Helping Seniors Transition from Independence What is Senior Sabotage? Admiration for Their Strength The generation of people who are claiming LTC benefits today are strong, independent people. They’ve lived through hard times and pulled themselves up “by their boot-straps.” They do not complain, and they do not discuss weakness. Certainly, they do not easily admit when they need help. While their strength can be admired, this reluctance to discuss care needs can make gauging our parents’ health and well-being problematic. Many seniors don’t want to burden their loved ones. Often seniors will only discuss what is going well in their lives, without admitting the whole truth about their
medical or financial situations. Consequently, adult children are often caught totally unaware of how desperate their parents’ care needs are.
Difficulty Asking for Help This reluctance to ask for help is sometimes referred to as Senior Sabotage. It is easy to understand why it happens. Imagine how embarrassing and difficult it would be to sit in front of your children and admit you need help using the toilet, remembering appointments, or tying your own shoes. Now imagine what the process must be like for a frail or cognitively impaired senior.