Grief-Fact-Sheet

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BINSA Information on Grief

Acquired brain Injury (ABI) can mean the beginning of many new and often bewildering experiences for those close to the injured person, one of these is the process of grief. What is grief? Grief is the emotional response to loss and changed situations. These feelings include anger, sadness, guilt, despair, helplessness, depression and are normal reactions to an abnormal situation. Some people are able to pick up the threads of life and move on, others may feel lost. They may at times feel free of distress only to be plunged back into sadness. Although people experiencing grief are sometimes said to be not coping, this may in fact not be true. The experience of grief will differ - it may be private, for those who wish to deal with their own feelings, or may be shared with others—in all cases reflecting the personality, beliefs, values and culture of the person who has experienced the loss. Such strong emotions may not have been experienced before and can cause people to act differently from their usual behaviour. Quiet people may become angry and abusive or an outgoing person may become quiet and withdrawn. It is not uncommon to wonder if they are becoming mentally ill. People may go through a stage of ‘denial’, where grieving does not occur because the person ‘denies’ the loss or holds unrealistic hopes. While it is possible for grief to be a barrier to resuming many of the functions of life, this need not be the case. It is important to remain hopeful. Accurate information will help in deciding what can be hoped for. If feelings become a barrier to normal living, or if they persist as a controlling force in everyday life, counselling may be helpful. Often it can help to just talk. The feelings of grief usually lessen with time, as adjustments are made to the new situation. However, grief may reoccur or be unexpectedly triggered by other life experiences. The initial shock Any unexpected, traumatic event causes shock. Emotions may range from numbness and inability to believe what has happened, to distress, anger or fear. This is a time of crisis and it’s not unusual to feel helpless. Comfort and practical help from those close to the person and the family, as well as from professionals can assist. Learning about brain injury Generally people have little knowledge about brain injury. The injured person may be in a coma, or be unaware of what is happening. Those around the person begin to learn about brain injury, and what it will mean for them. Along with feelings of joy and relief that the person is alive may be the realisation there is likely to be disability. The medical staff will find it difficult to give a definite prognosis and if pressed, may describe the worst possible outcome so false hopes are not raised. Families may wonder how to deal with a loss that is not certain.

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