HOW CAN YOU TELL WHEN A RELATIONSHIP LOSES ITS SPARK? When you’re with someone for many years, your relationship will naturally go through phases. You’ll encounter relationship stressors like financial problems and family obligations that will shift your focus elsewhere – but you’ll know when you’ve lost the spark in a relationship by these signs. There’s no physical touch: Intimacy is the difference between a friend and a partner, and it doesn’t always mean sex. Holding hands, cuddling, warm hugs, and giving compliments are all a part of intimacy, and the spark in a relationship depends on them. You don’t “date” anymore: Life gets busy for every couple, yet making time to go out and have fun together must be a priority. If you’ve stopped celebrating anniversaries and birthdays or having date nights, it’s time to rekindle the spark. You’ve stopped making an effort: Physical appearances change – you’re bound to get older or even gain a little weight over the long term. But if you aren’t even interested in looking good and feeling healthy for your partner, that’s a sign of trouble. You’re less interested in spending time together: When a relationship loses its spark, you may spend more time with your friends than your partner. You may even find that you’re very easily annoyed by them, causing you to punish your partner or avoid each other altogether.
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