What Every Fat Girl Wants Magazine October Issue

October 2011 Vol 4

A MAN’S OPINION

Boost Your Confidence Fabulous Chili Recipes Quick and Delicious

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significant other is abusing you. It is ok to discuss it with your clergy, physician and

October is here . My how the time has flown

family. Get help . Don’t let these silent

by. Soon we will be welcoming in a bran new

monsters kill you. You are worth so much

year. But we have to get through this one

more than you can imagine.

first. October is national breast cancer and

domestic violence awareness month. We

Open up your mouth and talk about it.

acknowledge an enemy among us that

Talking saves lives. Swift action saves lives.

attacks the inside as well as the outside. Both

Reporting it saves lives. Be proactive with

are deadly to women. Both can be silent

your life and not reactive.

killers. Women are sometimes ashamed to

Read our articles on breast cancer and

admit that either one of them are ricking

domestic violence. If these articles hit home

havoc in their lives. We have to help women

with you, your girlfriend, your loved ones,

understand it is ok to tell. It is ok to tell your

your neighbor get help.

family that you found a lump. It is ok to

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discuss it with your physicians.

It is ok to tell your neighbor that your

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Contributing Writers Janice Alston resides in High Point ,NC. She contributes articles for the Poetry and Prose pages.

Steve Harris is an Asst Pastor. Steve lives in Hurst, Texas with his wife Roxanne He writes the what men wish women knew column.

Jan Stevenson Is an diagnostician for the HEB school system. She resides in Ft Worth, Texas

Sara Hughes studied electrical engineering at Purdue University. She is a bank manager in Ft Wayne, Indiana

Kendra Timmons is a Master Stylist, salon owner, educator, and publisher who is on the cutting edge in the latest hair industry trends and styles. She resides in Arlington, Texas

Chef Will Fleming.

Resides in Euless TX. Loves to cook and create . He has attended The Culinary Institute of America and Johnson Wells University.

CJ Kervin contributes articles for the Movie Madness column . She resides in Mansfield ,Texas .

Rona Walton owns Destynee Travels. She is an avid traveler and resides in Austin, Texas.

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Lorene Collier Percy is a certified life coach and credit counselor. She is a published author and resides in DFW.

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 I am a Survivor 14

 Contributing Writer 3

 Tantalize your Taste buds 15

 Business Spotlight 4,

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 Table of Content 5

 Football Fanatic 18

 Money $Money $Money 6

 DFW Literary Soulfest 20

 Meet our Cover girl 8

 Full Size Fashionista 22

 How T o Spoil Your Hubby 9  Love Don’t Hurt 10

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Welcome to my finance column. Where we will learn a little more about money and you. I look forward to keeping you informed on personal finance issues. We may talk about fraud

•Vishing

prevention, scams, basic finance subjects such as budgeting,

The telephone equivalent of phishing. Vishing is the

loans, and savings, and many other things in the months to

act of using the telephone in an attempt to scam the

come.

user into surrendering private information that will be

This month, I will help you understand some of the social

used for identity theft. The scammer usually pretends

networking scams that are happening.

to be a legitimate business, and fools the victim into

Phishing – What is phishing? It is a spoof on “fishing.” One is

thinking he or she will profit. (Webopedia)

thrown a line of “bait”, with the hopes that one will “bite”.

Okay, so now you know what some of the popular terms mean.

Scammers try to obtain financial or other confidential

Now, how do you know if it is phishing or a legitimate request?

information from Internet users, typically by sending an

Here are some things to look for:

e-mail that looks as if it is from a legitimate

•Spelling and Grammar – Most legitimate companies would

organization, usually a financial institution, but contains

NEVER allow spelling and grammar mistakes to be sent out to

a link to a fake Web site that replicates the real one.

their customers or potential customers.

(Dictionary)

•Links in e-mails – Hover over a link and look at the web

•SMishing

address displayed. Is it the same as what the link shows? If

A compound of ‘phishing’ and ‘SMS’. SMishing is a

not, this could be a red flag. Also, links may take you to

type of phishing attack where mobile phone users

malicious files or software. Even if the e-mail came from

receive text messages containing a web site hyperlink,

someone you know, check with them to make sure they really

which, if clicked would download a Trojan horse to the

sent it, before clicking on links, opening pictures or music files,

mobile phone. (Webopedia)

etc…

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• •Threats – the e-mail threatens you to take action, or else. Be

By law, a person may obtain their own credit report for free

very wary of these types of threats. They are meant to scare

once per year from each of the credit reporting agencies.

you into clicking fraudulent links.

• This means, every 4 months you should be checking your •Personal Information – Are they asking you to give them

credit. The three most used agencies are Equifax, Experian,

personal information that they should already have on file? If

and TransUnion.

you are unsure, let them know you will be contacting them by a

•TIP: Mark in on your calendar which agency you will check.

phone number or e-mail address that you already have for

For instance, every January, check Equifax, every May, check

them.

Experian, and every September, and check TransUnion.

You will not receive your credit score from these credit reports.

However, your score is not important for identity theft •Secure Sites – Prior to entering your personal information into

purposes. This report will show you everything that is being

a website, verify it is secure. The address should read https:

reported under your name.

the “s” stands for secure. There should also be a picture of a closed pad lock, usually either in the address bar or the bottom

right corner of the screen.

Do you suspect that you may have fallen victim to one of these

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fraudulent attempts? You may be a victim of identity theft and

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not even know it. You can visit www.annualcreditreport.com to get your FREE credit report. This method of checking your

report will not hurt your credit.

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•Men have ego’s – some bigger than others/ Learn how to stroke (genuinely) his ego. You get major points for ego stroking in front of friends, relatives and co-workers.

•Flowers with a masculine balloon and a nice card that could

say-I’ve missed you-hurry home and I’ ll show you how much I ‘ve missed you. Get up early and gas his car up and have it How do you spoil your husband? If you think sex is the only

detailed clean and places a lollipop on his driver’s seat.

way to spoil your man please refer back to Issue one of this

•Plan a football party for a few of his best friends with plenty of

magazine article ”Intimacy” Before you attempt to spoil your

beer, hot wings, pizzas, chips. Set the food out when the friends

husband you must have a strong knowledge of your Mans likes

are there and go upstairs to change into his favorite team jersey

,dislikes .bell ringers ,toe curlers .favorite meals, favorite places

and be a great hostess.Dont asks question just host.

. Each man being spoiled will be different from the next. Ladies

•Dress seductively be aggressive and leave him drained and

this is where your woman’s spiders senses comes in, your I

snoring. The next morning embrace him.

could have found Bin Laden in two days senses. Why spoil your

•Buy something that he has had his eye on –bring it to his job

man you ask? TO place an invisible mark on your man for those

right before he gets off work-meet him in the parking lot with it

other ladies who would seek to get “your stuff” there is a

if possible.

certain gleam in his eyes that says to the other ladies” Taken / Spoken for’. They’ll know about you, by the way he display his

Inclosing it’s those little thing that show how much you care-

ring, and the way he tells total strangers about you. All because

The knowledge you have should have your husband smiling

YOU have spoiled him like no one else can because you have

from here to china when you surprise him-when was the last

knowledge no one else has. Below is a list of some possible

time you left him a sexy txt or email on his phone? When you

ways you can begin to spoil your husband.

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spoil your husband his heart will seek to return his treatment in a BIG way.

Are you tired of making excuses for him?

Last week you fell. The week before it was an accident. Today you ran into a door.

Why should there be a next time?

Is someone hurting you?

Talk to your health care provider. We can help.

To find help near you, call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at: 1.800.799.7233 or 1.800.787.3224 (TTY) TOGETHER, WE CAN STOP FAMILY VIOLENCE. 10

Does your partner:

or other weapons?

Embarrass you with bad

Shove you, slap you or hit you?

names and put-downs?

Force you to drop charges?

Look at you or act in ways

Threaten to commit suicide?

that scare you?

Threaten to kill you?

Control what you do, who you see

• Violence by an intimate partner accounts

or talk to, or where you go?

for about 21% of violent crime

Stop you from seeing or

experienced by women and about 2%

talking to friends or family?

of the violence experienced by men.

Take your money or Social Security,

In 1996, just over 1,800 murders were

make you ask for money, or refuse

attributable to intimates; nearly three out

to give you money?

of four of these had a female victim.

Make all the decisions?

• Hospital emergency department data

Tell you you’re a bad parent or

show women are about 84% of those

threaten to take away or hurt

seeking hospital treatment for intentional

your children?

injury caused by an intimate assailant.

Act like the abuse is no big deal,

If you checked even one, you may be in an

it’s your fault, or even deny doing it?

abusive relationship. If you need to talk, call us

Destroy your property or threaten to kill your pets?

Intimidate you with guns, knives,

1-800-799-7233 (SAFE)

111-800-787-3224 (TTY FOR THE DEAF)

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Praise is What I Do

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Breast Cancer Early Detection

always 100 percent accurate, and mammography is no exception. Research is under way to improve the technology to lead to better accuracy and to create new technologies .

One of the earliest signs of breast cancer can be an abnormality that shows up on a mammogram before it can be felt. The most common signs of breast cancer are a lump in the breast; abnormal thickening of the breast; or a change in the shape or color of the breast. Finding a lump or change in

your breast does not necessarily mean you have breast cancer.

Additional changes that may also be signs of breast cancer include: •Any new, hard lump or thickening in any part of the breast •Change in breast size or shape •Dimpling or puckering of the skin •Swelling, redness or warmth that does not go away •Pain in one spot that does not vary with your monthly cycle •Pulling in of the nipple

•Nipple discharge that starts suddenly and appears only in one breast •An itchy, sore or scaling area on one nipple Mammography screening remains the best available method to detect breast cancer early. However, no medical test is

It is important for women to practice the elements of good breast health. It is suggested women: Obtain regular mammography screening starting at the age of 40.

Obtain annual clinical breast exams Perform monthly breast-self exams Obtain a risk assessment from a physician

Best Chili Ingredients: 2 1/2 lb. lean chuck, ground 1 lb. lean pork, ground 4 garlic cloves, finely chopped 1 cup finely chopped onion 8 oz. hunt's tomato sauce 1 cup water 1 can beer (12 oz.)

3 Tablespoons chili powder 2 Tablespoons instant beef bouillon (or 6 cubes) 2 Tablespoons cumin, ground 2 teaspoons paprika 2 teaspoons oregano leaves 2 teaspoons sugar 1/2 teaspoon coriander, ground 1 teaspoon unsweetened cocoa 1/2 teaspoon Louisiana hot sauce 1 teaspoon cornmeal 1 teaspoon flour 1 teaspoon warm water

3. Add the garlic and onion, cook and stir until tender.

4. Add the other half of the meat and the tomato sauce, water, beer, chili powder, bouillon, cumin, paprika, oregano, sugar, coriander, cocoa, and hot sauce. Mix well.

5. Bring to a boil then reduce heat and simmer, covered , for 2 hours.

6. In a small bowl, stir together the cornmeal and flour, then add the warm water and mix well.

7. Stir into chili and cook, covered, for an additional 20 minutes.

Directions: 1. In a large saucepan brown 1 1/4 pounds of the ground meat (the beef and the pork), drain the fat.

2. Remove meat (the beef and the pork). Brown the rest of the ground meat, drain all but 2 tablespoons of the fat

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Welcome to my sports column! Some of us WEFGW ladies are sports enthusiasts and some of us are not. This is where I come

in. Articles for this column will be on basic sports knowledge, as well as other sports topics of interest.

some football fanatics might tell you). For those of you who

So, we have all heard the blonde joke:

don’t know, the quarterback is the player that gives the ball to

A guy decides to bring his new blonde girlfriend to a football

one of his teammates, with hopes that the teammate will

game. After the game is over, he asks her if she liked the game.

advance the ball to the opponents’ end zone. THAT is the

She replies, “Oh it was great, I loved watching those men in

object of the game, to get the football into your opponents’ end

tight pants, but there is one thing I didn’t understand.”

zone (The rectangular area at each end of the field).

“What did you not understand?” the guy asks.

Basically, whoever does that the most, wins. Sounds simple,

She replies back, “Well, at the beginning of the game, both

right? Well, kind of…

teams flipped a quarter to see who would kick the ball first.

The offense is the team that has the ball. Their job is to get the

Then the rest of the game everybody was yelling “get the

ball into the opponents’ end zone to score points.

quarterback, get the quarterback, get the quarterback!” So, I

The defense is the team that is “defending” their end zone.

thought to myself, “gosh, it’s just a quarter!”

Their job is to not let the offensive team get the ball into their

Does this sound like you? Well, let me help you out a bit. The

end zone.

object of the game is not to get the quarterback (contrary to

There are 5 different ways to score in football:

what

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alone. A touchdown must be made in order to attempt

for one of the “bonuses.”

Ideally, a team wants to score more touchdowns than field goals. However, for the sake of getting points on •A Touchdown is worth 6 points. This is where the

the board, often times, and a field goal must be

offense takes the ball into the end zone, either running

kicked.

the ball or throwing the ball.

Next time, we will get into a little more detail of how

•A Point-After-Touchdown (PAT for short, also

the offense and defense works. I look forward to

commonly known as an extra point) is worth 1 point. A

helping you understand our sports a little more.

team kicks the ball into the uprights for a “bonus” point after a touchdown.

•A Two-Point Conversion is worth 2 points. A team can try for 2 “bonus” points after a touchdown by running or throwing a pass into the end zone, from a

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short distance.

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•A Field Goal is worth 3 points. A team can try for a

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field goal if they don’t think they will be able to score a touchdown, and if they are in kicking range.

•A Touchback is worth 2 points. This happens when the defensive recovers the ball in their own end zone.

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With accessories, you can take a basic wardrobe and

bring some real character to it to show off your

Making some simple style changes in your appearance

sparkling personality.

will rejuvenate your overall look. When your style is

4. Take care of your complexion. Regardless of

updated, you feel revived. Bring your look alive this

whether you're a man or a woman, you stand to benefit

season by trying some of these easy style updates.

greatly by taking care of your face and skin.

You'll look better and your confidence will bloom.

Because your face is so integral to your appearance, your facial tone expresses one facet of your overall style.

Consider getting a facial every 3 months to revive your face, tone up your complexion and refresh your overall style. In turn, you'll experience a real increase in feeling good about yourself.

5. Polished shoes and ironed clothing are the best style accessories of all. Something as simple as polishing your shoes will bring a spring to your step.

Taking a few extra minutes to iron your clothing brings

crispness to your style that adds to your feelings of confidence.

Details like this can earn you the accolades of being a "sharp-dressed" man or woman. Others take notice in a

Lorene Collier Purcy is a professional speaker, a certified

positive way and you earn respect simply with your

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can be reached at www.amazeyourlife.com

Shop Talk

get some understanding of basic terminology such as layering,

With Kendra

feathers, tapering and trimming. If you don’t understand what

Communicating With Your Hairstylist Have you ever walked into the salon excited about your soon-tobe new look and walked out enraged because things didn’t go quite like you had imagined? We (yes, me too) have all experienced horrible service whether it be customer service in

general or a terrible haircut or hairstyle. I see ladies all too often that come in the salon with nightmare experiences from their last salon, and nine times out of ten it’s a communication breakdown. There is a method to the madness and I want to share some tips that may just help you from going down that

the stylist is saying, this is the perfect time to ask. Make sure

road again.

that the stylist is easy to talk to with a pleasant personality, and the same is expected from you, the client.

Schedule a consultation. This step is so important to your

Get a virtual makeover. There are online websites that allow

overall experience at the salon. When you find a salon or hair

you to get a virtual makeover by uploading a photo of yourself

stylist, you want to make sure you schedule a consultation to

and try on different hairstyles to get an idea of how a particular

communicate what your ideas or desires are for your hair.

style, cut or color may look on you before you actually commit.

Remember that communication is a two-way street. You need

When you find a look that you like, print it out and take it in to

to provide information and understanding to your hairstylist and

the stylist to show during your consultation. This is a pretty

the hairstylist needs to provide information and professional

neat idea.

direction to you. To avoid miscommunication, give as much information as possible about your hair and its history and also

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Bring pictures. We are visual people. It’s hard to describe a cut or style and be sure that the person listening really

or didn’t like the style (be gentle) and discuss what you

visualizes the same picture in their mind as you. You’re

would like to achieve this time around. It doesn’t help you

taking a huge chance of not getting the look you were

or the stylist if communication stops because you refused to

hoping for. So, show us a photo of the cut you had that you

speak to the one who can help get it right. Take a deep

really liked or bring photos printed from online or from a

breath, call them up or on your next visit communicate the

magazine of the look you want to see on yourself to be

issue right away and work together.

certain you are getting what you want.

Listen. Be open to the recommendations and direction your Be realistic. Keep in mind that magazine photos are taken at

stylist has to offer. If you have done your homework and

a photo shoot where there’s a hairstylist and an assistant or

chose a salon or stylist you feel you will can vibe with, then

two right by the models’ side during the whole shoot to

there has to be a certain level of trust. Listen, ask questions

make sure every hair is in place. They may use wind

and get a good understanding of their suggestions so you

machines, hair pieces, extensions, and even whole cans of

can then make an informed decision. Ultimately, it’s your

hair spray. There are also lights shining on the models’ hair

call.

to make the color more vibrant. Not to mention the photo retouching that gives the hair an even shinier, fuller look.

If all of the above fails, then you have no choice but to

So, try to bring photos of models or celebrities at movie

move along and find another stylist. Pay attention to

premiers or on the red carpet. These photos look more

styles that you like on your friends, co-workers or even the

natural because there’s not a stylist trailing them right

cashier. Especially if they have a similar cut like the one

before the shot fixing every hair that’s out of place.

you’ve been envying or a similar hair type and texture as yours. Don’t be afraid to stop and ask where they go to get

Speak up. Tell your stylist if you didn’t really care for that last look she gave you. Be specific. Tell them why you did

their hair done. They’ll more than likely be flattered.

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I Have A Man

I Have A Man who loves me and is with me in all seasons I Have A Man And his name is Jesus ! Š Janice O. Alston

I Have A Man, he is my true and perfect Love, He handles me with kid gloves.

I Have A Man and he treats me great

I Have A Man who makes NO mistakes.

He is perfect in every way, He generously shows me his love- every second, every hour of every day.

I Have A Man who is gentle but also very strong, I Have A Man who protects, provides and keeps me from harm.

I Have A Man that loves me just as I am, Whether I am plain, or I am glam.

I Have A Man And our relationship is intimate and personal.

I Have A Man, and he is my world, He does not call me lady, woman or girlHe calls me his child, and his friend.

I Have A Man who assures me, he will be with me even unto the end, Whether I am thick, or I am thin.

He is with me in good times or in times that are bad.

This Man is the best I ever had.

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Movie Madness On today's hotlist is Abduction, all I can say

worth your time. Overall I give this movie an 11

Wow!!!! I was so impressed with this new up

out 10 rating it is a must see. This is CJ and this is

and coming actor: Taylor Lautner one of the star

my movie critique of the week.

attractions in the Twilight saga. He has shown us an even deeper, more meaningful side. Just

when you thought he could not be any more passionate than when he found out about the

wedding in the Twilight series, he surprises us with his new found maturity and cool

headedness.

The plot pulls you in at the beginning with his eyecandyness laying in nothing but his boxers on his friends lawn, from then on you are hooked. I have never been so thrilled to see a movie progress. I chose this film because it is definitely

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