Cemetery in Richmond.
The family asks that donations be made to the charity of your choice.
SHIRLEY KATZ HOFFMAN
MIDLOTHIAN, VA.—Shirley Katz Hoffman, 94 of Midlothian, Va., passed away Wednesday, December 21, 2022.
She is preceded in death by her beloved husband, Stanley J. Hoffman; parents, Fred and Anna Katz; and sister, Lucille Hill.
Born in Baltimore, Md. and moved to Virginia Beach. She then moved to Richmond to be closer to her family. She was very active in the Tideland Poodle Club and Tidewater Kennel Club. Bred and owner handled over 25 miniature poodles American Champion.
Shirley was a member of Congregation Beth Ahabah.
She is survived by her daughter, Judy Malloy (Edward) and Ann Winer; grandchildren, Randall Winer, Sean Malloy, Rebecca Warden (Bob).
A graveside service was held at Woodlawn Memorial Gardens in Norfolk.
Memorial contributions may be made to your favorite charity.
MORTON “MORTY” IRA HOFSTEIN
VESTAL, N.Y.—Morton Ira Hofstein, of Vestal, N.Y., died peacefully on Saturday, December 17 at the age of 77.
He was predeceased by his parents, Frances and David Hofstein, and his first wife, Cheryl.
Morty is survived by his wife Marcia; his children: Rachel (Jason) Sanders, Jason Hofstein, Wendy (Brett) Green, and Jodi (Oren) Shapiro, and the many grandchildren he adored. He is also survived by his sister Paula (James) Gordon and nephews Alex (Marie), Sam, and Ben, and Greg.
Morty was a retired Lieutenant in the NYC Police Department and president emeritus of the NYPD Shomrim society. He was an avid lover of all things opera.
A memorial service was conducted at Temple Israel in Vestal, N.Y. Funeral arrangements by Hopler & Eschbach Funeral Home. Dnations in Morty’s memory may be made to Temple Israel.
LEE NORMAN KASTNER
CHESAPEAKE—Lee N. Kastner, M.D., of Chesapeake, passed away December 9, 2022.
He was born in 1924 in Baltimore, Md., and was the son of Clara and Ferdinand Kastner.
Lee attended the University of Maryland, the University of Pennsylvania for pre-med, and received his medical degree from the University of Maryland. His pediatric internship and residency
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continued from page 35 were at Sinai Hospital in Baltimore. Lee served in World War II and was a Captain in the Korean War. He practiced pediatrics in Portsmouth for 33 years.
Lee is survived by his wife, Arliss Kastner. He was also the former husband of Marilyn Kastner (deceased). Lee and Marilyn had six children, 12 grandchildren, and 18 great-grandchildren. He leaves a proud legacy of 55 immediate family.
Lee was a past president of the Tidewater Pediatric Society, past chairman of the Pediatric Departments at Maryview and Portsmouth General Hospitals, past president of Temple Sinai, and co-founder of the Tidewater Bicycle Association.
Virtually every day, Lee enjoyed and exulted in his cycling, skiing, running, swimming, dancing, canoeing, and traveling in 44 countries,—many times by bicycle. “He was a man for all seasons.”
A graveside service was held at Olive Branch Cemetery in Portsmouth with Rabbi Rosalin Mandelberg officiating. Memorial donations may be made to Maryview Hospital or Ohef Sholom Temple in Norfolk. Condolences may be registered at BWFosterFuneralHome.com.
STEVEN F. KAUDER
PORTSMOUTH—On January 4, 2023, the world lost Steven F. Kauder—an immeasurably kind, selfless soul and always the tallest man in the room. A true mensch with an irrepressible optimism, a deep, booming voice, and a heart far too big for this earth.
Steve lived a life of many passions. An avid sports enthusiast, he was always tuned into his New York professional teams and the games of his beloved alma mater, ODU. A music lover, he spent hours jamming to the sounds of Little Feat and The Grateful Dead. A skilled woodworker, he partnered with his brother-in-crime, Don, to carve works of art out of wood he foraged with his brother Neal. Steve was a lover of fresh and saltwater fishing, bass fishing with his brother Neal and boating the Chesapeake Bay. When he wasn’t on the water, Steve was bagging birdies on the golf course or visiting with his family and network of lifelong friends (Barry Dixon, Weston Spivey, Jimmy Black, Blair Arbogast, and Gill Cahill). But his greatest joys in life were his family. Steve and his wife Janet remain endlessly proud of their two wonderful children, Sarah and Aaron, whom Steve loved with his whole heart.
A 1980 graduate of Old Dominion University, he went on to a successful 35-year career in IT management, retiring from Merck in 2015. Steve was 64 years old when he finally rested in his fight with ALS, a fight defined by his characteristic grace, courage, dignity, and humor.
He is survived by his wife, Janet Marie Kauder; his children Sarah Marie Kauder and Aaron David Kauder; his daughter-in-law, Regina Putri Kauder (Aaron); his mother, Violet Kauder; his brothers, Don (Tamara) and Neal (Jane); his cousins Kenneth (Tenna), Karen, and Steven; his seven nieces and nephews and their children—all of whom he loved like his own.
He was preceded by his father, CDR Robert Kauder; brother, Bruce Kauder MD; one Aunt, Sandy; two uncles, Nessim and Marty; and his sister-in-law, Andrea Kauder (Neal).
Sturtevant Funeral Home in Portsmouth handled burial arrangements, which were private. Memorial donations to The ALS Association.
ELEANOR “ELLIE” LEON LIPKIN
NORFOLK—Eleanor “Ellie” Leon Lipkin, passed away at home on December 22, 2022.
Proud to have been raised in Berkeley, she then became a lifelong resident of Norfolk. She was the daughter of the late Benjamin and Helen Goodman Leon.
She was preceded in death by her husband Paul M. Lipkin and sister Phyllis Green. Ellie was a graduate of Maury High and attended Carnegie Mellon University. She was a founding member of Temple Israel and a faithful “Minyonaire.”
The consummate volunteer, Ellie was involved with and led innumerable organizations. In the Jewish community, she was the first woman president of the JCC, regional president of B’nai B’rith Women, headed the women’s division of the United Jewish Federation of Tidewater, and was active on the boards of Temple Israel, Beth Sholom Home, the Jewish Museum and Cultural Center in Portsmouth, and many others. Her energy extended to the broader world and she was active with the Friends of the Juvenile Court, Dwelling Place, Food Bank, Volunteer Hampton Roads, Virginia Interfaith Council. In her 80’s she became an enthusiastic Reading Buddy and weekly made and served sandwiches to chemotherapy patients through Cancer Care’s Acts of Kindness program.
Ellie and Paul loved traveling with friends. Her most memorable trip, however, was a four-person mission to the Soviet Union in 1989 to assist Jewish Refuseniks.
Ellie’s active community service didn’t lessen her commitment to her family. She provided her children, nephews; and grandchildren with summers at Sandbridge and all eagerly anticipated holiday gatherings with extended family and friends.
Ellie is survived by her children Laura (Bill), Matt (Donna), and Rhonda (Michele), grandchildren Tova, Jenna, Edwin, Barrett, Devin, Sarah, India, Randy, and great-grandchildren Eliot, Ryleigh, Jace, and Arianna, as well as other extended family members and dear friends.
Funeral services were held at Temple Israel. Memorial donations may be made to Hope House Foundation, Temple Israel, or Beth Sholom Home. Online condolences may be offered to the family at hdoliver.com.
BETH DONN MANCOLL
VIRGINIA BEACH—Beth Donn Mancoll, 81, passed away peacefully at home on December 22, 2022, surrounded by her loving family, when her fourth bout with cancer overcame her.
Beth was born to Milton and Freda Fleder Donn in Norfolk, Virginia. Beth was preceded in death by her parents and brother, Ronald Donn.
Beth attended Norfolk Public Schools and graduated from Maury High School. She attended the Norfolk Division of the College of William & Mary and Endicott College before marrying and moving to West Hartford, Conn., where they raised their family for 20 years.
Beth honed her entrepreneurial skills managing her husband’s optometric practice and as a volunteer running the Mt. Sinai Hospital Gift Shop in Connecticut. Beth spent most summers with family in Virginia Beach, and eventually moved home in 1981 to the Oceans Condominium, which was a constant gathering place for family and friends. Beth started her own business, Items Unlimited, Inc., which she successfully operated for more than 30 years. Items Unlimited was as varied as its name, evolving over the years with her keen business insights.
Left to cherish her memory are her children, Deborah Casey (Dr. Steven Waranch), Dr. John Mancoll (Joanna), Susan Albert (Bret), and Matthew Mancoll (Robin); grandchildren in order of appearance, Caroline, Maggie (Taylor), Joe, Emily, Alex, Mark (Makayla), Ben, Ryan, Hannah, and Molly; and siblings, Allan Donn (Susan) and Cyndi Tessler (Jacob).
Beth’s graveside service took place at Forest Lawn Cemetery with Cantor Jennifer Rueben officiating. Condolences may be left online at www.altmeyerfh.com. Donations may be made to Virginia Beach Rescue Squad.
ALAN SWERSKY
ATLANTA, GA.—On January 2, 2023, we lost our beloved Alan, at the age of 88 years, after a life well lived. He passed away at home due to complications from Multiple Myeloma. He was keenly aware of the love of his family and friends.
Alan was born to Harry and Anna Gordan Swersky on February 23, 1934. He was raised in Norfolk and Virginia Beach, Virginia, where his love of sun, sand, and fishing was developed. He was a wonderful athlete and whatever the game, if a ball was used, he was in. At a young age he was an avid duckpin bowler and set a world record for the highest single game by a 13-year-old. Alan graduated from Maury High School and went on to attend the University of
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North Carolina. He was a member of Tau Epsilon Phi fraternity and his time spent in Chapel Hill made him a lifelong Tar Heels fan. He also attended the Medical College of Virginia where, in 1956, he earned his degree in Pharmaceutical Sciences. Upon graduation, Alan was drafted into the Army and served in medical units in the United States and Europe. After his honorable discharge, Alan felt he needed a vacation, so he and a friend took a trip to the Pocono Mountains for a few days of R&R. On the second day he met the love of his life, Lennie Berman. They married five months later, in January 1960 and they settled in Norfolk.
Alan opened Midtown Pharmacy on the corner of a busy neighborhood of residences and professional offices. The pharmacy had a lunch counter and a good cook, and soon became a popular meeting place for all. Alan served on the board of Temple Israel. He was a Mason and belonged to the Masonic Lodge #1 in Norfolk. He was also a member of the Lions Club and numerous professional pharmaceutical organizations. Alan’s love of sports continued throughout his life, and when time allowed, he played tennis, golf, and went fishing.
Later in his career, Alan moved from retail pharmacy to nursing home pharmacy, servicing many of the nursing homes in Tidewater. He was instrumental in transforming the pharmaceutical care in the nursing home industry to a unit dosing system. This system helped prevent the misuse and over delivery of medication to the patients, and is still being used to this day.
He loved to travel, and he and his wife traveled all over the world for many years. As many interests as Alan had, there was nothing he loved more than his family. He therefore, happily, left his lifelong home, of 60 years, and moved to the Atlanta area to be near his daughters and two young grandsons.
Alan spent his 23 years in Atlanta being a part of his grandsons’ lives— taking them to movies, the theater, watching them play tennis and grow into wonderful young men. He made cherished new friends, with whom he enjoyed weekly lunches and monthly poker games.
Alan was a man of character, strength, and humor. He was a devoted, generous, and beloved husband, father, and grandfather who will be missed by all who knew him. He is survived by his loving wife, Lennie; his two daughters, Sheri Sterling (Marc) and Jodi Franco (Harold); and his two grandsons, Ethan and Jared Sterling.
Donations may be made to the Leukemia Society or the Multiple Myeloma Society.
MIRIAM YOUNG
VIRGINIA BEACH—Miriam Young, age 98, of Virginia Beach, Virginia passed away on Wednesday, September 21, 2022.
Miriam was born December 9, 1923.
A funeral service for Miriam was held at Star of David Chapel, North Lauderdale, Fla. Following the funeral service, a committal service was held at Star of David Garden of Solomon.
Fond memories and expressions of sympathy may be shared at www.starofdavidfuneralchapel.com for the Young family.
Tidewater Jewish Foundation (TJF) seeks an experienced candidate for the full-time position of Marketing and Communications Coordinator. Under the direction and in collaboration with the President and CEO, the Marketing and Communications Coordinator plays an integral role in the advancement of the Foundation’s mission – to support/promote charitable giving and ensure the future of the Tidewater Jewish community through philanthropic fund development. The Marketing and Communications Coordinatior is the primary communications staff person for TJF, and is expected to provide the expertise needed to drive the planning and execution of a broad, multi-faceted marketing and outreach strategy.
Requirements: Bachelor's Degree in Communications, Marketing, Public Relations, or other related study path. Minimum 3 years of experience in direct marketing, such as leading strategy development and implementation, writing, and editing copy for print and digital viewership, and assessing effectiveness of marketing and communications efforts.
Salary is competitive and commensurate with experience.
Complete job description at www.jewishva.org/TJF Submit cover letter, resume, and salary requirements to: resumes@ujft.org Attn: Taffy Hunter, Human Resources director.
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Employment Opportunity Development Strategist
Virginia-based or remote considered
Tidewater Jewish Foundation (TJF) is a $125 million regional community foundation which supports the Jewish communities of Southeastern Virginia. TJF supports the development, investment, and management of endowment funds for numerous area agencies and synagogues including two Jewish day schools, United Jewish Federation of Tidewater, Beth Sholom Village, and Jewish Family Service. The Development Strategist should integrate presentation delivery, have active listening skills, and probing techniques to cultivate relatedness through dialogue. In concert with and trained by the CEO, the Development Strategist will shape TJF’s multi-generational endowment development plan including teen philanthropy, LIFE & LEGACY, and Jewish Future Pledge Programs.
Requirements: Bachelor’s Degree with at least two (2) years’ experience in one or more of the following: marketing, financial planning, sales, community relations, development/fundraising, foundations and/or grant making. Non-profit experience not required; however, is a plus. Proficient use of MS Office (Word, Excel, PowerPoint) and Adobe Acrobat, required. Salesforce experience a plus; ability to work within and understand customized database to include becoming proficient. Salary is competitive and commensurate with experience.
Complete job description at www.jewishva.org/TJF
Submit cover letter, resume, and salary requirements to: resumes@ujft.org Attn: Taffy Hunter, Human Resources director.
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