Colours of Hypnosis

BY SAMANTHA TIMBERS NLP PRACTITIONER, HYPNOTHERAPIST, CREATOR OF THE CLOUD GOAL SYSTEM

Love Yourself

Pink, I love this colour for so many reasons. I think of it as of the colour of love and peace. When you look at pink it has a relaxing quality to it. The rose quartz is a light hue of pink and represents universal love and encourages unconditional love. The Rose Quartz is known to purify and open the heart and promotes love, friendship, peace and unconditional self-love

What is Unconditional self-love?

Unconditional self-love means loving our whole selves not just what we find convenient or easy; like the things that other people like or love about us. What other people like or love about us is constantly changing and may not really be what is on the inside of us.

Unconditional love means loving “the good, the bad and the ugly” about ourselves, it means that no matter what mistakes we make or the decisions we make we continue unconditionally love ourselves. Please note that we could only make the decisions we have made in the past with the resources we had at the time. Be gentle with yourself.

Having never actually looked up the Webster’s definition for self-love I ventured onto the Internet, as we do to find out, the meaning of Self-love

The definition of self-love

The first definition I came across William Sweetser defined self- love as mental hygiene. Webster’s dictionary defines self-love as: proper regard for and attention to one’s own happiness or well-being; an appreciation of one’s own worth or virtue

What is it not?

Our society has improved the way we teach our youngest to behave, and the expectations we have of members of our community. Such that we teach and hold in high esteem, how to give to others, how to be respectful to others, how not to judge others, how to be considerate to others, have compassion for others amongst other wonderful attributes we are teaching people about how to treat others. This is an awesome way to live and teach and something I strive for in my life. Yet we seem to be missing something…. Where is the “me” in the “others”? As a society we do not teach our children or adults how to unconditionally love ourselves or to believe that it is okay. While preparing to write this article I asked around and discovered that many people do not know exactly what it self-love is or how to get it. Many people confuse self love and selfishness... The definition of selfishness Webster’s dictionary: selfishness - stinginess resulting from a concern for your own welfare and a disregard of others. Although selfish and self-love both reference concern about your own welfare the difference here is selfish definition includes the disregard for others. Many confuse unconditional self-love and selfishness or conceit. So let’s clear that up! Treating ourselves with respect, reserving judgment, compassion, being nice to ourselves and giving to ourselves is not selfish. Generational beliefs, parents, teachers, and society all have a part to play in our formed limited beliefs that it is selfish to love ourselves first. I am not here to lay blame or sort out how or why this is embedded in the fabric of our society. I am here to shed some light, so we can begin to create balance within ourselves. You can have self-love and a regard for others as well as yourself. They do not need to be exclusive of each other.

What can it do for us and why would you want it?

If you learn how to unconditionally love yourself….what do you think could happen? I will let you know it will be a very positive domino effect! Let’s start with how you start your day. You love yourself! You wake you drink some water to hydrate this fantastic body of yours You look in the mirror and find all the fantastic things you love about yourselves You smile and get ready for the day. When we feel good about ourselves we talk different we walk different and most fantastic of all we treat others with the same respect we have for ourselves. Imagine the confidence you would start you day with? Would you then try new things and not worry about failing? Would you berate yourself over your faults or would you embrace them and work on improving. How about the negative self-talk? Do you think it would be reduced over time? Who do you listen to the most all day long? …. Answer….The other person inside your head (who is actually you) what is that voice was loving and positive and spoke word of unconditional love? Now think about the negative things you say to yourself. Could you imagine saying those to a child, a friend, a stranger? I have asked this question to a number of people and the answer is always “no I could not imagine saying the negative things I say to myself too another human being.” Then I ask them why it is acceptable to say to yourself? There is often a pause and an eye raise while that sinks in……….is it sinking in?

So how can you practice selflove or learn how to self-love?

There are many ways you can begin to love yourself. Over the past decade there are books articles and podcasts teaching you how. All of them are great resources for you to look into and read, watch and listen to. I am here to tell you about how Hypnotherapy can assist you in beginning the journey to unconditional self-love.

Hypnotherapy (Hypnosis)

There are many definitions of Hypnosis, in a nut shell; Hypnosis is a tool that Hypnotherapists use to access the unconscious mind through guided relaxation, focus and intense concentration, to induce a state of awareness that allows for an increase response to suggestion. There are two parts to our mind, the unconscious and the conscious mind and they have different jobs. The conscious mind is the rationale part of our minds where our conscious desires, aspirations and goals are located. The unconscious mind runs our bodies and stores memories and if full of programs (our beliefs and‘truths”) that have been put in there throughout our lives that influence our behaviour. Because hypnosis works with the unconscious mind Hypnotherapists can assist in changing the way we think and therefore the way behave through Hypnosis.Hypnosis has been documented to be an effective method to increase your belief in yourself, become more positive and increase your self-love, decrease worry and increase self-esteem. To quote Yapko, PhD, a psychologist and fellow of the American Society of Clinical Hypnosis. “….a growing body of scientific research supports its benefits in treating a wide range of conditions, including pain, depression, anxiety and phobias. Hypnosis works and the empirical support is unequivocal in that regard. It really does help people,” For the purposes of this article I am focusing on self-love and Hypnotherapy. There are a wide range of uses for hypnosis that is so extensive it cannot be listed here.

What Hypnosis it isn’t?

There are a few misconceptions about Hypnosis, so to clear that up: it is not sleep, or mind control, it is not a truth serum, or brainwashing, you are not under someone else’s control, no Hypnotherapist will make you cluck like a chicken, or do anything that you are not willing to do. Scientist are now debunking many of the misconceptions about Hypnosis and are studying how Hypnotherapy can assist many people.

What can Hypnosis do for you and how does it relate to unconditional self-love?

Have you heard the expression “you are what you eat?” “An apple a day keeps the doctor away”. It has been established that our bodies are affected by what we eat and how healthy our body is.

Have you heard “You are what you think?” Our thoughtsare what we eat for our minds…..so take a look at what you are eating all day. In recent years it has been proven that our thoughts affect our minds and our bodies. If you think negative thoughts all day long and do not have unconditional self-love, positive thinking then it will affect our mind and bodies negatively.

Hypnosis as stated above can assist with reducing negative thoughts, self-doubt, self-loathing, selfsabotage in addition to so many other things.

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