How To Be Guided - By Advice Or Gut Feeling digitalbloggers.com /business/how-to-be-guided-by-advice-or-gut-feeling Oct 14, 2016 46 views Written by Sergei VanBellinghen
Author Sergei VanBellinghen
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Are you being guided by advice or gut feeling? What are you looking at when taking advice from another person?
When taking advice from others, always consider the source it comes from. Is the person giving you advice thriving or merely surviving? Are they contributing awesome things in society or merely taking up space? I don’t believe that every person that gives advice necessarily has to live through what you have been through, but it certainly helps. Nor do I believe that all people who give constructive criticism are “haters�.
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It is okay for others to have a difference of opinion. They don’t have to love everything you do. Our parents and best friends are a great example of this. Often they mean well but sometime they are just plain wrong. But parent wise, well, we are stuck with them. On the flipside, you have other people who are straight up jerks.
The Know it All’s Words out of these people are not coming from a place of love. They just think they know everything, and want to tell you how to do your job or live your life, even though they have never been successful at anything in life…like ever. You need to use your best judgement to determine what the situation you are facing is. But the greatest piece of advice I could give you, as to whether or not you should listen to someone else’s advice is to consider the source. Just be your own success !
Trust in Your Gut Feeling Trust in yourself more, believe in your gut feeling you guys! Stop relying on other people to confirm what you already know deep down. And don’t get angry when you engage in a debate with people who aren’t opened or elevated enough to even understand what the conversation is about. People can only meet you where they already are. I am amazed at some people incessant needs to get others to see only their side of things. If you see that someone is open and genuinely wants to learn or to understand, please it is no problem having a conversation with them, where you can share and exchange ideas, and present different points of view. But when it is blatantly obvious that she is arguing for the sake of arguing, get out of it. Debating for you should be fun for 5-10 minutes, but any longer than that and it becomes an argument. If after 20 minutes, you still in there and haven’t gotten anywhere, that’s a waste of time. Let it go.
Debates on Social Media I see people getting in long drawn out tumultuous discussions on social media, and rarely do I see a positive exchange and worse, any positive result. There is no end to the madness at times. It is so obvious to see the difference between the people who are genuinely open and wanting to understand vs people who see a debate on Facebook, YouTube or any other social media as sport or entertainment. And I, for one, am not here for that and I refuse to fall for the usual “Okey Dokey”.
Matter of Opinion I also do not understand people asking for other people’s opinions who you know very well are going to perceive things way differently than you do, so why you do even ask the question to begin with? Now, you may be mad because that person gave you their opinion from their limited point of view, with the limited knowledge that they had, when you should just have did what your intuition told you to do anyway. How many times in my life, I trusted my gut feelings instead of what people were telling me just because they wanted me to stay on the safe side. If I had listened, I wouldn’t have gotten to live the life I had and all the experiences in it.
A Life’s Short Recap As a child, I was smaller than my age, a tiny little guy, I got mocked at in school, many said I would be a “nobody”
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but years later, I became a sport athlete - a horse jockey, and then a horse acrobat in the pro-Soviet Union. After that, my desire was to go to the USA and live there, my family and others told me “impossible” but against all odds, I defected anyway in the USA by the end of 1989. Then 25 years later, I moved to Vienna, Austria, when everyone told me I was crazy to take such a risk, but here I am proving them wrong again. People are always talking about themselves and their limits, but they are not yours. I got denied and rejected so many times, but I am still here am I. And today I am a successful online business entrepreneur, interested? You need to trust yourself, have faith in your instinct. It doesn’t matter how old someone is, if they are your mentor, a parent, grandparent, or have a ton of wisdom because of life experiences, because at the end of the day, you have got to go with your gut feeling. If it doesn’t feel right to you, then don’t do it. Do what resonates for you, and forget what everyone else is thinking. If you are interested to follow in my footsteps, click here NOW >>> Sergei’s footsteps Share your thoughts below, and I will be more than happy to respond.
Sergei VanBellinghen, Founder & CEO of First-Class Lifestyle and sergeivanbellinghen.com, Success & lifestyle Coach, Freedom entrepreneur & business partner of Stuart Ross, also counselor in East Europe-West relationships, a passionate Globetrotter and an avid audio booker
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