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FEATURE ARTICLES

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Men’s Mental Health The unique challenges of mental health care for men, and the way forward

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Good Grief Helping children cope with loss

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The New Domesticity Fatherly Words of Wisdom

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Renaissance Dad Fishing Fiasco

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Bonfire of a Legacy

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My grandfather’s death was not entirely unexpected. His health had been declining for a couple of years, and more rapidly so in his last months. Watching the physical decline of someone whose presence in your life has been so utterly constant is like sitting around a campfire as the blazing logs wither into embers—almost imperceptible, until the cold evening air seems to reemerge, prompting you to reach for an extra blanket. In Grandpa’s case, there were no more logs to reignite the fire. Instead, we spent his final days huddling together around the embers we had left, wrapping our arms around each other to stave off the cold, and remembering the bonfire of a legacy that he was leaving behind.

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Just days before he died, he had relented to receiving hospice services at home, where he lived with my parents and my grandmother. Declaring defeat was difficult for him—he was a man accustomed to willing his dreams to come true, to the point of near legendary status within the family. There was the time he uprooted his family of seven from a happy suburban life in southern California to rural upstate New York to purchase and operate a dairy farm—something he knew nothing about, but would quickly learn—for the purpose of turning his oldest three sons into men. Then there was the time, many years later and on the opposite side of the country, that he built his own large house on six acres of riverside property—after his retirement and well in his 70s. My grandmother was always along for the ride. They were married for over 60 years.

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It was on their six-acre property that many of my most beloved memories were made, many of which were spent surrounding a campfire with family and friends, discussing everything from the evening’s meal to the purpose of the cosmos. I always relished these moments, and it was rarely earlier than midnight when I’d finally relent to allowing the flames to extinguish, so I could withdraw and rest.

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THE NEW DOMESTICITY

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By Julianna Lawson

“Act smart and be respectful!”

It started as a joke. My sister and I adored the 1985 “Anne of Green Gables” miniseries and committed many favorite lines to memory. One of the more memorable was the snippy dictum issued by Mrs. Blewett to Anne Shirley, who selfishly wished to adopt the spunky orphan (and thereby acquire a cheap nanny): “Act smart and be respectful!”

The line stuck and eventually became a perfect phrase to toss around when we had our own kids. They’d head out to play with friends, hang out with cousins, or stay with grandparents, and our last words of wisdom were issued with the mock severity of Mrs. Blewett: “Act smart and be respectful!” The kids always laughed as we winked and kissed them on their way.

Over 30 years later, the line is now firmly embedded in our family vocabulary. I still deliver the succinct command, calling after my kids as they grab the car keys and pull out of the driveway. Funny thing, I think the words have actually made an impact. My kids know I’m teasing with the Blewitt-esque delivery; but they know I’m not teasing about the underlying life message: “I love you.

Make wise choices. Respect others.”

Over a century ago, children often picked up life messages from their elders through classroom readers and sampler work. One such book, the 1879 “McGuffey Reader,” contained “slate work” for the child to copy, such as: Beautiful hands are they that do Deeds that are noble, good and true.

Throughout the nineteenth century, young girls worked “samplers,” beautifully designed needlework that often included a motto, floral

design, and the child’s name, age, and date. One such sampler, dated 1806, was worked by 12-year-old Nancy, who must have spent hours stitching, Labour for learning before thou art old For learning is better than silver or gold Silver and gold will vanish away But learning is a jewel that will never decay These days we don’t usually toss a needle and thread to our kids when imparting words of wisdom. But we do have a way of tossing our words. For good or for ill, the words we speak (or don’t speak) have a lasting impact on the hearts and minds of our children.

In anticipation of Father’s Day, I put out a Facebook request to my friends, asking them to share pithy words of wisdom—from the humorous to the heartwarming—given by their fathers. The response was overwhelming. Many of the fathers represented in my friends’ contributions either lived through or had parents who lived through the Great Depression. Accordingly, many phrases focused on building a strong family work ethic, from “You don’t work, you don’t eat,” to “Many hands make light work.”

As I read each comment, I marveled at the power of a father to speak in three directions to his child: he speaks to the past, to the present, and to the future. If you are a father, find ways to speak “directionally” to your child. Speak of the things you’ve learned from past experience, like the father who said, “You can’t get out of debt by borrowing money” or “Be flexible or you’ll get bent out of shape.” Speak into the present, even in the little, practical things, because these are the practices that lay the foundation for bigger life habits. My sister and I can still quote our dad, who taught us to keep an eye on the gas tank: “You take care of the top half, and the continued on next page

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bottom half will take care of itself!” And then, look to your child’s future, speaking words of hope, inspiration, and pride: “You will do great and mighty things.”

Perhaps you are reading this and shaking your head. Your father didn’t give you hope-filled words. As a dear friend pointed out, a father’s “absence in a narrative often speaks louder than presence.” What then? Well, I hope this message will help assuage that grief, just a little: those words are still available. Yes, it hurts to know those words can’t or won’t come from a father. But you don’t have to continue the cycle with your own children. Begin anew and speak the messages you longed to hear as a child. Look to those whom you admire, those whose actions speak of life, health, and growth. Listen to their words and speak them to your children.

And, if you have influence in the life of any child—perhaps as a coach, grandparent, or teacher—speak the words he or she may not be getting at home. Speak especially to the future, giving them the confidence imbued by the more life-giving words eventually spoken into Anne Shirley’s life, this time through her beloved teacher: “Tomorrow is always fresh, with no mistakes in it.”

Julianna Lawson and her husband Jamie make their home in Vancouver with their four children, ages 13 to 21.

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RENAISSANCE DAD

By Perry P. Perkins Fishing with little girls is unlike any version of the sport that you’ve ever experienced.

Spending a day on the water with a small child would leave the boat captain from “Jaws” weeping and in the fetal position. Basically, you’re refereeing a contest between the two shortest attention spans in the known universe: a fish and a 5-year-old.

The fish has a brain just slightly smaller than a grain of sand, or your average Kardashian, yet somehow possesses psychic abilities allowing it to avoid your hook with uncanny skill.

The fact that your fishing partner spends the morning tapdancing in the boat, while bellowing out the lyrics to “Let It Go” approximately 11,000 times, probably doesn’t help.

You, of course, won’t be fishing (did you really think you’d get to fish . . . please allow me to LOL myself to death). No, you will be spending the day making sure that your child in no way injures herself. This is the most important thing. You know this is the most important thing, because your wife has been reminding you of that fact every 20 minutes for the last three days.

Despite your fear of bloodletting (the child here, then you when your wife finds out), the chances of the kid hurting herself are slim. You, however, shan’t be so lucky, as spending the day being pummeled by super-sonic flying weights, getting slapped in the head with airborn fish like a blind tetherball player, and extracting hooks from your various tender-parts, is par for the course.

By the time I pack it up, I tend to look like the guy who talked about “Fight Club.” continued on next page First time fishing.

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The next thing you need to know is what kind of daughter you have. I’ve found, in the broadest possible terms, that there are two kinds of little girls. I call them “The Princess” and “The Psychopath.” (Now, there’s a Disney movie I’d wait in line for!)

The Princess . . . has a compulsive need to keep her hands, face, shoes, etc., spotlessly clean, possibly on the off-chance that the Queen shows up for tea (which almost never happens on a bass fishing trip). Everything from a dusty riverbank, to a slimy fish, to a semisquished jelly sandwich are condemned as “gross” and a day on the lake will become a six-hour mantra marathon of “Ewwww!”

Worms, of course, are completely out of the question.

Open a bait-box full of night-crawlers in the presence of a Princess, and she’ll react with a level of horror and revulsion typically reserved for Jell-O wrestling with lepers. Oddly, although worms are gross, and she’ll neither touch one, nor allow one within ten feet of her person, her disgust is tempered with a strange kind of love and, at the mere mention of impaling said creature on a hook, she becomes an impassioned defender of the “poor little worm,” decrying your barbarism with the righteous indignation of a hopped-up P.E.T.A. supporter.

The worm of course, sensing a sympathetic juror, will wriggle and thrash in such a way as though to communicate, “Please . . . I have a wife and kids . . .”

By the end of the day, she will have named each of them, along with any fish you might have caught (and, of course, released), and likely have performed a marriage ceremony for her two favorites.

The Psychopath . . . conversely, can’t wait to get her hands on her latest victims. Oh, she’ll still cry “ick” and “gross” but with a disconcerting relish and toothy grin that reminds you that you really need to put a lock on your bedroom door.

Give her a couple of hours, and she’ll forget about fishing altogether, and focus all of her attention on her “experiments.”

You, of course, will spend the afternoon Googling the common traits of serial killers, and slipping any sharp objects over the side of the boat.

Naturally, I have a psychopath.

And, as the only other lifeform in the boat, I let her play with the worms. continued on page 12

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Renaissance Dad: Fishing Fiasco (cont'd) continued from page 11

Take It to the Bank Your other option would be to skip the boat entirely and find a comfy spot on the bank of your favorite body of water.

Now, pay attention Dad, this is important: once you’ve claimed your spot, set up the folding chairs, assembled both rods with swivels, weights, leader, hooks, and bait, and you’re poised to make your first cast . . . pause.

This pause is what separates the rookies from the pros, when it comes to fishing with kids, as this is the exact moment in which your child will announce, at a volume that carries for a mile in all directions—the same child who, not 15 minutes ago, insisted 27 times that she did not need to use the parking lot porta-potty—that she has to pee, right now!

If you forget to pause, and you actually end up with your line in the water, you’ll have just cut the proverbial red-wire, causing the child’s countdown clock to launch into fast mode, speeding towards a core meltdown requiring the change of clothes you left on the dining room table.

Having completed your cast, one of two things will have happened: You will snag the bottom and, with no time to finesse it loose, have to snap your line, lose all of your gear, and start over, or . . .

The moment your bait touches the water, the biggest fish of your life will snatch it, and immediately head for Canada like a Polaris missile.

By the end of the day, tired, sweaty, and whiney (and that’s just you) as you’re on the long snore-filled ride back home, you mentally tally the frustrations, disasters, and still-bleeding wounds of the day. Your gear lay in a snarled pile in the back, along with an empty cooler and bait-box.

As you’re considering how many handfuls of Advil you’ll be taking before bed, and how the trip was a bust, you both got skunked, and your daughter will likely never want to fish with you again.

That’s when she turns her grimy, sunburned little face to you and sleepily says those magic words.

“Daddy?”

“Yeah?”

“Can we go again tomorrow?”

To which, brushing a tear from your eye, you respond: “Of course we can, Honey . . . . . . but first Daddy needs to get home and install these locks.”

Perry P. Perkins is a third-generation chef, award-winning writer, and culinary instructor. He lives with his family in Longview, and operates the MY KITCHEN Outreach Program, for at-risk and under-served youth. His writing has appeared in numerous publications, including sixteen “Chicken Soup for the Soul” anthologies. He is also a recurring guest-chef on AM Northwest. More of Perry’s work can be found on Amazon at www.perryperkinsbooks.com, and his cooking blog at www. chefperryperkins.com.

Now, you are faced with a truly Faustian choice: cut loose a record-breaking fish, with only a 5-year-old (who by now is clutching her crotch with both hands and spinning in circles) as a witness, or risk forever scarring her fragile young psyche by letting nature take its course, while you do battle with a once-in-a-lifetime fish.

There is only one clear answer here, Dad. Unfortunately, it’s the one that my lawyers have strongly recommended that I not put in writing, so let me just say this instead: Fishing isn’t about you catching fish, it’s really not even about her catching fish—though, if only one fish is caught, she will catch it, giving your wife a humorous anecdote to share with every single person in the Western Hemisphere.

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Feature: Men's Mental Health

Men’s Mental Unique Challenges Health: The and the Way Forward

By Dana Greyson

The data don’t lie: More men are likely to reach for the bottle than the phone when they need mental and emotional help.

When it comes to dealing with life’s stresses—their job (or lack of it), relationship issues, health concerns—men prefer to suffer in silence or lash out rather than seek professional help, particularly in the form of mental health services. And in today’s social climate, it takes not only courage, but discernment for men to get the right kind of help.

Men’s Mental Health Care Report Card: F • Depression.* Over 6 million US men suffer from depression per year.

• Avoidance. Men are less likely than women to seek help for depression, substance abuse and stressful events due to social norms, reluctance to talk, and downplaying symptoms.

Men are half as likely to receive mental health treatment as women (10.6 vs 20.8 percent).

• Under-Diagnosis. Doctors are more likely to diagnose depression in women compared with men, even when they have similar scores on standardized measures of depression or identical symptoms. Here in Clark County, men are half as likely as women to be diagnosed with depression (16 vs 30 percent).

• Addiction. Approximately one in five men develop alcohol dependency during their lives. Male veterans experience nearly twice the alcohol and drug use rate as women. In Clark County, men are more likely than women to binge drink and use marijuana.

• Suicide. Nearly four times as many men as women commit suicide. Middle-aged white men have the highest suicide rate.

Suicide is the 10th leading cause of death in the US. Signs of Overwhelm Everyone has bad days—days they have trouble sleeping, feel cranky or sad. According to the National Institute of Mental Health (NIMH), when those days continue for two weeks or more, then it may be depression, signaling a time to reach out.

Male Depression Can Be Subtle “While many women with depression seem sad or express sadness,” in contrast, NIMH cautions, “some men with depression hide their emotions and may seem to be angry, irritable, or aggressive. They may feel very tired and lose interest in work, family, or hobbies. They may have difficulty sleeping. Sometimes their mental health symptoms appear to be physical issues. For example, a racing heart, tightening chest, ongoing headaches, or digestive issues can be signs of a mental health problem.”

Recognizing the Mental Health Stigma—And the Need to Push Past It “As a young male, I was taught to withhold my feelings by a generation accustomed to not expressing feelings of sadness or fear,” says a Clark County man who wishes to remain anonymous. “Even modern-day culture helps support a culture of stigma regarding mental healthcare, particularly as it relates to gender issues and veterans war-time trauma. As a former public behavioral health services administrator, I saw firsthand how men in particular experienced stigma when seeking care for mental health services, including suicide. Later, I sought out mental health services and learned I experienced PTSD from childhood abuse, literally blocked from my memory. I now know I did experience abuse and gained perspective in understanding how it played out in my life. I can now move on in my life.

The memories are there, but manageable.”

Nicole Greene, deputy director for Office of Women’s Health observes, “Men are less likely to speak up about mental health problems like depression. I know one too many men who have diagnosed mental health issues but do nothing about it because they think admitting it makes them weak. They don’t want to go to the pharmacy and pick up an anti-depressant because they are afraid they will be judged.

They don’t want to go to a therapist because continued on page 16

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Feature: Men's Mental Health (cont'd) continued from page 14

they don’t want to share with a stranger. But if they don’t talk about it, it can be tough for friends or family members to know something is wrong. Men don’t always show the signs we often associate with depression . . . [thus] doctors and loved ones miss the signs something is wrong . . . Depression can’t be willed away.

It’s a serious mental health condition that affects a man’s daily life, including the way he eats, sleeps, feels, and thinks. It can also affect his ability to work, go to school, and maintain relationships with friends and family. Depression is not a sign of weakness, and it can affect any man.”

The Need for Male-sensitive Counseling In 2018, the American Psychological Association released “APA Guidelines for Psychological Practice with Boys and Men” to recognize and better address the unique challenges and barriers to men’s mental health issues with more gender appropriate treatment.

Anson Service, PsyD, LMHC, a Vancouver-based therapist, stresses the need for male-based and male-sensitive therapy, in part because, ”All people should be treated with respect, care, compassion, and have equal opportunities. This includes men as well.” In his field, Dr. Service has noticed a trend toward blaming or ostracizing men in a variety of situations. “Many men now feel marginalized, not taken seriously, that they are being treated less than equal because of something they have no control over, which is being born male,” he says. “Many men I speak with do not feel safe talking about [this marginalization] with women. They are afraid of verbal backlash.”

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Dr. Service echoes Greene’s concern about continued mental health stigma that remains more severe for men than women. “We as a society must also seek to destigmatize mental health treatment because this stigma keeps many men from seeking help,” he says.

In the case of domestic violence (DV) against men, the abuse and negative impact on mental health is real. According to Centers for Disease Control and Prevention’s National Intimate Partner and Sexual Violence Survey in 2010, almost half (48.8 percent) of all men have dealt with some sort of psychological aggression by an intimate partner. This number is equal to women at 48.4 percent.

Gay and bisexual men experience especially alarming rates of intimate partner violence: 2 in 5, according to National Center for Biotechnology Information. “Yet there are virtually no dedicated resources for men who are abused,” says Dr. Service. “There may be one or two shelters for male DV victims, while there are hundreds for women. Men have to rely on family and friends solely for help, which can be a barrier to seeking help. Additionally, the court systems traditionally favor women, from custody and child support and alimony, to arrests made for DV. Ironically, men in power are most responsible for the slanted applications of these laws.”

What Does (and Doesn’t) Help Look Like?

How do you find the help you need? “It needs to be a good fit, which means some counselor shopping,” Dr. Service advises. Not sure where to start? Contact National Alliance of Mental Illness (NAMI) of Southwest Washington at 360-695-2823 or namiswwa. org.

Even when the right counselor is found, it’s important to set realistic expectations for the process; getting better is not an overnight process. “Some men want to solve a problem by simply fixing it, like it is a leaky pipe or something, and not all problems can be fixed. You can’t go down to the psychology shop and pick up a sixpack of anger management fix compound. I wish you could, but it isn’t that simple,” Dr. Service explains.

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“The common theme with my therapy? Therapists were helpful.

My response has been to want to find solutions quickly; possibly deluding myself, to think it has been successful,” admits a Clark County father who also wishes to remain anonymous. However, a mediator/therapist was particularly effective for him when focused on a specific problem to solve—setting up co-parenting as part of his divorce process—and when he himself was willing to put in the work. “[Our counselor] helped us maintain an atmosphere of mutual love and respect as we parted ways. [She] helped us keep our eyes on the goal of maintaining civility and keeping our daughter front and center. [But the counselor] doesn’t deserve all the credit . . . My ex is a pretty amazing person, and I’d like to think that I played a constructive role as well.”

Dr. Service agrees that healing requires work. “I see men of all ages, from a variety of backgrounds, with a variety of occupations.

The men I treat genuinely accept they have issues to resolve and are comfortable discussing them. I understand that I am not the reason they are doing well, because they did all the real work, but I was able to help them make their best decisions that changed their lives.”

How to Tell You’re Done “Counseling can be much more than just helping a person through a struggle or treating their pathology,” emphasizes Dr. Service. “It can also be about helping someone who is doing well to do even better. A good indicator services could be finished is when the client is in a good place and when the therapist has to work to find something to discuss.”

When to Fire Your Counselor How does a client recognize when the professional they’re working with is not meeting their needs? Dr. Service suggests asking, Do you feel better? Do you feel more hopeful about the future? Does the therapist really listen empathically? Do you feel heard?

Recently returned to the Pacific Northwest, Dana Greyson is a freelance writer, former mediator and world traveler. When she’s not exploring, she’s usually writing. She blogs about her sailing adventures on GalleyWenchTales.com and plans to release her first book, “Just Five Boxes” by summer’s end.

These are all questions that you should ask yourself while in therapy. If the answers are no, then perhaps it’s time to find another therapist.

*This article focuses primarily on depression. Addiction, anxiety, learning disorders, and schizophrenia are other mental illnesses which can be managed well with gender-sensitive treatment and, when appropriate, prescribed medication.

Mental Health Assessment Go to VancouverFamilyMagazine.com for a link to a quick, free, confidential, online mental health screening from Mental Health America (formerly known as the National Mental Health Association). This self-administered test should not be used in place of the care of a medical or mental health provider, but can be an initial step toward accessing treatment if needed.

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Feature: Good Grief: Helping Children Cope with Loss

Good

GRIEF: Helping Children Cope with Loss

By Malia Jacobson

It’s been said that loss is simply another

word for change. Loss impacts children’s lives at every stage, from infancy through young adulthood, and can bring on feelings of turmoil, grief, and sadness. Whether a child experiences loss through the death of a pet or loved one, or loses a close friend to a long-distance move, grieving is universal and experienced by children of all ages. But the ways in which children grieve differ according to his or her age, temperament, and family environment. Read on for age-by-age guidance on helping a child work through feelings of loss, navigate grief, and move toward healing.

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Caregivers can help minimize the trauma associated with loss by maintaining a child’s daily routine as closely as possible, making extra time for warm, loving interactions and explaining that even when we can’t see our absent loved ones, we can still send love. The children’s book “The Invisible String” by Patrice Karst (Devorss & Co., 2000) helps frame loss in a way that very young children can understand.

universal and experienced by children of all ages

Very young children experience loss differently than older children. According to medical journal The BMJ (formerly The British Medical Journal) babies and toddlers can’t distinguish between shortterm separations and more long-term or permanent ones until after age 5. At this stage, a child may react with the most

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intensity due to the loss of a primary caregiver — this doesn’t mean that other losses, like that of a pet or a seldom-seen relative, aren’t important to the child, but that children this young simply can’t grasp that these losses are permanent.

Because babies and toddlers can’t yet verbalize their feelings of loss, they may demonstrate grief with temper tantrums, regressive behavior, and aggression, says Erin Orren, MSW, support services coordinator with Community Home Health

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ELEMENTARY YEARS 6-12

Loss Prep

While school-age children have a firmer concept of permanence than those younger than 5, they can still be thrown by a loss that disrupts their caretaking or daily routine. Depression and withdrawal are common grief reactions for schoolage children, says Orren; children may avoid difficult conversations or stop asking questions about their loved one. Even if kids display this type of avoidance, parents can help prepare children for an anticipated loss, like a death after a long illness or a family separation, by laying down some foundational understanding.

With younger children, preparing for loss involves a series of developmentally appropriate conversations about death and what happens when we die, or preparing a ritual or a ceremony to say goodbye, says licensed mental health

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couselor Natalie Chambers, MA, LMHC, of Lacamas Counseling in Camas. “When it comes to disenfranchised losses— losses that are less recognized by society, for example miscarriage, loss of a home, loss of a birth mother or family to adoption, or divorce—listening to children, providing emotion coaching and normalizing their experience will also be important,” she says.

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When a child displays ongoing symptoms of grief, like changes in mood, appetite or sleep that persist more than a few months after a loss, a trained therapist may be able to help. Therapy offers children and teens a chance to address feelings of loss in a safe, nonjudgmental environment with health care provider trained in helping children express and work through difficult emotions. Though sometimes just

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speaking to a counselor can be therapeutic, options aren’t limited to traditional talk therapy. Selecting the appropriate therapy for a child should include consideration of the child’s personality, learning style and developmental stage, says Chambers.

Older children and teens can benefit from a wide variety of therapeutic approaches to help them process a loss, she notes.

“Talking about it, writing about it, or creating something in memory of what they lost will help them move through it.

However, one thing research consistently shows as most important to effective therapy is how comfortable the client feels with the person sitting across from them.

Finding a good fit will be key.”

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Feature: NW Getaway: Alderbrook Resort and Spa

NW GETAWA Y:

AL DE R B R OOK R E S O R T A N D S PA

By Nikki Klock

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n the eastern edge of the Olympic Peninsula, a short twohour drive from Vancouver, lies Alderbrook Resort and Spa, on the shores of Hood Canal, part of the larger Puget Sound waterway system. Not to be confused with Alderbrook Park in Brush Prairie, Alderbrook Resort is a full service hotel and spa, with no shortage of on-site and regional recreational activities. The property also holds a special connection to the local land, water and ecosystem, and a long history of providing both commerce and respite to the region just north of Olympia.

The resort started out as a collection of cottages, built on the beach in 1913, designed as a getaway from Seattle. At that time, visitors arrived by boat—a two-day ride by sailboat, and a full day ride by motorboat from Seattle in the watercraft of the day—since there were no highways by which to access the rural wooded location.

Pleasant, flat water due to wind protection from the mountains and less rainfall than other parts of the peninsula made the trip well worth making. At the same time, the nearby Skokomish River Delta on Hood Canal functioned as a popular logging hub from which to ship wood harvested from what is now the protected Olympic National Forest out to anywhere in the world, since the glacier-carved canal (650 feet deep in some places) eventually flows out to the Salish Sea and the Pacific Ocean.

Over the years, as roads improved land access to the resort, it grew to meet demand. A lobby and guest rooms to compliment the vacation cottages were built in the 1960s, and 40 years later, in 2006, a much larger expansion provided the resort with a grander lodge-style lobby, even more guest rooms, an indoor pool, a spa and fitness center, ballrooms, and meeting rooms. The original cottages have been continuously maintained and still make up an important part of the resort, lying just adjacent to the main building in a village-type layout. A paved path circles the perimeter of the central cottage lawn that includes a gazebo, firepit, volleyball and badminton net, games such as croquet, and more. Inside, each cottage features 2 bedrooms, pull out couches, and a full kitchen.

Independence Day at Alderbook Thunder on the Canal, Alderbrook Resort’s biggest event of the year, will take place July 3. Fireworks are deployed from the middle of the canal, providing a spectacle over the water that can be seen and heard for miles around. Before the nighttime fireworks show, event activities start at 1 pm with lawn games, live music, food vending and more. Hotel guests and the general public alike are invited to attend this hugely popular event, so early arrival is recommended. Admission is free for hotel overnight guests, and $10 per person for the general public, with kids age 12 and under also free.

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All of the cottage porches face inward toward that central lawn, allowing kids to play freely outside, under parents’ watchful eyes.

With the most recent main lodge renovations in 2006, great care was taken to maintain the style of the historic, and still fully functioning, portions of the property and to mirror the surrounding environment. In today’s main lobby, grand Douglas fir pillars connect to crossbeams intended to mimic the abundant evergreens that surround the property, and large windows expose the majestic Olympic Mountain Range just across the narrow canal.

The rest of the resort also flows with the natural environment.

The creek which runs directly through the property was originally simply a small runoff from the trails in the hills across the street from the resort, but Alderbrook put much effort into developing the stream’s landscape and ecology. It’s now a salmon resting area and salmon run. During the late-summer, early-autumn salmon season, guests can watch salmon jump the creek. “We take batches of kids all the time to talk about how that plays into the ecology of the region as a whole,” Ray Campbell, Alderbrook’s guest experience agent, told me. “You can see many stages of the life cycle here. As the salmon run upstream, of course, they’ll spawn and then they die right there. But as they decompose, all of their nutrients get pushed down the stream back to the beaches, which fertilizes all of the land around it, and also creates [plankton and algae blooms] . . . which is eaten by none other than these oysters which makes them big fat and happy.”

Enjoying the natural beauty and wonder of the canal itself is among the most popular recreational activities at the resort, especially during peak summer season. The waterfront center’s large dock provides a designated swimming area, and an array of nonmotorized personal watercraft available for rent such as paddle kayaks, stand up paddle boards (SUPs), tandem seacycles, and hydrobikes, as well as small boats and a party barge pontoon boat for larger groups. The resort even partners with Kenmore Air, which offers seaplane charters from Kirkland to Alderbrook (a 45-minute plane ride), where guests can experience dockside check-in to start off a memorable weekend. Lady Alderbrook, the resort’s cruise boat with a capacity of 80 passengers, specializes in private meetings, parties and weddings, but occasionally also offers public tours such as this month’s Fjordin Crossin Cruise, taking place on Saturday, June 29.

When the natural water is too cold for comfort, Alderbrook Resort’s indoor saltwater pool is comfortably heated and brings the outdoors in through windowed walls, resembling a greenhouse, in which tropical plants thrive, and views of the canal and mountains are unobstructed. continued on page 26

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Next to the pool building, a patio and adjacent waterfront lawn are perfect for weddings or simply roasting s’mores in the wood fire pit—one of multiple fire pits or fireplaces on the property.

The Restaurant at Alderbrook even carries s’mores supplies for purchase (or bring your own supplies and grab a skewer at the restaurant for free).

Beyond grahams and mallows, The Restaurant at Alderbrook specializes in the freshest seafood possible, much of it harvested on-site. “We actually harvest our own oysters right here off the beach,” said Campbell. “[During the summer] we do daily oyster pulls where somebody from the food and beverage team is down there shucking oysters and handing them up to you on the dock . . . Why not? It’s all right here. If it got any fresher, you’d be standing in the water.” In addition to fresh seafood, popular menu items include steak, chicken bruschetta, and of course, a standard fare kids’ menu for the littles. An outdoor eating area opens in the summertime, offering lighter and seasonal fare. Consistent with the resort’s commitment to fresh local ingredients is a garden in the southwest section of the property that furnishes freshly grown herbs for use in the restaurant.

mountains and the canal. For kids who need an extra nudge to complete a trail hike, families can check out GPS units from Alderbrook’s front desk and set out on a geocaching adventure.

Whether you’re a watersports enthusiast, a seafood connoisseur, or simply looking for a relaxing getaway in the unmatched Pacific Northwest environment, Alderbook Resort has something for everyone.

Nikki Klock loves exploring the Pacific Northwest with her husband and two teenage daughters. She has been the editor of Vancouver Family Magazine since 2006.

Across the street to the south of the resort are multiple forest trails, developed and owned by Alderbrook, that lead hikers along parallel streams Alderbrook Creek and Dalby Creek. View Point Loop is short and easy to do with strollers and wheelchairs, while Dogwood Trail and Licorice Fern Trail are more challenging.

While there, my family and I hiked Huckleberry Hillclimb—about a mile each way, with occasional plaques identifying flora along the way, and a 460 feet elevation increase to beautiful views of the

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More Family-friendly Activities & Amenities Art lovers, rejoice! Alderbrook’s main lobby and adjacent mezzanine feature art easels, sketch books and art tools for kids or grownups to express themselves. Guest rooms also include a sketchbook.

A game room and arcade is complete with game consoles, televisions, an arcade table loaded with hundreds of classic video games, and comfortable seating. Families can even gather in this space to watch televised sporting events together.

An outdoor kids’ play structure lies within the resort’s walking paths and herb garden.

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Big Paddle in downtown Ridgefield.

Celebrate National Trails Day with festivities at the waterfront, downtown, and trolley rides in between. At the waterfront enjoy a canoe, kayak or paddleboard adventure, live music, a wine and beer garden, a self-guided waterfront hike into the Ridgefield National Wildlife Refuge, an obstacle course for all ages and many more activities. Also see a demo and scrimmage from the Portland Kayak Polo Team. 7 am-4:30 pm It Takes a Village Conference at Clark College, 1933 Fort Vancouver Way, Vancouver. Resources and comradery for parents and families of individuals affected

by Autism. Hosted by Washington Autism Alliance & Advocacy. 9 am-4 pm Bob Ross for Teens at Cascade Park Community Library, 600 NE 136th Ave., Vancouver. All materials will be provided and a trained Certified Ross Instructor will take you step-by-step through the

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painting process. You will get to take home your own Bob Ross inspired landscape painting! Seating is limited and open only to 12-18-year-olds. 10:30 am-12 pm Camtown Youth Festival at Crown Park, NE Everett Rd. & NE 17th Ave., Camas. Kids ages 3-16 are invited to join this free event with inflatable games, craft activities, food, and more. 11 am-4 pm Oregon Children’s Theatre presents “Diary of a Worm, a Spider, and a Fly” at Newmark Theatre, 1111 SW Broadway, Portland. Take a look at the world from a bug’s perspective and you’ll see that their lives are a lot like ours. Recommended for ages 4 and up. Tickets: $15-$34 at www.octc. org/worm-spider-fly. 2 pm & 5 pm Journey Theater presents “A Wrinkle in Time” at View Ridge Middle School, 3215 S Hillhurst Rd., Ridgefield. Tickets $10-$16 at www.journeytheater.org. 2 pm & 7 pm

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Journey Theater presents “A Wrinkle in Time” at View Ridge Middle School.

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5 WEDNESDAY

Crafternoon at Kazoodles, 13503 SE Mill Plain Blvd #B-3, Vancouver. Drop in every Wednesday and get crafty! Crafts are geared toward elementary age kids, but children as young as 3 can often handle them with a grownup’s help. 3-5 pm

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Night Market Vancouver in downtown Vancouver. A family-friendly, monthly marketplace that celebrates local businesses, highlights regional talent, and brings the people of our community together. Featuring 80+ vendors, live music, entertainment, drinks, food and more. 5-10 pm Friday Fun Night at Kids Club Fun & Fitness, 13914 NW 3rd Ct., Vancouver. The 1st and 3rd Fridays of each month. Pre-register your 4-11-year-old to enjoy a night filled with activities. They will spend time with their own age group only (kids are divided between two groups, 4-6-year-olds and 1st-5th graders).

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Hike on the Dike at Pendleton Woolen Mills, 2 Pendleton Way, Washougal. Enjoy a 5k walk along the beautiful Columbia River, with or without your pet, then spend some time meeting local businesses in the marketplace area, as well as enjoying some food, K9 demonstrations, kids’ games, and entertainment. Admission: $25. 9 am-2 pm National Get Outdoors Day at Fort Vancouver. Celebrate National Get Outdoors Day with a fun-filled day of activities to help get you and your family outdoors.

10 am-3 pm

9 SUNDAY

Run Wild at Fallen Leaf Lake Park, 2911 NE Everett St., Camas. Dress up as a wild thing and enjoy a day of running, walking, and soaring through beautiful Fallen Leaf Park.

There will be fun and educational naturebased activity stations and a fun journey around the lakeside trail, as well as live music, engaging games, art activities, face painting and more. 1-5 pm

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Crafternoon at Kazoodles, 13503 SE Mill Plain Blvd #B-3, Vancouver. (See Jun. 1) 3-5 pm

14 FRIDAY

Mini Golf at the Library, Vancouver Community Library, 901 C St., Vancouver.

Grab a club and try to get a hole in one at the library’s mini golf course! 3:30-5:30 pm

15 SATURDAY

Drive-In Movie at Cascade Park Community Library, 600 NE 136th Ave., Vancouver. Kick off Summer Reading with a fun craft party.

Cardboard box “cars” decorating starts at 3 pm, movie starts around 3:45 pm. Bring a cardboard box if you have one. If you don’t, there’ll be some extras to use. 3-4:30 pm Mini Golf at the Library. (See Jun. 1) 3:30-5:30 pm

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Mini Golf at the Library. (See Jun. 1) 3:30-5:30 pm

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Summer Reading Kick-Off at Woodland Community Library, 770 Park St., Woodland.

Kick off Summer Reading at the library with crafts, games, and more for the whole family.

Get ready to read all summer! 12-2 pm

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Mission Control: Mars Rover Challenge at Washougal Community Center, 1681 C St., Washougal. Build a craft to survive on Mars.

Participants will work together to complete a series of NASA challenges including building a robotic arm, creating a roving science lab and more. All ages. No experience necessary. 2-4 pm Crafternoon at Kazoodles, 13503 SE Mill Plain Blvd #B-3, Vancouver. (See Jun. 1) 3-5 pm

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Family Nature Day at Kiwanis Camp Wa-RiKi, 17051 Washougal River Rd., Washougal.

Walk with Free Forest School, enjoy art in nature as well as Wolf Ways educational organization, meet Smokey Bear and more.

Lunch will be served nature based sensory friendly activities for all ages and abilities will be offered. Admission: $10. 10 am-3 pm Reading in the Wild at the Water Resources Education Center, 4600 SE Columbia Way, Vancouver. A free outdoor reading series for kids ages 3-6 years old. The program connects fun stories with nature activities.

Sit under a tree, listen to a story, then roam around the garden to play with plants, rocks, water or critters in the dirt. Please note: Children must be accompanied by a parent or guardian during these activities. 10-11 am Rick Huddle’s Alien Invasion at Cascade Park Community Library, 600 NE 136th Ave., Vancouver. Songs, comedy, and puppetry come together in a mini-musical for all ages that shares the lesson of understanding other cultures . . . or creatures. 11 am-12 pm Summer Reading Kick-Off at Three Creeks Community Library, 800-C NE Tenney Rd., Vancouver. Kick off Summer Reading at the library with crafts, games, and more for the whole family. Get ready to read all summer! 11 am-1 pm Summer Reading Kick-Off at La Center Community Library, 1411 NE Lockwood Creek Rd., La Center. Kick off Summer Reading at the library with crafts, games, and more for the whole family. Get ready to read all summer! 1-2 pm continued on page 30

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Summer Reading Kick-Off: Alien Carnival at Battle Ground Community Library, 1207 SE 8th Way, Battle Ground. Kick off the summer at the library with an alien carnival! Games, galaxy crafts, scavenger hunts, the chance to speak with a real NASA ambassador and more. 2-4 pm Friday Fun Night at Kids Club Fun & Fitness, 13914 NW 3rd Ct., Vancouver.

(See Jun. 7) 6:30-10:30 pm

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Volcano Exploration Days at Mount St. Helens Science and Learning Center, 19000 Spirit Lake Hwy, Toutle. Have a blast at Mount St. Helens! Enjoy a day of activities, crafts, guided hikes, and more as you learn about the geology, ecology, and history of our favorite volcano. This event is drop-in and open to the public, and explorers of all ages are welcome to join. 11 am-4 pm

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The Reptile Man at Woodland Community Library, 770 Park St., Woodland. Learn about reptiles as you see them up close. Ages 4 and up. 10:30 am

Mission Control: Mars Rover Challenge at Vancouver Mall Library, 8700 NE Vancouver Mall Dr., Ste 285, Vancouver. Build a craft to survive on Mars. Participants will work together to complete a series of NASA challenges including building a robotic arm, creating a roving science lab and more. All ages. No experience necessary. 4-6 pm

Crafternoon at Kazoodles, 13503 SE Mill Plain Blvd #B-3, Vancouver. (See Jun. 1) 3-5 pm Golly-ology with Rhys Thomas at Washougal Community Library 1661 C St., Washougal. Rhys Thomas is a former Smithsonian artist-in-residence who takes juggling beyond physics to explore archaeology, chemistry, mathematics and other sciences. Come to laugh and learn.

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Reading in the Wild at the Water Resources Education Center, 4600 SE Columbia Way, Vancouver. (See Jun. 20) 10-11 am En Taiko Japanese Drumming at the library.

Experience a fun and amazing performance by en Taiko. They not only play Japanese traditional style taiko, but also share the exploration of a new art form such as collaborative music creation with taiko and marimba. 11 am at Cascade Park Community Library & 3 pm at Vancouver Community Library (downtown) The Henrik Bothe Library Circus at Three Creeks Community Library 800-C NE Tenney Rd., Vancouver. The funniest library circus to rock the Pacific NW! Henrik will amaze you with his physical comedy and juggling skills.

Presented for ages 3-12 and their families.

11 am-12 pm Train Like an Astronaut at La Center Community Library, 1411 NE Lockwood Creek Rd., La Center.

Come see if you have the right stuff to train like an astronaut with fun field games. Appropriate for ages 5-16. 2-4 pm

Recycled Arts Festival at Esther Short Park, Vancouver. See how people are giving new life to old items that would otherwise have been lost in a landfill. Join your kids in expressing their “green side” by creating their own eco-art, or just relax and listen to live music. There will also be all sorts of helpful information on how you can help improve Clark County’s environment. 9 am-5 pm Family Nature Day at Columbia Springs, 12208 SE Evergreen Hwy, Vancouver. Start at the Visitor Center for maps, information and activities then choose your own adventure around the site from there. Games and activities will be happening around Heron Loop Trail. Guided Walks will introduce to the site’s history, flora and fauna and educational programs. Scavenger hunts will encourage you to look closer as you explore.

10 am-2 pm Magenta Improv Theater at Magenta Theater, 1108 Main St., Vancouver.

Performers play scenes and games based on audience suggestions and nothing is scripted.

The family-friendly shows are interactive, volunteers can be part of the action.

7:30-9:30 pm

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Jugglemania: Fuzzy Logic-Stunteddy Tries Science at Three Creeks Community Library, 800-C NE Tenney Rd., Vancouver.

Beardevil StunTeddy uses scientific and critical thinking to create stunts, amuse and astonish. 11 am

Rojo the Llama at Three Creeks Community Library 800-C NE Tenney Rd., Vancouver.

Rojo the Llama is coming to help celebrate Summer Reading! 10:30 am

Rd., Vancouver. Kick off Summer Reading with a special guest artist from Roving Horse Henna, ice cream, games, and more. Go on the computers, get a henna design, be with friends, eat ice cream, and enjoy a night at the library. This event takes place after regular library hours. 6:30-8:30 pm

Vancouver Family Magazine • www.vancouverfamilymagazine.com • June 2019

Photo courtesy Recycled Arts Festival

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Summer Reading Kick-Off at Washougal Community Library, 1681 C St.., Washougal.

Kick off Summer Reading at the library with crafts, games, and more for the whole family.

Get ready to read all summer! 2-4 pm Micah and Me Family Dance Party at Vancouver Community Library, 901 C St., Vancouver. Get your little ones up and dancing with this highly interactive musical performance. 3-4 pm

Fort Vancouver Regional Library (FVRL) Foundation’s

BOOKFEST ‘19

S um me r Supe r Sale 3DAY USED BOOK SALE

Featuring more than 20,000 used books in a wide variety of genres.

A fantastic opportunity to stock up on reading material for those lazy summer afternoons!

$1 50¢

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FIND CHILDREN’S BOOKS AND BOOKS FOR GROWNUPS! We have books of all kinds for all ages.

June 20-22 Thursday–Saturday, 9 am–6 pm

Downstairs in Library Hall

Fort Vancouver Regional Libraries Operations Center 1007 E Mill Plain Blvd, Vancouver, WA 98663 Free parking next to the building.

Proceeds from this sale will be used to support Fort Vancouver Regional Libraries’ Summer Reading Program.

| www.fvrlfoundation.org | 360-906-4700

FVRL Foundation is a 501(c)(3) nonprofit organization registered with the State of Washington.

www.facebook.com/FVRLFoundation

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Health Adventure Dental............................................25 Barnick Chiropractic.......................................23 Child and Adolescent Clinic..............................2 Evergreen Pediatrics......................................15 OHSU/Doernbecher.......................................27 Priority Life Chiropractic and Massage...........17 Storybook Dental............................................13 Vancouver Clinic...............................................9 Vancouver Vision Clinic..................................11

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Restaurants The Blind Onion..............................................13

Retail Kazoodles.........................................................2 Pacific Pops....................................................29 Vancouver Mall...............................................13

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SUMMER MUSIC FREE CONCERTS

RIVERVIEW SIX TO SUNSET CONCERTS Thursdays | 6-8 p.m.

Esther Short Park

West 6th & Columbia streets

presented by

NOON RHYTHMS CONCERTS Wednesdays | 12-1 p.m.

Esther Short Park West 6th & Columbia streets

SUNDAY SOUNDS CONCERTS presented by

Sundays | 6-8 p.m.

Columbia Tech Center Park

SE Sequoia Circle at SE Tech Center Drive

cityofvancouver.us/concerts With support from:

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JULY 11

Hit Machine

JULY 18

Prom Date Mixtape

JULY 25

Stone in Love

AUG 1

Hit Factory featuring Patrick Lamb

AUG 8

Life During Wartime

AUG 15

Super Diamond

JULY 10

Vancouver Pops Orchestra

JULY 17

Misty Mamas

JULY 24

Fox & Bones

JULY 31

Jujuba

AUG 7

The Cabin Project

AUG 14

Dina y los Rumberos

JULY 7

Five Guys Named Moe

JULY 14

The Beatniks

JULY 21

Dancehall Days

JULY 28

Hit Machine

AUG 4

My Happy Pill

AUG 11

Precious Byrd