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As fall approaches, Women2Women Michigan Magazine is also coming into a season of change. We are growing and shifting in our dedication and purpose. We are striving to bring you the very best we can in a publication that empowers, inspires and supports our readers and our community. Through change, we are learning how to evolve into a more dynamic platform and set higher goals for our standards and possibilities. Our themes for this issue of Resilience and Aspirations compliment what we have endured and what we hope to become. We are thrilled to have Judith Guest, the author of Ordinary People, grace our cover. Her trials and tribulations in trying to get published reflects on how one’s resilience can lead to fruition of their aspirations. Read how this fascinating woman, who is a great-niece of a laureate poet, kept the spirit of writing alive and became a successful novelist. After reading about Judith Guest, find out how “Creativity Takes Courage” with Beth Bryce, learn about goal setting through Deborah St. Hilaire’s article, “Aspirations” and enjoy the ever entertaining Ron Estrada as he explores the concepts of the empty nester. We would like to welcome our newest addition to our writing team, Cheri Schultz. Cheri is a life coach and enlightens us with her article, “3 Ways to Push Yourself The Extra Mile”.
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Judith Guest’s trajectory from teacher to accomplished novelist and screenwriter began in midlife in Birmingham, Michigan.
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Letters from the Publisher & Editor
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Aspirations
Calendar of Events
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Comfort: Easing In and Filling Up
Shades of Faith
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Halloween How To
Ask Shuntai
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A Look At Bay View
Books, Bytes & Beyond
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Eat Your Greens
Shameless Moxie
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3 Ways to Push Yourself the Extra Mile
Simply Living
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Art@Work
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Recipes
Our Heros
Creativity Takes Courage
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Music Review ~ Elizabeth Reed
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5 Tips for Fabulous Fall Wardrobe
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National Library Card Sign-up Month Show your library card and save money at over 40 Genesee County restaurants, theaters, florists and more. Stop by your favorite branch for a list of participants. www.thegdl.org
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Want your Children to be Homeowners? Teach Them Early. Children only know what they are taught. If you want them to become home owners, you have to teach them from the start.
I started instilling the dream of home ownership in my son Wyatt when he was young. If I brought something home he liked, I didn’t say, “Someday you’ll inherit that.” Instead I said, “That will go in your first home.” Another example was our jet ski. I registered it in his name while he was in college with the understanding that he would not sell it for 3 years. 6 months later, Wyatt came home from college and said “Mom, I’ve decided to sell my jet ski.” He explained that he would be working out of town next summer, and wouldn’t have a chance to use it. I reminded him of our 3-year agreement.
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No Ordinary Woman
udith Guest’s trajectory from teacher to accomplished novelist and screenwriter began in midlife in Birmingham, Michigan. In our interview Guest said, “I had three kids and was teaching grade school when I tried my hand at writing again. At age 40, I entered a short story writing contest and won 60th prize, which was a book by Richard Perry called, One Way To Write Your Novel. I read it and decided I knew all that stuff already. I started writing Ordinary People in the fall of 1972 and finished it in 1974, after which I sent it to two publishers who rejected it before Viking Press bought it in 1975.” Viking Press published the novel in 1976. It won the Janet Heidegger Kafka Prize for best first novel that year. Ordinary People was adapted into a feature film in 1979 and won six Academy Awards, including Best Picture, Best Screenplay and Best Director for first-time director Robert Redford in 1980. Guest’s intimate portrayal of the unraveling of a seemingly ordinary family after a sudden tragedy and the intimate depiction of therapy for Conrad - the grieving brother trying to get back to a normal life –
“I have this need to examine dysfunction and its extraordinary reach into the future of its victims.”
is quietly riveting. The movie won praise for casting Mary Tyler Moore in her role as the cold, efficient mother as she falls into a spiral of denial. Moore’s role as Laura Petrie in the 60’s Dick Van Dyke Show left her typecast as a perky brunette until Ordinary People. Guest is the great niece of Edgar A. Guest, who was the poet laureate of Michigan and who wrote a poem a day for 40 years and was syndicated in the Detroit Free Press for most of that time. He and Guest’s grandfather were brothers, and her grandfather, Harry R. Guest, published Edgar’s first collection of poems, back in the early 20’s. Guest said, “I think I got my endurance from Edgar, which allows me to work on something for more than ten years at a time and not get tired. I come from a family of five kids, as did our father, Harry R. Guest, Jr. We grew up in Detroit, lived for a year in northern Michigan in a log house our dad built while he was selling pulp paper and electric saws that cut down trees. I attended many grade schools in Detroit while growing up, went to Mumford High School in Detroit and Royal Oak High School in Royal Oak Michigan, a suburb of Detroit. I graduated from the University of Michigan with a degree in Education, taught school in Birmingham, Michigan, during which time I wrote novels in the closet, never showing them to anyone.”
Actually, it took me 3 years to write Ordinary People and 7 years to write Second Heaven and 10 to write Errands, so I guess on paper at least it looks like it’s getting harder with each novel I write!” Insights “Each novel takes as long as it takes, and that it has nothing to do with how good or bad you are as a writer. Novels are hard to write. Period. Everyone knows that, so this is not a newsflash.” Encouraging Words for Aspiring Writers “If you want to write, the best thing to do is just keep on writing. And then write some more. It’s good discipline, it gives you material to work with and edit, and it keeps you off the streets. Literally.” Here are Guest’s three favorite rules for writing, from one of her favorite writers of all time (also a Michigander), Elmore Leonard: Never use a verb other than ‘said’ to carry dialogue; Never use an adverb to modify the verb ‘said’”—he admonished gravely; Try to leave out the part that readers tend to skip. “Good advice, yeah!” Guest is still writing and intends to serialize her two latest novels on her website in the fall of 2015. She said, “In addition to writing full-time, I also play bad golf, spend a lot of time reading at the beach and hang out with my grandkids. That’s pretty much my life, as I see it.” Guest splits her time between Minnesota and Northeast Michigan. Look for her two new novels A Different Life a sequel to Second Heaven and White in the Moon a sequel to The Tarnished Eye available in the fall of 2015 on Guest’s website: JudithGuest.com Judith Guest will be part of the Lake Huron Discovery Tour with an event ‘A Conversation with Author Judith Guest’ planned for Saturday, October 10, 2015 at 2pm at the Harrisville Arts Council Building. For information visit www. us23heritageroute.org under events for October 10th.
Mary Ellen Jones is a former television producer,
freelance writer and filmmaker living in Harrisville, MI. She can be reached at mejonmv@gmail.com.
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The Process “I write because I love it, have always loved doing it since I was a kid. I love words. I love writing dialogue. Mostly, I write in the morning, after which I fill myself back up by seeing friends, reading lots of novels and running errands, to get more material for what I do in the morning. I’ve done it since I was a kid. I wrote my first western novel at age 9, my first romance novel when I was 13. They were both pretty short, because I gave up on them when I encountered some unsolvable problems. Don’t ask what they were, it’s too embarrassing to tell. I wrote some while I was in college, but I was pretty busy falling in love and getting good grades. I never took a writing course. I think I was too intimidated by the other students around me.” Genres “The novel is probably my expertise. I’ve written five of them including Ordinary People, Second Heaven (1982) and Errands (1997) all dealing with adolescent children forced to deal with a crisis in their family.” Guest co-authored the mystery Killing Time in St. Cloud (1988) with fellow novelist Rebecca Hill. Her most recent book, The Tarnished Eye (2004), is loosely based on a real unsolved crime in her native Michigan. Guest also wrote the screenplay for the 1987 film Rachel River adapted from three short stories by Carol Bly. She said, “I have also written a screenplay for my novel, The Tarnished Eye and am currently working on two others, both westerns and tentatively titled, Orphan Train and Orphan Train 2. I basically write screenplays for my own amusement because of the difficulties involved in ever having them come to fruition as movies. I keep trying to think of something I can do with them, like maybe serializing them on my website, because I love the genre and love working in it.” “I have also written a personal essay on becoming a grandmother at the same time that my father was dying. It’s called Icewalk and was published by Milkweed Editions, an alternative press based in Minnesota. This past winter, Guest wrote a play tentatively entitled Clara, A Life in Nine Scenes based on 50 years of diaries of a woman, Clara Ritter, who lived in Minneapolis from1898 until she died in 1970. She said, “I am working on the second draft of this play and hope to have it produced sometime before I die!” Biggest Struggles as a Successful Writer “I think to keep writing after the first success was the hardest thing. It’s hard not to buy all the hype around Best First Novel of 1976. So, if I’m that good, how come this next novel is so hard?
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I hum when I think of veterans. They inspire me with their courage. For someone who shrieks when her husband walks up behind her too quietly, the thought of having to protect another soldier or oneself amidst gunfire in the middle of a raging war – is just too much to comprehend. I marvel at their grit, stamina, and sacrifice. Frankly, though, because most veterans are so humble, or perhaps too emotionally traumatized to mention their experiences, we often don’t know they served. But I know a few good veterans and their lives matter despite the fact they keep the horrors locked inside. Take Mike. He served in the 82nd Airborne in both Afghanistan and Iraq. One warm afternoon, he called his mother from those foreign lands and cried over the death of a friend who had stepped on a landmine. One minute they had been laughing and walking – the next, his brother in war was dead. “What can I say to his mother?” Mike kept repeating as he wanted to soothe another – rather than his own broken heart. Serving others is a common value all vets share. Today, though, I met another vet. He whispered when he spoke – the victim of a war- damaged trachea. He, like Mike, spoke little of the past but focused on helping others with the assistance of a team of other Vietnam Vets who want to do good for others. Not once did he speak of himself, but spent a half hour thinking of ways he could be a part of a team to serve. Every vet seems to have this quality. I know a Dave who helped his neighbors until the day he died; a Paul who buys lunch for volunteers three times a week; and a John who spends countless hours taking care of his 89 year old mother. To serve. The men and women who served and still serve in our Armed Forces are a special breed. They stand on fields of death and still find ways provide a helping hand, a meal, or an act of kindness. I’m humming again. “And crown thy good with brotherhood from Sea to Shining Sea…”
Helen Hicks is an award-winning administrator and motivational speaker living in the Detroit area. You can reach her at helenk7306@hotmail.com.
My mother unexpectedly passed away about a year ago. My daughter and her grandmother were very close. Unfortunately, over the past 7 months my 14 year old daughter has been experiencing restlessness, tension in her neck, issues with falling asleep, and she is constantly worrying about me leaving her. I think she is experiencing anxiety and believe it to be related to her having a difficult time with my mother’s death. Can you provide information on the signs of anxiety and how I can help my daughter? Thanks, Worried Mom Dear Worried Mom, First, I would like to extend my condolences for the untimely passing of your mother. Based on your description it sounds like your daughter may be presenting signs of Anxiety along with her bereavement. However, without a formal evaluation of your daughter it is only speculative at this point. There are several different types of Anxiety Disorders. Therefore, I would recommend that you make an appointment with a mental health professional to have your daughter evaluated. According to the Jongsma (2014) here are some of the signs of Anxiety: Excessive anxiety, worry or fear that markedly exceeds the normal level for the client’s stage of development. High level of motor tension, such as restlessness, tiredness, shakiness, or muscle tension. Automatic hyperactivity (e.g. rapid heartbeat, shortness of breath, dizziness, dry mouth, nausea, diarrhea). Feeling constantly on edge, concentration difficulty, trouble falling asleep or staying asleep, and a general state of irritability. A specific fear that has become generalized to cover a wide area and has reached the point where it significantly interferes with the clients and hi/her family’s daily life. You’re doing a great job, Worried Mom, because you are aware of your daughter’s struggle and you’re trying to helping her to overcome them. Best of luck, Source: Jongsma, Arthur E., L. Mark. Peterson, William P. McInnis, and Timothy J. Bruce. The Adolescent Psychotherapy Treatment Planner.
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She tugged at her mother’s well worn blue smock, “Why do you read so many books, paint so much and keep taking classes?” , the sweet little blonde girl asked. Looking down, she lovingly gazed into her daughter’s tiny future woman face and replied “I try to learn something new everyday. I aspire to continually evolve into the best version of myself. Learning is one of my mediums.” The supple mother pulled her daughter up on to her lap. As they sunk deeply into the large over stuffed chair together laughing, she continued, “we are the artists of our own lives. We have endless mediums, at our fingertips, we are able to create a masterpiece that will live on in the minds and hearts those we touch.” “So, reading is like a pencil?” The tiny girl giggled. “Yes, and love is a paint brush and each day a fresh canvas. We get to choose the oil colors, the scenery, the people and the style. Love leaves a permanent mark, enjoy it.” “Sometimes I make a mess with them”, she frowned, looking down at her hands, as if remembering yesterday’s yellow and blue disaster. “Yes, we all do. The beauty is, we can turn our canvas back to white and start all over again doing it better each time.” The young mother looked into the distance as she continued, “we sometimes choose water colors. They are soft although less forgiving. They are precious like dreams or fond memories”. “When you make a mistake, you learn, throw it away and start again”. “Should I just make one giant masterpiece?” “Well, that’s up to you”, she went on, “you can make many small ones leading up to your giant one by setting goals and having dreams. Your colors can be mixed with kindness,
faith and good deeds. You can change the feel by adding layers, texture with the tools you use, developing more and more as you grow into a true artist.” She scrunched up her nose asking “Do I need to be famous?” “No, but you might be”, she pulled her close and said “your dreams, goals and aspirations are as individual as works of art, each is different. Some are hung in museums for all to see, some in wealthy homes and some on refrigerators. All are masterpieces, if they are the best work of the artist. “True wealth is touching lives, being authentic and remaining open to change.” The little girl tenderly touched her mother’s cheek, looked deeply into her eyes and said “I aspire to be like you, mommy, always my best me.” Her feet hit the ground and off she went to get her paints. The young mother, wiping away a tear, walked back to her studio. She aspired to become a famous artist. This piece was small. Her masterpiece would come. She was getting braver. She was becoming comfortable with her style and strength. This one was her best… When you dream, dream big. Make it yours! Don’t settle. Create the future you want to live, then invite others to see it.
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“If you hear a voice within you say you cannot paint, then by all means paint, and that voice will be silenced. “ – Vincent Van Gogh
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Drift with me and think back to your childhood. Did you giggle as you worked through the entire box of 64 crayons? Completely lose track of time playing with glitter, pens, and paint? Or build a fort in your bedroom with blankets and suddenly transport yourself to a forest in a faraway land? There was no such thing as judgement, fear of failure, or “I can’t”. There was just your imagination on a quest for pure joy. We need more joy. A recent poll showed that 95% of 5 year olds are creative compared to 5% of 45 year olds. What happens to us between the ages of 5 and 45 and how is the joy sucked out of our lives? Oh I’m sure it’s something like responsibilities, family, and work. But if those valid excuse, even so, it’s true and lame? At what age was your desire to be creative squelched? Let’s rephrase the question; at what age did you become too busy to seek joy? Someone, likely a woman, came up with a brilliant idea to host wine and painting parties where you actually paint your own canvas or the group paints one canvas together. Either way, it’s especially fun when you add wine! It never fails though, there are a few women who feel the need to announce, “I can’t paint, I’m no good, and it’s not my thing.” Sigh…Just paint already! Why do we do this to ourselves? Fear of failure and ridicule creeps in. We didn’t fear at five years old, so somewhere along the line we learned this. We need to unlearn this. As a career coach I have encountered many Creatives, friends and clients that have creative professions such as Chefs, Makeup Artists, Designers, Event Planners, Photographers, Artists, Musicians, Writers, Teachers, and Accountants. Yes, accountants can be creative too. What I’ve noticed is Creatives share characteristics that
take courage and lead them to the path of creativity, self-expression, and joy. If you are seeking to explore your creative side, get courageous and channel your inner Vincent Van Gogh by acting “as if ”: Follow their Passion – Creatives are true to their heart and believe beyond a shadow of doubt that their “art” is their life purpose. It’s worth the blood, sweat, and tears to follow their dreams. Not following their passion is like death. Be Curious – Creatives ask questions that beg “why” and “what if ”? They are also really good at dreaming, visioning, and dwelling in possibilities. Find Solitude – Creatives enjoy being alone and sometimes with no set agenda, imagine that. It’s like nectar to their spirit. Alone time is critical to exploration and dabbling in joy. Embrace change – Creatives continually shake things up. They are generally okay with change and truly get a little antsy when life is too comfortable and steady. Steady is kin to Nyquil. Be Adventurous – Creatives seek new experiences. Always up for a game, they like the exotic and trying on new people, places, and things with a Dr. Seuss attitude, “Oh, where will I go today”? Girlfriend, you are a Creative and the good news is you can relearn how to be. By all means, just paint!
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Simply Living
Lowering expectations (just a little) can lead to a happier life. If you find yourself in the housewares section of department stores as often as I do (ahem!), you’ll see “the signs.” “Dream Big,” “Be Amazing,” and the “Succeed!” shout words of encouragement and expectation from their shelves. As a word nerd, I’ve been a fan of these kinds of decorations, but there’s something about them that niggles at me lately; something that feels a bit off. I felt it most acutely when my daughter Kristina graduated from high school a few months ago. Her cards were filled with sentiments encouraging her to follow her dreams, aim for the stars, and live the kind of life she has dared to imagine. Of course there’s nothing wrong with wanting the best for someone. No one wants to wish someone an average, mediocre life. It’s simply the air of expectation in the demands that concerns me. Succeed. Achieve. Believe. Dream. The plea that she “Be the change you wish to see in the world” has me wondering how many young adults will ultimately feel like they are perpetually falling short as they live their everyday lives. At Kristina’s graduation ceremony, I saw the expectation of greatness in parents’ faces (and maybe even felt it in my own). After all, many of our children have been given terrific opportunities in their short lives. The time has come for them to make the most of it all. To suck the marrow. Carpe diem. Fly. I’d like to interrupt all those good wishes to simply say wait. Slow down. Life is so much more than achievement, an ever-expanding resume or living the dream. The quality of life cannot be measured by success or failure or whether one lived up to the high (and sometimes unreasonable)
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expectations of others. In fact, the quality of life cannot truly be measured at all. Those of us who have been at this life-thing for a while know that the greatest joys are found in unexpected places. They are found in books, movies or poems that somehow manage to affect us so profoundly that we live our wild lives in new ways. They are found in growing backyard tomatoes, watching the dappled light filter through a crowd of trees, and appreciating the way the morning fog hovers over an open field. They are found in walking barefoot through new grass in the spring, listening to the waves on a beach in summer, heading toward the woods at the height of autumn color, and noticing the beauty of the season’s first snow. Mostly, joy is found in those rare and beautiful moments when we care more about someone else than we do our own persistent troubles … when we take the time to look to the heavens and trust, even when the outlook is bleak … when we put one foot in front of the other in spite of how we’re feeling that day … when we choose to forgive and love. As my daughter begins the next season of her life, my hope is that she can find joy in her own unexpected places, and that she builds much more than a resume. If I could, I’d hang the following word sign on her heart: “Live a good life. Love God. Love others.” Most of the time, it will be enough.
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Growing with Changing Needs of Passengers When people think of public transportation they think of a bus running up and down the street picking up at select bus stops, but today public transportation is totally different and we have emerging needs that exist within our cities, the county, and in adjoining counties. Even though the population in the city has declined and the county population remains stable, the needs for services are increasing exponentially. Therefore, public transportation systems today must develop a variety of specialty services to meet these emerging needs. As people live longer, they are experiencing medical conditions that require an increasing amount of public transportation to access medical services. In the past, a number of these individuals will be living in nursing homes and other extended care facilities, but today it is all about the quality of life and the ability to remain in your home and be as independent as possible. Therefore, public transportation must step up to meet this increasing need to provide non-emergency
medical transportation type services. Throughout our community, we have witnessed a number of grocery stores closing and today we have areas that are considered food deserts. Once again, it is incumbent upon public transportation to step up and help the people within the community. It is all about the quality of life in our community and public transportation can make a real difference. Today a number of individuals are employed in a number of part time positions, often working two and three jobs and some of these jobs are located outside of the Flint/Genesee County area. Public transportation in Genesee County must take an aggressive role to provide transportation to other communities so that people living in our area can access these jobs. Today it is all about ensuring that we make every effort to improve and maintain a sustainable quality of life in our community. We are very proud of our service, our employees, and the great partnerships that we have in the Flint/Genesee County.
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Comfort: Easing In and Filling Up
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Surprisingly comfort is defined in the dictionary as an “easing from pain, grief or physical discomfort.” This description seems incredibly inept. Comfort is so much more, so much fuller, richer, tastier and more joyous. Isn’t comfort more of an ‘easing into’ instead of an easing from? When we enjoy comfort, we experience a filling up mentally, emotionally and spiritually. When faced with problems, I seek comfort because it is a launching pad of new ideas and inspirations!! I find solutions in the easing – as I ease into a place of richness. Comfort is not just a reduction of sad or negative feelings. It is also a giving to, sharing with and adding on to teeny, lofty, tiny, and life-size sensations!! Creating and Enjoying Comfort As Scott Peck informed us a long time ago in The Road Less Traveled, “life is difficult.” So if I can’t count on life to comfort me, then I will create comfort every which way I can – with my people, places and things. In my home, I create comfort with music and colors and pictures, open windows and rocking chairs. I decorate for any holiday I can conjure up because the festive, fun and joy comfort me! When my children were little, we all went couch hunting. The perfect couch had to hold, hug and comfort the three of us as we grew up and older together. This was our sacred space of laughter and reassurance, tears and storytelling. It is where we smoothed out the rough edges of life and renewed our spirits. Outside, I am comforted by a big sky view to enjoy sunshine and clouds, sunrises and sunsets. And the moon – oh, the glorious colors and shapes and illumination of the moon can be breathtaking!! In my yard, I fill feeders and plant bushes and cone flowers so I will be surrounded by butterflies and birds. And the trees; did I mention I love trees? The life-giving breath we share with trees is truly amazing! Marjolein Bastin writes: “If you see the trees swaying to the tune of a playful breeze … think of it as a dance in your honor.” I’ve also discovered I’m a neighborhood girl. I know my neighbors and local shopkeepers, bank tellers and post office workers by name and more. These comforting connections bring me joy, laughter and a great deal of loving kindness.
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Then I return home and swing - a lot. I glide back and forth as all these incredible living things ease me, renew me, comfort me. Comfort takes Courage Even though ‘experts’ tell us to be courageous and step out of our comfort zone, I think the opposite is true. I believe it takes courage to be comfortable. They talk about our comfort zone as if it is a place of stuckness, staleness. But honestly, when you feel stuck, how much comfort are you really enjoying?? Just to be clear, I am a big supporter of thinking outside the box – making new connections, trying on different points of view. But we should not confuse our comfort zone with the box filled with habitual thinking. When I step outside the box and try something new that works great, I am totally in my comfort zone. Everything is in sync and I feel strong, inspired and successful!! In reality, comfort takes courage. Being comfortable requires a willingness to release fear, grief and anxiety; and this truly takes courage. Letting go of what holds us back or binds us up and step into joy and connections and dreams takes a Mighty Girl!! Easing into comfort doesn’t have to be difficult. We can readily create comfort by tickling our senses. Music for the soul, pictures that spark pleasant memories, favorite foods that truly satisfy, dancing like nobody’s watching, and physical expressions of affection – all provide comfort. Laughter or nature or reaching for the stars – anything that smoothes out the rough edges of life for you is comfort. And I encourage you to ease in and fill up as often as you can! My people, places and things that ease my mind, fill my heart and renew my soul are my comfort. And the more I’m with them, the better I feel! Ahh, now that my work is done, I’m ready for my penny loafers, favorite chair and a bowl of macaroni and cheese …
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Halloween How-To:
Last year, I felt like there was something missing in my Halloween Spook-tacular decor. For this year’s festive haunting, I want to incorporate a little sparkle to all that spooks. Everybody knows that every ghoul loves a little glitter. What better way to dress up your doorstep pumpkin then with an easy transformation? WOMEN2WOMEN MICHIGAN • www.w2wmichigan.com
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Materials: Assorted pumpkins, real or artificial Extra fine glitter in copper, green, black and purple. Glue Small sponge brush Paper grocery sack, flattened, to catch access glitter Small paint brush
Place your grocery sack down in your work area to catch the glitter. Cover the pumpkin with glue. Work in small sections at a time especially if working with larger pumpkins, otherwise your glue will start to dry before you get the glitter on. Also, you do not need to put glue on the bottom. Just put glue down far enough where you won’t see anymore of the original pumpkin. Try different patterns, a face or just put glue on the top of the pumpkin. The options are endless and the results are sure to dazzle. Cover with glitter and knock off the extra. Once you have your pumpkin design complete, set aside and let dry. I recommend letting your pumpkin sit overnight.
A Look At Bay View Some of my best memories from my adolescence were spent with my mother in Bay View, near Petoskey. It’s a small place, founded by the Methodist Church in 1875 as a summer retreat. From the onset, this tiny community has prided itself on its roots: religious expression, culture and music. In the early days, the community centered around lectures, concerts and recitals all with the shimmering background of Lake Michigan in the distance. Today, Bay View is home to 440 of the coziest little cottages you ever saw, most built around 1890. The Bay View Inn, dating from this same period, is still a mainstay in community. Though Sunday vespers are still observed, the concerts in Bay View are more secular in nature now, including shows featuring the Conservatory of Music and also theatrical performances. Petoskey is a short skip away from this dreamy goldenweather retreat community, and though Bay View may not be non-stop thrills, it is the perfect place to unwind and spend some quality time with family or someone special. The beach near Bay View is a short walk over the bridge, a tiny secluded spot bordered by rock, ideal for perching and
watching the waves. A walk around the streets of Bay View is a feast for the eyes, each cottage more whimsical than the last. All fairytale shutters and brightly painted doors, each house named something quaint or fanciful. For truly delicious food, be sure to stop by the Roselawn Dining room at the Bay View Inn, or The 1911 Restaurant at The Terrace Inn. If coffee is your poison of choice, you can’t do better than Roast and Toast down the street in Petoskey. And while in town, stop by American Spoon for the best gelato outside out Italy. Bay View is pure Michigan. A creative community with a vibrant history, the sound of Lake Michigan waves humming in the background and the comfort of memories to be shared.
Alexandria Nolan is a misplaced Michigander currently living in the wilds of the Houston urban jungle with her husband and two spoiled pets. She is a published novelist and contributor to various online and print publications, including a lifestyle blog, Greetings from Nolandia. When not writing, she can be found reading or traveling, or reading about traveling.
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There’s More to See on 23!
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The US 23 Heritage Route, an official Pure Michigan Byway, winds its way for 200 miles along the Sunrise Coast from Standish to Mackinaw City passing 366 miles of coastline, spectacular scenic views of Lake Huron, 6,000 miles of crystal clear rivers and streams, and over 3,300 water bodies. Gems nestled along the Sunrise Coast include 16 lighthouses, over 200 parks and campgrounds, hundreds of miles of hiking, biking, skiing, horseback riding, motor, and water trails, unique museums, art galleries, true up north small towns, hundreds of cottages and resorts, wine tasting, fine dining, and more. The US 23 Heritage Route website, www.heritage23.com, offers a fantastic tool allowing visitors access to over 1,500 attractions to add to their touring itinerary of the Byway. Visitors can make personalized maps showing the types of attractions they are interested in and driving directions to assist them. Following are some highlights that visitors can expect! Standish and AuGres Kick off your tour in Standish at the historic train depot on the corner of US 23 and M-61. The Standish/AuGres area offers may opportunities for outdoor fun at the numerous campgrounds and canoe liveries. The Rifle River travels through downtown Omer on its way to Lake Huron and is one of the fastest, most popular trout streams in the Lower Peninsula. Fishing, birding and wildlife watching opportunities abound around Saginaw Bay. Tawas Bay Continue north to Tawas Bay and Tawas Point – the “Cape Cod of the Midwest”. The Tawas Point Light is the only true Victorian-era station on the Great Lakes. Tawas Point is a mecca of birders and is recognized as one of the Midwest’s premier birding destinations. For birders who want to go off the beaten path, follow the brochures to the Tuttle Marsh National Wildlife Area….a 400-acre impoundment surrounded by 5,000 acres of wetlands. AuSable & Oscoda Continue north to the sugar sand beaches of AuSable and Oscoda. Turn left in Oscoda onto the River Road National Scenic Byway which follows alongside the mighty AuSable River. Visit the attractions along the route including majestic scenic overlooks, trails, and steep sand dunes sloping down to the river. Don’t miss Lumberman’s Monument with 260 steps down to the river where you can board a Wanigan (replica of a floating cook shack).
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Harrisville Keep heading north and to find Harrisville State Park offering pristine beaches and Negwegon State Park offering trails, Native American history, and backcountry camping. Nestled between the two is Sturgeon Point Lighthouse. Alongside the light sits Old Bailey School – a one room schoolhouse that is open for tours. Travel west of Harrisville on M-72 into the Huron National Forest to access Reid Lake Quiet Area – a 3,000 acre backcountry experience with 12 miles of foot trails and Hoist Lakes Foot Travel Area which contains over 10,000 acres of forestland and over 20 miles of foot trails.
Harrisville, MI Artist Janet Unalp’s portrait of our cover girl Mary Ellen Jones from the January/February issue in pastel. See more of Unalp’s work at the Dragonfly Gallery in Downtown Harrisville during the Lake Huron Discovery Tour. Alpena & Thunder Bay Head north into Alpena on Thunder Bay. The Thunder Bay National Marine Sanctuary protects over 200 shipwrecks lying in what is known as “Shipwreck Alley”. The first ships began passing Thunder Bay on their way to outposts at Mackinaw, Sault Ste. Marie, and Green Bay in the 1600’s. Its location along shipping lanes and its shelter for vessels during inclement weather contributed to the vast number of shipwrecks which now lay
preserved in the cold, fresh water of Thunder Bay. Visitors can view the shipwrecks by snorkeling, kayaking, or in the glassbottomed boat departing from the Maritime Heritage Center. Or visit a local dive charter and get a close-up view of the haunting wrecks in deeper waters. Presque Isle & Rogers City North of Alpena and Grand Lake, two lighthouses are situated close together in what is known as “Presque Isle”. The Old Presque Isle Light (1840), the “Ghost Light” which reportedly still shines even though the light has been removed, and the New Presque Isle Light (1870) which is the tallest lighthouse tower accessible by the public on the Great Lakes. Both towers are open to climbing. In Rogers City, divert west on M-68 to Ocqueoc Falls where visitors can swim in the largest waterfall in the Lower Peninsula. It is the first universally-accessible waterfall in the nation. Back on US 23, a bike path runs alongside US 23 and Lake Huron from Rogers City to Hoeft State Park and 40 Mile Point Light. Cheboygan & Mackinaw City The river town of Cheboygan is the intersecting point of the North Central State Trail and the North Eastern State Trail – two rail trails which connect the coastal area to other destinations. While in Cheboygan, visit the Opera House and the four lighthouses visible from Cheboygan. Continue north to visit Historic Mill Creek Discovery Park – a hands-on experience in logging with an adventure component consisting of a zip line and forest canopy bridge. In Mackinaw City, visit one of the many parks with views of the Straits and the Mighty Mackinac Bridge or one of many historic sites or shops in the city. Wait until dark and head out to
The Headlands International Dark Sky Park and gaze into the heavens in wonder, as Mother Nature puts on a spectacular show! About Us US 23 was designated a “Heritage Route” in 2004. In 2014, the name of the statewide program was changed by the Legislature to “Pure Michigan Byways”. The US 23 Heritage Route has elected to maintain the “heritage route” brand in its name, but to add the tagline “A Pure Michigan Byway” to its promotional materials. The US 23 Heritage Route program is a volunteer-based promotional byway program that is managed by NEMCOG. The program is overseen by a Management Council consisting of community members and agencies from the six-county area. In addition, a US 23 Team exists in each of the six counties. The program maintains its own award-winning website, which recently topped half a million pages viewed, where businesses and communities can request editing accounts to add their own material to the site for free. In addition, the program distributes coordinating promotional brochures to Welcome Centers around the state. The development of interpretive maps for the coastal corridor is an on-going program. The Sunrise Coast Birding Trail map is the first of the interpretive maps to be developed. Stay tuned for more themed maps to come! To get involved in the US 23 program, please contact Denise Cline at dmcline@nemcog.org. This article written by Denise Cline, Chief Planner/Deputy Director of NEMCOG, (NORTHEAST MICHIGAN COUNCIL OF GOVERNMENTS) discusses in depth, all of the assets along the U.S. 23 corridor both arts & culture and natural beauty by county. Plus 4 mini-documentaries have been loaded on the U.S. 23 website on Shipwreck Alley, Oqueoc Falls, Tuttle Marsh and Historic Mill Creek.
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Recipe
Caramel Apple In A Glass 4 c of apple cider 4 shots of caramel vodka Ice cubes caramel sauce and cinnamon for garnish
Mix apple cider and vodka in a pitcher. Drizzle caramel sauce on rim of glasses and sprinkle with cinnamon. Put ice cubes in glasses and add apple cider and vodka. Sip at your leisure. *Can be served warm, as well.
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½ onion, chopped 2 ½ clove garlic, minced 2 ¼ c cubed butternut squash 3 tablespoons butter 1 c vegetable stock 3 c water ⅛ tsp ground thyme or basil ¼ tsp ground black pepper 1 pinch of nutmeg 4 carrots, chopped 1 potato, cubed Smoked Gouda cheese, grated
Sauté onions and garlic with butter until browned. Add squash, carrots, potato, vegetable stock, and water. Stir in peppers and thyme or basil. Add a pinch of nutmeg, and bring to a boil for about 18-20 minutes. In blender, puree the soup and any additional ingredients you would like to add. Garnish with grated smoked Gouda cheese. Enjoy! Recipe submitted by Susan Lamphier, lover of food and words.
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Eat Your Greens If you are looking to continue eating local foods during the cooler months, summer favorites like tomatoes and peppers are unavailable. Luckily, through the miracle of season extension, many local farmers continue providing fresh veggies all year round. Leafy greens are a highlight of the fall and winter produce selection. After you have gotten comfortable with cool weather standards like spinach and kale, take some time to get to know some lesser-known, vitamin-packed wonders available this time of year. Fresh leafy greens can be tossed to make a beautiful salad or sautéed simply with olive oil and garlic until the greens wilt, usually 2-5 minutes depending on the thickness of the greens. With a rainbow’s worth of colors and a full palette of flavors and textures you could spend all winter exploring leafy greens, but that’s not the best part. They are full of as many vitamins and minerals as one would associate with more popular fruits and veggies. Here is a short list to begin your journey.
There are hundreds of types of and ways to try leafy greens, but if all else fails, just drop a few handfuls into the blender with your fruit to boost the potency of your daily smoothie.
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Beet greens, earthy – Great raw in a salad or cooked in dishes, beet greens are a great source of fiber. Collards, sweet – With more calcium than a glass of milk, collards help lower cholesterol. Boil the leaves lightly and use as wraps for spring rolls or sandwiches. Collards can also stand in for cabbage in recipes. Turnip greens, spicy - Eaten raw or cooked, the tops of the turnips are packed with calcium, antioxidants, and fiber. Dandelion greens, bitter – Fresh or cooked these wonderful weeds are full of antioxidants and help aid digestion. Sorrel, sour - My grandmother, Theresa, makes a delicious sorrel soup every year. High in vitamin C, the tart lemony flavor of sorrel makes them perfect addition to potato soup, chicken and fish dishes. Chard, earthy – Don’t throw away the healthy stems of chard, just start cooking them before you cook the greens. Containing 13 different antioxidants, chard is a nutrition dynamo. Napa Cabbage, sweet – Great for slaw and quick kimchi recipes, Napa cabbage is high in calcium and iron and is purported to reduce inflammation.
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3 Ways to Push Yourself the Extra Mile
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Did you know there is always room when you go the extra mile? It’s never crowded and there always seem to be extra space available. If you keep your determination focused on your vision and have persistence, then it will lead to success. The difference between people who live a life of abundance and those who live a life in mediocrity lies in one distinct characteristic; their determination to go the extra mile and exceed their expectations. To go the extra mile and live a life of excellence, means you are improving and continually updating your skills and as a result, you create a competitive advantage. Below are 4 ways to help you accomplish this task and have the spirit and passion to stay consistent and persistent in your quest for excellence.
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Take Pride In Your Work
Taking pride and ownership professionally or personally is about commitment and responsibility. When we are accountable to perform a task or implement a project, we are more likely to pay close attention to the details. Once you understand that you ‘own’ your choices and accept the consequences, you will be respected and valued. Others will see you as someone to emulate and will appreciate your positive attributes. The easiest way to demonstrate ownership is by not making excuses or blaming the other person. If you made a mistake or were late for an appointment, explain why you were tardy or what caused the error and apologize. It can be easy to place the blame on outside influences, and while you cannot control everything that happens, you can control your response.
Demonstrate Passion and Enthusiasm
Enthusiasm and passion can make a difference in succeeding in both your personal and professional life. A positive and enthusiastic attitude is a critical factor and can promote you to the next level. Find ways to cultivate this behavior and reap the rewards. Do not settle for mediocrity. Below are examples to help direct you on your quest to live with passion and purpose. Be Positive – Enthusiasm cannot exist in a negative environment. Keep your thoughts positive and look at your problems as opportunities. Have Gratitude – When you have gratitude in your heart, it’s almost impossible to feel frustrated, sad or disconnected.
Maintain a Positive and Courteous Attitude
Having and maintaining a positive and courteous attitude is important for success in both life and business. Every day we are faced with challenges and some are unavoidable. A person who is an optimist will look at the challenge as a temporary setback and inevitably will either find a solution or realize this issue is external and out of his control. Keep in mind, it is impossible to learn and grow without having some type of adversity or difficulties. Managing stress and learning to rise above the difficulties will give you the opportunity to do a course correction and create new beginnings. Decide today to maintain a positive attitude and resist the temptation toward negative thoughts.
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Challenging Times. She lives in Michigan with her husband. She dedicates herself to eating healthy, yoga, meditation and helping others develop a positive spirit by staying optimistic. You can reach her at cherschultz@gmail.com or visit her Web site at http://www.cherischultz.com
Falling Into Your Forward I have a special relationship with the season of autumn. There is something to be said of the cool touch on the breeze as crispy leaves crinkle their whispers underfoot. Some would say that autumn is the time for saying goodbye to summer and nice weather. I say it is the time of reflection and planning for the future. It is a great time to think of two topics I find detrimental to the new year that approaches, one’s aptitude for resilience and magnitude for aspirations. Resilience and aspirations go hand in hand with looking at what you have accomplished in the year and how you can grow in the one to come. Life can hand us all types of situations and challenges. Take a look at all that you have endured thus far. Resilience is defined by the Merriam Webster Dictionary as “an ability to recover from or adjust easily to misfortune or change”. If I don’t encounter such things in a year, then I begin to wonder what exactly I did with my days. After all, if we are not changing then we are not growing to our full potential. Without adjustment to what life gives us, we remain stuck in our preconceived mindsets and wallow instead of strive to better what we feel
is setting us back in life. In theory, our resilience is what drives us to our aspirations for achieving our goals. It gives us confidence that we can accomplish what we set out to do with our lives. We can endure, change, hope and then succeed. As the change in seasons sets upon us, so does a change in seasons begin in our lives. We could look at this seasonal change as a passing of moments had, but why stop there? Go forward with a renewed sense that you have grown in stamina to overcome what is put in front of you. Realize you have the potential to accomplish what you desire. As autumn unfolds it’s beautiful array of colors, know that you are on the brink of displaying your own beauty. That beauty will be full of what you have become through life’s challenges and what you will be with the power of your own aspirations. Susan Lamphier is an Editor at Women2Women Michigan and a local mixed media artist. Her artwork can be found at www.etsy. com/shop/goodpulp Season’s End Picture credit: photopin
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Your 2-Step Hack to Perform Better in Any Situation
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Nerves. Jitters. Complete hyperventilating freak outs? Yep, 100% totally natural. Maybe your heart pounds and your palms sweat when you speak in public. Or when you are about to ask for a promotion. And especially when you have to sell something. You are not alone. We all suffer from anxiety at times. Harvard social psychology researcher Alison Wood Brooks found that “anxiety is a drain on cognitive resources, using up brain power and informationprocessing ability and reducing confidence.” [Harvard Magazine] Ouch. Instead of suffering the negative effects of unchecked anxiety, let’s look at how you can harness the emotion to actually perform better in stressful situations. I’ve got two steps to flip your fear-script and have you performing like a rock star.
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Step 1: Reframe it. Most people try to calm themselves by denying the anxiety they feel. Instead of denying it, or trying to calm your nerves, channel them. Rather than saying, “I’m so nervous” try saying, “I’m so excited.”
Examples: Before public speaking: “I’m so excited that I get to speak to this group. It’s going to be fun.” Before a sales conversation: “I’m so excited that I get to talk to XYZ Company about using my training program.” As a job seeker: “I’m so excited about interviewing for this job.” Gunning for a promotion: “I’m so excited to talk to my boss about increasing my responsibilities and my salary.” Shockingly easy, right? This tiny little shift in what you say to yourself works miracles. Anxiety and excitement both have similar physical characteristics in the body – racing heartbeat, increased perspiration, and raised cortisol levels (the stress hormone.) Your brain doesn’t believe you when you tell it to “calm down” because the physical effects are still there. But recasting those physical effects as excitement is effective because it works with the physical characteristics, rather than against them. Best of all, shifting from feeling anxious to excitement focuses on a positive outlook, rather than negative. Backed by science Brooks, an assistant professor of business administration at Harvard Business School, studied how reframing nerves as excitement improved performance. In an experiment involving people asked to sing before an audience, participants who said aloud, “I am excited” performed 55% better than those who repeated the phrase, “I am anxious.” “Since anxiety and excitement are both arousal states, it’s easier to see apprehension as invigorating than to try to suppress it,” says Woods. Anxiety is a part of life when it comes to being famous in your field, or striving to reach any worthy goal. Don’t fight it – make it work for you.
Step 2: Get your game face on.
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Following your own recipe of rituals will help you to put your mind and body in high performance mode. Athletes have elaborate rituals. Some hit 100 balls the day before a game. Or eat chicken on game day. Or wear red shirts for luck. Is it because they’re superstitious? For some, sure. But it works. “…research has shown that players who use a consistent set of behaviours are more successful (Lonsdale & Tam, 2008; Gayton, 1992; Jackson & Baker, 2011; Mack, 2001). But for the rest of us, the ‘pregame’ routine is our deliberate process to calm our nerves, channel our anxiety into excitement and to create a mindset for success.
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I have a 401K at my previous employer should I roll it over to an IRA or leave it where it is? Wondering what new app you need on your smartphone? Here are our top 3 picks of free apps. Download one today!
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If you are like me, I make any excuse to spend my time at Target. So what could be better than their coupon app that saves you money on your purchases? The app is so easy to use with a comprehensible search and you can save extra even off of some sale items depending on what they are running. Select from hundreds of discounts ranging from 5% to 50% off, and add them to your personalized Cartwheel barcode, all from the convenience of your smartphone. Then save on your next Target run by scanning your barcode at checkout in store. Use the discounts as many times as you like before they expire. You can even stack Cartwheel on top of your Target REDcard discount and other coupons! This app has so many features that there are just too many to list.
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Generally you can keep your money in the employer’s plan until you reach the plan’s full retirement age (usually age 65). There are several reasons to support making a rollover to an Individual Retirement Account (IRA). Most employer sponsored retirement plans have limited investment options which are selected by the employer. There are a vast number of investment options available in the IRA arena providing almost unlimited investment choices. Distribution options in an IRA (in particular for the beneficiaries following you death) may be more flexible than the options available in the 401k plan. Your 401k may provide better creditor protection if that is of concern. In general, federal law protects your total IRA assets up to $1,245,475 (as of April 1, 2013) plus any amount you roll over from a qualified employer plan if you declare bankruptcy. Assets in an employer retirement plan usually have unlimited protection from creditors under federal law. Securities and advisory services offered through Royal Alliance Associates, Inc. a registered broker-dealer and member FINRA/SIPC. Advisory Services and insurance offered through Financial Planning Advisory Corp., a Registered Investment Advisor, which is not affiliated with Royal Alliance. Financial & Tax Planning Inc. is not affiliated with Royal Alliance or registered as a broker-dealer or investment advisor.
Signs of Stress in Dogs and Cats Like people, pets respond differently to stressful situations, and circumstances that one pet copes with easily can create extreme duress for another. Pet care author and blogger Sandy Robins suggests watching for these signs of canine stress: • Destructive behavior such as chewing furniture and other items in the home • Excessive barking, both inside and outside the home • Urinating and defecating around the house • Sudden displays of growling, snarling and even biting family members that your dog is normally affectionate toward • Physical signs of illness such as vomiting, diarrhea, loss of appetite, skin allergies, excessive licking and pulling out clumps of fur When it comes to cats, Robins says it can be more difficult to pick up signs of stress because signals such as hiding or sleeping out of sight are normal behaviors. Sometimes the escalating level
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Interviewer (I): Tell me a little bit about your musical background. When did you start getting into music? I mean, you’re only twenty right now... Vaughn (V): I started listening to music...which I guess was the start of my musical career before I can really remember. Listening to Stevie Ray, Lenny Kravitz, and Ben Folds Five. I started playing guitar at six, and, uh, sort of just learned a couple of chords, and started playing songs I liked listening to; Elvis Costello, Joe Jackson....a lot of Elvis, really. I: Did you take lessons? V: ...Um, you know, a little later...once I already got....I kind of knew structure. I sort of understood what chords sort of fit together....music structure that way. So I was probably ten, eleven when I took a couple of lessons. Rather than learn scales, I learned songs that I didn’t already know how to play. The guy just showed me songs. I learned Stevie Ray....and lots of Hendrix. I just learned riffs, and then from there just kind of figured it out. I: You’ve been playing out for a while. How long have you been playing out in front of people? V: Well, my dad would take me to parties at ten, eleven, and twelve. We’d play “Hey Joe” and “Sunshine of your Love”, that kind of stuff. But Elizabeth Reed has been together since I was 17, we started playing bars. Before then, I was sort of playing parties and open houses when I could, just kind of doing the band thing, trying to get a feel for it.
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I: You play really great slide guitar. I’m curious as to what got you started playing the slide. It’s kind of an unusual thing. Not a lot of people really play the slide in the manner that you do.
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V: ....Listening to the Allman Brothers and hearing “One Way Out” in Almost Famous, and hearing that song in that movie and saying, whatever that is, I gotta do that. Then I heard the rest of the album, and when I heard the rest of Fillmore East, I just picked it up, and read online somewhere that Duane Allman was playing in open tuning. Then I discovered open tunings and then slide, from there, becomes a lot easier. I just couldn’t put it down. Every old folk or blues player, Robert Johnson and Elmore James, they all played slide. It’s just something I wanted to be a part of. I: You played slide guitar, but you also play lap steel and some other instruments, correct?
V: I like playing lap steel. It’s just a little different. When I play slide, regular slide, I can also hammer on and play other chords...you know, just regular fingering. When you play lap steel, you don’t have that option. It sort of forces you to get creative with having to play slide in different ways. I play a some drums, too, and mandolin....and a little banjo. I: I notice from listening to him that he really doesn’t sound like he’s a guitar player who’s playing the bass. V: No. When you say, a guitar player who’s playing the bass, you think of Keith Richards and the Dirty Mac, real simplistic kind of stuff. When I think of guitar player playing bass, I think more about Rick Danko, who’s a phenomenal bass player, or Paul McCartney...and Barry Oakley. Those guys started playing guitar. They don’t play bass, they play bass guitar. He plays lines, he plays leads, all kinds of stuff on a bass. He sonically fills in that portion of our sound that know one else has the opportunity to. I: You guys cover an incredible range of music. You play songs from the early sixties all the way to a year or so ago. Who picks out your music? V: Well, it’s all rock and roll. It’s all rock and roll. We play the songs we love. We don’t play what you’d expect a cover band to play. We just play what we enjoy playing. That’s why I don’t liken us to any other cover band. I liken us to a real band. Look at the Allman Brothers, the Fillmore East album...half of that album was cover songs, “Done Somebody Wrong”, “Statesboro Blues”, “One Way Out”, “You Don’t Love Me”. Those are all cover songs they sort of made their own. It’s basically just the music we love. Mostly Ryan and I pick out songs, but everybody has a say as far as what they like. We all have very similar tastes in music. If we hear a song we like...if we know we can do something cool with it and hit you on an emotional level with it, then that’s what we’ll do. I: What does your future hold? What are you looking to do, long term, with music? You’re twenty years old, seems like most guys are getting started at your age. You’ve been playing for ten years. V: We’ve tried to make it as real as possible, so we weren’t just a cover band. I think that shows in the music. When you see your favorite artists put their heart and soul into a set, it shows. We’ve tried to do the same thing and put that emotion into our music. I think we’d like to put out a record of our own material. Touring would be a part of that. I think the band of my future will look a little different, some incarnation of what we’ve started. It’s a family thing. Gary has done it for real. He has been on club tours. He’s been a professional musician. He wants to see Ryan and I go as far as we can. So, the family dynamic that we’ve built is not ever going to leave us. The most experienced half of Elizabeth Reed will provide moral support all the way. Visit our Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/ ElizabethReedBlues?fref=ts
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TIPS
for a Fabulous Fall Wardrobe
1 Reassess Your Current Wardrobe
Fall is the ideal time to go through your current wardrobe and evaluate what you already have - it’s incredible how many items get lost in the dark abyss of your closet! Take out everything, try things on, and make a list of what’s missing. By sorting through your closet, you’ll be amazed at how many forgotten gems you will find.
2 Invest in the Classics
3 Upgrade Your Accessories
Accessories can take your outfits from day to night, casual to fancy, classic to boho. They also have the potential to elevate a look from “okay” to “fabulous.” Grab a few new ones this season to upgrade your standard go-to outfits.
Fashion should be fun. Experiment with trends but don’t go overboard. Just because something is trending, doesn’t mean you have to wear it. Think about your life and personal style and decide which items fit for you and your aesthetic. Some of my favorite trends for this season are fringe (on everything from shoes to a skirt), a modern flared pant, and menswear inspired loafers.
5 Break the “Rules”
Embrace winter white (in seasonally appropriate materials like wool and cashmere), mix prints, pair navy and black. Be rebellious. Your sartorial risk will create a dynamic, stand out outfit. Fashion rules were made to be broken! Dana Frost, Wardrobe Stylist Dana Frost is a wardrobe stylist and fashion blogger in Detroit. Her talents include shoe organizing, shower singing, and unicycle riding.
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Think about spending the majority of your clothing budget on timeless pieces like a trench coat or perfectly fitted jeans. These are the types of items that will always be in style and keep you feeling polished day after day.
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Business
Financial Plus Announces the Opening of their Seventh Branch Located in Howell Financial Plus Credit Union announced the opening of their seventh branch located in Howell on Wednesday, July 1, 2015. The Financial Plus Branch is located at 5990 E. Grand River Ave., Howell 48843. A formal grand opening celebration and ribbon cutting will take place at the new location on October 15, 2015, at 11 a.m. - 2:00 p.m. The grand opening will include with refreshments, food, dessert, prizes, live entertainment and more. “We are elated to open our seventh branch in the Howell community located just east of the new Latson Road Interchange. We currently have a large membership in the Livingston County area, and opening a full service branch provides an outlet to better serve our current members, as well as grow our membership as a whole. We are very involved in the many communities that we serve and have already supported many local events in Livingston county, including the Michigan Balloon Festival, Midnight in the Tropics, and The Great Duck Race” said Olga Long, Senior Vice President of Financial Plus Credit Union. The new Financial Plus
Branch is open from 9:00 a.m. – 5:00 p.m., Monday - Friday. The branch is a full service financial institution offering free checking and savings accounts, a wide variety of loans, mortgages, and much more. Commercial and mortgage loan appointments are available weekly during normal business hours, as well as weekend and evening appointments upon request. For more information about the Financial Plus Howell branch or the grand opening, please contact Kristen Zielinski at (810) 244-2507 or visit the Financial Plus website at www.financialplusfcu.org. Financial Plus Credit Union is a Flint-based, member-owned, not-for-profit financial institution serving over 49,000 members in 34 counties in Michigan. Financial Plus Credit Union operates through seven conveniently located offices in Flint, Swartz Creek, Fenton, Grand Blanc, Howell, Saginaw, and the rest of the Tri-City area, and can also be found on the internet at www. financialplusfcu.org or at 800-748-0451.
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The Surprising Heart-Healthy Benefits of Dental Floss Everyone wants a magic pill: something quick, easy, and inexpensive with great results. How about dental floss? Before you start laughing, consider this: right now bacteria from your last meal are sitting in your mouth, irritating the gums around your teeth. Even if you brushed, it’s still there between your teeth, even though it doesn’t hurt and may not cause your gums to bleed. The only way to remove it is to get between your teeth with dental floss. Simply put, bacteria enter through capillaries, and from there go into your bloodstream. Your immune system’s response is to send white blood cells to fight the invaders, and this leads to inflammation. The inflammation raises C-reactive protein (CRP) levels in your body. High levels of CRP have long been associated with increased cardiovascular risk including heart attack and stroke. This connection was first made by cardiologist Steven Grundy, M.D. in 2008. Dr Grundy designed a study with 300 cardiovascular patients and focused on those with CRP levels that were higher than the average risk level of 1.5 mg/L. After flossing regularly for six months, participants’ CRP levels were measured and they had dropped to average or low. “If I can get patients to floss, we’re more than halfway there,” he said. Dr. Gundry also puts patients on a healthy heart diet, which he believes reduces risk as well. Which type of floss you use is up to you and your dental hygienist. If you have tight spaces between your teeth, use narrow floss. If it snags, try waxed floss. If you have wider spaces or a bridge, try floss tape. Mint or cinnamon flavored floss makes it a more pleasant experience.
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To use, tear off at least a foot and wrap the ends around your middle fingers. Slide the floss between two teeth and make a “C” shape to scrape the in-between side of one tooth, then pull the floss against the opposing tooth to clean it, too. Go all the way around your mouth. Since you don’t need water, an ideal time to floss is when you turn on the TV. In fact, we recommend people keep their floss by the remote control. Start to floss at the first commercial and you’ll finish up about the time the program returns. Do this every day. Easy, inexpensive and so healthy for you! Sherry Regiani from the office of Regiani Holistic Dental Center
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LOVE WEARING HIGH HEELS? stretches that will save your SOLES!
Wearing dress shoes to work or for a night out on the town may look fabulous to your co-workers and friends but become a nightmare to your feet and calves! When wearing any shoe with an elevated heel (even running shoes) your calves are in a shortened position. This causes tightness, muscle imbalances, and a series joint problems if you don't make it a priority to stretch out after a long day. 5 minutes of stretching a day is all you need to keep your feet happy! 1. Kick those heels off and place the top of your toes against the floor. Press the ball of your foot forward and downward at the same time to stretch the muscles in the top of your foot. Hold for 30 seconds on each foot. This is easiest sitting in a chair and on a soft surface like carpet.
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2. Place a foam roller under your ankle and roll it up your calf muscle until you reach a tight spot (trigger point). Apply constant, firm pressure to each trigger point for 30 seconds. Be sure to roll the inside, center, and outside of the calf to locate trigger points.
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Don’t Tell My Wife I Wrote This
ENOW Empty Nest on Wheels
Last year we finally sold the old camper and bought what I lovingly refer to as the “empty nest on wheels,” or ENOW. Mind you, the stationary nest is still only half-empty. Though, on most days, it feels half-full. The ENOW has one bedroom with one bed. It will comfortably sleep two people. Any additional sleepers will be made very uncomfortable. Of this I can assure you. It’s amazing how uncomfortable a 19 year-old can become when his father walks across the fold out bed at 6 am to make his morning coffee. Now, before you accuse me of abusive treatment of the large children, rest assured I have provided them a guest room. It is folded up into the bag in which it arrived from Cabela’s. I have also provided the large children a map of Michigan state forest campgrounds, into which trailers cannot fit, but foldable guest rooms can. You see, I am a firm believer in the quick-flight method of delivering my children to the world. If they like camping, by all means, let them discover camping. The way I did, with a tent, Snicker bars and just enough water to last half a day. The trailer fridge is filled with wine and cheese. No room for the Snickers. Sorry. It’s not that I haven’t enjoyed camping with the fruit of my looms. It’s just that…well, let’s just say that privacy is a relative term in a 30’ x 8’ box. Yes, men have a narrow view of life. We are simple creatures, after all. For that you should feel fortunate. Imagine if we had a third need for you ladies to cater to. I digress. Those of you who would criticize my desire to camp without the pitter-patter of size 10 1/2s running about my trailer, you may be able to better relate to the other half of the story. You see, when there are non-adults living for more than fifteen minutes in the aforementioned 30’ x 8’ box,
you quickly run out of available surface area for such selfish activities as eating and sitting. You see, children have a minimum radius into which they must insert all of their belongings. If there is more than one child living within said radius, they simply layer their belongings, usually by seniority. This is fairly efficient, I must admit. A child merely has to reach through a predetermined depth of debris to find the object she desires. The youngest child in a family of four, however, would need quite a reach to find her things, but at least she knows where they are. For the retired children, those without any property rights, or any things for that matter, all of this can border on the hysterically frustrating. It’s not that we mind sitting outside in the rain with our dinner because the trailer’s kitchen table is buried under Nerf guns and Super Soakers (we are a violent lot), but there are moments now when we stop in the middle of our trailer floor and realize…we are standing on the floor. So you see, dear readers, I am not someone who prefers the absence of my children while exploring our wonderful state, but the ENOW has provided me and my beloved the chance to spread our wings a bit, soak in the quiet of an autumn evening, and enjoy a cup of morning coffee free of action figures or crayons. Surely, you can share in my joy. Until next time…don’t tell my wife I wrote this.
Ron Estrada resides with his wife, Kelly, two
children, two cats, and a terrier-mix in Oxford. When not pursuing the spiritual gift of napping, he’s at work on his latest novel or some freelance project (he accepts cash, check, PayPal, or smoked pork shoulder). You can email him at rmestrada@ameritech.net or visit his website at ronestradabooks.com.
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