‘’WHEN THE TEASING…REALLY HURTS’’
2ND MODEL HIGH SCHOOL, VOLOS
A SHORT GUIDE ON THE WHEREABOUTS OF BULLYING FOR TEACHERS, STUDENTS & PARENTS
IS BULLYING ? • AccordingtoOlweus( 1993 ) Bullyingisa recurringseriesof aggressiveacts and attitudes, againsta personwhoisa bitweaker. • Itsbasiccharacteristicsare: • 1. The frequency • 2. The tensionand the duration • 3. The degreeof intentand the degreeof self-controldemonstration
WHAT
TEASING&BULLYING : THE MAIN DIFFERENCE
• TEASING isan act, betweenfriends, itdoesn’tincludephysicalpainand in thatsenseissimilartoa joke. Itturnsintobullying, ifithasbeenhappening for a longperiodof timeand the recipient, feelsthatthe actsof the others aren’ta jokeorevena game!
VIOLENCE AND BULLYING
Violenceisa normalpropertyof a person, whichcharacterizeseveryanimal speciesand ismanifestingitselfin differentwaysdependinguponthe age, the genderand the culturaloriginof the person. Italso, involves, the intenseelement of claimingand that’swhyitdoesn’talwaysgetperceivedasa negativehuman manifestation.
TYPESOF BULLYING : 1. VERBAL Verbalbullyingincludes: • 1. Teasing • 2. Cursingand nicknames • 3. Mockery • 4. Threatsand rudecomments
BULLYING : 2. EMOTIONAL Itincludes: • 1. Spreadof malignanciesand fakerumors • 2. Abusiveorplayfulexpressionsaboutthe race, nationality, disabilityand sexualidentityof the victim.
TYPESOF
TYPESOF BULLYING : 3. PSYCHOLOGICAL
Exclusionfrom: • 1. Social groups • 2. Groupactivities • 3. Gossips, whichleadtothe socialisolation
the victim
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BULLYING: 4. PHYSICAL • 1. Physicalviolence • 2. Hits, stings, bites, pushes, tripods, punchesand destruction • 3. Theftof personproperty
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• 1. Systematicexclusionof the victimfromsocialactivities • 2. Isolation • 3. Indifference
TYPESOF BULLYING :
SOCIAL
TYPESOF BULLYING : 6. SEXUAL • 1. Teasingof sexualcontent • 2. Immoralgestures • 3. Unwantedtouches • 4. Disclosureof sexlife • 5. Sexualassaults
FORMS OF BULLYING : 7. RACIST • 1. Verbal • 2. Emotional • 3. Physical Threetypesof violence, whichaimtooffendthe victim, becauseof hisorigin.
PROTAGONISTS’ PROFILE
THE PERSON WHO EXERCISES BULLYING • 1. Needfor dominationand powerenforcement • 2. Weaknessin controllinghisimpulsions • 3. Inabilitytokeepthingsin proportion • 4. Reducedabilityof self-control • 5. Weaknessin followingrulesand limits • 6. Absolutelackof empathy • 7. Unusuallylowanxiety
THE PERSON WHO RECEIVES BULLYING • 1. Self-esteemlowerthanaverage • 2. Senseof despair, shame • 3. Inabilitytosolveproblems • 4. Exhibitssignsof depression • 5. Inabilitytoexpresshisemotions • 6. Senseof loneliness • 7. Tendencyfor isolation
THE PERSON WHO RECEIVES BULLYING • 8. Deniesmakingnewfriendshipsand havingsocialrelationships • 9. Lowacademicperformance, inexcusableabsences • 10. Behaviordisorder • 11. Anxiety, fears • 12. Insecurity • 13. Suicidetendencies • 14. Psychological–Psychosomaticproblems
THE PERSON WHO RECEIVES BULLYING • 15. Sleepingdisorders, nighturination • 16. Bitinghisclaws • 17. Lossof cheerfulness
VIEWER • 1. Feelingsof anger, shameand guilt, duetohislackof involvement • 2. Remainsindifferent, distantand occasionallyneutral • 3. Unawareof howtoreact • 4. Believesthatthereisalwayssomeonemoresuitabletotakeaction • 5. Afraidof notidentifyinghimselfwiththe bully • 6. Excusesfearfulbehavior • 7. Suppressedbyfellowstudentsand peers • 8. Unabletounderstandthatbullyingisa matter, whichconcernseverybody
MEASURES TO BE TAKEN
MEASURES TO BE TAKEN : A. BY
THE
HEADMASTER
• 1. Recordthe event( where, when, whowasinvolved, whattypeof bullying wasapplied) • 2. Specifyifitisaboutrepeated, aggressivebehaviors. Ifyes, contactthe bully’sparents. • 3. Definethe consequencesfor the victimizer, afterdiscussingwithhisparents and the teachers • 4. Organizehowthe prolemwillbeobserved
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: B. BY THE TEACHERS
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Askhimtoupdateyou, withregardtowhatishappeningwithhissituation
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Search, ifthereisa groupof teensthatencouragethe bully.
Takethe victimizer, tothheadmaster’soffice.
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Havea chatwiththem, on whatcouldbedone, in ordertoavoidbullying
MEASURES TO BE TAKEN : D. BY THE VICTIM’S PARENTS • 1. Collaboratewithschool • 2. Findoutthe magnitudeand the severityof the problem • 3. Offeryourchildsupportand security • 4. Listentowhatithastosay, carefully, aboutitsemotionsand itsneeds • 5. Don’tjudgeit • 6. Watchboththe developmentof the situationand the healthof yourchild
STOP BULLYING ! NOBODYDESERVES TO FEEL WORTHLESS !
