The Quill of Alpha Xi Delta - Spring 2009 by Alpha Xi Delta Fraternity

Spring 2009

New Alumnae Program: “Be the Heart of Alpha Xi Delta” Past National Presidents — Where Are They Now? Our New and Improved Chapter Housing The Killarney Rose, the Flower of Mystery Getting to Know the NPC

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Sisterhood

The gift that keeps on giving

President’s Letter Our Genuine, Lifelong Friendships in Alpha Xi Delta

Sisters,

Online social networks provide much food for thought and have fostered lots of conversation about the meaning of “friend.” My own recent entrée into Facebook (yes, finally!) brought with it scores of Friend requests in a matter of a few days – not to mention the directive of the era: “Friend me!” Each one caused me to stop and consider whether the person was actually my Friend (the only designation available) as opposed to an acquaintance, someone with whom I interact cordially or just a cool person I knew way back when. Fortunately, the bulk of the requests involved my Alpha Xi Delta Sisters, so there wasn’t much need for thought. Alpha Xi Deltas are genuine, lifelong friends. In a recent discussion about what separates the Alpha Xi Delta experience from what we could gain in any other organization, this simple statement rang through as a touchstone. We are not a “cookiecutter” sorority, a phrase used unfairly by many detractors of the sorority experience. Rather, invitations to membership in our Sisterhood are informed by personal compatibility and individual potential. This strong foundation makes for some very deep and abiding friendships. The activities that surround Alpha Xi Delta friendships have certainly changed over time. In a recent conversation with the daughter of an alumna initiated in the 1920s, now in Chapter Eternal, the daughter shared that some of her earliest memories were of her mother sitting in their living room in a circle with her Alpha Xi Delta Sisters, all of them talking, laughing and darning socks. While it’s probably been a long time since the last Alpha Xi Delta sock-darning bee, the talking and laughing at the heart of those gatherings repeats itself every day in our Sisterhood by way of shared cups of coffee, cell phone conversations, play dates involving our children or,

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yes, those online social networks, including our own Alpha Xi Delta inCircle. It can be challenging to communicate that sense of close friendship in an organization of more than 135,000 women, but I think our Quill Editor, Ruth Goodman, does a great job and never more so than in this issue (particularly with benefit of some truly wonderful insights from a former Quill Editor, Ginny Carroll). Whether it’s Sisters who have reconnected and revitalized old friendships via inCircle or Sisters who have constantly been present in one another’s lives for years and “take it on the road” to Conventions, we are friends first and foremost. I think what you read here will increase your feeling of heart sunshine, and I hope it will lead you to pick up the phone, drop a note, send a text message, write on a virtual wall, approve a Friend request or in some other way reach out to one or more of the amazing women who tie you to Alpha Xi Delta. I also hope this connection will lead you to help us secure Alpha Xi Delta’s future by participating in our new alumnae dues program – Be the Heart of Alpha Xi Delta. For those Sisters not already paying dues to an Alpha Xi Delta alumnae association, this is a great opportunity for you to help fund the programs and services that keep Alpha Xi Delta strong and enable us to continue inspiring women to realize their potential, each and every day. We ask you to make this modest investment and help us ensure that the Alpha Xi Delta experience remains vibrant, relevant and strong for future generations. Finally, Founders’ Day celebrations will take place all over the country in the coming weeks. I encourage you to participate in these celebrations, to reach out to Sisters, to initiate reunions and to get your groups together for Convention! Celebrate Alpha Xi Delta, and never miss a chance to tell others how our Sisterhood has enriched your life. Loyally,

Deanna Detchemendy National President

Contents 5 The Enduring Gift of Sisterhood Membership in Alpha Xi Delta is the gift that keeps on giving. Learn how you can continue to unwrap that special gift every day.

12 Be the Heart of Alpha Xi Delta Just as the heart is vital to life, alumnae are vital to the heart of our Fraternity. Help keep our heart strong by participating in our new alumnae dues program.

16 On the Road to Convention Chesapeake, Maryland, alumnae gear up for their annual National Convention road trip.

34 Where Are They Now? Learn what Alpha Xi Delta’s past National Presidents have been up to since their days in office.

38 Housing – the New and the Improved Take a walk through some of our new and refurbished chapter houses and suites.

40 From the Archives The mysteries and history behind our Founders’ flower of choice.

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Member News Reunions National Panhellenic Conference News & Notes Honor Gifts Memorial Gifts Chapter Eternal Living our Symphony

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By Ginny Carroll, Western Kentucky ’82

Do you remember the day you pledged Alpha Xi Delta? Whether it was in a courtyard full of screaming women or in a small circle surrounded by soon-to-be Sisters, it was one of the few moments in your life when you knew you really mattered. At that moment you knew you were part of an important group of people — women you would call Sisters. Since then, have you joined a group in quite the same way? I’m a 25-plus-year member of Alpha Xi Delta and I can say unequivocally that since I joined our Fraternity, I have never joined another group — whether familial, work related, community related or sports related — that accepted me with wide-open arms and truly caring hearts. Little did I know when I was just 19 years old the impact my decision to join would make on my entire life, because I never stopped deciding to remain involved in whatever way I could. www.alphaxidelta.org

Sisterhood

o you remember the moment you realized that Sisterhood is more than friendship? Who was there? Where were you? What was happening? How did you feel? Or what about the time you were most proud to be a member of Alpha Xi Delta? What words would you use to describe the experience? Would you use honored, appreciated, supported, loved, happy, proud, excited, humbled? Or maybe it was the overwhelming feeling and knowledge that you truly matter. All of these moments – the one when we joined and the ones when we felt most proud – are what make this experience so singularly important. There are not many like it. And don’t we all owe it to Alpha Xi Delta to make sure other women have the same opportunities?

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Lifelong Involvement

I’m a very lucky Alpha Xi Delta. I’ve had many exceptional experiences because of the Fraternity, and I’ve been involved with Alpha Xi Delta in one way or another for more than 25 years. I was my chapter’s pledge trainer (now called new member orientation chair) and president, then went on to travel the country for a year as an Educational Leadership Consultant. In that one year I was on about 35 college campuses in nine months and met a couple thousand Sisters. Then I went to work at Fraternity Headquarters and did so for 14 more years.

Zeta Chapter in the early 1940s at Wittenberg University in Ohio.

I served as Editor of the very magazine you’re reading, and I was able to work in the extension area establishing new chapters and the chapter services area before finishing my tenure on staff as National Executive Director. I met amazing Sisters from coast to coast: accomplished professionals, purposeful mothers, lifelong volunteers, proud grandmothers and caring citizens of the world. I met thousands of Sisters from every walk of life. Because of the opportunities Alpha Xi Delta presented to me to build and hone important skills, I wake up every day knowing I’m doing what I love – running my own business and speaking at workplaces and on college campuses about leadership and social intelligence. So, not only am I a product of our vision

by having realized my potential, but I try every day to inspire others to do the same. In all the years I’ve been involved in the Greek community, I cannot even venture to count the number of times I’ve been challenged to explain the value of sorority. “You work for a sorority? Do you plan the parties?” As that same question is asked over and over, I’ve often thought of saying something our Founders would not be proud of! Instead, I choose to change opinions by explaining the value of membership. And I also decided to get vocal. I’ve had the privilege of spending the past few years sharing a program called “The Gift of Sorority” with young sorority women across the country. My objective is to help undergraduates realize all that

Not only am I a product of our vision by having realized my potential, but I try every day to inspire others to do the same.

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Nu Chapter’s 1965 pledge class at the University of Washington.

the sorority experience has to offer in terms of leadership development and life skills, as well as fun and a social outlet. And I also offer a glimpse of the past.

Tracing our Roots

The foundation of our existence as a sorority movement is important to understand. To hear and understand the thoughts and feelings of our Founders gives today’s college women context, especially when they try to navigate the Ritual and ceremonies. History gives them a glimpse of what life was like when our Founders came together and, I hope, will help them identify and solidify the values important to them. I’m sure today’s college women often wonder about the terminology and intent of our ceremonies. The written words of

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early Alpha Xi Deltas were poetic and flowed across the page, and their priorities were beautifully expressed through ceremonies. In the History of Alpha Xi Delta, written in 1923, Mary Meek Atkeson of Iota Chapter at West Virginia University wrote in the introduction: “To those of us who have once stood within the charmed circle of white-robed girlhood, touched with a mystic beauty by flickering candlelight and fragrant roses, as we waited with tremulous hearts for the words which would make us sisters in that fair company, Alpha Xi Delta has a deep significance. In all the experiences life may hold for us, never again can we be more deeply stirred than by the first electric thrill of sisterhood. And we know in our hearts that magic circle can never be broken... . Age,

Author Ginny Carroll, second from left, as an undergraduate with her three little Sisters: Jan Halsey, Liz Bell and Nancy Lebkuecher.

occupation, distance and environment have no influence on our friendships in the fraternity. In the problems of maturity we may forget for a time, but when we come face to face with one who has stood with us in that dear company, the flame that has burned low leaps to new life and vigor and we know once more the youth that is eternal. By its magic charms our troubles are dispelled. … It is youth that sees the thought in the heart of the rose – and forgets the thorns.” Mary speaks eloquently of the time we pledge. Her words are very different than those of today, yet we know what she intended because we’ve lived it. Some may think that our youngest members aren’t quite ready for the deeper meaning of our ceremonies because members’ motivation is often

social in nature, wanting to “sow their oats” as they leave home for the first time and begin to integrate themselves into adult life. Based on what these young women have communicated to me, I would contest that they’re interested in our history and curious about our Founders.

A Sisterhood of Women

With an understanding of history you learn how important the support of a sisterhood was to our Founders in a time when women were ostracized and ridiculed for being on campus. You begin to understand why education was so important to them. To know that in the late 1800s, scientist Dr. Edward Clarke published a book citing scientific evidence that females were “physiologi-

In all the experiences life may hold for us, never again can we be more deeply stirred than by the first electric thrill of sisterhood.

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Gamma Chapter at Mount Union College in Ohio in the early 1900s.

This message is important because undergraduates need to understand that membership is a lifetime commitment.

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cally unsuited for academic training” and that higher education “damaged a woman’s health by inhibiting her reproductive system” was to understand why we are asked not to “lower our womanhood,” but thrive in the company of women. His book went through 17 printings and was very popular in some circles. With this knowledge we begin to better appreciate our organizational roots and the importance of our Sisterhood in inspiring confident, contributing women. The reason I share this message is that I believe our youngest members don’t often realize the number of integral life skills they’re building because they chose to attend college and become a member of a sorority. And that the necessary social skills to thrive in the world are not taught in a classroom, but

honed through the trials and tribulations of a sorority experience that can be considered a living laboratory of skill development. The social intelligence gained through this type of student involvement makes our members much more marketable than other students coming out of college. This message is important because undergraduates need to understand that membership is a lifetime commitment. Too many alumnae have the mistaken impression that membership in Alpha Xi Delta was a four-year commitment and then lose out on all the opportunities to be role models and stewards. The experiences and opportunities I’ve had as an involved alumna far outweigh the benefits of my time as a collegiate member; the friendships I’ve made during my alumnae years are invaluable.

Bid day 1983 for Beta Iota Sisters at Louisiana State.

Family by Choice

As alumnae, we need to help our undergraduates see the true value of being involved in the chapter and after college. We need to share our history and teach collegians that as they grow in their membership they will continue to gain on many different levels no matter what the experience. The best way to do that is to share our stories, support the organization and model the way by being involved. I know not everyone had the same membership experience. Some are happy ending their sorority experience as a four-year deal; others may be members of a chapter that closed, so they opt out because they’re bitter or feel they’ve lost their link in the chain. I’m from a closed chapter. My chapter actually closed while I was working for the Fraternity, so I have a good understanding of why it was necessary. And I know most Sisters don’t. If you’re from a closed chapter, you need to know that the decision is never an easy one; it is a decision no one wants to make. Feel confident that closing a chapter is based more on whether

the undergraduate members are having a good experience or are spending too much of their time trying to just “survive.” Being bitter is unproductive. Maybe the bitterness stems from a subconscious hurt that young women won’t have the important experience that you had in your Circle of Sisterhood on your campus, not anger at “nationals.” Rather than lash out or choose to not be involved, realize that you have more than 100 chapters to call your own and a 135,000-plus Sisterhood to support! If you’re reading this article you must care, and if you care it’s because Alpha Xi Delta made you feel that you mattered. Alpha Xi Delta is family by choice. And it doesn’t matter if it was the first, second or third choice on that little card — it was still your choice. You saw something there, you felt something there. You felt special, you felt you mattered, because you did…and you still do.

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By Sara Des Jean Konopka, Purdue ’01, Assistant Director of Alumnae Development, and Ruth Goodman, Northern Iowa ’80, Editor

When it comes to spending a few bucks, the choice is clear.

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wenty dollars can buy a lot of things: a few fancy coffees, a couple of movie tickets, a lunch or two. Instead of buying something that’s gone and then forgotten, Be the Heart of Alpha Xi Delta and invest in something that will last a lifetime. Be the Heart of Alpha Xi Delta is a brand new program designed to increase alumnae participation in and support of our Fraternity. And the best part? You don’t even have to be part of an alumnae association to participate. Here’s how it works: If you are an alumnae association member, simply keep doing what you’re doing and pay your $20 annual dues through your alumnae association. If you’re not part of an association but want to Be the Heart of Alpha Xi Delta, mail or pay your $20 dues online. It’s that simple.

When you open your heart and checkbook to Be the Heart of Alpha Xi Delta, you’re giving back to an organization that has helped shape the woman you are today.

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Be the Heart of Alpha Xi Delta When you go to the coffee shop, the movies or out to lunch this week and reach for the $20 bill in your purse, think about what you’re getting. Do you really want something fleeting, like a latte, or would you rather help a Sister become a better leader and lifetime member of our Fraternity? We look forward to receiving your alumnae dues and having you Be the Heart of Alpha Xi Delta!

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How one Sister found old friends and made new ones. By Debbie McWilliams Keyes, Illinois ’77

kept in contact with some of my chapter Sisters after graduation, but over the years I lost touch with all but a few. In 2007 I found the Alpha Xi Delta website, updated my contact information and joined inCircle, the Fraternity’s social networking site. Through inCircle I’ve become friends with a LOT of Sisters in Illinois and elsewhere; I also keep an eye open for Sisters who were in my chapter in the late ’70s. I was thrilled to find my pledge daughter on inCircle! She now lives in California and we correspond occasionally through email. While I keep watching for people I knew in college, the best part of inCircle is finding Sisters who live in my geographic area. With the help of inCircle I reestablished the Chicago-Northwest Alumnae Association. We found a number of our members through inCircle. To me, inCircle is a great place to find old friends … and new ones. Connect with Debbie at axiddeb@gmail.com or http://alphaxideltanwchicago.blogspot.com.

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Books & More Books For those who like to discuss or recommend books of all genres.

Networking – Connections Group

A networking forum for Sisters getting ready to graduate, recent graduates and Sisters looking to change jobs/careers/cities.

inCircle Groups with the Most Members

Alpha Xi Delta Moms

The joys of motherhood seen through the bonds of Sisterhood.

Chicago-Area Alumnae Socializing, exchanging information and creating connections among alumnae in the Chicago area.

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Alumnae Panhellenic Delegates Connecting Sisters who are Alpha Xi Delta representatives serving on Alumnae Panhellenics across the country.

PR Advisors For Sisters serving as chapter PR advisors and those who can offer PR advice/expertise to help our chapters and collegians be their best.

Attendees of the 47th National Convention

Keeping in touch with Sisters who attended Alpha Xi Delta’s 2007 National Convention in Indianapolis.

Sister Volunteers Ideas shared among Sisters who volunteer or are interested in volunteerism.

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Scrapping & Stamping Sisters Do you like to scrapbook? How about stamp? This group shares tips and techniques on two of the hottest hobbies in the country.

Kitchen tips and a recipe swap for beginning cooks to gourmet chefs.

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On the Road Again Chesapeake-area alumnae gear up for this summer’s Convention Road Trip to Denver. By Susan Robinson, Frostburg State ’67

othing will test the bonds of sisterhood like having eight women share four days in two rental cars and three nights in two hotel rooms with multiple travel brochures and thoughts about the best way to proceed. That’s exactly what happened to members of the Chesapeake, Maryland, Alumnae Association in 1993 the morning after the close of Alpha Xi Delta’s 100th-anniversary National Convention in Scottsdale, Arizona. Months earlier, as we planned for Convention, one of us said, “I’ve never been to the Grand Canyon. I’m not going all that way and be that close

Our Scottsdale trip was the start of a Chesapeake tradition – the Convention Road Trip, a treasured activity for many Chesapeake alumnae every Convention, except one, over the past 15 years. Since then anywhere from four to 10 Sisters have joined together to attend National Convention. Our group swells and shrinks as Sisters join us and others defer to life’s obligations. We go for all of the fun and sisterhood of Convention and for the pre- and/or post-Convention trip. Conventions in Florida led to a week in an Orlando condo one year and a

We encouraged a Sister to realize that having a bit of fun was not depriving her family but rather invigorating her for when she returned to them. without going there.” And so we did. We weren’t sure if we would still be speaking at the end of our adventure. When we hugged goodbye at the airport back in Maryland, however, we realized that not only did we survive the trip still speaking, but we felt closer than ever. 16

Caribbean cruise another. For the Palm Desert, California, convention, we visited the bright lights of Las Vegas and the sprawl of San Diego. Convention in Houston preceded a trip to San Antonio. When Convention was held in Washington, D.C, we rented an oceanfront house in Delaware.

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During these times we laughed with the Sister whose husband packed his underwear in her suitcase so she wouldn’t forget him while she was gone. We watched with amusement as Sisters crammed their many Convention purchases and travel souvenirs into crowded bags. Imagine the scene as we attempted to put a 6-foot rain stick in the overhead compartment of an airplane! We chuckled at the Sister who changed her clothes three times a day so she could wear all her outfits, as well as the Sister who changed her clothes three times a day because she always dribbled something down her front. We’ve done “trip activities” thanks to a Sister who packed a Travel Bag for each of us to keep us entertained in the car. We had a Tattoo Party before the Rose Banquet when another Sister brought pink rose rub-on tattoos. We have Sisters who change cars at every rest stop so they can chat with everyone, while others find a spot on the back seat and make it theirs for the duration. Even more importantly, however, we have the chance to bring into living reality the sisterhood of women and

to validate the importance of alumnae ties. We encouraged a Sister to realize that having a bit of fun was not depriving her family but rather invigorating her for when she returned to them. We supported a Sister whose luggage included chemotherapy pills; we encouraged another who had just gone through chemo to go without her hot, itchy wig when hair barely covered her head. We worried with the Sister whose mother was admitted to the hospital the last day of the trip. Because of this bonding we’ve transformed that encouragement, support, worry and caring into being there for each other as we live our regular lives. If something happens to one of us the phones start ringing, the emails start coming and we rally around our Sister. At the Scottsdale convention we laughingly said that when we get old we’ll have to start a Chesapeake Alumnae Convention Scholarship and pay a collegian’s Convention expenses. Her duties would include guiding us through the airport, getting us to meeting rooms for activities and meals, dressing us for the Rose Banquet, etc. While we’re not ready for such assistance yet, we plan to keep the tradition of the Convention Road Trip going for a long time to come. We’re looking forward to this summer’s convention in Denver. We haven’t planned our road trip yet, but whatever we do, we know we’ll have fun. Photo on opposite page: Chesapeake Alumnae visited Ryman Auditorium in Nashville, Tennessee, on a Convention Road Trip before the 2007 National Convention in Indianapolis. Travelers included (left to right) Becky Neilson, Nancy Thomas Carman, Sandy Preibe Day, Susan Robinson, Ann Robinson Baird, Sheila Klase Benac, Audrey Huthwaite, Donna Moxley Isaacs and Janet Gleason White.

“We weren’t sure if we would still be speaking at the end of our adventure. When we hugged goodbye at the airport back in Maryland, however, we realized that not only did we survive the trip still speaking, but

we felt closer than ever.”

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Guest Columnist Banding Together for Personal, Career Success Just like the “old boy network,” Alpha Xi Delta connects women and helps them realize their potential. By Terri Limehouse Herren, Newberry ’69

ne of the major reasons we join a sorority or other organization is to make positive connections with others. Many times our connections turn into friendships, sometimes lasting a lifetime. These are life’s rewards. When in college we live, study and socialize with our friends 24/7 and have every intention of continuing our relationships after we graduate. The ties that initially brought us together take on different meaning over the years. New connections are made. Reconnecting with friends can be personally and professionally rewarding. While the word “success” may have as many connotations as there are people, most would agree that “career success” is advancing in one’s profession and sphere of influence. One of the recommendations I offer for career success is to develop a network of influence. I advise professionals at all levels to connect with and share knowledge with successful, as well as up-and-coming, women and men. Establishing mentoring relationships is a great way to accomplish this. Studies find decreased job stress among people who regularly connect with others and increased professional satisfaction for mentors. Catalyst studies reveal that having a

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mentor is the crucial key to career success, and it’s the single advantage men usually have – and women usually don’t. Mentoring and bringing others along have been expectations of male leaders through the years, and they have been rewarded for developing protégés. Some refer to this as the old boy network, which we heard much about during the 2008 presidential election. In recent years, female leaders have come to appreciate the need to invest in their followers’ success and mentor others, particularly women. Gail Evans, noted author of Play Like a Man, Win Like a Woman, and She Wins, You Win, says that women are more likely to succeed in business if they band together. Evans explains, “Being on the women’s team isn’t always about changing the world or righting all wrongs. It’s about working with other women to become smarter and more successful.” Alpha Xi Delta’s National Convention will be held this summer in Denver. Attending Convention is a great opportunity to attend educational sessions, reconnect with and make new friends, and network with National Council members and other talented women within our Sisterhood. This year let’s take the opportunity to expand our

networks and connect with others to advance our personal and career successes. We can encourage this by sharing tips for creating successful alumnae associations and chapters, making business referrals, and developing mentor relationships within and outside the Fraternity. The best mentor relationships evolve from mutual connections. What better way to expand our relationships than by connecting with our Sisters in Alpha Xi Delta!

Terri Herren, president of The Herren Dimension, has 30 years of experience in organizational and human resources development. A business expertise and passion of Terri’s is helping companies develop and advance women’s leadership programs. Terri can be contacted at terri@theherrendimension.com or through her website, www.theherrendimension.com.

Explore! Explore everything our Sisterhood has to offer - genuine friendships, life skills and inspiration!

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Explore the 850 miles of Denver’s bike trails, along with other fun attractions!

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Discover the fun of Denver’s 4,500 square miles with your Sisters!

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Realize how fun 500 Alpha Xi Deltas in the same place at the same time will actually be - are you going to be one of them?

Alpha Xi Delta’s 48th National Convention June 24-28 Denver, CO

Member News CALIFORNIA Sacramento Alumnae Association The association is off to a wonderful start after its jumpstart in October and its holiday party in December. On the calendar for the rest of the year are numerous social events, scrapbooking and a Founders’ Day celebration. Philanthropy service projects include preparing monthly meals at the local youth homeless shelter, collecting items for the Ronald McDonald House and supporting the Sacramento Children’s Receiving Home. Sisters interested in joining the new association can contact Annie Hallsten at

Delaware | Theta Gamma held its Xi Man Fitness Competition, a four-day contest and fund-raiser between the fraternities on campus, and crowned Job Jean from Kappa Alpha Order the winner. All proceeds from the event were donated to First Book.—Kelly Littleton, klittlet@udel.edu

ahallste@stetson.edu.

COLORADO Denver Alumnae Association Every October association members donate pumpkins for its annual pumpkin-painting event at the Denver Metro Boys and Girls Club. With treats, ribbons and prizes for all, alumnae spend an hour or two with kids of all ages who paint their pumpkins. Afterward, the pumpkins are judged and each one receives a ribbon award and prize for its creativity. The association contributes to the Denver Metro Boys and Girls Club each year through this activity, as well as by working at the Gates Camp Work Day and by providing as many “camperships” as possible to this summer residential camp facility.—Barb Stover, barbstover@ comcast.net

FLORIDA Theta Sigma, University of Central Florida During fall semester, Theta Sigma participated in recruitment during Hurricane Fay. The second day of recruitment was pushed back and the schedule changed many times, but Sisters recruited through the heavy wind and rain while passing along their excitement to potential new members. Despite the challenges, the chapter recruited 65 wonderful new members. In September the chapter participated in Kappa Delta Sorority’s KD Shakedown fund-raiser, dance competition and toy

Denver Alumnae Association | Sisters donated pumpkins to the Denver Metro Boys and Girls Club for its annual pumpkinpainting event.

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drive. Theta Sigma donated more than 200 teddy bears and over $400 in donations, which garnered them the top spot in both categories. Sisters placed second in the dance competition.

Chesapeake Alumnae Association | Alumnae and friends gathered for their annual fund-raiser auction at the Community Center for The Villages of Five Points in Lewes, Delaware. For the first time, the chapter participated in Walk Now For

district. During the association’s annual summer luncheon, more

Autism, held at Disney’s Wide World of Sports in Orlando. Each

than $250 was collected and donated to the local Girl Scouts

participant had to raise a minimum of $20 to take part in the

office, which also sustained major flood damage. During the

event. As a chapter, Theta Sigma raised $500 for the cause.—

holiday season, association members adopted a family that

Heather Robbins, Miata14359@aol.com

was affected by the floods, hopefully making the season a little brighter, even though the family lost everything in June.—Amy

GEORGIA Zeta Omega, State University of West Georgia

Gaffney-Ingalls, amygi@msn.com

The chapter nearly doubled in size during fall recruitment, going

KANSAS

from 40 active members to 78! Sisters are also excited to move

Sisters in the Greater Kansas City area are working to reestablish

into their new chapter house on Greek Row next year.—Ashli

an alumnae association. To attend an upcoming meeting, contact

Johnson, mjohns25@my.westga.edu

Kellie Sullivan, kellie.sullivan@dmh.mo.gov.

IOWA

MARYLAND

Delta Chi, University of Northern Iowa

Chesapeake Alumnae Association

The chapter raised nearly $700 during A Day in the Park with

More than 25 members and friends enjoyed their annual fund-

Alpha Xi Delta. All proceeds went to Big Brothers Big Sisters

raiser auction in November, which was held at the Community

of Waterloo. Contributions from alumnae, chapter members

Center for The Villages of Five Points in Lewes, Delaware.

and the community made it all possible. Area children and their

Everyone brought a craft or food item for auction, with proceeds

families participated in face painting, sidewalk chalking and

helping support Theta Delta Chapter at Towson University.

coloring a banner for Big Brothers Big Sisters. Delta Chi also

Adding to the fun was the assistant property manager for The

served tacos, held a silent date auction and hosted yard games

Villages, B.J. Plautz. B.J. was on duty in the community center and

for the older crowd.— Nikki Davidson, ndavidso@uni.edu

overheard Sisters mention Alpha Xi Delta. When B.J. told alumnae that her daughter, Tia, is an initiate of Alpha Beta Chapter at

Cedar Rapids Alumnae Association

Cornell University, she was promptly invited to join the festivities.

On June 13 the Cedar River in Cedar Rapids crested at 32 feet –

She even helped support the fund-raising efforts by doing some

more than 20 feet above flood stage. Over 5,000 homes and 100

Christmas shopping and buying several Alpha Xi Delta items for

businesses were flooded, including the majority of the downtown

her daughter.—Susan Robinson, susanbet@verizon.net

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MICHIGAN

MISSOURI

Gamma Zeta, Eastern Michigan University

Epsilon Xi, University of Missouri-St. Louis

The chapter donated $350 to the Side Out Foundation, which raises money

The chapter initiated 11 new members and got them

for breast cancer research and awareness. The donation included the $250

involved right away during the new member retreat,

Sisters received for having the best Greek homecoming banner, $50 for posting

Big Sis/Lil’ Sis Week and Reveal, mixers with each

the highest Greek GPA on campus and $50 raised during their Penny Wars

fraternity, and a Halloween dinner at the chapter

competition.—Erin Incarnati, eincarna@emich.edu

house. During the holiday season, Sisters made and served a Thanksgiving dinner for the St. Vincent’s Children Home. They ended the semester with a night of laugher and dancing during the annual Rose Petal Ball.—Casey Cowhey, MooMoo4075@ sbcglobal.net

OHIO Beta Mu, Bowling Green State University The chapter welcomed 26 wonderful women during recruitment, held a beautiful Initiation Ceremony in Prout Chapel on campus and had a successful Fuzzie Football tournament that raised money for First Book. The chapter has also had heartwarming experiences with alumnae. A collegiate Sister works at a nursing facility in her hometown and learned

Albion | Phi Sisters helped raise $23,000 for the Marshall School District by volunteering at the Success Fund Golf Outing charity golf tournament. Phi sponsored a golf hole, helped caddie, sold raffle tickets and met such notables as former Detroit Tigers pitcher Dave Rozema (pictured). A big thanks to Phi corporation president Mary Brown who helped plan the event.—Eve Beatty, ecb10@albion.edu

that one of the residents is also a Beta Mu initiate. The alumna was just as excited as the collegiate member when she found out! These encounters remind Sisters how great the connections are within Alpha Xi and that sharing experiences with other Sisters is truly special.—Rachel Mandeville, rachelm@bgsu.edu Gamma Tau, Ohio Northern University The chapter revived its Fuzzie Football all-campus fund-raising event, which was held on the campus Tundra. Nearly $100 was raised and donated to St. Jude Children’s Research Hospital.—Erin Millar, e-millar@onu.edu Zeta Nu, Miami University The chapter held its inaugural 12-hour dance marathon, Rock Around XI Clock!, in December and raised more than $3,000 for Shriners Hospitals for Children. In September, Sisters had the honor of participating in the recolonization of Kappa

Old Dominion | More than 180 women went through fall formal recruitment – the largest number in ODU’s history. At the end of the weekend, Delta Mu welcomed 29 new members and reached both Total and Quota.—Amanda Larkin, alark001@odu.edu

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Chapter at the University of Illinois by assisting with the recruitment open house, the preference round and bid day.—Sara Hughes, hughessa@ muohio.edu

Dayton Alumnae Association Dayton alumnae shared a beautiful June evening with a picnic at the home of Carol Smerz. The collegians from Zeta Theta Chapter at Wright State University were welcomed as guests, and everyone enjoyed good food and the annual Greek-letter bingo. Alumnae assisted with recruitment activities at Wright State and also prepared dinner for Sisters after a long recruitment day. Later in the fall, association members enjoyed a PMS party (pizza, movie and sisterhood), several “lunch bunch” gatherings and also set a record for the group’s annual holiday greenery sale. Proceeds help a local mental health agency that serves children and adolescents. After serving as association president for more than 10 years, Marilyn Thompson passed the gavel this fall. What a commitment she has shown to our Sisterhood!— Jan Dorrough Austin, janaustin@ woh.rr.com

Sacramento Alumnae Association | The association is off to a great start after forming in October. Numerous social events, philanthropy service projects and a Founders’ Day celebration are being planned by the association’s founding members (front row) Ashley Vian, Chelsea Minor, Brittany Jibby, (back row) Angela Hourigan, Julie Lindsay, Linda Zajack, Annie Hallsten and Elizabeth Payette. Contact Annie Hallsten at ahallste@stetson.edu to learn more.

Bowling Green State | During Beta Mu’s Senior Challenge spaghetti dinner, graduating seniors donated $403 to the Alpha Xi Delta Foundation. Senior Sisters who worked on the event included Jeni Leist, Kelly Eagle, Molly Keane (chair), Jessie Powers, Jen Holden, Shannon Zavracky and Kim Becka.

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SOUTH DAKOTA Epsilon Eta, South Dakota State University Sisters celebrated the 40th anniversary of the chapter during a weekend-long celebration, held November 14-16. Nearly 50 alumnae attended, including several chapter founders who led the group in singing. The weekend included a Meet and Greet at the chapter house and campus/ chapter house tours. NPC Delegate Michele Herbst Evink ’86, spoke during dinner, which was held at Swiftel Convention Center. Afterward, Sisters and guests enjoyed a ceremony and dance. A Sunday

Ohio | Pi Chapter’s Team Alpha Xi Delta made a strong showing at the Walk the Walk for Mental Health Awareness and Support to back this important movement.—Grace Naugle, gn125606@ohio.edu

brunch concluded the festivities.—Tara Tschetter, tltschetter@jacks.sdstate.edu

TEXAS Delta Psi, Texas State University The chapter proudly initiated 41 women in October. Sisters hosted a Sand Xi-Ball tournament in Sewell Park and raised $5,000 for the Mdala Village Project. Children from Travis Elementary played games, enjoyed treats and received gifts from Santa at the chapter’s annual Christmas party for the school.—Catherine Sdao, cs1381@ txstate.edu

Minneapolis-St. Paul Alumnae Association | Krista Leibold, Shannon Slatton Schwartz, Laura Ramsey, Jennifer Umberger, Jenny Pelkey, Marie Runyon, Becky Soderholm and other association members packaged and boxed meals for Feed My Starving Children, a nonprofit Christian organization that feeds children’s bodies and spirits.—Jennifer Umberger, jumberger@ctmt.com

WISCONSIN Delta Tau, University of Wisconsin Oshkosh The chapter welcomed 15 wonderful new women into the chapter after fall recruitment. Sisters are also proud of their first place finish during homecoming. The theme Rockin’ Roadtrip was chosen in honor of Harley-Davidson’s 105th anniversary. Sisters also had a great time volunteering at the Winnebago County Kid’s Health and Safety Expo at the Sunnyview Expo Center. The women taught children about exercise and healthy snack choices and also did activities with the kids.—Jessica Puhl, puhlj07@uwosh.edu Epsilon Alpha, University of Wisconsin Eau Claire For the first year ever, the university’s Greek community created one large team for homecoming

Southern Connecticut/Westchester County, NY Alumnae Association | Sisters from across Connecticut, including Lynne McNamee, Meredith Sloane

week. Team members participated in sand-building

Schechter, Lisa DiPreta Bell, Pat Shea Halloran and Beth Joseph, got together for their annual end-of-the-summer dinner.—Beth Joseph, bethjoes@aol.com

games and won first place in the float-building

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contests, window painting, tug of war and other contest.—Kelsie Bauer, bauerk@uwec.edu

Come Cruise with A ∆!

Baltic l i SSea AUGUST 4th - 12th 2009

4th Annual Interfraternal Cruise

Join your fraternal brothers and sisters and relax aboard Crystal Symphony, your luxurious and entertaining vessel, as you visit many fascinating ports of call. Visit scenic northern cities steeped in maritime lore as you cruise the Baltic Sea.

Y Your Travel Itinerary: DAY 1: DEPART GATEWAY CITY (August 4) DAY 2: ARRIVE IN COPENHAGEN, DENMARK; EMBARK ON CRYSTAL SYMPHONY Your adventure begins in Copenhagen, Denmark, a medieval fishing village that evolved into one of Europe’s most sophisticated capital cities. That evening you will disembark and continue your adventure aboard the luxurious Crystal Symphony. (August 5) DAY 3: CRUISE THE BALTIC SEA Enjoy the luxuries that await you aboard the Crystal Symphony, including: the Feng Shuiinspired Crystal Spa, complimentary language lessons, luxury boutiques, and relaxing tranquil pools. (August 6)

DAY 4: TALLINN, ESTONIA Marvel at the authentic Hanseatic ambience, still palpable in merchants’ houses that have survived centuries of fire and war, in the Old Town of Tallinn, Estonia. (August 7) DAYS 5 - 7: ST. PETERSBURG, RUSSIA Enjoy three days exploring the city founded by “Peter the Great” in 1703 – St. Petersburg! Known as the “Venice of the North,” this city is laced together by 360 bridges that span the canals of the Neva River. (August 8-10) DAY 8 - 9: STOCKHOLM, SWEDEN; DISEMBARK CRYSTAL SYMPHONY & RETURN TO GATEWAY CITY Your odyssey concludes with an overnight stay amid the 18th-century opulence of Stockholm. (August 11-12)

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Reunions

Epsilon Nu, University of Hartford During the weekend of November 8-9, 2008, Epsilon Nu initiates from the late 1980s and early 1990s held a reunion in the Hartford, Connecticut, area. Some Sisters hadn’t seen each other in nearly 20 years, while others had never met before.—Beth Rosenberg Sanders, Rosie0613@aol.com

Zeta Psi, University of Virginia Gretchen Tibbits, center front, celebrated her 40th birthday with a chapter Sister reunion. In attendance were many of Zeta Psi’s founders, including (front row) Jennifer Amster, Jenny Elder Leeds, (back row) Beth Wright Redford, Teresa Tarbert Butts, Andrea Anderson and Chris Scott Wilson.—Gretchen Tibbits, gretchen.m.tibbits@gmail.com

Alpha, Lombard College/ Knox College Alpha Chapter alumnae reconnected during the Knox 50-year class reunion in November. In attendance were Judy Allen Kafka, Carla Kuehn Wastalu, Debbie Messenger Stearns, Mary Ann Jalovec Gleason, Suzie Swanson Lisio, Nancy La Motte Foster, Joan Wallant Baffes and Linda Sokody Seybold.—Linda Seybold, linseybold33@aol.com 26

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Reunions

During the past 10 years, Iota Alpha has initiated 376 Sisters, many of whom attended the chapter’s 10th anniversary celebration.

Iota Alpha, George Mason University On November 14, 1998, 42 women at George Mason University gathered at the JW Marriott in Washington, D.C., to learn the secrets of Alpha Xi Delta and become the charter members of Iota Alpha Chapter. Ten years later nearly 100 Sisters and their families gathered on the GMU campus during the weekend of November 14-16 to celebrate “A Decade of Memories.” Women from each initiation year were represented at the anniversary celebration, which started with an informal mix and mingle event on Friday at the Firehouse Grill in Old Town Fairfax. Saturday’s activities included a formal luncheon and a discussion of the chapter’s beginning by founding Sisters Jessica Gammon Langdorf and Christine Allie; Katie Mason, ’02, told of the many accolades earned by the chapter during the “middle” years while current Executive Committee members Kristen Thoms, ’06, and Sarah Jones, ’06, talked about what the chapter is busy with these days. A video with 10 years’ worth of photos and the Rededication Ceremony rounded out the day’s events. On Sunday, Sisters and their families met in a campus ballroom, which was decorated for a “picnic-style” afternoon, and met legacies, potential chapter sweethearts, husbands, parents and others who are special to Iota Alpha Sisters. Collegiate Sisters led campus tours and showed alumnae the many changes that had taken place during the past decade; other Sisters worked on bookmarks for donation to a children’s group and decorated boxes for a campus food drive.—Ann Reynolds, Whitney McKim, Christine Allie

Beta Upsilon, University of Rhode Island Beta Upsilon alumnae, including (front) Terri Marcucci Fitch, Susan Davis Biastre, (back) Cindy Ferguson Campana and Kathleen Sullivan Callahan, gathered for a Double Blue and Gold Luncheon to celebrate 60 years at URI and 40 years of the chapter house on campus. The luncheon also served as the initial gathering and establishment of the Greater Rhode Island Alumnae Association. For more information about the association, visit http://rhodeisland.alphaxidelta.org.—Erin McGaughey, erinmcgaughey@yahoo.com

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Alumna Profile

Sister Recognized for Entrepreneurial Success J eni Smith Bogdan, Georgia Tech ’86, and her company, The Saxon Group, were featured in the September 2008 issue of Inc. magazine as part of its annual list of the 500 fastest growing U.S. companies. The Saxon Group was listed as number seven in the top 100 construction firms category. The Saxon Group was also recognized as the largest women-owned business in the United States with annual revenues of $81.8 million. The Saxon Group, located in Sugar Hill, Georgia, is a nationally certified Women’s Business Enterprise (WBE) that builds and retrofits power plants to make them environmentally friendly. Being certified as a WBE means that a business has undergone a rigorous and Jeni Smith Bogdan was featured in the stringent certiSeptember 2008 issue fication process of Inc. magazine. to confirm the business is owned, managed and controlled by a woman or women. Jeni graduated from Georgia Tech with a bachelor’s degree in management in 1989 and a master’s degree in management of technology in 1996. After graduation she started a nonemergency transportation company

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that provided transportation for the disabled and elderly to doctor’s appointments; she grew the company from one van to six in a matter of months. After a year Jeni went back to work in the construction industry where she had previously worked for several years in high school and college. Jeni started The Saxon Group, an industrial contracting construction company, in 1991 and increased revenues from less than $100,000 per year to where it is today at over $80 million in annual revenue. The Saxon Group, Inc. employs more than 500 people who perform work all around the world. Jeni has many fond memories of her days as an Alpha Xi at Georgia Tech and credits her Alpha Xi Delta foundation as one of the reasons she had the confidence to achieve her success as an entrepreneur. Jeni keeps in touch with many of her Gamma Eta Sisters and enjoys talking with them about the good old days and sharing in the many successes they’ve achieved. “One of my best friends in the world is Susan Davis, Georgia Tech ’86. Susan was the first female Buzz mascot ever at Georgia Tech. My three boys still think that’s the coolest thing ever!” Jeni advises entrepreneurs who want to grow their business to think ahead of the curve. “We’ve always had

a five-year plan. We look at what potential markets are,” she says, noting that The Saxon Group began in the cryogenic industry but then saw an opportunity to increase business in the power industry. “Now we’re seeing potential in two more industries, so we’re putting together business plans for that.” In addition to thinking ahead, Jeni says, “You have to build your company based on good values and character. Then line up everything you do – shortand long-term – to follow those same values and character.” She encourages business owners to consider how every decision affects the business plan and, more importantly, the employees who drive the company. Connect with Jeni at jbogdan@thesaxongroupinc.com. Learn more about her company at www.thesaxongroupinc. com/.

Carmen Shirkey, Virginia ’91, released her first self-published novel, The List, which centers on 30-something Candace Saunders, who has a list of nearly 50 qualities she wants in her future husband. When she starts to fall for a man that’s the opposite of what’s on her list, she wonders: Can “perfect” be put on paper? Carmen launched the book in January with a virtual book signing and a virtual book tour; she also created a podcast featuring a reading of the first chapter of the book. Visit http://thelistbook.blogspot.com to learn more and connect with Carmen.

Even though she’s still in school, theatre major Sammi LeVine, Iowa ’06, has already started to achieve her dreams of an acting career, appearing as an extra on numerous television shows, including House, Heroes, The Starter Wife, Entourage and My Name is Earl. She has also appeared as an extra in several movies, including The Hannah Montana Movie and Eddie Murphy’s new film A Thousand Words. Connect with Sammi at Sammi.levine@gmail.com.

Marilyn Raptakis Swierk, Rhode Island ’62, M.S., C.F.C.S., C.F.L.E., president of MS Innovations, consultant, author, and speaker, was named president-elect of the American Association of Family & Consumer Sciences (AAFCS). Marilyn previously served on the AAFCS board of directors and in many other national leadership roles for AAFCS and education-related organizations. Prior to starting MS Innovations and consulting, Marilyn taught family and consumer sciences at the secondary school level for 29 years in Rhode Island. Marilyn is a 1995 Alpha Xi Delta Woman of Distinction recipient.

For her commitment and dedication, the Pittsburgh Opera presented Rose Kunkel Roarty, Ohio ’46, with the Minerva Award, its highest honor. Working on committees throughout the years, Rose was eventually chosen as president-elect in 1993. Between then and 2001, she served as president, chairwoman of the board and advisory chairwoman. At the same time, she served three terms as president of the Allegheny County Medical Society Alliance. Rose is a member of the Pittsburgh Alumnae Association and has served as association president.

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Panhellenic

Getting to Know the National Panhellenic Conference By Jane Hooper Sutton, Western Carolina ’75 NPC Conference Treasurer

hen you hear the words National Panhellenic Conference, or NPC, what comes to mind? Collegiate Sisters may think of the Unanimous Agreements, recruitment rules or their NPC Area Advisor. Alumnae Sisters may think of their citywide Alumnae Panhellenic Association … or the Unanimous Agreements, recruitment rules or their NPC Area Advisor! For some Sisters, NPC has no meaning at all. In actuality, the National Panhellenic Conference is a vibrant, hardworking association that works on behalf of sorority women everywhere. In addition to providing a forum for conversaA National Panhellenic Conference’s website, www.thesororitylife.com, was tion and collaboration, much of NPC’s role is to launched in November and targets women between the ages of 16 and 18. NPC launch those initiatives and perform those tasks Chair Julie Cain Burkhard said of the site, “We’ve never defined the [sorority] experithat are important to every NPC group but which ence this way, educated people this way, dispelled stereotypes this way. We hope no particular group has either the incentive or the to change some perceptions out there and tell the clear, honest truth about the wherewithal to achieve alone. This enables the sorority experience.” individual NPC member groups to focus more of of thesororitylife.com and sororityiq.com (sites potential new their efforts on what they do best – helping women grow, give, members can visit for accurate, realistic sorority information), lead and succeed. NPC has become the number one source for information about the sorority experience. Getting the Word Out By June of this year two more websites will be launched to Positive public relations and advocacy is a major NPC goal. As complement these existing sites. Mycollegestyle.com will offer we know from the strong connection we feel to our own Sisters information about the 26 member groups and the 500 college in Alpha Xi Delta, the sorority experience can be life changing campuses on which NPC groups reside. Sororityparents.com and impact us well beyond our college years. Unfortunately, all will provide parents of potential new members with accurate too many people don’t realize that. To address this challenge, sorority information and serve as a forum for asking questions NPC recently hired two PR firms, both based in Indianapolis. and sharing concerns. Taken as a whole, these initiatives will Media Sauce has been tasked to develop several electronic serve to increase public awareness (particularly on the part of communications to promote the sorority experience, while Kyle potential new members and their parents) of the strong and lastCommunications will assist NPC with media relations and crisis ing benefits of sorority membership. communication planning. As the electronic age has changed how we communicate, NPC is also changing the ways in which it promotes the sorority experience and responds to critical situations. With a new, more informative website, a Facebook page and the creation 30

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Something of Value NPC’s Something of Value program, now in its 10th year, provides collegians with a values-based approach to risk manage-

ment education. A traveling team of NPC representatives and an attorney with NPC affiliation leads this daylong program. Attendees participate in group discussions about values, learn effective confrontation techniques, and learn to identify risky behaviors such as abusive relationships, academic dishonesty, eating disorders, hazing, harassment, personal safety concerns and other issues specific to their campus environment. Action plans are developed and collegians are empowered to follow through.

College Housing and Infrastructure Act Another area in which NPC has worked to marshal the collective strength of our member groups is in the arena of government relations. During the past five years the Collegiate Housing and Infrastructure Act has had the attention of NPC and its interfraternal partners. All parties agree that the passage of this legislation is just the beginning of the work and influence that the Greek community must have in Washington, D.C. The passage of this act will allow tax-deductible donations to be channeled through educational foundations, but marked for housing purposes. By fostering this legislation, the fraternity/sorority industry stands to have a significant impact on the life-safety issues that chapter members and house corporation boards face every day, not to mention the rising cost of higher education. For the past several years and again this spring, Alpha Xi Delta alumnae and collegians will join other Greek men and women to continue our lobbying efforts on the Hill for this and other important pieces of legislation that impact our Greek membership. As you can see, NPC is more than rules and regulations. Itâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s a hardworking organization committed to supporting and promoting the Greek experience for women. Learn more about NPC at www.npcwomen.org.

NPCWomen.org is a resource-rich site where collegians, alumnae, potential new members and their parents, and university professionals can learn about the sorority experience. NPC sororities are represented on more than 620 campuses in the United States and Canada and in more than 4,600 alumnae association. All told, there are over 4 million sorority women in the world.

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From Sister to Sister

Little Things Mean so Much By Amy Richbourg, East Tennessee State ’05

’m currently a senior nursing student at Radford University in Virginia. Last summer I had the opportunity to travel to South Africa with the International Scholar Laureate Program and learn about the HIV/ AIDS epidemic, South African culture and the effects of the apartheid. The most memorable part of my trip was visiting the health clinics and orphanages, and seeing how the political and economic tension affected children. One orphanage in particular stood out: Nkosi’s Haven in Johannesburg. This care center focuses on HIV/AIDS-infected mothers and their children in an accepting, understanding environment. South Africa has one of the world’s largest HIV/AIDS populations, and many who have the illness are often victims of discrimination. Nkosi’s Haven also helps mothers and children learn to care for themselves, live with their disease and cope effectively with the many challenges their disease presents. The foundation’s namesake, Nkosi Johnson, was South Africa’s longest surviving child who was born HIV positive. Nkosi lived to be 12. In his short life, Nkosi fought alongside his adopted mother, Gail Johnson, for the rights of HIV-positive individuals. Being born HIV positive, Nkosi was separated from his mother at birth. Years later, he worked with his mother Gail to open centers for infected women and children so they can remain together as a family. This idea turned into Nkosi’s Haven where women and children receive shelter, food, health care and education. If the child’s mother passes away, the child remains at the shelter and is fostered by other mothers who live there. In July 2000, Nkosi spoke to millions of television viewers with his address at the 13th International AIDS Conference in Durban, South Africa. In a speech he had written, the then 11 year old spoke honestly to delegates about his experiences with HIV and the issues surrounding AIDS in South Africa. In response to his speech, individuals, companies and governments made and continue to make significant contributions to People With AIDS. PWA helps infected individuals take charge 32

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Amy Richbourg and one of the little girls she met at Nkosi’s Haven in South Africa.

of their lives and health care and decreases their dependence on others. I spent an afternoon listening and talking to children at Nkosi’s Haven. It was inspiring to listen to the children tell their stories. They were eager to meet new people. They talked about their dreams and asked many questions about America. These children had faced tremendous obstacles but had such great attitudes and outlooks on life. I thought of Alpha Xi Delta’s philanthropic focus, Choose Children, and about the values our Fraternity holds dear. We work with children from many walks of life and do not always appreciate our time spent volunteering. We often underestimate how something as simple as spending a few moments with someone can positively impact their life choices. I think we could make such a difference in the lives of children if we truly give of our time and ourselves. In Nkosi’s 12 short years he reached his potential by giving of himself, and he inspired millions of others to do the same. Connect with Amy at arichbourg@radford.edu. Do you have a message you’d like to share, “From Sister to Sister”? You can in this new forum. Send your story (maximum 600 words) to the Editor for future consideration/use.

Telling it Like it Is The National Panhellenic Conference (NPC) recently launched The Sorority Life to change stereotypes, misperceptions and attitudes about Greek life. The site is geared toward 16- to 18-year-old women and designed to help them make educated choices when it comes to joining the Greek community. Visit www.thesororitylife.com to subscribe to the enewsletter. Read more about this initiative and other aspects of NPC programming on page 30.

A “Personalized” Gift for Mom and Dad Give your mom or dad a gift they’ll cherish – an Alpha Xi Delta lapel pin. They make a great gift for Mother’s and Father’s Day (May 10 and June 21 are just around the corner!) and tell the world “I’m proud to have an Alpha Xi Delta daughter.” Order your pins at www.xiboutique.org. While you’re there, check out our T-shirts, bid day gifts and other fun items.

Are you Friends with Cora? You can now stay up-to-date on all things Alpha Xi Delta through Facebook. The Fraternity created a profile for Cora Bollinger Block and features information for potential new members, links to Fraternity events such as Convention 2009, Sister photos and Alpha Xi Delta’s official fan page. To find Cora, type her name in the search bar at the top of your Facebook page. Add Cora as a Friend today!

2009-2010 Educational Leadership Consultants Announced The following Sisters have been chosen to serve as Educational Leadership Consultants for the 2009-2010 academic year: • Kara Hauk, Zeta Nu Chapter, Miami University (OH) • Amber Kriesel, Iota Zeta Chapter, Wingate University (NC) • Emily Noss, Zeta Upsilon Chapter, Alma College (MI) • Angela Trantham, Delta Rho Chapter, California State UniversityNorthridge In addition, two of our current ELCs have chosen to serve in their positions for a second year: • Laura Thompson, Beta Sigma Chapter, West Virginia Wesleyan College • Samantha Wells, Theta Sigma Chapter, University of Central Florida You can meet these amazing women during National Convention this summer in Denver and in an upcoming issue of The Quill.

A Look Ahead We’re looking for Sisters to help with future Quill stories. Contact the Editor at rgoodman@alphaxidelta.org or at Fraternity Headquarters if you want to take part. • Did/does your chapter have a house mom? Share stories and photos of these wonderful women for our upcoming tribute. • Are you going to Denver for National Convention? Share your experiences with the rest of our Sisterhood by being an on-the-scene reporter. Both alumnae and collegians are encouraged to respond. • Each year, one in 150 children are diagnosed with autism. If you have a child, grandchild or other relation with this disorder, please let us know as we focus on autism in an upcoming issue. If you are a professional who can serve as a subject matter expert, please contact us as well. • Help us help others as we examine domestic violence and abuse. If you are/have been in an abusive relationship and want to share your story, please contact us. Your identity can be kept confidential. If you’re a professional who can serve as a subject matter expert, we want to hear from you. • What would you like to read about? Which amazing Sisters should we talk to? We value your input!

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Alpha Xi Delta’s Past National Presidents Where are they now?

Take a look at your charter or

What are you doing these days?

membership certificate. More than likely they bear the name of one of the women to the right. All of these outstanding Sisters once led the Fraternity as National President. Here’s what a few of our past National Presidents have to say about their tenure and post-President years.

Lois Kopper Stump Kansas State ’37 National President 1971-1974 What do you consider to be the greatest achievements of your Presidency?

The purchase of the property upon which Fraternity Headquarters was built and the return to biennium from triennium National Conventions. We also published the treasurer’s manual. What are your fondest memories of your years as National President?

I enjoyed visiting college chapters and especially enjoyed the installation of new chapters. Installation weekend was always very special. 34

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Since I’m retired, you might say I’ve become a professional volunteer. Once a week I volunteer at Thrift House, which is run by the Episcopal Church Women of Colorado Springs, Colorado. We sort donations and sell only the best-quality merchandise. We also help low-income women trying to return to the workforce by allowing them to choose clothes for themselves and their children at no cost. I am active in the Pikes Peak Alumnae Association, P.E.O. and the Episcopal church. In May 2007 I received the Colorado Springs Panhellenic Achievement Award for my activities in community, church and Fraternity throughout the years. My current interests are classical music, reading, bridge, cooking and baking. On Founders’ Day 2009 I will be 92. If my health continues to be good, I hope to attend National Convention this summer in Denver.

My Life Today

I live alone in my home, where I’ve been for almost 51 years. I was not employed all those years. I’ve always said I’m a professional volunteer, having served at Methodist Hospital in Indianapolis for more than 40 years. Other activities include continuous membership in the Indianapolis Alumnae Association, being active in the Home Economists Guild, P.E.O. and the Women’s Department Club. I also cherish the many dear Sisters in Alpha Xi – my closest friends.

My husband, Ron, and I chose Washington State for retirement. (I worked as a clinical registered dietitian and retired in 2004.) We built a new home and relocated during my term as National President. Reconnecting with my Nu chapter Sisters has been very meaningful. The lovely chapter house is always wonderful to visit, and a group of my Sisters from college days lunch together several times per year. Since moving to the Pacific Northwest my volunteer activities have included serving as president of a local library board and president of the local weaving guild. I currently serve the local school district on an advisory committee reviewing the health, nutrition and fitness curriculum and school food service. I’ve also served Alpha Xi Delta in the housing area. I spend my time gardening, reading, weaving, making baskets, spinning and making other creative fiber arts. Ron and I like to travel, and a recent highlight was a trip to Greenland and Iceland. I look forward to my trip to Denver this summer for Convention and seeing my Alpha Xi Delta Sisters!

Betty French Unkel Ohio State ’41

National President 1976-1978 Greatest Achievements

It was truly an honor to serve as National President, and it was a learning experience that served me in many ways the rest of my life. Our goal was pride in membership and in person. While we did not make progress in expansion, we were able to reestablish Gamma Mu Chapter at Ripon College. We also took pride in establishing a scholarship manual and one for pledge training. Fondest Memories

I have fond memories of the wonderful Sisters with whom I was privileged to meet and work. The 1978 National Convention in Denver, Colorado, was very special. Planning for it was an experience. My husband, Dick, had a heart attack a week before I was scheduled to leave. I had many anxious hours, but everything worked out OK. Dick survived and we shared another 19 years together.

Linda Belles Dinus U of Washington ’60

National President 1993-1997 Greatest Achievements

During my tenure I found great pleasure in knowing that many women were initiated into an outstanding organization that promotes their growth and is supportive of them. Fondest Memories

I enjoyed meeting many chapter and association members. I moved eight times during my marriage to various places, but I always found Alpha Xi Delta to be a constant. I could always connect with Sisters. www.alphaxidelta.org

Fondest Memories

My fondest memories are of the time spent at chapters and the wonderful Sisters with whom I served. We installed a number of chapters during my terms, which was always enjoyable. The most memorable installation was at Dartmouth in February and the varieties of white shoes the women wore. Imagine trying to find white shoes in New England in winter! I also developed some amazing friendships that have continued to this day and for which I am eternally grateful. My Life Today

Kim Starr Kentucky ’79

National President 1997-2001 Greatest Achievements

I’m most proud of having implemented the goals found in the Strategic Framework. I’m particularly pleased to have successfully changed the Council governance structure from a board of Vice Presidents in charge of certain areas of the organization to a board with a National President and National Vice Presidents. Our actions in this area allowed Council to be forward thinking and strategically oriented as we directed our efforts toward the Strategic Framework goals and fostering the Fraternity’s vision. Our efforts resulted in the creation of new volunteer roles within the organization, thereby keeping alumnae connected to our Sisterhood.

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As with many women at my stage of life, my personal life as a single mother is dedicated to raising my two children: Matthew, 14, and my legacy, Kathleen, 12. As time and the ever-hectic schedule allows, I carry on the Alpha Xi tradition of service by volunteering as lector at my church, getting my football fix working a concession stand for home games, and playing euchre and dominos with a club. I also spend much of my time searching for new and challenging employment opportunities. My professional life revolves around my duties as corporate counsel for two progressive biotech companies: Rescentris Inc. and Phylogeny, Inc. Following my terms as National President, I had the privilege of serving as the Fraternity’s National Ritual Director and chairing a number of committees, including the Kappa Chapter recolonization at the University of Illinois. While on a sabbatical for the time being, I remain engaged via our Fraternity website and National President Deanna Detchemendy’s excellent newsletters.

Jane Hooper Sutton Western Carolina ’75

National President 2001-2005 Greatest Achievements

I feel the greatest achievements during my tenure were the development and implementation of the 2002-2006 Strategic Plan; the implementation of a new staffing structure within our Member Services Department; the development of Bravelo, our online management tool; and the development of our intensive recruitment training program, The Workout. Fondest Memories

My fondest memories include celebrating our first chapter centennial celebration at Beta Chapter on April 20, 2002, and subsequent centennial celebrations at Gamma, Delta, Epsilon, Eta and Iota chapters. Also, the dedication and unveiling of the dated cornerstone from our Alpha Chapter lodge, which was laid in 1914 at Lombard College and moved to the Knox College campus on June 8, 2002. I also fondly remember the installation of new chapters and the opportunity to meet my incredible and dedicated Sisters during my travels.

their chapters; these skills can also be carried with them into their post-graduate personal and professional lives.

My Life Today

I have the honor and privilege of representing Alpha Xi Delta on the Executive Committee of the National Panhellenic Conference. My first term of service began in October 2007 as NPC Treasurer. Due to a change in order of rotation approved by the Conference in October 2008, I will remain Treasurer for the 2009-2011 biennium before assuming the Chairmanship in 2011. Professionally, I’m fortunate to have a supportive family that allows me to devote my time in service to NPC and Alpha Xi Delta. In reality, this is my professional obligation for the next fourand-a half years. Personally, I believe in “making memories” and love to do that with family and friends. Bob, my husband and best friend of 29 years, and I love to entertain and have a wonderful network of friends. We also spend time at our “river house” in Homosassa, Florida, on the Gulf. We love to fish! We also spend as much time as possible with our daughter, Mary Leah, in California where she is a TV writer.

Fondest Memories

Deborah Fenwick Maas Marshall ’83

National President 2005-2007 Greatest Achievements

The most rewarding achievement for our National Council and staff during my term was in the area of member development. National Vice President Nance Lucas introduced the concept of developing a strengths-based organization based on research by the Gallup organization. National Council identified and compared our primary strengths themes. Based on personal and board relationship benefits, we expanded this opportunity to other areas of our organization. During the remainder of our term, strengths sessions were held at Volunteer Training, The Leadership Conference, staff training meetings and also as pilot programs at several chapters. The 2005-2007 National Council also saw an opportunity to expand the Educational Leadership Consultant program. Through generous funding from the Foundation, Leadership Coaches provide our undergraduate members with personalized opportunities to develop leadership skills that will aid

One of my standout memories is being able to preside over the installation of the recolonized Alpha Beta Chapter at Cornell University. The chapter had been dormant for 40 years and the Sisters who returned to see their chapter revived were in their mid-60s or older. The years had not diminished their love for Alpha Xi Delta. The Initiation Ceremony was held in the beautiful, historic chapter home that has a very small space in which to have a ceremony. The space seemed to emphasize the sisterhood of the initiates, the chapter alumnae and the installation team that traveled to perform the ceremony. My Life Today

My family and I moved to Indianapolis in August and now live about 10 minutes from Fraternity Headquarters. After being away from the corporate world for five years, I now work as the director of marketing for ProLiance Energy. My husband and I look forward to integrating into our new community while watching our 5-year-old son develop new friendships and our 4-yearold daughter perfect her head-tilting sorority smile! I volunteered for the Fraternity from 1987 to 2007 in some capacity, so it’s most probable that my hiatus from volunteering for Alpha Xi Delta will not last long.

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Housing

Alpha Xi Delta Housing:

The New and The Improved During the past year, five chapter houses and suites were either purchased or renovated to provide safe, attractive structures for our collegiate Sisters. Here’s what took place.

Gamma Tau Chapter, Ohio Northern University

Delta Psi Chapter, Texas State University The big dream of the chapter and corporation board was to add a chapter room to the existing chapter house. Construction began last spring and was completed in time for the women to hold fall recruitment in their new 1,700-square-foot chapter room. The addition has a foyer with two exits to enhance traffic flow. One exit leads to the front of the house; the other opens onto the deck and pool area. The chapter room has latest audio-visual equipment, including speakers inside and in the pool area, a built-in projector, an automatic dropdown screen, and microphones. The main chapter house received updates to the fireplace, a fresh coat of paint, hardwood floors that match through the downstairs and upstairs bedroom hallway, and a proximity keycard security system. 38

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Last summer Gamma Tau Chapter relocated from its offcampus home, where Sisters had resided for more than 30 years, to a new facility in the university’s Affinity Village. The new residence was built in 2006 and has a self-contained house, which includes a library, kitchen and chapter room, attached to a residence hall that can house 28 Sisters. Two of the university’s four sororities occupy houses in the Greek-themed village. Since the facility had been previously occupied, the university agreed to repaint the interior and replace the carpet and countertops, which allowed Sisters to customize the space. These improvements, along with the high ceilings, rich wood furniture and a marble fireplace, created a timeless setting appropriate for chapter meetings, ceremonies, recruitment events and casual interactions. The house really began to feel like home with the addition of the chapter charter and composites, the antique piano and hutch, the wooden AND letters and the historic framed telegram from Fraternity Headquarters congratulating Gamma Tau on its colony status. Gamma Tau celebrated its new home with an open house and ribbon cutting on September 13, 2008.

Kappa Chapter, University of Illinois When Kappa Chapter was invited to reestablish at the University of Illinois this year, one of the first orders of business was to find housing for our soon-to-be Sisters. The chapter is now living in a beautiful 13,000-square-foot house that the Fraternity is renting from Phi Sigma Kappa Fraternity. Alpha Xi Delta is able to rent the property for the next five years while continuing to look for a permanent home for our Kappa Sisters. The house, built in 1856, can sleep 57 women. The interior was repainted, new furnishings were purchased and new lighting was installed. The house has a spiral staircase tower and a grand entrance into a solarium that opens into a formal living room; three French doors open onto a patio with a built-in grill, surrounded by lush gardens and a quaint gazebo. The house also has a beautiful house director’s suite.

Iota Delta Chapter, University of Central Oklahoma The Iota Delta Building Corporation had operated small residential properties for the chapter for almost 10 years. When a fraternity’s chapter home became available on campus, the corporation purchased it, much to the delight of Iota Delta collegians. The asking price for the property “as is” in a prime location provided an excellent opportunity, as it was less than half of what the property actually appraised at in distressed condition, and one-third the appraised value when the property was renovated. Many, many improvements were made, including a new roof, new windows and doors, and the addition of laminate wood flooring upstairs, tile in the great room and carpet in the chapter room. The upstairs deck, the HVAC system and a joist in the great room were replaced. The house was repainted inside and out, the stairs were carpeted and repainted and a fountain was added in the space below. The fire protection was replaced and WIFI and landscaping were added.

Gamma Theta Chapter, East Tennessee State University A year ago, the window curtains in Gamma Theta’s suite were frayed, the closet doors were falling off, and the kitchen and bathroom were a disaster. The suite was not the most inviting place to spend time or hold recruitment events. To remedy this, Gamma Theta collegians and alumnae made curtains and door coverings, repainted the trophy case and the suite walls, and cleaned and rearranged everything. The expertise of an interior designer was sought to help pick out lamps, rugs, table accessories, pictures and arrange the furniture. Sisters are now proud to use the comfortable, attractive suite for watching movies, studying and hanging out. They also feel the renovations made a difference during recruitment as they pledged and later initiated 15 young women in the fall. www.alphaxidelta.org

From the Archives The Killar ney Ros e :

A Flower of Mystery By Debra Andrews, Friend of Alpha Xi Delta, and Ruth Goodman, Northern Iowa ‘80, Editor

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he Killarney Rose is a pub in New York City, a perfume, a song and a piece of Waterford crystal. It’s also the cherished flower of Alpha Xi Delta. Or is it? Our history states that a pink rose was chosen by Founders Cora Bollinger Block and Lucy W. Gilmer as the Fraternity’s official flower to complement the white rose of Sigma Nu, the fraternity that helped with the founding of Alpha Xi Delta. At the time our Founders were pondering roses, the Killarney had not yet been hybridized and would not be until 1898 – five years after Alpha Xi Delta’s founding. A 1967 memo from Jane Kutch, Oregon ’60, to Alpha Xi Delta Standards Chairman Frances Haskell Hatfield, Centenary (LA) ’31, states the following: “The term Killarney was apparently the idea of Anna Miller Knote, [Wittenberg (OH) ’04] for there is no reference to the pink Killarney rose before the 1927 Manual of Fraternity Education. (This was identified as ‘the first edition of the pledge manual,’ so I can’t be SURE that the ‘killarney’ was not present before . . .). Jane indicated that the 1927 pledge manual did not have nearly as much information as the 1967 pledge manual, which said, “The flower is the pink rose. The pink Killarney best typified the rose selected by our Founders.” Jane said, “This [second] sentence has continued in the succeeding manuals, with little thought given to its meaning. The new Pledge Manual (1967) will have the above statement – exactly – unless someone corrects us.” At the time Anna Miller Knote was pondering roses, the Killarney may have been quite popular, which may have led her to specify this particular rose. Today, Alpha Xi Delta has returned to our Founders’ selection and lists the pink rose versus the pink Killarney rose as our official flower. Hybridized in the United Kingdom and never patented, the Killarney rose blooms continuously from late spring to early summer. Growers describe it as a

shrub-like plant that grows to a size of about 2 feet by 2 feet (some sources say as high as 5 feet). The foliage is bronzy green, the mildly scented flowers are loosely formed with pointed petal tips and the stems are only moderately thorny – not without thorns, as often touted. The blooms are about 3.5-inches in diameter. With persistence you can find a Killarney rose today, but you’ll likely have to grow it yourself. Part of the reason many think it extinct is that this rose can be difficult to find. Like most Hybrid Tea roses, it requires a lot of care, comes into its own in about three years and only lives about six or seven years. Special varieties of the Killarney, like the Double White, came about as “sports” – natural mutations that were intentionally continued because people liked their attributes. Sometimes these sports are not as stable as the original plant. No wonder you can’t just order a bouquet of Killarney roses from your local florist! Bear in mind too, that the Killarney rose you find today may be a descendent of, not identical to, the ones found in the late 1800s. Hybrid Tea roses are a modern botanical achievement. They were bred to create imposing blooms on long stems and to flower continuously throughout a long season. One of their biological parents, the Tea Rose, is said to have a fragrance that resembles green tea. In 1898 there were fewer than 10 Hybrid Teas, of which the pink Killarney was one; now there are hundreds. It is said that pink roses represent appreciation, happiness and friendship, and that light pink roses in particular mean grace, joy and admiration. That aptly describes our Sisters and Sisterhood, doesn’t it? If you’d like to try growing your own Killarney rose, these growers may be able to help: Peter Beales Roses in the UK, www.classicroses. co.uk/roses/k/killarney.html, and Rogue Valley Roses in Oregon, www.roguevalleyroses.com.

The 1911 Geo. H. Mellen Co. catalog described the Killarney Rose as follows: The New Irish Ever-Blooming Rose Killarney A very beautiful Hybrid Tea Rose. The color is an exquisite shade of deep shell-pink lightened with silvery-pink. The base of the petals is a soft silvery-white, relieved with enough yellow to make it more attractive The buds are exceptionally long and beautifully formed, the open flower is graceful in the extreme. It is free in growth; strong, heavy shoots, which are crowned with buds. This has become a great favorite for winter flowers and is worthy of the high place it has attained. It has proven hardy in this climate without protection. In the garden the flowers are very lasting, the coloring remaining clear and bright to the last. It has a delicate Tea Rose fragrance. Price, 20 cents each, three for 50 cents; strong 2-year-old plants, 40 cents each, three for $1.

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Honor Gifts

The Foundation recognizes Honor Gifts given from September 1, 2008, through December 31, 2008. 1989-1990 Chapter Consultants by Hope Beck Goldsmith, Wisconsin Madison

Delta Rho Chapter & advisory board, Cal State Northridge by Victoria Bourdas, Cal State Northridge

Terry & Patty Adams, parents of Mary Adams by Mary Adams, Bethany

Kim McBriarty Dettmer, Kent State by Linda Lutz Dettmer, Baldwin-Wallace

Alpha Xi Delta Fraternity Headquarters staff by Patrice Orr Bryon, North Carolina Asheville Beta Epsilon Chapter, Monmouth by Mary Rose Sheahan, Monmouth Beta Xi Chapter, Marietta by Erin Jackman, Marietta Danielle Rodriguez, Marietta Tabitha VanDyke, Marietta Leslie Blanchard, East Carolina by Casey Lou Strader, East Carolina Juanita P. Brinsmade, mother of Anne Hudson Brinsmade by Anne Hudson Brinsmade, Frostburg State Catherine Winckler Brown, Alpha Deuteron by Susan Winckler, Iowa Christina Cappadona, Marietta by Marcie Beth Turner, Marietta Kay Cardamone, mother of Ashley Cardamone by Ashley Cardamone, Lycoming Hayley Carlson, Monmouth by Alicia Charleen Cox, Monmouth Marian Esser Causey, East Carolina by Margaret Kiernan Witt, Western Carolina Laurie Conway, Bethany by Allison West, Bethany Valerie Wade Davis, Iota Theta by Amanda Benson Hicks, Southern Polytechnic State Scott & Sandy Deel, parents of Terri Deel by Terri Deel, Bethany June Hales Deindoerfer, Missouri Valley by Kimberly Kay Starr, Kentucky Delta Epsilon Chapter, New Orleans by Stefanie Jean Borger, New Orleans Vittoria Andraea Soleto, New Orleans

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Rigby Guiney Duncan, Marshall by Lenn Steed Reed, Georgia State Epsilon Eta’s 40th anniversary, South Dakota State by Michele Herbst Evink, South Dakota State Paige Faries on her first patent filing by Paige Faries, Western Kentucky Kathleen Fayard, St. Norbert by Melissa Schinker, Carroll Marion White Fickes, Nebraska Lincoln by Paula Kokesch Holdren, Nebraska Lincoln Lemar Moreland Frank, Purdue by Claressa Moreland, sister of Lemar Moreland Frank Jane Dunlap Gaby, Tennessee by Mary Ann Costello McCarty, Tennessee Elysia Balster Gallivan, South Dakota, on becoming National Executive Director by Julie Lambert, Oregon State Jean Koza Leider, Iowa Marissa DeBlasio Rowe, North Carolina Asheville Kimberly Kay Starr, Kentucky Joseph Gallivan, son of Elysia Balster Gallivan, South Dakota by Ruth Goodman Akin, Northern Iowa Kiyoko Farrington Czech, Iowa Lori Holt, Alpha Deuteron Roger, Bridget & Joseph Gallivan, family of Elysia Balster Gallivan, for their love and support by Elysia Balster Gallivan, South Dakota Gamma Epsilon Chapter, Cal State Fresno by Alisha Garcia, Cal State Fresno Gamma Eta 1987 pledge class, Georgia Tech, “As We Turn 40!” by Paige Anderson VanLenten, Georgia Tech Gamma Kappa Chapter, Susquehanna by Margaret Graham Weglarz, Susquehanna

Gamma Nu’s 50th anniversary, Southeast Missouri State by Alberta Macke Dougan, Southeast Missouri State Gamma Xi Sisters, Valdosta State by Sue Hilton Kenneally, Valdosta State Martha Small Greenlaw, Texas by Anne Greenlaw Perry, Texas Jody Dettmer Halley, Baldwin-Wallace by Linda Lutz Dettmer, Baldwin-Wallace Betsy King Helber, Mount Union by Barbara Nims King, Kentucky Linda Whitney Hooker, Parsons by Tamara Davis Hubler, Parsons Marilyn Herbes Horner, Nebraska Omaha, on her 50th wedding anniversary to Walt Horner by Kathy Farris Andersen, Nebraska Omaha Jane Wilkens Schroeder, Nebraska Lincoln Brittany Howell, Marietta by Nicolette Kynkor, Marietta Iota Beta’s 10th anniversary, Cal State Stanislaus by Iota Beta Chapter Iota Xi Chapter, Worcester Polytechnic Institute, for a successful recruitment by Jean Koza Leider, Iowa

Judith Jackson, Mount Union by Vicki Schaeffer, Mount Union Brena Jenny, Dartmouth, September 2008 FVP of the Month by Omega Financial, Inc. Marilyn Jones, Southern Polytechnic State by Lauren Shepherd, Southern Polytechnic State Jane Lindenberg Keltsch’s 80th birthday, Indiana by Elizabeth Rice Harmon, Friend of Alpha Xi Delta Jeffery & Debra Knight, parents of Katherine Knight by Katherine Knight, Marietta Patricia Neffler Lafferty, UCLA by Elleen Hall Denahy, UCLA Leslie Martin Lederer, Ohio Wesleyan by Karen Christa Lederer, Marietta

Jennifer Bellas Lee, Old Dominion by Nealy Patty Wheat, West Georgia Jean Koza Leider, Iowa by Diane Thilk Briner, Ohio Northern Suzanne Simpson Hermes, Hunter Linda Lieberman, Friend of Alpha Xi Delta Tommasina Olson, Friend of Alpha Xi Delta Kendra Lewis, Purdue by Claressa Moreland, sister of Lemar Moreland Frank, Purdue Katherine Listwan Martin, Florida by Nealy Patty Wheat, West Georgia Ryan & Terri McKean, parents of Courtney McKean by Courtney McKean, Bethany Danielle Polk McKown, Marietta by Amanda Bics, Marietta Megan Moore, Marietta by Katherine Knight, Marietta Cathy Murphy, Pi Chapter Advisor at Ohio by Erin Nichol Lewis, Ohio Tiffany Nasert, Southern Polytechnic State by Lauren Shepherd, Southern Polytechnic State Kimberly Nelson, Marietta by Marcie Turner, Marietta Anne Nichols, Albion by Mary Shellenberger Brown, Central Michigan The Northern Virginia Alumnae Association by Peggy Payne Greene, Stetson The Oakland County Alumnae Association by Mary Paule McMath Bierlein, Michigan State Tracy Kleinschmidt Osborne, Michigan State by Kimberly Kay Starr, Kentucky Carolyn Swartz Park, Knox by Betty Darnell Nelson, Lombard/Knox Rachel George Payne, Western Carolina by Stephanie Goodell, Western Carolina

Pi seniors, Ohio by Erin Lewis, Ohio Cathy Murphy, Pi Chapter Advisor

Theta Rho Chapter, Cal State San Marcos by Deborah Norton, Cal State San Marcos

Francesca Rimi, Southern Polytechnic State by Lauren Shepherd, Southern Polytechnic State

Laura Thompson, West Virginia Wesleyan by Melissa June Walker, West Virginia Wesleyan

Angela Roberts, Embry-Riddle (FL), December 2008 FVP of the Month by Omega Financial, Inc.

Koula Toubekis Torreblanca, Iowa State, on her marriage to Richard Torreblanca by Rebecca Soderholm, Iowa State

Anne Rochford, Miami Ohio by Sarah Gaffney Rochford, Miami Ohio Macey Elaine Rohrbeck, newborn daughter of Rachel Carlson Rohrbeck, Iowa State by Rebecca Soderholm, Iowa State Sara Ross, Cal State Stanislaus, August 2008 FVP of the Month by Omega Financial, Inc. Dana & Nancy Schulte, parents of Melissa Schulte by Melissa Schulte, Marietta Susie Dishon Secrest, Nebraska Omaha by Karolee Wybenga Olsen, Nebraska Omaha Suellyn Matevia Sekulich, Michigan State by Marjorie Lang Manspeaker, Albion Deborah Shepherd, Southern Polytechnic State by Lauren Shepherd, Southern Polytechnic State Mary Ruth Hadley Snyder, Purdue by Arthur & Jane Hadley, Friends of Alpha Xi Delta

Betty French Unkel, Ohio State by Laurie Sutherland Giudice, Ohio State Tricia Urick, mother of Madeleine Urick by Madeleine Urick, East Carolina Anna Weaver, East Carolina by Kerianne Gilmartin, East Carolina Cheryl Johnson Weldon, Georgia Tech by Norman & Carol Weldon, Friends of Alpha Xi Delta Marilyn Marker Whitmer, Georgia State Tom Weldon, husband of Cheryl Johnson Weldon, Georgia Tech by Norman & Carol Weldon, Friends of Alpha Xi Delta Allison West, Bethany by Laurie Conway, Bethany Brooks Stephen Wexler, newborn son of Kristy Squire Wexler, Florida Atlantic by T.J. Merck Parker, Georgia Southern Christine Widgren, Marietta by Marcie Beth Turner, Marietta Caroline Wilson, West Virginia by Ashley Lawrence, West Virginia

Linda Sokalski, Michigan by Myra Wiggins Grant, Western Carolina

Shirley Albrecht Winckler, Iowa by Susan Winckler, Iowa

Roni Stadler, Indiana, November 2008 FVP of the Month by Omega Financial, Inc.

Zeta Xi Chapter, Auburn by Pamela Mann Drake, Auburn

Amanda Stolarsky, Ohio State, July 2008 FVP of the Month by Omega Financial, Inc. Lindsey Sullivan, Nebraska Lincoln by Cheryl Eby Miller, Nebraska Omaha Theta Gamma Chapter, Delaware by Elise Robyn Stein, Delaware

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Memorial Gifts

The Foundation recognizes Memorial Gifts given from September 1, 2008, through December 31, 2008. Justin Bath by Ashley Taylor, East Carolina

Kay Burns Jones, U of Washington by Barbara Henning Bray, U of Washington

Ruth Fowler Brown, Ohio by George Brown Jr., Friend of Alpha Xi Delta The Charles H. Giles & Fannie M. Giles Memorial Foundation

Nancy “Star” Henninger Kloepfer, Northwestern by Billie Anne Davis Bouret, Northwestern Nancy Wilhite Haldrup, Northwestern

Paula Sheets Byers, Purdue by Marian Radtke Bement, Purdue Mary Jones Cain, Brenau by Mary Cain Blanchard, Texas

Shirley Grail Magazin, Ohio State by Delores Grail Templeton, Ohio State

Marianne Moritz Russo’s grandfather by Julie Lambert, Oregon State Karen Sandberg, West Liberty State by Sherry Bentley Joy, West Liberty State Beverly Hawes Sebastian, Albion by the Tucson Alumnae Association Dorothy Wikel Sharer, Michigan by Julie Pond Matthews, Albion

Sonya Jorgensen Carlson, Iowa by Judith Drews Haring, Iowa

Mary Penstone Mann, Monmouth by Susan Barrett Boelke, Monmouth Imogene Vickers Olsen, Nebraska Lincoln

Barbara Moeller Crowley, Washington by Anna Larson Fisher, Kansas State

Alice Hamilton Marks, Oregon State by Phyllis Gray Hann, Oregon State

Martha Davies Stone, Randolph-Macon by Jane Stone, Ohio Wesleyan

Zoe Woods Cummings, Michigan State by Mary Reed Arnold, Michigan State Lois Taylor Leavitt, Michigan State

Nancy Helton McConnell, Kentucky by Karen Cook Rudd, Kentucky

Patricia Wilhite Stoops, Northwestern by Nancy Wilhite Haldrup, Northwestern

Phyllis Oetjen Moller, Coe by Denny Moller, Friend of Alpha Xi Delta

Kristine Carlson Sutton, Missouri St. Louis by Linda Roediger, Missouri St. Louis

Ruth C. Davitte, mother of Dorothy Davitte Drummond by Dorothy Davitte Drummond, Wisconsin Madison Evelyn Gibbs Dice, Northwestern by Suzanne Mitton Petru, Northwestern Virginia Straley Duvall, Purdue by Mary Youngren, Purdue Barbara Barringer Greef, Drake by the Ft. Myers Alumnae Association John Hawkshead, father of Frances Hawkshead Steib, New Orleans by the New Orleans Alumnae Association Susan Swancutt Hinkle, Nebraska Omaha by Cheryl Eby Miller, Nebraska Omaha Wayne Hitzman, father of Janet Hitzman, Northwestern by Donna Field Hannibal, Northwestern Jeanette Radtke Holub, Purdue by Marian Radtke Bement, Purdue Lois Gradous Myers, Monmouth Gail Phillipson Hronik, Coe by Pauline Huston Miller, Coe

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Elizabeth Venemann Lyles, Purdue by Sara Pullis Molnar, Ferris State

Charles Russell Jr. by Carolyn Russell Cunningham, Old Dominion

Judy Moore, mother of Karlyn Moore Jay by Karlyn Moore Jay, Henderson State Esther Price Moore, Kentucky by Cary Lawson Moore, Kentucky Elizabeth Nielsen Mortensen, California, Berkeley by Donna Staehling Borden, California, Berkeley Keith Silcox Derian, California, Berkeley Doris Paulson Duncan, Oregon State Arline Coe Erb, California, Berkeley Ejane Gordon Kunkle, California, Berkeley Dorothy Anderson Tregea, California, Berkeley Martha Williams Vivrette, California, Berkeley Madeline Asher Osborne, Kansas State by Martha Adams Toburen, Kansas State Jeanne Wirsing Ramsen, Maryland by Barbara Reinmuth Holloman, Maryland Evelyn Dewhirst Revtyak, Indiana by Lucy Young Frokjer, Indiana

Mildred Woodbury Huffaker, UCLA by Doris Wade Dey, UCLA

Rachel Keister Riley, Wittenberg by Margaret Rankin Rittenhouse, Wittenberg

Helen Neal Jewett, Oregon by Becky Anderson Wiseman, Kansas State

Jenna Russell, Central Oklahoma by Alpha Xi Delta Fraternity

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Jill Jacobs Shireman, Northern Iowa Laurie Gernhart Hotz, Northern Iowa

Leona French Tallon, Nebraska Lincoln by Margaret Jones Bixler, Nebraska Lincoln Stephen J. Tatar, father of Betty Tatar Wiseman by Betty Tatar Wiseman, Central Michigan Marilyn Scott Trumpp, Drake by Janice Sheldon Baumback, U of Washington Lyda Grendahl Vitale, Stetson by the Tucson Alumnae Association Edward Joseph Walsh, husband of Mary Geisler Walsh, Washington by Anna Louise Larson Fisher, Kansas State Mary Whitley, U of Washington by Marcia Hixson Mahaffey, U of Washington Barbara Nelson Wolfe, Oregon State by Janet Bell, Oregon State Deborah Pelant Younce, Missouri St. Louis by Linda Roediger, Missouri St. Louis

Chapter Eternal

he spring Chapter Eternal includes the names of Sisters whose passing was reported to Fraternity Headquarters between September 1 and December 31, 2008. Sisters are listed alphabetically in chapter order, along with their initiation year. To notify the Fraternity of a Sister’s passing, please send an obituary notice, memorial service pamphet or other written confirmation to Alpha Xi Delta Fraternity Headquarters.

Gamma Chapter Mount Union College Margaret Senn Swope ’34 Zeta Chapter Wittenberg University Esther Warren Heil ’49 Theta Chapter University of WisconsinMadison Judith Ann Zuelsdorf Eggleston ’60 Iota Chapter West Virginia University Elisabeth Ballard Stone ’39 Kappa Chapter University of Illinois Sally Ann Teuscher Burneskis ’59 Pi Chapter Ohio University Ruth Haberacker Sadler ’46 Rho Chapter University of NebraskaLincoln Joyce Laase Peacock ’52 Phi Chapter Albion College Bonnie Ruth Pastor Rogers ’61 Beverly Hawes Sebastian ’47 Omega Chapter Stetson University Odette Moses Shashy ’50

Alpha Gamma Chapter Coe College Modesta Kelley Phelps ’32 Alpha Delta Chapter Oregon State University Patricia Kester Smith ’48 Alpha Epsilon Chapter University of Michigan Jean Lynn Barnard ’37 Maxine Corinne Smith Besosa ’46 Alpha Zeta Chapter University of Oklahoma Doris Colpitt Schultheiss ’46 Alpha Eta Chapter Purdue University Paula Joann Sheets Byers ’49 Jeanette Radtke Holub ’45 Marian Knoop Singleton ’54 Alpha Iota Chapter Drake University Marilyn Scott Trumpp ’46 Alpha Kappa Chapter Kansas State University Muriel Becker Spencer ’44 Alpha Lambda Chapter University of Oregon Helen Neal Jewett ’32 Alpha Mu Chapter Ohio Wesleyan University Florence Eleanor Altman Thomas ’39 Carole Davis ’50 Alpha Xi Chapter University of California at Los Angeles May Hobart Zentmyer ’32 Alpha Rho Chapter Allegheny College Jean Harkless Pond ’39 Alpha Omega Chapter Florida State University Evelyn Roberts Flack ’47 Johanne Reif Harman ’29 Beta Beta Chapter Washington University Virginia Mathis Shepard ’49

Beta Epsilon Chapter Monmouth College Elloise Calmer Lilliman ’39 Mary Penstone Mann ’51 Beta Zeta Chapter Lake Forest College Mary Richards Taugher ’40 Beta Iota Chapter Louisiana State University Vera Jacobs Speakes ’44 Beta Kappa Chapter Baldwin-Wallace College Barbara Ann Bidwell Horrigan ’46 Beta Mu Chapter Bowling Green State University Sydney White Dotson ’43 Beta Pi Chapter Indiana University Dorothy Joanne Gray Lewis ’46 Beta Upsilon Chapter University of Rhode Island Cynthia Adams MacLaughlin ’64 Gamma Alpha Chapter San Diego State University Virginia Cannon Day ’49 Gamma Delta Chapter University of Nebraska at Omaha Sally Hansen Haddix ’60 Gamma Phi Chapter East Carolina University Edith Isbell Williams ’60 Delta Iota Chapter Chadron State College Lorraine Shoemaker Hefti ’67 Delta Xi Chapter Georgia State University Patsy Owens Green ’95 Epsilon Theta Chapter West Liberty State College May Kidd Walden ’66 Iota Delta Chapter University of Central Oklahoma Jenna Loreen Russell ’07

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Foundation Giving Back to Move Alpha Xi Delta Forward

our will is the easiest, most effective way to ensure that your family, friends and the Alpha Xi Delta Foundation are supported as you intend. Sample bequest language is “I give, devise and bequeath (written amount, percentage of estate or description of property) to the Alpha Xi Delta Foundation, a not-for-profit corporation with principal offices located at 8702 Founders Road, Indianapolis, Indiana 46268, to be used for the purposes designated by the Trustees of the Foundation.” Supporting the Foundation with a portion of your estate doesn’t always require a will, however. Here are some other options to consider:

Life Insurance. Name the Foundation as owner and beneficiary of a policy you no longer need, or a policy written for the purpose of a charitable gift. The gift will take place outside of probate, the often time-consuming and costly process of determining the validity of a will and administering the estate.

Retirement Plan. Give the Foundation a portion or all of your IRA, 401(k), Keough or other retirement plan fund from your estate. These types of assets, when used as charitable gifts, avoid income and estate taxes; all that’s required is signing the right form, and no probate is involved.

Payable-on-Death Account. Leave checking accounts, savings accounts, savings bonds and other deposit certificates to the Foundation. The gift can be easily accomplished by simply filling out the appropriate form; the asset will be transferred at your death.

Your attorney or financial advisor can provide details about other ways to support the Foundation outside of your will. For more information about how you can remember Alpha Xi Delta, or to tell us you already have, please contact Kendra Lewis, Director of Development, at 317.872.3500 or klewis@alphaxidelta.org. Your thoughtful planning leaves a legacy to inspire the future.

Breaking News! If you’re age 70½ or older, you can make tax-free gifts of up to $100,000 from your IRA in 2009. You may contribute funds this way if: 1. Your IRA gifts total $100,000 or less each year in 2008 and 2009. 2. You transfer funds directly from an IRA. 3. You transfer the gifts outright to one or more public charities. (This excludes gifts made to charitable trusts, donoradvised funds and supporting organizations.) If you’re considering a gift under this extended law, contact a tax professional and your IRA administrator. Development Director Kendra Lewis can also answer questions you may have.

“Alpha Xi Delta has enriched my life in so many ways. The leadership and organizational skills I learned and practiced in my chapter and in our alumnae associations prepared me for leadership roles in my community – and for leadership in Alpha Xi Delta at the local and national levels. That’s why I want to give something back to the Fraternity. A planned gift is just one more way I can make a difference and leave my footprints in the sand.” Janice Sheldon Baumback, U of Washington ’41

The Quill of Alpha Xi Delta | Spring 2009

Living Our Symphony The Symphony of Alpha Xi Delta These things do we earnestly desire: A clear vision of life, that with gracious and kindly hearts we may share both joy and sorrow and bring into living reality the sisterhood of women. An appreciation of real merit and worth, steadfastness of soul, that without bitterness or defeat we may encounter misfortune and with humility meet success. These things, O Lord, help us to instill within our hearts, that we may grow in courage and graciousness and peace.

Send your Living our Symphony stories and photos to Fraternity Headquarters, or email them to rgoodman@ alphaxidelta.org.

A new Alpha Xi Delta chapter at Southern Polytechnic State University in Georgia created a lifelong bond between 2004 initiates (from left) Lauren Shepherd, Valerie Wade Davis and Amanda Benson Hicks.

And Bring into Living Reality the Sisterhood of Women I owe many of my very best friendships to Alpha Xi Delta. One in particular is my Twin Sister* and fellow colony member, Valerie Wade Davis, Southern Polytechnic State ’04. Valerie is one of the original interest group members who brought Alpha Xi Delta to campus. Without Valerie, my life would be so different. We were roommates for a year, we went on a spring break cruise together and we experienced our first Alpha Xi Delta National Convention together. She was there for me in 2006 when my then-fiancé, Jonny, who was in the Navy, left for deployment overseas and I was a nervous wreck. Most recently, Valerie was a bridesmaid at my wedding and I was her matron of honor. Valerie, we’ve shared so much. Thank you so much for being an ama-xi-ng part of my life! Amanda Benson Hicks Southern Polytechnic State ’04 amanda.hicks07@yahoo.com *As a new group, colony members have a Twin Sister versus a Big Sister. www.alphaxidelta.org

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2009 Graduates!

Even though you’re graduating, you’re still an Alpha Xi Delta. Stay active and involved in the Fraternity by: • Sending your updated contact information to memberservices@alphaxidelta.org • Joining an alumnae association and paying alumnae dues • Helping your initiating chapter or a chapter in your area • Joining an Alumnae Panhellenic group (learn more at npcwomen.org) • Writing recruitment recommendations this fall • Submitting news and photos to The Quill

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