Issue 12 | October 2016
Grace and Beauty
Beauty is Skin Deep
Your Body is a Temple How to Boost Breast Milk Nutrient
Leadership Lessons from the Life of Rahab the Harlot
LOVE, COURTSHIP & MARRIAGE When Your Spouse Cheats on You
T A H T DOZ U O Y E R INSPI about her s lk ta e y o s to Dr Aday Ade ans and vulnerable h work with orp continent of Africa children in the
HOME SWEET HOME
Tips for Quick and Easy Home Cleaning
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Editor’s letter Dear Readers,
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In the “Love, Courtship, and Marriage” segment, Grace Greatman shares Scriptural truths on how best to deal with marital infidelity, in the article titled, “When your Spouse Cheats on You”.
DOZ Magazine is up and running to the glory of God. This is the 12th issue and the second since our re-launch in September. God has done amazing things thus far. He has opened numerous doors and brought amazing women and men my way to help with the vision. Indeed, testimonies abound of His faithfulness and I am forever grateful. I will give you an insight into what you can expect from this issue. Under the column, “DOZ that Inspire You”, we have featured an amazing woman, Dr. Aday Adetosoye. She is an old school mate of mine, a true daughter of Zion and is doing astounding things for orphans and vulnerable children in the continent of Africa. Hers is a truly inspiring story and you should read it. In the “Love, Courtship, and Marriage” segment, Grace Greatman shares Scriptural truths on how best to deal with marital infidelity, in the article titled, “When your Spouse Cheats on You”. The “Grace and Beauty” column has a brilliant article with a focus on how to obtain a more beautiful and youthful skin from the inside out (and not the outside in as we try to do). It is captioned, “Beauty is Skin Deep”. How appropriate and how true. In “Your Body is a Temple”, Dr. Ellen has written a great article about boosting breast milk nutrient. It’s a must read if you’re nursing a baby or will be nursing one in the future. The “Home Sweet Home” column offers quick and easy tips for cleaning your home so you don’t feel overwhelmed and exhausted even before you begin. As usual, a few extras have been added to make things more exciting. There is a poem from Julie Clark for all those who may be discouraged and need to be reminded and reassured of God’s love. It really blessed me. From Angela Steele comes a very intriguing friendship article titled, “Approachable”. I feel like it was written primarily for me. Don’t ask why. Hahaha. And finally, from yours truly, there is “Leadership Lessons from the Life of Rahab the Harlot”. Yes, the harlot was also a leader. And a good one too. Find out why. DOZ Magazine, Issue 12, is loaded for your edification. Do enjoy it. And I look forward to seeing you next month.
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LEADERSHIP LESSONS FROM THE LIFE OF RAHAB THE HARLOT BE ENCOURAGED – A POEM
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BE ENCOURAGED
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LOVE, COURTSHIP AND MARRIAGE When Your Spouse Cheats on You
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DOZ THAT INSPIRE YOU Dr Aday Adetosoye talks about her work with orphans and vulnerable children in the continent of Africa.
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GRACE AND BEAUTY Beauty is Skin Deep
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HOME SWEET HOME Tips for Quick and Easy Home Cleaning
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YOUR BODY IS A TEMPLE How to Boost Breast Milk Nutrient
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Are you a DOZ? If you would like to become a Daughter of Zion (DOZ) then say the prayer below from your heart. Heavenly Father, thank you for loving me. Thank you for sending Jesus to die for me. Lord Jesus, I believe that you died for me on the cross. And that you rose on the third day for my justification. I repent of my sins, please forgive me. I ask you to come into my heart and I confess that you are Lord. Therefore, I am now a child of God I am now a Daughter of Zion. In Jesus’ name. Amen.
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LEADERSHIP LESSONS FROM THE LIFE OF RAHAB THE
HARLOT by Eturuvie Erebor
Rahab was a prostitute who lived in the city of Jericho. As a matter of fact, her house was on the city’s wall. We know she was a prostitute because the Bible says that she was. What we do not know however, because the Bible does not mention it, is that Rahab was a leader and possibly a better leader than the reigning king of Jericho. This article clearly highlights her leadership qualities and the lessons we can learn from the life of this great woman.
The Bible first mentions Rahab in the second chapter of the book of Joshua. At this time, Joshua had become the leader of the nation of Israel, following the death of Moses. He sent two spies to the city of Jericho to search out the entire land as the children of Israel got set to invade the land and conquer it. These men upon their arrival in Jericho entered into the house of Rahab and lodged there. While they were with her, information reached the king of Jericho and he sent a message to Rahab asking her to bring forth the men as they were spies who had come to search out the land. Rahab realised that this action would be detrimental to her and so she hid both men and sent back to the king saying that the men had long departed and advised that he send people after them. Men were sent to pursue after the spies but Rahab went to her roof top where she hid these men and said unto them, “I know that the Lord hath given you the land, and that your terror is fallen upon us, and that all the inhabitants of the land faint because of you. For we have heard how the Lord dried up the water of the Red sea for you, when
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ye came out of Egypt; and what ye did unto the two kings of the Amorites, that were on the other side Jordan, Sihon and Og, whom ye utterly destroyed. And as soon as we had heard these things, our hearts did melt, neither did there remain any more courage in any man, because of you: for the Lord your God, he is God in heaven above, and in earth beneath. Now therefore, I pray you, swear unto me by the Lord, since I have shewed you kindness, that ye will also shew kindness unto my father’s house, and give me a true token: And that ye will save alive my father, and my mother, and my brethren, and my sisters, and all that they have, and deliver our lives from death.” Both men entered into an agreement with Rahab that it would be as she had requested on two conditions; one, she was to tie a scarlet thread on her window and ensure that when the children of Israel invaded the city of Jericho all her family were inside the house and two, she was not to utter any of their business. Rahab kept to her part of the deal and when Israel eventually invaded the city of Jericho, the Bible says concerning Rahab; “And Joshua saved
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Rahab the harlot alive, and her father’s household, and all that she had; and she dwelleth in Israel even unto this day; because she hid the messengers, which Joshua sent to spy out Jericho.”
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as soon as they left. She did not procrastinate or put it off. She did it immediately. Leaders are disciplined and do not put off until tomorrow what can be done today. Be clear about what you want. Someone has said that fuzzy ideas lead to fuzzy actions. Clarity of goals and expectations is key to the achievement of same. Rahab knew exactly what she wanted and expressed this without much ado. Leaders who succeed are those who know precisely what they want and go after it. Take the initiative. Rahab took the initiative; the initiative to lodge the spies in her home, the initiative to hide them, the initiative to give
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You do not need to fight in every battle. If the king of Jericho had half the wisdom Rahab possessed, he would have preserved his life and those of his people. He failed to protect his own and let them perish because his strategy was wrong. Rahab however, was able to save her own life and those of her family members because her strategy was right. She knew she could not fight the children of Israel. She knew she could not keep them out of Jericho or stop them from taking over the city. Based on all she had heard about this unique set of people she knew it was an exercise in futility trying to come against them. The only way out was to collaborate with them. Wise leaders pick their battles carefully. They understand that not every battle must be fought as some battles are won without a fight.
Don’t procrastinate. Rahab did not procrastinate. As the spies departed, they said to her, “thou shalt bind this line of scarlet thread in the window which thou didst let us down by.” With this scarlet in her window, the men would be able to identify her house and ensure it was not destroyed when they attacked Jericho. Rahab wasted no time carrying out this life-saving instruction. The Bible says, “And she sent them away, and they departed and she bound the scarlet line in the window.” She did it DOZ Magazine | October 2016
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the king a contrary report, the initiative to cut a deal that would save her and her family. Leaders take the initiative, they are always one step ahead, and that is what makes them leaders.
Rahab understood this and every great leader knows this. You will never get anything of value without giving up something of value to get it. In other words, there is no such reality as a free lunch
Learn to negotiate. Rahab negotiated with the spies. She let them know what she wanted in return for showing them kindness. They in turn let her know what they expected of her in order to help her. Both parties reached an agreement and Rahab got what she wanted. Leaders are negotiators.
Look for and see opportunities in every situation. When the spies came to Rahab’s home, she immediately saw an opportunity to form ties with them which would ultimately save her life and the lives of her family members from a destruction that was imminent. Leaders see opportunities in every situation. Nothing of value is ever free. Rahab understood this and every great leader knows this. You will never get anything of value without giving up something of value to get it. In other words, there is no such reality as a free lunch. Followers look for freebies but leaders know there is a price for everything valuable. Rahab wanted to save her life and that of her entire family but she had to pay a price for what she wanted. She hid men who had come to spy her land with the intention of invading it. She misled her king and risked being
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killed if discovered. She paid a price because she knew it was the only way to escape the destruction that was to come. Leaders pay a price for what they want.
Discernment is key to making right decisions. Rahab made a decision to join forces with Israel against her people. This was the right decision as it would afford her and her family a chance to live. This decision was not just based on what her physical ears heard or physical eyes saw. It went beyond that. This decision was based on discernment. She discerned that joining Israel and hiding the spies was the right thing to do. She made her decision based on that and she was not wrong. Leaders know the importance of discernment. They understand that sometimes facts and figures are not enough to make the right decision; discernment is needed.
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Relationships are built on trust; therefore, integrity is key. Rahab, like many other leaders before and after her, knew the importance of trust. The spies promised to save her and her family on the condition that she did not utter their business. She honoured her side of the agreement. She did not utter their business. She had integrity. Leaders who break trust have no integrity and sooner than later lose their influence. And no one is a leader without influence.
Sometimes, you have to work alone. Rahab acted alone. Those close to her were not aware of what she was doing. This woman single-handedly saved her entire family. She did not require anyone to stand with her; she stood alone. She did not require anyone to advise her; she counselled herself. She did not require anyone to motivate her; she was self-motivated. She did not require anyone to assure her she was doing the right thing; she knew she was. She was able to manage herself and her affairs. This is a major requirement for great leadership as no one can lead others until they are able to lead themselves. Leaders lead themselves first.
Finally, Rahab was a woman but she did not allow this stop her from taking actions to preserve her life and the lives of her family members. Her story is a powerful message to all women; one that says, “You can do it too.”
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A pproachable by Angela Steele
My friend and I sat in Panera, talking about relationships and God’s faithfulness. I thrive on deep heart to heart talks about God and life. As we both indulged in our warm and inviting sugarcoffee drinks, thick and rich conversation about the journey of life’s thrills and challenges permeated the air.
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en, my friend spoke to me and helped me consider a character trait of mine. Holding my warm drink close, I embraced its comfort, knowing deep inside that I could receive her thoughtful words. As she spoke, my eyes widened at truth being spoken. It was brought to my attention how unapproachable I can be at times.
She was referring to when I can be socially reserved and withdrawn. Yes. I am difficult to approach and even harder to get to know. As some of us do, I have several layers of protection to peel away before anyone gets to the core of my heart. It’s like tangles of tough twine yearning to be ever so gently touched and taken away to DOZ Magazine | October 2016
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Once I am convinced that my heart will be sincerely listened to and perhaps understood, my words �low effortlessly. On the other hand, there are times when friendly dialogue is nearly impossible. It’s not happening at all. Period.
reveal my heart’s desires and motives. As with some introverts, I can be emotionally removed until pursued and drawn into conversation. Once I am convinced that my heart will be sincerely listened to and perhaps understood, my words flow effortlessly. On the other hand, there are times when friendly dialogue is nearly impossible. It’s not happening at all. Period. The tone of my friend was one of caring patience. Her words hurt. But not a bad hurt, a good hurt. I slowly reclined in my padded Panera chair, sipped my warm drink, sighed heavily, and stared thoughtfully hard into the painting on the nearest wall. My opportunity to grow was lovingly brought into the light of truth. What was I to do with this realization? Two options presented themselves. Harbor offense which beckons bitterness, or I humbly soften to the gentle promptings of the Holy Spirit, which propels me toward Jesus. I chose the latter. Although the confrontation was uncomfortable, a peace settled in me, knowing that I have chosen people in my life DOZ Magazine | October 2016
that are unafraid to speak helpful truth. How fortunate we all are to have treasured people unite with us, as we carry our maps of life, constantly adjusting our adventurous routes, journeying to our destinations. Later that evening, in the comfort of my own home, I told my husband about my coffee shop conversation. I asked him for his insight into my personality, as we were sitting in our living room and with my gaze steadily upon him. In a bold and quiet way, I asked, “So. Um. Do you think I’m unapproachable at times?” His facial expression implied, “Wow! Yes, ain’t that the truth!” I pressed him further concerning his thoughts, but he did not utter a word, as he smiled. I do not know what his smile meant. Perhaps it was a smile of patience and grace, regardless of my reservations, as I am ever learning new ways of coping with life and people. His character offers understanding and acceptance in the light of my reserved temperament. Which, quite frankly, I know has many strengths!
It takes confident fortitude to receive trusted exhortations. I received my husband’s gracious smiles, and I received my friend’s words, because they both came not from a hurtful heart but from a helpful heart. I challenge myself daily to hold my heart open unpretentiously in order to receive from others and to remain teachable and softhearted. In years past, I thought that I knew most things, and I thought I knew what was important. I was quite pompous. Life did not work out the way I had planned, despite my greatest efforts. Through time, a new understanding of my limitations created more compassion and patience for those in my sphere of influence. It’s all about helping each other. There is always something new to learn and live. Lightheartedly, I say that we are relational beings, and we all need healthy, caring people speaking into our lives. This is the way we are created. I choose to remain teachable and soft-hearted. I choose to remain approachable through all of my days.
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BE ENCOURAGED Julie Clark I will strengthen you. I will heal you. Give me your thoughts, Give me your fears. I will set you free at last from all that holds you back. Trust in me with all your heart. And you will be able to see. How to stand upon my word. How to stand upon my truth. Stand in the mighty power of God. Stand in love and grace. For you indeed are my precious child. And you have no need to fear. Set my word before you each day. Follow always in my way. Do what I say, and say each word. And you will have the Victory.
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Love, Courtship and Marriage
C HEATS ON YOU WHEN YOUR SPOUSE by Grace Greatman
Unfaithfulness in marriage is not new; it’s been happening since Bible times. Sadly, the rate of divorce is increasing in the church and often at the root of it, is infidelity. You were wed in church, you made a vow to be faithful to your spouse, but somewhere down the line, your spouse broke that vow. It doesn’t matter if it was a one-time thing, a fling, or a long-term affair, infidelity in marriage is destructive. It causes deep pain, anger, fear and doubts. It may eventually lead to sickness, a broken home and even death.
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owever, there is no crisis that cannot be turned around for good, if well managed. Many acts of unfaithfulness have led to unimaginable disasters, while some others have brought the couple closer. It all depends on your responses and reactions. I want to point out that it is the
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will of God that every marital crisis be resolved and the couple remain together until death do them part. Separation and divorce is not God’s will, even in the case of adultery. If you are ready to do God’s will, you may continue reading with the aim of acting on the following Scriptural counsel.
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TURN TO GOD – ROMANS 8:28
There is no situation, no matter how bad that God cannot turn into good. All things work together for good. The first person to turn to is your maker; the one who knows how you feel and how deep your pain is. Don’t worsen the situation by discussing the matter with people. Give it first to your burden bearer, the Holy Spirit. Cry to Him, let Him comfort and counsel you. By the time you leave His presence, you will have peace and you can look at the issue from a positive perspective.
LISTEN – JAMES 1:19
The next person to talk to is your spouse. Ask him or her the question burning in your mind. WHY? Give him or her the time to explain. Listen and be calm. Most cheating spouses will want to be on the defensive by saying something like, ‘I did it because you nag, you don’t give me attention, you are busy with the kids, you don’t love me anymore.’ They want to shift the blame on you, which will worsen your hurt. So, determine to stay calm and allow them talk. You may also need to ask how long the affair has been going on. And if he or she has been using protection etc.
TALK – EPHESIANS 4:29
After listening, talk. Don’t bottle up your feelings. Tell him or her how you feel, using first person pronouns. For example, compare the following sentences and weigh the responses or reactions it will evoke.
Using first person pronouns shows the honesty and depth of your pain without sounding accusatory. You cheated on me. You humiliated me.
You took me for a fool. You don’t love me.
I feel cheated.
I feel humiliated.
I feel like a fool.
I feel like you don’t love me.
CONTROL WHAT YOU SAY AND DO – JAMES 3:2
Avoid abusing, cursing or threatening the guilty spouse. Words are powerful and have led to deadly consequences. Words uttered in anger or deep pain can cause irreparable damage to a relationship. Also, watch how you act and react. Negative responses can complicate the problem; for example, breaking things, physically fighting with the guilty one, causing a public scene, throwing his or her things out etc. This out-ofcontrol behavior will make your spouse feel less guilty. He or she may claim that such behavior is what drove him or her into another person’s arms. This may lead to a complete breakdown of the marriage.
SEEK COUNSEL – PROVERBS 15:22
In the multitude of counselors, there is safety. The wound of adultery is deep. You cannot deal with it alone. You need to talk to people who can help you heal as well as support you to restore
The �irst person to turn to is your maker; the one who knows how you feel and how deep your pain is. Don’t worsen the situation by discussing the matter with people. Give it �irst to your burden bearer, the Holy Spirit.
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your marriage. Be careful not to go to the wrong people who will deepen the crisis through gossip, slander and ungodly counsel. Go for good Christian counselors who will guide you based on sound biblical principles. Seeking another’s opinion, who is not emotionally involved in the situation, will make you look at the issue from different angles and help you to make wise decisions.
FORGIVE – MATTHEW 6:14-15
Good Christians don’t have a choice but to forgive any evil done against them. So, start praying to God for the grace to forgive your spouse. You cannot afford not to. The sin of unforgiveness is greater than the sin of adultery that your spouse committed against you. If you want God on your side, forgive your unfaithful spouse genuinely and you will see God reward your faithfulness with peace and joy unspeakable.
There cannot be reconciliation and restoration without your spouse’s cooperation. He or she must be: • Willing to genuinely repent • Willing to completely end the adulterous relationship • Willing devote himself or herself to rebuilding the marriage
This is God’s will concerning every marriage – that every offence be forgiven, the couple allowing the Holy Spirit to breathe fresh life into the relationship.
REBUILDING TRUST
Reconciliation starts when both of you carefully and honestly look at the reasons one of you cheated. This should not be a blame trading session, but an effort towards finding solutions to the crisis. Both of you must be ready to deal with the issue by changing whatever
you are doing wrong and working towards satisfying your spouse and making him or her happy. It is not easy to rebuild trust, but it is not impossible. The guilty spouse must work extra hard to regain the trust of the other spouse. He or she must be sincere in declaring that, ‘My life is an open book. You may check my cell phone, computer, and bank statements. From this moment on I have nothing to hide. I’m committed to rebuilding our marriage.’ This kind of commitment will, in time, restore trust. Reconciliation after sexual infidelity is hard and slow, but not impossible. Give yourselves time and allow God heal both of you. Soon, you will be able to look into each other’s eyes and thank God that you didn’t give up on your marriage.
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Dr. Aday Adetosoye talks about her work with orphans and vulnerable children in the continent of Africa.
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ello Aday Adetosoye, it’s lovely to have you attend this interview. Please tell me a bit about yourself. Where did you grow up and what was it like?
I grew up in Benin City, in Edo State, Nigeria and I think I had a good childhood. I pretty much had everything that I needed. I had siblings to play with, I had a lot of family members who lived around and my parents did their best to provide whatever it was that we needed. So in terms of just growing up, I feel that I had a pretty good solid upbringing within a good nurturing environment.
I know that you’re a Christian, but when and how did you become born again? I grew up going to church, both my parents were Anglicans so we went to church every Sunday and participated in those things that we were supposed to participate in as children. We went to Sunday school. So I grew up knowing the concept of who God is and why we should try to be good and all of that. Like I said, everything we needed we pretty much had and we were a relatively happy family but there was always a void, always something missing. And when I was about 15, my cousin came to live with us because we had moved to BDPA Estate and were close to Uniben campus and he was a student on campus. So he moved into our BQ. My cousin DOZ Magazine | October 2016
used to be a, quote and unquote, bad boy. Very good looking guy, all the girls were always around him, he was a player of high proportions, he was always out with different girls. And he became born again and there was a radical change in his life. All of a
sudden, it was all about God, and it was all about salvation and the kingdom of God. And I think in my 15-year-old mind, watching that transition had a major impact on me because he became cleaner and to me when I think about him it’s like when the Bible says that
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we are the salt of the earth and the light of the world. He exuded the mindset that drew people to him. All of a sudden I wanted to be like him, he was always happy, he was always positive, no matter what was happening he was always like, God will see me through, God is in charge of my life, God is working everything together for my good. He was always positive no matter what the situation was. And then he looked good, he smelled good, he dressed very well, and I was like, if I can be like him and be born again, I want to do it because he seemed to have his whole life set and so it didn’t take much for him to convince me that the thing that I felt was missing in my life was God. And I followed him to one of the Bible study meetings on campus and then came back and he led me to the Lord. That was March 10th 1991.
intent of going to Law school. I ended up in my third year adding a major in Afro-American studies because I was just consumed with the injustices and racism in the American society. So I ended up with a double major in Sociology and Afro American Studies and I applied to Law school and I was supposed to start Law school in the fall and then that summer, I was reading a Time Magazine article that was detailing the number of children who had been orphaned by HIV/ Aids in the African continent and that number at that time of the article was at one million. So I
I just typed up his letters, and whatever administrative tasks he had for me, I did those and I didn’t really know anything about Public Health
Awesome. So where did you go to college? What degrees do you have? What, if any, further degrees or certifications are you pursuing?
So I started in Uniben. I started studying Law and there was the ASUU strike that pretty much started the exodus of many students at that time to different parts of the world. And I was one of them who left and I came to the US, I went to California. And I continued on my Law track but, the difference in the system is you have to have a first degree before you can go to Law school here whereas in Nigeria, you have a Law first degree and still go to Law school. So I went into Pre-Law first degree and I studied Sociology with the full DOZ Magazine | October 2016
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was just blown away that HIV/ Aids had ravaged the continent so much that one million children had no parents. And so I became distraught and I clearly remember that day I was very disturbed, I didn’t sleep well and I was thinking to myself that I needed to become part of the positive process of change for that situation. What could I do with my life, with my career to change things for the better? So I started talking to different professors on campus and that summer I was working for a professor in the school of public health. Now I worked as an administrative assistant to him I didn’t know anything about what he did. I just typed up his letters, and whatever administrative tasks he had for me, I did those and I didn’t really know anything about Public Health. So I was talking to DOZ Magazine | October 2016
him about the article and he said you should study Public Health and I said, Public Health? What is Public Health? Is it like some biological something? And he said, no, no, no. So he describes it and lo and behold, it was something I wanted to do and I felt could help me address the orphan situation and so I deferred my Law school admission and I went into Public Health that fall and I ended up doing a double master’s degree in Public Health with a concentration on HIV/Aids and Disaster Preparedness and I also did a master’s in African Studies with a concentration on Maternal and Child Health. And so when I finished with those degrees I started to figure out how I was going to use them to pursue my dream and I started working in California for a nonprofit and they sent me to a
Medicine works at patient level and Public Health works at population level. How do we prevent rather than treat? And how do we strengthen health systems to better take care of their populations
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couple of countries out in East Africa, Ethiopia, Eritrea and then I got a job with CDC and I went to Nigeria and then I decided to do a PhD in Health Care Policy and Management. So I finished that in 2009 and I have since decided that I am no longer going to school. So that’s my convoluted education story.
So what honours /awards have you received?
Hmm… Well, quite a few. Throughout my undergrad, I was basically on the Dean’s Honour List which basically meant that you kept a certain GPA and if you were at a certain GPA you had honourable mention in the Dean’s List in terms of honourable achievements. I also graduated summa cum laude in my undergrad and both master’s degree programmes. And I have received several awards for exemplary achievements in various aspects of my work with Public Health development on an international scale and then work as a team member on various projects in international development and I have been nominated and received awards for best supervisor from the team’s perspective. I received awards for raising the most money when I worked in business development. Throughout the points of my career, to the glory of God, I have been recognised for my efforts. I feel pretty valued in my line of work.
Earlier on you mentioned reading about children that had been orphaned as a result of HIV/Aids in Africa and you felt that you wanted to do something about this.
Looking back now, can you say that you’ve been able to achieve that dream? Yes, I do feel that I have in more ways than one. One of the things that I love about Public Health is that when you work in Public Health you’re working at population level. Medicine works at patient level and Public Health works at population level. How do we prevent rather than treat? And how do we strengthen health systems to better take care of their populations? And how do we write policies and enforce policies that promote better health outcomes? So it’s all population level based and the first five years of my Public Health career were dedicated to working with what we call OVCs, Orphans and Vulnerable Children. And working with different national governments and the host countries where the US government was functioning to get proper policies written to safeguard the rights of children. And to ensure that children got adequate legal protection especially when it came to vulnerability from HIV/Aids. So in several countries we were able to get those rights put in place. We were able to get champions for the children in those countries; Namibia, Mozambique, Madagascar, South Africa, to make sure that when a child lost a parent or both parents to HIV and a family member was taking care of them, that all of a sudden it didn’t mean that they could now just become street urchins, or raped or all that stuff, that there was a welfare section
really amazing and a miracle, miracle baby. And so it took me �ive years to �ind the child because I needed to �ind a child who would be in a home situation where I could trust that whatever I sent, he would actually get and it would be used for his upkeep and everything else and so it took me �ive years
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in the government that was particularly watching out for that. So we helped to set up those types of parastatals in the different governments and then also to ensure that with proper funding the kids were getting what was actually built for them. And we continue to work, even in Nigeria which was in my portfolio. Nigeria was a little more difficult just because of how big the country is and even if you get a national policy passed which we got an OVC Strategy passed through the ministry of Women Affairs. But even when you get it passed, it is difficult because you still have to go through the state government and then even down to the local government to get anything actually enforced. So Nigeria remains a work in progress and a couple of other countries that were in my portfolio still remain a work in progress but I am very proud of the ones that actually adopted the strategies that we advised them to. So I feel like what I set out to do I actually started and saw a lot of them to completion, fruition if you will. And then on the individual side, I have always had a burden for children. My very first pregnancy I lost at twenty weeks and I was devastated obviously and then I became pregnant with now my first child, and in the middle of it, around the 19th week, I was told that he had so many markers for down syndrome and that I needed to terminate the pregnancy because according to them, it would be very difficult for me to start my life with a child with down syndrome and I was still young and I could try for DOZ Magazine | September 2016
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a healthier child and blah blah blah. I refused to terminate and I made a vow, I made a pledge to God that if I had a healthy child that I would adopt one who didn’t have any parents and sponsor them through university and I was on the hunt to find one. So once I did have my son and to the glory of God he was born completely healthy, perfectly healthy, no problems, he is actually some type of genius, it’s just amazing. Really, really amazing and a miracle, miracle baby. And so it took me five years to find the child because I needed to find a child who would be in a home situation where I could trust that whatever I sent, he would actually get and it would be used for his upkeep and everything else and so it took me five years but I finally found the child three years ago and so we’ve been spoiling him since. And when I found him, I was very happy because I needed the child to be my son’s age because that was part of my pledge. So by the time I found him, I found out that he came with a twin, a twin sister and I remember going, err okay God, I err didn’t ask for two, I said one. And I said I can’t turn the twin away so what do I do? I actually put a call out on my Facebook wall to my friends and family and I said if anybody wants to join me on this journey, because I don’t want to walk away from the boy just because he had a twin sister and so actually Onofue called me, I remember I was in Namibia and she called me and she said, Aday, I am begging you, please don’t answer anybody, because I had gotten several responses, and she said
she would like to be the second person. So Onofue and I have been sponsoring those kids for the last three years by the grace of God. So I feel very fulfilled when it comes to my work with vulnerable children.
Wow! So what have some of the defining moments of your life been? Hmmm. I think the very first one is the day I gave my life to Christ, I think that was a defining moment because it altered the way I think, it altered the way I live, it altered me fully completely wholly totally so I think that was a major defining moment. I think that every time I’ve achieved major goals that I’ve set for education, for career, I mean God has been amazing to me in terms of favour. I’ve had been in awe every time this happens, I mean, you set these lofty goals and then they happen. You reach there and you think I actually did it. Everything I’ve done has been like double, double bachelors, double masters, as difficult as it seems at the beginning and as difficult as it seems at the middle, by the grace of God I’ve been able to reach the end of each one so I will say, achieving my educational exploits have been defining moments. It’s given me yet another story to tell to another person coming behind me that as crazy and as difficult as my life was being in the US by myself at 16, I’ve been able to navigate and still achieve all of these things. It’s testament to what God can do. And I think the other defining moment is the day I got married because then I had to learn how to give up my independence and all of a sudden start sharing every single major
I actually put a call out on my Facebook wall to my friends and family and I said if anybody wants to join me on this journey, because I don’t want to walk away from the boy just because he had a twin sister and so actually Onofue called me
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I am grateful. The past six years now, no, �ive and a half years, I have worked in a situation where I work three days from home and two days in the of�ice and the two days that I go into the of�ice, I don’t have to be there �irst thing in the morning
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decision with some random person I met in church. Becoming pregnant and feeling life growing within was another defining moment of how amazing God is that I could bring another human being to earth. And motherhood was another one to name a few.
Thank you. That was very enlightening. So back to your career, why did you choose this particular career? I think I already know the answer to that one though, but just humour me.
It was really that article. Prior to that I wanted to be a lawyer like my dad and I was groomed my whole life to be a lawyer. My dad wanted one lawyer amongst us and it was going to be me because I am pretty much like
him in his way of thinking and I remember the day I told him that I was going to go into a career in Public Health and I had deferred my Law school admission and he was like, what is Public Health? And I said, I’m still learning, when I finish learning, I’ll tell you and he laughed. But it was true, before that time I had never really paid attention to the school of Public Health to know what that discipline was about so I didn’t really have a ready response for him. But he laughed. My dad has always been a very liberal parent relative to what I saw amongst my friends growing up. He’s always said, study what you want to, be who you want to be. And he said to us many times that when you do what you want to do, that is when your passion, your creativity, your happiness, is unleashed because you’re
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doing what you want to do and not just making money. But then he would also say on top of that though, try to be the best at it and he would give you an example, like if you decide that you’re going to be a janitor, okay that’s fine, but don’t stop at being a janitor, start a company that employs the janitors for the entire city. Push yourself to be the best and to be the expert at whatever you’ve chosen to do. So that was the advice that my dad gave us while we were growing up, as far back as I can remember. So even though he was disappointed that none of his children ended up studying Law, I think he would clearly say right now that he is very proud of every one of his children because we all followed his advice and did what we wanted to do and what we felt was core and because of that we were able to apply ourselves even more to what we do.
Maybe he will have a lawyer amongst his grandchildren. One or more lawyers.
Maybe, maybe. I think I have produced one that is six years old. (She laughs)
What are some of the challenges of your job?
I work in International Development. I work for the US Agency for International Development and you find a lot of bureaucrats who have never lived one day outside of the US. They’ve travelled a bit but they haven’t lived in any other country. You find that all of a sudden they are the ones making decisions that impact many people outside of this country. And it’s a challenge to get them to see that. And I think
you’ll find that in all of our policy meetings, we are drafting policies and I always say, we’re sitting here in these air conditioned rooms in Washington DC, drafting and drafting and revising and revising and editing policies that are going to impact someone all the way out in South Sudan and all the way out in Borno State in Nigeria. We sit in these air conditioned rooms, sipping on our coffees and making these policies and so one of the challenges that I have is to get them to see that yes, you may have all the degrees from Harvard on International Policy and Relations and everything else it doesn’t really mean anything practically until you’re able to take what you’ve learnt practically from living in one of these countries to marry what actually makes sense for the policies that will work in those societies. So you will always run into these bureaucrats who’ve worked their way up the ladder and they feel that they are now experts on some of these things and then they wonder why we have so many failed foreign policies in health when it’s really because they don’t know what it is to live in a country where 90% of the people are basically under a poverty line no matter what they’re doing to hustle. You look at the poverty line for that country and you see that 90% of them are living under it, it’s very different from a very wealthy society like the US where maybe 10% are living under the poverty line. So that’s a challenge for me.
So how do you keep a healthy work / life balance?
I am grateful. The past six years now, no, five and a half years, I have worked in a situation where I work three days from
home and two days in the office and the two days that I go into the office, I don’t have to be there first thing in the morning. So I have a very, very, very flexible working schedule. And I have an amazing supervisor who doesn’t really care about strict time lines but cares more about how productive you are. So I’ve been very blessed in that sense. God has favoured me and given me that strength and support because I have young children. My schedule allows me to balance things very, very easily.
What are your greatest stresses and what causes you the most anxiety in your life? And how do you handle it?
I’m not one who stresses very easily just because I have such a great relationship with God and God has seen me through some really crazy situations in my life and so I’ve learned to fully just trust God. There’s no point in me stressing, there’s no point in me being anxious about every little thing because at the end of the day, most of them are not within my control and at some point I have to let them go. So after multiple situations where God has just rescued me ridiculously I’ve learnt to let go but I think that if there’s anything that weighs on my heart it’s sort of the racism in the US today and how much it’s directed at black males and being that I am a mother of two boys, two black boys, it’s a concern for me. We thought we were in a post racist era until Obama became president and then it’s become very glaring that we have a lot of closet racists and so you start to wonder, as your child is the only black kid in his class, the only black kid on his soccer team, the only black kid in his swim team,
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you start to wonder what the impact of this minority status has on their psyche and what other children might say to them to make them feel bad. So that’s a source of anxiety for me and I am in a state of constant prayer to God that He shield them from racism and oppression and also that He helps me and their dad to instil in them enough self-worth and values, that are based on the presence of God in their lives, to withstand whatever it is that they might run into because you can’t put them in the right situation all the time. Sometimes, they will be in a situation where some of that nastiness will stand up in their faces and my prayer is that God would give them the wisdom to navigate successfully out of those thing. So that I think is something that weighs on my heart.
What is the most rewarding project you have worked on, and why it was rewarding?
I think the most rewarding project I’ve worked on has been the work that I did with vulnerable children. When you go to a site and you see young girls, 11 years old, talking about how they have been raped by an uncle that they went to stay with after their parents died, and you see the
despair and hopelessness in their faces, because there was nothing to protect them, there was nowhere for them to go, and then you come back a year later, after lobbying, advocating, fighting for resources to put systems in place to ensure that if you do not eliminate that problem but at least you reduce it significantly and you come back a year later or two years later and find that 11 year old that you met who was kind of looking down, couldn’t look you in the eye, crying, having to re-live the horrific things that have been done to her by her own blood and that same girl is now a spokesperson for the rights of OVCs in her community and is recognized for all the work that she’s done and she’s going to international meetings to talk about why more resources are needed and you know that that happened as a direct result of the work that you and others do together to fight for those children. It’s very, very rewarding and very fulfilling. In addition to the work with children there’s also the strategic planning work that I’ve done in the field of HIV/Aids since 2003. When you see advice that you offered, recommendations that you offered, followed and implemented, and then you see the results, it’s very, very fulfilling.
Wow! It all sounds really exciting and I am certain that you must love your job. I do. Absolutely. One hundred percent. I had to leave HIV. I left HIV/Aids this year because I had a lot of travel. One of the things is, as people recognize the work that you do and the passion that you have for your work, all of a sudden everybody wants you on their team. They want you to come and do their strategic planning sessions, they want you to come and advise them on their five-year strategy, they want you on all these planning things that they are doing and so the demand for my time was not what I could meet anymore given that I have small children myself. My travel schedule was basically; I was gone for two weeks every six weeks. It became too much and so I had to bid the world of HIV/Aids goodbye and I went into policy, global policies. This is much more office based and meetings based and headquarters based. You actually get to influence the policy that is implemented in the field, so even though I miss the touch of going to the sites, seeing people and touching them, encouraging them, I miss that, but I am also secure that what we’re doing
I loved the idea that I could just change my look by wearing a different wig so I was really into it and then all of a sudden I stopped and I started giving my wigs away and the question is, why? Why did I do that? Back then when I wore all of those wigs
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now affects better health care outcomes ultimately, so I’m still okay.
And you don’t think that spending less time in the field will affect your ability to formulate effective policies? No I don’t think so. I think I’ve had so much experience already that I am a thousand times more connected with the field than a lot of, like I said earlier, bureaucrats. And so it’s good to be in a room now and say, actually no that’s not going to work, where before we were just picking the policies they had written and trying to get our missions in the field to comply with them. Now I actually get to be part of the team that writes them and I can directly offer my two cents around why certain things are not going to work or why we need to do things a different way or consider different approaches. Yeah.
Okay. So are there any limitations on your personal and/or spiritual life because of the nature of your work? No. Not at all
What advice would you give to young Christian women with regards to planning for their future? Well, a couple of things. One I would say without a shadow of a doubt, put God first in everything that you do because the Bible says seek ye first the kingdom of God and all other things will be added to you. It’s amazing how real the Bible is because indeed DOZ Magazine | October 2016
when you seek God first and seek the things of God first, other things become a little bit easier and I feel it’s because God then takes an interest in you when you take an interest in Him and you guard your heart for Him jealously. He will then guard you and protect you and guide you and lead you and you can’t go wrong really, you can’t go wrong. There are times that one would stumble, there are times that one would make the wrong decision but ultimately once you put God first in your life, He acts like a life insurance, even if you get into an accident you are covered. Even if anything happens to you, the end result ultimately will work for your good and so I think that’s the number one life lesson. And as a young Christian woman, if you’re single and you’re considering life with someone, I think you should pray to God that He would guide you and lead you to the man that also fears God because I think that it’s not enough for a man to say that He is a Christian. It’s not enough for a man to go to church every Sunday. It’s not enough for a man to be a worker in the church but it’s most important that he fears God and that he has given his life to God. I think that a lot of young Christian women today are deceived by the appearance of a Christian man and not necessarily the reality of his personal relationship with God and so we find a lot of problems in marriages today and the devil is really attacking marriages today, trying his best to destroy what God has instituted as a way to live peacefully. He is really attacking and so I will say for young Christian women today, put God first, find a man who does the same and everything
else will work out just fine. And then I will say, on the practical side, don’t ever give up when you’re told no, when you’re told, you can’t do it. The Bible says that with God all things are possible, so once you have God on your side there’s nothing that you really cannot do in terms of pursuing a dream or a career. People who are doing whatever it is that you want to do, don’t have two heads. So you wanting to do it and then you have God within you it’s as if you have two heads so you might as well go for it and just keep going and keep trusting God to achieve those goals.
What are your hobbies?
I think my hobbies now are writing songs and travelling. I love to travel with family and enjoy myself, explore new places. It’s a little bit hampered now because of all the terrorism in the world. But I like to travel and I like to find new places so what we’ve decided now, to quench my thirst, is to look inwards. We now want to explore different states and see what they have to offer. So I like to travel, I like to learn new places, I like to meet new people and I also like to de-stress. I am that person that would schedule a bi-weekly massage and a monthly facial and just go for an hour or two and be away from everything and de-stress my life. And I like talking to people so that’s why witnessing and evangelism is helpful because it satisfies that part of my life that wants to meet new people.
What’s your favourite funny story about yourself?
Oh yeah. I did tell my mother in law about this the other day.
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She nearly fell down laughing. Okay so I used to wear a lot of wigs, a lot. I had mannequin heads, maybe about twentyfive of them, different lengths, different colours. I loved the idea that I could just change my look by wearing a different wig so I was really into it and then all of a sudden I stopped and I started giving my wigs away and the question is, why? Why did I do that? Back then when I wore all of those wigs I was modelling and it was good to have a portfolio book that had so many different looks and it always kept me a little bit ahead of my competition because there weren’t many of us that were black and among those of us that were black the African Americans didn’t really believe in wigs and I couldn’t care less, I had all of them; short hair, blond hair, all kinds but I all of a sudden stopped because one day I was crossing the street, eight lanes of traffic, four lanes going this way and four lanes going the other way, big boulevard, and the wind blew off my wig from my head. And there I was going across the street in my runway walk, you know, I had a walk to die for and I feel the wind like forty miles an hour and all of a sudden my wig was gone and the problem was, not only did it blow it off my head, it blew it away so it wasn’t like I could go and get it back. It just went away and the people who were stopped at the light were pointing at me and it was horrible. The only good thing was that I had nice cornrows under the wig so I didn’t look crazy. Just imagine you’re sitting in a car and this lady is walking past and then her wig just flies off. So that was that and I was
traumatised but it didn’t stop me from wearing wigs. Three days later I braved it again. I had my wig and I was on the UCLA campus, I was an undergrad back then, and I was walking across a normal street, two lanes this way and two lanes the other way. And a black crow, swooped down and grabbed my wig from my head. So within four days I had lost two wigs. A bird that was flying in the air swooped down and grabbed the wig from my head in broad day light and again they’re pointing at me and they’re laughing. Thank God it wasn’t today I probably would have been on social media and it would have gone viral because how many times in life do you ever see that? So anyway that was the end of my wig wearing.
What do you plan to have accomplished in five, 10, 20, and 50 years -- personally and/or professionally?
Personally I think that I’d like to witness to and lead as many souls to Christ as possible either through my music or direct evangelism. I’d also like to grow these children with the help of my husband, and by the grace of God, into young fine men who can hold their own in society. I think that would be probably the most fulfilling for me. And then on the professional side, I think I’m not necessarily wanting to spend the rest of my career in working for the government. I think I would like to, at some point, start my own consulting firm, I think probably in the next 10 years, so that by 20 years I have a little bit of consulting empire, for lack of a better word, going on.
So we’ve come to the end of the interview. Is there anything else that you would like to add? Not really. I think really the only thing that I would say is an encouragement to whoever might read this, whether it’s a young Christian woman or a young Christian man or a nonChristian man and woman. The world is increasingly evil these days, increasingly scary, causing anxiety. We have people going into elementary schools and shooting them up, we have people going into churches and shooting them up. We have an attack on the institution of marriage as God has ordained it and we also have global terrorism. There’re a lot of evil things happening and I would say that as a human being you have nothing to lose when you give your life to God. When you give your life to God, you find a safe haven of direction, peace, joy. And so I would encourage people to draw closer to God and really get to know Him and develop a strong personal relationship with Him.
Okay. Thank you very much for granting this interview. It has been wonderful talking to you and even though I have known you for more than 25 years this has been an eye opener and it is a privilege to call you friend. God bless you for all the fine work that you are doing in the continent of Africa. Aww. Thank you. And I thank God. I feel very blessed to be where I am right now. DOZ Magazine | October 2016
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Grace and Beauty
Beauty is Skin Deep by Atarah M.
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all it our biggest predicament or the failure of our health system, but every other American today has been ensnared by the tempting fast food chain advertisements no matter where they go. Like a torrent, they continue to entice every one of us to consume unhealthy foods without ever warning their consumers about the harmful effects it can have on your skin and health. In order to contradict the harmful side-effects, most Americans, especially women, turn to pharmacies and skin experts for pills, anti-ageing creams, serums or other surgical means. However, what we don’t realize is that almost every single day, a new research emerges warning us about the harmful effects of both of these preventive measures. True; science of nutrition is becoming more experimental with each passing day. However, the core issue still at hand is that the food industry has successfully made finding a Coke or McDonalds more feasible and cheap than fruits and vegetables. Our busy lifestyles have made a Chinese takeout more convenient than cooking
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something hygienic at home. “You are what you eat!” You must have come across this holistic mantra many practitioners base their lives on. This is the reason why a 60-year old woman looks better than a woman in her 40s. It is eating healthy that makes them look so young and fresh all the time. If you think about it, it’s really basic science. Whatever you put inside your body, it will affect your health in the same way. There are countless studies that indicate that in order to maintain a supple and younger looking skin, we must offer our bodies the right essential nutrients regularly to keep its elasticity and youth persistent. This could be achieved by incorporating fruits
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and vegetables as a substitute to meat to stop the premature aging and endorse longevity. Although healthy eating is everything, many argue that the process is typically very slow. In a world where thousands of things are happening with every passing second, we have been programmed to observe change fast. Here too we want to witness our waistlines slimming and our skin naturally glowing. In order to speed up that process, exercising is the best combination. It’s a no-brainer that regular exercise is good for your body and your skin. Physical exercise like running, swimming, and power walking can be truly rewarding. But that doesn’t mean you need to drain yourself of every last drop of energy. You can always begin with the simplest of exercises such as a walk. The key is to continue and not give up after a few days, disappointed that you didn’t see any results. Always try to make your exercise fun. Join a group workout with friends or simply run on the treadmill while listening to your favorite song. Just riding a few miles on a bike can really make you appreciate your city or a 20-minute run in the park near your home can get your heart beating fast and allow you some time away from your daily worries. Add to that the fresh oxygen and the healthy blood circulation in your system that helps bring color on your face rather than making it look pale and dull. We understand that following both these practices requires time and efforts but in the end, the results are highly satisfying. We are more beautiful, healthier and we live a longer life. Aren’t these the three things we women want after all?
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Home Sweet Home
Tips for Quick & Easy Home Cleaning by Rebecca Paul
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he state of your home says a lot about you. So you want to ensure that you keep it as clean and tidy as it is in your power to do. Home cleaning is an integral part of our lives, as in many cases, a clean home impacts positively on our health and mood. In the same vein, a dirty, cluttered home, impacts negatively on our health and mood. Many people think that cleaning the home requires a lot of time and
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energy and as a result they are put off and put it off. But I have good news. There is a quick and easy way to keep your home clean. Do it one room at a time, focusing on one task at a time within the room. Don’t try to do everything at once, that will only make you feel overwhelmed and cause you to quit even before you get started. Below are a few tips and steps to help you in your cleaning chores.
Cleaning the Living Room 1 Pass through the room
quickly picking up the mess as you go. Remove the shoes, clothes, toys, used cups, plates, and everything that has no business being there.
2 Pick up those things that
should be there and put them back in their proper place: throw pillows, TV remote control, ornaments, etc.
3 Get out the vacuum cleaner
and have a quick go at every visible trace of dirt on the floor or carpet. Save the deep cleaning for another day when you have the time.
4 With a microfiber cloth or soft tissue, dust down the furniture.
5 Use a combination of wet
and dry cloth to tackle finger prints and other stains on glass tables, doors and windows.
Do it one room at a time, focusing on one task at a time within the room. Don’t try to do everything at once, that will only make you feel overwhelmed and cause you to quit even before you get started. Below are a few tips and steps to help you in your cleaning chores
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Cleaning the Kitchen 1 The first step in the kitchen
is to wash the dirty dishes. To do this effectively, remove all dirty dishes from work tables and everywhere else and place them in the sink.
2 With the dishes washed,
attend to dirty pots and pans. If you do not have the time to wash them all, you can hide something in the oven. Just as long as you promise not to forget it there!
3 Clean the sink, sink area and work tables.
4 Clean the stove. If it is very
dirty and you cannot remove all the pieces to wash, at least take away the heavy and noticeable dirt.
5 Cleaning the kitchen floor is
very important and unfortunately there is no easy way around it, you have to wash it! But if it is not possible to do this, a damp cloth will do the trick in the interim.
6 Clean very apparent dirt on the doors of the cabinets, the refrigerator door, and the tiles, with a damp cloth. And be sure to use the right product for each type of surface. 7 Empty the kitchen bin.
Cleaning the Bathroom. 1 Squirt some bleach into the
toilet, follow with a quick scrub using the toilet brush and then flush.
2 With a damp cloth and the
appropriate product, clean the outside of the toilet, the seat and lid.
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3 With a damp cloth clean the inside and outside of the sink bowl.
4 Wipe the inside and outside of the bath tub using the appropriate cleaning product and a damp cloth. 5 Clean the cabinet doors
using a damp cloth and the appropriate cleaning product.
6 Wipe the bathroom mirror using a wet and dry cloth.
7 Clean the floor with damp cloth.
8 Empty the bin.
Cleaning the Master Bedroom 1 In the bedroom, the first
thing to do is make the bed.
2 Put the clothes, shoes and
bags in their proper place.
3 Plug in your vacuum cleaner and do a quick clean of the carpet removing all conspicuous dirt. 4 Dust all furniture with a
microfiber cloth.
5 With a wet and dry cloth, remove all traces of dirt from the mirrors.
Cleaning the Children’s Bedroom 1 Make the bed.
2 Keep toys, clothes, shoes etc. in their proper place.
3 Do a quick vacuuming of the carpet removing all noticeable dirt.
4 Dust all furniture with a
microfiber cloth. When in a rush, it is possible to tidy your home spending about 10 minutes in each room. Or you could concentrate on tidying only the messy parts of the house. But it is necessary to pencil in one day in every week, fortnight or month, to do a heavier cleaning and pay more attention to detail. And if you’re like me, you could make it a habit to always clean up after yourself. Trust me, it will make your life a whole lot easier.
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Your Body is a Temple
How tо Boost
Brеаѕt Milk Nutrient by Dr. Ellen
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here аrе ѕоmе thingѕ thаt hаvе been knоwn tо imрrоvе nutritiоnаl vаluе оf brеаѕt milk, аnd уоu саn uѕе thеm аѕ a ѕuррlеmеnt to уоur diеt. • Oаtmеаl hаѕ bееn knоwn tо bооѕt milk ѕuррlу аnd inсrеаѕеѕ itѕ nutritiоnаl value. A bowl оf оаtmеаl dаilу, оr еvеn oatmeal сооkiеѕ аrе bеnеfiсiаl. • Quinоа, a seed that’s сооkеd likе riсе, hаѕ bееn used bу trаditiоnаl ѕосiеtiеѕ during lасtаtiоn and is ѕаid tо imрrоvе milk production. DOZ Magazine | October 2016
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Quinоа can аlѕо be sprouted. • Thеrе аrе vаriоuѕ milk tеаѕ оn the mаrkеt. Nо, thеѕе aren’t tеаѕ mаdе with milk. Thеу’rе made with hеrbѕ thаt are ѕuрроѕеd to imрrоvе the brеаѕt milk �uаlitу аѕ wеll аѕ �uаntitу. • Fenugreek iѕ a hеrbаl supplement you саn take which many wоmеn hаvе found hеlрѕ bооѕt milk рrоduсtiоn. Yоu know уоu’rе tаking еnоugh when уоur sweat ѕmеllѕ like mарlе ѕуruр. It also imрrоvеѕ ѕоmе оf thе nutrients in breast milk. • Gaia Hеrbѕ Lactation Support: Mаnу wоmеn are uѕing thiѕ herbal caplet with great rеѕultѕ. There may bе similar ѕuррlеmеntѕ available tоо.
оvеr роundѕ – just be ѕurе уоu’rе gеtting whаt уоu need fоr уоur baby. Prеgnаnсу and nurѕing dо саuѕе nutritional ѕtrеѕѕ on уоur bоdу. Yоu’rе growing a nеw person. Yоu’rе nоt going tо bе able to eat as if it were juѕt уоu. You left those days behind whеn уоu conceived уоur сhild! Farmers knоw thаt thе most сritiсаl timе tо feed аnimаlѕ well is whеn they’re nurѕing a nеw bаbу – thе ѕаmе iѕ true for humаnѕ. Yоu need plenty оf food tо mаkе milk. Cut out unhеаlthу fооdѕ. Prосеѕѕеd fооdѕ, ѕugаrѕ, еxсеѕѕivе саrbѕ. Gеt rid оf thоѕе thingѕ if уоu fееl likе you nееd tо “сut bасk” оn ѕоmеthing. But еаt healthy foods libеrаllу – to satisfaction. And don’t lie to уоurѕеlf. If уоu’rе still hungrу after ѕuрреr, hаvе a small ѕnасk аt bedtime. If 3 mеаlѕ a dау examine уоur fat intаkе. Nо, Althоugh the аbоvе supplements aren’t сutting it fоr уоu (thеу I’m nоt gоing tо tеll you to cut саn wоrk, if you wаnt tо improve dоn’t fоr mаnу nurѕing mothers!) оut thе fat. In fact, I’m tеlling thе nutriеntѕ in уоur milk оr have snacks bеtwееn your meals. уоu the орроѕitе. Mаkе sure уоu’rе ѕuffеring from lоw milk Eаting plenty of food, аnd getting you’re gеtting еnоugh fаt. Be ѕuррlу you ѕhоuld еxаminе уоur ѕurе you’re еаting gооd fats – рlеntу оf fluid, bооѕtѕ уоur milk diet. Exреrtѕ say рооr nutritiоn “good fаtѕ” are traditional fаtѕ ѕuррlу. Yоu wоuld nоt believe doesn’t саuѕе low milk ѕuррlу. likе coconut оil, butter, olive hоw mаnу mоthеrѕ I hаvе аѕk However, рооr nutritiоn саn еаt оil, tallow, аnd lard. Avоid nеw mе аbоut milk supply whо аdmit, up your own nutrient rеѕеrvеѕ, “industrial” oils (ѕuсh аѕ соrn oil, whеn I аѕk thеm аbоut whаt thеу саuѕing stress and еxhаuѕtiоn fоr ѕоуbеаn оil, hydrogenated oils) ate that dау, “оh, I had coffee fоr уоu. like thеу’rе a рlаguе… thеу are!! brеаkfаѕt, аnd a ѕmаll ѕаlаd fоr You have hеаrd thаt it rеаllу Use butter libеrаllу tо еnhаnсе lunch. I’ll рrоbаblу have a littlе dоеѕn’t matter whаt уоu еаt, thе flаvоrѕ оf уоur fооdѕ. Sеlесt bоwl of pasta for ѕuрреr. I just you’ll still mаkе milk fоr your full fаt dаirу рrоduсtѕ аnd don’t dоn’t hаvе timе fоr аnуthing baby (аnd it’ѕ ѕtill better thаn trim аll thе fаt off уоur meats. еlѕе.” fоrmulа!) Wеll, that’s true – Drizzlе оlivе оil оn уоur ѕаlаd An Overall Effесt but a highеr quality diеt makes grееnѕ. Use coconut оil and rеd These diеtаrу imрrоvеmеntѕ highеr quality milk. And a highаrе аll bеnеfiсiаl tо уоur оvеrаll quality diet can help уоu to hаvе palm оil in your cooking. Gеt a hеаlth. Thеу’rе nоt a miracle LOT оf fаt. abundant milk. Thеrе mау rеаllу The Quantity of Food that You Eat cure for low milk ѕuррlу. But bе timеѕ whеn milk ѕuррlу can’t Nеxt up… are уоu еаting еnоugh? bу tаking ѕtерѕ tо imрrоvе your bе bооѕtеd – but improving diеt nutritiоn уоu аrе wеll on the Thе late Dr. Brewer, thе Weston iѕ оnе of the mоѕt basic steps tо try аnd will bеnеfit уоu nо mаttеr A. Priсе Fоundаtiоn, midwives, wау tо creating better hеаlth for what the оutсоmе. аnd оthеr рrоfеѕѕiоnаlѕ all advise уоu, аnd good diet оftеn dirесtlу Importance of Fats соrrеlаtеѕ with thе �uаlitу of соntinuing уоur pregnancy diеt The firѕt ѕtер tо tаkе iѕ tо during lасtаtiоn. Don’t оbѕеѕѕ milk уоu mаkе fоr уоur bаbу.
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DOZ Chronicles DOZ is an acronym for Daughters of Zion, and DOZ Chronicles is a series based on actual events experienced by women who have one thing in common: Zion. Names and locations have been changed to protect all persons concerned, but in and of themselves, the stories are true. When DOZ Magazine began operations in 2009, our true stories comprised a section within the magazine. However, readers quickly grew tired of reading the stories piece by piece and came to absolutely loathe the phrase “to be continued”, so we created a separate magazine dedicated to telling our inspirational stories in their entirety in a series. This magazine was known as the DOZ (True Story) Magazine, and it had a huge effect on readers. It went out of circulation for a few years, but due to popular demand, it has now returned and today is known as the DOZ Chronicles. DOZ Chronicles can be purchased from Amazon.co.uk
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DOZ Chronicles: Kemi This book, “DOZ Chronicles: Kemi”, is a part of the DOZ Chronicles series and falls under the category of African Women Narratives. It is based on real life experiences and told in first person narrative by Eturuvie Erebor. It is the story of young Kemi Oshinowo whose childless marriage of five years is about to end as another woman becomes pregnant by her husband. As a Christian, Kemi turns to God in her darkest hour – will He come through for her?
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DOZ Chronicles: Ruki This book, “DOZ Chronicles: Ruki,” is a part of the DOZ Chronicles series and falls under the category of African Women Narratives. It is based on real life experiences and told in the first person narrative by Eturuvie Erebor. It is the story of Ruki, a young woman from a poor family, whose quest for a better standard of living drives her to the streets of Lagos as a full time prostitute. Then one night, she has an unusual experience that causes her to forsake the streets and prostitution, and return to her hometown, in a bid to redeem her reputation. After three and a half years of living a far from glamourous life in the village, Ruki meets and marries a man who has the means to give her the life she’s always wanted. But just as she begins to enjoy her new life, the undesirable unexpected happens. The past, which Ruki has tried so hard to bury, suddenly resurrects, and her perfect world with Anayo begins to disintegrate. Is this the end of her marriage?
DOZ Chronicles: Lara This book, “DOZ Chronicles: Lara,” is a part of the DOZ Chronicles series and falls under the category of African Women Narratives. It is based on real life experiences and told in the first person narrative by Eturuvie Erebor. It is the story of young Lara, who finds her life slowly falling apart following the sudden and tragic death of her mother. Then at a time when she needs her father most, he abandons the family to seek greener pastures abroad. Lara is left in the care of her older sister, Nike, although this is not a favourable situation for her as Nike hates her and holds her responsible for the demise of their mother. Frustrated, Lara leaves home with nothing but the clothes on her back, the slippers on her feet and her mother’s Bible in her hands. She tries to seek help from the church, but she is turned away by a young overzealous preacher. Years later, Lara becomes a celebrated and sought-after evangelist. In this elevated position, she meets with the preacher who had turned her away from church and the sister who had sent her away from home. Can she truly forgive all that has happened?
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