How to control your emotions better

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Every so often, it is somewhat challenging to control your emotions as life creates instances that push you close to the edge. Yet, emotions are a vital part of your daily lives. These feelings sneak in and affect how you think, and vice versa. So how do you regulate or even master these emotions?

How can you avoid feeling frustrated in a wrong situation? What can you do to control against using the wrong types of reactions? How do you master your emotions under any circumstances?

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Well, you might have to learn new ways of thinking, take some actions instead of reactions, and understand how emotions function. In turn, this will help you feel more in control of your feelings because each day, you are driven by them.

Understand that when you react with the wrong kinds of emotions too quickly, you often decide, say or do things that you later regret. To put it another way, you should not fly off the handle. Reacting directly to a feeling that triggers you could be a huge mistake. You have to realize that the situation exists only temporarily.

On the other hand, I am not telling you to put a halt to the finer things in life such as jumping for joy after some great news, having fun, falling in love or getting pleasure. All I am saying is that you need to control emotions such as greed, bitterness or anger because these feelings can grow like weeds, and dominate your life.

Why Emotions Are Necessary Needs Feelings are not wrong! In fact, your emotions are essential needs because they are the reasons that push you to try new things, explore the world around you, and set objectives for yourself. They help you better understand your surroundings and connect with other people. Your emotions also require essential needs to live your existence.

The necessities of life, such as air, shelter food, drink, sleep, and more.

The feelings of safety and security while in your environment.

The need for friendship, intimacy, affection, and love.

The need for status, prestige, and self-esteem.

The need to feel challenged but not overwhelmed to avoid stagnation and boredom.

The desire to make connections with others.

The need for self-actualization.

While getting in control your emotions, you have to learn to understand their values and take action to realize your potential in life.

Your Feelings Dictate Your Thoughts No matter how you feel, you have to monitor your emotions and realize that you are not the center of the universe.

Be in charge of your feelings because you might think that everyone is out there to get you.

More than often, someone’s feelings and behavior may have nothing to do with you. If you know them, you could ask them what is going on. You might be surprised in realizing that you have jumped to foolish assumptions.

Therefore, know that you have to control your feelings because they dictate your thoughts which in turn determine your life.

“Why do horrible things always happen to me?” is a familiar phrase that you often hear, or even say to yourself.

Imagine that on a given morning, nothing works whatever you do. It happened to all of us, but is it a sign that the rest of the day is destined to fail too?

Be in control of your feelings and remind yourself that one event does not create or make a pattern.

Stop Fighting Your Emotions You have to put an end to fighting your emotions. It won’t help. So, do not struggle with trying to control them but rather, consider that emotions are a part of you as well as any human being. Try to admit your emotions and know that you can always change them.

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You should know that to control your feelings; you do not need to get rid or completely disregard negative emotions.

The reason being is that it would make you even more obsessed. Own up to whatever you feel without judging any of it. Be compassionate and kind to yourself. Do not let your emotions take over.

If you are having a difficult time in giving yourself the approval to accept your feelings, then think of a friend and how you would treat that person. To be in control of your emotions, be as caring and indulgent to yourself as you would for any loved one.

How to Master Your Emotions A part of learning how to master and control your emotions is to see the bigger picture. Everything that happens in your life, whether right or wrong, has somewhat a reason. You may not understand it right away, but as time passes, you might find the answer and start to see the ‘why’ falling into perfect place.

There are also moments when you feel overwhelmed by a cascade of emotions. Learn to be in charge of your feelings by slowing down. Take a look ahead because when you are emotional, your feet are no more on the ground.

You lose the sense of reality and are entirely consumed by what is happening. So to master your emotions, you have to recognize that they are only temporary.

We all have been through doing things we, later on, regret simply because as people, we let our emotions dictate us. At those times, you need to think about the future. Look past the present moment, and you will act more efficiently.

Be More in Control of Your Emotions To be more in control of your emotions, you may have to identify harmful habits your brain has developed over the years. They may have originated from an experience you had long ago or may arise from something someone told you or did. You may not be able to do anything whenever you feel sad, angry, or suffering. But you can learn to modify your unconscious habits of thinking.

You should savor the good things in your life. Begin practicing gratitude. Take the time to notice even the smallest moments of delight or beauty throughout your life. Remember though; gratitude is more than simply being grateful.

Your brain remembers bad experiences more strongly than good ones. So count your blessings.

Speak in a kind way to yourself. Observe yourself through the day, and replace any negative thoughts you discover.

Be optimistic as this kind of people tends to handle better stress, have extended life spans, less apprehension, and fear, and greater immune systems.

Tips to Better Control Your Feelings Halt any immediate action. Pull back. Take a deep breath. It will help clear your head and take better control over your emotions.

Take a look at the bigger picture.

Ask yourself questions about what you are experiencing and feeling.

Stop and think before you jump to conclusions.

Require valid evidence for your thoughts.

Keep your head up as moods manifest by nonverbal communication and affect how others see you.

Get rid of perfectionism because you cannot expect unrealistic performance from yourself or others.

Repeat affirmations to remind you that even though you are not in control of a situation, you are in control of 3/4

your feelings.

Take a break with a five-minute distraction instead of ruminating over the situation.

Change your surroundings, even momentarily.

Take a moment to appreciate some of the things that are beautiful around you.

Remember that your emotions are a constant reminder of your passionate nature. They can jump at you at any time of the day. To stay in control and avoid a stupid reaction during an emotional upsurge, take a step back and breathe to calm your ardent spirit and quiet your unrested mind.

Learn to know what triggers you in the first place, and it will help you avoid awkward situations. By being able to modify your thoughts and reactions, you will be grateful you were able to control your emotions. To your well-being!

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Sergei VanBellinghen, Founder & CEO of First-Class Lifestyle, currently a Self-Improvement & Success Expert Consultant, using selfdevelopment techniques to help you succeed and have a better life.

Visit my website at sergeivanbellinghen.com

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