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Editor’s Letter! As fall approaches and summer winds down, we couldn’t be more excited to share Issue 3 of Zieley! Join us as we explore the Western surf culture brand Seager Co., interview the senior fashion and beauty editor at Bustle, learn a recipe shared by the founder of GoGreenGoLean, consider tips for making the most of study abroad, and reflect on the controversial Brock Turner case. The amazing men and women who have contributed to Zieley inspire us, and we are excited to share their stories, passions, and thoughts with you. So grab a seat, grab a drink, and relax with Issue 3 of Zieley! ! !
XOXO,!
Melissa and Kenzie !
A Special Thanks! We would like to thank everyone who contributed to making this third issue of Zieley Magazine happen. We would like to extend a special thanks to the amazingly talented Kara McGrath, Mattson Smith, Susana Tsang, Madison Malatesta, and Emily White for contributing to this issue and continuing to inspire us. ! 1 Zieley /SEPTEMBER 2016!
SEPTEMBER 2016! 3! Seager Co.!
Co-Founder of Western Surf brand Seager Co. reflects on the company's past year, how it started and how it has grown. !
Beauty! 11! Kara McGrath,
Senior Fashion & Beauty Editor for Bustle, talks about her time in the industry and gives advice for aspiring journalists.!
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Susana Tsang, founder of ! the blog GoGreenGoLean, shares her favorite healthy recipe, Miso Salmon. !
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Going abroad this fall? These are the top 10 tips for making the most of your trip in another county.!
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Businesswoman Emily White shares her thoughts on preventing the next Brock Turner.!
Seager Co. originated just over a year ago. It is the combination of the grit and ruggedness of the American West with the simplicity of Southern California surf culture. The company is dedicated to creating quality products that will promote The West, as it once was. Mattson Smith, Co-Founder of Seager Co., talks about how it all began and where Seager Co. is headed. ! !
ZIELEY: What inspired you to become an entrepreneur in the apparel industry?! MATTSON SMITH (MS): Ever since I was young, I was enamored with the surf apparel industry. It’s such a crazy, innovative and niche society that I always kept up with which company was doing what. As I got older, I realized that I wasn’t a skilled enough surfer to get sponsored so I had to find another way to get involved with this industry. !
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My interests have not changed much and I am so excited to be involved in the surf industry and hopefully expand into the outdoor scene.! Z: How did Seager Co. originate?! MS: It was my sophomore year in college and I had just moved down by the beach with some of the UCSD volleyball team. I noticed that one of my new roommates, Elliott Shaw, was just as enthralled in Western movies, classic country music, surfing and the overall surf culture as I was. We would talk for hours about how we wished that someone would push the values of Old Western movies but with a classic surf culture twist. Some companies came close; Brixton and Filson were the best bet, but didn’t fully encompass what we imagined would be a great Western Surf brand. We wanted to design our own clothing in order to represent that Western Surf vibe. At the time, it seemed like a far off dream, but one day Elliott looked at me and said “Let’s just make our own company.”!
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Seager Co. Photography! Enthusiastically, I agreed! I wasn’t fully sold on how serious Elliott was until the next day. I arrived back from school and he greeted me at the door, showing me that he had spent the whole day working on potential brand names and tee designs. From that day, we’ve worked nonstop to get the dream of Seager Co. off the ground. We then met with Case Anderson, a good friend with similar interests, and Calvin Muusse, our incredible artistic director, both helped launch Seager into what it is now. ! Z: Where did the name Seager Co. come from?! MS: Elliott and I worked for two years to come up with a relative and unique name. It’s incredibly hard to lock down a company name that has not already been used. We wanted to make sure that we were exclusive in our branding and that there would be no similar names in the industry. We studied abroad together in the Czech Republic where we had a lot of time to think about a brand name…! Eventually, the name came from what we believed !
helped encompass the brand, with a combination of phonetic sounds (the grungy sound of ‘gur”) mixed with the dictation of the word “Sea,” together SeaGur. We felt that those two words put together would help describe our brand without even knowing who we were. This led to the name Seager Co. It also helps that American folk and banjopicking legend Pete Seger shares the name.! Z: What do you think makes Seager stand out compared to other apparel brands?! MS: Seager is the only apparel brand that celebrates! both the cowboy adventure lifestyle, as well as the surf culture. We have a group of incredibly skilled surfers, as well as like-minded adventurers that help represent our brand and push our vision. To top it off, we have the unbelievably trained videographers to capture it all.! Z: How did you guys come up with the idea of branding yourself as “Grit Company?”! MS: The word Grit is synonymous with a gutsy and! spirited cowboy. Grit also describes surfers who !
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charge large waves with courage and resolve. Grit Company just perfectly portrayed the message that we wanted to push with Seager Co. The idea of being a strong, but modest man or woman in the modern world is a really important ideal to us. Strength in Character – Grit.! Z: What are Seager Co.’s key goals?! MS: We want to expand into producing outdoor/ tech products including sleeping bags, tents, and innovative camping gear. We do not want to be a one-dimensional brand; we want to be available to many consumers, no matter what their outdoor! interests are, and with that, we hope to stay relevant. And a maybe more even important goal is to be able to push the idea of the Western man/ woman. In this fast modern world, we hope to slow things down and popularize the gentlemanly ways that we believe Seager promotes. ! Z: How have you raised awareness for Seager in the past year?! MS: We have prided ourselves on the forms of media that we release. When it comes to making Seager films, we put a lot of time and energy into making sure that the film is very well made so that when we release it, it produces a lot of online shares leading to unique and new viewers. Also, who doesn’t love Instagram?? Free marketing. Can’t beat that! ! Z: How did you guys come up with the idea of shooting videos to promote the brand?! MS: It is an easy decision to shoot videos because of our artistic director Calvin. Before we brought him on board, he was a professional freelance photographer who had shot a number of amazing videos. The fact that we have him as a co-founder is incredible because we get in-house professional grade films. Now, we figure that Seager goes hand-in-hand with well made videos and that’s a huge part of our promotions.! Z: How do you pick a location to shoot a video or look book at? ! MS: The location depends on what we are trying to promote. The best part is that we are all constantly traveling and finding new and exotic places to shoot. The most fun part is picking and traveling to a location, because when we shoot we ! !
are just having fun with friends; there just happens to be a couple cameras around.! Z: Do you guys shoot all the photos and videos yourself?! MS: Yes we do. However, we get some help from awesome friends every time we go shoot, simply because they like to travel and shoot with us.! Z: Can you describe the process that you guys go through for creating a video?! MS: I leave all of that magic in the hands of Calvin and his film friends!! Z: Seager Co. recently had its one year anniversary. How has Seager grown in the past year?! MS: We are exponentially growing! It’s been an incredible year and I cannot wait to see where it goes from here.! Z: What do you think has been key to Seager Co.’s success?! MS: Seager gained most of its momentum from our friends in the surf industry. We owe a lot of thanks to Thalia Surf Shop and Mitch’s Surf Shop for stocking their shelves with our products before we had any momentum at all. Their trust in us helped us become legitimate to many new buyers. We also owe thanks to the many photographers, surfers, skaters, and adventurers that have reached out to us to help grow our brand in any way they could. I am proud of the content we have already produced and it is all thanks to them. Lastly, we owe thanks to all of our family and close friends who have been incredibly supportive, they have worn our stuff and shared our content more than anyone else and we owe our success to them! ! Z: What's next on the horizon for Seager Co.? MS: We are excited to work on making new and innovative products and also, new western/surf films that will be premiered within the next few months.! Z: What is your favorite Seager Co. product?! MS: My favorite Seager Co. product will be released in our fall/winter line. It’s an amazing corduroy hat that we’ve been working on called the “Banquet Hat” keep an eye out for it!!
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Seager Co. Photography! the fun was jam-packed and it’s all recorded in the launch video.! Z: Who are your career role models?! MS: My dad and my grandpa. My dad is a very respectable entrepreneur that I admire very much. He’s incredibly intelligent and has started many businesses that have succeeded and I think my entrepreneur spirit comes solely from my admiration in him. My grandpa is very similar, an incredibly intelligent and wise man. The type of guy I want to be when I grow old. There are other career role models in the surf industry like Dare Jennings (founder of Deus) and Mike Lesher (co-founder of Quiksilver, Billabong and Hurley). They are very successful and I look up to their accomplishments but I don’t think that they compare to my admiration for my family. ! Z: What is your favorite part about being part of the Seager team?! MS: I love that I am living my dream. It’s insane to me that Seager is alive and well. I love who I work with, my best buds, and I love the amazing adventures that we go on. !
Z: Can you tell us your favorite memory from being a part of Seager? ! MS: It’s only been 11 months since we first launched and there are already tons of amazing memories. Being a tangible brand that can throw parties at St. Archer Brewery and Thalia Surf Shop is a huge thing for me and I’m so stoked on those memories! But I think the #1 memory was from a filming trip for our first launch video. We had a week until our launch party and we promised everyone a video! So, we drove out to Mammoth (a seven hour drive) the weekend before our party. We had to get weeks worth of filming in one day. The thing was that we got there at 10pm the night before and had to set up camp in the dark. We woke up at 6am the next day because we only had that full day to shoot an entire video. The rush of going from one location to the next was amazing. We were basically forced to have about as much fun as we could in a single day, in order to get the right shots. Everyone had a blast and then we drove home the next morning. About as quick of a trip as we could get; ! !
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To keep up with Seager Co.’s adventures, check out their Facebook, Vimeo, and Instagram: @seagerco. And don’t forget to check out their website seagerco.com! !
BUSTLE
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Meet Kara, the Senior Fashion & Beauty Editor for bustle.com. When she’s not busy overseeing the beauty vertical of the site, she hangs out with her three cats in Brooklyn, New York, eating endless tacos. Zieley connected with McGrath to discuss the making of her career, her job at Bustle, and some of her tips on fashion, beauty, and writing. ! !
ZIELEY: Can you tell us a bit about your career (internships and full-time jobs) and how you moved through the industry to get to where you are now?! KARA MCGRATH (KM): My first internship was in the fashion closet at Teen Vogue. I learned so, so, so much there – the biggest takeaway being that print magazines probably weren’t for me. Then, I interned at seventeen.com, which I suppose is where I fell in love with digital. After I graduated, they offered me a full-time freelance!
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gig, which eventually turned into regular full time. Two years later, I decided I wanted to try working at a start up, which is how I ended up at Bustle!! Z: What was your favorite memory from interning at Seventeen Magazine?! KM: Seventeen was awesome because the web team was so small – it was just my boss (the site editor), a social media editor, and me for a lot of my internship. That gave me so many opportunities to really get hands-on experience in fashion, beauty, and entertainment news. Probably one of my favorite memories was my first celebrity interview: I had ten minutes with Jesse Eisenberg, and he gave me a bite of his pretzel. As a 20 year old college student, that was unreal.! Z: What is your favorite part about writing for Bustle?! KM: I don’t do a ton of writing myself, but I truly appreciate the amount of creativity and experimentation we’re allowed here. There’s!
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Fashion & Beauty very little red tape in terms of the content. If you have a great idea for a story, you write it!! Z: What does your day-to-day at Bustle look like?! KM: It definitely varies! Some days I’m at my desk for the majority of the time, editing stories from freelancers, staying on top of fashion and beauty news, checking in on the content my associate editors are publishing, and analyzing our traffic from the day(s) before. Other times, I’m on video shoots for our Beauty Mark series or talking about how awesome Bustle is on TV or on photo shoots with the entertainment team. The one constant is being surrounded by beauty products!! Z: Who are your career role models?! KM: Honestly, my current boss Lindsay Mannering is the ultimate in career role models. I swear I’m not just sucking up to her. She’s exactly who I want to be when I grow up, because she’s the perfect balance of tough, smart, and encouraging.! Z: Have you always been interested in fashion and beauty?! KM: Beauty, yes! I went to cosmetology school before college and really considered being a professional hairstylist before I found out that beauty editor was a job. I fell into the fashion part, as beauty and fashion tend to get lumped together at publications with smaller teams. It’s a totally different animal, but I’ve loved learning more about it.! Z: For aspiring writers out there, what advice can you give to people wanting to enter the fashion/beauty industry?! KM: Just be obsessed with learning everything you can about the industry. I think that’s probably true of any successful career! Start your own blog and freelance places like Bustle that let you work remotely. Once you’re writing, attend press previews whenever you have the chance. They’re great networking opportunities, and usually super fun.! ! !
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Z: What have been your keys to success in this industry?! KM: In addition to everything above, being a nice person has helped. People tend to want to help you succeed if you’re grateful, polite, and friendly!! Z: Can you tell us what got you interested in writing? ! KM: I’ve been writing since I could hold a pencil, basically. My earliest works were mostly short stories about my cats.! Z: What do you enjoy most about being a writer and editor? ! KM: From my experience, being a writer and editor at Bustle is a wildly different thing from anywhere else. You have so much creative freedom here. I was just chatting with a coworker about how cool it is that I was putting a whole list of ideas into a brainstorm email and I knew the majority of them would be executed. You don’t see that sort of willingness to approve hundreds of story ideas (especially ones coming from people under 30) at many other places.! Z: What is something people would be surprised to hear about the journalism world?! KM: When new editors start, the biggest surprise seems to be that we’re all tuned in pretty much 24/7. Yes, we technically have regular 9 to 6 work hours, but if big news breaks at 2 a.m., you’re jumping online to write as much as you can. That’s honestly one of my favorite parts of the job; it’s awesome to be able to collaborate with a team of such enthusiastic hard workers. ! Z: Why did you choose digital vs. print journalism?! KM: I function best in an environment where everything is fast paced and you constantly have to be doing several things at once. I didn’t enjoy the long approval process that goes into print magazines; the slight adrenaline rush you get from having to cover breaking news from approximately 100 different angles is so fun. Plus there’s more !
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room for experimentation since space on the Internet is unlimited. From my experience with print publications, there’s this mindset that you have to do what you know definitely works because there are only a certain amount of pages you can fill. To master that is a talent I respect, but it’s not for me. Also, job security.! Z: What has been your favorite piece to write?! KM: I love writing “I tried it” pieces. Most recently I wore a pair of those stretchy Steve Madden sandals for a week. It was an incredible experience.! Z: Who has been your favorite person to interview and why?! KM: That’s tough. Recently I interviewed Kourtney Kardashian, and she was really fun to talk to. I always love chatting with all the hair stylists and makeup artists backstage at Fashion Week too, because I learn so many tricks I can actually use in my life.! !
Z: How do you continue to find inspiration for a new piece?! KM: Every day I think I’ll finally be out of ideas, and then, somehow, I find pitches to send in my daily email. I do keep a notebook to write ideas down when inspiration randomly hits too. ! Z: What does the writing process look like from idea creation to published piece?! KM: It depends! If it’s a news post, we get stories up in a matter of minutes after we get the idea. Features generally come from group brainstorms, and then I just gather supplies or interviews I need and write it up. I do enjoy a good outline before I actually start writing, too. ! Z: What tips do you have for someone with writer’s block? ! KM: I open up a blank email and just start typing down literally anything that comes into my head. A glass of wine can help too. !
Kara McGrath’s ! Style Tips for Fall!
Eyes! Ardency Inn Modster! Big Instant Lash Enhancing Mascara
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How would you describe your personal style? ! I generally feel most comfortable in jeans and a Tshirt or loose blouse, and I’m lucky that 1. that look is fairly hip these days and 2. I work somewhere where that’s totally OK. I wear sneakers and loafers almost exclusively. I’m rarely without lipstick.! ! What are you favorite fall beauty trends? ! I’m still obsessed with lob haircuts, and I’ll never give up dark lipsticks. I hope skin highlighting sticks around after the summer, too! That little bit of sparkle is just so pretty on everyone.!
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What is your must-have product right now?! Can I give one must-have for each category?! For makeup, it’s Becca x Jaclyn Hill Champagne Collection Face Palette, Bite Beauty Amuse Bouche Lipstick in Nori, and Ardency Inn Modster Big Instant Lash Enhancing Mascara. For skin care, it’s the Cover FX E + Chamomile Custom Infusion Drops.!
To keep up with McGrath, check out her Twitter, Instagram, and Snapchat: @diosmioitskara. ! 17 Zieley /SEPTEMBER 2016!
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SUSANA TSANG FROM GOGREENGOLEAN SHARES HER FAVORITE RECIPE.
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Lifestyle Food
One of my favorite foods consists of flavored fish with steamed vegetables. ! Although, salmon may be high in fat relative to other fish, this nutrient-dense fish is a great source for getting your daily dose of omega-3 fatty acids and protein. This helps to promote fullness and curb cravings. Miso, a fermented bean paste with a distinct salty/savory taste, is perfect for marinating purposes, as it goes so well with both meat or fish. Only small amounts are needed since Miso is high in sodium. !
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1. Each weekend trip is just a small taste of the city you are visiting. European cities are filled with rich
history and interesting things to see - there is no way you can see everything in the few days that you are there. Some cities you can only visit for a few hours, so remember that this is just a sampling of the city. It is kind of like the bachelor. You get to date all of these places for a few days and then figure out which ones you want to! give a rose and visit again in the future. When I visited Amsterdam, I knew the 24 hours that I spent there were not enough. It is definitely a city that I will make a point to go back to in the future. That being said, you probably will not get the chance to return to every city you travel to during your time abroad so do make sure to hit all of the highlights while you’re there and get your instas the first time. ! !
2. Make a schedule of what you want to see and when. Know you want to go to Germany for Oktoberfest or
to the French Riviera when it’s finally warm? Make a list of all of the places you want to go and any particular times you want to visit those places. It also helps to know places you don’t want to go as well as places that you might want to go to if you have extra time. Once you have this list together, it will make booking trips much easier.! !
3. Don’t plan everything right off the bat. It can be tempting to book everything right away. I know I wanted
to fill my calendar when I first got to Europe, but sometimes it is better to wait. You will find that you can get discounted trips if you wait for sales on certain sites. You may also find people with whom you want to travel a few weeks in. Book anything you know you absolutely want to do right away, like Dublin for St. Patrick’s Day, because! !
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chances are flights or hostels will fill up fast. Book out your first month, but then just take a break from planning a few months away. Your credit card will thank you for doing this too!! !
4. Travel with different people. Whether you end up abroad with your best friends or not knowing anyone, don’t be afraid to mix up who you travel with, and maybe even travel alone for a weekend. Discovering new cities with different people can bring out new sides of you, help you develop as a person, and really get to know yourself.! !
5. Get suggestions of places to visit in each city before you go. Most cities you visit will have very
expensive tourist traps. People will stand outside of restaurants, trying to corral you into their over-priced establishments with mediocre food. To avoid this, get recommendations of places to eat and things to do from any friends who have visited there before. Travel sites and even the hostel you stay in can be great resources too! If you do end up winging it in a city, always look for the green Trip Advisor sticker indicating that other tourists have recommended it.! !
6. Mix guided tours with trips of your own. There are lots of companies specifically designed for college
students studying abroad that can actually be a great deal. Often, their tours leave at times that allow you not to miss any class and come with great guides who really know the area. Also they are great for transporting you to places you want to go without having to organize transportation yourself or having to pay an exponential cab fare. That being said, don’t rely on these for all of your trips. Some cities, especially bigger ones like Paris, London, or Athens, can be more fun to explore yourself. You get to decide your whole weekend, which can be challenging but also allows for you to do more of what you really want. ! ! 23 Zieley /SEPTEMBER 2016!
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7. Interact with the locals. Really. Do it. It is truly one of the best ways to learn about culture. The locals want to get to know you and your culture as much as you want to know them and theirs. I was fortunate enough to stay with a host family for a weekend in Belgium, and I really got an authentic taste of European life. Also, if you happen to have any family, even distant relatives, living in Europe this is your opportunity to connect with them.! !
8. Do something to remember each place you visit. All of the weekend trips you take and the memories you make should be commemorated. Buy a small souvenir such as a postcard or magnet in each city, or take pictures of street signs wherever you go. Collect coasters from bars or business cards from restaurants and assemble them in a journal. All of these momentos will help you remember funny stories or great experiences you had while abroad. You’ll be glad you did it!! !
9. Leave free time to explore the city you are living in. Traveling every weekend can be exhausting. You
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can try to hit everywhere in Europe and forget to enjoy the city you are living in. Take a few weekends off from traveling and just spend some of your free time enjoying the city you get to call home for a few months. It will be a welcome break from always being on the go and will help you really appreciate living in Europe.! .! 10. Don’t sweat the small stuff. Take advantage of this amazing opportunity! You might miss a train, have a delayed flight, or let your bank account go completely to zero. Don’t worry about any of it. It is all part of the experience and every little thing will help you grow. This time is for you, so make the most of every second.!
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About the Author!
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Madison Malatesta is originally from Berkeley, California. She was struck with the travel bug when she was 13 after visiting Italy with her family. Since then she has dedicated her life to traveling as much as she can. As an international affairs and economics dual major, Madison has been fortunate enough to study in Greece; France; Morocco; and now Florence, Italy. When she’s not traveling, she loves to read, spend time outside and hang out with friends. !
Editorial Business
How to Prevent the Next Brock Turner And in the Least, Have Open Conversations w/ Kids & Respect Women While Trying.
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am always fascinated when a story within my world goes viral. Once, that was via an NPR intern who shares my name whose simple post blew up my own Google alerts from small music blogs through National press all the way up to The New York Times.! This time around, more than art was at stake. Brock Turner, convicted rapist and Stanford swimmer, is another story I watched explode. It started with swim blogs, then feminist blogs, National press and eventually Vice President Joe Biden even commenting on the story.! I don’t know Brock or his victim. But I’ve been a young woman at countless parties and also grew up !
on swim teams. I felt like I knew both parties involved, even though as stated: I don’t.! The victim’s powerful words describe her experience, initially one that countless women have on campuses around the globe - she headed out to a party with her sister expecting a fun night out. That night turned into a nightmare for all involved.! I am horrified by Brock’s actions and disappointed that others who work hard on his storied swim team now are associated with Google searches that have nothing to do with the team’s success. I feel nothing but love and support from afar for the victim and all who surround her.!
Editorial Business But how did we get here? Like I said, I felt like I knew Brock as I grew up around swimmers and the victim could have been any one of my friends. Swimmers aside, I wondered if all of the young men and women I grew up with were actually taught about sexuality as well as the powerful affects of alcohol. I grew up in a liberal home, but in a conservative community. Many of my male and female friends’ parents avoided the topic of sex. And drinking? Well, I’m from Wisconsin, which claims the most “drunk” cities of any state in America. ! !
“…I couldn’t help noticing that the community Brock grew up in is not unlike where I’m from.” ! Brock is a convicted criminal, no doubt. Yes, his sentence is horrifyingly too short, and it’s frankly kind of creepy that the Judge who gave such a light sentence was also a Stanford athlete, apparently concerned about ruining Brock’s life. Brock’s life was ruined when he decided to violate an unconscious woman; not by how long or short his sentence!
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is. I am in no way saying that alcohol = rape. But I couldn’t help noticing that the community Brock grew up in is not unlike where I’m from. ! !
“We don’t live in The Dark Ages.”! Did his parents ever talk to him about what a powerful drug alcohol is? Did they explain that sex is of course completely natural and have regular, open conversations with him about these topics? Would any of these conversations have changed the behavior of someone who is truly sick? Probably not. But I’d like to think being real and having open conversations with kids about society is going to benefit them more than not.!
“If parents are religious, great. But don’t assume that is enough to teach your child responsible sexual behavior.”!
My mind was blown when a good friend who is extremely open minded in every way told me she dreaded teaching her newborn son about sex. I sat there and thought “That’s how he was created!!” We don’t live in The Dark Ages. Religion is present in America, but not all that common as a lifestyle amongst Millennials. That is a reality parents need to wake up to. If parents are religious, great. But don’t assume that is enough to teach your child responsible sexual behavior. ! !
“What mistakes did you make that you don’t want your kids to make?” !
I showed up at college with little drinking experience (my first glass of wine was in France as a teenager) and have experienced various drugs since then. Alcohol is no joke. We need to drop the taboos surrounding alcohol, sex, and young people. Be real with your kids. What was your experience with learning how to drink? What mistakes did you make that you don’t want your kids to make? Why are we scared to have these conversations? ! !
Editorial Business ! Women face biases in virtually all areas of business. We get paid less. We have to watch our drinks while out. And 1 in 6 of us will be sexually assaulted in our lifetimes. This is good information for all to understand. ! ! “Most want gender !
equality, but don’t always talk about what that actually means.”
! Most want gender equality, but don’t always talk about what that actually means. These conversations start at home, with the people who love you most and are trying to teach you about life. So why are we sending kids out to the world so blind?! Why did Brock Turner lie about his high school (recreational) drug use? The greatest Olympian of all time has been photographed with a bong. Maybe we should talk about pot not being so bad. Or the insights that can come from hallucinogens. And that alcohol can cause a lot more problems than just driving drunk (often the only advice that was given to my friends surrounding alcohol).! Again, I do not know Brock, I do not know his! !
victim. But I do know a lot of young people whose parents never spoke to them about sex in any sort of real way. On top of that, many had a “don’t ask, don’t tell” policy with alcohol. And of course those two factors alone don’t make someone a rapist. But it’s a good place to start to try and prevent the next Brock Turner. And in the least will give a space where kids can be open with their parents and be themselves. !
“I also don’t have kids. If do at any point, maybe I’ll feel differently; but I don’t think so.” I also don’t have kids. If do at any point, maybe I’ll feel differently; but I don’t think so. Alcohol is a brutal drug. Use it wisely and be smart. Have fun for sure, but know what it’s doing to your mind and body. Responsible, consensual sex is what most sane humans want. Are we teaching our kids that? What is scaring us from doing so? I recommend getting over that fear. In the least, we can build a more respectful culture - for women, for each other, and also look out for all whether they are experiencing their first drink at home or are doing so surrounded by peers.!
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About the Author! Emily White is a Brooklyn based entrepreneur; most notably as the co-founder of Dreamfuel, a crowdfunding platform for athletes, as well as Whitesmith Entertainment. Recently, White penned her first book Interning 101 as a how-to guide for interns in the modern business world. Emily and her companies can be found via @EmWizzle, @DreamfuelMe, @WhitesmithEnt as well as @Interning101 on Twitter for additional info. !
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