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Annual Israel Today Forum celebrates five years

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nother successful year of expert speakers and engaging dialogue concluded Wednesday, May 11 when Matti Friedman, former Jerusalem Bureau reporter and editor for the Associated Press visited Tidewater to share his take on mainstream media malfunction in the international press. Friedman’s two-day stay included addresses to leaders in the local Jewish community, Virginia State legislators, and wider audiences via media such as Christian Broadcasting Network and WHRV’s Hearsay with Cathy Lewis. The signature event for each Israel Today speaker is a Community Forum that takes place at the Reba and Sam Sandler Family Campus during the evening. Friedman’s topic drew a crowd of more than 200 as moderator Kim Simon Fink asked Friedman about reporting from Israel. Earlier speakers in the forum’s fifth season, Olga Meshoe (March 2, 2016) and Josh Kram (November 18, 2015), also shared valuable information and personal insights. Meshoe, founder of the South Africanbased, Christian organization DEISI (Defend, Embrace, Invest, Support Israel) spoke about her work advocating for Israel and voicing opposition to the BDS Movement. Describing her family’s personal experience of South African apartheid, Meshoe also spoke in a variety of contexts and encouraged her audiences to become educated about what life is really like in Israel and to share, through personal relationships, the truth about Israel’s significant contributions to global society. Rabbi Jeffrey Arnowitz served as moderator for the community Israel Today event that capped her visit. Kram, executive director for the Middle East Commercial Center and director of the U.S.-Israel Business Initiative for the U.S. Chamber of Commerce, kicked the season off by addressing the need for a

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strong commercial relationship between the U.S. and Israel. Kram maximized his one-day stay in the area by speaking over lunch with the Hampton Roads Chamber of Commerce, visiting Cape Henry Collegiate for a conversation with their Global Scholars and participating in a dinner discussion with representatives from the Muslim and Jewish communities—all prior to his community Israel Today event at 7:30 pm. His focus included sharing the success stories of Israel’s many cutting-edge innovations and model business practices, as well as future opportunities for economic growth between Israel, the U.S. and throughout the Middle East. Kram’s community event was moderated by Danny Rubin. This year’s Israel Today forum reached audiences totaling more than 2,500 and thousands more through local and international media. Sponsored by the Community Relations Council of the United Jewish Federation of Tidewater and 40 Community Partners, including synagogues, businesses, organizations, foundations, and individuals, the series has experienced strong participation and growth each year, none of which would be possible without support from its partners. Harry Graber, UJFT executive vice president, says “Five years ago when CRC started “Israel Today” all of us at the UJFT were excited about the idea and confident that the program would succeed. However, we did not imagine the heights that it has achieved, the number of people it has reached and the influence it has had on its ever widening audience. We have grown to eagerly anticipate every year’s program offering with incredible excitement and we expect 2016–17 to be the best ever.” For more information about the CRC and next year’s Annual Israel Today Series, visit www.JewishVA.org/CRC or email crc@ujft.org.

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nti-Semitism is a vile expression of the most primitive formation of the human condition. Throughout our history, it has cost the Jewish people millions of lives, caused unspeakable damage to our families and communities and offered monumental challenges to our psyches and spirit. It has cost us the destruction of our historic Temple on two occasions and now once again rears its ugly head to support Israel’s enemies. It has challenged us as a people to be aware of the subtle manifestations of the ideology so that we may meet it well armed at its nascent phase. We will also not use the charge lightly, as we are a people that need not hide behind it, nor do we want to dishonor the memories of those who actually suffered greatly because of it. Finally, we want to identify ideologies and actions that, while not

targeting Jews, contain the same discriminatory cancer found in anti-Semitism. We published an article in the last edition of the Jewish News entitled, “Donald Trump’s anti-Semitism Controversies: A Timeline.” It was distributed by the Jewish Telegraphic Agency and written by Uriel Heilman, both often used and reliable sources. The content of the article is disturbing as it contains terrible examples of Trump supporters acting as ant-Semitic trolls and subsequent debate as to whether Trump is responsible for a minority of his supporter’s unacceptable opinions and actions. I realize in hindsight that a glance at the headline, or maybe even a brief reading of the article would have one believe that there is a clear conclusion that Donald Trump is an anti-Semite. It was not our intent to have the reader leave with that conclusion and some may say that is not our responsibility. However, our responsibility is to be responsible so we will be vigilant about reporting anti-Semitism when we see it.

Hebrew U jumps to No. 17 in ranking of top Asian universities

he Hebrew University of Jerusalem ranked No. 17 in a new ranking of Asian universities—the highest-rated Israeli university on the list. The university’s placement in the 2016 Times Higher Education Asia University Rankings released Monday, June 19 represented an eight-spot jump from the previous year. The Hebrew University also was the highest-rated university in the Middle East. “To emerge as Israel’s number one university and 17th across the entire continent of Asia is a major achievement

and something to be celebrated,” said Times Higher Education Rankings Editor Phil Baty in a statement provided to The Hebrew University. “Hebrew University has shown particular strength in research impact—our analysis demonstrates that its research is pushing the boundaries of knowledge and is being cited globally.” The ranking of Asia’s 200 top universities judges the institutions on the basis of 13 criteria, including teaching, research, knowledge transfer and international outlook. The National University of Singapore

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topped the list, followed by the same country’s Nanyang Technological University and Peking University in China. Israel placed six universities among the top 100, making it the second-largest number from a Middle Eastern country behind Turkey with seven. The other Israeli schools were Tel Aviv University, ranked No. 20; the Technion Israel Institute of Technology in Haifa (36); Bar-Ilan University in Ramat Gan (67); Ben-Gurion University of the Negev (79), and the University of Haifa (87). (JTA)

Quotable Beth El hosts golf-a-thon. . . . . . . . . . . . Israel Fest 2016. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . Falafel wars in Paris. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . What’s Happening . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . Calendar. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . Camp JCC begins. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . Mazel Tov. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . Obituaries. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . Simon Family JCC Biennial. . . . . . . . . . Special Section: Senior Living

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Briefs Jewish migrants preferred to Muslims in Europe, British study finds The prospect of Jewish immigration raised the least amount of opposition among respondents to a British survey about attitudes to immigration. A study conducted by the Centre for Social Investigation at Nuffield College in Oxford found that 7 percent of British people would allow no Jewish migrants into the United Kingdom, while 17 percent would allow no Muslims, The Jewish Chronicle reported. Thirty percent said they would not welcome Roma immigrants. Researchers used data from the most recent European Social Survey, published in 2015. The survey of more than 1,500 adults from at least 30 countries is conducted every two years; the most recent survey contained questions on immigration, according to The Jewish Chronicle. In the survey, opposition to immigration—and by Jews in particular—was the lowest in Britain among the countries. Ten percent of respondents said they would bar Jews from immigrating, while 25 percent would bar Muslims. Lindsay Richards, co-author of the report, said Britons felt most welcoming to Jews given their longstanding presence in the country, as well as their historical persecution, The Jewish Chronicle reported. She added that the local population was more receptive to professional people arriving in the country than unskilled laborers, who they regarded as a threat to jobs, housing and public services. (JTA) Rhode Island approves antiboycott legislation Rhode Island’s General Assembly approved legislation that would prohibit the state from contracting with companies that engage in boycotts of allies of the United States, including Israel. The Anti-Discrimination in State Contracts Act was passed June 16 by the Rhode Island House in a 63-4 vote and “in concurrence” two days later by the state Senate. Gov. Gina Raimondo is expected to sign the legislation making it law. Several states have passed anti-BDS

legislation, including Arizona, Colorado, Florida, Georgia, Illinois, Indiana, Iowa and South Carolina. New York Gov. Andrew Cuomo recently signed an executive order opposing the Boycott, Divestment and Sanctions movement against Israel. In total, 21 states have taken up anti-BDS legislation. The Rhode Island legislation states: “A public entity shall not enter into a contract with a business to acquire or dispose of supplies, services, information technology, or construction unless the contract includes a representation that the business is not currently engaged in, and an agreement that the business will not during the duration of in the boycott of any person, firm or entity based in or doing business with a jurisdiction with whom the state can enjoy open trade, and/or the boycott of any public agencies, entities or instrumentalities of the jurisdiction with whom the state can enjoy open trade.” Rep. Mia Ackerman, a Democrat, introduced the bill in May. “Today’s interdependent global economy requires that trade policy be developed both at the national and state level,” she said at the time. “One of our greatest trading allies is the State of Israel, the only democratic, non-discriminatory country in the Middle East.” (JTA)

Girl, 11, killed when tree falls on cabin at Jewish camp in Indiana An 11-year-old girl was killed Tuesday, June 21 when a tree fell on a cabin at a Jewish camp in Indiana. In the accident at Camp Livingston in Bennington, a healthy tree was struck by lightning during a severe storm and fell on a cabin where campers were sleeping, the camp said in a statement. The camper was seriously injured and died of her injuries after emergency services arrived. No other campers or staff were injured. Grief counselors from Cincinnati arrived at the camp hours later to assist campers and staff in dealing with the news, according to camp officials. Every child at camp was scheduled to call home. One of the dead girl’s siblings also was at the camp, WKRC Cincinnati reported. The girl is from Columbus, Ohio, according to the news station.

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Campers are from Midwestern cities such as Columbus, Cincinnati and Dayton, Ohio; Indianapolis, Indiana; and Louisville and Lexington, Kentucky. (JTA)

Man shoots himself in the leg at iconic Zabar’s in NYC A man waiting in line at Zabar’s, a mecca for Jewish foodies on Manhattan’s Upper West Side, accidentally shot himself in the leg. The gun in the waistband of his pants discharged at the Zabar’s cafe on, June 14 according to local reports. The man, identified as being 48 years old, fled the store and later took himself to a local hospital. He was taken into police custody for questioning. It is not known if he was carrying the gun legally. The New York Post reported that the man had planned to rob the store, which specializes in smoked fish and gourmet food. (JTA) Albany kosher cheese maker charged with defrauding investors The owner of a kosher cheese business in Albany, New York, has been charged with fraud. Lawrence Rosenbaum, 64, of Albany, was arraigned for allegedly promising high returns and shares of stock to investors in his Saratoga Cheese Corp., a kosher and halal cheese business. He never developed the production lines or facilities for which he solicited the money, the local ABC affiliate reported. Rosenbaum also is accused of writing checks to himself from the business accounts and using some of the investment funds to pay for an apartment with his mistress in Costa Rica.. He is charged on 27 counts including grand larceny, securities fraud and tax fraud. Rosenbaum pleaded not guilty; he is being held on $200,000 bail. Rosenbaum allegedly looked for investors for a plant to process the cheese and create alternative bio-energies from the manure from his milk-producing cows. The $40 million cheese factory announced in 2008 was slated to be built in the Cayuga County Industrial Development Agency industrial park. He ran his business from

the porch of his Albany home. In 2009, Rosenbaum spoke to Chabad. org of his plans to use the cheese business as a base to “found a yeshiva, revolutionize the national kosher and halal cheese industry, and establish a Jewish community in the New York countryside.” In 2014, Rosenbaum told an interfaith gathering in Morristown, New Jersey, that his production of cheeses for the Jewish and Muslim markets was part of an effort he called Cheese for Peace. If convicted, he faces up to 15 years in state prison. (JTA)

Belgian church bells chime Israeli anthem for President Rivlin One of Belgium’s largest Catholic churches played the Israeli anthem on its bells in honor of a visit by the president of the Jewish state, Reuven Rivlin. Hatikvah rang for the first time ever from the bells of Antwerp’s majestic Cathedral of Our Lady, prompting an astonished Rivlin to exclaim to Antwerp Mayor Bart De Wever: “This is a real welcome!” Rivlin, who arrived in Antwerp as part of his four-day visit to Belgium and European Union institutions, remarked with a smile to De Wever that the melody is actually based on a piece titled Moldau composed by Bedrich Smetana, a 19th-century Czech composer. During his visit, Rivlin made several references to the deadly attacks in Belgium by Islamist terrorists that took the lives of 32 victims on March 22. “Today we know that there is a link between anti-Semitism against Jews and jihadi terror that kills innocent people of all religions,” Rivlin said in a joint news statement at the end of his meeting in Brussels with Belgian Prime Minister Charles Michel. “We must not wait for anti-Semitism to become terror; we must fight it from the beginning, together.” Israel, Rivlin added, “is concerned by the activities” in Belgium of the anti-Israel Boycott, Divestment and Sanctions movement. “The cooperation between us is significant—especially in the area of trade,” Michel said. “We appreciate Israeli innovation, and the drive for education and academic development.” (JTA)

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People who attend religious services live longer, new study suggests NEW YORK (JTA)—All those people urging you to go to synagogue more may have a point. A study suggests that people who consistently attend religious services may live longer than those who don’t. In an article published in the June issue of JAMA Internal Medicine, four Harvard University researchers analyzed data collected from 75,534 women over 16 years, between 1996 and 2012. They found that those who attended more than one religious service each week had a 33 percent lower risk of premature death. Twice-weekly attendance corresponded to a 26 percent lower risk, and less than once a week meant 13 percent lower risk. “Religion and spirituality may be an underappreciated resource that physicians could explore with their patients, as appropriate,” the study concluded. Of the 75,534 women who self-reported information, the majority were Christian; 1,700 were Jewish. “Because of the [comparably] small number it would be difficult to look at them separately and see if the results

differ [for Jews],” the study’s senior author, Tyler VanderWeele, an epidemiology professor at Harvard’s T.H. Chan School of Public Health, says. But VanderWeele points to an article from 2007 focused solely on Jews that echoes his findings. The study of 1,811 Jewish Israeli men and women over the age of 70 found: “Synagogue attendance is seen to promote survival mainly through its function as a source of communal attachment and, perhaps, as a reflection of spirituality as well.” The Harvard study statistically ruled out the possibility of reverse causation— that healthy people go to church more than unhealthy people. Some variables, including social support and a tendency not to smoke, contributed to the correlation between religious service attendance and longevity, but didn’t account for it. “This suggests that there is something powerful about the communal religious experience,” VanderWeele told The New York Times. “These are systems of thought and practice shaped over millennia, and they are powerful.”

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“Biblical sheep” heading to Israel with help of El Al, Canadian couple TORONTO (JTA)—A rare breed of sheep said to be descended from Jacob’s flock referenced in the Bible will be shepherded to Israel with the help of a Canadian Jewish couple and Israel’s national airline. El Al announced recently that it will “heavily subsidize” the costs of shipping the so-called biblical sheep “from a major North American airport.” The announcement came several months after the Agriculture Ministry in Israel approved the importing of the flock, which is subject to quarantine in Canada and Israel. The flight is expected to take place in late August or early September. The project is the brainchild of Gil and Jenna Lewinsky of British Columbia, owners of the Jacob sheep, which are said

to be descended from the patriarch’s flock noted in the Book of Genesis. The sheep are said to be unique for their horns, numbering two to six. They are the only animals in the world to have the biblical description of speckled skin, spots on their wool, and bands on their ankles and knees, the Lewinskys said in a crowdfunding campaign they launched for their organization, Friends of the Jacob Sheep. As of Monday, June 20, the couple has raised $470 to help offset costs. The Lewinskys believe the sheep must “return” to Israel to fulfill biblical prophecy. They cite Rav Amram Vaknin, a mystic rabbi living in southern Israel who says he has visions predicting the future. Vaknin “has said that the Jacob Sheep

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the Golan Heights. The Lewinskys say the sheep are extinct in Israel. They believe the animals came with Jacob through Canaan to Egypt, then with the Exodus to North Africa, and from there to Spain, England and then to North America. “It will be the first time since biblical times that the Jacob sheep will be reintroduced to the land of Israel again,” they said.

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from the hal Sacks Jewish News Archives

June 23, 2006 The Florence Melton Adult Mini-School held a graduation ceremony for 23, the second largest class to graduate from the school since its inception in Tidewater.

June 21, 1996 Jody Wagner, a partner in the law firm of Kaufman and Canoles, was installed as president of Jewish Family Service of Tidewater at the agency’s 50th Annual meeting.

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June 18, 1976 A Torah was to be presented aboard the nuclear aircraft carrier USS Nimitz in a special ceremony. This was “the only Torah afloat in the U.S. Navy.” A special ark was constructed aboard the Nimitz and the chaplain’s flag was to be flown on the ship on the Sabbath and on holy days.

June 1, 1966 The Norfolk Section of the National Council of Jewish Women made the first payment on a $1,000 heart-monitoring machine to be used by Norfolk General Hospital during surgical procedures.

June 1, 1956 The Norfolk Jewish Community Council was authorized by its board

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of directors to borrow $64,000 from local banks to send to the National United Jewish Appeal to aid the Jewish Agency in Israel. The National United Jewish Appeal asked all Jewish communities in the U.S. to borrow proportionate amounts “so that Israel may have maximum funds at this crucial time in its history.”

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Election 2016 Republican Jews call Bernie Sanders’ Israel critics ‘today’s Democratic Party’ WASHINGTON (JTA)—The Republican Jewish Coalition released internet videos attacking Democrats by going after Israel critics on the party’s platform drafting committee. The three ads target, respectively, Cornel West, a philosopher who backs the boycott Israel movement; Rep. Keith Ellison, (D-Minn.), who has been critical of Israel’s treatment of the Palestinians, and James Zogby, the president of the Arab American Institute. All three were named to the committee by Sen. Bernie Sanders, (I-Vt.). Each 30-second ad, backed by sinister music, features quotations attributed to its subject—only West is seen speaking —and accuses him of being “stridently anti-Israel.” Each finishes with a shot of a smirking Hillary Clinton, the presumptive Democratic nominee, while the narrator says, “It’s today’s Democratic Party.”

“As the presumptive Democratic nominee, it is up to Secretary Clinton to maintain the bipartisan consensus on Israel and to do so she must denounce anti-Israel voices in her party like James Zogby, Cornel West and Congressman Ellison,” an RJC statement quoted its director, Matt Brooks, as saying. Clinton’s appointees to the committee, and the expert witness she sent to testify to the committee, pushed back against the main Israel-related demand advanced by West, Zogby and Ellison: that the platform refer to Israel’s control of the West Bank as an “occupation.” Of the three men targeted by the RJC, West has been most strident in his criticism of Israel. Zogby is a longtime Democratic Party operative who has for years helped shape language on the Middle East in the party platform. In the 1990s, he partnered

with pro-Israel figures to promote investment in the Palestinian economy in the wake of the Oslo peace process, although that venture collapsed in 1997 in mutual recriminations. Ellison, who is close to Minnesota’s Jewish community, assiduously notes the need for Israel’s security whenever he presses for Palestinian rights. “I don’t blame the Israeli Prime Minister for his concerns,” Ellison wrote this month on the Huffington Post website, arguing for a more assertive push for Israeli-Palestinian peace. The Huffington Post piece, written just after he returned from a tour of the region, was also critical of some Israeli security measures. “As the world knows, the Jewish people barely survived genocide,” he wrote. “My visit to Yad Vashem, the World Holocaust

Remembrance Center, was a sobering reminder of how essential Israel’s security is. I can understand the fear. But higher walls, more arms, and curtailing people’s rights will not lead Israel to security.” The National Jewish Democratic Council, responding to the ads, took aim at Donald Trump, who has been criticized for his broadsides against minorities and at the outset of his campaign said he would be neutral when brokering Israeli-Palestinian peace. Calling Trump “racist, sexist and bigoted,” the council said: “As they oppose the only consistently pro-Israel nominee in this race, this is going to be a tough year for RJC—all while more and more of their people stand with Israel and strengthening the US-Israel relationship by abandoning Trump.” Trump recently said he leans toward Israel and has sworn to protect it.

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Election 2016 OP-ED

Why Jewish moms are celebrating with Hillary Margot Slade

NEW YORK (JTA)—It happened all at once and not to me alone. There was Hillary Clinton, in her June 7 victory speech, honoring her mother’s memory; saluting her daughter, Chelsea; paying tribute to herself for raising such a child, and claiming her party’s nomination as the “milestone” it is. “I really wish my mother could be here tonight,” Clinton said. “I wish she could see what a wonderful mother Chelsea has become and could meet our beautiful granddaughter, Charlotte. And of course, I wish she could see her daughter become the Democratic Party’s nominee for president of the United States.” I suddenly understood why I identify with Hillary Clinton, and why that’s important to me and to other older Jewish women— her contemporaries. It has little to do with the details of our careers; even less with politics or party affiliation. It has nothing to do, in my case, with our shared Wellesley alumna status, and won’t necessarily translate into “likeability” (how I hate that word) or votes. It has everything to do, I believe, with several tenets of Jewish tradition and culture that became the warp and weft of our lives and, it now seems to me, that of Hillary Clinton. “Vindicated,” “valued,” “affirmed.” I’ve spoken with an admittedly unscientific

sampling of women in the past few days —baby boomers from across the Jewish and political spectrums, plus the most spiritually Jewish non-Jew I know. They include married and un-; with kids and none; only children and those with siblings. They all heard that moment in Clinton’s speech as mutual appreciation —“a kindred spirit giving herself and us our due,” as one woman said—for a job well done in the pivotal family role we’ve played. By that we mean not simply assuming the matriarch mantle without question and devoting ourselves to in-law, parent, sibling, spouse or child—even those with whom we have shaky relationships. We mean doing so without a sense of sacrifice or regret; without allowing our debtors to know that they’re in our debt. “We didn’t feel as if we were sacrificing anything,” said another woman. Rather, we were playing an important role that Judaism has traditionally valued. She was recalling when her kids needed to be the center of one parent’s life and knowing that she would be that parent. Yet another noted that as with Clinton, the former secretary of state, U.S. senator and first lady, it’s usually been outsiders who have declared us silent sufferers. Younger women, in particular, often seem troubled reconciling our sense of fulfillment as partners and spouses, daughters and mothers with our passionate pursuit

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of a feminist agenda. We lack resentment, except toward family members who assume that we want to shoulder these responsibilities alone. Why we don’t routinely disabuse them is a curious question. Perhaps we’re afraid they’ll say no. Otherwise parading pride in our handiwork or suggesting to the care-given that we have martyred ourselves on their account would undo all that we accomplished. Which is one of several reasons I think we, like Clinton, have stayed mum on this subject. (The other being we think it’s nobody else’s business.) What words can we use that won’t translate into lifelong guilt and “you owe me” or the debilitating message that “I made you what you are” for people we’ve nurtured to stand on their own? None, as Clinton clearly knows. Dominique Browning, author of Slow Love: How I Lost My Job, Put on My Pajamas, and Found Happiness, wrote in a recent New York Times essay: “At the end of the Brooklyn rally, she and Bill clasped each other tightly, and I choked up at the durability of that bond.” So did many of my contemporaries who believe that Hillary Clinton’s silence on that subject, while she loudly advocated for children’s health care, gun control and other social justice issues, was a sign of strength, not weakness. It signaled the value she accords her role

– and thus ours—in these kinds of family relationships. Clinton’s Brooklyn speech also testified to her kinship with an ancient Jewish moral imperative that Hillel the Elder declared and our mothers taught by example: “If I am not for me, who will be for me? And when I am for myself, what am I? And if not now, when?” (Pirkei Avot 1:14) Hillel was exhorting us to advocate for ourselves (no one, after all, will fashion our lives for us), but to be ever mindful of the kind of selves for whom we’re advocating: those whose actions isolate them from others, or whose actions embrace others to benefit family, community and society at large. Channeling Hillel, Clinton told the Brooklyn crowd: “My mother believed that life is about serving others. And she taught me never to back down from a bully, which, it turns out, was pretty good advice.” It was the prompt I needed, another spark of mutual recognition that Hillary Clinton has tried to live that life and follow her mother’s advice—as have we all. —Margot Slade is the founding senior editor of Lawdragon Campus, the law student division, website and online service for Lawdragon, Inc., a leading legal media company.

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he annual Stein Family College Scholarship of the Tidewater Jewish Foundation was awarded this month to Brett Pomerantz, a Hebrew Academy of Brett Pomerantz Tidewater graduate, as well as a recent graduate of Western Branch High School in Chesapeake. The four-year scholarship for a Jewish student in Tidewater is for up to $10,000 per year. When he was not volunteering as a Marshal Ambassador for new students to the high school, volunteering as part of National Honor Society or tutoring other students in mathematics, Brett could usually be found with the Technology Student Association (TSA), where he served as vice-president, treasurer, and most recently, as president. He says he has thoroughly enjoyed his involvement and leadership in TSA, and that it’s a tremendous value-add to the school because it, “gives opportunities for people to express themselves through technology.” When not at school, Brett spent time volunteering around the Jewish community. Highly active in BBYO, Brett has served as leader of Jewish Involvement, fundraising chair, and recruitment/ member involvement chair. For many years, Brett has also volunteered when his synagogue, Congregation Beth El, has hosted the Norfolk Emergency Shelter Team (NEST). “I think volunteering at NEST is fun. It’s a good thing to do, to help people who aren’t as fortunate as I am,” he says. Brett is looking forward to spending his fifth summer at Capital Camps in Waynesboro, Pennsylvania, where he will be a cabin counselor for third through fifth grade campers.

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two-page American Jewish Committee (AJC) ad in the June 6 issue of the Wall Street Journal listed the 508 U.S. and European mayors and municipal leaders who have signed on to its Mayors United Against Anti-Semitism initiative, pledging to combat the rise of anti-Semitism. “Bravo to those urban leaders from cities, big and small, across the U.S. and Europe, for their courage, conviction, and commitment,” said AJC CEO David Harris of the 189 European mayors from 31 countries, including 26 of the 28 EU member states, and the 319 mayors from all 50 states and the District of Columbia who have so far joined what could be the most far-reaching transatlantic campaign of its kind ever against anti-Semitism. “Only a few European mayors refused to sign, disappointing as their stance obviously was,” Harris added. The AJC initiative, calling on mayors to publicly address and take concrete actions against anti-Semitism, was launched last July, following AJC’s groundbreaking strategy conference, “A Defining Moment for Europe,” held in Brussels in May 2015. “Anti-Semitism is not compatible with fundamental democratic values,” the Mayors United statement asserts. “As mayors and municipal leaders, we have a special responsibility to speak out against

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he American Jewish Committee (AJC) Global Forum in Washington, D.C., the advocacy organization’s signature annual event, brought together more than 2,600 participants from across the United States and 70 countries. This year’s Global Forum marked 110 years since AJC’s founding, and the attendance at the early June event was the highest in the agency’s history. “Our annual Global Forum is a unique, energizing, highly informative experience, a must for engaged Jewish advocates,” says AJC CEO David Harris. U.S. National Security Advisor Susan Rice, European Union Foreign Policy Chief Federica Mogherini, and Mexican Foreign Secretary Claudia Ruiz Massieu were the headliners for the event’s World Leaders Plenary. Among the other world leaders who spoke during the 48-hour conference were Senate Foreign Relations Committee Chairman Robert Corker (R-TN); MK Isaac Herzog, chair of the Zionist Union and head of the opposition in the Israeli Knesset; Israeli Ambassador to the U.S. Ron Dermer; Ilir Meta, Speaker of the Albanian Parliament; and Katharina von Schnurbein, the European Commission’s coordinator on combating anti-Semitism. Yossi Klein Halevi, Senior Fellow at the Shalom Hartman Institute, kicked off the Forum with an address on the Jewish World of Tomorrow, followed by a panel discussion with Jeffrey Goldberg, national correspondent for The Atlantic; Richard Haas, president of the Council on Foreign Relations; and Julia Ioffe of Politico. For the seventh annual AJC Global Forum “Great Debate,” U.S. Representative Steve Israel (D-NY), chairman of the Democratic Congressional Campaign Committee (2011-2015), and Republican strategist Dan Senor, author of Start-Up Nation, made the case for which political party Jewish voters should favor in this year’s elections. Confronting rising anti-Semitism was addressed by MP John Mann of the British Labour Party, recipient of AJC’s Jan Karski

Award in 2009, and the mayors of Baltimore, Md., Newton, Mass., and Thessaloniki, Greece, three of the 508 U.S. and European mayors who signed AJC’s Mayors United Against Anti-Semitism statement. Boaz Bismuth of Israel Hayom, Herb Keinon of The Jerusalem Post, Amir Oren of Haaretz, and Dana Weiss of Israel TV Channel 2, all leading Israeli journalists, discussed the future of the Jewish state. Three college students shared their experiences confronting the BDS (boycott, divestment and sanctions) movement against Israel on campus. The ongoing mistreatment of Israel at the UN was explored by Israeli Ambassador to the UN Danny Danon in conversation with AJC CEO David Harris. Former Israeli Ambassador to the UN Ron Prosor also participated in several sessions. In addition, a special highlight each year for AJC Global Forum attendees is the opportunity to engage with top officials directly in a series of private dinners. This year, there were more than 40 such dinners with ambassadors from Africa, Asia, Europe, Latin America, and the Middle East. AJC Global Forum attendees participated in informational and training sessions before leaving for advocacy sessions on Capitol Hill. In addition, more than 130 college and university students attending the AJC Global Forum convened for an afternoon of workshops dedicated to their particular concerns. “We were so excited to see the growth of our Tidewater delegation,” says Alan Ronkin, director of AJC’s Washington Regional Office. “As the Jewish people face unprecedented challenges, we need everyone to work collectively toward our common goals. I look forward to visiting the community this year to engage more and more people in our important work.” AJC’s 2017 Global Forum will take place June 4–6 at the Washington Hilton Hotel. First time participants can attend the conference with a 50% discount by using

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When I first saw the news, the Washington Post was reporting 20 dead in an Orlando gay nightclub; by the time I had gotten out of bed and made breakfast, the number had risen to 49 dead and 53 wounded, making it the deadliest mass shooting in American history. Numb with shock, I thought back to the rainbow-filled and joyous celebration that had taken place just the day before. Unable to process the horror of this shooting, I did what most people of my generation tend to do: I posted my thoughts on Facebook, concluding with the line, “Praying for the victims and their families.” What followed was the loudest, rawest outcry against religion that I have ever seen on social media. Dozens of posts filled my newsfeed with messages such as,

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“Please, keep your prayers,” and “Prayers won’t do anything to stop homophobia and gun violence.” My Facebook friends were not unique in their outrage. On Monday, June 13, some members of the House of Representatives made waves when they protested a moment of silence for the victims of the Orlando massacre. In an interview that Monday, Rep. Jim Himes (D-CT) expressed his frustration: “‘Thoughts and prayers’ are three words that cost you nothing. I’m sick of it. Show some courage.” I understand Rep. Himes’ and others’ frustration. Words, social media posts, and moments of silence can be empty, especially when those expressing their sympathies have not previously moved on issues of gun violence and LGBTQ justice. Yet, I was surprised by this response, because I have a different understanding of prayer. As an intern at NCJW, my social justice work is guided by Judaism, and I cannot separate the two. When I say that I am praying, I mean that I am ready to take action. In the voting rights march from Selma to Montgomery in 1965, Jewish theologian Rabbi Abraham Joshua Heschel famously reflected, “When I marched in Selma, my feet were praying.” To me—and in my experience, to many other Jews—praying with my feet and working for tikkun olam, or repairing the world, is the only way to effectively pray. On Wednesday, June 15, I saw that leaders in the Senate began to pray effectively with their filibuster to address gun violence. Showing courage, and interrupting the regular business of the Senate, they turned thoughts and prayers for the

victims of the Orlando massacre into action. Religion and prayer can be a source of healing and comfort after yet another instance of gun violence and a hate crime against the Latino and LGBTQ communities. Prayer becomes problematic when it is used as an excuse for complacency. Instead, we should follow the lead of the members of Congress who spoke out and stood on the Senate floor for nearly 15 hours. We cannot pray away the violence and hate in our world with mere thoughts alone; instead, our prayer must incite us to action, lead us to march in the streets, and do the holy work of advocating for justice for all. Join me in praying through action for the victims and families of the Orlando shooting, and for all LGBTQ members of our communities. Here are some ways to take action: • Tell your lawmakers to co-sponsor the Equality Act to ensure federal protection against discrimination for every individual regardless of sexual orientation, gender or gender identity. • Learn more and educate your community about the Equality Act and the positive impact it would have for LGBTQ individuals, using NCJW’s talking points and frequently asked questions at www. ncjw.org. • Find more resources for ways to respond in the wake of the shooting in Orlando at www.Keshetonline.org. Madeline Budman is a member of Ohef Sholom Temple and a student at Georgetown University. This blog post first appeared on the National Council of Jewish Women’s website.

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We actually had assignments for that one—and some of the things rlene Kessel’s boom box is they came in with were so bad, large and awkward, but it has like ‘you should be pregnant with a CD player in it and the porcupines!’” speakers are loud, so for the past Since Kessel began leading the three months Kessel has shlepped it club’s meetings, attendance has up to the second floor of the Simon grown from about 15-20 seniors to Family JCC. as many as 35, with some traveling The player is integral to the current from Beth Sholom Village, in wheelfocus of discussion for the 30 or so chairs, with their aides. participants of the JCC Seniors’ Yiddish Michele Goldberg, JCC Cultural Club, which meets on the last Thursday Arts director, says seeing the growth of every month. Music, specifically and popularity of the Yiddish Club songs sung in Yiddish by performers is heartwarming and exciting. such as Mandy Patinkin or the Barry “The club provides an outlet Sisters—and the lyrics to the tunes, where our Jewish seniors can conprinted in a handout—are the basis Yiddish Club leader Arlene Kessel, right, nect to their past, where they can of conversation and discussion for the with participants Abbott and Kitty Saks. learn, where they can share their hour, or two, that the club meets. own knowledge, and where they can kibitz and shmooze “Not everyone understands all of the words, but they with their peers.” get the gist of it—and that’s enough for us to talk about,” Kessel allows the club members to set the pace, says Kessel. “Sometimes we’ll sing, or discuss why the determine the discussion topics, and then she plans songs are so sad, and sometimes we’ll even dance.” accordingly. And although she’s an active volunteer with Kessel is the maven (expert) who took over the club Temple Emanuel and the Holocaust Commission, she when former JCC senior director Sherry Lieberman says that coming to the Yiddish Club is the highlight of retired two years ago. her month. “I had been coming to the club at the request of my “We always start with a word, and they tell me what good friend Kitty Saks, and really enjoyed myself,” says they think it means—of course they all know—but rarely Kessel. “When Sherry was leaving, she said ‘I’m so sorry, do they agree,” Kessel says. I don’t want to see this group disband,’ and I didn’t want “The magical thing is that all of these words trigger to either—so I agreed to take over.” memories and adventures and relatives who aren’t around Kessel was a natural to lead the group. A retired anymore. They just light up when they share these stories teacher, she’d taught German for 38 years at Lynnhaven and I learn so much! Middle School in Virginia Beach, and can read and under“I find this experience so humbling, and so rich. We’re stand Spanish and French. She taught herself Yiddish as listening to each other and we’re laughing and we’re smila young child, after listening to her mother speak to her ing. I wonder, if not for this club, who would listen to grandmother on the telephone and wanting to understand them and hear these stories?” what they were saying. The JCC Yiddish Club is free and open to all seniors. “For me, it was a puzzle—trying to detect the words Arlene Kessel, a real mentch (good person), says a and their meanings, and I just picked it up,” she says. familiarity with some Yiddish is helpful, so participants “Yiddish, though, is not just a language, it’s a culture, don’t feel meshugenah (crazy), and won’t be verdreht and so at our meetings we may focus on books, or music, (confused). Have a nosh (snack) beforehand to fuel your or what I’d like to introduce next—food and cooking,” chutzpah (courage) to speak up, and know that it’s okay says Kessel. to kvell (burst with pride), a bissel (a little). “We’ve traded books back and forth—we laughed Call 757-321-2341 or visit www.simonfamilyjcc.org for together as we read Yiddish with Dick and Jane one week— more information. and for a couple of weeks we brought in Yiddish curses.

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drop the ball,” says Elin Schold Davis,

Hampton Roads area families safe on

occupational therapist and project coor-

the road.”

dinator for the Older Drive Initiative of

Nearly 90 percent of aging adults

the American Occupational Therapy

rely on their cars and driving to stay

Association. “We know that discussing

independent, according to the survey.

driving with aging loved ones reduces

Though many seniors 70 and older are

their discomfort around limiting or

able to drive safely into their later years,

stopping their driving. Often, families

it is critical for families to have a plan

just need to know how to start the

in place before a medical or cognitive

dialogue.”

condition makes it no longer safe for

For many seniors, the idea of giving up driving sparks feelings

their senior loved one to get behind the wheel.

of anger, anxiety and loneliness. To

“Physical and cognitive changes,

help families navigate these sen-

such as those caused by Alzheimer’s

sitive conversations about driving

disease, changes in vision or medi-

cessation, the Home Instead Senior

cation usage, can put older adults in

Care network has launched a new

jeopardy on the road,” adds Schold

public education program, Let’s Talk

Davis. “Many drivers can continue to

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drive safely as they get older, but it’s

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after an incident occurs behind the

their loved ones to create a roadmap

wheel. This may be a sign their loved

that explores new technologies and

one needs assistance maintaining their

solutions, while planning ahead. The

independence in and outside of the

solution may not be to stop driving

home,” says Laura Bousman, owner of

completely, but could include adding

the Home Instead Senior Care offices

senior-friendly safety features to the car

serving Chesapeake and Virginia

or taking a safety class.”

Beach. “Our hope is that by having

Family caregivers can look for sev-

these discussions and knowing the

eral potential warning signs that their

potential warning signs in advance,

senior may be losing the confidence or

we can help ensure seniors and their

ability to drive, such as unexplained

families stay safe and independent on

dents, trouble turning to see when

their terms.”

backing up, increased agitation while driving, and riding the brake. “We often receive calls from families

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Eastern Virginia Medical School partners with Beth Sholom Village for Music and Memory study

Jewish Family Service of Tidewater provides skilled home healthcare, in-home personal care, counseling, and a continuum of social services. Beth Sholom Village offers outstanding short-term rehabilitation, long-term care, and assisted living. Freda H. Gordon Hospice and Palliative Care of Tidewater provides hospice care to meet the physical, emotional and spiritual needs of patients and their families.

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reactions to music. The BSV staff will then give each participant an iPod loaded with music which is familiar to that person. Family members are consulted to determine participants’ favorite music. Based on the subjects’ reactions and mood changes, the need for certain medications may be reduced, and the individual’s quality of life may improve. Once the initial results of the study are analyzed, more residents at Beth Sholom will be eligible to participate in the Music and Memory program. The work at Beth Sholom Village occurs against a universal background of research and very positive results from expanded music therapy programs for individuals with dementia or Alzheimers. Beth Sholom Village seeks volunteers to assist the residents in the Music and Memory program. To volunteer, call 757-420-2512 and ask for Josh Bennett, Recreation Therapy director.

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eth Sholom Village, in partnership with Eastern Virginia Medical School, will begin a study with 20 BSV residents using monitoring equipment and headphones to determine the effect of music on the biorhythms and behavior patterns of those with some cognitive impairment. The study aims to investigate how those living with dementia or Alzheimer’s can benefit from music therapy. The study will be led by Hamid R. Okhravi, MD, of EVMS. The group therapy sessions will be facilitated by Becky Watson, a board certified music therapist. Watson has extensive clinical experience in conducting music therapy programs for older adults living with dementia. Volunteers are needed to sit with the residents for several hours each Tuesday, Thursday and Saturday over a six week period. Each participant will be outfitted with a monitor called an Actigraph which will record various

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ERUSALEM ( JTA)—Thousands of elderly Israelis give up food, medicine or heating because they cannot afford to pay for them, according to a survey earlier this year. Some 18 percent of Israeli elderly go without home heating and about 20 percent give up basic goods in order to pay for heating, according to the study by the International Fellowship of Christians and Jews. The survey of a representative

sample of 400 elderly, aged 65 and older, was conducted through the Geocartography Institute. The survey also found that 12 percent of elderly Israelis give up using hot water at least three days a week for financial reasons; 12 percent give up medication or medical care because of financial constraints; and one in seven gives up food for financial reasons. The survey also found that one in seven elderly report feeling lonely on a daily basis.

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Stand up to improve health

WE TAKE PRIDE IN EXCEEDING YOUR EXPECTATIONS.

Tom Purcell

o sit or stand—that is the question that many ponder considering the latest data on how remaining seated during long periods of time can be hazardous to an individual’s health. In fact, studies show that sitting for long periods of the day can lead to being overweight and developing heart mindful about moving and making it a disease, cancer, diabetes, and even pretop priority. mature death. When standing, keep shoulders The body is meant to move throughback and aligned. Use stomach muscles out the day. Two to stay straight. Slightly bend centuries ago when the knees to ease pressure agriculture employon the hips, and use quality ment was 90 percent shoes that offer good support. of the work force, And what shouldn’t one people engaged in When standing, do? Don’t stick that chest out. proper movement Instead, try to keep the chest throughout the grab your hands perpendicular to the ground. day, not to mention Don’t stand in the same posiphysical exercise. lightly behind tion for long periods of time, Spring forward to and don’t wear high heels today, smack dab in you to pull your when standing for long perithe middle of the ods of time. electronic age that shoulders and A weekly strength and keeps people from flexibility program can help moving and using chest up to create the aging body correct and physical traits to get maintain good posture as good posture. This work done. well as a better quality of So what’s the life. Remember, the body will simple act will solution? Make it weaken unless it is taken care a habit to get up of through a consistent struckeep you mindful and move around tured routine. to promote circulaof your posture. tion as well as to —Tom Purcell, fitness and increase energy. membership director at the Don’t spend long Simon Family JCC, has decades periods throughout of personal training and fitness experithe day in the same seated position. ence. He can be reached at TPurcell@ Keep track of steps per day with a SimonFamilyJCC or 757-321-2321. pedometer or a fitness tracking device. Half the battle of the bulge is being

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provides maintenance for two other local

Gomley Chesed Cemetery Fund, which

Jewish burial sites: Workmen’s Circle

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Foundation, UJFT provides a crew to

Chesapeake.

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Four elderly Jewish ladies busted for weekly mahjong game (JTA)—Four elderly Jewish women playing mahjong in Florida may not sound like a crime—but that’s what was alleged last fall in the city of Altamonte Springs. Lee Delnick, Bernice Diamond, Helen Greenspan and Zelda King—aged 87 to 95—had their weekly game interrupted by police who stopped them from playing in their usual spot, the Escondido Condominium clubhouse, on suspicion that the group was illegally gambling. King told the Heritage Florida Jewish News that a

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“troublemaker” in the building had alerted authorities to their weekly game. The ladies were told by the Escondido property manager to “lay low” for weeks until the issue sorted itself out. “This is ridiculous!” King said. “We haven’t played in the clubhouse for weeks! We have to go to each other’s homes to play, and not everyone lives in Escondido. It is an international game and we are being crucified!” As it turns out, there is no ordinance in Altamonte

Springs against mahjong gambling. The Heritage Florida Jewish News reported that Florida’s gambling laws allow certain “penny-ante games,” or games through which a winner wins $10 or less. The bubbes’ mahjong game, which caps the winner’s earnings at a steep $4, falls within the confines of the law. King told the Heritage Florida Jewish News that the ladies can now laugh about the whole affair at their mahjong games in the condo clubhouse.

Low scores, high morale, make JCC Golf Tournament one of the best

The weather was ideal—low humidity, a light breeze, and temperatures in the 70s, and the course was in beautiful condition. The 80 players knew they were contributing to a worthy cause. So whether participants were scratch golfers or once-a-year players, morale was high and smiles plentiful. Funds raised through tournament fees, raffle ticket sales and generous sponsors helped push the JCC past the $500,000 goal for the year. Direct beneficiaries from this day of competitive fun are children and teens who participate in Simon Family The Miller Group Team—Bill Miller, Jerry Miller, Chris Safrit and Eric Miller. JCC programs. The golf tournament ensures scholarships and funding are available for youths attending Kids Connection before and after school enrichment program, Camp JCC and the camp’s shadow program for young people with disabilities, the Kid Fit health and nutrition program, and teen programming. The winners of this year’s PayDay Payroll Resources Team—Steve Kayer, Chris Mabe, tournament were Ryan Glick, Andy Kline and Tom Canone. he Simon Family JCC’s 6th Annual Presidents’ Cup Golf Tournament, held on June 6 at Heron Ridge Golf Club in Virginia Beach, was a success, across the “leader” board.

Yuri Vaid, Casey Costello, and Brian Knight. Their names will be engraved on the impressive Presidents’ The winning foursome: Brian Knight, Yuri Vaid, Ryan Glick Cup trophy, along with and Casey Costello. the previous winners. To see more photos from the Golf One of the most memorable moments Tournament, visit www.fb.com/SimonFamilyJ. of the day occurred during the putTo learn more about the Simon Family JCC, ting contest, when members of the and how to participate in programs or help same foursome—Ian Holder and John support the JCC’s mission, visit www.simonVoorhees—both sunk their balls with a familyjcc.org or call 757-321-2337. single putt, leading to raucous cheers from Photography by Gaby Grune those watching and numerous high-fives.

Barry Einhorn, Marty Einhorn, Gene Ross, John Strelitz, Sandra Porter Leon, and Adam White, all past presidents.

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it’s a wrap

first person Confirmation at Beth El

Beth El hosts successful “Annual Golf-a-Thon”

Rabbi Jeffrey Arnowitz

he Confirmation, 10th grade year of studies at Beth El is both intellectually and emotionally challenging. Students spend the year exploring the idea of Jewish identity and self-determination. With the concept that no Jewish person is a perfect balance of religious, national and cultural connection, students spend the year exploring these and other facets of what it means to be Jewish with an eye towards what might interest them most as Jewish adults. The curriculum is designed to help them make the transition from Jewish children who are told what it means to be Jewish, to Jewish adults who have to decide what that means themselves. This year presented a unique challenge to our students. For various reasons, this was a class comprised of only three students. Each student was therefore invested with a tremendous amount of responsibility for the success of the learning endeavor. Class only met when all three could be present (we only had to cancel one class) and the seminar-style of the class required all three to actively engage at all times and be willing to share some very deep and personal self-refection. The students did not disappoint and the results were extraordinary. In some ways, the smaller group made it one of our best Confirmations yet, and it was a delight for Cantor Wendi and myself to teach. Each student produced a Jewish Identity Statement. The result not only exposed the breadth and depth of the students’ knowledge, but also their deep connection to their Judaism. Lily Berz wrote, “Three main ways I have practiced Judaism throughout my life are in the form of service, learning, and attending religious services. Religious

Cantor Wendi Fried, Jamie Alperin, Lily Berz, Evan Gordon and Rabbi Jeffrey Arnowitz.

services have been a constant I have been able to count on, and no matter where I am, a familiar tune will connect me to those around me.” Jamie Alperin said, “Cantor Wendi and Rabbi Arnowitz reassured me that it’s perfectly normal to not know who you are right now and that I have plenty of time to figure it out. They also taught me that asking questions are a big part of being Jewish, that it’s okay to be confused and that confusion will motivate me to search for the answers, ask questions, and learn more.” Evan Gordon added, “Judaism unites people, brings them all into one place and joins them together. Even more beautiful is that although there are undoubtedly conflicting views of Judaism in this gathering, we are still a community, still united and still willing to help one another at a moment’s notice. We are all still Jewish, we are all still one Jewish community. I plan to carry this value with me for the rest of my life.” We are exceptionally proud of our Confirmation class and are excited to see the Jewish future in their hands.

ight intrepid golfers set out on the course at Virginia Beach National to take on 36 holes of golf or more on May 25 with a mission to raise money for Jewish education and youth programming at Beth El. The day was beautiful, the golf was plentiful and the amount raised was significant. Each player found per-hole sponsors willing to pledge between $1 and $10 per hole or those willing to donate a fixed amount. The participants got pledges from literally dozens of friends of Jewish education. The foursome of Bob Lehman, Nathan Benson, Eric Joffe and Andy Klein played 36 holes, while Gigi Fried, Rabbi Jeffrey Arnowitz, Jason Hoffman and Alex Pomerantz played 41. Together they raised more than $15,000 with the award for superstar fundraiser going to Lehman who single handedly raised more than $6,000.

Nathan Benson, Andy Klein, Bob Lehman and Eric Joffe.

Alex Pomerantz and Nathan Benson helped plan the event. Last year, the tradition began with just four golfers. The extra foursome this year enabled the event to raise twice as much for the cause. Next year, Beth El is looking forward to adding another foursome and raising even more for the all-important cause of insuring the next generation of American Jewry through education.

Fluffy friends at Strelitz

Diana Smith’s two-year-old class at the Strelitz Early Childhood Education Center took care of some chicken and turkey eggs this past spring. The children helped keep the eggs warm and were excited to meet their new animal friends when they hatched.

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it’s a wrap Through all the clouds and rain, Israel Fest brought the sun Gaby Grune

he Simon Family JCC didn’t allow the rumors of showers to rain on their parade for the 2016 Israel Fest. In fact, on Sunday, June 5, when the festival began at 11 am, the day brightened for all who attended. In place of sunrays and clear skies, the roof of the Reba and Sam Sandler Family Campus sheltered each and every patron. Artisan booths, music, food, games, crafts and more filled the building with the scents, sounds, and sights of Israel. Israeli artist Moshe Monzon felt a sense of genuine culture that day. “I have been to many festivals, and I tell you this one was the largest and nicest. They really captured the authentic sound of Israel. Sometimes I go to a festival and it does not feel like Israel, but they did it—100 percent!” he says.

The outdoor climbing wall.

More than 1,600 visitors poured into the JCC to visit Israel without leaving Hampton Roads. The many activities and games included raffles, prizes, ping-pong, painting, air hockey, balloon animals, caricature portraitures, rock climbing and a bouncy house. Melissa Stern, who won the Edible Arrangement raffle, was delighted by her experience. “I was kind of shocked,” she says of her reaction to winning the bouquet. “It was my birthday as well, and we went to Israel Fest last minute and my daughter suggested we do the raffle. We all entered, and I won. It was great!” Stern says her 12-year-old daughter enjoyed the new additions at this year’s Israel Fest, specifically the wide range of food options and the inflatable rock wall. Stern has come to Israel Fest year after year, and one thing brings her back each time: “I like to support Israel; we have Moshe Monzon, family there, and I have never Israeli artist. been there, but one day I will go. Israel Fest is a great way to support and visit Israel,” she says. By 4 pm, the festivities were drawing to a close, but bits of Israel still lingered at the JCC. Monzon and his wife prolonged their stay for two more days to share their artistic creations and culture with the rest of the Tidewater community. To see more photos from Israel Fest, visit www.fb.com/simonfamilyj.

Danny, Joel and Niv Rubin.

Naty Horev, JCC cultural arts specialist.

Nehorai Hilel.

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tips on Jewish trips

Cnaan Liphshiz

PARIS (JTA)—On a crowded sidewalk in the French capital, Yomi Peretz exchanges jokes and backslaps with customers who are waiting in a 20-yard queue in the rain to enter his falafel shop. This chummy interaction comes naturally to Peretz, a tall enthusiast of boxing and poker who owns and runs l’As du Fallafel (The Falafel Ace), one of the bestknown eateries in Paris. But working the crowd also serves a commercial purpose. “I do it to keep up morale in the queue,” Peretz says. “They may be waiting here for 20-30 minutes and if they lose hope, they’ll go away.” Opened in 1979 by his parents in the old Jewish quarter of the Marais, the Falafel Ace is an institution distinguished by its international reputation and the fact that it has kosher certification. It is a Marais must-see thanks to its listing in travel guides and countless reviews in local and international media—including The New York Times, which wrote about Peretz’s eatery in 2006. The Ace is so busy it has two lines: for take-out and table seating. But this incontestable popularity isn’t enough for Peretz. In recent years, the Ace has played hardball with a smaller competitor, Mi-Va-Mi, across the way on Rosiers Street. Since opening in 1998, Mi-Va-Mi has struggled in the Ace’s shadow. Its owner, Martine Ouaknine, decided to open on Shabbat and subsequently lost her kosher certificate. So Peretz bought the space recently from where Mi-Va-Mi operates and is refusing to extend her lease beyond July. Ouaknine is fighting the eviction. Mi-Va-Mi has petitioned a Paris administrative court for a stay, citing its 18-year history at its current address and

laws designed to protect businesses from hostile takeovers. “They won’t get rid of us so easily,” says Ouaknine, speaking to a visitor in her half-empty restaurant as she gestures at the growing line across the road at the Ace. “There’s a fight, but it’s not over customers. We’re fighting to survive, they’re fighting to get rid of us just for the heck of it. We’re certainly no threat to them.” The court case is ongoing. Peretz declined to discuss the Mi-Va-Mi fight in any detail. “A competitor down the road, you can live with,” he says. “But a competitor right in front of you is annoying. All I can tell you is that there’s no war. We’re too busy making a living here.” Peretz interrupts the interview to ask two young ladies walking down the street if they are interested in lunching at the restaurant. When they answer they had already eaten, he assures them that their figures are “gorgeous enough to afford a second lunch,” but they walk away giggling. ”I should be wearing a red clown nose with all the nonsense I’m doing here,” he remarks with a smile. But Peretz attributes the popularity of his restaurant not to his clowning or PR, but to a “secret mix of spices, which we buy in Israel and mix here.” Among the Marais’ kosher eateries, the Ace’s success is unusual. Once home to thousands of Ashkenazi Jews, the Marais, or the 4th arrondissement, once had dozens of kosher restaurants and shops. During the 1970s, most of the Jewish residents and businesses left, cashing in on rising prices for real estate. They were replaced by non-kosher businesses that could turn a greater profit from the constant flow of tourists in part because they remained open on Shabbat.

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Terri Denison

Falafel wars in Paris: Who’s got the better balls?

Mi-Va-Mi in the Marais.

One of the restaurants barely hanging on is the prosaically named Kosher Pizza, owned by Moshe Benjamin Engelberg, who is widely regarded for his thincrusted pies. Like many vendors of Jewish food in the Marais, Engelberg says he relies heavily on tourists from Israel and the United States. “Few French Jews live here,” he says. “It’s not like when I was a young man and there were four kosher restaurants on every corner.” But both the Falafel Ace and Mi-Va-Mi have Parisian regulars who swear by their merits. One Ace lover says it has “more atmosphere,” while a Mi-Va-Mi supporter said the falafel there “is lighter and fluffier than the Ace’s.” During the lunch rush, ushers join Peretz on the sidewalk, handing out numbers. And on very busy days, the ushers demand payment in advance from patrons still standing in line. Only the disabled and elderly are allowed to wait inside, out of the rain or sun, for their number to be called. The walls of the crowded restaurant carry photos of celebrities during visits to

the Ace. The list includes Lenny Kravitz, Benjamin Netanyahu and former regular Natalie Portman, who still comes here when she’s in Paris with her France-born husband. Inside the Ace, a staff of 12 tends to about 15 tables so closely positioned that the waiters need to raise their arms to pass between. The bill arrives unsolicited after 20 minutes. Unusual for a French eatery, neither deserts nor coffee are on offer. “This whole circus is actually quite annoying,” says Henry Sultan, a Parisian Jew who comes to the Ace with his 75-year-old mother, Eugenie. “But my mother says it’s the best and cleanest because it’s kosher, so we endure.” Over at Mi-Va-Mi, the atmosphere is fundamentally different. Soft-spoken and slightly introverted, Ouaknine patiently explains to a customer why some falafel balls are green on the inside—that’s the Lebanese variety, which is Mi-Va-Mi’s specialty—and why others, of the Egyptian kind, are yellow, as at the Ace. “Ours is a family atmosphere, and we’ll stay here as long as there’s a demand for that,” she says.

what’s happening Shabbat Service with Tidewater Chavurah Friday, July 8, 7 pm

idewater Chavurah is looking forward to holding its second Friday of the month Shabbat service with Rabbi Ellen Jaffe-Gill leading the service at the home of Hal

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he Jewish Museum & Cultural Center’s Wonderful Wednesdays concert series is dedicated this year to the museum’s founder Zelma Rivin. Rivin started the Wonderful Wednesdays Summer Music Series to invite the community to the historic Jewish museum. This year’s series includes Lee Jordan-Anders and Chuck Woodward on July 6; Dramtreeo on July 20; Bart Kuebler on August 17; and Ambrosia Quartet on August 31. Lee Jordan-Anders and Chuck Woodward Wednesday, July 6, 7:30 pm Two of the region’s favorite pianists, Lee Jordan-Anders and Chuck Woodward, team up for Plaisirs de l’été. The program features piano duets from French composers Claude Debussy, Maurice Ravel, Francis Poulenc and Georges Bizet. The Jewish Museum & Cultural Center is located at 607 Effingham Street in Portsmouth. Tickets are $20 or $75 for the series and can be purchased at www.jewishmuseumportsmouth. org or by calling 757-391-9266.

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he Hebrew Academy of Tidewater celebrates the many accomplishments of its students throughout the years. The school also supports them through important academic and social challenges and nurtures them as they grow and develop throughout their elementary years. One of HAT’s most favorite rites of passage is graduation. As always, this year’s commencement ceremony held on Wednesday, June 8, did not disappoint. Proudly dressed in their caps and gowns—and ginormous smiles!—the candidates presented their parents with roses and then took their Back row: Ellie Debb, Shalom Brashevitzky, and Elijah Arnowitz. places on stage for the cer- Front row: Cooper Poorman, Ofek Newman, and Liora Kaplan. Not pictured: Ilana Becker. emony. After the Pledge of Allegiance, Star Spangled school and your community.” Banner and Hatikvah, a D’var Torah and Moore then imparted advice to furclass speeches were presented, as well ther prepare them for middle school: as a heartwarming video of the graduat• Study hard. Everything won’t ing class, followed by awards and other always come easily and it shouldn’t. presentations. Head of School Heather Work hard, ask for help, keep trying, and Moore also offered some memorable persevere. “Sometimes the hardest things parting words (excerpt): in life are the things most worth doing.” “You have worked hard and accom• Get involved. Find activities, clubs plished much in your time here. You or sports to join that you are interested have learned to read and write, become in and get involved. Don’t worry about proficient in math, learned how to think whether your friends are interested in like scientists, and learned about physthe same activities. You will meet new ical fitness, art and music. You learned friends who share the same interests and the principles of loving kindness, charyou will have fun along the way. ity, and the ethical treatment of people • Be courteous and respectand the earth around us, based upon the ful towards adults, your peers and teachings of the Torah and Jewish histowards yourself. Good manners and tory. You have also made new friends and a respectful attitude will go a long way learned from many wonderful teachers. in life. Most importantly, you have worked hard Moore asked the students to stand, to become knowledgeable as individuals turn their tassels and proudly proand knowledgeable of your Jewish hernounced them graduates of the Hebrew itage—to be responsible and respectful Academy Class of 2016. people who are good citizens of your

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Simon Family JCC Biennial Meeting honors the hard work of many, focuses on future collaborations Danielle Kavan

he 2016 Biennial Meeting of the Simon Family JCC took place on Wednesday, June 15. During the meeting, outstanding community accomplishments were acknowledged, awards were presented, a president bid his farewell, and a prospective president explained that the JCC-initiated merger with the United Jewish Federation of Tidewater was why he was not taking office. Marty Einhorn, outgoing JCC president, gave a state of the Center address following Rabbi Rosalin Mandelberg’s uplifting D’var Torah, focusing on change. After thanking the professional staff and lay leaders for making the JCC great, Einhorn highlighted the JCC’s most recent accomplishments—Camp JCC’s waiting lists and the largest Israel Fest crowd to date, just to name a few. He also acknowledged the fitness center’s ongoing struggle

Harry Graber presents The JCC Service Award to Jaime Brathwaite.

to bring in new members and pointed to the partnership with Town Center Fitness’ owner Tom Purcell as a ray of hope. After detailing a few fun childhood stories about the JCC—working in the snack bar and riding his bike to the former location on Newport Avenue— Einhorn explained how important his role as president for the past two years was to him on a personal level: “Thank you for challenging me to be the best that I can be. It’s been an honor.” Terri Sarfan, a past JCC president, thanked Einhorn for his quiet, thoughtful leadership, countless hours of work on the merger, Strelitz Early Childhood Education Center reconfiguration, and quantified the growth the JCC has seen under his leadership. “Marty, you worked really hard on fundraising this year, and under your leadership, we have surpassed a half a million dollar mark in fundraising for the JCC, which is a huge feat for one agency in the Tidewater community,” said Sarfan. The awards presentation at the 2016 Biennial included The David and Sylvia Krug Award for Outstanding Service to the Simon Family JCC, presented to Sandra Porter Leon; The Thomas L. Hofheimer Humanitarian Award, presented to Dana Cohen and Kitty Saks; The Joseph “Buddy” Strelitz Community Service Award, presented to the Hampton Roads Community Foundation; The Jewish Programming Award, presented to Terri Denison and the Jewish News Team; The JCC Youth Award, presented to Evan Roesen; The Mary & Avalon S. Krukin Award for Senior Adults, presented to Bernice Greenberg; and The JCC Service Award, presented to Jaime Brathwaite. Each award winner received a standing ovation for their incredible

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Marcia Hofheimer presents The Thomas L. Hofheimer Humanitarian Award to Dana Cohen and Kitty Saks. Marcia Hofheimer, Kitty Saks, Tonie Wilkins, Marty Einhorn and Dana Cohen.

service, but the roar of the crowd was a bit louder for Jaime Brathwaite’s more than three decades of service as he took the stage. In Harry Graber’s speech indicating why Brathwaite was nominated for the award, he repeatedly noted how much everyone who has crossed paths with Brathwaite loves him for his kind, patient, and thoughtful demeanor. David Leon, prospective president, had the honor of addressing the JCCUJFT merger, first noting that the merger was a JCC initiative. “A number of us had been discussing the challenges facing the JCC over the last few years. In particular, the overlap and duplication of programing between the JCC and Federation was an obvious issue. From first-hand experience and surveys taken, many people who step foot on the Sandler Family Campus often have no idea which agency is sponsoring any of the many events and programs they’re attending,” Leon explained. “We convened a restructuring

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Evan Roesen receives The JCC Youth Award from Howard Roesen.

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Harry Graber presents The Joseph “Buddy” Strelitz Community Service Award to Deborah DiCroce of the Hampton Roads Community Foundation.

committee made up of current, past and future leadership of both agencies to start the process of discussing, debating, researching and planning the best way to move forward.” Leon said the team contacted other communities that have previously gone through similar mergers, including Louisville, Austin and Phoenix. “Our long term goal is to provide a vibrant community for our all our members and ensure a thriving Jewish community for our children and grandchildren,” said Leon. Jay Klebanoff, UJFT president, thanked the crowd for attending the last JCC Biennial meeting and dismissed the group. Photography by Laine M. Rutherford.

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