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DARIA AMATO is a native New Yorker and School of Visual Arts graduate. Throughout her thirty years of experience, she has photographed a range of editorial, advertising, company branding, and corporate clients in addition to music, fashion, portraiture, weddings, and still life. Amato has been recognized by The Society of Publication Designers and Graphic Design USA and received an Optima Design Award for best cover photography. She photographed Topsail Young Professionals organizer Alexis Siebert ( 17), interior designer Katharine Harris (page 74 wellTRVLD co-owner Jenny DePuy (page 76
MADELINE GRAY is a freelance documentary photographer based in Wilmington. With a master’s degree in photojournalism, her work is regularly featured in local and national publications. She enjoys spending time in places that are off the beaten track and collaborating to share the diverse stories found there. Gray photographed the issue’s cover and story about home stylist Kerri Lord ( 72), Wilmington Mom Group leaders (page 40 Meghan Cook (page 81), and Bonnie Jeffreys Brown (page 88). madelinegrayphoto.com and @madelinepgray on Instagram
BETH A. KLAHRE retired from a major Pennsylvania chocolate manufacturer where she held leadership positions in engineering, IT, and global business services. Now relocated to Southport, she spends her time writing and has been published locally and nationally. She is learning to play the harp, loves walking the beach with her dog, and serves on the board of directors of Friends of the Library Southport & Oak Island. Klahre talked with travel curator Jenny DePuy (page 76) and Bonnie Jeffreys Brown, former executive director of the New Hanover-Pender County Medical Society (page 88).
LAURA MOORE is an English professor at Cape Fear Community College in one of the top three-rated English departments in the state. In addition to education, she has a background in public relations and journalism. She interviewed film costumer Marcella Caudill for the issue’s Style profile story on page 55
MARK WEBER is an illustrator and fine artist who is based in Wilmington. His work has appeared in many magazines and publications including Greater Wilmington Business Journal, WILMA, New York Times, The Atlantic, Wall Street Journal, Rolling Stone, and Highlights for Children to name a few. He maintains a studio at ACME Art Studios in the Brooklyn Arts. Weber illustrated the Direct Male essay on page 86. weberillustration.com markweberart.com
YCROWD SURFING
ou’ve all heard the cliché “Work smarter, not harder?” Sometimes “Work broader, not harder” is better.
A lot of times when we think of networking we think of our circles and how they share their wisdom and connections for work.
But as a person just as busy as you are out there, I say crowdsource whenever you can.
Other people know more about what you don’t know and have lived through experiences that you haven’t yet.
And be sure to reciprocate. Share your tips and resources with others to make their learning curve less steep and so they can save time too.
That association of business publications – we often check in with other editors around the country for their suggestions on how they tackle something.
Feel the pain of the annual summer camp signup race for the kids – we’ve started pooling info on registration dates from others who have some of the answers but not the full picture.
At work and in life, the broader the pool of info, the greater the knowledge and the lesser the freaking out (in theory – or this mindset could just free up time to find other things to freak out about, but at least you tried.)
Turn to pages 39-42 in our latest issue to learn more about groups doing just that for parents to share info collected among thousands of local families.
On page 44, Terri Everett shares some of the leadership lessons she’s learned along the way in her career – her experiences are your gain.
Have to bring dessert to the family Thanksgiving gathering? Save yourself time scrolling and searching for what to make and replicate the pie recipe provided by Pie Slayer’s owners on page 51. They’re the pie experts – it’s in their name – so defer to them since they’re willing to share. (Post photos on WILMA’s social media if you do make it, would love to see.)
We all know lots of things but not all the things.
I say broaden out your intelligence networks and collect all the intel you can.
THE TOP 100 POWER PLAYERS, INFLUENCERS, INNOVATORS, CONNECTORS, AND RISING STARS IMPACTING SOUTHEASTERN NORTH CAROLINA’S BUSINESS LANDSCAPE.
This list, compiled by WILMA’s sister publication Greater Wilmington Business Journal, this year includes downtown Wilmington advocates, network connectors, affordable housing experts, CEOs, health executives, and others. It focuses heavily on work that members have done this year to impact the region.
For example, VELVA JENKINS, president and CEO of the YWCA of the Lower Cape Fear and named to the Connector category, this year helped launch the Women’s Worth Alliance in Pender County with the Greater Topsail Area Chamber of Commerce & Tourism to empower women about finances and investing.
To learn more about the other members of this year’s list and why they were selected go to WilmingtonBiz100.com and pick up the December issue of WilmingtonBiz Magazine.
THIS YEAR’S 100 SPOTLIGHT
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KELLY MCGINNIS, vice president and CFO for PPD Clinical Research Business, Thermo Fisher Scientific; named to this year’s Power Players category
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SCREEN TIME
CUCALORUS RECENTLY RELEASED ITS SCHEDULE FOR THE THIRTIETH ANNUAL FILM FESTIVAL TAKING OVER DOWNTOWN WILMINGTON ON NOVEMBER 20-24.
The lineup includes a mix of short films and main features, such as the opening feature Operation Taco Gary’s, which was shot in North Carolina last year.
Other narrative features will be Lone Wolves, Lady Parts, and Lilly, a movie depicting fair-pay activist LILLY LEDBETTER (shown above) who is played in the movie by Academy Award nominee PATRICIA CLARKSON. Shorts, documentaries, question-and-answer
MINI MINNIES
WHO: MINNIE EVANS
WHAT: A Kids@CAM birthday celebration honoring artist Evans’ life and legacy with art activities, dance performances, and music
WHEN: 10 a.m.-2 p.m. | December 14
WHERE: Cameron Art Museum
INFO: cameronartmuseum.org/event
HIGHER LEARNING
14,584
Number of jobs UNCW SUPPORTS, according to a new economic impact report
sessions with filmmakers round out the festival, while Dance-a-lorus featuring short dance works by local chorographers hits Thalian Hall on the first night.
“This year’s festival feels like a reunion of sorts. We have some of our favorite performers like Shirley Gnome, Roxana Barba, and Alexandra Tatarsky coming to share new work in the cabaretstyle Filmmakers Lounge,” says festival head DAN BRAWLEY. “Many of the shorts blocks will screen on the main stage at Thalian Hall, a throwback to the first festival where we screened sixteen short films.”
For the full lineup and schedule, go to cucalorus. org.
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WOMENPRENEUR SUMMIT
Brunswick Community College’s Small Business Center holds its annual WOMENPRENEUR EMPOWERMENT SUMMIT
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DATE:
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TOPSAIL CONNECTIONS
MAKING CONNECTIONS IN THE GREATER TOPSAIL AREA JUST GOT A LOT EASIER.
ALEXIS SIEBERT, a marketing assistant for Patriot Roofing & Exteriors who moved to the Hampstead area less than two years ago, was discouraged by the lack of networking and educational programs for young professionals in the Topsail area.
As a result, Siebert recently partnered with the Greater Topsail Area Chamber of Commerce and Tourism to form Topsail Young Professionals.
The networking and career development group is designed to bring together individuals with backgrounds in various
industries and professions and provide them with opportunities for networking, professional growth, and leadership development.
“Our mission and goal right now is to foster networking, leadership, and mentorship,” Siebert says. “We’re thinking about how can we serve our community? Who can we connect with someone? What can we offer each other? And how can we grow the community together?”
TYP meets monthly and will offer various types of events, such as networking events, lunch and learns, open forum conversations, workshops, business mentorship events, and community service projects.
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BUSINESS ACCOLADES
SEVERAL LOCAL BUSINESS OWNERS WERE HONORED AT THIS YEAR’S CAPE FEAR MINORITY ENTERPRISE DEVELOPMENT (MED) WEEK.
The Braddock Group, co-founded by LANNIN BRADDOCK (shown above), took home the Business Excellence Award for Women-Owned Business.
Braddock, who serves as COO, is responsible for the real estate company’s operations and processes. She also sits on the Novant Health Brunswick Medical Center Foundation’s board of directors.
The awards, by the Wilmington Chamber of
Commerce, also recognized Creators’ Print House, owned by ROBERT FLOOD, DANIEL ANDERSON, and YAH BATTLE for African American Owned Business.
And Daily View Pools, owned by LAMBERTO MIGUEL AVIL A, took home the Latin American Owned Business award.
MED Week took place in October, including a fireside chat with GLORIA CARNEY SHEALEY and her daughter, AISHA SARFO, about the ins and outs of owning and operating The Daniele Company, a family and woman-owned general contracting business.
photo c/o The Braddock Group
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ON THE AGENDA
Advice and connections from local leaders + the latest on WILMA’s Women to Watch Leadership Initiative
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W2W INITIATIVE UPDATES
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W2W INITIATIVE SPONSORS
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WILMA NETWORK
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WOMEN TO WATCH AWARDS RECAP
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LEADERSHIP ADVICE FROM KHALILAH OLOKUNOLA
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PLUGGING IN: PARENT GROUPS
p. 40
PLUGGING IN: AN ONLINE COMMUNITY SUPPORTING MOMS
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TERRI EVERETT ON A CAREER OF LEADERSHIP
UPDATES W2W RECAP:
The latest on WILMA’s Women to Watch Leadership Initiative and its mission to help develop more women leaders in our area
• WOMEN TO WATCH AWARDS: This year’s awards event in September drew a sell-out crowd to honor this year’s finalists and announce winners in the Arts, Business, Education, Health, Nonprofit/Volunteer, Public Sector, and Rising Star categories. For more photos from the awards, go to page 34.
• MENTORING: As a part of WILMA’s mentoring program, women in the community are matched with mentors to assist with their leadership development. Participation in the program is limited to those who went through a W2W program in the past year, and the mentorship runs through September 2025. This year’s group of forty mentees – our largest group yet – selected from an application process went through orientation in October.
• GET ON BOARD: Sarah Daniels, director of UNCW’s Quality Enhancement for Nonprofit Organizations (QENO), held a training session for women wanting to join local boards of directors and committees in October. WILMA offers the Get on Board workshops in conjunction with QENO.
W2W UP NEXT:
How to connect with WILMA’s leadership programs
• LEADERSHIP INSTITUTE: This year’s WILMA’s Leadership Institute class graduates in December, closing out its nine-month program. The group met for leadership skills training, peer mentorship, and interactions with community leaders. Recent session topics included public speaking and negotiating techniques at sites including the New Hanover County Government Center and nCino. Learn more about the forty-seven women in this year’s cohort at wilmamag.com/women-to-watch/wilmas-leadership-institute.
• WILMA NETWORK: The WILMA Network, made up of supporting members of the Leadership Initiative, continues to hold monthly meetups.
• IN THE LOOP: Keep up to date with these and other Leadership Initiative programs as well as application announcements by going to WILMAmag.com or signing up for the WILMA Leadership email at WILMAmag.com/email-newsletter.
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WOMEN WATCH AWARDS WILMA'S 2
Meet the winners
The winners of this year’s Women to Watch Awards were announced September 6, when a sold-out crowd gathered at the Wilmington Convention Center to celebrate the thirty-six finalists and cheer on the winners in each category: Arts, Business, Education, Health, Nonprofit/ Volunteer, Public Sector, and Rising Star.
This year’s awards mark the twelfth year of the program, which recognizes women working in their respective fields.
Here are the 2024 WILMA Women to Watch Awards winners.
Arts
Amanda Goodyear, Actor, Host, Radio DJ & Comedian, Momedy Comedy & Sunny 103.7
Business
Brooke Skipper, Vice President, Salt Air Heating & Cooling
Education
Kemeka Sidbury, Academic & Learning Coordinator, D.C. Virgo Preparatory Academy
Health
eather Davis, Senior Vice President and Chief Clinical Officer, Novant Health Coastal Region
Nonprofit
Raya Aguilar, Founder, Cape Fear Latinos
Public Sector
Bernice Sanders Johnson, Senior Project Manager, Cape Fear Public Utility Authority
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Rising Star
Paige Marshall, SRO K9 Handler, New Hanover County Sheriff’s Office
Leadership is evolving. In today’s business world, it includes levels and lanes –whether your experience is from navigating the block as a community leader, the busy life of a stay-at-home parent, or the corporate boardroom – leadership is about more than titles, degrees, or accolades. It’s about inspiring others, solving real problems, and overcoming challenges right where you are. Having worked with leaders across all levels – from community organizers to Fortune 500 executives – I’ve seen firsthand that leadership is often narrowly defined and based on the wrong criteria.
My lived experiences, coupled with learned opportunities that you can read from my book Do Recruit, have shown me that true leadership is not limited to those who fit the conventional mold. It’s about the whole person.
To help redefine leadership, I’ve developed a simple, practical framework focusing on four key qualities: Head, Heart,
Khalilah Olokunola on framing leadership styles
Hand, and How. These qualities are what really make leaders effective in today’s dynamic business world.
Lead with Your Head: Think
Strategically
Great leaders know how to think ahead. Strategic thinking isn’t about having a degree from a top university – it’s about being able to solve problems – from common to complex, adapt to new situations, and make decisions without folding under pressure. Whether you’re navigating corporate complexities or community challenges, leading with your head means understanding the big picture and thinking critically about the best way forward.
You can encourage strategic thinking in your team by creating opportunity for them to think tank by asking “What’s the real problem we’re trying to solve?” and “How can we approach this differently?”
Lead with Your Heart: Build Trust and Connection
Leadership isn’t just about making decisions – it’s about people. It’s part of what motivates them. The best leaders know how to build relationships, foster trust, and create an environment where others feel empowered. Emotional intelligence is a key part of this, and it’s often a strength for women in leadership. Leading with heart means understanding your team’s needs and motivating them with empathy, not just authority.
Make it a habit to check in with your team on a personal level. Ask, “How are you doing?” and really listen to the answer.
Lead with Your Hands: Take Action
Ideas are great, but action is what makes things happen. Leading with your hands means getting things done – whether you’re managing a project, solving problems, or rolling up your sleeves to help your team in a time of need. It’s about showing, not just telling. Many leaders I’ve worked with, from all walks of life, demonstrate leadership through action, not just by giving orders.
Lead by example. When your team sees you take initiative, they’re more likely to follow suit. Identify key areas where your actions can make an impact.
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Lead with Your How: Bounce Back from Challenges
Resilience is one of the most important traits any leader can have. Leadership isn’t just tested during good times – it’s proven when things go wrong. Being able to adapt, recover, and lead through adversity is what sets great leaders apart. Whether you’re facing workplace challenges or navigating the personal complexities of life, resilience keeps you moving forward.
Foster resilience in yourself and your team by normalizing failure as a learning opportunity. After setbacks, ask “What did we learn, and how can we improve moving forward?”
Leadership by levels and lanes
One final element of the Head, Heart, Hand, and How framework is recognizing that leadership operates across levels and lanes. Leadership doesn’t look the same for everyone. Some leaders thrive in high-level strategy roles, while others are most effective in hands-on, tactical environments. Understanding your level and lane is key to unlocking and maximizing your leadership potential.
In my experience working with leaders from the streets to the C-suite, I’ve seen the power of matching people to their strengths. Not every leader needs to switch lanes to prove their value – sometimes, staying in your lane and excelling at your level is exactly what makes you a great leader.
Leadership is no longer about fitting into a predefined mold. Whether you’re leading in a corporate office or driving change in your community, leadership is about how you think (Head), how you connect (Heart), what you do (Hand), and how you overcome challenges (How).
In Do Recruit, I encourage leaders to look at the whole person – their experiences, their skills, and their ability to lead in their unique way. When the world of work begins embracing a more holistic leadership framework, we can unlock potential in everyone, no matter their background or level. W
Khalilah “KO” Olokunola, founder and CEO of ReEngineering HR, is an impact architect and advocate committed to transforming company culture for SMBs, global corporations, and Fortune 500 clients.
PLUGGING IN PARENT GROUPS
Each issue, WILMA includes a Plugging In directory to help you connect locally. This time, we’re focusing on local parenting groups where people can share resources and advice about raising families in the area. Keep an eye out for future lists about volunteering opportunities and entrepreneur resources. Let us know about your organization by emailing editor@wilmingtonbiz.com.
FIT4MOM
FIT4MOM is a national fitness program specializing in prenatal and postnatal fitness. FIT4MOM Wilmington has a network of moms to support every stage of motherhood. Classes can be attended by those expecting and through post-partum and beyond. Jody Springer, who owns the local franchise, also organizes field trips and group activities geared toward moms and their kids. INFO: WILMINGTON. FIT4MOM.COM
WILMINGTONMOM
Amanda Hofmann runs the WilmingtonMom website and social media accounts to “Discover the best of Wilmington through the eyes of a local family.” Hofmann, who also last year published the children’s book Hello, Wilmington , posts about topics such as free family things to do in the area and a summer camp guide. She also hosts moms’ night out and playdate events for followers. INFO: WILMINGTONMOM.COM
WILMINGTON MOMS GROUP
This private networking group on Facebook has more than 12,000 members who share tips and tricks for navigating parenthood. Participants about everything from schools to events to doctor recs to getting through the daily stressors of parenting. (Read more about the group and plans that organizers Kelley Eggert, Amber Tyler, and Amanda Bacon have for it on page 40.) INFO: Search for group name on Facebook and request to join
WILMINGTON AREA MOMS & PARENTS
Also, a private Facebook group, Wilmington Area Moms & Parents covers other family members, as well. It was created “for moms, dads and grandparents in the Wilmington area to connect, ask advice, post-baby and kid items for sale and generally anything else kid related.” INFO: Search for group name on Facebook and request to join
WILMINGTON NANNIES AND BABYSITTERS
With nearly 3,000 members, this Facebook group is active with parents who are looking for occasional sitters or regular nanny help. Experienced sitters and nannies also often post about their credentials and availability to connect with families. According to its description, the group “is an inclusive, supportive group for nannies, babysitters, private educators, family assistants, newborn care specialists, and teachers. We also warmly welcome agency owners and families as well.” INFO : Search for group name on Facebook and request to join
WILMINGTON
PARENT This magazine has been published locally for more than twenty years. The monthly issues and website covers things to do for families and resource listings as well as guides on child care facilities and schools as well as other local topics. INFO: WILMINGTONPARENT. COM
KID COLLECTIVE: Finding help on the parenting path
by MEGHAN CORBETT | photo by MADELINE GRAY
In addition to all the supplies like diapers and burp cloths, many new moms want one thing above all else: support. The old adage “It takes a village” still rings true, and the moms behind Wilmington Moms Group felt the same way.
KELLEY EGGERT, AMBER TYLER, and AMANDA BACON run the private networking group on Facebook and have accrued more than 12,000 members who share tips and tricks for navigating parenthood through all the ups and downs.
“Born and raised in Wilmington, I became a mom at twenty years old,” Eggert says. “Although I had the support from my family, I wished I had a ‘community’ to turn to, and maybe I did, but I don’t recall having groups available to join and turn to for advice.
“I have been a part of Wilmington Moms Group for almost eight years and an administrator for two-and-a-half years with Amanda. I asked my sister, Amber, to help run the group since she was a stay-at-home parent and was extremely active in the group.”
The group is described as, “…a group of moms in the Wilmington area (but not limited to it) that can share ideas, ask questions and give each other words of wisdom on the joys of motherhood! ALL are welcome, please invite your friends or request to join if you want to become part of the group!”
Having moms with different backgrounds and daily schedules run the group adds to the advice and assistance they can provide to moms of all kinds.
One of the best features of a community forum
is getting firsthand experience from moms who have used certain products, specialists, and or care facilities.
Anyone can find reviews online from strangers, but having real conversations with local moms is truly priceless when it comes to caring for children of all ages.
“Some of the frequent questions we see come across are moms asking for feedback on different day care facilities, recommendations on pediatricians, and moms looking for stay-at-home jobs,” Eggert says.
Threads that focus on parenting advice are often the most active.
“We see a lot of posts coming through that deal with tips on sleep training/breaking the pacifier and bottle,” Eggert says. “Moms don’t always agree with what age it should be done, and that’s totally okay. It’s whatever works for the child and the family, and tips and tricks are always nice to help with the transition of it.
“Another thread we see a lot are based on the local elementary schools,” she adds. “Moms asks pro and cons advice of switching kids, or if the family is moving, they sometimes base their move on what school would be better.”
Since becoming an administrator, Eggert has watched Wilmington Moms Group grow by 2,000 members.
“It’s definitely more involved than in the beginning. With 12,000 moms in the group, it’s amazing. We have tried to make the page better to navigate. We have several things pinned at the stop for a quick find – resources for moms in need of help, holiday activities that are updated with every holiday, Fridays are dedicated to moms selling things, and Saturdays are dedicated to self-promoting.”
This helps group members know which days to avoid if any particular category does not interest them. It also allows for occasional opportunities for selling and self-promotion which some groups restrict.
Eggert is a mom to six kids including one stepson, so in addition to helping other moms, she gains a lot of insight from questions and comments, as well.
“I believe in networking because I feel like we all have a different perspective on parenting, and we come together to ask for advice, second opinions, and support,” Eggert says. “I have had a lot of questions in becoming a stepparent and a parent to multiple kids. You always feel like you are alone when it’s tough, and I have learned to turn to the group when it’s most needed.”
Tyler is a mom to five children, and Bacon has two children. Both are busy moms with a lot to offer to and learn from the group, as well.
There are rules for members of the group to ensure the safety and helpfulness of the networking environment.
Rules include being kind and courteous to other members, respecting the privacy of others, not using hate speech, no promotions or spam, no financial requests, no pet rehoming, reporting improper content to administrators, and living locally. These rules help maintain the safety of the group and protect its members from phishing from outside sources that have not been approved by the group administrators. The group averages about 60 posts per day from its members.
With 12,000 members, ideas for the group and its future are always floating around such as possible events and added ways to offer support to fellow moms.
“I would love to do monthly meetups just so we can be more connected; would love to be able to advise the group,” Eggert says. “I know it may sound silly because some just look at us as a Facebook group, but we are moms – we look after one an-
Looking ahead, the organizers hope the group remains a resource.
“We would love for the group to continue to grow here locally,” Eggert says. “It holds a lot of resources for families with kids birth into teen years. We have no plans in shutting the group down.
“We are a community, a village,” she says. “Moms need that.” W
Lifelong Learning: TERRI EVERETT
photo by STEPHANIE SAVAS PHOTOGRAPHY
ON CONTINUING TO GIVE BACK A
fter a lengthy career in public service and working for the federal government, TERRI
EVERETT grew up in North Carolina and returned, buying a home in Wilmington in 2011 and moving here permanently in 2017.
Can you tell us about your background and career?
“I was in public service for thirty-six years. My career was interesting, adventurous, humbling, and rewarding, and I was passionate about going to work every day. It was an honor to work with amazing people who felt the same way.
When I got up each morning, I knew that in some small way, I was helping to keep my family, friends, and U.S. citizens safe. When I went home at night, I knew that in some
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“There are so many but one that comes to mind is The First 90 Days by Michael D. Watkins. It is an excellent guide for new leaders.”
small way, I had contributed to that same goal. Some of my colleagues gave the ultimate sacrifice. I am forever humbled by that.
While my technical roots were in program management, project management, and procurement and contracting, we were strongly encouraged to get out of our comfort zones and understand other aspects of the mission. In addition to those, I led organizations comprising logistics, human resources, training, finance, and budget functions.
Those leadership experiences enable me to analyze issues and find solutions using a multidisciplinary approach.”
What made you choose Wilmington?
“Although I grew up in New York, I am a native North Carolinian. I was born in Onslow County, and my formative years were spent with my paternal grandparents on their farm. My paternal grandmother, PHEBE BURNETT, and my maternal grandmother, ERMA GERALD, were my role models. Among other ethical and moral values, they instilled in me
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an obligation to give back and serve others and taught me humility and the value of hard work
I lived in Old Town in Alexandria, Virginia, for a while. I chose Wilmington specifically because it had all of the things that I loved about Old Town. The Cape Fear River reminded me of the Potomac, and there are great restaurants here.
I am a history buff, so Wilmington’s history and its historic homes were a draw. Thalian Hall and the Wilson Center remind me of the Kennedy Center. I love culture and the arts, and both venues have fantastic shows.
Combined with the ability to walk to all of these places, Wilmington as a retirement spot was hard to beat. In addition, my mother is a native Wilmingtonian and attended Williston until age twelve. It felt like home.”
What have you been involved with since moving here?
“Volunteering has become my fulltime job! Always mindful of the obligation from Phebe and Erma for me to serve, I was a board member at the Wilmington Housing Authority, city of Wilmington Sister Cities Commis-
“One of the most influential and inspiring women that I was honored to meet in Wilmington is Ms. Bertha Boykin Todd. Important leadership qualities include integrity, moral character, and how someone leads when faced with adversity. Ms. Todd embodies all of these and more. She is a powerhouse who brings people together and exudes strength and confidence when I am in her presence. I would encourage everyone to learn about her. She is an excellent role model and a woman everyone –locally and nationally – should know about.”
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“I love French cuisine and seafood, so Caprice Bistro and Catch.”
sion, Cape Fear Collective, WHQR, and the Rotary Club of Wilmington. I currently serve on boards at GLOW, the Boys & Girls Club of Southeastern North Carolina, the Gullah Geechee Heritage Trail, and NC Project Lead. I mentor in UNCW’s Cameron Executive Network and WILMA’s leadership program, and volunteer in other activities in my spare time.”
During your career, what were some of the leadership lessons you learned along the way and adopted to your style?
“An important early leadership lesson for me was to learn to delegate and not ‘let perfect be enemy of the good.’ I was somewhat of a perfectionist and tried to do a lot myself.
One of the requirements of a senior leadership program was a 360 evaluation with input from peers, supervisors, junior staff, and stakeholders. My feedback was that I did not delegate enough. From that early lesson, I learned to trust my staff.
My job was to get them the resources and tools they needed to do their job, advocate on their behalf, and pitch in when we had a last-minute task with a 24-hour or less deadline. They were talented, and although they did not do things the way I would have, they got the job done.
We consistently delivered results on time or ahead of schedule. That early leadership lesson to trust and empower my staff was so critical. It also helped me evolve my leadership style into a servant leadership model while maintaining mission as the first priority.”
Was there anything you feel like you failed at but learned from?
“I would reframe that. Failure is subjective. My philosophy on failure is not that anyone fails, but that we are presented with opportunities to learn and grow from something that did not go as planned.
I was fortunate to work for leaders who encouraged creativity and innovation. Jim Devine comes to mind. He placed emphasis on developing creative, innovative solutions to problems. If they did not work, we were not penalized but were acknowledged and used as an example for new thinking and a change to doing things ‘the way it’s always been done.’”
What advice do you have for other women honing their leadership skills?
“Read good books on leadership by well-known authorities on the subject. Listen to podcasts. Expand your network. Get to know and talk with leaders who run successful organizations. Ask if you can shadow them for a day. Understand your leadership style. Get an advocate and a mentor or mentors – it is okay to have more than one. Understand your strengths and weaknesses.” W
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Pie Slayer's duo and their flavorful journey EyesPies
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by AMY KILGORE MANGUS | photos by MALCOLM LITTLE
AUREN WRIGHT and KEALA YU, the dynamic duo behind the local micro-bakery Pie Slayer, are redefining the art of pie-making.
LTheir journey began at Salt + Charm, where they met and bonded over a shared love of sugar and a memorable trip to Iceland. It was there Yu encountered a banana-flavored marshmallow dipped in chocolate, inspiring them to create their now-iconic Banana Stranger pie, a layered delight of dark chocolate brownie, roasted banana pastry cream, and salted marshmallow meringue.
“It spiraled from there,” Wright recalls. Their passion for crafting unconventional flavors quickly transformed into Pie Slayer, where they infuse traditional recipes with bold, unexpected tastes. “Nothing is off limits,” Wright says, and Yu adds, “One of us will have an idea, and we just spiral. It ends up being magical.”
After hosting their first pop-up in February 2023, they were surprised by the rapid growth of their brand.
“We thought we’d work our jobs, do this for fun, and see how it went,” Wright says.
But by June of this year, they found themselves fully immersed in their bakery, having signed a lease in November 2023 for the storefront at 129
Princess Street previously occupied by manna provisions.
“Every minute of every day has been spent working,” Wright says. “We quit our jobs and pretty much live here now.” Their husbands are equally involved, supporting the business and sharing meals during the long hours. “We’re all here all the time; it’s like our family is running this.”
As they prepare for their busiest season –Thanksgiving – both bakers are focused on optimizing their operations.
“We’re reorganizing the kitchen for efficiency,” Wright shares. “We added a three-door refrigerator. And we already have almost as many preorders as last year, and we haven’t even officially opened them yet.”
With more than 200 pies sold last Thanksgiving, they’re both excited and anxious about the upcoming demand.
“Keeping up with everything is a challenge,” Yu admits. From inventory management to social media, the operational side of running a bakery can be daunting. “We joke that baking is the easiest part,” Wright says, acknowledging the grind of paperwork and logistics. “We also try very hard to keep up with demand in a way that allows us to have enough inventory yet not generate a lot of food waste.”
Despite the challenges, their love for baking shines through. “The fun part for us is creating,” Yu says, as they continually experiment with their monthly menu. They aim to introduce a mix of pop-
ular staples and innovative creations such as sweet potato pie with torched meringue that’s
“Sometimes it’s hard to plan,” Wright says, laughing. “We’re always tweaking things up
The bakery’s late-night hours have also proven successful, with many customers dropping by after dinner for a sweet treat. “It’s been awesome,” Yu says, noting that their shop fills a niche in the downtown area. “People are excited that they don’t have to rush in the morning or only come early on
Yu also shares, “We are still wholesaling to Bespoke Coffee and Hidden Grounds, and we are doing a pie for the grand opening of Grimmburger.” While they’re doing fewer markets now, they remain committed to intentional events that give back to the community. “That’s our number one goal when we do
As they look to the future, the pair hopes to expand their team but also appreciates the current intimacy of their operation. “It’ll be bittersweet when we hire someone,” Wright reflects. “Right now, it’s nice to appreciate just
They also dream of opening on Sunday mornings for breakfast pastries.
Wright and Yu’s creativity is central to the Pie Slayer experience.
“It’s two unhinged brains coming together,” Wright says, emphasizing that their unique creations reflect their identities and passions. “Everything we make is just exactly who we are and what we love,” Yu adds, noting the delight they feel when customers connect with their flavors.
“Everything is baked in this kitchen, onsite and ahead of time. It takes hours to bake, so we can’t make anything to order,” Yu says. “What we create is made with an immense amount of care. We put so much time, effort, and creativity into it. We aren’t a traditional bakery. You can’t go anywhere else and get a Banana Stranger. That’s our brand.”
As they continue to innovate, Wright and Yu remind aspiring bakers to embrace experimentation.
“If it sounds good to you, just do it,” Yu encourages. “Even if it doesn’t work, you tried it.” W
Pretzel Logic
If you’re looking for a nostalgic but fun dessert to bring to a holiday party this year, try this recipe from Pie Slayer owners LAUREN WRIGHT and KEALA YU. (Read more about their downtown spot on page 48.)
“We picked this pie because it is a big crowd-pleaser for all the chocolate and
peanut butter lovers out there,” Wright says. “We’ve had variations of this pie in the bakery before, but half the fun is mixing up the toppings with whatever you have for that salty/sweet crunch. It’s a great base to make your own special thing!”
As meals bring people together over the next couple of months, this dish could add whimsy to your gathering.
“The holidays can be a nostalgic time for people, and we really tried to tap into those flavors that are comforting and familiar without doing something people
have seen a million times before,” Wright says. “Chocolate and peanut butter are a classic combination for sure, but we love it with a little salty, crunchy balance.”
CHOCOLATE PEANUT BUTTER PRETZEL PIE
CRUST
100 grams pretzel crumbs
100 grams ground oats
1 stick of butter
70 grams sugar
Combine pretzel crumbs, oats, and sugar in a bowl. Add melted butter and stir to combine until sandy in texture. Add the crust dust to a pie pan and press in with your hands or an additional pie shell until compact and uniform. Bake in the oven at 350 degrees for about 10 minutes until just set. Remove from oven and let cool.
145 grams sugar
2 tbsp flour
2 tbsp cocoa powder
FILLING
½ tsp kosher salt
3 eggs (room temp)
¾ c buttermilk
4 tbsp butter (melted)
2 tsp lemon juice
1 tsp vanilla
Whisk together sugar, flour, cocoa powder, and salt in a medium bowl and set aside. In a smaller bowl, whisk together the melted butter, eggs, and vanilla. Add the butter mixture to the dry ingredients and whisk to combine. Add in buttermilk and lemon juice and whisk. Pour filling into the pretzel-oat pie crust and bake in the oven at 350 degrees for 25-30 minutes until the filling is just set but still a little jiggly in the middle. Let the pie cool completely before adding the peanut butter topping.
Using a hand or stand mixer, whisk together the cream cheese, peanut butter, brown sugar, and half of the heavy cream. Whip until smooth and creamy. Whip the remaining heavy cream on its own and fold into the peanut butter mix. Top your pie and sprinkle with all your favorite toppings. “We love salty snacks like pretzels, chips, or chopped chocolate!”
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HEALTH + WELLNESS
HOLISTIC DENTISTRY
Approaching whole-body health from the dental chair
by LYNDA VAN KUREN | photos by DREWE AND KATE BRANDING CO.
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PATERSON, owner of Link Dental Health, offers patients more than traditional dental work. As a holistic dentist, Paterson sees dentistry as a means to help patients improve their overall health, and she provides a range of protocols and services to help them on their health journey.
“I am a healer and an educator,” Paterson says. “As a holistic dentist, my approach is to look at the whole body and connect oral health to the rest of the body. I don’t treat the mouth as a separate entity.”
Paterson’s journey into holistic dentistry began when she grew frustrated with conventional dentistry’s limitations. A doctor of dental surgery, Paterson had practiced traditional dentistry for seventeen years in New York City and Wilmington. However, over time she found that she wanted to do more for patients than treat their symptoms – as she said, to “repair, drill, fix, prescribe medication, and repeat.”
“I felt I was doing the same thing over and over again and not actually helping my patients get better,” she says. “I became very unfulfilled and frustrated
that I wasn’t equipped to help patients get better.”
Determined to find a better way to treat her patients, Paterson stopped practicing to pursue additional education. She became board certified in integrative medicine and dentistry as well as naturopathy, and she earned certifications in a range of additional alternative and natural therapies.
Now, Paterson offers patients an extensive choice of treatment options: traditional and alternative dentistry; restorative treatments (crowns, implants, veneers, bridges, for example); orthodontia; nutritional assessment and counseling; pre- and postnatal oral care; heath coaching; and sleep medicine.
While Paterson treats urgent issues, such as a chipped or broken tooth or a tooth that needs extraction, immediately with traditional dentistry, her regular patient care bears little resemblance to that of a conventional dentist.
In her two-hour examinations, Paterson gathers extensive information about her patients, including their dental and physical medical histories, sleep habits, oral home care, lifestyle, and goals.
Such information gathering is essential to get to the root of a patient’s health, she says. By sitting back, listening, and learning, she discovers what issues are negatively impacting her patients’ dental and physical health.
“If a patient has diabetes, he will often
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As a holistic dentist, my approach is to look at the whole body and connect oral health to the rest of the body. I don’t treat the mouth as a separate entity. “
have gum inflammation and bone loss,” Paterson says. “If a patient isn’t absorbing and assimilating nutrients, he may have a leaky gut and will not have the pillars to build health. … Even stress can affect a patient’s oral health.”
Paterson also uses 3D dental scans of her patient’s mouth, head, and neck to assess her patients oral health. These images give dentists extremely clear pictures, which means dentists have accurate measurements that ensure correctly fitting crowns and implants. These images can also reveal other problems such as an infection in the jaw.
“I see patients who have silent infections they don’t know about,” Paterson says. “I then determine if the infection is localized or spreading throughout the patient’s body.”
Paterson added that research shows that more than seventy systemic diseases are linked to oral bacterial infections.
Paterson’s exams enable her to determine how best to treat her patients’ oral and general health. For example, a patient may benefit from supplements to strengthen enamel; nutritional counseling to prevent tooth decay or improve diabetes; or instruction on how to clear their airways to improve sleep, she says.
If Paterson’s examination reveals a possible disease, she refers the patient to a specialist. In some cases, she collaborates with the patient’s doctors and can become part of his or her medical team.
She also focuses on the materials she uses for procedures. For instance, she fills cavities with composite resin instead of dental amalgam.
“I try to minimize the use of toxins and metals, anything that is known to be a neurotoxin like microplastics and BPAs,” Paterson says. “I honor my patients, and I want what I put in their bodies to be the cleanest version available and the best in the market today.”
Since Paterson opened Link Dental Health in February, she has garnered a steady clientele – with patients traveling from five different states to see her. Paterson attributes her success to the growing demand for alternative dentistry.
“There are a lot of people looking for this kind of care,” Paterson says. “I am so honored and grateful there is a need I can fulfill in this community.” W
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Costume designer builds a career in film
Fby LAURA MOORE | photos by KEVIN TITUS PHOTO
ilm industry costume designer
MARCELLA CAUDILL got her start in Wilmington, has paid her dues, and now wants to pay it forward.
The Sparta, North Carolina, native double majored in film studies and theater, design, and technology at the University of North Carolina Wilmington. After her adviser told her to close her eyes and think about who she would like to work for one day, she envisioned Academy Award-winning costume designer COLLEEN ATWOOD. From that point forward, Caudill’s path was set.
It was not until Caudill had worked in the costume department on the set of two Nicholas Sparks-adapted movies in 2014, includ-
ing her “first real professional job,” working on The Longest Ride, followed by The Choice, that she was confident in that decision.
“I knew then that I had truly found my pathway. I knew I wanted to be a designer,” Caudill says. “I loved the challenges and the responsibility of it all. I wanted to be a leader.”
While Caudill started in the entry-level position of a costume production assistant, she quickly moved up the ranks and was soon a background costumer, dressing all the extras on the major motion picture Hidden Figures.
Caudill explains that getting to work on those initial productions were “amazing films to be my first films.” She says that those experiences were invaluable for her.
Unfortunately, the chance to stay in her home state and new home of Wilmington came to a screeching halt once the state’s film incentive program changed in 2015 to a grant-based program
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and North Carolina’s film industry took a while to adjust and see production activity rebound.
After much debate over where to move to follow the films, Toronto and Los Angeles were possibilities, Caudill and a few of her UNCW friends decided to make the move to Atlanta.
But after ten years, a lot of projects have returned to Wilmington, which Caudill is happy to see.
“Honestly, Wilmington feels like home. I choose films and movies that allow me to work here. It is an amazing place to work with passionate artisans. The talent here is incomparable. It is like family here,” Caudill says.
Currently, Caudill is working on lining up commercials, independent films, and studio projects that fit her current goals. Over the past decade, she has put in the time to build her resume and her skills, so she is confident choosing projects that share her vision for herself.
“Every project I am on, I have had to turn one down, say no, so I can transition to the next one,” Caudill says.
She knows her worth, so she feels comfortable being selective. Caudill explains that there are “multiple forks in costume design and it’s been a long path to my goal.” She has worked in a variety of roles in the costume department, preparing her well to take on more senior roles.
As an assistant costume designer, Caudill explains, she “always executes someone else’s vision.” As a costume designer, she “creates looks, but it’s important to know what you’re asking of your team.” A key costumer “is a hands-on logistical position that knows everything about everyone.”
Caudill has worked in all of these roles, so she now knows where she is willing to put her time and energy. Her latest goal is about balancing it all.
“My recent goal has been finding that work-life balance. I want to be able to shut things down, leave the office, and feel comfortable and confident about what I have done,” she says. Her latest project was a recreation of the first nighttime baseball game in 1935 in a commercial for General Electric.
“It took me seven days to figure it out. It was chaotic, but it was inspiring to have an effect on people, and I enjoyed that challenge of problem solving and the opportunity to be creative” Caudill says. “I want to say yes to more that takes me out of my comfort zone.”
While the initial look and feel of characters come through the producers, writers, and directors, Caudill says it is her job to find the balance between all of those ideas to make that transformation into the character by way of the costume.
“When I get to share the space with the actors and collaborate with them in the fitting room and see all that come together, it’s kind of magic,” she says.
Getting to that point of magic has not been easy. To help others interested in costume design, Caudill wrote a publication downloadable from her website (marcellacostumes.com) called How to Succeed as a Costume Production Assistant for career advice for others interested in the industry.
“The advice someone gave me when I started was ‘Try not to drown,’” Caudill says. “This is a life jacket of sorts.” W
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Newsflash! The start of a season does not necessarily mean you need a whole new wardrobe. In fact, this winter’s fashion finds are most likely things you already own. Here are some essential cold-weather looks – so throw open those closet doors and get ready to do some styling. W
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intro by NINA BAYS
Alemais Carmen Mini DRESS in light blue and Gas Bijoux Strada BRACELET, both available at S. Worsley
denim cowgirl
A good pair of jeans are a staple in anyone’s stable. And while matching or (mismatching) denim may have been a fashion don’t before, this year’s runway says different. Wide-leg jeans, tonal denim-on-denim, and anything Western-inspired is a “do” this season.
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Paige Fidelia TANK in ivory; 10 Crosby Wesley denim SHIRT in Bedford Dark; Hunter Bell Bay SKIRT in Tapestry, and Paige Edie Ankle BOOTS in ochre, all available at S. Worsley
The Fuzzy Needle
city slicker
Part bohemian, part structured, this look continues the fall’s love of retro florals and suede everything. Look for organic hues of olive green, burnt orange, and deep burgundy. If you want a more dramatic pop, try a redorange hue, which, according to Pantone, exudes energy and empowerment. Just what you need to kick off a meeting.
Saloni Natalya B DRESS in autumn blooms; Paige Katy BOOTS in Sienna; Sylvia Toledano Gio EARRINGS in Cornaline, all available at S. Worsley
Hunter Bell Tenley DRESS in Red Alert; Sylvia Toledano Cascade EARRINGS in amethyst, pearl, yellow onyx, and black onyx; Clare V. CLUTCH, all available at S. Worsley
ivy league
Continuing its trajectory from spring/fall, the academic preppy look stays strong for winter 2024. Button-downs, long, full skirts, and chunky loafers are all part of the season’s curriculum. Extra credit for rocking your alma mater sweatshirt.
Saloni Liza DRESS; D.A.T.E. Court 2.0 Pop SHOES; and Demellier Mini Alexandria BAG, all available at S. Worsley
MODEL: Emily Patel
EMBRACING FREEDOM:
BENEFITS OF ACTIVE SENIOR COMMUNITIES
As we proceed through the journey of life, our needs and desires evolve - especially when it comes to where and how we choose to live. For many active adults aged 55 and above, the idea of downsizing or transitioning to a community specifically designed for their lifestyle can be incredibly appealing. Active adult communities offer a unique blend of independence, community, and convenience that cater perfectly to the desires of this vibrant demographic.
INDEPENDENCE WITH PEACE OF MIND
One of the primary draws of 55+ communities is the sense of independence they provide. These communities are typically designed to offer maintenancefree living, which means residents can bid farewell to the hassles of yard work, exterior maintenance, and other household chores. This freedom allows individuals to spend more time pursuing their passions and enjoying life, whether it’s traveling, exploring new hobbies, or simply relaxing without the worry of home upkeep.
COMMUNITY AND SOCIAL CONNECTIONS
Social connections are crucial for a fulfilling life at any age, and independent living communities excel in fostering a sense of community. These neighborhoods are populated by like-minded individuals who are often in similar stages of life, creating opportunities for meaningful
friendships and social interactions. Whether it’s participating in group activities, joining clubs, or simply gathering for a meal in one of the restaurants, residents have ample chances to connect with others who share their interests and experiences.
AMENITIES DESIGNED FOR ACTIVE LIFESTYLES
Another significant benefit of active adult independent living communities is the array of amenities. From fitness centers and swimming pools to walking trails and recreational spaces, these communities prioritize wellness and active living. Staying physically active is not only beneficial for health but also enhances overall wellbeing and quality of life. Having these amenities just steps away encourages residents to stay engaged and maintain a healthy lifestyle.
FLEXIBILITY AND FINANCIAL CONSIDERATIONS
Renting in a 55+ independent living community offers flexibility that owning a home may not. Many individuals in this age group prefer the freedom of renting, which allows for easier relocation if needed and avoids the financial commitments and responsibilities associated with homeownership. Renting can also provide a predictable monthly budget without the surprises of maintenance costs or property taxes.
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SECURITY AND PEACE OF MIND
Security is another critical aspect that 55+ independent living communities address. These neighborhoods often feature secured entrances, security patrols, and other safety measures that provide residents with peace of mind. Knowing that their community is secure allows individuals to focus on enjoying their lives without unnecessary concerns.
A SENSE OF PURPOSE AND ENGAGEMENT
Finally, living in an independent living community can contribute to a sense of purpose and ongoing personal growth. Many of these communities offer opportunities for volunteering, continuing education, or pursuing new interests through organized activities and events.
Nicci Franklin is a 25 year senior living industry veteran. Her progressive experience has included both operations and sales roles, and she has served in variety of capacities in independent living, assisted living, memory care, and skilled nursing. CVSLIVING.COM/WILMINGTON
Cluster RINGS by Melissa Tyson Designs, available at melissatysondesigns.com
Handmade RINGS featuring green tourmaline, peridot and ruby gemstones by Mitzy Jonkheer, available at Jonkheer Jewelry Art Studio and at mitzyjonkheerjewelry.com
Ring New the in Year
by Nina Bays
Like fashion, jewelry has its own seasonal trends. Here are some style predictions for 2025, bound to add some extra sparkle to your ring finger(s).
The Cluster: A mélange of stones in an organically-shaped setting, these rings are great statement pieces and echo the feel of the vintage cocktail ring.
The Three Stones: Representing the past, present, and future, this setting was made popular in the 1950s and still maintains its timeless elegance.
The Black Diamond: A modern take on the classic diamond, this gem is currently the choice du jour for celebrity hands.
The Chunky Band: If demure is not your thing, opt for a chunky band for a more sculptural look.
Mixed Metals: Yellow gold? Rose gold? Platinum? Why not all three? Ever so wearable, mixed metal rings are easily stacked with additional rings or paired with other pieces of jewelry. Just try to keep an equal balance of metals when choosing your adornments. W
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Lucinda RING with rainbow moonstone by Merewif, available at merewif.com
DESIGN STYLES
Ranging from neutral color palettes to classic comfort, these women are leaving their mark on the Wilmington design front by SAMANTHA KUPIAINEN
There’s a variety of reasons one might enlist the help of an interior designer or stylist. Some look for help getting their Airbnb ready for guests who are looking for the perfect beach getaway, competing with other rentals on the island for bookings. Others might look for help decorating their forever home.
Three local women are contributing their design eyes and talents to the area’s scene with recent endeavors: MORGAN BRANDEMUEHL, KERIE LORD, and KATHARINE HARRIS. Among them, their styles range from colorful, bold, and eclectic to a more refined, high-end style.
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Morgan Brandemuehl founded Brandy Haus Interiors in March 2023 after initially working on the marketing side of architecture and finding a love for interior design along the way.
After moving to Wilmington in September 2022, she took the leap and started her own interior design business. Not only did it give her the chance to pursue her interior design dreams, but it also gave her a more flexible schedule to be with her kids.
“I’ve always had a personal passion for interior design,” says Brandemuehl. “About eight years ago, we were in Charlotte, and Beth Keim with Lucy and Company took me under her wing for three years, and I was her design assistant. She just taught me all the tricks of the trade, everything from designing to installs to procurement. She exposed me to different New York design markets, she took me to Philly, Atlanta. That’s where I kind of knew that this was going to be my new career move. I moved to Wilmington two years ago, and that was the perfect time to launch my own business since it was a fresh city, fresh start, and we knew we’d be planting roots here for a long time.”
Her other notable design achievements include working for House of Nomad, where she oversaw product development and helped develop and launch a wallpaper and textile line with Anthropologie.
Brandemuehl’s personal interior design style pulls more toward a neutral, more modern palette. She often leans into more modern fixtures and mixing modern elements with earthy and organic elements. A lot of her color palettes include olives and terracotta, colors that are commonly found in nature.
Some of her major influences are found in common settings: restaurants, Airbnbs, and magazines.
“Whenever I’m traveling or going out to eat, I’m looking for cool places to go,” Brandemuehl says. “I don’t like the plain Jane pieces. When we travel, I definitely try to find unique hotels or cool Airbnbs to get inspiration. I usually pick restaurants based on the decor, not the food.”
Brandemuehl’s favorite projects are those that include full-house designs versus just helping clients with one or two rooms. With full-house designs, she’s able to make everything one cohesive project.
“A few projects come to mind locally that have wanted me to help with pretty much the entire house, which is super fun for me because I can create this cohesive feel throughout the house,” she says. “The two clients that I’m talking about, they’ve been very trustworthy and allow me to bring in some playful textiles, playful prints, custom items. I love doing custom items. They’re not scared to push the envelope a little.”
Now that Brandemuehl’s about a year-and-a-half into her business, something she’s continually blown away by is the support she’s received from the community. She’s often able to lean on other designers and bounce ideas off each other as well as help give each other referrals.
“It’s a really neat entrepreneurial community that seems to all support each other,” she says. “I honestly feel like that’s been part of my success here, it’s just been a very supportive community.” W
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KERIE LORD is a Wilmington-based interior stylist and owner of Swanky Studios. In addition to design offerings of interior styling and staging, she’s also an artist who dabbles in painting and sells original pieces that depict Carolina Beach and other coastal inspirations.
Prior to going full sail with her art and interior styling, Lord earned a marketing degree and worked in radio and TV sales for twenty-five years. She ultimately left that job to be a real estate agent, which led her down the path of interior styling.
The main difference between interior design and interior styling is interior design works for both aesthetics and functionality, while interior styling is revolved solely on aesthetics.
“Working in real estate, I’m dealing with homes constantly and working with buyers who are trying to create their new home to reflect their inner personality,” Lord says. “I feel like it was a really easy transition just because my passion is more with design, and I was really excited to help people see the vision of what their home could be and then taking a blank canvas and just creating what their soul really desires and what makes them happy.”
Lord’s style is summed up as eclectic, bold, colorful and whimsical. Her approach to working with clients is simple: She asks them to go on Pinterest and send her pictures of what they like.
Another common question she asks her clients when styling their space is, “Where do you like to go on vacation?”
“I feel like a lot of places people like to travel to are a reflection of what brings joy into their heart,” she says.
A large portion of Lord’s clients are Airbnb owners or people who own beach houses. In addition to styling, a unique service that she offers is her artistic skills.
Oftentimes, when she’s styling houses that are drawing more coastal themes, she’s able to create a custom piece that owners can style in their house.
“I’ve been painting since I was a little girl,” Lord says. “It was more of a hobby, but the older I got, the more painting I would do, and I really liked to paint beach scenes whether that’s the ocean or downtown Carolina Beach. A lot of people want to incorporate art into their spaces, but art can be really expensive and overwhelming because there’s so many different types and styles. A lot of my clients will design this really fun place, and then they’ll say, ‘Well, I’d really love a piece of art that complements it.’ I’ll either paint something for them that reflects that space using the same colors or complementary colors, or I’ll have art on my website that reminds them of a fun vacation.”
Oftentimes when Lord is designing Airbnbs, she’ll design them to stand out. From her perspective, there are a lot of rental houses in the area, and oftentimes the houses with decor that stands out is the one customers end up booking.
“A lot of people who do Airbnb want their places to stand out because there’s so much competition down here that you have to be a little bit different in order to get bookings,” Lord says. “A lot of houses are pretty plain and vanilla, but if you step it up and give your guest something that’s unique and fun, you have a greater chance of getting booked. I do more permanent houses, but the Airbnb aspect is starting to take off because people are starting to realize they need to do something different.” W
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photos by DARIA AMATO
For the longest time, KATHARINE HARRIS, owner of Sixth and Steel, wasn’t sure what she wanted to be when she grew up. She initially started college on the elementary art education track but quickly changed to interior design her second semester after feeling education wasn’t the right track for her.
After graduating, Harris worked in Wilmington with a local designer and has grown her portfolio ever since. Through her first job, she was able to create valuable relationships with local custom homebuilders, which turned into a full-time job as its in-house designer and selections coordinator until 2021. In 2021, her own interior design company was born.
A majority of Harris’ clients are new construction clients.
“I work with them from the very beginning of their meeting with their architect and coming up with plans for their build,” says Harris. “Most of the time they already have their lot and have maybe started their preliminary plans with their architect. We’ll walk through the plan together and we do all selections.”
In addition to Wilmington-based clients, Harris has clients all over the world. As of late, she’s been working with a client in California and one in Europe. Those clients were procured through referrals and contract work.
“Most of my in-person clients are here in North Carolina, mostly Wilmington, Wrightsville Beach, and Hampstead – some Raleigh and some Greensboro,” Harris says. “It’s mostly full-service. We do all selections, all hardware, flooring, and trim and millwork. Then we’ll move into the furniture aspect of it, and we’ll do our presentations, all of the finish samples and material samples that they need. We’ll procure it and install it.”
Her approach with her interior design clients is that of a friend; she hopes to build good relationships from the start
and understand exactly what they’re trying to get out of their space, almost like they “share the same brain.”
“I try to approach it more like we are almost friends because I specialize in new builds, and it’s a process that’s a year minimum,” Harris says. “I try to make sure we really fit well together and can chat, almost to a point where we share the same brain. Some of my clients recently joked that we share the same brain, which is always nice and makes things a lot easier.”
Harris describes her nationally recognized interior design style as refined with high-end, classic comfort.
“In terms of inspiration, I see a lot of what other designers are doing,” she says. “I also love Mexican style and Scandinavian style and some mixes of just colorful designs.”
In her personal style, Harris strives to take inspiration from nature.
“I feel like I’ve always loved to try and dress a little bit differently than what’s trendy,” Harris says.
As for how she came up with the name Sixth and Steel, she came up with it within minutes of applying for her business license. She didn’t want to use her name because if she “figured she’d get married one day and change her last name,” so she opted for some street names that sounded good together.
“I don’t have anything other than it just kinda popped into my brain a few minutes before I clicked ‘pay for your business,’” she says. “Sixth and Steel was born pretty quick.”
Location: Sugo Italian Steakhouse at Hotel Ballast
ITALY an less traveled
by BETH A. KLAHRE | photo by DARIA AMATO
JENNY DEPUY fell in love with Italy when she was just fifteen years old on an educational trip with her mother, a teacher.
“My family didn’t have a ton of money, but my mom prioritized cultural experiences. We got out of our bubble in DeBary, Florida, and I fell in love with the culture of Europe, discovering a world much bigger and older than I had ever experienced,” she says. “That trip was life changing.”
Now, DePuy and her friend and business partner KENDRA FOSTER are the owners of wellTRVLD, a curated travel company offering retreats filled with untouristy adventures in Italy. The trips offer authentic experiences in food and wine from family-run vineyards and restaurants plus cultural
excursions through places less-traveled. The trips, not tours as DePuy reminds, include a wellness component incorporating mindfulness and movement allowing travelers to connect to the slower, less-stressful lifestyle of Italian culture.
“Italians live in the present, prioritizing family, friends, and the purposeful enjoyment of life over everything else. I want others to see Italy in this way, not through tours and sightseeing, but through a real connection to the culture,” DePuy says.
Living in Florence for a time after graduation from Florida State University immersed DePuy further into the Italian way of life. “I saw the juxtaposition of the very touristy side of travel versus living in the culture,” she recalls. “I spoke Italian. And I realized that there was a whole other level of connection to the culture to be experienced.”
photos c/o Jenny DePuy
While also running her own fitness studio in Tampa, DePuy started wellTRVLD hosting retreats to Italy.
“It was my excuse to get back to Italy,” DePuy admits.
DePuy met Foster, a national trainer for The Bar Method and skilled at the art of teaching fitness modality when DePuy was opening her fitness studio.
“Kendra and I connected for years over our passion for creating a fun and safe environment in group fitness. Without her, my studio would not have been what it was,” says DuPuy, who now lives in Wilmington.
In 2022, Foster moved to Naples, Italy, with her husband, who is in the Navy, and their two children.
“And that’s when Kendra got it, too – the same perspective on Italian culture that I had. She understood what I was already obsessed about,” DePuy says.
One year later, Foster joined wellTRVLD to help guide and grow the business.
wellTRVLD offers both public and private group trips in Tuscany, Puglia, the Bay of Naples, and the Amalfi Coast – each one accompanied by Foster and DePuy.
“Our trips go to places where we have personally experienced the locals welcoming us with open arms. Gone are the days of the massive tour bus and checking off the destination boxes,” DePuy says.
Every experience is authentic and connected to Italian wellness – a nice glass of wine while sitting in the vineyard that grew the grapes and meals at a family establishment made from untainted, fresh in-season ingredients, nothing shipped in, all from the local land.
“There is a big intentionality component to every trip,” DePuy adds. “We ask each traveler to tap into the idea of ‘What would you do if you could do anything right now?’ We ask the same question throughout the trip. At the end, we hold an intentionclosing ceremony where we explore what each person will take back to their daily lives. It might be as simple as prioritizing the enjoyment of life more.”
Throughout the week there is hiking, biking, barre, yoga, and breathwork.
wellTRVLD group trips are smaller in nature with like-minded people looking for an authentic experience. Everything is taken care of including mindful pauses in the trip.
Private trips allow explorers to choose their own destination with their own group of family and friends.
“The majority of the people on our trips work hard in their daily lives. They could plan a trip themselves, but they want to take their foot off the pedal and be present for the best in authentic travel,” DePuy says.
DePuy is now on her eleventh trip to the Amalfi Coast.
“Our trips are hard to replicate. We deeply appreciate what Italian culture offers and have connections all over the country. We speak the language,” she says. “Even if you have been to Italy, on our trips you will interact with another layer of the culture. And if you haven’t been to Italy, you can expect to experience a huge shift in your perspective from being immersed in a culture that prioritizes well-being with beauty all around, most of which is older than you can imagine.” W
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Cooking up Comedy
by AMY KILGORE MANGUS
M Wilmington comic Meghan Cook brings laughs
EGHAN COOK originally arrived in Wilmington for its film study program, but a few years later, she’s here for the comedy scene and the community that now feels like home. After graduating from the University of North Carolina Wilmington in 2016, the Maryland native moved to New York.
“I lost all my money and moved back to Wilmington,” she says with a laugh. “I love it twice as much as I did in college.”
Cook balances her comedic aspirations with freelance writing for The Good Newspaper, an independent media company.
“It’s built on Mister Rogers’ principle: ‘When you’re scared, look for the helpers,’” Cook says.
Here, she enjoys highlighting uplifting stories about animal rescues, environmental efforts, and human rights. Yet her true passion ignites when she steps on stage, where her storytelling talent shines.
Initially, Cook faced crippling stage fright, dodging invites from her friend JULIA DESMOND to perform at open mics for a year. She eventually found the courage to face the spotlight. The thrill of making people laugh gradually overshadowed her nerves.
“The more I did it, the easier it became,” she says, crediting the supportive comedy scene at Dead Crow Comedy Room for nurturing her growth.
Cook’s comedic style centers on storytelling. “Everyone has stories they like to tell, but the hard part is chipping away at that story and telling it under five minutes,” she explains.
Her life is filled with bizarre moments – like when working at Carnegie Hall. “I was approached by The Princess Bride actor Wallace Shawn, who told me a woman in the audience was going into labor,” she says. “So, he grabbed an arm, and I grabbed the other arm, and we escorted this heavily pregnant woman out
photo by MADELINE GRAY
of the symphony into my boss’s office. We both held her hands while we waited for the ambulance to arrive.”
Cook distills her experiences like this into a comedic narrative by asking herself, “What’s the best version and the most concise version of that story that I can tell?”
Drawing inspiration from her past, Cook recounts a childhood beach trip where she, convinced she could pay her dad back for a broken snow globe with sand dollars, wandered off for hours.
“Years later, I thought, ‘This is so weird and absurd,’” she reflects, noting how the nightmare of going missing – with time –turned into a hilarious story.
The Wilmington comedy scene has been a blessing for Cook.
“It’s very supportive,” she says, highlighting the camaraderie among female comedians, who have formed a close-knit community, checking in to ensure fair pay and opportunities. “My favorite part is after the show,” Cook says. “We exchange notes and compliments. We’re a smaller city but we foster a lot of creativity.”
Sharing personal challenges, like her struggles with obsessive-compulsive disorder, has resonated with audiences. One woman approached Cook after a show to tell how her openness helped the woman better understand her brother.
“You never know what people are going through,” she says, emphasizing laughter’s role in providing solace.
Currently, Cook is writing a novel and working on a one-hour stage show with JESSLYN WILSON, exploring the joys and awkwardness of being a woman.
“It’s about laughing at the world while inviting everyone to want things to be better,” she says.
She and Wilson will soon offer comedy classes for women as well as kids and teens to help them expand their creativity and learn more about comedy.
Cook is eager to give back to the community that has supported her.
“Julia pushed me to try comedy, and I want to be that person for others,” she says. “It might scare you, but you might be good at it. Or at least you’ll have a good story to share!” W
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couple makes giclée prints with other artists in mind
by VICKY JANOWSKI | photos by DREWE AND KATE BRANDING CO.
DAISY FAITH doesn’t paint things photo-realistically. Instead, the Wilmington artist, who also has a background in acting and improvisation, focuses on “color, bold brushwork, mark making, and creating energy in my compositions.”
“I approach each painting with a sense of improvisation by making painterly strokes and listening to where the painting wants to go next,” she says.
Faith, who graduated from Meredith College studying interior design and art, spent over a decade in Los Angeles, appearing in shows including How I Met Your Mother, Nashville, and Pretty Little Liars. How long have you lived in Wilmington and what made you relocate here?
“My husband, who is also my business partner, and I moved back in 2019 before the pandemic to get married and buy a house, which wasn’t attainable in California. I grew up in Raleigh and always visited Wrightsville Beach each summer as a child, and it’s always been a special place for me and my family.”
Can you describe your work?
“My current artwork is colorful abstracts based on inspiring interior designs. I’ve been known for flowers in the past, but the colorful palette and loose brushstrokes painted in an expressive way are a through line of any subject matter I tackle. No matter what I’m painting, my work is frequently referred to as ‘happy art.’ I use acrylic paint in combination with pastel to create a layered look.”
putting a look together based on color and pattern.
The thing I love most about art is that sense of getting into the flow and letting go of expectation. It’s very similar to improv in that sense. Both are kind of a moving meditation to me that gives my brain something to concentrate on yet relax and go with the flow.”
What drew you to art and when did you realize it would be your chosen field?
“My mom always said no piece of paper was safe in the house growing up because I’d scribble all over it making it my canvas. This has continued my whole life.
Whether I’m painting furniture, designing a room with fun colors and patterns, or creating a painting collection, I’m always
You also opened Studio Giclée. Can you tell us what you’re doing there and how you got started on it?
“When we moved back in 2019, I’d already been selling my art for a few years, and I wanted to branch out into prints. I quickly realized that there wasn’t a good art printer in town that focused on printing for artists. They were more occupied with vehicle wraps, flyers, postcards, and business cards. It’s a very distinct skill to help artists create art prints they are happy with because artists are very picky – and rightfully so – about their artwork and getting the colors and quality spot on.
That’s where we come in!
My husband, Chad, had grown up in the print business, and he worked in color correction in Los Angeles for many, many years, and he had all the skills to create the highest quality giclée art prints. With my artist’s point of view, we tailored this business to help all the local artists create the best archival art prints.
We’ve now been open for over two years and going strong. Our motto is art prints printed by artists for artists. The community is ecstatic we are here. We started with printing for many of my art friends in town, but by word-of-mouth referrals, we now help a majority of the local artists in town to create high-quality fine art prints whether that be on paper or canvas. We also help photographers print their work.” W
Home Alone
by DYLAN PATTERSON | illustration by MARK WEBER
RECENTLY, I’VE BEEN WATCHING AND REWATCHING THE TENTH SEASON OF A REALITY SHOW CALLED ALONE. Alone actually does what shows like Survivor only pretend to do: drops contestants into the wilderness with limited tools and challenges them to live off the land. Ten contestants are taxed with filming themselves while they build shelters; hunt, trap, and fish; and strive to keep fires burning against extreme cold. Whoever lasts the longest earns five hundred grand.
Why do I keep tuning in? Partly, it’s because the show is both meditative and exciting. Watching the contestants set their gill nets, cast their fishing lines, and set their snares is inherently peaceful. But when they land a fish or catch small game, it is genuinely thrilling. You usually couldn’t pay me to watch a fishing or hunting show, but that’s because those doing the hunting and fishing usually have big guts and full bellies. The contestants on Alone often go days, sometimes weeks, on berries alone, so as they hunt and fish, they’re desperate for calories. By the way, if you ever need to lose weight fast, get dropped in the wilderness and fend for yourself for a couple of weeks. The pounds will drop like crazy.
Since contestants who become too thin risk being removed from the contest by the show’s medical staff, many contestants strategically put on dozens of pounds before the contest even begins. This makes the point that our consumer society seems built to pack on the pounds; while in the natural world, you have to fight every day to avoid starvation.
Perhaps the main reason I keep watching is because three of the ten contestants are women, and it’s interesting to consider differences in how the women cope versus the men.
In addition to contending with hunger and the elements, the contestants also battle loneliness. Other than a weekly med check where they are weighed and given a physical, the contestants are truly alone. And those who last the longest are alone for sixty or seventy days. Some contestants drift into melancholy and despair. It’s generally the male contestants who “tap out” after a long weepy confession to the camera about how much they miss their spouse or kids. The women, on the other hand, generally seem content on their own foraging berries, trapping small game, and making cozy shelters.
The male contestants tend to take more brazen chances with their lives than the female contestants. In an episode I watched recently, a man risked death by foolishly eating a mushroom he wasn’t familiar with. The
same contestant, worried about being medically removed from the contest, hid an oozing puncture wound on his arm from medical staff risking infection or worse. Two other men built small watercraft. It felt like a minor miracle they didn’t fall in the cold waters and get hypothermia. Generally, the female contestants are more prudent with their health and welfare.
Another difference between the male and female contestants is the men are generally more preoccupied by the prospect of killing a bear, a moose, or other big game. There’s a sense that these men feel like if they can just make one big score, all their troubles will be over. The female contestants, on the other hand, approach survival on more of a day-to-day, small successes approach.
Other differences include the fact that when frustrated or celebrating, the men cuss on camera (and get bleeped) much more than the female contestants. The men also look at their cameras and make stupid jokes (often dad jokes) at a much higher rate than the women. Then men also tend to be the contestants who catch gastric bugs and end up puking or fleeing their shelters to squat in the woods.
Despite the many differences detailed above, women and men equally fall prey to the mistake of burning too many calories by building overly elaborate shelters. Maybe this is a symptom of our society’s obsession with big houses as status symbols. Contestants both male and female can’t help but brag to their GoPros that their shelter, as one contestant put it, would definitely win “Alone Cribs.” Some contestants are literally starving as they build roomy log cabin-style shelters when a modest “teepee” style would have been quicker to build and easier to heat.
None of the contestants, men or women, are squeamish about killing, dressing, or cooking animals. Of course, they wouldn’t be on the show if they were since all the contestants have survival training and are experienced hunters. But it is novel (to this nonhunter at least) to watch a woman skin an animal and eat its brain.
Among the contestants male and female, there is a universal reverence for animal life and for the land. While there is a certain amount of glee when an arrow kills a grouse or a fish is found in a gill net, all the contestants, male and female, express their gratitude to the land for providing them sustenance.
Dylan Patterson is a writer and filmmaker who teaches English at Cape Fear Community College. Mark Weber is a Wilmington-based artist and illustrates WILMA’s monthly Direct Male essay. weberillustration.com
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BONNIE JEFFREYS BROWN is this year’s recipient of the Health Care Heroes Lifetime Achievement award. The award, put on from WILMA’s sister publication Greater Wilmington Business Journal, honors Brown’s forty years as executive director of the New HanoverPender County Medical Society, from which she retired at the end of 2023. Brown, and this year’s other Health Care Heroes finalists and winners, were recognized at an event November 1.
WHAT’S THE MAGIC ABOUT THE NEW HANOVER-PENDER COUNTY MEDICAL SOCIETY THAT HAS KEPT YOU THERE FOR FORTY YEARS? “Never in my wildest imaginings would I have thought that the position would evolve into a fulfilling career in association management. It did not occur to me that it would be an area in which my spiritual gifts, as I perceived them, could be used. I have enjoyed working with the hundreds of physicians in New Hanover and Pender counties. Many, along with their spouses, have become dear friends whom I adopted as family. And there was always more to be done. How could I stop?” HOW HAS LIVING IN WILMINGTON INFLUENCED HOW YOU LED THE SOCIETY OF PHYSICIANS? “How fortunate we are to have such a diverse population in our community. Our town is a destination, not only for retirees from every corner of the country but for people across the globe who want to work and rear families here. It has been incumbent upon the medical community to familiarize them -
selves with the unique needs, circumstances, and languages of those whose lives are very different from those in Southeastern North Carolina.” YOUR LEADERSHIP STYLE WAS ONE OF TRANSPARENCY, COMMUNICATION, INCLUSION, AND COLLEGIALITY. WHY WERE THESE IMPORTANT TO YOU? “The medical society is a membership association whose members represent most of the continents of the world. The society motto ‘Every Member! Every Day!’ requires openness and clear and complete explanations to foster community among physician families. Doctors are more alike than different. They simply need to gather often to truly know one another and become friends.” WHAT HAVE YOU LEARNED OVER YOUR YEARS THAT YOU WILL CARRY WITH YOU THROUGH THE REST OF YOUR LIFE? “My work over the years has affirmed – almost daily – the basic human needs of being heard and knowing someone cares. Whatever my future holds, I hope that I can continue to learn and to be of comfort and encouragement to those who may need me.” WHAT ARE YOUR HOPES FOR THE NEW HANOVER-PENDER COUNTY MEDICAL SOCIETY AS YOU WATCH NEW LEADERSHIP TAKE THE SOCIETY INTO THE FUTURE?
“Since it received its charter in 1867, the New Hanover-Pender County Medical Society has been a leader in North Carolina. My vision for the society is continued growth in numbers, goodwill, and collegiality among physician families and contagious service to the citizens in the greater Wilmington area.” W
BONNIE JEFFREYS BROWN’s full profile will appear in an upcoming WILMA Leadership email. To sign up for daily WILMA emails, go to WILMAmag.com.
