Why Some People Just Criticize Others digitalbloggers.com /business/why-some-people-just-criticize-others May 22, 2017 39 views Written by Sergei VanBellinghen
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Under certain circumstances, it is clearly appropriate to be critical, but then why some people just criticize others without even knowing who they are. It seems as if they were going out of their way simply to get you for no apparent reason. So what pushes some people to act like that?
Constructive criticism to let you avoid a particular mistake in the future is entirely acceptable. It can be a leader talking to an employee when a mistake is made, a friend trying to talk some sense into you, or a parent who criticize 1/4
his child. On the other hand, destructive criticism is a person who seems to criticize and put others down for no definite purpose other than cruel words. Do you know anyone like that? A topic is brought up, and they manage to criticize something from it. In life, I have met a few people who could not keep a dialogue without criticizing whatever was being talked about. Even today, when I try to help others, there is always someone who has the urgent need to put down what I do or say. No one likes to spend time around such negative critical minds. It would seem that these people have a real problem and no life. Is it hate, love or bitterness? Is it an envy to destroy rather than build? They seem to have such pleasure in doing it. But this kind of criticism often comes from bitterness throughout feelings. Watch the video “10 tips to handle critical people and how to deal with criticism ” to learn more.
What Pushes Someone to Put Others Down There is a difference between people who criticize you for making you better and those who are critical of you by putting you down for inexplicable reasons. Some people do this due to competition, by being ruthless on the path to success or by pure pleasure of putting others down. The reason why some people just criticize you and put you down is to feel somewhat worthy and popular. According to these people’s viewpoint, if you put everybody down, then you will be the only one left who is worthy of praise. It often happens out of envy, jealousy, bitterness and a feeling of inferiority. To which of you it has not been done at least more than once? Such as acquaintances that you have no close connection with or that you do not even know, but try anyway to criticize, put you down, or prove to you that you are not that smart and successful. Most of them would do this indirectly, but you can easily understand from the feedback they give you or the questions they ask you. It is the kind of stuff you get from a jealous person who feels resentful and insignificant and just wants to get to you to feel better. A person who just criticizes others in this way flopped to accomplish your level of success, popularity or whatever else you have, so he decided to hit in the back to win an easy but unfair point.
The ‘For Best or Worst’ Story Let me take you back for a moment when Germany was divided in two by a massive wall. The East German government ordered the building of a barrier which separated the city and created East and West Berlin. It would one day become known as the infamous “Berlin Wall” which I crossed when I was nine years old. As the first barricades were set up in just one night, the East Berliners felt powerless in suddenly realizing what was happening that next morning and became resentful of the freedom which West Berliners had. Being bitter, they took action and filled a truck full of trash which they drove to the other side late one night. They threw the trash all over the West Berlin streets and then walked back to East Berlin. A couple of days passed, and the truck they had left came back under cover of darkness. When East Berliners opened it, they expected to see the filthy garbage they had dumped, but instead, it was packed full of canned produces and non-perishable food items. A sign had been left on the merchandise which read “ Each gives what he has to give. ” 2/4
Moments of high pressure tend to bring out the very best or the very worst of human nature. In the same challenging situation, some focus on helping others and some focus on just criticizing others. It is true that you can only give what you have. So how do you deal with people who just criticize others?
Dealing with Criticism When you meet or cross such a person, do your best not to respond at all or say “ Thank you�. This way, you won’t give him more than once chance to criticize you. If it is a spouse, a relative or another person, and his or her intention is to hurt you and criticize you just to feel better, you should know that this being will most certainly do it again and again. Most of these people do it out of ill intentions, but you are in control, you have the choice of both smiling and not replying because you realize that it is worthless to answer someone who is feeling envious, bitter and inferior. You should not confront such individual directly with his intentions. They are a dime a dozen, and it lets that person turn to their self-justifying and defensive side. Just tell them that he could feel better by working on oneself and succeed rather than condemning others.
The Reasons Some People Criticize Others Feeling threatened by your skills, confidence, allure, etc. Feeling of inferiority, insecurity and trying too hard to be better than you. Competing with you for position, prestige or you are a stumbling block to their goal. Having a resilient and unmet want that is not yet being satisfied. Having a strong opinion on a topic and believe their point of view to be valid. Feeling threatened by you and counter-attacking. Wanting to feel important and respected. Trying to embarrass or humiliate you. Desiring revenge. Getting into a power play. Having a controlling personality. Having to be in charge. Testing your limits. Being frustrated knowing you have what they want. Seeing themselves as the only expert on the topic. Wanting to be admired and popular. Trying to make themselves look good or minimize a wrong action. Bullying or intimidating you so they can feel powerful. Being narcissistic and cannot handle you confronting them Defending their actions by pointing out what you did wrong, not them. The reason why some people just criticize others is that their jealousy, bitterness or envy takes over and that is the 3/4
only thing they have to offer. They do not understand love or meaningful feedback. So ignore them and let them be!
Sergei VanBellinghen, Founder & CEO of First-Class Lifestyle and sergeivanbellinghen.com, Success & Self-Improvement Consultant, Freedom entrepreneur & business partner of Stuart Ross, also counselor in East Europe-West relationships, a passionate Globetrotter and an avid audio booker
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