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Friend or foe?

Tips for helping guide your child to healthy friendships.

Katie Wadington, editor

Time for college A guide for starting the hunt for a college education.

The 3 Rs WNC students dive into recycling.

Tween reads Librarian Jennifer Prince offers ideas for advanced readers.

Sporty kids Buncombe County youth sports have more than 10,000 participants.

A roundup of holiday season events in WNC.

Theater for kids

Thanksgiving leftovers

Kids get cooking Children can play a part in the Thanksgiving feast.

Day Tripper Spend the day in familyfriendly Hendersonville.

Holiday event calendar

Monthly performances for families come to Asheville Community Theatre.

Recipes and tips on how to use up the turkey, cranberry sauce and more.

In every issue

On the cover

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Sarah Bonea by Amanda Prince Photography, aprincephoto.com Photographed at N.C. Arboretum, ncarboretum.org

Day Tripper .....................22 Kids’ Voices .....................29 Story Times .....................42 Librarian’s Picks...............42 Home-School Happenings.44 Growing Together............46 Divorced Families ............48 Puzzles............................59 Kids Page ........................60 Calendar .........................61

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Coming up with story ideas for this issue may be the easiest part of my job. As the mom of a 12-year-old daughter and 9-year-old son, I simply try to think of stories I’d like to read in an issue focusing on tweens and teens. So this month you’ll find a story on childhood friendship. What is a parent to do when your child has a friend you think may be a bad influence? How do you influence your child in choosing good friends? We offer guidance from experts starting on Page 5. With a daughter in seventh grade, college is closer than I’d like to admit for our family. Where do you even start when thinking about choosing a college? Our story on Page 7 lays out a timeline. Outside of teens and tweens, I’m excited to introduce two new features for the magazine this month: a food column from Kate Justen, director of FEAST, found on Page 38, and an arts and crafts column from Ginger Huebner, director of Roots + Wings School of Art, on Page 39. I’m thrilled to add even more local voices to WNC Parent. Speaking of food, we’ve got several Thanksgiving stories to help you plan. On Page 18, get ideas from local chef Adam Hayes on how to involve children in cooking the big feast. And starting on Page 50 you’ll find recipes and tips for what to do with all those leftovers (the cranberry-topped cheesecake pie is my favorite idea). And with the holiday season upon us, we’ve got your family’s ultimate guide to holiday events around WNC. Our holiday calendar starts on Page 31. Happy Thanksgiving!

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Navigating

FRIENDSHIPS

How to influence your child’s choice of peers and ease your mind when worrisome relationships develop

By James Shea

WNC Parent contributor

There are no easy answers when raising a child. As children get older, they are subject to a variety of influences, including their peers. While many of these influences can be positive, some are not. A child can start “running with the wrong crowd” and make bad decisions. As Geoffrey Bullock, a local licensed clinical social worker, said: “We take on the qualities of the friends and the people we associate with.”

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Here are some tips on influencing your children’s social peers.

Assess your concerns

Are you concerned about the people your child spends time with? The initial impulse is to react strongly, but oftentimes concerns are unwarranted. “We are wired to protect our kids,” Bullock said. “If we think they are doing something we don’t like, our maternal instincts kick in. We often have assumptions that are unwarranted.” Continues on Page 6

“We are wired to protect our kids. If we think they are doing something we don’t like, our maternal instincts kick in. We often have assumptions that are unwarranted.”

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Start early with helping select peers Young children are more easily influenced and are rarely in unsupervised situations. Parents should work with their children at a young age and tell them that making good choices with friends is important. “There has to be a whole momentum setting things up early in life,” Bullock said. “You are setting up capital for when they are rebellious.”

Play detective

Parents should learn about the peers that their child is hanging out with. “Tell them that you want a friend to come over, because you want to meet that person,” said Maureen Healy, of Asheville, who runs the website www.growing happykids.com. “You need to be a detective.” A straight-laced kid can sometimes be more of a bad influence than the kid who has green hair and dresses in black, Healy said.

Get to know other parents

A parent may be able to better understand some of another child’s character by meeting his or her parents. You will learn how much influence the parent has on the child and can get a sense of whether corrective action needs to be taken in a friendship. By getting to know other parents, you can also keep better tabs on your child. “Check in on them and make sure they are where they say they are at,” said Roberson High School counselor Michelle Eldridge .

Play your role: Be the parent

Asheville Middle School counselor Jesse Pitt said he cringes when parents say they are their child’s best friend, adding a child should have a clear line of authority. “I want parents to be parents and friends to be friends,” Pitt said. “Kids crave structure, and they crave expectations.”

Be direct with the child

Children do better when expectations are presented clearly. If you tell a child that he or she needs to be home by a certain time, you must present reasons. Don’t do the classic parenting line of, “Because I say so.” You need to tell them about the dangers of being out late.

One way to learn more about your child's friends is to meet the parents. GANNETT “You really have to be direct,” Healy said. “There is no beating around the bush.”

Help children learn about themselves

Children are different, with unique skills, talents and ways of seeing the world. Parents can influence the people with whom they associate by helping them learn about these abilities and interests. “Help your kids to identify their strengths and weaknesses and let them know that they can come to you when they are in trouble,” said Ilene Procida, a licensed professional counselor at Child Abuse Prevention Service. “You’re creating an atmosphere based on trust and mutual respect, that’s key. Let kids know that you still love them when they do dumb stuff.”

Guide children

Most children don’t respond well to direct confrontation. Parents need to talk with them and help them find the right choices in life because as they get older, parents have less and less influence . Parents should ask probing questions and direct the conversation where they want it to go. As Bullock says, “You have to use the back door.”

Find constructive activities

There are many different activities that can influence a child’s friends, including sports, church groups, band, choir or student government. A parent must find out what interests a child and have him or her get involved in those activities. “You need to make it easy,” Eldridge said. “Tell them that an activity is going on

Geoffrey Bullock, licensed clinical social worker

at a specific time and ask if they want to participate. It doesn’t have to be sports because not all kids are interested in sports.”

It’s the behavior not the child

When speaking with a child about your concerns, you shouldn’t focus on the friend. You should tell the child that a particular behavior is unacceptable. “It’s the behavior, not the friend,” Pitt said. “Don’t say they are a bad person.”

Direct consequences

If your child does something that you asked him or her not to do, there needs to be direct consequence. For many children, this is technology, where a parent can take away Internet privileges or the cell phone. “That seems to have a lot of weight today,” Pitt said.

Talk about the future

A child can be directed toward making better peer choices when you ask about the future. “If you ask them where will that friend be in a year or two, they might reflect on that,” Bullock said. Children live in the moment, he said, and getting them to think about the future can help their decision-making process.

Have a third party get involved

A school counselor or licensed professional counselor can help facilitate the conversation. Sometimes children will listen to third parties. Bullock said he has to tell the child, “I am your counselor and not parent’s mouthpiece. I can pursue it differently.”

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Shopping for a college By Pam J. Hecht

WNC Parent contributor

For some parents, thinking about college — and saving to fund it — starts before their child knows any of the letters in “SAT.” For others, when their kids hit mid-high school, it’s crunch time. Choosing a college “is like buying a prom dress: There are hundreds of beautiful gowns, but usually there’s one that feels just right,” says Kitty Kelly, senior counselor at Charles D. Owen High School in Black Mountain. But with so many college choices out there, how do you narrow down the hunt? Here’s a game plan.

Do your homework

Begin by perusing college handbooks available at local bookstores and school guidance offices, says Kelly. Look for “official” books that give stats on each school, as well as “unofficial” versions that give the inside scoop on college life, she adds. Patrice Mitchell, dean of admissions at UNC Asheville, suggests students Google away — lots of free information about schools, financial aid and scholarships is available online — and visit college websites. Also, students should meet with a high school counselor, who can provide information like stats on different schools, entrance exams and application assistance.

Make a wish list

Students should consider the majors offered, size of the school, distance from home, athletics and other activities, and local environment. For example, a school in a busier, urban setting may provide more area internship opportunities, says Mitchell. “Find a school that will feed your passion,” she says. “Go with your gut feeling Continues on Page 8

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Owen High School counselor Kitty Kelly helps senior Lindsay House with her college applications. Kelly offers after-school college application help sessions for students. ERIN BRETHAUER/EBRETHAU@CITIZEN-TIMES.COM

“It’s important to physically visit a college campus you’re considering, for a firsthand experience,” says Mitchell. Kids should “ask if they can picture themselves there.”

Start with schools nearby, even if you don’t know whether you’re interested in them, and visit a variety of different-sized schools, says Kelly. “Students will learn something about themselves through each visit they make, and they can then widen or narrow their search,” she says. After a second visit to what initially was her first-choice school, Kelly’s daughter Jordan changed her mind. She spent a night on campus and discovered it wasn’t a good social match for her, Kelly says. Jordan is now a sophomore at Washington University in St. Louis. While on a college trip, plan to see two or three in one day — if you get in to the first early, you can see another one that day, adds Mitchell. Go online to sign up for tours and

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and ask, ‘Is this somewhere I can thrive and make a difference?’” Karen Paly, of Asheville, said her daughter Erin, a high school senior, wanted a midsized school, so that eliminated the smallest and largest schools. She eventually focused on a few North Carolina state schools because “you can get a good education at these schools,” in addition to them being both a good value and close to home, she says, adding that they would consider pricier, out-ofstate schools for post-grad education.

Visit schools

Jordan Kelly, from left, with new friends, Sally Rausch of Columbia, S.C., and Olivia Cosentino of St. Louis, visiting Washington University in St. Louis. All three attend the University. SPECIAL TO WNC PARENT/

TO DO LIST: 9th grade: Take challenging courses, keep grades up and participate in one or two school or community activities. Meet your high school guidance counselor and discuss plans for the next four years. Can begin taking the PSAT/NMSQT (Preliminary SAT/National Merit Scholarship Qualifying Test) for practice. Start thinking about career and college possibilities. 10th grade: Attend high school information meetings and meet with school counselor to discuss course selection. Deepen activity involvement and consider a unique summer experience like Outward Bound or volunteering/working at a nonprofit or other organization. Begin visiting colleges when on family vacations or visit a relative at school. Take the PSAT/NMSQT and PLAN (ACT review test). If considering a highly selective college, take Advanced Placement/honors courses when possible. 11th grade: Meet with school counselor and continue visiting colleges, attend campus tours and if possible, arrange to sit in on classes. Start application process. Research and begin applying for financial aid, scholarships and grants. Attend college fairs, financial aid seminars and general information sessions. Consider test review classes or online/home practice tests. Take PSAT/NMSQT for National Merit Scholarship consideration. Take ACT and/or SAT and SAT II Subject tests. 12th grade: Complete college and financial aid applications – most schools have mid-fall and January deadlines; some accept applications as late as early March. Retake SAT/ACT tests, if necessary. Attend school information sessions and meet with school counselor to review plans. Attend college open houses for a more in-depth look at two or three schools of interest. After acceptance, notify the school you plan to attend by May 1.

ONLINE RESOURCES:

Financial aid, www.fafsa.ed.gov; www.finaid.org; www.fastweb.com. College Foundation of North Carolina, www.cfnc.org Princeton Review, www.princetonreview.com National Center for Education Statistics, www.nces.ed.gov/collegenavigator SAT, www.collegeboard.org class visits, and speak with attending students in majors of interest. During the past two years, when the Palys went on a trip, they’d stop by a college in whatever city they were visiting. After spending two days at the University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill, including a visit to a friend’s dorm, school cafeteria and a class, Erin made that school her first choice. “I could see it on her face,” says Paly. “She said, ‘I can see myself coming here.’”

Keep an open mind

Don’t make assumptions, says Mitchell. You may idolize a particular school, but in reality, it may not be the right fit. Well-known or Ivy League schools may not necessarily be a better option than lesser-known schools. Also, don’t rule out a school based on the cost — go through the scholarship and financial aid process first,

Mitchell says. Paley suggests having an alternate plan in case your first choice doesn’t work out. While Erin’s first choice is UNC Chapel Hill, she is applying to other schools as backups. “We always encourage students to apply to three schools: one where their stats of GPA and test scores exceed the midrange of admitted students, one where their stats meet the midrange of accepted students and a dream school that’s a stretch — you never know unless you apply,” says Kelly. She says parents and students need to start considering post-secondary plans in ninth grade, with the right courses, a solid grade point average, and an extra-curricular activity or two. Be prepared, so that your school choices will one day be within reach.

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Recycling starts young

Schools build reducing and reusing into culture By Betty Lynne Leary WNC Parent contributor

More than 40 years ago, our nation celebrated the first Earth Day, sparking the modern environmental movement. Communities large and small began looking at ways to reduce waste, reuse items that once would have been thrown away, and recycle more trash. In WNC, recycling efforts began in earnest 20 years ago mostly out of concern for the environment. Today, recycling is big business with high demand and value for recycled products. And it’s not just homes and businesses with an interest in recycling, but students in public, private, and charter schools who put the three Rs — reduce, reuse, recycle — into practice every day. The Recycling Club at Oakley Elementary became so popular

Seventh-grade students paint recycling cans as a service project for Evergreen Community Charter School’s recycling program. SPECIAL TO WNC PARENT

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with the kids that third-grade teacher and club sponsor Chelsea Acton had to create more jobs for the group. “Club members would pick up the paper and plastics to be recycled and bag it,” Acton explains. “More kids wanted to get involved, so now we have class recyclers — someone in each classroom to be responsible for collecting recyclables and bagging them.” Oakley was one of the first schools to be certified through the Buncombe County Green Schools Program. In addition to collecting paper and plastics to be recycled, the students at Oakley recycle aluminum cans to raise money for the purchase of Smart Boards. The library also recycles all sorts of electronics like cell phones, batteries and laptops to raise money for new technology. At North Buncombe High School, students in the occupational course of study recycle between 3,000 and 5,000 pounds of materials each month under the guidance of Michelle Roberts, occupational prep teacher. “We create a job simulation that is run like a business,” Roberts says. “It has to be self-sustaining, and the students learn essential job skills such as working on a team, giving directions to peers, and even how to stand for 90 minutes at a time.” Continues on Page 12

Students from Haw Creek show one of their many art projects made from recyclable materials. SPECIAL TO WNC PARENT

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Kindergartner Nevaeh Flinn demonstrates how her class composts their food scraps at Evergreen Community Charter School. SPECIAL TO WNC PARENT

Students gather and sort newspaper and colored and white paper, which is sold to Asheville Waste Paper. The group also collects aluminum cans and plastic bottles. Roberts says it’s not unusual to find bags of donated recyclables on the doorstep when she comes to school. “When the landfill started refusing plastic bottles, it all started coming to me,” she notes. “I love it. I could do recycling all time. All the kids in school recycle because it’s just as easy to throw things into the recycling bins instead of the trash.” North Buncombe also has a program called Free Cycle where science teacher Mike Rowe gathers items that have been thrown away that are still usable. Notebooks, composition books, dividers, and other items are deposited in the school’s Media Center. Students who need supplies may take them free of charge. Roberts said she would love to see mandatory recycling in Buncombe County as is the practice in Mitchell and Yancey counties. “I think it would be great to have a gigantic recycling center here,” she says. “After I retire from teaching, I would work there and hire these kids out of school. It would be awesome.” The students at Owen Middle School see recycling as simply a way of life says Teresa Cowan, sixth-grade science and math teacher. Not only does the school recycle paper, plastics, glass, and alumi-

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The Oakley Elementary Recycling Team proved so popular that advisers had to create more jobs for students. SPECIAL TO WNC PARENT num, but they work recycling into the curriculum as well. “One of my favorite projects in sixth grade is when students use recycled products to create something to wear or a toy that can be played with repetitively,” Cowan explains. “Then we have a fashion show and toy expo which is great fun!” Incoming sixth-graders are trained in recycling and quickly learn that it is part of the culture at OMS. “Students often get so involved they share their feelings on recycling with their families,” Cowan says. “I have even had students bring recycling from home to school.” She adds that Owen was proud to be certified as a Green School to showcase what they have been doing for years. To qualify as a Green School, schools document and submit results for at least 10 of 35 criteria provided by the Buncombe County Green School Program. Last June, 12 schools were honored with a certificate

and a banner to hang proclaiming their status as a Green School. “This very exciting and very successful initiative is just the beginning for Buncombe County Schools,” says Kay McLeod, science specialist with BCS. “The program was just initiated last year, and these schools exceeded the expectations of the organizing team.” Evergreen Charter School in East Asheville was founded on the principles of environmental education and stewardship. According to Terry Deal, environmental education coordinator for Evergreen, the students practice four Rs. “Reuse is the first option always,” Deal explains. “Then reduce, recycle and refuse.” Students learn to refuse to use things that have too much packaging and are wasteful. Recycling is only the beginning at Evergreen with waste-free lunches — think reusable containers and real silverware — cloth towels by the sinks in-

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stead of paper and composting in every classroom. “It’s part of our curriculum and part of our culture,” Deal says. “The kids love it and they participate fully.” In addition to the typical paper, aluminum, plastic, and electronics recycling, Evergreen collects hard-to-recycle items such as pens, markers, scotch tape dispensers, glue sticks, and granola bar wrappers and sells them to TerraCycle, a company specializing in upcycling. “They take these items and make new things out of them,” she explains. “It’s a great way to help a school with fundraising.” Students take all of these lessons to heart, Deal adds. “I’ve had students tell their parents not to buy a certain product because it has too much packaging. The more we model here at school, the more we’re teaching our whole community, and that’s good for everyone.”

books for a well-read tween

By Jennifer Prince WNC Parent contributor

Pairing the right book with the right child can be a challenge. When the child is a quick, competent reader, and devours book after book, pairing him or her with challenging, yet ageappropriate reading material poses yet another challenge. For the 8- to 12-year-old set, a few books stand out as exemplars of well-written, compelling works that, with little publicity, have not received much fanfare. For readers who loved the Hardy Boys, but are past that reading level, consider the more sophisticated mystery “Death Cloud.” This book is the first in a series about Sherlock Holmes as a teenager and is the only series about Holmes that is endorsed by the estate of Sir Arthur Conan Doyle. Written by British author Andrew Lane, “Death Cloud” opens in 1868 when the main character, Holmes, is 14. At the beginning of his summer vacation, Holmes meets up with an Artful Dodger sort of boy, Matty. With the help of Matty and his new tutor, Amyus Crowe, and Crowe’s daughter, Virginia, Holmes uses his burgeoning skills of logic and deduction to figure out how and why two village people were stricken with sudden onset of red (and lethal) swellings on their skin. Could it be a recurrence of the plague? What about the apparently sentient dark cloud that appeared by the bodies at the point of death? Full of action, historical detail and a robust vocabulary, readers will appreciate this smart story

and likely go searching for the sequels. Another book to consider is “Juniper Berry: A Tale of Terror and Temptation” by M.P. Kozlowsky. In this modern-day allegory, 11-year-old Juniper lives an isolated existence on her movie star parents’ fenced and guarded estate. When she meets a boy, Giles, from a neighboring estate, they discover both have parents who have changed radically in the past few years. Both sets of parents went from loving and attentive to cruel and indifferent. Juniper and Giles are determined to find out why. Piecing together clues and taking cues from a woodsman and a raven, Juniper and Giles discover that their parents’

problems have something to do with a gnarled old tree in the woods. The pair is swept into an adventure that challenges how they view themselves, contentment and success. Incorporating motifs from Hans Christian Andersen, Frances Hodgson Burnett and Aesop, Kozlowsky weaves a tale where children come to the aid of misguided adults, and allies are found in a loyal dog, a woodsman, and in one’s own resolve and wisdom. Young readers who prefer nonfiction might enjoy “George Washington, Spymaster: How the Americans Outspied the British and Won the Revolutionary War” by Thomas B. Allen. Written for readers who have at least a basic knowledge of the American Revolution, Allen describes in detail espionage during this time. Allen has a keen ear for narrative. While there is a profusion of names dates, and locations, the narrative flow never bogs down. Allen’s writing is concise and well-suited to young readers who like a bit of a challenge. Included are fascinating accounts of the successes and failures of specific spies, the ways in which messages were encoded and decoded, and how espionage turned the tide for the Americans. Young readers will learn about instruments of secrecy: lemon juice ink, the

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clothesline message system, masked letters and the practice of swallowing messages entombed in small, hollowed out silver balls. With facts garnered from thoroughly documented and well researched sources, Allen includes specific accounts in which these instruments of secrecy were used. The physical appearance of the book is winning. The edges of the pages are slightly jagged, giving the book the appearance of having been constructed in the old style. The font is a replica of a font used in 1774. The illustrations, a combination of penand-ink sketches by artist Cheryl Harness and archival materials, are rendered in black and white. The overall effect is that of reading a book that might have been printed during George Washington’s day. Another work of nonfiction to consider is “Into the Unknown: How Great Explorers Found Their Way by Land, Sea, and Air.” Written by Stewart Ross and illustrated by Stephen Biesty, this book describes 14 famous journeys from across centuries. Included are the relatively well-known journeys of Christopher Columbus and Marco Polo, but so too are the lesser studied journeys of Arctic aviator Auguste Piccard and female phenom Mary Kingsley. The book is dense with text, but the writing is straightforward and accessible to young readers who appreciate a challenge. The illustrations are a wonder. Readers can spend hours poring over colorful, minutely-detailed maps and cross-sections, many of which fold out. So not only are readers engaged with true accounts of adventure, they are invited to see the internal workings of an airship’s engine gondola and the numerous layers of clothing and equipment required to scale Mount Everest. These books are available through the Buncombe County Public Libraries. Visit www.buncombecounty.org/library for more information.

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Nearly 500 children participate in the Pop Warner football and cheerleading programs operated by the YMCA. The program gained almost 200 participants over 2010. JOHN COUTLAKIS/JCOUTLAKIS@CITIZEN-TIMES.COM

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More than 10,000 children in Buncombe County play sports By Keith Jarrett WNC Parent contributor

Drive past a ballfield this time of year, any late afternoon or Saturday, and you’ve seen them — boys and girls running around, chasing a football or soccer ball. Same with baseball and softball in the spring and summer, or go indoors and it’s basketball in the winter. Thousands of Buncombe County youths are participating in organized sports, taking advantage of associations and leagues, large and small, that encourage kids to get out and participate, learning life lessons while getting exercise and social interacting skills with peers and adults. A survey found that more than 10,000 children in the county are involved in youth sports, fueled and encouraged by parents and other volunteers who coach, teach, drive to and from practices and games and provide emo-

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tional and financial support for the kids. “The most important things we can do for our youth is to get them involved and active,” said Mark Halstead, of Asheville Parks and Recreation, which directs or co-sponsors programs that involve more than 2,500 kids. “We’re trying to fight childhood obesity, which is a major issue, so we are creating opportunities to provide more healthy lifestyles for the kids.” Erica Holgate, of Asheville, has two kids (son Carson, 10, and daughter Kennedy, 8) involved in the Asheville Buncombe Youth Soccer Association. “They both really enjoy being on teams and being with their friends, and the coaches set goals for them and encourage them to attain their goals,” Holgate said. “I think all of that is so important at those ages.”

Leagues big and small

Celebrating its 30th anniversary, the Asheville Buncombe Youth Soccer Association is the area’s largest and, arguably, most successful group serving children in recreation. Executive director Mike Rottjakob said ABYSA served a record 5,010 children in the 2010-11 fiscal year, with a budget just shy of $1.5 million. Ranging from recreational programs, academies and more competitive teams and leagues, children ages 4-18 have the services of 11 full-time employees, 41 paid part-time coaches and 380 volunteer coaches. Rottjakob said ABYSA has enjoyed an increase in participants for 10 consecutive years and attributes that to much more than a rising interest in the sport. “How parents behave is the most important factor on whether sports are fun for kids,” Rottjakob said. “Our level of organization has been an important factor in our success, and we emphasize educating our coaches and parents in all aspects of our programs on what is appropriate behavior.” In just its second year in Asheville, the Pop Warner Football League, operated by the YMCA, has nearly 500 kids — 425 players and 70 cheerleaders — and 23 teams. Youth Development Coordinator David Lewkowicz said his group has seen tremendous growth from last year’s debut (300 players) even before adding cheerleaders this season. “We emphasize teaching the game of football, and that’s what our coaches do,” he said. “We have a rule that every kid must get

Girls play a game through Asheville Buncombe Youth Soccer Association this fall at the John B. Lewis complex off Azalea Road. JOHN COUTLAKIS/ JCOUTLAKIS@ CITIZEN-TIMES.COM

in for at least 10 plays, so participation and playing time is guaranteed, and that’s been a big selling point for us.” At the other end of the scale, the Asheville Youth Football & Cheerleading program has about 110 kids playing and cheering on four teams. “We’ve been around since the 1970s, and we’re proud of the fact that we’ve kept this going for the kids for so long,” said commissioner Antonio Folston, 34, who played in the league. “Mentally and emotionally, it’s important for kids to get reinforcement about having a good attitude and being involved in school and things like that, especially if some of that teaching is absent in their home life,” he said.

Helping hands

At the crux of all this participation is the volunteer work of adults — coaches, ticket takers, concession stands and any other duties that make the games and practices happen. While ABYSA funds some positions, much of the work is conducted by those who put in an an estimated 44,700 volunteer hours. Other groups depend totally on the volunteers — most often parents of participating kids. “Everything is done by the volunteers — coaching, concession stands, picking up trash after the games,” said Mike Cordiale, of Candler, president of WNC Youth Football & Cheerleading, which has more than 3,000 kids. “It takes a good, dedicated group of people to keep something this size running, and we’ve been very fortunate over the years.”

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With parents come some issues — every coach and administrator interviewed cited dealing with parents as their biggest challenge. “You’re always going to have some good parents and some bad parents,” said Lee Ann Lewis, of Black Mountain, in her first year as head of the Owen District Youth League. “A lot of different dynamics come into play when you are dealing with parents (because) you are always trying to please everybody, and that can’t happen. “But the most exciting thing for me — beyond seeing the joy in the kids’ faces when they play — is getting to to know the parents.” “We have more than 3,000 kids,” Cordiale said. “Multiply that by two and that’s a lot of parents and potential issues. Most of them are great about understanding what we are trying to do, which is team building and getting kids reaching for a common goal.” Rottjakob said his group works hard to make sure parents don’t overreact to game situations, coaches’ decisions and referees. “There is a lot of work involved to educate our coaches and parents about how they participate,” he said. “We communicate a lot, and when there are problems, we try to keep a close eye on those issues and that helps minimize the problems.” “What’s important to us is to keep the focus on the kids,” Folston said. “If they are learning in an environment where they are having fun, enjoying themselves by being part of a team, then we have accomplished our goals.”

Get kids in the kitchen By Betty Lynne Leary WNC Parent contributor

In spite of festive parades, spirited football games and hordes of family showing up at the door, Thanksgiving Day is truly all about the food. Whether your family loves a traditional Thanksgiving meal or prefers a more creative take with new recipes each year, there is plenty to do in the kitchen. This year, encourage your kids to take an active role in preparing the feast and watch them relish the accolades at the dinner table when they proclaim, “I made that!” Parenting experts claim that the more kids are involved in cooking, the more willing they are to try new foods. Anna Littman, program coordinator at the Appalachian Sustainable Agriculture Project, or ASAP, agrees. “The motivation to eat fresh fruits and vegetables increases when chil-

Red Stag Grill chef Adam Hayes works with Glen Arden Elementary students through ASAP’s Farm to School Program. Hayes says kids can easily help with the Thanksgiving meal. SPECIAL TO WNC PARENT

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Butter Pour 1 quart of whipping cream (Laura Lynn brand is made from 80 percent local milk) into a jar or any container with a lid that can be tightly closed. Let your kids shake the jar until the solid butter separates from the liquid (4-5 minutes). You’ve got butter! Courtesy of Appalachian Sustainable Agriculture Project

Herbs de Provence butter 1 tbsp. herbs de Provence with lavender 1 stick butter at room temperature

Allow butter to get to room temperature and mix in the herbs de Provence. Use your hands to rub the butter on the turkey making sure to get some under the skin. The breast needs the most, so don’t use it all on the legs. It works best at room temperature. Season the bird with salt and pepper. Allow the bird to marinate at room temperature for 15 minutes before you put it in the oven. Courtesy of Red Stag Grill

dren are part of the cooking process,” she says. “Even young children can tear herbs, cut soft veggies and fruits, and assemble dishes.” Littman notes that the first step in any Thanksgiving meal should be a trip to the local farmers market. “Meeting farmers and asking them how they grew their vegetables is a great way to engage children in the Thanksgiving holiday,” she says. A fall trip to the market provides opportunities to educate kids about the seasons, fall harvests, and what types of fruits and vegetables grow well in cooler weather. “Science, history, math, reading … you name it,” Littman adds. “Cooking teaches it all!” Adam Hayes, executive chef at the Red Stag Grill in Asheville, stresses the importance of teaching kids where food comes from. Hayes participates in ASAP’s Farm to School Cooking Program, in which chefs teach cooking classes in local schools. “When you take students to a trout farm and show them that a trout is a fish that swims, they’re amazed,” he says. When they see how the bones are removed and the meat is handled in the processing facility, they’re even more willing to try it. “They try trout jerky and trout dip, and they love it!” he exclaims. A North Carolina native, Hayes describes growing up in his grandmother’s bakery as a key influence on his life. “It was an old-school type of bakery with lots of cakes and huge trays of hand-piped flowers,” he explains. “They

“All kids love desserts, and they love making them, too. Instead of just pumpkin pie, look in magazines and on websites for new ideas. Let your kids pick out the dessert recipe, then take them to the store to help find and buy the ingredients.”

Adam Hayes, Red Stag Grill chef

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would give me a giant cupcake and I would decorate it with GI Joes and Matchbox cars.” Thanksgiving in the Hayes house was all about family. “For 31 years ... I went to Grandma’s house for Thanksgiving dinner,” he says. “We would eat the same stuff each year — turkey, Grandma’s green beans, and gravy on everything. We’d eat, pass out, eat some more, then have dessert. It was all about family coming together.” Since coming to Asheville’s Grand Bohemian Hotel, Hayes spends Thanksgiving cooking for hotel guests, although he prepares a family-type meal for the employees who are working that day. At home, he gets his two kids involved with the cooking process mainly to keep them from “tearing up the house that took two days to clean.” Here are some helpful hints from Hayes on keeping your little turkeys busy in the kitchen: » Season the turkey. “The turkey is the superstar of the day! Working with the turkey allows kids to see that it is a bird with wings and skin. Don’t keep that from them —

Chef Adam Hayes says children can assist with many aspects of a big holiday meal, from seasoning the turkey to helping prepare dessert. SPECIAL TO WNC PARENT

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they think it’s cool to know that stuff! I recommend having kids rub the turkey with whatever seasoning you choose. We use herbs de Provence butter (see recipe) at the hotel to season our birds. It’s easy to make, kind of messy going on, but loads of fun for a little turkey. » “ Cooking the turkey also gives you a chance to discuss math such as how many pounds the turkey weighs, how long it needs to cook, and at what temperature.” » Peeling potatoes. “This is an activity that can keep your kids busy. It’s not the most fun, but they can be involved in every step in making yams or mashed potatoes.” » Gravy. “While the big turkey in the house needs to transfer the drippings into a pan to make the gravy, the little turkeys can add the flour and stir. Describe in detail what you’re doing so they understand the science of the thickening process. The only reason most of us know how to cook is because the knowledge was handed down through the generations.” » Dessert. “All kids love desserts, and they love making them, too. Instead of just pumpkin pie, look in magazines and on websites for new ideas. Let your kids pick out the dessert recipe, then take them to the store to help find and buy the ingredi-

Spinach mashed potatoes 4 medium to large local potatoes 1 cup local spinach 2 tablespoons butter (to make your own, see recipe) Fresh herbs like dill, parsley, rosemary (to taste) Salt and pepper

Boil potatoes until soft, and then allow them to cool. Guide your children in cutting the soft potatoes into chunks. Set aside. Even plastic knives (safe for most ages) work great for cutting soft fruits and veggies. Work with your children to cut or tear the spinach into small pieces. Set aside. Place the different herbs in paper bags and ask your children to smell them. Which herb is which? What aroma (great vocabulary word!) is their favorite? Which one do they want to add to the potatoes? Show your kids how to use their fingers to tear the herb of their choice into small pieces. Combine all ingredients in a large pot. Heat mixture over medium heat for about 15 minutes or until potatoes are soft. Mash and stir until they are relatively smooth. Makes about 6 servings. Local potatoes, spinach, and herbs can be found at area grocery stores, farmers markets, and directly from the farm. Visit ASAP’s website (www.asapconnections.org) and browse the online Local Food Guide (www.buyappalachian.org) for more ideas on where to find local food near you. Courtesy of Appalachian Sustainable Agriculture Project

ents. If you plan to make Grandma Nana’s pumpkin pie that’s been handed down from generation to generation, hand down the recipe to your kid and talk about Grandma Nana.” “I remember hearing my mom tell

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stories about her grandmother and what a great cook she was,” Hayes says. “About a month ago, my aunt gave me my great grandmother’s recipe book. Thanksgiving is a great day to remember family and to be a family.”

day tripper

Main Street in downtown Hendersonville is lined with shops and restaurants, including Dancing Bear Toys, which kids will gravitate to. ERIN BRETHAUER/EBRETHAU@CITIZEN-TIMES.COM

Take a day and explore Hendersonville By Michael McWilliams WNC Parent contributor

The Cherokee used what is now Hendersonville for hunting before Revolutionary War soldier William Mills settled the area in 1787. Henderson County is named for Leonard Henderson, who served as chief justice of the state Supreme Court. The county was born out the southern portion of Buncombe County in 1838, with Hendersonville receiving its original charter in the 1840s. Hendersonville has plenty to do for families, both indoors and outdoors. Five things you’ve got to see here: » Historic downtown Hendersonville. Downtown became part of the National Register of Historic Places in 1988. It offers specialty shops, antique stores and restaurants. Families will be interested in Hands On! A Child’s Gallery, a children’s museum on Main Street. And kids will love to browse the toys and more at Dancing Bear Toys and Mast General Store, both also on Main. www.downtownhendersonville.org. » Flat Rock Playhouse, State Theatre of North Carolina. Founded in 1952 by Robroy Farquhar and his Company of Vagabond Players, Flat Rock Playhouse features world premieres and standard

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Customers order lunch at Mike's on Main Street in downtown Hendersonville. The restaurant offers breakfast and lunch and has an old-fashioned soda fountain. ERIN BRETHAUER/EBRETHAU@CITIZEN-TIMES.COM Broadway musicals, comedy, drama and youth performances. This month, catch the YouTheatre’s production of Disney’s “Peter Pan Jr.,” which has performances Nov. 10-20. www.flatrockplayhouse.org. » DuPont State Forest. The state bought the 10,268-acre forest after DuPont sold its operations in the mid-1990s. Visitors will find waterfalls and 80 miles of roads and trails and is open for hiking, mountain biking and horseback riding. Take a sunny day, even if it’s crisp outside, and hike the trails with the family. The kids will be amazed by Triple Falls, espeically. www.dupontforest.com. » Carl Sandburg Home. This national historic site was where Carl Sandburg, the American poet, historian, author and lecturer, spent the final 22 years of his life. The home, which was built in 1838, features Sandburg’s collection of 10,000 books, notes and papers. Daily tours are available, and there are numerous hiking trails and a goat barn on the grounds. www.nps.gov/carl. » The Henderson County Heritage Museum. Located in the Historic Hen-

Pick a nice fall day and take a trip to DuPont State Forest, where you'll see waterfalls like High Falls and more. KATIE WADINGTON/KWADINGTON@CITIZEN-TIMES.COM

derson County Courthouse on Main Street in downtown Hendersonville, the museum

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offers public display galleries, displays, artifacts, collections, archives, libraries and other historical exhibitions. The museum is observing the 150th anniversary of the Civil War through the end of the year and showcases historic military weaponry and uniforms. Holiday events: Henderson County gets into the holidays starting this month. From the Henderson County Toy Run on Nov. 19 to a parade and tree lighting Dec. 2-3 in Hendersonville and events at Carl Sandburg Home and Historic Johnson Farm, there’s plenty of revery for families to enjoy. For a full holiday calendar, see Page 31. Best time to go: Tuesday-Sunday. Several of the attractions, shops and restaurants are closed on Mondays. A good place to eat: Henderson County has an abundance of excellent restaurants. Kids will enjoy the casual atmosphere of Mike’s on Main Street. A listing can be found at www.historic hendersonville.org.

Curt and Julie Cloninger live with their five children, from left, Robyn, 8; Ruby, 1; James, 3; Jordan, 9; and Caroline, 12, at home in Canton. ERIN BRETHAUER/EBRETHAU@CITIZEN-TIMES.COM

Family-schooling mom By Katie Wadington WNC Parent editor

Julie Cloninger, 36, is a home-schooling mother of five and director of Deep/Young Academy. She and her husband, Curt Cloninger, a professor at UNC Asheville in new media, live in Waynesville with Caroline Grace, 12; Jordan Arrington, 9; Robin Lucy, 8; James Henry, 3; and Ruby Jane, 1. Question: What led you to homeschool your children? Answer: It’s hard to pinpoint exactly. I was educated in the public school, and my

husband attended a college preparatory school. Both of us excelled in school and had no major issues. When we were married we attended a church whose pastor home-schooled his children. We enjoyed those children so much and admired the way they related to us and other adults. We were also impressed with their behavior, world view, and the personal interests that they were able to pursue even as children. That must have been the beginning of our inclination to home-school our own children. Question: What resources do you rely

on for your home school? Answer: There are three books and one website that have laid the foundation for our home school. The titles are “The WellTrained Mind: A Guide to Classical Education at Home” (Third Edition) by Susan Wise Bauer and Jessie Wise (hardcover, May 4, 2009), “For the Children's Sake: Foundations of Education for Home and School” by Susan Schaeffer Macaulay (paperback-Jun 17, 2009), “The Ultimate Guide to Homeschooling” by Debra Bell

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and Michael Farris (foreword) (Nov 1, 2009). The website is www.robinsoncurriculum.com. From these resources I have developed my own system for homeschooling. I try to take time each summer to evaluate our previous year and structure the year to come based on the successes or failures. Each year has looked a bit different organizationally as the children have grown and as weâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;ve had more babies! Question: What is Deep/Young Academy? What prompted you to establish it? Answer: Technically, it is a 501(c)3 nonprofit educational organization. I call it a family school. We offer classes for homeschool students one day a week. The mission of Deep/Young Academy is two-fold: It offers engaging and inspiring classes in which home-school students may go deeper intellectually, spiritually and personally. We also provide a setting in which lasting friendships can develop.

Julie Cloninger says she and her husband likely got the inspiration to home-school their children from a former pastor. ERIN BRETHAUER/EBRETHAU@CITIZEN-TIMES.COM

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I attended a North Carolina Home School Convention in Winston-Salem in May 2008. I listened to a session by Debra Bell about starting a family school. She spoke of the classes they offered that allowed the students to reach beyond their own home, and she spoke about the good, lasting friendships that her children made. I was struck by the importance of something like this in Haywood County. I was seeing families abandoning their convictions to home school because their children were wanting regular time with their friends, because the parents didn’t feel confident to teach high school biology, etc. I believe that Deep/Young Academy fills in all the little cracks for a home school family. Question: Describe your typical weekday. Answer: “Typical” seems like a joke, but my days usually start the night before when I decide what I'm making for dinner the following day and set out the meat to thaw or beans to soak and put the chores in our chore chart. In the morning I wake and spend time reading my Bible and praying before I face the day. The children wake, get their chores done and eat breakfast by 9 a.m. The three oldest children have a laminated list of their expected school for the day so they can check the items off as they go. While Ruby takes her morning nap, I spend some one-on-one time with James, our 3 year old. We read and do narrations, practice counting, and go over Scripture memory verses. Then I might leave him drawing or playing playdoh to help another child or get started on making bread or answering emails. The older three children also read or do learning activities with James as a part of their school. Everyone stays busy and quiet until lunch. We have lunch, clean up , play outside, and then Ruby takes another nap. The afternoons are spent going to the library, grocery store, piano lessons, church group, friend’s house, or sewing, reading, buliding Legos, art, etc. Then there is supper to cook, and kitchen cleanup. The two littlest go to bed about 6:30, and then we have a quieter evening with the older children. Question: With a household of seven people, how do you stay organized? Answer: By this time, I have a system for almost everything. I made a chore chart with a pocket for each child and laminated index cards with the various chores on them. I have a master calendar that tells me what chores we do each day of the week (laundry Mondays and Thursdays, bathrooms Tuesdays, floors Fridays, garbage Wednesdays) and what child does what

I love the variety of my job as parent. I am never bored, nor do I think I ever will be. chores each day. I make four loaves of bread each week. I have the “in use” school books on a designated shelf. We go to the library on Tuesdays. I make two breakfast casseroles each week: one oatmeal and one egg/cheese/sausage. And we rest on Saturdays. It seems very regimented and it is, but the systems allow us to have freedom to do things spontaneously, too. I also write everything down. I keep a calendar and a small moleskin notebook near me. If I think of something that I need to remember but I can't do it right away, I write it down in my moleskin. I will even write things down like “make grocery list.” Question: How would you describe your children? Answer: I could talk for hours and hours about how wonderful our children are in their own, specific ways. I will just

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give you a brief glimpse. Caroline, 12, is very independent in her thinking and in her schoolwork. I trust her very much. When she gets an idea to do something or learn something, she goes for it. Her favorite things to do are read and write, but she also enjoys making things. Jordan, 9, is thoughtful and creatively inventive. He loves to build Legos, draw and play outside. He amazes us with his thoughts, drawings, Lego creations and outdoor sculptures. Robin, 8, loves to be with people. She is easy going and a great conversationalist. She likes everything and likes nothing at the same time. James, 3, is quirky and random. He is the star of the show at home but he is very gracious to let us all be a part. We talk about his quotes after he has gone to bed at night. He’s hilarious. Ruby, 1, is just beginning to talk and is surprising us with her comprehension. She loves her brothers and sisters and they love her very much. She walks around and occupies herself with whomever she may happen upon. Her favorite place to be is up on the counter watching me as I cook. She Continues on Page 28

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will stay sitting happily for hours while I make bread, cook supper and clean the kitchen. Question: What do you love most about being a parent? Has anything surprised you that you didn’t expect? Answer: I love the specific children I have been given. I love the variety of my job as parent. I am never bored, nor do I think I ever will be. I’m not sure I had many expectations. I was 23 when I had Caroline. Maybe I’ve been surprised by all of it! When Caroline was very young, I was faced with issues from my own childhood that I needed healing from and needed forgiveness for. I remember calling my Mom and asking for forgiveness for my rebellious heart. I was an outwardly obedient child, but I would be sending daggers out of my eyes. As my children grow and they face challenges and as we face challenges rearing them, I continue to have to

face my own issues and either stuff them back down or let them come to the surface to be dealt with. I have often said, “Parenting is hard because it is hard.” It seems silly and trite, but it may be one of my deepest thoughts. In other words, it’s not hard because I’m inadequate or because I’ve done things wrong, or because there’s something wrong with my children. It’s just hard because it’s hard. Question: If you find yourself with free time, how do you like to spend it? Answer: Sewing, knitting, sewing, gardening, reading and sewing. Question: Do you have any guilty pleasures? Answer: Since Ruby (baby No. 5) I have allowed myself a cup of caffeinated coffee every morning and most afternoons. I don’t like the idea that I am dependent on that, and sometimes I feel guilty about it. But right now, it makes me happy and so I allow myself this pleasure. Question: Do you and your husband get out on date nights? Do you have a favorite place to go? Answer: We have only recently gone on any kind of regular date nights. Up to now it may have been once every six months or year, but since Caroline has been 12, we have gone out more frequently. We have

always maintained a relatively early bedtime for our children so we have had time together. We love to eat at the Sweet Onion in Waynesville. Honestly, we love to go to Ingles together (without children) and sometimes we even splurge on a Starbucks coffee! Question: What do you enjoy doing together as a family? Answer: We love to drive on the parkway and stop somewhere to hike or just play around. We love to visit the various parks from Sylva to Asheville and any number of hiking trails. We love to go to Barber’s Orchard for apple turnovers and then drive to Waterrock Knob to eat them. We love sitting in our own backyard — some with books, some with knitting and some running around. Occasionally, we enjoy going to the mall. We make Barnes and Noble our home base. The little ones love to play with the train set they have set up. The rest of us will find good books to read and take turns watching the little ones. The girls will also want to walk around to the other stores with me and meet the others back in a designated amount of time. We especially enjoy our tradition of eating homemade pizzas on the couch every Friday night as we watch a movie.

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kids’ voices

What worries my mom

Some moms are care free, some dwell. But all have a few basic worries. WNC Parent contributor James Shea asked students at Asheville Christian Academy in Swannanoa what their moms worry about. Here’s what they told him: “My mom is worried about my brother and my puppy because he is taking things.” Alex Carver, 8

“My mom worries about my dog when she is in heat.” Caroline Condra, 9

“My mom worries about me and my sister, because there is a bear in our neighborhood.” Chloe Gilbert, 8

“My mom worries about my puppy because we have a coyote near us. It walked up behind me once.” Robby McAlister, 8

“My mom worries about me and my sister in school. She wants us to do good on our spelling test.” Eva Hetzel, 8

“My mom worries about my dog because he wanders around the neighborhood and there is an angry farmer.” Evan Delp

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holiday events calendar

Holidays full of family fun

Parades

Nov. 19: Asheville at 11 a.m. (www.ashevilleparade.org) Nov. 20: Marion at 3 p.m. Nov. 27: Franklin at 5 p.m. Dec. 1: Canton at 6 p.m. Dec. 3: Valdese at 10 a.m. (www.visitvaldese.com), Hendersonville at 10:30 a.m. (Five Points to Caswell Street, 692-4179 or visit www.nchmba.com), Weaverville at 1 p.m. (starts at the intersection of North Main Street and Dula Springs Road), Bryson City at 2 p.m. (488-3681 or 800-867-9246 or greatsmokies.com), Brevard at 3 p.m. (www.brevardnc.org), Old Fort at 4 p.m., Black Mountain at 4 p.m. (www.exploreblackmountain.com), Cherokee at 5:30 p.m., Maggie Valley (along U.S. 19, www.maggievalley.org), Bakersville at 6 p.m. Dec. 4: Murphy at 2 p.m., Robbinsville at 7 p.m. Dec. 5: Waynesville at 6 p.m. (www.downtownwaynesville.com) Dec. 10: Fletcher at 10:30 a.m. (along U.S. 25, 6870751, visit www.fletcherparks.org) Dec. 14: Tryon at 5 p.m.

Seasonlong events

19th Century Carolina Christmas, Nov. 16-Jan. 4. Smith-McDowell House, at 283 Victoria Road, Asheville, is decked in Victorian holiday decor. Candlelight tours available by reservation for groups of 12 or more. Admission $10 for adults, $6 for college students, $5 for ages 8-18. Call 253-9231 or visit www.wnchistory.org. Holidays for Hospice, Nov. 1-Dec. 27. Asheville Mall hosts the CarePartners Garden of Memories, a quilt-themed contemplative space with books listing names of those remembered and honored through Memorial Ornaments. Outside Dillard's Men's Store and Hallmark. For details on ornaments, visit www.carepartnersfoundation.org. Call 277-4815. ‘The Polar Express’ Nov. 4-Dec. 24, Bryson City. Read along with the story “The Polar Express” on Great Smoky Mountains Railroad. Meet Santa, enjoy caroling, hot cocoa and a treat. Times and dates vary. Tickets start at $39 for adults, $26 for ages 2-12. Visit www.gsmr.com or call 800-872-4681. Christmas at Biltmore, Nov. 5-Jan. 2, Biltmore Estate. Regular admission applies until dusk. Additional charge for Candlelight Christmas Evenings, through Jan. 1. Visit www.biltmore.com. National Gingerbread House Competition, On display Nov. 16-Jan. 1. Judging is Nov. 14. The Grove Park Inn Resort and Spa hosts its 19th annual National Gingerbread House Competition. Community viewing Monday-Thursday only. At 290 Macon Ave., Asheville. Call 800-438-0050, ext. 1281. ‘Stories of Gingerbread’ guided tours, Nov. 18-Jan. 1. Go behind the scenes and get details about the entries in the Grove Park Inn’s gingerbread competition. Hourlong tours at 9 a.m. and 3 p.m. Wednesdays-Sundays. Adults $12, children 12 and younger $6. Call 800-438-5800 for required

Guides are dressed in historic 1830s costume to lead tour groups through the Vance Birthplace home. The site celebrates the holidays with candlelight tours on Dec. 3. ERIN BRETHAUER/EBRETHAU@CITIZEN-TIMES.COM

reservations. Holiday Fest, 9 a.m.-5 p.m., Nov. 19-Dec. 24, at Tom Sawyer’s Christmas Tree Farm and Elf Village, Glenville/Cashiers. Free. Visit www.tomsawyer christmastreefarm.com.

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Van Wingerden International open house, 10 a.m.-3 p.m. Nov. 12. See acres of poinsettias in bloom while touring 37 acres of greenhouses. Learn how plants are grown and more. At 4112 Haywood Road, Mills River. Visit www.natures-heritage.com or call 226-3597. Mannheim Steamroller: Christmas, 7:30 p.m. Nov. 15 at Asheville Civic Center. Tickets at www.ticketmaster.com. Asheville Lyric Opera Christmas Show, 7:30 p.m. Nov. 18. With Asheville Choral Society, Greater Asheville Gospel Choir and WNC Rockettes. Show benefits Caring for Children. At Diana Wortham Theatre. Visit www.dwtheatre.org. Santa visit: 11 a.m. Nov. 18. Write a letter (or bring one along) and deliver it to Santa at Hands On! A Child’s Gallery. Free with admission. At 318 N. Main

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St., Hendersonville. Visit www.handsonwnc.org. ‘Dashing through the Snow,’ Nov. 18-Dec. 4. A family-friendly comedy in two parts. 7:30 p.m. Fridays-Saturdays, 2:30 p.m. Sundays. Asheville Community Theatre, 35 E. Walnut St. Tickets start at $12. 254-1320. Visit www.ashevilletheatre.org. Henderson County Toy Run, Nov. 19. Registration starts at 11 a.m., ride at 2 p.m. at Fletcher Community Park, Howards Gap Road. Hendersonville Chorale Winter Concert, 4 p.m. Nov 19. At First Baptist Church. $15. Call 696-4968. Celebration Singers of Asheville holiday concert, 4 p.m. Nov. 20. Free holiday concert at First Congregational Church, 20 Oak St., Asheville. Donations appreciated. Call 230-5778 or visit www.singasheville.org. Pictures with Santa, 1-4 p.m. Nov. 20 at Fun Things Etc., 196 N. Main St., downtown Waynesville. Backdrop provided, parents photograph. Call 456-7672 or visit www.funthingsetc.net. Holiday Open House and Cookie Tour, 1-4 p.m. Nov. 20, downtown Waynesville. Visit www.downtownwaynesville.com.

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Franklin tree lighting, 7 p.m. Nov. 25. Free music and refreshments. On the square in downtown Franklin. Visit www.renewingfranklin.com. Ole Timey Christmas, 8 a.m.-2 p.m. Nov. 26. Christmas wreaths, fresh greenery, crafts, demonstrations, music, carriage rides, more, at Henderson County Curb Market in downtown Hendersonville. Call 692-8012 or visit www.curbmarket.com. Santa on Main, 1-5 p.m. Nov. 26 at Downtown Hendersonville Historic Courthouse. Visit www.downtownhendersonville.org. ‘A Christmas Carol,’ Nov. 26-Dec. 4. Absolute Theatre Company performs the Dickens classic at The Lab Theatre at Hendersonville Christian School. $12. Performances: 3 and 7:30 p.m. Nov. 26-27, 7:30 p.m. Dec. 1-4, 3 p.m. Dec. 4. Call 243-4562. Moscow Ballet’s “Great Russian Nutcracker,” 2:30 and 7:30 p.m. Nov. 27, Smoky Mountain Center for the Performing Arts, Franklin. Tickets $30. Visit www.greatmountainmusic.com or call 273-4615. Seventh-annual ‘Messiah’ Sing, 3 p.m. Nov. 27. Community Orchestra of Hendersonville presents the “Messiah” at Trinity Presbyterian Church. Free. Call 693-3081. ‘Plaid Tidings,’ Nov. 30-Dec. 22. Flat Rock Playhouse presents the sequel to “Forever Plaid,” a show for the whole family. 8 p.m. Wednesdays-Saturdays and 2 p.m. Wednesdays, Thursdays, Saturdays and Sundays. Visit www.flatrockplayhouse.org or call 693-0731 for tickets.

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‘Walking in a Winter Wonderland,’ 6-9 p.m. Dec. 1. Experience Lake Julian Park’s 11th annual Festival of Lights on foot. On opening night only, light show will be available to walkers only. $5 adults, $3 for children under 12. Wear comfortable shoes, warm clothing and be prepared to walk a half-mile of paved walkway that is of moderate difficulty with some inclines. Strollers or wagons welcome. Visit www.buncombecounty.org. Festval of Lights, 6-9 p.m. Dec. 2-18. Lake Julian Park’s drive-thru light show with thousands of lights and more than 50 light displays. $5 per car, $15 per 15-passenger van and $20 per bus. Portion of proceeds benefits Buncombe County Special Olympics. Off Long Shoals Road in Skyland. Call 684-0376 or visit www.buncombecounty.org. ‘Carolina Mountain Christmas Spectacular,’ 7 p.m. Dec. 2-4, 3 p.m. Dec. 3-4, Biltmore Baptist Church, 35 Clayton Road, Arden. Visit www.ncchristmas.com, www.biltmorebaptist.org or call 650-6500. Fletcher tree lighting, 5:30 p.m. Dec. 2 at Fletcher Community Park. Free, with nonperishable food donation suggested. Visit www.fletcherparks.org. Hendersonville tree lighting, 5-7 p.m. Dec. 2 at Downtown Hendersonville Historic Courthouse. Four Seasons’ Tree of Lights ceremony honors loved ones with luminaries displaying their names. Visit www.downtownhendersonville.org. Call 233-0304. Winter Wonderland, 5-9 p.m. Dec. 2, downtown Franklin. Ice sculpture slide, live music, carriage rides, hot cider and refreshments. Visit www.renewingfranklin.org. Holly Jolly, Dec. 2, Black Mountain. Refreshments, street music, Santa and more. Shops open late. Free. Visit www.visitblackmountain.com. Olde Fashioned Hendersonville Christmas, 5-9 p.m., Dec. 2, downtown Hendersonville. Merchants

Dancers perform in 2010 Asheville Holiday Parade. This year's parade is Nov. 19. ERIN BRETHAUER/EBRETHAU@CITIZEN-TIMES.COM

host an open house with refreshments, entertainment, carriage rides, a visit from Father Christmas and more. Visit www.downtownhendersonville.org. “Winterfest: Songs for the Season,” 7:30 p.m. Dec. 2, 4 p.m. Dec. 3. Asheville Choral Society performs at Arden Presbyterian Church, 2215 Hendersonville Road, Arden. Visit www.ashevillechoralsociety.org or call 232-2060. Dillsboro Festival of Lights and Luminaries, Dec. 2-3 and 9-10, downtown Dillsboro. Live music, carolers, holiday treats and Santa from 5-8 p.m. Free. Call 800-962-1911 or visit www.visitdillsboro.org. Circle of Lights, Dec. 3. Celebration around Lake Tomahawk in Black Mountain after the parade. Free. ‘Polar Express’ event: Dec. 3. Experience the reading of the “Polar Express” story with a live conductor, Santa Claus, refreshments. Children may attend in PJs. For up to age 12. Refreshment proceeds benefit Boys & Girls Club. At Historic Train Depot in Hendersonville, at about 11:45a.m.-noon, immediately following the Hendersonville Christmas parade.

Smoky Mountain Toy Run, noon-3 p.m. Dec. 3, motorcycle ride to benefit children. Visit www.smokymountainhog.com. Email candoasign4u@charter.net. Biltmore Village Dickens Festival, 5-7 p.m. Dec. 2, 11 a.m.-7 p.m. Dec. 3, and 1-5 p.m. Dec. 4, Biltmore Village, Asheville. Storytellers, carolers and entertainers on the stage and streets. Visit www.biltmorevillage.com. Brevard Twilight Tour, 11 a.m.-5:30 p.m. Dec. 3, downtown Brevard. The 24th annual merchants’ open house, with Santa, Christmas parade. Day starts with 5K Reindeer Run and 3K Walk for Life at 9 a.m. Activities start at 11 a.m., parade at 3 p.m. Call 884-3278. Visit www.brevardnc.org. Christmas at the Farm, noon-5 p.m. Dec. 3, Historic Johnson Farm, 3345 Haywood Road, Hendersonville. Holiday music, cookies and cider, house tours, wagon rides, more. $5 for adults, $3 for students, free preschoolers and younger. Call 891-6585 or visit www.historicjohnsonfarm.org. Holiday cookie bake sale, 10 a.m.-1 p.m. Dec. 3. At First Congregational Church Fellowship Hall in Hendersonville. Call 692-8630.

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Riding on a horse-drawn carriage, the 32-foot Biltmore House Christmas tree arrives. This year, Biltmore Estate starts its Christmas celebration on Nov. 4. BILL SANDERS/WSANDERS@CITIZEN-TIMES.COM

Feed & Seed holiday stories and music, 3-5 p.m. Dec. 3. Holiday stories and music for the family by regional performers. Stories for 10+ and adults. Little ones welcome. Light refreshments available. Free, with $5 suggested donation. At Feed & Seed, 3715 Hendersonville Road, Fletcher. Call 216-3492 or visit www.feedandseednc.com. Santa on the Chimney, 11 a.m.-2 p.m. Dec. 3 and Dec. 10, Chimney Rock Park. Santa practices on 315-foot Chimney Rock. Regular admission. The Grove ‘Bark’ Inn, Dec. 4-7, gingerbread doghouse competition and display. Event benefits Asheville-area pet charities. Contestants will enter doghouses made entirely of dog-edible materials. Visit www.groveparkinn.com or call 800-438-0050, ext. 2012. Guild Artists’ Holiday Sale, 10 a.m.-4 p.m. Dec. 3. Southern Highlands Craft Guild artists sell their work at Folk Art Center, Milepost 382, Blue Ridge Parkway, Asheville. Vance Birthplace Christmas, 4-7 p.m. Dec. 3, Reems Creek Road, Weaverville. Guided candlelight tours of an 1830s Christmas. Call 645-6706. Hendersonville Community Band Christmas Concert, 3 p.m. Dec. 4. At Blue Ridge Community College Conference Hall in Flat Rock. Adults $10, students free. Call 696-2118.

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UNC Asheville holiday concert, 4 p.m. Dec. 4, Lipinsky Auditorium. Call 251-6423. The Big Crafty, Dec. 4. Stock up for the holidays at this independent craft fair. Visit www.thebigcrafty.com. ‘Sounds of the Season,’ 3-5 p.m. Dec. 4, Bardo Arts Center, Western Carolina University. Call 2272479. ‘Charles Dickens’ A Christmas Carol,’ Dec. 8-24, Asheville Masonic Temple, 80 Broadway St., Asheville. Montford Park Players’ 35th annual production. Performances at 7:30 p.m. Thursdays-Sundays, 2:30 p.m. Saturdays and Sundays. Dec. 8 and 15 performances are “pay what we’re worth nights,” where patrons see the show then decide what to pay. Call 254-5146 or visit www.montfordparkplayers.org. ‘Return to Bethlehem,’ Dec. 8-11, Groce United Methodist Church, 954 Tunnel Road, Asheville. Takes you through the experience of the Bethlehem marketplace as it might have appeared during Christ’s birth. Donations requested. Call 298-7647.

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Hendersonville Children’s Choir concert, 6:30 p.m. Dec. 9. At Covenant Presbyterian Church. Adults $5, students $2.50. Call 696-4968. Christmas Candlelight Stroll, 6-9 p.m. Dec. 9, downtown Weaverville. Luminaries, entertainment, carriage rides, refreshments and Santa. Visit www.visitweaverville.com. Appalachian Christmas Celebration, Dec. 9-11, Lake Junaluska Conference and Retreat Center. Performances by Lake Junaluska Singers on Dec. 9 and 10, and concert by David Hold at 8 p.m. Dec. 10.

Last year's winning entry in the Grove Park Inn Resort & Spa's National Gingerbread Competition was gingerbread nesting dolls. This year's contest judging is Nov. 14 and entries go on display on Nov. 16. JOHN FLETCHER/JFLETCHER@CITIZEN-TIMES.COM

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Craft show on Dec. 10. Worship service is Dec. 11. Visit www.lakejunaluska.com/christmas or call 800-222-4930. Annie Moses Band Christmas Show, 7:30 p.m. Dec. 9. At Smoky Mountain Center for the Performing Arts, Franklin. Adults $20, students $10. Call 273-4615 or visit www.greatmountainmusic.com. Asheville Ballet’s ‘The Nutcracker,’ 7:30 p.m. Dec. 9-10 and 2:30 p.m. Dec. 10-11, Diana Wortham Theatre, Pack Place, downtown Asheville. Call 257-4530 or visit www.dwtheatre.org or www.ashevilleballet.com. Dillsboro Festival of Lights and Luminaries, Dec. 9-10, downtown Dillsboro. Live music, carolers, holiday treats and Santa from 5-8 p.m. Free. Call 800-962-1911 or visit www.visitdillsboro.org. Hendersonville Symphony Orchestra, 7:30 p.m. Dec. 9 and 3 p.m. Dec. 10. Carolina Christmas concert at Blue Ridge Conference Hall. Adults $30, students $5. Visit www.hendersonvillesymphony.org. Santa on the Chimney 11 a.m.-2 p.m. Dec. 10, Chimney Rock Park. Santa practices on 315-foot Chimney Rock. Regular admission. www.chimneyrockpark.com. Flat Rock Tailgate Christmas Market, 2-5 p.m. Dec. 10, in front of Hubba Hubba Smokehouse, Flat Rock. Call 697-7719. A Night Before Christmas, until 9 p.m. Dec. 10, downtown Waynesville. Caroling, storytelling, wagon rides, more. Visit www.downtownwaynesville.com. Christmas at Connemara, 11 a.m.-4 p.m., Dec. 10, Carl Sandburg Home, Flat Rock. Celebrate Christmas with the traditions of the Sandburgs with holiday decorations and music; free with house tour admis-

sion. Call 693-4178 or visit www.nps.gov/carl. Guild Artists' Holiday Sale, 10 a.m.-4 p.m. Dec. 10. Southern Highlands Craft Guild artists sell their work at Folk Art Center, milepost 382, Blue Ridge Parkway, Asheville. ‘Flat Rock Family Christmas,’ 8 p.m. Dec. 11, 13, 18-19. 8 p.m. Flat Rock Playhouse, 2551 Greenville Highway, Flat Rock. Tickets $22. Visit www.flatrockplayhouse.org or call 693-0731. Blue Ridge Orchestra's Holiday Concert, 4 p.m. Dec. 11, Folk Art Center, Blue Ridge Parkway, Asheville. $15 adults, $5 students, available at the Wine Guy, 555 Merrimon Ave. Call 254-6500. Asheville Community Band, 3 p.m. Dec. 11, Asheville High School Auditorium, McDowell Street. $8. Students accompanied by an adult are free. Visit www.ashevillecommunityband.org. Dreidel craft and game, Dec. 15. Learn how to make a dreidel and play the dreidel game. This game is a part of the Jewish holiday of Hanukkah, which begins at sundown Dec. 20. Drop-in activity that is free with admission at Hands On! A Child’s Gallery, 318 N. Main St., Hendersonville. Visit www.handsonwnc.org. Ballet Conservatory’s “The Nutcracker,” 5 and 7:30 p.m. Dec. 15-16 at Diana Wortham Theatre. Tickets $10 for children and seniors, $15 for adults. Call 257-4530 or visit www.dwtheatre.org for tickets. Visit www.balletconservatoryofasheville.com for details. Holiday music, 1-5 p.m. Dec. 16-17. Area schools, churches and other special guests perform at Historic Courthouse on Main Street in Hendersonville. Call 233-3216. Carolina Concert Choir Christmas Concert, Dec.

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16-17. At St. James Episcopal Church in Hendersonville. At 7:30 p.m. Dec. 16 and 3 p.m. Dec. 17. Adults $20, students $10. Call 808-2314. Breakfast with Santa, 9 a.m. Dec. 17, Stecoah Valley Cultural Arts Center, Robbinsville. Visit www.stecoahvalleycenter.com.

Dec. 18-25 Asheville Symphony Holiday Pops, 3 p.m. Dec. 18, Thomas Wolfe Auditorium, downtown Asheville. Special guest Billy Jonas. Seasonal songs by the Asheville Symphony orchestra, chorus and children’s chorus. Call 254-7046 or visit www.ashevillesymphony.org. A Swannanoa Solstice, 2 and 7 p.m. Dec. 18, Diana Wortham Theatre, Asheville. Regular $35; student $30; children 12 and younger $12. Call 257-4530 or visit www.dwtheatre.org. Moscow Ballet's “Great Russian Nutcracker,” 7:30 p.m. Dec. 19, Thomas Wolfe Auditorium, Asheville. Visit www.ticketmaster.com for tickets, starting at $30. Winter Solstice Night Hike, 7-9 p.m. Dec. 22, DuPont State Forest, Hendersonville. Meet at Hooker Falls parking area. Bring flashlights and a warm drink. Call 692-0385. Ornament workshop, Dec. 22-23 at Hands On! A Child's Gallery, 318 N. Main St., Hendersonville. Call 697-8333 or visit www.handsonwnc.org. Free with admission. Bounty of Bethlehem dinner, Dec. 25, Immaculata Catholic School, 711 Buncombe St., Hendersonville. A free community Christmas dinner that includes entertainment, gifts and a visit from Santa. Call 693-5115 or visit www.bountyofbethlehem.org.

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Pumpkins go beyond pie By Kate Justen

Roasted vegatable patties can be made with a handful of ingredients.

Special to WNC Parent

You can carve your pumpkin and eat it, too. When you say “pumpkin,” most people think only jack-o’-lanterns or pumpkin pie. But pumpkin is a great food to add to your everyday diet in the fall. It is high in fiber and vitamin A and is a filling, low-calorie food. It is easy to grow in WNC, and young children can be involved in the entire process from planting to eating. When pumpkin is ripe, it can be boiled, baked, steamed or roasted, and it has a delicious sweet flavor. Any variety is fine to eat. Roasted pumpkin can be used anywhere you would use squash or sweet potatoes. As a puree it can be hidden in sauces, soups, muffins, breads and pancakes. But dealing with a whole pumpkin can seem like a lot of work if it is not something you usually do. Get your kids to help by letting them practice jack-o’-lantern faces on squash or pumpkins and removing the seeds for you. Older kids can help cut the squash, lightly oil it and place it on the pan. Roast small chunks of squash, or cut it in half or roast the whole thing. Roast the pumpkin in the oven while you are cooking something else to save energy or put it on the grill. After cooking, separate out what you need for the recipe you are making, the unused portions can be frozen and used in later recipes. If you are planning on making a pumpkin puree, cook it all day in a slow cooker . When cooking with kids you often have to try vegetables in a variety of ways until you get the right texture and flavor. Here are a few of our favorites to make with kids in the fall. Kate Justen is the program director of FEAST — Fresh Easy Affordable Sustainable Tasty, a program of Slow Food Asheville. Contact her at feast.avl@gmail.com or visit www.slowfoodasheville.org.

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Autumn vegetable roast 1 pumpkin or winter squash, any size, shape or color 1 or 2 of each of the following: potatoes, carrots, parsnips, turnips, sweet potato, beets, onion and/or garlic 1 or 2 tablespoons olive oil Salt and pepper 1/4 cup fresh chopped thyme, oregano, rosemary and/or parsley

Cut each of the vegetables into bite-sized cubes, lightly coat with olive oil, salt and pepper as desired. Spread veggies on a baking sheet and place in oven at 400 degrees. Bake for 40–50 minutes or until soft. Remove veggies and let cool slightly, toss with fresh herbs prior to serving. Tip: Make extra roasted veggies so you have some to use to use in dinners later in the week!

Roasted vegetable patties 3 cups roasted vegetables 1 cup cooked brown rice 1 cup cooked lentils 1/2 to 3/4 cup cornmeal, flour and/or breadcrumbs (can be a mixture of two or all three) 1 tablespoon fresh chopped herbs 2 tablespoons oil (for pan frying)

Combine all ingredients except oil and form into patties. If mixture is too wet, add a bit more flour mixture; if it is too dry, add a bit of water. Pan fry patties over medium/low heat until crisp and golden brown.

Roasted vegetable curry 1 1/2 cups vegetable broth 1/2 cup coconut milk 2 tablespoons curry powder 1/2 teaspoon ground turmeric 1 pinch hot red pepper flakes (optional) Salt and pepper to taste 3 cups roasted vegetables 2 cups cooked lentils

Use roasted vegetables, a curry sauce and rice to make a seasonal meal. KATE JUSTEN/SPECIAL TO WNC PARENT

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Combine ingredients for curry sauce in sauce pan. Cook over medium heat for 5 minutes. Add already roasted veggies and cooked lentils to sauce. Serve over brown rice. Tip: Make brown rice and extra lentils to use in your next day’s meal.

the artist’s muse

Show what you’re thankful for By Ginger Huebner Special to WNC Parent

I am thankful. I am a mom, wife, sister, artist, teacher, friend and now a contributor to this magazine. Every day I have the opportunity to encourage the creative juices to flow out from each of my students. I am thankful for their eagerness to learn, despite their ages, young and old, and for the gift they give back to me. While being thankful is not exclusive to one time of year, we seem to become more reflective and more thankful during the fall. After all, it is Thanksgiving. During this time of year, I look for ways to celebrate the season of giving thanks visually, through an art project. A few years back, I was inspired by a dear friend’s gift of a “nest.” The nest represents the gathering near of loved ones, items of significance or objects that inspire or make us thankful. As with many of our projects, there is always an abundance of underlying teaching moments. Take the opportunity to begin by talking about how birds build nests and what materials they may use. Gather your own collection of materials with your kids: grasses, pine needles, vines, ribbons, even recycled cardboard strips from packaging. Wind the longest pieces around and around to create a circle about 3”-4” in diameter. Tie shorter strands around the edge of the circle to hold it into place. Continue wrapping and weaving various materials around to create the bottom of the nest. Add more ribbons, string and any other decorative strands. This is the basic structure of your nest. Now to add the “thankful” pieces: You can either search for unique items that are meaningful or symbolic (i.e., a small dice glued with four-dot side up could signify you are 4 years old). Or you can draw items on circular pieces of paper, representing eggs, of things you are thankful for. You can weave some items into the nest

The idea of a Thankful Nest is to display the items you are thankful for. They can be represented by objects attached to the nest. PHOTOS SPECIAL TO WNC PARENT

and glue other items using basic white glue or a glue gun if time is short. You can leave the nest free standing or affix it to a rigid board or surface. This project can be done with a wide range of ages, just adjust up or down according to ability. There you have it: your Thankful Nest. Ginger Huebner is the director of Roots + Wings School of Art, which offers visual art classes for all ages. Contact her at info@rootsandwingsarts.com or visit www.rootsandwingsarts.com.

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Build your nest by wrapping your twine or string into a 3- or 4-inch ball. This becomes the base of the nest.

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ACT puts Saturday spotlight on kids Bright Star Touring Theatre's "Once Upon a Time" will take the stage on Dec. 17. The play is best for ages 3-10. /SPECIAL TO WNC PARENT By James Shea WNC Parent contributor

Children take center stage one Saturday a month at Asheville Community Theatre. The organization, in conjunction with Bright Star Touring Theatre, is presenting two productions for children in November — “Sadie’s Spectacular Saturday” and “Maximus Mars.” Both plays are about bullying and teach children ways to handle those situations. Bright Star Touring Theatre was started nine years ago and performs in 23 states. Based in Asheville, the company has 18 actors. “Our objective is an anti-bullying message,” said David Ostergaard, Bright Star Touring Theatre owner and founder. “I was bullied as a child, so we try to do that.” Both plays are original productions. “Sadie’s Spectacular Saturday” tells the story of a caterpillar who is bullied by a cockroach. The caterpillar befriends a ladybug and learns that true beauty is within us. The play runs at 10 a.m. Nov. 12

UPCOMING CHILDREN’S PRODUCTIONS Nov. 12: “Sadie’s Spectacular Satuday” at 10 a.m. and “Maximus Mars” at 11:30 a.m. Dec. 17: “Once Upon a Time” at 10 a.m. and “A Dickens Tale” at 11:30 a.m.

at Asheville Community Theatre. The other children’s production in November, “Maximus Mars,” is a sub-genre of science fiction called steampunk. The lead character lands on an alien planet and is not treated well. The play helps children confront cyber-bullying. “Maximus Mars” takes the stage at 11:30 a.m. Nov. 12. “Sadie’s Spectacular Saturday” is for children ages 3- 10, and “Maximus Mars” is for children 8 years and older. In December, the theater will offer “Once Upon a Time” and “A Dickens Tale.” “Hopefully these spark conversations

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with the parents,” Ostergaard said. “Our shows are done in a way that children do not know that they are learning a lesson.” Asheville Community Theatre started working with Bright Star Touring Theatre last year. The theater hosted eight productions and is doing 16 over the next year. “I think it filled a very good need here,” said Janna Hoekema, Asheville Community Theatre program director. As a local theater, ACT must look at the community and find interests that are not being met, she said. The organization also hosts a camp for children in the summer, where they learn to put on a theatrical production. “The children’s plays and children’s productions are part of overall what we do,” Hoekema said. “A community theater needs to be part of the community.” Tickets to the Bright Star Touring Theatre productions at Asheville Community Theatre are $5 and available at the box office one hour before the productions start. For more information, visit www.ashevilletheatre.org or call 254-1320.

librarian’s pick

story times

‘Balloon era’ was a time of adventure By Jennifer Prince Buncombe County Public Libraries

A confluence of articulate, insightful and likeminded individuals brought about the Age of Enlightenment in 18th century France. Characterized by the advancement of reason and the free exchange of ideas, the Age of Enlightenment fostered an unprecedented interest in empirical science. With France being such an illustrious hive during this era, “the balloon era” experienced its nascence there. In his new book for youth, “Sky Sailors: True Stories of the Balloon Era,” author David L. Bristow describes a fascinating, storied era in which science met with flights of fancy. Using an upbeat, conversational writing style, Bristow begins by reminding readers that up until the late 1700s, people had never seen an aircraft of any kind. By the 1780s, however, the idea of flight by balloon was popular. Many experimented with it. Some failed fatally. Others met with great success. Throughout the book, Bristow recounts in chronological order personal stories about ballooning from the 18th and 19th centuries. Readers are introduced to the first aeronauts in France who, at first, by edict of the king, were allowed only to put farm animals in flight. Another account relates how a young French woman, Sophie Blanchard, surprised her neighbors by assuming her deceased husband’s job as balloonist. Over the next few years, she made her flights more dramatic. Once, for a night launch, she arranged for fireworks to go off as she ascended so that the effect would be that of a large shooting star. Audiences loved her for it. With each personal account, Bristow describes the science that influenced those aeronauts. Not all of the experiments came into universal use. For instance, Jean-Pierre Blanchard (Sophie’s husband), tweaked the standard balloon with ideas he developed watching

birds fly. One prototype he made had four flapping wings powered by the aeronaut’s arms and legs. It is suspected, though not confirmed, his creation never left the ground. Then in 1858, two children, ages 3 and 8, were released by accident in a balloon. They were recovered safely the next day. Silas Brooks, the balloon’s aeronaut, then calculated how quickly and how far the balloon went up. Based on what he knew about the lift achievable under certain conditions, Brooks calculated that the children’s ascent took them 4 1/2 miles into the air, more than 23,000 feet. Eventually, Bristow points out, ballooning became more reliable and thus, more widespread. Governments adopted ballooning in order to spy and take aerial photos. Adventurers ballooned in extreme conditions on purpose. The book is profusely illustrated with period drawings, postcards and even a couple of photographs. This book is available in the Buncombe County Public Libraries. To learn more, visit www.buncombecounty.org/library.

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Buncombe County Public Libraries Visit buncombecounty.org Black Mountain, 250-4756 Preschool: 10:30 a.m. Wednesday Mother Goose: 11:30 a.m. Tuesday Toddler: 10:30 a.m. Thursday East Asheville, 250-4738 Preschool: 11 a.m. Wednesday and Saturday Enka-Candler, 250-4758 Preschool: 10:30 a.m. Wednesday Toddler: 10:30 a.m. Thursday Fairview, 250-6484 Preschool: 10:30 a.m. Thursday Toddler: 10:30 a.m. Wednesday Leicester, 250-6480 Mother Goose: 11:30 a.m. Tuesday Preschool: 10:30 a.m. Wednesday North Asheville, 250-4752 School Age: 3:15 p.m. Thursday Preschool: 11 a.m. Wednesday Toddler: 10 a.m. Wednesday Oakley/South Asheville, 250-4754 Mother Goose: 11 a.m. Thursday Toddler: 11 a.m. Wednesday Preschool: 10 a.m. Wednesday Pack Memorial Library, 250-4700 Preschool: 10:30 a.m. Mondays Mother Goose: 10:30 a.m. Tuesdays Toddler: 10:30 a.m. Thursdays School Age: 3:30 p.m. Wednesdays Skyland/South Buncombe, 2506488 Preschool: 10:30 a.m. Thursday Toddler: 10:30 a.m. Wednesday Swannanoa, 250-6486 Preschool: 11 a.m. Thursday Toddler: 10 a.m. Thursday Weaverville, 250-6482 Mother Goose: 11 a.m. Wednesday Toddler: 11 a.m. Thursday Preschool: 11 a.m. Tuesday West Asheville, 250-4750 Mother Goose: 11 a.m. Monday Toddler: 11 a.m. Wednesday Preschool: 11 a.m. Thursday

Haywood County Public Library

Visit www.haywoodlibrary.org. Waynesville, 356-2512 or 356-2511 Baby Rhyme Time: 9:30 a.m. Mondays Movers and Shakers: 11 a.m. Thursdays Family story time: 11 a.m. Wednesdays Ready 4 Learning: 11 a.m. Tuesdays

Canton For story times, call 648-2924, ext. 2562, or email lhartzell@haywoodnc.net.

Henderson County Public Library

Visit www.henderson.lib.nc.us. Main, 697-4725 Bouncing Babies: 11 a.m. Wednesdays and Thursdays Toddler Time: 10:30 a.m. Wednesdays Stories Alive: 4 p.m. Thursdays Edneyville, 685-0110 Family: 10 a.m. Mondays Etowah, 891-6577 Family: 11 a.m. Tuesdays Fletcher, 687-1218 Bouncing Babies: 11:15 a.m. Wednesdays Toddler Time: 10 a.m. Wednesdays Preschool: 10:30 a.m. Wednesdays Green River, 697-4969 Family: 10 a.m. Thursdays Mills River, 890-1850 Familiy: 10 a.m. Mondays

Barnes & Noble

Asheville Mall, 296-7335 11 a.m. Mondays and 2 p.m. Saturdays

Blue Ridge Books

152 S. Main St., Waynesville, 4566000 10:30 a.m. Mondays for ages 3 and under. No story time on Labor Day.

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home-school happenings

Teach your children well By Nicole McKeon WNC Parent columnist

It’s an old but true statement, children live what they learn — which is probably why my kids don’t immediately fold their clothing and put it away in their drawers. So, lately, I have found myself dismayed by observations I have been forced to make related to adult bad behavior trickling down to kids. For instance, I firmly believe that the whole bullying issue we are witnessing in schools, on our playgrounds and other places where children gather is a result of children observing the bad behavior of adults. Whether it’s the disgusting displays on television of spiteful or downright evil behavior being presented as “cool,” or our society’s general apathy when it comes to speaking up about dishonesty because our admiration of wealth has outweighed our admiration of moral behavior, I am pretty sure our kids are getting a significant message. And, it’s not good. I think it starts with the general great American disconnect. We don’t have any real connections with each other anymore. No matter your political bent, or your party affiliation, I hope that most human beings would find that crowds cheering for high numbers of human beings being put to death by capital punishment should not be cheered. What are we, patrons of the Coliseum cheering on gladiators? I was horrified and so distressed by

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You must talk about difficult subjects. You must face ugly social circumstances ... and prepare your children for a future where they ... fight for what they believe in. recent reports that a high school student killed himself over Facebook comments, and that the comments continued even after the kid was dead. Is there anyone else out there who is terrified by this? Have our children been so numbed by the technology that we have become addicted to, that they no longer have a reality-based moral conscience? Has it all become a big social network, where no human being is actually real? I am really worried. And, the depressing thing is, that it is so hard to go against the grain. It’s like fighting a tsunami. Why is it, do you think, that there are so many more people who are willing to go along with bad behavior than there are individuals willing to stand up and say “wait a minute, I think that’s wrong”? We blame the kids for their bad behavior, but guess what? They learned it from us. If you spend your whole day texting, and your whole night watching reality television, what example is your child getting? I have spent a lot of time thinking about the connections we as humans require to function well. It’s no wonder that we don’t have world peace, when we can’t even figure out how to have “home peace.” And, there is no easy solution. But, I think a good place to start is to develop a serious, honest, deep and passionate connection among your family members. You must talk about difficult subjects. You must face ugly social circumstances head on and prepare your children for a future where they will have to fight for what they believe in, for what is right, for “the least of these.” You must, because childhood is an endangered species. Speaking truth to power is almost extinct, and if we don't teach it to our children, who will? Families live at the crossroads of extinction and survival. Love and truth are the only weapons we have, and the only weapons we need. Teach them well. Nicole McKeon is a home-schooling mom and owner of Homeschool Station in Fairview. Email her at homeschoolstation@hotmail.com.

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Sometimes, people can stun you By Chris Worthy WNC Parent columnist

I’ve heard some bizarre things — really bizarre things. In my former career as a lawyer, I worked for people who were in very rough patches of life. I’ve attempted to converse with some who were detoxing from a list of substances and others who were responding to voices that I didn’t hear. I’ve had men who were twice my size rant to me in a string of expletives, some of which I couldn’t even define. (Why I loved my job is a topic for another day, but I did love it — and those people.) More importantly I have children. As any parent of kids old enough to talk will tell you, that means nothing that anyone, anywhere says should shock me now.

When my daughter was in kindergarten, she informed me that someone had said the “s” word at school. The “s” word was “stupid,” I later learned. A few years later, when my son reported a classmate had said the “f” word, I knew enough to ask questions. The kid had called someone “fat” — not nice, but not as bad as it could have been. Years of parenting mean I don’t fall into dumbfounded speechlessness at the drop of a hat. A few weeks ago, a 60ish-year-old woman shopping the juice aisle with her husband did it to me though. Apparently, her husband was noting the environmentally friendly packaging on something when she declared, “I don’t give a (insert naughty word here) about the environment.” I stopped my cart, stared at her and my mouth dropped open. I really did. It was an involuntary reaction. Juice Lady is now the person I see when I throw paper in the recycling bin. For every

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I have children. As any parent of kids old enough to talk will tell you, that means nothing that anyone, anywhere says should shock me now.

piece I reuse, then recycle, I feel like she is making airplanes out of paper from virgin forests. When I make sure my son is taking a reusable bottle with him when he takes off outside, she is not only buying bottled water, but tossing the empties in a river. She probably carries those plastic can rings to the beach on vacation so she can place them on the necks of sea birds. OK, maybe not. Juice Lady isn’t the devil, of course. I know that. She was probably having a bad day, was mad at her husband or maybe she was stressing about her grocery budget. I don’t know. I suspect she really does give a (you know what) about the environment. At least, I hope she does. Even if she doesn’t care for her own benefit, geez Louise, I have kids. One day, in the very distant future, I hope to have grandchildren. I want them to have clean water and soil that’s fit for growing food. And in the meantime, I want my children to have clean air — minus the obscenities. I think I will start carrying a swear jar. Look out Juice Lady. I expect you to give quarters to everyone within earshot next time. Chris Worthy is an attorney who took down her single to be a stay-at-home mom. Contact her at chris@worthyplace.com.

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4 ways to raise a better teenager By Trip Woodard WNC Parent columnist

The perfect storm. That is what I think of regarding the adolescent stage. There is so much going on at one time with their bodies, their brain and their social lives. Their bodies are maturing, their brain changing (but, still emotionally reactive) and their social lives may not render reliable information. Now, here is the good news … their brains are still growing and full development will not occur until they are in their early 20s. So parents who feel besieged, here is your ray of hope! Some parents dodge the bullet about this age, but I will focus on those who don’t, divorced or not. I like to think of this as a time that is critical in “training their brains” when it comes to tween and teenagers. How does one do that? Good question! Let’s start with some simple answers . First, what are you feeding them? Burger World doesn’t cut it. They need vegetables, fruit and wholesome protein. I have no problem with “cheating” and giving them dietary supplements like vitamins and omega-3. Try to focus on breakfast, which tends to be neglected. Second, what kind of exercise are they getting? No, playing video games does not count. Try to find a physical passion that they can get involved in … mixed martial arts,

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dancing, horseback riding, playing music or whatever. The brain grows and is stimulated by activity. Third, look at your own emotional approach to them. Are you reactive or intentional? Reactive parents return fire with fire. You know, teens say something hurtful to you and you say something hurtful back. Or, you respond with a punishment that is way out of proportion to what they did, like grounding them for a month. Intentional parents have figured out that the best way to fight fire is with water. They work to have natural and proportional consequences to what their teens do that mirrors real life. They can even empathize with the “choices” their teen has made that results with the consequence. “I really am sorry you made that choice because now I can’t take you to the skating park, and I really wanted to watch you do some tricks,” is an example. Love and Logic is an excellent parenting resource that helps with this line of thinking. It is taught for free around WNC. It was developed by a teacher, not a therapist, and provides parents with specific answers to real situations with teens.

Fourth, don’t be shy about being more proactive in their lives. This means getting to know their friends and especially the friends’ parents. Don’t be convinced that this is socially damaging to your teen. Make your introduction to their friends’ parents casual but realistic should problems evolve. Let those parents know that you expect your teen to act at their house like he or she does at your home. Finally, if you haven’t already, start to get tech-savvy. Learn about social networking such as Facebook, Twitter and texting. Become familiar with iPods. Don’t be sneaky, but let children know you are periodically monitoring these things because you are either “footing the bill” or just because you know that there are bad guys out there and you care. Ultimately, it is not what they think about you in the moment, but what choices you make as a parent that is in the best interest of your teen that matters. Trip Woodard is a licensed family and marriage therapist and a clinical member of the N.C. Association of Marriage and Family Therapists. Contact him at 606-8607.

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Teen drivers prone to ‘G-force’ errors HealthDay

Crash experts studying why newly licensed teenagers have many more accidents than adults have zeroed in on the elevated gravitational forces, or “Gforces,” caused by braking late, swerving abruptly and other common new-driver mistakes. These judgment-related maneuvers make losing vehicle control more likely and leave less time to react to hazards, said researchers with the U.S. National Institutes of Health. To explore the young-driver dynamic, the NIH team studied 42 newly licensed teens in Virginia. For comparative purposes, the researchers also assessed the driving habits of 55 parents operating the same vehicles. All were tracked for a total of 18 months between 2006-08. Over the study period, the teens experienced higher rates of crashes or nearcrashes compared with parents — 37 crashes and 242 near-crashes versus just 2 crashes and 32 close-calls among the adults.

Tap leftovers to make sandwiches, casseroles

By Lorinda Jarvis Gannett

OK, huddle up. Here’s the plan: for days before Thanksgiving, you’re going to be cooking, cleaning and preparing for a house full of guests. The food needs to be perfect, the floors gleaming, the good silver polished and ready to go. Tired yet? Nope, no time for a nap. Next, you'll need to clean a mess of epic proportions and smile while the men gather to watch football. Keep smiling! Done cleaning? Good, because you need to grab your Christmas list and scan the Internet and shopping inserts for the best Black Friday deals. Did you see? More stores this year are opening at midnight on Black Friday, so that means the lines will form hours earlier. You'd better get a move on. And oh, yeah, what were you planning to serve the hungry masses on Friday? They’re so over the straight-from-thefridge leftovers scene. If you have any energy left from the annual Thanksgiving triathalon, here are a few ideas and recipes that use leftovers from The Feast. That way, you will have meals for days to come, allowing you to slip into a well-deserved coma. “Well, lots of people I know absolutely dread leftovers,” said Laura Vitale, a home cook who runs her own food website, www.laurainthekitchen.com. “I, for one, live for them! I mean turkey, mashed potatoes, cranberry sauce just sitting in your fridge -- what's better?” And there's always that pressing need to put all that good food to use. “I love to entertain, especially after the holiday, because there is still so much food around,” Vitale said. “I like to treat my guests to fun and delicious food, but I still want to use up all those leftovers.” Like most home cooks, Vitale has zero interest in straight turkey and mashed potatoes for the next week. “But I do want a fabulous pesto turkey panini or a warm bowl of soup,” she said.

Tastes Like Thanksgiving casserole From the cooks at Taste of Home magazine, here’s another twist on the Thanksgiving casserole:

With a little forethought as the Thanksgiving feast is prepared, you can pave the way for delicious leftovers. REX PERRY/GNS “There are so many different things you can do with leftovers.” Sharon Collins loves to make soup to set aside for lunches, and does a little bit of the work before she even puts away the Thanksgiving leftovers. Registered dietitian Cheryl Ann Macellaro is a veteran Black Friday shopper who likes to whip up easy turkey au jus sandwiches the day after Thanksgiving. It's easy, warm and healthy and perfect after a long, cold day of shopping, she said.

Leftovers for stock

Like other cooks, Vitale finds herself peeling a lot of vegetables on Thanksgiving. Instead of tossing the carrot and onion peels, she saves them in a plastic storage bag. “Once I have used up all the turkey, I take those peels and the turkey bones and I put them in a large pot filled with water,” she said. “I add a couple stalks of celery, a few peppercorns and a bay leaf or two and I let it simmer for a couple of hours on very low to make a fantastic stock.”

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6 medium potatoes, peeled and cut into chunks 1-1/4 cups chopped celery 3/4 cup chopped onion 1/2 cup butter, cubed 6 cups unseasoned stuffing cubes 1 teaspoon poultry seasoning 1/4 teaspoon rubbed sage 1 cup Progresso chicken broth 4 cups cubed cooked turkey 2 cans (10-3/4 ounces each) condensed cream of chicken soup, undiluted 1 teaspoon garlic powder 3/4 cup sour cream, divided 4 ounces cream cheese, softened 1/2 teaspoon pepper 1/4 teaspoon salt 1 1/2 cups (6 ounces) shredded cheddar cheese

Place potatoes in a Dutch oven and cover with water. Bring to a boil. Reduce heat; cover and cook for 15-20 minutes or until tender. Meanwhile, in a large skillet, saut celery and onion in butter until tender. Remove from the heat. In a large bowl, combine the stuffing cubes, poultry seasoning and sage. Stir in broth and celery mixture. Transfer to a greased 13by-9-inch baking dish. In another large bowl, combine the turkey, soup, garlic powder and 1/4-cup sour cream; spoon over stuffing mixture. Drain potatoes; mash in a large bowl. Beat in the cream cheese, pepper, salt and remaining sour cream; spread over turkey mixture. Sprinkle with cheese. Bake, uncovered, at 350 degrees for 30-35 minutes or until heated through.Yield: 8 servings. Recipe courtesy of “Taste of Home Cookbook,” 3rd edition

She allows the stock to cool, skims off any fat and ladles the stock into disposable soup containers, freezing it for future use. “It makes lots of homemade stock that I love, and I can use whenever I need it,” Vitale said. It saves money because she doesn’t have to buy stock for a while and it makes her happy putting everything to good use. “I try to use every ingredient I buy to the absolute fullest,” she said. “And this is a great way to do it.”

Cranberry sauce

Vitale usually makes her own cranberry sauce on Thanksgiving and can count on leftovers. She loves to stir some of what remains into her morning oatmeal. “It makes boring oatmeal very elegant and not to mention delicious,” she said. Other suggestions: » Spoon it on top of some vanilla ice cream for a “grown up” ice cream sundae. » Stir in into a muffin batter. “Not only does it give great flavor to the muffins, but it keeps them incredibly moist.” » Layer it with some yogurt and granola for a light, satisfying breakfast. » Use it in place of strawberries in a classic strawberry shortcake. “It can now be called fall cranberry shortcake,” she said.

Turkey soup Before putting Thanksgiving dinner away, take the time to cut two cups of the leftover turkey into cubes. Set it aside for the soup you can enjoy for the next day's lunch or dinner:

4 cups chicken broth 1 1/2 cup frozen mixed veggies 2 cups turkey 1/2 cup pastina or other mini pasta

Bring broth veggies and chicken to a boil in a saucepan. Add in pasta and cook until the pasta is done. Remember: Pastina cooks in only 6 minutes.

Pesto turkey panini Take two slices of Italian bread. Spread some premade pesto sauce (you can find this at specialty or grocery stores) over each slice. Place a slice of cheese over each side and top with some sliced leftover turkey breast. Place in a panini press or cook it how ever you usually cook your grilled cheese.

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Turkey au jus sandwiches 1/8 cup reduced fat Italian salad dressing 1 tablespoon water 1 packet low-sodium beef bouillon granules 1 small onion, sliced 1 green pepper, sliced and seeded 2 teaspoons Wondra gravy thickener 3/4 cup water 2 teaspoons low-sodium Worcestershire sauce 1/2 pound sliced cooked turkey 2 tomatoes, sliced 1/4 pound Alpine Lace provolone cheese Sliced whole wheat Italian bread

Combine the salad dressing, tablespoon of water and bouillon in a large skillet and bring it to a boil. Add the onion and green pepper; cover and simmer for about 5 minutes until vegetables are tender. Combine gravy thickener, 3/4 cup water and Worcestershire sauce. Add to onion mixture. Bring to a boil and cook 1 minute until thickened.Add more water, if desired, to thin out gravy. Add the turkey and heat the meat through. Place sliced bread on plate, cover with turkey and top with sliced tomato and provolone cheese. This may be briefly heated in microwave to melt the cheese. Adapted from a recipe on ifoods.tv

Leftovers make tasty transformation By Ron Mikulak Gannett

The remains of the turkey is the main food item that has to be managed after Thanksgiving, but side dishes, too, are prepared in quantity, to be sure everyone has enough. And when they have, there is more, to be eaten as leftovers. Turkey has its own appeal, even cold between two slices of bread, with just a dab of mayo. But how to make use of those leftover sweet potatoes, or that half-can of cranberry sauce, things people are less likely just to dig into with the refrigerator door open? Pommes dauphines is the fancy French name for fried potato puffs, an amusing and even elegant way to deal with leftover mashed potatoes. This version uses pured sweet potatoes, an even more amusing variation on the idea. Canned cranberry sauce seems

No bake cheesecake pie with cranberry glaze Crust: 1 1/2 cups graham cracker crumbs 1/3 cup brown sugar 1/2 teaspoon cinnamon (optional) 2/3 cup melted butter Filling: 2 8-ounce packages cream cheese, softened 1/4 cup brown sugar 1/3 cup cream 8 ounces white chocolate chips, melted and cooled slightly 1/2 to 1 cup leftover jellied cranberry sauce

To make crust: Mix sugar and cinnamon with the cracker crumbs. Pour in melted butter, and mix with a fork until evenly distributed throughout the mixture. Press onto the bottom and sides of a 10-inch pie plate. (A small bowl with a flat bottom is a great tool to use for this.) Cover, and place in the refrigerator to set, 30 GANNETT minutes. To make filling: Beat the cream cheese with an electric mixer until smooth, 2 or 3 minutes. Add brown sugar, and blend in well. Add the cream, and mix at higher speed for about 2 to 3 minutes. Pour in the cooled melted white chocolate, and blend well at low speed for about 2 minutes. Pour this mixture onto piecrust. Chill for at least 1 hour. In a heavy saucepan over low heat, melt the cranberry sauce, stirring. Spread melted cranberry sauce over set cheesecake pie. Let it sit in the refrigerator at least 4 hours before serving. It's best to prepare this a day before to allow it to set properly. Serves 8.

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Sweet potato pommes dauphines Scalloped sweet potatoes, or sweet potatoes flavored with marshmallows or fruit, are perfectly OK for this recipe. Mash well, flavored as is, if not already mashed, then proceed with recipe.

1 cup leftover mashed sweet potatoes 1 cup water 3 tablespoons butter Pinch of salt 3/4 cup flour 4 eggs Nutmeg to taste Salt and pepper Oil for frying

Place mashed sweet potatoes in a heavy pot over very low heat. Dry the mashed potatoes, stirring with a wooden spoon until they no longer stick to the sides of the pot. Set aside. In a new clean pot, boil 1 cup water. Add the butter and a pinch of salt. When butter is melted, remove from heat, and add the flour all at once, mixing vigorously until absorbed, then put the mixture back on a low fire to dry slightly. Remove the mixture from the heat, and add the eggs, one at a time. Mix with a wooden spoon until you have a dough that is still wet and slightly sticky. Incorporate each egg fully (the dough will at first seem to separate, then come back together as you beat vigorously) before you add the next egg. Mix the potatoes and the dough together completely. Add nutmeg, salt and pepper to taste. Heat several inches of oil in a pot or deep fryer to 350 degrees. Carefully drop 1 tablespoon of the mixture into the oil, repeating until you are cooking 5 or 6 at a time â&#x20AC;&#x201D; do not crowd. Allow the mixture to puff up and brown, turning to brown all sides. Remove, and drain on paper towels. Repeat until the dough is used up. Serve hot, lightly salted. Makes about 2 dozen fritters.

to have a limited appeal. After Thanksgiving it is often not seen again for another year. But fresh cranberries are very pleasant in quick breads or pies, with other fruit and nuts. And, it turns out, cranberry's tang sets off the sweetness of chocolate very nicely. This quick ice-box cheesecake is fancied up just enough with a glaze of melted cranberry jelly, which can be as thick or as thin as the leftovers in Grandmother's cut-glass serving dish allow.

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Doctors revise ADHD guidelines Range now includes preschoolers to age 18 By Serena Gordon HealthDay

In new guidelines released last month, the American Academy of Pediatrics has expanded the age range for the diagnosis and treatment of attention-deficit hyperactivity disorder to children as young as 4 and as old as 18. For the youngest children, the academy is emphasizing the use of behavior treatments over medication in most cases. “I think the most significant changes are expanding the ages from preschool through adolescence. The original guidelines were from 6 to 12, because that’s where the evidence was. We’ve been able to broaden the scope of the guidelines because there was more evidence available for preschoolers and adolescents,” said the lead author of the new recommendations, Dr. Mark Wolraich, professor

at the University of Oklahoma Health Sciences Center in Oklahoma City. Wolraich added that the new guidelines also give pediatricians advice on managing inattention or hyperactivity problems that don’t quite meet the definition of ADHD. More than 5 million children in the United States have been diagnosed with ADHD, according to the U.S. Centers for Disease Control and Prevention. Children with the disorder show signs of inattentiveness, impulsivity and hyperactivity. They may be unable to pay attention in class, or may spend a lot of time fidgeting in their seats or talking nonstop. Although most kids may display this type of behavior at one time or another, it becomes a problem when it occurs most of the time, according to the U.S. National Institute of Mental Health. Treatment for ADHD may include medications or behavior therapy, or both. In fact, Wolraich said “the combination of both medication and behavioral therapy is probably the best choice when possible.” A recent study, published online in

September in the American Journal of Psychiatry, found that the use of ADHD medication is on the rise, with 5 percent of American children now taking stimulant medications such as Ritalin or Adderall to treat the disorder. Those researchers suggested that the increase might be due to a greater recognition of ADHD as a chronic condition. The new guidelines recommend that unless a child in the 4- to 6-year-old age group has a serious problem, that behavior therapy should be the first treatment tried. If necessary, medications can be added later. Dr. Richard Gallagher, director of special projects at the Institute for AttentionDeficit Hyperactivity and Behavior Disorders at the NYU Child Study Center in New York City, said, “Medications should be used very carefully. I’m admittedly biased since I primarily do behavioral work, but behavioral work does have its limits. If a child is getting into dangerous situations or presenting with problems interacting appropriately with peers and adults, medications can be very useful. ”

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1. Lively dance in 2-4 time 6. A main ingredient of custard 9. Back talk 13. Single-cell protozoan 14. Second person pronoun 15. Type of flour used in many cakes and cookies 16. Surfaces or coats, v. 17. Cash giver 18. “Played” during school 19. Hurries 21. Chocolate square 23. To do this is human 24. Some candy bar wrappers are made of this 25. Ceiling prop 28. It goes up and down 30. Run off 35. Flying saucers 37. Type of chocolate 39. The sweet in sweet tooth 40. Child's inanimate friend 41. Press it to activate 43. Hindu princess 44. Russian prison 46. Actress Lollobrigida 47. Leo or Libra, e.g. 48. 7-______ 50. Arial, e.g.

52. Often rushed in tennis 53. Snoopy 55. ___ Goo Dolls 57. Final course 61. Reduce to pure state, as in sugar 64. Frenchman’s love 65. Top seed 67. Beats with a whip 69. Mexican revolutionary 70. Contend 71. Suggestive of the supernatural 72. Popular Scandinavian name 73. Bugling animal 74. Rub out

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1. Between generations 2. Wet nurse 3. Bulgarian money 4. Like one with high BMI 5. Baked confection 6. Young hawk 7. Acquired 8. Southern soup 9. Best in ____ 10. Also spelled “eon” 11. Japanese vodka 12. Eye infection 15. Greater than sum of parts? pl. 20. Wear away 22. Relieve from 24. Add vitamin D to milk, e.g. 25. A Judy Blume character 26. State of entan-

glement 27. _____ prosequi 29. Opposite of yin 31. Mongrels 32. Once more 33. Disease often associated with dogs 34. “All the news that’s fit to _____” 36. Member of eastern European

people 38. Bingo-like game 42. Where deer and antelope play 45. Plural of genus 49. Neither here ___ there 51. English ______ 54. One of Ben Franklin’s inventions

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calendar of events

Family friendly calendar Deadline for the December issue calendar is Nov. 10. This includes holiday events. Email information to calendar@wncparent.com .

November

KID FITNESS CLASSES: YWCA of Asheville offers new program with yoga, Zumba, diving and Fit Swim Club for kids. Yoga, for ages 7-12, is 3:30 p.m. Tuesdays. Kids’ Zumba, for ages 7-12, is 10 a.m. Saturdays. YW diving class meets 4:15 p.m. Tuesdays in the YWCA’s solar-heated pool. Freestyle diving is 6:45 p.m. Tuesdays. The YW Fit Swim Club meets Wednesdays at 5:00 pm. The YWCA is located at 185 S. French Broad Avenue. The cost for a four-week Kid’s Fitness session is $70 for nonmembers, $45 for aquatics members and $25 for Club W members. For more information, call 254-7206 or go to www.ywcaofasheville.org.

Nov. 1

OPEN HOUSE: Asheville Catholic School hosts an open house the first Tuesday of each month, 1011:30 a.m. Visit www.ashevillecatholic.org or call 252-7896 to reserve a spot.

Nov. 1-2

WEE NATURALIST PROGRAM: N.C. Arboretum offers program for ages 2-5 with age-appropriate nature lessons including walks, garden exploration, stories, crafts and visits from classroom animals. This week’s theme is “Dancing Leaves.” Runs 10-11 a.m. Tuesdays and Wednesdays (explore classroom starting at 9:30 a.m.). $6 per child. Younger siblings and adults free when accompanied by paid participant. “Wee Card” offers four visits for $20. Free parking for pre-registered participants. Visit www.ncarboretum.org to register. For information, contact Michelle Pearce at 665-2492, ext. 243, or mpearce@ncarboretum.org.

Nov. 2

ART CLASS: Roots + Wings School of Art offers four-week art sessions for ages 3-6. Sessions are 3:30-4:30 p.m. Wednesdays, Nov. 2-30 (focus on collage and mixed media). $50 per child. Classes at The Cathedral of All Souls, 3 Angle St., Biltmore Village. Visit www.rootsandwingsarts.com or call 545-4827.

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HOLIDAY STOCKING CLASS: Three-week class, 10 a.m.-noon Thursdays starting Nov. 3, at Purl’s Yarn Emporium, 10 Wall St., Asheville. $35. Call 253-2750 or visit www.purlsyarnemporium.com. MEET AUTHOR STEPHANIE PERKINS: Author of “Anna and the French Kiss” will read from her new book, “Lola and the Boy Next Door,” answer questions and more. Free. At 6:30 p.m. at East Asheville Library, 902 Tunnel Road. Call 250-4738.

Nov. 3 and 10

CHILDBIRTH CLASSES: A free two-session class, on Nov. 3 and 10, for expectant parents covering the labor and delivery process, relaxation, breathing patterns, birth options, positioning and comfort measures. 6:30–9 p.m. Registration required. At Pardee Hospital, 800 N. Justice St., Hendersonville. Call 866-790-WELL or visit www.pardeehospital.org to register.

Nov. 4

ASHEVILLE INTERNATIONAL CHILDREN’S FILM FESTIVAL: Third annual festival is the largest of its kind in the Southeast, runs Nov. 4-13. More than 70 films from 25 countries shown at three venues in Asheville and Tryon. Visit www.aicff.org for details and showtimes. BREVARD STORYTELLING FESTIVAL: Featuring national favorites Sheila Kay Adams and Southern Voices: Glenis Redmond and Scott Ainslie, as well as N.C. Storytelling Guild tellers Charlotte Ross, Sherry Lovett and David Joe Miller, and also Brevard Youth

The Asheville International Children's Film Festival is the largest of its kind in the Southeast and runs Nov. 4-11. This is a frame from “Murphy’s Shorts.” SPECIAL TO WNC PARENT Tellers. Free. Headliners’ concert is 7:30 p.m. Nov. 4, workshops and events from 9 a.m.-9:30 p.m. Nov. 5. For schedule, visit www.ncstoryguild.org. or call 884-3151 or 274-1123. TEEN AWESOME GROUP: Work on the book movie trailer project for “The Forest of Hands and Teeth”

by Carrie Ryan. For ages 12-18. Meets 4-5:30 p.m. at Weaverville Library, 41 N. Main St. Call 250-6482 or email weaverville.library@buncombecounty.org. USED BOOK SALE: Cash only. 10 a.m.-6 p.m. Nov. 4 and 10 a.m.-4 p.m. Nov. 5 at Enka-Candler Library, 1404 Sandhill Road. Call 250-4758.

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‘BALLAD OF TOM DOOLEY’ READING: Author Sharyn McCrumb reads from her book, starting at 2 p.m. at Vance Birthplace State Historic Site. On Reems Creek Road, near Weaverville. Call 645-6706. BOOK SALE: Weaverville Library, 41 N. Main St., hosts half-priced book sale, 10 a.m.-3 p.m. All books left from annual Labor Day sale will be sold for half of marked price. Books for all ages, audio and video. Call 250-6482. CHILDREN’S CONSIGNMENT SALE: Hosted by First Baptist Church WEE School, 8 a.m.-1 p.m. in gym on Fourth Avenue. Includes gently used children's clothing, toys, books, furniture, equipment and accessories. For information or to consign, call 693-8312. FACE PAINTING: Free face painting (tips appreciated), noon-5 p.m. at Asheville’s Fun Depot, 7 Roberts Road, Asheville. No purchase necessary. Call 227-2FUN to confirm. Visit www.ashevillesfundepot.com. GEOCACHING DAY: N.C. Arboretum hosts a daylong event for visitors to learn about and find geocaches. Seasoned geocachers with their own equipment can start as early as 8 a.m. Those new to the sport or those without handheld GPS units can borrow one donated by Diamond Brand Outdoors and join an Arboretum educator for guided adventures from 1-2:30 p.m. and 3-4:30 p.m. Visit www.ncarboretum.org/education/geocaching-day. GIRL SCOUT DAY: Chimney Rock Park offers programming for troops. $12 per scout, with one chaperone admitted free per 10 scouts; $11.50 per additional adult. Visit www.chimneyrockpark.com.

HAHN’S PARENTS’ NIGHT OUT: Hahn’s Gymnastics hosts children ages 3-12, with pizza dinner and gymnastics-related games and activities. $15 for first child, $7.50 for each sibling if enrolled at Hahn’s ($20/$10 if no enrolled). From 5:30 p.m.-midnight. Call 684-8832 to register. HOLIDAY MARKET: Roberson High School PTSO hosts market with crafts, music, food and more. Raffles every hour. Free admission and parking. 9 a.m.-3 p.m. at 250 Overlook Road, Asheville. MOOZIC LADY: Free music program for ages 3 and older at 11 a.m. at East Asheville Library, 902 Tunnel Road. Call 250-4738. WOMEN’S HEALTH AND WEALTH DAY: Free spa treatments, health screenings, foot orthotic assessments, health information, healthy snacks, prizes and more. Noon-3 p.m. at Stephens-Lee Recreation Center, 30 George Washington Carver St., Asheville. Call 350-2058 or email stephenslee@ashevillenc.gov. YMCA PARENTS’ NIGHT OUT: At Downtown Asheville YMCA for ages 2-12. Activities include swimming, arts and crafts, inflatable obstacle course, snacks and a movie. Register online or in person (at least 24 hours ahead). Offered 6-10 p.m. the first Saturday of each month. $15 for members ($23 for nonmembers), with $2 sibling discounts. Call 210-9614 or visit www.ymcawnc.org.

Nov. 6

COMMUNITY OPEN HOUSE: Veritas Christian Academy offers school tours, chance to talk with teachers and learn about school’s vision, 2-4 p.m. At 17 Cane Creek Road, just off Hendersonville Road, in Fletcher. Visit www.veritasnc.org.

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LEICESTER LIBRARY ANNIVERSARY PARTY: Celebrate the library’s 10th anniversary, 2-3 p.m. Winners of library bookmark design contest announced. Refreshments. Raffle to benefit Friends of the Leicester Library. Call 250-6480 or email leicester.library@buncombecounty.org.

Nov. 7

ART CLASS: Roots + Wings School of Art offers a four-week art class for students in grades K-5. Sessions are 4-5 p.m. Mondays, Nov. 7-28 and focus on drawing, painting and sculpture). $50 per child. Classes at The Cathedral of All Souls, 3 Angle St., Biltmore Village. Visit www.rootsandwingsarts.com or call 545-4827. YWCA SWIM LESSONS: New session of Red Crosscertified lessons starts for all skill levels. Visit www.ywcaofasheville.org or call 254-7206, ext. 110, for details.

Nov. 8

DANCE UNDERCOVER CLASS: Learn a dance to Michael Jackson’s “P.Y.T.” and have the chance to participate ina flash mob. Four-session class for grades 2-5 at The Creative Technology and Arts Center at Odyssey Community School, 90 Zillicoa St., Asheville. Runs 4-5 p.m. Tuesdays, starting Nov. 8. $10 per class, $7 for Odyssey students. Attend first class for free then register for all four sessions. RSVP to katykatykh@hotmail.com.

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Nov. 8-9

WEE NATURALIST PROGRAM: N.C. Arboretum offers program for ages 2-5 with age-appropriate nature lessons including walks, garden exploration, stories, crafts and visits from classroom animals. This week’s theme is “Terrific Trees.” Runs 10-11 a.m. Tuesdays and Wednesdays (explore classroom starting at 9:30 a.m.). $6 per child. Younger siblings and adults free when accompanied by paid participant. “Wee Card” offers four visits for $20. Free parking for pre-registered participants. Visit www.ncarboretum.org to register. For information, contact Michelle Pearce at 665-2492, ext. 243, or mpearce@ncarboretum.org.

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COLBURN STORY TIME: Pack Library hosts Colburn Earth Science Museum for “Blast Off: A Journey through the Solar System,” featuring the museum’s portable planetarium. Free. For ages 6-12. At 3:30 p.m. at 67 Haywood St., Asheville. Call 250-4720 or email pack.children@buncombecounty.org. HOLIDAY GIFT MAKING WORKSHOP: Make jewelry, mosaics, embroidery and more. For second grade and older. Four-session class runs 4-5:30 p.m. Wednesdays starting Nov. 9 at The Creative Technology and Arts Center at Odyssey Community School, 90 Zillicoa St., Asheville. $10 per hourlong class, $7 for Odyssey students. RSVP to

cavery@odysseycommunity.org. HOLISTIC PARENTING FORUM: Free group to provide support, education and resources for a community of parents committed to natural living. Meets 6-8 p.m. the second Wednesday of the month at Earth Fare in West Asheville. Children welcome. Call 230-4850 or email shantisunshine@gmail.com.

‘DISNEY’S PETER PAN JR.’: Flat Rock Playhouse’s YouTheatre offers daytime performances at 11 a.m. and 1 p.m. of “Disney’s Peter Pan Jr.” For children of all ages. Tickets are $5. Call 693-0731 for reservations. Daytime performance reservations must be prepaid one week in advance with cash or check only.

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OPEN HOUSE: Learn about the K4 and kindergarten programs at Asheville Christian Academy, 9-11 a.m. Drop in or register at www.acacademy.org/ admissions. At 74 Riverwood Road, Swannanoa. Call 581-2200. SCREEN PRINTING CLASS: Introduction to basic screen printing and stenciling techniques using clay as the canvas. For high school students and adults. Classes are four weeks, at 4 p.m. Tuesdays starting Nov. 10 at The Creative Technology and Arts Center at Odyssey Community School, 90 Zillicoa St., Asheville. $10 per class, $7 for Odyssey students. RSVP to mm.rezza@gmail.com.

Nov. 10-13

‘DISNEY’S PETER PAN JR.’: Flat Rock Playhouse’s YouTheatre presents an hourlong musical version of “Peter Pan” with a cast of more than 30 local children and adults. Also Nov. 17-20. Performances at 7 p.m. Nov. 10-12 and 2 p.m. Nov. 12-13. Tickets are $18 for adults, $10 for students and children. Call 6930731 or 866-732-8008 or visit www.flatrockplayhouse.org.

Nov. 11-13

‘DIARY OF ANNE FRANK’: Hendersonville Little Theatre presents “The Diary of Anne Frank,” the stage adaptation of the book “Anne Frank: The Diary of a Young Girl,” 8 p.m. Nov. 11-12 and 2 p.m. Nov. 13. Call 692-1082 or visit www.hendersonville littletheater.org.

Nov. 11

PORTRAIT ARTIST: Hands On! A Child’s Gallery hosts portrait artist David Schmitzer, 11 a.m.-4 p.m. $12 portraits with 20 percent of proceeds benefiting the museum. At 318 N. Main St., Hendersonville. Visit www.handsonwnc.org.

Nov. 12

BABYSITTER’S TRAINING CLASS: For ages 11-15. Learn how to care for a child, develop a babysitting business and more. Basic child care and first aid included. 9 a.m.-4 p.m. at Henderson County Chapter, American Red Cross, 203 Second Ave. East, Hendersonville. $85. Visit www.redcrosswnc.org or call 693-5605. BOOK SALE: Fairview Friends of the Library hosts its Fall Book Sale, 9 a.m.-3 p.m. at Fairview Community Center. Call 250-6484 or email fairview.library@buncombecounty.org. BOY SCOUT DAY: Chimney Rock Park offers programming for troops. $12 per scout, with one chaperone admitted free per 10 scouts; $11.50 per additional adult. Visit www.chimneyrockpark.com. BRIGHT STAR TOURING THEATRE: Two kid-friendly shows at Asheville Community Theatre. At 10 a.m., “Sadie’s Spectacular Saturday” for ages 3-10. A bullying cockroach works to alienate Sadie the caterpillar from other bugs until she meets a special ladybug. At 11:30 a.m., “Maximus Mars” for ages 8 to adult. Maximus Mars has just landed on an alien planet. Tickets are $5, sold at the door one hour prior to showtime. At 35 E. Walnut St., Asheville. Visit www.ashevilletheatre.org.

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FACE PAINTING: Free face painting (tips appreciated), noon-5 p.m. at Asheville’s Fun Depot, 7 Roberts Road, Asheville. No purchase necessary. Call 227-2FUN to confirm. Visit www.ashevillesfundepot.com. WNC FOSTER/ADOPT FALL FESTIVAL: Drop in at this free, fun event to learn more about foster parenting and about the older children who are waiting for adoption. Talk to agencies and experienced foster parents. With crafts, face painting and more for kids. 2-5 p.m. at Crowe Plaza Resort Hotel, Asheville. Contact Erica Jourdan at 258-0031, ext. 347, or ejourdan@familiestogether.net.

Nov. 14

ART OF BELLYDANCE: Workshop for all ages. Moms and daughters encouraged. At 4 p.m. at The Creative Technology and Arts Center at Odyssey Community School, 90 Zillicoa St., Asheville. $10 per person. RSVP to lisa@lisazahiya.com. PARK RIDGE CHILDBIRTH CLASS: Park Ridge Health’s The Baby Place offers a childbirth class in a one-day session, 9 a.m.-4 p.m. A tour of the Baby Place is included. Call 681-BABY or visit www.parkridgebabies.com to register. $90. The hospital is at 100 Hospital Drive, Hendersonville.

Nov. 15

EXHIBIT OPENING: Hands On! A Child’s Gallery opens its new exhibit, “Oh, the Places To Go!” For all ages. At 318 N. Main St., Hendersonville. Visit

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Nov. 15-16

WEE NATURALIST PROGRAM: N.C. Arboretum offers program for ages 2-5 with age-appropriate nature lessons including walks, garden exploration, stories, crafts and visits from classroom animals. This week’s theme is “What a Seed Needs.” Runs 10-11 a.m. Tuesdays and Wednesdays (explore classroom starting at 9:30 a.m.). $6 per child. Younger siblings and adults free . “Wee Card” offers four visits for $20. Free parking for registered participants. Visit www.ncarboretum.org to register. For information, contact Michelle Pearce at 665-2492, ext. 243, or mpearce@ncarboretum.org.

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BUBBLE PROGRAM: Hands On! A Child’s Gallery teaches kids how to blow bubbles with their hands, 2-4 p.m. Free with admission. At 318 N. Main St., Hendersonville. Visit www.handsonwnc.org. PARDEE PARENTING CLASSES: Both at Pardee Hospital, 800 N. Justice St., Hendersonville. Call 866-790-WELL or visit www.pardeehospital.org to register. » BREAST-FEEDING CLASS: Learn the art of breastfeeding. 6:30-8 p.m. Free. Registration required. » DADDY DUTY CLASS: Learn helpful ideas and tips for dads during the labor and birth process. 6:30-8 p.m. in Video Conference Room. Free. Registration required.

Nov. 17-20

‘DISNEY’S PETER PAN JR.’: Flat Rock Playhouse’s YouTheatre presents an hourlong musical version oFn “Peter Pan” with a cast of more than 30 local children and adults. Performances at 7 p.m. Nov. 17-19 and 2 p.m. Nov. 19-20. Tickets are $18 for adults, $10 for students and children. Call 693-0731 or 866-732-8008 or visit www.flatrockplayhouse.org.

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SANTA VISIT: Write a letter (or bring one along) and deliver it to Santa, who arrives at 11 a.m. Free with admission. At 318 N. Main St., Hendersonville. Visit www.handsonwnc.org. SING-ALONG: Hands On! A Child’s Gallery offers a sing-along with Tania at 10:30 a.m. All ages. Free with admission. At 318 N. Main St., Hendersonville. Visit www.handsonwnc.org.

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MOMS’ GROUPS A sampling of support groups for moms in WNC. Asheville Stay-At-Home Moms Playgroup: Visit www.meetup.com/Asheville-Stay-At-HomeMoms-Playgroup/ Arden Moms Meetup Group: Visit www.meetup.com/ardenmoms or contact Susan Toole at ArdenMoms@gmail.com. AshevilleMommies.com: Meet and greets for moms while kids play. Two sessions, 11 a.m.-noon and 3-4 p.m. Wednesdays at The Hop Ice Cream and Coffee Shop, 640 Merrimon Ave. Asheville Moms with Multiples: Group for moms with multiples meets 7 p.m. the first Thursday of each month at the Women’s Resource Center on Doctors Drive, behind Mission Hospital. Meetings are an opportunity to share experiences and offer support in a social setting. Call 444AMOM or visit www.ashevillemom.com. Biltmore Baptist MOPS: Group for all mothers of children from infancy through kindergarten. Meets 9:30-11:30 a.m. on the first and third Wednesday of each month, September-May at Biltmore Baptist Church, 35 Clayton Road, Arden. Call 687-1111, email mopsofbbc@yahoo.com or visit www.biltmorebaptist.org/mops/. Hiking with Preschoolers: Visit www.meetup.com/hiking-withPreschoolers/ La Leche League of Asheville mornings: Pregnant moms, babies and toddlers welcome at all meetings. Meets at 10 a.m. the second Monday of the month at First Congregational Church on Oak Street. Contact a leader: Susan, 628-4438 or wncbabyla-

dy@gmail.com; Jessica, 242-6531; or Falan, 683-1999. Visit www.facebook.com/#!/pages/La-LecheLeague-of-AshevilleBuncombe/370356353543 La Leche League of Asheville evenings: Pregnant moms, babies and toddlers welcome at all meetings. Meets at 7 p.m. the third Monday of the month at Awakening Heart on Merrimon Avenue. Contact a leader: Yvette, 254-5591; or Molly, 713-7089. Visit www. facebook.com/#!/pages/La-LecheLeague-of-Asheville Buncombe/370356353543 La Leche League of Hendersonville: Offers information and support for pregnant or breastfeeding women. Meets at 10 a.m. the second Wednesday of the month at Unitarian Universalist Fellowship of Hendersonville, 2021 Kanuga Road. Babies and toddlers are welcome. For more information, Contact a leader: Andrea 6766047, Katie 808-1490, or MC 6939899. Mom2mom: Christian moms group meets at St. Paul’s Church, 32 Rosscraggon Road, Rosscraggon Business Park Building B, Asheville. Moms with any age children are welcome. Call 388-3598. Mommy and Me: Park Ridge Hospital offers a support group for moms at 10 a.m. the fourth Monday of the month. Contact Amy Mast at 216-7244. The hospital offers a luncheon for moms and babies, noon-1 p.m. the third Monday of the month, at the hospital’s private dining room. Call 681-2229. Moms Club of Hendersonville: A support group open to mothers of all ages in the Henderson County area, including mothers who have home-based businesses and

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those who work part-time but are home with their children during the day. The group meets for speeches and topics for discussion, park days, playgroups, nights out, holiday activities and service projects benefiting needy children in the community. Meets 9:30 a.m. the first Thursday of the month at Hendersonville Church of Christ, 1975 Haywood Road, Hendersonville. Children welcome. Call Toni McDonald at 702-0433 or visit http://hendersonvillemomsclub.wordpress.com MOPS at Mud Creek: Mothers of Preschoolers provides an open, faith-based atmosphere for moms of infants through kindergartners. Meets second and fourth Wednesdays, 9:15-11:15 a.m., September-May, at Mud Creek Baptist Church, 403 Rutledge Drive, Hendersonville. Email Melissa Thorsland, melthor@tds.net, or MOPS.MudCreek@gmail.com or visit http://mopsatmudcreek.webs.com/links.htm. North Asheville MOPS: Meets 9:30-11:30 a.m. the first Tuesday of each month at Maranatha Baptist Church, 1040 Lower Flat Creek Road, Weaverville. Contact Amy at 658-0739 or Liban at lmorris_cid@hotmail.com. WNC Mountain Mamas: Moms and kids can meet up and play at 11 a.m. Wednesdays the Hop Ice Cream Shop, 640 Merrimon Ave. Enjoy half-priced coffees and ice cream. Encompassing, supporting and uniting WNC families. Visit www.wncmountainmamas. proboards.com. Is your group not listed? Email information to calendar@wncparent.com.

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Nov. 18-20

‘DIARY OF ANNE FRANK’: Hendersonville Little Theatre presents The Diary of Anne Frank, the stage adaptation of the book “Anne Frank: The Diary of a Young Girl,” 8 p.m. Nov. 18-19 and 2 p.m. Nov. 20. Call 692-1082 or visit www.hendersonvillelittletheater.org. MODEL TRAIN EXHIBIT: Smoky Mountain Model Railroaders will set up its model trains and miniature buildings at Fun Things Etc., 196 N. Main St., downtown Waynesville, during the store’s normal hours, 10 a.m.-9 p.m. Nov. 18-19 and 12:30-6:30 p.m. Nov. 20. Call 456-7672 or visit www.funthingsetc.net. WEE TRADE SALE: Holiday consignment sale featuring children’s holiday wear and gift-able big and small toys. Public sale is 8 a.m.-8 p.m. Nov. 18, 9 a.m.-5 p.m. Nov. 19 and 11 a.m.-3 p.m. Nov. 20 (halfprice day) at WNC Agricultural Center’s Virginia Boone Building in Fletcher. Visit www.wee-trade.net.

Nov. 19

‘ANNIE’ LOOK-ALIKE CONTEST: North Asheville Christian School sponsors in conjunction with its “Annie Jr.” production. Open to girls ages 5-18. Prizes include $100 cash, haircut and style, hot stone massage, tickets for the North Asheville Christian School performance. At Secrets of a Duchess, 1439 Merrimon is hosting an Ave., Asheville. To register, Annie look-alike call 645-8053. contest Nov. 19. CELEBRATE PREGNANCY SPECIAL TO WNC CLASS: The Baby Place at PARENT Park Ridge Health offers a twist on a normal childbirth class, covering important labor techniques and support. Includes a ($65 value) massage voucher with the $99 fee. 8:30 a.m.-12:30 p.m. Call 681-2229 or visit www.parkridgebabies.com to register. CRAFTY HISTORIAN PROGRAM: Smith McDowell House Museum offers a children’s education program, with a focus on American Indian Heritage. Explore artifacts from the Woodland Indian Traveling Trunk including a deer hide, arrowheads and more. From 10:30 a.m.-12:30 p.m. at 283 Victoria Road. Children younger than 9 must be accompanied by a parent. $5 each. Call 253-9231 or email education@wnchistory.org for reservations. Register by Nov. 12. HOLIDAY MARKET: Glen Arden Elementary PTO hosts a market with local vendors from 9 a.m.-3 p.m. At 55 Pinehurst Circle, Arden. Call 654-1800.

Nov. 20

FACE PAINTING: Free face painting (tips appreciated), 1-6 p.m. at Asheville’s Fun Depot, 7 Roberts

Red Herring Puppets return for an Asheville Puppetry Alliance show, "The Legend of La Befana," on Nov. 26. WNC PARENT PHOTO Road, Asheville. No purchase necessary. Call 227-2FUN to confirm. Visit www.ashevillesfundepot.com. TELLABRATION: International celebration of storytelling with events hosted by Asheville Storytelling Circle at 3 p.m. at Folk Art Center on the Blue Ridge Parkway. Features performer Tim Lowry and several local storytellers. $5. Call 667-4227 or 777-9177.

Nov. 23

BOOK N’ CRAFT: Listen to a book and create a book-themed craft at 10:30 a.m. at Hands On! A Child’s Gallery, 318 N. Main St., Hendersonville. Visit www.handsonwnc.org.

Nov. 23-27

DISNEY ON ICE: Watch “100 Years of Magic” on ice at Asheville Civic Center. Performances are 7:30 p.m. Nov. 23, 3 and 7 p.m. Nov. 25, noon and 4 p.m. Nov. 26 and 2 p.m. Nov. 27. Tickets are $12-$45. For tickets, call 800-745-3000 or visit www.ticketmaster.com. For information, visit www.disneyonice.com.

Nov. 25

‘DIARY OF ANNE FRANK’: Hendersonville Little Theatre presents The Diary of Anne Frank, the stage adaptation of the book “Anne Frank: The Diary of a Young Girl,” 8 p.m. Nov. 25-26 and 2 p.m. Nov. 27. Call 692-1082 or visit www.hendersonvillelittletheater.org. WOODFIN YMCA PARENTS’ NIGHT OUT: The Neighborhood Y at Woodfin hosts a parents’ night out, 6-9 p.m. the fourth Friday of each month for

ages 2-12. Members pay $12 for first child, $10 additional (nonmembers, $18/child). Children will enjoy a craft, free play, games and a hearty snack, with a movie at the end of the evening. Call 5053990.

Nov. 26

‘THE LEGEND OF LA BEFANA’: Asheville Puppetry Alliance presents a show by Red Herring Puppets at 2 p.m. at Diana Wortham Theatre. Tickets $7. Visit www.dwtheatre.org. Call 257-4530 for reservations.

Nov. 29-30

WEE NATURALIST PROGRAM: N.C. Arboretum offers program for ages 2-5 with age-appropriate nature lessons including walks, garden exploration, stories, crafts and visits from classroom animals. This week’s theme is “Winter Homes.” Runs 10-11 a.m. Tuesdays and Wednesdays (explore classroom starting at 9:30 a.m.). $6 per child. Younger siblings and adults free when accompanied by paid participant. “Wee Card” offers four visits for $20. Free parking for pre-registered participants. Visit www.ncarboretum.org to register. For information, contact Michelle Pearce at 665-2492, ext. 243, or mpearce@ncarboretum.org.

Nov. 30

CRAZY CHEMISTRY: Make 3-D puffy paint at this class for ages 3 and older. Free with admission. At 10:30 a.m. at Hands On! A Child’s Gallery, 318 N. Main St., Hendersonville. Call 697-8333 to register. $5 nonmembers, free for members. Visit www.handsonwnc.org.

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FACE PAINTING: Free face painting (tips appreciated), noon-5 p.m. at Asheville’s Fun Depot, 7 Roberts Road, Asheville. No purchase necessary. Call 227-2FUN to confirm. Visit www.ashevillesfundepot.com. YMCA PARENTS’ NIGHT OUT: At Downtown Asheville YMCA for ages 2-12. Activities include swimming, arts and crafts, inflatable obstacle course, snacks and a movie. Register online or in person (at least 24 hours before scheduled program). Offered 6-10 p.m. the first Saturday of each month. $15 for members ($23 for nonmembers), with $2 sibling discounts. Call 210-9614 or visit www.ymcawnc.org.

Dec. 6

OPEN HOUSE: Asheville Catholic School hosts an open house the first Tuesday of each month, 1011:30 a.m. Visit www.ashevillecatholic.org or call 252-7896 to reserve a spot.

Dec. 9

OPEN HOUSE: Learn about the lower school programs at Asheville Christian Academy, 9-11 a.m. Drop in or register at www.acacademy.org/

admissions. At 74 Riverwood Road, Swannanoa. Call 581-2200.

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MOTHERS MORNING OUT: Trinity Presbyterian Church’s Mothers Morning Out program is enrolling children ages 6 weeks-6 years for care/preschool for the school year (through April). Offered 9 a.m.-1 p.m. Tuesday, Wednesday and Thursdays. Learning, dance, music and more. Register at the church, 17 Shawnee Trail, in Redwood Forrest development in East Asheville. Call Tina Robinson at 299-3433, ext. 308, or visit www.trinityasheville.com. TINY TOTS ADVENTURES: Montford Community Center offers this free class 10-11:30 a.m. Tuesdays and Thursdays through April. No class when Asheville City Schools are out. At 34 Pearson Drive. Call 253-3714. ASHEVILLE TAASC: The American Adventure Service Corps is a nonprofit program dedicated to inspiring young people to become compassionate leaders, stewards of the environment and responsible community members. Year-round and summer program participants are challenged through highpowered outdoor adventures of up to 10-days in length. Activities include wilderness backpacking, climbing and rappelling, white water and flat water paddling, cave exploration, mountain biking, wilderness first-aid, leadership development and community service. Visit www.ashevilletaasc.com or call 299-9844 or e-mail ashevilletaasc@gmail.com. ZEUGNER CENTER FAMILY SWIM: Buncombe County’s Zeugner Center indoor pool is open 1:30-5 p.m. Sundays for open swim. $3 per person. Passes available, $20 for 10 visits and $40 for 25 visits. The Zeugner Center at 90 Springside Drive, Arden, behind Roberson High School. For more information, contact Teri Gentile at 684-5072 or teri.gentile@buncombecounty.org. TENNIS LESSONS: Asheville Racquet Club offers tennis lessons this fall in two locations, ARC South on Hendersonville Road and ARC Downtown, at 1 Resort Drive, Asheville. Classes starting at age 4-14, as well as a tournament program for ages 9-18. For ARC South, contact Mindy Sheppard at 274-3361, ext. 310, or msheppard@ashevilleracquetclub.com. For ARC Downtown, contact Bo Webb at 545-4939 or bothepro5@yahoo.com. YMCA AFTERSCHOOL PROGRAM: The YMCA offers after-school care from 2:30-6 p.m. at 17 Buncombe County schools and serves three Asheville

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City Schools at the YMCA Beaverdam location. Curriculum focuses on arts and humanities, literacy, health and wellness, conflict resolution, math and science, service learning and cultural diversity. For information on how to register, visit www.ymcawnc.org or call 210-2273. FAIRVIEW PRESCHOOL: Registration is open for the 2011-12 school year. Fairview Preschool will provide a developmentally age-appropriate, handson learning environment for children ages 2-5 (pre-K). Classes will meet 8:15 a.m.-12:15 p.m. Monday, Wednesday and Friday. At 596 U.S. 74, behind Fairview Library, in Fairview. Call 338-2073, email info@FairviewPreschool.org or visit www.FairviewPreschool.org. SWANNANOA VALLEY MONTESSORI SCHOOL: Registration for the 2011-12 school year for ages 18 months to sixth grade. Drop-In tours every 9 a.m. Tuesday. Preschool at 130 Center Ave., Black Mountain. Elementary at Carver Community Center, Black Mountain. Call 669-8571 or visit www.swanmont.org. GROVE PARK INN PROGRAMS: The Sports Complex at the Grove Park Inn Resort & Spa offers two programs for children. Children will enjoy playing games and sports, making arts and crafts, swimming, eating pizza and watching a movie. For reservations, call 252-2711, ext. 1046, or email mmiller@groveparkinnresort.com. Kids’ Night Out: 6-10 p.m. each Friday and Saturday, for children ages 3-12. Cost is $45 per child. Advance registration required. Cub’s Adventure Camp: A full-day (9 a.m.-4 p.m.) or half-day (9 a.m.-1 p.m. or 1-4 p.m.) program on Saturdays. Lunch included. Cost is $65 for full day; $45 for half-day morning with lunch; $30 for halfday afternoon. PARENTS’ MORNING OUT PROGRAM: St. Eugene Catholic Church is enrolling children for its parents morning out program. Two teachers for each 10 children. For ages 6 months to 4 years. Program is 9 a.m.-1 p.m. Monday-Friday. Church is at 72 Culvern St., Asheville. Call Cynthia Francis at 254-5193, ext. 25, or e-mail mamabear123123@yahoo.com DANCE LESSONS: Asheville Clogging Company offers clogging, Irish step dancing, hip-hop, jazz, ballet and tap classes for all ages, preschool to adult. Visit www.ashevillecloggingcompany.com, call 329-3856 or e-mail ashley@ashevilleclogging company.com.

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