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(JTA) — Barbie the doll has a deep Jewish history. Now, the creator of Barbie, the movie hopes watching the film will also evoke a deep Jewish experience.

Greta Gerwig, who conceived and directed the buzzy live-action film released this month, told The New York Times that she hopes watching the movie will be a quasi-spiritual activity for its viewers. The feeling she wants to achieve, she said, is the same one she felt as a child when she was a guest at the Shabbat dinners of close family friends who were observant Jews.

At those dinners, she recalled, the father would include Gerwig as he blessed the children, a traditional element of Shabbat ritual. (Gerwig’s own family was Unitarian Universalist and she attended a Catholic high school, a period of her life that inspired her 2017 film Lady Bird.)

“I remember feeling the sense of, ‘Whatever your wins and losses were for the week, whatever you did, or you didn’t do, when you come to this table, your value has nothing to do with that,’” Gerwig told The New York Times of the Shabbat dinners.

“I remember feeling so safe in that and feeling so, like, enough,” she said. “I want people to feel like I did at Shabbat dinner. … I want them to get blessed.”

Gerwig is winning acclaim for transforming Barbie from a stagnant symbol of capitalism and women’s oppression into a canvas for exploring self-discovery, through an accidental jaunt from the toy world into the real one. The movie’s lead writer, Noah Baumbach, is Gerwig’s Jewish partner and co-parent. Its stars include Jewish actress Rhea Perlman as the doll’s real-life Jewish creator, Ruth Handler.

The movie is the first for Mattel, the toy company that Handler and her husband grew into an empire. Mattel has always closely guarded the Barbie brand, but under the leadership of the IsraeliAmerican Ynon Kreiz, who has served as its CEO since 2018, it is loosening the reins. The company has embarked on more than 100

brand partnerships in conjunction with the movie, including with the Israeli ice cream chain Golda, that are expected to generate billions of dollars in revenue. Other toy-spinoff movies are in the works.

The ‘Transparent’ musical is headed to Broadway next year

Jacob Gurvis

(New York Jewish Week) — After a successful month-long showing in Los Angeles, Transparent is headed to Broadway in 2024, according to Amazon producers.

From the same duo who created the acclaimed TV series, A Transparent Musical is a musical adaptation of the dramatic comedy that follows a Jewish family navigating a parent’s coming out as a transgender woman in her 60s. Created by Joey Soloway, who also co-wrote the book of the musical, the Amazon series won eight Emmys along with awards from GLAAD and the NAACAP. It starred Jeffrey Tambor as Maura Pfefferman and had been considered by many to be “the most Jewish show on TV.”

The musical adaptation, with music and lyrics by Faith Soloway, recently concluded its world premiere at LA’s Mark Taper Forum. The team behind the production says that they focused on increasing representation — especially after the original series was criticized for casting a cisgender actor in the starring role.

“I’ve never seen a show with so many trans actors,” said Adina Verson, who identifies as nonbinary and plays Ali Pfefferman, the family’s youngest sibling. “It’s an incredible room full of unique, incredible performers who honestly haven’t often been given the stage that they deserve.”

According to the Center Theater Group, which operates the LA theater where the musical ran from May 23-June 25, the show attracted the highest proportion of under-40 viewers of any recent production at the venue.

The play is set in a suburban Jewish community center, complete with fake promotional posters for a Purim carnival, banners from youth sports championships, and pre-show announcements about other Jewish community events.

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‘Barbie’ director Greta Gerwig wants the movie’s viewers to ‘feel like I did at Shabbat dinner’

Italy to bar soccer players from wearing No. 88, coded meaning for neo-Nazis

Soccer players in Italy will no longer be permitted to wear the number 88, which has a secret antisemitic meaning among neo-Nazis, thanks to a joint initiative announced June 27 between Italy’s government and the Italian soccer federation.

The number 88 has been used by neo-Nazis as a coded antisemitic symbol meaning “Heil Hitler,” as “h” is the eighth letter in the alphabet. In March, a fan of the Roman club S.S. Lazio was banned from the team’s games for life after wearing a jersey with the number 88 and the name “Hitlerson.”

As part of the new policy, officials can stop gameplay if they hear antisemitic chants or are made aware of antisemitic acts in the stands. Such behavior is somewhat commonplace at soccer stadiums across Europe, and other teams and leagues in Germany and England have recently taken steps to stem antisemitism and protect Jewish fans.

The new initiative also includes a code of ethics in accordance with the International Holocaust Remembrance Alliance, the global coalition based in Sweden that works to advance Holocaust awareness and education.

The Italian Interior Minister called the new rule “an adequate and efficient response to intolerable prejudice that too often arises in our stadiums,” according to the Associated Press.

According to Sports Illustrated, two players in Italy’s top league, Serie A, currently wear No. 88: Lazio’s Toma Baši and Atalanta’s Mario Pašali. (JTA)

Dan Shapiro, former US envoy to Israel, to manage Abraham Accords

The Biden administration’s point man in expanding and managing the Abraham Accords, the normalization agreements between Israel and four Arab countries, will be Daniel Shapiro, formerly the U.S. ambassador to Israel.

Shapiro, the ambassador to Israel under the Obama administration, has been heading an Abraham Accords advancement effort at the Atlantic Council think tank.

“Dan will support U.S. efforts to advance a more peaceful and interconnected region, deepen and broaden the Abraham Accords, and build the Negev Forum,” Secretary of State Antony Blinken said June 29.

The Trump administration brokered the Abraham Accords between Israel, the United Arab Emirates, Morocco, and Sudan in 2020, and the Biden administration committed to their expansion at the Negev Summit last year. The normalization agreements and the effort to expand them remain one of the few areas of agreement between the Biden and Trump administrations.

They also are one of the dwindling areas of agreements between the Biden and Netanyahu governments. Biden opposes Prime Minister Benjamin Netanyahu’s court reform proposals and is unhappy with increased Israeli-Palestinian tensions and with Netanyahu’s plan to accelerate settlement building.

Israeli Foreign Minister Eli Cohen welcomed the

appointment. “I welcome the nomination of Ambassador Dan Shapiro as Senior Advisor for Regional Integration,” he said. “We will work together to expand the circle of peace and normalization and bring prosperity and stability to the region.”

Netanyahu hopes to bring Saudi Arabia into the accords, and Blinken pressed the Saudis on the matter during a recent visit.

Shapiro lived and studied in Israel before being named ambassador in 2011. He was well-liked in Jerusalem, even among right-wing ministers and lawmakers. His new position, senior adviser for regional integration, does not require Senate approval. There is a legislative effort underway in Congress to create an ambassador level position to advance the Abraham Accords. (JTA)

Jewish UVA star Jake Gelof selected in MLB Draft second round

The Los Angeles Dodgers selected power-hitting Jewish infielder Jake Gelof with the 60th pick in the 2023 MLB Draft on Sunday, July 9.

The 21-year-old Delaware native holds the all-time home run record at the University of Virginia, where he slugged 48 home runs across three seasons. His 23 home runs in 2023 are also a single-season program record, and he is the first player in the team’s history with two 20-home run seasons.

Gelof’s older brother Zack, also a UVA alum who was drafted 60th overall in 2021, is currently the third-ranked prospect in the Oakland Athletics organization, where he is playing at the Triple-A minor league level. Zack represented Team Israel in the 2023 World Baseball Classic, and the two brothers are likely to play for Israel in the 2026 WBC.

Gelof joins a talented group of Jewish prospects who have been drafted in recent years. Louisiana State University hard-throwing pitcher Eric Reyzelman, the son of two Jewish immigrants from the former Soviet Union, was drafted by the New York Yankees in the fifth-round last year. In 2021, Jacob Steinmetz and Elie Kligman became the first two Orthodox players drafted into MLB. Steinmetz, who pitched for Team Israel in the WBC, was recently promoted to Single-A in the Arizona Diamondbacks organization, while Kligman returned to college after the draft.

Gelof had been viewed as a possible late first-round pick, with MLB.com listing him as high as 35th among its draft prospect rankings. Seventy players were selected by MLB’s 30 teams in the draft’s opening two rounds on July 9. (JTA)

British town where the antisemitic blood libel theory was born could get a Jewish heritage center

When the mayor of the British city of Norwich apologized last spring for the historic assault on local Jews that took place nearly 900 years ago, it was hailed as a major step. Now the city could go even farther — by handing its oldest nonchurch building over to its local Jewish community.

Norwich is encouraging local Jewish leaders to apply for the lease on Jurnet’s House, the 12th-century structure

that was originally the home of Isaac Jurnet, a Jewish moneylender. The house was closed in 2020 because of mold but was previously used by the city as an education space with a bar in the medieval vault.

Assuming management of the building could be costly because it has undergone water damage, Marian Prinsely, a leader in both the town and its synagogue told the Jewish Chronicle. “It’s the oldest secular building in Norwich. It’s going to need a lot of renovation.”

But she and others in the Jewish community, along with historians at the University of East Anglia, located in Norwich, say the expense to transform Jurnet’s House into a “Jewish heritage center” is justified because of Norwich’s history of antisemitism.

It was in Norwich, in 1144, that the first known case of the blood libel took place. The antisemitic lie — that local Jews killed Christian children to use their blood for ritual purposes — has endured since, spurring massacres and pogroms in Europe, and infusing contemporary conspiracy theories including QAnon.

Norwich was also the site of an 1190 massacre of local Jews that received renewed attention in recent decades after the bones of 17 victims were unearthed during a construction project. In 2013, the bones received a Jewish burial, and last year, analysis of DNA extracted from them offered new insights about Jewish genetic variation.

“We don’t just want it as a museum,” Prinsely said. “It could also house an institute for the study of antisemitism. Being at the home of the first blood libel gives it extra credence.” (JTA)

Brandeis president apologizes for ad calling school ‘anything but Orthodox’ Brandeis

University’s president has apologized to the school’s Orthodox Jewish student group for an ad that called the school “anything but Orthodox.”

The two-page spread, which appeared in The New York Times Magazine, drew the ire of Orthodox Jews and others on social media, who called it offensive.

The school initially defended the ad — which was headlined, “Brandeis was founded by Jews. But, it’s anything but Orthodox.” — as “a play on words meant to highlight Brandeis’ unique story and history of innovation.”

But in a letter sent to the Orthodox group, the school’s president, Ronald Liebowitz, wrote that the school did not intend to offend Orthodox Jews but that “Clearly, the execution of this ad missed the mark.”

“Brandeis is committed to providing a rich and open experience for you, our Orthodox students, and to combat rising antisemitism that affects all Jews,” Liebowitz wrote.

“I am especially sorry that members of Brandeis’ Orthodox Jewish community, in particular, were hurt by the ad,” Liebowitz wrote. “You play a key role in our ongoing success: You bring energy, intelligence, and creativity to our Jewish community, to student life more broadly, and to the rigor of the academic experience that Brandeis offers.” (JTA)

TORAH THOUGHT

Tisha B’Av: a sad day

Cantor David Proser

Tisha B’Av, the saddest day in the Jewish calendar, is an annual fast day on which a number of disasters in Jewish history occurred. It’s primarily a remembrance of the destruction of both Temples in Jerusalem (King Solomon’s Temple by the Babylonians in the year 586-BCE and the Second Temple by the Romans in 70-CE.).

The fast begins this year at sundown on Wednesday, July 26, and concludes at nightfall on Thursday, July 27.

Tisha B’Av, which translates literally to The 9th of Av (the Hebrew month of Av) – is the culmination of the Three Weeks, a period of semi-mourning during which we mark the sieges which led to the destruction of both the First and Second Holy Temples in Jerusalem.

The period begins on the 17th day of the Hebrew month of Tammuz, a fast day that marks the day when the walls of Jerusalem were breached by the Romans in 70 CE; and reaches its climax with the fast of Tisha B’Av. Originally, the fast was observed on the ninth of Tammuz since that was the day Jerusalem fell prior to the destruction of the First Temple in 586 BCE. However, after Jerusalem fell on the 17th of Tammuz – prior to the destruction of the Second Temple – the Sages decided upon a combined observance for both tragedies, the 17th of Tammuz.

Five great catastrophes occurred in Jewish history on the 17th of Tammuz:

1. Moses broke the tablets at Mount Sinai – in response to the sin of the Golden Calf.

2. The daily offerings in the First Temple were suspended during the siege of Jerusalem, after the Kohanim could no longer obtain animals.

3. Jerusalem’s walls were breached, prior to the destruction of the Second Temple in 70 CE.

4. Prior to the Great Revolt, the Roman general Apostamos burned a Torah scroll – setting a precedent for the horrifying burning of Jewish books throughout the centuries.

5. An idolatrous image was placed in the Sanctuary of the Holy Temple – a brazen act of blasphemy and desecration. (from Aish.com)

Various mourning-related customs and observances are followed for the entire three-week period. We do not cut our hair, purchase new clothes, or listen to music. No weddings are held. The final Nine Days of the Three Weeks are a time of intensifi ed mourning. Starting on the first of Av, we refrain from eating meat or drinking wine and from wearing freshly laundered clothes.

According to Chabad.org, besides the destruction of both Temples, some of the other catastrophes that occurred throughout history on Tisha B’Av included:

• The spies returned from the Promised Land with frightening reports, and the Israelites balked at the prospect of entering the land. G-d decreed that they would therefore wander in the desert for 40 years.

• The Bar Kochba revolt against the Romans in 133 CE ended in defeat.

• The Jews of Betar were butchered on the 9th of Av and the Temple Mount was plowed one year later on the same date.

• Many more tragedies happened on this day, including the 1290 expulsion of England’s Jews and the 1492 banishment of all Jews from Spain.

Tisha B’Av is one of only two full more than 24-hour fast days in our calendar (the other is Yom Kippur). All other fast days are daylight-only fasts. Tisha B’Av is not a “Shabbat-type” holiday where work is prohibited. However, we do observe “mourning type” restrictions: No washing or bathing; no anointing ourselves with oils or creams; no wearing of leather shoes; no marital relations.

In shul, on the eve of Tisha B’Av, Maariv is conducted by speaking rather than chanting the service; by sitting on low stools or on the floor (as in Shiva), having the room darkened, removing the Ark curtain, and chanting the Book of Lamentations in a special mournful trope.

In the morning service of Tisha B’Av, Talit andTefilin are not worn, as a sign of mourning. Kinot, prayers of mourning are read. During Mincha, the afternoon service, the mood becomes more hopeful. Talit and Tefillin are worn, and special prayers of comfort are included.

Cantor David Proser, Kempsville Conservative Synagogue (KBH).

Forever Helping Others

Summer Camp opens at JCC with spirit and fun

Dave Flagler

Off to an exceptional start, Camp JCC’s campers and counselors are quickly fi nding their rhythm –building solid relationships throughout the camp community.

One key to Camp JCC’s initial success is the dedicated team of counselors who seamlessly settled into their roles. With their enthusiasm and commitment, the counselors create positive, joyful, and fun experiences for campers. Many of Camp JCC’s counselors are returning for their third summer and are just as fulfi lled by their time at camp as the campers.

“Camp JCC gives me the opportunity to build relationships that benefit all of our experiences with endless amounts of fun and the chance to build core memories,” says Elizabeth “Lizz” Hughes, a returning Camp JCC counselor.

“I have learned more about myself as a leader, and I have had the joy of building my own community within the JCC. Seeing the campers’ smiles light up every morning when we begin our day at Boker Tov reminds me of my own time as a camper, and I am happy to be able to come full circle in making their summer meaningful. Each day is different and exciting!”

Camper care specialists at Camp JCC also play invaluable roles in ensuring that every camper feels included and

supported. These specialists are experts in connecting with campers and have been instrumental in guiding counselors to employ effective strategies that promote inclusion and foster a sense of belonging. Their efforts have led to a harmonious and cohesive camp environment where campers of all backgrounds and abilities thrive.

Shyane Reyes, who started at the Simon Family JCC as an afterschool care counselor, then became a summer camp counselor, and is now in a leadership position as a camper care specialist, guides campers and counselors towards making the camp experience positive. “The fi rst week of camp was truly mesmerizing,” says Reyes. “I helped our counselors navigate their campers’ individual needs.

Watching these campers form special bonds with their peers and counselors is captivating. I am so honored to have the chance to have another amazing summer with Camp JCC and these amazing campers in this new role.”

Despite inclement weather, Camp JCC has maintained a diverse range of activities to keep campers engaged and having a blast. Swimming sessions continue to be a highlight, offering campers a chance to cool off, improve swimming skills, and bond with their peers. The art program allows campers to explore their creativity, while sports activities promote teamwork, coordination, and healthy competition.

In addition, the Tidewater ShinShinim are leading Israeli culture sessions, meeting with each group at least weekly for Israeli games and crafts. Pati Oliszewski of Temple Emanuel also brings Israeli flair to camp each week with Israeli dance sessions.

Summer camp is an excellent opportunity not just for campers, but also for counselors and staff to grow as future leaders in the Jewish community.

“I went to Camp JCC as a kid, then came back as a counselor, and this year as a unit head,” says Rachael Stromberg. “I have loved getting involved in so many different parts of camp while also seeing the kids grow and have fun every summer.”

Rain or shine, Camp JCC continues to provide an unforgettable summer experience filled with laughter, growth, and cherished memories.

Camper Care Specialist Marissa Hawkins, Camper Care Specialist Kelsey O’Brien, Unit Head Kate-Lynn Cipolla, and Camper Care Specialist Shyane Reyes.

Campers and counselors from the Tel Aviv/Jaffa bunk (middle school) enjoy a misty day kayaking.

Camp JCC counselors ready to greet campers on the first day of camp.

Food of beauty: Rosewater

settle nerves, and assist with digestion. And it’s actually a very common ingredient in Middle-Eastern cooking.

At the Cardo Cafe’ at the Sandler Family Campus, I sometimes make a malabi yogurt with a bit of distilled rosewater, but the best way to increase the volume of your rosewater intake is with Rosewater Lemonade.

To make it, first make a rosewater tea. You can use fresh rose petals, but they must be organic. I, instead, buy a big bag of dried rose petals (organic and kosher) from Amazon. Once the tea is cooled, mix it with lemon juice and sweetener (simple syrup or agave). Serve chilled with ice and voila!

Eitan Altshuler

Summer is full of passion, so it is particularly fitting that Tu b’Av takes place during this warm season, this year on August 1.

Sort of the “Jewish Valentine’s Day,” Tu b’Av is historically a grape harvest festival during which matchmaking was encouraged and love was celebrated as the foundation of society. Over the centuries, the day had all but been forgotten. The holiday, however, has made quite the resurgence lately in Israel, although I’m not sure if any women dress in white and sing to the men like they used to historically.

There’s a fanciful belief in society that certain foods are connected to, or even induce love. Usually, it’s anything rich in taste – such as chocolate or strawberries. If you do a Google search of aphrodisiacs, a long list of foods appear, of which there’s no actual evidence of any on them working at all. And the truth is that if you actually want to boost your own amorous drive, exercise is probably the way to go (but not too much).

However, I believe that, if we want to inspire love in someone else, the best thing we can do is to make ourselves healthy – both physically and mentally. To that point, I could shout from the rooftops about the benefits of rosewater. You might already be familiar with it as a common ingredient in skin-care products. High in antioxidants with antiaging properties, it’s also good to ingest. Rosewater can help relieve headaches,

Rosewater Lemonade is going to make you look and feel great. And remember, the most attractive thing you can wear is a smile. Chag Sameach!

Eitan Altshuler is with the Cardo Café/ Humusiya at the Sandler Family Campus where he has created a popular Israeli menu.

Jewish education: an investment in the future

Nearly $650,000 in scholarship donations were secured for the 2022-2023 school year through Tidewater Jewish Foundation, an approved scholarship foundation under the Virginia Education Improvement Scholarship Tax Credits program. These funds have supported families seeking Jewish education in Tidewater, ensuring nearly 100 local children receive a top-notch education rooted in Jewish values.

Donors’ generosity makes it possible to continue to provide these scholarship resources to qualifying students (lower and middle-income families) at local Jewish day schools.

A Jewish education provides a strong academic foundation and instills a deep sense of identity, values, and connection to Jewish heritage. TJF is committed to the value of Jewish education and to ensuring area schools receive scholarship funding.

The need for scholarships and Jewish education funding remains for the next school year. Every contribution – no matter how big or small – can significantly impact students’ lives. Scholarships are funded with specific donations to TJF and require pre-authorization by the Virginia Department of Education (VDOE). Donations through this specific program qualify for a 65% credit against an individual’s or business’s Virginia income tax. In fact, a $10,000 gift can help support local Jewish education and may only have a net after-tax cost of less than 25 cents on the dollar. Potential donors are encouraged to consult their professional tax advisors.

Opportunities are still available for the academic and fiscal year 2023-2024, through June 30, 2024. To qualify for the tax credits on 2023 or 2024 taxes, contact Naomi Sedek, TJF president and CEO at nsedek@ujft.org.

Biden slams Israeli government and the Palestinian Authority in CNN interview

Ron Kampeas

WASHINGTON (JTA) — President Joe Biden blamed increasing tension in the West Bank on the “lost credibility” of the Palestinian Authority as well as on “extreme” ministers in Israel’s government.

In a televised interview on foreign policy with CNN host Fareed Zakaria on Sunday, July 9, Biden also again declined to say when he would invite Israeli Prime Minister Benjamin Netanyahu to the White House. Biden has pushed off scheduling that meeting due to friction between the two men regarding Netanyahu’s far-right coalition partners and his government’s plans to weaken the judiciary.

“Bibi, I think, is trying to work through how he can work through his existing problems in terms of his coalition,” Biden said, using Netanyahu’s nickname, after Zakaria asked him what it would take to invite Netanyahu to the White House. “This is one of the most extreme members of cabinets that I have seen. And I go all the way back to Golda Meir.” (Biden famously met with Meir, then Israel’s prime minister, just prior to the 1973 Yom Kippur War, when he was a freshman senator.)

Netanyahu’s cabinet includes Bezalel Smotrich, the finance minister who holds a measure of authority in the West Bank, and Itamar Ben-Gvir, the national security minister. Both stand at the head of far-right parties, and Ben-Gvir has been convicted of terrorism-related offenses. Both evinced some sympathy for settlers who have carried out retaliatory riots in Palestinian villages in recent months and have called for accelerated Jewish settlement.

In the interview, Biden also discussed the judicial overhaul, which he has criticized. He said it was another factor in considering when Netanyahu would visit. “Hopefully, Bibi will continue to move toward moderation in changing the court,” Biden said. (After months of

negotiation between Israeli political factions, Netanyahu’s government appears poised to advance one segment of the reform.)

Biden said his government is in constant contact with Israel and noted that Israeli President Isaac Herzog — who has notably criticized Netanyahu’s court initiatives — is visiting later this month.

Biden had criticism for Palestinian leaders as well: He lamented the collapse of authority in parts of the West Bank ostensibly controlled by the Palestinian Authority.

“I think that the fact that the Palestinian Authority has lost its credibility, not necessarily because of what Israel’s done, just because it’s just lost its credibility, number one, and number two, created a vacuum for extremism among the Palestinians – there are some very extreme elements,” he said.

Biden appeared to echo Israel’s defense of its military raids in Palestinian-controlled areas of the West Bank. Earlier this month, Israeli forces mounted a deadly two-day raid on the city of Jenin in which 12 Palestinians and one Israeli were killed. Israel has said that the Palestinian Authority has all but ceded some areas to armed militants, who are carrying out deadly attacks against Israeli civilians. Since the beginning of the year, more than 150 West Bank Palestinians and more than two dozen Israelis have been killed in the violence.

“So, it’s not all [on] Israel now on the West Bank, all Israel’s problem, but they are a part of the problem, and particularly those individuals in the cabinet who say, ‘They have no right to— we— we can settle anywhere we want. They have no right to be here’, et cetera,” Biden said.

“We’re talking with them regularly,” he said, referring to the Netanyahu government, “trying to tamp down what’s going on.”

Biden sounded unusually pessimistic, essentially conceding that the Israeli government does not have the desire, and

the Palestinian Authority does not have the means, to return to peace talks, a goal of his Israeli-Palestinian policy. The last serious talks between the sides collapsed in 2014.

But Biden said he was still committed to the two-state outcome. “I’m one of those who believes that Israel’s ultimate security rests in a two-state solution.,” he said.

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A tale of two histories: 150 years of Jewish history in Tidewater and Israel

Hunter Thomas

At Tidewater’s celebration of Yom Ha’Atzmaut, Israel’s Independence Day, visitors to the Sandler Family Campus’ Fleischmann Lounge saw a collage of photographs, news articles, and scanned documents telling a 150-year-old story.

Through a partnership with Portsmouth’s Jewish Museum and Cultural Center, the timeline intertwines pieces of Tidewater’s Jewish history alongside transformative events in Israel – all taking place over the past 150 years. Now, the timeline will move to a larger space – the Leon Family Gallery, located on the second floor of the Sandler Family Campus.

Beginning in 1873, 150 years before Israel’s 75th anniversary this year, the timeline marks important events in Tidewater – such as Temple Israel’s cornerstone dedication in 1954 – alongside events in Israel such as the election of Golda Meir as Israel’s first female Prime Minister in 1969, and the start of the Yom Kippur War in 1973. Articles from Jewish News also document Tidewater’s responses to these moments in Israel’s history.

As the exhibit moves into the Leon Family Gallery, UJFT is looking for more local connections to add to the timeline. Have you lived in Israel? Did you make a trip as a child? Were your grandparents early

or long-time members of your congregation?

Share scanned photographs, scrapbook pages, and newspaper clippings that illustrate personal connections between Tidewater and Israel by submitting them to Hunter Thomas, director of Arts + Ideas, at HThomas@UJFT.org. Printed copies are also accepted and can be shared by mailing or dropping them off, with attention to Hunter Thomas, to the Simon Family JCC; 5000 Corporate Woods Drive, Suite 200, Virginia Beach, VA, 23452. Submissions will be accepted throughout the run of the exhibit, through August 2023.

JEWISH SUMMERS

The next issue of Jewish News will feature 2023 Jewish Summer Experiences. Do you or your children have one to share?

Consider, did you:

• Visit an interesting synagogue or Jewish-oriented museum as part of a trip?

• See a play with a Jewish twist?

• Take a trip to Israel?

• Attend an overnight Jewish camp?

• Work at a Jewish camp or other Jewish organization?

If the answer is yes to any of the above or something similar, please write 50 - 100 words about your experience, and along with a photo or two, send it to news@ujft.org by July 28. You will get a response that we have your email. If you don’t, please call 757-965-6132 to confirm receipt. Allow 48 hours for a response.

Thanks, and Happy Summer!

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Rabbi Israel Zoberman and his sister play in the sand in Haifa. 1950.

The Glasser family, circa 1895. David Beryl Glasser, seated in front on right, left Russia at age 30 and arrived in America around 1885. Courtesy of Ohef Sholom Temple.

Delegate Anne Ferrell Tata honored

Terri Denison

Aluncheon to honor and express appreciation to Delegate Anne Ferrell Tata for her leadership and efforts in passing the fi rst piece of legislation in Virginia aimed at fighting antisemitism – adopting the International Holocaust Remembrance Alliance’s Working Defi nition of Antisemitism to be used as a tool and guide for training, education, recognizing, and combatting antisemitism – took place at the Sandler Family Campus on Tuesday, June 27. The Jewish Community Relations Council of the United Jewish Federation of Tidewater sponsored the event.

On his first day in office, Governor Glenn Youngkin established the Commission to Combat Antisemitism. After 11 months of work, one of the Commission’s 21 recommendations to combat antisemitism in Virginia was the adoption and implementation of the IHRA working defi nition of antisemitism.

“Delegate Anne Ferrell Tata did not hesitate when asked to be the primary sponsor of this legislation,” says Kirk Levy, JCRC’s legislative chair.

“Delegate Tata did not just fi le this legislation; she was the champion from start to fi nish,” says Levy. “She worked with the statewide Jewish community on the language throughout the process, knocking on the doors of fellow delegates and senators, garnering bipartisan support, and testifying in the most prepared way. Through it all, she showed selflessness and flexibility, with only the passage of the bill and the Jewish community’s best interest at hand.”

Following the passage of the bill, Delegate Tata said, “I am proud and honored by the overwhelming bipartisan support from the Virginia General Assembly, which represents a strong step forward in eliminating antisemitic hate and discrimination in Virginia and nationwide.”

At the luncheon, she reiterated that she worked with delegates on both sides of the aisle and credited Connie Meyer, Governor Youngkin, and Attorney General Jason Miyrares with making certain the legislation passed.

Tata said she was “shocked at the people that stood in line to speak in opposition of the bill.”

Delegate Tata said she recently learned the Hebrew word, ‘Hineni,’ Here I am. “When I came into this, I said ‘Hineni. Here I am.’ I didn’t want to disappoint y’all.”

At the event, David Brand, special assistant for outreach, Office of the Attorney General of Virginia, said that Delegate Tata “took the bullets and stayed the course and handled it in a bipartisan way.” He also noted that only 35 states have adopted the defi nition.

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Delegate Anne Ferrell Tata and David Brand.

Todd Copeland, Delegate Anne Ferrell Tata, and Kirk Levy.

Delegate Anne Ferrell Tata speaks in the Kramer Board Room at the Sandler Family Campus.

Beth Sholom Village sells existing senior health care and housing campus

New name for community is Maimonides Healthcare

BSV will continue as provider at new sites

In response to national trends that threaten the financial viability of stand-alone skilled care nursing facilities, Beth Sholom Village (BSV) recently sold its 120-bed skilled care and rehabilitation facility, as well as its 71-apartment assisted living center in Virginia Beach’s College Park neighborhood to Green Tree Healthcare Management, LLC of Jackson, New Jersey. The sale was effective June 30.

Residents of the Berger Goldrich Healthcare & Rehabilitation Center and Terrace Assisted Living at BSV will remain in place if they so choose under the auspices of Green Tree (www.greentreehc.com) Healthcare, which operates skilled care and/or assisted living communities in Rhode Island, New Hampshire, Maryland, Missouri, and Loudon County, Va.

“We want to assure Beth Sholom Village residents and families that together with Green Tree, their needs will continue to be met,” says David Abraham, BSV president and CEO. “We are also taking steps to maintain staffing by awarding employees with appreciation bonuses, and we will be available to the Green Tree team for advice and consultation as long as necessary. This is going to be as seamless a transition as possible.”

While the new model of Beth Sholom Village’s “next generation of care” is still under development, one option is the creation of a Life Plan Community, which will offer a continuum of services for seniors as they age in place. No site has been chosen.

The sale of the College Park campus, which opened in 1980 as Beth Sholom Home of Eastern Virginia and in 2004 saw the addition of Terrace Assisted Living, was approved by BSV’s board of directors after significant research. The decision was based on the experience of other non-profit senior healthcare communities nationwide, including in Richmond where Beth Sholom there is being sold to another for-profit firm, effective July 1. “Many stand-alone not-for-profits are either closing or being sold to larger organizations that can better manage operating costs by sharing administrative personnel across multiple properties and purchasing food and other goods at better volume rates,” says Abraham.

“This was not an easy decision, but it was the best one for Beth Sholom’s long-term viability and the care of seniors,” says Larry Siegel, chairman of BSV’s board. “We considered several potential buyers and chose Green Tree

because of the owners’ background and capabilities. The principals are observant Jews who appreciate our community and Beth Sholom’s legacy, among both Jewish and non-Jewish families in Hampton Roads.”

The owners, Simon Stern, president of Green Tree, and Ari Stern, CEO (who are not related), have multiple years of experience in the nursing home field, and in Ari Stern’s case, as a facility administrator. Ari’s brother Manny Stern, also an experienced administrator, will

proportions for seniors who are seeking more options,” says Abraham. “We expect to have one of the nation’s most modern senior living environments, but one that can be sustained financially.” Beth Sholom Village’s board intends to use the proceeds from the sale to build a next generation of care campus for the Jewish community.

Beth Sholom is already moving toward meeting the evolving demands of today’s seniors through a partnership with Pembroke Square Associates to construct

have a key oversight role with Maimonides Healthcare, the new name for the campus. “This is the first campus with Jewish values and traditions we have acquired,” says Simon Stern. “We know it is a five-star community, and we will maintain its Jewish character.”

BSV will keep the Beth Sholom Village name for its next iteration.

That campus will cater to seniors seeking independent living who can then “age in place” into other settings as their housing and healthcare needs evolve, offering a continuum of services. It will be a “more cohesive and economical delivery model,” says Abraham, who will now devote his time to the development of the next generation of healthcare services for older adults in Hampton Roads. Several members of Abraham’s executive team will join him in the planning process. Additional staff in key administration roles, along with clinical, culinary, custodial, and others, will continue at the College Park location, under Green Tree management.

“The next model of Beth Sholom Village will offer a mix of housing and healthcare services, but in the right

Pembroke, a 153-unit senior living community, adjacent to the Target department store on the grounds of Pembroke Square off Virginia Beach Boulevard. Applications for apartments there are being accepted at www.avivapembroke.com. The seven-story high-rise is scheduled to open in the fall of 2024.

Beth Sholom Village is not going away, and will be a stronger organization, better able to meet the evolving demands of the marketplace, while assuring that all Jewish and non-Jewish seniors have options to meet their housing and healthcare needs for future generations.

A full Q&A about the transition, which Green Tree and BSV intend to make as seamless as possible for residents, families, and employees, is posted at www. bethsholomvillage.org. Green Tree management, which has met with existing staff, intends to host meetings with community members to introduce themselves and answer questions about the company and its plans.

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Amy Weinstein is director of philanthropy and marketing for Beth Sholom Village.

JEWISH TIDEWATER

Green Tree Healthcare, brings an historic Jewish name to Hampton Roads

Joel Rubin

Maimonides, or the Rambam, lived from 1138 until 1204, and remains one of the most prolific Torah scholars of all time, as well as a noted physician whose treatises on such conditions as asthma, diabetes, hepatitis, and pneumonia influenced future generations of medical professionals.

Faced with the challenge of retitling a 43-year-old Jewish housing and health care community in Virginia Beach, the new owners, New Jerseybased Green Tree, reached back to the Middle Ages and the author of the 14 volume Mishneh Torah for that new name, Maimonides Healthcare.

“We want to highlight both the longstanding Jewish and medical aspects of this community,” says Ari Stern, CEO of Green Tree Health Care of Jackson, N.J., which has acquired the current Beth Sholom Village campus in Virginia Beach. “We now have nine senior housing

communities in our portfolio, but this is the first one that has consistently been Jewish for its entire history. It is very special to us, and we intend to operate it with great respect for residents, families, and employees.”

their best interests at heart. Simon had ownership in 14 nursing facilities before founding Green Tree. “We invest into our physical plant and direct patient care to ensure our homes are appealing places for families to send loved ones,” says Simon Stern.

Ari Stern, along with members of his clinical and human resources team, assured the current BSV employees that Green Tree will provide competitive wages and benefits and be attuned to their needs. “Some things will surely change for them, but our corporate philosophy is to take care of your staff,” says Ari. “We understand, particularly in today’s competitive labor environment, that we must respect the work they do and retain their services and talents for the benefit of residents and families.”

Financial stability for Maimonides Healthcare in Virginia Beach is critical. “We must have it to ensure this community is here for many more years, but our goal is to make this transition as seamless as possible for staff, residents, and families.”

Stern and his brother Manny are both Licensed Nursing Home Administrators and have been credentialed for many years, having been administrators at a combined dozen homes over their careers. Manny will be the regional administrator for Green Tree, which owns and operates homes from Northern Virginia to Jefferson City, Mo. and from Solomons, Md. to Providence, R.I. The administrators of the nursing home and assisted living facility in Virginia Beach will be Lauren Schoenfeld and Allison Hechtkopf, who currently hold the same positions at Beth Sholom Village. They will now work for Green Tree along with nurses, CNA’s, dining staff, custodial workers, and others.

On June 12, the Green Tree team came to Beth Sholom Village for the first time, not as potential suitors to purchase the College Park campus, but as the likely owners, based on the scheduled June 30 financial closing. They met with staff and assured them that Green Tree, which includes yet another Stern among its leadership team, Simon Stern, who is president of the company, but no relation to Manny and Ari, have

All the Sterns intend to make frequent visits to Virginia Beach to come to know the community, its synagogues, and regional agencies.

“We want to be here for a long time,” says Ari Stern, “and make Hampton Roads proud to have us as their provider of high-quality skilled nursing, rehabilitation and assisted living services, as Beth Sholom has been for more than four decades.”

Joel Rubin is a past president of Beth Sholom Village and is CEO of Rubin Communications Group.

Manny Stern, regional manager and Ari Stern, CEO.

Green Tree Healthcare team with Beth Sholom staff.

Green Tree Healthcare Transition Team with Allison Hechtkopf, Assisted Living Administrator.

SENIOR LIVING

Working TOGETHER TO CARE for You

Dear Readers,

What age qualifies as a senior? It seems like the answer depends on where you inquire. AARP, for example, says its organization is dedicated to people 50 and over. According to Medicare, however, a senior is 65 years old or older. But anyone 55 can visit a McDonald’s and receive a senior discount. For a senior ticket price at AMC, the movie goer must be 60. The same is true for countless retail, restaurant, and grocery establishments. In the eyes of the U.S. government, Social Security benefits are eligible for seniors starting at 62, even though the Social Security Office reports that 67 is the age of retirement.

Clearly, being called a senior is all just a number. . . and one that isn’t at all clear!

That’s why this section offers articles about ‘seniors’ of all ages. . . most of them so active one wonders how busy these people might’ve been in their younger days.

Various programming and spaces for seniors to gather at the Simon Family JCC are also highlighted here. Those articles are on pages 20, 23, and 25.

Two articles focus on care – one on preventative care (page 17) and another on a new business that trains caregivers on how best to care for seniors – or anyone at any age – who requires help (page 19).

One especially fun piece features a Holocaust survivor who celebrated her 100th birthday by throwing the first pitch at a baseball game. Talk about inspiration! Page 24.

We hope you find all the articles and advertisers in our Senior Living section informative, interesting, and even inspirational.

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When Yaffa Leah Field was in her late 20s, she decided to undergo genetic testing.

Her grandmother had had breast cancer, and Field wanted to know whether she was among the one of every 40 Jewish women of Ashkenazi descent with either the BRCA1 or BRCA2 genetic mutations, which make them extra susceptible to breast cancer.

If she did have one of those mutations, her chances of developing breast cancer by age 70 would be roughly 50% in her lifetime, according to the Centers for Disease Control.

“The test came back negative,” says Field, now 43 and the mother of three boys.

Though temporarily relieved, she knew that breast cancer risk is not limited to those with the genetic mutations. Roughly one in eight women will develop the disease in their lifetime, and men, too, can have breast cancer.

Close monitoring, therefore, is essential. For women, that means not only regularly checking their breasts themselves for lumps or abnormalities but getting mammograms. The question is when to start.

Field, who now works at Sharsheret, the national Jewish nonprofit that offers education, counseling and support to women facing breast and ovarian cancer, got her professional start as a physician’s assistant, so she knew how important it was to “do my screening on time.”

But what exactly “on time” means has been the subject of much debate and disagreement.

The question came to the fore again this spring when a panel of experts serving on the United States Preventive Services Task Force (USPSTF) revised earlier guidelines and changed the recommended age that women get their first mammograms to 40, from 50, and suggested that they continue to have mammograms done once every two years. It’s not the first time the recommendation has changed.

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“In 2016 the US Task Force changed the guidelines from 40 to 50,” says Dr. Caryn Gamss, a radiologist at Murray Hill Radiology in Manhattan.

Gamss is also a member of Sharsheret’s Medical Advisory Board. In her practice, Gamss adheres to guidelines from the American College of Radiology that

recommend starting yearly screenings at age 40 provided a person has no risk factors.

“Fifty is too late,” Gamss says.

Even waiting until age 40 can be risky, as recent studies have shown high breast cancer mortality rates for women in that age group, she notes.

“People need to think about it younger instead of waiting and then finding out ‘My mother had cancer, my grandmother…’ — and they show up at 40 and have cancer, too,” Gamss says.

Her recommendation is that all women undergo a breast cancer risk assessment by age 25. That entails answering a panel of questions that covers one’s family and

Don’t wait until you’re nearly a senior to get a mammogram – so that you’ll be a senior

medical history. Among other things, the assessment inquires whether a person had “a biopsy and a high-risk lesion; breast density, if someone has lymphoma and was treated under the age of 25; if someone got upper abdominal radiation before age 25.”

The responses to these questions help doctors determine when and how individual patients should be screened — including whether to do MRIs and ultrasounds

to supplement mammograms, for example. At-risk women should start their 30s armed with information and a plan.

Short of that, there is what Peggy Cottrell, Sharsheret’s genetics program manager, calls a general rule of thumb: “If breast cancer has been diagnosed at a particular age, you want to start screening 10 years before that. So, if someone’s mother was diagnosed with breast cancer at 45, that

person is going to start screening at 35.”

Avoiding smoking and alcohol, exercising, and a good diet are important to maintaining good health, Cottrell notes, but perhaps the biggest factor is chance. In fact, hereditary cancers like those caused by BRCA mutations account for only 15% of all breast cancers; most occur for reasons unknown. That makes screening all the more essential.

“For many women, knowing there is something they can do that can reduce their risk motivates them,” she says.

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Many women delay getting mammograms out of fear of the results, nervousness about the process, or just general anxiety. This is another area where Sharsheret provides women with help and guidance – even in the waiting room.

For doctors to interpret mammograms properly, they require two specific views of each breast. Sometimes, technicians need to take more than four photos to ensure they get those views; it doesn’t mean anything is wrong.

Even if you’re asked to come for a follow-up mammogram – what’s known as a diagnostic mammogram – it just means that more imaging is required, not that there’s necessarily a problem. Sometimes doctors observe a change in appearance from the prior year or a fold in the skin; other times the original image failed to capture the necessary view. Likewise, for some younger women and those with dense breasts, a mammogram may not suffice; doctors may require an ultrasound or MRI to examine the breast adequately.

Adina Fleischmann, a social worker who serves as Sharsheret’s chief services officer, recommends that each individual discuss their own circumstances with their healthcare provider. Sharsheret tries to promote awareness of the importance of getting breast cancer risk assessments, and to provide guidance to women about what to ask.

“We want to make sure that each woman who reaches out is able to ask the right questions: How often should I be screened? What’s the most appropriate screening method for me? Questions about what breast density means and how it can impact them,” Fleischmann says. “Those are the tools we want to give to our women.”

Women seeking guidance are encouraged to call Sharsheret toll-free at 866 474-2774 to connect with therapists and

genetic counselors.

Sharsheret also offers peer-to-peer support, programs to guide cancer patients on how to talk about their illness with their children, and support to people who have a family member with breast cancer, including financial assistance for non-medical services critical to women’s quality of life and body image, such as acquiring wigs. Sharsheret also hosts live events such as barbecues, online yoga classes, family fun runs and other programs to empower women with cancer and foster a sense of community.

The education and awareness programming Sharsheret runs start as early as high school and college campuses, such as an annual Pink Day that includes grassroots fundraising events at hundreds of campuses worldwide.

“Sharsheret is here to arm you with education and to let you know that you’re not alone,” Fleischmann said. “Cancer screening, and the knowledge that comes along with it, can be empowering. By speaking with your healthcare provider about the screening guidelines that are most appropriate for you, you are taking a step toward your best health.”

As for Field, she went for her first baseline mammogram at age 40 — in the spring of 2020, just as Covid hit and the world masked up and locked down. The doctors identified something suspicious.

“It started a roller coaster of diagnostic testing. I wound up with eight biopsies, and in the end I had a bilateral mastectomy,” Field says after cancer was identified. “I feel thankful it was found very early.”

Her advice: Know your body and your family history.

“Breast cancer doesn’t just affect women 40 and older,” Field says. “Know your potential risks. Empower yourself to know what you need to be aware of. It shouldn’t be a shock. Be appropriately proactive.”

“And most importantly, when you reach the age when it’s recommended, get screened,” Field says. “It may be uncomfortable for a few minutes, but it’ll give you peace of mind.”

This article was sponsored by and produced in partnership with Sharsheret, the national Jewish breast cancer and ovarian cancer organization. This article was produced by JTA’s native content team.

is proud to be such an important resource for our area’s seniors as they seek to live independently. Our goal is to support seniors to age gracefully with independence throughout their lives.

Marcia Trains teaches skills for caring for those living with dementia

Stephanie Peck

According to the World Health Organization, 55 million people are experiencing dementia worldwide in 2023. Symptoms include memory loss, anxiety, personality changes, and difficulty performing familiar tasks.

Caregivers are often unprepared to handle the onset of dementia symptoms; nor can they manage the changes required to keep their loved ones engaged and safe. Through her new venture, Marcia Trains, Marcia Futterman Brodie helps clients identify these deficits and provides caregivers with the tools to approach and manage the progression of the disease.

After a lengthy career in communications, most recently as director of marketing at Beth Sholom Village, Brodie completed the Certified Independent Positive Approach to Care training. As a result, she is certified to teach caregivers and family members the best practices for working with someone with cognitive impairment. Through a series of

workshops and consultations, she teaches the various skills required of a trained professional in a senior community or a family member living in the home.

Brodie emphasizes building a positive relationship by adapting to the brain changes rather than focusing on what is lost.

“Whether meeting someone for business or talking to someone with cognitive impairment, creating a connection is imperative for a successful relationship,” explains Brodie, who also offers training in soft skills for professional and business development.

“It may not feel

intuitive to group soft skills and working with those cognitively impaired together, but the past few decades of my life have shown me that the tools we need to connect and communicate effectively are very similar in both situations,” she says.

A Norfolk native, Brodie moved back to the area in 2002 to be closer to her aging parents, Mindy and Ralph Futterman, of blessed memory. During each of their illnesses, she learned the importance of the right level of support in her parents’ various ability stages. Brodie says “I know now that I could not change the outcome of this disease, but I could have created a more positive experience for my parents and me as the primary caregiver.”

From these personal experiences and her professional involvement in senior care, Brodie founded Marcia Trains to highlight and teach best practices so that everyone can shine during these trying times.

For more information, visit marciatrains.com.

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Seniors thrive at the Simon Family JCC

Robin Ford

Varied activities in various spaces at the Simon Family Jewish Community Center provide seniors a range of options for meetings, creativity, volunteering, learning, dining, socializing, and even a bit of competition.

The Fleischmann Lounge, for example, is a vibrant, sunny space for seniors where they engage in myriad activities and programs that promote mental stimulation, social connections, and overall well-being. A bustling center of activity, seniors often get together to play games that challenge their minds and foster camaraderie. Mahjong, Mexican train, bridge, and canasta are popular games that provide friendly competition, laughter, and the opportunity to exercise their fierce competitive skills. In addition to the games, meetings, classes, and celebrations also take place there.

In the cozy Survivor Room, knitting enthusiasts meet on Tuesdays at 10 am to create scarves, caps, and blankets for those in need. Participants enjoy the therapeutic and creative benefits of knitting while engaging in conversations and sharing tips and tricks on knitting, life, love, and all

things JCC. Plus, several experienced knitters are ready and willing to pass on their skills to newcomers.

The Sandler Family Campus’ Cardo Cafe serves up a varied menu with daily specials with a space for conversations and bonding with friends. The cafe caters to seniors’

stay connected with peers, and participate in fun and informative programs. This club is growing by leaps and bounds with each meeting. Dues are $15 annually and $6 monthly for lunch.

JCC Book Club meetings encourage seniors to explore the world of literature and discussion, fostering a love for reading and promoting lifelong learning. Meetings are held on the third Monday of each month, 1:30 – 3 pm, in-person or via Zoom. This lively group has read nearly 200 books, poems, and short stories since it began 15 years ago. Sherry Lieberman has led this thriving group since 2008.

nutritional well-being and social interactions and is an essential part of many seniors’ routine. Several café tables are often packed with friendships formed and fostered at the JCC, lovingly referred to as “friendship tables.”

JCC Seniors Club meetings are held on the third Wednesday of each month and continue to bring seniors together to share experiences, enjoy lunch,

The JCC has created an environment where seniors can flourish, engage in enjoyable activities, form lasting connections with peers, and best of all, it constantly welcomes new participants.

Anyone who is interested in joining any of these programs or clubs, or who has an idea of a program to add, contact Robin Ford at 757-321-2304 RFord@ujft.org or Mia Klein at 757-4523184 MKlein@ujft.org.

"Recently my mother required 12 hour per day personal care assistance. On short notice, Changing Tides Home Care provided the necessary assistance. They have been responsive to my mother's needs and have kept the family informed by telephone, text and portal. I am very pleased with their services.”

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Over the past year, these Friendship Tables at the Cardo Café have grown in number with many friends – old and new –gathered around talking, laughing, and eating.

Nearly 40 people attended a lunch and the presentation of To Life: The Past is Present Holocaust Stories of Hampton Roads Survivors, Liberators, and Rescuers.

All things digital with Mia Klein

Wednesdays, 12-1 pm, Sandler Family Campus

For anyone who wonders what programs are happening at the Simon Family JCC or who might get frustrated dealing with smartphone apps or registering for activities online, now is the time to learn to unlock the world of technology.

Look no further than Mia Klein, the “technical wizard” and programs department coordinator at United Jewish Federation of Tidewater and Simon Family JCC. Grab a cup of coffee, sit back, and indulge in a chat to learn how to work a few of the latest digital advancements. Klein is the go-to person for questions about computers or smartphones, class information, signing up for events, or setting up the MyJ Simon Family JCC app.

On Wednesdays, Klein will be in the Sandler Family Campus Cardo happy to answer any technological questions. Bring devices so that she can guide you through any technical hurdle. Contact Mia Klein at 757-452-3184 or MKlein@UJFT.org.

New ideas for adult programming

Mia Klein and Robin Ford

The Simon Family JCC and United Jewish Federation of Tidewater are gearing up for a new year of active adult programming.

Excited to bring new ideas to the community, the program professionals are interested in participants’ interests and passions, which are essential to building a year of innovative programs and creating an inclusive and engaging environment for all. Ideas are welcome for art workshops, fitness classes, book clubs, cooking sessions, or any other skills and talents that participants want to develop and explore.

New members are always welcome into this thriving community. For more information, contact Robin Ford at RFord@Ujft.org or Mia Klein at MKlein@ujft.org.

Betsy Sanders and Mia Klein.

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Mark Schiff, Jerry Seinfeld’s longtime opening act, brings tefillin on tour

Lana Schwartz (JTA) — Mark Schiff has been opening for Jerry Seinfeld on tour for 25 years, and along the way, he has brought his tefillin.

Schiff says he tries to stay as observant as he can on the road, participating in Shabbat services either at a nearby synagogue or in his hotel room. But he’s modest about his commitment.

“I really hope God marks on a curve,” he jokes.

In a memoir released late last year titled Why Not? Lessons on Comedy, Courage, and Chutzpah, Schiff details his life and career, from inauspicious beginnings as a kid growing up in New York City to becoming a working comedian alongside a bevy of generation-defining Jewish comics.

While he isn’t a household name like Seinfeld or some of his other peers, the penultimate chapter of his book is full of encounters with enough boldfaced names to make Forrest Gump jealous. Schiff has collaborated in various ways with Robin Williams, Chris Rock, Rodney Dangerfield, Carl Reiner, Paul Reiser and more. He was a regular guest on late-night shows such as The Tonight Show with Jay Leno and Late Night with David Letterman, and he landed specials on both Showtime and HBO. Since the 1970s — when he successfully invited Bob Dylan over to his apartment and befriended Anthony Hopkins during his Broadway run of Equus — the Bronx native seems to have also met just about every single one of his heroes.

For the most part, Schiff’s proximity to these stars came as a result of persistent work over a long period of time. But even for that, Schiff is grateful.

“I wouldn’t trade those days for anything, and neither would any of the friends whom I started with,” he writes in his book. “On any given night, there were twenty of us vying to go on. There wasn’t any other way to put it except that I never felt so alive.”

Schiff still “works clean,” avoiding those famous four-letter words, in part because that’s what most comics did before the advent of streaming and HBO, and in part because of his dedication to his faith. He has always incorporated Jewish jokes into his sets and barely changes his material for audiences that he knows will be heavily Jewish.

As he shares, Schiff, 71, first caught the comedy bug at 12 years old, when his parents took him to the Boulevard Night Club in Rego Park, Queens, to see Dangerfield, a Jewish comedy legend who arguably got plenty of respect.

“Rodney bust through the curtains, and he started telling these one-line jokes and the audience was banging on the table, screaming laughing. I looked at my parents; I

had never seen them laugh so hard in their entire life. And I had an epiphany…I said, ‘This is it. I know what I want to do for a living,’” Schiff recalls in a phone interview.

From there, Schiff did everything he could to learn the craft of comedy: Watching comedians on TV, buying comedy records and, when he was 16 years old, procuring a fake ID so he could see the greats in person at the The Improv comedy club. Cut to the mid-70s, and Schiff found himself performing regularly at the Comic Strip club alongside stand-ups who were just trying to learn the ropes before going on to dominate our TV screens.

“There was no Seinfeld, there was just this guy Jerry who was just starting out becoming a comedian,” Shiff says. Their group included Reiser, Gilbert Gottfried, Hiram Kasten and Larry Miller. “All Jews, sitting at the bar, waiting for the opportunity to get onstage and start getting good at this thing. You know those friends you make like early on in school? Like second grade, they kind of become your friends for life? This is what happened with us.”

Schiff, now a longtime Los Angeles resident, has filled his book with so many behind-thescenes anecdotes of being a working comedian that it makes the perfect follow-up to The Marvelous Mrs. Maisel — and it might be even more Jewish. For instance, his use of the Yiddish word shmendrick might not be completely unique, but it’s more rare to find a humorous take on the concept of olam ha-ba, or Judaism’s afterlife-adjacent “world to come”: “Florida without the humidity. Chocolate cake without the calories. Jewish mothers without the screaming.”

By the time the COVID pandemic hit, Schiff had been contributing essays to the LA Jewish Journal. When his touring schedule evaporated, he shifted gears and started writing for six, seven hours a day.

“I had a bunch of stories already written and they’d been published, and then the pandemic hit and I said, ‘You know, Mark, you might have a book here,’” he says.

He also had some helpful prior experience. In 2007, Schiff co-authored I Killed: True Stories of the Road from America’s Top Comics, which “young comedians consider…almost like the bible of the road,” Schiff brags. The book gives the reader glimpses into the ups and downs of the touring life from comedy royalty, from Seinfeld to Joan Rivers to Larry David to Mike Myers.

Schiff’s stand-up experience served him well in writing this new memoir. “Each story’s about 700 words, and as a comedian, you gotta get to it right away. You gotta get to the heart of the matter immediately,” he says. “You can’t piddle. So, there’s very little piddling in this…I could’ve called the book ‘No Piddling’ if I wanted to. Very little piddling going on.”

Despite the ups and downs that Schiff’s book recalls — from a tumultuous childhood to a bout with alcoholism — Judaism and steadfast belief in God are the driving forces of his life. For instance, learning about lashon hara — scandalous gossip that the Bible forbids — taught him to stay away from “punching down” in comedy. (“Although, in order for something to be funny, you certainly have to pick at something,” Schiff concedes. “They don’t call it a punchline for nothing.”)

When he’s at home in Los Angeles, he attends services at Young Israel of Century City, a Modern Orthodox congregation. Together he and his daughter-in-law Anna are studying the late Rabbi Norman Lamm’s Torah talks.

The marriage of Schiff’s comedic point of view with his cultural heritage might feel like a throwback to the comedians of yore, the ones he looked up to when comedy first ensnared him, such as Alan King, Buddy Hackett, Don Rickles, and Allan Sherman. They ruled the comedy world, at a time when, per Schiff, “85% of the comedians in the United States were Jewish,” and they helped legitimize comedy as a career path for him.

“Later on in life I found out that in many ways the Jews, Jewish comedians, really legitimized Jews in America,” Schiff says.

Despite all that’s changed about comedy in the four-plus decades since Schiff first started — very few keep their material “clean” these days, for instance — he said the industry is still based around “one person and a whole bunch of people sitting out there looking at him or her.”

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When asked why he still feels drawn to the road, Schiff says “There’s no better feeling than listening to an audience howling and laughing.”

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On her 100th birthday, this Holocaust survivor threw out the first pitch at a Yankees-Rays game

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( Jewish Press of Tampa Bay via JTA) — She may not have the same velocity on her fastball as an MLB pitcher, but Helen Kahan still had plenty to be proud of as she threw out the ceremonial first pitch before the Tampa Bay Rays and New York Yankees took the field on May 5 — her 100th birthday.

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Kahan stood confidently on the Tropicana Field pitcher’s mound with her daughter and son by her side. It didn’t matter that the throw only made it halfway to home plate. The crowd of more than 25,000 gave her a standing ovation as Rays relief pitcher Kevin Kelly, who caught the pitch, congratulated her with a smile and a handshake.

Kahan, of Seminole, Florida, who survived multiple Nazi concentration camps, was triumphant.

“I never could have imagined celebrating a birthday like this, let alone my 100th!” says Kahan. “I’m so grateful that I am here to tell my story and help the world remember why kindness and empathy are so important for us all.”

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Born in 1923 in Romania, Kahan was forced into a ghetto as a young adult before being deported to Auschwitz-Birkenau, then Bergen-Belsen and Lippstadt. As the end of the war approached, she escaped from a death march before the camp was liberated by the Soviet army in May 1945. In 1967, Kahan fulfilled a lifelong dream when she and her family immigrated to the United States.

Bally Sports Sun, the Rays broadcaster, featured an in-game segment on her inspiring story.

“They heard how I lived… that I have a number from Auschwitz,” Kahan tells the Jewish Press, pointing to the Nazi tattoo on her arm that reads 7504.

Many of Kahan’s family members — two children, five grandchildren, and 12 great-grandchildren — were at Tropicana Field to witness the big moment.

“It was very nice,” Kahan says. “Everybody celebrated; everybody made it bigger than me.”

She says the experience was special because she never got to play sports when growing up, explaining, “I always had to make a penny in the family.”

To prepare, Kahan watched her grandsons and great-grandsons play catch so she could get the pitching motion in her head.

Afterward, Kahan received lots of media attention, including segments on the local news and social media posts from global outlets, including ESPN.

Kahan says she relished the experience and was grateful for the opportunity.

“I love it… I came from a Hitler camp that did not give me anything but numbers,” Kahan says, pointing at her tattooed arm once again.

Kahan’s daughter, Livia Wein, says that watching her mother throw out the pitch was one of the best things she has ever experienced.

“It was probably the coolest thing for our entire family,” Wein says. “Having a lot of our friends in the stands also made it very special.”

Kahan and Wein are both avid Rays fans; however, Kahan prefers to keep her favorite player a secret. She says it was a pleasure to meet several of the players and coaches before the game.

In addition to honoring Kahan, the Rays announced a $10,000 partnership grant with the Florida Holocaust Museum during the pregame festivities. Kahan has been a longtime volunteer educator at the St. Petersburg museum.

Whether it was Kahan’s charisma and courageous spirit or simply great defense and timely hitting, the Rays defeated their rival Yankees by a final score of 5-4.

A version of this story originally appeared in the Jewish Press of Tampa Bay. It is reprinted here with permission.

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Caption: Helen Kahan, center, with her daughter Livia Wein and son Lucian Kahan. (Courtesy of the Tampa Bay Rays)

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Fleischmann Lounge – Dedicated senior’s space celebrates legacy and community

Robin Ford

The newest space at the Sandler Family Campus, the Fleischmann Lounge, is a bright open area named in memory of a sweet and unassuming gentleman, Joe Fleischmann, who was active in the JCC Senior’s club, quietly participating in its activities.

“Mr. Joe” loved researching stocks and reading articles on the JCC’s Senior Room computer. Keenly aware of living in a world dominated by rapidly evolving technology, he recognized how important it is for everyone to embrace change and keep up to date with the computer age, despite their age. With that philosophy, Fleischmann left an endowment for JCC Seniors that embodies a tree of life; roots that are intertwined in history while the branches reach towards the future. He was a gentle reminder that age should never be a barrier when exploring computers’ vast possibilities. His niece, Janet

Gelman, made sure the Fleishmann Lounge became a reality.

The Fleischmann Lounge stands as a testament to the community’s unwavering appreciation for its senior citizens’ remarkable contributions and wisdom. It celebrates life, experience, and the ongoing pursuit of growth and companionship. This space not only enriches the seniors’ lives but also strengthens the fabric of the entire community, reinforcing the values of respect, unity, and continuing education.

The Fleischmann Lounge currently hosts many group games, club meetings, gatherings, monthly birthday parties, and continuing education programming.

The Silver Tappers visited the June Seniors Club meeting and several members joined in.

More than 30 people enjoyed the Seder, food, good friends, and new memories as the first event in the new Fleischmann Lounge.

National Portrait Gallery to display portrait of Sally Priesand, first ordained woman rabbi in American history

Jackie Hajdenberg (JTA) — More than 50 years after she became the first woman to be ordained by an American rabbinical seminary, Rabbi Sally Priesand has set another precedent: Beginning later this year, she will be the first woman rabbi to be featured at the Smithsonian National Portrait Gallery.

But Priesand will not be the gallery’s only Reform rabbi: Another exhibit recently began displaying a portrait of Rabbi Isaac Mayer Wise, the 19th-century rabbi who founded the seminary that, nearly 100 years later, would go on to ordain Priesand.

The portrait of Priesand, who was ordained by the Reform movement’s Hebrew Union College in 1972 and retired from a New Jersey pulpit in 2006, will be shown beginning in October as

part of a 21-work collection titled Recent Acquisitions that largely features portraits by or of women.

The work is an inkjet print of a 2022 photograph by Joan Roth, who is known for her photographs of Jewish women around the world. It depicts a smiling Priesand wearing a multicolored prayer shawl and holding a Torah scroll whose cover displays the word “avodah,” Hebrew for “worship” or “service.” Roth drew inspiration from a photograph taken 50 years earlier at Priesand’s ordination.

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museum. The exhibition will run until November 2024.

Wise’s portrait is an oil painting on canvas, and has been in the possession of the National Portrait Gallery since 1977. But it was undergoing conservation work until recently and has never been shown on the museum’s walls. Painted by artist Morris Goldstein in 1881, it shows Wise sitting in an armchair with his elbow resting on a stack of books. Folded underneath the books is a copy of The American Israelite, the newspaper he founded in Cincinnati in 1854 that is the country’s oldest running Jewish publication.

Wise’s portrait is now on display as part of the museum’s Out of Many: Portraits from 1600 to 1900 exhibition, whose works are switched out periodically. It hangs in a room that also includes a bust of turnof-the-20th-century African American educator and author Booker T. Washington and a photograph of Sarah Winnemucca,

birth name Thoc-me-tony, a 19th-century advocate for Native American rights.

Wise was also a pioneer in the Reform movement, allowing mixed-gender services and replacing bar mitzvah rituals with confi rmation ceremonies, among other changes. He founded Hebrew Union College in 1875.

Both the conservation of the Wise portrait and the creation of the Priesand portrait were funded by Reform Rabbi Amy Perlin and her husband, former World Bank and Capital One CFO Gary Perlin. Rabbi Perlin is the first female rabbi in the United States to start her own congregation, Temple B’nai Shalom in Fairfax Station, Virginia.

In addition to Wise and Priesand, the museum has portraits of early 20th-century Reform Rabbi Judah Magnes; 19th-century Dutch-American Rabbi Samuel Myer Isaacs; and 20th-century Reform Rabbi Stephen Samuel Wise. None of those works are currently being displayed at the museum.

Portrait of Rabbi Sally Priesand, the first American woman ordained as a rabbi that is now in the National Portrait Gallery.

A family’s reunion to celebrate a portrait’s rebirth

Aportrait of Lewis Nusbaum (18301902) has been restored to its original condition thanks to the skill of the Chrysler Museum’s conservator, Mark Lewis, and the generosity of several of Nusbaum’s descendants.

In June, many of those descendants gathered at Ohef Sholom Temple to view the results. Traveling from various parts of Virginia and from as far as New York, family members celebrated the painting’s restoration.

The painting had been lovingly passed down in the family; however, at some point, it had been removed from its frame, rolled, and then flattened, which had resulted in tears to the canvas. Seeking to preserve it, a member of the family donated the painting to Ohef Sholom Temple’s Archives.

In January of 2022, the Archives entered it in the Virginia Association of Museum’s annual statewide competition for the state’s Most Endangered Artifact. Although it garnered many votes, the painting did not win the contest, coming in a strong second behind Virginia Tech. Without the prize money, it seemed the painting had little chance of being conserved. However, that did not account for the

dedication of several of Lewis Nusbaum’s descendants, who provided the funds necessary for its restoration.

Lewis Nusbaum was educated in Berlin and apprenticed to a bookbinder. He and a brother emigrated to the United States in 1849, and by 1853, they were in a dry goods business in Norfolk. In 1860, Lewis married Bettie Goldsmith, whose father Aaron was one of the founding members of Tidewater’s first Jewish congregation, Chevra B’nai Jaacov. The couple had five children, four sons and a daughter.

Lewis founded the Nusbaum Book and Art Company, which was later continued by his sons, Moses and Sidney Leon. A leading member of Norfolk’s growing business community, Lewis was also active in the Jewish community. He was involved in the re-chartering of Chevra B’nai Jaacov when it assumed its new name, Ohef Sholom Temple, in 1867. He served as president of Ohef Sholom Temple in the turbulent year of 1869, and later, he was elected vice-president of the newly chartered Congregation Beth El. An early member of B’nai B’rith, he was instrumental in shaping and defining the Tidewater Jewish community.

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Seated: Chuck Kaufman, Elise Hofheimer Wright, and Blanche B. Nusbaum. First row standing: Charles S. Nusbaum, Kendra and Ted Kaufman, Clay Barr, Claire Benjack, Joan Nelson, Sharon Nusbaum, and Cynthia Katz. Second row standing: Micah Baum, Kenneth Nelson, David Benjack, Wesley Wright III, Bill Nusbaum, and Stuart Katz.

Conserved painting of Lewis Nusbaum.

Painting before conservation.

NADIV’s cookout: another great time for the guys

The men of NADIV gathered on June 28 for their annual summer cookout at the home of Troy Ingram. The event of networking, enjoyment, and recapping a year of philanthropy together was held on a perfect summer evening.

NADIV’s kickoff event for their 2024 campaign year will be held on September 6 at the home of Jeff Chernitzer. Contact Amy Zelenka at azelenka@ujft.org with any questions.

JEWISH SUMMERS

The next issue of Jewish News will feature 2023 Jewish Summer Experiences. Do you or your children have one to share?

Consider, did you:

• Visit an interesting synagogue or Jewish-oriented museum as part of a trip?

• See a play with a Jewish twist?

• Take a trip to Israel?

• Attend an overnight Jewish camp?

• Work at a Jewish camp or other Jewish organization?

If the answer is yes to any of the above or something similar, please write 50100 words about your experience, and along with a photo or two, send it to news@ujft.org by July 28. You will get a response that we have your email. If you don’t, please call 757-965-6132 to confirm receipt. Allow 48 hours for a response.

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Tidewater Chavurah turns 25 and celebrates learning, growing, and giving

Awonderful celebration for the Tidewater Chavurah’s 25th anniversary was held at Vino’s Italian Bistro in Kempsville on June 11. Some founding members joined the celebration, which included a video retrospective of people and events during those years.

A “synagogue without walls,” Tidewater Chavurah is an independent Jewish congregation serving Tidewater worshiping in the Reform tradition. “Chavurah” is a small group of like-minded Jews getting together for religious services, life cycles, and social events.

Tidewater Chavurah was formed in March 1998 to provide a new Jewish presence in the community with three main goals: Jewish worship, friendship and Torah study.

Being a “synagogue without walls,” the congregation’s journey took it to different locations: Kempsville Conservative Synagogue, Grand Affairs, Hebrew Academy (Tompkins Lane), Jewish Community Center, Old

Donation Episcopal Church, Temple Israel, members’ homes, and Rabbi Ellen Jaffe- and Spencer Gill’s home, where High Holiday services, celebrating other major holidays, as well Second Friday Sabbaths were held.

Reconstructionist student Rabbis Aviva Bass and Jerry Siedler, and lay members such as Carol Tickton have led the congregation. Rabbi Ellen Jaffe-Gill joined in 2015.

A small group, it has accomplished much on so many levels during the past 25 years.

• The congretaion participated in Mitzvah of the Month events, preparing and serving meals for the Judeo Christian Outreach Center (JCOC)

clients at least once a year for the past several years.

• A choir, led by Carol Smith, brightened services with their melodic voices and sang at several community events.

• Kol Nidre service has been a highlight with Jeff Phelps’ melodiously playing his cello and Rabbi Ellen alternately chanting the Kol Nidre prayer.

• Other activities have included a monthly book club and a weekly Mah jongg game that has continued for 20 years. To share personal memories, send to tidewaterchavurah1@gmail. com. Check out more memories at tidewaterchavurah.org or TidewaterChavurah on Facebook.

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Bob Brotman, Margie Brotman and Mary Feldman.

Jewish Museum & Cultural Center: The Zelma G. Rivin Wonderful Wednesdays Summer Music Series 2023

The annual Zelma G. Rivin Wonderful Wednesdays Summer Music Series begins this month. All concerts take place at the Jewish Museum & Cultural Center. Tickets are $25 in advance, $30 at the door, or $75 for the entire series if purchased in advance. JMCC is located at 607 Effingham Street in Portsmouth. For information and tickets, go to JewishMuseumPortsmouth.org.

The Hardwick Chamber Ensemble

Wednesday, July 19, 7:30 pm

The Hardwick Chamber Ensemble’s objectives are to foster the community’s appreciation of classical chamber music and cultivate understanding, taste, and love of music.

Formed in 1988 as a performing ensemble for Young Audiences of Virginia, Inc., HCE has performed assembly programs for thousands of Virginia’s school children. They have also performed more than 200 concerts for colleges, universities, and other presenting organizations throughout Virginia and, occasionally, in New York, Los Angeles, Philadelphia, and elsewhere.

The Glencoe Lads

Wednesday, July 26, 7:30 pm

Magic happens when Glencoe Lads take to the stage in their kilts and fiddles. U.S National Champion Fiddlers Seán Heely and Colin McGlynn perform lively dance music from Scotland, Cape Breton, and Ireland, as well as modern day tunes in the American tradition. Their pieces include elegant, haunting slow airs, mighty pipe marches, and the wild strathspeys and reels and beautiful Scottish Gaelic songs.

The Glencoe Lads have a charismatic stage presence and an unforgettably electrifying collaboration that is sure to get every toe tapping. They have performed at such venues as The Kennedy Center in Washington D.C, Alasdair Fraser’s Fiddle camp in the Isle of Skye, Scotland, Virginia Scottish Games, Virginia Arts Festival, The Acadia Trad School of Music and Arts, and The Niel Gow Festival in Dunkeld Scotland.

The Jewish Life Duo: Yevgeny Dokshanksy and Richard Masters

Wednesday, August 2, 7:30 pm

Belorussian-born American clarinetist, saxophonist, and conductor Yevgeny Dokshansky has appeared as soloist, chamber musician, and conductor throughout Europe, North America, Central America, and the Caribbean.

Richard Masters is a soloist, opera coach, chamber musician, and orchestral pianist based in Blacksburg, Va. He is an associate professor of piano and collaborative piano on the music faculty at Virginia Tech’s School of Performing Arts.

Bagels and Fraylox Klezmer Band

Wednesday, August 16, 7:30 pm

K lezmer is a mixture of wedding and party music of 19th century Eastern Europe with strains of Yiddish theater and American dance band music of the early 1900s. It borrows freely from a mixture of Romani style tunes, Middle Eastern music, and other sources as diverse as American folk music and rock ‘n roll. The ensemble features two clarinets, tenor saxophone, accordion, bass, drums and other percussion, as well as a vocalist.

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Dive into swim lessons at the Simon Family JCC

Swim lessons — for kids of all ages — have always been a popular activity at the Simon Family JCC. With summer temps climbing high, plus expansive indoor and outdoor options for swim lessons at the JCC, there’s no better time to get kids feeling more confident with their water abilities.

Deven Defee, the JCC’s head swim instructor, is a certified Water Safety and Lifeguard Instructor. In Colorado, Defee managed an aquatics center, and locally, she managed the Larkspur Swim & Racquet Club and was aquatics director at a regional YMCA. At the Simon Family JCC, Defee manages all the instructors and scheduling for lessons, with a goal of fi nding times that work well for everyone.

Private, as well as small group lessons are available. For children who are beginners, Defee (and her team) work on safety and floating, followed by breathing techniques, and how to safely enter and swim in the water. For intermediate swimmers, honing their strokes, perfecting breath work, and learning new strokes are all covered. Advanced swimmers can learn how to quicken their pace while racing, perfect a new stroke, or work on starts.

“We’re very lucky to have the best swim instructors I’ve worked with here at the Simon Family JCC,” says Tom Edwards, athletic director. “We not only see huge improvements in our swim students, but they have a ton of fun doing lessons in a safe and friendly environment.”

Private Swim Lessons: $190 for six, 30-minute lessons (-$25 for JCC members)

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Jewish Book Festival to feature former 60 Minutes producer

Tuesday, August 1, 12 pm, Sandler Family Campus

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Ira Rosen, the renowned journalist, producer, and author known for his work on 60 Minutes, will offer a behind-the-scenes look into American journalism and broadcast news. Rosen will speak about his career with former Hampton Roads television reporter and anchor Joel Rubin.

Tickets are $12 ($6 for 55+), which includes lunch. Bundle tickets including lunch and a copy of Ticking Clock, are available for $27 through July 25.

For tickets and more information, visit JewishVA.org/ BookFest or contact Hunter Thomas, director of Arts + Ideas at UJFT, at HThomas@UJFT.org.

This event is presented as part of the Lee & Bernard Jaffe Family Jewish Book Festival, which is held in coordination with the Jewish Book Council, the longest-running organization devoted exclusively to the support and celebration of Jewish literature.

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Conservative synagogues announce “Come Together” series

Sundays, August 6, October 15, and December 10, 2 – 4 pm

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Collaborate? Cooperate? Create? Any word will work to describe the upcoming “Come Together” series. Tidewater’s four Conservative/Masorti synagogues, all members of the United Synagogue of Conservative Judaism (USCJ), are planning a four-part series to “Come Together” to celebrate and learn. Events are spaced approximately two months apart.

Kehillat Bet Hamidrash/Kempsville Conservative Synagogue will host the first program, “Feel the Love” in honor of Tu B’av, the holiday of love, on August 6. The event will include a food drive for the JFS Food Pantry and activities that celebrate love and caring for each other.

Temple Israel will host the second program, “The Sound of Israel,” on October 15. This event is in conjunction with the 50th anniversary of the Yom Kippur War and will be a musical review of the popular music of Israel over time.

Temple Emanuel is working on plans for “Light Up Your Life” in celebration of Hanukkah, on December 10.

Congregation Beth El will host their program in early 2024. More news to come as plans unfold.

Contact any of the host congregations for additional information.

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Strelitz Golf Tournament swings into another year

Wednesday, August 30, Virginia Beach National Golf Club

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The 35th Annual Strelitz International Golf Tournament, affectionately known as the “Bob Josephberg Classic,” is co-chaired this year by David Leon and Babbi Bangel. Scheduled to take place at the end of August at the Virginia Beach National Golf Club, registration is now open for SIA’s Golf Tournament’s milestone year.

In 1988, Eric Joffe started the Hebrew Academy of Tidewater Golf Tournament at Broad Bay Point Greens Golf Club. A few years later, Bob Josephberg grew the tournament into the school’s major fundraiser and annual tradition, which ultimately became known as the “Bob Josephberg Classic.”

Today’s Strelitz International Academy’s annual golf

tournament is eagerly anticipated and generously supported by the entire Tidewater community. With more than 100 players and 100 tournament sponsors each year, the tournament raises more than $150,000 in sponsorships to directly benefit the students and families at Strelitz International Academy, Tidewater’s Jewish Community Day School and International Baccalaureate World School.

Strelitz International Academy concluded an incredible 2022-2023 school year last month, with students from throughout Tidewater seeking the education offered at SIA. Due to the school’s top Jewish education and International Baccalaureate curriculum experience, enrollment is now at its highest since arriving at the Sandler Family Campus. SIA serves students as young as infants through fifth grade.

Thanks to the support of the entire Tidewater Jewish

community, Strelitz International Academy continues to provide a strong foundation for students to grow and develop as future leaders of the local and global community.

For the Golf Tournament, many levels of sponsorship opportunities are available—from $400 up to $10,500. SIA’s 35th Annual Golf Tournament welcomes all golfers and volunteers for a day of fun, golf, and an exciting awards reception with a delicious kosher buffet. Learn more at https://strelitzinternationalacademy.org/support-us/ annual-golf-tournament/.

To register as a sponsor, player, or volunteer, contact Carin Simon, director of advancement at Strelitz International Academy, at CSimon@StrelitzAcademy.org or 757-424-4327.

SCN training with Mike Goldsmith Sandler Family Campus

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Mi ke Goldsmith, Secure Community Network’s Regional Security Advisor for Tidewater, will facilitate various security-oriented training sessions next month. These programs are free and open to the community. Registration is required. For more information, go to www.jewishva.org/SCN or contact Mia Klein at MKlein@ujft.org.

Be Aware

Monday, August 7, 6 pm or Tuesday, August 22, 9 am

This course offers information about situational awareness (SA) concepts to better evaluate potential risks. Techniques related

to recalling important details and facts will be shared to improve participants’ abilities to observe, react to, and report suspicious activity.

Countering Active Threat

Tuesday, August 8, 6 pm or Wednesday, August 23, 9 am

This comprehensive training program – developed for Jewish institutions – aims to provide participants with a better understanding of active threats and—critically—potentially lifesaving response options.

Stop the Bleed

Wednesday, August 9, 6 pm or Thursday, August 24, 9 am

A life-impacting event can occur anytime and anywhere, from a workplace to a commute. Blood loss is one of the leading and preventable causes of loss of life. This training will equip participants with the knowledge to save lives. Developed in response to the call from the U.S. Department of Homeland Security to improve the chances of survival during an active threat or another mass casualty event, this course teaches basic life-saving medical interventions, including a brief active threat presentation and methods to control severe bleeding, from wound identification and packing to tourniquet rationale and application.

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Eric Joffe, Bonnie Brand, and Susan Becker at the first tournament in 1988.

Sheila and Bob Josephberg with Angela Jenkins.

Babbi Bangel and David Leon, 2023 Tournament chairs.

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The Neighborhood Harvest now delivers authentic New York Deli

Longing for a crispy and chewy New York bagel or a smokey and peppery pastrami piled high and kissed with the sharp bite of deli mustard? The Neighborhood Harvest has been pondering the same thoughts, memories, and cravings. That’s why The Neighborhood Harvest practically moved heaven and earth to bring these delectable flavors directly to Tidewater and to clients’ doorsteps. . . . by delivering authentic New York Deli.

New York deli aficionado and local celebrity at Performance Food Group, Bobby Goldwasser says, “A bite of these Ess-a-Bagels is like eating cake… I don’t know what it is, but the fl avor profi le can’t be matched. If customers don’t try Ess-a-Bagel, they’re making a big mistake.”

For Godwasser, it’s also what goes along with the bagel. “The Nova Salmon (Gaspé) reminded me of a deli pickup in New York,” he says. “My wife also said, ‘best lox she’s ever had!’ So, it (The Neighborhood Harvest’s newest addition) is a home run!”

The Neighborhood Harvest believes in preparing and curating the absolute best for its neighbors in a way that empowers local farmers and artisans while also fueling families with wholesome goodness.

Bobby and Denise Goldwasser and grandson.

CALENDAR

JULY 19, WEDNESDAY

Wonderful Wednesdays with Hardwick Chamber Ensemble. 7:30 pm. Jewish Museum & Cultural Center. See page 34.

JULY 20, THURSDAY

Monthly Moon Circle. The Konikoff Center for Learning of the United Jewish Federation of Tidewater presents a tradition that spans thousands of years: a monthly holiday known as Rosh Chodesh, meaning “head of the month.” This is a time for self-reflection and rituals to help connect with this ancient legacy, learn from Jewish wisdom, and embrace the unique spiritual energy of each month. Sandler Family Campus. 6:45 pm. For more information and to register, visit JewishVA.org/KCL or contact Sierra Lautman at SLautman@UJFT.org.

JULY 26, WEDNESDAY

Wonderful Wednesdays with Glencoe Lads. 7:30 pm. Jewish Museum & Cultural Center. See page 34.

JULY 28, FRIDAY

Tzofim Friendship Caravan Community Concert – filled with song and dance. The Israeli Tzofim Friendship Caravan brings excitement, energy, and friendship to Tidewater with its live performance. The Caravan’s celebration of Israeli culture is free and will resound with all ages. Sandler Family Campus. 5:30 pm. For more information and to register, visit JewishVA.org/Caravan or contact Dave Flagler at DFlagler@UJFT.org.

AUGUST 1, TUESDAY

Ticking Clock: Behind the Scenes at 60 Minutes with Ira Rosen, interviewed by Joel Rubin. Writer and producer Ira Rosen reveals the intimate, untold stories of his decades at America’s most iconic news show. Presented by United Jewish Federation of Tidewater and Simon Family JCC’s Lee & Bernard Jaffe Family Jewish Book Festival. 12 pm. $12 admission, $6 for ages 55+ (lunch included). $27 for lunch & signed book. Special pricing for lunch and book ends July 25. For more information and to register, visit JewishVA.org/BookFest or contact Hunter Thomas at HThomas@ UJFT.org. See page 32.

AUGUST 13, SUNDAY

Farewell Aya and Alma, Sunday Fun Day. Aya and Alma, Tidewater’s ShinShinim have spent nearly a year in Tidewater and they’re getting ready to head back to Israel. Join friends and family from throughout the community to bid these two a L’hitraot (see you later) at the August Sunday Fun Day. Enjoy an afternoon of fun under the sun with music, water toys, and a free snow cone from KONA ICE. Kosher hot dogs and hamburgers poolside available for purchase. Sandler Family Campus. 1 – 4 pm. For more information and to register, visit JewishVA.org/PJ or contact Nofar Trem at NTrem@UJFT.org.

AUGUST 17, THURSDAY

Monthly Moon Circle. The Konikoff Center for Learning of the United Jewish Federation of Tidewater presents a tradition that spans thousands of years: a monthly holiday known as Rosh Chodesh, meaning “head of the month.”. Sandler Family Campus. 6:45 pm. For more information and to register, visit JewishVA.org/KCL or contact Sierra Lautman at SLautman@UJFT.org.

AUGUST 25, FRIDAY

End of Summer Family Shabbat & Pool Party. The annual End of Summer Shabbat and Pool Party at the Simon Family JCC’s outdoor waterpark begins at 5 pm. Kick the night off with Splash Fest Relay Races and games in the pool for all ages. Shabbat blessings and dinner start at 6 pm, which includes summer classics like chicken barbeque, pasta salad, and refreshing adult beverages, and will include a special welcome for Tidewater’s new Shinshinim, Maya and Naomi. $8 per child, $11 per adult, $30 maximum for a household. All children under 2 years old are free! For more information and to register, visit JewishVA.org/PJLibrary or contact Nofar Trem at NTrem@UJFT.org.

AUGUST 30,

WEDNESDAY

35th Annual Strelitz International Golf Tournament at the Virginia Beach National Golf Club. See page 33.

MAZEL TOV

Rachel and David Abraham are excited to announce the engagement of their daughter Anne Louise to Alex Brandon Peljovich. Anne attended James Madison University and graduated with a Bachelor of Science in Biotechnology. She is employed by the American Association for the Advancement of Science as a content production editor for Science.

Alex is from John’s Creek, Georgia, and is the son of Donna and Jerry Peljovich. Alex graduated from the Georgia Institute of Technology with a Bachelor of Science in Aerospace Engineering and is a systems engineer at NASA Goddard Space Flight Center. Additionally, he is pursuing a Masters in Space Systems Engineering from Johns Hopkins University. The happy couple currently lives in Adams Morgan, Washington, D.C. and looks forward to a spring 2025 wedding.

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The UJFT seeks an ambitious, energetic candidate for the position of Young Adult Division Associate, to support the development of a best-in-class Young Adult Division (22- 45-years-old) program; to actively engage this population in Jewish life and offer multiple entry points for involving them in Federation and the greater Tidewater Jewish community. Primary responsibility will be outreach and volunteer engagement, event planning, campaign operations and administrative tasks.

A Bachelor's degree is required (preferred degree in business, marketing, office administrative operations & logistics or related field from an accredited college or university), with a proven track record with program development and volunteer management. Ideally, 2-4 years of work experience in Jewish communal field; combo of education & experience considered.

Contact Taffy Hunter, Human Resources director, at 757-965-6117, resumes@ujft.org or submit resume to:

United Jewish Federation of Tidewater Attention: Human Resources 5000 Corporate Woods Drive Virginia Beach, 23462

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Ruth Radin Legum

NORFOLK — Ruth Radin Legum, 94, of Norfolk, Virginia, passed away July 2, 2023, at home, surrounded by her loving family.

She was born in Winston-Salem, North Carolina, and was the daughter of the late George and Mollie S. Radin.

Ruthie graduated from Maury High School and attended Newcomb College of Tulane University. She was an active volunteer in many community organizations, including the Norfolk General Hospital Women’s Auxiliary for more than 40 years. She served as president of the Ohef Sholom Temple Sisterhood. Ruthie was an avid tennis player, winning many club championships throughout the years. She welcomed all into her home with warmth and hospitality. Above all else, family was always the most important aspect of her life – whether traveling the world with her husband of 73 years; visiting with her daughters, who were her greatest pride and joy; or spending time with her

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grandchildren and great-grandchildren, who adored her beyond measure.

Ruthie is survived by her devoted and loving husband, Edward Legum; daughters, Blaine Levenson (Stephen), Jonnice Berns (Adam), and Radine Legum; grandchildren, Brooke Levenson (Michael Blum) and Brent Levenson (Deena Zeltser); and great-grandchildren, Emet and Mollie Blum, and Eli and CeCe Levenson, along with many

nieces and nephews. She was predeceased by her sister, Marion R. Mirmelstein (Benson), and brother, Melvin J. Radin.

A graveside service was held at Forest Lawn Cemetery in Norfolk. Memorial donations may be made to Ohef Sholom Temple. Online condolences may be shared with the family at www.hdoliver.com.

B. David Peck

RICHMOND – It is with profound sadness that we announce the passing of Barry David Peck on July 8, 2023, at the age of 86.

David was a loving family man, a successful businessman, a civic leader in Richmond, a pillar of the Jewish community, and a creative spirit.

Peck was born in Baltimore, Maryland, on May 17, 1937, to Bess and Julius Peck. He always described an idyllic upbringing in Portsmouth, Virginia with brothers Stanley and Aaron, and sister Hilda (Honey). He attended Woodrow Wilson High School, and then Columbia University, where he graduated with a degree in English in 1959.

After college, Peck returned to Virginia, where he married Rosann Chasen, and together they had four children: Jill, Daniel, Mitchell, and Joshua.

While serving in the U.S. Army Reserve, Peck began his professional life as a “junk man” working at Peck Iron & Metal, a scrap metal recycling company founded by his father. Peck moved to Richmond in 1970 and launched a career that would be marked by continual innovation. He designed the company’s 100-acre facility, installed one of the country’s first automobile “shredders” to accommodate steel mills’ growing demand

for the recycled product, and purchased decommissioned ships from the U.S. Navy to dismantle them for their scrap value. He was proud to manage a diverse workforce of more than 200 employees, including refugees and immigrants, many of whom he developed into highly-skilled senior managers. Peck sold the company in 1997 and transitioned into commercial real estate with The Peck Company.

Peck was an active participant in Richmond civic life. He and Rosann worked for many candidates and eventual leaders of the city and the state. Over the years, he served with distinction the Port of Richmond Commission, Metropolitan Economic Development Council, Norfolk State University Board of Visitors, and the Virginia-Israel Advisory Board.

Peck was a devoted member of the Richmond Jewish community. He chaired the annual campaign for the Jewish Community Federation of Richmond and was instrumental in the development and growth of Chabad of Virginia. For decades, he worshiped at the early morning service at Keneseth Beth Israel. He was an ardent Zionist; in 1991, Peck flew alone to Israel in an act of solidarity as Iraq was launching missiles at the country.

Peck was a Renaissance man with a wide range of interests, a creative spirit, and endless curiosity. He was an avid reader and a talented writer, artist, singer, and sculptor.

Following the loss of his wife Rosann after 30 years of marriage, he enjoyed spending time with his longtime companion, Patti Lancaster.

Peck was a kind and compassionate man who instinctively put others before himself and was always willing to help those in need. Peck was forever bringing a smile to those in his presence with his humor and uncommon solicitousness.

Inspired greatly by his own parents, he himself was a loving husband and father, and a doting grandfather to his four granddaughters.

Peck was a true mensch who will be deeply missed by his family, friends, and those who were fortunate to have him in their lives.

He is survived by two brothers, Stanley (Norfolk) and Aaron (Virginia Beach), his sons Daniel (Clifton, N.J.),

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Mitchell (Venice, Caif.), and Joshua (Richmond), his daughters-in-law Rachel and Suzanne, and his granddaughters Adina, Lilah, Rachel, and Sophia.

A funeral service was held at Greenwood Memorial Gardens, Richmond, with a reception following at the Chabad of Virginia, Richmond.

The family requests that donations be made to Keneseth Beth Israel or the Chabad of Virginia.

Rhoda Klein Steintoch

VIRGINIA BEACH – Rhoda Klein

Sheintoch, 96, passed away July 8, 2023, in Virginia Beach, Virginia surrounded by her loved ones.

Born in Newark, New Jersey December 14, 1926, she was predeceased by her beloved husband of almost 69 years, Dr. Martin Sheintoch and her parents, Tessie and Samuel Klein.

She is survived by her children, Phyllis and Michael Sperling and Jill and Fred Siegal; grandchildren, Stuart Sperling, Jessica and Adam Schur, Jessie and Matthew Glazer, and Melissa and David Rogers; and great grandchildren, Sam and Chase Sperling, Austin and Julia Schur, Madison and Lucy Glazer, and Luna and Zoe Rogers.

After moving from Newark, Rhoda moved to the Jersey Shore fi rst living in Bradley Beach and then Deal. She enjoyed her days at the shore as well as the many summers she spent at Camp Rhondack in the Adirondack mountains where she was an avid athlete. Rhoda loved the New York Yankees and was privileged to see the 1936 World Series in New York.

Rhoda was an excellent student and gained admission as a premed student to Temple University upon her graduation from Asbury Park High School. However her career path changed when at the age of 19 she was introduced to a handsome US Navy Dental Corp gentleman in Asbury Park by her future sister-in-law who would become the love of her life. Rhoda and Martin were married a year later in San Diego. After the war they moved to Petersburg, Virginia where they lived for their entire married lives. She was the perfect homemaker and amazing mother and was actively involved in the community and Congregation Brith

Achim. In 2015 after her husband passed away, Rhoda moved to Virginia Beach to be closer to her family. She enjoyed her time at Atlantic Shores where she made many new friends.

Rhoda was a beautiful woman both inside and out. She was always dressed to perfection, classy, proper, and regal...a true lady in every sense of the word. She will be greatly missed by her family.

The funeral took place graveside at Brith Achim Cemetery in Petersburg, Virginia. Memorial donations may be made to Temple Brith Achim, 314 W South Blvd., Petersburg or a charity of one’s choice.

Online condolences may be conveyed to the family at www.jtmorriss.com.

Phyllis (Aftel) Weiss

NORFOLK –Phyllis (Aftel) Weiss, loving mother and devoted MeeMaw, passed away on June 18, 2023, at the age of 77. She was the light of her family’s life. Phyllis was born on April 15, 1946, and lived a full life, fi lled with love, joy, and laughter.

She was preceded in death by her husband Bernie, but she continued to live life to the fullest, cherishing every moment with her loved ones. Phyllis leaves behind two children, Amy and Sam (Sharon), and three grandchildren, Ashley, Sam, and Zack, who were the absolute joy of her life.

She will be remembered as a loving and devoted mother, MeeMaw, and friend to all whose lives she touched.

In lieu of services, memorial donations can be made to the National Kidney Foundation or The Alzheimer’s Association. Phyllis will be dearly missed and forever in our hearts.

Brian B. Zittrain

MECHANICSVILLE – Brian B.Zittrain, of Mechanicsville, formerly of Virginia Beach, passed away June 22, 2023.

He was preceded in death by his parents, Sam and Fannie Zittrain; and stepson, Ryan Bowles.

Brian is survived by his wife, Betty Zittrain; stepchildren, Monta Fultz, Kyle Bowles (Tara) and Thad Bowles; grandchildren, Jordan Burke (Justin), Seth Fultz and Gray Fultz (Josh), Maddux and Charlotte Bowles; great-grandchildren, Caroline and Everly Burke; his brother,

Larry Zittrain (Nancy); nephews, Scott Zittrain (Jeannie) and Greg Zittrain (Ashley); nieces, Laurie Jones (Walter) and Jenny Tippit (Alan); his uncle, Jerry Jaffe; and a number of cousins.

Brian graduated from Virginia Tech and was a member of Sigma Lambda fraternity. He was also a past president of the Virginia Beach Sports Club. Brian was loved by many and will be remembered for

his humor and kindness. His beloved dog, Pixie, was the light of his life. Brian will now join his Packer buddy, Ryan, where they can root for the Packers together.

A graveside service was held in Forest Lawn Cemetery, Norfolk.

Contributions may be made to Children’s Hospital Foundation, 1006 East Marshall Street, Box 980693, Richmond, Va. 23298.

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Sheldon Harnick, the lyricist who made Jewish longing universal in Fiddler on the Roof

Ron Kampeas (JTA) – The moment when Sheldon Harnick realized that his new musical might be something special came when he sang the lyrics he had just composed for a new song: Sunrise, Sunset.

He was sitting in the basement studio of his friend and collaborator, the composer Jerry Bock, in New Rochelle, New York. It was 1961, and they were in the throes of writing Fiddler on the Roof. Bock had originally meant for the melody to be used for one of the flirtations between Tevye’s three older daughters and their male interests, according to Wonder of Wonders, a book about Fiddler by Alisa Solomon.

Harnick went a different direction — writing lyrics about the agony of unleashing a child into adulthood that would eventually be sung in the musical’s pivotal wedding scene. When he was finished singing, Bock’s wife Patty was weeping.

“We hoped with any luck that it might run a year,” Harnick said in 1981 on The Songwriters, a PBS showcase series. “We were totally unprepared for the impact the show would have literally around the world.”

Harnick — whose paeans to Jewish tradition have become internationally appreciated as a reflection of cultural loss — died Friday, June 23 at his home in Manhattan. He was 99 and was the last surviving creator of Fiddler on the Roof.

Harnick was born in Chicago in 1924 and was in his teens when he first encountered the stories of Sholem Aleichem, which later formed the basis for the musical. But at the time, he “wrote them off,” Solomon quotes him as saying.

Twenty or so years later, a friend gave him Sholem Aleichem’s novel Wandering Stars, about a decades-long show business romance, and Harnick was enchanted. As an adult, Harnick found that Sholom Aleichem’s writing was “wonderfully human and moving and funny,” Solomon quotes him as saying. He had started working with Bock in the late 1950s, and told him and another partner — Joe Stein, who wrote books for musicals — that it could be good material to adapt for the stage.

Stein said Wandering Stars was too vast and complex to adapt. But what about Sholom Aleichem’s short stories, which Stein’s father would read to him as a child, in Yiddish? The trio searched Manhattan for an extant English copy of the stories and found a second-hand copy at a bookshop on Park Avenue South.

Years later, Harnick told Solomon that what appealed to them about Sholom Aleichem’s short stories was the universal longing for a simpler past, rooted in one’s traditions. “Over and above the beauty of the stories themselves, there was another reason why we were all drawn to this material, which can perhaps be best illustrated by a title which Mr. Stein suggested: ‘Where Poppa Came From,’” he said.

They had the first formal meeting in 1961 to plan the musical, and it opened three years later starring Yiddish theater veteran Zero Mostel. Fiddler ran for more than 3,200 performances, which stood as a Broadway record for a decade, and won multiple awards. It has had countless revivals in countless languages, including Yiddish, and made stars of people as diverse as Bea Arthur, who played Yente the matchmaker; Bette Midler, as Tzeitel, the eldest daughter; and Topol, the Israeli actor whose earthy performance as Tevye in the 1971 film classic obscured Mostel’s more Yiddishist take.

In a 2011 documentary, The Legacy Project, Bock described the elation he felt when Harnick successfully set words to one of his melodies. He called them “moments of truth.”

“And they come when a lyric is finished and Sheldon sings the song for the first time,” he said in the documentary, released after his death in 2010. “There is nothing like that moment.”

Harnick and Bock had already written a Pulitzer Prize-winning musical infused with Jewish themes about Fiorello LaGuardia, New York’s first Jewish mayor, called

In 1964, just weeks after Fiddler opened — and not yet aware of its massive impact — Harnick and Bock gave a televised master class on what the musical’s composition involved. They said they started writing a song about a family and then realized it was more about a community. A song about the hurried preparations for Shabbat — in which the daughters reassure their mother, Golde, that they will be ready in time for the day of rest — instead became an iconic one about preserving tradition, which opens the show. They consulted books on Jewish tradition to write it.

“What we would do is do an opening number that tried to compress a lot of traditional things into the opening,” Harncik said. “And as [director] Jerome Robbins said, the show would play against this opening number as though we had a tapestry. From the minute you heard the opening, you would know what this show is about: tradition.”

Bock interjected to explain that it wasn’t as easy as Harnick was making out.

“What Sheldon did was condense one thousand pages… into a seven-minute song,” Bock said. “So, in effect, the opening of our show now, I think, helped us get on the road to other people outside of the Jewish people being able to appreciate what our story was.”

Fiorello! They would go on to other successes together and apart and stopped working together years after Fiddler due to a dispute over a musical about the Rothschild family, according to an obituary in The New York Times.

But the lyricist never got over Fiddler’s success and global appeal. In a 2019 documentary on the show, he recalled attending an early Tokyo performance and being asked: “Do they understand it in America? It’s so Japanese.”

Not long after the show debuted, Harnick recalled in 1981, he realized it had an emotional depth he had not anticipated. He was at the theater watching Mostel and Maria Karnolova as Golde perform Do You Love Me?, a song about how even long married couples don’t truly know one another, and he burst into tears.

“I left the theater so I wouldn’t disturb anyone and I asked myself why I was crying,” he said. “Then I realized without knowing it I had put into the lyric deep feelings about my own parents — about what they had and had not been to each other. Sometimes it seems we only think we know why we write like we write.”

Harnick was married for a time to the Jewish director and comic writer Elaine May, who survives him, and is survived by his second wife, Margery Gray, their son and daughter, and four grandchildren.

OBITUARIES Alan Arkin, Jewish actor with uncommon versatility

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(JTA) — Alan Arkin knew he was going to be an actor from the age of five.

“Every film I saw, every play, every piece of music fed an unquenchable need to turn myself into something other than what I was,” he wrote in his 2011 memoir, An Improvised Life.

What he was was the son of Ukrainian and German Jewish immigrants in Brooklyn, where he was born in 1934. But over the course of a long and unusually peripatetic career, he managed to turn himself into a conflicted Russian submarine officer (The Russians Are Coming, the Russians Are Coming, 1966), a struggling Puerto Rican widower (Popi, 1969) and a mild-mannered Manhattan dentist recruited into an unlikely espionage scheme by his daughter’s future father-in-law (The In-Laws, 1979).

His versatility was honed by his study of the “Stanislavski” method taught by Benjamin Zemach, an American modern-dance pioneer who specialized in Jewish themes, and his stint as an early member of the Second City improvisational comedy troupe in the 1960s.

Arkin, who became the sixth-oldest winner of the best supporting actor Oscar in 2007 for his part in Little Miss Sunshine, died Thursday, June 29 at his home in San Marcos, Calif. He was 89.

Over a nearly seven-decade career, he imbued comic roles with pathos and serious roles with a touch of sardonic humor. He was working until nearly the end of his life, co-starring with Michael Douglas from 2018 to 2019 in Chuck Lorre’s Netflix comedy series The Kominsky Method. That role, as agent Norman Newlander, earned him two consecutive Emmy Award nominations.

His other well-known roles included a paranoid salesman in the film adaptation of David Mamet’s Glengarry Glen Ross (1992) and a deaf-mute in the Southern Gothic drama The Heart Is a Lonely Hunter (1968). He also played Yossarian, the reluctant airman in Catch-22, the 1970 film adaptation of the Joseph Heller novel. Although the character was technically Armenian, most critics agreed that he was a “coded” Jew.

Arkin also voiced J.D. Salinger, or at least a character purporting to be the famously reclusive Jewish writer, in the cult Netflix animated series, BoJack Horseman.

He made his directorial debut with the darkly comic Little Murders (1971), based on the stage play by Jewish writer and cartoonist Jules Feiffer. In 1975, Arkin directed the Broadway production of Neil Simon’s The Sunshine Boys, a comedy about elderly enemies based on the Jewish vaudeville team Smith and Dale.

Arkin was the son of David I. Arkin, a painter and writer, and Beatrice Wortis, a teacher. He wrote that he grew up in a Jewish family with “no emphasis on religion.” The family moved to Los Angeles when Alan was 11; his parents were accused of being communists during the Red Scare of the 1950s and struggled for work. He attended Los Angeles State College and Bennington College.

Arkin won a Tony for best featured actor in 1963 when he appeared on Broadway in Enter Laughing, a comedy based on an autobiographical novel by the Jewish comedian, writer and director Carl Reiner.

In 1987, he starred in the television film Escape from Sobibor, portraying Leon Felhendler, a Polish-Jewish resistance fighter who organized the 1943 prisoner uprising at the Sobibor extermination camp. The role earned Arkin nominations for an Emmy Award and a Golden Globe award for best supporting actor.

Arkin was also an accomplished folk singer, forming a group, The Tarriers, that had a modest 1956 hit with a version of The Banana Boat Song, a traditional Jamaican calypso folk song that Harry Belafonte would make more famous.

Arkin was married three times. He had three sons, all actors: Adam Arkin, Matthew Arkin and Anthony (Tony) Dana Arkin.

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