Toledo Area Parent August 2015

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Back to School Guide

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Kids & Cell phones

Putting a Lens on Vaccines

Dealing with the dilemma

A local father does his own research

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The Advocate Mom

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A Family Quilt of Core Memories

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We Are in This Together Moms

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The hardest job in the world

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mom sense

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The Advocate Mom

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August

It’s that time of year again! August means most families are getting back to a routine. See these tips on how to get back to school schedules!

Getting Back into the Swing of Things Meagan Ruffing uses her own experiences for her top ten tips on getting the whole family ready for school.

Roundup of Local Facebook Parent Groups

Check out our list of local Facebook groups dedicated to parenting, which remind you that you’re not alone when it comes to parenting woes.

[Always online] Our July Family Favorites Issue covers all the local favorites from school to doctors, bakeries and play places. Whether you’re new to the community or a veteran, you’ll love seeing and visiting these places!

Blogs by local moms, for local moms, are at your fingertips. Relatable and hilarious reads online at

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Correction: Our apologies to Children’s Discovery Center, who we did not list as the correct winner of Best Day Care in our July 2015 Family Favorites issue.

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Parents know that education doesn’t have to stop when the final school bell rings.

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KIDS HOROSCOPE August 23September 22

By Sue Lovett Hopefully both parents enjoy being busy because they will need a lot of energy to keep up with the Virgo children. At a very early age the Virgo child is fussy and particular about his clothing and surroundings. Even in the crib they want the sheets wrinklefree and pajamas clean and comfortable.

When they begin to walk around you should be sure to keep a pathway open for them.

They love to clean things and can be occupied for hours with a squirt bottle of water and roll of paper towels. They enjoy being with other children of all ages and helping anyone younger than themselves.

They are born caretakers, should have their own pet (if possible) and be a part of shopping, preparing meals, setting the table, and after dinner cleanup.

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by Chistine Holliday

Unmarried Dads Get Help from New Group

Row, Row, Row your Boat!

The Black Swamp Rowing Club, new in the area since the spring of 2015, is looking for rowers in grades 8-12 from any school district in northwest Ohio who want to row competitively and be eligible for college scholarships. (Two of the club’s recently graduated seniors earned scholarships!) Practices are held at the Toledo Sailing Club at Walbridge Park, and rowers can take advantage of winter conditioning at the Essence Mind Body Studio in Perrysburg. Coaches Trevor Jones and his wife Kelly, with 11 years of coaching experience, direct the athletes to develop skills and improve cardiovascular strength and endurance. Trainers at the studio work with rowers through yoga, Pilates and specific alignment exercises to keep rowers’ bodies balanced in the sitting position required by the sport. Rowers are reminded that “school comes first and grades are most important,” and coaches teach sportsmanship, respect, and integrity. Rowers typically row as novices their first year, then become varsity rowers. The Club currently has a roster of 13 rowers—Varsity Girls, Varsity Boys, and Novice rowers—and the teams compete in the fall and spring with some summer regattas.

Follow the team on Twitter @blackswamprowin, on Facebook, or at blackswamprowing.com.

Social worker Beth Incorvaia worries about unmarried fathers having difficulty visiting their children. “These men are so frustrated. They aren’t familiar with the system and learn quickly that the State of Ohio doesn’t give them many rights.”

That’s the reason she started the Fathers Rights Organization (FRO), a non-profit group with the mission of empowering and encouraging local men trying to keep close to their kids. She explains, “These men want to see their children, but don’t know how to get the process started. They think they need an attorney, which they often cannot afford. And, frankly, the court system isn’t user friendly. The dads spend a lot of money and time with no success and often give up.”

She continues, “I know the research shows that children who grow up without dads have lots of problems—higher suicide rates and more anger issues, to name a few. We want to help these dads maintain relationships with their kids without all the problems.”

FRO is building relationships with local attorneys and social services agencies, and Incorvaia believes the community will offer help when the need is discussed openly.

She invites dads to check the Facebook page (Fathers Rights Organization FRO), fathersrightsorganization.com or contact her at 419 214-2465 and/or ohiofro@yahoo.com.

Tax-deductible donations to help can be made at any Huntington Bank branch.

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Ceramics Shop Owner Shares Joy of Creating

Sandy Kasten opened her ceramics store ,Simply Stated and Painted, on Glanzman Road just before Christmas 2014. She had planned to run the business with her daughter Dayna, but Dayna died just eight days after the store opened. Sandy was determined to share the excitement she and her daughter had experienced doing clay and Sandy and her granddaughter glass projects and she is hop, Emma, love to work on projects together ing to introduce others to the joy of creating works of art.

“Dayna and I both worried that schools aren’t offering art classes like they used to,” explains Kasten. “We wanted to get kids off the couch, have them turn off the video games, and get them doing art, so they could see how much fun and rewarding creating can be.”

To that end, Kasten offers classes and party opportunities. Guests pick their project piece from her collection of mugs, plates, bowls, decorative pieces, then choose colors to make their piece unique. There is no time limit on how long it takes to finish a piece, and the cost, including the paint, the firing, and the professional advice Kasten can offer, is included in the price of the piece, which is based on its size ($14.95/small to $59.95/jumbo).

Kasten has a party room for up to 12 adults (wedding shower or ladies’ night out) and there is also space for children’s parties (think birthdays or Scout troops). -CH The shop is located at 3322 Glanzman Road, 419 214-0224.

UT’s On-Campus Child Care Center Closes

The University of Toledo’s La Petite Academy child care facility closed June 30, due to decreasing enrollment. The main campus center had served UT employees and students, but fewer students meant higher subsidizing costs for the university, which officials described as “unsustainable.”

Jovita Thomas-Williams, vice president and chief human resources officer, is encouraging parents of La Petite Academy children to consider the University’s Early Learning Center at 1932 Birchwood, near the Health Science campus. That center, which provides care for children from 18 months to kindergarten age in a quiet residential neighborhood, is accredited by the National Academy of Early Childhood Programs (NAEYC), and is one of only 26 centers in Ohio to have a 5-star rating. Its programs take advantage of large classrooms, a full-size gymnasium and large fenced-in playgrounds for outdoor play. A field-trip based program for children aged 5-10 years is offered during the summer. The Center serves the children of students, faculty, and staff of the University, as well as members of the community. -CH More information about the ELC is available at 419 530-6710.

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When Loud Noises and Bright Lights Hurt Sensory learning program helps make sense of the senses

by Laura Blair

Most children have a sensory issue or two, such as hating loud fireworks or feeling clothing tags rubbing, that are simple annoyances. But for children with sensory processing disorder, these issues prevent them from functioning in everyday life, to the point of feeling anxiety and depression. The Sensory Learning Program offered

by Dr. Jeffrey G. Schmakel, O.D. at Toledo Eye Care, can provide relief from these symptoms.

Sensory processing disorder, a condition where the brain has problems interpreting information gathered by the senses, can affect one or several senses, and people can be over or under-responsive to these senses. It can be present with a diagnosis of Autism, Asperger’s and ADD/ADHD, but it can also happen as a result of a stroke or traumatic brain injury. Dr. Schmakel’s program is open to everyone regardless of label or diagnosis.

The Sensory Learning Program was founded by Mary Bolles, and Dr. Schmakel brought it to Toledo in 2008. Since then, 350 participants from age 18 months to 76 years have gone through this 30-day, drug-free, non-cognitive therapy program.

The program uses light, sound and motion simultaneously to stimulate the brain to create new neural connections to help process sensory information. As a result of the program, participants have improved attention and concentration skills and more general awareness of the world around them. They can then begin other cognitive therapies that require patient participation to be effective.

Margie Hunter B.S. Ed., program administrator, said “It’s not an end or solution, it’s just a piece to work with other therapies.”

Toledo Eye Care is located at 3454 Oak Alley Ct., Suite 202.

For details about sensory integration therapy and general optometry services, please call 419-578-0057 or find them on Facebook at www.facebook.com/sensorylearningtoledo.

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THE LINES TWEEN advice for parents with children 10-16

The Kids and Cell Phones Dilemma

The fine line between use and abuse

by Kerrie McLoughlin

As parents, we want to keep our children safe, and cell phones seem to promise to do just that. But at what age does a child become responsible enough to be able to handle all that might go along with a cell phone, like texting, the Internet, minutes and charges, manners and more? And what guidelines do you need to have in place before handing over that phone?

Some parents are dead set on their pre-teen not having a cell phone. Jennifer McClure, mom of three, makes the point, “Until they or their classmates are old enough to drive, they shouldn’t be stranded anywhere, because some adult should be with them. So why would they need a cell phone?” It would seem that few elementary age children are responsible enough to be able to handle a cell phone.

To combat some of the bigger problems, you can get a phone without Internet access or texting services, and it can also have set minutes and a tracking device.

All families are different, though, and face different circumstances. Suzanne Andrews, mom of four, says, “I think kids ‘need’ cell phones either when they start driving or if their family situation is such that they or their parents are difficult to reach.” Divorced, single or working parents, for instance, like to make sure their child has a way to reach them at all times, no matter how young the child.

Shelley Ryan, mom of two teens, says, “All depends on the kid and what they do. Both of my kids have had jobs/ volunteer gigs long before they could drive (and before they were teens), and both had phones so they could call when they were ready to be picked up or had a change of plans. I also like them to have

a phone if they go somewhere on foot or on a bike without a parent. It gives them a little more freedom to go out into the world on their own.” It also gives them a sense of independence and they don’t have to seek out an adult and ask to use their phone.

But parents, beware! Chris Oliver, mom of one and middle school counselor, says, “Take it from a woman who spends every working day with 800 adolescents, you need to monitor your child’s texts. And regarding the camera attached to that phone: nothing good is going to come of that!”

Here are some rules and issues you could discuss with your child to ease her into a cell phone instead of turning it immediately into a huge responsibility and potential problem:

Responsibility — A cell phone

comes with a lot of baggage! It needs to be charged, kept out of reach of younger children … not be lost. There’s also the factor of younger kids possibly not being able to use good judgment or understanding with things like inappropriate texts/use of the camera, the financials of a cell phone, Internet service, etc.

Cost — Make sure your child un-

derstands the financial picture involved with a cell phone. If they have a prepaid phone, they can see how many minutes they have left and need to understand how much those minutes cost. If you get a set number of minutes to include texting for your child, check your account online weekly to make sure your child isn’t going over minutes and costing you hundreds of extra dollars. Make sure

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your child knows that things like games, ring tones, sending pictures and Internet time can cost extra and have them pay you back for overages.

Safety — Be sure to find out and talk about the law in your state concerning texting or talking on the phone while driving and some of the consequences that have happened to other kids because of doing so.

Model being prepared — Al-

ways have backup phone numbers in case your child loses his cell phone, it dies, or your child does not answer (or if your child is grounded from his phone).

Make sure you have numbers for coaches, schools, friends, the parents of your child’s friends, etc.

Manners — Kids should know basic telephone manners no matter where

they are. Kids sitting in the same room text each other. Keeping them from other activities and from spending time with family members. And no phones at the dinner table, whether it be at home or a restaurant.

Consequences — Be prepared to take the phone away if your child misuses the privilege of having the cell phone. Examples would include texting inappropriate pictures of themselves or others to friends or classmates, using the phone as a way to cheat on tests at school, making prank phone calls, bullying or visiting inappropriate web sites.

Kerrie McLoughlin’s five kids range in age from 4-13 and so far none of them has a cell phone.

Check ’em out at TheKerrieShow.com.

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FREE DELIVERY Medi-Pals is a local medication dispenser company that makes giving medication to babies and children much easier. Medi-Pals patented split-tip design fans medicine out to the sides of the mouth, as opposed to, squirting it down the throat like a traditional medicine dispenser. Founder, Todd Strayer, believes this design is safer and easier because the child controls the flow of the medicine and the recommended dose is received. The gag reflex is not activated since it flows to the side, and it helps babies get used to the texture and taste of medicine.

The idea for Medi-Pals came about out of frustration after a doctor’s appointment for Grace, Strayer’s daughter. As the nurse administered an oral dose of the Roto-Virus vaccine, baby Grace thrust a good amount out of her mouth. The Strayers were worried about the effectiveness of the medication since their baby girl did not receive the intended dosage. They began thinking of ways to combat the problem.

After a couple of years of building and testing prototypes on their daughter and friends’ children, they finally settled on a design and launched MediPals in February 2015.

The colorful Medi-Pals faceplates can be found in three designs: a ladybug, crab, and frog and are less intimidating than a typical medicine dispenser.

Most babies want to put everything in their mouth, so it’s a natural response when they see Medi-Pals.

There also is a simple disposable dispenser for use in hospitals and doctors' offices. All of the pieces are manufactured locally by DRS Industries and Basilius Inc. Strayer is always looking for ways to make the current dispenser better and to expand his product offerings.

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The idea of kids going back to school with the possibility of not knowing anyone in their class can be a scary thought for children and parents alike. However, one easy way to help a child make friends is by getting them involved in extracurricular activities. Marissa Rex, an elementary school counselor for Washington Local Schools, offers the advice to “look for free or less costly events in your neighborhood, attend after-school functions, see what clubs or activities your child’s school already has in place. This will help your child branch out, get more confidence, and find other children with similar interests.” Finding shared interests can be the best way to start up conversations with someone new.

For children that are typically shy, it can be especially difficult to make new friends. Rex often explains to kids that the other child they are trying to meet may also feel nervous. “Go ahead and make the first move and be okay with the word ‘no’. It stings, but you never know until you try.”

For parents, it is important to remember that childhood friendships typically do not last forever. Children change throughout the years, and their friendship groups naturally alter.

“No one can force us to be their friend and we should never try to do the same. Friendship is something that should be positive and rewarding for both individuals.”

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Routine Importance One of the great joys of summertime is the opportunity to stay up late, sleep in, and lose that strict schedule often put on kids during the school year. But now that summer is ending, it is important to get kids back to a regular routine. According to Dr. Kimberly Hunter, assistant professor of psychiatry at UT and a clinical psychologist, “It is highly recommended that children have set bed and wake times.” Without a set routine or enough sleep, kids can develop problems such as “increased fatigue, irritability, difficulty concentrating at school, hyperactive and impulsive behaviors and reduced academic performance.”

For a school aged child, 10 to 11 hours of sleep at night is needed. To ensure they can fall asleep easily, it is recommended that electronics be turned off an hour before bedtime. Instead of watching TV or playing video games, encourage your child to read a book or listen to music before falling asleep.

Dr. Hunter suggested that a good way to get a child back on a scheduled bedtime and wake up time is for “parents to start fading their children’s bedtimes backward 5-10 minutes every few nights to help them reach the desired bedtime and amount of sleep that their child’s age requires.”

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Ways to Save

The start of a new school year is a chance to start fresh. Yet when starting fresh means having to buy new school supplies and clothes, then the start of the school year can have parents in fear. Fortunately, there are many stores that offer great bargains for back to school shopping. Stores like Target and Office Max will offer really low prices on most school supplies if you shop at the right time.

Lisa, a mother of three, has had years of experience with back to school shopping and advises, “when buying supplies, buy extras to store at home for halfway through the year. In January, if you need school supplies, they will be much more expensive than at the beginning of the school year.”

Another piece of advice she shared was to know what supplies you can save on and which ones you should splurge with. “Don’t go cheap on pencils, because cheap pencils don’t usually sharpen right and have erasers that break right off”.

Another local mother, Katrina Kuhn, shared information on the Ohio Sales Tax Holiday. This holiday is a three day event in Ohio from August 7-9 that will exempt taxes on school supplies, instructional materials, and clothing.

More information on this special tax exemption weekend can be found at tax.ohio.gov.

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Kids are always taught to share, but when it comes to germs, kids can share too well. Back to school often means preparing for all sorts of possible illnesses that can spread through a school like a wildfire. According to Dr. Karolyi, a pediatrician at Perrysburg Pediatrics, some of the most common illnesses that occur at the beginning of the school year are the common cold, strep throat, pink eye, and gastrointestinal illnesses.

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Dr. Karolyi stated that if the child has a fever over 100 degrees, or has any vomiting or diarrhea, then they should be kept home. “Strep or pink eye require at least 24 hours of antibiotic treatment before the child should return to school and the child should be fever free for 24 hours before returning.”

Though germs are inevitable, there are some easy prevention methods that can help keep your child healthy. First of all, frequent hand washing is a must, especially before lunch and after recess. Another simple tip is to sneeze or cough into the elbow rather than into the hands. This keeps the germs from spreading onto everything the child touches.

Also plenty of rest, exercise, and a healthy diet are essential for staying well.

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lunches, but if you have a picky eater or want to save some money, packing a lunch might be the best option. However, it is important to remember that a child needs a lunch that will not only energize them, but will also fill them up for the rest of the day.

Some great ways to ensure your child will eat their lunch is by involving them in the lunch making process. If a child has helped prepare the food they will be more willing to eat it. This also goes for the lunchbox itself. If you allow your child to pick out a lunchbox they like, they will be more excited for lunchtime.

When it comes to picking out a lunchbox, look for the lunch coolers.

These will keep lunch foods that need to be refrigerated cool during the day, and allow for more lunch options.

A healthy lunch should be made up of one-third starchy foods like breads and pasta, a dairy product, protein, fruits and veggies, and a healthy beverage such as milk or water. For lunchtime recipes, many parents recommend Pinterest, a site free to use that allows you to view other parent’s healthy lunch ideas and share your own ideas.

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Get Moving

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After school programs are another option. According to Kacy Myers, associate executive director of West Toledo’s YMCA, organizations like the YMCA and JCC offer a variety of youth sports programs, dance classes, and swimming lessons.

Keeping kids active, especially when they go back to school, is extremely important. Myers explains, “Regular physical activity improves strength and endurance, helps build healthy bones and muscles, helps control weight, reduces anxiety and stress, and increase self-esteem.”

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Recently tablets and smartphones are playing larger roles in education.

These devices are small enough to transport from class to class, and with textbooks being omitted in some schools, the replacement is digital textbooks. The option to carry all textbooks on a small device definitely can be beneficial.

Along with these devices come apps which can be very educational for students. However, according to a recent article published by CBSNews, it is very important to find out which apps are actually educational and which ones are just distractions from learning. The article suggested looking for apps that connect what the child already knows to new information and apps that encourage conversation with other children or adults. One app that was highlighted was Alien Assignment which has the child fixing a crashed spaceship by going on a scavenger hunt around their house and taking pictures of the objects that could be used.

If planning on using apps for learning at home, be sure to research the app to make sure it will actually be of educational benefit. Also it is important to remember that apps can be in addition to working at home with an adult, but should not be a substitution.

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Putting a Lens on Vaccinations

A father looks into one of the most controversial topics of our decade

by Matt Reger

A favorite story told by my 92 yearold grandmother is the day that electricity was turned on at her parent’s home.

She was eight years old at the time and every neighbor of their farm had come out with a bucket in hand to see the house burn down. Everyone was convinced that when the electricity was turned on the house would ignite. It didn’t and soon everyone’s home was electrified.

Although the fear of electricity has faded, there is another fear of that time that has not. Unlike buckets of water to put out a fire, my great-grandparents and their contemporaries could only fear polio. Vaccines available in the 1920’s and 1930’s were limited to smallpox.

Although studies were under way for the development of diphtheria, tetanus, pertussis, and polio vaccines, the actual shots were still years away. Influenza, an epidemic just four years before my grandmother’s birth, would have a vaccine in the early 1940’s. Diphtheria, tetanus, and pertussis would have regular vaccinations by the late 1940’s.

My grandmother sees the vaccine debate through the eyes of a child who grew up in the 1920’s and 1930’s. She knew the effects of whooping cough, children and adults with polio, others who died of influenza and her own experience with measles and mumps. When she was a mother and sent my mom to school in 1951 she made sure the available and necessary vaccines were obtained. When a polio vaccine was made available just a few years later she was 28

in line and made sure her two daughters were vaccinated.

In 1972, when I started kindergarten, my mother did exactly what the doctor instructed on vaccinations. By then the list of vaccines had grown to ten shots and seven different diseases had vaccinations to prevent them. This list had actually shrunk the year before I was vaccinated with the elimination of the smallpox vaccine because the disease had been eradicated.

A generation of difference

Fast-forward to the vaccinations of my own children and the world seems to have changed dramatically. My daughter began school in the fall of 2011 and when we submitted her vaccination record, she had received approximately 28 different shots for 10 different diseases, more than double what I had received in 1972. Although we had adopted an alternate schedule, spacing out the shots with fewer shots at a time and even sought out a doctor who separated the MMR vaccination, we still had hit most of the vaccines except Hepatitis B. When I spoke to my mother about our vaccination process she wondered why we would even question the doctor and the CDC schedule. Although she was shocked to learn about the number of shots administered at one time, she still questioned our stance. My grandmother was less diplomatic. She thought it was downright stupid not to get a vaccine for a disease that could be avoided.

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My story is similar to a small but growing number of families in the United States. To my grandmother they were miracles. To my mother they were required. To me they were questioned.

There is more material than any one person could ever adequately review about the safety and benefits of vaccines. The CDC website (www.cdc.gov) is filled with facts, figures and scientific support for the safety of vaccines. Scientific journals and research have revealed no link between vaccines and Autism or other neurological disorders. In spite of these assurances there are minimal risks as with any procedure. The scientific community and CDC acknowledge these risks.

Taking a shot at the risk

Most people in the United States do vaccinate. CDC information indicates that the vaccination rate in the United States in general is 95%, mostly because every state requires vaccination to enter public schools. The CDC reported in its 2012–2013 report on Vaccination Coverage Among Children in Kindergarten that of 49 states (Wyoming provided no information) and the District of Columbia, there was a median vaccination coverage of 94.7% for two doses of measles, mumps and rubella vaccine (MMR) and 95% for varying local requirements for diphtheria, tetanus, and pertussis (DTaP).

In spite of the national statistic showing high rates of vaccination, there are variations in that information based

on the type of vaccination and location surveyed. The more serious the disease (i.e. polio) the higher the vaccination rate and the lower the perceived danger, the lower the vaccination rate (i.e. chickenpox). There are also locations throughout the United States where pockets of low vaccination rates occur. For example the PBS news program Frontline recently featured Ashland, Oregon, the community with the lowest rate of vaccinations in the United States. All of these variations add texture to the landscape of vaccinations. To go into all them would be more than could be covered in this article. But a visit to the CDC website would reveal those vast differences and explain how statistics in this area can rarely be generalized.

Adding to concerns about immunizations rates are recent outbreaks of Measles in California’s Disneyland and Ohio’s Amish community, which bring light to the difference between personal immunity and herd immunity revealing that the vaccination question is not merely one of personal choice but of responsibility to the community. Herd immunity protects those who are too young to be vaccinated for a particular disease and those with compromised immune systems who cannot be immunized because of the danger. But herd immunity only works when immunization rates exceed 90%. Some communities in American have much lower rates than that, Toledo included.

Making the personal political

Opposition to immunizations is nothing new. The first mandatory vaccination law was passed in Massachusetts in 1855. In response to this law and others like it in other states the Anti-Vaccination Society of America was founded in 1879. This organization was formed with the belief that it “is undignified” to mandate vaccines and that the “efficacy of vaccinations as a disease preventative is a matter of individual opinion.”

Arguments against vaccinations haven’t changed since the nineteenth century in many ways, but who makes those arguments has evolved. Although opposition revolves around faith matters in certain religions, the safety of vaccines, and the need for herd immunization, the ultimate decisions about vaccines seem to be more related to the generational scenario I presented above than any single oppositional argument. In a study by the Pew Research Center it was found that 41% of adults between 18 and 29 believe parents should make the decisions about vaccinations. Compare that figure with 20% of adults 65 and older and it is obvious that generation is the determining factor.

Why age is such a determining factor seems to be simultaneously obvious and complex. It is obvious that parents in my generation – who have rarely, if ever, seen those with Whooping Cough, Measles, Mumps, and Polio – would not

find them the threat my grandmother did. But more complex is the fact that my generation and those younger than me have access to more information than previous generations and we have been asked to have our children immunized against more and more diseases with an increasing numbers of shots. Because we have no memory of terrible diseases, we only see the risks of immunization and not the benefits as clearly.

Doctor’s orders Doctors have responded to this questioning generation in a manner also never experienced by my parents or grandparents. Doctors in some cases have abandoned patients who are unvaccinated. Currently more than 25% of doctors’ offices in the United States will refuse treatment to patients who do not follow the recommended CDC schedule of vaccinations. This approach by doctors and the practice of some parents to not allow non-vaccinated children to play with their vaccinated children could have the effect of ostracizing the anti-vaccination group and harden their resolve against vaccines. The Frontline documentary demonstrated how this had happened in Ashland, Oregon.

I talked to friends from all over the United States. I received responses from those in Ohio, New Hampshire, Connecticut, Minnesota, and Colorado.

What I found was that most of our friends do vaccinate but have thought

seriously about the issue and researched it in a way that neither my grandmother nor my mother would have thought necessary. A friend from Minnesota, who has thoroughly researched vaccinations, said that her family does vaccinate because they “feel strongly that everyone should be vaccinated.”

I did find that although most friends did vaccinate for the standard diseases required for school, they did not vaccinate for perceived less serious diseases as chickenpox and the flu. One person told me that she did not get flu shots “mostly because I grew up without them and year after year, our family doesn’t get sick.”

Weighing the options, for our community

Over time people have trusted electricity in their homes, businesses and public places. People no longer stand around fearing a fire. Those in older homes may take precautions to improve their wiring but in general very few people are going without electricity because of fear of fire. That’s because the benefits far outweigh any relative danger.

I’ve found that the same is true of vaccinations. To my knowledge and in spite of the existing dangers, vaccines are safe and provide a protection against diseases we never want to know and, hopefully, will never know to the extent my grandmother did.

Obviously questions will continue to be asked by generations weighing the

relative danger to benefit for their children. Each year that a disease is absent means that the perceived danger is reduced. That may mean that doctors have to be more patient with newer generations who are more concerned with the safety of the vaccine as opposed to the danger of the disease. They may have to engage in a colloquy that ends with more than “because I said so”, but actually answers questions related to timing and number of shots at one time.

I understand the need for vaccinations, the benefits of herd immunity and the safety of such medical miracles. At the same time I am sympathetic to my generation’s need to question a doctor and make certain that parents make the important decisions in their child’s life in an informed and thoughtful manner.

That will be the tender line everyone will have to walk as we move into future generations where the cure is more common than the disease.

Matthew Reger is a local father and attorney. He contributes to Toledo Area Parent monthly with his Diary of a Dad column.

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A father finds an unexpected piece of fabric

by Matthew Reger

I sometimes see our family as a quilt and each memorable experience a piece of fabric sewn together as our collective memory. This summer we added a unique piece of fabric.

In June we traveled to New York City to visit my wife’s twin sister’s family and see their new daughter. It was a nice visit with equal amounts of family and sightseeing. But also planned into the vacation was a side trip to Great Barrington, Massachusetts, to visit a woman who had been a friend to my wife’s mother.

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The back-story on this visit goes to 1973. As a girl she had been told about a woman, Val, who helped her mother when she gave birth. At the time my mother-in-law was a single, pregnant woman working as a private duty nurse.

She was caring for Val’s husband as he died of cancer. He passed away in the summer and my mother-in-law made his eternal exit comfortable. In return, Val was with my mother-in-law in the fall when she gave birth, giving comfort to a mother all alone.

My mother-in-law knew this woman for a short period of time – Val left the city shortly after the girls’ birth - but the memory of her kindness was passed to my wife and endured. When Val re-connected with my mother-in-law recently my wife was encouraged to go visit.

My wife contacted her and found an amazing connection. Like my wife, Val is an architect. She had taught at Columbia and Yale and lived in Paris working with her husband who had also worked with a world famous architect. The excitement and anticipation for this visit only grew at this point.

We planned to have dinner and spend the night with Val and maybe have a few stories in between. We hoped the kids would be okay in the home and not get overly bored and we hoped that whatever conversation there was about a connection over 40 years ago would sustain the evening. We got more than we planned.

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We pulled into the gravel driveway next to Val’s pink clapboard home. We all approached the screen door and knocked.

We had no idea what she looked like but when she appeared she seemed to fit our expectations. She was plump but not fat with short grey hair and a “kindly face” filled with the lines of life. She had an accent of a person who has a great command of English – each word is carefully enunciated - but definitely spoke other languages. She graciously welcomed us in to a dinner already warm and ready.

When we entered the kids found a home filled with – of all things – children’s books and toys. Val has grandchildren near our children’s age and has spent a life involved with the Waldorf school movement.

Sharing Life

As we sat and ate a new world opened to us. Val told us how her parents – from Holland and Germany – met in New York City in 1928. How their common interest was a shared experience in Brazil. She told us of gaining a Fulbright scholarship in the 1950’s and living in Germany studying architecture.

The streets of Paris came alive as she told us of how she met her husband; they formed an architecture office together; worked on a project in Morocco and ultimately moved to New York.

She also told us of the pain of the loss of her husband and the great joy of helping a woman bring two new lives into the world.

The next morning we left feeling as though we had experienced a great adventure and gained a new and wonderful friend. We said our goodbyes and headed out.

About an hour later my wife turned to me and said: “We didn’t get a picture.”

“Well, it looks like we have to come back,” I told her.

I look forward to returning for that picture and we appreciate the new piece of fabric she has given us.

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We Are in This Together Moms The hardest job in the world

by Kerri Rochelle

There’s a story As I sat down to write my column this month, I struggled. Not because I have nothing to say, but because I have a one-track mind right now about a problem we are dealing with involving one of my daughters. I have a lot to say about what has been going on this week, however I like my columns to be fun and light-hearted and share a touching message about how great it is to be a mom.. but you know what?

Sometimes, it’s just really, really hard to be a mom. Sometimes it’s hard to find anything light-hearted in what you are dealing with.

This week has been one of those times. As we all know there are so many outside factors that are working against us as mothers, but the absolute hardest part of this week for me has been the realization that one of our biggest obstacles as moms is other moms. Moms who have chosen different methods and different values to use in raising their families. I am not saying they have chosen the wrong methods and values, but different. I respect that not everyone will make the same choices that I have made for my family. And that is good, actually. I mean how boring would the world be if we all

raised our kids the same way, right?

As mothers we should acknowledge that everyone has their reasons for their ways and respect them.

We are not the judge and jury of each other. A mother has to answer to no one when she makes a decision to protect her child from a situation. Nor should any mother have to answer to anyone as to why she is alright with her child being in that situation. We should be supportive of each other and try to understand others’ views and actions even when we disagree.

And, my goodness, moms, we should keep it off of social media if we don’t agree! Let us practice what we preach about cyberbullying.

Just be nice to each other. We are all doing the best we can. It is a hard job and there is no one perfect way to do it. We all have different views, opinions and approaches, but no matter how we go about it there is one common practice among us all; we do what we think is best for our kids. Sometimes we make mistakes and sometimes we surprise even ourselves at how good we really are, but, I promise, each one of us does what we think is best at the time. We are in this together moms.

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The Advocate Mom Kate Fineske

By Nadine Hariri

What quality do you most admire in others?

Kindness. As I raise my own three children that’s what I want most for them. It’s a skill and characteristic that takes a lot of patience, love and self confidence to build, yet has the biggest ability to positively impact others in our community and across the globe.

What's your favorite childhood memory?

Family vacations. Our vacations were magical memories which I feel privileged to have experienced and hope to re-create in my own family. Every year my father would pack up our conversion van with enough shoes, clothes and accessories to outfit a small village, that’s what you get when you have three daughters and a wife with a fashion fetish, in search of a fun and affordable family vacation destination as a small break from the reality of the everyday grind.

When you were younger, what did you want to be?

I had a friend growing up that wanted to be the president of the United States and I was bound and determined to be her fashion designer. That lasted through Kindergarten. I no longer find fashion that intriguing, but love creativity.

What are your hobbies?

Bike riding, traveling, and snuggling up with a good book.

What is the most important lesson in life you've learned so far?

Never say never— ever. Motherhood has taught me that lesson over and over and over again!

What's your favorite food?

Lasagna. Hands down.

What is your favorite family ritual?

Getting up early. I typically get up around 5am, even when on vacation, and love the quietness of the morning.

Where is the best local place to take your kids?

What always makes you laugh?

My children.

There are SO many! The Toledo Zoo, no wait… the library, especially the Main Library in downtown Toledo! We love to bike ride and explore all the different parks in the area too!

What do most people not know about you?

I love music and had a college concentration, just short of a minor, in music performance. I’ve played the piano all my life and in college focused on the upright string bass with the University of Toledo’s Orchestra and Jazz Band.

What's your super power?

Understanding. I love the saying, “Be kind… everyone you meet is fighting a battle you know nothing about.”

I ALWAYS refer back to this quote when someone does something that makes me sad, disappointed or frustrated. Remembering this helps me to get through the more difficult moments in life with unheard of “superhero strength.”

What is your favorite movie?

The most recent movie I’ve enjoyed, would be Maleficent. We tend to watch a lot of 80s movies on Netflix at home too— my all time favorite 80s movie is Goonies!

What has surprised you the most about being a parent?

Without a doubt, that there isn’t one correct answer to any parenting question and what works for one parent doesn’t always work for another. The pediatrician will tell you something different than the OBGYN, who will tell you something different than your friend, who is raising a plethora of amazing children, who will tell you something different from your mother, the lactation consultant and that amazing “solve-allyour-parenting-problems” book that everyone raves about. There is never ONE answer, just the solution that works best for you.

What is your favorite indulgence?

Traveling.

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Kate Fineske

Resides in Sylvania with her husband Adam Fineske and their 3 Children: Elizabeth, age 12, Andrew, age 8, and Nicholas, age 5 Employed as the Assistant Executive Director of Mom-mentum, a national non-profit organization striving to engage mothers personally, enrich mothers professionally and empower mothers through public policy. www.mom-mentum.org

Who do you admire most?

My youngest who just turned 5. He has the freshest and most innocent outlook on everything… something that somehow gets lost and harder to maintain as youth disappears.

Early bird or night owl?

Early bird.

If you could have dinner with anyone, who would it be?

Oprah Winfrey. She intrigues me, and I would love to have a genuine conversation without cameras around.

What book would you recommend to other moms?

Maxed Out: American Moms on the Brink. The book is by Katrina Alcorn, a happily married, mother of three with a thriving career, who shares a personal story of her own struggles to have both a career and a family while weaving in surprising research about the dysfunction between the careers and home lives of working mothers. The book made me cry, but also made me feel not so alone in my personal struggles to be a good mother while reaching for my own personal and professional goals.

What's your signature meal to make?

I’m not much of a cook. In fact, my first response was that my signature meal was dinner at the Sundown Cantina, a nearby neighborhood restaurant favorite.

After a little more thought, I realized that I make a pretty mean “Tossed Lasagna.” An easy rigatoni, meat and cheese casserole that (miraculously!) the whole family likes.

What is the best gift moms can give their children?

Confidence. I’ve noticed when my children gain confidence, it is easier for them to be kind when others are not. It’s easier for them to make good choices because often the best choice is not the easiest choice. And overall, it’s easier for them to step outside of their comfort zone. The best things in life always come when one can step outside their own comfort zone. The best way I’ve found to instill confidence in my children is to try with all my might to model it myself.

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Kid-friendly: Yes To avoid wait: Lunch time is hit

Despite the name, youâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;ll be happy you came

by Karen L. Zickes

Grumpyâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s

34 S. Huron, Toledo 419-241-6728 Mon-Fri: 8a.m.-2p.m. www.Grumpys.net As I mentioned in my previous column, Iâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;m making more of an effort to patronize the great places that downtown has to offer; and not just when Iâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;m catching a game or a special event.

New restaurants and nightspots continue popping up, but there are also many places that have called downtown home for a long time. Grumpyâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s is one of those longtime residents.

Keeping it in the family

Grumpyâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s has been on the scene for over 30 years; with its humble beginning in the back of the family hardware store. â&#x20AC;&#x153;They started with a deli counter in the hardware storeâ&#x20AC;?, said Sara Bauman, one of the ownerâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s daughters. Bauman and her sister Jennifer Shemak stepped up to keep the business running after their mother, Connie Horn, passed away a few years ago. Shemak had already been in the business many years, and her sister relocated back to Toledo to help keep the family tradition going.

Grumpyâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s is on its fourth location and has called the quaint Huron Street storefront home for the past 13 years. The family business has continued to grow so much they now have a food truck that is out and about at special events and various locations on a regular basis. The website lists its regular locations for the

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or miss but wait time is relatively short Noise level: Moderate Bathroom amenities: Changing station High chairs? Yes Got milk? Yes Kidsâ&#x20AC;&#x2122; menu:Yes, plus a homemade cookie with every meal Food allergy concerns: Gluten free items available. No peanut oil is used. Alert server of allergies at time of ordering.

week. The kids and I even recently spotted the truck at the Crosby Festival of the Arts.

Rustic and quaint atmosphere

Grumpyâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s is located on a tree lined portion of Huron Street with old brick buildings bursting with character.

You canâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t help but chuckle that the lit â&#x20AC;&#x153;OPENâ&#x20AC;? sign has a frown in the â&#x20AC;&#x153;Oâ&#x20AC;?. But upon walking in, you only hear the low rumble of people enjoying themselves, talking and laughing. They were far from â&#x20AC;&#x153;grumpy.â&#x20AC;?

We loved the inside as well with the open ceiling, brick walls, twinkling white lights above, and a rustic wood floor below. It was standing room only at lunchtime, but our group of eight didnâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t have to wait long for a table. My complaint about waiting for the table? I had to stand next to the case that held the homemade pies and desserts and I think I gained five pounds just drooling over them. Maybe that is why they say â&#x20AC;&#x153;Eat here & diet home?â&#x20AC;? The apple pie alone was easily 5 inches high in the center. Shemak makes some incredible pies of all kinds and also makes a chocolate chip cheesecake that is gluten free for those with allergies.

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Unfortunately for many, Grumpyâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s is only open Monday through Friday until 2pm. That is part of the reason it took us so long to make it down there. We need to do it during a school vacation, or it canâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t happen with all of us going as a family.

Shhhhâ&#x20AC;Śdonâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t tell my kids, but now that I got a taste of Grumpyâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s, I may need to go back without them while theyâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;re slaving away in school.

Only one of the kids in our group opted for the kidsâ&#x20AC;&#x2122; menu. It includes hot dogs and chips, PB&J, and grilled cheese.

Drinks are extra, but I was told by Bauman that they get a free homemade cookie when they leave. That didnâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t happen to be the case for us, but weâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;ll know to ask next time.

Yes, all that I had heard about the endless selection of fabulous sandwiches and remarkable salads was true. They are known for the Garbage Salad with the poppy seed salad dressing, Shemak developed, that is now bottled and sold in some local stores. However, my friend and I shared the turkey Rueben and Sandyâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s shroom sandwich. Others at the table enjoyed the cheeseburger pizza, an angus burger, and a veggie burger. Delicious.

Though we had a nice dining experience, we did have to chuckle that as we were still there at closing time and just ordering our cookies for dessert, it did appear our server seemed slightly annoyed. We had to laugh and said â&#x20AC;&#x153;Maybe THIS is why itâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s called Grumpyâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s!â&#x20AC;?

Bottom Line: Despite the name, Grumpyâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s is more than happy to accommodate children for a meal. They offer a reasonably priced kidsâ&#x20AC;&#x2122; menu and itâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s hard to beat the delicious homemade cookie that are included for dessert.

The menu is almost overwhelming but you canâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t go wrong with whatever you choose. Be sure to note their days and hours of operation.

Karen Zickes is a mom of three active children and freelance writer who resides in Holland, OH. She can be reached in c/o editor@toledoparent.com.

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Mommy Has a Brand-New Suit One Mom Embraces Sensibly Chic Swimwear

by Malia Jacobson

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When I haul my kids to the local pool this summer, I’ll be sporting a new swimsuit. With sturdy straps and sensible seat coverage, it doesn’t resemble anything you’d see on a runway. No whimsical flight of poolside fancy, this baby is built to withstand ultra-chlorinated kiddie pools and over-zealous laundering. Jelly fingerprints and sippy cup mishaps are no match for the industrial-strength fabric.

It’s a mommy suit, and I’ll wear it with pride. When I slip on this wonder of engineering, I’ll join legions of other moms slapping on sunscreen and proffering towels in suits built for endurance, not style.

Changing Needs I’ve been a bit reluctant in donning this mommy suit of armor (or is that Lycra?). I grew up lakeside, my shoulder etched with permanent tan lines from my swimsuit du jour. Most involved ruffles or sequins, preferably both. As a teen, I shed girlish tank suits and became a devoted fan of the two-piece. Bikinis suited my pear shape and showcased my stillflat midsection—one of my better features, in those days.

Sadly, I’ve learned that the pretty swimsuits of my youth aren’t built to withstand the pace of mom life. Like many of motherhood’s lessons, this one dawned slowly. My first inklings came after I spent several seaside afternoons sprinting after my toddler in a woefully unsupportive top. Need I say more?

Soon after, I realized that my fashionable swimsuits were quite a bit of work. I was constantly adjusting my top and feeling up my own rear end for tactile evidence that my bottoms were still covering my bottom. Not pretty.

I knew change was in the air. That knowledge, however, was insufficient. It took a starring role in a peep show at toddler swim class to drive the point home.

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One Saturday morning, I made the mistake of wearing a bandeau-style bikini to parent-child swim at the YMCA. Sporting a stretched-out old top in a pool full of wiggly kids sounds like a recipe for disaster, and it was: I inadvertently flashed the entire pool full of kids and their stunned parents when my top slipped down during the “jumping fish” song.

By the time I felt the breeze tickling my upper torso, it was too late to hide the damage from the extremely embarrassed dad standing five feet in front of me. Carefully avoiding all eye contact, I scraped together a few shreds of dignity, hoisted my top back to its rightful place, and swore to get a new suit, one better matched to my new station in life.

Function over fashion These days, I’m approaching the world of swimwear with a new perspective. In the weary trenches of early parenthood, function trumps fashion. Any bikini matching the description itsy-bitsy or teeny-weenie doesn’t stand a chance in the chaotic world of the toddler pool.

Suits designed to look good in a lounge chair require constant monitoring and repositioning, and moms can’t be bothered.

We’re too busy monitoring and repositioning our kids.

Judging from the countless moms I’ve seen in near-identical suits, I know I’m not alone in my appreciation for sensible swimwear. Swimming with kids is no day at the beach; it’s grueling, hot, exhausting work. A mom at the pool is a mom in motion, and her swimsuit needs to stay in place even when she’s too busy to pay attention. That’s always.

Malia Jacobson is an award-winning parenting journalist and mom of three.

Her latest book is Sleep Tight, Every Night: Helping Toddlers and Preschoolers Sleep Well Without Tears, Tricks, or Tirades.

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August 2015 Prepare yourself for the inFESTation Saturday, 8.15 / Secor Metropark Bug spray, citronella candles, and fly swatters are rampant during the summer, but maybe it’s time to learn about our crawly companions. Toledo Metropark’s BugFest is the spot to get your family its insect fix. Dr. Insecta will swat away your insect fears as entomology magic unfolds right before your eyes. Toledo Zoo, Black Swamp Bird Observatory, ISU Extension, Wild Ones, and Monarch Watch will continue to educate and entertain guests about mighty mites. Explore buggy sculptures from local artists and UT students. To top it off, insect exhibits from the National Center for Nature Photography will be on display. You might have to throw out your fly swatter and bug spray after this event. 10am2pm Saturday, August 15. Secor Metropark, 10001 W. Central Ave., Berkey. metroparkstoledo.com Free —JS

1 SATURDAY Doll and Teddy Bear Show and Sale - Relive childhood as you enjoy browsing antique dolls, original dolls, teddy bears, and modern collectibles as well as accessories, supplies, artist reproductions, clothing, doll furniture, books and patterns. Through July 2. 10am-5pm Saturday, 11am-4pm Sunday. Sauder Village, 22611 OH-2, Archbold. 419446-2541. saudervillage.org Free

Celebrate Freedom - Escape to the era of the Underground Railroad. Learn how abolitionists and slaves risked their lives for freedom from Lathrop House tours and 5th United States Colored Troop Co. reenactors. Refreshments will be served.

1-3pm. Harroun Community Park, 5500 Main St., Sylvania. metroparkstoledo.com Free

Homesteading Summer Kitchen Cooking - The Johlin Black Swamp Cabin is open for pioneers of all ages.

Test your open-fire cooking skills, lend a hand with mending, model pioneer clothing or just explore. 11am-3pm. Pearson Metropark, 4600 Starr Ave., Oregon.

419-407-9700. metroparkstoledo.com Free

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View It! - Explore the stereoscopes of the 1800s, old school slide shows, and other different ways of viewing images and create a work of art. For children 10 and under with an adult. Noon-5pm.

Toledo Museum of Art Family Center, 24445 Monroe St. 419-255-8000. toledomuseum.org Free

Summer Picnic - Celebrate summer before long days and sunshine dip behind us. All ages are welcome for an indoor picnic. Advance registration is required for groups of 6 or more. Call the library to register. 2:30-3:30pm. Langrange Branch Library, 3422 Lagrange St. 419259-5280. toledolibrary.org Free

3 MONDAY Catch a Villain - There is a villain hiding in the library. Help the library by becoming a superhero and catching the villain before it is too late. Your efforts will 36

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be rewarded. For school-age children.

Through August 8. Point Place Branch Library, 2727 117th St. 419-259-5390. toledolibrary.org Free Comic Book Tournament Challenge - Fill out the library playoff bracket and show the library who you think would win in a Comic Book Battle Royal. Earn a prize just for filling out a bracket. One lucky entry will be drawn for the grand prize. Through August 8.

Reynolds Corners Library, 4833 Dorr St. 419-259-5320. toledolibrary.org Free

Nature’s Nursery - Learn how to rehabilitate and care for injured, ailing, and orphaned wildlife. You will even get to meet new animal friends. Will they have fur, feathers or scales? Registration required. 6:30-7:30pm. Sylvania Branch Library, 6749 Monroe St., Sylvania. 419882-2089. toledolibrary.org Free

4 TUESDAY Science Story Time: Little Mouse Don’t miss our weekly activity in the Little KIDSPACE Science Studio. A trained team member will read What’s that Noise, Little Mouse?, and then children can make an instrument to take home and display proudly. Through August 9. 11am-1pm.

Imagination Station, 1 Discovery Way. 419-244-2674. imaginationstationtoledo. com Free

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Old-Fashioned Ice Cream Social Create your own sundae and take part in the library’s surprise activities. Say hello to your friends and neighbors and good-bye to summer! For families.

Registration begins 7/20. Register online. 6:30-7:30pm. Waterville Branch, 800 Michigan Ave., Waterville. 419878-3055. toledolibrary.org Free Registration Fair - Register your child for great programs like Lucas County Head Start, WSOS, TPS Preschool, or Title 1 Preschool. Need birth certificate, 3 proofs of residence, photo ID, household family income verification, and medical insurance card to register. 9am-5pm.

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Puppets From the Basket - Jack and the Sky Place will perform a fun puppet show with puppeteer Joyce Davis. Her delightful and funny characters from the original show based on Jack and the Beanstalk will bring lots of laughs for the family. Registration required. Maumee Branch Library, 501 River Rd., Maumee.

419-259-5360. toledolibrary.org Free  FRIDAY

Star Struck - Enjoy the breathtaking view of the wide open night sky. The evening of the Perseid Meteor Shower will feature interesting constellations, a thin crescent moon, and one of the best meteor shows of the year. Bring a blanket and bug spray. Register online. $3. 10:30pm11:30pm. Farnsworth Metropark, 8505 S. River Rd., Waterville. 419-407-9701. metroparkstoledo.com

Family Movie Night - Enjoy a family movie night outdoors to watch Home.

Concessions will be for sale. May be held inside depending on weather. 9:30pm.

Calvary Church, 1360 Conant St., Maumee. toledocalvary.org Free

 Northwest Ohio Rib Off - The air will be filled with the tempting aroma of award-winning BBQ from Toledo and across the nation. Competitions include Best Local and Best National BBQ, peopleâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s choice awards, and Best Overall, selected by celebrity judges on Sunday at 2pm. Through August 16. Lucas Country Fairgrounds, 1406 Key St., Maumee. nworiboff.com Free  Wreck it Ralph - The Sylvania Chamber of Commerce will be hosting another summer outdoor movie. Enjoy a fun-filled evening at one of our favorite spots in Sylvania! Family event. 7pm, movie begins after dusk. Olander Park, 6930 W. Sylvania Ave., Sylvania. 419882-8313. olanderpark.com Free

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Kelly Miller Circus - Fun for kids of all ages at the Kelly Miller Circus, the annual fundraiser for the Sylvania Lions Club. 4:30pm and 7:30pm. Advance tickets:$12/adults, $6/12 and under; day of: $16/adults, $8/12 and under.

Available The Andersons Market in Sylvania, Andersons on Monroe Street, and Sautterâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s Market. Circus at Centennial & Brint, Sylvania. Â Maumee Summer Fair - Have fun at the Maumee Summer Fair! Fun for the whole family. There will be a kids zone with a bouncy house, face painting, pony rides and more. Kickoff the fair with a parade at 10 am on Saturday, August 8. Through August 8. Uptown Maumee. maumeesummerfair.com Free

8 SATURDAY Family Pottery - Adult and child work together to create a hand built pottery piece. Work with pinch, slab or extruder techniques, decorate with colored slips. For preschool and kindergarten aged children with an adult. Registration required. $25 for adult and child.11am-1pm. Sunshine Studios, 305 Conant St., Maumee. 419891-8877.Â

11 TUESDAY Park It - A family fun night in the park to celebrate Bug Week in the Toledo Metroparks. Live music, giveaways and kids activities featuring a movie under the stars. Maybe Bugâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s Life? 6-11pm. Sidecut Metropark, 1025 W. River Rd., Maumee.

419-407-9700. metroparkstoledo.com Free

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There will also be a garage (barn) sale on Saturday and Sunday. As always, donâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t miss out on donuts and fritters. Through August 16. Erie Orchards, 1235 E. Erie Rd., Erie. 734-848-4518. erieorchards.com  Geocache Bug Hunt - Big kids of all ages can enjoy this bug-themed geocaching autumn adventure. Head out on a GPS scavenger hunt to locate good bug habitats and search for evidence of bug activity. Registration required. Noon-2pm.

Secor Metropark, 10001 W. Central Ave., Holland. 419-277-6276. metroparkstoledo. com Free IDance Under the Stars - iDanceâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s inclusive student body will perform a variety of high energy and fun dance and musical numbers. Proceeds benefit iDance APAC. 2pm. $5/advance, $7/at the door.

Bowsher High School Theatre, 419-4605282. brownpapertickets.com  SUNDAY

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Family Gallery Day - The National Center for Nature Photography is hosting a day of scavenger hunts, photography tips, games and crafts. Start in the gallery spaces to look at the Maumee River Watershed and then follow the fun to the Window on Wildlife and onto the park trails. Noon4pm. Secor Metropark, 10001 W. Central Ave., Holland. 419-407-9700. metroparkstoledo.com Free  CONTINUED ON P. 38

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CONTINUED FROM P. 37 Wild Nights - A fun evening visit at the Zoo featuring your favorite animals and a free concert! The zoo is closed until 2PM on the days of wild nights. Also August 23. 2pm-9pm. Discounted zoo admission.

Toledo Zoo, 2 Hippo Way. 419-385-4040. toledozoo.org Summer Fun Festival - Carnival games, petting zoo, face painting, and ice cream are just a few of the fun activities at this festival. Takes place in the grassy area between the Temple and JCC. Walk ins welcome. Donations to Jewish Federation of Greater Toledo appreciated. 2-4pm.

Federation Campus, 6465 Sylvania Ave. RSVP at 419-724-0386. Free

22 SATURDAY Life in Early Ohio - Blacksmithing, coopering, and tinsmithing are just a few historic skills that are considered lost arts today. In 1813 they were common skills learned by tradesmen. See historic trades and skills and learn about a different side of life in early Ohio. Through Sunday, August 23. 9:30am-5pm. Fort Meigs, 29100 W. River Rd., Perrysburg. 419-8744121. fortmeigs.org

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Wild Fridays: Autumn Adventure: Katydids Singing - Register for one or all programs in this new series for adults and families with school-aged children.

This night hike will feature the strange and beautiful songs of these and other night signing insects. Registration required.

8-9:30pm. $3. Wildwood Preserve Metropark, 5100 W. Central Ave. 419407-9700. metroparkstoledo.com

Going “Back to School” with Positive Emotions and Behaviors = SUCCESS! Excitement, worry, and relief are only some feelings we experience when “Back to School” time comes around. Planning for supplies, clothes, and transportation are automatically a focus to get your child back in the routine for school. But did you ever think planning for feelings or behavior as another step a parent and child could take to ensure school success?

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BugFest - Visit Nature’s Neighborhood from for a day of fun, all dedicated to the little creatures that creep and crawl and float and flutter! At 3pm you’ll see a live spider feeding, and throughout the day you’ll find crafts and activities inspired by our buggy buddies. 10am-4pm. Zoo admission. Toledo Zoo, 2 Hippo Way. 419-385-4040. toledozoo.org

Thursdays

Mothers’ Center of Greater Toledo Park Playdates, Meet other moms and let the kids enjoy some time at the park. 10-11:30am.

Locations vary, visit website. motherscenter.net/summer.html Free

Saturdays

Storytime, An inclusive storytime with books, rhymes and music.

9:30-10:30am. Black Kite Coffee, 2499 Collingwood Blvd.

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Sundays

Family Time Tour, Come to the Toledo Art Museum for a family time tour. 3pm. Toledo Museum of Art, 2445 Monroe St. 419-255-8000. toledomuseum.org Free

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issues and/or family problems. We can link each student with other services and family resources that can help lead to a successful school year…and future.

Our Community Based Therapists (CBT) have worked closely with schools to provide “hands on” emotional and behavior management skills right at school. The CBT can go directly to the school, talk with the family and student about needs and ways to help (a.k.a Diagnostic Assessment), and continue services with the student right at school!

Students and families that have participated in these services (i.e. counseling), practiced and applied the learned skills and have improved in all areas at home, at school, and in the community.

Therefore, if you are ready to partner with a Harbor counselor give us a call! We can help in your planning for a successful school year.

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