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RANDALL The laugh-out-loud hilarious “Crazy Nasty-Ass Honey Badger” is a YouTube sensation, with 17 million hits and counting. Think Wild Kingdom, but narrated by your sassiest gay friend. Created by the mysterious Randall, the video has made “Honey Badger doesn’t give a shit!” part of the cultural vernacular. It’s also spawned a cottage industry of Honey Badger t-shirts and merchandise. Read Erik Caban’s interview and learn that Randall is a very funny guy, with a very serious mission.

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Harmony Santana stars in Gun Hill Road, the Opening Night selection for the 22nd Tampa International Gay & Lesbian Film Festival. The transgender coming-of-age story is no more dramatic than Santana’s own. Read Tom Dyer’s interview on p. 45 Photo by Tom Dyer, Illustration by Jake Stevens

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group email, it spreads faster than watered-down pancake syrup, and it’s just as n early September, the national LGBT community was stunned when a difficult to clean. California jury could not reach a unanimous decision in the trial of Brandon The accusation of homo or trans phobia may be accurate, but it is often made McInerney, who shot a gay middle school classmate in a computer lab. without investigation or even a conversation with the perceived offending party. There is no doubt that he shot 15-year-old Larry King, who was constantly Instead, we “panic” when something doesn’t go our way. We play the gay card. bullied for being gay. McInerney said he was going to do it. He admitted to When a politician misses an LGBT gathering, we conclude that their support authorities that he brought the gun to school. There were plenty of witnesses. is tepid or non-existent when they may simply have a scheduling conflict. When And it was no secret that McInerney didn’t like gay people, especially King. a business declines to sponsor an LGBT event, we assume indifference when He made that abundantly clear by bullying King at school, time and again. they may have legitimate budget constraints. If a flyer for an LGBT group or The defense argued that the shooting was the result of “gay panic”—the event is removed from a retail establishment, we conjecture that the owner fearful and violent projection of a 14-year-old with a history of abuse. They doesn’t want us as customers when it may just be that claimed that on the day of the murder, McInerney the windows needed to be cleaned. was beaten by his father and then snapped when King History has placed each of us squarely inside the flaunted his homosexuality in front of him. It was When a politician misses LGBT rights movement. And contrary to what those enough to result in a mistrial. A simple case of murder who oppose us argue, it has always been about equality, was turned upside down by speculation about the an LGBT gathering, not special treatment. Should we know who supports Steve Blanchard perpetrator’s confused motives. we conclude that their us and who doesn’t? Of course. Should we be wary With the “gay panic” defense, attorneys argue that EDITOR SteveB@WatermarkOnline.com their clients were made temporarily insane because of those who pay us lip service or seek to exploit our support is tepid or buying power without respecting our right to equal of a person’s perceived or actual sexual orientation. non-existent when they treatment? Absolutely. Expert witnesses—often psychiatrists—testify that the But we should never threaten a claim of defendant may have been subjected to unwanted sexual may simply have a discrimination based on sexuality or gender identity to advances so offensive and frightening that it created a scheduling conflict. get our way. It’s embarrassing and unnecessary. dissociative state characterized by unusual violence. McInerney’s murder trial drew worldwide attention The tactic doesn’t always work. It was unsuccessful because of its shocking premise: that he killed King in the “Jenny Jones Show” murder of Scott Amedure, and in the defense of the killers of Matthew Shepard. But in an alarming number in a fit of homophobic rage because he was threatened by the young gay man’s dress and demeanor. Bullying, beating or murdering someone because you are of cases—like McInerney’s—it is. threatened by their sexuality is no excuse, nor should it be a successful defense. As indefensible as the “gay panic” defense may be, there is a cautionary Similarly, we should not assume that our sexuality is the only reason people lesson for the LGBT community. When we perceive a slight, whether in may act in ways we dislike or disapprove of. Human beings have a wide range business or politics, we are often quick to blame it on homophobia. It’s the only of motivations. Sometimes they’re about sexuality, but sometimes they’re just defense we can fathom in the heat of the moment. about storefront signage. Watermark staffers regularly receive accusations directed toward elected Assuming prejudice based solely on our sexuality is reckless, and it is officials, store owners or other businesses that are considered—by at least one counterproductive to the advances we hope to make as a community. “Gay person—to be anti-gay or anti-transgender. Sometimes those businesses are panic” by any definition is an inappropriate defense. | l | even gay-owned. When that accusation is shared in a status update or sent in a

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Ban on gay blood donations still enforced locally david moran Orlando | An HIV-negative, openly gay Orlando man was turned away from donating blood recently. This happened as several nations moved toward lifting decades-old bans on gay men giving blood. Earlier this month, Michael Watson inquired with Florida’s Blood Centers about volunteering to donate blood and was deferred. He then received an email stating that “this FDA deferral is based on high risk behaviors. Unfortunately, some types of high risk behaviors (such as IV drug use or sexual contact, etc.) may defer a donor per current FDA regulations.” Watson said he recently tested negative for HIV. “I’ve been in a committed, monogamous relationship for 30 years and wanted to make a contribution,” said an outraged Watson. “I’m not quite sure at what point my blood should be more suspect than somebody who is hanging out in bars and having one night stands.” Pat Michaels, Executive Director of Public Relations for Florida’s Blood Centers, responded that their organization does not regulate policies or hold an opinion concerning

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is a potential tradeoff in regards to the risk of exposing the blood supply to HIV and allowing the MSM population to donate blood based on the prevalence of HIV in that particular group. “I do know that the prevalence of infected MSM (men who have sex with men) issues. MSM in San Francisco is quite high,” he The Food & Drug Administration currently said. “If someone identifies as MSM, then identities MSM as one of the highest risk you already know that the likelihood of HIV groups for exposing the nation’s blood supply infection is substantial.” to HIV. The FDA first instituted a ban on MSM The FDA’s website states that the current in 1983, two years after the first public AIDS lifetime MSM blood donor ban is still report was released. necessary to protect the blood supply due to In the early 1980s, HIV was discovered both the high prevalence of HIV in MSM in the country’s blood supply as numerous and the possibility of a window period that recipients of blood transfusions began testing would allow HIV to enter the blood supply positive for HIV/AIDS or dying from AIDSundetected. related illnesses. According to the National However the United Kingdom Department Hemophilia Foundation, between 1981 and of Health lifted its lifetime ban on blood 1984, more than 50% of the United States donations from MSM on Sept. 8. Canada and population with hemophilia became infected other nations are expected to follow. with HIV due to tainted blood products and When asked if lifting the ban could pose transfusions containing HIV-infected blood. a risk to the blood supply, Fran Haynes, But experts say that since blood banks Executive Director of the Hemophilia began testing for HIV, incidents of HIV Foundation of Greater Florida would not transmission through blood products and comment. Haynes referred to a statement from transfusions have become a thing of the past. the National Hemophilia Foundation that said, “The [bleeding disorders] population is still “Unless there is evidence that a proposed tracked. Has there been a documented case of change will not elevate the risk to the nation’s HIV in our area through a blood transfusion, blood supply, we must maintain current recently? No,” said Debbie Tucci. policies to protect the recipients of blood and Tucci is the Area 7 HIV/AIDS Program blood products. It is critical to remember that Coordinator for the Orange County Health our community has been devastated by death Department and is responsible for reporting and illness resulting from contaminated blood HIV/AIDS data on Brevard, Orange, Osceola products.” and Seminole Counties to the Florida Bureau LGBT Rights groups such as the Human of HIV/AIDS. She said she hasn’t seen an HIV Rights Campaign (HRC) argue that the positive case resulting from a blood transfusion current policy is in over two decades. discriminatory Tucci credits rigorous and unnecessarily testing for HIV and stigmatizes gay “I’ve been in other diseases prior to and bisexual men, a committed, blood donations. especially those who Florida’s Blood engage in low-risk monogamous Centers tests all of its behaviors. relationship for 30 blood donations using “It’s a very Nucleic Acid Testing, years and wanted to complicated issue,” which is considered to said Dr. Michael make a contribution.” be the best available Busch, the Director testing technology on —Michael Watson of Blood Systems the market. Research Institute “Every blood donor and a Professor of is first screened using Laboratory Medicine medical and social history questions. Then all at the University of California, San Francisco. blood donations are tested using state-of-theBusch’s research in the mid-1980s led art laboratory procedures,” said Pat Michaels to an accurate calculation of the window with Florida’s Blood Centers. period for HIV infection and the first accurate Dr. Christopher Pilcher, a clinician-scientist estimates of the risk of HIV transmission by and Associate Professor of Medicine with transfusion in the United States. At the same the University of California, San Francisco, time, he said that researchers and organizations specializes in the study and treatment of HIV such as the National Hemophilia Foundation patients during the initial stages of infection. have been and are coming together to assess “There could be a virus that is not current scientific data and alternative policy detectable that is still present enough to infect recommendations in light of the United someone. With large volumes of blood, a very Kingdom’s decision. tiny trace of virus could cause an infection,” But Watson thinks it’s simpler than that. said Dr. Pilcher. “It is a massive generalization that gay When an individual first contracts HIV, a people are promiscuous and a higher risk to the “window period” exists where the virus begins blood supply, and that [heterosexual] people to produce HIV antibodies not yet detectable aren’t,” he said. | l | by a test. Though Dr. Pilcher said that HIV testing is very effective, he added that there

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UCF expands LGBT services tony ward Orlando | The University of Central Florida has a new LGBTQ Services department, and is launching a new initiative called Q Lab. The monthly interdisciplinary forum for faculty, staff and students is to share LGBTQ related research and projects. From 12 p.m. to 2 p.m. on the first Wednesday of each month, Q Lab will feature two formal presentations followed by a question and answer session. The inaugural Q Lab session on Sept. 7 included faculty from Rosen College of Hospitality Management and students from UCF’s College of Medicine. “Do you tell your doctor that you’re gay? Does your doctor even care? These were a few of the questions raised from this month’s Q Lab,” said David Moran, graduate assistant/coordinator for UCF’s LGBTQ Services. “We felt the first series was really successful. Upcoming sessions will feature everything from student or staff research, student art, and narratives of student comingout experiences.” Moran is the first employee at UCF’s LGBTQ Services, whose mission is to connect the diverse student population to opportunities and resources, and to achieve a stronger, healthier, and more equitable world for LGBTQ people. The former Virginia Tech undergrad dedicates 20 hours a week to the position. Initially, his chief responsibility is to engage with students and learn their needs. “Our first priority is to create a safe space where LGBTQ students and allies can talk to someone and find resources,” Moran said. “We now have an office where students can stop by and review literature and materials from local community partners such as the Gay and Lesbian Medical Association.” In addition to the newly launched Q Lab series, interested students can also attend a weekly lunch discussion called “Alphabet Soup,” which Moran describes as a less structured brown bag lunch break in a relaxed environment for students that are

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Activists turning up heat over unspent AIDS money staff report Orlando | AIDS activists continue to question Orange County officials over millions of federal dollars intended to aid HIV/AIDS patients that have allegedly gone unspent. Orange County commissioners were questioned about the oversight at a meeting last month. According to the Orlando Sentinel, the commissioners admitted that a problem

exists. “I share the same concerns you have,” said Orange County Mayor Teresa Jacobs. “We need to get to the bottom of that.” The funding source is the Ryan White Treatment Extension Act of 2009. One activist claims that as much as a half million dollars in the past year, and nearly two million dollars over the past five years, has not been spent. The money is intended for medical and transportation services. | l |

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looking for an outlet to share. As for the future, the LGBTQ Services will work to bridge resources that currently exist on the UCF Campus and in the surrounding community. “Our plan to connect with existing community outlets includes lining up mentoring opportunities with organizations such as the Metropolitan Business Association and the Human Rights Campaign, and coordinating community engagement projects with charitable agencies such as Zebra House, where students can learn from and give back to the community in the process,” Moran said. “Our students have such diverse experience. We hope to help them celebrate the LGBTQ in themselves, but not let it define them,” Moran said. “We are fortunate to have a supportive administration at UCF that believes in positive change.” The next Q Lab session is at noon on Wednesday, Oct. 5 at the Student Union. Organizations or individuals interested in partnering with UCF’s LGBTQ Services or presenting at an upcoming Q Lab can contact Moran at 407-823-1027, or by e-mail at david.moran@ucf.edu. Students can learn more about services at Ucf.edu/lgbtq. | l |

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Pete Pride to launch a new event: A Taste of TIGLFF & Street Festival on Saturday, Oct. 15 outside Tampa Theatre on Franklin and Zack Streets. There will once again be Following a tradition a semi-formal established by Pam Iorio, Tampa Mayor Bob Buckhorn event associated will address the Opening with the 6th Night crowd at the Tampa largest LGBT International Gay & Lesbian film festival in Film Fest, Oct. 6. the nation. The Great Gatsby Gala, sponsored by ALandCHUCK. travel, takes place at the Don Vicente de Ybor the evening of Saturday, Oct. 8. The men’s Surge Party is the following Saturday, Oct. 15, at The RITZ Ybor, and the women’s Sugar Party is the same night at The Honey Pot. For information and the full schedule of more than 60 movies, visit tiglff.com. | l |

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and straight, are welcome to attend the semi-formal celebration. “For nine years we held an auction that focused on the bear community,” Burchett said. Opera singer Jacques Snyman will help draw guests “But the Ball to the second Monkey Suit is a community Masquerade Ball, Oct. 1. The event and we’re semi-formal event is a benefit expecting a for the Tampa Bay Bears. mixed crowd, which is what we want.” The 2011 Monkey Suit Masquerade Ball and charity auction begins at 7 p.m. at the Wyndham Westshore Hotel with “red carpet interviews.” Celebrity entertainer and Joan Rivers impersonator Holly Faris will greet guests, and her interviews will be broadcast onto a large screen within the ballroom. A sit-down dinner begins at 8 p.m., and personal trainer and counter tenor Jacques Snyman will perform several opera pieces. There will also be both live and silent auctions. After dinner, a DJ will provide dance music until midnight. To purchase tickets, visit MonkeySuitBall.com. | l |

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Nadine Smith Appointed to Obama Re-Election Campaign greg stemm St. Petersburg | Equality Florida executive director Nadine Smith has nurtured ties to President Barack Obama, bringing a clear LGBT—and Florida—voice to the White House. In recognition of this work, Smith was recently appointed to a committee working on the President’s 2012 re-election campaign. On Aug. 8, Smith and 30 other community and civic leaders from across the country were invited to Washington to attend a dinner and question-and-answer session with the President. “Actually, I’ve been fortunate to chat with the President twice,” said Smith. “Once during the first Pride event ever held at the White House in 2008, and last month at the small dinner in Washington.” Smith noted that time with the president is precious, and so her communication was focused. “I told him, ‘Thank you for the tremendous work that has been accomplished, and there is much more to do,’ Smith said. “I want the President not only to win reelection, but to win decisively. I want him to be in the strongest position possible to deliver on the federal level.” Smith was also able to personalize her message, sharing that she and her wife, Andrea, recently welcomed a new baby boy to their St. Petersburg household. “I was able to talk about the challenges my wife and our son face at a time when our family is not protected in the state we’re in, and when rights and protections vary by state,” she said. Smith was named a member of the National Finance Committee for the President’s re-election efforts. “The committee is made up of volunteers who believe that re-electing the President is vital to our country,” Smith said. “It’s an honor. We build grassroots support and raise

funds to help mobilize voters for the 2012 election.” Smith is the respected co-founder of Equality Florida, the state’s largest and most well-funded LGBT lobbying and outreach organization. But she will serve on the committee as an individual, and not as the representative of any organization. Smith said the committee, which will meet quarterly through the Nov. 2012 election, is still being put together, but that LGBT interests will be well represented. She reported that she was recommended by other committee members, but she also believes Florida’s pivotal role in the upcoming election was at least partially responsible for her selection. President Obama’s poll numbers have dropped in recent months, largely attributable to stubborn unemployment numbers. But Smith is quick to defend his record, including avoidance of an economic meltdown in 2008, and passage of the Affordable Care Act health care reforms. “What the President has accomplished in dire circumstances, and in the face of unprecedented partisan obstruction, has improved the daily lives of the LGBT community and is well worth celebrating even as we push for more,” she said. “His list of pro-equality accomplishments is impressive, and I believe we will accomplish much more with an ally in the White House for four more years.” Smith also contrasted President Obama with his Republican challengers, noting that election of any of them would be an “utter disaster.” Smith encouraged LGBT voters to get involved. “This election is ours, not just the President’s, to win or lose. The stakes have never been higher. Hold a house party. Reach out to friends,” she said. Anyone wishing to be actively involved in President Obama’s re-election campaign can contact Smith at smithnadine@me.com. | l |

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f you haven’t seen the laugh-out-loud “Crazy Nasty-ass Honey Badger” video yet (17 million YouTube views and counting), then you are seriously missing out, stupid. At least that’s what Randall would tell you. The part-bitchy, partdisgusted and all-fabulous host of a series of narrated wildlife and pop culture videos has become a phenomenon. Randall’s hilarious, over-the-top narration will leave you quoting lines for days. “Jesus Christ, lizard!” Randall exclaims as a lizard runs across water to escape a predator. As the fierce honey badger faces a giant cobra, a hive of bees and other beasties, Randall’s narration ranges from amazed—”Honey badger doesn’t give a shit!”—to a disgusted “Ewwww” as the badger chows down on a fresh kill. As amusing as it is to listen to Randall’s snarky narration, the videos actually teach you something. Honey Badger may not care,

but Randall does. He’s an animal lover, and his Twitter feed is full of calls to help the People for the Ethical Treatment of Animals (PETA) and other organizations. Randall’s repertoire of wildlife videos includes, “The Miracle of the Daffy Jesus Lizard,” “Gang Flamingo Versus Team Baboon” and “The Slow-Ass Sloth.” They’ve led to a gig as a featured blogger at Huffington Post. Most recently, he worked with Orlando Bear Bash 2011 to create a hilarious promotional YouTube video that treats big, hirsute gay guys like exotic wildlife. “Nothing can stop the honey badger,” says Randall in one video. And nothing seems to be able to slow down the quirky narrator, except maybe exhaustion. “Frankly, I’ve just been going crazy,” Randall says in his trademark Charles Nelson Reilly-meets-Tony Soprano-New York-ese. “In this day and age, if you don’t

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of Brooks’ against-type gangster turn, but it’s the same stuff DeNiro, Pesci and Pacino have shown us before. The brilliant casting choice is Gosling, whose quiet, weird performance moves the film. It’s hard to call such a brutal, amoral, sociopathic man a hero. Yet he’s very much a hero in given moments. Whether he acts out of self-interest is just one of the many questions this story presents. Gosling’s performance is an elegant, creepy turn that will have you thinking about him well after this ride is over.

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acting. Where did the funny come from? Growing up, I did a few Off-Broadway comedies, but mostly I acted in dramas—a lot of esoteric, weird mumbo-jumbo stuff—and produced experimental plays. I guess the humor didn’t come about until I started doing these videos. Besides wildlife, you’ve also created videos narrating “The Pigs of Wall Street” and other distinct groups like “Gunnery Sergeants.” Any plans to create more videos narrating ‘nasty’ people? “The Pigs of Wall Street” was to show that we’re all animals. Really, we’re no different than, say, whales or monkeys. I wanted to show range—that in addition to animals, I can do pop culture. When Huffington Post offered me the opportunity to be their contributing blogger, I jumped at it. I wanted to show that I am capable of doing newsworthy things. As much as I am thrilled with the attention that the honey badger video’s gotten, it’s important for me to start branching out. There’s more to me than just the honey badger. Do you plan on doing more animal videos? Oh, yes! Absolutely! I’m actually shopping an original show to different networks. The format of that show is pretty much animalbased with some pop culture thrown in. Humor with some education thrown in. That’s

I think because everyone wants to have a really what I try to do—inform people. little honey badger inside them. They want to have the potential to do what they want, take Your animal videos really do educate. I what they want—to not give a shit. didn’t know anything about some of those The message of “The Honey Badger”— animals until I watched your videos. that I didn’t realize at first—is really just Thank you! Some of them are just about seizing the day. Here’s an animal that disgusting, aren’t they? You know, I love doesn’t care. It’s going to do what it wants. all creatures big and small. Going back to I think a lot of people respond to that, just the “Wall Street” video, it’s just an analogy. like everyone was drawn to Charlie Sheen There’s so much going on in the world, but for fifteen minutes after he lost his marbles. when you look around you realize we’re all I think that people animals, surrounded were like, ‘Finally, by other animals. there’s an animal that’s just as crazy And sometimes a “Everyone wants to have and eccentric as we little comic relief is a little honey badger are.’ It blew people’s just what’s needed, minds. They were like, inside them. They want like your “How to ‘What is this animal Have an Affair” to do what they want, doing?!’ I get so many video. messages from people take what they want— [Laughs] All I that never even knew to not give a shit.” can say is, ‘What are what a honey badger people doing?!’ That —Randall on the was prior to seeing Anthony Weiner is popularity of his the video. So, for me, crazy. I am trying honey badger video I see it as ‘mission to add a little comic accomplished.’ relief. We need Incidentally, there’s to laugh and not so much I failed to take everything so mention in that video. It is actually really seriously. difficult to kill a honey badger. Spears and arrows don’t pierce their thick skin, which is Of all the videos you’ve created, why do insane. They’re pretty much indestructible. you thing “The Crazy Nasty-Ass Honey The only way to kill one is to club it or shoot Badger” is the breakout hit? I know people it in the head... and that’s just crazy. who’ve watched it a hundred times. How has your life changed since you introduced everyone to the honey badger? Once that video started getting millions of views, my life definitely changed. I’ve started freelancing more, and cleaning up a few scripts. I’m thrilled to be getting recognition for my skills. [The fans] are amazing. They inspire me. I get emails and drawings from children. I got this one email from this lady who said her husband just died and my videos are the only thing that cheers her up. I just feel it’s my duty to respond to everybody. It keeps me going. YouTube has become such a great tool for creating a world out there. I’m just so grateful for that. Ten years ago, I would never have been able to do something like this. Now, instead of having to bust my hump to get myself out there and shamelessly promote, the attention gotten to a point where people are approaching me. It’s amazing. It’s completely changed my life! To be clear, Christopher Gordon, who runs your YouTube channel, and Randall are two different people, right? Yes. We are two completely different people. We get that a lot. He’s my assistant. Lease a GPS Tracking Device We actually met in New York years ago. Then, we reconnected here in California. For InFormatIon Call He’s the one who introduced me to the honey badger video. U-SnooP, InC.

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You asked us not to print a photo, and few people know what you look like. Do you get recognized by your voice when you go out? I get recognized by my voice. I’m not exactly the quietest person in the world. I’ll be at a bar and someone will hear me and shout, 'Honey badger!’ It’s really funny. My thought process is that a good narrator should be heard and not seen. So I like being mysterious. I want people to focus on what I’m saying, and not what I look like. I get emails asking why I don’t just show my face but they’re missing the point. Eventually I’ll reach a point where I’m comfortable letting folks know who I am, but for now I just prefer to be anonymous. The same goes for my last name. You have Cher, you have Twiggy, and I’m just Randall! | l |

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Deepak Chopra Need a little metaphysical fine tuning. Deepak Chopra makes a rare Tampa Bay appearance at the Straz Center on Friday, Oct. 7.

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Priscilla, Queen of the Desert Bring your ping pong balls to Priscilla, Queen of the Desert, part of Watemark’s “Movies Out Loud” series, Thursday, Oct. 13 at 8 p.m. at the Plaza Cinema Café.

Don’t miss the opportunity to see the amazing k.d. lang at beautiful Ruth Eckerd Hall on Friday, Oct. 7.

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Spellbound Art Show The Milk District is getting spooky with a group of local artists displaying their wares as part of the Spellbound Art Show, through Oct. 2. Galleries are at Social Chameleon, Milk Bar, and Spooky’s Black Cat Café. [ST. PETERSBURG]

Blow Your Own Pumpkin The Morean Arts Center’s Glass Studio & Art Shop is hosting a personal glass-blowing experience, Oct. 1 – Nov. 11. $75 for a one-on-one pumpkin-blowing session with the glass artist, limited spots available. Call 727.822.7872 to book.

Photography by Byron Art Opening Commercial artist Byron Schaerr’s evocative landscapes and manscapes will be on display at Sporters Biker Bar on MLK in downtown St. Pete through Oct. 20. The grand opening is Thursday, Oct. 6 from 9-11:30 pm.

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Movies out Loud: Priscilla, Queen of the Desert On Thursday, Oct. 13, Movies Out Loud sets its sights on frocks in the desert with The Adventures of Priscilla, Queen of the Desert. Comedian Jeff Jones is joined by special guest host Doug Ba’aser to dish and delight in this iconic 1994 gay classic. Tickets are $10, available now at WatermarkOnline.com. Showtime is 8 p.m. at Plaza Cinema Café, but happy hour starts at 7 p.m.

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The Tampa International Gay & Lesbian Film Festival More then 60 films will be presented at three venues (Tampa Theatre, Tampa Museum of Art, Muvico Baywalk St. Petersburg) throughout the 6th largest LGBT film fest in the nation, Oct. 6-16. Welcome Tampa Mayor Bob Buckhorn on Opening Night. (See special section p. 45.)

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Four-time GRAMMY® Award winner k.d. lang returns to Ruth Eckerd Hall for an evening of sultry vocals, gorgeous arrangements and unmistakable style. Don’t miss the opportunity to see this iconic performer at this beautiful venue. Showtime is 7 p.m. on friday, Oct. 7. Tickets are $52.50-$88 at rutheckerdhall.com.

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Avenue Q The long-running and tres gay hit features puppets—singing songs about online porn! You won’t want to miss this first local production at Theatre Downtown thru Oct. 9. Shows are at 8 p.m. Thur-Sun, with Sunday matinees at 2:30 p.m. Oct. 2 and 9. Tix are $22 at theatredowntown.net.

The importance of Being Earnest Don’t miss Philip Nolen’s hilarious turn as Lady Bracknell in the classic Oscar Wilde

comedy of manners, The Importance of Being Earnest, at the Lowndes Shakespeare Center thru Oct. 9. Wed.-Thur. at 7 p.m., Fri.-Sat. at 8 p.m., Sun. at 2 p.m. Tickets are $20-38 at orlandoshakes.org.

Savage in Limbo John Patrick Stanley’s Savage in Limbo, the story of feisty young folks from the Bronx trying to connect, comes to UCF’s Black Box Theatre Sept. 29–30, with additional shows Oct. 1, 2, 6 and 8. Tickets are $17, $15 for seniors and $10 for students. For more information, call 407-823-1500, visit Theatre.UCF.edu or email theatre@ucf.edu.

Next fall Part romance, part family drama, part coming-of-age story, Next Fall tells the story of a gay couple with religious differences. On Broadway just last year, it runs at Mad Cow Theatre through Oct. 26. Tickets range from $9-$25 and are available at MadCowTheatre. com. On Sunday, Oct. 9, there will be an MBA-sponsored performance which is an official allied event of Come Out With Pride.

Nice People Dancing to Good country Music A funny, wacky, real-life play by awardwinning playwright Lee Blessing, Nice People Dancing to Good Country Music is both the name of the show and the imaginary bar where the story takes place. $17 adult, $15 seniors, $10 student tickets at Black Box Theatre. Showtimes are 8 p.m. Oct. 1 and 2 p.m. matinee Oct. 2. For more information, visit theatre.ucf.edu. [SARASOTA]

The Sound of Music The Sound of Music is an iconic film with a camp following. See it on the stage when

the Manatee Players present the musical through Oct. 9. Look for some of your favorite local LGBT actors—just not as the Von Trapp children. For details and tickets, visit ManateePlayers.com. [ST. PETERSBURG]

Grey Gardens Gather the cat litter and prepare for the live, musical version of Grey Gardens, presented by the popular Freefall Theatre on Central Avenue through Oct.2. The story of two sisters who become recluses in their massive, historic home was turned into an iconic documentary, Broadway musical, and HBO movie starring Drew Barrymore and Jessica Lange. Now Freefall is taking a crack at the warm, yet heartbreaking tale of the two women at its core. For details and tickets, visit FreeFallTheatre.com or call 727-498-5205. [YBOR CITY+TAMPA]

coco & homo’s Super fierce Slumber Party a Trashtastic Coco and Homo are premiering their first full length performance art cabaret, Coco and Homo’s Super Fierce Slumber Party, at the Roosevelt 2.0 on Sept. 29 and 30. Incorporating an eclectic mix of songs (From Kurt Weill to Ke$ha) and interactive, playful, and sometimes naughty games, this dynamic duo of trash and hedonism have created a post-modern religious experience for the 21st Century. Showtime is at 9 p.m., tickets at CocoandHomo.com.

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UpStander Day The Holocaust Center downtown is hosting a free community event to raise awareness about bullying. UpStander Day, to encourage bystanders to take an active role in stopping bullying, is Sunday, Oct. 2, 3 – 5 p.m. at the bandshell at Lake Eola. The event will feature a special performance (appropriate for all) by MicheLee puppets, activities and snacks.

COWP Opening Ceremony Come Out with Pride’s opening ceremony is a high fashion event featuring 32 designs by 8 students of the International Academy of Design & Technology, with the winning designer featured on stage at Orlando Pride’s main event Oct. 8. It kicks off 7 p.m. Thursday, Oct. 6 at The Abbey downtown. No cover, but VIP tickets available at ComeOutWithPride.com. Music, silent auction, cash bar. [TAMPA]

Deepak Chopra New-age metaphysics master, Deepak Chopra, is making a rare Florida appearance at the Straz Center for the Performing Arts on friday, Oct. 7 at 7:30 p.m. The author of more than 60 books, including numerous bestsellers, will talk about “Healing, Transformation and Higher Consciousness.” Tickets are $34.50 and can be purchased at 813-229-7827 or strazcenter.org.

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2- (L-R) leonardo, Gloria, Mercedes and James are the owners of Tampa’s newest LGBT nightspot, 4Friends Club-Bar. 3- Tampa Mayor Bob Buckhorn presented MC Film Festival co-owner Carrie West with Ybor City Development Corp.’s Achievement Award. 4- Attendees at Queens Head Restaurant and Eurobar’s party to celebrate the repeal of ‘Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell. 5- Co-founders Marianne Puechl (left) and Cindy Sproul (with their daughter, Kestin) at the Rainbow Wedding Network’s Expo at the Crowne Plaza Tampa Westshore. 6- Ybor City Development Corp. president Vince Pardo (2nd from left) with new board members (L-R) D. Stephen Moss, Bonnie Plumbtree and Manny alvarez.

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tampa bay overheard GaYBOR Happenings The sun never sets in Ybor City. Just in the last two weeks, Tampa Mayor Bob Buckhorn presented MC Film Festival co-owner Carrie West with the Ybor City Development Corp. 2011 Achievement Award for his indefatigable promotion of the historic commercial district. GaYBOR Coalition members Manny Alvarez (Liquid Lounge), D. Stephen Moss (Honey Pot, G.Bar), and Bonnie Plumbtree (Crowbar) were named to the YCDC board. And Hillsborough Community College students returned! According to MC Film Fest’s Mark Bias, the bumper crop of fresh-faced collegians loves to party at the Ybor Social Club on Thursday nights, and then with a full complement of liquid courage venture over to Bradley’s on 7th to enter the amateur strip contest—with $200 prize. That’ll buy a few books! According to Bias, some of them stop at MC to pick up a clean pair of underwear first.

4Friends Bar Opens It just opened earlier this month, but many are already pronouncing 4Friends Club-Bar the “best gay latino party in town.” The owners are—you guessed it—four friends, comprised of two couples: Mercedes and Gloria, and Leonardo and James. Gloria is a professional cake artist, and Leonardo is an accomplished

artist whose paintings have won awards, and hang on the walls at the bar. 4Friends features a stage, dance floor, high tech lighting and video screens. Right now it’s open Thursday thru Sunday nights at 4025 W. Waters Ave. just west of Dale Mabry.

DADT Dies at Queens Head On Tuesday Sept. 20, more than 100 people gathered at Queens Head Restaurant and Eurobar to celebrate the repeal of the military’s nefarious ‘Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell’ policy. A happy mix of LGBT veterans, elected officials and community activists listened to the different experiences of two gay service members, Kris Tobin and Brian Arsenault, under DADT. The happy event was sponsored by Stonewall Democrats of Pinellas.

Trans Art Transgender artist Robin Morgan’s striking “Noise” is one of twelve sculptures being considered for permanent display by the City of Sarasota. All twelve were selected to be installed in downtown Sarasota for one year, and the winner—announced Nov. 9—will be purchased by the city for $20,000. “This is my first sculpture, so I don’t expect to win,” Morgan said. “I’m honored to be included in this group of professional artists.”

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orlando overheard What the Fuzz Vince Koehle, organizer of the successful Cactus Club Reunion in April, is about to let the fur fly just in time for Bear Bust. On October 7, you’re invited to a bear run at Sip. Aptly named “Fuzz,” the event offers the fur bearing and those who love them the opportunity to mix, mingle and man-handle. “Candidly, I like men with fur and I figure there must be other guys like me,” Koehle says. The concept came about after a conversation with SIP bartender Jay Wood about creating diverse events at the bar. A live performance series—LIVE @ SIP—debuted Sept. 20. “SIP wants to give everyone in the community the opportunity to get together,” Wood says. The hope is that Fuzz will become a regular monthly event.

Missing Machers A recent press release announced that Parliament House owners and enthusiastic Come Out With Pride parade staples Don Granatstein and Susan Unger won’t be at this year’s COWP on Oct. 8. Count Revolution nightclub owner Craig Mestel among the missing as well. It turns out that this year, COWP falls on Yom Kippur, a traditional time of fasting and reflection that is one of the highest holy days of the Jewish faith. “On October 8, we will be observing the tenants of our faith

and regret we are unable to participate in the parade,” Granatstein said in the statement. “We look forward to celebrating with all our friends at next year’s event.” But Parliament House, Revolution and Pulse will still be there this year, joining together to form a single parade unit. The press release states that the three nightclubs are combining forces “in the spirit of cooperation and as a demonstration of good community relations.” 2011 is the first year that COWP has been held on Saturday.

The Amazing Race: Orlando If you love The Amazing Race, you’ll adore the “Dare to be Proud Urban Adventure” in Orlando On Oct. 1, two-person teams will have the opportunity to show off their LGBT pride as they tackle clues, trivia, and physical challenges throughout the City Beautiful. Participants must travel by foot or public transportation as they navigate the urban landscape to find hidden checkpoints. This photo hunt has all the exhilaration of the popular television show packed into one day. Inventiveness, agility and wit will be at a premium, and costumes are encouraged. Afterwards, teams are invited to hang out with fellow participants, eat, drink, and celebrate community. For more info, visit daretobeproud.com

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A Career Beyond Camp

Talented Harmony Santana could be one of the first transgender actors to find success in serious roles.

hen it comes to life transformation, it doesn’t get any more dramatic. Two years ago, Harmony Santana was a teenager, living as a man on the streets of New York, turning the occasional trick when it was necessary to eat. Today, she’s a beautiful young woman in transition, starring in an indie film that’s gaining traction on the film festival circuit, sharing a Bronx walkup with two friends and lining up acting gigs with an eye toward college. At the Sundance Film Festival she met James Franco and Zoe Saldana, and mingled with the likes of Meryl Streep, Angelina Jolie and Anne Hathaway. In Gun Hill Road, the opening night selection for the Tampa International Gay & Lesbian Film Festival, Santana plays a shy teenage boy in a tough neighborhood who wants to live as a girl. But everything changes when his macho father, played by La Bamba’s Esai Morales, is released from prison and returns home ready to reconnect with his oldest son. It was a demanding first role for Santana, whose only acting experience was playing a Boy George lookalike in a high school production of The Wedding Singer. Santana will be at the Tampa Theatre on Thursday, Oct. 6 for Gun Hill Road, and for a couple days afterward to talk about the movie, her amazing life and her plans for the future. “I know who I am and what I want to accomplish,” Santana says. “And I know that I can save lives with my career and, by example, my life.”

A lot of crying A faded red couch is the only furniture in Santana’s living room, just two noisy blocks from the Fordham Road subway station. There are no tables or lamps. The patched walls are bare. It might feel dreary if it weren’t for Santana, whose poised charm fills the room. Dressed in designer jeans, a feminine black scoop neck t-shirt, hoop earrings and hair pulled back in a flattering chignon, she pulses with ambition, but also humble disbelief at her change in circumstances. “I’m living my dream,” she says. The talented Santana could be one of the first Continued on page 54 | uu |

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A minute with…

Ken Hodges

TIGLFF Board President

ampa | Each year, the Tampa International Gay and Lesbian Film Festival has the challenge of producing the fifth largest festival of its kind in the country. That joyful burden is shared by the organization’s board, staff and volunteers. But the board president is in charge of bringing all the different aspects of an 11-day festival together. This year that task belongs to Ken Hodges. Hodges first joined TIGLFF’s board in 2005. He has always been involved with the arts, and especially film. The Tampa-based real estate agent has landed a few bit parts in movies. He was drawn to TIGLFF because of its reputation as a “filmmaker’s film festival.” This year’s TIGLFF takes place from Oct. 6-16 at the Tampa Theatre, Tampa Museum of Art, Muvico Baywalk in St. Petersburg, and multiple party venues. Visit tiglff.com for movie listings and more information. With opening night just a week away, we spent some time with Hodges to find out how his love of film developed, what makes TIGLFF click after 22 years, and what we can expect this year. WATERMARK: Is there a specific LGBT film that stood out for you as a young man? KEN HODGES: This dates me, but it would have to be the 1982 film, Making Love. At that time, LGBT films were few and far between. Making Love was one of the first that actually had a real story to tell. It was about a married man coming to terms with his sexuality and the love triangle that emerges between the characters played by Kate Jackson, Harry Hamlin and Michael Ontkean. I grew up in the South, where men and women lived in the closet. Making Love showed that being gay was okay. I won’t give away the ending, but it is a must see. With so many LGBT media outlets these days—Logo, Here!, even Bravo—is it more difficult to attract audiences to LGBT-themed film festivals? It’s a double edged sword. Some people will wait and see certain films when they come out on DVD or online. But some of the best films never find distributors. In that case, the only place to see them is at an LGBT festival like TIGLFF. And some people like it that way; for them it’s a matter of community. The festival gives everyone an opportunity to come out and see movies that are by, for and about us

in an environment that is accepting, welcoming and comforting. The official TIGLFF program announces the return of the black tie gala. What inspired that party’s resurrection? The Gala has been around for a few years and has always been well received. We opted not to do it last year due to the downturn in the economy, but people missed it so we decided to bring it back. There aren’t many opportunities for us to get together as a community at a formal event. Of course it’s black tie optional. This year we’re calling it the “Great Gatsby Gala.” It’s presented by ALandCHUCK.travel at 9 p.m. on Saturday, Oct. 8 at the Don Vicente in Ybor City. What excites you most about this year’s festival? Without question it would be the quantity and quality of films submitted to us and that we’re presenting. Our new program director, KJ Mohr, did an outstanding job sampling other top film festivals throughout the country. She had the opportunity to personally meet with some great directors and producers and secure their films. The festival added a third venue this year—the Tampa Museum of Art.

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Why the addition? This year, TIGLFF really sought to reach out into the community and collaborate with other organizations. The Tampa Museum of Art is a perfect fit. It’s two blocks from our main venue, the Tampa Theatre, and it’s a fantastic facility with an intimate screening room that seats 125 people. It’s the perfect venue for artistic films, foreign films and documentaries that traditionally draw a smaller crowd. Pam Iorio was a big supporter of the festival. Is Tampa’s new mayor, Bob Buckhorn, also behind the event? It will be different this year not seeing Pam on opening night. But Mayor Buckhorn prepared a welcome letter for our program and is scheduled to address the audience on opening

night. I hope he’ll be there every year, like Pam was. How would you describe the TIGLFF audience? Forever changing. Each year, we work hard to make sure we have a wide variety of films for all segments of our community. This year there’s a “Youth Showcase” on Sat. Oct 15 starting at 11 a.m. We’ll screen Bashment, followed by a panel discussion featuring Community Tampa Bay, USF Pride, and local GSA and youth organizations. We also have a compelling documentary about LGBT elders called Gen Silent. It’s about how the LGBT seniors who spearheaded our battle for equal rights and have been forced back into the closet by homophobia at nursing Continued on page 52 | uu |

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We Were Here returns to a San Francisco filled with illness, death and discrimination in the early days of AIDS.

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hirty years after it first emerged and devastated our community, the AIDS Crisis lingers on— albeit far more quietly. “There’s been a silence around the epidemic, partly because we all needed to take a breath,” says San Francisco-based filmmaker David Weissman. Weissman’s powerful new documentary, We Were Here (co-directed and edited by Bill Weber, his collaborator on 2002’s The Cockettes), looks back at AIDS’ arrival and profound impact on San Francisco’s LGBT community. His lens: riveting archival photos and video footage, and the touching recollections of five incredible survivors. The result is an intense, intimate and emotional experience that once again shines light on the forgotten and, to many younger gays, completely unknown horrors that AIDS unleashed on our community. Inspiringly, the film also recalls the caring and courageous activism that resulted. We Were Here won the Audience Award at a jam-packed OutFest in Los Angeles. It debuts in Florida at the Tampa International Gay and Lesbian Film Festival at 1 p.m. on Sunday, October 9—a perfect time to sit back and fully consider a most important chapter in the LGBT history book. Weissman took a break from the festival circuit to discuss making the film, reliving his experiences through the process, and the controversial issues raised by looking back. WATERMARK: AIDS has been around for 30 years. What made you want to make the film now? DAVID WEISSMAN: The idea came from a conversation with a boyfriend, also a filmmaker, who was much younger than I. He’d heard me talk about my experiences during the early years and suggested that it would make a good film. I feel the movie creates a dialogue between generations about those important years. It’s perfect that the idea was

suggested by someone who had not lived through it. Going back to that time, do you remember the first time you heard about AIDS? I very much remember the Bay Area Reporter article in April of 1981 that said there was a cluster of [Kaposi’s Sarcoma outbreaks] among gay men. And then a few months later there was another little article saying the CDC had also noted a

We Were Here looks back as the first wave of AIDS swept over San Francisco. lawrence ferber

cluster of pneumonia cases among gay men. The first stories were small, but I remember them vividly. The documentary features just five interview subjects, all of whom you knew prior to making the the film. Did you consider featuring more voices and viewpoints? Well, from the beginning I knew I wanted to limit the number of subjects because I wanted to tell a movie that was deep rather than broad. And that depth came from fully recounting the experience of those few people. You couldn’t get the same depth if there were too many interview subjects. We settled on the five not because I’d known them, but because they offered such rich insights. Their stories were so potent that I didn’t want to dilute them. In this case, depth created breadth. You got such compelling stories out of them. Were you surprised that their memories were still so accessible?

Part of the casting process was to identify people who would be really open to sharing their internal journey for the benefit of others. It was an intuitive process, and I think it worked. The ones we chose were incredibly generous with their memories and histories. So you initially interviewed more people who were around back then? Yes, many more. Are the ones who got cut from the film upset? No. I told everyone at the outset that there was a good chance some or all of their interviews wouldn’t make it into the film. I think they appreciated having the opportunity to revisit and process that part of their life. Many of them hadn’t talked about it in years. I think it was a cathartic experience for everyone. You used archival photos and footage I had never seen before. How did you Continued on page 50 | uu |

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Chock Full O’Docs We Were Here is just one of many documentaries you won’t want to miss at this year’s TIGLFF. For the first time, many will be screened at the beautiful Tampa Museum of Art. Here are some standouts:

Hit So Hard: The Life & Near Death Story of Patty Schemel [Oct. 8, 3 p.m., Tampa Theatre] Follows the dramatic journey of the openly gay drummer of Courtney Love’s seminal rock band, Hole.

Kink Crusaders [Oct. 8, 5 p.m., Tampa Theatre] Chronicles the surprising 33-year history of the annual International Mr. Leather gathering in Chicago.

Gen Silent [Oct. 9, 12 p.m., Tampa Museum of Art] Celebrates LGBT elders, and exposes discrimination in nursing homes.

Die Jungs vom Bahnhof Zoo-Rent Boys [Oct. 9, 3 p.m., Tampa Museum of Art] Rosa von Praunheim’s fascinating study of five young men who perform sex for money in Berlin.

Cancerpants [Oct. 9, 4:45 p.m., Tampa Museum of Art] Rochelle Pouson’s battle with breast cancer, and the dyke community that rallied around her.

The Ballad of Genesis & Lady Jaye [Oct. 9, 8:30 p.m., Tampa Museum of Art] Performance artist Genesis undergoes multiple surgeries to resemble his love, Lady Jaye.

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find it, and was it difficult to get permission to use it? It was particularly difficult to find photos of sick people, especially with Kaposi’s Sarcoma lesions, because people back then didn’t want their pictures taken. So to find a picture of a sick person walking on Castro Street was not easy. Once you started working on the film, did the intensity of the subject matter follow you home? Yeah, it was an emotional journey to revisit all of that, even from a historical vantage point. I felt a responsibility to get the politics and the emotions right. And it was unavoidable to share that history without reactivating my personal experience. The same was true for Bill Weber, my filmmaking partner. The film touches on some emotionally wrenching -- but also largely forgotten -aspects of the AIDS crisis. For instance, a lot of people with AIDS committed suicide when they got extremely sick and there was no effective treatment. Many had the kind of ‘going away’ gatherings like the one depicted in the film, It’s My Party. There are so many things people have forgotten, or never knew. It’s an extraordinary history of an extraordinary time. One incredible thing someone shared with me was that when they went to a performance back then in San Francisco—opera, symphony, a movie at Castro Theater—it was normal to hear beeping throughout because everybody had these beeper boxes to remind them to take all their different medicines at the exact time. It was chilling to be reminded of that. The film is specific to San Francisco. Does it reflect what happened in other cities? Will people who went through the early days of AIDS in other cities relate to the film? People will have to determine for themselves. I’m curious to know. I lived in San Francisco, so it reflects my vision of the experience there. There were very specific circumstances because of the power of the gay community and responsiveness of city government. So in some ways it’s a singular story, but I also think it’s universal. The human piece—the suffering, the sadness, the helplessness and frustration, and the care giving—is universal to everywhere that AIDS existed in those early days. Now that it’s done, does the film surprise you in any way? Does it accomplish anything that you never envisioned? It’s hard to say, because everyone’s experience of the movie is so personal and subjective. The most wonderful thing for me is when people tell me they saw it three times because it was so cathartic. And also how

We Were Here director David Weissman: “I haven’t watched the movie yet without crying.”

powerfully it has impacted young men. I’ve had many conversations with men in their 20s and 30s who were totally blown away by the movie. It enlightened them about how we got to where we are, what older gay men went through, and the extraordinary support provided by lesbians and also straight people. It’s a story that hasn’t been told like this movie tells it, and it’s really gratifying that it’s deeply impacting people.

to all the lost lives and past suffering to overlook how challenging and expensive it can be to live with HIV today? I hope that younger generations of gay men see this movie, and gain a greater respect for the suffering and strength of those who came before them. And I hope that translates into deeper thinking about their sexual behavior. The prevention message in the film comes from a place of love and self-respect rather than finger wagging. We’re part of a community, and it’s our responsibility to take care of ourselves and each other. That’s our legacy. Unlike back then, gay men today have so much knowledge about HIV and how to prevent its spread. And yet new infections occur, in alarming and steady numbers. It’s difficult for people who lived through those years to see people still getting infected. They’re not taking the risk, or the ramifications, seriously. It’s frustrating—even enraging—but I don’t usually express that because I also feel compassion. The people doing the infecting are another story. If you’re HIV-positive, you have an absolute responsibility not to infect anyone. Everybody has an obligation to not hurt anyone, not to make the world worse. And we as gay men have a unique obligation not to perpetuate the epidemic. | l |

“We’re part of a community, and it’s our responsibility to take care of ourselves and each other. That’s our legacy.”—david weissman Are there any parts you find hard to watch? I haven’t watched the whole movie yet without crying, so I don’t sit through it very often anymore. The whole experience is hard—not just watching the movie, but doing a Q&A after a film festival screening. It’s challenging because it requires me to be present emotionally in a very painful area. But it’s also a rich experience. I don’t mind it, but it’s exhausting. In light of what passed, and all the new cases of AIDS still occurring, how do you feel about our brothers who eroticize barebacking? Do you think it’s a disservice

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The Festival Circuit

homes and with health care providers. How about you? Do you like comedies, dramas or documentaries? Don’t think of this as a cop out, but I like them all equally. When you love film, and you’re watching a good one, you enjoy it. I guess if I had to pick I’d say comedies. It’s great to see everyone leave the theater with a smile on their face. Locals comprise the biggest audience for TIGLFF. Do you get much feedback from outside Tampa Bay? We’re getting a lot of feedback from throughout the country on our Facebook fan page. It feels good. Do you talk with the organizers of other LGBT film festivals? Yes. We’re all looking for the best ways to obtain funding and utilize our budgets. Some festivals that occur around the same time of year have reached out to us to see if there are ways that we can share expenses for films and also for things like bringing in talent. Last year we helped the local Jewish Film Festival promote one of their films. This year, the executive director of the Miami Gay and Lesbian Film Festival is coming up for opening weekend to see how we run our festival. It’s quite an honor actually. Other than TIGLFF, what are your favorite LGBT film festivals? I’ve been to many, and they all have their own way of organizing and running their events. Outfest in LA is large and sprawling. Newfest in New York takes place in multiple venues so you’re just another face in the crowd. Frameline in San Francisco is the granddaddy of LGBT film festivals; it’s a lot like ours, but on a grander scale. My favorite is Miami’s. It’s intimate—both venues are walkable from all the South Beach hotels. . What’s your favorite TIGLFF memory? I see so many wonderful things happen during our festival, so it’s hard to choose. Old friends connect with new friends, people run into people they haven’t seen in years, and people even fall in love! The audience gets to meet actors, actresses, producers and

The TIGLFF Circuit The Great Gatsby Gala Saturday, Oct. 8, 10 p.m. to 2 a.m., The Don Vicente de Ybor, $75 (or TIGLFF pass), black tie preferred, presented by ALandCHUCK.travel.

In addition to 22-year-old TIGLFF, here are some of the biggest and best annual LGBT film festivals:

Austin Gay & Lesbian International Film Festival 24th year, early September.

BFI London Lesbian & Gay Film Festival 25th year, early April.

Boston LGBT Film Festival 27th year, early May.

Chicago Gay & Lesbian Film Fest 30th year, early November.

Frameline (San Francisco) 35th year, mid June.

Miami Gay & Lesbian Film Festival 13th year, late April.

MIX Brasil

19th year, mid-November.

NewFest: The New York LGBT Film Festival 23th year, late July.

Outfest (Los Angeles) 29th year, mid July.

Philadelphia Qfest

17th year, mid July.

Reel Affirmations (Washington, D.C.) 20th year, mid October.

Three Dollar Bill Cinema (Seattle) 16th year, mid October.

directors up close and personal. And of course there are the parties! One thing stands out: last year we honored Mayor Pam as she was leaving office. We prepared a short video of her from all eight years that she attended. I was sitting next to her in the front row and she looked over at me and said, “This is for me? Really?” Her eyes welled up and she said, “You people are so special. I will never forget you all.” The other best memory is opening night every year. I love seeing a line form around the building, watching the community come together in front of Tampa Theatre, smiles on their faces, socializing in the street with the anticipation of seeing another great line-up of quality LGBT film. | l |

TIGLFF is the motherlode for current LGBT cinema. But it’s also host to some of the best parties of the year:

Taste of TIGLFF & Street Festival Saturday, Oct. 15, noon to 5 p.m., Franklin and Zack Streets, presented by St. Pete Pride and Tampa Bay Business Guild.

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Saturday, Oct. 15, 9 p.m. to 3 a.m., The RITZ Ybor, $15 (or TIGLFF pass), featuring DJ Seth Cooper, presented by ALandCHUCK.travel.

Saturday, Oct. 15, 9 p.m. to 3 a.m., The Honey Pot, $10 ($20 VIP “Taste of Sugar” desserts), décor by Mathieu and Chou, presented by Tease Saturdays at The Honey Pot.

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In Gun Hill Road, Harmony Santana (at left, with Karina Casiano) plays a teenage boy whose plans to live as a girl are upset when his father is released from prison.

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transgender actors to establish a career beyond camp. Jaye Davidson received an Academy Award nomination for his turn in The Crying Game (1992). More recently, Candis Cayne and Laverne Cox are finding roles in television and movies, and Chaz Bono is successful as a celebrity activist. But in the past, coveted transgender roles were filled by mainstream actors. John Lithgow played ex-football player Roberta Muldoon in The World According to Garp (1982). Hilary Swank won an Oscar for her breathtaking portrayal of a female-to-male murder victim in Boys Don’t Cry (1999). And Felicity Huffman was nominated for an Academy Award and Golden Globe for her touching turn as a trans woman in Transamerica (2005). Santana’s “number one goal” is to play women, and under the tutelage of Gun Hill Road producer Michelle-Anne Small she recently landed a juicy female role in another indie project currently filming in Brooklyn. Santana also has a recurring part in the Eating Out comedy trilogy currently airing on Logo, including a lead role in Eating Out: Drama Camp. But right now, she’s betting on Gun Hill Road—a finalist for the esteemed Jury Award at Sundance—to establish her chops as a legitimate actress. In it she plays Michael, a 16-year-old just exploring his sexuality and gender difference in the smothering environment of the Bronx. His mother (Judy Reyes of Scrubs) is accepting, but it is beyond

his violent father’s comprehension. The role requires Santana, now 21, to play fight scenes, breakup scenes, sex scenes and even a brief nude scene. “I did a lot of crying,” she now laughs. It helped that she was able to draw directly from her own experience. One of 13 children, Santana describes a strong bond with her mother and siblings in nearby New Jersey. “My relationship with my mom is actually better than the one in the movie,” Santana says. “We share clothes, I give her makeup tips… she’s so open. And I go clubbing with my older sisters.” She expresses sadness and scorn for a disapproving and emotionally violent father who lives in the Dominican Republic, and with whom she hasn’t spoken in seven years “There was no physical abuse, but he’d slap my hand if it was limp and tell me to walk different,” Santana says. “I overheard him calling me faggot.”

then a boy, lost his virginity at 13. And he grew close to his siblings, who accepted his femininity and attraction to other boys at an early age. Things got more difficult when his mother’s new boyfriend moved in with the family. A disapproving disciplinarian, he shuttered a bedroom window to prevent escape. Santana stuck it out through high school and then left for New York, bouncing around between friends before ending up on the streets. Still living as a man, he contemplated suicide. When necessary, he sold himself to get money

It was at Green Chimneys that Santana began living as a woman. She also began volunteering for Harlem United, a nearby medical clinic with HIV testing and other services. In June of 2010, Santana offered to staff a Harlem United booth at Queens Pride, and her life took a wholly unexpected turn. Queens Pride Other than a small role in a high school musical, Santana had no acting experience. But she harbored dreams cultivated during that difficult childhood. “I used to watch DVDs in my bedroom. I’d pause certain scenes and then reenact them in front of the mirror, trying to do it even better than the actor in the movie,” she says, moving to demonstrate. “My favorite was Titanic. I’d lean over the bed and be Kate Winslet… ‘I’ll never let go Jack!’” At Queens Pride, Santana was unaware that Gun Hill Road director Green was conducting an extensive search to find the right actor for the most difficult-to-cast role. The actor had to look 16, Hispanic, and convincing as a transgender character without “significant female development.” “I looked at attractive gay males who had experience with drag, but they didn’t have the essence I was looking for,” Green told the New York Times. “There’s a difference between someone who’s pretending to be female and someone who actually believes

“I know that I can save lives with my career and, by example, my life.” —harmony santana

Green Chimneys Santana’s mother and father were together off and on for most of her pre-teen years, both giving birth to children in and outside the marriage. But as their relationship deteriorated, some of that time was spent in shelters with her mother, sister and two brothers. Santana,

to live on. “It felt gross, but I’m not ashamed,” Santana says quietly. “I needed money to live.” And then he discovered Green Chimneys, a resource for homeless LGBT youth funded by the City of New York. The groundbreaking program provides shelter and a crack at a job for up to eighteen months. Thirty percent of any income is held back, and then applied to rent and other expenses when participants are ready to live on their own, as Santana is now. It also provides much-needed professional and medical assistance for transgender youth.

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TIGLFF Talent Parade Some of the actors, directors and writers who will appear at TIGLFF:

Wendyjo Carleton writer/director Jessica London-Shields actor

Jamie & Jessie Are Not Together Friday, Oct. 7, 7 p.m., Tampa Theatre.

JC Calciano

writer/director eCupid Sunday, Oct. 9, 9 p.m., Tampa Theatre

Michael Simon

writer/director The Love Patient Thursday, Oct. 13, 7 p.m., Tampa Theatre

Jill Bennett actor Cathy De Buono actor

We Have to Stop Now 2 Friday, Oct. 14, 7:15 p.m., Tampa Theatre.

Esai Morales in Gun Hill Road.

they are.” One of Green’s assistants saw Santana at the Harlem United booth. He gave her a flyer, took a picture, and a few days later she was auditioning. “It was the first time I’d ever auditioned for anything,” she remembers. “It must’ve gone well, because I got the part.” Six weeks of intense daily lessons with NYU acting teacher Carra Patterson followed. “I didn’t know I had so many emotional levels, or that I could access them when I wanted to,” Santana says. “It opened my mind to feelings about my father… lots of stuff.” There were also trips to the gym to lose weight and other physical requirements. Santana, who had just started living as a woman weeks prior, was forbidden to pluck her eyebrows, and she had to stop tanning and dye her hair black. The shooting schedule was tight, often placing difficult demands on Santana and the other actors. “There’s a scene where I break up with a boyfriend,” she recalls. “It was filmed outdoors in a park, and I couldn’t bring myself to the emotional state required in just two takes. But we had to move on because we had to be at another location in time to catch the sunset.” As for playing both sides of the transgender dichotomy, Santana used the same approach she had adopted in life. “I just did me,” she says. “I did feel like I had to butch it up sometimes, but most of the time I was me—Harmony—even as a boy.”

Source of inspiration Santana says the movie accelerated her transition in unexpected ways. “Everyone made me feel very comfortable,” she says. “They called me ‘Harmony.’ They made it easy for me to fall into my own skin. Being cast in the movie gave me a lot of courage.” She’s taking hormones and other medications prescribed at the Callen Lorde Community Health Center in Manhattan, home to a world-renowned Transgender Health Services department. She eventually wants to undergo sexual reassignment surgery, but for now is pleased with the size and shape of her developing—“I like mine small”—and naturallooking breasts. “I’m so happy, but the surgery is a priority for me,” Santana says. “Otherwise I wouldn’t feel complete. It’s hard to describe, but I want to feel… like me.” And Santana wants other transgender men and women to feel that way, too. From her understanding family, to her rescue from the streets and good fortune in landing the role in Gun Hill Road, she knows she’s been lucky. “There’s nothing like it when someone comes up to you and says you’ve inspired them,” she says. “A woman contacted me on Facebook and told me she’d wanted to transition when she was young but felt she couldn’t because she had a child that needed a father. She told me she’d seen the film, and it had inspired her to be herself. Stuff like that really gets to me. I didn’t know I could ever feel that way.” | l |

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Sarasota’s Trinity Charities program director Bruce Fournier and his partner Frank Horan celebrate seven years of legal, Provincetown marriage on Oct. 1.

Orlando Sentinel nightlife columnist Kelly Fitzpatrick died on Sept. 23 at the age of 36. Her husband, Casey Dayhoff, said the cause may have been related to sleep apnea. Fitzpatrick was on outspoken friend of the LGBT community, often devoting significant amounts of her popular column to LGBT clubs and nightlife.

Joe Grodecki and Charles Goss of Altamonte Springs celebrate their 24th anniversary on Oct. 5. Mary Birchler and Kimberly Boshears of Spring Hill celebrate 19 years together on Oct. 9. The couple adopted a son who turned 11 years old in July. The GaYbor District Coalition celebrates another year of uniting LGBT and LGBTfriendly businesses in Tampa’s historic district on Sept. 29.

Moving Framing of Central Florida is moving from Virginia Ave. to Orange Ave., across from White Wolf. The shop is owned by Rudy Wright and Mike VanDerLeest.

New Opportunities Rob Domenico has been hired as the Director of Community Relations for Hope and Help of Central Florida, Inc.

Local Birthdays MBA membership director Ayr Poucher, HIV/ AIDS activist Rob Domenico and Pastor Anthony J. Borka (Sept. 30); Serial Thrillers co-captain Christina Sockol and CuraScript Specialty Distribution’s Troy Marr (Oct. 2); Twirler and former TIGLFF executive director Chuck Henson and flashy flash mobber Randy Ross (Oct. 4); Lighthouse Realty broker/ owner Mike Trexler (Oct. 6); Gomez Law Firm of St. Petersburg’s Ian Stanislaus, Orlando Youth Alliance board president/Orlando AntiDiscrimination Ordinance committee founder Michael Slaymaker, face painter extraordinaire and roller derby fan Brit Lytle and cultural arts coordinator and partner to Orlando City Commissioner Patty Sheehan Jocelynn White (Oct. 7); GLBT Center volunteer Richard Champalbert (Oct. 9); former Mr. Florida Gulf Coast Leather Lincoln Calcavecchi and MC Film Festival co-owner and “Dishing With Mark and Carrie” columnist Mark Bias (Oct. 13).

Watermark blogger Scottie Campbell has been appointed to the board for Ivanhoe Village, part of the Orlando Main Street Initiative. Send news about birthdays, passings, anniversaries, promotions, commitment ceremonies—and whatever you commemorate—to Editor@WatermarkOnline.com.

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Phoenix Suns president resigns to be with partner wire report Pheonix | Phoenix Suns President and Chief Executive Officer Rick Welts is resigning after running the franchise’s business side for nine years. Less than four months after jolting the sports world by becoming the first pro sports team senior executive to be openly gay, Welts jolted his own organization Friday by sharing plans to leave what he has called one of the best jobs in sports. Welts told The Arizona Republic on Sept. 9 that he is not leaving for another job, but to be in another city. In the past year, Welts started a new relationship and his partner is in Sacramento. He plans to do speaking

engagements and perhaps take an offer to write a book. “The most important thing for me is to get my personal and professional lives Phoenix Suns Preisdent Rick better aligned,” Welts said. Welts was the first senior “They’ve probably executive of a pro sports team to be openly gay. never been aligned. I’m 58 years old and it’s time to do that.” The Suns are allowing Welts to leave his contract nearly 10 months early. His final work

day was Sept. 15. In large part, Welts said he needs to relocate because his partner has joint custody of two children in Sacramento. “I’ve relied on Rick quite a bit in terms of managing the Phoenix Suns,” team owner Robert Sarver said. “We’ve spoken once a day for the last seven years for the most part. He’s become a good friend and I’ll definitely miss him. At the end of the day, what’s most important is that he’s happy. As much as I’d like Rick to stay, it’s the right move for him and I’m supportive of it.” Widely respected after a four-decade career in sports, Welts left as president of Fox Sports to become the Suns’ president and chief operating officer. He said there is a clear connection between this decision and his revelation in May that he is gay and the fallout of that. “This has been an incredibly gratifying experience, going through that and reaching a different part of my life where I’m able to share

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100 percent of my life with people I work with instead of 95 percent,” Welts said. “There’s a great sense of satisfaction and freedom in that. What I’m doing is uncharacteristic of Rick Welts. Leaving one of the best jobs in sports to go figure out what’s next is something I never would’ve done a year ago or five years ago or 10 years ago. Personally, there is a level of confidence. The future is going to be terrific.” Welts began his NBA life in 1969 as a ballboy for the Seattle SuperSonics. NBA Commissioner David Stern recruited Welts to be the league’s director of national promotions in 1982, before the league renaissance. Welts worked his way through various roles until he was the No.3 man in the league as its executive vice president, chief marketing officer and president of NBA properties. He was recently honored at the U.S. Open with the United States Tennis Association’s ICON Award for diversity and inclusion in the sports industry. | l |

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Key West | American long-distance swimmer Dianna Nyad decided on Sunday to abandon her third attempt to swim from Cuba to Florida. Nyad, 62 and openly lesbian, had swum for more than 40 hours and completed more than 77 miles of the 103-mile course. Nyad was forced to quit after being stung

in the face and eyes by Portugese man-o-war. She reported that the pain was “unspeakable.” Medics had warned her team that toxins from the stings were building up and another sting could be life-threatening. Nyad tried the same swim last month but quit after an asthma attack made it difficult to breathe. She also attempted the swim as a 28-year-old in 1978, when she swam for 42 hours before crawling out of the water. | l |

New York | While most focused on the major financial issues resolved in the new NFL collective bargaining agreement, and allowing the NFL season to begin on time, one change went almost unnoticed. The new agreement adds “sexual orientation” to the list of classifications protected from discrimination.

Currently, there are no openly gay players in the NFL. Several players, including David Kopay and Esera Tuaolo, have come out after leaving the ranks of professional players. There is speculation that the protection was added at the behest of Ted Olson and David Boies, the two lead attorneys in the case challenging the anti-gay Proposition 8 in California. They were on opposite sides of the NFL negotiations. | l |

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heyenne Jackson just married his longtime partner, Monte Lapka. Last summer, the couple registered as domestic partners and had a commitment ceremony. But with gay marriage now legal in New York, there weren’t any obstacles to a real wedding. He shared the news via Twitter (of course) by saying, “It’s official, after 11 years together, Zora’s no longer a bastard. Just married the best man I’ve ever known.” By the way, Zora is the couple’s dog. She has Cheyenne’s eyes. Because of delays in filming Wolverine 2, Hugh Jackman is available to start the film version of Les Miserables early. Paul Bettany was originally slated to co-star as Javert, but we now hear that Russell Crowe is actively campaigning for the part. Other names being thrown into the mix are Anne Hathaway (or Amy Adams) as Fontine, and Geoffrey Rush and Helena Bonham Carter as the Thenardiers. Prior to shooting Les Mis, Jackman will bring his solo act to Broadway. From October 25 through December 20 (unless extended), Hugh Jackman in Concert will appear at the Broadhurst Theater. You all know that Darren Criss (Glee) will take over the lead in How To Succeed in Business for three weeks once Daniel

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Radcliffe departs on January 1. But who will replace Criss? Nick Jonas, that’s who -- and he’ll stick around until June. This marks Nick’s return to the Great White Way after roles in Beauty and the Beast and Les Miserables. I always had a feeling he was a thespian. I’ve already told you that Gay Days at Disneyland is from September 30 thru October 2. I’ve already told you that Frenchie Davis will sing her little heart out at the super-duper Kingdom party on October 1. But did you know that the next day I’ll appear in a Speedo at the Plunge pool party? But if you want something less risque, then you’re in luck. The legendary Carol Channing will also appear on October 2 (most likely not in a bathing suit) for an “Intimate Conversation” at the Grand Californian Hotel. Proceeds will benefit her foundation, which is working to get arts back into schools -- a worthy cause if ever there was one. Visit GayDaysAnaheim.com. It seems like Playgirl has a thing for reality stars. The magazine offered Rob Kardashian $45,000 for a nude pictorial -- with an additional $15K if he got hard. Kardashian booked Dancing with the Stars instead, where he’ll be paid roughly $150K for the first two weeks—before tips from Bruno (whether he gets hard or not). Playgirl’s next choice was The Real World: Hollywood star Joey Kovar,, who will be featured on the cover and centerfold of the next issue, out any day now. We hear the mag only paid him $20,000, but I’ve seen the spread and they paid at least $15K too much. Less shaving, more dieting. Get an early glimpse at BillyMasters.com. Back in 2007, I ran photos of Oscar de la Hoya in a variety of fishnet stockings and other genderbending attire (and showing some of his “junk”). At the time, he said the pics were Photoshopped and sold to the tabloids by an exotic dancer. Now he has admitted the photos were real, and fueled by cocaine and alcohol. Oscar’s been dumped as ambassador for Tres Generaciones tequila. The pics are on view again at BillyMasters.

Carol Channing will be pushing some product (and possibly a walker) at Gay Days at Disneyland in early October.

com. Our “Ask Billy” question comes from Corey in London: “I just went to “West End Bares”—which is like “Broadway Bares” in the States. Loved it! What do you know about the hot guy from Priscilla? Amazing bod!” I had forgotten “West End Bares” was last week. This event was the brainchild of my dear friend, Darren Carnall. It started last year when he was in the cast of the West End Blonde—which production of Legally Blonde was directed by Jerry Mitchell, who started “Broadway Bares”. This inspired Darren to organize “West End Bares” and raise money for the Make a Difference Trust (similar to Broadway Cares). Last year was such a huge hit, it returned this year to London’s Café de Paris and raised $70K! Amongst the hunky Thornton, participants was Oliver Thornton one of the sexy stars of Priscilla, Queen of the Desert. He plays the same part Nick Adams is doing on Broadway and they’re both amazing. When Brits are showing off their West Ends, it’s time for me to end yet another column. Until next time, remember, one man’s filth is another man’s bible. | l |

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