Sex In The Birdhouse 2013

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02.06.2013

V-Day: not just for couples Kellie Flaherty News Editor

Love, candy, flowers, jewelry, boyfriend and girlfriend are all words that come to mind when thinking about Valentine’s Day. These words cause singles to cringe when thinking about this day.

Each year on Feb. 14, thousands of women and even men feel lonely and possibly self-doubt because of the stigma associated with being single on this day. Valentine’s Day also has the power to resurface memories of previous relationships, which can be painful for many people to think about.

However, Valentine’s Day does not have to be a day to reminisce on failed relationships, heartbreaks or being single in general. There are plenty of ways for singles to have fun on this day without the help of a significant other.

Although this is the first year I will be single on Valentine’s Day in four years, I refuse to be just another girl sitting on a couch stuffing my face with chocolate and ice cream while watching “The Notebook.”

Freshman marketing major Emma Vierck has a positive outlook toward Valentine’s Day as she looks forward to its approaching date.

“I have no bad feelings toward Valentine’s Day because I am happy with being single and have great friends to spend the day with instead of a boyfriend,” Vierck said.

Vierck said her mom gets her Valentine’s Day gifts every year, which she looks forward to each year as well.

Like Vierck, my mother also sends me an annual Valentine’s Day care package. These gifts make the day worthwhile, especially this year, as I will be faced with the challenge of adjusting to spending the day without a significant other.

It’s the little things like gifts from your mom that have the ability to make the day ten times better than it otherwise would have been.

Valentine’s Day is the perfect opportunity to bond and catch up with friends by spending the day together doing your favorite things.

Vierck explains how she and her friends have spent Valentine’s Day in the past.

“We have given each other silly, fake Valentine’s Day cards and have also gone to the movies,” Vierck said.

She plans to go out and have fun with her friends like they would any other day of the year.

My close friends and I have planned to go see “Silver Linings Playbook” as a group to celebrate Valentine’s Day. I am looking forward to spending time with my friends this Valentine’s Day instead of staying home because it will help take my mind off the negative aspects of being recently single that I might have been thinking about otherwise.

Going to the movies, dinner, iceskating or just hanging around at home with people who love you are great options to consider when planning how to spend Valentine’s Day this year. It is a day to celebrate love, after all.

Although Valentine’s Day may seem like it is solely for couples on the surface, single people continue to take part in this fun and silly holiday year after year.

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Playing ‘Where’s Waldo’ with the G Spot Megan Maginity News Editor

Contrary to popular belief, the G Spot wellness gazebo does not only focus on sexual health. The portable stand contains a variety of information on dietary nutrition, mental health and other specialized health pamphlets.

“Some people only think it’s only about sex education,” Carly Schrimpl, Student Wellness Ambassador Team (SWAT) graduate assistant, said. “Obviously we have information on sex and that’s how we got our name, but we offer much more.”

In the colder months, the gazebo is set up twice a week.

According to Schrimpl, it can be found in Watterson every week in the winter and then another place on campus later in the week, which always fluctuates.

Run by SWAT’s peer educators, the gazebo can be seen three times a week when warmer weather

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strikes. The educators are student volunteers and are unpaid.

“This is a great resource for students on campus,” she said. “It’s peer education, which is something that the University values.

If a student has a question about something, they can ask our educators without feeling judged.”

The educators invite nearby students to check out the information and giveaways they have without being “pushy,” Schrimpl explained.

Two people stay inside the gazebo while two others stand outside to break the ice.

“We respect people’s privacy,” she said. “Students may not always want to use the G Spot as a resource and we respect that.

Sometimes they would rather just see a professional in an office.”

SWAT is always looking for new ways to reach students with health and wellness information and resources, Jim Almeda, ISU health promotion and wellness coordinator, said.

“The G Spot first started in the fall semester of 2002,” he explained. “A colleague of mine, who attended a conference that summer, brought back some information about a gazebo that the University of Florida used called the Gator Hut.” The SWAT members liked the proposed idea and then came up with the name the G Spot.

“The name came partly because a lot of their outreach focuses on sexual health, but also because the ‘G’ could be short for gazebo,” he added.

Other than the information on health topics, the gazebo additionally has free condoms and fun giveaways for ISU’s students, faculty and staff.

The G Spot gazebo can next be found from 10 a.m. to 2 p.m. on Thursday, Feb. 7 inside the Bone Student Center in front of the Circus Room.

Spring 2013 G Spot locations Inside of Schroeder Hall Inside of Watterson Dining Commons Inside of Stevenson Hall Inside of Bone Student Center – Circus Room (HIV/AIDS Awareness Event)

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You can increase the effectiveness of condoms if you use spermicide with them and pull out before ejaculation.

Condoms can significantly help both you and your partner decrease the chances of spreading sexually transmitted diseases.

Almost everyone can use a condom safely. Some people are allergic to latex. If you or your partner are allergic to latex, you can try using a condom that is made from plastic.

Condoms can significantly help both you and your partner decrease the chances of spreading sexually transmitted diseases

Be sure to examine the condoms you are buying. All condoms are tested for defects, but like rubber bands, condoms deteriorate with age.

Compiled by Grace Johnson and Jennifer Novoseletsky from Planned Parenthood website

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02.06.2013

Contraceptives cut risks Allie Maher Copy Editor

There is a reason sex education students endure the videos of childbirth — because contrary to the myth of babies being delivered by storks, almost all of us have the very real potential of reproducing.

The scare tactic of the birth video is one method of contraception, but if someone is a sexually active college student other contraceptive methods should be used.

Jean Swearingen, medical director at Student Health Services, said that unless a student desires pregnancy, then contraception of some form should be used when he or she is sexually active.

There are a variety of options when it comes to sexual protection, the most popular of which is the oral contraceptive pill. Other methods include condoms, hormonal rings, hormonal patches, Depo-Provera shots, IUDs and diaphragms, Swearingen said.

“Some forms of contraception may have other benefits too, such as decreased risk of STI transmission with condoms, and decreased

risk of ovarian and uterine cancer and treatment of endometriosis for hormonal contraception,” Swearingen added.

Neglecting to use contraception carries risks. Of course, the most obvious risk is an unintended pregnancy. According to the CDC, almost half of all pregnancies are unintended.

If the cost of contraceptives seems like a burden, know that having a baby costs much more.

According to WebMD, the average cost of pregnancy care is $2,000, while the cost of childbirth is between $9,600 and $15,800.

The public pays — a lot — for unintended pregnancies too. The Guttmacher Institute found that unintended pregnancies cost U.S. taxpayers roughly $11 billion each year. In some states, over 80% of pregnancies were publically funded.

Aside from preventing pregnancy, contraceptives prevent the contraction of sexually transmitted infections (STIs), which can be both a health and financial liability.

According to the CDC, many cases of STIs go unnoticed, presenting health hazards. It also

estimates that 19 million new STI infections occur each year – nearly half of which occur in people ages 15-24. They cost the nation about $17 billion in health care expenses annually.

ISU Health Promotion and Wellness suggests having sex with an uninfected partner who only has sex with you, and using condoms in order to protect yourself from STIs. A comforting statistic is the number of sexual health services and resources available to ISU students. Condoms are available in the Student Health Center pharmacy and the G Spot, while STI testing and women’s health services are available through Student Health Services. Much more information about sexual health is available at Wellness.IllinoisState. edu/healthy-living.

Sexual desire often results in irrational behavior, so preemptively prepare. Become familiar with the available forms of contraception. If there is the slightest chance you will engage in sexual activity, be ready to protect yourself with contraceptives.

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The truth behind sexual rumors Julia Evelsizer Reporter

It is important for students to understand the significance of sexual health. Sex facts and information are available almost everywhere, from magazines to TV shows. Tips and tricks are not always shared through these sources, many people give advice to each other. While it can be helpful to share tips with each other, it does not always mean they are safe.

Many times a myth will develop and spread quickly between people.

These myths are sometimes harmful and can result in STIs or pregnancy.

Here are some common myths debunked by WebMD. Size really does not matter. While the media tends to bombard women with the idea that their breasts and

hips must be a certain size, men also have it rough. The common myth is that the bigger the penis, the better the sex. The fact is the average erect penis is between 5 and 6 inches. So guys, remember it is more attractive to be confident about what you have, than to be stressing over it. Also, foot and hand size have nothing to do with the size of anything below a guy’s waist.

A sex myth that is popular around summer is having sex in a hot tub, pool or shower will kill sperm as soon as they are released. While sperm do die at extremely high temperatures, this does not mean they will not survive inside the body.

The one and only goal of sperm is to reach an egg so as long as semen enters the vagina, there is nothing stopping them, underwater or not.

A popular form of contraception is the “rhythm method,” or avoiding sex during ovulation, when a new egg is released in the female body. While this may seem logical, sperm can live in the body for up to a week. If a couple has unprotected sex a few days before ovulation, the egg could still become fertilized. It is always important to use a backup form of contraception when practicing the rhythm method.

Jim Almeda, health promotion and wellness coordinator at ISU, stresses the importance of properly using contraception.

“When it comes to condoms, many don’t know all the steps for putting one on correctly,“ said Almeda. “That includes checking the expiration date, pinching the tip to leave space for ejaculate, and using water-based or silicone-based

lubricants instead of products with oil. For women taking birth control pills, it is important to never skip a day.”

Condoms are a great form of protection for men, but only if they are used correctly. There are also many myths surrounding condoms. One is that wearing more than one condom during sex offers more protection.

This is not true. While wearing multiple condoms might sound logical, it is not. The increased friction with both condoms raises the possibility of tearing or even coming off completely.

A common myth believed by college students is STIs cannot be transmitted through oral sex.

STIs are transferred through bodily fluids, and that includes saliva.

“There has been more research examining the increase in oral

cancer that is not related to using tobacco products but appears to be associated with unprotected oral sex,” said Almeda. “This may expose a person to certain types of HPV, the human papilloma virus, that can increase your risk for oral cancer.”

While friends may claim to have helpful tips and tricks, it is always best to research any sex facts in order to stay safe and healthy.

“People get information from magazines, websites, and friends they talk to, but they don’t check the validity of the source of information,” said Almeda. “That’s why we encourage ISU students to visit our website, wellness.illinoisstate. edu and look at all the information we have about sexual health, along with links to other websites that are credible sources of information.”

Porn and Cosmo: Are they setting unrealistic standards?

Kristi Demonbreun Sports Editor

Porn. For some reason I always picture little boys sneaking a peak at their dad’s old Playboy magazine or a creepy man in a trench coat with pictures of naked ladies in his pockets. But today it is a completely different game, a person can click from one climatic scene to the next in a matter of seconds thanks to the internet.

According to the Huffington Post, 60 million people worldwide view pornography on a daily basis and two-thirds of those people view pornography on the job.

With instant access and infinite scenarios, is porn setting sexual standards too high?

Author of “Make Love Not Porn,” Naomi Wolf, told the Huffington Post, “Pornography consumption can diminish men’s ability to climax and become aroused with their real-life partners.”

Erectile disfunction due to watching porn may be an extreme effect that is more of an issue for porn addicts, but are men let down in real-life sexual encounters after indulging in sexual fantasies?

“Having sex is way more fun than just watching and some of it is way too kinky to actually happen,” an anonymous Illinois State student said.

When asked if the student wished his sexual partners were more like porn stars he answered, “Some of them are real freaky, but I guess it’s nice for a little kink once in a while.”

Tom, another ISU student who requested his last name not be included, agreed and said, “I don’t expect sex to be like porn because they make it seem so extreme and in real-life I wouldn’t want it to be that much.”

Maybe I happened to pick very nice gentlemen to interview about sexual expectations because their responses certainly do not align with the results of recent studies.

“How did you meet your significant other?”

If men feel this way, it is probably good news for women to know they do not have to worry about stretching in impossible angles and competing with Pamela Anderson wannabes.

I am also not saying that men watching porn are the reason sexual standards are unrealistic because there are plenty of media messages Americans are bombarded with. One media source in particular: Cosmopolitan magazine.

Cosmopolitan is the best-selling monthly magazine in the United States. In “Legally Blonde,” Reese Witherspoon as Elle Woods referred to the sexually charged print as “the Bible,” which should certainly raise some eyebrows on how much young women actually rely on it for sex advice.

It is hard to find a Cosmo magazine without seeing the word ‘sex’ bolded in big block letters on the front page. Not that there is anything wrong with a magazine focusing on women’s sexuality, but with headlines like, “How to please a man in bed,” “Sex he craves” and “What men are really thinking,” it is easy to see how women get sucked into reading the racy magazine every month.

“Sometimes the cover has really interesting articles that makes me pick it up,” Nicole, an ISU student who also wished to not release her last name, said. “When I see an outrageous topic like ’50 craziest sex tips’ it just draws me in.”

The eye-appealing cover and intriguing stories may draw readers in, but Nicole does not take the advice too seriously.

“They publish it because that’s what attracts people. But I do feel boring after I read it. It makes me feel like I need to go out and buy a pair of handcuffs,” Nicole said.

Who knows if porn and Cosmo actually affects people’s sex lives, but whether people are still sneaking into the back room of the video store or downloading porn to their laptops during work, sexual content will never be in shortage.

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“We met in our high school guitar ensemble, and that was our junior year.”

“We met our second semester freshman [year in] English class.

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Nathan Lewis

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Senior psychology major

“We met through mutual friends in high school.”

Tim Janney

“We met in high school. He was a junior and I was a sophomore. We saw each other in school and we started talking.”

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Compiled by Dan Fox Reporter

Photos by Andrew S. Avitt Photographer

ISUSPEAKS

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Present your perfect gift Ariana M. Taylor Features Editor

Valentine’s Day is quickly approaching and many are pondering what to get their partners for this special occasion. Although some lovers may be worried because of their lack of money or preparation, there are tons of ways to create the perfect, inexpensive, last minute gift.

While presents can be expensive, the gift is ultimately up to the buyer.

Just because your best friend is buying their significant other a 2013 Audi A3, does not mean you have to “keep up with the Jones” and do the same for your partner. Inexpensive gifts are the best because they are thoughtful and they do not leave your pockets empty.

Local stores, such as Hobby Lobby and Walmart, have a lot of items, which can be purchased to assist with a creative present. If you like catering to your significant partner, you can buy card stock and cut them up into the shape of a certificate. Then take a marker, or another fancy writing utensil, and make it look like a certificate by writing, “To (insert name here), this is good for one back rub.” The certificates could also be good for other things such as a dinner date, pedicure, a night out with friends without your partner, movie date or redbox night or even homemade dinner. Your partner can use these coupons whenever he or she chooses, but you can make specific rules for them, like they can only use one per month. This thoughtful

idea allows you to cater to your partner while spreading out expenses and quality time.

Another gift idea that doesn’t cost much is making a scrapbook together or making a gift basket filled with his or her favorites. A scrapbook would require the purchase of the book, but it is a creative way for you and your partner to hold on to all of the memories you created. A couple can visit all of the places together, take pictures of every significant location and place those photos in the scrapbook while accompanying them with words, reminding you of the actual event.

On the other hand, making a gift basket is easy and shows your partner you know some of his or her favorite things. If you want to go the inexpensive route, getting various kinds of your partner’s favorite candy and placing it in a basket along with a card could be the perfect gift idea.

If you prefer to spend a little more cash, think about things your partner may need such as socks, under T-shirts, a favorite cologne or perfume and other things that could make up a nice basket.

The most important thing a man or woman can do for their partner is simply listen. It is imperative you know what your partner is interested in to get the perfect present. You should not buy your partner a basket full of snickers if they are allergic to peanuts. Trust me, I have done it before. If you are sure to take into consideration your partner’s needs and wants, there is absolutely no way you can go wrong.

Take your mate out on a date Tawni Ricketts Sports Editor

Unfortunately, central Illinois does not have miles of beach in which couples can stroll along on for a romantic night out.

But Nicholas Sparks created books and movies to set precedents and create expectations for men and women alike when it comes to the wonderfully confusing world of dating. So how do we defy these dating stereotypes and live up to these standards? Here is some foodfor-thought with a side of dating ideas:

Send her flowers

Any woman who says she does not like flowers is lying. I would know — I was one of them. That is, until I actually received a bouquet of flowers from that notorious flower delivery man that I once despised.

The truth is, most women who say they do not like flowers have probably never been given them. Is the action cliché? Absolutely. But it’s virtually impossible not to smile, even if you receive so much as a single rose. Every woman deserves to experience what this simple act of love feels like. However, if you really want to impress her—if you want to show her you are not a giant scaredy-cat — deliver the flowers personally.

Take HIM out

Ladies, it is 2013. It is OK to pay for the guy occasionally, and even to arrange the date. Take him out on HIS dream date—experience what it is like to sweat out the ideas.

Hit up the batting cages together.

Even if you have never swung a bat,

it will give him a chance to show off his said manliness and athleticism.

To those who cannot swing a bat, do not be afraid to ask for a little help at the plate. It will open the door for the physical closeness and give you each a chance to laugh or to swoon, depending on each of your particular sets of skills.

Afterward, head out for a burger and beer. Dress casually. Give him a chance to talk about what it is that interests him — sports, work — whatever it may be, but listen. It is important that both the listening and the talking go both ways.

Save money, instead spend time

Far too often the words “date” and “money” are seen as virtually synonymous. Newsflash: they are not. Sometimes it is OK to choose the more economical option. Not only will you save a little cash, but chances are the date will be more personable by eliminating all of the extraneous noise that one might experience in a restaurant, bar or a theater.

However, saving money does not necessarily mean you have to “stay in.” Sure, a comfy movie night is wonderful on some occasions, but straying a little further from that archetype is always a good idea.

Bundle up and venture outside after dark. A friendly snowball fight or sledding session encompasses laughter, opportunities for flirtation, physical closeness and a fun, competitive edge.

Bake together.

Not only will there be opportunities for flirtatious food-fighting, but creating something together will establish

a bond. In your subconscious, the sense of success and achievement will serve well as a relational foundation, all the while leaving plenty of conversational opportunity. Not to mention, everyone loves a someone who is handy in the kitchen.

All of these date-traits leave the door open for the next step, but also provides a cushion against any awkwardness that might be encountered.

Have an unorthodox picnic

Forget the cliché mid-afternoon, sandwich and fruit picnic. Instead, save your picnic for midnight and eat nothing but sweets and desserts.

And if it is cold, move the midnight picnic indoors, placing the blanket in front of the warm fireplace.

Volunteer together

Relationships are all about compassion, love, care, respect and friendship, so what better way to show your expertise in these areas than to spend a date volunteering with the apple of your eye? This is the perfect way to showcase these important relationship traits, all the while contributing to the greater good at the same time. It is a winwin situation.

No date is fool-proof, but there is more to dating than dressing to impress. Let your personality shine through the date; let it be a direct reflection of you. If you are creative, romantic, adventurous, musical, comedic — whatever you may be — choose a date that shows off those qualities. Be yourself, and the let the pieces fall where they may. Eventually, the pieces will fall right where they ought to.

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love words for love birds.

To Bianca Villarreal From Katie Meehan Happy Valentines Day! You are awesome! Glad to be called your friend! See ya around Girlie!

To Toyla McNamara From Joey Ippolito Remember the time I broke your floor?

To Emily From Manny 17 We appreciate you. You are the best RA ever!

To The Vidette From Sammi I love you enough to want a job!

To Megan, Nessa, and Krystal From Andréa It has been too long since our four person parties on Tuesday have been busted by the cops. See you next Tuesday!!

To Jarmin Summerrise From Secret Admirer I just wanted to say I saw you working at Einstein’s and I thought you were a spoonful of sexy and a sprinkle of Hot mama. Love you boo.

To Brian From Katie Happy Valentines Day, I am so glad to call you my valentine.

To Kim Nowlan From Heather VanBuskirk You are my best friend, meeting you has changed my life for the better! Love you bunches & wish only the best for you.

To Ryan Ward From Kaitie Ries Costume or not, I love you a lot. Happy first Valentines Day Ry! XOXO, Kaitie

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To Bee-rye From Ally-pie You are the chocolate to my yoohoo, the cheese to my taco dip, and the bacon to my breakfast.

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To KKMurph From Chandolla You are my bestest friend! I’m pretty sure we were twins that got separated at birth doeee hehe love you!!!

To Donnita From Shannon I love you much Nita, thanks for putting up with me.

To Kim Kean From Nicole I just wanted to tell you that I love you and am so happy you are in my life. Thanks for being a GREAT friend. Happy v-day!

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The value in understanding STIs Tim Rosenberger Reporter

Comprehending the consequences of STIs and how to become aware

Since sexually transmitted infections can cause death and are extremely common on college campuses, it is important to take the proper precautions, Jean Swearingen, medical director at ISU’s Student Health Services, said.

John Kreckman, physician at OSF Hospital in Bloomington, would guess more than 50 percent of people in the United States do not use the proper protection when having sex.

Swearingen, however, said it is

impossible to tell how many ISU students have STIs. Besides death, other serious STI effects can include infertility, cancer and reoccurring, long-term symptoms.

“It is certainly important [for schools and parents] to teach students about STIs and how to protect themselves prior to onset of sexual activity,” Swearigen said.

Safe sex can be practiced by using condoms, having a partner tested beforehand, and avoiding circumstances when unplanned and unprotected sex can occur, like getting drunk.

Students should also avoid multiple sexual partners. Numerous partners can quickly lead to a great many people getting infected, according to www.arlingtonpc.org Just the use of barrier contraceptives, however, is probably not enough to prevent STDs, Kreckman said.

Early treatment is also essential if the United States’ STI rate is to be

lowered, he added.

“It’s just awareness of it,” Kreckman said. “Just trying to keep it in [the] forefront of everyone’s thinking.”

“Most people have some knowledge of them, but it gets pushed into the back [of people’s minds],” he added.

STIs have different methods of treatment. Although gonorrhea has been exhibiting more resistance, this disease and chlamydia can usually be cured with antibiotics, Kreckman said.

Syphilis is particularly common

“It is not responsible to yourself or your partner to avoid education about STDs and to not use protection,” Swearigen said.

Herpes and HIV/AIDS can never be fully cured but the symptoms can be reduced with medication.

Genital warts are also incurable but it is possible for people to go into remission, Kreckman said.

The state of genital warts is entirely dependent on your immune system, Swearigen added.

Chlamydia is problematic, Kreckman said. Since it is not symptomatic, people frequently do not know they have it until they have already spread it to multiple partners.

Most often chlamydia is only picked up when women see their gynecologist and have a screening exam, Kreckman added.

It is also not always obvious when people have herpes, and it can be spread even when legions are not visible.

If students are looking for testing or treatment for STDs, they can visit SHS, the McLean County Health Department or prompt care.

right now, but can be treated through medicine, he said.

ISUSPEAKS

“Who is your celebrity crush?”

“Britney Spears! Definitely, I just love her.”

Regan Troutman

Senior political science major

“Sofia Regierra from Modern Family.”

Derek Myers

Senior political science major

“Evan Peters from American Horror Story.”

Vakeria Macias

Junior sociology major

“Mark Wahlberg – he is super hot!”

Desiree Vasquez

Junior sociology major

PLAY IT SAFE! 1. Always call Checker Cab. 2. Wear a condom

“Jesse McCartney.”

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Making V-day plans: Are you out or are you in?

August Cassens Night Editor

It’s Valentine’s Day, and you are making plans with your significant other for a romantic night. Should you go out to dinner and a movie? Or should you stay in, make some dinner, and just spend some quality time with the person you love?

There are many options to choose from to make Valentine’s Day a little more special than the average night with your sweetheart.

Going out A nice restaurant is a great treat.

During a busy week, with classes, meetings and work, dinner usually looks like a box of pasta and a jar of sauce. So going out together for a nice dinner will already be special.

Unfortunately, it can be expensive, especially on a budget. Choose a restaurant in a price range you both can handle. Stressing about how expensive it is while you are trying to order is not very romantic.

Going to a fancy restaurant is not a must. There are other options of going out. Try ice skating for a fun Valentine’s day date. The U.S. Cellular Coliseum offers open skate times mid-afternoon and evening on Thursdays and all weekend, and it only costs $5 to enter and $2 for skate rentals. The best part is holding on to each other so you don’t fall.

Depending on the weather, going out could simply be a sunset walk together around campus, holding hands and sharing memories.

Staying in Though it may feel like the boring thing to do on Valentine ’s Day, there are so many ways you can spice up a night in with your valentine.

Ordering food in can be delicious and relaxing. There is no stress with making reservations or getting dressed up. Instead, you can cozy up on the couch, grab a blanket, order something delicious and just relax with each other.

Making food together can also be a fun and intimate experience. From buying the ingredients, to cooking around the stove together, to setting a table with candles, a fancy dinner at home can be the sweetest thing you do together all year. It is a great time to talk and laugh together.

While you can go to a movie at the theatre, renting a movie at home is much cheaper and more comfortable.

With Netflix and Redbox, watching a movie is cheap, and a great way to spend some quality time with your significant other.

Staying in opens up the opportunity to relieve the stresses of life and share some simple moments. Valentine’s day is not about the chocolate, flowers, or who is paying the dinner bill — it is about appreciating your valentine and taking time out to say “I love you” and remember why you are together.

No matter what you do, make sure to take a moment and look into each other’s eyes and laugh together.

Appreciating one other is what the day is all about.

Going the distance for love Caitlin Perry Night Editor

When it comes to a long distance relationship, some may describe them as difficult, while others may say they are rewarding. Having been with the same person in a long distance relationship for quite some time, I know being apart is tiring, but it also makes reuniting that much sweeter.

Many people imagine meeting their perfect partner, falling in love and living together happily ever after. Unfortunately, this is not always the case as maybe the responsibilities of school and work are separating you and your loved one for extended amounts of time.

Maybe you and your partner met when you already lived far apart.

Either way, you should not let distance convince you a relationship is impossible.

While beginning a long distance relationship may seem intimidating at first, there are many ways in which you and your partner can help your relationship succeed.

Before you establish your long distance relationship, discuss your expectations with your partner.

Open communication is a must in any relationship, especially one in which you will be apart from each other for extended periods of time.

How often will you plan on seeing each other? How will you communicate day-to-day? Will there be a point down the road when you move in together? These are important ideas to keep in mind.

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Visiting each other may be the most exciting and stressful part of a long distance relationship. While counting down to the next time you will see your loved one can provide motivation, traveling can be complicated and stressful. Communicate with your partner about how often either of you can find the time and money to visit. Try to take turns visiting so costs are split.

Communicating long distance is different for every couple. Some feel the need to talk multiple times every day, while others are okay with talking once a day a few times a week.

Establishing how you will communicate, and whether it will be through phone calls, text messages, emails, video chats or even written letters, is important. Knowing what you both want and expect will lessen the chance of disappointment and

arguments later on.

As your long distance relationship progresses, there may come a point in which you and your partner have to establish how you will continue your relationship. Staying long distance can slowly wear couples out — not being able to see each other in person mixed with missed phone calls and dropped video chats can make anyone crazy. While some couples may thrive on the distance and independence between them, many need to be together to succeed.

Make sure to be open in discussing what you think will work best and if you have any future plans.

A long distance relationship, like any relationship, requires a lot of work, trust and, of course, love.

Times may be difficult when you are apart, but keep in mind how great it will be when you are back together.

Whether you are 80 miles or 800 miles apart, love can survive the distance, and will be worth it.

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Students have questions, and Student Health Services has answers. Here are some facts and common misconceptions for students to help clear up those uncomfortable questions.

For students who are wondering if they are suffering from an STI, or want to take precaution, there is hope. Student Health Services (SHS) offers STD testing for males and females. If it is just a visit, the price is $10. Depending on the test students are looking for, the price may vary and will be determined upon making the appointment.

For women under the age of 25, being tested annually for chlamydia and gonorrhea is recommended. Being checked for all sexually transmitted diseases should be done yearly by a student’s primary care provider.

At age 21, women should get a pap smear and if the result comes back normal, then women only need to be checked every three years.

If students do not want to take care of this business at home, there are seven physicians and four nurses who are qualified to help right here at Student Health Services. An important thought to keep in mind is health services professionals on campus are equally as qualified as the doctor’s office you rely on at home.

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“All of the doctors working for Student Health Services are ‘real doctors’ trained in primary care, either family medicine or internal medicine. All of them were in private medical practice before coming to SHS,” Dr. Swearingen, medical director of ISU Student Health Services, said.

“By going to SHS, students are still getting the proper care they need.”

Some students may be afraid of having an awkward conversation about contraceptives with their families.

If students are looking to take matters into their own hands, then there are a variety of options through SHS for contraceptives. The pharmacy on campus carries many different prescriptions, over-the-counter products and condoms.

“I think it’s good that students are thinking about their health now and for the future,” Shannon Zierk, sophomore elementary education major, said. “For students who are sexually active getting regular check-ups are essential, and there is no such thing as a stupid question. For all students who are 18 or older, the doctor’s appointments are confidential.”

If students have questions they can also contact the Nurse Consult at (309)438-7676. These conversations are confidential and nurses are available to answer any medical questions students may be unsure about. Additional information is available through shs.illinoisstate. edu.

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