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January 23rd - 25th

Indianapolis Winter Magic Festival

Seven amazing magicians in Indianapolis for a three-day festival.

Five of the magicians will represent North America in Italy during the July 2015 FISM World Championship of Magic. You will be astounded when you see the act that makes them among the best magicians in the world. Hour long shows and a “World Championship of Magic Showcase.” Ticket packages available.

Giselle

NoExit Performance Company February 20th - March 7th

The original bad romance: an adaptation of the classical ballet where we venture into the depths of torment that Giselle and her Albrecht both, in life and death, force upon each other. Theirs is a love story.

Ours is a ghost story, as it centers on not only literal ‘spirits of the night,’ but also the ghosts of choices that haunt our conscience and plague our dreams.

Wisdom Tooth Theatre Project March 20th - April 4th

The Last Days of Judas Iscariot

Judas - sinner, scapegoat, or someone like us caught in a situation too far beyond him? In the darkly comic world between heaven and hell, we must decide the ultimate fate of the world’s most infamous and unexplained sinner.

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Tom Alvarez, Jesse Walker Book Reviewer Sebastian Fortino Business CorrespondentS Norman Brandenstein, Bob Chenoweth, Dan Groover, Mark A. Lee entertainment contributor Chris Azzopardi Food & Wine Editors Karen Kennedy, HEALTH EDITORs Matthew Grant PsyD, HSPP Legal Writer Barbara Baird life & style Writers Shane Jordan, Albert Winks Political Editor Josh Peters Arts & entertainment editors

Well we made it through 2014. It’s hard to believe 2015 is just around the corner. What an exciting year this has been in LGBT history. We have taken major strides in our fight for total equality. Same-sex couples can now get married in over thirty states including Indiana.

This issue is very special to us. It is our fourth issue of UNITE Indianapolis and what is in my opinion, our best issue to date. We have incredible features with Nick Jonas, LeAnn Rimes and a story on the Indiana Historical Society’s LGBT History initiative, which is being spearheaded by UNITE’s own Mark A. Lee. We are so proud to have him on our team, and we will continue to update this story over the next few months as it evolves.

A must read story in this issue is Barbara Baird’s article on same-sex couples. Baird walks us through the positives (and potential negatives) of being married in Indiana.

Another one of my favorite articles is Norman Brandenstein’s piece on Jacqueline Patterson, a transgender engineer at Cummins Incorporated, and how the organization embraced Jacqueline in addition to educating its employees on LGBT issues.

The holidays can be a very depressing time for many people in our community. Many people have relocated to Indianapolis to pursue employment or for a better quality of life, but left behind their family, friends and loved ones. If you know anyone who was planning on spending the holiday by themselves, please reach out to them and invite them to join your friends and family. This small gesture will be much appreciated and will ensure that someone will not spend the holidays alone.

Happy Holidays from the UNITE family!

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Winter Magic is Coming

Culture

by Jesse Walker Surprising. Innovative. Entrancing. These are just some of the words you’ll be using after you attend one of the many events at the 2015 Indianapolis Winter Magic Festival running from Jan 22-25 and sponsored by IndyFringe. This event will get you out of the house in January just when you need a boost to your spirits. Last year, many of the shows sold out, despite the truly awful weather Indy was experiencing.

Five of the eleven magicians who were chosen to represent North America in the FISM World Championship of Magic will be performing at the 2015 Indianapolis Winter Magic Festival. The World Championship of Magic can be thought of The World Cup for magicians — bringing the world’s very best magicians together to compete against each other. In July, 2015, the final round of this worldwide event will be held in Rimini, Italy.

Plus, two amazing magicians with international reputations, Oscar Muñoz and Eric DeCamps, will be headlining the show and teaching workshops. DeCamps has been performing for more than thirty years and has been voted Magician of the Year by The Society of American Magicians. Muñoz has won numerous awards including the International Brotherhood of Magicians Gold Cup and the Society of American Magician’s First Place Gold Medal.

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“We started the Indianapolis Winter Magic Festival five years ago, and it’s been a huge success,” said Pauline Moffatt, IndyFringe’s Executive Director. “Indy is becoming a destination for magicians and fans of magic alike. We love magicians at IndyFringe. Every year, the magic acts at the summer IndyFringe Festival draw families with children as well as magic enthusiasts. Putting on this show helps IndyFringe in its mission to support and grow art in the Indianapolis area. We love to help artists and give them new spaces and events in which to stretch their wings.”

At the gala, each FISM magician will showcase the ten minute act that won him a place at the WCM. The FISM magicians and the headliners will each perform three, 45 minute shows over the following three days. There will be a junior event for young magicians. You can also sign up for magic workshops with the two headliners.

Ticket prices are $15 Adults/$12 students/$8 children under twelve. You can purchase a Fiver Pass for $60 (see five shows), a VIP pass for $120 (see all shows), Family Pass for $30 (2 adults/2 children under 12 for one show). Tickets to the Gala are $30 per person. Shows will be held at the IndyFringe Basile Theatre and another nearby location that hasn’t yet been determined.

For more information, visit www.indyfringe.org.

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unite news RAIN: A TRIBUTE TO THE BEATLES Experience an all new show when the internationally-acclaimed Beatles concert, RAIN: A Tribute to the Beatles, returns to the Murat Theatre at Old National Centre on Thursday, April 9 and Friday, April 10.

Called “the next best thing to seeing The Beatles!” by the Associated Press, RAIN performs the full range of The Beatles’ discography live onstage, including the most complex and challenging songs that The Beatles themselves recorded in the studio but never performed for an audience. In addition to the updated sets that include brand new LED, high-definition screens and multimedia content, new songs have also been included with the launch of the 2015 tour. Together longer than The Beatles, RAIN has mastered every song, gesture and nuance of the legendary foursome, delivering a totally live, note-for-note performance that’s as infectious as it is transporting. From the early hits to later classics (“I Want To Hold Your Hand,” “Hard Day’s Night,” “Sgt. Pepper’s Lonely Hearts Club Band,” “Let It Be,” “Come Together,” “Hey Jude” and more), this adoring tribute will take you back to a time when all you needed was love, and a little help from your friends! Tickets are available at the Old National Centre box office or by calling 800-745-3000.

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IMA unveils new ARTx series

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Indianapolis Museum of Art is excited to announce the inventive new ARTx series, made possible with a $1 million gift from The Efroymson Family Fund, a fund of Central Indiana Community Foundation (CICF). The ARTx series was developed by the IMA’s first-ever Curator of Audience Experiences and Performance, Scott Stulen, and offers smart, dynamic and highly-interactive experiences for audiences on the IMA campus and within the community. The robust lineup features new public programming and community initiatives, along with enhancements to existing campus programs and events. New offerings such as Grown-up Summer Camp, Art Crossfit and Avant Brunch continue to strengthen the IMA’s reputation for quality experiences and intellectual rigor, while creating playful and unexpected points of access for a variety of audiences. The series will focus on five categories: art education, connecting to the community, family programs and young learners, unique experiences and special events, and supporting local artists. The series is aligned with the IMA’s focus on visitor experience and community engagement. For more information and to view the complete schedule of events, visit www.imamuseum.org.

Debuts New Logo Indy Pride has rocked the same logo since 2003. Created by Kendal Summers, then Secretary for Pride, it was a well-received design. But Indy Pride, Inc., respectfully decided that the time was right for a new look, a logo that reflected the growth of Indy Pride — its vision and its reach.

Indy Pride Board Member Jack Shepler designed the new branding with a very specific narrative in mind. “The new Indy Pride branding,” explained Shepler, “encompasses both the organization’s pride in Indianapolis as well as pride in serving the LGBT community.”

The focal point of the logo is the star, taken from the Indianapolis flag, and the rainbow elements burst forth from that star and get larger as they get “closer” to the viewer. As Shepler pointed out: “This represents the voice of our community, being projected louder and stronger as time marches forward.”

“We are very excited to show off our new logo and branding,” said Chris Morehead, Indy Pride, Inc., President. “Indiana has seen history made over the past few years and this new branding exemplifies these strides with a view for the future of the organization and the Pride movement as a whole. Ayokay was selected from dozens of great proposals to organize the re-branding and we could not be happier with the result.”

LGBT-Certified Businesses

WIN OPPORTUNITY TO SUPPLY THE SUPER BOWL When the NFL teams take the field during Super Bowl 50 in Feb. 2016, there will be more than one winner in the stadium.

Diversity will also score a touchdown as the NFL and San Francisco Bay Area Super Bowl 50 Host Committee include Bay Area LGBT-certified businesses in their Business Connect program for contracting opportunities related to the championship game.

Business Connect’s goal is to increase opportunities for historically under-represented businesses to conduct Super Bowl business, as well as to support individual business growth through networking events and educational programs.

“We are honored the NFL would entrust our process for determining if an entity is an LGBT Business Enterprise. This is exactly why we created NGLCC and a great example of the doors we help open. We encourage the NFL and all its teams to continue to work closely with the diverse businesses in their communities that are ready to provide products and services,” says Justin Nelson, co-founder and president, NGLCC.

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Chamber Chat

by Bob Chenoweth

Looking Back. Looking Forward.

As one year ends and a new year begins, it’s only natural to take stock of what you’ve accomplished even as you set your sights on bigger and better things.

As Board Chair for the Indy Rainbow Chamber of Commerce, I have the very good fortune of collaborating with a talented and dedicated Board of Directors in service to our wonderful (and growing) community of members. Before we take a brief look back and give a glimpse of the future, I want to publicly thank our board members: President JJ Gufreda, Community Liaison, Treasurer and Chair Emeritus Barb Milton, Membership Chair Emmanuel Merchiers, Secretary Barbara Baird, and members Don Burrus, Tim Delehanty and Andy Ward. I am so proud to work alongside these amazing volunteers.

Any look back at 2014 would be incomplete without acknowledging the context of this important time for LGBT rights in the United States. As of this writing, more than thirty states enjoy marriage equality, including Indiana! This summer I had a double honor: I was finally able to marry my husband, Dan Jessup, after 13 years together, and I had the privilege of bestowing a special award of recognition to attorney and board member Barbara Baird. Baird has been on the front lines

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of the fight for marriage equality for many years, and society is better due to her efforts. It was an emotional presentation at the July, after-hours event when we were able to thank Baird for her service to our community.

During the expansion of LGBT rights in 2014, we welcomed many new members to the Chamber. We continued to host great, after-hours events throughout the year (with JJ emceeing, every event is an entertaining adventure). We thank each of our hosts and sponsors for supporting our members and the LGBT community. Soon we’ll announce special events and fundraisers that will help elevate the profile of the chamber and our members. Stay tuned!

2015 will also be a year that we build upon carefully-constructed foundations. Community Liaison Barb Milton has been tackling administrative issues and managing our internship programs, but will soon double her time commitment on with a focus on membership growth and increased exposure. We will work with Milton to not only increase membership, but to bring more value to all Chamber members. We’ll keep you updated on these strategic initiatives throughout the coming year via our new e-newsletter, our event-focused email reminders, our Facebook page, and with announcements at our after-hours events.

The future is bright for the Chamber and its members. Built on the hard work of so many LGBT individuals, allies, businesses and organizations, we are poised to generate more opportunities to help our members succeed.

Are you a Chamber member? If not, visit GayIndyNow.com to learn more. If you are a member and want to become more involved in 2015, let us know. It’s an exciting time, and together we can accomplish even more!

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Eskenazi HealtH Highlighted IN 2014 HEALTHCARE EQUALITY INDEX

by Dan Groover The Sidney & Lois Eskenazi Hospital and Eskenazi Health campus has been recognized as a Leader in LGBT Healthcare Equality by the Human Rights Campaign (HRC) Foundation, the educational arm of the country’s LGBT civil rights organization.

The findings were part of HRC Foundation’s Healthcare Equality Index 2014, a unique annual survey that encourages equal care for LGBT Americans and recognizes health care institutions doing the best work.

Eskenazi Health earned top marks in meeting non-discrimination and training criteria that demonstrate its commitment to equitable, inclusive care for LGBT patients and their families who can face significant

challenges in securing quality health care and respect.

Eskenazi Health was one of a select group of only three healthcare facilities in Indiana and 426 healthcare facilities nationwide to be named a Leader in LGBT Healthcare Equality. Facilities awarded this title meet key criteria, including patient and employee non-discrimination policies that specifically mention sexual orientation and gender identity, a guarantee of equal visitation for same-sex partners and parents, and LGBT health education for key staff members.

“Leaders in LGBT Healthcare Equality change the lives of LGBT patients and their families for the better each and every day,” said Chad Griffin, HRC president. “LGBT people should

be treated equally in all aspects of our lives, and HRC celebrates Eskenazi Health for their tireless work to create an inclusive and welcoming environment for all patients.”

The Healthcare Equality Index offers healthcare facilities unique and powerful resources designed to help provide equal care as well as assistance in complying with new regulatory requirements and access to high-quality staff training.

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IHS Announces Indiana LGBT Collecting Initiative

by Joey Amato The Indiana Historical Society (IHS) is pleased to introduce a new effort designed to collect, preserve and make accessible archival material that documents the rich history, tradition and culture of Indiana’s Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual and Transgender (LGBT) community. This three-phase project will be known as the Indiana LGBT Collecting Initiative.

“History is written from the documentation which exists about a particular subject, and this initiative is being taken to fill a gap in the historical record,” said John A. Herbst, IHS President and CEO. “This is an important step to ensure we can be Indiana’s storyteller for all our citizens in the decades to come.”

Phase I of the collecting initiative, slated for completion in 2015, is the Indianapolis and Central Indiana LGBT Oral History Project. Interviews with at least 40 people will be conducted throughout the central region of the state, documenting the interviewees’ stories within the LGBT community.

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UNITE Indianapolis’ photographer Mark A. Lee is currently conducting the interviews, “Since we are only able to conduct a small number of interviews, I am attempting to speak with the most diverse group of people I can,” he mentions. “When people read the transcripts fifty to a hundred years from now, I want them to have a clear idea of what it was like to be gay, lesbian, or transgendered in the State of Indiana during this period of time.” Along those lines, Lee is in search of older gays or lesbians of color who are willing and able to speak with him about their experiences.

The oral histories will be transcribed, digitized, indexed and made available for research as part of the collections of the Indiana Historical Society. The donation of photographs and other original material to the IHS archives will be encouraged as well. In addition to the oral histories, two other major LGBT-related collections, the Mark A. Lee LGBT Photo Collection and the Steven L. Tuchman Papers, will be processed and made available in 2015.

Lee has been photographing LGBT events in Indiana for over thirty years. Over 16,000 photos have been added to his collection for future generations.

“I started taking photography much more seriously in the early ‘80’s when I began losing my entire core group of friends to HIV and AIDS. I didn’t want people to forget what

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that period of our history was like. Perhaps one of my favorite photographs is also one of the most painful ones to look at.

It’s a photo of my friend Mark Wright, less than a week before he passed away.”

Phase II will continue to build IHS’s collection of Indiana LGBT-related materials,

including the acquisition of books, periodicals, visuals, personal papers of individuals, and records of organizations, businesses, and public services within the gay community.

Phase III will focus on expanding the initiative to other cities and regions of Indiana. Several exhibits and public programs

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will also be planned and offered to share the collected materials and stories, including publications and books, exhibits in the Rose McKee Lanham Gallery, and future enhancement of the You Are There and Destination Indiana elements of the Indiana Experience.

When completed, materials obtained through the Indiana LGBT Collecting Initiative will be available to the public through IHS’ William Henry Smith Memorial Library at the Eugene and Marilyn Glick Indiana History Center, which is located at 450 W. Ohio St. in downtown Indianapolis. Selected materials will also be digitized and made available online through IHS’s Digital Image Collections, providing access to users across the world.

The Indiana LGBT Collecting Initiative is a special project funded through gifts and grants from individuals, foundations and corporations. The IHS is also working to forge partnerships with key community organizations to further these efforts, as well as maximize public access to the collections.

All of these efforts will be made with the assistance and counsel of IHS’ LGBT History Advisory Committee, which includes both community members and IHS trustees. The committee is co-chaired by James H. Madison, the Thomas and Kathryn Miller professor emeritus of history at Indiana University (Bloomington), and business and community leader Lori Morris. Other committee members include John Aleshire, Chris Douglas, Jan Funk, Bruce Hetrick, Sheila Kennedy, Don Privett, Charles Stanton, Steven Stolen and Steven Tuchman.

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We're Married, NOW WHAT?

by Barbara Baird

Barbara Baird is an Indianapolis attorney who has focused her practice on issues of importance to the LGBT community, and was co-counsel with the team from Lambda Legal in Baskin v. Bogan, one of the cases that brought marriage equality to Indiana this year.

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In the exuberance of those three days last June, and the unexpected recognition of same-sex marriages on October 6, many Hoosier same-sex couples celebrated by rushing to the Clerk’s office for their marriage license. Other couples married out-of-state after the 2013 Supreme Court decision in Windsor, in anticipation of the day that Indiana would recognize their marriage. Some couples married years ago, having traveled to other states and countries where they could legally wed. What does this new-found recognition mean?

Don’t worry, be happy? Now that you are really married, can you just sit back, and relax because everything is “automatic” now?

Overnight, your legal status has undergone a major change, and you may not be aware of how these changes affect you—for better or worse.

Many people assume that their newly-recognized marriage means that they no longer need all of those legal documents, like a will, a health care directive, or financial power of attorney, or that their taxes will be lower.

However, your spouse could inherit as little as 50% of your estate if you don’t have a will, and the bank, or the IRA or 401(k) custodian will not allow you to make transactions on your incapacitated spouse’s account unless you have a power of attorney. And who will be guardian for your children if you have not named a guardian in a will? As the saying goes, “it’s complicated…”

Recognition not guaranteed. If you plan to travel outside of Indiana, you could find yourself in circumstances in which your marriage is not recognized—another reason to be sure you are protected. The Sixth Circuit decision upholding bans on marriage is just a recent re-

minder that (as of this writing) 15 states still outlaw same-sex marriage, including our neighboring states of Ohio, Kentucky and Michigan. The Supreme Court, if it decides to take those cases, might not rule until 2016. If you are planning a trip to Florida this winter, or to almost any other warm southern state, don’t count on recognition of your marriage there. Similarly, many of these states will not recognize parental rights without a second parent adoption. If your wife or husband is injured in a car accident or suffers a health emergency while traveling in one of these states, you will need legal documents to be able to make health care decisions for your spouse.

And unfortunately, here in Indiana you could still encounter certain officials, hospitals or businesses that will be reluctant to honor your marriage.

What you can do. Here are just a few pro-active steps you should consider now that your marriage is recognized: • Retitle your home as Tenants by the Entireties, a form of real estate ownership available only to spouses, which provides greater protection against creditors and still provides survivorship rights to the property if one spouse dies.

• Update beneficiaries on retirement accounts to designate your wife or husband as your Spouse to assure tax-protected spousal rollovers or survivor benefits.

• Check with an accountant, or do the numbers yourself, to find out if your taxes will go up now that

you are married, which is likely if your incomes are relatively equal.

• Call your auto and homeowner’s insurance agent to find out if your marital status affects your rates or coverage.

• Update your wills to acknowledge your marriage.

• If you are planning for retirement, talk with a legal or financial advisor about the many Social Security spousal retirement options.

• Consider a spousal IRA if one of you does not have a workplace retirement plan.

• If you had a co-habitation or domestic partnership agreement before you married, be aware that your marriage nullifies that agreement and contact your attorney.

• Seek advice about the effect of your marriage on any need-based benefits, such as student aid, Medicaid and SSI. • Last, but not least, make sure your marriage is valid! For instance, an Illinois marriage is void under the Illinois “reverse evasion” statute if you traveled there to avoid Indiana’s same-sex marriage ban. Or, an undissolved civil union with a previous partner could allow the validity of your current marriage to be disputed.

Yes, marriage is more than just a piece of paper, as our community well knows. Marriage affects all areas of your life. Be aware of what you can and should do to enjoy and protect the advantages of your new status.

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Paul Wright, Manager of Diversity Projects, as well as the Directors of Human Resources and Ethics, was also engaged, as was Lori Fox, Business/Diversity Consulting, who is also a board member of the national Out&Equal Workplace Advocates. Wright states, “Cummins is one of over 300 companies achieving a 100% score on the Human Rights Campaign’s Corporate Equality Index in 2014, and who are offering inclusive health benefits that transgender people deserve. We worked hard to ensure that benefits were in place, and to support the employee, their co-workers, management team, and even external stakeholders as needed through the transition.”

Jacqueline Patterson

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Transition

IN THE WORKPLACE

by Norman R. Brandenstein In 2010, Jacqueline Patterson came to the realization that she was in fact a female born into a male body, and it was time to begin the gender transition process. A major step was to engage and seek support from her employer, Cummins Incorporated, a global engineering and manufacturing company based in Columbus, Indiana. Being true to her roots as an engineer who had been with the company for seven years, Patterson set about designing and developing the

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plan for her approach to the process of coming out in the workplace.

The good news was that Cummins had already initiated education and understanding of what would be involved in creating policy and guidelines for inclusion of transgender employees, as it had done in support of its gay and lesbian personnel. The process included the support of Marya Rose, Cummins Chief Administrative Officer, who states, “We celebrate

With time, educating and working through the concerns of the Cummins employees centered on name, gender pronouns, use of restrooms, and social, spiritual and personal perspectives, and these steps of raising consciousness led to understanding and change within the corporate culture. The process for Patterson included the education of approximately 200 of her peers and the management team, and it allowed Cummins to take a lead role in further developing inclusivity within the field of engineering.

Patterson has expanded her professional experiences into a leadership role in the local community with the development of the Indiana Transgender Wellness Alliance, a non-profit organization whose mission is to advocate and promote a holistic approach to wellness, as well as social and professional acceptance with an understanding of the issues involved in the experience of the Transgender and Gender Variant path to authenticity. A primary focus for the organization in 2015 will be a day-long Transgender health conference for local medical and mental health clinicians, and community/spiritual leaders.

Patterson says, “The intention for the conference is to create an infrastructure for the transgender population of Indiana that will ensure the medical, psychological and spiritual support systems that can provide a safe and open environment for the best care possible.” For more information visit www.indianatransgenderwellness.org

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World-Renowned Playwright and Director ‘STILL’ CONSIDERS IRT HOME

by Jesse Walker languages. Thankfully for Indianapolis, he values his long history with the IRT and is excited about what he’s working on in his 17th season as playwright-in-residence.

Other than Shakespeare, Still is the next most produced playwright at IRT. He has also directed fourteen productions during his tenure as playwright in residence. That’s part of the reason Executive Artistic Director Janet Allen knew that of all people, she could ask James Still to consider directing RED for the IRT’s 43rd season, despite the challenges it would entail. Allen says, “I chose James because he could inventively rethink the play to work in a thrust theatre and he’d bring tremendous heart to it.

He would counteract any sense of it being esoteric.”

Still adds, “Even though RED has been produced throughout the country, it has rarely been designed for a thrust stage with audiences on three sides.” This unique proposition motivated Still who enjoyed conceptualizing a plan to showcase this Tony-Award winning play on the IRT’s upperstage. “About half of the shows I direct at IRT are on the Upperstage and half on the OneAmerica Mainstage. I enjoy working in both environments. Both have aspects of being large scale and intimate at the same time and I’d miss one if I were only creating in the other,” said Still.

James Still

James Still has become an internationally-recognized artist winning accolades such as the Pew Charitable Trusts’ National Theatre Artist Award and has showcased his work within the most highly-regarded theatre institutions including Piccolo Spoleto,

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Sundance, The Kennedy Center and Ford’s Theatre in Washington D.C., and Denver Theatre Center just to name a few. His plays have been produced in all fifty states, worldwide in eleven countries and have been translated and performed in multiple

His vision of what the production could be turned into reality as he gives audiences a deeply thought-provoking, fly-on-the-wall glimpse into the creative process for an artist. Still had worked with set designer Anne Scheffield several

times over the past fifteen years and knew that she would be the one that could create a space to depict the creative struggle all artists face. The team created a revolving floor inside a fully functional artist studio where the actors could literally paint an eight foot canvas painting all while keeping the views unobstructed from every seat in the theatre.

Still’s directing skills are nuanced and text-based, and his ability to showcase the intimate relationship between mentor and mentee has audiences reflecting in ways they haven’t thought of before. “I need some time to process all the emotion I’m feeling right now,” said one patron after the opening night performance.

This is exactly the feedback James Still wanted and he’s getting it night after night. “There’s no hiding in a two person play,” says Still. “I ask myself and the actors to think about that human detail in each scene.”

The moment to moment character interactions are delivered in the ¾ thrust in such a way that the audience is a part of every breath. The actors gaze into the audience as if people in the seats are the actual canvases being created for the great Seagrams building commission, which serves to further pull each guest into the moment. After all the challenges of conveying the play on the Upperstage, Still says “now I couldn’t imagine doing it any other way.” Allen adds that Still’s longterm commitment to IRT brings many payoffs beyond his work as a playwright: she said, “I would never have imagined that James would have so many interests outside of just writing and directing plays. He’s interested in how the whole theatre runs and is very observant about various ways in which our systems can be improved. I always knew him to be charming, so the fact that he is marvelous with patrons is not surprising, but the way in which he has steeped himself in Indiana lore always moves me.”

Donors and long-time patrons have that same appreciation and have been celebrating James as the playwright-in-residence since his arrival in 1998. IRT has created fifteen productions of Still’s plays, with a sixteenth, his adaptation of the childhood classic, The Velveteen Rabbit. Still explains, “There is a sense of belonging that I have at IRT. The community has become like family and we’ve shared a long history together. Having my work produced in a professional theatre such as IRT year after year gives me the confidence I need to go out and continue creating as an artist.” And for now, that’s just the kind of relationship this town needs.

Still’s adaptation of The Velveteen Rabbit by author Margery Williams will play in the IRT Cabaret through December 13. For more information and tickets, visit www.irtlive.com.

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NICK JONAS GROWS UP

by Chris Azzopardi

When you think of Nick Jonas – and let’s face it, you’ve been thinking a lot about him lately – a few things come to mind: the straight-edged Jonas Brothers.

Former flames Miley Cyrus and Selena Gomez. His abs.

Per his handlers, two of those topics were off-limits during my chat with Nick, but so what.

Ever since he posted a salacious Instagram pic of his fit, V-cut torso in 2013, it’s been ab this, ab that. The 22-year-old BFF to the gay community also just released a self-titled, post-Jonas Brothers album, which he chatted about during our interview.

You know, in addition to his abs.

You said recently that part of the reason you’re so adamant about reaching out to the gay community is because you don’t feel like the Jonas Brothers did enough of it before.

So, is this gay media blitz your way of making up for lost time?

(Laughs) Maybe! I think my brothers and I did what we could,

but at that time in our career and during that moment in our lives, it was pretty crazy. We had so much going on that we were, I think, just trying to stay on top of everything. I’ve had a little time prior to the promotion (of this album) to establish exactly what I want to say, who I want to talk to and the steps I want to take.

Considering you’ve revealed there’s a nude scene, we are also excited to go on this journey with you.

What’s it like shooting a nude scene?

Did the lack of gay media have anything to do with your handlers?

Were people telling you not to do gay press to maintain your conservative Disney image?

Wait, your sex scene is not real?

To be honest, I don’t think it was that. I think if we had wanted to make an effort there it wouldn’t have been an issue.

It was important, and it is important to me, and it’s also important to me as I transition into acting.

I’m on a show called Kingdom where my character goes on a pretty interesting journey. I can’t give anything away – no spoilers – but it’s been fun as an actor to be willing to go to that place. I love playing this role that I play, and I’m excited for the audience to go on this journey with me.

It’s pretty bizarre. The way you have to go into it… it’s not real.

As actors, it’s our job to tell these stories, and with a show like Kingdom, you go the extra mile, push the boundaries and keep it very real. So, in that moment it’s just about telling the story the best way you can while trying to be honest. As far as any of the physicality goes – or nudity or sex scenes – it’s just about knowing that it isn’t real.

(Laughs) It’s not.

Why is it so important for you to reach out to the gays for your solo debut?

When I was setting up this record and meeting with the team about it, I told them that I really wanted to make an effort to embrace that part of my audience. I’ve known for a long time that it is a great part of the audience, and I just never felt like we made all the effort we could to embrace them. It’s been really fun and really incredible.

When did you know the gay community was embracing you?

I think it was a combination of things. I did theater prior to recording music, and so at a very young age I made a lot of really close gay friends. When I started recording music, and my brothers and I started recording and touring, we saw pretty quickly – this was back in 2005/2006 – that this was a big part of our audience. As the years went on, and as I went back into theater, I made the (gay community) a priority. It’s about embracing all sides.

You’re currently on tour, and considering how much attention you’ve given the gays lately, how gay are the audiences that come out to see you?

It’s been pretty awesome to look out and see a difference in the crowd. It’s not drastic by any means; it was kind of there prior, but there’s definitely more of them embracing this next chapter in my life and my music. All that, I can feel. Looking out, there is probably a handful more gay fans out there, which is incredible.

So, like, if you had to rate the gayness of a Nick Jonas show, where would it fall on the Kinsey Scale, 1 being straight and 6 being totally gay?

(Laughs) I don’t know if I can answer that just yet. I think I need to let it continue to evolve. It’s in the early stages

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here. Let’s see where we get in the next couple of months and then we’ll make that call.

Because your abs are now famous as well, do you feel obligated to show them at every show?

(Laughs) Umm, no. I haven’t showed them at any of my shows.

That was more so when I was in New York celebrating the release of the new music and I went to a couple of gay clubs and…

(Laughs) They kind of made me do it, so I had to! But as far as my shows go, I keep it fully clothed.

I saw the video online, Nick. I didn’t see anyone taking your shirt off for you.

It was a few drinks in at that point. All bets were off.

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What do you make of naysayers who say you’re just using your body to bait the gay community?

Everyone’s entitled to their own opinion. I think it’s unfortunate that some people have to find a negative in every situation.

Clearly my heart is in the right place, and more than anything, if they just looked at my life and my gay friends and the authentic nature of where my heart is, they’d just see that they’re kind of ignorant.

The nature of where we are today is, we’re in a time where we need to make strides and step forward as a society and embrace all people from all different walks of life. When you’re trying to make a bold statement like that, some people aren’t going to fall in line

with that. And that’s OK. You’ve got to stay on your own path.

Chris Azzopardi is the editor of Q Syndicate, the international LGBT wire service. Reach him via his website at www.chris-azzopardi.com.

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MAKE INDY’S HOLIDAY SEASON MERRY AND BRIGHT

For those who love to envelop themselves in the holiday spirit, there is no shortage of theatre and music events taking place in the Indianapolis area during the month of December. Many are annual and have, for some, become cherished holiday traditions to share with family and friends.

One of Indy’s most popular annual holiday events is “Festival of Carols,” presented by the Indianapolis Symphonic Choir, now in its 78th season. The concert will feature the 200-voice choir with Indianapolis Chamber Orchestra performing holiday favorites including “White Christmas,” “O Come All Ye Faithful,” “Believe” from “The Polar Express,” “You’re a Mean One, Mr. Grinch,” the “Hallelujah Chorus” and more. Special guests include soprano Maria Jette, some noted area high school choirs and as usual, there will also be a few surprises.

Recently, Unite spoke with Indianapolis Symphonic Choir director Eric Stark about “Festival of Carols” and the ISC itself.

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I think it’s a number of factors. We are proud of the work the chorus has done to get the word out. I think more people know about us than ever. I also think the holiday season is a time that everybody looks forward to hearing their favorite holiday music, and we are happy to oblige. We do a variety of things including Christmas music and sacred pieces but also lighter and more popular Christmas things and everything in between.

What would you say to those who have not experienced choral music of the caliber the ISC represents?

This is a great way for someone new to the art form to hear it. I won’t be too shy to tell you that I think the best choral singing that we have in our state and in our part of the country is presented by this choir. I also think this concert is a very inviting experience for people because of its texture. There is a lot to look at. The halls are beautifully decorated for the season. The choir dresses up in a special multi-colored apparel. No two pieces are exactly alike and so it almost feels like scene changes as we go from one number to the next with a soloist or an instrument group or the orchestra or a cappella.

It’s very fast-paced and quick-changing, and people are just delighted by the onslaught of sensory input.

What do you want our readers to know about choral music?

Choral music in general is an art form that has been at the forefront of accepting and really depending on people regardless of their demographics—racial, social, religious or sexual orientation—any kind of background. Choral music works best when it is made up of people who come from a great variety of experiences that reflect the whole tapestry of our country. One of the things I am most proud of as the conductor of a choir, and as a gay

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Indianapolis Symphonic Choir Director Eric Stark

Why does “Festival of Carols” resonate so much with the public?

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man myself, is that this is an art form that paves the way as far as the rest of society is concerned. I think the important message of choral music is that this is an art form that can find a place for all those at the table including our listeners and our fans and potential fans who may be out there feeling a little bit left out at this time of year.

What is it about holiday music that stirs the emotions?

Irving Berlin’s White Christmas

A Very Phoenix Theatre Xmas

I think it’s because the December holidays necessarily connect us with our childhood—a time of wide-eyed wonder and possibility, family and tradition—sometimes sweet, sometimes tinged with sadness as we recall lost loved ones.

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Festival of Carols A Christmas Carol

Elf

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“Festival of Carols” will be presented on Sunday, Dec. 7, at 7 p.m. at the Scottish Rite Cathedral in downtown Indianapolis and the Palladium in Carmel, Saturday, Dec. 20, at 8 p.m. and Sunday, Dec. 21, at 3 p.m. and 7 p.m. For ticket information visit indychoir.org.

In an effort to spread more cheer, Unite offers these additional suggestions regarding events that will not only entertain you, but inspire and warm your heart this holiday season. For tickets and further information visit the websites listed.

Silver Bells

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Irving Berlin’s White Christmas Footlite Musicals Now - Dec. 14 Footlite.org A Very Phoenix Theatre Xmas 9: Flashing Through the Snow Phoenix Theatre Now - Dec.21 phoenixtheatre.org

A Beef & Boards Christmas

IPL Yuletide Celebration Indianapolis Symphony Orchestra Hilbert Circle Theatre Now - Dec. 23 Indianapolissymphonyorchestra.org photo courtesy of Beef & Boards

A Christmas Carol Indiana Repertory Theatre Now - Dec. 26/irtlive.com A Beef & Boards Christmas Beef & Boards Dinner Theatre Now - Dec. 23/beefandboards.com Elf Broadway in Indianapolis The Murat Theatre at Old National Centre Dec. 16 - Dec. 20 Indianapolis.broadway.com Silver Bells Indianapolis Men’s Chorus Marian University Theatre Dec. 20/Indychoruses.org

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The next time you visit your favorite watering hole, pay them a visit and ask them for their specialty cocktail. You will not be disappointed.

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Favorite song/artist: Missy Elliot Nights of the week tending bar: Friday and Saturday One thing people don’t know about you: I was born in Kathmandu, Nepal.

Celebrity Crush: James Franco

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Name:Tyler Crago Bar/Restaurant: English Ivy’s Favorite Cocktail: Old Fashioned.Though if you’re coming to Ivy’s you must try our famous Bloody Mary’s. $5 special on Sundays!!

Favorite Song/Artist: currently Ed Sheeran & Betty Who Nights of the Week:Thursday - Sunday One thing people may not know about you: My recent, though very rewarding, work with the Positive Young People Foundation, a national foundation focusing on HIV/AIDS awareness in the 18-30 demographic.

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Name: Ruth Hawkins Bar/Club: Metro Nightclub Favorite Cocktail: French 75 Favorite Song/Artist: “You Only Talk in Hashtag,” by Luciana Nights of the Week: Friday & Saturday One thing people may not know about you: I’m one of only a few people to have been struck by lightning and lived to tell about it.

Celebrity Crush: Meryl Streep because she’s practically perfect in every way! photo courtesy of Ruth Hawkins

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CELEBRATING THE HOLIDAYS WITH LEANN RIMES

by Jesse Walker For nearly the past twenty years, LeAnn Rimes has been a household name in the entertainment industry. Her career began at age thirteen with her debut cd, Blue, containing the smash hit of the same title. After multiple other hits from the same record, Blue achieved six times multi-platinum status from the Recording Industry Association of America, a feat rarely accomplished by today’s top selling artists.

Rimes’ career has not been completely smooth sailing from her initial success. She faced legal battles through contractual disputes and her personal life became the topic of heavy media scrutiny.

However, Rimes has prevailed over her challenges and has proven her music to be the motivation for continued success as seen through multiple albums, books, philanthropy, and even a VH1

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reality show with her husband, Eddie Cibrian, titled LeAnn and Eddie.

Rimes’ fans can enjoy new holiday music that was recently released on October 28, a decade since her most recent holiday collection. One ChristmasChapter 1 features six of Rimes’ favorite holiday tracks previously recorded by other artists. We recently spoke with Rimes about the new music, new tour, and life after her reality television show.

One Christmas- Chapter 1, which as implied by the title and confirmed by Rimes, is just the first installment of her holiday music project with two subsequent collections coming in 2015 and 2016. “These are songs I feel myself gravitating towards during the holiday season. It was music that I wanted to pull that was a little bit different

than what most people would do,” Rimes says of music on her new EP.

One of the tracks fans will enjoy is “Hard Candy Christmas,” originally written by Carol Hall

photos by Sara Hertel and performed by Dolly Parton in the musical The Best Little Whorehouse in Texas. “Maybe if we get around Nashville in the next few years, Dolly will have to pop in [at a concert],” Rimes jokes. “I have always wanted to sing with just myself and a steel guitar. Paul Franklin is absolutely incredible and probably the only person I would ever do something like that with.” Rimes went into the studio, turned down all of the lights, and sang the emotional tune under the glow of Christmas lights.

“I was crying half-way through,” Rimes adds, “and was like ‘we have to stop…hold on a minute!’”

Rimes will hit the road in December bringing her new Christmas music to fans across the United States but she wanted to the make the announcement unique. To announce the tour, she recruited some of her elf friends, including two men from the Gay Men’s Chorus of Los Angeles and her assistant, Kiki, to participate in the video while she sang the Christmas tour announcement on the beach in July while wearing a parka over a bikini.

In the video, Rimes sings that there will be something “really, really special in New York City” so we, of course, asked if she would tell us what the big secret is and nearly succeeded. Rimes laughs, “You almost could have caught me though, I was like ‘wait a minute, have they announced that yet?’ No, not yet! So I can’t talk about it!” Rimes did release a ‘sequel’ to the first announcement of the tour just before Halloween that serves as a tour reminder featuring the now famous elves… but in a Halloween theme. Rimes will also bring along rising star Levi Hummon on the tour. “He is such a great, young talent, so we are excited to have him out on the tour,” Rimes adds.

Season one of Rimes’ reality show on VH1, LeAnn and Eddie, recently concluded with its eighth and

final episode. When asked about a season two, Rimes is keeping that open ended. “We had a lot of fun working together but I think for now, since I am so busy with music stuff and touring, it would be hard to fit in [season two], but we might revisit that again in the future.”

Rimes says that she learned a lot about the whole process of putting a television show together by watching her husband, actor Eddie Cibrian who has been seen in Sunset Beach and CSI: Miami among other projects, contribute to the production side of the show while she just “went to work and played.”

Although Rimes spends most of her time in Los Angeles, she still takes frequent trips to Nashville for work and to visit family. She tries to fit in a few extra days to take her stepsons out to her father’s farm so they can ride horses and four-wheelers, activities not as common where she lives in Los Angeles.

Rimes was with Curb Records for twenty years, just recently ending her contract in December.

“I almost rushed into something and I am glad I didn’t,” Rimes says as she discusses where she is musically at this point in her career. “I have been taking my time to figure out what that next step is for me musically.” She notes that her music will always be from an honest place and will have her roots involved, but at this moment, she is being creative in her writing to figure out what her next sound will be in what Rimes calls her “rebirth.”

As for country music’s current state, Rimes says she cannot be incredibly positive about it. “I miss old school country music a lot. I miss the stories and the humanity of it. Not everything was about

a truck, a six-pack, and a dirt road,” Rimes says as she mentions that country radio seems to just be the same twelve songs over and over. The lack of women today in country music has, as Rimes put it, contributed to the “narrowing down” of country music so much to become another format that is now pop music. Stale is how Rimes describes the genre and hopes that something or someone comes along soon to break the trend.

“There used to be something to me that separated [country music] from every other genre and it doesn’t anymore,” Rimes says, “so, that saddens me.”

Rimes has consistently been a major ally in supporting the LGBT community, a slowly growing but still rare tendency for country music stars. “I think of it as everyone’s human and everyone just deserves the same right to love, marry, and be with the people they want to be with,” says Rimes. “I have never seen a division in my mind in any way … but it’s sad that a lot of people feel like they have to not say anything or hold back their true feelings out of fear.”

Some country music stars feel like their career may suffer if they take a stand that some people may not agree with. Rimes adds that her support has always been from her heart and simply “human to human.”

LeAnn Rimes is nowhere near slowing down her career. As she embarks on her Christmas tour in December, fans can continue to expect more great music from Rimes in the near future as she works on new projects.

With multiple endeavors, such as her reality show, complete, Rimes can resume her efforts in breaking down barriers in music and paving her own route.

For the latest news and holiday tour dates, visit www.leannrimesworld.com.

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Dining Review

BY KAREN KENNEDY

Union 50: A FOUR STAR BAR Gastropub doesn’t quite do it.

Hipster bar doesn’t do it either.

Upscale dining spot misses the mark as well.

Why? It’s nearly impossible to classify the Mass. Ave. dining district’s newest darling, Union 50.

There’s simply nothing else like it on our local dining scene. Yes, you could call it a gastropub because it’s a bar with marvelous food, but the scale is so grand that the term pub doesn’t really apply. Yes, it’s hip, but the clientele is so diverse that everyone feels comfortable there.

And yes, it’s upscale dining with great service, but it’s loud, fun and crowded, so don’t go there on date night thinking you’re going to linger for hours gazing into each other’s eyes. People are waiting for your table.

Cunningham Restaurant Group proves that they’re not following a cookie-cutter formula as they break new ground with Union 50. Other than a determined attention to detail and service, it bears little resemblance to its other Mass Ave siblings, Bru Burger and Mesh.

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620 N. East Street | 610-0234 www.union-50.com dinner served seven nights per week

Make your way through the dramatic entryway on the back side of this converted Mason Hall on East Street on most any night of the week, and you’ll find a packed bar, bustling activity in the open kitchen, live music and skilled bartenders stirring pre-Prohibition, hand-crafted cocktails.

But don’t call them “mixologists.”

“We hire bartenders, not ‘mixologists,’” said manager Mike Evers. “A real bartender is driven by service and hospitality. Yes, we make hand-crafted cocktails, but a real bartender also remembers your drink and your name, and you never have to ask them for anything. We are after four-star service in a bar atmosphere. That’s at the heart of our approach.”

Also at the heart of Union 50’s approach is some seriously interesting and tasty food. CRG corporate chef Layton

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Roberts (14 West, Meridian) helmed the kitchen through the mid-summer opening, but handed the reins over to executive chef Thomas Melvin in August. The menu continues to evolve and creativity is key.

Charcuterie plates are ubiquitous on menus across the city, but Union 50 does them right. They’re beautifully presented on curving bourbon barrel planks and there’s an enormous selection of meats and cheeses from which to choose (the warm Manchego is fantastic) along with creative selections such as vegan “fig salami.” There are also lovely extras to add to your board, such as goat cheesestuffed peppadews, artisan breads, pickled vegetables and avocado-edamame hummus.

The soup on the night of our visit was exceptional; a lemony, velvety baby kale puree served piping hot and finished at service with a dice of pickled vegetables and crostini.

Top-notch entrées included a Gunthorp Farms pork chop with maple gastrique, sitting pretty on a chorizo-laced waffle, as well as a perfectly seared breast of Maple Leaf Farms duck tucked in with a bit of duck confit and a tasty sweet potato hash, complemented perfectly by a roasted jalapeno-blackberry marmalade.

The Diver Scallops and Candied Beef was not on par with the other entrées; the scallops were fishy and a tad overcooked and the candied brisket was a bit chewy; not a favorite.

From the “Petit” section, the Beef Tartare was extraordinary, with pea shoots, pickled onions and caper aioli, while the Crudo Platter has been revised since the restaurant’s opening and was not as interesting as it used to be. The selection has been diminished and the house-made kimchee lacked the acidity needed to give it proper bite.

The beverage program is extensive, overseen by GM and sommelier Roddy Kirschenman. A selection of over sixty whiskeys is offered, ranging in price from $6 to $18 a shot, and there’s a broad range of tequilas as well. Eight wines are offered on an “argon” tap system, and while the wine list offers a pretty good selection, the by-the-glass offerings are limited; for example, there were no malbecs or zinfandels available. With the advent of massive microbrew draft houses, fourteen draft brews might seem limited, but there’s a nice cross section offered, and anyway, there’s always plenty of bourbon on hand.

The service is knowledgeable, prompt, friendly and professional.

The vibe is cool, the drinks are delectable and the food is top-notch.

The bar for “bars” in Nap-Town continues to be raised.

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Style Basking in the afternoon sunlight along the halfway point of Mass. Ave., Zag West lies unassumingly. Noted by two fashionably clad partial mannequins whose adornments reflect the sun’s rays thus attracting the eye of any and all passersby, Zag West passively draws your interest at the site of a boutique shop unlike anything Mass. Ave. has to offer.

MEN'S STYLE ON MASS. AVE.

by Albert Winks

The mission of Zag West, as stated on their website, is to deliver distinct style, premium value, and garments of the highest quality to their esteemed customers. Quite simply, Zag West provides a custom and quality experience unlike anything on Mass. Ave. I was excited to participate in the experience of having a shirt personalized for me as I got to better know the President of Zag West, a wonderful Kia Jones.

As I walked through the mostly glass door, I could already see Kia’s warm smile welcoming me in for our appointment. Kia, the face of Zag West, explained to me the process she, and her intern Christina, take their customers through. Usually, a customer would first call, or email, to discuss a certain pattern or functional need of a shirt. Once in the store, after walking passed a section totally designed to display other local shops, and goods, Kia walked me over to her consultation table, which was topped with many different cloth samples, as well as design books, to help offer me any combination of choices.

With pen in hand, Kia started my personalized process by writing my measurements as Christina ran the tape measure

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Zag West President Kia Jones

from point to point, calling out along the way. The two of them worked together as they asked me how I would like a sleeve a little shorter to expose my watch, a sleeve tighter, and a waist line slimmer to fit in a more European, and much more flattering way.

The girls and I talked about the occasion in which I’d wear my shirt (tie, no tie, tucked in, untucked, with a sports coat, or without). I was asked more questions than I think I’ve ever thought about a shirt. This is why Kia does what she does so well, to make sure the shirt fits not only the “black and white” measurements but the more important “grey area,” which is why I wanted the shirt, what I wanted to do in it, and, most importantly, how I wanted to feel in it.

The girls led me around the room as we felt different types of cloth, discussed patterns, cuff styles, collar styles, tail design, and much more. I’m the kind of guy that likes to shop but I had no idea what it would be like to go through Kia’s process.

Although greatly thorough, Kia comfortably zipped me around the shop and went above and beyond as she talked me through my shirt design. For a shirt that would cost under $100, I felt like I was getting way more than my money was paying for. Kia further explained the process of what happens after our little visit. She then takes my information and is able to design my shirt on her computer, which was ready within a few days for me to review. After my approval, she would quickly send the shirt information to a family owned shop in India (a terrific story a bit too long for this article but Kia would easily explain the connection between the production shop and Zag West) for it to be completed and sent to me within the next ten photos by Albert Winks

days for a measurement, and comfort ability, check.

Zag West backs their products with a 100% guarantee and is driven by not only designing a shirt but designing a lasting relationship with each client.

Once Kia gets to know a client and their personal needs, she is able to design, build, and deliver shirts to clients with only an email or a quick phone call.

Once my shirt conversation had come to an end, Kia and I sat down for a little chat to see what is behind the scenes of Zag West and Kia herself. If there’s a few things I would like Indianapolis to know about Kia Jones, I would have to begin with how great she is. Just talking with her, you can see her passion and her desire to be a great part of the Mass. Ave. landscape and to the Indy community. Kia has a great background in fashion and customer service. For several years she worked for Nordstrom in their home store of Seattle.

She was all smiles as she talked about how great the owners of Nordstrom are, how they are so personable, dedicated to personal service, and never a stranger to anyone. Listening to her was one of those moments where you just get excited about life, you feel the butterflies in your stomach, and you just want to grab hands and take over the world together. Kia wants to grow Zag West to a franchise level and continue to give back to the community through Dress for Success and Prevail.

You will continue to see and hear of Zag West as Kia and her crew reaches out to the masses in the Indy area and beyond.

Please drop by to visit with Kia and the others at Zag West along Mass. Ave. just across from Bru Burger. You will enjoy your experience with Zag West and getting to know your new neighbor Kia Jones.

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DEPRESSION:

THE UNWANTED GIFT

by Matthew Grant PsyD, HSPP

About the author: Dr. Grant, Psy.D., HSPP is a clinical psychologist and sole proprietor of NorthStar Psychological + Consultation Services, LLC, located in the heart of downtown, Indianapolis. He is a psychotherapist, entrepreneur, consultant, educator, mentor, blogger, and public speaker.

Have you ever received a gift during the holidays that you’d just love to return? Well, depression during the holidays isn’t a present that would be on anyone’s wish list.

Unfortunately, many people will suffer through a depression during what’s supposed to be the most joyous time of the year.

The holidays are difficult for various reasons even for those who aren’t depressed. ‘Tis the season invites high expectations to feel certain ways and do certain things, which can be hard, especially for a person with depression. What’s even worse, loved ones might not understand why you can’t just “snap out of it.” This experience can make someone with depression feel lonely and isolated, leading to an exacerbation of his or her depression. It’s truly a vicious cycle.

This time of the year comes with a lot of expectations, like decorating the home, shopping and wrapping, cooking and baking, cleaning, and attending holiday parties to name just a few.

I bet your to-do list is a mile long. I know mine is! But for the person who’s depressed, facing these long lists feels like climbing Mt. Everest—it just seems impossible.

While you can’t return the unwanted gift of depression during the holidays, you can counter it by giving yourself something much better: compassion. I like to think of compassion when directed toward oneself as being loving and empathic. This idea

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of having compassion for oneself also applies to those who don’t suffer from depression because generally, the holidays are typically rated as some of the most stressful and tense times of the year. Finding ways to have compassion for yourself is crucial to surviving the ups-and-downs of the season. So, how do you shop for compassion? Here are few tips you might find helpful: • Make things easier on yourself and shop online or give gift cards when possible. This can cut down on the frustration of driving in congested traffic, parking at malls with limited parking, and being around crowds of people who are rude and unforgiving. And if you’re on a limited budget, give gifts that are made from the heart; you can never go wrong with giving gifts that are homemade (unless it’s an ugly Christmas sweater).

• Learn to say no. It’s so easy to overextend yourself during the holidays. For the person with depression, overextending yourself can deepen your depression. If there’s a commitment you just can’t let go, perhaps there’s a different one you can. Be flexible, plan ahead, and be realistic about what you can and can’t do. You will thank yourself later, and so will your loved ones.

• Remember that you’re in control. You don’t have to go places or be around people you’d rather avoid. The holidays are all about family and friends, so you’re going to find yourself around people. While at holiday parties, if some of these people like to poke and instigate you, surround yourself with positive people who edify and encourage you and make you feel good.

• Reach out for support. If you’re experiencing depression over the holidays, make sure to communicate to your loved ones that you’re struggling to feel the “holiday spirit.” Acknowledge your feelings and reach out to others you believe will understand and provide you with support. If you’re alone, I encourage you to reach out in some way, whether that’s going to church, attending community events, or volunteering at a soup kitchen or a toy drive. I know I always feel better when I give back to others. If you find yourself without much support, seek out a licensed therapist who can help you navigate this time of the year. Nobody deserves to be alone during the holidays.

• If you’re grieving over the holidays because you lost a loved one recently or in the past, remember the loved one(s) you’ve lost in positive ways. Rather than focusing on the loss per se, thinking of your loved one(s) in positive ways can brighten your mood and even make you smile. Creating new family traditions or doing something totally different can be helpful in grieving the loss of your loved one(s), especially during this time of the year. Whatever you do, don’t avoid thinking about the loved one you’ve lost, that will only make you feel worse in the long run.

• This is a big one and the most important: take care of yourself. Make sure to eat healthily, sleep often, exercise frequently, take medications as prescribed, and be mindful of your alcohol intake. An imbalance in any one these areas can be a recipe for disaster. Eating healthily can be a real challenge with all the food and sweets available; if you splurge one day, don’t fret, just get back on track the next day. Nowadays, I don’t think we can ever get enough sleep, but during the holidays, getting enough sleep is crucial. Otherwise, your mood will likely take a dip for the worse. Also, try to get some sunshine, preferably in the early morning, given the shorter days and longer nights. Exposing ourselves to the sun can boost our mood—try it and see for yourself!

Of course, you know I have to mention libations. Libations during the holidays are usually part of the menu, and my favorite is the Peppermint Martini. However, alcohol can intensify your depression and can also interact with your medications. So if you’re going to consume alcohol, do so in moderation.

Compassion is going to be what the doctor ordered this holiday season. It’s the gift that should be on everyone’s wish list because it will improve your mood and help you to feel better. The best part is that you don’t have to go to the doctor to get a prescription, pick it up at the pharmacy, or worry about refills. All you need to do is to keep the following in mind: 1. Make things easier on yourself 2. Learn to say no 3. Reach out for support 4. Remember that you’re in control 5. Remember the loved one(s) you’ve lost in positive ways 6. Take care of yourself Oh, and don’t forget to breathe through it all! Cheers to a more peaceful holiday season!

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Kyle and Pennington with their son Cayden

photo courtesy of Kyle and Pennington

The Kids ARE ALL RIGHT:

LGBT FAMILIES WITH KIDS

by Shane Jordan

I grew-up in a home with both a mother and a father. It was a typical looking family. And in the 80’s, that was not unusual. Typical was, well, typical. Families were defined as a mother, father and their children. Children from single parent families were relatively unusual and were somewhat of an oddity in those days. Everyone knew who they were and secretly felt sorry for those unfortunate “latch key” kids.

Today, families aren’t quite so cookie-cutter similar. Some families are comprised of a mother and her children and a father who is no longer an active member of the family or never has been. Other families consist of two absent parents, leaving the parental role to be fulfilled by grandparents or foster families. And there are, for the first time in history, a fair amount of same-sex parents who are raising children. These families are a few million strong.

Despite studies proving otherwise, some people still insist that children are being ruined by this type of family dynamic.

Some opponents worry children of same-sex couples will become homosexual. Studies show children of same-sex parents are no more likely to identify themselves as homosexual than children of heterosexual parents. Being exposed to same-sex parents doesn’t turn a child homosexual, but it might increase their chances of being more tolerant.

Some argue that children of same-sex couples will be teased. No child

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is immune to playground teasing no matter what kind of family they’re from. Studies show that same-sex parents are more likely to have a healthy emotional connection with their children than most traditional families. This bond increases the chance that children will have support to get through the jabs from their classmates.

LGBT parents have been criticized because their partnership doesn’t give children a balanced view of gender roles. They aren’t afforded the opportunity to see a woman take on traditional roles while her male spouse takes on the duties of the traditional father. At its basic level, this is true, but one could argue whether this is a bad thing. Is it harmful for a child to see a man do dishes, cook dinner and nurture children? If this is harmful to a child’s development, then the children of stay-at-home dads will surely grow-up with emotional issues and children of windowed mothers are likely to need to visit a psychiatrist.

In today’s more liberal world, even children of “traditional” parents may not have the clear models of traditional femininity or masculinity that generations past have had. Today, many moms work outside of the home, leaving dads to care for the children and the household duties.

LGBT parents are acutely aware of the need for positive role models of both sexes for their children. “It Takes a Village” is a statement

that was popularized by Hillary Rodham Clinton and is the perfect mantra for the LGBT parental community. Surrounding children with loving adults who contribute positively to their lives is the best way to raise them.

Some opponents suggest that children adopted into samesex marriages are having their rights violated. Children have the right to live in a loving household with parents who will guide and teach them right from wrong. Heterosexual and homosexual parents alike are equally capable of providing this type of environment.

Adoption is not the only way LGBT families are created.

Many same-sex couples are co-parenting the biological children of one or both partners.

Though these families probably face fewer legal battles than those with adopted children, their trials exist outside of the courtroom. Society still frowns on this family structure and discrimination abounds.

There has been a slight shift in views on same-sex parenting in recent years. The popular ABC sitcom, “Modern Family” features two dominant gay characters, Mitchell (Jesse Tyler Ferguson) and his partner, Cameron (Eric Stonestreet) who are the proud parents of a daughter, Lily, whom they adopted from Vietnam. Just a few years ago, a program featuring this type of family wouldn’t have been a smash hit, in fact, it wouldn’t have been allowed on cable television. But we still have a long way to go.

What do we do to solve this crisis? Personal relationships coupled with an open mind is one way to bridge the gap between the opponents and understanding. Look around your community for positive examples of same-sex parenting. I did

and found a shining example of a loving family.

Kyle and Pennington share their home and love with adorable little Cayden. Their home is full of laughter, love, family dinners and snuggles.

Their calendar is full of school activities, birthday parties and community events. Cayden is a straight “A” student and purple belt in karate. He’s an active gymnast and emotionally healthy young man. They have their share of scraped knees and monsters under the bed, but those are fixed by bandages and kisses. Their home is delightfully normal. They are an excellent example of a “Modern Family.”

Unfortunately, along with the normal struggles of married and parental life, they and others like them, face a society that thinks their relationship is wrong, and that they aren’t fit to raise their son. If those who oppose were to take the time to personally get to know them, they would see that their love is real, and that their skills as parents haven’t diminished because of their relationship.

If you’re opposed to same-sex marriages, I challenge you to examine your beliefs and the issue. Legislators and the public are using the topic of same-sex parenting to propel their political agenda. The arguments against it are not made to protect children, but to win constituents. These laws are prohibiting LGBT couples, who are upright people, from becoming parents and are ignoring decades of science and studies. They aren’t considering the child’s welfare either.

Prohibiting LGBT adoption does nothing to solve the child welfare conundrum. We need to strive towards providing more permanent families for children, not creating laws that place fewer of them.

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Downtown Apartment Living

by Albert Winks

As Indianapolis grows, there are many choices people have when it comes to living. We would like to highlight a few apartments and condos around town that should be helpful to our readers. Beyond basic floor plans, we would like to identify some of the top features and the greatest community outreach from each building. The following are just a few buildings featured for this issue.

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1. Axis Apartments

One of the newest buildings in town and layered above the newest Marsh Grocery Store, Axis Apartments has a lot to offer.

Amenities: -A unique Sky Bar with terrific views.

-Salt water pool -Double-Decker gym -Great lawn and zen garden -A contract with the Skyline Club for deals/discounts on membership (please see the office for details). For more information on the Skyline Club, please visit www.clubcorp.com/Clubs/Skyline-Club-Indianapolis

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2. 333 Penn

Another historic building. This one, amazingly located across from the historic monuments a long Pennsylvania Street and even closer to the center of Downtown and Mass. Ave. Amenities: -Large closets -Energy efficient appliances -Historic ambiance to the building -Resident intranet portal -Connections with local Pilates studio and Deering Dry Cleaning pickup/drop off -Amazing views

3. 800 Cap

This historic building is just along Capitol Street only blocks from the center of downtown.

Amenities: -No weight limit on pets -Doggy Daycare -Connected to Angie’s List and IU Health offering greater deals to those workers (please inquire with the office regarding this) -Rooftop gathering area -Connections with Two Deep Brewing Company

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photos by Albert Winks

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