Aleeza Ben Shalom

Global Jewish Matchmaker

As Seen On

Can you share one of your favorite stories from working on the show?

One of the most memorable moments was helping someone who had never dated a Jew before decide to give it a chance. Watching them explore their Jewish identity and embrace the process was so meaningful. Each story, whether it ended in love or personal growth, added a layer to the show’s authenticity. It wasn’t just about matchmaking; it was about selfdiscovery.

You’ve helped so many people find their match. What’s your secret?

I’ve guided over 200 people to the chuppah. My focus is on soulmate clarity—helping people figure out if someone is truly “the one.” It’s not about guessing or hoping; I’ve created a system to help people make clear, confident decisions. Finding the right person is just the start; both people have to know they’re right for each other.

How do you interpret the Talmudic teaching that a heavenly voice proclaims one’s soulmate 40 days before birth?

I think marriage itself creates the bond of beshert. Whether it’s your first marriage or your third, the moment you choose to marry someone, they become your soulmate. Divine guidance is always there, but free will and effort are just as important. That teaching reminds us we’re not alone in this process—there’s a heavenly hand guiding us—but we also have to take responsibility for our choices.

What are your thoughts on the socalled “shidduch crisis”?

The real problem isn’t a lack of matches; it’s how we think about compatibility. Too many of our preferences are shaped by societal norms instead of real values. Why is it fine for men to date younger women but not the other way around? These biases get in the way. The solution? Everyone has a role to play. If you know someone single, make a suggestion. You don’t have to be a professional matchmaker to help someone find love. It’s a community effort.

Tell us about your new book, Matchmaker, Find Me a Love That Lasts.

The book is about more than just finding love—it’s about building a love that lasts. Anyone can get married, but staying married takes real effort. The book shares real client stories (with names changed) and practical tips on things like spotting red flags, understanding deal breakers, and knowing when it’s time to move forward or move on. It’s about helping people make clear, confident decisions so they can build meaningful, lasting relationships.