9 powerful ways to break your negative self talk

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What is the most damaging and negative force you will ever have to face? You may not even realize that this force is taking over half the time, because it happens so easily and so frequently.

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A force that is inside your own mind, a hypercritical voice called negative self-talk, a whispering voice stating that you’re not smart enough or that you don't deserve to have what you want. Self-Talk is such a common thing to do and negative self-dialogue takes many forms conveying each of your statements with energy to reinforce it.

The more you talk or think about negative things, the more you transform what you are saying into existence. The more you believe the idea into reality.In fact, they are simply thoughts but you made the choice to give them power.

So what happens when you pronounce bad words to yourself, when you call yourself unattractive when in the mirror, when you whisper to yourself “You stupid idiot”?

Well, know that these negative words can actually greatly affect you, as you are running a daily record of self-talk.

Words you convey have energy and vibration, just like everything else in this universe.If you only understood how much power words actually have, no other negative word about yourself would come out of your mouth or no one negative thought would be given power.

9 Powerful Ways to Break Your Negative Self-Talk 1. Do Not Under Evaluate Yourself Don’t ever criticize yourself or compare yourself to others as it inevitably places you beneath what you are really worth. When seeing flaws about yourself, you kind of forget all of the great qualities you may possess. No one is perfect, and the earlier you realize it, the better it will be, so accept your imperfections.

2. Pay Attention to Yourself Would you ever speak to someone else the way you speak to yourself? Pay attention to what you're saying to yourself. Teach to care about yourself with the same tolerance, consideration, and respect you would have for another person, because a lot of people out there are usually negative and just bad-mannered.

3. Transform the Negative Self-Talk Remember, your subconscious is listening. Negative thoughts create negative consequences. Positive thoughts and actions, on the other hand, generate positive outcomes. Negative self-talk even produce lower self-confidence, so grasp that the results are as tangible as if you were putting someone else down.

4. Let Go of Worrying Worrying is a very common form of negative self-talk. If you are always worried that something bad is going to happen, then it is what will happen. You will end up manifesting what you have put so much energy into thinking about, simply wasting energy. Thoughts such as “I can’t…” or “What if …?” give you worries because you are expecting to get the most awful outcome.

5. Create an Opposing Reality Create a game by changing your sentences. Instead of thinking "I will never be able to do that", turn it around and say, "I can do that". Step forward by acting on your words to prove to yourself that you can. It is much more effective than just saying it. And you might surprise yourself.

6. Play Best Scenario In any situation, do not even think about negative results. Close your eyes and portray the best scenario in your mind like a play carrying as many details. Don’t worry so much about bills or situations out of your control? Will they have disappeared when you stop crying? No! Then take care of the most urgent bill first. Only a clear mind can see

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how to solve a situation.

7. Focus on Your Strengths You have strengths and weaknesses, right? Choose to focus your time on your strengths, on what you are good at, so that you receive positive and rewarding thoughts. If you choose to focus on your weaknesses rather than your assets, you will have a hard time trying to measure up.

8. Acting like a Victim So many of us do it, and I know it is a very difficult habit to break. In victim mode, it is common to complain and blame everybody for how our life is. You usually feel like a victim of consequences or undesirable situations that only happened to you and that you have no control over. No one appreciates you or all your hard work. Don’t take things so personally. Just because something occurred in the past doesn't make it true today. Remember this, today you have more skills, more qualifications and more experience.

9. Stay Away from Inaccurate Words Stay away from thoughts having words like "always" or "never". These are usually inaccurate and give you an inappropriate view of what is really going on in your life. I hear these often, but don’t also say things like "I will never succeed" or "It is not worth it". Take a different optimistic approach like "I got a difficult day, I take it as a lesson not a failure and out of my week 6 days were worthwhile."

How to Break Negative Self-Talk Each time you catch yourself whispering something undesirable to yourself, just think about something to be grateful in your life. It will stop the thought in its tracks. Wake up in the morning, go in front of the mirror, look at yourself and say something positive. It might feel strange at first, even funny, but the more you do it, the more it will become natural, and you will start to believe it.

Be aware that breaking negative self-talk may take a while. The odds are that you have been doing this for many years now. Know that negative thoughts are inevitable and will at times circulate through your mind, but in slowly breaking this cycle of thoughts, more positive thoughts will originate than negative ones.

Finally, if any negative self-talk continue to arise, write them down and make a list of positive substitutes. You could change a “You stupid! You are always messing it up!” to an “I always try to do all that I can; I make mistakes like any human being. And I trust in my skills.” Paying attention regularly to not give into negative self-talk will bring you closer to happiness and success.

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Sergei VanBellinghen, Founder & CEO of First-Class Lifestyle and sergeivanbellinghen.com, Success & Self-Development Coach, Freedom entrepreneur & business partner of Stuart Ross, also counselor in East Europe-West relationships, a passionate Globetrotter and an avid audio booker

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