How to become your true self

How To Become Your True Self sergeivanbellinghen.com/how-to-become-your-true-self/ Sergei VanBellinghen

January 6, 2018

If you are reading this, then, learning how to become your true self is one thing you and I have in common. We share this immense desire to transform our lives and go beyond our current way of life. But sadly, most people live their lives pretty much the same way, having no clue to why they exist.

But why should you bother to grow into the person you are meant to be? How can you discover your real reason for living? What can you learn from it? And what can you accomplish?

First, you have to live and be your authentic self. Your mission in life is to express your true self boldly, create what you love and also love what you do. Believe it or not, you can transform your life and be what you truly desire. But it also means moving beyond your current way of living and accepting new habits.

Discovering Your Why For most people, life is not a perfect and clear picture. We all go through struggles.

Thousands of people have no clue to what they should do. But is not life a journey of selfdiscovery?

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If you want to be your true self, you have to be curious, open to exploring the unknown, and ready to accept the surprises that come along your path. It is the only way to discover what makes you feel alive. Even the most significant figures in history started from somewhere confusing, but if you are like me, you probably like a lot of things.

“He who has a ‘why’ can endure any ‘how.’” — Frederick Nietzsche So, knowing your reason for living is a vital step in becoming your true self and creating a life you enjoy living instead of merely going through the motions. Yet, a lot of people know their “why” but do not dare to follow through with it. They are scared of what might happen, looking at what could go wrong rather than focusing on what could go right.

Stepping into Your True Self If you feel unsure of yourself, know that you are not alone since most people are in the same boat.

To be what you ultimately want, you have to change some things in your life, even direction, which is not always easy. It is a lifelong process of believing, learning, growing, and evolving while following your vision.

Thus, the next crucial step to becoming your true self in life is to commit. You need to choose if you want to make a change or transform your life this year. Stick to it, whatever comes your way. And then, begin spending time with books, positive influences, and information about your field.

Albert Einstein had a mentor, Max Talmud, who once a week introduced the young Einstein to math, science, and philosophy. Mozart had his father who was a renowned composer himself, which assisted the child in developing his abilities. So, every master was once a beginner!

Obeying Your Gut Feelings “You have to trust in something — your gut, destiny, life, karma, whatever. This approach has never let me down, and it has made all the difference in my life”. — Steve Jobs Don’t get me wrong; it takes courage to challenge the ideas that make one successful. But getting lost in the crowd is also not your most elegant option. No one ever made a difference by being like everyone else. Since childhood, you can agree, that no matter the noise, your true self always finds a way to whisper to you.

In fact, it is that little voice that gives you hints at some moment in life, telling you that you are wrong. And it only is when you decide to trust it and follow it that you will feel being on the right track. Yet, it might be an uncomfortable and even tricky journey. The burden will be so massive that you will want to give up or give it all you have got. Go for the last one.

Being Your Authentic Self When you begin to follow your gut and become your true self, haters will come into the picture. Going against what society expects of you is hard. But believe me; it pays to follow 2/4

your gut if you have the determination to finish what you start.

So, do me a favor next time you hear an irritating doubt in your head about not keeping conventional wisdom because you secretly questioned it. Just try the exact opposite of what doubt tells you to do and see what happens?

Therefore, be your authentic self, your true self. Do not let the expectations and opinions of other people limit who you are or affect your decisions. It is your life, not theirs. Do what matters most to you, not what is convenient. There is more to life than pleasing others. So, you need to make a choice.

Pursuing Your True Self Too many gifted people are not benefiting from what they are good at. You have a unique gift, and the world should know about it. But you might not trust yourself enough yet. You can be as big and successful as you can imagine. No matter whom you are or what you dream of doing, So, make the bold challenge to pursue your true self and what you want. The only thing you need is to follow something you are emotionally and genuinely connect with. Then bit by bit, make an impact. Leave a mark with every opportunity you have. Yet, you have to prepare for the sarcasm and rejection.

But do not quit! And do not think too far into the future. There are always rules, but guess what, rules and limits can be stretched. The things around you which you call life are made by people that were no smarter than you. So you can change it, and even influence it.

Creating Your True Self If you have to accept a wrong job just because you need to pay the bills while working on your vision, then do it. But do not, like most people for the sake of security, endure the pain of doing for life what you do not want. It is always possible to create your own path by becoming your true self!

And if you believe you cannot, know that you can do much more than you think. The crucial thing about any journey is the courage to get back up again and continue after failing.

There are countless stories told about people who failed numerous times. And yet, they kept chasing their dreams in the midst of the stumbling hurdles in their way and succeeded.

As a result, your path could change, but your vision has to stay clear throughout your journey. And understand that you do not have to be right, you just need to start. So, stick to your true self and the bigger picture while getting prepared to adjust and accept change along the way.

Daring to Be Your True Self

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Dare to be your true self by expressing yourself fully. Do not hold back. Keep doing what you love, even if at first, no one shares it, buys it, or also sponsors it. Show up every day and trust in the process. Eventually, the magic will happen!

“Always be yourself, express yourself, have faith in yourself, do not go out and look for a successful personality and duplicate it. “— Bruce Lee You have to stop listening to everyone else. Most people tend to think that they are not good enough and give up before they even start anything. And yes, criticism, doubt, fear, and insecurity are always present, so the only solution to be your true self is to just act in spite of them.

Shaping Your True Self What matters is that you persist. Stay determined. Give yourself permission to make mistakes and be okay with it when you do. Learn from it, and move on to the next action.

Picasso, Mozart, and countless others achieved mastery of their art after years of trials and errors. But they kept going, and never held back.

Of course, you cannot predict the future, but you can help shape it. It does not matter what happened to you in the past, where you come from or what is happening to you now. But what matters is the actions you take with what happens and with the potential you have to be your true self.

And to wait for the perfect moment to start out on a career that means the world to you is a waste of time. The mind can convince you into believing that you are never ready. It might be very uncomfortable at first. But you deserve to become your true self. So do not overlook the train of opportunities anymore.

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Sergei VanBellinghen, Founder & CEO of First-Class Lifestyle, currently a Personal Growth & Success Expert Consultant, using self-development techniques to help you succeed and have a better life. Visit my personal growth page or check who is Sergei

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