Montessori Mag-nificence Online Magazine, ed 55, June-July 2019

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Raising Kids the Montessori Way

Inspiring Kids to be more Grateful

Understanding your child’s

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contents THE MONTESSORI METHOD BABIES & BEYOND 10 Natural Remedies for ‘Mom Brain’ 12 9 Tips for 9 Months 15 Age Appropriate Chores 17 Indigo & Crystal Children LEARNING WITH EXCITEMENT PEACEFUL PARENTING 28 Manage Big Parenting Feelings before they Manage You 31 The morning I discovered my son and his girlfriend in bed 35 The Wisdom of Menopause LITTLE WELLNESS WARRIORS 38 Omega 3 – Why it’s a No-Brainer YOUTH OF THE NATION 44 From Teens to Adulthood 49 Should Teens be allowed to Curse?

PLAY TIME 54 Go Outside!

58 Raising Kids Positively 60 The Magic Mat 62 Smurf Inspired Fairy Garden 65 Close Encounters YUMMY TUMMY 72 Cooking with kids 75 Feed Your Brain 77 Healthy Vegetarians and Vegans THE MAGICAL WORLD OF READING Hooked on Books Treasures on Amazon ANIMAL LOVE 99 The Healthy Natural Alternative 101 Turmeric Benefits for Dogs REACH OUT Giving a helping hand

by Holly Daniel There is nothing better than when your toddler finally decides to master potty training, brushing their own teeth or dressing. Okay, it might be a bit sad to think of your toddler growing up, but after you calm down you will remember how much of your life you will get back by every independent thing your toddler learns!

The main way your child will become independent is through practical life skills. Lately, we have been working on a number of practical life skills. The older my daughter gets the more she is capable of. She will be two years old in one short month, but it seems we have already done so much! I wanted to share with you some five things we are working on at the moment that help grow her independence.

1) FOOD PREP This is a HUGE practical life skill. There are so so so many things you can do with food prep with a two-year-old! This is a great age for peeling eggs and oranges. The concentration level is great for this task. We have also been working with peeling carrots (supervision is necessary) and squeezing oranges to make juice!

2) SELECTING CLOTHES While this one has not always been a huge interest with my daughter, she is slowly coming around to it. She has a much more clear understanding of what the term shorts, shirt, and undies are. If I ask her to go get her shorts, she will go get some shorts and bring them out to me. She gets to independently make her choice, which is one step closer to dressing herself independently.

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3) BRUSHING TEETH It took some time developing this skill, and if truth be told my two-year-old is still not 100% independent of this task. Most days she does a decent enough job. There are still a few days when she is being distracted by outside things. On those days, I do have to help redirect her back to brushing her teeth; and even some days, I still have to just do it for her. I usually only do it for her if it has been a few days without her doing it properly for herself.

4) CONCENTRATE WHILE WORKING/NOT INTERRUPTING Like I mentioned above, when my daughter is distracted it all but ruins her concentration and it is hard for her to get back to work after any sort of interference. I try my best to set up her work areas with as little distraction as possible although it can be difficult, it is worth the effort.

5) SELF-SERVE WATER AND SNACKS Getting rid of the need to ask you for food or drink is easy, just teach them to do it themselves.

If you leave a tray of food out or even a shelf in the fridge for your toddler they will quickly learn where they can go to get their beloved snacks. They actually don’t mind eating fresh fruit and veg when they were able to get it themselves. I find my daughter would be constantly asking for snacks if I didn’t allow her to independently get some of her own I would be in an endless cycle all day long.

I hope that you and your toddler can start working on some of these ways to promote toddler independence with Montessori.

HOLLY DANIEL Originally from Nebraska, Holly moved around quite a lot, even to other countries. She and her husband Nick have an energetic one-year-old daughter named Aneira, who has changed their lives forever. Trying to be the best mom and researching so many topics, Holly realized she could help others by sharing the information she found as well as her mistakes. So through her blog, http://thistoddlerlife.com, she makes it easier for mothers to find what other moms are already doing. Holly shares what she finds useful in easy to read lists for all the very busy moms out there who don’t have time to look for it themselves.

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How do we inspire our kids to be more grateful?

By Rebecca Wolthers

So, in today’s modern world, how do you inspire children to grow up with an attitude of gratitude instead of an “attitude”, if you know what I mean?

Many psychologists have studied gratitude and its effects on our well being. People who are more grateful seem to lead more satisfying lives and are more resilient in a crisis or under pressure. I for one definitely want that for my whole family! Rudolf Steiner, known for creating Waldorf Education, said this “Gratitude is the basis for love. When children deepen their appreciation for the natural world, they deepen their love for all of creation.” An easy way to start is to simply as your kids, “What are three things you are grateful for today?” Or, for younger ones, try a rhyme or a song that appeals to you. Giving thanks before a meal is another powerful way to inspire gratitude. Here’s a sweet one for the younger kiddos:

The eagle gives thanks for the mountains, The fish gives thanks for the sea We give our blessings for the food we are about to receive.

Understanding Your Child's

Artwork

Written by Maren Schmidt

A visitor gushed over my four-year-old daughter's new and quite abstract painting on our refrigerator. "Oh, what a beautiful painting. It's the most beautiful thing I've ever seen."

I was pleased that my daughter had remembered to say, "Thank you", to a compliment. I thought she would also enjoy the "nonmom" appreciation.

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After our visitor was gone, my daughter turned to me and said, "That lady sure doesn't know anything about art. I guess she's never been to a museum. It's not the most beautiful picture in the world. It's just a picture I did about trains."

That's the day I learned that a four-year-old can spot a phony compliment.

It's also the day that I discovered that blobs and scribbles may actually contain an important story.

"So your picture is about trains. Tell me about it," I said.

I had been amazed that the picture was about anything. It resembled the drop cloth of a messy house painter.

"This is the train we saw with all the circus animals on it. Here is the yellow engine, and here is the green caboose."

At least six weeks before we had stopped to watch the Ringling Brothers train roll through town. The train had a yellow Santa Fe engine and green Burlington Northern caboose. I hadn't realized she remembered any of it.

"What's the blue here?" I ventured "That's the car with the elephants.“ On and on she went about the day we saw the circus train. I was delighted by the detail she remembered and had expressed in her painting. I thought of her other "artwork" I had thrown away. So many stories I tossed out because I didn't ask a few questions. I just didn't know.

This incident with my daughter taught me to ask open-ended questions about artwork.

Instead of some "Oh, how nice!" compliment, I've learned to approach children's artwork with phrases such as: • Tell me about your picture.

• What is this red?

• Tell me about the yellow.

• What is the blue about?

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I also include the famous five questions of who, what, when, where and why.

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Who was there?

What did they do?

When did this happen?

Where did this happen?

Why were you there?

These questions have helped me understand the story inside a picture.

With these few questions, I hope you'll discover something new about your child.

Splotches of color on a piece of brown craft paper let me experience something that was important to my daughter. With her drawing, she was able to share with me a memory of an important event in her life. Her refrigerator artwork became one of the most beautiful pictures I had ever seen, because I took the time to try to understand the artist.

Article re-posted with permission from Maren Schmidt.

Children from about age three are asking us to help them learn independence.

Children want to learn how to do things on their own without adult supervision or permission. Even though at times we feel we have to help children constantly, in reality, children are asking us to help them help themselves.

MUCH OF WHAT WE CLASSIFY AS “MISBEHAVIOR” IN THE THREE TO SIX-YEAR-OLD, UPON CLOSER INSPECTION, IS CHILDREN TRYING TO DO THINGS BY THEMSELVES, AND NOT BEING SUCCESSFUL. In our hurried world, it’s easier to do it ourselves than to stop and show our children how to do a task, and patiently wait as they complete it. Do we really have 15 minutes every morning for our three-year-old to put on her shoes and socks?

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Visiting friends a few years ago, I asked their nine-year-old if he’d like to help me cut apples for a pie. Jimmy’s eyes widened. “Oh, no, I can’t. Mom won’t let me use a knife.”

“Why is that? Were you irresponsible with a knife?”

“No. Mom’s afraid I’ll cut myself.”

After getting an okay with Jimmy’s mom, I began showing him how to cut the apples into chucks after I’d peeled and quartered them. Within half an hour, Jimmy had learned how to peel, quarter and cube apples. And not a mangled finger in sight. At dinner Jimmy was so proud of our’ pies. He thanked me for taking the time to show him how to use a paring knife. “I knew I could do it if someone just let me.”

Help me help myself.

We can begin to show our children how to use serious tools such as knives, scissors, hammers, and screwdrivers around age three, with 100 percent adult supervision.

First, we need to feel confident that the child will listen and follow our direction. If not, he or she is not ready for these kinds of tasks.

Secondly, we need to find tools that are safe. For helping in the kitchen a small butter knife or canapé knife will cut bananas and apple slices, but won’t cut small fingers. There are scissors available that will only cut paper, and not hair or clothes. Small hammers can be used to drive 16 penny-nails into a log end. For hammering, invest in a pair of child sized safety goggles. A short three-inch screwdriver and ratchet can be used to loosen and tighten screws and bolts on boards.

As a child’s level of skill and responsibility grow, we can introduce new levels of difficulty with different tools and materials.

Giving our children “real” work with real tools will help them gain independence. Self-esteem is based on having skills, meaning you can act in ways that benefit yourself and others. Too often, adults think that just telling someone that they are wonderful develops a feeling of self worth.

Self-esteem is based on the self-confidence of knowing how to do something, not on what someone says to you.

“Help me help myself” is the young child’s cry for independence that leads to true confidence and self-esteem. Don’t do for your child what they can do for themselves. Remember, any unnecessary help is an obstacle to a person’s independence.

Maren Schmidt is an award winning teacher and author, Maren leverages her talents writing and creating online workshops.

Montessori school communities enjoy her weekly Kids Talk Newsletters, as well as her workshops, that are full of put-it-into-action advice about children. Maren is an elementary trained Montessori guide with AMI. She founded a Montessori school and her Montessori roles include parent, teacher, and school administrator. Visit MarenSchmidt.com.

Natural Remedies for ‘Mom Brain’

Those that have transitioned to motherhood may have noticed changes in the way they think and act as compared to their behavior before they became parents. This is sometimes referred to as “mom brain.” Keep reading to find out more!

What is Mom Brain?

After childbirth, women may experience an increase of emotions, especially when considering how they interact with their child or children in general. Studies show that it goes deeper than simply a change of heart that comes after children are born. It seems that after childbirth, there is actually an increase of activity in the amygdala, the part of the brain responsible for emotional processing.

Research also shows that it is not only mothers who experience mom brain, but fathers as well.

This serves as evidence that mom brain is not a direct result of changes due to pregnancy or childbirth but the actual act of caring for a child.

Mom brain can be both good and bad. On one hand, it can make us more responsive to our children’s needs. However, it can also cause us to become over-emotional at times, bringing on feelings of stress, anxiety, depression, or even anger.

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Natural Support for Mom Brain If you are experiencing a surge of emotions, there are herbal remedies that may ease the symptoms of mom brain. They include the following: Gotu Kola: This is a medicinal herb that has been used in Ayurvedic medicine for years. Studies have shown that gotu kola may help reduce stress, anxiety, and correlated depression. It can also be effective in promoting learning and memory functions helping parents who are overwhelmed with emotions to focus and stay on track.

Lavender : Lavender is known to have calming properties that can treat chronic and acute anxiety. It can also be helpful in promoting sleep when taken before bedtime.

Turmeric: Turmeric has been known for its anti-inflammatory properties and its ability to aid digestion. Now it is also becoming recognized for its effectiveness in treating anxiety and depression. This may be due to its high content of curcumin, which has powerful antiinflammatory effects that may be helpful in reducing anxiety.

If you are a parent, you should be able to enjoy parenthood without worrying about being overcome by stress or negative emotions. These are all great natural remedies that can help you to stay on track and make the most of family life, so you can enjoy your time with your children and with others in your life.

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What to expect when you’re expecting: 9 tips for 9 months For some people, being pregnant may sound like a scary prospect – having the responsibility of creating a new human being and keeping them as healthy as possible. The truth is, being pregnant is not scary at all. It is a beautiful, natural process that every woman should treasure.

However, even though pregnancy is natural, you still need to look after yourself, and your unborn child, which is why we have compiled a list of healthy things to do during your pregnancy – one tip for every month you are preggers.

1. Eat healthy Eating well during your pregnancy can help you to have a healthy pregnancy and a healthy baby. Try not to miss any meals throughout the day, especially breakfast, as this is probably the most important meal of the day. Try to avoid foods that are uncooked such as raw fish and meat and even soft cheeses and start increasing your daily intake of fruits and vegetables and other healthy snacks. You should also decrease how much caffeine you eat and drink per day so less coffee and chocolate and more water!

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2. Carry on exercising Don’t believe the old myths that exercising while you are pregnant can be harmful for your baby. Now we aren’t saying that you can do an intense weights session or cardio class, however exercising is one of the best ways to keep yourself healthy. There are so many classes that you can take that are specially for pregnant women such as preggibellies, preggy Pilates and preggy yoga. And if you don’t feel like partaking in one of these, a simple 15-20 minute walk, or even a quick swim when it’s hot, will do.

3. Read as much as possible and stay informed If you are pregnant for the first time, our best advice to you is to read, read, read. Not only are there hundreds of books out there, but there are many pregnancy blogs that you can read online as well. The more information you have, the less scary things may seem. Don’t forget though that your pregnancy is important to others too so don’t be afraid to ask other mothers, including your own, as many questions as you need to.

4. Take your vitamins Take a prenatal vitamin every day that contains iron and folic acid. Iron helps keep your blood healthy while folic acid helps prevent any birth defects. Speak to your doctor and pharmacist to find out which vitamin is best for you.

5. Stick to your doctor appointments There is a reason that gynecologists want to see their pregnant patients at numerous stages during their pregnancies so make sure you don’t miss them. Each appointment checks the progress of the pregnancy, making sure that both mom and baby are healthy and well. By not sticking to your appointments, you may run the risk of missing something important. And above all, don’t you want to watch the progress of your new addition?

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6. Relax The best thing you can do for both yourself and your baby is to relax as much as possible. We know that it is not always easy, especially if you have a full time job and a family to look after, but did you know that stress releases toxins into your body, which may become harmful to your baby – you don’t want to risk going into early labour because you forgot to relax.

Meditation and yoga can help to calm your mind and keep you stress-free.

7. Speak to your partner Don’t forget that even though you are the one carrying a baby, there were two people involved in getting you pregnant. It is important for you to share with your partner what you are going through and how you are feeling because they are left in the dark. They don’t know what it feels like when you feel your baby kick for the first time or why you are so uncomfortable near the end of your pregnancy. Communication is key as during this time, you and your partner will start forming a new type of bond.

8. Cut out unhealthy habits Smoking, drinking alcohol, using drugs and taking certain medication while pregnant is without a doubt one of the most harmful things you can do to your unborn child. Not only can the toxins found in alcohol, over-the-counter medications, drugs and tobacco can cause birth defects for your child, but if you take drugs or drink while pregnant, there is a likelihood that your child will be born with an addiction.

9. Create memories Finally, one of the most special things you can do during your pregnancy is to create memories. Keep a journal and jot down all your feelings throughout the nine months – this is something that you can keep forever and maybe even one-day share with your child.

You can also record your progress by taking monthly pictures of your growing belly, which you can stick into your journal.

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These Are the Chores Your Child Should Be Doing This Year Based on Their Age

by ALESSIA SANTORO

If you're a mama who feels like she's doing literally everything around the house, including picking up after your very capable kids, we know how you feel. It makes some parents feel guilty to give their children mundane responsibilities like taking out the garbage, and some moms follow the "if I do it, it'll get done faster and better" mode of thinking. But the truth is, our children can — and probably should — handle more than we think.

We're not suggesting you turn your child into a regular Mrs. Doubtfire, but there are a bunch of tasks around the house that can be completed by children based on their age. If you're looking to set your kiddos up with a chore chart to help them learn about hard work and having responsibilities, there's something every child can help with.

Ages 2-3 At this age, chores are a kind of code for being held accountable in the smallest way. While your kiddo is young, it's important to not do every little thing for them so that getting them to help out when they're older isn't a losing battle. Here are some things they can help you or their older siblings with: • • • • •

Put laundry in the hamper/washer.

Put their toys away.

Put books on the bookshelf.

Help feed the family pet.

Throw diapers into trash.

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Ages 4-7

Ages 8-10

As your child gets a bit older, their ability to do a few small chores independently increases, especially if they were helping out with little things before their fourth birthday. As they make their way through preschool and into grade school, here are a few things they can manage: • Help set the table.

• Make their bed.

• Water plants/the garden.

• Help put away groceries.

• Put non-breakable (and not sharp) items in the dishwasher.

• Switch laundry from the washer to dryer.

• Help clear the dinner table.

• Pack up their backpack for school.

• Sort silverware.

• Sweep floors.

Once they reach the higher grades of elementary school, their chore list will start snowballing from the previous age lists. Things they helped with before can likely be done by them independently now, and responsibilities can extend from things that affect just them to things that help the entire family (like setting the table for dinner). Here are a few things you can get on your 8- to 10-year-old's chore chart: • Clean their room.

• Set the table.

• Vacuum.

• Feed the family pet.

• Help wash the car.

• Take out the trash.

• Rake leaves.

• Help cook dinner or pack lunches.

• Empty/load the dishwasher.

• Put away groceries.

• Bring in the mail.

• Fold laundry and put it away.

Age 11 and Older

By the time your child hits middle school, they're going to be asking for more and more independence in terms of social life and schoolwork, so they should be able to handle doing larger-scale chores by themselves. All kids develop differently, but as your child ages from 11 and on, chores like doing laundry and packing lunches are things your tween and teen should be capable of in time. Here some other chores to consider for kids 11 and above:

• • • • • • • • • • • • •

Clean their bathroom.

Help clean the kitchen.

Wash dishes.

Clear the table and put dishes in the dishwasher.

Mow the lawn.

Shovel snow.

Do laundry.

Pack their school lunch.

Garden.

Wash the car.

Walk the dog.

Bake/cook with limited supervision.

Watch younger siblings for short periods of time (depending on state law).

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NEW AGE CHILDREN

INDIGOS AND CRYSTALS

Does your child get bored easily? Are they difficult to calm or settle? Do they need constant stimulation? If your answers to these questions are yes then your child may be an Indigo Child.

Is your child highly sensitive, yet easy going? Do they display unprecedented levels of kindness and compassion to the world?

Did they speak late in life? Do they have a fascination for rocks and crystals and a deep love of animals? If your answers to these questions are yes then your child may be a Crystal Child.

INDIGOS Indigos have warrior like spirits and are often confused with having ADD (Attention Deficit Disorder) or ADHD (Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder). They are actually highly intelligent, possess huge amounts of energy and are here to usher us into a new world of integrity.

They are called Indigos because they have lots of indigo blue in their auras. This is the colour of the 3rd eye chakra which regulates clairvoyance and the ability to see visions and energy.

Indigos collective purpose is to break old systems that no longer serve us and squash governmental, educational, and legal systems that lack integrity. In order to do this they need tempers and tenacity.

They can sense dishonesty, they know when they are being manipulated and are unable conform to dysfunctional situations at home. They cannot dissociate from their feelings and pretend that everything is okay – unless they are sedated or medicated. The truth is our children are super sensitive, highly intelligent beings and when they are medicated; they often lose their beautiful sensitivity, spiritual gifts and warrior like energy.

Indigo Children have been incarnating on the Earth for the last 100 years. The early Indigos were pioneers. After World War II, a significant number were born. They were the hippie generation in the 60’s and 70’s. In the 1970s a major wave of Indigos were born and from the 80’s to date they are coming through in very large numbers.

So we now have three generations of Indigos, some who are in their late twenties and early thirties and who are about to take their place as leaders in the world. Indigos continued to be born up to about the year 2000, with increasing abilities and degrees of technological and creative sophistication.

CRYSTALS Crystal Children began to appear on the planet from about 2000, although some date them slightly earlier. They have large hypnotizing eyes that look straight into your soul and they are wise beyond their years.

They are called Crystal children because their aura is opalescent with lots of rainbow colours in it. This generation of light workers are very telepathic and intuitive. These are extremely powerful children, whose main purpose is to take us to the next level in our evolution, and reveal to us our inner power and divinity.

They still have tantrums but are easily forgiving. They function as a group consciousness rather than as individuals, and they live by the" Law of One" or “Unity Consciousness”. They are a powerful force for love and peace on the planet. They are often judged by the medical world as having speech problems or are labelled as Autistic.

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Both Crystal and Indigo Children are highly sensitive with psychic abilities and important life purposes. These are a generation of children unlike any other we have seen before.

They are here to heal our planet and it is their time. They are totally receptive to their environment and are affected by their surroundings in profound ways.

They are influenced by so many external factors such as; parental pressure, stress, peer pressure, school pressure, competitive sports, TV, videos, game consoles and other electronic devices, chemicals and pesticides in foods, bad eating and more. They should not be labelled or medicated.

Instead, we should be changing the way we do things; breaking old habits and finding ways to accommodate this new energy.

Parents and teachers need options; we need to make choices that work for us in our already busy lives. The choices we make as parents, teachers and caregivers will either assist them on their journey or make it more difficult.

AN EVOLUTIONARY PROCESS The exciting thing about these evolutionary developments, for ordinary people, is that the Indigo and Crystal beings bring these vibrations to the planet in order to share them with others.

By their very presence, they assist others to move into these new vibrations and open up to their full potential as well. The journey from Indigo to Crystal is available for us all if we so choose. We already have higher levels of consciousness and are much more aware of our intuitive thoughts and feelings. Communication is becoming faster, more honest and more centred in love and compassion. We are growing in our psychic abilities and are more fascinated by the para-normal and extra terrestrial life than ever before.

Adult Indigos are now making the transition to Crystal Consciousness; a spiritual and physical transformation is taking place that facilitates this awakening. Those who were born without these qualities are accessing higher levels of consciousness and intuition through a process of their own hard work and the discipline of following a spiritual path.

As we evolve from 3rd dimensional beings into 4th and 5th dimensional, we find that we no longer have time or need for things such as fear, worry and victim dramas. We prefer to spend our time creating the kind of reality in which we will be happy and content. More human beings are being drawn to spiritually based careers and relationships that don’t serve us are being challenged or broken down. These are exciting and challenging times.

As we evolve, it is becoming easier to access both the material and spiritual realms. There is no longer any need for intense meditation, since the access to the spirit realm is immediate and evident. It is vitally important as we make the transition into awareness to remember we are human and remain well grounded in the material dimensions. The whole point of the Transition is to bring "Heaven" to "Earth" and birth a culture of respect, peace, harmony and creativity.

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WHAT CAN YOU DO – FOR YOU AND YOUR CHILD – TO FACILITATE A POSITIVE TRANSITION? • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • •

Eat mainly raw foods or vegetarian diet (consider the Feingold diet www.feingold.org ) Limit or cut out their sugar in take Limit TV and video games Teach them positive self talk Spend time being a kid with your kid Be hands on Find out what interests them Encourage lots of physical activity Encourage lots of time outdoors, close to nature Enroll them in yoga Use soothing music to self calm Sing with your child and use sound effects Teach visualisation techniques Find your child’s best alert time Teach them relaxation techniques Use touch to calm them Help them get organized Be prepared and take care of yourself Teach your child to focus Teach them breathing techniques Distract them or give instructions in attention grabbing ways Remove allergens, chemicals, flavourants and colorants from their diet Use natural and logical consequences Use time out or the thinking chair in positive ways.

Give them immediate feedback Use positive reinforcement Consider family therapy (Imago or Play Therapy) Give your child age appropriate responsibilities Give them real life tasks to establish trust and responsibility Give them choices.

Help your child develop socially Have your child teach or help a younger child Have a positive image of your child

Article with gratitude to Tamar Dakes Botha Founder of Beaming Kids

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Manage Big Parenting Feelings Before They Manage You

By Carla Naumburg

Huge parenting misnomer: we need to protect our kids from our negative feelings. The truth: it’s easier to lose control when we’re focused on stopping our emotions. Carla Naumburg explores seven practices to help you build resilience during tense parenting moments.

I recently had the nerve to suggest that my daughter eat her broccoli before indulging in another bowl of mac ‘n cheese. She promptly lost it — I’m talking level four meltdown right there at the table. I knew she was tired and cranky, and I knew she was angry at me for pushing veggies on her yet again. I was tired too, and I was irritated at her for blowing up, so I did what any reasonable parent would do: I snapped. “This is NOT a thing to freak out about. It’s just broccoli, and the sooner you finish it, the sooner we can be done with dinner.”

If you’re a parent, you know how that went: poorly. She continued to cry, and I continued to feel irritated at her. I didn’t want to deal with any of the feelings in the room, not mine and certainly not hers. I’m not alone in this — few of us ever want to hang out in the muck of unpleasant emotions. Either the feelings are too intense, or the timing is inconvenient, or we just don’t have the energy to deal, so we stuff down, cover up, ignore, reject, or deny our emotions, only to later explode at our spouses, scream at our kids, indulge in one too many adult beverages, blow money we don’t have, or spend the night tossing and turning because we can’t stop thinking.

The better we get at identifying, naming, and expressing our big feelings, the better our kids will get at it, too.

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That’s the bad news about big feelings: they’re meant to be felt and expressed. If we don’t create the space for that to happen, they’ll find a way to do it themselves, and believe you me, our emotions don’t give two hoots about whether or not it’s a good time for us. (Spoiler alert: It’s never a good time.)

The good news is that we can become more skillful at managing our emotions. The better we get at identifying, naming, and expressing our big feelings, the better our kids will get at it, too.

Eventually, they’ll be able to eat their broccoli without going all nuclear at the table. Here are some practices that can help the entire family roll more smoothly during those typically tense moments.

Seven practices to help you build resilience during tense parenting moments 1. Remember that any emotion is ok, but not every behavior is ok. It’s important to distinguish between what we feel and what we do. Repeat after me: there is no such thing as a bad or wrong feeling. There are scary feelings and confusing feelings and deeply unpleasant feelings, but none of them are wrong. However, if we don’t find skillful ways to express those feelings, they’ll do it on their own, usually in the form of problematic behaviors.

2. Next, acknowledge that you are experiencing an emotion. This may sound pretty obvious, but the chaos of daily life with children can make it hard for us to notice what we’re feeling. The CALM practice can help you quickly and easily check in with your body and tune in to your emotions: At any moment, you can quickly scan over your Chest, Arms, Legs, and Mind. Despite what the acronym says, you don’t actually have to calm yourself down, you just need to become aware of whatever you’re feeling.

3. Name your emotion. This next step can be as simple as saying either to yourself or to your children, “I am feeling ______.” This isn’t always easy, especially if you’ve spent your whole life believing that certain feelings are inappropriate or unacceptable. (If this is the case, I refer you to point #1.) You’re not going to intensify your feelings by acknowledging them. Just the opposite is true: the sooner you identify your emotion, the sooner it will dissipate instead of bubbling under the surface, causing tension. If intense emotions don’t dissipate, identifying what underlying tensions are at play puts you in the driver’s seat to take whatever action might be necessary: maybe it’s time to cut down on after-school activities to free up time in the evening, or maybe there’s a bigger-picture adjustment to make.

4. Do something with your body. Anything. Really. Take some deep, slow breaths. Put one hand flat on the counter and trace your fingers with your other hand. Get on the floor and stretch.

Hop on one foot. Strike a still pose. Run up and down the hallway or the stairs. It really doesn’t matter what you do, just do it and pay attention to whatever it is that you’re doing. Emotions live in our bodies, and focusing on our bodies can help dispel the physical tension and thus, the feelings.

5. Wait for it to pass. The one thing you can count on, regardless of whatever you’re feeling, is that your feelings will change. They come and go, intensify and lessen, dissipate and return. It’s like that old joke about the weather: Don’t like it? Just wait five minutes! The same is true for your feelings. Regardless of how intense the storm is, it won’t last forever. Don’t believe me? Set a timer for 15 minutes, and then see how you (or your child) feel at that point.

6. Take care of yourself like you would take care of your child in your best parenting moments. If you’re in the midst of a big feeling storm, resist the urge to fight it. Acknowledge that it’s a hard moment, identify how you’re feeling, and then offer yourself some physical comfort. Snuggle up on the couch with a blanket. Sip a cup of something warm and yummy. Pet your kitten. Listen to your favorite music. Be as patient and compassionate with yourself as you would with your child when they’re going through a difficult experience. If your children’s needs make it impossible to do any of this right now, take a few deep breaths, do what needs to be done, and come back to yourself once they’re in front of the TV or down for the night.

7. Get some sleep. Exhaustion breeds big feelings, and a weary brain just can’t cope, no matter how well-intentioned you are. This is why every member of the family is more likely to lose it in the evenings. So stop trying to adult when you’re exhausted and do whatever you can to get some sleep.

Which brings us back to the Monday Night Broccoli Meltdown. After I bit my daughter’s head off, I stood up, took some deep breaths, touched my toes, stretched my hands in the air, and sang a terrible aria (or what I imagine an aria might sound like). My bizarre reaction distracted my kiddo out of her freak out long enough for her to hear my apology, which went something like this: “I’m sorry I snapped at you. I feel tired and cranky right now. I suspect you feel the same way.” My daughter nodded tearfully. I gave her a hug, we made a plan for the dreaded broccoli, and you bet your tushy we both went to bed early.

Three Simple Ways Parents Can Practice Self-Compassion Do you beat yourself up for being a bad parent? There’s an alternative. Recent research suggests self-compassion may be a resource for resiliency. Explore these three small acts of kindness to build compassion for yourself.

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The Morning I Discovered My Son and His Girlfriend in His Bedroom

Dropping her designer luggage onto the kitchen floor, she demanded my son show her around the house. This was my introduction to my teenage son’s first serious girlfriend. Later, she would seem surprised that her luggage was still on the kitchen floor where she had left it.

The depth of my patience was tested again at dinnertime after the young people in the house were instructed to come and peel vegetables. Entering the kitchen ahead of his siblings, my son tucked his too-long hair behind his left ear – a nervous tick he had developed in pre-school.

“Mum?” “Yes, son?”

“Er, Jasmine* is not used to helping out in the kitchen.”

“Excuse me, son?”

“It’s just that where she comes from they have a man who does all of that.”

Turning from the stove, I resisted the urge to grab my son’s own man-bits before demanding he go straighten out Little Miss Designer. However, more hair tugging and an unusual stillness in his frame stopped me. I remembered only too well the flailing impotence of my own husband when caught between me and his ‘difficult’ mother. I didn’t want that no-win misery for my son. I took a deep breath.

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“Okay, could the two of you at least set the dining room table? You can show her the ropes if tablecloths and napkins are also beyond her comprehension.”

“Yes, mum. Thank you, mum.”

The watery relief in his eyes made me thankful I had not compromised him in front of his special guest.

“Okay, run along and tell your brother and sisters to come and help out in here.”

Dinnertime, when it came, was a pleasant enough affair, and everyone seemed to have calmed themselves down, including me. The children had at last tired of teasing their brother and, to her credit, Little Miss Designer also seemed less haughty. She joined in with the loud and excited dinner banter which, as I understood it, is not something she was used to as an only child of Japanese diplomats.

I looked across the table at my young people and the newly minted couple and smiled. It seemed like ages since I had little else to worry about than the latest boy band nonsense, or hope my parents could not see me knocking knees under the table with a shiny new love interest. Although in this case, ‘parent’ singular since the children’s father would not be back from his business trip until a week Friday.

Although I am a stickler for black and white parenting and a child’s due regard for the rules of the house, I was glad that things had improved since my inauspicious start with our weekend guest. While it was unlikely that my son would end up marrying this girl, I did have sudden insight into the proverbial mother-in-law triangle. Going forward, I would have to accept, at least to myself, that no-one would ever be entirely good enough for my child.

In was in this spirit of cooperation that all occupants of the house eventually said goodnight to each other and bunkered down for the night.

Sunday morning, after a loud knock on his door, which was apparently not loud enough to rouse him, I entered my son’s room. Five-minutes of making busy, picking up clothes and fussing with curtains was usually enough time to see my teenager safely back on planet earth.

“Morning, mum.”

“Good morning, my dear, sleep well?”

“Yes, except Jasmine didn’t sleep too good.”

“Oh, I’m sorry to hear that. Where is she now?”

“Here.”

“Here, where?”

“Here, mum,” my son said, pulling back the covers to reveal his sleeping girlfriend.

“Oh. Um. Okay. Er…yes,” I said, grasping for a script I did not have.

With that insightful and stupefied response, I left my son’s room, went downstairs trance-like, and wondered what the hell had just happened.

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Not that this was my first experience with blind, parental panic. When he was little, my toddler-son had thrown a ferocious tantrum in the frozen food aisle of the supermarket. That day I discovered it was possible for even this old-school, black-and-white, take-no-prisoners parent to be immobilized in parenting terror, as shoppers tut-tutted their way around my outof-control child.

Despite the pressure to remove my son from the supermarket, I took a deep breath and decided to leave him screaming in the aisle because I knew (prayed) that without me as his audience, he would soon come to his senses. It worked and the balance of power was restored. I didn’t know then how important this episode would later be along our parenting journey together.

In this moment, I yearned for the easy problem of supermarket tantrums.

Spooning teaspoon after teaspoon of coffee into a mug I don’t remember taking from the shelf, I felt helpless and powerless, with my metaphorical pants around my ankles.

Then came the anger. Anger at my husband for never being around for the difficult parenting dilemmas, angry at my son for putting me in this damned position, and angry at myself for eschewing the common sense which had always guided me through the stickiest days of motherhood. Abandoning an overflowing coffee cup, I grabbed that common sense by the neck and dragged it upstairs to confront my son. This time I did not knock.

“YOU, in my room, now! Miss, please get dressed and join us.”

Seated at my desk in the master bedroom, I finally felt that I was on familiar territory again and realized I didn’t want to give these young people a severe reprimand as much as I wanted them to truly understand the ramifications of their actions.

“Mum, I don’t know what you think has gone on, but nothing happened.”

“That is not the point, son. You know the rules of this house and you should have imparted them to your friend here.”

“Further,” I continued, ignoring my son’s attempt at interruption and his girlfriend’s affected sheepish muteness, “as the eldest you are the one to set the example for your siblings.”

“But, Mum…” “And you, young lady, understand that when you are under my roof I am your temporary caretaker and proxy parent. What on earth would your parents have thought had they walked in on the two of you this morning?”

“I apologize, ma’am. It won’t happen again.”

My radar for “empty platitudes to placate an angry parent” is pretty sharp, and I sensed that these two young people were genuinely remorseful.

“Look, kids, it’s not that I wasn’t young too, but I will tell you something my mother told me which has served me well, and that is ‘everyone has an unguarded moment.’”

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Letting that statement sink in for a few seconds more, I elaborated and explained to them that even the best of intentions can get lost when emotions and physical urges take over. A chaste goodnight kiss might be possible for an older married couple, but young blood runs hot and can lead to that unguarded moment when caution (and pants) are thrown to the wind.

The ensuing laughter broke some of the tension, and it was in this frame of mind that the three of us had an honest conversation that morning after which the young couple prepared breakfast for the rest of the household.

Invariably when I tell this story, people ask, “Okay, but what happens when you are not around?”

When I’m not around, my children will have to rely on their inner compass and their training.

They may break the rules, but they will do so knowing how their mother feels about their behavior. I can at least give them that when I am not physically there to guide them. Decisionmaking and the consequences of those decisions is, after all, part of growing up.

Some parents may be tempted to run screaming down the path of least resistance for that illusive ‘quiet life’ when raising children. I was certainly tempted that Sunday morning. And some parents may have a more relaxed view on this issue, but no one should be railroaded or chose a position based on fear of their teenagers.

We can all admit to walking on eggshells around our teenagers at some point, especially around the subject of sex in our home. I had to gird my loins to restore the rightful balance of power to help the kids through one of life’s firsts. With rare exception, I have found that a home runs more smoothly, and teenagers feel safer, when the balance of power favors the most experienced members of the household – the parents and caregivers.

About Melinda Fargo Melinda Fargo is a successful blogger, newspaper columnist for the UK’s largest regional newspaper, Editor-in-chief of online magazine Post-40 Bloggers, an amateur photographer and public speaker. To pay the bills, she is a project management professional in public service. Melinda remains a widow, but will marry Denzel Washington after the sudden and unexpected disappearance of any of his wives.

Where to find her: Personal blog - What Mel Did

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The Wisdom of Menopause Creating Physical and Emotional Health and Healing During the Change In this newly revised edition, Dr. Christiane Northrup once again challenges convention with this inspiring look at one of the most commonly misunderstood female health issues, while offering the latest health news on HRT, breast health, and more.

Dr. Christiane Northrup's #1 New York Times bestseller The Wisdom of Menopause has inspired more than a million women with a dramatically new vision of midlife-and will continue to do so for generations to come.

As Dr. Northrup has championed, "the change" is not simply a collection of physical symptoms to be "fixed," but a mind-body revolution that brings the greatest opportunity for growth since adolescence.

The choices a woman makes now-from the quality of her relationships to the quality of her diet-have the power to.

Now completely revised, this groundbreaking classic draws on the current research and medical advances in women's health, and includes: • • • • • •

All you need to know about perimenopause, and why it is critical to your well-being Updated mammogram guidelines Nurturing your brain: sleep, mood, memory Hormone therapy and the options available Midlife weight control Sex and menopause: myths & reality

With The Wisdom of Menopause, Dr. Christiane Northrup shows that women can make menopause a time of personal empowerment-emerging wiser, healthier, and stronger than ever before in both mind and body.

"No matter what is happening in your life right now, take heart. Please join me-and the millions of others who have come before and will come after-as we transform and improve our lives, and ultimately our culture, through understanding, applying, and living The Wisdom of Menopause," writes Dr. Christiane Northrup.

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OMEGA-3.

WHY IT’S A NO-BRAINER

By Jurgen Kerschbaumer.

It is not news that healthy fats are incredibly important to wellness.

Since the 1990s it has been a topic of discussion in “natural health” circles. For that matter cod liver oil supplements have been around for what seems like generations.

So much so that talk of Essential Fatty acids and Omega-3 seems a bit passé.

Fortunately, the research into how EFAs benefits us continues unabated. We say fortunately, because some of what has emerged is rather astounding.

Here are some of my favourite outtakes, in bite size, attention grabbing tweet style.

Taking Omega-3 means there is less risk of asthma and allergies.

There is pretty good evidence that this may well be the case. The research included 399 subjects (persons, in non-academic terms).

What is even more astounding is that the parallel is drawn between taking the Omega3 supplements during pregnancy and looking at the subjects at age 16.

So despite the fact that the supplement is in the body for a short time, and has to be taken regularly, the benefits seem to endure for many years later. Perhaps here one should point out that giving our children the very best opportunity to fulfill their potential, is not a sprint, but an ultra ultra marathon. And every meal, every hour spent reinforcing healthy habits, is an immeasurably valuable investment.

Another study which was conducted with 145 one-year olds, showed a similar promising result.

Supplementation by the mother during pregnancy and breastfeeding showed the potential decreased risk of food allergies in the one-year old babies. “This may be due to the fact that fish-oil supplementation has been associated with decreased levels of body cells associated with inflammation and immune response.� Any parent who has had the experience of a child with food sensitivities would be calling for those Omega-3’s round about now!

Omega-3 will make your child smarter!

A rather small study of 44 moms and their babies concluded that at 9 months old those that had the benefit of supplementation showed greater problem-solving abilities. For the curious: This was done using something called the Fagan infant intelligence test. This involves measuring how long an infant focused on or responded to stimuli.

Fagan and some of his associates followed some of the infants through to school attendance to verify the relevance of this testing protocol. Several studies confirmed the benefit of omega-3 supplementation during pregnancy in terms of proper development of the brain and retina .

Yet another small study drew correlations between supplementing the mothers and the improved hand-eye co-ordination of their children at 2.5 years.

How should we understand this? There are two main essential fatty acids, namely EPA and DHA. DHA is the more important fatty acid for cell membrane function. The most likely explanation is this: during the third trimester of pregnancy, vast amounts of DHA accumulate in foetal tissue.

The two areas where this is most densely concentrated, are the eyes and brain. Hence the correlation with normal eyesight and brain function.

Right-wing Italian political party proposes a law to make it illegal to feed your child a vegan diet True story. And such an inflammatory headline. Based on evidence of the importance of EFA supplementation for early childhood brain development, politicians thought this kind of overreach into the home and parenting is a good way to show old school family values. Good sense prevailed, and the proposal did not, to the best of our knowledge get passed into law.

But it provides the perfect segway for talking about how we should be looking at different ways to see to the nutritional needs of human beings.

There are many well substantiated reasons to reduce or eliminate animal proteins from the diet. Regardless of whether the environmental or ethical imperatives weigh more heavily on your mind, it is impossible to ignore these facts: Intensive agriculture for meat and dairy production is a major contributor to carbon dioxide emissions, which drive climate change. Feed crops for cattle also drive deforestation, which amplifies the destructive environmental impact.

The massive international trend towards a vegan diet has given rise to many new products, books, recipes and launched more than a few Instagram sensations. Algae as a potent source of protein, vitamins and minerals to augment a “plant-based” diet is well established. But one really needs to eat fish to get Omega-3, right?

Wrong. In the same way that humans do not synthesize Omega-3 fatty acids effectively, fish also do not produce it either. The EFAs are “bio-accumulated” in larger fish that eat smaller fish to the level that the small guys have algae as their source of nutrition. This algal oil rich diet is the real reason that oily fish are regarded as such healthy foods.

Jurgen Kerschbaumer Jurgen has 25 years of experience in the complementary medicines industry, and has an indepth knowledge of manufacturing in the field. He is passionate about music, natural wines, great food and the connection to the soil. As a consequence he has a keen interest in gardening, urban greening and -agriculture. When not he does not have a spade or ladle in hand, he can at times been seen around Cape Town on a bicycle.

20 Things Teens Need to Know About How to be an Adult

Being a parent at any stage in life is not easy – especially when you’re parenting children who are on the cusp of adulthood.

It’s that ambiguous, awkward, and terrifying place where you’re not quite an adult, yet no longer a child. The time when life is both full of wonder and endless possibilities, and full of heartbreaking emotional truths.

I think back to that time – way back – when I had my whole life ahead of me. I couldn’t wait to be out on my own, making my own decisions and conquering the world. I thought I had it all figured out at age 20. How wrong I was.

Yes, I had my independence, but not nearly enough life experience to keep me from falling down more times than I really want to admit. I wish I knew what I know now – I could have had fewer bruises and scrapes to deal with.

It has taken me 40-some years, countless mistakes, and a whole lot of Band-Aids to figure out that most of life’s lessons are simply common sense. But when you’re a young 20-year-old girl looking at the big, wide, terrifying, and exciting world in front of you, common sense sometimes goes right out the window.

What I want for my daughter and son to know as they navigate their early adult life, is that life can be full of beautiful experiences. Life itself is neither positive or negative; it is what each of them will put into it and how they respond to situations that will make their lives seem good or bad.

My children need to learn that two people can be put through the same situation, yet each will respond in dramatically different ways. They need to realize they have the final choice in how they respond or react to what life throws at them. When they stumble (and they will), I want them to know it’s okay to pick themselves up, dust themselves off, and continue on their journey.

I want them to always remember these 20 bits of wisdom – and to call home every once in a while: 1 | Life is not fair.

Life is life. Even when you do everything right, sometimes things will not work out the way you planned. Someone else might get that promotion or opportunity you should have gotten. Some people are born into this world with everything at their disposal and some are born into unfortunate situations. It may not seem fair, but life rarely is. You don’t have the power to control everything that happens to you, but you have the power to control how you react to the unfairness in life.

2 | If you want to be an adult, then act like an adult and tackle adult responsibilities.

Adulthood has many freedoms, but with each freedom there is an equal responsibility to go along with it. In adulthood, you will have to do things you don’t want to and deal with things you don’t want to deal with. Learn to accept this and you will always have clean laundry and money to pay your bills.

3 | Growth doesn’t stop when you become an adult.

Being an adult and reaching your full potential means constantly learning and growing. Embrace learning something new every day, challenge yourself to go beyond what you think is possible and be willing to adopt new life philosophies. Twenty years from now, you will want to have grown rich with life experiences and wisdom.

4 | If you make a mess, learn to clean it up.

I’m not talking about household chores (but yes, you should clean up your messes and make your bed). I’m talking more about taking responsibility for your mistakes. We all make mistakes, but taking personal responsibility for them and making amends is what allow us to mature.

5 | Opportunities don’t fall in your lap, but they are always placed within your reach.

It’s up to you to take action and reach out to grab on to every opportunity.

6 | There is a difference between “can’t” and “won’t.”

Can you or won’t you? Won’t means you are choosing not to do something you can or will be able to learn eventually. Ask yourself – and be honest – is it something you simply don’t want to do, or is it something you truly do not have the skills to accomplish? Change the “won’t” to “will” and you’ll see that you actually can.

7 | Successful people will do things that unsuccessful people will not.

If you’re not willing to do the work or do what is necessary to be successful, then you never will be. If something is truly worth having (that degree, a new business, a healthier body, etc.) and you want it bad enough, no excuse or road block will keep you from reaching your goal.

8 | Allow yourself to have experiences. Try everything and don’t be afraid to fail.

If you’ve never tried something, how do you know you don’t like it? Some of life’s greatest moments will happen when you say “yes.” Fear of failure will keep you from acting on opportunities that could lead to success. Even if you fail, you will learn valuable life lessons that will give you the experience to succeed at something else.

9 | What you focus on, you will attract.

You have the power to attract what you want. If you want a positive life, focus on everything that is positive.

10 | Be that someone.

Don’t wait around for someone else to do something, take action and be that someone.

11 | Do something kind every day.

When you are kind to others, kindness is returned to your life.

12 | Be grateful.

There is always something to be grateful for. The more grateful you are about what you have, the less you will need to actually be happy.

13 | Everyone has a bad moment or day, never let any situation define your outlook on life.

Remember everyone has good moments too.

14 | It’s okay to cry.

Even the strongest people will reach their breaking point and need to let it all out. Allow yourself to experience this moment and know that it is okay to cry and to feel pain. When the moment passes, remind yourself that with any storm, there is always an end and the skies will turn sunny again.

15 | Never be ashamed of your past or a mistake you’ve made.

You can’t change the past, but you must learn from it. Don’t let shame rule your life, nearly everyone has done something they wish they could change.

16 | Learn to forgive yourself and others.

We all make mistakes and no one is perfect. Forgiving is not forgetting. Forgiving gives you the freedom to let go of negative feelings so that you can move forward with a healthy mind.

17 | Take care of yourself.

You are only given one body, take care of it.

Wear sunscreen, eat healthy, exercise, get regular check-ups, allow yourself a down day, meditate. When you are middle-aged or beyond, you will be thankful.

18 | Be passionate about something.

Have a hobby; embrace life. Passion is the fuel for a positive life and makes you more interesting to others.

19 | Don’t compare yourself to anyone else.

Everyone has their own talents, abilities, and life to deal with. Focus on being a better you and not on how you “rank� with others. You will live a much happier life if you remember this.

20 | Most importantly, remember that you are worthy of love and have so much to offer the world.

Never allow anyone to treat you poorly or convince you that you do not matter. You were born for a purpose and to leave this earth better off than when you arrived.

Paulette is a writer, entrepreneur, wife, and mother of two nearly-grown children. Her writing is inspired by life, family, travel, and adventure and the art of trying to keep it all balanced without falling down.

Teens Swearing:

Should Parents Allow Them To Curse at Home?

By Sean Grover

Dear Your Teen: What is your opinion on tweens/teens cursing at home? Is there a right age to allow them to do so? I feel like in the real world they would probably use swear words, so why should we limit them at home?

Answer: Whether parents allow cursing at home or not, the ultimate goal is to establish a family that communicates thoughtfully. Parents should strive to provide leadership by modeling appropriate ways of relating. For example, being considerate of each other’s feelings, interacting with their children mindfully, and fostering a home environment of mutual respect.

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TEENS SWEARING The problem with allowing teens swearing at home is that it undermines more creative ways of expressing frustration. Many parents have confessed in my psychotherapy office that they deeply regret allowing cursing at home because it created such a negative and disrespectful atmosphere. They also were embarrassed when their kids started cursing in public or in front of other parents. Once they allowed cursing at home, to their horror, profanity became a habit that was hard to break and led to many humiliating experiences.

More importantly, they found it actually increased hostility and clashes at home.

TEEN CURSING AT HOME So, before you decide to allow cursing or not, consider these three recommended guidelines: Elementary and middle school: absolutely no cursing at home. For young children, behaviors at home become imprints for behaviors in the world. Small children are not able to distinguish what’s appropriate in different environments. When they get in trouble for cursing at school, they may feel confused and publicly humiliated or blamed for behavior they thought was appropriate.

High school: cursing is sometimes allowed but never to degrade or bully anyone, in or outside of the family. Some parents allow their tweens/teens to curse out of frustration, but forbid profanity-filled name calling. There is a big difference between cursing because you stubbed your toe and cursing at someone in a degrading way.

College and beyond, children are mature enough to decide for themselves. Surprisingly, the thrill of cursing fades with age; however, no matter what their kids’ ages, parents will always have the right to prohibit cursing in their home.

PUNISHMENT FOR SWEARING? When it comes to using swear words at home with tweens and older, a flexible approach is often best. One family that I worked with in therapy allowed three curses a week per family member.

The idea was that cursing could be saved for something extremely frustrating, rather than spending curses frivolously. This fun approach was surprisingly effective and eliminated the need for the parents to punish or reprimand.

Every family is different. Find a healthy balance, experiment, talk it over with your kids, and hold a family meeting. But be warned: if you decide to allow unlimited cursing at home, it may become a bad habit that’s hard to break.

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Yes, every day. Better yet begin and end the day with fresh air.

The best way to wake up and to unwind from the day.

Do Not be Afraid Get dirty. Be welcoming of critters. When I heard one of my Montessori instructors say “in order to create a sense of awe and wonder in children, you need to hold back your fears”, my journey to embracing and loving every thing about the outdoors began. I could no longer say, “oh, gross,” or jump when I saw a spider, or explain my irrational dislike of raccoons in front of my children, at least when they are first discovering the natural world. Embracing and become aware of my own fears of the natural world has changed the way I explore the outdoor environment. I am definitely less afraid myself. So it is easy for me to project that onto my children.

Question & Research When I did discover these fears of mine, I took it as an opportunity to learn more about the critters. So, I was never really a fan of slugs. I held back, though, and decided, instead to accept that these creatures must exist for a reason and human should easily be able to co-exist with them. Sure enough, I was right. As I learned more about slugs and taught my children about slugs, I came to respect their existence on this great earth.

Respect & Be Kind to ALL Living Things I used to, without hesitation, stomp my foot down on spiders, beetles, and insects of all kinds.

Plants were trampled upon without a second thought. Once I began learning about insects and plants, you truly do begin to respect them. You want to be kind to them, respect their place on this great earth, care for them, and make space for them. Butterflies and caterpillars are easy to accept. Bees, though, not so much. So, take five minutes to learn about the amazingness of honeybees and you will soon do all you can to make certain these insects live a healthy and prosperous life.

Explore without Hesitation, Not without Knowledge The short way of explaining this one is: don’t eat plants you don’t recognize. Exploring without boundaries is a romantic notion but let’s be honest a little education goes a long way.

Understand the area. Learn about the plants and the animals living in the environment. Then you can be prepared to be safe, to explore with some security and to treat the area in a way that it needs to be treated, naturally.

“Adopt the pace of nature: her secret is patience.” ~ Ralph Waldo Emerson

Take a Wilderness Survival Class I have not taken a wilderness class myself. Perhaps some day I will do so. For my boys, though, learning “survival” and other outdoor skills is a priority and will be a part of their childhood through nature immersion camps, outdoor education and the boy scouts. This learning is not so much about making sure my boys can survive if they are stranded or lost in the woods. More so, by learning these skills, they gain valuable emotional and problem solving life skills. How to stay calm. How to think outside the box. They build confidence and security in knowing they can fend for themselves, that they are truly self sufficient.

Read about Environmental Stewards and Pioneers Who were they? What inspired them? Why did they have such passion about the environment?

There is so much to learn from history and others’ journeys. Let their paths inspire you to want to learn more and to be with the outdoors more.

Learn Something New Every Day We’ve all heard this one but apply it specifically to the outdoor environment whether that something new is a type of bird, a plant in your neighborhood or a vegetable you want to protect in your garden this year. Maybe even explore a new area of your region.

Teach Others One of the most satisfying and gratifying ways to appreciate and to love nature is to teach others in your life. I have witnessed my son explain to a friend what insect skates on top of the pond water, then how you can tell how old a tree is by the number of rings in its trunk. There is joy in his teaching. He sees the face of his friend light up, the eyes of his friend squint with thought and questions.

Raising Kids Positively Raising Kids Positively is all about improving your relationship with your children, growing their emotional intelligence, and a balance of kind and firm discipline.

Psychologist Carol Surya makes this easy with her new website www.raisingkidspositively.com and three easy-to-use routes: a children’s self-esteem game, a conscious parenting book and workshops.

InnerMagic Perfect for today’s busy families, is a game to consciously spend more quality time together, without devices or distractions. Expertly designed for selfreflection, self-expression and empowerment, InnerMagic benefits include teaching emotional intelligence while also strengthening all areas of development as you play! Everyone loves it because it gets all players moving, thinking and speaking. Magically encouraging children to talk more easily, develop critical thinking and practice making healthy choices. Ideal for parents, grandparents and educators to play with 5 to 13 year olds.

Order yours today and be reminded of your inner potential. All information available on

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The Magic of Mindfulness Author Carmen Clews has found a magical way to bring mindfulness into your home and school! “The Magic Mat and its little secret…” is a delightful children’s book (with free DVD animation) offering fun, physical stretching and calming techniques to develop happy, relaxed, loving and healthy children. Used as a story at bedtime, or done actively with the DVD at home or as a group activity in the classroom - with regular use the benefits are magical. Children relax more, improving in balance and co-ordination, as well as memory, focus, patience and selfcontrol. Readers (age 5 to 12) hop on board their very own Magic Mat, transforming them into animals with various beautiful qualities. Finally, they relax, discovering their own higher selves, learning to feel love, compassion and gratitude. Read what buyers say about this magical tool kit, visit the Facebook page, watch the video clip – or simply order yours today.

The Planting Seeds for Life Education Series, also by Carmen Clews, teaches mindfulness and positive values to children aged 10 to 14 years. Enchanting African stories guide the reader through group discussions, visualizations, songs and other learning activities all aimed at improving well-being. The book’s 25 “seeds”, each written as a lesson plan, include the essential life skills of making wise choices; improving communication; managing emotions; problem solving; forgiveness; positive thinking; self-reliance and environmental conservation. If only we’d all learned these skills at school.

Contact details : Website : www.magicmatsecret.com Email : carmen@magicmatsecret.com Video : http://vimeo.com/100388148 Magic Mat Seeds for Life

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plastic bowl plastic cup paint sharpie marker garden soil real or fake succulents blue glass rocks smooth pebbles flowers, mini mushrooms, etc…

Directions: First, you want to find a container for your fairy garden, my favorite container is one of these old enamel pots with holes drilled in the bottom for drainage.

My Grandma used to have a pot just like this so it always makes me think of her and I smile! Fill it up to the top, I do this whether I am using real plants or fake succulents because it is inexpensive filler and gives the natural look to my fairy garden.

Set your container of soil aside so you can work on your mushroom house. I wandered the aisles trying to find something that I could use to create the mushrooms and found this summer plastic cups and bowls, in a 4 pack,, stacked they make the perfect mushroom Smurf house and you can make a whole village for just a few dollars.

I drew out my door and window with a sharpie marker first, go ahead and make your door all the way to the opening of the cup because we are going to cover up about 2″ of it. After you are happy with your design paint your windows and door in with acrylic paint, flip over the bowl and add some spots to your “mushroom top”. Allow paint to dry.

Hot glue a small bead to the door for a handle.

While your paint is drying you can create a fun patch with your small pebbles, and some “water” using the blue glass beads, be sure to leave room for your mushroom house.

Press your cup open side into the dirt about 2″ down. Add glue to the top of your cup and press the bowl down onto it to create your mushroom house. Then start adding your plants and flowers around the house to create a woodland feel.

We were pretty happy with the final result and I see an entire Smurf colony in our future!

We left our Smurf Fairy Garden open for any Smurfs that may wander in but if you would like you can grab a set of these Smurf Figurines to add to the imaginative play.

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Explore.

Experience.

Engage.

A membership to the iconic Two Oceans Aquarium means so much more than just a visit with the fish So, you’ve decided to become a member of the Two Oceans Aquarium. Imagine being asked if you would like a rehabilitated turtle with your annual pass?

Or perhaps some pensioners joining your meander through the Aquarium? Or a plastic-free seal? Or how about some underprivileged children to watch the shark feed with you?

You might think the Aquarium had gone slightly mad if you were asked such questions. But did you know that an annual membership makes so much more possible than just a visit with the fish? When you sign up for an Aquarium membership, you are not only contributing to the operations of the Aquarium – which include caring for more than 8 000 individual animals from more than 250 species and employing more than 150 people – but also supporting the Aquarium’s many educational and conservation initiatives: • • • •

The rescue, rehabilitation and release of endangered sea turtles Rescue of Cape fur seals from life-threatening plastic nooses Contributions to scientific research on sharks, sunfish and so much more Free visits to nearly 30 000 children in one year who can’t afford to come to us, with our Oceans in Motion and Smart Living outreach education programmes

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Subsidized visits for school groups to our Discovery Centres for curriculum-aligned marine science lessons presented by expert and passionate teachers Free extra-curricular holiday courses for children who are interested in marine sciences Free entry for children with terminal diseases through Reach for a Dream Free entry for handicapped people and a discounted rate (student rate) for their essential helpers Free entry to pensioners once a year, organised in partnership with Cosatu Free entry for staff who work at other conservation-oriented facilities Donations of more than 500 complimentary tickets each year to other organisations to use as prizes for their fundraising efforts Campaigns such as “Home to Ocean”, which encourages people to say no to single-use plastic through widespread initiatives such a public presentations, beach clean-ups and events

Having an annual membership means you are part of the magic that makes the Aquarium so special, and that you are making a real difference, every day, to the creatures in the sea and the people who love them and learn from them.

Of course, a membership also allows you and your family unlimited access for an entire year, so you can come and go as you please and plan to participate in those activities that you find most rewarding. Like the thrice-daily puppet shows and the all-day arts 'n crafts in the I&J Children’s Play Centre; the twice-daily penguin feeds in the Penguin Exhibit; the 12h00 feeds in the I&J Ocean Exhibit; the 13h00 feeds in the Kelp Forest Exhibit, and the 15h00 shark feeds in the Predator Exhibit on Sundays.

Members also receive special invites to exclusive family sleepovers and behind-the-scenes events, exclusive extended hours at the Aquarium, and preferred rates for public events and other Aquarium experiences.

The Aquarium is home to more than 8 000 animals representing over 250 species – nowhere else will you to see quite this much of the diverse life that thrives underwater along the Southern African coast. The Aquarium prides itself on showcasing local species (with one or two wonderful exceptions), celebrating the biodiversity that makes this part of the world so unique and precious.

The three awesome large-scale exhibits – featuring amongst others majestic ragged-tooth sharks, tall waving kelp fronds, and turtles, stingrays and a full 10m-long tunnel – are complemented by many smaller exhibits that surprise and delight around every corner. Close encounters happen at the Touch Pool and Microscope Exhibits, and five feeding times a day ensure that visitors are engaged and informed throughout their visit. While this is an awesome day out for children with lots of opportunities for interaction, we have it on good authority that adult curiosity and wonder are also awakened on every visit to the Aquarium.

The Aquarium was recently named Best Responsible Attraction at the World Travel Market Responsible Tourism Awards, which proves that, as a member, you are contributing to broadranging education, conservation and research work. Inspiring stuff, right on your doorstep.

So, while we don’t ask you strange questions when you become a member, isn’t it good to know that your membership does buy so much more than just visits to the Aquarium? It is something that lasts even when you’ve left the building ... And that’s worth every cent!

To become a member, you can sign up online or simply activate on your next visit to the Two Oceans Aquarium. Alternatively, come for the day and if you like what you see, you can upgrade your day ticket to a membership on the spot. For more information, please visit https://www.aquarium.co.za/members

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Cuban Beans and Rice Cuban Beans and Rice Beans and rice can be a simple, satisfying meal for the entire family. In Cuba, beans are often cooked with a seasoning mixture called sofrito, made from garlic, onion, bell pepper, tomato, cumin, and oregano. Try combining this version of Cuban beans and rice with a crisp green salad of lettuce, cabbage, and tomatoes.

Add a little sweetness with fresh pineapple and banana. Serves 4 - 6.

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Cuban Beans 3tbsp vegetable oil ½ red onion cut into ¼-inch pieces 4 garlic cloves minced 1 green or red bell pepper cut into ¼inch pieces 2 tomatoes cut into ½-inch pieces ¾tsp ground cumin ¾tsp dried oregano ¾tsp salt ¼tsp black pepper 3cans (15 oz. ea.) black beans rinsed and drained 1can (15 oz.) red beans rinsed and drained 1cup water 1whole bay leaf ¼cup fresh cilantro leaves chopped lime wedges(optional) Yellow Rice 1tbsp vegetable or olive oil ½tsp turmeric 1½cups long grain white rice 3cups water ½tsp salt

Heat the oil in a saucepan over medium heat. Add the chopped onion and cook until softened, about 4 minutes. Add the garlic and bell pepper and continue to cook, stirring often, for several minutes more. Add the tomatoes and cook until softened. Stir in the cumin, oregano, salt, and pepper and cook for 1 to 2 minutes. Add the beans, water, and bay leaf, stirring to combine.

Increase the heat to medium high and bring to a boil. Reduce the heat and simmer, covered, for 10 to 15 minutes. Just before serving, stir in the cilantro.

Make the rice In a saucepan, heat the oil over medium-high heat. Add the turmeric and rice and cook for about 1 minute, stirring constantly. Add the water, increase heat to high and bring to a boil.

Reduce heat to low, cover, and cook for about 20 minutes, until all of the liquid has been absorbed.

Remove from heat. Do not stir the rice. Let the rice sit for at least 5 minutes before serving.

To serve Spoon the beans over the yellow rice and serve with a wedge of fresh lime. Serve pineapplebanana salad and green salad on the side.

Breadsticks Breadsticks It is believed that breadsticks were first made in medieval times. The Italian word for breadsticks is grissini. These crispy breadsticks are fun and easy to make. Makes 32 breadsticks.

Course Side Dish

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Preheat oven to 425 degrees F. In a bowl, combine the water and yeast. Let sit for 2 minutes, until the yeast is dissolved. Add the olive oil, honey, rosemary or peppercorns, salt, and whole wheat flour, stirring well. Add the white flour, 1 cup at a time, stirring until a stiff dough forms. On a clean, lightly floured work surface knead the dough for 3 to 5 minutes, until smooth.

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1¼cups warm water 2tsp baking yeast 2tbsp olive oil 1tbsp honey 1tsp dried rosemary or ½ tsp cracked black peppercorns 1cup whole wheat flour 2½ cups white flour Additional olive oil and kosher salt

Divide the dough into 8 equal pieces. Form each piece into a circle about 3 inches in diameter.

Now divide each piece into 4 equal pieces. You will have 32 pieces in all. Roll each piece of dough into a cylinder about 8 inches long and place on baking sheet.

Lightly brush the breadsticks with olive oil and sprinkle with salt as desired. Bake the breadsticks for about 15 to 18 minutes, turning once during the baking, until lightly browned and almost crisp. Let the breadsticks cool before serving.

The Best Brains Require Good Nutrition

by Maren Schmidt Are our children getting the right kinds of food for maximum brain development and health? Most parents believe their children are getting adequate nutrition, but data shows otherwise.

Peeking into a few lunch boxes gives some indications and insights into the issue. Recent research is showing that a high level of highfructose sugar contributes to obesity and Type 2 diabetes in children.

High blood sugar levels affect the function of the hippocampus, the part of the brain that helps organize memory.

Children need a diet of complex carbohydrates versus a diet of sugar and foods that have a high glycemic index such as potatoes, white rice, white flour and white sugar. Data shows that 25 percent of children under the age of six eat French fried potatoes every day. One nutritionist recommends avoiding any food that’s white because those foods act like sugar to the brain.

Current research is showing that certain diseases and conditions have their roots in poor childhood nutrition. For example, the low intake of calcium rich foods–milk, cheese, broccoli, spinach and other green leafy vegetables–during the first 18 years of life may predispose women to osteoporosis.

Fresh fruits and vegetables and whole grains take longer to digest but offer important nutrition that may not be found in the empty calories from the refined carbohydrates in soda and processed foods. For the young child under age six, certain foods should be avoided, and perhaps we all should avoid them. Two big two no-no’s seem to be sodas and foods that list sugar in the first five ingredients.

For sodas, their sugar content is too high, and the active ingredients in soda work against bone development. Soda drink consumption has risen to over 60 gallons per person annually in the United States. In a study of teenage boys, ages 13 to 18, about 60 percent reported drinking two sodas or more per day, with over 95 percent reporting that they drank soda regularly. In teenagers, over 25 percent of daily calories may be from sodas. The teenage habits begin before the age of six.

Water is the best liquid for our children to drink as effective brain growth and functioning is dependent on the brain being well hydrated, since the brain is over 90 percent water.

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The second no-no: foods that list sugar as one of the first five ingredients include breakfast cereals, breakfast toaster pastries and more. High sugar consumption is linked to tooth decay, obesity, diabetes, heart disease and other ailments. Serve fresh fruit and vegetables and whole grains to satisfy a sweet tooth.

Make sure that a child’s diet provides adequate protein. Too much protein can be as bad as too little, but inadequate protein affects brain development and overall health.

Children from one to three years need about 1,300 calories per day with 16 grams of protein. Four- to six-year-olds need about 1,800 calories per day with 24 grams of protein. Seven- to ten-year-olds require around 2,000 calories with 28 grams of protein.

Common protein-rich foods include milk, soy milk, eggs, cheese, yogurt, peanut butter, lean meats, fish, poultry, beans, tofu, lentils, grains, nuts and seeds.

Another nutritionist recommends only shopping the perimeter of your grocery store, as all the nutritious and fresh food is there, and you won’t be tempted by all the fancy packaged processed food in the center aisles.

As my Granddad used to say, pay the grocer or pay the doctor. Yes, I’d much rather spend my money on blueberries than meeting my medical insurance deductible. It tastes so much better, and my brain loves it.

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How to be a healthy vegetarian or vegan

By Natalie Healey Once the preserve of hippies and activists, veganism has now hit the mainstream. Forgoing meat, dairy and eggs is more popular than ever.

Even BeyoncĂŠ's given it a try. According to a 2016 survey by the Vegan Society, at least 542,000 people in the UK are adopting this type of diet.

This is an increase of over 350% in the last decade, which makes veganism one the fastest growing food trends in Britain.

It's undoubtedly great that people are taking a more ethically-conscious approach to the big shop, but what nutrients could vegetarians and vegans put themselves at risk of losing out on?

And how can you approach animal-free consumption in a healthy way? We ask the experts.

Why go vegan?

Generally people choose to be vegetarian or vegan for ethical reasons or because they want to improve their health - a vegan diet is usually low in saturated fats and rich in fruit and vegetables.

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'Meat-free Monday' is a UK campaign, launched by Paul, Mary and Stella McCartney in 2009, to encourage people to reduce their environmental impact and improve their health by having at least one meat-free day each week. More and more people are realising this is far more manageable than they first thought. When you stop thinking a meal needs meat to be complete, vegetarian options start to look a lot more appealing.

Nutrients to consider If you've decided to give up your daily bacon butty and have vowed to eat more vegetables, that's obviously brilliant. But vegetarians and vegans do have to be careful they're not missing out on nutrients most easily found in meat and dairy sources.

Meat-free protein sources Protein is one of them. And it's not just important for bodybuilders. Protein builds and repairs tissues and is a building block of bone, muscles, skin and blood. Your body doesn't store protein, so you need to make sure you're getting enough from your diet. Unfortunately for vegetarians, meat is a rich source of this macronutrient.

"Whilst many plant-based foods contain protein too, they may not contain protein in the correct balance that the body needs. Therefore, vegetarians need to make sure they eat a combination of foods to achieve the right protein balance," reveals Dr Jan Sambrook, a GP who specialises in nutrition.

Luckily, you can also find protein in grains, pulses and dairy products.

"If you eat any two of these, the protein will balance," reveals Sambrook. "This doesn't necessarily need to be within a single meal, as was previously thought. Examples of proteinbalanced meals include cereal with milk, or baked potato with beans and cheese, or dhal with rice or chapatti."

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Your vitamin checklist A balanced vegetarian or vegan diet generally gives you an improved chance of getting your five-a-day. So when it comes to meeting your RDA of many vitamins, you should, in theory, be well on your way. But if you're not sure, here are the foods to look out for when it comes to specific nutrients:

Vitamin A Vitamin A is important for good eyesight, healthy skin and your immune system.

"Vitamin A is found in eggs and dairy products. A different form of the vitamin, called beta carotene, is found in dark green leafy vegetables and in coloured fruits and vegetables such as mango, carrots and red peppers. Beta carotene can be converted to vitamin A in the body," explains Sambrook.

Vitamin D Vitamin D, 'the sunshine vitamin', is really important. It helps your body absorb calcium and is also needed for our muscles to work properly. More recently, vitamin D deficiency has been associated with numerous conditions, from heart disease, to dementia and multiple sclerosis.

"Vitamin D is mainly made in our skin by the action of sunlight. However, it is also found in dairy products, mushrooms and in fortified cereals and margarine," says Sambrook. Oily fish and eggs are also among the top dietary sources of vitamin D, so if you're adopting a vegan diet you're less likely to be getting enough.

If you live in the UK, you should be taking a high-quality vitamin D supplement from SeptemberMay. We don't get enough sunlight during the autumn and winter months for our skin to make enough of the vitamin. If you're pregnant or breastfeeding, don't get outside much or cover up for religious reasons, you should be taking a supplement all year round.

Vitamin E Vitamin E helps maintain healthy skin, eyes and your immune system. It can be found in vegetable oils and spreads, nuts and seeds, and also in green leafy vegetables.

Vitamin K Vitamin K plays a role in blood clotting. Without it, wounds don't heal properly. It can be found in green leafy vegetables and in dairy products.

Vitamin B12 Vitamin B12 is involved in making red blood cells, releasing energy from food and in using folic acid. Vegans struggle to get enough of this nutrient from foods, but there are some animal-free products you can get it from. Love it or hate it, MarmiteÂŽ is one of them. .

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B12 is almost entirely found in animal products, although it is present in yeast (including yeast extract such as MarmiteÂŽ) and seaweed. It is also added to some products such as breakfast cereals and soya milk. Vegans may need to take a supplement to make sure they don't become deficient," says Sambrook.

The important minerals Most of the minerals we need are found in a wide variety of foods and anyone eating a balanced diet can obtain enough of them. However, vegetarians and vegans must make sure they're getting enough calcium and iron.

Calcium Recently, the National Osteoporosis Society (NOS) warned that the popularity of 'clean eating' and other diets where major foods groups are cut out is setting young people up for a future of weak bones.

"Without urgent action being taken to encourage young adults to incorporate all food groups into their diets and avoid particular 'clean eating' regimes, we are facing a future where broken bones will become just the 'norm'," said Susan Lanham-New, a nutrition professor and clinical advisor to the NOS. Vegan groups were understandably ticked off by this warning, but it's true that most people obtain a lot of the calcium in their diet from dairy products. Without it, it's bad news for bones.

"Calcium is, however, also present in leafy green vegetables, dried figs, almonds, oranges, sesame seeds, seaweed and some types of bean," reveals Sambrook.

She explains that if non-dairy calcium is eaten with a source of vitamin D (see above), this will help the body absorb it.

Iron You need iron in order for your blood to carry oxygen around your body. If you don't get enough, you become anaemic. The symptoms include feeling exhausted and breathless.

Whether we like it or not, red meat is the richest dietary source of iron. But there are a few meat-free sources too: "Vegetarian sources of iron include pulses such as chickpeas and lentils, sprouted seeds and beans, breakfast cereals and bread. Spinach is famous for containing iron, but it is also found in other green leafy vegetables such as broccoli and kale. There is iron in nuts, especially almonds and cashews, and in dried apricots and raisins," explains Sambrook.

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She adds that your body can absorb iron from food more easily if it is eaten with vitamin C: "This can be found in most fresh fruits and vegetables, as well as fruit juice. Some things can reduce the amount of iron the body can absorb. Drinking tea with a meal will prevent the iron being absorbed from the stomach."

Aside from vegetarians and vegans, people who need to be more careful about getting enough iron include women who have heavy periods and those who are pregnant.

Not so fishy Do you still have dreaded memories of a parent forcing a spoonful of cod liver oil upon you?

There was method in that madness. Omega-3 fatty acids are thought to reduce the risk of heart disease and to boost brain development. But they are most commonly found in fish.

It's not just vegetarians who are missing out though.

According to nutritionist Dr Carrie Ruxton: "While the government has advised us all to eat two portions of fish a week, including one of oily fish, the fact is most of us just don't get enough.

Nutrition surveys show that two thirds of us rarely have oily fish and average intakes are half the recommended portion of 140 g."

Sambrook explains that vegetarians and vegans can obtain omega-3 from flaxseeds and flaxseed oil, rapeseed oil, soya oil and soy-based foods. Vegetarian supplements (made from algae rather than fish) are an option too.

Knowledge is power Hopefully this is food for thought whether you've been vegetarian for yonks or if you're considering taking the flesh-free plunge. There are many benefits to eating less meat but to go vegetarian or vegan healthily, you need to come armed with knowledge.

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The Antbear Drakensberg Lodge is a thatched, whitewashed lodge built high on a natural platform overlooking the Bushman's River and Giants Castle.

Antbear Drakensberg Lodge offers various Drakensberg accommodation options in en suite double rooms, luxury suites, family units and also boasts a luxury cave too.

Antbear Drakensberg Lodge is one of those smaller intimate kind places which has been lovingly put together. The natural setting of the accommodation is stunning and we have managed to encase all this beauty with an atmosphere of comfort and ease.

The cottages are smartly appointed and individually designed and the fact that we are a small place makes for an intimate and personal accommodation experience. Each of the accommodation units are different and are decorated with uniquely eccentric and artistic wooden furniture.

It is a bit off the beaten track and is more of an insider tip than just another bed and breakfast. We cater for small intimate groups and never have more than 45 guests at a time. It's a laid back, lovingly cared for kind of place where you feel a sense of happiness and peace. Honeymoon stays turn into anniversary commemorations just as guests become friends. Even foreign tourists return for a second and third taste.

Attractions Drakensburg Hiking Trails Bushman Rock Art Giant’s Castle Kamberg Weenen Game Reserve Royal Natal National Park Drakensburg Boys Choir

Horse Trails Injasuti Nature Reserve Monks Cowl Natal Midlands Tugela Falls Sani Pass Fly Fishing

Retreats The Antbear Drakensberg Lodge is the ideal retreat venue where we can provide all the services and accommodation for your retreat. Situated 4 hours from Johannesburg and 2 hours from Durban with easy access from the N3 Antbear Lodge is easy to get to but has the feeling of being far from the madding crowd. This wonderful place for group retreats offers spectacular views, vast spaces, wild winds, rain, sunshine, clouds and rainbows and in all of this – silence and peace.

Retreat groups can book the whole lodge for their exclusive use.

The Lodge can accommodate 44 persons in 15 separate accommodation units Antbear Drakensberg Lodge has a spacious dining room with a wood-burning fireplace, a comfortable lounge with a fireplace and spectacular views, a breakaway meeting room, a large veranda and a large meeting room for retreat, team building or training activities. We provide excellent meals and will fit our menu to your expectations.

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Because food is an important part of your stay Meals are part of the real surprises that the Antbear Lodge has to offer where home grown cooking is part of the deal. We like to use our own home grown organic vegetables and if we haven’t got, then we lean heavily on those local providers with similar attitudes to our own. Conny and Andrew both like cooking and are up to changing just about anything to suit tastes or philosophies. Our cooking experience is in part a journal, a record of events and memories expressed in recipes. In the course of our travels we have filed away many recipes and with them images of people and places and their lives. How food tastes has much to do with the associations we make and if you would like to hear the tales of our meals we would love to tell them.

Sustainable & responsible tourism is our social responsibility and what we do to give something back to our community and environment We believe in sustainable tourism and social responsibility. We live is a spectacularly beautiful place called the Drakensberg and our standard of living here is exceptional.

But around us lie contrasts of poverty and lack of development. If we are to keep our way of life then it surely follows that we must do everything in our power to contribute to the upliftment and prosperity of this rural area. We believe that the future of South Africa is linked to the prosperity of the people, and that upliftment is linked to education. And as such we have chosen to support our local primary school called Vulakani Primary School.

Pet friendly accommodation Drakensberg One of the few pet-friendly places in the Drakensberg. Beautiful, vast views of the Drakensberg with plenty of ground for my dogs to roam. Walk for hours.

Your dogs will be happy with lots of dams to swim in and horses to discover. One of the accommodation units at Antbear Lodge is fenced in so its really easy to leave your dog behind if you would like to explore some of the sights where pets are not that welcome. If country life is for you and you would love to take your pet with you then Antbear Lodge is a great accommodation choice. Your hosts will advise you on all the activities available. Antbear Lodge prides itself on being both family-friendly and petfriendly.

CONTACT Mobile 076 441 2362 Email: reservations@antbear.co.za Web: www.antbear.co.za

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Vegan Diet “The Healthy Natural Alternative�

A VEGAN DIET FOR YOUR DOG – A FIRST IN SOUTH AFRICA

Vegans and vegetarians are often faced with the dilemma of choosing the best diet to feed their companion canines, taking into consideration not only their own ethics, but also the best interests of the dog/s they are taking care of.

Fortunately, even though many people would assume that a dog couldn't possibly be fed a 100% vegan diet, nothing could be further from the truth!

Despite descending from wolves, the domestic dog is classified as an omnivore.

The classification in the Order Carnivora does not necessarily mean that a dog's diet must be restricted to meat.

Unlike an obligate carnivore, a dog is neither dependent on meat-specific protein nor a very high level of protein in order to fulfill its basic dietary requirements.

Dogs are able to healthily digest a variety of foods including vegetables and grains, and in fact dogs can consume a large proportion of these in their diet. In the wild, canines often eat available plants and fruits.

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As a matter of interest, there is even one dog which could completely be a Vegetarian and that is the Chow Chow. The Chow Chow originated in China (Tibet) where it was raised as a meat source for human consumption.

Since the Chow Chow was used as a meat source for human consumption, it was fed a diet of grains and vegetables - to produce a tender marbled meat.

Some may still argue that a vegan diet for a dog is unnatural in some way, but its important to note that in nature dogs wouldn't eat anything like what is commonly found nowadays - in a can or in pellet form..

Most commercial pet food is made of very questionable meats, not fit for human consumption, that would otherwise be thrown away.

These foods are filled with preservatives and other additives that, over time, can detriment the health of your pet. Indeed, studies conducted on pets fed commercial meat pet food reveal that diet-related complications can include "kidney, liver, heart, neurological, visual, neuromuscular and skin disease, bleeding disorders, birth defects, compromised immune system and infectious disease.“ So, not only is it possible to feed dogs a nonmeat diet, it can also be very nutritious and balanced. In Europe, there are plenty of commercially available, healthy vegan diets.

There is no reason why vegan / vegetarian pet lovers in our country shouldn't have the same choice.

For this reason Vondis Holistic Pet Nutrition has developed a well researched balanced Vegan diet, where you can be assured that your companion will receive all the correct nutrition and thus enable them to lead happier, healthier lives.

Vegan Diet Recipe and Nutritional Value In presenting any nutritious meal for human or pet, meat or vegan, there are two important considerations. The cooking method which you use to prepare your food and the other is the quality and choice of ingredients.

Vondis has always adopted scientific procedures to prepare the food and therefore, certain ingredients are left to simmer on a low heat and there are some that are included raw.

This very special Vondi’s cooking process ensures maximum nutritional value and digestibility.

In choosing the ingredients, we have utilized scientific and nutritional data to formulate a recipe that is totally balanced and nutritious and that will ensure a healthier and longer life.

Some of the ingredients include brown rice, millet, lentils, peas, barley, wheat germ, rolled oats, beetroot, butternut, sweet potato, carrots and a variety of freshly picked herbs.

To ensure the perfect balance we also supplemented with calcium gluconate, zinc gluconate, taurine, yeast, lecithin, kelp, dandelion and vitamin c.

So, not only is it possible to feed dogs a nonmeat diet, it can also be very nutritious and balanced. In fact, what started out as diet for moral and ethical reasons, has now be become popular for the treatment of ailments like skin disorders, arthritic problems and bladder disorders.

NOTE: Vondis Holistic Pet Nutrition non vegetarian meals include Beef, Chicken, Mutton, Ostrich and Special Chicken for Sensitive Skin.

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Top 5 Turmeric Benefits for Dogs

By Annie Price, CHHC of www.draxe.com Have you ever thought about what you can do naturally to boost your dog’s health? Something you may want to strongly consider is turmeric for dogs. Is turmeric good for dogs? Generally speaking, it can be very good for dogs. Turmeric benefits are extremely impressive for humans so it’s not really that surprising that this golden-colored root could also be quite magical for pets as well.

In general, the active component of turmeric known as curcumin displays powerful antiinflammatory, antioxidant and chemopreventive abilities. If you’re wondering, can I give my dog turmeric for pain? Yes, pain is actually one of the top reasons why pet owners supplement with turmeric. It’s not hard at all to incorporate it into your dog’s diet. You can mix a turmeric paste for dogs into their food, give it to them in homemade turmeric dog treats, or buy pre-made treats or supplements.

In general, the active component of turmeric known as curcumin displays powerful antiinflammatory, antioxidant and chemopreventive abilities. If you’re wondering, can I give my dog turmeric for pain? Yes, pain is actually one of the top reasons why pet owners supplement with turmeric. It’s not hard at all to incorporate it into your dog’s diet. You can mix a turmeric paste for dogs into their food, give it to them in homemade turmeric dog treats, or buy pre-made treats or supplements.

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Is turmeric safe for dogs? It is generally considered safe for dogs in small amounts. You may even find it as an ingredient in your dog’s current food, but it’s likely only used to enhance color and flavor so there is not enough to provide any medicinal effects. This is why you may want to consider supplementing your dog’s diet with this incredible health-promoting spice.

Wondering how much turmeric is safe to give my dog? Get ready to learn dosage recommendations and much more!

Top 5 Turmeric Benefits for Dogs What does turmeric cure? It can help naturally treat and improve a wide arrange of health concerns, especially ones related to inflammation. Turmeric benefits for dogs include: 1. Turmeric for Dogs With Cancer Holistic vets often recommend using turmeric as a form of natural cancer treatment for dogs.

According to Dogs Naturally Magazine, half of adult dogs today will get cancer, and turmeric is “a great way to protect your dog from inflammation and cancer.” The main active ingredient in turmeric is curcumin, which research studies have shown can kill cancer cells and prevent more from growing.

2. Turmeric for Dogs Arthritis You can also try using turmeric for arthritis in dogs. As with human arthritis, dog arthritis is a chronic condition with inflammation at its root. As a potent anti-inflammatory agent, turmeric is a top natural remedy for arthritis to consider. A study published in 2014 looked at the effects of turmeric on human osteoarthritis patients. The study results reveal that supplementing with turmeric extract was just as effective as ibuprofen but with less unwanted gastrointestinal effects.

3. Turmeric for Dogs Cysts Later in this article, there is a recipe for turmeric paste for internal use, but you can also use turmeric paste for dog cysts topically. Check with your vet first, but internal and/or external use of turmeric may likely help reduce the inflammation associated with a cysts. It’s also a great natural antiseptic. Dogs can experience sebaceous cysts, which are small, slow-growing, noncancerous bumps beneath the skin. A mix of turmeric powder, coconut oil and witch hazel can be applied topically to naturally treat sebaceous cysts.

4. Turmeric for Dog Wounds You can apply turmeric paste topically for minor wounds like cuts and scrapes. Turmeric has antimicrobial properties so it can help kill bacteria and disinfect a wound. It’s also great for reducing inflammation. Research shows that turmeric’s active component, curcumin, is a natural analgesic, so applying it topically can help decrease pain too. Just beware that turmeric’s vibrant coloring can stain your dog’s coat/skin with a yellowish tint temporarily.

5. Turmeric for Dogs UTI In dogs, urinary tract infections (UTIs) are the result of an invasion of bacteria. They can occur in the lower urinary tract (below the bladder), in the bladder or above the bladder (in the kidneys).

Some pet owners are concerned about antibiotic resistance for themselves as well as their four-

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legged friends and are looking for natural remedies for canine UTIs. Turmeric’s combined abilities to kill bacteria, lower inflammation and reduce pain make it one of several options dog owners often consider as a natural UTI remedy.

Turmeric for Dogs Dosage Whether you choose turmeric capsules for dogs or some other form of this incredible natural remedy, you’re probably wondering, how much turmeric can I give my dog?

Dr. Karen Becker recommends that small to medium-sized dogs take 250 milligrams twice a day, while large to giant breeds should be given 500 milligrams two to three times a day. She suggests that cats can take about 100 milligrams twice a day.

According to Dogs Naturally Magazine, “The recommended dose for dogs is 15mg–20mg per pound of body weight per day, or more simply put, 1/8 to 1/4 tsp per day for every 10lbs in weight.”

The proper turmeric dosage for dogs definitely varies by size and health status. Make sure to discuss the use of turmeric, including ideal dosage, with your veterinarian. Typically, you should increase turmeric doses for dogs gradually to be on the safe side, and make sure to purchase high-quality, organic turmeric products for your pet.

Turmeric Recipes for Dogs It’s important to note that just like with human consumption, a dog’s body absorbs and utilizes turmeric best when it’s mixed with a healthy fat and black pepper. This is why it’s not uncommon to see a turmeric recipe for dogs that includes coconut oil or another good fat source.

You can use turmeric powder for dogs (or a pure turmeric powder for humans can be used

too) in any of the following recipes: Turmeric Golden Paste for Dogs Recipe Turmeric Gravy Recipe Turmeric Oil Recipe If you would prefer a turmeric supplement for dogs, look for one that is high-quality and ideally organic. You can also buy turmeric chews for dogs that are pre-made.

Precautions Is turmeric safe for dogs? It can be as long as you know how much turmeric for dogs is safe vs. too much. Too much turmeric may cause unwanted side effects.

What are the side effects of turmeric?

Possible unwanted side effects include upset stomach, nausea, gallbladder issues, dizziness, bruising and iron deficiency. However, these are not common side effects when dogs (or humans) take turmeric in appropriate amounts. Side effects are more likely when turmeric is taken in excess.

Using turmeric topically can result in yellow staining of clothes,Photo skin and hair so use with

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Is turmeric bad for dogs in certain situations?

Just like with humans, it’s very important that you speak with your vet before giving your pet turmeric if it has had liver issues or other ongoing health problems — or is currently talking other medications/supplements to ensure there will be no unwanted interactions.

In addition, turmeric is considered to be a warming spice so if your canine is frequently hot or overheats easily, turmeric may not be an ideal choice.

If you’re considering turmeric for your dog, talk with your veterinarian about an ideal dosage and any recommendations he or she may have for the best turmeric supplement for dogs.

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