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Pisces are the most sensitive sign of the zodiac. They love being held and cuddled. If you can sing a lullaby to the Pisces baby, they are absolutely delighted and devoted to you. They do not like to wear booties or socks, preferring to wiggle their little toes. Loud noises startle the little Pisces and they may have to be held to calm them down.

It is as if you are the most important person in the world, perhaps the only person capable of knowing their needs.

Their symbol is two fish and they enjoy their bath and as much time as they can get in the water.

Pisces children are shy in groups.

They “hang back” until specifically invited to join in. They are very musical and enjoy singing and dancing. Even the little boys enjoy participating in these programs.

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Hearing Aids Help Children with Special Needs Findlay Ear, Nose and Throat helps determine disabilities at an early age

By Dan McElhatten

Clockwise from top left: Kristina Trout, Jennifer Bournique, Erica Campbell, experts of audiology

Can you say otolaryngology? When thinking of a special needs child, people may envision a child who is relegated to a limited life due to his or her particular disability. But Findlay Ear, Nose and Throat is working to help change that perception.

Hearing impairment is an issue that can cause developmental delays and hinder a child’s educational process, ranging from partial hearing loss to profound deafness with resulting speech difficulties. For the 10 to 15 percent of newborns who have a partial loss, help may be possible with the creativity and skill of a great local resource.

Doctors Erik Nielsen and Andrew Reid head a staff including Doctors of Audiology Erica Campbell, Kristina Trout, and Jennifer Bournique. Together, they provide a full range of diagnostic and rehabilitative services for pediatric patients, including those with special needs.

Jennifer says that Findlay ENT can test and adopt special techniques to fit the need of each individual, which includes hearing aids if necessary. She added that this includes infants who fail the newborn hearing screening. Physicians often times analyze hearing issues to rule out auditory problems, which then may require additional testing through their pediatrician

or other health professional for problems such as pervasive development disorder or autism spectrum disorder. The doctor may also refer a child to speech and language therapy.

Infants and children may also be referred from members of their regional parent mentor program. The program is funded through the Ohio Department of Education, Division of Special Education.

Family support specialist Roseann Hall works with Tiffin, Fostoria and Seneca County children from birth to three years old through the Seneca-Wyandot Parent Mentor Program, which serves HopewellLoudon, Fostoria and New Riegel school districts, among others. Anyone who suspects developmental delays can request help from area mentors.

In Hancock County the parent mentor is Laurie Bertscher through the Hancock County Educational Service Center. She may be reached at 419.422.7525, ext. 105 or emailed at betscherl@ hancockesc.org. If something doesn’t seem right, contact your pediatrician, parent mentor or give Findlay Ear, Nose and Throat a call.

Findlay Ear, Nose and Throat is located at 1110 W. Main Cross St., Findlay. 419.424.1393

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Fighting Leukemia with a Brave Heart and Beautiful Smile Cancer will not stop the bright spirit of Destiny Rivera from shining

By Sarah Mayle

Like most teenage girls, Destiny Rivera has her interests. She loves show choir at school, feasting on Taco Bell food and creating anything from fancy bracelets to actual objects like a chicken and egg on her Rainbow Loom.

But unlike most other girls, Destiny is fighting leukemia.

“It’s not really that bad,” Destiny said she would tell another person similarly diagnosed. “You can’t blame yourself Destiny Rivera visits Glenwood Middle School to see classmates for getting it, and it’s ok to be sad sometimes.

Destiny, 13, has missed school since You’ll get through it.”

November, receiving chemotherapy at ToDestiny, an eighth grader, and her ledo Children’s Hospital and recovering. parents, Larry and Melissa Rivera, found She Skypes with teacher Marc Tuttle sevout she had the disease in November. It eral hours a week to keep up with schoolhas been a difficult road, but Larry Rivera work. She is a cadet in Girl Scouts, math is said they have learned to be positive and her favorite subject and, though she’s not take each day as it comes, never looking sure, thinks photography might make an too far ahead. It doesn’t hurt that the Riv- exciting career. eras, of Findlay, have received touching In late January, the family headed to support from both the greater community Nationwide Children’s Hospital in Coand the staff and students of Glenwood lumbus, where Destiny will eventually Middle School. undergo a bone marrow Students have transplant. worn orange, the supSend cards to: Fun-loving Destiny has port color for leukeNationwide Children’s Hospital never faltered. She may be mia, to school in honBMT Department H12B away from school, but has or of Destiny. They Attn: Destiny Rivera made friends with hospihave been fundraising 700 Children’s Dr. tal staff. She goes with the for the Leukemia and Columbus, OH 43205 flow, all the while putting Lymphoma Society smiles on others’ faces and and teachers with the never missing a stroke of highest amount of money in their collec- the Rainbow Loom. tion jars have agreed to dye their hair or“She has never changed since day ange or shave their head or beard. They one,” Larry Rivera said. “She is one of also changed their Valentine’s Day dance kind and just makes you laugh. She to a benefit, sent Destiny gift cards, and can make that face at you and you’ll do are fundraising at basketball games. whatever she wants. She’s a special, Donations have also come in from the special kid.” community and friends from the family’s church, Trinity Baptist, where Destiny is a Those interested can also create an online card member of the youth group. by going to www.nationwidechildrens.org and “It is just really nice, the support you clicking on the link to “Send a Greeting Card.” get,” an emotional Larry Rivera said.

Destiny can also be found on Twitter at “You see all of the kindness out there; #TeamDestiny. people are so willing to help out.”

Childcare & Preschool Guide

Solve the Child Care Conundrum Considering child care options through different lenses can help you find a solution that best fits your family

By Beth Fornauf

Daycare, and nannies, and au pairs, oh my! There are a myriad of childcare choices available to families today, but figuring out which option is best is no easy task.

Parents of young children have a particularly difficult job, because care providers for children under two are not as prevalent as those for older children. Because babies have more needs than older children, they require a higher level of care. That translates to higher costs for care centers and parents.

Deciding on the right care setting for your little one is a big decision, requiring careful thought, research and planning. Before you decide which option is best for you, consider the following factors.

Money

Parents know that childcare will be expensive, but few are prepared for the shock of the actual dollar amount – even for those seeking part-time care. Looking at the total cost of childcare per month can be scary. But stay calm. This is an important investment, so re-examine your family finances before making any decisions.

Determine a monthly range that your family can afford. For example, if you figure you can spend around $800 per month, are you prepared to spend $900 if a certain month has an extra week? Will you be able to spring for incidentals such as field trips and fundraisers? Always give yourself a cushion for unexpected tuition changes, occasional nights out (and hiring a babysitter), or little odds and ends that arise.

Flexibility

While flexibility in the workplace is fairly common, especially for parents of young children, it isn’t yet an option everywhere. When you decide on a child care solution you also need to take into account your work schedule.

What will happen if your child gets sick? Are you able to leave work early or arrive late? Also consider schedule conflicts. Daycare centers may close on certain holidays when you have to work.

A babysitter or nanny may get sick at the last minute and not be able to make it. Create a realistic back-up plan that you, your family and your employer can live with so you aren’t scrambling to handle surprises that may pop up.

Expertise

No one is going to care for your child in exactly the same way that you do. Even if you have family members or the most agreeable baby-sitter in the world, there are bound to be some differences. And that’s not a bad thing. Kids need to learn to adapt to different people’s personalities and preferences, while also expressing their own. Just make sure your expectations for behavior and meeting basic needs are consistent.

The reality is, expertise with young children is not easy to come by. Laws vary by state regarding teacher-student ratios for children under two; as a result, many daycares don’t accept infants. When you find a person or center that feels right, ask about the experience of individuals who will interact with your child. What is their educational background? How long have they worked with kids of this age? Are they certified in infant First Aid/CPR? Parents need to weigh how important these things are to them, and determine their deal-breakers.

Health

Most pediatricians will tell you that the average child gets between four and eight colds per year. This doesn’t seem so bad, but when you realize that most of them will happen between late fall and early spring, and that a “cold” can last up to two weeks, it may start to feel like your child is perpetually sick. As a result, you are constantly stressing, missing work, or scrambling for last minute care.

If your child is cared for in a setting with other children, chances are she’ll have a few unexpected visits to the doctor, or at best a very runny nose. While the general consensus is that the first year in a daycaretype setting is the worst for sicknesses, the ailments don’t end after that. If your child is particularly sensitive to seasonal illnesses, you may want to find a temporary one-on-one care solution, or review the sanitation procedures at the daycare.

If you have a nanny, find out upfront if she is comfortable caring for a sick child. You don’t want to find out on your way at the door that your baby-sitter doesn’t know how to take a temperature or is nervous about giving medicine.

Good help isn’t hard to find (if you know where to look)

These are just a few ideas from parents who’ve been there (and found what they were looking for) n Drive around your town and look for signs for preschools or daycares (they’re the type of places you may not notice until you need one)

Talk to people at work or even the local library; if you live in a small town, word of mouth is often your best bet

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Call the local public school.

Often principals, teachers or office staff will know of a local care center or parent looking for part-time work

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n Hang up fliers at nearby colleges, and include your contact information.

If you can, locate the building where education or early childhood classes are held so you can find students interested in working with little ones

Philosophy

This is probably the single most important aspect when choosing childcare for young children. Because your child will be spending a lot of time with his caregiver, he’ll be learning a lot of behavioral and problem solving cues. You need to figure out how the caregiver’s philosophy on learning, setting limits, and maintaining schedules, matches up with your own.

This can be sticky regardless of what type of care you have. Make a point to observe your child in the setting for an hour or so before committing. You can also ask his teacher or babysitter how they handle certain situations like tantrums and conflicts. The conversation may be awkward, but at least you’ll know if you are on the same page.

Finding quality care is possible if parents do their homework. Take a good long look at each of these areas before making a commitment. But don’t stop there. Revisit these topics periodically to make sure your child care solution is meeting your child’s needs and making sense for your family.

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The Breakdown: pros and cons of some popular childcare solutions

Child care center/daycare:

What it looks like – Your child attends a group child care setting with other children of a similar age PRO – Child care centers have strict regulations, so the staff is usually certified in First Aid/CPR, and the child-caregiver ratio is low. Many centers also require their caregivers to complete an early childhood certification program, so they are trained in working with young children.

CONS – Your child will probably contract more than her fair share of viruses, especially her first year.

Because there are several children per adult, your child may have to adjust to a group schedule of feeding and napping that may differ from the one at home.

Nanny or babysitter:

What it looks like – Your child receives care from an individual in your home PRO – Your child has the undivided attention of a caregiver in a safe, familiar place. It also makes maintaining a feeding and napping schedule easy.

CONS – Lack of socialization. As your child gets older, you may want him to interact with other babies or toddlers, not just adults, to learn about sharing, taking turns, etc.

Family member:

What it looks like – A grandparent, aunt or uncle, or other family member cares for your child in your home or theirs PRO – Family members have a personal relationship with your child, so it’s probably the closest thing to having you there.

CONS – If your family member doesn’t agree with your way of doing things, they may do what worked for their kids. They may feel more comfortable doing their own thing without consulting you.

Au Pair:

What it looks like – Au pairs are typically young female nannies who live in your home and work up to forty hours per week caring for your children

PRO – Because most au pairs come to America from another country, they introduce new cultural perspectives and ideas to your children. If you go through an organization like Au Pair in America or Interexchange, the candidates are pre-screened. Often the overall cost is less per hour than traditional babysitters or nannies.

CONS – Having someone enter your home (and your lives) for a year is a big commitment. You need to make sure you and your family are prepared for this. Most au pairs commit up to one year, so you’ll have to repeat the process again next year.

Hybrid:

What it looks like – A combination of any of the options listed above PRO – You can customize care to meet your needs, and possibly save money. Your child gets to experience different settings, and learns to socialize with a variety of people.

CONS – Change can be confusing for children, and if your hybrid schedule isn’t regimented, your child’s routines (eating, sleeping, etc.), may suffer.

Beth Fornauf is a freelance writer and mother of two.

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Children’s Corner Preschool and Childcare Center 2125 Park St., Findlay 419-422-0618

Ages accepted: Children’s Corner has two locations. The Infant/Toddler center, which provides care for children ages six weeks to three years, is located at 333 Oakland Ave., Findlay.

This center has a small infant classroom, a large infant classroom, and two toddler classrooms.

The preschool/school age center is located right down the street at 2125 Park St., Findlay. Here we provide all-day care, preschool, and before and after school programs to children ages three to twelve.

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Student/teacher ratio: We are licensed through the state of Ohio and follow all ratio guidelines

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Number of students: Approximately 70 students Average class size: We follow state guidelines

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YMCA Child Development Center 231 E. Lincoln St., Findlay 419-422-3174 findlayymca.org

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Ages accepted: We accept infants at 6 weeks old through school age children in 5th grade

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Mad Libs for Moms

Calling all creative minds to fill out our Mad Libs sheet and submit responses for a chance to win giveaways and prizes. Email nadine@adamsstreetpublishing.com or mail to our office at 1120 Adams St., Toledo OH 43604. Also see our Facebook page to participate in the fun.

May the most ridiculous answers win!

One Winter School Morning One cold winter morning ____________ (an animal) woke me up at _________ (a time in the morning). I was just about to hit my snooze button and I was trying to catch up on my __________ (funny name for sleep). ____________ (child’s name) said “Wake up ________ (nickname for “mom”)! It’s time for school! Let’s get going because my new teacher ____________ (female teacher’s name) is really a _____________ (cartoon character). I can’t wait to throw __________ (type of school supplies) at her. I hear she can’t resist __________ (-ing verb) it with her hands!”

I whined and complained for ________ (amount of time), but eventually, I woke and started getting dressed. I wore __________ (color) _________ (pattern) with a very long _______________ (noun) attached to it.

My outfit was hip! I knew my kids would love it. They were covered in ___________ (type of food) from the day before. I flipped over the door mat and yelled “_________!” (an exclamation phrase!”) I snatched a _________ (eating utensil) and had breakfast off of the floor! _______________ (number) minutes later, the bus came, and my kids were off to school. At home that day, I watched two really _______________ (adjective) TV shows. Then I had to start cleaning up and getting dinner ready. I made spaghetti, that’s a favorite at our house.

When the kids got home, they told my husband and I what _______________ (plural noun) were, and when to use them. At snack and recess, they played tag. At gym, they were ____________ (“ing” verb) the basketballs into ________ (plural nouns).

I thought it was a very ____________ (adjective) idea.

After homework was completed and everyone cleaned up, it was time to _________ (verb). We needed to get to bed so we could be ready for the next day! Just before I was ready, I shouted, “_______________________ (excited phrase),” to my family!

What a day!

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healthy kids Getting Kids Back on Track to Health Blanchard Valley Health System is helping children get to a healthy weight

By Kay Mathias

Blanchard Valley Health System was awarded a one-year grant of $20,000 to develop the program NEW (Nutrition, Exercise, Wellness) YOU. The program is designed to help children who have been diagnosed as obese or severely overweight. Participants work one-on-one (along with a parent), with a dietitian, personal trainer, and social worker to develop personal fitness, nutrition, and self-esteem goals. The program is currently in session and meets once a month every third Wednesday from 4:15-6pm. For more information, contact Caughman Health Center Pediatrics at 419-427-0809.

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The Beauty Behind Becoming her Mother

Reflecting on her mother’s parenting and how it made her strong as a “bulldog”

By Rose Roccisano Barto

Rose and her mother before and after Rose learned about parenting Four years ago this month, I held my mother’s hand as she died.

Given her health problems, my sister and I knew it was a matter of time. Just two days prior, the two of us discussed whether she could continue to live alone.

We never got that far. She collapsed and later died.

But out of the sadness, our love and respect for our mother has grown deeper over the years. My sister and I believe, truly and deeply, that my mother is still with us. She is no longer suffering and is right where she wants to be – looking down from heaven, more involved than ever in the lives of her children and grandchildren. Some might call it meddling. We call it intervening.

Growing up, I had epic disagreements with my mother. I was the archetypal child who couldn’t wait to go to college and get away from home. She was the original and unequaled helicopter mom. She and I, however, were cut from the same stubborn cloth. They say oil and water don’t mix, but a stubborn mom and a stubborn child sometimes combust.

After I became a mother, we moved toward the relationship I always wanted.

We lived seven hours apart, but I called her every day. For two weeks every summer, I brought my children to stay with her. We got on each other’s nerves during those two weeks, but looking back I wouldn’t trade a minute. Sometimes it is not quality time, but quantity time, that makes relationships. It was important for all of us – my mother, my children and me – to have a relationship even if the distance made it more difficult.

Over time, my mother began to open up about her past and we spent many 14

evenings during those visits just talking.

She grew up in Italy during World War II, and after the war, joined her father in the United States at age 15 – a year older than my teenager. It is hard to imagine my daughter learning English on her own, and living the hardscrabble life of a coal miner’s daughter in West Virginia. What my mother did was an example of how what I interpreted as stubbornness was really a strength few people have.

She never finished high school, but was one of the smartest people I knew in terms of common sense and common decency. She was involved in every aspect of our lives because she cared. Was it annoying and at times intolerable? Absolutely.

But looking back, it was her love language. She might not have said the words “I love you,” but she showed it. We often chafed under her restrictions, but there wasn’t a thing she wouldn’t do for us or a fight she wouldn’t lead for us. When we needed help, she was the only person we needed in our corner.

I’m sure there are parenting mistakes she would regret and rectify. I have those, too. But as my mothering journey has continued, I’ve realized we all do the best we can. Was she perfect? No. Neither am I. As mothers, we are our own harshest critics. I like to think, however, that I’ve taken some of the best of my mother – a bulldog protectiveness that bows to nothing – and tempered it a little.

As I’ve gotten older, I see more of my mother in me. I sometimes catch myself sounding just like her, and that’s not a bad thing. When someone accuses me of being just like my mother, I smile. I can only hope.

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Such a Loud Sound Out of a Small Package A dad learns to use his son’s loud voice

By Matthew Reger

My son is loud. I know, my wife knows, and it seems everyone who meets him knows. At four years old, he still does not see a reason to have an inside voice and an outside voice.

He has one voice and he uses it. Obviously this can cause us consternation. But, in some cases, such a voice can be put to great uses.

A loud voice is fine, if used appropriately and in the right circumstances.

That discernment, though, is not something he possesses. When we are quiet in prayer in church, he makes sure that everyone knows he wants a drink of water or needs to use the bathroom.

We recently took a weekend skiing trip with friends and their five-yearold daughter, a quiet and reserved only child. During the weekend, she and our daughter had a wonderful time playing with their American Girl dolls. The girls and their dolls sat down to a nice tea and quietly enjoyed each other’s company and conversation. That is until, out of nowhere, this serenity was interrupted by a cowboy intent on running his entire herd through the living room.

He yelled, they screamed, and disorder ruled as he chased them through the rented condo. Calm was restored but it was only a matter of time before our son was loud again, screaming from the upstairs bedroom.

A week or so after returning I ran into the girl and her mother. We had small talk and then we both commented on how nice of a time we had together on the ski trip. That comment was qualified by the little girl: “Until Noah started yelling.”

“He is a boy”

I was embarrassed, but her mother, a long time friend, made me feel better with the comforting, “You know, he is a boy.” He is and I know. I had a one volume voice when I was four.

That knowledge has not stopped me, though, when I feel compelled to put my hand over his mouth at a restaurant when he announces that his meal is “Disgusting! Yuck!”

I recently had occasion to use my son’s exceptionally loud voice in a home project. I needed to replace a light fixture in an upstairs closet. Pri-

or to kids, I would have tempted fate and tried to make this change without turning off the main power. But with age and obligations I have decided that taking it safe is probably a better course. The only obstacle to making this happen is that the main electric panel is located in the basement – two floors and many door openings away.

So I asked my son to scream as loud as he could when the light in the closet went out, thus avoiding me having to climb up and down the stairs to check.

I am happy to report that this arrangement worked like a charm. I pulled the breaker switch and moments later I heard: “IT’S OFF. ARRRGH!!”

I have realized that his loud voice will soon be reigned in through school and other activities where more and more people will teach him the benefits of quieter verbal communication. Even now, when he is in Sunday School, I see a different boy – one that is quiet and self-controlled.

Like all things four-year-old boys do, I need to enjoy the moment and be sure to find more uses for such a voice while it exists.

Trains and Toys with Meals The Whistle Stop Inn provides delicious food and entertainment for the family

By Sarah Mayle

The Inn is about as child-friendly as you can get. Little mouths fell agape then rose into joyful grins as my kids took in their surroundings. Both were happy to select the option of smiley fries with their meals, with my son ordering dino-shaped chicken nuggets and my daughter, macaroni and cheese. They were pleasantly surprised when

To avoid wait Consider making a reservation on weekend nights and holidays Bathroom Amenities Adequate

100 N. Main St. North Baltimore, OH 45872 419-257-0203 Mon-Thurs: 11am to 9pm Fri & Sat: 11am to 10pm Sun: 11am to 7pm, Sunday Brunch Buffet: 11am to 2pm Web site: www.the-whistle-stop-inn.com. Also find them on Facebook under The Whistle Stop Inn. Carry-out and catering services available. Receive a “little cake” on your birthday and, through June, half off meals for military on Mondays with proof of ID.

As child friendly as it gets

Kid-friendly Very

Noise level Quiet

The Whistle Stop Inn

You know, it can be pretty cozy, just enjoying a good meal surrounded by train memorabilia. But experiencing the blaring whistle, feeling the powerful rumble, then spying a train engine approaching them with each car flashing by the Whistle Stop Inn – is marvelous.

Few restaurants can touch the particular novelty of a train whizzing past. We saw five during our meal, and each time, you could feel the anticipation as all of the patrons stopped to check out the show.

There’s a lot to take in once inside the Whistle Stop Inn, though Server Annie Carles said changes are coming soon to mirror the Whitehouse Inn restaurant in Whitehouse, Ohio, both owned by John and Tony Fronk. Carles said the train theme will remain, while patrons can expect renovations to the bar area, web site, menu, new social events and more.

Inside, there is an eye catching punch-out of the front of a large, black, iron train. Booth and table seating are available, all surrounded by framed photographs of trains and cranes from CSX’s nearby Northwest Ohio Terminal Facility, miscellaneous train pictures, toy trains, and a real X-shaped railroad crossing sign.

THE SHORT COURSE

High chairs Yes, and booster seats

Got milk? White and chocolate Kids menu Yes, a nice variety Healthy kids options? Yes, salads, fruit

Food allergy concerns Can accommodate, let your server know or even call ahead

fresh applesauce came prior to their meal, with a cup of cinnamon and sugar on the side.

The kids menu itself is primed with games and activities, and each child was given a cup of crayons to use during the meal. There are seven kids’ menu choices including junior prime rib, mini corn dogs, and chopped steak. The kids could hardly believe their luck – great food, the thrill of passing trains, and our waitress even brought each one a cup of gummy bears at the end of the meal.

Extensive choices await adults, sections cleverly labeled in “train speak” like B & O Beginnings, Boxcar Beef, Stem Engine Entrees and CSX Salads. I ordered the pecan crusted tilapia with a baked sweet potato, which came with a salad. Each bite treated me to a light, flavorful crunch followed by the tender texture of tilapia. My sweet potato was also delicious, as was my husband’s hickory burger and fries.

Already ready to go back

The current menu offers several classic appetizers like potato skins and queso dip along with specialties such as fried green tomatoes and artichoke dip. Whistle Stop Inn is known for its prime rib and also offers several chicken and steak meals. Fish dishes are available, burgers, sandwiches, specialty salads, platters, soups, a variety of sides and even

selections like liver and onions and baby back ribs. The Inn touts a broad selection of wine, beer, margaritas and a fullstocked bar. The dessert menu includes homemade pies, a pecan ice cream ball, or eight-layer chocolate cake.

The kids insisted that we return to The Whistle Stop Inn very soon, like the next day. Lucky for them, it won’t take any prodding to get me back. There was a slower pace at the Whistle Stop, sociable yet quiet, almost like eating in your own family room with friends. The food was great, and after chatting with the 70-something regulars next to us, I know the trains never get old.

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{March 2014} All calendar events are subject to change, cancellation, and limited size.

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Night at the Museum

Hancock Historical Museum / Friday, March 7

Findlay's history comes alive after dark with an overnight event at the museum. Parents can enjoy a quiet evening at home while their kids have an entertaining and educational one night stay. During the evening, kids will take part in a variety of fun activities, perfect for letting their imaginations run wild while learning about the Flag City. Activities will include flashlight tours of the museum campus, re-enactments, paranormal investigation and a movie. Since kids will work up an appetite during the crafts and games, an evening snack will be provided, as well as a light breakfast in the morning before heading home to talk about all they've learned. Registration required. For children ages 8-12.

6pm-9am. $50 per child for members/ $60 per child for nonmembers. Hancock Historical Museum, 422 W. Sandusky St. 419-423-4433. hancockhistoricalmuseum.org —MLR

1 SATURDAY Preservation of Artifacts - Explore the science of preservation and just how corrosive the environment around you can be. You will learn how to preserve a delicate artifact so that it can last for generations. Registration required. 11am-3pm.

Regular Admission Prices. Imagination Station, 1 Discovery Way. 419-244-2674. imaginationstationtoledo.org The Chance to Dance Foundation presents: The Pointe of the Evening Join The Chance to Dance Foundation and The Findlay Academy of Ballet for an evening of dance and music at its finest for a silent auction and fantastic performance.

7:30-9pm. $12, adults/$10, seniors & students/$15, at door. Winebrenner Auditorium, 950 N. Main St. 419-422-4624. artspartnership.com GFA Home Show - Participating vendors will showcase their products and services for all of your home improvement ideas. Also on March 2. Findlay Village Mall, 1800 Tiffin Ave. 419-422-4545. shopfindlayvillagemall.com Free

2 SUNDAY Funday Sunday - On the first Sunday of every month enjoy themed activities, games and story time. 1:30-3:30pm.

Mazza Museum, 300 College St. 419-434-4560. mazzacollection.org Free

4 TUESDAY Tween and Teen Read-a-thon Celebrate International Pancake Day with two favorite things: pancakes and books.

Bring a book to read and the library will provide the pancakes. 6-8pm. FindlayHancock County Public Library, 206 Broadway St. 419-422-1712. findlaylibrary.org Free Teen Mardi Gras Party - Have fun making a Mardi Gras mask, listen to Cajun music and sample the foods of New Orleans. Participants are encouraged to wear purple, green and gold.

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For grades 6-12. 3:30-5pm. Tiffin-Seneca Public Library: Frost Kalnow Room, 77 Jefferson St., Tiffin. 419-447-3751. tiffinsen.lib.oh.us Free Arts Integration Workshop for Educators - The workshop will provide area educators with a hands-on approach to integrating the arts into the curriculum.

4-7pm. Mazza Museum, 1000 N Main St. artspartnership.com Free

5 WEDNESDAY Putting Down Roots for Girls in STEM - Enjoy an enlightening presentation with in recognition of Women’s History Month. Noon-1pm. Bowling Green University: The Women’s Center, 107 Hanna Hall, Bowling Green. bgsu.edu

7 FRIDAY Don’t Stress Over the Dress - Over 200 next-to-new, current gowns will be available at no charge to area Junior and Senior girls in need of a prom dress. While supplies last. This 3-day, community-supported event is also on March 8, 11am-7pm & March 9, 1-4pm. 3-9pm. Findlay Village Mall: Space 257 next to Maurices, 1800 Tiffin Ave. shopfindlayvillagemall.com Night at the Museum - Children can join the museum staff (overnight) as they explore how local history comes alive after dark with hands-on exhibits, crafts, and games. Evening snack and light breakfast will be provided. Registration required. For ages 8-12. 6pm-9am. $50, per child for members/ $60, nonmembers. Hancock Historical Museum, 422 W. Sandusky St. 419-423-4433. hancockhistoricalmuseum.org Monster Jam - Don’t miss out on the biggest four-wheeled performers around, the Monster Jam! The 12 foot tall custom designed trucks, race and rip through the Huntington Center during their 2014 tour. 7:30pm. Prices vary, visit website.

Huntington Center, 500 Jefferson Ave., Toledo. 419-255-3300. huntingtoncentertoledo.com

8 SATURDAY MONDAYS

Open Studio, This studio time is for students to independently explore art. All ages and abilities welcome. Anytime between 3-5pm. $10 per child/$5 per additional sibling. Awakening Minds Art, 515 S. Main St. 419-302-3892. awakeningmindsart.org

MONDAY-FRIDAY

Mom & Tot Skate, Enjoy ice skating with friends and family.

10am-11am. $3, skates included.

The CUBE, 3430 N. Main St. 419424-7176. findlayohio.com

TUESDAY-SUNDAY

Titanic: The Artifact Exhibition, Takes a journey back in time and experience the legend of Titanic.

The galleries feature real artifacts recovered from the ocean floor along with room re-creations and personal stories. Through June 15. 10am-5pm. $15.50-$19.50.

Imagination Station, 1 Discovery Way. 419-244-2674. imaginationstationtoledo.org

Catching Fire Teen Movie - Watch the new release of Hunger Games, Catching Fire. A complete set of the Hunger Games series will be given to the person with the most creative outfit. Popcorn and drinks will be provided. Must have a parent permission form on file to attend. For grades 6-12. 1:30-4:30pm. Findlay-Hancock County Public Library, 206 Broadway St. 419-422-1712. findlaylibrary.org Free Ballerina Beauties Party - Little girls are invited to attend in true Ballerina Flying style, reminiscent of the children’s books by Alexa Brandenberg. Story time, play pin the shoes on the ballerina, make tutus and learn a ballet dance. For ages 4-8. Noon.

Tiffin-Seneca Public Library: Frost Kalnow Room, 77 Jefferson Street, Tiffin.

419-447-3751. tiffinsen.lib.oh.us Free

Flying Reptile Exhibit Opens - Come see the descendants of reptiles who flew among the dinosaurs before modern birds even existed. Toledo Zoo, 2 Hippo Way, Toledo. Zoo admission. 10am.

419-385-4040. toledozoo.org

machines. Also on March 9. 2pm. Toledo Zoo: Museum of Science Indoor Theatre, 2 Hippo Way, Toledo. Zoo admission.

419-385-4040. toledozoo.org

Titanic at the Valentine Theatre Spend an extra special night watching Titanic at the historic Valentine Theatre in downtown Toledo. Get to the theater early for Titanic-related activities in the lobby for 30 minutes before the show. 7pm. $5.

Valentine Theatre, 410 Adams St. 419-242-3490. valentinetheatre.com

Acoustics for Autism - Project iAm presents its 7th annual benefit concert.

This amazing event will feature fantastic entertainment from local bands and silent auctions. All ages welcome. Proceeds benefit local families affected by Autism.

Noon. The Village Idiot, 309 Conant St., Maumee. 419-514-9817. acousticsforautism.com

Science of Flight Show - Guests learn how animals fly by watching one of the zoo’s scientists perform fun and wild experiments, comparing animal flight with that of

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TUESDAYS

Sculpture Class, Individuals of all ages and abilities will have fun learning sculpture techniques and creating beautiful pieces of art.

6:30-7:30pm. $10. Awakening Minds Art, 515 S. Main St. 419302-3892. awakeningmindsart.org

WEDNESDAYS Painting Class, Individuals of all ages and abilities will have fun at this painting class. 6:30-7:30pm. $10. Awakening Minds Art, 515 S. Main St. 419-302-3892. awakeningmindsart.org

TUESDAYS & THURSDAY

Winter Story Time, Stories, songs and a simple craft. Parents/ caregivers must stay with children.

For all ages. 10:30-11:30am.

Findlay-Hancock County Public Library, 206 Broadway St. 419422-1712. findlaylibrary.org Free

FRIDAYS

Baby Story Time, Simple stories, rhymes, music, puppets, movement for the youngest learners. Birth-36 months. 9:45-10:15am. FindlayHancock County Public Library, 206 Broadway St. 419-422-1712. findlaylibrary.org Free

SATURDAYS Open Studio, Individuals of all ages and abilities can come to open studio time and create something beautiful. 10-11am. $10.

Awakening Minds Art, 515 S. Main St. 419-302-3892. awakeningmindsart.org

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Grandparent Stories:

7 Things I’d Do Differently the Second Time Around

By Linda Morgan I’m not really the “what if?” type.

Rarely do I look back and think I should have done things another way. As Frank Sinatra so memorably put it, “Regrets, I’ve had a few, but then again, too few to mention.”

Except, of course, when it comes to parenting.

My children — a girl and a boy — are now grown and have thoughtfully produced kids of their own. My four grandchildren are sweet and adorable and everything I deserve for the devotion, dedication and diligence I displayed while raising those two test cases, their parents.

It’s tempting — no, make that irresistible — to share with my kids my well-meaning thoughts and opinions about raising children. After all, I’ve been there, done that — twice — and even hung around long enough to see the results. Isn’t that a double-blind study of some sort?

But the truth is, no one wants to listen to the so-last-century views of the older generation, even if that wisdom is rooted in on-the-ground, in-the-trenches, real-life experience. Kids. Go figure.

So instead, I’ve compiled a list of what I’d do differently if, with a little help from my time machine, I had the chance. Call it the “Back to the Future Grammy Chronicles.”

1. Surfing: I’d do it

Or snowshoeing or horseback riding or fly-fishing or tree climbing. I would take more chances and have more fun, even if that meant getting wet or getting cold or getting ridiculed by my family for being wimpy or klutzy or coming in last.

I’d worry less about twisting an ankle or deconstructing my hair, and more about being “in the moment” and enjoying life with my family.

If I could do it again, I would also resist being Anxious Mama, because I was both anxious and mama. I now understand that taking risks builds resilience.

Maybe I’d even let my daughter take part in that ridiculously remote ski program I nixed when she was 5. Maybe.

2. It’s a phase: I’d get it

The best thing about distance and perspective is that once you’re a grandparent, you’ve got both. We know that the baby will one day sleep through the night, get potty trained and extract his thumb from his mouth.

We also know that your fibbing 4-yearold is not headed for a life of crime. That your bossypants 6-year-old could turn out to be the next Sheryl Sandberg, and that your 3-year-old, the one who dismantles everything in sight, might one day become an orthopedic surgeon. Your mouthy, back-talking teen? No promises.

If I could do it again, I wouldn’t draw conclusions from bits and pieces of my children’s behavior, unpleasant or otherwise. Just as a precocious interest in dinosaurs doesn’t mean you have a future paleontologist, a precocious disregard for other people’s money doesn’t mean you have a future Bernie Madoff.

3. Chores: I’d insist on them

As Laura Kastner, Ph.D., and Kristen A. Russell write in their book Wise-Minded Parenting, “Since children and teens are happiest when you give them stuff and make their lives as easy as possible, a child’s approving smiles are not good measures of your parenting. You should only go so far for those smiles.”

Clearly, I went too far. When it came to doing the dishes or taking out the trash, I succumbed to those age-old yet artfully delivered protests: “I have homework!” “I have baseball practice!” and yes, “I have to watch the season finale of The Cosby Show!” All said with smiles.

If I could do it again, I would help my children develop a sense of responsibility by helping the family. That process can start early: Even preschoolers can set the table, put the laundry away, make their own beds — sort of — and water the plants.

4. Allowance: I’d give them one

It’s not that I didn’t try the allowance thing. Doesn’t everyone? But money, as they say, is power. “No allowance this week if … ” often morphed into “No allowance this week because …” until it became “No allowance.”

They also say, “Greed is good,” at least Wall Street’s Gordon Gekko did, and my kids were great Gekko fans. So small squabbles would often ensue over which one of our piggy banks should be emptied to cover what activity. Movies? Theirs. Clothing?

Ours.

If I could do it again, I’d make sure my kids learned, early on, how to manage money. I’d scale the allowance to their age — at 6, they’d get $6 — and I would be specific about what perks that money should cover (yes, parents should finance the basics). And I’d never tie their allowance to chores or grades or major meltdowns at the market.

5. Bullying: I wouldn’t tolerate it

Back in the day, kids were expected to “work things out” on their own, even if one of them was being harassed, tormented or teased. Parents rarely reported these incidents to teachers or school administrators, who often felt that dealing with bullying behavior didn’t have much to do with their job of teaching reading, writing and ’rithmetic.

Oh, what a difference two decades make. Today, programs such as Second Step teach social skills to students from preschool through middle school. Committee for Children works to promote children’s social and academic success, and helps elementary schools create safe environments.

If I could do it again, I would intervene when that mean kid at school picked on my son. I’d report this to school administrators, then work diligently with them to find a resolution.

6. Traditions: I’d create more

Sure, we celebrated Thanksgiving and Father’s Day and birthdays. But here’s what I know now: Family traditions transcend blowing out candles, exchanging presents and carving turkeys. They define a family’s culture and reflect its identity. As author Jennifer Trainer Thompson writes in The Joy of Family Traditions, “Traditions help us to shape our daily lives and foster values … they can be an oasis in an increasingly hectic and busy world.”

If I could do it again, I’d create special nighttime routines, write clever lunchbox messages, invent code words only we would understand, and tell silly and senseless dinnertime jokes.

Then I’d collect and re-assemble diverse and fascinating rituals. My children would soak up the rich customs and mores of others while evaluating their own family principles and integrating each of these into their personal heritage.

Ha! I wish! But at the very least, they’d have fun trying.

7. Time: I’d take it

If I could do it again, I’d realize that those hurried, hassled, recital-going, Tball-playing, birthday-party-planning years race by at Mach speed. I’d take a moment or so — every day — to sit back, chill and soak in all that awesomeness.

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Owens Community College: Perrysburg Campus, 30335 Oregon Rd., Perrysburg.

419-215-4181. toymasters.org

11 TUESDAY Teen Tech Week: Geek Out - Unleash your inner geek with games, challenges and a best dressed geek contest. 7-8pm.

Findlay-Hancock County Public Library, 206 Broadway St. 419-422-1712. findlaylibrary.org Free Little Scientists Week - The littlest of scientists will enjoy programs and activities that will allow their knowledge to grow as quickly as their imaginations. For ages kindergarten and younger. Through Sunday, March 16. 10am-5pm. Regular admission prices. Imagination Station, 1 Discovery Way, Toledo. 419-244-2674. imaginationstationtoledo.org Toddler Trot: Night Walk - Dress to be outdoors and discover what is out at night.

Registration required. For children ages 12-36 months with an adult companion.

6:30pm. 419-435-3915, 680 E. SR 18, Tiffin. 419-435-3915. senecacountyparks.org Free

12 WEDNESDAY Tales For Tots - Enjoy a themed story time each month, with new stories to engage children at each session. Also on March 26. 11-11:30am. Mazza Museum, 300 College St. 419-434-4560. mazzacollection.org Free

14 FRIDAY Disney Aladdin Jr. - Filled with magic, mayhem and flying carpet rides, this fantastic stage adaptation will feature all of the favorite Disney characters. Also on March 15, 7pm & March 16, 2pm. 7pm. $10, adults/$8, seniors/$6, students/$12, at door. First Presbyterian Church, 2330 South Main St. 419-422-4624. artspartnership.com

15 SATURDAY The “Original” Kiwanis Pancake Day - Bring the family for a celebration of Kiwanis Pancake Day with this all-you-caneat delicious pancake and savory sausage meal. 7am-2pm. $5-6. Findlay High School Cafeteria, 1200 Broad Ave. 419-429-7677. findlaykiwanis.org

16 SUNDAY Puppet Show: The Barn - Stop over to the Old Barn and find out who’s living in the stalls and rafters. This full production includes a puppet show, music, and activities. For children ages 3-6 with an adult.

1 & 3pm. Oakwood Nature Preserve: Discovery Center, 1400 Oakwoods Ln. 419-425-7275. hancockparks.com Free Gliding Stars Annual Ice Show Bring the whole family to see the 15th annual ice show with the theme: Let’s Go to the Movies. 2:30-5pm. $5, children/ $7 (in advance)/ $10, at door. The Cube, 3430 N. Main St. 419-423-4536. glidingstars.org/findlay

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Career Girls and Amateur Sleuths: Girls’ Series Fiction from the 1920s to the 1950s - Enjoy an enlightening presentation by Nancy Down, Browne Popular Culture Library. In recognition of Women’s History Month. Noon-1pm.

Bowling Green University: The Women’s Center, 107 Hanna Hall, Bowling Green. bgsu.edu

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EGGstreme Science - Spring into Imagination Station and explore the science of eggs. Learn through a variety of hands-on EGGciting activities. Through Wednesday, April 19. Imagination Station, 1 Discovery Way. 419-244-2674. imaginationstationtoledo.org

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For all ages. 1-3pm. Riverbend Recreation Area, Shelter 1, 16618 Township Rd. 419-425-7275. hancockparks.com Free

21 FRIDAY 63rd Annual Zenobia Shrine Circus This is a Circus like no other with dazzling acts such as the Performing Bruins, Kambarova Horseback Troupe and Death Defying Trapese Performances! Through Sunday, March 23. Seagate Convention Centre, 401 Jefferson, Toledo.

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Silver Blades Ice Classic - Come enjoy seeing figure skaters of all ages perform in the 39th annual Silver Blades Ice Show.

Also on March 22, 7pm & March 23, 2pm. 7pm. $6, children and seniors/ $10, adults. The Cube, 3430 N. Main St. 419-299-3503. findlaysilverblades.com

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