January 2025 401 Oceanstate Magazine by 401oceanstate

2025!

WILL THIS BE THE TURNING POINT FOR A NEW GENERATION?

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ELEVATE

‘Grit,’ either you have it, or you don’t, and you’ll have some serious personal work to do to adapt.

IMPRESSIONS

According to Peet Nourjian, love is in the air this New Year’s Eve: Are you ready?

PROPERTY

Incredible! This authentic Mid-Century contemporary home reflects the uniqueness of not only the period but also today’s retro lifestyle.

30 TRAVEL

What a great example! Flight is perhaps the most frustrating experience imaginable, yet there’s one patient man who ‘toughed through it’ and shares his story.

34 RESOLVE

Stepping out of your comfort zone is the only way to find yourself—and others; read how one woman’s experiences changed her perspective and life.

38 LIVING WELL

It’s a new world facing long-known diseases: What everyone needs to learn about the risks of casual unprotected sex.

42 INTIMACY

No! The absurdity of women cutting off romance and affection due to an election.

44 CULTURE/MUSEUM

One excellent field trip: Boston’s newest attraction, The Museum of Illusions, will have you guessing and challenging what you see and experience.

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50 CULTURE/BALLET

Boston Ballet’s The Nutcracker was a fantastic feat; now it is time to focus on another legendary performance, Swan Lake, which is coming into view next month.

Grit: Resolutions With Meaning

As a new year begins, many tend to succumb to a repetitive process of the past. They allow their hearts and minds to direct them towards self-improvement or actions that will benefit those they care about. While the thought of growing and leveling up to one’s full potential is admirable, too often, these short-lived efforts leave feelings of defeat when not achieved; anyone who has tried to complete a New Year’s Resolution can attest to this belief.

Nearly everyone possesses an authentic desire to create change in their lives with the hope of improved physical and emotional wellness. Still, many fall short due to neglect of follow-through because they lack passion and mental clarity or fear what the unknown successes will look like once they turn cognitions into actions.

These self-sabotaging tactics are serious barriers to allowing the experiences and benefits that come from finding solutions to problems or challenges. If addressed and overcome, they would lead to personal improvement and the construction of greater confidence and life satisfaction.

Having explained what hinders attaining a lasting glow-up, let us examine what it takes to achieve a new standard of personal expectations and performance—it’s not easy.

Some of the initial steps in becoming the person you know you can be include: full consciousness and acceptance of your choices, absolute devotion to meeting daily goals, embracing change, and setting realistic and obtainable objectives that allow the modification or replacement of undesirable behaviors learned and instilled into your existing personality. But this is not the basis for initiating change; it is only the recipe. These ingredients are some of the precursors to actions that develop and sustain a healthy mindset and physical fortitude. The secret sauce, in

this case, is a binder known as ‘Grit,’ and without it, the effort of starting and maintaining a personal improvement project or journey is condemned before it can begin. Unless one can develop the characteristics of Grit, they will never reach the level of satisfaction they desire. Instead, they’ll run on a treadmill of good intentions and focus on dreams always finding they are a single step out of reach, resulting in a lifelong loop of frustration and disappointment.

We are pleased to explain what Grit is to those unaware. The term is as meaningful as it looks or sounds when written or spoken. Rarely used or heard in a culture focused on insisting everyone fit into a mold of ordinary, equal, and obedient, Grit is mistakenly viewed as an outlier of acceptable personality traits because it reeks of independence, mystery, and intrigue.

Characteristics of Grit include knowledge and the control of emotions. It consists of an internal dialogue that enjoys quiet passion and satisfaction, leading to a higher level of proficiency and purpose. It is to have an exemplary understanding of one’s values and self-worth, enabling an ability to derive attainable actions to meet predetermined goals when the odds are not in favor. Hidden challenges are continuously met without external validation because of learned proficiency infused through one’s core beliefs, which leads them to success in their endeavors; this is the result of believing there is only one possible outcome.

It is a difficult journey, and it is not for everyone. It can be lonely and challenging because of the self-reliance and responsibility required to achieve results. But those who follow this path—whether they finish a task or not—will be viewed as equal to those who do meet their goals. Not reaching an objective is not a failure in their minds; it is a test and a learning experience that gives rise to an alternative approach; they don’t give up under any circumstance.

Grit is not found at the finish line; it is always carried and is visible to others due to examples of modesty combined with endurance that would shrink others. It is the weight on your shoulders, making each step more challenging than the previous. Still, you wouldn’t have it any other way—it’s what separates you from others.

It is a guttural inclination to cut the path, not to follow instinctively. It is a disciplined approach to living that will tear at the question we should all ask ourselves: “Is this something I need or want?” Furthermore, it is an enlightening approach to viewing the world by differentiating perception versus perspective and respecting others and their opinions, even if you disagree.

Some will tell you this is embedded in our DNA and that it is impossible to flip into this rough and ready type of personality, but don’t be fooled; both the masculine and feminine possess these traits and have learned through trial and error what it takes to be resolved in their choices, actions, and results.

Happy New Year. H

Berkshire Hathaway HomeServices/ Robert Paul Properties Announces Record-Breaking Sale in Marion, Massachusetts

B erkshire Hathaway HomeServices Robert Paul Properties, a division of Commonwealth Realty Group, LLC, has announced the sale of 96 Moorings Road, Marion, marking the top residential sale and highest-priced transaction in Marion history for $7,500,000. This landmark sale was facilitated by Anne Bramhall, who listed the property, and Paul E. Grover, representing the purchaser.

This unprecedented sale represents a significant achievement in SouthCoast real estate history. The region has become a destination that, without question, demands and is getting well-deserved attention, underscored by a continuous influx of buyers seeking exceptional luxury lifestyle properties.

The magnificent three-acre waterfront estate offers panoramic views of Buzzards Bay, featuring a primary residence that has been meticulously restored and renovated with a blend of classic New England charm and modern luxury. The home includes eight bedrooms and 11 bathrooms in family and guest wings and a central kitchen flowing to generous living and dining spaces. A separate, newly constructed guesthouse offers privacy for longer-term guests. Outdoor amenities include several patios for entertaining, an expansive lawn with 180-degree views of the ocean, colorful gardens, and 140 feet of protected shoreline.

Bramhall, reflecting on the sale, states, “96 Moorings Road offers exceptional privacy, elegance, and expansive ocean views, as well as access to the charming community of Marion, known for its sailing culture, quaint downtown, and proximity to Boston, Providence and Cape Cod.

We are thrilled to have been part of such a historic transaction.” Emily Clark, President of Berkshire Hathaway HomeServices Robert Paul Properties, adds, “This sale is not only a testament to the beauty and desirability of Marion but also to the incredible dedication of our team. We look forward to continuing to deliver outstanding service and results for our clients across the region.”

Berkshire Hathaway HomeServices / Robert Paul Properties is a recognized and respected name in the luxury real estate market across Cape Cod, Greater Boston, and the SouthCoast of Massachusetts. As a regional firm—built on a tradition of excellence and fueled by an elite team of talented agents— Robert Paul Properties is committed to providing exceptional services.

Commonwealth Realty Group, LLC is the parent company of Boston-based Berkshire Hathaway HomeServices Commonwealth Real Estate and Berkshire Hathaway HomeServices Robert Paul Properties with 35 offices and 850 agents combined; the two full-service real estate brokerages provide unparalleled market expertise and customer service experience to home buyers and sellers.

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A COMPANY YOU KEEP

Within the SouthCoast Community lies a cornerstone of stability and trust: Adamowski, Certified Public Accountants P.C. | Business Advisors. For over half a century, this venerable independent local business has been the beacon of financial acumen, specializing in taxes, accounting, and business consulting.

Upon stepping into their conveniently located offices on Hawthorn Street in Dartmouth, Massachusetts, you’ll find more than numbers meticulously arranged on spreadsheets. You’ll discover a team of seasoned professionals, each with a wealth of expertise and a commitment to excellence that spans generations. They are the custodians of fiscal health, the navigators in the tumultuous sea of finances.

Since its inception by founder Frank P. Adamowski, the firm has earned more than clients—but rather, confidants. The company’s reputation for reliability is legendary, and its integrity is unwavering. Businesses large and small rely upon them with their financial destinies, knowing that with Adamowski on board, their course is secure, and they will have continued access to top-flight services.

As a recognized leader in the field of taxation and accounting, they’ve earned the trust of their clients and are poised to serve the ongoing needs of those requiring tax advice, planning, accounting, and business consulting.

For additional information, contact Adamowski at 508-992-5454 or visit adamowski.com. H

Staying the Course

As the horizon changes, it’s assuring to know that a ﬁrm, started over 55 years ago by Frank P. Adamowski, remains a leader in the ﬁeld of taxes, accounting and business consulting. It’s a comfort to know quality services are available locally.

We had a very unique property in Downtown New Bedford - a large historic home, on a large lot that had just gotten through an extensive interior and exterior renovation. I can proudly say it was truly a gem, a very unique property. Knowing this, to recoup all the capital we had invested into it, a standard “throw up a ‘for sale’ sign, list it on MLS, have an open house weekend” sales approach would not have cut it. We needed a bespoke strategy for a bespoke home that would attract the niche buyers this house would be a perfect ﬁt for.

The Mathew J. Arruda Group saw this from outset and tackled a plan with gusto (extensive professional photos, marketing videos, social media teasers, a brokers only open house, and vetted seller viewings by appointment only). While the lead up to the actual listing date deliberately took months (to build up the anticipation while the ﬁnal renovations were being ﬁnished), we had an offer a week after listing and closed 6 weeks later. And for a record price!

Beyond nailing the outcomes we set forth and then some, working with the team was godsend. They were thorough, diligent, highly knowledgable of the market, and knew how to tailor and execute a razor sharp approach. I fully trusted them throughout the process and I can’t recommend them enough for anyone looking to sell their home (and now I’m a repeat customer!). — John

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january Quite contrary

BY PEET NOURJIAN

AS NOTES OF AULD LANG SINE BEGIN THE CHAMPAGNE TOAST BRINGS ON A GRIN WE GUARANTEE WITH GLASS HELD HIGH “TO BE BETTER THAN DAYS GONE BY”

WHO THOUGHT NEW YEAR’S RESOLUTIONS COULD PROVIDE EASY SOLUTIONS TO DECISIONS WE CAN’T IGNORE BAD HABITS FROM THE YEAR BEFORE

JANUARY BECOMES THAT PLACE WHERE THE GUILTY COME FACE TO FACE WITH THE FULFILLMENT OF THAT PLEDGE A BET WE VOWED TO NEVER HEDGE

WINTER WEATHER MEANS SOLITUDE A BOOK, A FIRE SETS THE MOOD THE HOLIDAYS ARE FINALLY DONE “WELCOMED REFUGE FROM ALL THAT FUN”

AND THEN THE FLAKES BEGIN TO FALL A WONDERLAND, YOU GET THE CALL FOR HORSE-DRAWN SLEIGH THEN ICE SKATING “HURRY UP, YOUR FRIENDS ARE WAITING!”

EATING SNOWBALLS SOAKED IN WHISKEY POT EDIBLES MAKE US FRISKY KISSING STRANGERS, WE HARDLY KNEW “RESOLUTIONS? LET’S BREAK A FEW.” H

SWEET DREAMS

COURTESY OF THE VILLAGE SWEET SHOPPE

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And, for those with eclectic tastes, we have an intriguing collection of international favorites that will satisfy most decerning palates.

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UNIQUE CITY PROPERTY ON THE MARKET

BY STEVEN CHAN

The Mid-Century details found throughout the home make it one of the most distinguished of this era, and in the neighborhood.

In New Bedford’s West End, 64 Brownell Avenue is a few steps from the green oasis of Buttonwood Park in a respectable and secluded neighborhood, which by appearance, shows the high level of care and maintenance homeowners put into their property and landscaping. It is one of the most familiar and desirable homes that hasn’t sold many times since it was custom-built.

Close to a hospital, multiple schools, including a private academy only a couple of miles away in nearby Dartmouth, a reasonable distance from a prep school in Marion, and the campus of UMass Dartmouth, its location is a mere two to three minutes from the interstate making it accessible to a vast number of amenities and activities.

Who is this home perfect for? Ideally, a growing family, a couple, or a single person who loves to entertain and invite friends to the SouthCoast for holidays or week-long getaways.

With four bedrooms and three and one-half baths, the open space and light-drenched Mid-Century Modern home of 3,150 square-feet, with a sunroom, private terrace, and rear lawn, offers an opportunity to recreate the space so that it aligns with their lifestyle and taste.

Who is this home perfect for? Ideally, a growing family, a couple, or a single person who loves to entertain and invite friends to the SouthCoast for holidays or week-long getaways.

As an exquisite Executive L-shaped Styled home, a must-have feature for today’s living is a first-floor primary suite with an ensuite bath. Other features include a modern kitchen, an expansive living room with a wood-burning fireplace, an elegant formal dining room, a study with exterior access, a sunroom, and a first-level laundry room. The lower level provides a pristine living or working space with a fireplace, bonus room, and a half bath. On the second level, there are three additional bedrooms and two more baths.

From the exterior, it’s clear the home has been taken care of, while inside, there’s central air conditioning, a two-car garage, and a spacious entrance offering three more spots, plus extraordinary privacy provided by fencing surrounding the property.

The Mid-Century details found throughout the home make it one of the most distinguished of this era, and in the neighborhood. Other essential features that will attract new owners include laminate hardwood floors, stone and ceramic tile, natural gas for heating water and baseboard, city utilities/services, a mudroom, security system, home office, and workout room, plus a Green Water Conservation: ET Irrigation Controller. H

If you are looking for a special type of home that reflects your style and personality, look no further and contact Mathew J. Arruda of Compass Real Estate at 179 Williams Street, New Bedford. 64 Brownell Avenue is offered for $774,900; to arrange for your private showing, call 508-965-8683 or email mathew.arruda@compass.com.

| EDITOR’S NOTE |

We’re convinced there are two types of travelers: those who refuse to fly and the others who hold a deep connection to masochism.

When we first heard from this month’s contributor, we assumed his story would be a tale of ‘crazy passengers’ attempting to open doors—while in flight—or a rendition of an unruly and discourteous public that are either intoxicated or so ill-mannered they choose to selfishly and recklessly hurl a few punches at their seatmates and flight attendants.

Wow, were we wrong; take all of the above, add the legendary rudeness of the authorities who don’t give you enough time to unload your luggage from a vehicle (yes, you, Boston), the long lines at TSA, the humiliation of taking off your belt, shoes, and coat, walking

through a magnetometer exposing your privacy, damage to your luggage or worse, theft from your bags by those you believe have your best interest in mind, and add it to Mr. Werbicki’s ‘tonguein-cheek’ experience below. We question how anyone can sound convincing when talking about how pleasurable and enjoyable their trip was especially when almost every day there is a flying violation(s) reported.

With little doubt, public flying must be the most dreadful means of transportation of modern times. To pay outrageous fortunes for the privilege of being treated horrendously and put at risk for operations and interactions outside of your control leaves questions whether this is what air travel is supposed to look like in 2025.

Ladies and gentlemen (yeah, we know they don’t say this anymore, but we do), welcome aboard.

Having Flown The Not So Friendly Skies, Don’t Ask Me About My Last Trip!

BY JOSEPH J. WERBICKI

It was October 28, and we were amazed to see it snowing as we enjoyed dinner next to the picture windows of the hotel dining room. Tomorrow is the getaway day from Calgary after a business trip for the past two days. No big deal— this is Canada. A little snow shouldn’t cause much of a fuss.

Still, with an 8:18 a.m. flight, the next morning, I got up at 4 a.m. to find eight inches of snow on the ground, with an air temperature of 23° F (our units –the TV weatherman said that it was minus 5° C). Still, there was no concern; it’s Canada—right?

We hopped on the 5 a.m. hotel shuttle for the short ride to the airport. With no cars on the road, it still took 30 minutes since the plows weren’t out yet. Why worry? I was three hours early and had work to do, so I planned on grabbing some breakfast and settling in to prepare my trip report.

Making it through customs with no hang-up, wouldn’t you know security confiscated a pair of mini scissors from

a ‘traveling’ sewing kit that had passed screening on the way up to visit our northern neighbors. Regardless of the minor infraction, our departure was still listed as on time; it was off to the gate in order to complete some paperwork.

We overheard a conversation at the check-in desk about some dead aircraft batteries on a flight scheduled to leave for Houston from our gate an hour before the scheduled flight. A decision was made to exchange the dead batteries from that plane for good ones from our plane so as not to delay the Houston flight. The dead batteries would be recharged in time for the Chicago lift-off.

agent reported, “The batteries took the charge,”—BUT, we couldn’t board because the flight crew hadn’t arrived; they were stuck in traffic. Thankfully, a nearby couple from Buffalo explained that flight crews from Buffalo are never late.

Suddenly, we heard another announcement—the Chicago flight would depart from an alternate gate; we believed this was great news; perhaps this plane was equipped with good batteries, and we’d be on our way in no time.

Finally, the flight attendants arrived, and we started the boarding process. As we were walking down the jetway, we heard the steps of two pilots hustling to get on board. Our excitement stirred.

All set, ready to go? No, we need to be de-iced, as it is still snowing. Too bad we weren’t first in line to be treated. Apparently, other planes had been parked

overnight, and their wheels were jammed, leaving the de-icer truck (just one) with the responsibility of remedying the problem all over again. Unintentionally, but adding to our frustration, the same nice couple from Buffalo felt it necessary to share the fact that their city airport has two de-icer trucks. Really, I thought, isn’t that wonderful?

We waited and waited, only to find out that the truck responsible for keeping aircraft capable of safe winter flying had run out of de-icer fluid—of course, they did—facilitating the necessity to get its tank refilled, likely not within eyesight.

When the de-icing truck finally returned to where our plane sat idle, we were already two hours past the scheduled takeoff time. It would be another half hour before we expected to pull away from the gate; we endured the setback with courage, optimism, and deep breathing exercises.

Finally, we boarded and got settled; peace at last, we believed. The anticipation of getting in the air was short-lived because as the engines were set to crank over, we heard only one engage. At the same time, the other screamed an unfamiliar whirring sound, alerting everyone it was refusing to start! The Captain kept trying, but to no avail, and without two sources of propulsion, it was back to the gate.

One would believe it wouldn’t be too big of a deal; we’d deplane and wait for the mechanics to do their job. But, no, we can’t get off the plane until customs approves, which adds another 30 or so minutes to our journey. Finally, we were let off the plane, with the admonition not to leave the boarding area and to be as patient as humanly possible because they didn’t have a large enough staff to respond to what turned into a long list of mechanical repair requests. (I wonder if Buffalo does?)

Off the plane to the boarding gate counter, it was now three and a half hours after the scheduled departure time, and breakfast had worn off. The good news

circulating among passengers was that a team of mechanics would do their best to get the faulty engine to turn over as soon as they could.

In the meantime, people ahead of us in line began checking for alternate connections—with one poor guy heading for Amsterdam, doing his best to control his fury.

Getting through the queue at the counter, I was informed there were two later flights out of Chicago to Providence, one four and a half hours later than the initially booked return flight and another three hours later than that one. However, it was explained that we should be able to make the first one if the mechanics can get the engine to start.

With that knowledge, it was time for a bio break (a Canadian term—easily interpreted). While we listlessly counted the minutes, sudden and unexpectedly, an announcement blared over the intercom, “The engines are up—let’s roll.”

Here we were, just four and a half hours after our scheduled departure, and finally cleared to move away from the gate; we were smothered with profuse apologies from every airline employee in sight, all the way up to the Captain; they couldn’t have been nicer.

But wait! Not all the passengers had made it back; where did they go? Having very little interest in any further delays, all we could think about was, “Let’s

“THE ENGINES ARE UP—LET’S ROLL.”

roll this baby.” We did retain our hope and found some humor in this dreadful situation; in a moment, I realized that those who jumped ship weren’t able to recover their checked bags—lol; the lesson here is that you don’t check a bag if it is anywhere near small enough to fit into an overhead compartment.

The chief cabin attendant was a real cheerleader, which was evident by her willingness to show the safety film if anyone forgot about seeing it a few hours ago. With a unified groan, we opted to pass on the rerun—the collective was out of patience.

And, we waited, once again. Apparently, the chilling conditions caused us to need another touch-up de-icing. At the same time, with bewilderment, I gazed at a big white aircraft with a blue tail (having been parked next to us) as it began to move towards a runway; the view was such a bitter pill to swallow.

Again, we waited and waited, and with little to do but to recall a day of turmoil, I found myself ruminating about the time of our initially scheduled takeoff reservation of 8 a.m. (local time) to what would become 12:36 p.m., to 12:55 p.m., and 1:05 p.m. when miraculously the de-icer truck found it’s way back.

Finally, at 1:10 p.m., we felt a tug and realized we were being towed from the gate. It was 1:14 p.m. when we were moving under our own power, a mere five hours after we should have left.

I indulged in my curiosity; maybe we will make the 5:45 p.m. out of Chicago after all.

It’s scheduled for takeoff in just three and a half hours. I wonder how long we would have to endure this flight. In doing the math, I figured if we took off at 1:28 p.m. (2:28 Chicago time) with a scheduled flying time of three hours and 12 minutes, it looked like there would be a full five minutes to make the connection in Chicago.

Back to the head cabin attendant, I recall she was sharp and reminded me of Oprah, as she did her best to keep our spirits up by emphasizing that safety was the airline’s first concern, which only added to the signs and symptoms of the anxiety we all felt.

Touching down in Chicago at 5:10 p.m., local time, allowed me a quick call home, only to learn that we had been rebooked

an abundance of seconds to spare, and, of course, as unexpected, this plane pulled out on time. But what haunted me was that had we not run to make it to the counter, we would have faced another three-hour delay. Then it hit me that this was a busy hour in Chicago, and when you start taxiing, you’ll have miles to roll around the gigantic airport. Although it was a pleasant ride around the slick tarmac, we finally were wheels-up at 6:20 p.m., a mere 10 hours of ‘hurry up and wait.’

Upon reflection, there is something else worth noting: it can be fun to listen to the air traffic controllers as they communicate between the ground and planes. These guys are fantastic as they balance 30 or 40 aircraft taking off and landing with little room for error. As you listen over your headset, it can be comforting when your pilot communicates in a crisp, businesslike manner with the tower. However, it’s not always the case; at times, there are instances when your confidence dwindles,

for the 5:45 to Providence and all that was required was to get from Terminal C to Terminal B. I pondered, “How far is that?”

As we’re running, I grab a famous Chicago deep-dish pepperoni pizza from a kiosk while, at the same time, asking myself, “Why can’t I ever get a connection that I can walk to?” Have you ever enjoyed such an experience?

We made the flight with

like when a pilot has to be called two or three times before he responds or has difficulty understanding the tower’s directions due to language barriers.

But, what the hell, this last leg landed at 9:08 p.m. at the Providence airport, which, as a sidebar, isn’t in Providence, just short of four and a half hours after the planned arrival time.

After a trip of about 13 hours, all I could be thankful for was that at least it wasn’t snowing. H

Reflections

BY CATHERINE HILDERBRAND

It may seem odd to some, but what I find joyous about the calendar turning over to a new year is not so much the idea of vowing mindless resolutions that never stick, but instead, the satisfaction that comes with armchair quarterbacking the actions previously taken, the many people met, and the vast experiences that would have never been enjoyed without taking risks; not the dangerous type, mind you, but the social ones. In these cases, when pushing the envelope to release the tension that comes from living under the pressure of being besieged by introversion, while at other moments, forced to leave a protective shell and seek attention and validation. Such

unexpected and uncharacteristic mood swings seem to be a construct of my ‘yin-yang’ personality.

While I confess to this odd dynamic, to the point of launching into a rant, I make a hasty generalization that a significant number of us feel we are uncertain of where we fit in the hierarchy of self-actualization or, better yet, (lol), the level of control we have of our emotional state. Regardless of critique, my purpose is to share some of the most memorable and lifechanging events that have shaped me into who I am, which is quite different than a couple of years ago and has prepared me for an adventurous 2025.

Many of my experiences result from unique and memorable

It was a day when I finally understood myself and my purpose I was connected to a new path, my mind became open and that nagging social anxiety was blown away by the gentle breeze.

ad hoc choices. It is incredible that when I detach from worry or expectations and stay present, opportunities and occasions effortlessly drop into my lap.

A few highlights that come to mind, not in any particular order but through free association, was a day when the summer and fall were interwoven by the glorious weather instead of the day and date. I stumbled upon a beach while visiting friends who had to work at the time. After parking in a vacant lot—post-Labor Day, I was in awe by the warmth reflecting from the heated asphalt, the ocean breeze that brought the temperature to a near-perfect setting, and the muffling sound of waves crashing the shore. Alone, in a strange place, left me nervous.

As I made my way to the top of the boardwalk, where the view was no longer obstructed, I was immediately captured by the sight of a deep blue sky, matching sea, and perfectly groomed light-tan beach that stretched for miles, but more importantly, it was an unaccustomed emotional connection and sense of freedom that came over me; my eyes filled with tears of joy for no apparent reason other than a sense that I was supposed to find that place on that very day.

Adding to my enjoyment were the few others combing the beach, picking shells and small stones; they appeared imaginary due to the distance between us, each of them evaporating from sight, much like a comforting mirage.

Suddenly, the gentleman grabbed my hand and asked “May I have this dance? ”

It was a day when I finally understood myself and my purpose; I was connected to a new path, my mind became open, and that nagging social anxiety was blown away by the gentle breeze.

Another fantastic memory was while on a date in Connecticut. It was very nice, close to elegant, although it took place during the middle of the day. A visit to a local museum followed the planned luncheon. Having little expectations, I thought I would enjoy the simple pleasures of the new company, delicious food, and quiet culture; there is no way I could have guessed what unfolded that afternoon.

Newly acquainted, my suitor for the day could not have been more impressive. He had a command of traditional graces and modern-day lexicon while integrating timely gestures, making him a remarkable conversationalist, which I found extraordinarily attractive. At the same time, he possessed keen observational skills that would be used later.

Being midweek, the museum was not active; there happened to be some tourists, or at least that is what they looked like, and a platoon of security personnel who paced from gallery to gallery during our self-guided tour. At one point, after about 30 minutes of viewing different periods of works, my date asked if I had noticed that, unlike most museums, music was playing throughout the many galleries. Not being aware until it was mentioned, I found it enjoyable; the background aesthetic was now impossible to ignore.

Suddenly, the gentleman grabbed my hand and asked, “May I have this dance?” Breathless, the result of the unexpected request,

my palm unconsciously extended, and we began to move in sync; slowly and in unison, we glided across the gallery, twisting and turning to a desirous upheaval of romantic intent. What seemed like an eternity couldn’t have been much more than a string of minutes, yet we didn’t limit the interaction. Instead, we expanded it into a soft gaze, which eventually broke into hysterical laughter; we never misplaced a step.

Finally, as the music settled between selections, and we stood across from each other, my new crush took my hands once again, looked up at what appeared to be a CCTV camera, and said softly, “It seems we had an audience, and they didn’t want to disturb us.”

We finished the tour, giggling and smiling, each likely wondering what it would take to ‘one-up’ the impromptu and memorable romantic interlude.

While these two stories focus on me, I would like to conclude these thoughts by sharing an extraordinary and significant adventure, one of giving.

It was coming up on Thanksgiving, and a couple of work friends mentioned to me that they were thinking of volunteering at a soup kitchen for those who either didn’t have a home, family, or the funds to celebrate the holiday. With little prompting, a bit hesitant, I agreed to join them.

The day began at 7 a.m., and while we were rubbing sleep from our eyes outside of the church because we had participated in the tradition of celebrating the night before, a jolly bearded gentleman (yes, can you believe it) swung open the door to the

four of us and boasted in an almost too loud for our condition command, “Welcome.”

We timidly strolled in and looked around as the ‘boss’ pointed in every direction while explaining to us the things he thought we should know about the venue. At the completion of the short tour, he pulled us together and asked, “Who has restaurant experience?” While we all ate out, I seemed to be the only one who had spent time in the ‘front and back of the house’ (language describing the business model in the business of hospitality) and knew my way around. “Great,” he bellowed. “You’re in charge, and soon, there’ll be another 8 or 10 to help you—get started, he said with a beaming smile.

Shockingly, we looked at each other and began to race around the industrial-sized kitchen. With the belief the task included estimating the amount of servings relative to what we would need to prepare, a sense of relief formed when we found out we only had to do the grunt work: cook everything in the walk-in cooler and have it ready for noontime!

Without delay, we strapped on aprons, tied our hair back, and scrubbed our paws; we dove into the task at hand.

Two things happened on this day that I will never forget; the first is that my teammates enlisted me into the service of others, something everyone can benefit from doing. The closeness and camaraderie that come with food prep and sharing a special moment for others is unmatched. If nothing else, you form a special connection that instills an irreplaceable love of yourself and your abilities. The other and equally vital takeaway is the stripping of pretentiousness or hesitant reactions simply because you face the unknown. My lesson for the day was that cooking was easy and delicious, but what took effort and concentration (only at first) was to develop an empathetic connection with those we met and shared a meal with; it became a day that gave new meaning to humanity and humility.

I had never, and still to this day, have ever felt such an understanding and appreciation for strangers, people different than me. In the

Since that eye-opening day, I ceased shuffling by them in fear,and instead,I give what I can becauseI refuse to make judgments. I don’’t know their pain, anguish, or suffering egos, but I now recognize they don’t deserve to be treated as outcasts or looked upon as inferior.

past, I, like many who see them on the streets as they attempt to survive day to day, have treated them as if they were ghosts, seeing them for a moment—then put them out of our minds.

This day also changed my life; I felt a compassion that was buried deep and wanted to be released. Since that eye-opening day, I ceased shuffling by them in fear, and instead, I give what I can because I refuse to make judgments. I don’t know their pain, anguish, or suffering egos, but I now recognize they don’t deserve to be treated as outcasts or looked upon as inferior.

It is too easy to ignore those considered invisible; this new year, my resolution (yep, I have one after all) is that I plan—no, I will, acknowledge those less fortunate and offer them help and assurance. I intend to let them know that someone sees them, they have value, and their need is my need.

I wish you a wonderful and prosperous New Year! H

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Glimmer of Hope’

America’s STI Epidemic Seems To Be Slowing, But Caution Is Always Prudent

BY ROB SAINT LAURENT, M.ED.

In a November 2024 news release, the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) announced that, on the whole, sexually transmitted infections (STIs) in the U.S. have been declining, based on 2023 data.1

After peaking in 2019, STI cases dipped during the pandemic, followed by a sharp increase between 2020 and 2021. Since then, a gradual, downward trajectory has been observed, which experts believe is due to innovative prevention initiatives such as new and approved at-home tests for chlamydia, syphilis, and gonorrhea.1, 2

“I see a glimmer of hope amidst millions of STIs,” said Jonathan Mermin, M.D., MPH, who heads CDC’s National Center for HIV, Viral Hepatitis, STD, and TB Prevention. “After nearly two decades of STI increases, the tide is turning.”

While the news is encouraging, it’s important to keep a proper perspective. CDC data shows that infections in the U.S. have risen a staggering 90 percent since 2004, with nearly 2.5 million cases as of 2023—over a million more STIs than in 2004.1

Throwing caution to the wind is neither wise nor ethical, regardless of age, race, or socioeconomic status.

COMMON STIS

AND THEIR COMPLICATIONS

STIs spread mainly through sexual contact in blood, semen, and vaginal or other bodily fluids. STIs can be insidious because they don’t always produce symptoms. A person can seem perfectly healthy and harbor an STI that they unwittingly pass on to another. Because of this, many STIs go unnoticed and unreported until a partner is diagnosed or adverse effects develop down the road.3

Chlamydia is a common bacterial STI found chiefly in young women. Symptoms include genital pain, discharge, and painful urination, for example, but many people experience nothing. Chlamydia is treatable with antibiotics that may be a single dose, a daily dose, or multiple daily doses taken over 5-10 days. The infection typically clears in 1-2 weeks. Like other STIs, a person’s sexual partner should also be treated to prevent passing the infection back and forth.

Gonorrhea is a common, curable STI often occurring in people aged 15-24. Infection can occur in the genital region, rectum, and throat. Like other STIs, gonorrhea is spread through unprotected vaginal, anal, or oral sex. It can also spread to a baby during childbirth. Gonorrhea often has no symptoms but can cause serious issues if untreated with antibiotics. Symptoms, when they do appear, could include an unusual sore, foul-smelling discharge, burning during urination, or bleeding between periods.

HBV, or hepatitis B virus, can cause symptoms after about six weeks to six months from infection. About half of adults with a new infection present symptoms, while about one percent of cases lead to liver failure and death. A common symptom is jaundice (yellowing) of the skin and sclera (white of the eyes). Though there’s no cure for HBV, the condition is manageable with treatment that can prevent the virus from replicating and keep liver disease in remission. Vaccination and hepatitis B immune globulin can prevent infection.

HIV, or human immunodeficiency virus, damages white blood cells, making it harder for a person to fight infection.

You don’t have to be promiscuous to contract an STD. It only takes one time.

As the disease advances and there are fewer of these cells in the blood, the immune system is weakened, and acquired immune deficiency syndrome (AIDS) can set in. If a person has an STI, they are more likely to get HIV or pass it to others. While there’s still no cure for HIV/AIDS, progress is being made, and treatment using antiretroviral therapy (ART) is available.

HPV, or human papillomavirus, is actually a group of viruses that get in the skin or other moist areas and can result in warts lasting several days or weeks. These can be highly contagious genital warts or more common warts on different parts of the body. Once identified by a lab test or imaging, HPV can be treated with topical medication. It’s also preventable with a vaccine. HPV is common in people in their late teens and early 20s.

HSV-2, or genital herpes, is caused by the herpes simplex type 2 virus and produces painful, itchy sores in the genital area lasting several days or weeks. The virus can be spread to other parts of the body if the sores or their fluids are touched. Genital herpes has no cure but is treatable. The disease is common in people 18-35; among Americans 14-49 years of age, more than one in six people are infected.

Syphilis is a curable STI but can have serious complications if not treated with antibiotics. Syphilis is spread through contact with a syphilis sore during vaginal, anal, or oral sex (not through contact with objects like toilet seats or doorknobs). It occurs in four stages. In the first stage, a single or multiple round, painless sores may appear in the genital, anal, or mouth region, followed by skin rashes on the palms of the hands or soles of the feet in the second stage. The third stage is a dormant period. The last stage can lead to internal organ damage and death.

POTENTIAL COMPLICATIONS OF UNTREATED STIS 4

STI

Complications

Chlamydia, Gonorrhea Pelvic inflammatory disease, infertility

HBV (hepatitis B virus) Liver failure, cirrhosis, kidney disease, anemia, blood vessel inflammation

HIV

High risk of general infection, (human immunodeficiency virus) reduced life expectancy

HPV (human papillomavirus) Cancer of the cervix, anus, and penis

HSV-2 (herpes simplex virus type 2) Bladder issues, meningitis

Syphilis Blindness, dementia, loss of motor skills, and brain, heart, eye, kidney, and bone damage

Trichomoniasis (parasite) Increased risk of contracting or spreading other STIs, like HIV

Trichomoniasis, or “trich,” is the most prevalent non-viral STI worldwide. Though symptoms vary, about 70 percent of people infected with the Trichomonas vaginalis parasite don’t present symptoms and don’t know they have it. Symptoms, when they do appear, can run from mild irritation to severe inflammation in the genital region. Trich is easily curable with oral medication but, like other STIs, can recur if a person has unprotected sex with someone who has trich.

PREVENTION

At beintheknow.org, young people describe their experience with STIs and offer advice.

Virginia, who contracted chlamydia, says she didn’t realize she had it and is now concerned she may also have HIV. “I am now 18 and regret losing my virginity. You don’t have to be promiscuous to contract an STD. It only takes one time. So, if anyone considers having sex, I’m not against it because it’s a wonderful thing, but I would advise that they use condoms no matter how much they know someone and trust them. Remember, that same person probably trusted their previous loved ones and would have never suspected that they ever had a disease. So please, be safe and ‘wrap it up’...really.”

Experts advise getting tested for STIs to be sure you and your partner are safe, though finding motivation can often be difficult. Some are fearful of the potential impact on their relationship or the threat of discovering an incurable STI, like HIV. Others may think they’re in the clear because they don’t have symptoms. Yet, not getting screened can put a person at risk of spreading the

infection to others, becoming infertile, jeopardizing a pregnancy, getting or spreading HIV, and a host of complications.4

Abstinence from all sex (vaginal, anal, oral) is, of course, the best way to avoid any sexually transmitted infection. Short of that, vaccination is a safe, effective, and recommended method of preventing HBV and, for people aged 11-26, HPV. Other ways to prevent STIs are decreasing sexual partners, practicing mutual monogamy, and using condoms—correctly, consistently, and throughout the entire sex act (vaginal, anal, or oral).5

To prevent HIV, pre-exposure prophylaxis (PrEP) medication can be used for daily protection in high-risk individuals, as can post-exposure prophylaxis (PEP) in emergencies. A local PrEP provider can be found at preplocator.org. For PEP, antiretroviral drugs need to be started within 72 hours of exposure. People who believe they’ve been exposed to HIV should contact their provider or emergency room regarding PEP as soon as possible.6

States CDC, “Many STDs can be easily diagnosed and treated. If either you or your partner is infected, both of you need to receive treatment at the same time to avoid getting re-infected.” 5 H

1. Centers for Disease Control and Prevention. (2024, November 12). 2023 CDC data suggest the STI epidemic may be slowing [Press release].

2. Thompson, D. (2024, November 12). America’s Epidemic of STDs May Finally Be Slowing. US News & World Report.

3. Mayo Clinic Staff. (n.d.). Sexually transmitted diseases (STDs). Mayo Clinic.

4. Boskey, E. (2021, October 19). Risks Associated with Untreated STIs. Verywell Health.

5. Centers for Disease Control and Prevention. (2022, March 23). How You Can Prevent Sexually Transmitted Diseases.

6. Office of Population Affairs. (n.d.). Preventing HIV. U.S. Department of Health and Human Services.

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LOVE IS A BATTLE — A Peace Treaty Is Nowhere In Sight

BY STEVEN CHAN

It wasn’t enough that you had to live up to the expectations of women, many of whom believed they deserved the best of the 1 percent of the male population, then deal with suspicions of being used as a placeholder while your partner searches for someone better, a.k.a. the pains of hypergamy, they also demanded you deconstruct your masculinity and engulf yourself into a feminine emotional state in order to gain acceptance by potential partners at the risk of being tossed into the ‘friend zone.’ Now, as we fast forward to 2025 and since the recent Presidential election, the loony tunes are invoking what is known as the ‘4B Movement.’

HERE IS HOW IT UNRAVELS

Some American women learned of South Korea’s 4B Movement, which began back around 2010; it was a response and form of protest related to crime and violence against women on their soil.

The literature shows that ‘4’ is used as a multiplier of ‘B,’ which is an indicator of the Korean word ‘bi,’ translating to ‘no’ and alludes to the meaning of ‘none’ or ‘anti;’ hence, ‘4 No’s.’

You may be asking what Korean and U.S. women are saying no to. Look no further; we found that those clinging to the trendy moniker are promoting—and perhaps following through with threats, that will be the start of a social, cultural, and generational wake in an already turbulent sea of relationship and sexual uncertainty.

Here it goes: First, Donald J. Trump is to blame for the revolt, and because of this

you will not be finding a girlfriend, getting sex, or starting a family from here on out; the reasons are simple although convoluted (here we go again); they say he is a threat not only to democracy but to every female in the country, because the [his] Supreme Court, overturning Roe v. Wade which now allows individual states to decide—through their representatives, elected by citizens, how abortion laws will be enforced (or not). Still, the newly elected Commander in Chief of the country is considered at fault, according to the radical arm of womanhood.

But enough about politics; we are here to discuss the knee-jerk reactions men and women face to this and a few other troublesome issues.

The proposed boycott by an unknown number of U.S. women appears to be riddled with emotional and physical resentment channeled toward men in general. Although the movement’s leaders haven’t publicly admitted to this, they subtly place

THE 4B PROTESTERS’ DOCTRINE: No Marriage, No Childbirth, No Romance (dating and having fun?), and No Sex (except with other women); it’s true, yet an unrealistic expectation and somewhat intolerant of an individual’s choice.

responsibility on the masculines (specifically the younger ones) for pushing a specific candidate to victory and into the Oval Office—it seems like it is about politics. The problem with this reasoning is that polling numbers indicate a mandate and a desire for sweeping reform by more than half of all voters, which firmly includes the feminine gender—sorry.

So, here we go with a description of exactly what punishment you guys face. The 4B protesters’ doctrine is as follows: No Marriage, No Childbirth, No Romance (dating and having fun?), and No Sex (except with other women); it’s true, yet an unrealistic expectation and somewhat intolerant of an individual’s choice.

Troubling is that while the blame game festers, some scholars attribute this rebellion against nature—and that is what it is, more a view related to educational and career options, accompanied by a belief that men don’t contribute enough to romantic partnerships. Many women don’t see marriage as an attractive alternative to their futures and view it as a trap to keep them tied to the home. From the extreme, hardcore feminists, we hear a more vocal call in that they are urging women not to become ‘baby-making machines’ and encouraging their cadre to no longer ‘look so good;’ it is a message of protest against attractiveness, but worse, self-worth, value, and identity, which is absurd.

Obviously, this wedge raises eyebrows (no pun intended) and serious concerns because it will undoubtedly titrate young children and adolescents into believing these false narratives while adding to the already dangerous educational reforms and the indoctrination of values incongruent with their parents or guardians.

THERE’S MORE

Society is built on procreation, security, and freedom, and it is based on a capable and full complement of military preparedness at all levels of government, begging the question, do we need to take these actions seriously? Indeed, there will be a temporary tide arriving on our shores, and it will get noticed as most short-lived fads do. Still, the question remains: can the absence of women’s participation in what makes us humankind affect the country’s birthrate? It is unthinkable that a small but loud group

of dissenters actually believe they have the power and membership to shift evolution.

As for men who plan to date this coming year, don’t be fooled; while the issue of 4B will be nothing but a topic of conversation across bars and at cocktail parties, you have your work cut out. Women are advancing while men are in decline; it’s one of the reasons females are becoming very fussy with their choices in selecting a partner. At the same time, generationally, dating culture has shifted, and it isn’t uncommon for the sexes to segregate in social situations. Some place blame on men’s sensitivity and a refusal to be humiliated when ‘shot down’ or disregarded when making a play for social interaction. At the same time, it is well documented that males, particularly, have faced a plethora of financial setbacks from the pandemic,

inflation, and rising housing costs, causing them to extract from traditional roles and forms of mating, which include dating, getting engaged, marriage, and having children; they are physically and mentally avoiding the process entirely.

On the other hand, women are coming into their own and choosing to wait and not get serious with one person; in their 20s and early 30s, they still have options and opportunities, but they face the curtain closing down. Social media has wall-to-wall posting and blogs about how “A woman’s value decreases with age, as a man’s increases.” (not our words or beliefs). However, from the women we have spoken to, some initially dance around the issue but ultimately admit that their clock is ticking, and it gets louder after 25 years old. By the

time 30 rolls around, alarms begin to go off, and once they pass 35 years of age, all bets are off, and an earnest search begins—with standards and expectations plummeting.

Reputable relationship therapists are reporting that women are sharing the fact that they held out for the 1-5 percent of available men, while now, as they age, they are feeling pressured to be satisfied with the 20-30 percent ranked guys. But this, too, has become a problem; the reason is that those initially passed by while holding a position in the second-tiered have gone on to create wealth, worked on themselves (emotionally), and are finding an unimaginable number of young women interested in them romantically as they reach their late 30s, 40s and beyond.

Researchers predict that by the year 2030, 45 percent of women from 25-44 will be single and childless; those numbers will continue to rise year after year. Adding to the concern, according to Pew Research Center (2022), “30 percent of [all] U.S. adults are neither married, living with a partner nor engaged in a committed relationship [and] nearly half of all young adults are single: 34 percent of women, and a whopping 63 percent of men. Not surprisingly, the decline in relationships marches astride with a decline in sex. The share of sexually active Americans stands at a 30-year low. Around 30 percent of young men reported in 2019 that they had no sex in the past year, compared to about 20 percent of young women.” (This indicates the most desirable male candidates—the 1 percent are getting and sharing multiple partners, while less alluring men face a drought).

Compounding concern is that according to the same source, “...only half of the available single men are actively seeking relationships or even casual dates, and that figure is declining.”

To summarize, everyone has a right to their choices unless, of course, they harm another; if half the women in the U.S. want solitude and be left to grow old without male companionship, so be it. But, they should consider, and something we have previously addressed, more and more American men are going overseas to find companionship and wives—and with this new assault on intimacy, their ambition to seek love outside our borders will only grow.

Realistically, does anyone believe that will can override thousands of years of human development and alter our genetic predisposition? That is the question of the day; as for our thoughts, we think not. H

BY ELIZABETH RAFLOWITZ

So many of us have fond memories of Faneuil Hall and Quincy Market: shopping, a bazaar of mouth-watering dining options, and, of course, we’ve lifted a glass (or two) in a toast to just about anything, the day, the weather, new friends; yes, you get the point, but now there is a new reason to plan a visit with friends, family, or for a perfect first, second or third date. It’s the opening of the highly anticipated ‘Museum of Illusions Boston.’

After opening this past November, the word went viral, revealing those brave souls who had to be the first to experience mind-altering exhibits that deliver extraordinary optics!

Museum of Illusions Boston is permanently located and now a fixture at Marketplace Center, adjacent to the Rose Kennedy Greenway and Faneuil Hall. The purpose of this unusual yet entertaining experience can be found at every level of human understanding— while often keeping us astonished by visual uncertainties.

Part fascination, a hefty amount of amusement, combined with a different form of educational insight, its purpose is to inspire visitors by offering a deeper understanding of the complexities of human experience through their perceptions and perspectives through a collection of alternative archetypes of rooms, intriguing installations, and surprising images that will leave you stunned.

The Museum invites curious minds of all ages to explore a fascinating world where science meets illusion. The immersive exhibits play with light and physics, providing an engaging STEM experience that will dazzle those with a curious mind. The expansive layout houses extensive ‘interactive’ displays and installations scientifically based, leaving the mind bewildered. It is a destination that transforms learning into a fun and photo-worthy adventure for posting on your favorite social media sites.

Unique to Boston, the organization has made every effort to include selected exhibits tied to the city’s rich history and cultural icons. One such example is the ‘Building Illusion’ modeled after one of Boston’s few remaining cast iron arcaded structures, along with the ‘Reversed Room’ that not only pays homage to Boston’s basketball street culture, centered around the city’s basketball history, but will have you laughing in amazement.

Rob Cooper, CEO of LOL Entertainment, the parent company of Museum of Illusions Boston, had this to say prior to the opening. “We’re incredibly excited to see the Museum of Illusions taking shape and are pleased to open our doors to the people of Boston. This isn’t just a museum—it’s a place designed to mesmerize and entrance visitors, inviting them to see the world from a new perspective. We can’t wait for Bostonians to step inside and experience the wonder and excitement that awaits.”

The immersive exhibits

play with perception, light, and physics, providing an engaging STEM experience that will dazzle those with a curious mind.

In support of such an unusual and enchanting form of interaction with science, Stacy Stec, Director of Sales & Marketing with LOL Entertainment, expanded on the importance they offer the community when she explained to us, “Our exhibits aren’t just visually stunning— they’re an interactive journey through the principles of science, math, and human perception. The Museum of Illusions Boston turns complex STEM concepts into hands-on experiences that spark curiosity and inspire learning for visitors of all ages. We encourage everyone to question what they see and understand, [then ask] why?”

Stec added, “From optical illusions to

mind-bending puzzles, our exhibits make science and critical thinking exciting, accessible, and fun. We’re proud to have created a space where STEM comes to life; The Museum of Illusions Boston is more than a museum—it’s a hub for creativity and discovery that showcases how science can astonish and amaze.”

The Museum, the world’s fastestgrowing museum chain, first opened in 2015 in Zagreb, Croatia, and has spread to more than 52 museums globally. The Museum of Illusions Boston will be the first in New England and is one of the largest among the Museum of Illusions’ global presence!

During the new year, the doors will be open seven days a week from 10 a.m. – 8 p.m. and Saturdays and Sundays from 10 a.m. – 9 p.m.

Besides tourists and locals being drawn into the new and fascinating world of illusions, school groups are both invited and encouraged to participate in this incredible ‘field trip’ opportunity that will spark learning and discussion. H

For more information on the Museum of Illusions Boston, as well as updates on programming, visit moiboston.com, and be sure to follow the Museum of Illusions Boston on Facebook and Instagram

NEW SNOW PRODUCT REVIEW:

2025 REVOLUTIONARY & INNOVATIVE GEAR

It’s that time of year when getting outside and moving is on everyone’s mind. As for those who pull out their equipment and contemplate an upgrade or improvement of the winter, on-snow lifestyle, we offer some exciting choices that have made their way from the drafting table to onto the snow. Each one of these products is remarkable and meets the needs of today’s athletes, whether professionals or weekend warriors.

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We start with a cool accessory every snowboarder should have clipped to the jacket; it’s the Americanmade Gripsta!

Few riders—if any— would recognize it by sight, but once they realize its necessity, they’ll never go back to struggling to get on and off their boards. It works like this: Most often, when strapping in or releasing your boots from a binding, the board has a tendency to slip and slide, causing momentum to build, resulting in a fall and frustration. It’s logical that with two feet secure (and no brake), your ride is going to have a mind of its own and head downhill.

FIX THE HEEL PROBLEM WITH PROFLEX!

We went out and randomly asked skiers what the most significant problem their boots caused them from enjoying a day on the slopes or improving their skill stack; remarkably, more than half of those we spoke to claimed that a “loose heel” was a major issue. We heard from dozens of skiers about trying ‘heel-cups,’ new liner beds, extra socks (that never work), and expensive customized liners that couldn’t eliminate the issue. Because of these reasons, many were ready to bail on finding a solution.

But there is help, and we found it with the patented PROFLEX! This one-of-a-kind—Made In Vermont—system offers a unique and straightforward resolution to a complex problem. The genius behind this idea takes the typical yet ineffective boot-

But not anymore; when you’re ready to lock in or out of your board, attach the Gripsta to the edge and secure it from undesirable movement, so you no longer have to fight gravity!

Order yours today, and “Enjoy More Boarding & Less Sitting.” gripsta.com. H

strap and produces results skiers have longed for, but up until now, were unable to locate.

The inventors discovered that by applying downward pressure to the tongue of the boot liner, the flap ends up remaining securely in place while offering internal comfort and control, plus holding the liner together as it was intended and needed most. Restricting the annoying and troublesome back and forward movement internally provides a secure fit, which means more control of your skis.

In all, the PROFLEX allows the liner to wrap around all areas of the foot, so there is no need to ‘buckle down’ so much that circulation is restricted, causing pain and cold feet.

Stop the worry and start enjoying your time on the snow; go to skiproflex.com and order a set today. H

SHOCKINGLY GOOD NEWS FROM NEXT LEVEL PLATFORMS’ SHREDSHOX

Unbelievable, fascinating, and game changer were a few of the comments heard by attendees at the Boston Snowbound Expo in November as they locked into the Next Level Platforms’ SHREDSHOX groundbreaking skiing suspension system.

Called the “most significant advancement in ski equipment in decades,” if not ever, the innovation and transformative results

of giving a typical ski the advantage of a ‘shock absorber’ is beyond comprehension.

After years of research and development, the experts at Next Level Platforms have devised a suspension and damping system that fits onto the ski, allowing the SHREDSHOX to accommodate practically any binding on the market. Its specialized patent uses scientific knowledge to eliminate recoil, bouncing, and chatter (vibration radiating to the skier), which are customary to Alpine skiing. It replaces it with stability and improved edge control, reducing muscle fatigue, improving performance, and lessening the chance of injury through a raised platform. It also allows the ‘shock’ of the terrain to be more equally distributed across the entire ski surface.

Whether you freestyle, hit the bumps, love speed—or are getting on in years and need a more comfortable ride, Next Level Platforms’ SHREDSHOX is worth a look.

Go to shredshox.com . H

Raises the Bar on Performance Excellence BOSTON BALLET

BY CATHERINE HILDERBRAND

On Friday, November 29, at 7:30 p.m., the Citizen’s Opera House was filled with thousands of men, women, and children of all ages; it was the opening night of the warmly anticipated event of the holiday season, The Nutcracker.

What many refer to as a family tradition spanning years if not generations, thousands made their way into the venue, bringing with them enthusiasm as they passed through the narrow doorways of the theater’s lobby, off of Washington Street, part of Boston’s entertainment district.

Throngs of guests flowed into the historic playhouse with smiles aglow, dressed in eclectic evening attire—others in period costumes, many walking, skipping, or jumping as if they seemed to identify their entrance as a red-carpet runway opportunity. With anticipation, they moved as quickly as possible to the plush vestibule, a great hall leading into the ‘house,’ smartly decorated for the seasonal event; the tenor of the crowd rose to a fever pitch. Few, if any, gave the refreshment bar a second look; this evening was atypical. Everyone’s focus was on the grand stairway and its rotunda, their hands glued to their phones for photo-ops of the illustrious décor; it is such a delightful location—only one of many vantage points where memories would be captured and shared of this enchanted evening.

The Nutcracker is perhaps one of the most ambitious performances of the Boston Ballet’s season. According to Mikko Nissinen, Artistic Director and Event Choreography, “[It] is one of the most technically challenging choreography in classical ballet that showcases the incredible talent of our world-class Company and the Boston Ballet School students.”

A representation of the claims is found in the details:

✽ More than 100,000 guests will see the show between November 29 and December 29

✽ 150 dancers will have performed

✽ 350 costumes are necessary

✽ 45 musicians played

✽ Equipment, props, and accessories took 24 trailers to transport

✽ The snow that fell in the theater totals 2,300 pounds and must be gathered between scene changes

✽ The fabulous tree on stage is 240 feet tall

While this performance is often the most recognizable event for the dance company by the masses, it shouldn’t be the only one to attend; there is an entire season of splendor scheduled for the new year. Coming to the stage in February is the legendary Swan Lake; considered a cultural marvel, its intricacies, demands upon talent, and beauty expound pure elegance and ballet sovereignty; it is not to be missed. H

For additional information, visit bostonballet.org.

DAY TRIPPING!

Catch a fast, fun, safe trip to beautiful Cuttyhunk Island on board the M/V Cuttyhunk!

• Depart from New Bedford’s historic waterfront; a short walk to downtown New Bedford’s many restaurants, boutique shops, museums & galleries.

• Enjoy the gorgeous views of Buzzards Bay as you make your way to the laid back island of Cuttyhunk.

• Friday Night Sunset Cruises! Breathtaking scenery, comfortable accommodations, not to be missed excursion.

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RESERVATIONS ARE REQUIRED FOR ALL PASSENGERS AND FREIGHT

To get a ticket you must have a reservation through our online reservation system. No charge for children 2 years and younger. The office must be notified at the time of ticket purchase about each child 2 years and under that will be traveling with you, in order to accurately count all persons on board the vessel. Dogs, on leash, are welcome at no charge. For non-web or special group payments and for check, cash or different form of payment, please email reservations@cuttyhunkferryco.com or call 508.992.0200. You can leave a message and your reservation will be held.

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